WhiteOak's World

noreply@blogger.com (WhiteOak Art Designs and More) — Wed, 09 Sep 2020 14:15:00 +0000

A world of 360 Changes

I am not going to sit here and waste my time nor your time explaining why I haven't written in so long. So basically I am going to get straight to the point. Our world as we once knew it has done a 360- three times over! I look around when and if I decide to go into public and see many people wearing mask.... some don't wear mask, but the biggest thing I have notice and (I speak for myself in this scenario) is hardly any of us look at each other anymore. There are very seldom any smiles, we are living life behind a mask and the only place we seem to feel safe these days is in the privacy of our own homes. I could go on about this but I believe you get what I am saying.

Than there are those of us that have to be in public (in my case two days a week) because of WhiteOak Art Designs & More and that is my personal saving grace. That is one the place that even if my customers wear mask, I can still feel their smiles, see their beautiful energies and although I still wear my safety mask, I feel the privacy of my own home. Many of you know that my spiritual path is as important to me as the air we breathe. I have fell, I have tried to close down, but my gifts are part of my life. I see things, know things, share things, anything and everything I can do to help others.

One very important thing I have learned especially recently with the way the world is, and how the planets are aligned which my friend Steven can explain better, it is causing a lot of shit to surface and it is completely throwing me for a loop along with countless numbers of other people that are near and dear to my heart. So hear it is in a nut shell, the big five letter word KARMA!!

Oh, how Karma is a bitch and a half! Many people that walk a similar path as mine, are noticing it more and more everyday. You can run from many things in life, but Karma and death always will find you. Yes, I know it is morbid thought, "death" but lets face it, we all will die. Back to the point here... when I mentioned earlier how I see and know things like many others and we try our best to help the other person to see... often it is a 50/50 draw. Either the person listens or they don't! In all of the case scenario's there are lessons that need to be learn, and those of us that try to shield others from pain and hurt, but they REFUSE to listen to us, in the end, We the spiritual people hurt just as bad as the other person, often worst!

I have come to learn that common sense is a precious gift that many are not born with, but could indeed be one of their life lessons. Common sense says.... if there is a fire in front of you, if you cannot put it out, call 911. Don't run into the fire to get a pair of shoes. Listening is another gift. Ever since I a very young child I would sit with Elders and listen to their stories. In a sense I guess you could say my grandmother was my best human friend when I was a child. (Yes, remember in other stories I have written, I talked about my little spirit friend I had).

I was not being selfish when I said above that the spiritual people hurt just as bad as the other person, often worst. When we tell someone something, it is not cooked up in our inner cauldron, it is messages we are given from the Divine Source! You could even chalk it up to intuition, or common sense. When you see trash, it is trash! Right?

When we do things to try and help people, and turn around and get shit on over and over again, it is not because we are dumb, or like being shit on, we care! We don't want our loved one to suffer, we don't want them to go through the hell we did.. and often its in our own minds that we are the ones that are fucked up and take the blame for others actions, although it really isn't our fault. We tried our best to help, we tried our best to explain things to them in kindergarden language, and they still refuse to listen. So what is the point, do we give up? Do we just throw our hands up and say what the fuck ever? OMG, that would be so easy to do. But No, we suffer the ordeal with them, we try over and over and over again of ways to get them out of the mess they got THEMSELVES into.

There are big hearted people in the world, and their people who actually do not give a shit about hurting other people nor care about what the other people have to go through.. its all about the "What about Me" game. Well, In closing know this .... I did not get up this morning and plan on writing.. I was sitting outside and heard a woodpecker, and the ancestors told me I needed to write about this topic. So here it is... Understand, we can only help people to a certain point, from there its up to the other people, because when Karma steps into the picture, there is not a damn thing we can do to help.

Have you walked in my Shoes?

noreply@blogger.com (WhiteOak Art Designs and More) — Mon, 21 Oct 2019 18:49:00 +0000

There have been so many times in my life where people feel they can just talk to me about anything. I really feel blessed in that department, because although I have F**ked up a lot in my life time, I try my very best to keep things to myself when people talk to me and about my own personal life. There is ONE episode someone told me something, and I repeated it to someone not because it was gossip but because of my ego and fear was afraid that person would love someone else more than me. That is not something I talk about, it happened many, many moons ago... and I am still paying Karma for it, in my heart and mind! That is a situation I will never be able to fix, I know that, and the others involved know that. But in that process it taught me a huge lesson, a lesson that to this day I live by.

With the exception of that ONE episode, people truly do talk to me about some of the most amazing things, and also things I wouldn't know what to do about even if I could try, but that is some where we will not go... for sure! Anyway, Lately, sickness, lost, being unbalanced, depression, mental disorders, and many related things have been told to me, shared with me, and the common denominator of everything is need for understanding why things are happening the way they are. In my last post I wrote an article called Why if you are interested in reading it. This post is along the same lines but not exactly... this post is about "Walking in someone else's Shoes".

Many of us can speculate, relate and think we can understand what someone is going through. But actually, it is not until you are able to walk in that person's shoes could you truly understand... And since it is almost impossible to walk in another person's shoes... the bottom line is we really cannot understand to the full capacity of what someone is going through.

Many of us know people online and off line, that is battling different types of cancer. I know what it is like to take care of someone with cancer. I know how tired a person can get, both physical and mentally. I have seen the excitement of remission, and the sadness of death from cancer. We feel, we give compassion, we give support, we do everything possible that we can do to help. But the fact remains, those of us who have taking care of a loved one with cancer, do not know the horrible feeling that goes into your body with chemo.. or the horrible feeling after the treatments. We sit there for hours watching our loved one sleep peacefully under a warm blanket while chemo is slowly being injected in them. We cry for them, with them, we scream in silence because we want to be brave for them... but we are not wearing their shoes, nor are we able to hear their silent screams of fear and worry.

Mental illness, disorders or however you want to refer to it, is the same thing. When you are battling a mental disorder, I have actually heard people say to others... just stand up, dust off your ass and move on.. often they feel that depression, anxiety and other mental disorders are self inflicted attention grabbers. How F**king ignorant people can be! So those with mental disorders, just decide to go to the grocery store... trying very carefully to go down isles where there are no people just to have a battle of anxiety hit them... where they feel like their heart is trying to jump out of their chest, they break out in a cold sweat, or their legs become weak and their hands start shaking.. just to get attention?? Get F**king real! Or what about the days, a person gets up, feeling drained, tired like they haven't slept in a month, they have no energy to do anything, do not want to see nor talk to anyone? Are they too trying to grab attention?

However, what about those times when a person speaks very bluntly to another person.. and that person becomes shocked and thinks you flipped your damn ass, because they cannot understand why the other person is so upset with them? People cannot understand what a person is mentally going through or thinking, unless you are walking in their shoes AND AGAIN that is impossible to do. Many artist, writers, spiritual people and yes, healers... have different outlets that they try to use to help other people understand what could be going on in their mind... sometimes people can somewhat understand, other times they just don't.

People with mental disorders, and/or diseases like cancer... have to train their mind to see and hear 'life' differently than the quote, unquote normal people. There are very, very good days, and there are very bad days for people who suffers with disorders/diseases. The whole point of this blog post is just to say, please do not think people with mental disorders are just out there to get attention.. Mental disorders are real, they are hurtful, you suffer terribly, you hurt the ones you love and you damn sure are not looking for attention.

Each of us who deals with things like this, understand each and every one of us, deals with things in our own way... a way that is right for us as individuals. Right, Wrong, Indifferent, it does not matter... We are trying to survive the best way we can. Yes, I fall under this category... others who suffer the same thing as I do, understands none of us will ever know what it is like to walk in other peoples shoes - at best we can relate to the circumstance the best way we can.

