Productivity? Ehh, maybe later.
Procrastination makes you crater.
Thrashing can stop you,
Overwhelm drops you.
What if you had a translator?

• procrastination
  • this could be because you’re overwhelmed, thrashing, or unmotivated. We’ll cover the first 2 of these today. (Motivation was covered in WCML 118: Peaceful Productivity 3: Peaceful Motivation, episode 3 in this series.)
  • What about resistance? resistance is misguided attraction
  • Last resort: Productive Procrastination (structured procrastination)
• thrashing
  • noticing, e.g. on the days when i stick to some kind of structure I feel better, I feel more productive, I don’t have that flailing around thrashing feeling
  • separate planning from doing
  • batch it or batshit
• overwhelm
  • underwhelm
  • open loops
  • trusted systems
  • post-it notes: How to get organized, part one: coffee table + post-it notes = business plan! and WCML 094: MasterHeart: Like a mastermind but, you know, heartier.

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“Productively manage your time.”
Sounds like a steep uphill climb.
But that is fallacious!
You can feel spacious,
And slacking need not be a crime.

• “not enough time” is a polite lie
• aligning your time with your priorities
  • WCML 068: Wild Crazy Meaningful Death, with Caitlin Doughty
    • pathfinding
    • reminder: boil shoulds and have-to’s down to wants
• It’s better to make tough “this can wait” decisions than to feel overwhelmed.
• choice
  • tyranny of choice (“It’s bread, in crumb form”)
  • manufacturing happiness only works when you’re locked in
• perfectionism
  • “I need to be perfect because…”
  • you are enough
  • Turn it around and remember your new mantra in the moment.
• tiers or tears: Tier 1 “must-do”, Tier 2 “would be awesome”, Tier 3 “would be nice” (http://paceheart.com/tiers/)
• The Leonie Effect
• practicing (e.g. no backspace in email)

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Productivity? Self-flagellation.
But only if you feel stagnation.
Begin at the root
And the rest follows suit:
Help yourself feel motivation!

• we do what we most want to do (triple soul)
• why this is helpful – e.g. resistance to habit, procrastination, thrashing
• goals vs. intentions. does “goal” mean strict and rigid? if so then set an intention instead.
• is this a “should” or “have to” goal?
• the paradox of change
• all-love Mondays
• 1. not inspired? you need taste
  • the “just 5 minutes” trick – give yourself permission
  • futureme.org
  • visualize the process, not just the end result
• 2. inspired but not motivated? you need energy
• 3. motivated but not taking action? you need the right environment
  • smoothness
  • pickling

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Productivity isn’t traumatic
If you make it less vague and erratic.
Don’t push and don’t force,
Instead, set the course,
Then accomplish things on automatic!

• when it’s good to be on autopilot and when it’s dangerous. habits vs. practices (autopilot vs. mindful)
• habits got a bad rap
  • “morning routines, morning autopilot, was what I have used, ever since high school, to get from nice comfy bed to horrible morning school or job. Autopilot doesn’t take me anyplace good.” – a past student
  • “good” habits vs. “bad” habits
  • let go of “should”
• motivation to form a habit (see also next week)
• Gretchen Rubin’s habit types:
  • Upholders wake up and think, “What’s on the schedule and the to-do list for today?”
  • Rebels wake up and think, “What do I want to do today?”
  • Obligers wake up and think, “What must I do today?”
  • Questioners wake up and think, “What needs to get done today, and why?”
  • What Kind of Person Are You? The Four Rubin Tendencies.
  • “Better Than Before”
• The 6 keys to forming a habit:
  1. 30-day trial
  2. little changes
  3. one at a time
  4. trigger
  5. accountability
  6. celebrate!
• 2 special cases:
  1. when your routine changes, either find a trigger that will stay the same, or plan to reinstate your habit later
  2. you can’t quit, you can only replace.

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Productivity? Better beware.
I’ll compare, which will lead to despair.
Instead of this struggle,
How ’bout a nice snuggle?
Let’s start off with peaceful self-care.

• making peace with productivity
  • “I am hard on myself when I feel unproductive.” survey question. half the class agreed and the other half… strongly agreed.
  • tapes
  • rewriting tapes. you can’t erase them.
    • “I get more done in one hour when I’m well-rested than I get done in eight hours of pushing through.”
    • “I would rather be a peaceful failure than a stressed-out success.”
    • “Taking care of myself is important, valuable, and necessary.”
    • “I’m worthy of love for who I am, not for what I do.”
• self-trust
  • we are heart people in a brain world
  • Help Wanted story
• structure
  • resistance to structure, like “you have to go to bed now” as a kid
  • I used to think “structure meant a lack of freedom”
  • structure = “I have to get up at 8am” but it doesn’t have to be like that. It can be semi-flexible
• acceptance and compassion. whatever you choose, even if it’s not the productive option, choose it wholeheartedly
• resisting the things that are the most important – it’s actually a good sign
• Spiritual practice is the magic bullet for maintaining peace.
• Rest and play
• Give yourself permission to be where you are and take care of yourself
• Spaciousness inside out. Heart first, calendar second.
• Stay-at-home retreat
• Even a little time is enough to be kind to yourself
• Put your own oxygen mask on first. “If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.” -Jack Kornfield
• capacity management – schedule recovery days, don’t oversocial yourself before a big social thing
• What even is self-care? How to know what is effective self-care for yourself.

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2017 is nigh here;
Let’s shift to a much lower gear.
We’ve always preferred
To choose just one word
To set our intent for the year.

• Pace’s previous words of the year: acceptance, annihilation, surrender, pantry, easy mode
• Kyeli’s previous words of the year: courageous, open, mermaid, epic
• How easy mode has shaped Pace’s 2016
• How epic has shaped Kyeli’s 2016
• Pace’s word of the year for 2017
• Kyeli’s word of the year for 2017
• WCME 022: A conversation with Danielle, a 5 (Investigator)
• Previous podcasts
  • WCML 077: Pace and Kyeli’s words of the year for 2016
  • WCML 039: Pace and Kyeli’s words of the year for 2015
• Soul Mantras by Liz Lamoreux

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If to thine own self you are true,
If there’s nothing you wish to undo,
You won’t fall apart.
You’ll have your whole heart,
And that means you’ll have your whole you.

• all 9 limericks”
• “God doesn’t care about the size of your cookies.” -Kyeli
• WCML 087: “If you’re not going to devote yourself to it 24/7/365, why bother?”
• a kyriarchical memeplex!

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I must keep the beast under guard,
In a cage always minded and barred.
If the beast were set free,
I fear I would be
As awful as Jean-Luc Picard.

• A bad person + a conscience = a good person
• A selfish person + a filter = a considerate person
• A selfish person is a kind person who is not getting their needs met
• Praetor Shinzon from Star Trek: Nemesis (it was a movie, Kyeli was right)
• The upward spiral

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“Get out there and give it your best!
Your friends are all being oppressed!”
What if I’m too stressed,
Or madly depressed?
What if I need to just rest?

• WCML 109: First, become okay. Afterward, you can deal with everything else.
• WCML 059: Self-care is a form of social justice, with Marsha Philitas

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An endeavor on which much depends
Is the process of making new friends.
So let’s deconflate
And recalibrate:
First, figure out what one intends.

First, get clear on exactly what you’re looking for. Second, figure out where and how to ask. Third, ask.

• Hangoutability
• Heartconnection
• Favoraskability
• The surprising power of “New in town”
• WCML 049: Wild Crazy Meaningful Friendships, with Kylie Bellard

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Due to all of our movin’ and panickin’
We have the brainpower of mannequins.
So here are the tales
Of the trips and travails
Of our Lansingward moving shenanigans.

The tale of our move to Lansing and all the hijinks that have ensued, along with our hard-learned lessons.

• WCML 058: Technically accessible but not really
• Video tour of our new house

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When you’re losing your shit in the fray,
You must throw your perfection away.
Let go of tough stuff
And embrace “good enough”.
Priority One: be okay.

Our shortest podcast ever, with a simple but important message!

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There’s two people in the same room,
Each toe-tapping to their own tune.
Here in New York,
We call that a fork,
And together time, we call a spoon.

• being intentional with your time
• The Power of Now
• Finnish and Japanese

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Our friendship never has wavered
Though we lived even closer than neighbors
Soon we have to adjourn
So let’s share what we learned
From our time together here at the Wayward

Ever wanted to live with us for a year? Well now you can – vicariously through Kelly! All 3 of us will share what we’ve learned from living together during 2016.

• #thewaywardhouse
• Muji
• Bullet Journal
• Bundle and Stow
• Quiver

You can find Kelly at kellykingman.com.

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Do you go with your logic so capable,
Or trust in your faith that’s unbreakable?
What we do and say
Is to ask and to pray
For the signs to be made unmistakable.

Here’s an update on our house hunt, and what we’ve learned about guidance, logic, and love in the process.

Also, Project Runway.

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Emma, with whom we’ll consult,
Is a lovely and awesome adult.
And if you’re concerned,
She’ll share what she learned
From spending six years in a cult.
(And Kelly I rashly insult.)

A high-demand group is a group that makes high demands on your time and attention, also sometimes your money, your beliefs, or even your body. Some of them are cults. Some of them are business development programs. Some of them are relationships. Here are four stories of very different high-demand groups, how to spot one, and how to get out.

• WCML 104: High-demand groups, part 1 of 2 (with Emma and Kelly)
• Emma’s story: meets Hinduism
• Kyeli’s story: A high-demand relationship
• Kelly’s story: Being raised a Jehovah’s Witness
• Pace’s story: A business development program
• A common feature of high-demand groups is an intro workshop in which they need your full attention for several days
• Domestic violence and abusive/codependent relationships are often a high-demand group of size 2
• Pursuing a non-traditional path leaves you vulnerable. How can you step away from the mainstream without getting caught up in an unhealthy high-demand group?
• “The truth can take the heat of your direct confrontation and questions.” -Emma
• Trusting doesn’t make you weak or a sucker. But faith doesn’t have to be blind faith.

Resources:

• Dr. Robert J. Lifton’s 8 Criteria for Thought Reform
• Influence by Cialdini
• Janja Lalich
• International Cultic Studies Association

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Emma, with whom we’ll consult,
Is a lovely and awesome adult.
And if you’re concerned,
She’ll share what she learned
From spending six years in a cult.
(And Kelly I rashly insult.)

A high-demand group is a group that makes high demands on your time and attention, also sometimes your money, your beliefs, or even your body. Some of them are cults. Some of them are business development programs. Some of them are relationships. Here are four stories of very different high-demand groups, how to spot one, and how to get out.

