Danielle LaPorte

Emotions + Detoxing

Jenn Orajay — Fri, 14 Aug 2026 11:54:45 +0000

AUGUST 14, 2026

Emotions + Detoxing

Hello, Love.

Today I want to talk about:

a) losing your identity in order to find out who you truly are.

b) following my intuition + an invite to be a Planner VIP this Sunday.

NOT BEING ABLE TO BE YOURSELF SO THAT YOU CAN, CONSEQUENTLY, COME BACK TO YOURSELF

The spiritual path is a home coming—doors within doors leading us to our truer and truer self. The doorways become more narrow as we progress. We have to keep shedding so we can fit through each portal—stripped down of stuff and identities.

The re-shaping can happen from the process of failure and fakery. From being denied what we want the most. From becoming the opposite of who we naturally are.

You know the process—when you escape, molt, then rise in your liberation and look back and think, “What WAS I thinking?”

And YET! The what-who that we get back to was always there in this very lifetime. Life keeps us from our essence and then returns us to it. We’re all prodigal children being welcomed back, getting to be who we are.

So today’s question:
Who were you
before you left yourself?

Okay, pivot!

PERSONAL update on the release of the Centered Planners… this Sunday, August 16 I’m doing a VIP launch. 52,000 people are on the list and that’s thrilling for obvious reasons.

But it’s deeper than sales. I’ve always said that the Planner system is my most useful offering. Because it’s a support system for DAILY DEVOTION. Books and classes are like solar flares—they bring flashes of insight. But the planners are like a campfire that keeps you warm every day.

I stopped doing the planner a few years ago because my intuition told me to. My team thought I was losing my mind. Planners were a big part of our business. But I had a feeling. “Something doesn’t feel right anymore, we have to pause.”

That was the 2020 edition. Remember what happened to the world in 2020? Whacky town. Global supply chain disruptions. Shipping containers stuck on the ocean for months. If I would have printed planners that year, we would have had thousands of “spoiled” planners adrift. NOT making them saved my business. Intuition FTW.

I refined the planner system, revived my collaboration with painter, Marta Spendowska, and it all rolls out on Sunday!

MORE USEFUL AND BEAUTIFUL than ever.

Please click here to get on the VIP list and we’ll send you a pop up link tomorrow. I’m doing a gift day for 24 hours—you get a stationery pack—my truthbomb cards, in print, old school, with every planner order! There’s a lot of revival happening!

I’ll drop the planner features in at the bottom of this email.

This system helps me orchestrate my life + work. I love it and I really hope you give it a go. There’s nothing else out there like this.

Ok, love. Remember: all journeys are leading home—INWARD. To your original essence. The Eternal Hello.

And VIP list is HERE and full of goodness for you.

WITH LOVE,

HIGHLIGHTS OF THE CENTERED PLANNER SYSTEM:

1. ENERGETICS OF THE WEEK + LIFE STYLE AREAS

One of the most well-loved elements of the Centered Planner system, we match the signature energy of the day with a Life Area to make plans that flow better.

2. ASTRO CALENDAR

That explains themes of Dark of the Moon and Full Moons, Eclipses, Mercury Retrogrades (including shadow periods,) Equinoxes + Solstices.

3. HIGHER THOUGHTS

Life affirming declarations to keep you pointed where you want to go.

4. KEY ACTIONS

Your 3 Key Actions plus a DIY habit tracker.

5. GRATITUDE… BECAUSE

When we’re mindful of the reason, we deepen the appreciation.

6. WEEKLY REFLECTION

“What’s working? What’s not working? What do you want to Bless & Release?”

7. EQUINOX CHECK IN

To assess your devotion, wellness and vision for the year.

8. PRAYERS + SACRED WORD SETS

Each month features a devotional, every day has a truthbomb.

9. THE CENTERING PRACTICE

A visualization for healing and creating.

10. HOLIDAYS + OBSERVANCES

…that are inclusive of many faiths and traditions.

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Your unmet longings are not a punishment.

Jenn Orajay — Fri, 07 Aug 2026 15:10:08 +0000

AUGUST 7, 2026

Your unmet longings are not a punishment.

Hi, Love…

At the end of interviews people often get asked, “What’s the one message you have for the world?” No pressure.

I used to inner eye-roll at this question. But I just nailed my winning answer and now I hope I get asked in the next interview and the next.

Here’s my billboard to humanity:

Your unmet longings are not a punishment.

Darling… your unmet longings are not a punishment.

Our unmet longings are many things. Divine delays. Dares. Beautiful karma. Eggs. Seedlings.

But… and…

Do not abandon your longings without understanding them.

(That could be my back up billboard to humanity.)

You know, I’ve been analyzing the nature of desire for a long time. And I’ve had deep struggles with monk-considerations, house holder life, Netflix and chillin’, loving hot love, abundance, the lonelies, the scriptures, the cleansing, the dancing, the down dogs, and all the training I’ve done to circumnavigate downward spirals.

But I’ve recently slipped out of whatever that portal was—let’s call it my former frame of consciousness. Just like a baby after a three-year labour. Like Neo getting ejected from his goo pod of illusion.

And here’s what I got: Joy down in my Soul.

And I no longer see my unmet longings—of which there are a sacred few—as a punishment, as a withholding that a darker side of life was able to enforce.

But compassion for our human desires is what makes this life holy.

