Wholesome Badass https://wholesomebadass.com/ Learning to align my life with humility, courage, mercy, and faith, rather than the agendas around me or the reactions they provoke within me. Sun, 13 Sep 2026 20:22:02 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.0.4 https://wholesomebadass.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/06/cropped-wba.crop_-32x32.jpg Wholesome Badass https://wholesomebadass.com/ 32 32 I’m sorry I hurt you  https://wholesomebadass.com/im-sorry-i-hurt-you/ Sun, 13 Sep 2026 20:00:37 +0000 https://wholesomebadass.com/?p=15796 In a system where acknowledging injury threatens the archetypal version of reality everyone is supposed to be organized around: The governing mythology seems to be that strong, healthy, rational people are unaffected. They do not feel disturbed, injured, angry, or overwhelmed. Those experiences belong exclusively to the other category of person—the difficult, unstable, dramatic, overly sensitive conflict-maker. […]

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]]> Your Behavior Defines You – Not Me https://wholesomebadass.com/your-behavior-defines-you-not-me/ Thu, 03 Sep 2026 09:53:52 +0000 https://wholesomebadass.com/?p=15564 Somewhere along the way, a practice took hold: metabolizing what other people believed, said, or did as information about me rather than data about them. Today, that data gets classified more appropriately. It may hurt deeply and alter what a relationship means. But it will no longer serve to indict me. In its crudest form: their […]

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]]> When Dysregulation Gets Mistaken for Being Difficult https://wholesomebadass.com/dysregulation-being-difficult/ Wed, 02 Sep 2026 22:01:08 +0000 https://wholesomebadass.com/?p=15560 I do not seem naturally wired to preserve “harmony” by pretending not to see what I see and not feel what I feel. It is not as if everyone is having roughly the same experience and others make the more agreeable decision to go with the flow while I make the objectionable decision to diverge, […]

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]]> When Influence Obscures The Facts https://wholesomebadass.com/family-scapegoat-narrative/ Sun, 30 Aug 2026 14:50:00 +0000 https://wholesomebadass.com/?p=15505 How a Narrative Protects Predatory Behavior The Branding Becomes the Lens I am recognizing something in real time: the story about someone can matter more than what they actually say and do. When someone is characterized unfavorably by a person of greater status or influence, the language is often directed toward creating a shared lens […]

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]]> When the Narrative Outranks What Happened https://wholesomebadass.com/blame-shifting-in-relationships/ Sun, 30 Aug 2026 02:16:36 +0000 https://wholesomebadass.com/?p=15492 The Alchemy of the Unexitable Loop: Someone behaves toward you in bullying, degrading, diminishing, or disruptive ways, then denies it or explains it as a consequence of who you are. Literally: they turn their own behavior into evidence against you. I am wired to sense shifts in energy. I don’t mean that in some mystical way, […]

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