• Emma’s story: meets Hinduism
• Kyeli’s story: A high-demand relationship

Resources:

• Dr. Robert J. Lifton’s 8 Criteria for Thought Reform
• Influence by Cialdini
• Janja Lalich
• International Cultic Studies Association

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When you’re thinking about an addiction,
You think of a common affliction
Like smoking or booze.
You can also abuse
Control, or tattoos,
Or paddling canoes,
Or visiting zoos,
Or watching Tom Cruise
On Netflix, or news,
Or cooking great stews,
Or futzing with hues,
Or looking for clues,
Or standing in queues,
Perusing reviews,
Intent to amuse,
Victimhood, shoes,
Anxiety, blues,
Or reading historical fiction.

The Six Stages of Change (according to Changing for Good)

1. Precontemplation: just gather information
2. Contemplation: taste, examine blocks
3. Preparation: plan
4. Action: do it!
5. Maintenance: reward, appreciate, improve
6. Termination
• WCML 098: Shame (and how to heal from it)
• a webcomic about depression
• Mary Lambert “Secrets”

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A decision: you’re feeling divided.
You’d like to be lucidly guided.
One way you can know
What to do, where to go,
Is admit you’ve already decided.

Sometimes we agonize for weeks, months, or years over a decision that we’ve actually already decided. Here’s how you can shorten your agony loop!

• The “ka-chunk” feeling
• reading the writing on the wall
• What do I do when my heart and my head disagree?

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If you want to learn how to apologize
With a method that doesn’t antagonize,
The first step: undo
What’s expected of you.
Be intentional! Then you can customize.

• “I am unharmed”
• “I prefer it”
• The worst apology ever
• What do I get out of being right?
• Lying Lester and Honest Hal
• Live apology practice
• “I’m sorry, but”

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We’ve stumbled, we’ve triumphed, we’ve blundered.
We’ve held hands, we’ve learned, and we’ve wondered.
Today, here’s the best
of 3 years, all compressed,
To celebrate podcast 100!

• How have we grown spiritually over the past 3 years?
• How has our business changed over the past 3 years?
• Kyeli’s epic healing journey treasure hunt
• How has our attitude toward decluttering changed over the past 3 years?
• Is there anything we regret about the past 3 years?
• How has Kyeli’s “self love through selfies” practice changed over the past 3 years?
• How has our use of social media changed over the past 3 years?
• Being slomads

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Fear says, “If you were sedate,
you would die.” But let’s get one thing straight.
You still have your good sense
Even when you’re not tense.
They’re two different things: deconflate!

• fear vs. good sense
• forgive vs. forget
• kindness vs. doormat
• WCML 025: The Superior Worf Hypothesis
• romantic partner vs. one who meets all my needs
• good parent vs. helicopter parent
• female vs. stereotypically feminine
• inherently depressed vs. depressed for an environmental reason
• angry vs. hungry
• unhappy vs. unhappy forever
• having medical insurance vs. being able to go to the doctor
• going to the party vs. staying at the party
• Patty Newbold’s Third Alternative podcast
• Why I hate compassion
• your path vs. your Jewel
• your calling vs. your business

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If you would like invincibility
from shame, fear, and irritability,
The only way you
Can achieve this is through
Compassion and vulnerability.

• Brene Brown
• guilt vs. shame
• sex
• Why I hate compassion
• sword theory
• how to heal from shame
• how to speak in non-shaming ways
• moral theory (with examples from Star Trek)

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Due to imminent landlord romancing,
Our location will soon be advancing.
There might be extremes
From miraculous dreams,
But we’re probably moving to…

• WCML 056: The cycle of guidance
• Kyeli’s miraculous dream
• nurashkijerrahi.org
• “Don’t let the hurt of the past prevent the growth of the future.” -Ellie di Julio
• Kyeli’s shamanic vision
• What to do when you get intense guidance but don’t know how to act on it?
• Where to live?
• Kyeli can drive!

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Sometimes, you can handle it all.
Other times, you curl into a ball.
These lows and these highs
Are both caused by your size:
Sometimes you’re big, sometimes you’re small.

• What do we mean by “bigness” and “smallness”?
• How to become bigger
• How to get a bigger mech suit
• Empowerment
• Compassion

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Jeffrey Marsh is disinclined
To be censored, caged, or confined.
So let’s get unchained
And perhaps entertained.
To start, it is simple: be kind.

Jeffrey Marsh is a beautiful human being who has told millions of people that there is nothing wrong with them. Jeffrey’s new book, How to Be You, is about fanning the flames of the special spark that makes you you.

• #DontSayThatsSoGay
• #NoTimeToHateMyself
• there is nothing wrong with you
• self-hate is the root of all humanity’s problems
• Whatever you’re told you’re too much of, that’s your spark.
• How To Be You (Jeffrey’s new book!)
• being kind to others and being kind to yourself

You can find Jeffrey at jeffreymarsh.com and by googling “jeffrey marsh” (:

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First, find a good place to host it,
And purchase a butt-ton of post-its.
Your woes that frustrate
We’ll now illustrate
And together, we’ve soon diagnosed it.

Pace and Kyeli pull back the curtain and reveal their MasterHeart process, and how you can create your own MasterHeart group. Then, as an example, we go through Pace’s recent MasterHeart session, where she worked on burnout and identity.

• How to create your own MasterHeart
• Pace’s MasterHeart: recovering from burnout
• the danger of workaholism
• the fear of dying normal
• “I follow my heart” vs. “I follow my heart, dammit!”
• “lack of identity” as an identity (see WCML 063: Wild Crazy Meaningful Road Trip, Week 4 for more about the identity triangle we’re talking about)
• What helps me stay at the top of the triangle?
• What makes it easier to slide down to the bottom of the triangle?
• takeaways: to-do items and reminders

Pace’s MasterHeart board:

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With only a slight risk of perjury
We’ll say that this show’s about surgery.
We’ll cut out your “should”
And heal it for good,
With the help of the rad Linda Mercury.

• self-love, gender, and non-binary
• WCML 083: The future of gender (part 2) with Ealasaid Haas
• When you think “I should”, ask, “Who says?”
• self-love for non-men
• self-love for men
• a word of encouragement

You can find Linda at lindamercury.com.

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And once you’ve discerned this ambition,
There’s no need for harsh admonition.
Instead, re-begin
With a new way to win:
A victory redefinition.

Your “success condition” is what you’re optimizing your life for. This time, we cover Steps 3 and 4.

Step 1: Become aware of your current, probably subconscious, success condition.
Step 2: Accept that you want something different.
Step 3: Choose what you want your life’s success condition to be.
Step 4: Reprogram yourself to align with your new success condition.

WCML 092: What do you consider a successful life? (part 1 of 2)

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Are you seeking fame, recognition?
Big dreams to be brought to fruition?
Or something that pays?
Your answer displays
Your life’s central victory condition.

Your “success condition” is what you’re optimizing your life for.

• Step 1: Become aware of your current, probably subconscious, success condition.
• Step 2: Accept that you want something different.
• Step 3: Choose what you want your life’s success condition to be.
• Step 4: Reprogram yourself to align with your new success condition.

Links:

• Happy Guinea Pig Easter
• The Desire Map
• Success Condition

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It’s okay to wear a bikini
Despite that your body’s not teeny.
Anna Guest-Jelley
Says “yes!” to your belly;
Please welcome this curvy yogini.

• Anna’s story of becoming a yoga teacher
• “Holy shit, I can be fat and still love my body?!”
• Marilyn Wann’s “Fat! So?”
• Curvy Barbie
• listening to your body
• “Whatever doorway people can find is a good door.” -Anna Guest-Jelley

You can find Anna Guest-Jelley at curvyyoga.com.

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Do folks say that you’re too intense?
That your feelings are much too immense?
Leela Sinha’ll explain
That you are not insane.
So let us get hype and commence!

• Intensives and Expansives
• How Intensives related to the Enneagram and to Highly Sensitive People (HSPs)
• Intensives are like India; Expansives are like Britain
• Intensive and Expansive cultures in countries, families, companies, etc.
• How Intensiveness affects relationships
• Leela’s FB group for intensives (Message her to join)

You can find Leela at You’re Not Too Much.

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Here’s how The Witness moved me, as spoiler-free as possible – and how it applies to life, the universe, and everything.

The Witness is grand and artistical,
Its puzzles are all but simplistical.
But when you see the signs,
Read between all the lines,
There’s hidden a meaning that’s mystical.

• “The Witness isn’t trying to make you rat-happy, it’s trying to make you soul-happy.” – Pace Smith

You can buy The Witness here.

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I got rid of Facebook’s banality,
And started to face my mortality.
With nothing to numb,
I’ve got to find some-
thing that counts as my core speciality.

Kyeli discusses her mid-life crisis with Pace, and faces some hardcore limiting beliefs.

• mid-life crisis
• ticking off all the tickyboxes on the culturally sanctioned to-do list
• the war on boredom is the introspection killer
• rephrasing dabbler -> multipotentialite
• the culture of achievement
• The One True Calling Myth
• The Work by Byron Katie
• retraining “If you’re not going to devote yourself to it 24/7/365, why bother?” into “It is okay to do this just because I like it.”

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As an intentionality zealot,
I have some big news and I’ll tell it.
I like Facebook, but
I’ve been stuck in a rut:
I want it like a rat wants a pellet.

There are 2 ways to live an interesting life:
1. Fill your life up with awesome things
2. Empty your life of things that drain you
You need a balance of both.

• WCML 035.5: Authentic Connection vs. the Facebook “Like” button, with Schmutzie aka Elan Morgan
• Passion Planner
• TwitWipe

You can find Kyeli on Instagram, and that’s it!

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Losing weight is a painful offender;
It can drain you regardless of gender.
It isn’t sustainable;
It’s nigh unattainable,
So let’s choose self-love, and surrender.

• Kyeli’s body epiphany
• “11 Reasons Your ‘Concern’ for Fat People’s Health Isn’t Helping Anyone” or as Kyeli says, “N reasons concern trolls need to shut their fucking faces”
• Tess Holliday
• Fat!So? by Marilyn Wann
• The Body Sacred by Dianne Sylvan
• Lessons from the Fat-O-Sphere

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When you make someone’s day, you can change their life and change the world.

Alex Franzen’s a writer with attitude.
Her kindness outweighs her exactitude.
She’s got fantastic fashion sense
And butt-tons of passion, since
She keeps her heart grounded in gratitude.

• The story of Daymaker David Wagner
• Life As a Daymaker
• a Sufi story about the ant in the cement
• Kyeli’s mysterious friend
• fester’s quest
• turning toward each other
• rooibos
• The Five Love Languages
• Prometheus Rising quarter experiment
• Holy Cow by David Duchovny

You can find Alex, and her book 50 Ways to Say You’re Awesome, at alexandrafranzen.com.

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Don’t drink the blue and pink lemonade;
Instead, break the binary barricade.
You thought we were through
But we’re back for part 2:
Let’s talk about gender with Ealasaid!

Ealasaid Haas is non-binary and has a lot to say about it!

