It’s finished! It’s Done! And you helped create it!  

Recently I held a workshop that many of you attended. I asked for your input and if you would share with me the key things you would find most helpful and what would be the easiest way for you to receive and absorb it. (After all, it’s only helpful if you actually get through it, right?) Soooo…

  Thank you to all who responded.

This new system is now available for you and I believe this is something that will truly enhance your life, support your progress and magnify your success!

To hear more about it please click the link below and it will take you to a short presentation…

 The 3 Step System to Revitalize Your Life, Goals and Relationships 

P.S. I have a NEW free gift for you!  Download your F.R.E.E. Special Report; Conquering Change, Take the Scary out of Transitions and receive my complimentary bi-monthly ezine by filling out the big green box at the top of the page!

Summer Doldrums

Here is a list of 25 fun and thoughtful things you can do to cheer someone else up (and yourself in the process):

1. Reverse gossip; share something nice about someone you know.
2. Send an older person a beautiful card, (did you know old folks tend to not get a lot of mail these days and they love it!).
3. Forfeit the war for the good parking space with a smile and a wave.
4. Pay a nice compliment to a stranger.
5. Spray your neighbor’s weeds while you’re out spraying your own!
6. Spend an afternoon chatting with people at a Senior Center! These folks are lovely and very friendly.
7. Grab a shopping cart from the grocery parking lot on your way into the store.
8. Ask to speak to a manager and comment on what a good job you think they are doing.
9. Offer to take care of someone’s children for an afternoon so  mom can have a few hours to herself.
10. Offer to water someone’s plants while they are on vacation.
11. Include someone you know in one of your regular activities.
12. Send or take a care package to someone who is sick.(books, magazines and their favorite goodies)
13. Offer to go to the grocery store for an older person in your neighborhood.
14. Let someone cut in during rush hour traffic.
15. Let someone with just a few items go ahead of you in the checkout line.
16. Share your special skill with someone who is interested in learning it.
17. Adopt a pet from a shelter that is going to be euthanized.
18. Wave to a child in a car.
19. Volunteer your time for a worthy cause.
20. Take dog bones, food and toys to a dog shelter.
21. While you’re at it, volunteer to walk a few dogs.
22. Smile and say hello to everyone you see today.
23. Take the time to pay someone a sincere compliment on their appearance or something they are doing.
24. Leave a surprise anonymous gift, flower or plant on someone’s doorstep or desk at the office.
25. Don’t just hemorrhage from laughter…alert your friend about the toilet paper strand that is stuck to her shoe as she prances out of the restroom at the restaurant.

Do you have any ideas on how to cheer someone up? We’d love to hear them… please share them in the comments section below! Stay cool, stay positive and enjoy your summer!

P.S. For more ideas on how to stay positive sign up for the F.R.E.E. 21 Day Attitude Adjustment Course and receive my complimentary bi-monthly ezine by filling out the big green box at the top of the page!

Saturday was my adorable granddaughter’s first ballet recital. Yup, a star is born. As I watched her confidently dancing in her beautiful blue costume my heart swelled with pride and joy. It seems like only yesterday it was my Lexi up there performing. Where did the time go?

Flowers? For me?

After the show as we filed out of the auditorium to wait with flowers for our little celebrity I ran into a couple of Alexis’s friends from high school, now with little stars of their own.  It seems like only yesterday these very women were only girls whispering and giggling on the phone together. Where did the time go?

If I close my eyes, become very still and think back I can almost remember the feeling of being on the stage myself; the smell of backstage, the camaraderie of my fellow performers and the bonding ceremony of putting on our stage makeup. Where did the time go?

As my mother and I crowed about how fabulous our Kenzi did the conversation drifted to a time in my mother’s past when she danced for her father with her dance class at the veteran’s hospital, just before her father died. She still remembers her mother sewing special velvet dots on her costume wings when the other girls only had ink spots on their wings. Where did the time go?

As I write this post I wonder if Alexis knows how special these times are and is she really taking the time to really savor the moment.  Not just the photo image but all the details of the glorious and juicy emotions of these mile markers.  There will come a time when she will say where did the time go?

Mile markers, are you counting them? Are you really taking them in? Are you making moments?