Why?

noreply@blogger.com (WhiteOak Art Designs and More) — Tue, 15 Oct 2019 20:29:00 +0000

In life we often wonder why... Why do things have to be this way, or that way. Why do some beliefs entwine with each other sometimes in a soft gentle flow and other times it feels like they are drowning in quick sand with nothing to hold on to.

Sometimes, I think maybe it is acceptance... we become bias to the fact that what "We" think or feel should be the way others should think or feel. And when that does not happen, a vicious cycle of chaos echos so loudly in our minds we often feel like we are lost or walking a road with no end, nor no beginning. Why?

They say blood is thicker than water... in a sense that is true; in reality... symbolically speaking it is a crock of shit. We all live this life walking different paths, there is nothing- not one damn thing wrong with that.. actually, that is the way life should be.... but because one person thinks, feels, hears, and/or sees differently, than why all of a sudden does life become so chaotic? Again, "Why"?

How often do we bite our tongues, in fear of saying the wrong thing, to the wrong person? How often do we speak our minds not really giving a shit who hears or who don't? Life, with its array of chaotic energy gets tiring... why bother to try this, or try that. Say this or say that? Why? Why? Why?

Life is filled with two kinds of people.. those who see and those who don't. Those who hear, and those who don't. Those who accept, and those who don't. Online, behind these screens- that tap into the huge world of everything.. a person can say, do, pretend all they want... who cares? Often if people begins to get too much shit, they just change their online name and start all over again. But in the end, you will say, or do something and people will begin to realize who you are.

When you are younger and Elders say things to you like, you will understand once you grow up... or you will see - the older you get the less you begin to care. Who cares if you do this, or do that? What many people do not understand is; this is all true. The older I get, the less I give a shit about mind games and people being assholes. I stay in my little world, and I am okay with that... but when people start treating others different or badly that I care for, that changes the game.

What defines family, or relationships? Acceptance? If so, Why? In order for anybody to be comfortable with their self, they need to be able to look into the mirror and be okay with who they see. If you are a hater and you can still look in the mirror and can be okay.. good for you! Karma is a bitch! No matter what path you walk, there is some kind of karma always waiting, it does not matter what you call it, its all the same F**king thing!

I am not totally convinced mankind is capable of unconditional anything. Many people would like to think they are... but they are not. Somewhere in the back part of their mind they keep track of the times you have F**ked up. I do not believe I am capable of anything unconditional... I would like to believe I was, but I am not. That's why I love my two furry children so much.. I can scold them, and although it may hurt their feelings after a few minutes they are right there giving love again.

So why? Why write this kind of post? Because today, I am truly tired of a lot of bullshit and sick of wondering why!! I have messed up a lot in my days, and I have lived up to it, I have paid my karma and I am still paying my karma, but you know what... the bottom line is, when I look into the mirror, I am okay with who I see! Stubborn, Yes! Strong Willed, Yes! Pretty outspoken, Yes! Try to take people's feelings under consideration, Yes! But never try to bullshit me-or fest up in front of people and back away like a coward when you are alone to me ... I actually feel sorry for folks like that!!

Do you ever wonder why?

Path with Many Branches

noreply@blogger.com (WhiteOak Art Designs and More) — Fri, 21 Jun 2019 18:46:00 +0000

I have been on my path for many, many moons, and throughout that time, I have studied many different pagan beliefs. I do NOT and I can promise I WOULD NEVER follow just one thing. All of my life, I have been like a sponge wanting to learn everything I could. Have I paid for it down the road, oh hell yes I have! Have I changed anything? Hell No! People will always fear what they do not understand. If they do not have the courage to read and study about beliefs.. so fucking be it. Not my problem. I live my life for me, I am the one who will walk the last mile of my journey alone.. so what damn difference does it make to anyone how I decide to live my life?

I have many different kinds of friends,,all individuals, all unique, all their own person. Do they live by socially rules? Maybe sometimes, maybe not.. its their business. That is the thing, most people cannot get into their minds.... each of use are different, many of us will never be a little sheep, following others to fit in. Who gives a shit? I remember in school, all of the girly girls wanted to sit around so they wouldn't get their clothes dirty, while others didn't care. If that is how the girls wanted to be... so what? (Oh, in case you are wondering.. I was not one of those little girl!!)

In the past two weeks, I have had a ton of reality issues slap me in the face, and guess what.. that is not fun. Will I get through it, yeah, the best way I can. Will it change me... in some ways yes, it has-not so much changed as my eyes have been open to a lot things, things I believe I have chosen not to see. But I will not change a damn thing about myself to suit anyone, group, opinions or situation.

Now I will step off of my soap box, and share a few things I have going on at my shop this weekend. I have a lot of different items that fits 'Most' paths, not all. At the moment I am trying to stock my hoodoo section. This week I will be adding Spikenard Cologne, this Jackpot Money Spray, A few more Hem Air Fresheners... I am adding several new herbs, I have made Yemaya Powders, charged for Fertility. Really.. there is just things being added each week.

For all of you that visit the shop Blessed Solstice!! I hope you have a beautiful weekend. I hope I am on your list to come visit me... until than.. Sending all of you many hugs!!!

For those who do not live near me, I do have an eCrater store: WhiteOak Art Designs & More I do not a fraction of what my store has but if you are looking for something not listed on the site, I am sure I carry it. Hopefully, I will have my site updated one of these days (laughs).

Blessed Be,
WhiteOak

noreply@blogger.com (WhiteOak Art Designs and More) — Thu, 06 Jun 2019 21:07:00 +0000

It has been way to long!

Hello World! Remember me from a zillion years ago, when I use to blog all of the time? Good grief where do I even begin to start telling you about all of the changes in my life since I last spoken to any of you!

Well, as you can see, I do not write a fraction of what I use to, I do not do as much photography or art, wow I do not even do YouTube videos anymore (although I am thinking about starting that again). *Laughs* okay, but that does not mean I just sit on my ass and do nothing these days!

I actually have a wonderful little store that holds my heart and soul. It is only open to days a week, yet I work seven days a week on it? WHAT? Yeah, I am always doing things to my shop. So let me tell you a little or a lot about it.

I used to have a shop years ago at J&J Flea Market called "EarthCrafts" but I closed it and went through a HUGE life change. In 2014 I lost my husband to Cancer, and stayed a year in limbo, went to therapy and finally started to get my shit together in 2016.

In April of 2017 I opened a new store back at J&J Flea Market except this time it is a dream come true! I have the kind of store I have always wanted and could not have ever gotten it to the point where it is without my guy David!

WhiteOak Art Designs & More is the name of it, It is a Goth/Spiritual Store. I sell everything from skulls to herbs.. hoodoo to angels... It is actually my heart and soul. I have met some of the most fantastic people, customers who are now friends. I have a wonderful Tarot Reader his name is Steven. I will write a blog post telling you the story of how Steven and his partner James have become such a huge part of the store... James often shares it with the customers.

Let me share a few links with you: WhiteOak Art Designs & More on Google, I still have my eCrater Store online, trying to get it updated but not enough hours in a day sometimes. Plus I have another online store called Ethereal it is a complete new line of body care. This is my business Facebook Page. And this is Steven's Facebook page.

Just to show you a few pictures:

So that is a tease of a few things I have in the store. I believe I will write my next blog post focusing on the Hoodoo items I have for sale. Until next world... please leave a comment, or drop by if you are local or traveling through.. If you click on the Google Page, you can get directions to the shop no matter where you are.