• WCML The future of gender part 1
• “My gender is ‘gender is stupid.'” -Ealasaid
• Changing the name of feminism to include non-binary people
• He for She
• TERFs
• Trained in the Ways of Men
• Blood Mysteries at Pantheacon
• T. Thorn Coyle
• WCME 019: Spiral Dynamics and the Enneagram, with Deborah Ooten
• How can I be safe in a gender-neutral bathroom?
• How to be a good neighbor to non-binary people
• “He and She for They”

You can find Ealasaid at thebookroadie.com

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Whether Star Trek or gaming or Perl,
Lady nerds, let your geek flag unfurl!
We’re talking with Jean
About what does it mean
To be both a geek and a girl.

• App Camp For Girls
• Girls Rock Camp
• “your bass line doesn’t even compile!”
• Star Trek Voyager
• Risus gaming system
• Why it’s awesome to be a geek girl

You can find Jean @macgenie on Twitter.

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To help you achieve your ambitions,
Make use of your predispositions.
To be at your best,
Let’s go on a quest
To discover your SuperConditions!

• ringtones
• What is a SuperCondition?
• strategic sacrifice
• excavating truth
• the conscious structure of my best life
• organized for chaos
• The 5 pieces of the SuperConditions model
• what Kyeli learned that will help her achieve her writing goals
• WCML 009: Superconditions for greatness
• I’m Not Sorry
• Your Problem is not the Problem

You can find Dyana and her SuperConditions game at DyanaValentine.com.

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“I just want to play and amass gold;
This path is too much of a hassle!”
The rainbow’s true treasure
Is not gold and leisure:
It leads to the unicorn’s…

There’s this myth that when you’re on your path, it’s all unicorns and rainbows. That’s not always true.

• What’s at the end of the rainbow? It’s not a pot of gold, it’s…
• When you freak out about something, how do you know whether it’s an obstacle on your path or a sign that you’re on the wrong path?
• How this happened to Pace recently and how she’s changing her business to be in more alignment with her heart
• When you freak out about something, ask yourself: Which part of me is resisting this?

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Highlights:

• rephrasing obligation words
• rephrasing limitation words
• rephrasing violent words
• rephrasing sexist words
• rephrasing racist words
• where to draw the line?
• love and power
• privilege
• invisible spikes growing out of your elbows

Links:

• the usual error
• WCML 025: The Superior Worf Hypothesis
• WCML 043: Sensitive Language Swaps with Katie Benedetto Jones
• WCML 058: Technically accessible but not really
• Avoid Sexist (and Other Insensitive) Language

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• your path doesn’t always have to do with your work
• our Jewels: Truth, Nourishment, Courage
• the Major Arcana corresponding to our Jewels: Justice, Empress, Strength
• Mary Greer, Who Are You In the Tarot?
• cats dressed in Victorian clothes
• a Tarot spread for Pathfinding
• finding your Tarot card for the year
• “Pathfinding is about taking what’s given to you and making it work.” -Theresa Reed
• being a catalyst for other people’s transformation
• Lindsay Lohan
• How Theresa found her path
• what it means to be of service

You can get Theresa’s kickass truth at thetarotlady.com.

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• Pace’s previous words of the year: acceptance, annihilation, surrender, pantry
• Kyeli’s previous words of the year: courageous, open, mermaid
• How “pantry” contributed to 2015 sucking
• Pace’s word of the year for 2016
• Kyeli’s word of the year for 2016

Links:

• WCML 039: Pace and Kyeli’s words of the year for 2015
• our low point of 2015
• hard mode

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Here are some more of our best tips for making that awkward family visit even less awkward than it was in Part 1.

• the monkeysphere
• how you stay a kid in people’s minds
• how to deepen
• finding common ground
• you get to pick what you share about yourself
• you are not obligated
• what to do if you get triggered
• using a teleporter to visit your family
• changing the subject
• walking away
• keep your cool
• “I” statements that don’t sound cheesy
• don’t assume the worst

Links:

• Communication for the holidays, Part 1
• Conversation Starters app by Danielle LaPorte

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Here are some of our best tips for making that awkward family visit a little less awkward.

• ask for what you need ahead of time
• What do you want to get out of this visit?
• the usual error
• How it’s different communicating with people you rarely visit
• different personality types
• boundaries
• “I am not green” and the voodoo doll
• “What bad things would happen if”

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• What is gender?
• intersex
• Gender identity vs. gender presentation vs. gender role
• “I identify as Captain America on weekends.”
• What comes after feminism?
• “A lesbian is a woman who’s attracted to women and is old.”
• “What gender is your lawn, Kyeli?”
• “Ladies and gentlemen”
• App Camp for Girls
• “Pants and skirts for all! And kilts! Because kilts have pockets.”

Links:

• The Superior Worf Hypothesis
• Wild Crazy Meaningful Day Job

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Kyeli faced down her fear twice recently. Why is it awesome to face your fear… and how did she do it?

• The Visit, by M. Night (spoiler-free)
• our Creep Agreement
• What would you tell your 13-year-old self, Kyeli?
• scared vs. terrified
• Kyeli faces her fear of the basement
• Why is it awesome to face down your fear?
• Face your animal fear on an animal level
• Kyeli faces her fear of the farmhouse
• the woman with the calcified amygdala
• impatience as a force for personal growth
• “Why are all these dogs in my showroom?” -Pace
• How did you do it, Kyeli?

Links:

• WCML 053: Fear (and how to handle it)

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Today is Pace and Kyeli’s 10th anniversary! This is the story of how we met, dated, and got married.

• LiveJournal and the bi poly kinky pagan gamer geeks
• “Your life really sucks.”
• the application process
• polyamory and the triad
• our sex life
• Witchcamp and being a 13-year-old girl
• our son Dru
• the pollipop
• The Usual Error
• the triad divorce
• The Mango Juice Incident

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• What’s up
• Why
• “How about now?”
• “You don’t have to be wild and crazy to get to meaningful.”
• Gurdjieff’s Law of Three
• Comma-dammit
• How will this affect the business?

Links:

• WCML 066: Big Magic, by Elizabeth Gilbert
• WCML 069: Wild Crazy Meaningful Wardrobe
• The Treasury System: Pace’s Guide to Peaceful Money Management
• WCML NEWS FLASH: True Confessions: What’s REALLY been going on for the past few months
• WCML 063: Wild Crazy Meaningful Road Trip, Week 4

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How choosing your clothes (or not) can help you be more creative!

• Identity
• “I Let My Toddler Dress Me for a Week”
• Mondo Guerra
• Your clothes are like the people in your monkeysphere
• The Tyranny of Choice
• modcloth.com
• a graph shaped like a hill
• capsule wardrobe
• President Obama only wears two kinds of suits
• Gemma Stone only wears black and gold
• Elizabeth Potts Weinstein’s meal plan
• decision fatigue
• creativity takes oomph
• Creativity is decision making in disguise.

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• How did our culture get dissociated from death?
• How can we get reacquainted with death, and why is that important?
• How did you find your unique calling?
• What motivates you to keep going when things get tough?
• Do you get tired of skulls? I assume people send you skulls and the like; does it get old?
• How do you know a death option is legit, and what are some good legit options?
• Feminism and the death industry
• What do you think of Halloween as our only way to talk about death?

You can find Caitlin at orderofthegooddeath.com. Kyeli recommends starting with her Ask a Mortician YouTube series.

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Step 1: Feel a calling in my heart.
Step 2: ???
Step 3: Profit!
But WTF is step 2?

• Myth #1: My true calling will strike me like a lightning bolt.
• Myth #2: My path will make use of the skills I’ve learned.
• Myth #3: I need to quit my job to follow my path.
• Myth #4: It’s selfish to focus on what’s best for me.
• Myth #5: It’s unlikely I’ll ever find true fulfillment, so I might as well settle for good enough.
• Myth #6: I must walk my path alone.
• Myth #7: I’m too much of a mess to find my path.
• Myth #8: Knowing my path is like having a map of the rest of my life.
• Myth #9: My path will be epic.
• Myth #10: My path will be hard.
• Myth #11: My path will be easy.

Links:

• When Divine guidance is wishy-washy or jerks you around

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It’ll help you stop living on autopilot and start living the wild, crazy, meaningful life you were meant to live!

• Creativity comes from outside you, not within
• “Nothing precious, all things sacred.” -Alanis Morissette
• Being the river vs. pushing the river
• The E-Myth
• “Do what you love” vs. “Do what you love for a living”
• The trope of the suffering artist
• Buzzed Bunny (warning: far more offensive than the usual offensive shit we link to)
• “I choose joy over grit.”

You can purchase Big Magic on Amazon or anyplace you like better. Yes, Kyeli, that is an Amazon affiliate link! Because I’m EXTREME!

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Ericka Hines, a professional at this sort of thing, answers.

• “Be humble, and be prepared to fumble.” -Ericka Hines
• Ericka and Pace have an actual awkward conversation about race
• intent vs. impact
• Being color-blind: “I don’t see color, I only see humans”
• What is privilege, and how do you know if you have it?
• Kyeli’s story of the KKK license plate
• Pace’s story of “Why are all my clients white?”
• be sensitive but not tentative

Resources:

• the privilege walk
• Chescaleigh (see also MTV Decoded)
• Jay Smooth
• how not to get in trouble with the police
• White Privilege: Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack, by Peggy McIntosh
• Harvard’s Implicit Bias Test

You can find Ericka at everylevelleads.com, on Facebook, and on Twitter.

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• Visiting Amanda Oaks in Pennsylvania
• Visiting Liz Patt in Maryland
• The ramp! Thank you soooooo much!
• We’ve actually got a lot to say about this couch.
• Our first house rule

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Highlights:

• Granny Weatherwax
• “You can’t tell the difference between fantasy and reality”
• When others call you “silly” or “crazy”
• Accidentally putting our lives in hold
• Gurdjieff’s Law of Three, aka the Hegelian Dialectic

Links:

• WCML 002: Live a crazy life!
• WCME 011: The Enneagram as a tool for Fourth Way study, with Aine Ni Cheallaigh
• The Shepherd’s Crown by Terry Pratchett

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What we’ve learned from having arguments with reality, experiencing spiritual art, and living in someone else’s home for a week.

• Kyeli’s hip injury and accepting your limitations
• “Having an argument with reality”
• Kyeli’s adventure at the Renaissance Faire
• The pieces that most moved us at The Detroit Institute of Art
• Don’t underestimate the importance of the little things in your home environment and your routine
• What are you optimizing for?

