Blog of the gentleman

Something dope

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Thu, 05 Aug 2010 21:05:00 +0000

Check out my new tech toy. It's amazing how good things come not always in super high-end designers, i don't think CK is. It's classy, comfortable, leather and sports me good in casual, formal and stuff between. (img might be a bit blurry)

O and btw, happy 100th blog post!

Deleting Facebook friends

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Wed, 04 Aug 2010 22:26:00 +0000

Why do we delete facebook friends? Does it do really do anything? Is this a mean move? Does deleting someone from your facebook automatically delete them from our life? Sometimes deleting people from facebook can help seal them off your life. I delete for many reasons, reducing clutter, junk and unwanted people. Do you? Why?

Gaga's reason for celibacy

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Wed, 04 Aug 2010 19:24:00 +0000

In a new interview with Vanity Fair, Lady Gaga says she is trying to avoid sex for a rather off-beat reason. “I have this weird thing that if I sleep with someone they’re going to take my creativity from me through my vagina,” the singer says in the magazine’s September issue.
Okayy Gaga..U tell them and make sure nobody steals your creative juice from your cooch. silly broad

A Gentleman Wonders.... [Black Foolery] They Rape'n Everybody out here

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Sun, 01 Aug 2010 23:04:00 +0000

Another ~~Soulja Boy~~ internet one hit wonder.( A guy breaks into a house to rape some lady and her brother goes all out on why people rape nowadays. Check out video for interview and see the real news clip after the jump.

Since Im going to take life at face value with lots of humor, I'll join the Rome train: This video is so hilarious, stupid and very funny.

Inception

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Wed, 28 Jul 2010 18:32:00 +0000

This is one hell of a movie. This is a must see. Kudos to the writers and directors of this plot, was a good one. The movie explores the concept of the subconscious mind, reality, secrets and accessing deep held secrets through dreams. Real mind boggler and not a movie you'll wanna see twice. As a fan of all things psychological this was real interesting. Downside, it's a 3hour plus movie. Rating: 4/5

Word of the day - Insipid

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 12:06:00 +0000

insipid

PRONUNCIATION:

(ins.sip.id)

MEANING:

adj: Lacking flavor or zest; not tasty. Lacking qualities that excite, stimulate, or interest; dull.

Usage

That meal Mel's mum prepared was insipid - left my taste buds sore from tastelessness.

I find that chick to be a very insipid little fiend.

Black vs Black - Bitterness amongst African Americans

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 01:27:00 +0000

I wanted to title this racism amongst blacks but after looking at the definition of Racism i decided bitterness was a preferable term. Ever since emancipation, black people seem to find ways (sometimes real coy and creative) to go back to what our leaders fought hard and tirelessly to end - the bitterness and evil that slavery and the vile it brought. Through elitism, African-Americans have found a way to mark distinction or better to speak, distinguish themselves from fellow blacks. The idea that I am better then you because my skin is lighter, i make certain $ more than you and live in special zipcodes has possessed the minds of several blacks down to the youngsters of this generation. Click to read more.
Barely is this ideal perpetuated by white folk - the supposed founding fathers of the concepts blacks seem to adapt in daily life. The notion that the college black man is a lot better than the street hustler is a fact that is hurting to many. Perhaps blacks don't prefer each other because of the tarnished image some of us have bestowed on us? Wendy Williams much? Maybe being black comes with a price tag? After a certain $$ mark i become whatever race i wish, move to 90210 and denounce black? I don't think Gucci Mane would agree with that. Is one's level of education a criterion for distinguishing? Or is being black just simply a complexity of its own? I mean after dealing with the goons i see, am i expected to 'condescend' to "yeaa mah nigguh" - after 4 years of a degree? Simply a no-go. And for the blacks who can't afford being white, perhaps there is the option of creating borderlines between each other and laying the wild ducks loose on the base floor. Most of the black folk show their otherwise 'racist' allegiance through means they deem fit - joining white organisations etc. Condolezza Rice can explain. Who wants to deal with the loudness, ignorance and stupidity of these black folk when you can just hop on the bandwagon, tie your tongue a little bit and say "wohrterr" in place of "water"?