But more importantly…is there something more you want to do? Is there something you’ve been waiting to do “when the time is right?” Don’t wait, time flies, do it now. Five or ten years from now you will be looking at photographs and saying, where did the time go?

Time is our most precious commodity. Find your passion. Unearth those buried desires and dreams and start now. If you wait for the perfect time it will never come.

“Don’t do nothing because you can’t do everything.  Do something.  Anything.”

 Colleen Patrick-Goudreau

Role Models

I just had to share! I just downloaded this shot of Poppy, (the little one) and Shealy Ann, (the bigger one) after being “sprung” from the laundry room.

 
Even though they were not present for the session they both are glowing examples of how to pivot out of a negative spiral after an unplanned or unpleasant occurrence. Now I’m not sure if they were able to find anything positive about the temporary confinement but they both appeared to be catching up on some sleep when I opened the door. However I am positive they were able to completely  leave the incident in the past. After a quick treat both were happy and ready to play!

Also wanted to thank all of you who are attending the workshop and for all the wonderful emails! If you missed this workshop not to worry  new workshops are coming soon!

Until then, enjoy these insightful thoughts that were emailed to me some time ago that were so profound I kept them for sharing at an appropriate moment. If you’ve read them before they are worth a second read:

What dogs can teach us

If dogs were teachers, you would learn stuff like….

· When loved ones come home, always run to greet them.

· Never pass up the opportunity to go for a joyride.

· Allow the experience of fresh air and the wind in your face to be pure ecstasy.

· When it’s in your best interest, practice obedience.

· Let others know when they’ve invaded your territory.

· Take naps.

· Stretch before rising.

· Run, romp, and play daily.

· Thrive on attention and let people touch you.

· Avoid biting when a simple growl will do.

· On warm days, stop to lie on your back on the grass.

· On hot days, drink lots of water and lie under a shady tree.

· When you’re happy, dance around & wag your entire body.

· No matter how often you’re scolded, don’t buy into the guilt thing and pout…run right back and make friends.

· Delight in the simple joy of a long walk.

· Eat with gusto and enthusiasm.

· Stop when you have had enough.

· Be loyal.

· Never pretend to be something you’re not.

· If what you want lies buried, dig until you find it.

· When someone is having a bad day, be silent, sit close by and nuzzle them gently.

Author unknown, but whoever you are…. thank you!

How’s your attitude lately?

Take this short quiz and find out!

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Could your attitude use some work? I invite you to join me (as my guest) for the FUN F.R.E.E. Positive Attitude Workshop on Tuesday, May 25th at 5:00pm Pacific.

Take charge of your attitude. Don’t let someone else choose it for you.
– Author Unknown

There is still time to join us, scroll down below and register today!

P.S. By the way, I am really hoping you can make this call but I know there are times when, well…things just happen. So rest assured you won’t miss a thing. If you register a recorded version of the call will be sent to you if for some reason you are unable to attend.

P.P.S. If you receive this via email click http://www.womenintransitiononline.com/deborah-speaks/ to view the quizz!

You see, I am unveiling my new Interactive Workshop and I would be honored if you would attend the first of the Three Part Sessions F.R.E.E. as my special guest.

It’s my way of saying thank you to all of you  who’ve supported me by requesting my 21 Day Attitude Adjustment Course, reading my newsletter regularly and, of course, those of you who I have had the privilege of working with!

Many of you have been reading my blog from when it first went Live and have witnessed the many changes that have occurred here.   

(So today I’d like to take this opportunity to Thank You and say congratulations to you all for taking action to improve your lives and Get Your Year in Gear!)

Now, it’s MY turn to give you something back…

I cordially invite you to join me for the first Session, via teleconference call, of the power packed Positive Attitude Workshop entitled:

SECRETS of a POSTIVE ATTITUDE REVEALED
How to acquire and maintain a positive attitude
And revitalize your life, goals and relationships

This workshop is designed enhance your ability to implement the 5 simple habits in the 21 Day Attitude Adjustment e-course. (By the way, if you don’t currently subscribe to my e-zine or have yet to take the 21 Day Attitude Adjustment Course, you can do so by putting your name and email address in the Big Green Box at the top of the page!)