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• “I don’t want to be a spectator; I want to be a witness.” -Kyeli
• “There is room in our hearts for both sorrow and joy.” -Pace
• Smuggling our cat into the mall
• Honey Boo Boo Crack Hotel
• “Everything is either awesome, or is going to make an awesome story.” -Pace

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• Blue Mountain Scenic Byway
• Great Purge 3.0
• The Duck of the HMS Skywhale
• “When things are good, look for ways to make them awesome!” -Pace Smith
• Our Lady of the Rockies
• Snowdrift fences
• Lure Me Inn and Kick Me Out
• Testicle Festival
• Always drive as if everything you own is in the car

Links:

• WCML NEWS FLASH
• Tetrapod by Bignic
• Kyeli on Instagram
• Pace on Instagram

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• Marsha’s backstory
• Sandra Bland
• feeling like you’re a movement of one
• let it be okay for it to not be your work
• “If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.” -Jack Kornfield
• what’s the line between self-care and an excuse?
• “I need to be the embodiment of what it is I believe.” -Marsha Philitas
• Reclaiming
• Our takeaways

You can find Marsha at marshaphilitas.com, with a special welcome for WCML listeners at marshaphilitas.com/free-resources!

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A glimpse into Kyeli’s life: what it’s like to be disabled. Presented in the spirit of fostering understanding and compassion.

• the usual error
• What it’s like for Kyeli to go to a restaurant that claims to be accessible but isn’t really
• What it’s like for Kyeli to go to a movie theater with wheelchair seating
• What it’s like for Kyeli to wait in a waiting room
• My picture of Kyeli making the ridiculous sink gesture came out unusably blurry, sorry.
• How to be a good ally:
  1. Be flexible, because what’s an inconvenience for you could be someone else’s basic need.
  2. Ask if you can help and how you can help.
  3. Have compassion, and try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes.
• “I used to be abled, and I was privileged as fuck.” -Kyeli
• “Don’t be bitter”

Links:

• AlterConf
• Kelly Kingman

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• Kahlief’s story
• It’s important to raise awareness. It’s also important for sensitive people to be able to escape from horrible news. Is it possible to have both?
• What’s the most offensive question you’ve ever been asked?
• “The most important thing is to say, ‘I am acknowledging that this is terrible.'”
• How to play Cards Against Humanity with people who are easily offended
• How to change the world

Links:

• Kahlief’s talk at AlterConf
• Spawn On Me podcast
• Spawn On Me on ESN.FM
• @kahjahkins
• @SpawnOnMe
• Spawn On Me on Patreon

You can find Kahlief at spawnon.me and all those other links above!

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• What is guidance and how can you access it?
• Guidance isn’t specific to any religion or spiritual path.
• the worst metaphor ever
• Kyeli and Pace laugh for 90 seconds
• Phase 1 of the cycle: Our spiritual road trip honeymoon
• Phase 2 of the cycle: Where to move (take 1)
• Phase 3 of the cycle: Where to move (take 2)
• “Guidance is a gift, not a GPS.” -Pace Smith
• “Trust your intuition, even if it’s wrong.” -Kyeli
• Internalizing guidance

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Pathfinding is all about living a meaningful life. But is it possible to think you’re living a meaningful life, and be wrong? Is meaning entirely in the eye of the beholder, or is there a difference between true meaning and fake meaning? And if so, how can you tell the difference? Pace and Kyeli disagree!

• Why it’s important to distinguish true meaning from fake meaning
• Is meaning created or discovered?
• -lessnesslessness
• In “The Matrix”, was Neo right to wake others up without their consent?
• The brain says: “Pattern = Meaning”
• Conspiracy theory: Xenu, Freemasons, The Trilateral Commission, The Gnomes of Zurich, The Templars
• Psychedelics
• Thesis – Antithesis – Synthesis
• The four layers of reality
• The postmodernist fallacy
• Distance traveled vs. progress toward destination
• How this applies to your everyday life
• How to distinguish true meaning from fake meaning

Thanks for listening to Wild Crazy Meaningful Life! If you enjoyed this episode, please review us on iTunes and send your friends to WildCrazyMeaningfulLife.com.

That’s also where you can download my free eBook, Find Your Path Now. It’ll help you stop living on autopilot and start living the wild, crazy, meaningful life you were meant to live!

Highlights:

• preassurance
• a conversation with my imaginary therapist from Uberwald
• Inside Out
• “hard mode”
• the two outcomes of this hangglider trip
• Plan Z: starve to death
• the origin story of this money fear
• “I can let go of my money fear without letting go of my money sense.” -Pace Smith
• the snake in the garden
• two actions I’m taking to help this new money paradigm take root
• Wild Crazy Meaninghold
• I knew this already. What’s making it stick this time?
• inspiration+desperation
• pantslessnesslessnesslessness

Links:

• Uncertainty, by Jonathan Fields
• Life Is A Verb Camp, by Patti Digh
• The Treasury System, by Pace Smith
• Men at Arms, by Terry Pratchett
• Sock Dreams, by Niqkita Natosi

Thanks for listening to Wild Crazy Meaningful Life! If you enjoyed this episode, please review us on iTunes and send your friends to WildCrazyMeaningfulLife.com.

That’s also where you can download my free eBook, Find Your Path Now. It’ll help you stop living on autopilot and start living the wild, crazy, meaningful life you were meant to live!

Three recent replies were:

1. That I don’t know where to start, I don’t know what makes me come alive. And, the fear that I can’t ever find my true calling.
2. Fear of exposing my true self. Silly,fun light hearted, extremely sensitive.
3. Fear. Fear of failure, fear of success, fear of pain, fear of loss, fear of who I may become and fear of staying who I am.

So today we’re going to get real about fear and how to handle it.

Highlights:

• compassion and empathy
• your reptile brain
• the barking dog, the nice but incompetent friend
• fear vs. anxiety
• fear vs. time
• translating Rumi into Klingon
• the twin wings of hope and fear
• “If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice” -Rush
• how to get out of fear lockdown
• “Vulnerability is the scary door beyond which all awesome things lie.” -Pace Smith
• Why it’s a good thing to be “too sensitive” or too ANYTHING

You can find fear at any news outlet near you.

Thanks for listening to Wild Crazy Meaningful Life! If you enjoyed this episode, please review us on iTunes and send your friends to WildCrazyMeaningfulLife.com.

That’s also where you can download my free eBook, Find Your Path Now. It’ll help you stop living on autopilot and start living the wild, crazy, meaningful life you were meant to live!

It’s hard to give up “success” by everyone else’s standards to choose success by your own standards. Here’s how Lisa did it.

Highlights:

• The story of how Lisa almost died
• “God is in me, as me.” -Eat, Pray, Love
• Is a near-death experience a requirement for transformation?
• how to know if the hard you’re struggling with is your hard or someone else’s hard
• new level, new devil
• “Do I fight for love, or do I let fear win?” -Lisa Robbin Young
• Kyeli’s story of standing strong in the face of opposition
• Choosing your own success conditions
• ancestral baggage
• Give yourself permission to be compassionate and stumble.
• dream scale shame
• “Because it is your dream, it is big.” -Lisa Robbin Young
• Dominion and Settlers of Catan
• What if “the rules” don’t apply here?
• “Success is a destination, and you are already there.” -Lisa Robbin Young
• Dorothy of Oz found her own path, she didn’t just stick to the Yellow Brick Road
• The Hero’s Journey
• You need a framework, not a prison.
• Lisa sings “What Love Can Do”

You can find Lisa at lisarobbinyoung.com, or follow her on Twitter!

To subscribe or listen to past episodes of Wild Crazy Meaningful Life, visit WildCrazyMeaningful.com.

Highlights (or lowlights, as the case may be):

• Things have been hard. Here’s what’s been going on.
• “Don’t pity me!”
• The Wreck of the HMS Skywhale
• The Noodle Incident
• Why it’s hard to talk about it
• Depression lies
• The moment Kyeli began to turn things around
• The moment Pace began to turn things around
• THE GRAND REVEAL
• What we mean when we say “trial run”
• A nice surprise for you!

Links:

• Danielle Cornelius

To subscribe or listen to past episodes of Wild Crazy Meaningful Life, visit WildCrazyMeaningful.com.

Highlights:

• Assume Love
• Miller’s Law
• Pace, why do you put your empty coffee cup next to the sink?
• Kyeli, how could you have bought me the shampoo that I asked you to get for me?
• Patty got stuck in the bathtub
• You can assume love and still take care of your own protection.
• look for the third alternative
• Compromise = “I’m willing to take some pain as long as the person I love the most gets the same amount of pain.”
• “Expect to be loved, and expect that all the ways you thought you would be loved are wrong.”
• “Every expectation is a premeditated resentment.”
• “We don’t trust that we’ve chosen someone wonderful enough that what they will give us is even better than what we expected to receive.”
• “I love you” vs. “I’m in love with you”
• this also applies to good friendships and relationships with your children
• Assume your customers want to buy what I’m selling if it will help them.
• The question to identify a harmful relationship: “Would my partner protect me if anyone else tried to do to me what my partner is doing to me?”

You can find Patty at assumelove.com, and keep an eye out for her upcoming book with the working title “Love Like You Don’t Share a Bathroom.”

To subscribe or listen to past episodes of Wild Crazy Meaningful Life, visit WildCrazyMeaningful.com.

Rest is undervalued in our culture, but we need it desperately. Rest is not necessarily a horizontal activity; it can be about making moments yours, and reclaiming the spaces that are already there.

Highlights:

• why is it so hard to rest?
• rest rest rest flow > slog slog slog slog
• looking busy
• different people need different amounts & types of rest
• Take the amount of rest you think you need and multiply it by at least 3
• What the Enneagram says about Western culture
• “We have to, as individuals, decide how we want to live.” -Mara Glatzel
• Mara’s story of how she chose to rest
• “Resting is not necessarily a horizontal activity” -MaraGlatzel
• “What do I need right now?”
• the trap of “Blue Ribbon Resting”
• attach rest to something you already do
• making moments yours, and reclaiming the spaces that are already there
• creating a restful morning routine and evening routine
• The “effort = value” myth, the “appearance of effort = value” myth, and spiritual practice
• The Deep Exhale

You can find Mara at maraglatzel.com. Follow her on Instagram and say hi!

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When getting an insurance settlement
Some secrets and methods are prevalent.
So here’s what you need
to know to proceed
with your insurance claim – (That’s irrelevant!)

Highlights:

• how this is related to living a wild crazy meaningful life
• the story of Kyeli’s claim
• the script that insurance adjustors follow
• false friendship
• verbal bullying
• “That’s irrelevant!”
• Who’s to blame? The adjustor or the system that encourages the adjustor? The CEO or the laws that encourage the CEO to care only about profits?
• What to do when politeness is used as a weapon against you

Links:

• WCML 044: Bringing unconventional back to health care, with Niki Flemmerwith
• The Paradigm Conspiracy by Denise Breton and Christopher Largent

To subscribe or listen to past episodes of Wild Crazy Meaningful Life, visit WildCrazyMeaningful.com.