Black yuppies flock together, educated minds fiddle about seeking to pull from each other's pool. Offenders found floating on the opposite end are seen as having lost sanity moreso a sense of realism. The bottom line still remains, you don't see a PHD holding brother stroll down Park Avenue to 'chill' with his holmes. It's seen as taboo and more often than not there is a stigma attached to crossing lines that have been established. Such is similar on the opposite end, hood nig*as, thugs, hustlers etc all pride themselves in what they are known for and rather feel disregard when they are under-represented. How do we assess guilt of divide? The uppity folk or hood nig*as? The shanaenaes or the educated black women? Is there even a divide?

For a while I would find myself condoning the ignorance from certain, however in time i have learned to face the truth and mirror it clearly. Why distort a figure that is obvious and clearly seen? Do i hurl out foul words and throw ignorant signs alongside the street urchin just because we share a familiar skin color? Am i to debase myself along with all i know and stand for because a 'brother'..pardon me...a nig*a is in need? Sometimes I think to myself maybe this divide should be rectified, maybe the college black men need to show some love, appreciation and care for the otherwise less opportune black males. But sooner or later I'm proved wrong by a young black man granted an opportunity to go to school (finance etc) but chooses the path of the street. Is gang and violence the only 'fitting' pattern for blacks? There are other races that choose the very same path. The spotlight however is on blacks.

The divide

The line of divide cuts deep even amongst smaller socio-circles. In the educated realm there is the HBCU vs non-HBCU student -who's smarter? I'm receiving a white education, are you? Ivy-leagueians vs the rest of the world, the pattern keeps going farther and further. There must be more to this than meets the eye if we black folk will not rest till we have divided to the very threshold of our families. Maybe the whole rubbish of internalization is factual. It has so called been a problem that no one has been able to solve and over which many have despaired. Some patterns of internalized racism have become so familiar that we, ourselves, accept them as part of our "black culture." We attribute them to "the way we are."

Is this elitism realistic?

Well, college is better than jail. Education is better than roaming the streets. And a college graduate is financially, socially and more likely to be mentally, emotionally and possibly physically better than a non-graduate. So where does this become elitism? The very idea that one black man transcends another is the very factor of elitism. Elitism is found in every culture however, given the trials of the black man it is expected that the current plight of the black man can be understood in the many forms it may present itself.

Requiescat in pace

Am i bourgeois for acting proper? Thinking like a sane individual and selecting the individuals I relate, socialize and mingle with? Interesting, call it what you may, but the fact remains - we have lots of growing up to do as a people and I'll cross both fingers in severe hope for my people.

Apple Martini

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Sun, 25 Jul 2010 07:39:00 +0000

Drink of the Day - Apple Martini. I never knew about this till i visited someone and they made this. Delicious. I don't know if i'll love it like i did the first time though. It's damn good anyways in my opinion. Click to see how to make your own Apple Martini.

2 ounces Apple schnapps

1 ounce vodka (yea..or more :)

1 dash Sweet and sour mix (???)

Ice (best served chill)

Shake and strain not stir. Some say serve with a round of green apple floating on top. Who cares?

Enjoy!

Can you be 'overqualified' for the job?

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Sun, 25 Jul 2010 04:26:00 +0000

It's hard getting a job nowadays. The excuses for rejection are increasing. From you don't seem to be a match to our personnel can't accomodate more to the tech use excuse, businesses are never running out but how about being 'over-qualified'. Is there such a term? Is it possible to be "too good" for a job?

I can relate to this first-hand, I have been to a couple interviews where i was told i was over-qualified. I initially thought it was some lame excuse to get me out of their office but looking at my interviews i knew i did too well to not have made the job. Fine, i wore a dress shirt, and pants, tie, oxford shoes for an interview for a fast food restaurant (can't remember the name). I thought everyone (at least assuming every one is civil) had to follow that dress code for an interview. That was my first taste of lesson 103 in life: "Life isn't fair, some people are stupid and unfortunately sometimes these folks possess something you want, in order to get it you must use their stupidity - not fair but logical". Also i was 16 then, cmon gimme a break. Moreover the employer gave me a card and referred me to a better paying job and told me to use him as a reference. Jackpot! If i knew i woulda worn a pair of sneaks and jeans...but back to the topic. Over-qualification. Asides my restaurant interview i've had a few instances of being 'overqualified'. Being overqualified isn't a bad thing, matter of fact it's a praise and maybe a wake up call to you that you deserve more than you're offering yourself. The company feels that someone with your qualification needs more compensation, etc. Orgs are looking to get a candidate who 'fits' the requirements but not necessarily exceed them. The company can see this as a threat and that you might be using them as a stepping stone. The bottom line as the guys at resume blog said is "Overqualified" is a disguise it has nothing to do with your qualifications, knowledge, or talent. It's a catch-all phrase used to avoid being candid because the company has fears about hiring you or saw or heard something they simply did not like. They view hiring you as a RISK.