I’ve come right ‘round to cherishing my desires with a fierce grace.

I’m on Team William Blake:

“Those who restrain their desire do so because theirs is weak enough to be restrained.”

We are the living proof that Love is actually unstoppable.

With Love,

NEW, HOT AND INCOMING

I have all new gorgeous designs for the 2027 Centered Planner Collection coming THIS WEEKEND. And VIPs are getting lavished with papery gifts this year. And this planner system is where soulful meets utility. So…

PLEASE GET ON THE VIP LIST

…and you’ll be the first to see the big reveal this Sunday. Swoon day.

The Centered Planner. Every day is sacred.

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Goddess Hathor, non-duality and high vibes new music!

Jenn Orajay — Fri, 31 Jul 2026 07:26:00 +0000

JULY 31, 2026

Goddess Hathor, non-duality and high vibes new music!

Hi friend…

I’m about to go summer trippin’. Nashville for an author’s mastermind with James-Atomic Habits-Clear. I’ll be staying with my old time loves, Kate Northrup + Mike Watts, snort laughing and crying. And podcasting.

Then a short flight to Montreal for kid time, and we drive his pickup (windows down, music cranked—almost in total agreement on playlists), heading to my dad’s in Ontario for constant cringe jokes, Lake Erie swims and tomatoes that taste like tomatoes should.

So let’s do a tasting board today…

Mercury retrograde has gone direct, but here’s a pointer about the “post-retrograde shadow.”

NEW MUSIC!

Send the signal, find your people. My sweet friends, Beautiful Chorus, just dropped their most uptempo album ever: HUMAN BEING. I’m only doing positive lyrics these days. Heart break or lonesome blues? SKIP. You can mooove to this whole album. I play it on repeat when I leave my apartment so their royalties add up.

Marieme—is unity consciousness with a POWER VOICE—fiery invite to live bigger.

Aukai—is the hot husband in the duo known as Mirabai Cieba. I find a lot of mantra, dream-scape music too emotional and gooey—not clean energy. But for me, Aukai is good vibes. Play on repeat after sundown.

READ ON BUILDING NEW HUMANITY

The Hathor Material: Messages From An Ascended Civilization, by Tom Kenyon.

Sound healing, your ka (spirit body), and how the auric field works. This is channelled material (which I usually steer clear of,) but I loved this intel. Tom also wrote The Magdalen Manuscript: The Alchemies of Horus & the Sex Magic of Isis.

I’m bringing a group to Egypt on a pilgrimage May 11 to 24. There are three goddess temples that are part of the journey: Isis, Sekhmet, and Hathor. All the women on the trip usually identify strongly with one of those goddesses. I’m Team Hathor! She is the Goddess of Divine Love, Beauty and Joy. I had the most incredible experience at her temple (Temple of Dendera.)

The trip is more than half full. We have a payment plan that you can spread over a year. HIT REPLY if you want to talk about coming!

JACKPOT WISDOM TEACHING

I love Rupert Spira’s work. Glistening clear. This short clip on non-dualism and spiritual bypassing IS JACKPOT WISDOM.

This is IT, my loves. You can be a hot mess and still touch transcendence! You don’t have to clean it all up and be a monk to “arrive”. Surrender and self compassion is the Buddha honey zone. And from there we can do the deep cleanse of personality issues and pain.

This is my current experience: being holy is loving all of my various “conditions” AND my power FULLY, TODAY. As is. xoxoxoxoxo! Exhale. Life is so beautiful.

FOR MY VANCOUVER LOCALS

I’m doing a training program at Denman Athletics. Personal training in pods of 5 people. Quality humans, it’s not a spandex pick up show with everyone on their phones (nothin’ against getting hit on at the gym, but…) Focused, caring, profesh. And if a gym can get me excited to show up…that’s a 10 star review! Tell Aimee I sent you.

ART AT WORK

We’re doing the cover reveals next week for the 2027 Planners! They are drools. And there will be useful freebies and cheerleading. Please get on the VIP LIST HERE and you’ll be the first to see the outside and insides and 2027 will be next level for you and yours, alleluia.

With Love from the road,

IF YOU WANT TO RUN AWESOME WORKSHOPS…

When you get the Bless & Release Facilitator Kit at 25% off, you can also come into our Business Track membership for half the price ($864 USD ~~$1,728~~ one full year) OR the Heart Centered Leadership Program for only $600 ~~$1,200~~. Sweet deal is here. Until August 2 only.

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Acceptance, a story about debt and compassion

Jenn Orajay — Sun, 26 Jul 2026 14:46:48 +0000

JULY 26, 2026

Acceptance, a story about debt and compassion

Hello Loves,

I’ve got a quick story for you about debt—which is really about Acceptance. Note the capital A.

I’m talking about the virtue of Acceptance, a high vibration state. Not the “little acceptance” that’s about acting like we’re going with the flow when we’re actually terrified, or the acceptance we grant when people finally behave that way we want them to.

Big Acceptance is a form of life mastery. When you get in the practice of not resisting what’s occurring, your cortisol levels drop and you build creative energy.

Acceptance is a very compassionate and productive way to live.

My fave mural in Vancouver. My fave new café, Sud. And huggers be huggin’. We hugged.

Okay, the story (I share some of this in Bless & Release)

I had a friend in a heap of debt. They owed taxes and family loans, and their credit cards were maxed. So stressful.