We are who we are....

noreply@blogger.com (WhiteOak Art Designs and More) — Wed, 03 May 2017 19:13:00 +0000

We ARE who we are!

I have not done a blog post in a long time. I have created a YouTube channel, I have opened a little store off line, I am back to making my skin care products (this time a lot different than before) and so many other things. It seems like I am trying to make excuses why I haven't written anything lately, but truly that is not the case at all. I have been very busy doing a ton of things and I have a Sh*t load of stuff on my mind. However, this morning when I got up, for some reason I was lead to do a blog post, and yes, I will be doing a YouTube video on this as well.. but let's get started on this post!!

Everyone that reads my blogs, or watches my YouTube videos are pretty much aware that when I was on a site called Squidoo (now closed *sad face* ) I wrote a lot about the Goth subculture, helped to promote small Goth businesses and shared my views, thoughts, and love for the Gothic subculture! Here is what brought me to writing this article.... over the weekend, I had someone come into my shop and yes, they were a little on the Goth side BUT with a twist!! As I was talking with them, and they were looking at me with these non-emotional eyes and (*laughs*) the energy was well ... different-I felt I needed to get this off of my chest (so to speak)!

So okay, let's start with that...what Goth's ARE NOT! Well, here are my views.. FIRST and foremost, you DO NOT get up one morning and decide you are going to be Goth. It is NOT an outfit you wear, or the color of your hair, skin, or your clothes.. it is a way of life. It is a part of you, not a separate entity. Goth is NOT pretend, or a fantasy world adventure.. it is a life, a community of people who love things outside the box of the majority of the other people. And most important they are an extension (my opinion only) of the Victorian Era. So, yes, I believe each of us are born the way we are!

Goth's see beauty where often others wouldn't. There is a pull or a draw to more individuality, creativity, living decor, and yes style. Goth love what many consider to be cold, gross, scary, and aloof. Not all Goths are satanist, not all goths are vampires (real vamps not tv/movie drain your blood version) AND not all Goths are manic depressants who live to comment suicide.

Most Goth's (in my opinion only) do follow a pagan path that is made of MANY different beliefs. Yes, you will see a lot of Goth's that wear black, blood red, dark purple and other darker tone clothing... Yes, you will see a lot of Goth's homes decorated with a lot of black, unique Victorian style bedding, pillows, bats, skulls, ravens, and sometimes coffins! (the list is endless) Does that make the Goth subculture EVIL? F*ck no it doesn't! Holy Shit batman... is a person evil because they are not afraid to express their own individuality? See life their way? Isn't that our birthright?

To the best of my knowledge, I do not believe each and every human needs to see life the same way. We are all different, WE ARE WHO WE ARE!! Does that give haters a right to beat-up, bully, and yes folks even KILL people who do not fit in a square box that is closed off to the rest of the world? And flipping this whole thing around.. some Goths believe if you are certain age you are not considered Goth-because you are way too old! Or, if your hair is not black, if you are not this or that, that means you are NOT Goth. (Again, Bullshit).

I do not find it necessary in life to wear a label of who or what I am. What I love, don't love, how I decorate my home. People know who and what I am its all over my home, and myself. I do not hide it, or try to cover it.. See the person from my store this past weekend, did a reverse judgement on me.. but what they don't realize is, that little episode will never make me change who I am.

On YouTube, I have a friend who supports this organization called Goths For Sophie. This beautiful girl named Sophie lost her life (beaten to death) and her boyfriend was hospitalized just because they were expressing their own individuality and were Goth. This organizations main focus is to help create respect and understanding of subcultures in the communities. There are Others on YouTube who created a hashtag #createnothate. All of this is done to help ease down all of the damn hate in the World!

See, I am not saying anything different in this post, that isn't already written out there over and over again. But I also feel and I know many others do... each and everyone of us will continue to write post like this, create videos with hashtags that are against hate.. in hopes that one day.. people understand is okay to be WHO WE ARE!!

Do you have problems sleeping?

noreply@blogger.com (WhiteOak Art Designs and More) — Fri, 05 Aug 2016 18:03:00 +0000

ZzzQuil

What keeps me up at Night? I have a mind that will not stop thinking. It seems like most of the nights the hardest thing for me to do is settle my mind to a quite state so I can get to sleep. ZzzQuil truly helps to relax me in a way that is natural. It is an Non-Habit forming sleep aid, so I do not need to worry about getting hooked on it. One of the things I love the most is the fact it gently puts me to sleep almost naturally and I DO NOT get up the next morning feeling like I have a hang-over!

I have taken ZzzQuil for a while now and honestly can say I really like the product. It does not make you space out or feel like you are drunk.. instead it is just calmly makes you fall asleep in a way that seems natural. It is hard to explain really. Regardless, this is a product that I would suggest researching and trying if you have a hard time getting to sleep in the evening. I usually take the liquid form but found the LiquiCaps are easier to carry with you when traveling.

I believe enough in this product that if you have a sleeping disorder, ZzzQuil is worth researching to see if it can work for you!! If you would like more information about Influenster and perhaps become a member please click here!

Please Note: I received this product sample complimentary for testing purposes.

LASplash Lipstick

noreply@blogger.com (WhiteOak Art Designs and More) — Thu, 11 Feb 2016 20:31:00 +0000

Okay, here it is, if I could freaking marry a lipstick I would marry LASplash Lipstick! Yes, I know damn that sounds crazy but I am actually in love with the lipstick I just purchased from them. So here is the scoop....

Since I am taking a Makeup Artist course all I seem to do (when I have the time) is study my course, watch a freaking ton of makeup tutorials and play with my makeup! I have been drawing out some of my own makeup designs (all will be revealed soon) and in one of the designs, I needed a black lipstick. ALL OF YOU know that I am picky as hell with my lipstick and the most important thing is when I put it on, I want it to stay the hell on!!

I was watching this one video and the chick was going on and on and on about black lipstick comparisons. One of the companies she mentioned was LASplash! So I did my regular Google search and found their site! Well, as I was looking around I see this one shade called 'Vampire'. Yes, it is a shade I have been searching for forever it seems. Kat Von D has one but it is always sold out (and I love her lip stains btw but not as much as this brand) SO when I found LASplash sold a color very similar to Kat Von D's color I ordered it! But I did not stop there.. No.... I found another color I loved (which I will write a review about later) so I got it. I never got the black lipstick because I forgot all about it when I found 'Vampire color'.

So, LASplash Lip Couture waterproof Lipstick comes in a tube with a flat double sided sponge applicator. IT WORKS PERFECT BTW! I am not sure of the amount of the tube but I know it will last a while. The tube cost $14.00 and it is made in the U.S.A. One thing that impressed me if you ever look at sanitation.. the lipstick comes in a box and the tube inside is seal... so there is no tampering with this product.

It took one application to get the shade I have on in this picture. I used a black waterproof liner because the two colors just look great together to me! With the applicator being flat, it makes it super easy to apply and also to line your lips if you so choose. I was going to count how many seconds it takes to dry.. (yes, I said seconds) but I forgot... I do know it was very few ; when I blotted my lips it was dry! This lipstick is not going anywhere. The Vampire color is a very deep blood red...omg it is beautiful!!

So, on a scale 1 to 10, I would give this lipstick a freaking 100!! It feels great on your lips, it has not budged since I have had it on, it is not hard and heavy... and the only other thing I can say is YOU HAVE TO TRY THIS STUFF!! Here is their link if you want to visit their site:

LASplash Cosmetics

Love for Makeup

noreply@blogger.com (WhiteOak Art Designs and More) — Thu, 11 Feb 2016 15:47:00 +0000

Okay, I wanted to do a fast post, I am calling this Love for Makeup because I am a full blown 100% Makeup Junkie especially now since I am taking a makeup artist course.

