World of Relationships

A Post or Project Begins With One Word

2015-10-26T14:47:00.002-07:00

A post or project begins with one word, just one word or action. It has the capacity to propel you in a new direction. Possibly, the direction your life needs. Life has a way of piling on distractions. Push-away the unnecessary. Focus on what's best for you, your circumstances.

1. Sit down.

2. Make a list.

3. Determine what's important for your survival.

This is your life. Schedule time with yourself. Think of ways to improve your life. Perhaps, you want to upgrade to a better job, financial circumstances or a new car. I know from experience that what hasn't worked shouldn't be tried again.

1. Write the post using any word.

2. Simply, start.

3. Clarity arrives as you write.

You'll see where passion has been hiding. Go in the direction of what's exciting your creativity. Explore. Turn it upside down to discover more. Look at all options the new idea offers. Perhaps, a project is calling your name. Allow inspiration to lead the way.

1. A novel awaits.

2. The how-to project has more interest?

3. Or, move to a different genre.

You're a blogger, for example, but want a new challenge. Select one word from a post. The word will be a spring-board for an e-book project. Your word may inspire a book of poetry. There are many options.

1. Team-up with someone on a project.

2. Write a news article.

3. Bloggers, how many of your posts are projects?

The point is to keep moving to the next project. Especially, if life has clouded your vision with issues. Look for a solution. Still, curve-out time for "the project." In the middle, new ideas will come to mind. Jot them down for later.

1. "The project" could be the solution you needed.

2. It may lead to financial help.

3. Or, place you in the company of motivators.

A post or project begins with one word that could help you as well as others. The path may become a stepping stone to better or more projects. Sigh, moan or poo-poo circumstances, but not too long. You have to keep moving. Find your inspiration. Where?

1. A trending news story.

2. Your favorite quote.

3. Grab it off an ancient wall, winding hall or by standing tall.

Life Hints at the Wrong Direction

2015-04-17T09:08:00.001-07:00

Life hints at the wrong direction, but you have to peel away a moment to listen. It, too, signals when you're moving in the right direction. A direction requires that you clear away the noise and/or fog to see.

1. Stop being the puppet.

2. Take control of your actions.

3. Be grateful for what you have.

It may take time to discover you, and what the word preferences mean in your life. It's hard to know what you need or want when mashed up in a friend's goals, for example. Slice away time for yourself. Write down your likes and dislikes.

1. I'd like to take Courses A and B.

2. Start a business.

3. Write a book?

Life hints at the wrong direction as you're faced with the same air as six months ago. You're in the same position, haven't moved. Perhaps, what you want isn't right for you. Try working with a smaller goal or different goal.

1. Be honest with yourself.

2. Find your exact fit.

3. Stop over-stressing.

This is the time to uncover where you want to be in six months or two years. Be specific. How are you going to get there? How long will it take? Jot it down. How will it help your life, make it better or help others? Are you qualified for the job? How will you help the organization? Why work there?

1. You must have the necessary qualifications.

2. It's not coming together as you planned?

3. Life is hinting at you to change direction.

Honesty plays a role in life's ventures. Honesty builds character and a more disciplined you. Granted, it takes courage to proclaim your truth. Sometimes, the truth is a dose to be handled with care. The truth is important for you and life. Successful people want others around that motivate and inspire.

1. A lack of honesty boils up chaos.

2. Those who bring chaos are shunned.

3. Work on positive traits.

Life hints at the wrong direction the second you're among people with negative habits. They poo-poo respect, honesty, positivity. They enjoy hacking, stealing, stirring up false claims. It's paramount to find people engaging in a quality filled life.

1. Look at your friends.

2. They reflect you or are mistake.

3. Slowly, ease toward better circumstances.

Life hints and dances as you're moving in the right direction. How? You feel it. There's less stress, more happiness and increased energy. New possibilities float your way. Positive doing people seek you out. The next level arrives.

1. The weight of stress stops zapping energy.

2. The clarity exposes more happiness.

3. A showering of energy blossoms.

6 Ways to Erase Stress

2015-02-23T11:22:00.003-08:00

Successful people are tapped on the shoulder by stress as demanding circumstances arise. There is no way to avoid stress, but successful people erase stress while moving forward. It isn't always easy to handle. Still, you can using the following suggestions.

1. Erase stress by looking at ways to handle emotional or intense circumstances.

- - Is there a way to work it out or work within the situation to resolve it?

- - Yes? Select the best choice for you and your life-style.

- - No? Get help with it, advice from a trusted person or leave the circumstances.

2. Make better choices to erase stress. I've learned to weigh options before deciding on a choice. Carefully think before jumping into a choice someone is pushing too hard on you.

- - Question a person who wants to rush you into an action.

- - Next, think about your life-style.

- - Will making a specific choice better your life?

3. Start working on a new project or goal when intense circumstances have engulfed you.

- - Time away from the situation gives you a fresh perspective.

- - You're able to see obtainable options.

- - Ways to erase stress comes into focus.

4. Be mindful of the company you keep.

- - Some people will not have your best interests in mind.

- - Erase stress by moving away from people stirring the drama pot.

- - People promoting positivity (the three Ps) are good choices.

5. Remind yourself of where you will be or doing in three months.

- - Will you start a business?

- - A new job?

- - Network with motivating people?

6. Learn from your mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes. Be determined to side-step previous errors.

- - What or who sprinkled you into uncomfortable circumstances should lead you away from it, he or she.

- - Slowly, find other out-lets for positive activities.

- - Make notes to yourself.

- - Stick them in places where your eyes roam.

Erase stress from your life by adjusting your behavior. It's a matter of choice and determination to improve the most intense circumstances.

Brian Williams' Mistake

2015-02-06T10:08:00.000-08:00

Brian Williams' mistake of how a rocket propelled grenade (RPG) brought down the helicopter he was in opened up a wider audience to him. Williams has been sharing the incident since 2003. The NBC News anchor fessed up Wednesday that a few facts escaped his memory. The helicopter he had been reporting from was not brought down by a rocket propelled grenade.