Shame had them in a headlock so they couldn’t look at the bills or calculate what they owed. It got so insufferable that they—very wisely—got themselves in a debtors’ support program and made an Excel sheet, documented their debt and made a plan to chip away at it.

But two things held them back.

First, they were in such a state of self-loathing that doing what needed to be done felt like a punishment. The Excel sheet was more of a sh*t list than a freedom plan.

Second, they were fixated on getting out of debt. But wasn’t that the point? Shouldn’t they be obsessed with getting out of debt? No.

The debt needed to stop being the main character in their story. They needed to no longer see themselves foremost as “someone in debt.” It would have been much more helpful to declare that they were now very focused on building their wealth.

Things actually got worse before they got better. There was more negative self-talk (a very long habit), and spending and avoidance.

Finally, at the end of the rope and credit lines, my friend had no choice but to resort to radical Acceptance. Their words were, “F*ck it! I just gotta love myself and do this.”

Yessss. Acceptance across the board. The behaviours that got them there—Accepted. The existence of karma—Accepted. The presence of God and inner light and resilience—Accepted. The dream of an abundant life—Accepted. The doubt and fears? Also Accepted!

They blessed their mess, stopped hating themselves for getting into it, and did the work to clean it up. Facing the debt—and everything that was a part of it, became a portal to self-respect and freedom. As all challenges do when we stop resisting them.

If our “healing” or “growth” methodology lacks self-compassion, we won’t move beyond our old behaviour.

It’s Love, not fear, that heals everything—including debt and the shame and fear around it.

Here’s a quick Acceptance audit: Are you using self-criticism and rejection as your motivator?

There was a period in my life when I self-criticised my way through meditation. It made me miserable. Duh. So I took a long hiatus from meditating. Eventually, I got really soft and sweet with myself about all of my weirdness around it. Showing up, not showing up. Shame, devotion. All of it. I just loved myself for being the way I was with the practice and my life and my fears. Then I got back to meditating and the rewards of that started to grow.

Maybe we don’t need to ditch the methodology. Maybe we just need to bring more self-compassion to it.

Be softer with getting out of debt, getting in shape, getting closer to the person we want to be close to.

Maybe this is the most relatable definition of the virtue of Acceptance: Be softer with the behaviours that got you to the place that you want to move on from.

This works too:

F*ck it! You just gotta love yourself and do this.

Ocean swim almost every morning. Aqua prayers! And notes for upcoming classes.

I’m working on a piece about working with our fear. If you have any ideas or thoughts about that, just hit REPLY to this email, like a DM but old school. I read everything.

UPDATES

THIS IS EXCITING! My 2027 Planners are in the works and the designs are delicious. Please get on the VIP LIST HERE so I can show you new covers and limited editions very very swoon!
I haven’t released a podcast in a while because I’m looking for a new podcast producer. If you are, or know of, such a podcast production wizard, hit reply or email media@daniellelaporte.com

I’m doing a Summer Sale starting next week!

Up to half off on books, practice kits…so many things. Bring your Higher Self shopping!

Come back for a new deal every day this week.

I’m cheering on your profound capacity to be in deep Acceptance (which is not the same as condoning) so that you use your life force to create what you really truly want. Acceptance = transformation.

With Love,

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CUES FOR HEALING FROM RELATIONSHIP LOSS

Jenn Orajay — Fri, 17 Jul 2026 09:35:27 +0000

JULY 17, 2026

CUES FOR HEALING FROM RELATIONSHIP LOSS

Hello, Love,

I’m feeling extra introspective right now. Mercury Retrograde is clean up vibes. So let’s talk about healing. Healing from break ups, specifically, but this can apply to many kinds of loss, shock and hurdles.

If you want to catch up on this series… read about relationships + cosmology

Or some of my life challenges of the last three years (fun! ) that have led to so much healing.

CUES FOR HEALING FROM RELATIONSHIP LOSS

There’s a terrible AI trend happening called “divorce glow up.” Don’t fall for it, it’s mostly AI-generated videos of shlumpy men and women who leave their presumably neglectful spouses, and then start going to the gym, the tanning bed, and finally get the right hair cut.

Et voila! Shlumpy divorcé transforms into hot babe. And presumably, old spouse has much to regret. It’s the revenge glow up.

But the best glows up will happen naturally, and revenge will have nothing to do with it.

I HEALED BECAUSE I STOPPED AVOIDING GRIEVING.

I tried to avoid grief. I was like, “I’m going to be one of those chicks that moves ON. Why NOT jump into a thing with that guy who I’d totally compromise on?! Don’t I deserve a big… bandaid?!”

Except… no. That’s not my style. With 4 planets in Virgo + Libra Rising I like things clean and harmonious.

The reality was that I was in deep shock that, even though we were so committed, my partner and I couldn’t save things. And by that I mean, I was gutted that my love was not the miracle substance I wanted it to be. Failure. At love. Of all things.

Following Higher Guidance meant sacrificing the dream.

Someone asked me, “You weren’t together very long, so why the big grief?” Ahem. Clearly they did *not* know me, because when I love, I am OBVIOUSLY ALL IN. Geez. And besides, time does *not* direct the current of Love. Love bends time.

I HEALED BECAUSE I LET MYSELF BE THE NEEDY FRIEND.

I let myself ask for validation from some people, even though it felt inappropriate and weak.