Let’s talk about this, ’cause it’s urgent:
Let’s clean out our brains with detergent.
Let’s cast aside
That God is outside,
And think about God as emergent.

A conversation about a different perspective on the Divine; not as a separate entity or a separate force, but as an emergent property of the universe.

Highlights:

• What is an emergent property?
• It’s like a hurricane in the weather system.
• It’s like consciousness in the brain.
• Is God like a dude in the sky?
• Is Spirit like an all-pervading mist?
• God as an emergent property of the universe
• We are like cells in the body of God.
• Is suffering like taking your cat to the vet?
• Child development and the pain of losing Oneness
• We are all co-creating God with every breath.

Links:

• The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram, by Sandra Maitri
• Aine Ni Cheallaigh

To subscribe or listen to past episodes of Wild Crazy Meaningful Life, visit WildCrazyMeaningful.com.

Let’s talk about friends old and new:
Which to ditch, which to pursue.
Today’s special guest
Has oft effervesced;
We have not one Kylie, but two!

Highlights:

• friendship shame/taboos
• “A good friendship is important enough to risk awkwardness.” -Pace Smith
• The Ratchet Effect: “You can deepen, but not shallowen”
• deconflating friendship
• internet friends vs. in-person friends
• Pace’s takeaway: the usual error in regards to the word “friend”
• Kyeli’s takeaway: know what your friendship style is and communicate that with your friends
• Kylie’s takeaway: break social norms in your friendships!

Links:

• SARK’s book on friendship
• Friendships Don’t Just Happen

You can find Kylie at effervescence.me, and you can also check out her class on friendship: Silver and Gold: An Adventure in Making and Keeping Friends. It starts on April 27th!

To subscribe or listen to past episodes of Wild Crazy Meaningful Life, visit WildCrazyMeaningful.com.

p.s. If you noticed that episode 49 came out early, congratulations on paying attention! We’re not bad at counting, we’re just nonconformists. We mixed up the order so you could listen to this one while Kylie’s course is still open for registration!

It’s easy to doubt and bemoan
When crashing into the unknown.
But sometimes the wreck
Is part of the trek,
Says the lovely and wise Gemma Stone.

Being off path is part of the path.

Highlights:

• Gemma’s 25th birthday epiphany
• clean fear, messy fear, and pathfear
• losing your way
• loving being off path
• Pace losing her way: playing video games
• Gemma losing her way: chocolate and orgasms
• Kyeli losing her way: miscarriage and getting hit by a car
• “There’s purpose in pain; there are lessons in the mess.”
• the dangerous side of “there’s purpose in pain”
• negativity bias, black paintbrush, white paintbrush
• YOU MUST OBEY THE HAPPY
• Kyeli’s long, dark tea-time of the soul
• fashion

You can find Gemma at gemmastone.org.

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She helps everybody she’s met
To live life with zero regret.
She helps out Uganda
And once was a panda,
A warm welcome to Heather Plett.

How can we create space for meaningful, deep conversations, whether it’s in a group or one-on-one?

Highlights:

• Heather hosted a conversation about racism in Winnipeg
• The Circle Way
• The Art of Hosting
• World Cafe
• The 4 levels of listening (Otto Scharmer)
• speaking to the center
• how you can use this for difficult one-on-one conversations
• permission
• host yourself first
• Heather takes us through an example of how she creates space for her Women’s Circle
• do you need a leader? a guardian?
• tending the rim
• coming out
• circling with the unwilling/resistant

Links:

• Creating containers for meaningful conversation ñ Eight tips for everyday situations
• The Order of the Good Death
• Peter Block
• WCML 038: How Can King Arthur Sit at the Round Table?

You can find Heather at HeatherPlett.com.

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We’re caught in a cage unintentional;
Real people are not two-dimensional.
The tyranny of
The majority, love:
It’s uphill to be unconventional.

Highlights:

• power dynamics
• “Milgram Syndrome”: when you find yourself obeying an authority figure despite your reservations
• how to know if a health care provider is going to be the good kind
• shame
• parenting
• some pretty graphic descriptions of medical things involving cervices
• delegate, don’t abdicate

Links:

• Providing Health Care for Your Transgender Patient (a guest post by Pace on Niki’s blog)
• The Milgram experiment

You can find Niki at The We Belong Project.

To subscribe or listen to past episodes of Wild Crazy Meaningful Life, visit WildCrazyMeaningful.com.

The meaning of life? Here’s a clue:
What’s true depends on your worldview.
Despite such deep thought,
We simply cannot
Know the answer… and it’s 42.

In this episode, we talk about the meaning of life, the true nature of the universe, and freakishly delicious croissant-doughnut hybrids.

Highlights:

• Douglas Adams and 42
• your mom
• the Ottoman Empire
• the meaning of life
• questions vs. answers
• how to tell true meaning from fake meaning (e.g. conspiracy theory, cults)
• the ethics of selling meaning
• the true nature of the universe
• Kyeli’s story about “All paths lead to Oneness” and Brigid’s Well
• freakishly delicious croissant-doughnut hybrids

Links:

• WCML 003 – Live a meaningful life!
• WCML 016 – Magick and science
• Stumbling on Happiness by Daniel Gilbert
• Symphony of Science – ‘We Are All Connected’ (ft. Sagan, Feynman, deGrasse Tyson & Bill Nye)

To subscribe or listen to past episodes of Wild Crazy Meaningful Life, or to tell Kyeli where she can find more freakishly delicious croissant-doughnut hybrids, visit WildCrazyMeaningful.com.

The Maiden, the Mother, the Crone:
A triptych that seems set in stone.
But Danielle Cornelius
Unveils the mysterious;
There’s more than just these three alone.

A wild ride through the broken systems we live in, balancing our energies and breaking free from limiting boxes!

Highlights:

• Maiden, Mother, Queen, Crone
• the hormone that makes you want to help everyone
• a transgender perspective on all this
• the Enneagram and masculine/feminine energy
• why do we label these two energies “masculine” and “feminine”?
• what you can do with all this newfound knowledge about masculine and feminine energy
• what’s wrong with the Western medical system, and what you can do to make the best of it
• the patriarchy isn’t men oppressing women, it’s the system oppressing all of us

Links:

• Cycles of Wisdom by Danielle Cornelius and Dena DeCastro
• Wild Creative by Tammy Kent

You can find Danielle Cornelius at SheBody.care.

To subscribe or listen to past episodes of Wild Crazy Meaningful Life, visit WildCrazyMeaningful.com.

It seems like there’s always a ton
Of things that have got to get done.
But true productivity’s
Not kept in captivity.
Make space for some peace and some fun!

Highlights:

• How too little structure can make you thrash, especially if you’re an Enneagram 4
• How shame and embarrassment can stop you in your tracks
• New Year’s Resolutions
• smoothness
• sensitivity + productivity: can you have both?
• the parable of the 3 bricklayers and the little red bird
• The Master of the Phenomenal World
• Muppets
• How too much structure can make you lose sight of what you love, especially if you’re an Enneagram 3

Links:

• Passion Planner
• not the Passion Planner but kinda similar
• Desire Map Day Planner
• our free teleclass on New Year’s Resolutions, on January 13

To subscribe or listen to past episodes of Wild Crazy Meaningful Life, visit WildCrazyMeaningful.com.

2015 is nigh here,
With oodles of options unclear.
We’ve always preferred
To choose just one word
To set our intent for the year.

Highlights:

• Kyeli’s previous words of the year: courageous, open
• Pace’s previous words of the year: acceptance, annihilation, surrender
• Choose what you’ve been given
• Core Desired Feelings
• Kyeli’s word of the year for 2015
• Pace’s word of the year for 2015

Links:

• Soul Mantras by Liz Lamoreux
• the poopsplosion story

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King Arthur sits down at the table.
Equality now turns unstable.
We ask you, dear readers,
How can we, as leaders,
Make forums as round as we’re able?

As heart-centered leaders, we want to create communities where everyone feels safe and everyone is equal – like a circle. But how can we be leaders at the same time we are peers? It’s like King Arthur sitting down at the Round Table and expecting everyone else to treat him like any other knight. We give several examples (positive and negative) of communities we’ve been part of, both as participants and leaders, and explore how we can get the best of both worlds.

Highlights:

• paid communities
• vulnerability on the part of the leader – when is it helpful and when is it collapse?
• unpaid communities
• spiral dynamics
• The Spiderman Contrapositive
• dictatorship vs. consensus
• love and power

Links:

• A Theory of Everything by Ken Wilber
• Spiral Dynamics

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It’s awesome to show your affection
To customers, with one objection
That I must stipulate:
Do not manipulate;
Do not abuse your connection.

Connection can be super helpful for your business – it can help build your reputation by word of mouth and great reviews. But if you abuse that connection with your customers, it can turn sour for both the business owner and the customer.

Highlights:

• How healthy connection can help your business
• What is connection abuse and how can you recognize it?
• A near-the-line case of connection abuse on etsy
• A clear-cut case of connection abuse by a realtor
• The difference between “I’m buying a couch” and “Kyeli is dying” (don’t worry, Kyeli is not actually dying)
• Where to draw the line between healthy connection and abusive connection?

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A 4 and a car crash survivor,
She’s also a great deep-sea diver.
(I mean of the heart.)
And that’s only part
Of the beauty that is Susan Piver.

Susan Piver is a Buddhist meditation teacher and a New York Times bestselling author of 7 books. She and I talk about the many, many paths that lead toward (and away from) opening your heart.

Highlights:

• a spiritual warrior is one who is not afraid of herself.
• you can’t put a zebra on a couch.
• trauma can close your heart or open it.
• the Open Heart Project
• “Meditation is a compassion tool of the highest order.” -Susan Piver
• Zen = Surfing
• the 3 buddhist paths
• A Path With Heart by Jack Kornfield
• “Go ahead! Hate whoever you want!” -Susan Piver
• “I acknowledge that love is the most important thing in life and vow to give my heart away at the slightest provocation.” -Susan Piver

You can find Susan Piver at susanpiver.com.

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For two weeks, a self-imposed strike
From clicking the button marked “Like.”
Now Schmutzie’s agreed
To speak of her feed
And chat with a queer and a dyke.

Schmutzie has been experimenting with not clicking the “Like” button on Facebook, and inspired by her, Kyeli and I have too. Here’s what we’ve noticed about our Facebook feeds, our connections, our illusions of connections, and vulnerability.

And Instagram, because why not.