When an interviewer makes this statement, it basically means they think you have too many years of experience, you want too much money, your education is more than what is required, or they see the job as being a step down from where you are now in your career and are afraid you will jump ship.

Because they view hiring you as a RISK, you will need to break down the walls and overcome their "fear." Find out what they mean, drill down and find out the real reason they make this statement. Then eliminate their fear. Do the best you can to find the source of this statement.

Well, here are some comebacks whenever you're told you are OVER-qualified for the job - knowing fully well you can handle the job PERFECTLY

Plain ask, (in a polite way, of course) what's wrong with doing the job better than expected?
Refute being labeled as OVER-qualified and tell the employer you'd rather say you are FULLY qualified.
Use the employer's job description on them: ex if a job requires someone with managerial skills and you happen to be 'over-qualified' simply tell the interviewer that with you, you would require less man-power, office time and resources to train and prepare you for managerial duties. You can handle many more tasks than the just "fit" candidate can.
Let the employer know you are looking for a more 'challenging' job and that this job suits your neeeds and desires (*insert one of the job requirements here* ex: working with people etc)
Hone down the light on your pay. Of course, in a recession my major concern is the pay however in order to GET the job first, I must play card. So, in your interview try not to make very big obvious highlights on pay. You and your interviewer are both playing tact games, so play your part right,
When the word over qualified is used on you, expand it and try to break down the big word into simpler terms. Eg. "you are overqualified"...your response: "O i understand, i have the skills required to for this position and more that i have garnered through experience and working *insert job req. eg one-on-one/team*, would you be willing to contact me should an appropriate position be available?
All you do, try and break it down to the REAL reason why you are not being hired. Watch for body language, silent cues etc but don't get paranoid.
Lastly, Deliver. All talk and no work makes jack a bluffer. That's right, you've gotta back it up once you land the job. I'm guilty of this sometimes so i know how important it is.

Best of luck out there in these hard trying times!

Taking the first step

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 12:21:00 +0000

Sometimes we want to do certain things, but our standards, morals and principles are in conflict with what we're considering. Sometimes it's the feeling that we deserve better, can do better or need to try harder. Many times it boils down to...
either sacrificing your values or living in fear and doubt about taking the next step. None of these work - that's like the devil and the deep blue sea. The solution - pay attention to what your needs, wants and desires are at the moment and what the situation/circumstance calls for and make moves towards your heart's calling. A man plots AND takes moves not because he isn't scared; but because he needs to. Take a leap of faith, make the first move and set the ball rolling. The ball is ALWAYS in your court. You are always in charge of your destiny.

I'm Revamping Twitter

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 20:36:00 +0000

I'm going in with a blast and i'm revamping my twitter, following new and funny peeps and of course still retaining my old follows and followers that keep it real. So,

lol

FOLLOW MY ASS AND TWEET ME ON TWITTER - WWW.TWITTER.COM/STUCKUPFRESH (i keep changing my twitter name, I pray I settle on one soon)

Word of the Day - Chicanery

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 17:29:00 +0000

chicanery

PRONUNCIATION:

(shi-KAY-nuh-ree)

MEANING:

noun: Deception by trickery or sophistry.

ETYMOLOGY:

From French chicaner (to quibble).

USAGE:

She would have seen much political chicanery in our United Kingdom.
After eight years of financial chicanery, he concludes, " the Chancellor has produced an Enron for Africa.

Word of the Day

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 12:15:00 +0000

Starting from sometime later this afternoon, the blog will begin to feature something called Word Of the Day (WOD for short) or sometimes with the prefix 'New'. This will contain new words that will help boost your vocabulary. Given that this is a gentleman's blog, it's expected your vocabulary be of Gently caliber. Some of them are words I have stored in my notebook some others will be words i cane across while reading or simply from the internet. Enjoy and keep watch for the words, who knows you could learn a thing or two.