I wanted to write real fast about several items I am going to do a write-up review on:

-Younique 3D Fiber Lash Mascara

-Ipsy February Package (Which I love by the way)

-LASplash Lip Couture and Studio-shine Lip Lustre (I can already tell you that LASplash will see my business again! No doubt about that!!)

I have a few other things I will be writing about but I wanted these three to be the first.. Hopefully, I will get the reviews up by at least Friday Evening (Feb 12th).

I am so excited about these items... honestly, I have entered a brand new world of makeup lately. Things I am learning, items I am trying and the different techniques I am personally using on myself.

I have been extremely busy this week with family issues including having a brand new beautiful niece "Ava" that was born Feb 8th (almost on my birthday just a few days past). Regardless... all is good and I will be able to catch up on my makeup stuff!!

Hope everyone has a beautiful day... Is everyone ready for Valentines Day this Sunday?

Boxycharm Product Review-Jan 2016

noreply@blogger.com (WhiteOak Art Designs and More) — Sun, 24 Jan 2016 20:11:00 +0000

Okay, straight up no bullshit, I love the products that came in my January 2016 BoxyCharm box! I know I am a few days late writing my reviews but I have been a little busy. So let's get started on what I think about the Royal and Langnickel Revolution Eye Shadow brush set, Coastalscents Smoky Eye and Starlooks Luxe Pro Long ware Eyeliner Pen.

Now to be fair I have to say this: I am a mascara junkie, no lie. I have tried very expensive, and very cheap mascaras so I know what I like. I did try on the Blinc Mascara Amplified BUT only one coat on one eye because I did not like how it was going on. HOWEVER, I plan on trying a full application of the mascara before I fully review it. So I will get back to this one!!!

I love, love the Royal and Langnickel Revolution Eye Shadow brush set! I love how the bristles pick up just enough product and the application goes on soft and gentle. The little card that was included in the Boxycharm box reads that the bristles are 100% vegan. synthetic natural fibers that mimic the performance and feel of fine natural hair for a flawless finish. I will totally agree with this description. I would without a doubt purchase additional brushes from this company. I loved the crease brush when I applied shadow under my lower lashes and in the corner of my eye. Perfect.. and the blending brush is wonderful. It is soft, blends your shadows great and when I wiped the brush off on Scott towel no bristles came out.. to me that is a huge plus!! I cannot say enough good things about these brushes!!

The Coastal Scents Smoky Eye-Shadow pallet gets a double thumbs up from me. As most of you know by now that reads my blog, I am officially a QC Makeup Artist student and not only am I learning so much already but my view on makeup has changed more than I expected. I will tell you, if I like it I will wear it and if I don't I won't. Although, I love shimmery shadows I have found in my age group, matte shadows look better. THAT DOES NOT MEAN NO SHIMMER SHADOW AT ALL!! That means the shimmer shadows should be used a lot less. This Coastal Scents smoky eye pallet gives just the right amount of matte shadows and shimmer shadows. I love how smooth the shadows go on, how easy they are to blend, the color combinations are endless and the shadow lasted (on me) all day! I would carry this brand of shadow in my makeup artist case-I loved it that much!

My favorite item in this box no hold bard is the Starlooks Luxe Pro Long ware Eyeliner! This liner will become one of my everyday go to makeup items. When anything reads waterproof, smudge proof, blah, blah, blah, I have to question it because of my experiences with these kind of items. This liner said it would last all day.. well, it lasts longer than all day!! I feel asleep with the liner on and it looked as fresh the next morning when I got up as it did when I first applied it the day before. I love how the liner glides on, you can apply it thin or bold, light or dark. I would gladly pay the $19.00 for this eyeliner pen.

So there it is folks... my first review on my first BoxyCharm box!! Now I am excited to see what next month will bring.. so as far as the BoxyCharm box goes, more reviews to come next month. I will be writing more makeup post.. so bookmark me if you like what you read, links are below to the sites I have mentioned!

Beauty from the eyes of a makeup junkie!

BoxyCharm

Royal and Langnickel

Coastal Scents

Starlooks Luxe Longwear Eyeliner

BoxyCharm First Box

noreply@blogger.com (WhiteOak Art Designs and More) — Wed, 20 Jan 2016 14:17:00 +0000

Jan 2016

I have been impressed a lot in my life, but I have to admit today when I opened my first package from BoxyCharm I was beyond impressed! True story: my boyfriend was sitting at the table when I opened my package.. of course him being a guy; he does not realize a lot of differences between makeup, HE WAS impressed to see such great items!!!

A monthly subscription to BoxyCharm is $21.00 and they send four-five full-size products. When I signed up I thought okay that will average out to be approximately $5-$4.50 per item. Well here is a rundown of what I received in my box:

I am not sure if each month they run a new theme but this month the card read: "Eyes on 2016" it also has the retail price of each product and some directions how to use the product. So the first thing I saw was a set of (3) Royal and Langnickel Revolution Eye-Shadow Brushes. (1) is detailed eyeshadow application brush (1) is a professional pointed crease brush (1) is Precision eyeshadow detail smudge brush. The brushes are full size with a silk touch grip handle. They alone cost more than the whole BoxyCharm box this month. The brush set retails for $23.97

Now this item just about floored me: It is a Coastalscents Smoky Eye-Shadow pallet with 20 eyeshadow colors. It has rich deep dark matte shadows and beautiful mid-light tone frosted shadows. The eyeshadow palette retails for $39.95. I have never tried Coastalscents products before that I can remember, so I am excited to try these shadows. Since I will soon be starting my makeup artist course.. I am sure I will learn how to work with these shadows in new, different ways.

The next item was a Starlooks Luxe Pro long wear eyeliner pen. It is black and has a felt tip applicator end that can apply thin soft lines or thick bold lines. I drew a line on my finger last night it is still on my hand this morning. That is after washing my hands a ton of times since last night. So needless to say, it is waterproof!! This pen retails for $19.00

The last item is Blinc Mascara Amplified. It adds volume and lengthens your lashes and creates little tubes on your lashes and is waterproof. I am a mascara freak.. mascara and lip products are two of my favorite things.. so I AM really looking forward to trying this. This mascara retails for $26.00.

I am going to try each of these products today and write a part two to this post. So, let's add this up. The retail price of this box is $102.92 and I paid $21.00 for it AND the products are full size, and beautiful. So am I excited about next month's box... HELL Yeah!!!

If you are interested and want to sign up and get a BoxyCharm subscription here is my link: If you do not want to bother with clicking on my referral link and just want to read more about BoxyCharm click here!

Alright Lets do some Sexy Lips

noreply@blogger.com (WhiteOak Art Designs and More) — Fri, 15 Jan 2016 15:38:00 +0000

So if you read my blog post called lip care made easy, and decided to try my techniques chances are you have soft, smooth lips this morning. Just the right pallet to build those full, lushes, sensual, sexy lips!! Now let's build those lips and fill them with a beautiful dark rich color. I am going to be using NYX Liquid Suede in Amethyst and Palladio waterproof Lip Liner in Blackberry.

Recently, I have been experimenting with lip primers. Rule of thumb is when you wear a lip primer you need to make sure it is completely dry before applying your lip products. A primer is suppose to help keep your lip color on longer and it is suppose to stop it from feathering. But I learned the hard way and applied my lip products before my primer was completely dry and it made the whole lip experience not a good one.

