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A Year Later: Reflections on Pain and Resilience

Magda Gee — Mon, 02 Mar 2026 18:52:08 +0000

Observing a year of pain, growth, and resilience — the subtle ways people show up when we are most vulnerable.

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Healing From Narcissistic Family Systems

Magda Gee — Fri, 20 Feb 2026 00:27:50 +0000

I’ve been reflecting on how, in my family—and unironically, in the family of the man I had children with—belonging was not rooted in mutual care, nuance, or individuality. It was rooted in alignment with the people who had decided, and been supported in believing, that they mattered more. Agreement equaled safety. Divergence tracked as threat. […]

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The Limits of One-Sided Repair

Magda Gee — Thu, 19 Feb 2026 23:31:17 +0000

Letting Go Each day, I live with the ache that I may not see my children again. We may not have another real conversation or moment of closeness. That may be the outcome when children grow in a system that teaches them to diminish me, and when they have no outside support to question that […]

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The War They Wanted: A Story of Estrangement

Magda Gee — Sun, 08 Feb 2026 20:41:34 +0000

My sons learned, by design, to have zero tolerance for their mother. Ordinary acts of parenting—direction, correction, consequences, even simple questions—were rejected and reframed as manipulation or control. I once read a message from their father telling them, “Disregard your mother.” And they did. Their dismissal was not only permitted but modeled, reinforced, and quietly supported by […]

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The Logic of Familiarity

Magda Gee — Sat, 07 Feb 2026 02:21:12 +0000

Looking back, I notice how often I gravitated toward people who couldn’t tolerate my pain but expected the world to organize itself around their pleasure. When they were uncomfortable, everyone rushed to soothe them. What’s especially painful is this: humanity was withdrawn from me when I was small and needed it most. There was a […]

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