  During this fun and enlightening interactive call with me, you’ll discover:
 
• How to recognize negative programming habits that tear down personal motivation and hinder your success.
• The relationship between intent and attitude and how to use it to your advantage.
• New insight into how you personally process information. 
• A simple and enlightening exercise to clarify your best traits and the best way to focus on them.
• The number one reason why most people aren’t able to change their habits and how to correct it.
• And much, much more…

This workshop includes interesting activities and exercises that will encourage you to reflect, engage and expand your understanding and learning. You will come to see the significance of acquiring a positive attitude and how to create and maintain one.

So Please Be My Guest and Join me on this F.R.E.E. Interactive call where we will reveal the Secrets to a Positive Attitude:

Reserve Your Seat Now
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
5:00 pm PT and 8:00 pm ET

Discover the Value something as simple sounding as “A POSITIVE ATTITUDE” can have on your personal and business relationships, goals and life dreams! By the way, I am really hoping you can make this call but I know there are times when, well…things just happen. So rest assured you won’t miss a thing. If you register a recorded version of the call will be sent to you after if you are unable to attend. If you have any questions please don’t hesitate to contact me. I always love hearing from you.

 I hope you can join me on the 25th!  

Sincerely,  

Deborah Hayes                                                                                                                                                                                                deborah@womenintransitiononline.com  

P.S. One more favor! Can you help me spread the word? If you know someone who would be interested in” Discovering the Secrets of a Positive Attitude” please forward this email to them and ask them to join us! If you do bring someone with you tell them to put your name on the registration in the “referred by” box on the form and you’ll receive a special bonus from me which I will tell you about at the end of the call!    

P.P.S. Please know that I am very excited about the interactive feature of our call.  We will have the opportunity to converse at times during the call! However it will require me to limit the number of participants, so please act now by clicking on the link below and register today!

SEATS ARE LIMITED

 Tuesday, May 25th

5:00 pm Pacific Time

Reserve Your Seat Now

I don’t know about you but I have always been intrigued by this concept and yesterday I believe I have experienced just such an event!!! Really, the craziest thing just happened to me.

You know, for the past month or so I have been working VERY hard on a new workshop I will be unveiling very soon. Consequently I have been doing an awful lot of research, writing and working some very long solitary hours. As a result of this I am afraid I have fallen into a bad habit. I find myself becoming lost in the project and looking up to find it is evening and my brain is simply numb and empty. Lately I have been stumbling into the TV room, turning it on with the intention of turning the brain off for a little while and I wind up spending the rest of the evening in a television stupor. It doesn’t seem to even matter what I watch!

Now if you read my blog much you all know how I feel about television and its effect on our creativity and attitude. I am one who would like to find the strength to simply get rid of my television entirely. So I have to tell you I was definitely feeling guilty  spewing about the evils of TV and being the very one who was watching news and murder mysteries till the wee hours of the night! Yup, shame on me.  

So here’s the synchronicity thing…

Last night I had just finished writing the article, “Positive Attitude and Staying Fired Up” for this week’s e-zine and I sauntered into the den and switched on the cable news channel and silently told myself, “Geez, I have to stay somewhat connected to the world, right? I’ve hardly been out of this house. I’ll just watch it for a little while and then turn it off.”

The den lit up and the sound of my favorite commentator filled the silence as I went and prepared a salad. Just as I sat down at the breakfast bar to eat it while I watched it suddenly switched off. Just like that it was silent. Hmmm. Ok, I’ll just reboot the cable box. That’s the problem for sure. Four minutes later it switched off again. This rather frustrating scenario repeated itself about four times and then it happened.

I noticed the soft red blinking indicator light on the front of the TV. A sinking feeling ensued followed by frustration and anger. The “Lamp Unit” has burned out. Now this has happened once before and will happen again but for now there will be NO TV until I order the part and replace it.

As I  mentally fretted about what I might do with the rest of this evening to unwind it occurred to me I had just finished writing an article about staying fired up and even offered an exercise  to help us notice how negativity can creep itself into our lives and the effect it has on our attitude.

Enjoy the silence...