There are several different brands of lip primers out there.. the two I have tried is: Stila Water Plumping Primer and Lip Insurance by Two Face. I cannot remember trying any others unless e.l.f. sells one.. But here are my thoughts on the two lip primers I have tried. (1) Stila Water Plumping Primer... I love this product! It is a little pricey $21 at Sephora I do not like it as a primer. Sometimes in the evening after using my coconut sugar lip scrub, I will wear this product instead of the vaseline. It feels excellent on your lips, it makes them soft and smooth... I just really like wearing it alone. I have tried using it as a primer but I may have done something wrong.. one time I know I did not allow it to dry before applying my lip product. Who knows, I may try it again. (2) Lip Insurance by Two Face... I had to try this product again this morning because I forgot how it worked the last time I used it. I am not impressed with it at all. I have actually had a hard time with my lip color this morning and that is after allowing the primer to dry. So.. bottom line for me and primers until something better presents itself to me... I will stick to adding a little of my powder foundation to my lips to give me a smooth clean pallet to work with. All you have to do is lightly take your makeup brush with powder on it and gently run it across your lips... BAM... your lips are primed!

I wrote an article called How to Apply Lipliner Tips. You can read it if you want too just click on the link. But here is a fast run down on how to line your lips. You should always start with a darker liner than the color of lip color you will be wearing. I am not sure if this rule applies to everybody or everything but it has worked for me and many others for a very long time. Start on your top lip in the middle and outline the two mounds, next draw the line down to one corner and then the other. Draw a line on your bottom lip in the middle and attach those lines to the corners. If you read the article I wrote it will go more into details. I also wrote how to make your lips appear bigger or smaller.

Next apply your lip color! As I have mentioned many times, I wear a lot of stains because I want lasting color. I am not the type of person to carry around lipstick and reapply it a million times a day. So I put it on in the morning and take it off at night.... mine last throughout the day: eating, drinking, kissing and ugg... yes smoking! What I do is apply the stain and wait for a few minutes and blot it. Repeat a couple of times until hardly any color comes off on the tissue when I blot-this assures me my stain has set. Oh.. and as crazy as this is going to sound.. use Scott towel to blot not tissues. Tissues WILL stick to your lips. I know this sounds a little time consuming but truly it isn't. I do this every day I put my lipstick on. Another thing I do just for reinsurance is: when I apply my lip stain, I also lightly go over my liner.. the liner remains darker, but it just makes me feel a little better knowing my liner will stay in place.

Have beautiful Friday Night. I would love to hear some of your favorite lip liner and lip color combinations!!

It's Never too Late to Make Dreams Come True

noreply@blogger.com (WhiteOak Art Designs and More) — Thu, 14 Jan 2016 21:42:00 +0000

Well, I just took the plunge and enrolled to take a professional makeup artist course. Am I nervous.. hell yeah but on the same hand, I am so excited. I have always loved makeup so much, so now I will have the opportunity to hopefully do something with it.

So along with the two makeup clubs I have joined (oh, which I heard from BoxyCharm today and they have mailed out my first box) and will be writing reviews on the products; writing about my own techniques and experiences with new makeup I have been trying and now my makeup course I am taking.. I believe I will be able to take my blog post to different levels.

So see, here I am 57 and starting a new journey with a passion I have had all of my life... working with makeup... and I decided to take a plunge. That goes to show.. it is never too late to pursue a dream, regardless of your age or whatever the dream may be-we set our own limitations....

SO....... I will finish writing a blog post I started about a fantastic lip stain color which I am madly in love with tomorrow.

Lip Care Made Easy

noreply@blogger.com (WhiteOak Art Designs and More) — Thu, 14 Jan 2016 18:07:00 +0000

Okay, beautiful lushes lips, lined and filled with a rich dark color lipstick is not only sensual and sexy but they need to have a routine to be taken care of also. Yeah, I know right, who needs to add more time to a cleansing routine when time is so limited these days. Well, I hate more than anything to have a long cleansing routine, but trust me when I say this.. what I am about to share with you will not take long and the results.. well, let's just say your partner will absolutely adore your lips!

First, especially in colder weather our lips dry out, get chapped and when we apply our lip colors our lips do not look smooth, sensual or sexy.. they look dried out with loose skin everywhere. What none of us want is to spend time making our lips look beautiful than turn around and look like crap because we did not want to do a simple routine that will take five minutes top! You can purchase expensive lip scrubs.. and you can purchase cheap stuff that could work just as good if not better. Personally, I like using things I have on hand that I would use for other things as well.

Recently, I ran across a really good product called "Garnier Skinactive Cleansing Water". this item in an all in one product.. it cleanses and refreshes. There is no rinse, no harsh rubbing and it is for your eyes, lips and face. Since I mainly wear lip stains and because of the routine I do, getting my lip color off takes a little time, so I needed something that was not real expensive and that would take the product off without tugging and rubbing my lips off. This Cleansing water is a 13.5 fl. oz bottle and I got mine at Walgreens for $8.99. All you do is put some on a cotton pad and wipe off your lipstick.... Yes, it is that easy and the color comes right off.

So after you have your lip color off, take a small amount of coconut oil and place it in the palm of your hand.. add a tiny amount of plain sugar and rub them together until the coconut oil melts. Next rub the scrub over your lips gently. I rub it on my lips for a minute or two.. afterward, wipe off your lip and rinse if you choose. Next put a good moisturizer on your lips.. I recently purchased a small container of Vaseline lip therapy with Shea Butter (to be different) I got mine for a little over a $1 and it takes very little. I actually put a small amount not only over my lips but above them too... (to ease up on the lines around the lips). In the morning, my lips feel and look smooth which makes for a good day for applying your favorite lip color!!

My New Year Plan-Lets Talk about Makeup

noreply@blogger.com (WhiteOak Art Designs and More) — Wed, 13 Jan 2016 20:47:00 +0000

Okay, my New Years new project.. I am going to write reviews on different makeup products. Now, I know there are already a ton of reviews out there.. some like things, some don't, some could care a less. But the main reason I have decided to add my two cents in, is because of my love and passion for makeup!

I have always been a makeup junkie. I love it and have taught numerous people how to put it on. Makeup is used to enhance your natural beauty, but it is also a lot of fun to go dramatic, trendy and sexy!

Lately, I have been seeing a lot of different things out there about beauty clubs. You pay so much a month and you get a package with a few sample products and so on in it. After researching them, I decided to join a couple I will post the links, yes they do offer referral but I will post the direct site link too in case you do not want to screw with clicking on referral links. Each month I plan on writing a blog post about each club and the products they sent. You are not locked into a lifelong contract with these companies.. you can cancel anytime you want. I will see how it is for a few months and decide if it is worth staying or not or changing companies or not.

Okay, so ipsy is a beauty club that cost $10 a month. I have not received any packages yet because I just signed up. My referral link is: Ipsy-WhiteOak57 or if you want to go directly to their site: Ipsy

The other site I joined is: BoxyCharm. They charge $21 a month and supposely send mostly full size samples in their boxes. We will see. My referral link is: BoxyCharm Eva or if you want to go directly to their site: BoxyCharm

Both clubs offers free shipping and different ways to earn points so you can get additional products.

I am wearing

Cherry Skies NYX Liquid Suede Lipstick and Cherry Kiss lipliner by Rimmel.

I want to touch a little on LIPS in this post... I will be writing more in-depth post about the lips and lining them.