Lonnnng voice memos, like personal grief podcasts to Christine. I was too much in need to even ask how she was doing most of the time. “Hi. It’s me. Please tell me I’m doing the right thing. ASAP. Thank youuuuu.” She was my lighthouse.

Chela and I talked on the phone for FIVE hours straight one day. I sobbed, she witnessed. All while we unloaded our dishwashers and made dinner and went for walks.

I asked Sukhi to do her work on me: a bit of cacao and a microdose of mushrooms, while we did deep verbal processing. I don’t micro dose anything, so this was a leap—and it was one of the turning points in my healing.

Joshua and I walked laps around the lagoon every week. Laps talking about spiritual teaching. Laps in silence.

I REPRIORITIZED MY BODY.

I shed 25 pounds. I talk about that in this post, How I got my body back. (This partially had to do with getting out of a moldy living space and doing a major mold and metals detox.) I started painting my nails again (with an eco-friendly brand.) I started dancing again.

And BTW, my hair stopped going grey so quickly. In the final year of the relationship, it was coming in crazy fast. Once the grief subsided, I saw that the same silver strands were growing in as brunette again. Huberman pod (I’ll link below) talks about greying reversal as it relates to stress.

I called my naturopath to run labs on my hormones and check my supplements, because I was feeling anxious. Spiritually, I felt resilient, but I could tell that the anxiety was biochemical—and when you know that, it becomes much easier to work with it.

MY MANTRA WAS: KEEP STEPPING FORWARD.

The universe sent me cues to face forward. It was the week in which I knew we’d be having the conclusion conversation. My heart was raw. This all happened that same week:

I got a text from a matchmaker who met me four years ago, before I got into my relationship. “Danielle, I’ve got a gentleman in LA I’d like you to meet, are you still single?”

A new male friend (married) asked me for lunch to talk business and life. I was emotionally spent when we met up, so when he asked how I was, I fell apart. Turns out he runs men’s groups and works with couples. He was the best confidant I could have asked for that day.

Another male friend who I hadn’t talked to in ten years messaged, “How you doin’ doll?!”

Another male friend who I hadn’t talked to in MORE than ten years rang, “Just wanted to hear that voice again.”

The Divine Masculine was reminding me of my Divine Femininity. It gave me strength. I knew both my partner and I would be held as we parted.

I LET GO OF A LOT OF PHYSICAL THINGS—VERY QUICKLY.

Letting go of material things is usually pretty easy for me, but this was ceremonial self compassion. I did it with grace—that was KEY. I wasn’t hammering trinkets and tearing up love letters in fits of rage. I was blessing & releasing. Clothes, objects that had painful associations. I closed shared subscriptions, deleted playlists.

Because I removed it all with the highest intention for both of us, the stuff management was a form of pain management.

I DID WRITE + BURNS EVERY WEEK

I didn’t wait for a Full Moon or New Moon, I did write + burns and salty baths A LOT, 2 or 3 times a week. Cranked the mantra, wrote the release, incanted hard when I lit the pages, prayed in the bath, rinsed with love. For me, this is better than months of therapy—working at the energy level.

I DID THE CENTERING PRACTICE LIKE IT WAS MY JOB

I did The Centering Practice in every possible variation. Seated in lotus. Walking in the forest. Breathing into my heart center, seeing the full light spectrum. For a minute when I felt anxiety, many times a day. For 21 minutes working with the frequency of indigo light (cleansing!) For the past pain and for future pleasure.

This was everything, really. This is the energy work. This is the morning meditation. This is the anxiety dissolver and the hope-generator. This is the bridge to Higher Self.

The Centering Practice is glow up technology.

And this is a beautiful segue to…

The Centering Practice. It’s here for you (always free).

If you want me to walk you through it, I’m doing it live on Sunday, July 19 (it’s free.)

GET CENTERED

With The Centering Practice

Sunday, July 19
9am PT | 12pm ET
Always free. Live. Together.

SAVE MY SPOT

You bring ONE thing you’ve been carrying, and we’ll work with it.

I’ll send you prep notes, and The Centering Practice is yours. Use it daily.

Can’t be there live with me? I’ll send you the replay. But if you can be in the room, be in the room.

This is one practice that can actually change everything.

For all the kinds of heartache and loss, I wish you deep healing, merciful healing.

I wish you transformation.

I hope you see the Divine Plan and expand.

We heal all the time.

WITH LOVE,

BE THE LEADER

Sisterhood, CEOs, Coaches: We just launched the BLESS & RELEASE FACILITATOR KIT: Holding space for letting go and conscious creation. It’s a set of workshops and circle formats for you to offer to your people. Add to your power kit here.
“I’ve been walking alongside Danielle LaPorte’s work for years, and Bless & Release arrived exactly when I needed it. The idea that closure is an inside job—and the simple power of the Centering Practice—helped me stop wrestling with things that were never mine to control and start integrating the lessons they came to teach.
If you’re exhausted by hustle, certainty, or trying to force life into a shape it doesn’t want to take, this book is a beautiful invitation to soften, trust, and carry your wisdom forward while setting down the struggle.” — Lee Currie, OG Desire Map Facilitator

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EGYPT PILGRIMAGE IS FILLING UP WITH GREAT PEOPLE

I’m so looking forward to the temples again. We’ve arranged for private access to two additional sacred sites. Check out the itinerary here. There’s a very flexible payment plan. When you inquire, I will personally connect with you.