Williams fell into debate from viewers, social media and households about the tale he has told for a dozen years. Williams' excused his mistake by not remembering a war time memory. His memory recalled "a mistake in recalling the events of 12 years ago."

Brian Williams' mistake shines a light on possible memory failure in other reporting. The controversy continues around Williams and Iraq, 2003, even after he sent apologies out from his broadcast chair.

Some viewers, critics and news enthusiasts have doubts about Williams' memory. People have expressed their opinions and poked fun on social media. Williams has been stirred into late night comedy.

Williams appeared on the "Late Show with David Letterman," to share the story in 2013. Williams recounts being hit. "Two of the four helicopters were hit" with ground fire. The helicopter Williams arrived in was hit with a "rocket propelled grenade and AK-47."

The courage Williams showed had Letterman saying, "I have to treat you now with a renewed respect." An ex-soldier offered a different account of the incident. He found something wrong with the facts and told it to The Post. He pointed out that Williams statements were false.

"He wasn't shot at," the ex-soldier, Chris Simeone. Simeone was the pilot of the CH-47 helicpter Williams was on. The crew that transported Williams and his team deny that there was incoming fire, according to news reports.

Brian Williams mistake broke a fabric of trust? Should he be given the boot like critics suggest? Williams decided to "temporarily" move away from the "NBC Nightly News." There are rumors of Tom Brokaw wanting Williams fired.

Make the Choice

2015-02-04T11:16:00.001-08:00

Make the choice begins with your decision to get "that job," de-clutter your life or find a hobby. The choice that fits your life leads to a happier you. It's just a matter of peeling away the fog of people, places or things that are wedged between you and moving forward. Often, it isn't easy to see beyond them, but you can do it.

Sit down. Take a relaxing breath. Prepare to scribble down notes. Decide what you want, and zero in on the obstacles preventing your success. A quality life demands small changes for happiness and success.

Answer the following questions. What do I want? Job A or Job B? What's required to get the job? College courses? Applying for it? Sprinkle together what you need and then plan on when you'll get the job. Put aside time each day to work toward getting the job. Be honest with yourself. Is this the right job for me? Am I wasting my time? See yourself in the job. How is it? Get into the routine of seeing yourself in that job position. It gives you more incentive.

Life can become cluttered. Again, sit down. Jot down notes about your circumstances. Sometimes, an involvement with too many activities brings clutter and stress. Which activity has stopped being relaxing? The one(s) that isn't productive? Can your time be spent better, less stressful? Is there one or two wasting money? How about people who spread negative messages? The negativity from someone is pulling you on a downward spiral.

Make the choice by stepping away from a stress-filled activity or person. A cluttering activity no longer feels right? Break free. Money wasting activities becomes a habit. The habit can be replaced. Take your time. Find an activity suitable. Perhaps, you may not want to replace the activity, but just have free time. It depends on your life-style.

Remember, habits are a routine, learned. It may take effort, but a habit can be changed. How do you change a habit? Simply, make the choice to do differently, better, move forward. Write notes to yourself about it. Place a reminder on the calendar. Paste notes to yourself on a desk, mirror or door for more incentive. Practice the new choice. It becomes easier each day.

A clear view to the hobby fitting your life-style tap dances over. You greet each other with open-arms, because people, places or things cluttering up your life has been removed. A better quality of life is enjoyed due to your choice.

Laugh

2015-01-13T11:28:00.002-08:00

Laugh! It's soothing for the mind, body and will cost you zero dollars. A laugh strengthens an immune system that has been multi-tasking and bathing in a high stress day by pushing away stress while igniting energy levels.

Research attests to the fact of how your immune system is stronger after a good laugh. This means your natural cells along with anti-bodies will attack infections after a laugh. Cells pin-point viral infections, some cancers plus tumors to stop their negative behavior. The IGA (immunoglobulin A) anti-body fights upper respiratory tract infections.

The body is guarded against stress with laughter. A joke relaxes a tense atmosphere, possible new connections are made as stress is blocked from touching you. Try a smile when you just can't muster a laugh.

Let's look at an example of what can bring about stress. The clock's alarm, for one reason or the other, malfunctioned. It didn't rang-out. The morning cup of coffee you looked forward to didn't happen. You remembered the coffee was out. The important meeting you were to be a part of has already started. You rushed out of the front door, slammed your shoulder on the door frame. Finally, you get to the meeting. Your sore shoulder has stiffened as the door squeaks open. Eyes stab at you.

At this point, stress is pinching your sore shoulder. Your thoughts race. Perhaps, you should've stayed at home. Only, the meeting had been scheduled weeks in advance. It was a must to attend. This is what's called "life happens." What should you do? Calm yourself. Take a deep breath. Get comfortable.

Flow into the rhythm of your meeting. It isn't the time to explore remedies for an aching shoulder with co-workers. Share later. Some will laugh, connecting you to them. It's a self-help habit to form. Poke fun at yourself. A reminder to not take yourself so seriously. Laugh at your incident, especially events out of your control.

A laugh keeps situations from hitting one-hundred on a stress score. It eases your mind and body back into balance. Control is yours. "Your sense of humor is one of the most powerful tools you have to make certain that your daily mood and emotional state support good health," Paul E. McGhee, Ph. D., pioneer in humor research.

Power laugh to melt away sadness and anger. A power laugh is felt to the stomach, or starts at the stomach. It leaves you feeling good. This is the natural release of your own body's chemicals. The feel good chemicals are called endorphins. They bring stress levels down, energy levels up and muscles relax. Endorphins is a happy-aid for the entire body. For a short time, endorphins have the ability to stop pain.

Laugh. It takes your mind off of anger, pain and stress. The focus on laughter inspires freedom and hope. It opens the door for a better quality of life. Goals are set. Goal setting moves a life forward. Remember, life challenges. Smile. Work through them. You'll feel better. You can. Try.

In conclusion, a laugh can bring the mind and body back into a normal balance. It's a self-help habit that's free of charge and good for you. Practice. Control remains in your hands. You become empowered too. Simply, believe in yourself.

Succeed in 2015

2015-01-02T10:24:00.000-08:00

Succeed in 2015, but it requires that you look at your circumstances. Determine what you want, requirements for it and how you are going to clear-away clutter to make room. There may be more than one, two, three, directions of interest to you. Work on one goal at a time.