Okay the lips... years ago I wrote an article for a Goth Magazine about "sensual lips". To me, the lips says a lot. I have always loved the deep dark colors and that is what I wore up until about 14 years ago, now I am back at it. The darker the better... but you will hear people say over and over.. anyone over 50 should not wear dark lipstick.. why? Well, I am not saying dark lips is right for everyone over 50 but I love it and it is right for me.

Here are a few of my favorite shades and products that I have just recently been introduced too. I am completely hooked on NYX Liquid Suede Lipstick. It is not real expensive... on Ultra.Com it cost $6.99. It is a stain that goes on smooth like butter and once it dries it remains soft and flexible. Most lipsticks that are long wearing comes with a small clear lip balm you use on-top of the color once it dries. That is because it dries hard and heavy... NYX liquid Suede does not do that all.

I have also found that NYX Liquid Suede Lipstick is rich in color. After you put it on, of course you will blot it a few times but once it dries.. the color remains dark, rich and soft! Truly I am very hooked on this brand.

Snail Mail What is that?

noreply@blogger.com (WhiteOak Art Designs and More) — Thu, 22 Oct 2015 17:07:00 +0000

*Laughs* I purposely used this photo of a very old trunk I took a photo of years ago. When we think of snail mail today, it sort of reminds us of something ancient-old something from the past that is almost forgotten. At least it does to me... today's world of technology is taking over and soon it makes you wonder if there will even be a need for humans in the future. Okay, that may be carrying it a little too far, but you get my point.

I remember how excited I use to get to go to the mailbox and there would be a letter in there for me from a friend I had not heard from forever it seemed. I would open the letter and read it a few different times to make sure I understood everything that was being said. Perhaps I read it so many times because I missed that friend terribly!! By reading the letter, it seemed (in some small way) really good to know I was not forgotten.

I also remember opening snail mail letters that would often be letters of apologies perhaps from a friend I had not heard from in a long time because we stopped communicating for some unknown reason that neither of us could really explain.

But here is what I do know, no matter how much time goes by, I will always become excited to open a letter that came to me via snail mail. I miss the personal feelings from letters, it always felt nice to know someone cared enough to take a few minutes out of their busy life to write a note.

Call me old fashion, call me ancient, it does not matter, but I will never give up on things in life that matter to me from years gone by. Besides, as long as it is important to me, nothing else matters!!

So my rant for today is this: Remember how it made you feel to open a letter from the mailbox? You can make someone feel that same joy; by just taking a few minutes and writing a few sentences to let them know you are doing ok and hanging in there. Trust me, it will bring a smile to your friend's face.

What are your thoughts on snail mail?

Happiness

noreply@blogger.com (WhiteOak Art Designs and More) — Sat, 17 Oct 2015 19:01:00 +0000

I have been thinking a lot lately about happiness. Every day we look around and we see people smiling, couples admiring each other, friends just enjoying each other. And yet there are those who are looking through a window and often wonder how can someone be so happy?

They say in life that it is up to each of us to create our own happiness. Yet, I often look and wonder; how all of the people that we see that are so happy would be during life's tragic moments. I wonder how they would create their happiness being alone.

Of course, it is easy to laugh when you have someone to laugh with you. Of course, you are happy when you are sitting across from a loved one, with the candle glowing and the wine sparkling right before you make a toast together celebrating life's joys.

We hear stories of how couples will have traditions during the holidays, both laughing, playing, singing and dancing while decorating a tree. And yet, they say it is up to each of us to create our own happiness. And the question remains, would they be so happy if alone?

So in a sense, when it comes to happiness isn't most of the people you see that are so happy, those who have someone with them? I have heard so many people say 'of course they are happy'. But are they underneath?

Of course, you can be happy being wrapped in someone's arms, kissing and holding on to each other as if nothing in world mattered, except that moment in time. But I suppose, there are several different kinds of happiness also. There are quick fixes when you are watching a television show and you laugh your ass off... or times when you find just the right item and purchase it because it was exactly what you had been looking for. Or when you go to the store and try on something that are a couple sizes smaller which means you are losing those few extra pounds. All of these are quick fixes.. happy moments that will soon be forgotten. Moments that truly does not mark anything special in life.

I remember when I was a teenager, I would look through magazines and wonder to myself what makes that person so happy? We can daydream and wonder if that person really is happy or are they trying to convince their self they are? I was doing some research the other day about a syndrome I heard of, and within the research I read this article that said: "Fake it until it becomes real." Honest to goodness it truly said that...

If you stop and think about it, that could possibly work... okay, they say if you repeatedly do something for three weeks in a row it becomes a habit. So if for three weeks you pretend you are happy, does that mean in three weeks you will be happy??

I don't know if that will work or not... but here is what I do know. The biggest part of life and being happy is when you have someone to be happy with. NO, you can not rely on that person to make you happy but it is the small tiny things you do together that creates this massive bundle of joy which equal happiness. Find a happiness like that being alone ... I dare you! If you can, 'high five' to you, wanna share your experience? Comments are open, if are you willing to share your view?

What kind of Dream is this?

noreply@blogger.com (WhiteOak Art Designs and More) — Fri, 21 Aug 2015 14:28:00 +0000

Grant you I have had some different kind of dreams but holy cow, this one has thrown me for a loop. I fully understand our dreams can only be interpreted ourselves - because we are the ones that know the true meanings, but this one has me fully stumped.

So with the understanding of knowing that, I would truly appreciate any insight, thoughts or suggestions you may have in helping me to understand what kind of things this dream could mean. I wrote out the parts that I could remember... and they are pretty much in order in which they happened.

Thank you in advance for any thoughts!!

WhiteOak

"Talking to back door neighbors and they asked how I got so many hummingbirds to come to me. As I was gathering their feeders a dozen or so of the hummingbirds came to me and got tangled up in my hair.

There was a white cat with white kittens. Some of the kittens were soft cute and fluffy and the others were mangled, deformed and dead. The mother cat was laying down feeding the healthy cats and after a few minutes a dolphins head appeared.

The mother cat was either eating the dolphins tongue or cleaning it. I was trying desperately to find the telephone number for the animal shelters but couldn't find it. The mother cat started to stuff the mangled kittens into the dolphins mouth.

The back door neighbors had a little fuzzy dog running around and Sweetie was following it and stopped listening to me. When I called for her, she ignored me. I did not want her to get around the cats and dolphin head.

I was in this apartment building that use to be a college or high school and the rooms were being rented out to small businesses. One of my friends (do not know who she was) rented a room and started to fill it with supplies and sectioned off a space with a screen and table so she could do energy work on people. "

When Love turns to Pity

noreply@blogger.com (WhiteOak Art Designs and More) — Fri, 03 Jul 2015 14:01:00 +0000

I am not even sure love is the right word used here.. perhaps it should be more "Mind Games turns to Pity". Yeah, I like that a lot better. I have written many different things about how people on the net pretend to be one thing and they turn out to be something else. Afterwards, you look at the situation and you think, holy shit how could I have been that stupid!

The truth of the matter ladies is: There are a lot of men (and women) that become these experts in Fu*king with people's mind because they do not have the guts to see the real the person they are (I wonder why). They create this person in their mind they think they are and the whole person becomes this fictitious monster who preys on people's minds and hearts-very similar to a psychic vampire. They make you believe all of this shit and as your are falling for them, they are sucking your energy dry!

Once you figure out what in the hell is going on, you look at the whole false relationship and all you can feel is pity for that person... and if they are married you feel sorry for their wife being so damn stupid thinking their husband is being faithful to them and all along the husband is a monster screwing around with many different people's hearts and mind. But here is the kicker, the wife stays in the relationship anyway because she believes in his bullshit lies-Poor stupid bitch!

