Remember to lean on family and friends. They love you.

Sometimes we don’t want to impose on those who are close to us.

But ask yourself, “if ______ needed me, would I be there and would I want to help ________?”

You know you would, and that’s how they feel about you too.

Maybe you don’t need to pour your feelings out to someone. But the holiday has you thinking about a past love….

You can still make the holiday a positive one by getting involved with it.

Give a small Valentine’s gift to someone, perhaps your mother or a niece or nephew, or a close friend…you get the picture.

Giving is actually a gift to ourselves. We feel good when we give to others. You can’t help but feel better when you make someone you love happy.

What about your ex?

Valentine’s is a great excuse to contact them as well.

If things are strained, it may be the perfect olive branch to get dialogue going with them again.

You could do something as simple as a text or phone call saying “Happy Valentine’s Day, I hope all is well with you.”

Or if relations have been improving and you think it would be welcome, a thoughtful gift given in person might really make them feel great (and you as well!) .

Maybe things are just not there yet for you and contacting them is out of the question right now?

Don’t be discouraged. Remember you don’t have to get them back in one day (although that would be great wouldn’t it?)

You can take small steps each day and each week, to get you closer to where you want to be.

Remember…

…you are loved by your friends and family…

…your breakup is not a reflection of you.

Let me say that again because it’s an
important point we miss too often…

…your breakup is not a reflection of you!

You are still the great person you were before you met this person and you always will be.

Things WILL get better. They always do.

I’m pulling for you. I truly hope you reunite with the one you love.

More than that, I hope you are happy and this time is a good one for you.

All the best,

Annalyn

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What a beautiful and touching story.

There are many lessons we can take from Teddy’s story. Maybe the most obvious lesson is that it is just too easy for us to have a narrow, and often negative, view of others.

It’s sad to say, but sometimes it’s just too easy to see faults in others and to notice their shortcomings. It’s pretty scary for me to think that my friends and loved ones can just as easily notice all my flaws as well!

As human’s, we’re built to notice these things rather easily. In fact, research has shown that we remember the negative much more easily and readily than we do the positive. Politicians have always known this, which is why their campaigns focus so heavily on mudslinging the opponent.

However, when we take the opposite stance the world literally comes alive for us in the most amazing way. By embracing the unique strength skills, talents, beauty, and wonder in all our close friends, relatives, and even aquantainces, we are often rewarded more than we ever could have imagined.

So what does all this have to do with getting back together with your ex?

Consider this….

After a relationship ends, our natural inclination is to worry that we are going to lose this relationship forever. Losing someone who you love so much is a natural fear.

And that’s a keyword to remember. Fear.

Because of fear, we do some crazy things! We beg and plead for a lover or spouse to stay with us. We say and do things we regret. We just aren’t ourselves because we’re so worried about losing someone.

Think of the teacher in Teddy’s story. Initially, she noticed so many things about Teddy that could be perceived as negative. Perhaps, she didn’t fear Teddy, but it’s safe to say she didn’t approach her relationship with him from a place of love at that time.

But she was a bright and sensitive woman. After hearing one comment by Teddy, she made a decision to change the way she approached teaching forever.

And that single decision changed both their lives forever.

Once she began showing genuine concern and love for Teddy, things changed for the better.

I’d be willing to bet 100 people could watch that video and come away with 100 different lessons.

For me, the main lesson is to approach your relationships from a place of love not fear.

If you read my email mini-course, the 10 Biggest Breakup Mistakes, you see 10 examples of behavior that comes from fear, not love. Begging, pleading, negotiating, making your ex jealous, and so on….. these are all examples of the way we act when we are afraid we are going to lose someone forever.

But we’ll get much farther in our relationships if we come from a place of love, not fear.

So show genuine care and concern for the special people in your life. Be forgiving and be caring towards your ex. Listen and truly try to understand where they are coming from, even if you disagree with them. Do something nice for your ex, with no expectations attached. You get the idea.