Artists and Alter-Egos

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 15:31:00 +0000

Why do these music artists go for alter-egos? What's the craze and what's in it for them? Well for one I think it's for publicity and to pull one of those stunt crazes and to see ~~just how many~~ suckers go for it. Some of them are cool and i kinda dig it and some others are just #WTF moments. T.I. for instance and his alter T.I.P. Some others maybe i figure it's just for entertainment; Beyonce is famous for her very well known Sasha Fierce and just about all the teenage even adult women followed suit and baptized themselves Fierce. Mary Fierce, Ashley Fierce etc some even took the whole Sasha Fierce and added to the name. Next thing, Beyonce kills her alter-ego..smh. Click to read more .
Most others are just pointless and outright useless, Nicki Minaj and her Roman Zolanski move. Apparently i wasn't listening to Nicki Minaj on Bottoms Up, that was Roman Zolanski..im sorry onika barbie harajuku or whatever else she's called nowadays.

Others are Erica Wright changed to Erykah Badu; Alecia Moore chose Pink; Paul David Hewson decided on Bono Vox and Vickie Lynn Hogan became Anna Nicole Smith. The question still lies, why the need for an 'alter-ego' a different persona. An alter is is a second self, a second personality or persona within a person, who is often oblivious to the persona's actions (Wiki). Maybe these artists don't feel talented enough or beleive in their first person based on experiences maybe childhood trauma or whatever. Regular folk also come up with alters in dealing with their everyday life. Think of your alter ego as the stage name for your life. There's the 'part of you' that does certain things and the other evil side of you. I guess alters are ok then, even though it is a trait of people with Dissociative Identity Disorder, but who am I - the music industry nowadays promotes all things evil and vile as good. Gaga says it's cool to poison your boyfriend in her videos and Rihanna says go on and play Roulette with your life. Ahh the things we do for money.

Summary of the world

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Sat, 17 Jul 2010 00:40:00 +0000

Summary of the World
If we could shrink the Earth's population to a village of precisely 100 people, with all existing human ratios remaining the same, it would look like this:

81 would be from less developed countries with a gross income per capita and year of US$ 3,580, 19 would be from developed countries with a gross income per capita and year of US$ 22,060.

There would be 61 Asians, 12 Europeans, 13 Africans, 9 would be from South America and the Caribbean, and 5 from North America including Canada.

75 would be non-white, while 25 would be white.

60 would mistrust their own government.
No wonder, that the governments mistrust their people.

60 would live within 62 miles of a coastline.

50 would be female, and 50 would be male.

50 would rely in some manner on coastal and marine habitats for food, building sites, transportation, recreation, and waste disposal.

48 would live on less than US $2 a day.

48 would lack access to basic sanitation.

47 would be urban dwellers.
The world's urban areas are expected to surpass rural areas in population around the year 2005

29 would believe in witchcraft.

25 would live in substandard housing or have no home at all.

20 would live on less than US $1 a day.

17 would be under 18 years old.

16 would lack access to safe drinking water.

16 would be unable to read and write.

14 would suffer from malnutrition.

10 would live in least developed countries.

8 would have Internet access from home.

4.5 would be citizens of the United States

1 would be infected with HIV/AIDS.

1 would be near death, and 1 would be near birth.

Only 1 would have a college education.

Half of the entire village's wealth would be in the hands of only 6 people, and most of them would be citizens of the United States.

When one considers our world from such an incredibly compressed perspective, the need for cooperation, tolerance and understanding becomes glaringly apparent.

Thank you to all the readers

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Wed, 14 Jul 2010 06:13:00 +0000

Thank you my blog readers. You are the inspiration and support that makes me keep trying to make this better. I started blogging for fun but slowly i'm trying to take this to a new and better level .So far I've had visits from all 7 continents and my online presence is slowly increasing. I've had visits from countries I never knew like Bahrain and other countires like Dubai, Tokyo and Cape Verde. Wow. Your constant visits boost my blog's traffic. Bear with me for the blog's clumsy look for now, I'm trying to give my blog the best look and feel to it to make you want to come back, stay, read and share what you read. If you see something you like, leave me a comment, share the link, bookmark the page and do whatever you can and need to do to give me more love, support and assitance. I appreciate it greatly. Keep reading, i hope you enjoy my little writings..if you do see something you'll want to see more of do let me know. To those of you who talk to me in person about the blog too, I appreciate that also.