The games people play... they lie, they lie some more and everything becomes this vicious ugly cycle. All of the emotions becomes this pity that develops deep within that makes you wonder how could I have ever felt anything towards that person. It makes you want to bathe in a smudge pot to cleanse your energy for ever allowing such a beast to come close to you.

RESEARCH the person who you think you may have feelings for especially if you meet them online. I MEAN truly research the person. Everything may appear to be fine until you receive a note from a wife you KNEW nothing about-but then more lies are told to you until you find out additional shit from other people he had done the same thing too. Actually several other people! Just thinking of this person today makes my skin crawl... Ladies beware of a monster who claims to be one thing.. he is truly something completely different.

All I can say is... Thank the Goddess and Divine for Karma. What comes around goes around!! Always and Forever!

Battle of Opening Up

noreply@blogger.com (WhiteOak Art Designs and More) — Wed, 10 Jun 2015 14:32:00 +0000

In life, there are so many different kinds of people battling things that are so hard to explain. Often everything is kept inside and the energy builds. The emotions, anger, hurt, jealousy, envy... all related to EGO will soon build to a powerful ball of energy that will eventually explode.

In reality, we are struck at times with lack of motivation, hurtful feelings from being lied too and all of these emotions turns into a poison inside and it will eventually explode and poison our system. m3meWhy do we let things like this happen? DO we let things like this happen? Are we all just puppets being lead around by a force unseen? Who in the hell knows really. The fact of life is we experience things that truly often we just do not understand.

There is one type of personality that is very much related to me. I am such a private person that opening myself to someone or to a certain kind of emotional feeling is very hard to me. Often by others I am seen as a strong independent woman, and to a point I am. I also have moments of weakness and sadness... and I feel lost. Sometimes, I even get my 'brave' on and allow myself to feel certain emotions and/or allow people into my life because a higher part of myself wants so desperately to believe in things that are often only seen in fairy tales.

Sometimes I put myself in positions where I walk a double edge sword. I fight myself to open up, and yet I fight myself to keep a distance. I fight myself to allow people to love me, yet I fight them to push them away... all the time feeling such strong feelings that those feelings etch themselves into my soul. I have shared this before with people.. if I say I love you, I will love you throughout life. I may not be in contact with you, I may even walk completely out of your life... but deep within my soul I will always love you.

Can you love more than one person at a time... of course you can. But loving someone does not always mean you will let them in... a deep emotional, spiritual love is the love that washes through your soul like water running in a lake. That is the kind of love that you battle yourself in opening. Deep within you fear it will hurt you, yet it makes you feel so alive. Here is what I know without a doubt, you cannot love two people at the same time like this. This is the kind of love you guard yourself from and try to keep out. You do this because you do not want to be hurt yet you end up hurting anyway.

No woman, nor man deserves to have to share that energy that love with another person. To love someone, I mean to truly love someone you must be willing to open and allow that love in and flow through you like water into a lake. Never allow yourself to be second in anyone's life.. you are so much better than that.

One of the main things my late husband taught me was how to love a physical person unconditionally. With all of the beauty and ugliness of each individual the bottom line is love has no eyes. When I fully allowed his love in (which in my case, unfortunately, was after he passed) I know now why I was faithful to him and he was to me... because we shared a love with each other that washed through us both. The love/hate emotions we shared was indeed the water rushing into the lake. The love was soft and smooth, yet rough and hard... but in the end, the love was real. Once you feel that kind of love, that is when you will truly understand what I am saying

Betrayal, Heartache and Evil

noreply@blogger.com (WhiteOak Art Designs and More) — Tue, 02 Jun 2015 14:01:00 +0000

Bittersweet

After I lost my husband to cancer this past November, I have had to put myself into therapy. That is not a huge secret, I have written about it in some of my other articles- in hopes of it helping others. I was truly making headway... I was finally beginning to forgive myself for things I had to say to my husband to make him feel better. I finally started to open up and allow myself to feel 'life' again. But you take one step forward and a 100 steps back once betrayal enters the picture.

One line I hate most in the world is: "just let it roll off your back like water does on a duck's back." Fuck that shit! Lies, betrayal, heartache and evil all go together and it is not a matter of allowing water to roll off of your back like a duck, it is a matter of waking up and seeing fucking people for who they really are. You think you have trust and respect for someone... baby, the world is full of con artist that can feed you so many lies, you have no choice but to believe them. Even when in your inner most private heart area you know something is not right.... you still become star struck from all of the lies you are being fed.

In this kind of situation you want so much to just blame the other person, it is all of their fucking lies that put you where you are in this moment. Why should any of it be my fault? Right, wrong, indifferent who gives a fuck... when you grow up wearing armor made of steel just to protect yourself against the idiots in the world... you build this comfort zone within and soon you stop allowing yourself to feel anything. But after years and years of wearing this armor... you try to step into the world again in hopes of feeling something.. anything positive. But death, lies, disrespect, evil... they all wait around each corner you walk, just to give you a good dose of something to feel.

But that still doesn't answer the question does it? Why should other people's lies be my fault too? Because I fell stupid and believed I could trust someone again. Lessons upon lessons upon lessons... it never stops. If you get hurt, you want to hurt the other person too... the one thing I have actually learned is I personally do not have to anything.. karma, the divine, spirit guides.. who knows, they will take care of things for you. It may not be today or tomorrow.... but you can bet, it will catch up with you. I have kissed that bastard too many times in my lifetime, so I know for a fact you cannot hide from it. In some odd stupid way; I almost feel sorry for those people... I know how bad the bastard can kick your ass.

Always remember this one thing if you never remember any other word I have written.... there is a huge difference between being dark and evil. Every one of us has a little darkness in us... it is a balance, almost in a playful dark way. Evil... well it is out to kill you and destroy any kind of hopes, dreams and light you have been searching for.

Once upon a time

noreply@blogger.com (WhiteOak Art Designs and More) — Mon, 18 May 2015 13:58:00 +0000

Thoreau Quote

Once upon a time, there use to be this thing called love. Then came along the internet, the world wide lake of the internet; where there were trillion of fish swimming around. Many, lonely people would take their fishing poles to the web and sit for just moments and caught more on their line than could ever be expressed.

As each person reeled in their catch all they could think about was I will love you forever and ever. But once they looked over their shoulders and seen what the other people caught, they turned to look at their catch again and the words I will love you forever and ever became something else too sad to express.

Many fish have been thrown back into the world wide lake of the internet only to lay dormant on the bottom of the floor, in shocked, in pain, never wanting to surface again because of the heartache. In the world of cyber you can be anything you want, you can say anything you want, you can look any way you want. Think about it, who really knows except for you if what you are putting out there is real or pretend?

Many people will open their hearts, they actually get high from emotions that seem real but come to find out many things were only lies and deception. Who is really the blame? Can we actually always blame the other person? Aren't WE at blame too... shouldn't we know better? Shouldn't we learn after hundreds of attempts to try and find true love from the world wide lake of the internet - that it is not always what it appears to be?

I think about things like this a lot. I am just like millions of other women I have been reeled in with deceptions and lies, I have been hurt, cried many of nights over situations I had no control over. I have found love and lost him to cancer - but even he lied to me in the very beginning. So not everything that comes from the world wide lake of the internet is bullshit - sometimes things may have a little seaweed attached to them, but once you get passed that, sometimes you will find what you are looking for.

I have been around the internet for many, many moons and have known many people and have actually met some in people-dated a few, married one. Some the meetings were wonderful, some of them were not and yes, there has been a time or two I was somewhat scared.