Select the goal calling loudest to you. The goal calling loudest takes its place somewhere in a crevice of your mind. At times, you see your goal happening. You know it is your destiny. Still, you fear the change or the possibility of never realizing it. Twist away the negative thoughts. Pick a goal and work on it.

Succeed in 2015 by curbing all negative thoughts. Start working harder on your goal. What do you need? Take a course(s) to become more familiar with your goal? Is there a nay-sayer whispering "you can't" in your ear? If yes, it is time to move away from the nay-sayer. You need more time? Go through your life. Dispose of all clutter. Clutter is people who, for one reason or another, fail to see your vision. Clutter, too, refers to an object taking space away from a useful item. An old computer, for example, sitting and collecting dust should be removed. The space becomes ready for a new goal or device. Do you need time for relaxing? Make it a goal.

It is important that the goal and you are a match. Sometimes, goals are set too high. Although, there are those who would disagree with that statement. A person working in the mail-room of a business, for instance, would be setting an unrealistic goal if he/she wants to be CEO of the company. Smaller goals must be accomplished before the employee goes from mail-order clerk to CEO.

Succeed in 2015 with a goal and plan that your life-style can support. Determination as well as hard work should dominate the plan. Each day work toward it. Beware of a goal that you have no time for, seems to fight you or you have to struggle to find space for. In that case, it is time to re-think your goal. The focus is to succeed, not be beat-down by a goal. Remember, decide on the right goal for your life-style, find the tools to reach it and make sure you have room for it.

Positive Thoughts

2014-12-26T08:18:00.000-08:00

Positive thoughts sooths away stress and aids health. Stress tap dances into life while you are living, multi-tasking various projects or as an attention grabbing problem arises. Stop. Take a moment to relax in a stress releasing breath. Let the stress go. A positive experience is not gained from holding onto stress. Use as many stress releasing breaths as needed.

Figure-out what options are available to you. Every problem has a solution or, at least, a fix that is manageable. A positive attitude pushes stress out of the door while helping you to think clearer. Dread is kept at a distance, leaving your stomach free of stress related holes.

Some problems are more intense than others. Simply, write the issues or problems down. Writing the problems down gives you a better perspective. Discover solutions to them. Decide which solution is best. A calm person reasons, uncovers a workable means to an issue. Practice enables you to cope with future issues or problems. Blood pressure levels never get the opportunity to sky-rocket.

Positive thoughts rolls into happier attitudes and feelings for you and others. People will notice the manner in which you handle life when times are like walking bare-foot on a pebble road. Respect grows. You can then share words of encouragement with others.

Positive thoughts leads to "positive" emotions. The happiest people find strengths while exercising positive thoughts, Dr. Martin Seligman: (http://worldofrelationships.blogspot.com/2014/11/happiness-is_15.html). The ability to solve problems is easier with a positive attitude. Stress is forced to find a home elsewhere.

Positive thoughts is the key to stopping stress from upsetting your life and health. Positivity will become a habit with practice. It is the postive thoughts that turn-over positive feelings where positive experiences grow process. The positive management of stress stirs-in a healthier you and better quality of life.

Welcome 2015

2014-12-18T13:07:00.002-08:00

Welcome, 2015, the new year and leave upsets or blues in 2014. Writing therapy is an option to peeling-off upsets and the 2014 blues. The "practice" of writing therapy helps you work through upsets and the blues. How to use the method is at: http://critiqueandwrite.blogspot.com/2014/11/writing-therapy.html.

Writing therapy is the answer to push aside holiday sadness or left-over blues that crept up on you. The issue or problem that dragged in should be of no concern after utilizing writing therapy. Writing therapy walks you through the issue or problem. You pin-point specific behavior to analyze. The goal is to become an even better you in 2015.

Welcome 2015 with goals that are attainable. Take some time to decide on what you want most. It is where to focus your energies. Ask questions. What is required of me to reach the goal(s)? Be honest. Do you need to save money? Remove clutter from your living space or life? Take a college course? Re-fresher course? What else to accommodate your goal(s)? Often, a new goal means removing something in your life that is just taking up space and time. Set attainable goals.

"What are attainable goals?" You asked.

Attainable goals are desires that you can bring to life through effort. The goal has to be achievable. Frustration drags in when a goal is not attainable. It is important to have realistic goals based on your circumstances.

You are looking to purchase a home, for example, no matter the economy's state. There is a limit to the amount of money for the house. You have $50,000 for it. A house costing $200,000 is not an attainable goal. The point is to be realistic when setting goals. Be mindful of you and your circumstances.

Welcome 2015, because it is to be embraced with new hope. New ventures are waiting to be seen by you. Allow new inspiration to stir you to new heights and move forward with it. Writing therapy can aid you as needed.

Negative People Need Drama

2014-12-08T12:08:00.000-08:00

Negative people need drama to feel alive, because they twist good motives and gestures into plots. They find the smallest drop of water to start drama. It is one of the reasons to be careful about the people you embrace. The company you keep determines what goals you set, out-look on life and attitude. Stay positive, even in the middle of drama. Ease yourself away from negative people.

"How can you tell if a person is negative?" You asked.

Negative people need drama wherever they go. The smallest incident that happens to negative people becomes the topic of conversation to "anyone who will listen," according to Psychology Today. The behavior is linked to personality disorders. People without these disorders would work around the same incident. Perhaps, mention it and move on to other matters.

You have a choice to make. Set a goal and work toward it. Or, ride the storm of negativity. You will not accomplish much due to the drama. There will always be drama, the drama person usually blames someone else and complains.

Negative people need drama changes your out-look on life. Your attention is on the person who exclaims, "poor me!" A new day arrives as he/she drags one more drama filled problem into your life, but it is never his/her fault. The involvement peels away your view of life and is replaced with drama. Step away. Dig for the positive in your life. Move in that direction.

Negative people need drama put on smiles while in your face. He/she will spat unkind words about you, if the person is angry at how you reacted. It is hard to stay in a positive frame of mind as negativity surrounds your space. Discover positive people. Positive people motivate, encourage and help you reach goals.