I promise you that you will drastically improve your chances of getting back together by acting on love, not fear.

To your success,

Annalyn

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Want to feel love? Give love!

Want to attract love? Give love!

Want to break down walls? Give love!

Or as of my no-nonsense friend likes to say - “you get what you give!”

Love can be anything at any time… a smile to a stranger, a surprise gift to someone you love, wishing someone good luck on big day… you name it.

I could elaborate for hours, but this video is probably more entertaining and fun to watch! How much love to you think the main subjects felt doing this campaign?

Now imagine how giving true, sincere, heartfelt, unconditional (i.e. no strings attached) love could benefit you in all your relationships? Wouldn’t all your relationships be stronger? Wouldn’t you feel better? Don’t you think most of the people in your life would give love back to you in some form?

I can promise you without hesitation that most, if not all of your relationships will be better. And most, if not all the people in your life will show give you love in return, in one form or another.

Love and blessings,
Annalyn

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Last week we talked about how the 5 ways to reestablish trust from our partner.

But what if you are the one who is learning to trust again? Well, there’s some work for you to do too. It may be tough at first, but the rewards are many and it is worth it!

This may not apply to your situation now, but it is my hope that it will apply soon.

When you get back together with your ex, you’re gonna need to be able to move forward, and not set yourself up for a breakup cycle by not resolving issues of the past.

Here are the best ways to move forward and put your problems behind you so you can trust again.

1. Forgive - If your partner is willingly and sincerely taking action, then you must forgive that person. Forgiveness is a two way street. And even if you are skeptical, you still need to forgive the offense and forgive the person. Remember, forgiveness is a gift to YOU, as much, if not moreso, to the person being forgiven.

2. Communicate - Like most relationship issues, there is usually a “reason behing the reason.” Talk to them and let them know how you felt because of what happened. And try to find out what was the reason behind their action. Do this in a non-accusatory way, without blame, and you have a much better opportunity to get to the heart of the matter.

Successful relationships require two people who are good at resolving problems. You had a problem that hurt your relationship. But if you can really get to the heart of it, and really resolve the problem between the two of you, then you can kiss the problem goodbye and it won’t harm your relationship again in the future.

3. Acknowledge - If your partner is making progress in righting their wrong and reestablishing your trust, acknowledge it. Let them know you appreciate their effort and how much it means to you. Little compliments and acknowledgements go a long way!

4. Be patient - The process of reestablishing trust lasts a long time. Be patient with your spouse. And be grateful for the progress they are making. Eventually you will come to a place where you can see the change is sincere and the wrong has been righted.

5. Truly forgive - Why is this step here twice? Because many times we forgive the other person, but somewhere deep inside, we hold on to the hurt and we don’t forget what happened.

Now, this is natural. It’s our own defense mechanism to protect us from getting hurt again.

And, of course, we will never forget what happened. But we have to truly forgive and let go of it.

Meaning, we have to forget about it as much as possible. If we don’t, this problem could rear it’s head in other ways. Therapist offices are filled with many people who have unknowingly hurt their loved one in various ways because of the leftover hurt and bitterness of an unresolved offense many years prior.

** If you are religious, it helps to develop the habit of praying together every day, usually just before bed. It is pretty much impossible to stay mad at your loved one when you pray together and it will bring you closer together.

I realize you may be apart from your loved one and some of this may not apply to you now. But I’m confident you will be together again, and when that happens you’ll need to be able to know how to move forward without getting tripped up by issues of the past.

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“I broke my ex’s Trust, and currently feels that it can not be re-earned.
Any thoughts would be great.”

Thanks for the message Eddie and hopefully many people can benefit as we bring this issue to light. I’ll try and help as much as I can.

If you need to re-establish trust in your relationship, here are the steps to take. This is the best and most honest way re-gain the trust of your ex.