The games that are played online are very sick. What many people do not understand is online when we develop feelings, it is a spiritual connection... something that fully outweighs the physical part. That is why we are hurt differently and yet more strongly than being hurt in person. When you are messing with someone's spirit you are biting off more than you ever realize.

I left the web for a few years because I was sick of the lies, deception, hurt, and bullshit. I have to admit, that has been rambling on in my mind again. I am way too old to play games and besides to be a 100% honest I am not worth a shit at games because I do not play them. This is what you get if you don't like it - fish for someone else.

Not everyone is out there to play games with you, I have met some beautiful friends that I cherish with all of my heart. I have met people who said they were a friend but only because they wanted to hook up with my guy friends... YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE; if you can see this. It is people like you that poisons the World Wide Lake of the Internet for many others.

The bottom line, there will always be two sides to every coin. Think about who you open up too .. think about all of the possibilities and opportunities there are for people to lie to you. Always walk with caution before you open your spirit to people who say they care, but most important, be above those people and DO NOT PLAY GAMES WITH PEOPLE'S HEARTS!

To Ink or Not to Ink

noreply@blogger.com (WhiteOak Art Designs and More) — Sun, 17 May 2015 13:44:00 +0000

To Ink or Not to Ink

That is the question

Life's really funny sometimes you know. Many of us go around in our own little worlds because we do not fit into societies concept of what a normal life is. So within our own little worlds we run free so speak, thinking we actually do not give shit about what other people say or how they think about us. Guess what in a crazy-kind-of-way that is bullshit too!

With summer here, my usual everyday wardrobe consist of racer back shirts-therefore my ink in all of its glory is seen with no hiding at all. Why should I have to hide it anyway? My ink tells the story of my late husband's battle with cancer, his recovery and his death. As I was thinking about this the other day my first thought was, "You dumb ass... why carry the story of someone's journey on your arm?" But then it hit me, his story also became my story because I walked every step of his journey with him.

It's not paranoia when you 'think' you see someone staring at your ink. All you have to do is have common sense and follow their eyes. It is like women with large breast, often when they are having conversations with someone, the other person eyes are focused on the woman's breast. It is the same with tattoos.

I am pretty use to having people stare at my arms, some will admire it, some will think it is sick and others will get prejudge me and think I am something I am not. Having people stare in one thing.. but if you listen closely, sometimes you will hear how people really feel about ink and especially ink on women. Sometimes, it truly is a sad fucking world we live in.

So the magic question is this: to ink or not to ink, that is the question. My ink truly tells a story... so every inch of it means as much to me as the earlier ones I got years and years ago. Would I change any of it? Hell no, I would not. It is easier for me to ignore and close the door on people who want to judge me and/or think my ink is disgusting - than it would be for me to not have someone I want because others do not approve.

My ink is a part of who I am... I do not condemn others for not having tattoos... sometimes I do wonder why some people do not ink, but it's not any of my business. If you want to prejudge me because of my ink, that is your right-it's pretty simple really just stay the fuck away from me. If you do have ink NEVER let someone bring you down if your ink tells a story or means something very special to you. If you have ink and wish you didn't, you can either have it covered with something that means something more to you and/or you can have it removed with laser surgery.

This is your show, dance the story however you want to regardless of what others say. They will never walk in your shoes, on your path the way you do.

Let's hop on the coo-coo train

noreply@blogger.com (WhiteOak Art Designs and More) — Wed, 15 Apr 2015 22:15:00 +0000

You know there are many different ways to say "Riding the Train", but the bottom line or the whole concept boils down to this: Either get on the train and keep moving forward or walk away from the train and find another route.

When we are trying to make a decision about something and sometimes we feel stopped up, it is during those times we just need to hold our breath and jump off of the train or jump onto the train!! When we jump -just find another one that feels good that will take us where we need to go.

There is one train ride that really keeps me laughing... The Coconut Oil train as a friend calls it. Yeah, I was very slow getting on that train- but now that I am on it, I am really digging it. My hair loves it, trust me on this one. After you wash your hair and towel dry it...rub some coconut oil in your palms to melt it, rub that through your hair really focusing on the ends. YOU WILL BE AMAZED of the results! So the Coconut Oil train is a ride I intend to keep on.

I have all of these other things I want to do, but I don't do them, why? Because I don't know why unless it is just being lazy. SO I decided this morning enough talk about all of this shit, it is time to once again walk my talk...and that is exactly what I am doing. I use to walk so many miles a week, but got out of it... well I set up my treadmill again and BAM I started walking. Yeah, I am trying to be good and start slow but I will build the speed and distance up again. But I started on that health train ride again...

There are many times you will be riding a train, and no matter what you try to do, this train keeps falling off track. You have tried everything you could think of to make it happen, but nothing helps.. Walk the F*ck away from it! That does not make you weak, or pathetic NOTHING is worth your time when it is not being acknowledged !!

I don't know - to tell you the truth.... sometimes I think my stubbornness turns dead end situations into freaking challenges... The damn cat and mouse game! I need to fix that because you know what I am not a horrible person, but because of some of my beliefs I do stop for a little while and try to figure out things, which in turns makes me feel coo-coo... but once you are slapped in the face so many times, baby it is time to WTFA!! My new slogan: (If you do not like dirty words stop reading right here) WTFA=Walk- The -Fuck -A way

I am determined when I have tried everything I could think of in making something happen and nothing works, it truly is time to move on and start new adventures. This will be the second time I wrote this today but Thich Nhat Hanh says that each morning we are given a new 24 hours to bring peace and find mindfulness to ourselves. Whatever train you are trying to ride, make sure that the ride brings you joy and happiness... don't waste your time on trains that are stopped and stagnant and not giving you a good ride. You are worth the best of train rides-and YOU can make that happen!!

Often Promises are Unrealistic

noreply@blogger.com (WhiteOak Art Designs and More) — Sat, 11 Apr 2015 12:20:00 +0000

Beauty in the Simple Things

Each person in life will have that one thing that means the world to them. Other than family, and so on, a life action, word or belief. A promise to me use to be my one thing that meant the world to me. I have never made a promise that I did not work my ass off to keep, until my husband passed.

During the time of his sickness, I made promises to him that truly were unrealistic. At that time my only concern was to make my husband as comfortable - with everything as possible. I have allowed the guilt of my unrealistic promises to get the better part of me lately. Than something clicked in my mind, I am a live, I am human or at least going around in a human body... I am allowed to have a life, to breathe with ease, to feel beyond touch. As a living person if I choose to give up, what does that say about my character?

Don't get me wrong, I have a hell of a long way to go in understanding and forgiving myself. But the truth of the matter is realizing how things react to other actions. If my husband wasn't so sick, I may of realized the promises he wanted me to make were unrealistic and I wouldn't have made them. I believe I can say that honestly because I know me the way I do. And I believe the people that know me the best would agree with me.

Promises and Love both are two words that are thrown around without a second thought today. There use to be a time when the two words meant a lot. I suppose that may be one reason why I am going through some of the things I am, because I come from a generation that understood and held words in a great respect.

Coming to terms and realizing today that the promises I made were unrealistic helps me to breathe a little easier. It's pretty funny once you allow yourself to talk openly to someone-how things begin to make sense again in your mind. Breaking the unrealistic promises I made does not make me an untrustworthy person. I believe that was one of the things I hated the thought of.

As time goes on, and the more I am able to release my guilt from this situation, the faster I believe I will heal. But as they always say... a journey begins with one step at a time.