Highlights:

• Schmutzie’s “don’t click Like” experiment
• How it affected her feed
• How it affected her connections
• nobody notices when you stop liking things
• “connection-flavored junk food”
• Facebook lists
• Instagram
• The “Love > Like” Facebook group
• ending conversations. “I hereby declare this conversation to be at a reasonable stopping point.”
• feeling guilty or rude
• liking pages
• my Pathfinding group
• authentic connections on the internet
• people think of online as a “fake place”
• “Vulnerability is my spiritual practice.” -Elan Morgan
• “The more vulnerable I get, the more awesome my life is.” -Kyeli
• commenting “like”, smileys, and hearts

Links:

• Elan Morgan’s TEDx talk, Self-Doubt and the Power of Personal Narrative
• how to get rid of the temptation of the Like button
• WCML 004: Living in an Instagrammed world (the one where we talk about running down the hall and clicking “Like” as fast as you can)
• programs that limit your time on social media
• Pace Explains why relationships don’t exist

You can find Schmutzie at schmutzie.com. You can find Elan Morgan at elanmorgan.com. They are the same person, so those links will both take you to the same place.

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For your path to proceed unimpeded
There are three things that must all be heeded.
You’re on the right map
When these 3 overlap:
What you love, what you rock, and what’s needed.

The “Holy Grail” of Pathfinding is to find the intersection of these three circles: what you love, what you rock, and what’s needed. But perfectionists can make this harder than it needs to be, and Julica Hermann, life coach and aspiring post-perfectionist, is gonna tell us how.

Highlights:

• What you rock: Don’t hold yourself to such a high standard of excellence. You’re good enough.
• What’s needed: It doesn’t have to be epic. It doesn’t have to help millions of people.
• What you love: You don’t have to feel passionate bliss about it 100% of the time.
• Sometimes, your path doesn’t lead to the intersection of all three.
• “Whatever you do will be insignificant, but it is very important that you do it.” -Gandhi

Links:

• The Venn diagram that inspired my Venn diagram
• Eat Pray Love by Elizabeth Gilbert

You can find Julica at postperfectionism.com.

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“Live like it could go away,”
As Patti Digh’s been known to say.
But here is the quandary:
Why do the laundry?
We’ll stink on the 38th day.

In Life is a Verb, Patti Digh wrote about living life as though you had 37 days to live. If I only had 37 days to live, I would spend my life savings and not bother doing the laundry. How can we have both? And we end up talking a lot about grief and disability.

Highlights:

• the 38th day
• “I’m playing this game of life to learn, not to win.” -Patti Digh
• The 3 steps in dealing with loss:
  1. embrace what is
  2. honor what was
  3. love what will be
• embrace vs. collapse
• “I fell down. And I still want the damn sandwich.”
• disability is like coming out
• we conflate noticing a difference with making a judgment.

Links:

• Life is a Verb
• The Geography of Loss
• Alan Seale, the 4 levels of story: drama, situation, choice, opportunity

You can find what Patti Digh is up to these days at LifeIsAVerbCamp.com.

To subscribe or listen to past episodes of Wild Crazy Meaningful Life, visit WildCrazyMeaningful.com.

This podcast is totally funs,
And full of some horrible puns.
But no! It’s benevolent,
And also relevant,
Despite being about speedruns.

Speedrunning is the art and science of playing through video games as quickly as possible. It’s one of our more obscure and geeky hobbies, but in this podcast we’re bringing it home with 6 life lessons we’ve learned from the current speedrunning marathon, Summer Games Done Quick.

Highlights:

1. it’s not a waste of time
2. persistence
3. smarter not harder
4. pick and choose
5. ignore the critics
6. the power of kindness
7. meta: do what excites you

Links:

• Games Done Quick

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Good vs. evil is hazy.
The true struggle’s good vs. lazy.
So cut yourself slack
If you’re feeling the lack
Of meaningful, wild, and crazy.

Have you ever been hard on yourself for being “too lazy?” You’re not giving yourself enough credit – the epic struggle of our time is not good vs. evil, it’s good vs. lazy.

Highlights:

• Good vs. evil
• Good vs. lazy
• The surprising antidote to laziness
• Kyeli’s epic struggle with laziness
• Be lazy like a cat!
• Your inner Puritan

Links:

• The Line (webcomic)

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Emilie Wapnick may seem
Chaotic and lacking a theme.
But that is misstating;
In fact, she’s creating
A multipotentialite’s dream.

What does “finding your path” mean when you have lots of varied interests? Do you have more than one path? Is “One True Calling” a myth or a truth? We dive into these questions with multipod Emilie Wapnick of Puttylike.

Highlights:

• what is a multipotentialite?
• One True Calling – fact or fiction?
• finding your overarching theme
• the importance of letting your personality shine through
• 7 businesses vs. one business with 7 offerings
• wobble bass
• the Multi-Passionate Must-Haves sale, including the World-Changing Writing Workshop home study – ends midnight tonight!

You can find Emilie Wapnick at Puttylike.

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For this one, we did not rehearse.
We two will, unfiltered, converse.
We’re going to fight
And haggle – not quite:
Like haggling, but in reverse.

Pace and Kyeli discuss the fate of the Wild Crazy Meaningful Life podcast – live! We put all our communication skills to the test, especially the Reverse Haggle, where each person negotiates for the “opposing” person’s needs. It’s a very powerful negotiation technique when used with someone you trust.

Highlights:

• Don’t lead with a fait accompli
• Win-win or no deal
• The Reverse Haggle
• The fate of the podcast is decided – fist bump!
• The opposite of defensive is… offensive?

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She’ll lead you through fear into trust.
Her heartfire will make you combust.
Let go of control,
The light hits your soul.
A photo by Catherine Just.

Peeling back the layers, finding what’s at the core. Letting go of attachment to stories. Getting dirty.

Highlights:

• the lofty and the dirty
• secrets, shame
• spirit vs. soul, up vs. down
• Inanna’s descent into the underworld
• attachment to our stories
• The Matrix
• terminal uniqueness
• Catherine’s story of addiction
• seeing the sacred in the everyday moments

Links:

• The Starn Twins
• “Hooked”
• Red Hot and Holy by Sera Beak
• The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

You can find Catherine Just at CatherineJust.com, and she’d love for you to follow her on Instagram at @cjust!

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Melissa Dinwiddie has told
Us all we’re allowed to unfold.
To rest and to give,
To grow and to live
A life that’s creative and bold.

We all have glass ceilings that are limiting us. Some are self-installed, some (like gender roles) are installed by society. Let’s shatter them!

Highlights:

• dove butt bump
• self-awareness + self-compassion = the key to everything good
• “I just want to make enough to get by.”
• improv and self-defense class beats an MBA
• self-expression is necessary for self-awareness
• women communicate by agreeing, men communicate by disagreeing
• experimenting by trying on identities/habits/fashions/etc.
• living an intentional life
• the train conductor and the jeep driver
• Melissa plays “Eye Candy” on her ukelele!

Links:

• WCML 001 – Live a wild life!
• WCML 002 – Live a crazy life!
• Your Big Bold Creative Life Academy
• Impact self-defense class

You can find Melissa at MelissaDinwiddie.com and you can listen to more of her songs at MelissaSings.com!

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Self-love is the way she will live,
And also the gift she will give.
She’ll tell you a selfie
Is actually healthy:
Please give a warm welcome to Viv!

Selfies are awesome. Here’s why.

Highlights:

• selfie vs. self-portrait
• What’s up with all the selfie shaming?
• selfies as an expression of self-love and self-acceptance
• selfies as a fun romp where we go fight some demons (with chocolate!)
• selfies as revolution against body shame
• selfies as an expression of the Divine Feminine

Links:

• Confession: I take selfies
• Rachael Ashe takes amazing self-portraits
• Red Hot and Holy by Sera Beak

You can find Vivienne McMaster at beyourownbeloved.com (a new Be Your Own Beloved class begins in February!) and you can check out her tribe’s selfies on Instagram at the hashtag #beyourownbeloved.

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She lives in a house that is mobile.
She does good, both local and global.
She has no TV,
And she’s also car-free.*
I speak of our friend Tammy Strobel.

We’re thinking of going car-free, so we invited Tammy Strobel to be on our podcast so we could ask her about all the ups and downs of her car-free experience.

Highlights:

• “Being car-free has helped me be less materialistic and more focused on relationships.” -Tammy Strobel
• Tammy’s tiny house
• decluttering, RV life, and enoughism
• 30-day trials

*Tammy is not actually car-free anymore, but she was for 5 years!

You can find Tammy Strobel at RowdyKittens.com.

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Prepare for a deep exploration
Of partnership and conversation,
Surrender and tears,
Attraction and fears:
What we did on our spiritual staycation.

Part 2 of what we learned on our spiritual staycation: “my life”, E-Prime, the Sapir-Whorf hypothesis, spiritual partnership, and our biggest takeaway from our spiritual staycation. (Hint: It has to do with Seafarers of Catan.)

Links:

• A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle
• Spiritual Partnership by Gary Zukav
• The Usual Error by Pace and Kyeli
• Captain Picard sings “Let It Snow”

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Prepare for a fun exploration
Of Tarot cards and divination,
Of books and of prayer,
Of shiny blue hair:
What we did on our spiritual staycation.

Links:

• The Morgan-Greer Tarot
• Animal Medicine/Totem Cards, by Pixie Campbell
• The Triple Goddess Tarot
• Red Hot and Holy by Sera Beak
• What To Do When You Can’t Decide by Meg Lundstrom
• The Dance of the Dissident Daughter by Sue Monk Kidd
• Wcml 002: Live a crazy life
• Faery hair by Serafaery

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Pace tends toward low-energy spirituality, like meditation. Kyeli tends toward high-energy spirituality, like singing, dancing, and raising energy. This is a conversation about what we can each learn from each other.

Highlights:

• The 21-day Remembrance Challenge
• WCML 022 – The Instinctual Variants of the Enneagram, with Aine Ni Cheallaigh and Kelly Kingman
• The origin of lawns
• Schlitterbahn
• Are you a comfort addict?
• WCML 012 – Spiritual awakening

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Our guests today: Aine and Kelly.
As clever as Machiavelli.
But minus the treason.
And that’s just one reason
They’re famous from here to New Delhi.

Aine Ni Cheallaigh teaches us about the instinctual variants of the Enneagram, and we figure out Kelly, Kyeli, and Pace’s instinctual stacks.

Highlights:

• The 3 instinctual variants: Self-Preservation, Sexual, and Social
• we are animals
• “Your personality sits on top of your instincts”
• the goal is balance
• the instincts at higher levels
• “Putting yourself in the way of good”

Links:

• The Wisdom of the Enneagram
• The Fox
• Mario Sikora

You can find Aine and Kelly together at VisualEnneagram.com. You can find Aine at infiniteandtransitory.com and Kelly at kingmanink.com.

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Ah, gifts. So many expectations, so much potential for disappointment and hurt feelings. We’ve got some radical ideas about gifting, and we disagree with each other. Be sure to listen to this one before the holidays!