Negative people need drama comes from a person who tips around in an effort snoop. They dig through your social media accounts as well as anything else available. The fact that someone has to snoop should raise red flags to a possible liar and stalker. Simply, walk in the opposite direction.

Negative people need drama is a feeling. The pretzel stomach that alerts you when something is wrong. It comes as not feeling good about a person. He/she pours negativity out in a room, and the negative energy spins out chaos. Pay attention when the drama person's goals and out-look on life clash with yours. Muster the courage to leave constant negativity to reach for your dreams.

'I Can't Breathe!'

2014-12-04T11:49:00.006-08:00

I can't breathe echoed throughout the U. S., on social media and neighbors on corners as people disagreed with the grand jury's decision not to indict an officer, Daniel, Pantaleo, 29, in the death of Eric Garner. The decision was made Wednesday as protesters gathered in New York, Boston, Chicago, Philadelphia, along with other cities.

President Obama, in a speech, spoke about concerns African Americans have about the legal system. People should be treated the same under the law. One person is not "treated equally under the law, that is a problem," President Obama.

Pantaleo made a statement in which he shared his feelings about the death of Garner. He "felt very bad about the death of Mr. Garner." Pantaleo sent his sympathies to Garner's wife and Garner's mother, but they would not accept them, per news reports.

People expressed their disagreement peacefully as they gathered in the various cities. A few arrests were mentioned via news reports but no major incidents. Looting and burning down neighborhoods sprinkles in more frustration while a community gains few positive results. It leaves a community in disrepair and angrier.

I can't breathe are the few words uttered by Garner as he encountered police on that fateful day. The incident goes beyond what happened that day. It digs into the emotions of not just African Americans, but every person who have had an issue with the legal system.

I can't breathe is an opportunity for all people with concerns to address issues, be heard where they spoke to deaf ears in the past or did not have a platform to voice concerns. It is not an open invitation to disrespect law enforcement or rules of law.

Change is a process, and force in the form of terrorizing a community stirs in more anger. Researching the laws in a community to find out how the legal system works is an option toward effective change. Get involved in the system to help bring about change.

I can't breathe are words to remember when a police officer stops you. Simply, comply. It is not the time to argue or struggle. Police officers are doing a job. Unfortunately, mistakes will happen. Most police officers serve and protect well.

The Ferguson Grand Jury's Decision

2014-11-27T07:04:00.000-08:00

The Ferguson grand jury's decision not to indict the police officer who shot and killed Michael Brown, 18, fueled a back-lash of protests in Missouri as well as across the nation and Internally. The August 9th shooting in 2014 put a spotlight on issues facing the Ferguson Police and its community.

Looting and protests of the shooting became the norm of a community at odds with its police force. Confrontations with the police blanketed television news stations as social media exposed countless scenes involving police and protesters.

Every action has a re-action to it. It applies to all life. Looting is a crime, brings negative attention and law enforcement gets involved. The anger heightens as both looters and police occupy the same space. The people looting, burning property and destroying their own neighborhoods could of used the opportunity to be heard through meetings with officials. The opportunity presented offered a means to get resources for education, learning more about getting a police force that look more like the community for a start. A property destroyed hurts a community and requires funds to replace it, or maybe it never is replaced.

The grand jury's decision picked open racial profiling which stabs at the minds and attitudes of some African Americans on the justice system. There's the problem in Ferguson of people not feeling that their government hears them, Joe Hubbard, a former state representative. Problems happens when a community and the police force look nothing alike.

A simple truth is stop when asked to by a police officer. It is not the time to argue, struggle or question the officer. You can protest after the incident is over and you are home. Contact a legal help organization or a lawyer.

The grand jury's decision not to indict drove anger levels up as December is to arrive. Missouri protesters temporarily shut down the St. Louis Galleria Mall per news reports. The mall later re-opened Friday. Protesting took place in Philadelphia, PA, Boston, MA and other U.S. Cities.

The Bill Cosby Sex Scandal

2014-11-24T12:44:00.000-08:00

The Bill Cosby sex scandal has twisted and turned upside-down many lives. The rumors of sexual misconduct by Cosby goes back over ten years, but picked up after a social media stunt. The stunt involved fans to meme Cosby. It did not go as planned for the Cosby camp. He has denied the sexual misconduct claims until recently.

The allegations against Cosby involved drugging and sexually assaulting young women. The misconduct started as far back as the 1970s (http://www.vulture.com/2014/09/timeline-of-the-abuse-charges-against-cosby.html). Lawsuits have been filed.

There is no doubt about the number of women who have made allegations against Cosby. Many people are asking on social media, in homes and alone: Could the beloved father figure, sitcom star and comedian be a serial rapist?

The Bill Cosby sex scandal entered into an even more disturbing platform. 'That the Bill Cosby sex scandal was created...' The question of what happened in Ferguson is very new. The Cosby sex scandal extends to more than a decade.

The Bill Cosby sex scandal began long before Michael Brown's death. Conversation about the misconduct has been going on for years. The difference is that women are finding the courage speak-out and be heard. There is no comparison of what the Brown family lost and the Bill Cosby sex scandal. The two are in different categories.

Cosby has not been in front of a judge or jury. He has not been charged legally with anything. He had a stand-up comedy routine that pokes fun at drugging women's drinks in 1969. Was it just a matter of business or truth to it?

The Bill Cosby sex scandal is an on-going debate in the public forum. He has supporters as well as non-supporters. "Mr. Cosby does not intend to dignify these allegations with any comment," John P. Schmitt, Cosby's lawyer.

Bill Cosby

2014-11-21T15:33:00.002-08:00

Bill Cosby is a name that ushers a smile to my face for more than one reason. He and I were born in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, the neighborhoods of Germantown was Cosby's home. I spend time in the area of Germantown. He. too, attended Temple University. Only, I graduated whereas Cosby did not. Cosby's ability to bring laughter borders beyond a degree.