ASTRO UPDATE

Mercury Retrograde ends: Thursday, July 23
Full Moon in Aquarius | Write + Burn : Wednesday, July 29
Mercury Retrograde Post-shadow ends: Thursday, August 6

MENTIONS

Working with Christine Hassler
Working with Sukhi Bal
Huberman podcast on reversing greying hair

I promised you links to astrologers I’ve worked with and love:

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BREAK UPS AND BELIEF SYSTEMS

Jenn Orajay — Fri, 10 Jul 2026 07:27:53 +0000

JULY 10, 2026

BREAK UPS AND BELIEF SYSTEMS

BREAK UPS AND BELIEF SYSTEMS

Divorce healing (mine.) Part 1.

My last WITH LOVE, was titled, “A personal update: challenges + rising from the last 3 years.” I only laid out the facts and left out the part about heart wrenching divorce and business hurdles, my temple message, and getting back to big joy.

I’mma unpack it.

MY GUIDING BELIEFS

1. The Soul governs everything. You know, “Life is happening FOR you, not to you?” THAT.

My Higher Self is dispensing what I need in order to do what I incarnated to do: love more now. Sometimes this happens through beauty and joy. Sometimes… exquisite, agonizing emotional pain that makes me want off this ride.

2. Everything is interconnected. My Soul guides me, the planets guide my Soul. We’re like a collection of small-medium-large energies. (God Source is the XXXXXL energy.)

Planets—which we can think of as very big beings that we’re all connected to—pour their energy into individual Souls. Souls then pour energy into their humans. Humans then pour energy into our daily lives. It’s like a top-down ecosystem of Light.

So what does cosmology have to do with break ups? Stay with me, boo boo…

3. Relationships begin and end when the planets and your Soul say so. That could be a short interlude, a life long marriage, a guardianship. All things end, give or take, when they are actually meant to end.

We can move gracefully. We can resist. That’s freewill. Either way—now, later, the next life… we’re always becoming more conscious and loving. (That’s the whole point. Love more. Now or later. Now is better.)

Where things get problematic is that the unhealed part of us (ego) likes to name reasons that relationships end or shift. That reasoning usually comes in the form of blaming ourselves or blaming the other.

Relationship shifts are likely to happen because of pain-causing events or circumstances. Ongoing disappointment, betrayal, not having our needs met. It’s the boring spiritual fact: we tend to wake up through suffering.

It’s rare that everyone involved has the courage—at the same time, to say, “this has run its course, let’s evolve into a new form.”

We get attached. Of course we do! This is the nature of relationships! It’s beautiful. Until… the pain-causing events or circumstances test us.

4. Relationships are a dance of needs. We have unconscious needs and we have very conscious needs. Needs change, some needs recede, some become more pronounced. The energy of two people alchemizes the needs each of them bring—for better or for worse.

5. There is no one way to have a “successful” relationship. We have karma, conditionings of culture and trauma. Every dance is different.

FACTS + FACTORS

I was with my son’s father for 14 years. I loved him so deeply (always will.) Then I was single for seven years. There were romances, no commitments.

I was with my second husband, W, for about three and half years (married for a little more than a year.) We didn’t live together. We lived a block apart and saw each other almost daily. We both had teenage sons, and the plan was to get them launched and then we’d shack up.

W is one of the most resilient, forgiving, and gentle men I’ve met. It was rapture to be so deeply and mutually in love. Emotional intimacy was easy for us.

And yet, ultimately, the dance of needs being met and unmet exhausted us to conclusion. I was trying to fix myself so that I had fewer needs, and trying to “fix” him so I could get my needs met, while trying to beautifully meet his needs.

And since I’m an overachiever, you know that I tried ALL THE THINGS… at a very intense pace… with a lot of other challenges going on in my life… to FIX ALL THE THINGS—ASAP.

It was too much. And I have never in my life said anything was too much.

LEARNING

I’ve spent a lot of my adult life spiritually bypassing my very human needs. I thought I had to throw them overboard so that I could ascend.

I’ve talked about my inner conflict to be a nun (joking/not joking) but to have a lot of great sex (definitely not joking.)

For me, the marriage was a journey to resolve the tension between my power and my fears. And as wrenching as it was to have it end, our romance also healed parts of me that W was the perfect healer for.

After one of those protracted loving-arguing-make-up loving sessions, I actually thought to myself, in total earnestness, “This would work if I had fewer needs.” And I thought that was the way through. To be, essentially, less needy.

Except, I’m not a needy person. I mean, sometimes, I’m a needy hot mess. But generally, I’m a radiantly sufficient generous Love Queen—who, as it turned out, needed to find her Divinity by embracing her humanity.

I gave all that I could to the relationship because I was deeply in love—and Love is limitless. I gave all that I could because I was working from fear—which is hugely limiting. Both are true.

I needed to be emptied to see what was inside of me.

THERE WAS A VISION

I spent two weeks of a pilgrimage in Egypt crafting key questions—more like problem statements, to bring to the final temple. I brought my relationship pain to Abydos, the Temple of King Seti.

This is what I heard: “Don’t break up. But let go. There is a 50/50 chance.”

This is what I saw: a scene where W and I were dancing at a café in Europe—we made it through! I also saw a scene where I was burying a trinket under a tree in my front yard—we had not made it.