Doctor heal thyself! Here’s the good news:

 I eventually closed my tired eyes, dusted off and listened to one of my favorite motivation tapes. Very inspiring and pleasant I might add.

Tonight, which is approaching, I plan to dig through and revisit some of my forgotten and favorite CD’s I discovered while digging for the manual for the TV. I am actually looking forward to this. There are some great memories in these songs!

I will also spend some quiet time on my porch enjoying the last of the cool evenings and have a really good conversation with myself. It’s a perfect opportunity to the listen to some of thoughts or conversations that occur in my head.

Did you know that the average person has over 60,000 thoughts per day! Amazing isn’t? I told you I’ve been researching!! Silence, it’s a good thing.

If you are interested in learning more about the 5 simple habits that can change your life sign up for the 21 Day Attitude Adjustment Course!

P.S. By the way, watch for the upcoming F.R.E.E. Attitude Adjustment Workshop coming VERY soon!

Our shoulders are broad and strong. We are blamed, admired and revered in fairy tales as both wicked and kind and we are the fodder for countless jokes; consequently a number of comedians likely owe their success to us.  Indeed attempts to define our enigma can be seen from books to the physiologist’s couch and still our mystery remains.

This day always brings back the childhood memory of the “breakfast in bed” tradition for my mother. In fact I can still smell the bacon and recall with detail the bustle as my father and all of my siblings contributed to the breakfast effort and the tiny kitchen it occurred in. I remember the excitement as my Dad carried the final results on a tray with a little flower down the hall as we all followed to surprise my Mom with the annual feast. Right on cue she feigned surprise and delight while I am sure she wondered what she would find to clean up in her kitchen and the effort it took for her to stay in bed and listen as the commotion ensued!  I also remember being scolded by the family to not eat Mom’s breakfast and my secret delight as I stayed behind, snuggled next to my mom as we shared her special treat! I thought I was so sneaky and yet, everyone really knew!

Memories, we all have them. And so it comes again. That time when we try to show our Mom’s our appreciation for all the years, good and bad, that we shared,  what we bring with us today and what we have passed on to our own children.

I had such fun collecting what I feel are some of the BEST quotes and sayings about Moms. I hope you take a moment to read these and experience a sense of inspiration.

Take a seat and enjoy!

“Though motherhood is the most important of all the professions – requiring more knowledge than any other department in human affairs – there was no attention given to preparation for this office.”

–Elizabeth Cady Stanton

“And so our mothers and grandmothers have, more often than not anonymously, handed on the creative spark, the seed of the flower they themselves never hoped to see – or like a sealed letter they could not plainly read.”

–Alice Walker

“It was when I had my first child that I understood how much my mother loved me.”

From “For Mother – A bouquet of Sentiments”

“It is not until you become a mother that your judgment slowly turns to compassion and understanding.”

–Erma Bombeck

“What took me by surprise is the way I feel when her face lights up when I walk into a room because I am her world and she is mine. Being a mother is like taking your heart out of your chest and watching it walk around.”

–Author Unknown

“The greatest thing she’d learned over the years is that there’s no way to be a perfect mother, but a million ways to be a good one.”

– Author Unknown

“When a child enters the world through you it alters everything on a psychic, psychological and purely practical level.”

–Jane Fonda

“Motherhood is not for the faint-hearted. Frogs, skinned knees and the insults of teenage girls are not meant for the wimpy.”

–Danielle Steel

“Now, as always, the most automated appliance in a household is the mother.”

–Beverly Jones

“The lullaby is the spell whereby the mother attempts to transform herself back from an ogre to a saint.”

–James Fenton

“Grown don’t mean nothing to a mother. A child is a child. They get bigger, older, but grown? What’s that suppose to mean? In my heart it don’t mean a thing.”

– Toni Morrison

“The story of a mother’s life: Trapped between a scream and a hug.”

–Cathy Guisewite, “Like Mother, Like Daughter”

“Adorable children are considered to be the general property of the human race. Rude children belong to their mothers.”

–Judith Martin

“People always talked about a mother’s uncanny ability to read her children, but that was nothing compared to how children could read their mothers.”

–Anne Tyler

“A vacation frequently means that the family goes away for a rest, accompanied by mother, who sees that the others get it.”