The allegations of inappropriate conduct of Cosby toward women started about a decade ago. Cosby denied them. He did not have a trial, judge or jury. The allegations are not true? People near and far are weighing in on the allegations. Some believe he is guilty while his fans are standing by the beloved father figure.

The old allegations of misconduct in regard to women took on new life when a social media stunt that requested fans to meme Cosby turned against him. Until recently, Cosby maintained that he did not drug and sexually assault young women.

I visited my Facebook feed to see stories and comments for and against Cosby. Facebook is not the only platform where people are expressing their views. Some are at the point of fighting words. The streets of Philadelphia, office cubicles, homes near and far are in discussion about the allegations.

People are in disagreement on questions about Cosby's responses to the media, or his reactions to reporters. Cosby had a chance to address the allegations to a NPR reporter. Crosby would not answer any questions. The opportunity for him to comment on the allegations arrived through The Associated Press. Only, Cosby had no comment. At the end of the interview, Cosby told the reporter asking about the sexual misconduct was of low integrity, and Cosby wanted that portion of the interview taken out.

Allegations against Cosby has taken a different turn. According to Deadspin, Cosby bullied an All American football player (http://deadspin.com/bill-cosby-once-publicly-bullied-a-notre-dame-football-1661325778). Cosby had been invited to speak at the school.

Bill Cosby has become more than a home-town personality. The allegations of drugging and sexual misconduct of young women who approached him for career advice will be proved or disproved in time. Facts are what can bring justice, truth and comfort.

Happiness Is?

2014-11-15T07:39:00.001-08:00

Happiness is you and your choices. Many people wonder if they will experience happiness or have happiness visit their lives again. The answer is yes. "I Am Responsible For My Own Happiness" applies to you. Choose positive choices that swings your mood to happy. It's not the choice to make someone else happy, but a choice that makes you smile. Let's look at paths to a better you.

1. Pull-up the courage to wave good-bye to whatever brings you sadness.
It's impossible to be positive when you're around negative people or those
who find pleasure in hurting others.

2. Dr. Martin Seligman who pioneered positive Psychology suggests "positive" emotions.
The happiest people discovered their strengths and used them. Sometimes, you have to
find courage to speak-up, stand-up and be heard.

I, for example, wrote the book: Start Writing.
Start Writing is the writer’s hand-book for common sense techniques to inspire remarkable writing projects. It walks you through setting-up appointments to get writing done, explains the best use for breaks and gives advice on a writing session‘s potential. There’s a right and better way to do most things in life. I discuss the effective way to use writing prompts. The topic turns to putting your own spin into writing ideas. Writing ideas are churned-out using your own spin with your experiences and views of the World stirred-in. The techniques in this book helps you develop your “voice and more.”
http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00OW9HNF0

3. Be mindful of your thoughts.
The issues and activities you ponder over and are interested in becomes a life-style. They curve-out your
   personality. The life changing thoughts like: I'll grow my business everyday or I'll not be dragged into
     others' misery shapes a person.

4. Bad experiences topple into life.
You, for example, call to cancel the cable service. The cable company all but says "no." The experience is
     a bad one. Learn from it. Use what you learned in a similar situation.

5. Plant a looking-forward-to project.

Look at your circumstances. What can you make or sell to help yourself? Your happiness? Turn it into a

    business. Start with people you know.

6. Talents.
    Decide on what talents you have. Talents are the first steps toward a brighter and happier
    tomorrow. Use your talents. I used my talent of word power to write a book, not my first. Now, explore     your talents. What will you create?

7. Believe.
     It's no harm in feeling unsure, but hold onto believing in yourself. Believe you can. It may not get finished
     today, tomorrow or next week. The goal is to keep working, moving forward and happiness is yours.

The Facts on Ebola

2014-11-15T05:35:00.000-08:00

The facts of Ebola stops unnecessary fear. They help you understand better how-to handle the fear associated with this often fatal disease. The public at large is not doomed to get Ebola, because the risk is low. The five major airports in the U. S. are checking people who have arrived from Guinea, Liberia and Sierra Leone, according to news reports.

People who have visited or are from the above countries will be checked by public health workers. The process is to last 21 days for possible symptoms of Ebola, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. The symptoms of Ebola are fever, diarrhea, vomiting, stomach pain, aches and weakness. The symptoms can resemble other diseases in the early stages.

The facts on Ebola are that those handling or in contact with the bodily fluids of a person infected can be at risk. People working with animals that have the virus are at a higher risk as well. A contaminated needle when not handled properly poses a threat.

There are travel warnings for "non-essential travel to Guinea, Liberia and Sierra Leone. The U. S. is taking the highest precautions for public safety. The U. S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention suggests that travel to the countries with an Ebola out-break be limited, or counsels against "non-essential" travel.

The facts of Ebola brings new challenges, and the U. S. is still working on the totality of it. The U. S. Food and Drug Administration to date has not approved a treatment for the virus. An experimental anti-body based drug is being considered. The drug is named ZMapp. Also, plasma from people who have over-come Ebola is being considered and used.

A Positive Attitude

2014-10-18T10:30:00.002-07:00

How Does a Positive Attitude Help?
A positive attitude spins-out better results in any situation life brings, day or night. Granted, it may not be the results you wanted, but positivity plays a big role in how the situation is resolved. The World of Relationships swirls into moments that can zap away a positive attitude, if you let it. It's not easy to stay positive in the middle of a difficult issue or problem. However, it's the moment to make a choice. Decide on whether you'll flow with negativity or muster the courage to have a positive attitude work for you. The positive attitude will inspire you to feel better as well as others during hard times. The following are ways to grab and hold onto a positive attitude.

Avoid un-necessary drama.
Ease away from people who lie, cheat and steal.
People with such habits bring negativity to anyone around them.
You can't help them unless they want help.

Learn How to Say No

It adds stress and burdens when you can't put the two letters together verbally. A positive attitude is next to impossible to have while you're worried about this commitment, that scheduled plan and the other get-together that you're responsible for. Practice the following ways to say no.

I can't, but I'll think about it.
Have to check my schedule.
I'm unable to take on any more responsibilities.
I wouldn't be able to any time soon.