Then I was shown a man standing behind me. The temple said, “If you bury the current relationship, there is a man who is waiting to step forward.”

I didn’t think much about the man in the vision because I was 100% committed to the 50% chance that W and I were going to build a life together.

I got home from Egypt and pulled back on all of my fixing behaviours—while praying for a breakthrough.

We went our separate ways eight months later.

I made a ritual offering to the tree.

I wept for months. Friends came through for me in a big way (I’ll be telling you more about that.) The stress tanked my hormones and then anxiety came for a visit. My body ached for his body.

I thought going to Paris to shag a Frenchman would shake the grief (I didn’t shag anyone. I just made love to a lot of pain au chocolats.) But… I did not waver in the wellness of my choice to move on.

Without agreeing to it, we just… didn’t get in touch much. (I’m loath to use the phrase “went no contact” because I think, culturally speaking, the no contact approach has gotten out of control to a harmful degree. I can talk more about that another time.) But, essentially, we went no contact.

To my pained amazement, no contact was the right prescription for healing. I’m grateful that W had the steel for it. I’m… mmm… very susceptible to make-up moments; and strong, warm hands; and the promise of… ANYWAY, it was a good idea to not be in touch for a long while.

W and I met up, eventually, six months gone by. We sat on a bench and held hands, had some tears and good laughs, and talked and talked. We were as honest and sweet as we have ever been. Romance, concluded. Love, abiding.

“Love is our true destiny. We do not find the meaning of life by ourselves alone. We find it with another.” — Thomas Merton

I’m going to pause here. I have to write meticulously because I want to bring honour and respect to this. And as life would have it, I’m actually jumping on my bike to go get some marriage conclusion paperwork processed this afternoon. (W and I have never used the d*vorce word since we parted. Feels so harsh. We just say, paperwork.)

There are ways to navigate pain and grief that don’t take a damn decade of therapy.

In the next instalment, I’ll lay out how I’ve healed. I hope it serves a million hearts.

Please make sure you’re subscribed to my newsletter so you get the next edition. I’m not dicing this up and putting it on socials. It’s only here, for us. (Also people are asking about my astrologers… I’ll get you those referral links next week. xo)

Love is the medicine.

More soon.

WITH LOVE,

FOR THE LIGHT NERDS

Hey! Come do The Centering Practice with me (it got me thru divorce and apparently it’s helping a lot of people get thru… A LOT.) We have thousands of people on our group mediation list so this we be a power plant.I’ll jam a bit about the physics of letting go and then we’ll do a Centering together for about 15 minutes. Light, intention… it’s the energy work that works. CLICK HERE TO REGISTER.
THE SUPER BLESSER EXPERIENCE is out! Learn how to transmute pain and become a more joyful love bug. GO DEEPER HERE.
If you want to bring your questions to the temples, my beloved friend Joey and I are taking a group to Egypt in May 2027 (there’s a payment plan option that’s cool.)

ASTRO UPDATE

Dark of The Moon Write + Burn: Monday, July 13
New Moon in Cancer: Tuesday, July 14
Mercury Retrograde ends: Thursday, July 23
Full Moon Write + Burn: Wednesday, July 29
Full Moon in Aquarius: Wednesday, July 29
Mercury Retrograde Post-shadow ends: Thursday, August 6

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A personal update 💛

Jenn Orajay — Fri, 03 Jul 2026 12:00:36 +0000

JULY 3, 2026

A personal update

Hello Love,

I’ve been making it clear on socials that all of my communication is actually from me, not AI. I hope it goes without saying in this space, but… if it has my name on it, I wrote it, approved it, blessed it.

I’m going to give you a more personal update than usual. Everything is ultimately good. But it’s been a bumpy year. Actually, a bumpy three years.

Let me start with the karmic and planetary scoop. Last year, I decided that I wanted to find an astrologer that I could consult with regularly, since my cherished astrologer went on sabbatical.

I had readings with three different astro advisors. Every one of them started our session by saying, “Wow, it’s been a hard three years for you.”

And I was like… I’m good! I’m resilient! I learned a lot!

But, ya. I stacked it all up. A new marriage and a divorce within 3 years—loving but heartbreaking, of course. I moved homes three times (to be by the ocean, then to get away from mold, then a forced renovation.)

There was health stuff from the mold and metals poisoning—I had so many IVs that my veins started closing down.

Within all of this, I’ve been rebuilding my business.

I wanted to go deeper creatively, spiritually… so decided to restructure everything. At the same time, we lost a massive number of our subscriber list from a tech mishap (it was about 100,000 people, which took about 10 years to nurture—which is potentially devastating for an online business.) We recovered. There have been significant comings and goings on my team, which is always graceful but never easy.

Then there was an arduous AF adventure with a Silicon Valley software developer and the stress circus that is the venture capital scene. We set out to build the Centering app—a new operating system for spiritual devotion, and…

things got slightly litigious. I cleaned out my savings to weather it all. Then I took the advice of two wisened, exited female tech-founders: “Danielle, do *not* raise VC. Keep control and keep your life.” Thank you, ladies.

In all of this, Bless & Release got birthed. Like a miracle baby.

The full app is being built, very quietly, one line of code at a time. The current version is a little trinket. The full unfurl will be like a temple. For now, you can listen to + read the Bless book on it and do The Centering Practice.