1. Apologize. Trust building starts with a true, sincere, honest, heart-felt apology. You must show remorse for any wrong doing on your part. Tell your ex you know you have hurt them and that you broke their trust. Take responsibility for your actions. Do not make excuses. And do not ask for anything in return.

Maybe it’s been awhile since you’ve spoken to your ex. It doesn’t matter. Call them up. You’ll feel better and so will they.

Remember, we’re not begging, bartering, pleading or negotiating here. We’re apologizing. No matter the circumstance, it’s always a good thing to apologize when it is necessary.

2. Listen. It’s important to truly listen to your ex at this point. Again, don’t make excuses. Acknowledge their pain. Obviously you don’t want to be judgemental, argumentative, or defensive.

It’s most important to listen at this time, be understanding, and acknowledge the thoughts and feelings your ex shares with you.

3. Right the wrong. Be accountable for whatever you may have done which caused the trust to be broken. The best way to do this is to rectify the problem if possible. For example, if there was a relationship with someone else, end it. If there was something stolen, return it. These examples may not apply to you, but you get the lesson here.

Take it a step further and let your ex know when you are again tempted to do that which originally broke the trust. This isn’t to punish yourself, although it may feel that way at first. It’s just to demonstrate that you are being accountable, and taking action to make sure it doesn’t happen again. Actions DO speak louder than words!

4. Consistency is the key. Take advantage of all opportunities to prove your trustworthiness. Like the old saying goes - “one misstep can eliminate 10 atta-boys.” The best way to do this is by being considerate and honest in all things, no matter how small they may appear.

5. Be patient. Don’t expect immediate results. Depending on the circumstance, the path to trustworthiness may require baby steps. But if you are consistent in your actions, you will get there. Your love can and will trust you again.

Maybe you didn’t commit the offense in your relationship that caused the trust to be compromised. Perhaps it was your ex. Do you need to forgive your ex and trust again?

Chances are it is one of the top 3 reasons couples do not get back together.

1. Fear. Fear of rejection. Fear of being hurt. Fear of what your ex will say. Fear of putting yourself out there “on the line.” Fear of the unknown — what COULD happen!

It’s enough to hinder you to the point of inaction.

But the fact remains, if you don’t “put yourself out there” sometimes, you won’t get anywhere. No risk, no reward.

Don’t be afraid. As long as you avoid the mistakes from the Biggest Breakup Mistakes series, only good things can happen!

2. Pride. This runs neck and neck with fear as a top reason couples are unable to get back together.

Let’s face it, at the end of a relationship, things are said and done which are often regrettable.

Our feelings are hurt. Our egos are damaged. And in order to recover and cope with the breakup, we cling to our pride.

Add to that our basic human desire to be “right.”

We desperately want to believe that we are in the right, and our ex is in the wrong.

It’s our way of telling ourselves that we are ok. There’s nothing wrong with this. We are ok and it’s good that we think well of ourselves during tough times like this.

But often our pride prevents us from moving int he right direction with our ex’s.

It prevents us from saying how we REALLY feel. Or it prevents us from really tackling the core reason why you broke up in the first place.

Frankly, we would be best served by humbling ourselves and opening ourselves up to our special someone. If your ex is indeed your true love, you should be able to demonstrate humility, let go of your pride and be completely open and honest.

If you are can overcome your pride, then chances are you can overlook past mistakes and forgive your ex. Or maybe it will give you the strength to ask for forgiveness yourself if it is needed. Or it will help you to tackle the real issues that are keeping you apart.

3. Inability to overcome obstacles.

Many times we allow an obstacle to get in the way of reconciling. It’s just too easy to say “oh well, I tried.” I know because I’ve done it!

But in the end, there’s a solution for every obstacle. That’s right, every one of them.

Despite what the gurus would have you believe, there are no solutions that work 100% of the time, simply because we all possess free will to do as we please. If anyone tells you otherwise, run (don’t walk) in the other direction!