Decide on Having a Positive Attitude

Be mindful of the fact that life is what you make of it. Choose to have a positive attitude. It will become a good habit with practice. It takes time, especially if change is difficult for you, to become one with positive thinking. You can do it. Try the exercise below, and add other words to keep you moving forward.

Practice saying the words in your mind.
I'll be positive today.
It doesn't matter what happens.
A positive day is mine.

Appreciate

Appreciate the people in your life, even what you're taking for granted. An appreciation for the small things will encourage you to feel more positive about life and feel better. There are, for example, places in the World where people are afraid to express opinions on or off-line.

Tell the people or a person in your life how much they matter to you.
Be thankful for just waking up each day.
Smile at the person you pass-by each morning.
Allow your inner positivity to shine through.

Adjust Your Diet

The foods you're eating or not eating may be impacting happiness. Perhaps, slices of fruit is a wise choice over candy and cookies. It's always a good idea to consult your health-care provider before attempting changes concerning food and exercise.

Substitute water for some other beverage.
Meals without lots of meat and salt are ways to help have a positive attitude.
Try smaller portions of food.
The goal is to balance in-take for a better you.

Schedule

Habits in life takes effort and determination to change. Schedule times to nurture a positive attitude. Most of us are multi-tasking, and it's necessary to schedule an appointment. Usually, when there's an appointment you keep it. The rule applies here too. It adds one more step to the positive way of thinking.

Pick the time and prompt that's right for you.
I will be positive today.
The job is mine (make sure you're qualified).
There's nothing to fear.

A positive attitude is "the difference maker," Dr. Alan Zimmerman, motivational speaker. The attitude you present can open or close a door of opportunity. An opportunity disappears when you're wearing a negative attitude.

A positive attitude is a key to success.
Happiness dances with positivity.
Stress tips away from a positive attitude.
The quality of life is better when a positive attitude is sprinkled around.

The Disappearance of Hannah Graham

2014-09-30T11:19:00.001-07:00

The disappearance of Hannah Graham, 18-year-old, from a Downtown Mall in Charlottesville, Virginia has led police forensically to a student disappearance that happened in 2009, according to reports. Morgan Harrington, 20-year-old, who was a Virginia Tech student also disappeared. Police found Jesse Matthew's DNA on Harrington which is the same person last seen with Hannah Graham. It suggests that the two had some kind of contact.

There is no doubt of the link between the Graham case and the death of Harrington. There is a "forensic link," Virginia State Police. An arrest has been made in the Harrington case, but what or who was responsible for her death is yet to be determined.

The last lead in the Harrington case occurred in 2010. It happened when a kidnapping and sexual assault of a third woman in 2005, Fairdax, Virginia, was linked by police to Harrington. The woman survived and was able to tell police what her attacker looked like.

Harrington's mother has made pleads for Matthew to tell where Graham is. "Just confess if you still have a spark of humanity." She recently learned of how he is a possible suspect in her daughter's killing. The police are working with the new information to see where and how it fits together.

Matthew has his friends and supporters. Matthew is chargeed with aduction with intent to defile in the disappearance of Hannah Graham. His friends and supporters are raising money for his legal fund. It is to pay for legal costs.

There is a Help Find Hannah Graham Facebook page. The page has over 39,000 likes. It shares information and opinions. The goal is to help find Graham.

The Third Side of Domestic Abuse

2014-09-11T08:41:00.000-07:00

The third side of domestic abuse is standing up for family, friends and siblings. Males are taught the role from an early age. Females are instructed to fight back when there are no males to fill the position. It is not just the norm for a specific segment of society. Think about it. How many people have you heard say, "I'll get 'em back for you." Or, "we'll get 'em." This belief or attitude is carried within until an incident like what Ray Rice, the former Balitimore Ravens running back, did to his then fiancée, Janay Palmer.

TMZ exposed a clip ( http://www.tmz.com/videos/0_ekaflcqq/) displaying how in February at one Atlantic City casino Rice knocked his, at the time, fiancee down and unconscious. The video became the topic of conversation on social media, office coolers and streets. Rice's behavior ignited talk about violence against women and the violence on Palmer. The third side of domestic abuse has to be recognized for what it is and managed. Some people grow pass the third side of domestic abuse without intervention. They learn to talk without fists.

Domestic violence is learned in childhood, research shares. Adults were studied as children who witnessed violence against those they loved and who cared for them. The people studied declared to never take part in domestic violence, but, often, they do.

Rice's behavior has spread controversy on the NFL Commissioner Roger Goodell as to whether or not Goodell should step down (http://www.cbsnews.com/news/ray-rice-controversy-roger-goodell-facing-increasing-scrutiny-from-nfl/). Goodell maintained that the first video made him uneasy, but the "extremely graphic" video made him ill, CBS news. The league office was not aware of a video until it became public on Monday, Goodell. When the league gained knowledge of Rice's video can not change the third side of domestic abuse.

This is a teachable moment. All of the leagues should take notes. Each league should use preventative measures. Talk about domestic abuse in a warm and understanding atmosphere. Domestic abuse has to be addressed as it is found. Employ the necessary experts to handle it. Teach classes on domestic abuse. When people learn better, they live productive and less abusive lives.

The third side of domestic abuse as it relates to Rice is yet to be written. Rice is talented and able to perform on the football field. There's a new lesson for him to learn, like so many others about walking away instead of using physical violence. He and his wife can get the necessary help, live well and Rice may, again, play football.

Justice

2014-08-26T09:51:00.004-07:00

Justice is "fairness" without regard to factors like race or religion, according to the Legal Dictionary. Laws are in place to punish crimes and mistakes. The laws are applied to all, but facts must surface about cases for justice to begin. Sometimes, one agency is not enough to bring justice, or what can be considered closure, conclusion. Also, time is required to maneuver through facts.

Justice remains as people live, work and move through their day. In 2014, August 9th, a teen (Michael Brown) moving through his day, and a police officer (Darren Wilson) at work met each other. The result was Brown's death, and the exact circumstances of what happened are still under investigation.