So… ya… it’s been a very challenging, karma-cleansing three-year cycle. Expansion. My consciousness. My heart. My friendships. My Faith. I got a decade’s-worth of mystic and MBA curricula.

I’m grateful for all of it, and I’m grateful it’s overrr.

THIS IS US

Now I can show up more fully for our membership community, and to create classes and workshops.

I’m going to keep experimenting with delivery. Y’all seem to want, “self serve but, hold my hand and give me straight talk about metaphysical how-to’s.” I GOT YOU.

Online classes in the “industry” are in flux. AI is seductive to self helpers who want to ask Chat GPT for relationship advice.

My advice is to not ask ChatGPT for any kind of relationship advice.

I am not worried about being a spiritual director in the age of AI. Lived experience and love will become more magnetic than ever. That’s the higher purpose of the authenticity + artificiality tension that’s building—to create deeper connection.

Related sidenote: I’ve decided to keep my writing on my site only (for subscribers—you!) and not dice it up into Instagram soundbites. Focused love, not leaky soundbites.

You can hit reply and tell me anything.

Requests, questions, opinions, ideas. Tell me what you want more of. And like, what do you think of The Age of Aquarius so far? Intense, right?

I’m so glad you’re here.

Keepin’ it real, all for love,

HAPPENINGS

Keep an eye out for day planners dropping soon! And we’re going back to colour covers! And keeping the classic plain covers.
I’m taking a group to Egypt May 11 to 24, 2027. Egypt gave me soooo much healing—I went twice in one year! If you’re called, CHECK OUT THE ITINERARY. We set up a payment plan system, and you can pay over 12 months. The trip is almost half full already. Isis awaits!

ASTRO UPDATE

Dark of The Moon Write + Burn: Monday, July 13
New Moon in Cancer: Tuesday, July 14
Mercury Retrograde ends: Thursday, July 23
Full Moon Write + Burn: Wednesday, July 29
Full Moon in Aquarius: Wednesday, July 29
Mercury Retrograde Post-shadow ends: Thursday, August 6

DO THIS

You’ve got the Bless & Release book, right?! Shipping worldwide
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The Super Blesser Experience is for big inner a-ha’s
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You can coach with or host workshops and exercises from the new Bless & Release Facilitator Kit! Help your clients, your teams let go and move on (first, you’ll have to explain to them that it’s not actually about letting go, it’s about integration… but we have worksheets for that!
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The biggest pain in my spiritual ass. Aka—greatest learning.

Jenn Orajay — Fri, 26 Jun 2026 10:14:58 +0000

JUNE 26, 2026

The biggest pain in my spiritual ass. Aka—greatest learning.

Summer Love…

Last week I promised I’d say more about the concept of WANTING WHAT’S MEANT FOR YOU.

I’ve been wrestling with this concept for years. I would posit that it might be the keynote of the Spiritual Path. I can confirm that it’s been the biggest pain in my spiritual ass.

I have always found this unsettling, but now I’m finding that it’s bringing me relief.

If I say to you, Darling, just want what’s *meant* for you….

How does that land? Sweaty palms and paranoia, or deep exhale?

Manifestation motivators and religions have been trying to sell us permission slips to reach our own destinies, but what if the real secret is to simply want what’s meant for you?

I made you a LIST! (I make fun of listicals because they are the worst AND the best of Instagram self-help, but I do love them.)

HOW TO GET READY FOR WHAT’S MEANT FOR YOU

1. FORGIVE. Resentment and anger are like lead weights in your energy field—major blockers to abundance and all the good stuff that you likely want to bring into your life.

2. Focus on being “fuller” and not necessarily “bigger.” A fuller LIFE. More full of love, generosity, joy. This is embodiment, not performance. Embodiment is magnetic to what’s meant for you. Performance n’ fakery is a repellent to what’s meant for you.

3. Who cares what #3 is. I have no #3 today. More “how to’s” don’t matter. Because…

The universe is a resplendent symphony of intentionality.
And if it is meant for you, it will find you.

Our job is to keep our energy field clean and to tuck in with our Higher Self on the daily. Spiritual practice, devotion, inner house keeping. Keep making space for what’s meant for you to enter your consciousness and your life.

This requires radical trust, of course.

And radical trust is the absolute biggest spiritual PITA (that’s a Canadian acronym for “pain in the ass”.) I will talk about it soon. So much to look forward to.

To keep you subscribing here, old school style, I’m enticing you with music. Don’t just go read my listicle stuff on Instagram. The depth is deeper here. On that note…

Enticing you with music.

A playlist for you:

THE BALANCED FEMININE

HEY!

THE SUPER BLESSER EXPERIENCE is ready for you!

A set of worksheet-exercises and techy videos from me to help you obliterate some outgrown identities you may still be identifying with and… want what’s meant for you. CHECK IT OUT HERE AND MAKE THIS YOUR SUPER BLESSER SUMMER

WITH LOVE,

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Independent? But asking God for mercy? It’s tricky.

Jenn Orajay — Fri, 19 Jun 2026 18:54:40 +0000

JUNE 19, 2026

Independent? But asking God for mercy? It’s tricky.

Hello Love bug,

Today is about trust. Let me explain how I’m coming to trust the Great Divine more lately.

And how beautiful this is after a lot of spiritual grinding: Hyper-independence, Catholic punishment hangover, misconceptions about karma and a deep-seated fear that maybe God doesn’t want for me what *I* want for me.