Highlights:

• Kyeli’s gift story
• Pace’s gift story
• the usual error
• compromising between different love languages
• Kyeli and Pace roleplaying an example of saying no to an unwanted gift
• the pantry
• permission to disappoint each other

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I’d like you to meet Patti Digh.
Her writing is one reason why.
Her camp is one more
Of the things we adore,
And no bone in her body is shy.

We talk with Patti Digh about leading and co-creating a vibrant community.

Highlights:

• Design Your Life Camp
• making a strong offer
• leadership
• co-creation
• too much freedom
• love what you do, because doing what you love is only half
• expecting the best
• holding space / creating a safe space

You can find Patti at 37days.com, and be sure to look for her upcoming book The Geography of Loss .

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With Catherine Caine:

Catherine is wild and uncouth,
Australian, a geek, and a sleuth.
She loves cash and joy
But that’s just a decoy,
For today we’re exploring the truth.

Highlights:

• physical and spiritual nudity
• wearing masks and/or strategically placed socks
• The Truthful Cat
• when to not be truthful
• The Surgeon’s Truth
• trusting your clients
• truthfulness in marketing
• true vs. original
• recipes vs. frameworks

Catherine referenced a couple of posts, if you’d like to read more, here they are:

• Cinderella is a story about marketing
• Recipes versus frameworks

And here’s the link to that Patrick Stewart video we mentioned on the podcast.

You can find Catherine Caine at Cash and Joy and Mediocre Be Damned

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With Jennifer Louden:

Jen Louden’s got wit, vim, and verve.
She’s got snark behind her reserve.
And inside her chest
She’s suitably blessed
With a heart made to savor and serve.

We discuss how the Shero’s Journey differs from the Hero’s Journey, and why creativity and writing are so important – for yourself and for the world.

Highlights:

• The Shero’s School for Revolutionaries
• Gender, race, queerness, equality, and the Lathe of Heaven
• “While the hero journeys for external fame, fortune, and power, the heroine tries to regain her lost creative spirit… Once she hears the cries of this lost part of herself needing rescue, her journey truly begins.” – Valerie Estelle Frankel, From Girl to Goddess
• Sheroes take the first step for themselves, not for the other
• The importance of claiming your own story in the face of the control paradigm which says There Is Only One Story And You Must Fit Into It.
• Overcoming the “your story doesnt matter” doubt

You can find Jen Louden at JenniferLouden.com.

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Lately there’s been a saying going around “Do no harm. Take no shit.” It’s an add-on to the Wiccan Rede “An ye harm none, do what ye will” to emphasize the importance of not letting others harm you. But Kyeli wants to take it one step further…

Highlights:

• The Wiccan Rede, the Thelemic Rede, and the “Kyeli Rede”
• The Kyeli Rede: Take no harm. Do no shit.
• Love and power
• Ignore all moral codes and make up your own. What could possibly go wrong?
• How this relates to last week’s podcast on magick and science
• How to make sure you’re not on the path to the Dark Side
• The Kyeli Rede, full version: Take no harm. Do no shit. Act with love.

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Magick vs. science… FIGHT! Actually, let’s not fight. Can’t we all get along? Maybe we can, if we distinguish between two meanings of the word “science”. There’s science as a way of learning about the world (the scientific method), and then there’s science as a belief that the scientific method is the only way to learn about the world (measurementism).

Highlights:

• wrap density avoision
• 4 reasons why we’re afraid to publish this podcast
• measurementism
• dogma and paradigm
• Pace’s story of her paradigm shift
• Pace breaks science against 1 to 1,048,576 odds
• Watch out, or your cats will eat you
• If Kyeli can get along with science, then science can get along with you!

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Pace and Kyeli tell the behind-the-scenes tale of what led up to their recent business breakup.

Highlights:

• Pace addresses the Shocking Subject Line Debacle
• The Spoon Theory
• The Parable of the French Fries
• don’t settle for mediocrity!

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When you present yourself online, how much do you share about your family, your partner, yourself? If you undershare, people might not really see you. If you overshare, you may distract people, or worse, “vulnerability vomit” all over them. Either way, people are going to make assumptions, and how are those assumptions going to affect you? How much can you reveal and still feel safe? How little can you reveal and still be authentic? It’s basically a process of coming out… as yourself.

Highlights:

• being a feminist vegan Christian
• “vulnerability vomit”
• “What is the purpose of me sharing this?”
• getting your being-seen needs met
• Sonia Simone‘s “Zen window”
• “I’m gonna nonviolently punch you in the face with my vegan hand!”
• coming out as yourself
• Pace and Kyeli’s transition from “Pace & Kyeli” to two separate solopreneurs

Tara Swiger helps creative, crafty people share their handmade goodness with the world. You can find her at TaraSwiger.com, and you can read her post about getting your family (+ spouse) to support your business.

And if you liked this podcast, you may also like Episode 004: Living in an Instagrammed world, with Liz Lamoreux, where we look at authenticity from a different angle.

To subscribe or listen to past episodes of Wild Crazy Meaningful Life, visit WildCrazyMeaningful.com. See you next time, and until then, keep on riding the spiritual rollercoaster!

In this podcast we answer a question from “T” about handling criticism in her relationship:

I know you’re clearly very good at communication in relationships and I have a question. I’ve been with my partner for 5 and a half years. We’re in our mid-twenties and we’re both women. For years, I’ve felt she criticizes me – mostly when it comes to chores and things like that. I can handle a little, but eventually I started to constantly feel anxiety about what “I’d do wrong” next.

At the beginning of our relationship, I tried just taking it and trying to minimize it. That didn’t work. So for the last few years, I’ve just constantly tried to always use good communication when I feel she’s done something wrong and I need to tell her – to try to show her how I like to be “criticized”. Of course, there have been moments of me saying that it hurts, please stop, etc. etc. But it continues.

The reason it is so frustrating is because this is not an abusive situation. I’m over the moon happy and in love with this woman and have zero doubts about our relationship, longevity, equality, or compatibility. I just want to not feel anxious about my partner’s reactions to me – it’s not all the time and can be rather rare, but enough to make me wonder or be on edge about if “this” will be the issue that she criticizes, you know? I know I can’t change her but I do want to hopefully learn how to communicate better and to control my reactions to her reactions (so meta).

What can I do? When compared to other parts of our life, I know it’s a communication issue/difference. What can I do/say to change this?

Highlights:

• Is it the usual error or not?
• Is it a communication issue or a needs-not-being-met issue?
• H.A.L.T.
• the voodoo doll
• “The key to communication is communicating.” -Kyeli
• being on the same team

To subscribe or listen to past episodes of Wild Crazy Meaningful Life, visit WildCrazyMeaningful.com. See you next time, and until then, keep on riding the spiritual rollercoaster!

With Mark Silver:

Pace shares the story of her spiritual awakening, which happened on 2/21/13. Mark’s reaction is priceless and almost caused us to delete the entire podcast. But luckily for you, we didn’t!

Our guest Mark Silver is the founder of Heart of Business, a totally awesome company that helps small business owners make a healthy profit and a real difference. Mark has been a mentor to us, and a huge slice of our business’s success is due to him. But what’s more relevant to today’s topic is that Mark is a designated Master Teacher in his Sufi lineage, so he brings a Sufi perspective to these wild crazy meaningful experiences.

Highlights:

• Rest and play (a la Martha Beck in Finding Your Way in a Wild New World)
• Trust: the foreman and the hammer
• Attachment and commitment in the physical world is different from attachment to others’ hearts
• “Nothing good comes from facepalming with a hammer in your hand.” -a deep spiritual teaching
• Different religions are different paths to the same Source

To subscribe or listen to past episodes of Wild Crazy Meaningful Life, visit WildCrazyMeaningful.com. See you next time, and until then, keep on riding the spiritual rollercoaster!

With Vivienne McMaster:

All three of us are fat and fabulous. We love ourselves just the way we are, and on this podcast we talk about different paths to self-love, regardless of the shape of your body. We’ve each read a lot of books on size acceptance and we have a lot to say about them – and on self-acceptance in general.

Highlights:

• You are worthy of love
• Pace’s story of body acceptance
• OMG queer boxing
• Pace reads an excerpt from her upcoming book
• (Can you tell Pace is the one taking these show notes during the podcast?)

Quotes:

• “My body is not a tragedy” – Lesley Kinzel
• “On a podcast, no one can see you raise your hand.” -Pace
• “If your relationship sucks because you’re fat, then your relationship sucks.” -Kyeli
• “I need to break up with my cat!” -Kyeli

Books we talk about on the show:

• Mirror Mirror Off The Wall: “A scholar, fashionista, and bride-to-be spends a year without mirrors to get a better view of herself, her life, and what’s really important.”
• Two Whole Cakes: “In Two Whole Cakes, Fatshionista extraordinaire Lesley Kinzel tells stories, gives advice, and challenges stereotypes about being and feeling fat.”
• Health At Every Size: “Tune in to your body’s expert guidance. Find the joy in movement. Eat what you want, when you want, choosing pleasurable foods that help you to feel good. You too can feel great in your body right now—and Health at Every Size will show you how.”
• Lessons from the Fat-O-Sphere: “From the leading bloggers in the fat-acceptance movement comes an empowering guide to body image- no matter what the scales say.”
• The Body Sacred by Dianne Sylvan: “When you look in the mirror, do you see a Goddess? For anyone who’s experienced a “fat day” or wished a doctor could make them younger, Wiccan Dianne Sylvan speaks candidly about overcoming body hatred and offers a spiritual path back to Divine femininity.”
• Fat! So?: “Fat? Chunky? Less than svelte? So what! In this hilarious and eye-opening book, fat and proud activist/zinester Marilyn Wann takes on Americas’ biggest fear—worse than the fear of public speaking or nuclear weapons—our fear of fat.”
• Beth Ditto’s memoir, Coal to Diamonds: “A raw and surprisingly beautiful coming-of-age memoir, Coal to Diamonds tells the story of Mary Beth Ditto, a girl from rural Arkansas who found her voice.”
• The Unapologetic Fat Girl’s Guide to Exercise by Hannah Blank: “Hanne Blank, proud fat girl and personal trainer, understands the physical and emotional roadblocks that overweight women face in the word of exercise. In this one-of-a-kind guide, Hanne combines exercise advice with a refusal to fat-bash.”

Shout-outs:

• Rachel Cole, the Well-Fed Woman

Vivienne McMaster helps people see themselves with kindness through their cameras. You can find her at beyourownbeloved.com.

To subscribe or listen to past episodes of Wild Crazy Meaningful Life, visit WildCrazyMeaningful.com. See you next time, and until then, keep on riding the spiritual rollercoaster!

With Aine Ni Cheallaigh:

An overview of the Enneagram, our favorite personality typing system and so much more. We go through each of the nine types, their strengths and weaknesses, and some ways you can use the Enneagram to know yourself better, to better understand those around you, and to grow.