Some people in Ferguson, Missouri who witnessed the encounter of Brown and Wilson say the teen's hands were up in the air when Wilson shot him. On the other hand, "Josie," Wilson's friend, contacted a radio station to give Wilson's account of the meeting he and Brown had. There was a fight between Brown and Wilson, "Josie." Listen to what "Josie" said: http://www.971talk.com/blogs/dana-show-blog/audio-demand/exclusive-caller-claims-be-friends-darren-wilson-knows-his-side.

The journey to justice will test and weigh heavily on every emotion. The lack of timely information serves to bring forth unfavorable behavior. A complete picture is necessary before justice begins. The human element is essential. Sometimes, the human element may or may not get in the way through witnesses, tests and specific views on laws. Criminals and people who have agendas prey on tense moments. Looting and confrontations with law enforcement take hold of a community as criminals pluck attention away from the real issue(s). Police will do their job while a situation escalates.

Protests are allowed in the United States. It is when protests turn into random looting, stealing and disrespect that a community suffers, even a way of life is diminished. The only people happy in such unrest are the thieves.

Justice is the transportation to truth, even when accidentally blocked. It will rise to be heard. The laws in place will support justice to the right conclusions. The circumstances that led to Brown's death, right or wrong, will be revealed.

Michael Brown

2014-08-15T11:34:00.004-07:00

Michael Brown, 18-year old, made a choice to visit the store where a robbery took place, a call went out to the police, those circumstances escalated and ended Brown's life. Conflicting accounts surround what led to Brown's death. Police Chief Thomas Jackson of Ferguson, Missouri explained that the officer, Darren Wilson, unpublished at the time of his news conference, had been attacked by Brown in his cruiser. A fight for Wilson's gun ensued, and this is where the first shot rang out.

Micheal Brown did not touch Wilson's gun, and he "never attempted to grab" it, Dorian Johnson, Brown's, 22-year-old, friend and on the scene as the incident unfolded, reportedly. Johnson is the friend who was with Brown at the store as it was robbed, according to Johnson's attorney.

Police Chief Jackson stated Wilson went to the area after a 911 call about the robbery. The 35-feet distance Brown was from Wilson's police car when shot has become an issue. The state of mind the officer had will play a role, Experts. Also, how far and the direction bullets came from will be factors.

There were other witnesses to the encounter of Brown with Wilson. This particular witness heard a gun firing after seeing Brown pulling away from Wilson, Tiffany Mitchell. She stated that Brown faced Wilson with hands in the air.

A witness saw Brown running but he stopped, "hands in the air being compliant," Piaget Crenshaw. A 19-year-old who lives in the neighborhood. "He gets shot in the face" as well as the chest and tumbles to the ground.

Questionable decisions were made in 2014, August 9th. Brown was known to family and friends as "Big Mike." He was "just a sweet kid," Brown's cousin. Or, look at what the neighbor who knew him remarked, "a great kid," Markese Mull. Brown made choices that led to a tragic end, and sent a community into a downward spiral.

Wilson is "gentle, quiet man" as well as "a distinguished officer." A friend of Wilson's shared information. The call of a strong arm robbery came to Wilson and a description, "Josie," Wilson's friend. Wilson notices Brown(them), cigars and "he pulled up ahead of them. Wilson goes backward towards them, moves to get out of his vehicle. His door is "violently" closed. Brown tries to force him into the car, "punches him in the face" and he grab for Wilson's gun.

The video is available at Dana Radio.

Micheal Brown deserves to have the events of his death examined as whether or not his civil rights were violated. The family should be able to seek answers, and get them without someone whispering in their ears about a looting that was done in Brown's name. Criminals prey on the emotions of a community in the middle of a tragedy. Allow law enforcement to "serve and protect," and justice can be had by all.

World of Relationships

2014-08-14T09:36:00.001-07:00

World of relationships covers parents, siblings, friends, partners, associates to those relationships with supervisors. Relationships, in other words, varies depending on the people involved. Relationships flashes love, hate, anger and/or happiness around to various degrees. The emotion of happiness is preferred to some other emotions.

Happiness can't fully be understood and appreciated without experiencing some of the other emotions. Life has a tendency, sometimes, of slicing intense situations into happiness. A couple moving to their own happy beat can be slammed by words from someone in their circle of friends, for example. The words may or may not have been spoken to inflict harm. Still, the couple is left with a task of filtering those words out. The words could of remarked on time a couple spends together, in a way that shines a suspicious, sad or unfavorable light. A sibling, friend or associate spoke words that some are talking about and the very are causing stress.

How do you rinse-away hurtful words? World of relationships offers many paths. The less stressful paths are easier to stumble through. Take a look at you, your relationship. Are a few words spat in unkindness or not worth the stress it will cause a happy relationship? Should you take the time and energy to look into it? Stress stirs-in anger too. There's nothing wrong with allowing anger in. Take the next step, "give yourself permission to feel angry," Emilie Ross Raphael, Ph.D. Come to terms with anger and let it go.

Rinse-away hurtful words, anger, by talking with someone you trust. For one reason or the other, a therapist isn't an option. Address it when you're calm with the offending person. You can't talk about it with the person? Discuss it with a person you're sure is trustworthy. There's no need to tell anyone/everyone who will listen. Stop repeating the tale. Stop making yourself a victim. Start a new goal. Push away old negativity.

A path to rinse-away hurtful words is to write about it. Describe all of your feelings in a journal. Or, write about it in poems. Ask yourself questions. Why am I concerned? Why are the words hurtful? Is there a way to avoid the situation in the future? Am I over-reacting? Is the problem with whomever shared it? Should the person be in my circle? He/she has issues?

A useful path to rinse-away hurtful words is to write about them in poems. I wrote the following poem in a Free Verse. Free Verse poems has no set pattern or set line length.

Auntee's First Day Home

Auntee took baby steps

out of the car,

"Help me, can't make it

Up steps."

She stood on the porch

Hand clinched on door knob,

Thinking, maybe

Of days before the stroke,

Blinking back tears,

Grieving for lost self.

A flower turned in

That once curled out.

Auntee stumbled forward

My body cushioned hers.

Her sobs stabbed my heart

As we fell indoors.