That said, there are things we can do to overcome all obstacles. For every situation, there is a solution.

Let me say that again….

For every situation, there is a solution.

I have seen miracles in my own relationships, and now I have seen it play out successfully for thousands around the world who have learned the do’s and dont’s from this newsletter and Win Back Love.

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All the best,
Annalyn

Too often in life we think of happiness as a destination.

We say things like:

“When I make this much money, then I’ll be happy.”

“When I live in this town, then I’ll be happy.”

“When my ex comes back to me, then I’ll be happy.”

“When _______ happens, then I’ll be happy.”

You could probably think of hundreds of variations of this same idea. The idea that we can be happy later, depending on a condition.

While all of those things may actually bring happiness, there is no need to wait. You can be
happy right now.

I realize you are going through a tough time right now. Going through a breakup is one of the hardest things we have to go through in our lives. The feelings we have don’t go away quickly, but rather, they can last for a considerable time, depending on the situation.

But that doesn’t mean you can’t find happiness. Instead of thinking of happiness as a destination, consider it as a resource.

Happiness can be felt from smiling to a stranger. Returning money you find on the street and giving it to it’s rightful owner will make you happy. So can taking your dog for a walk.

I’m sorry, I hope this doesn’t seem like I am trivializing happiness. I’m just trying to point out (as someone special to me recently pointed out to me), happiness is a resource and we can find it in many forms throughout our day.

And most often, it’s these small opportunities that present themselves throughout the day that, if we are paying attention, are good opportunities to find joy. When you’re going through a breakup, you can use all the joy you can find.

And speaking of joy, I wish you all the joy in the world this Thanksgiving, and I hope you have a absolutely wonderful weekend.

All the best,
Annalyn

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The vast majority of all breakups are caused by the following groups of triggers: Stop your break up by avoiding these mistakes

1. Infidelity

It’s a big one! Relationships are born on trust, and the cornerstone of that trust, in a traditional relationship at least, is an exclusive physical bond. When one of the partners breaches that trust by becoming physically intimate with someone else, the setback is very difficult to recover from. If the relationship survives the initial incident there is always going to be doubt about the level of trust between you. The best way of recovering from this problem is never to put yourself in the position in the first place.

2. Boredom

Some relationships just get dull. One partner or the other, or sometimes both, will just realize they are not having fun in the relationship anymore. The worst part is when two people realize they are still together out of habit, not out of love. Restoring a flame is certainly possible, but when your relationship gets to this point you need to realize that it is going to take some real effort to pick it up and get going again.

3. Too Much Control/Not Enough Freedom

From either side of the fence this is dangerous. A controlling partner wants to train someone into their idea of a perfect partner. Generally they won’t trust them enough to give them freedom to grow and be themselves. When you don’t trust your partner it is always very difficult to be in a relationship. From the other perspective, having a controlling partner is a nightmare. You simply don’t have room to be you or freedom to enjoy the things that make you unique. You are smothered and unhappy. It’s not the end of the road when a relationship goes down this path, but it is very difficult for a controlling partner to give up their control.

4. Conflicts

When you are a couple there is plenty to argue over. Money is usually amongst the top things to trigger an argument. Sometimes it’s hard enough to run your own life without having to deal with someone else’s. Couples can argue over anything from the way he looked at another girl to the way she looks in a dress. The list is really endless. Where you find yourselves arguing a lot it’s best to take a bigger picture look and ask if you are arguing about the toilet seat being left up, or whether the true cause of your frustration is something deeper than that.

5. The Little Things

Here I’m talking about those little annoyances that grate and grate over time and become big annoyances. Anything from cracking knuckles to the way he chews his food can be a n annoyance that grows over time. Luckily it’s usually pretty easy to straighten these out. Just take a chill pill and don’t be bugged by them so much. Where that’s not possible let your partner know they are annoying you. They probably have no idea, and with a little conscious effort can stop the offending habit relatively quickly.

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