The 9 types:

• 1: The Reformer (example: Mark Silver)
• 2: The Helper (example: Julica Hermann)
• 3: The Achiever (example: Pace)
• 4: The Individualist (example: Kyeli)
• 5: The Investigator (example: our son)
• 6: The Loyalist (example: our godson)
• 7: The Enthusiast (example: Kelly Kingman)
• 8: The Challenger (example: Dyana Valentine)
• 9: The Peacemaker (example: Jen Hofmann)

References:

• The Wisdom of the Enneagram, the best Enneagram book
• Aine and Kelly’s book, The Visual Enneagram, the best handy Enneagram reference

To subscribe or listen to past episodes of Wild Crazy Meaningful Life, visit WildCrazyMeaningful.com. See you next time, and until then, keep on riding the spiritual rollercoaster!

With Dyana Valentine:

Dyana dreams for a living; she’s a professional oracle. We dig into how that works, and then we explore superconditions. What are your superconditions for greatness? What are the pillars of your “why” that allow you to do your best work – or distract you with shininess?

Highlights:

• “Permission to see you” as a prerequisite for working with you
• An oracle, but not a slave: Dyana’s Mutual Satisfaction Agreement
• Superconditions for greatness
• Dyana helps Pace find one of her superconditions – live! (spoiler: it’s “excavating truth”)
• Kyeli’s story of mistaking her why for a what
• A culture obsessed with what and ignoring the why

Shout-outs:

• Theresa Reed
• Bri Saussy
• Hiro Boga

The backstory behind the craziness at the beginning of the podcast:

I (Pace) have an alarm set for 2:12 which is my “kiss Kyeli” alarm. We created it when we were spending so much time as business partners that we wanted an excuse to remember that we’re romantic partners, too. The alarm went off during the podcast, and Heidi (our lovely assistant who, among other things, edits our podcasts) had the dangerous choice of either leaving it in or cutting it out. Her official position is that she left it in for humor value, but maybe it’s really because she loves Dyana Valentine more. (;

You can find Dyana Valentine at wokeupknowing.com and dyanavalentine.com.

To subscribe or listen to past episodes of Wild Crazy Meaningful Life, visit WildCrazyMeaningful.com. See you next time, and until then, keep on riding the spiritual rollercoaster!

With Johnny B. Truant:

Remove all the obstacles in the way of doing the thing you love the most. Set up the infrastructure to allow you to do ONLY THAT. Outsource the parts you don’
t love the most, or collaborate with others who have complementary strengths. Johnny tells his story of how he’s gotten to the point where he now writes 40,000 words per week, and loves it. His collaborators write the story architecture and do the editing, so he gets to focus on exactly what he loves the most: writing a rough draft from an outline in paragraph form. We take that example and apply it to anything, to help you do what you love the most.

Highlights:

• Kyeli’s “snake in the grass” metaphor
• Optimism and pessimism: where to draw the line
• Money fear: the most common block to doing what you love the most
• Putting in your 10,000 hours: the bad news and the good news

Our guest Johnny B. Truant can be found at johnnybtruant.com.

To subscribe or listen to past episodes of Wild Crazy Meaningful Life, visit WildCrazyMeaningful.com. See you next time, and until then, keep on riding the spiritual rollercoaster!

With Julica Hermann:

Where does perfectionism come from, why does it suck so much, and how can we heal from it? How is perfectionism related to shame, vulnerability, and control? Kyeli, in a courageous example of vulnerability, talks about her punctuation perfectionism and her dictation difficulties: feeling ashamed of being disabled and not wanting anyone to know how bad it really is.

Highlights:

• Pace’s perfectionism origin story
• perfectionism ends when it’s (1) too much, or (2) too empty
• original sin
• the body compass, and how to tell whether you’re getting guidance from your wise self or your tantrum-throwing inner two-year-old
• we’re all canoes on the ocean

Shout-outs:

• Jen Hofmann
• Brene Brown, who is not locked in our creepy stairway to nowhere
• Martha Beck on the body compass
• Jen Louden on shadow comfort

Our guest Julica Hermann can be found at julicahermann.com.

To subscribe or listen to past episodes of Wild Crazy Meaningful Life, visit WildCrazyMeaningful.com. See you next time, and until then, keep on riding the spiritual rollercoaster!

The 3 levels of awesomeness: fun (body/mind), fulfilling (heart), and aligned (soul). You can have fun without it being fulfilling, and you can have fulfillment without being aligned, but once you’re aligned, it all clicks into place.

Highlights:

• What “insephinous” means and how you can avoid it
• Pace’s “calling” to work in artificial intelligence – was it a true calling?
• Kyeli has a live epiphany about the triple soul
• Pace takes 2 bold stances: anti-killing and pro-heart
• Feeling worthy of love for who you are, not for what you do
• “We spend the first halves of our lives building up walls, and the second halves of our lives tearing them down.”
• Flow, mindfulness, and wholeheartedness

To subscribe or listen to past episodes of Wild Crazy Meaningful Life, visit WildCrazyMeaningful.com. See you next time, and until then, keep on riding the spiritual rollercoaster!

How you can have a sustainable creative practice that lights you up and nourishes you, even with a busy schedule. This applies to anything creative: writing, painting, photography, design, soapbox derby car sanding, what have you.

Highlights:

• how to tell the difference between burnout and natural change
• the two causes of burnout
• what to do if you don’t have time for your creative work
• what to do if you’re too tired to do your creative work
• what to do if you’re too overwhelmed to do your creative work
• what to do if you’re afraid of your creative work being judged harshly
• why creativity is important for yourself
• why creativity is important for the world

To subscribe or listen to past episodes of Wild Crazy Meaningful Life, visit WildCrazyMeaningful.com. See you next time, and until then, keep on riding the spiritual rollercoaster!

With Liz Lamoreux:

What’s the truth behind the glimpses you see into our lives on Instagram, on Facebook, on our blogs? What are our responsibilities as content consumers? What are our responsibilities as content creators – to avoid stepping on our readers’ toes? To be authentic? – and what does that even mean?

We don’t have a lot of answers, but please join us in the conversation!

Highlights:

• Pace drags the karaoke machine out of the creepy stairway to nowhere so Kyeli can sing “Instagram Girl” to the tune of Madonna’s “Material Girl”
• friends vs. fans
• openness vs. honesty
• the lie of social media
• spoiler warnings and trigger warnings
• the monkeysphere
• the assumptions we make about people’s lives, and the usual error
• Andrea Scher as an example of authenticity
• Jen Louden‘s concept of shadow comfort
• Pam Slim‘s high council of Jedi Knights, and her freakishly awesome ability to remember everyone and be super sweet to them all
• What lab rats can teach us about Facebook

Our guest Liz Lamoreux can be found at lizlamoreux.com and the post that inspired this podcast is here.

To subscribe or listen to past episodes of Wild Crazy Meaningful Life, visit WildCrazyMeaningful.com. See you next time, and until then, keep on riding the spiritual rollercoaster!

We help spiritual world-changers live wild crazy meaningful lives. Our first 3 episodes will be about each of these: wild, crazy, and meaningful. This time: Meaningful.

Living a meaningful life means following your heart’s calling. Living a meaningful life means choosing your own meaning, not living by anyone else’s. Living a meaningful life means
saying goodbye to those pangs of self-doubt and ennui, those disturbing moments of “What the hell am I doing with my life?” Living a meaningful life means feeling fulfilled every day, knowing deep down in your bones that you are living in alignment with your heart.

Highlights:

• “What would people say about me at my funeral?” and the inside-out principle
• Is a guru on a mountaintop living a meaningful life? Pace and Kyeli disagree! (sort of)
• The Puritan Myth, the Industrial Revolution, and organized religion
• Maslow’s Pyramid, Maslow’s Basement, and the importance of self-care
• The triple soul as taught by the Feri tradition
• Does everyone have a guiding voice inside their heart?
• What kinds of spiritual practice are effective? Is there one best practice?
• How to find the meaning inside your heart
• An on-the-spot guided meditation
• What to do if you can’t find the meaning inside your heart

Featuring special guests Kady and Phineas, our two cats!

To subscribe or listen to past episodes of Wild Crazy Meaningful Life, visit WildCrazyMeaningful.com. See you next time, and until then, keep on riding the spiritual rollercoaster!

We help spiritual world-changers live wild crazy meaningful lives. Our first 3 episodes will be about each of these: wild, crazy, and meaningful. This time: Crazy.

Living a crazy life is what it may look like from the outside when you live a wild life, because you’re no longer acting in a way that makes everyone around you feel comfortable. But on the inside, it doesn’t feel crazy at all – it feels peaceful, adventurous, creative, free.

It’s not really about “crazy” at all – it’s about the usual error. It’s about compassion. And it’s about Pace & Kyeli’s creepy stairway to nowhere.

Highlights:

• Quitting your cushy, steady job is crazy
• Vegans are crazy
• Republicans are crazy
• Democrats are crazy
• Tim Ferriss is crazy
• Jonathan Fields is crazy

with tangents on communication, compassion, “I” statements, and changing the world.

When you think “That’s crazy, I could never do that,” ask yourself “Is that really true?”

To subscribe or listen to past episodes of Wild Crazy Meaningful Life, visit WildCrazyMeaningful.com. See you next time, and until then, keep on riding the spiritual rollercoaster!

We help spiritual world-changers live wild crazy meaningful lives. Our first 3 episodes will be about each of these: wild, crazy, and meaningful. First up: Wild.

Kelly Kingman of KingmanInk.com drew some dazzling sketchnotes for this podcast! Thanks so much, Kelly!

Click to enlarge:

This episode also features:

• What do horses and Doctor Who have in common?
• Hegel
• The Monty Python drunken philosophers song
• LARPing

We apologize for the poor audio quality of this episode! We forgot to change the input source to our good mic, and it used the crappy laptop mic. Episode 2 will sound much better.

Living a wild life means no longer being ruled by fear, stress, and anxiety.

Living a wild life means letting go of being who others expect you to be and having the courage to be yourself – your true self.

Living a wild life means freeing yourself from the chains that keep you stuck, complacent, normal.

Why the world needs you to live a wild life:

• Maria and her monkeysphere
• Paradigm Glue
• the ripple effect

Some of the most common obstacles to living a wild life are:

1. The habit of seeking validation from others
2. Feeling pressured by friends, family, and peers to meet their expectations
3. Fear of the unknown wildness brings up stress and anxiety:
   • Fear of doing it wrong
   • Fear of losing comfort, losing the familiar
   • Fear of being ridiculed
   • Fear that no one will love the real you
   • Fear of losing your job
4. Living in a culture of conformity – e.g. 9-to-5 jobs
5. Feeling like wildness is costly, like “doing whatever I want” e.g. travel

To subscribe or listen to past episodes of Wild Crazy Meaningful Life, visit WildCrazyMeaningful.com. See you next time, and until then, keep on riding the spiritual rollercoaster!