World of relationships includes the many connections existing between people. The path of choice decides how much happiness and other emotions enters relationships. It's a good choice to write about problems, situations, relationships, to understand them better. It's excellent therapy.

Dating

2014-08-01T13:51:00.005-07:00

Texting Everyone

Dating comes with joys, ups and eruptions. Life continues along a path no matter who you date. It depends on the people involved in a relationship as to how much joys, ups and erupting stirs-into the relationship. How in the World of Relationships do I know, you wondered. I've been around long enough, talked with many friends/relatives, to know about dating. Of course, there's nothing wrong with not dating. It's just a matter of choice.

Dating brings joys when you're in a relationship with a person that is looking for the same kind of joys as you're seeking. There can't be much joy when one of the people in a relationship attracts drama, negativity. Why? A new problem or drama filled scene awaits as he/she is texting everyone about this rumor, that lie or the other fabrication. The other relationship partner is in the dark until there's an eruption. The eruption may come from someone angry at one or both people in the relationship, a person who just likes drama or an individual with an agenda.

A way to avoid an eruption is know what you want from the dating process. It's done by taking the time to be single, get to know what you like. You have to be secure in what you like, want, before enjoying as many ups as possible. Avoid hopping into any arm that's extended to you. Pick the right arm from the many extended arms. Learn to say "no." Or, expect fewer joys if you fail to learn the word "no." Eruptions will happen most of the time when you can't say "no."

Dating should be an activity that's not entered into easily. Ask yourself questions. Is he/she what I need to better my life. No one should come into your life with unnecessary drama or bad intentions. Bad intentions could be for you or others. Bad intentions equals eruptions, and it's rare that a anything good comes from them. The questioning process continues. Why should I have a relationship with ___________? What are his/her good qualities? Bad qualities? It's better when the good qualities out-weighs the bad qualities. Am I comfortable or could be comfortable with his/her bad habits? Job? Baggage? Will he/she help me get to the places that I want to go? Will I be a positive influence in his/her life? Add the questions that pertain to your life.

Dating, like other serious life processes, must be taken with caution or prepare for many eruptions with few joys. It's possible to know what you want, select carefully and end living with more eruptions. The first step in a situation like that is recognizing it. Ease yourself out of it. A mistake was made. Move on. Cry on your pillow, if necessary. Learn from the mistakes. Don't just move on. Upgrade to a better relationship and life. Simply, keep reaching for life's positive ventures.

I Can't Find the Right Partner

2014-07-24T13:54:00.004-07:00

I can't find the right partner is echoed by people here, there and everywhere. Some people are just out of a relationship, and others jump from partner to partner in hopes of attracting the right person. Unfortunately, there will always be people trying to cling to you while blocking connections with the right partners. You must muster the courage to say, "no" thank you.

Stop. Decide on what you want in a partner and relationship. It's impossible to have a healthy relationship when you don't know what you want. A person can shove any line of what isn't good for you in your face, and you'll except it when you're unclear. Find out what you want. How? Ask questions. What kind of partner do I want? A person in a certain financial position? Baker? Chief? Candlestick Maker? Define what will fill your needs.

I can't find the right partner by hopping around social media, clubbing or being introduced to someone a friend/relative may feel is right. It goes back to knowing what you want. Respond to anyone and everyone who shows an interest will get you tons of disrespect and despair. Remember, if you don't have any respect for you, no one else will either. You know what's best or who's suited for your life-style. Don't be afraid to use the word "no." Needless to say, be careful to whom you partner with.

Trouble comes in the form of turning a relationship break-up on yourself. You blame yourself when the relationship involved two people. You could of done things differently, better and with more enthusiasm. The looking back is a waste of time and energy. Move forward. Forward can mean taking time to discover your likes, dislikes and wants. Start the exercise routine after clearing it with the doctor. Take the college course that you have been wanting to.

I can't find the right partner will no longer upset you when goals are set for a better quality of life. "Talking" it out is an excellent choice according to Cosmopolitan. Chat with a trusted friend. Or, turn to writing therapy. Often, people just can't bring themselves to share the partnership experience. Writing therapy is done when you're ready, comfortable and there's no one to look over your shoulder. Write down all your feelings. What happened? Why? Why did you pick him/her? Re-adjust partner selection. Writing therapy will help you understand the situation better. Also, writing therapy can assist you in making the best possible partner choices in the future.

Forrest Timothy Hayes Longstanding Prostitution Relationship

2014-07-12T14:45:00.001-07:00

Forrest Timothy Hayes longstanding prostitution relationship with Alix Catherine Tichelman, 26, ended in November of 2013, and Tichelman is being looked at for the Google exective's death that occurred on his yacht in Santa Cruz, CA, per authorities.

Police commented in a statement that Tichelman is a prostitute who introduced a fatal dose of heroin into Hayes, 51 and father of 5. Tichelman did not try to help Hayes after he lost consciousness as caught by the security camera's footage obtained by the Police Department.

Tichelman moves around after Hayes goes down. Tichelman "steps over the body" more than once to drink from a "glass of wine," Police Department. Tichelman collects her belongings and is ready to depart from the yacht, "she reaches back" in an effort to pull a blind down. She did not call for help or dial 911.

Forrest Timothy Hayes longstanding prostitution relationship began through a website named SeekingArrangement. The website claims to have users in 139 countries, and represents itself as a "Sugar Daddy," website for dating.

Tichelman has a connection to the death of Dean Riopelle who was injected with heroin. Riopelle was Tichelman's boyfriend, reportedly, who overdosed on heroin as she took a shower. The coroner ruled Riopelle's manner of death as accidental, but his death is being looked into a second time in light of Tichelman's role in Hayes' demise.

SeekingArrangement is not promoting illegal activity. The website prohibits any activity pertaining to prostitution, spokeswoman Angela Bermudo. Hayes and Tichelman were in an adult relationship, and the relationship was "ongoing."

Forrest Timothy Hayes longstanding prostiution relationship have ignited conversations on social media to the office. "I was really devastated..." Todd Zion, worked under Hayes, according to reports. Tichelman was charged with manslaughter, felonies related to drugs as well as for prostitution, last week.

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CNN

Herald

Heavy.com