And the ever-present pressure to be a productive servant in the Age of Aquarius—while reverse-aging, wearing high frequency fabrics, fully processing light codes from Egypt. And getting enough protein, and 10,000 steps a day.

PERSPECTIVE 1

I’ve been reading The Golden Present: Daily Inspirational Readings by Sri Swami Satchiananda with my (high protein) breakfast.

This hit:

“Shout for help. If you need God’s help, just be spontaneous. If you feel like crying to him, cry. Shout for help. All the great saints, all their prayers, we’re literally shouting to God for help. ‘God, have mercy on me!’
If you say that even once with your entire heart, you are sure to get his help immediately. God knows whether you are calling for his help sincerely or not. When you look for God, you should know nothing else is going to help you. Sincere prayer comes only when you are tired of everything, when you know fully well that nothing else but God will save you. As long as you depend on yourself a little, God waits.”

PERSPECTIVE 2

I wrote this in Bless & Release: Sign #12 that you’re a Super Blesser—a conscious creator:

Your self-reliance is unshakable. You know that you’re capable of powerful healing and creation. This self-awareness deepens your connection with the divine and everyone you come into contact with.

PERSPECTIVE 3

From the Sufi of all Sufi’s…

What you seek is seeking you.
— Rumi

A HANDY LISTICAL FOR YOU

1. Have the courage to receive what Life wants to give you.

2. When your courage dips, ask God for mercy—do it with all your heart. THIS is how you come to know that you are beloved—and of course life wants you to be blessed and happy.

3. Exhale. Exercise your gifts. Show up fully to receive.

4. Add protein. Repeat.

Next week I’m going to say more about WANTING WHAT’S MEANT FOR YOU. I’ve come to see this as the keynote of the spiritual path. Challenging. Blissful. Finally.

AND… this is turning out to be one of the most mentioned teachings in Bless & Release. Which I was secretly hoping for.

With Earnest striving and Sweet Surrender…

WITH LOVE,

COOL HAPPENINGS:

SUMMER SOLSTICE group visualization: SUNDAY, JUNE 21 at 7am PT | 10am ET. Always free. If you can’t make it, I’ll send you the recording of the INNER SUN practice. REGISTER HERE.
NEW EGYPT TRIP DATES! May 11 – 24, 2027. Itinerary is ON MY SITE. Payment plan allows you to pay over a year. It’s so divine, I hope you can join us.

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Summer Solstice prep, movie recs and 86 songs!

Jenn Orajay — Sat, 13 Jun 2026 12:55:03 +0000

JUNE 13, 2026

Summer Solstice prep, movie recs and 86 songs!

Hi Love bugs,

I’ve got a big bash of music + movies recs for you. And pointers for making the most of Summer Solstice (works in all hemispheres!)

MUSIC FIRST. ALWAYS.

This is one of my choicest, most packed playlists ever. 86 songs, babe! I built this while I was in Paris rebirthing myself in a little seven story walk-up, post a breakup, gorging on art, and lighting copious candles in cathedrals.

It’s strictly positive and sexy. C’est moi, c’est toi!

I named it PHOENIX.

FILMS

HAMNET (on Apple)

…the most sublime story about the transcendental opportunity of grief. How it burns us and we become Radiant. And the performances! And the deep relationship to nature. It’s been so long since I saw an artful big movie. This was a healer.

LADY CHATTERLY’S LOVER (Netflix)

An English remake of a ‘70’s film based on the banned D.H. Lawrence book. I remember overhearing my mom talking about how racy the first movie was. It’s a great love story, an identity liberation. The sex is just a bit gratuitous but… who’s going to say no to a good shag in a meadow?

TRUST ME: THE FALSE PROPHET (Netflix)

I’ve seen about every cult docu there is. This is one of the best.

PRAY AWAY (Netflix)

…is about gays and lesbians who lead gay conversion therapy—under the guise of Chirstiantity, and then came home to actual love. It’s an intense path to all kinds of compassion.

EGYPT NEXT SPRING

NEW EGYPT DATES! We changed the trip to May 11 – 24, 2027! (No longer this September.)

The itinerary is ON MY SITE. Payment plan allows you to pay over a year.

My loves, If you are meant to come, you will be there. And… this is not a typical tour to Egypt. We have private access to many sites and sacred spots. It’s sublime. And… Joey and I are a comedy side show, so we’re also going to have a gooood time. There are a lot of laughs, some cathartic tears and FRIENDSHIP. support@daniellelaporte.com for all your questions. Or you can DM me on IG!

SUMMER SOLSTICE

…is one of the four most powerful days of the year to set intentions. I’m starting to write out a fresh batch of visions and get some new things ready for my altar.

Save the date:

SUNDAY, JUNE 21 at 7am PT | 10am ET

We’re doing the INNER SUN visualization. Always free. We’ve got 8000 people on the list! That’s a lot of light! If you can’t make it for the live gathering, I’ll send you the recording. It’s always yours.

BLESS & RELEASE REVIEWS ARE ROLLING!

“I’ve been listening to the audiobook while I wait for my hard copy. I have to rewind it so many times because you’re just hitting so hard that I can’t absorb it all fast enough. It rules. Thanks for your you-ness and wisdom.” — Michelle McDonald-Ross

BOOKS ARE SHIPPING. PLEASE GET A BUNCH HERE!

WITH LOVE,

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