Thanks for reading I appreciate the support and will definitely keep posting. I'll keep posting.

BIG LOVE - Zeus

Reverse Cowgirl - Tpain [Video]

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Mon, 12 Jul 2010 17:22:00 +0000

I had high expectations for the video, i was thinking more of sexy females and dance moves but eh Tpain decided the best vid to go with a song about a sex position is beads, flowers, water and weird wtf scenes. I like the song though, enjoy the video after the jump.

2 months no gym smh

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Mon, 12 Jul 2010 10:35:00 +0000

I been slacking, no killer 6 pack yet, no ripped arms, tearing chest and lady-weeping V. I gotta hit the gym, thing is half of the time I lax off back on my computer and I have a home gym right in the basement. Smh..Laziness....Help please! My summer's gotta go to good use. Maybe i should fly back to birth city CA and get intimidated by those dudes that hang out 2-4-7 at the beach.

Blog Under Construction

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 11:42:00 +0000

I'm trying to keep my blog up to par to readers as well as myself. ... I'll be working on my blog in and out to try and bring up to par to upscale higher read blogs and to attract the kind of audience intended as well as to provide higher quality info and in turn reach a top-quality status. The tags could be a little messy and some tags won't go with the blogs they should. Posts will come in randomly and may not be filled appropriately. The purpose of this blog might change but the orignal concieved idea was to educate, enlighten, likewise possibly entertain today's modern gentleman...
I will discuss in brief what this kind of man possesses and in fact, who he is. Currently, do still continue your follower-ship of the blog, it is inspiring and motivating to always see that visitors are coming to the blog. I do appreciate the love and hope someday (soon I pray) you would extend your love and leave visible comments. Share your opinions and don't forget to always reference the blog in other blogs, websites and forums. I will need and appreciate all the possible publicity i can get. If you have any ideas on what can make the blog a lot better regarding any and everything from background, to design, to writing, to style, etc or you would like to see more of a certain topic/issue discussed, do not hesitate to drop me a line in form of comment, email, messenger etc. Remember you can always decide to keep your identity anonymous. As always I appreciate the love, visits, reads and views.

Janelle Monáe - Tightrope ft. Big Boi [Video]

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 08:50:00 +0000

The video is pretty ill. I like the video, very distinct and different, caught my eye from the first moment i saw it. Janelle's pretty creative and talented; the song is different from what you hear everyday and has an urban feel to it. I also like the dressing the bow ties, suits, loafers and all. Janelle broke out from the same boring regular routine in all of today's songs. No Nicki Minaj wild noise or some Trina ish or Rihanna depression or Gaga craziness. Her expression is pretty dope, the outfits are on point and the song is novel, catchy and has a Bronx-type street acapella swing groove to it. Enjoy the video.

Reflection Thursdays: Enjoy today's good tidings, yesterday's gone.

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Thu, 01 Jul 2010 12:31:00 +0000

Stop looking for yesterdays past glory, happiness and joy. Believe that today and for the days to come more joy awaits you. Think back before your last success, you had no idea it was coming and something else was the "it" of your life. The one big thing you'd done. That's how successes are; they come - intended to fill you with good feelings about yourself and your accomplishment and to fulfill a certain goal you may have had. Once they're done - you get done with them. Fine, there are some achievements that mean more to us than others. Those we hang them on our mental wall of fame. Don't meditate on your past laureates till you can't feel the juice anymore. You've sucked the success nectar, move on and don't stay trying to force / remind yourself of the good feelings your success brought you. I didn't say thrash every good thing that comes your way. Just live, enjoy, and move on. When you keep saving up past successes, happiness, joys and glories you never allow yourself room to gain more happiness. Instead of hanging on to past successes, treat them as memorabilia. Let them remain in your wall of fame to remind you how much of a champ you are. Your success serve to let you remember never to give up or back down. They are a way of saying you did it before and you can always do better. They should be your inspiration not your culmination. Your life is a continuous cycle of successes, happiness and joy. Never cut yourself short by latching on to how good something/someone was. It was good, nice. But there will be more good things in your life. Today, start learning how to permit yourself to not enslave yourself to your successes. They are supposed to be joyful and bring happiness and not cause you to remain stagnant in your growth. Think of your life as a pre-destined success and enjoy the good things come your way.