–Marcelene Cox

“Children seldom misquote you. They more often repeat word for word what you shouldn’t have said.”

–Mae Maloo

“Mothers are fonder than fathers of their children because they are more certain they are their own.”

–Aristotle

“It kills you to see them grow up. But I guess it would kill you quicker if they didn’t.”

–Barbara Kingsolver

“When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child.”

–Sophia Loren, Women and Beauty

“Mothers hold their children’s hands for a short while, but their hearts forever.”

–Author Unknown

“A mother’s arms are more comforting than anyone else’s.”

– Diana, Princess of Wales

A little girl, asked where her home was, replied, “where mother is.”
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  — Keith L. Brooks

“A daughter reminds you of all the things you had forgotten about being young. Good and bad.”

–Maeve O’Reilly

“There is a point at which you aren’t as much mom and daughter as you are adults and friends.”

–Jamie Lee Curtis

“Be a first rate version of yourself, not a second rate version of someone else.”

–Judy Garland, to her daughter, Liza Minnelli

“No matter how old a mother is, she watches her middle-aged children for signs of improvement.”
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    — Florida Scott-Maxwell

“Youth fades, love droops, the leaves of friendship fall; a mother’s secret hope outlives them all.”

–Oliver Wendell Holmes

A hundred years from now…it will not matter what my bank account was, the sort of house I lived in, or the kind of car I drove…but the world may be different because I was important in the life of a child.”

–Kathy Davis

“Children should be taught not the little virtues but the great ones. Not thrift but generosity and an indifference to money; not caution but courage and contempt for danger; not a desire for success but a desire to be and to know.”

–Natalia Ginzburg

“A mother is a person who seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie.”

–Tenneva Jordan

“If at first you don’t succeed, do it the way your mother told you to.”
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  — Author Unknown

“Motherhood brings as much joy as ever, but it still brings boredom, exhaustion and sorrow too. Nothing else ever will make you as happy or as sad, as proud or as tired, for nothing is quite as hard as helping a person develop his own individuality especially while you struggle to keep your own.”

–Marguerite Kelly and Elia Parsons

“What would men be without women? Scarce sir, mighty scarce.”

–Mark Twain

• According to the US Census Bureau there are 82.5 million mothers in the United States.
• Mother’s Day is widely reported as the peak day of the year for long distance telephone calls.
• Mother’s Day is the busiest day of the year for many restaurants. (Try and get in one on Sunday!)
• Retailers report that Mother’s Day is the second highest gift-giving holiday in the United States (Second to Christmas).

I hope you enjoyed these thoughts and quotes offered by and about mothers throughout time. We are many and we are special. When Mother’s Day arrives take a moment to appreciate yourself and all the mothers in the world for the important caring work we do every day of every year.

Happy Mother’s Day

 to you all

 Deborah Hayes

We are a totally unique demographic and very diverse. We can be mothers, grandmothers and caring for our own mothers all at the same time. We can be large or small business owners, retired, still working or just retiring. We can be grandmothers raising our grandchildren. We can be starting second or third careers at age 50 and beyond. Never before has this occurred.

Yes, these are exciting times for us and we are all doing some pretty exciting things.  It gives me great pleasure to provide a platform for us to support each other’s endeavors and share our stories and triumphs.

I recently featured Ms Chloe Jon Paul in an interview and she has extended a very special invitation I would like to share with you:

Hello ~

Here is an invitation I hope you won’t refuse!  Chloe Jon Paul has invited me to “launch” and has extended the invitation to my friends as well.

Chloe is launching her Best Seller campaign, which will run between April 27^th and May 3^rd on Amazon. Great bonuses and a special prize are available to everyone who attends.  Her goal is to have as many book orders as possible on April 27^th.

Please mark your calendar for April 27^th and visit Chloe’s web site:

www.EnteringtheAgeofElegance.com for further details.

“Entering the Age of Elegance: A Rite of Passage & Practical Guide for the Modern Maturing Woman” is a must-read for every midlife and Boomer woman.  If you’re looking for an exceptional yet inexpensive gift for such women you know, now would be the perfect time to purchase it.

So I hope you’ll join me in helping Ms. Paul Launch her best seller on Amazon!

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