Ciara - Ride [Video]

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Wed, 30 Jun 2010 20:49:00 +0000

The song is sexy, the video not as hot as it should have been, or so i think. Her body is still sexy #asusual and her moves were sexy. I like the clothes she wore even though they were cheap and old ass lookin, they showed her body and allowed her ooze her oo so ever sexual appeal. Made me think how possible it was she was/is a hemaphordite...ha maybe that's why she wore some tight ass gown/whatever that shit was to show HEY I DON'T HAVE A DICK...LOL. I beleived u all along CiCi. She's all alone in the video though, I don't know if it's the recession and no cash for backups or just part of the whole video concept, who knows? Ci is undeniably sexy, the song is definitely clockable and bedroom certified. Enjoy.

Using your rights - Daily Inspiration.

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Sun, 27 Jun 2010 12:31:00 +0000

Today, you stop taking shit. From you or anyone else. Today you have the permission to say no when you do not like something or are dissatisfied with a situation.You have every right to be dissatisfied. You are permitted to not be ok with something or someone. You have every right to feel like you are not treated the way you ought to. You deserve the best. Today you begin to speak up when you feel you are not served right.
It's a given right. Express your dissatisfaction, it's a due entitlement.

A Gentleman pens?!... Let's play the slut game

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Sat, 26 Jun 2010 16:00:00 +0000

Who’s a slut? Most girls are confused or look surprised when they’re told they are sluts. I don't know why the pretense but read on for slut guidelines.

The rules

1. If you sleep with your crew - you’re a slut – big time.

2. If you lead a guy on then bang some dude by the side - you’re a slut.

3. If you plain ol sleep around - you’re a slut.

4. If when all you talk about Is sex and how you’re good in bed - you’re a slut

5. If a friend says you’re a slut - 60% you might be a slut.

6. If friends have pics of you on their cell phone – you’re a slut (first class)

7. If every dude has your number (i mean "EVERY") - you’re a world class slut

8. If you act like a slut, talk like a slut and *look* like a slut, - you’re a slut

9. If you try to defend your slutty ways by saying guys are sluts - you’re a big slut
10. If you passed more than two of the above - then you are a slut.

11. If your vagina is responsible for more than 5% of dudes at the health clinic - you're a slut
12. If guys are always around you only bcus u put out - ditto

13. If your clit is a death zone for dicks - ditto

Bonus: If it even occurs to you to ask yourself if you're a slut - You are.

Don't let fear rule you

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Sat, 26 Jun 2010 12:31:00 +0000

Dont' feed your fears. Just because you feel afraid of something doesn't mean you are slave to it or will become a prey or become your fear. It's natural to feel fear, it's an emotion and sometimes instinctive in humans allowing it rule you is another story. The point is to figure out what we feel fear to/for and correct our perception of what is actually dangerous to us than what we feel/think based on, most often one-time experiences or what society, family has taught us.
When you feel fear, find out where it's coming from and why. Defy your fear and prove to yourself that it means nothing by opting to do exactly what your fear shakes you for. When you feel fear it's a response based on your judgement and perception of danger. That is, what danger means to you personally. Don't compare yourself, because what you might perceive as dangerous to you, or your wellbeing (mental, social, emotional etc) may not be for the other. Do not surpress your fear, you only make it gain the upper hand. Allow yourself to feel fear, sometimes it makes you stronger to face whatever it is causing the fear. Remind yourself fear is an emotion with options for action. You decide how the ball rolls, to give in to the fear and live your life in terror of something that 99.9% probably has no effect on you or to courageously face what is tormenting you. Shit, you have the right to remain happy and if anything comes between you and your given right it's to the death. When you let yourself know you will not let anything come between you and your happiness, you'll find yourself living more bravely and courageously. You pick and choose which way from here. Remember, a man isn't courageous because he feels no fear, he is courageous because he has decided to not live by fear.