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Welcome to July!

noreply@blogger.com (Moondreamer) — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 13:19:00 +0000

The serene philosophy of the pink rose is steadying.

Its fragrant, delicate petals open fully and are ready to fall,

without regret or disillusion, after only a day in the sun.

It is so every summer.

One can almost hear their pink, fragrant murmur as they settle down upon the grass: 'Summer, summer, it will always be summer.'

~ Rachel Peden

Well, here we are, halfway through the year ... strangely, it feels both more and less than that at the same time. It doesn't seem more than a few weeks ago that I arrived here on Blogger, yet thinking about all the new experiences - the places I've been, the people I've met and the lessons I've learned - it feels like more than a year already!

But yesterday was indeed the halfway point of 2008, being the 183rd day of the year (182nd if we weren't in a leap year) with 183 days remaining.

It seems a pretty good point to stop and think about where we have been, where we are now and where we're going next. Why not take some time for yourself to dwell on things: the stories you've heard and the tales you've shared, and the narrative you weave into your life every day; the places you've been, the things you've seen, the wonderful new friendships you've made; things you've lost, things you've found; the things that have worked and those that haven't; mistakes made, lessons learned; the challenges you've faced and the dreams you've chased.

How much time this year have you spent doing the things you feel you should do rather than those you really want to do? How many times have you said Yes, when you really wanted to say No? How many times have you said No ... then wished you'd said YES!

How much time have you spent in the company of those you love? How much time have you spent have you spent enjoying your own company?

Where in your life are things working for you? What/who/where makes your heart sing?

What can you do to change the things that make you sad or worried or sick? How can you create a different perspective of the things you can't change?

Don't forget to give yourself a big pat on the back (as my wonderful Mum would say!) for all the things you've accomplished so far this year. The small things as well as the big things: the book you finished reading, or writing ... the short story or the draft or the research; the mountain you are climbing, no matter how many times you fall down; the times you have managed to collect the whole family together for a meal at the table; for sending the kids to school for a whole week with ironed uniform and matching socks; for the people you have made smile; for the stranger you helped or the friend you supported.

Sometimes just getting up and facing each new day is a huge accomplishment ... I bet if you write down all the things you deserve a cheer for this year, you'll make a long list.

Well done you! :o)

And give yourself a pat on the back for all the things you've tried too. If things haven't gone the way we hoped, or even planned, at least we're always in a better position for having learned something. It means we can try something again in a different way, or choose to try something else entirely.

It also means we have something that we can share with others, something that might help someone. Or make their day. Or even change their life ... how awesome is that!

My own musings about this year have included a huge appreciation for all the wonderful people I have met on Blogger, Twitter and Flickr, for the laughter and the lessons we have shared and for all the exciting possibilities. I have certainly stumbled a few times, fallen flat on my face more than once ... but I have got dusting myself down to a fine art now and nothing's broken! And with the support and encouragement of friends and family as well as fellow Bloggers, Tweeters and Flickr-ers(?) even falling flat on my face is never such a bad experience.

So, with many thanks to you all, I am really looking forward to July (to the rest of Summer, to the second half of the year ...)

I hope you've all had a really positive start, wishing you and yours good health, much love and laughter, many useful lessons and lots and lots of positive possibilities!

More Thoughts On Gratitude: Reasons to be Grateful

noreply@blogger.com (Moondreamer) — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 15:03:00 +0000

Well, it's a good day ... Blogger likes my pictures!

When I first started thinking about gratitude recently, I wrote a long list of things to be grateful for, which seem to sort themselves into five categories:

Personal Gifts

The gifts of talent and creativity, of imagination, of curiosity and of playfulness.

I think we often forget to indulge in the last three of these ... children are so much better at making the most of imagination, curiosity and playfulness.

The gifts of five amazing, delightful senses and an awesome brain and body.

I think the best ways to express appreciation and gratitude for such gifts is to indulge in them, to thoroughly explore and enjoy them, to use them to the best of our abilities.

Fundamental Needs

It's easy to forget to be grateful for basic needs like food, clothes and a roofover our heads.

Most of us are also blessed with the fulfilment of emotional needs, freedom, justice, human rights ...

A wonderful way to express appreciation for the fulfilment of our basic needs is to respect them and avoid wasting them. Our gratitude is evident when we share what we have with others.

Nature's Generosity

Nature really is boundless in her generosity! She gives us so many things to be grateful for: sunshine and rain, infinitely various light and colour, from the tiniest, breath-taking detail to spectacular, panoramic scenery.

Nature provides food, shelter, clothing ... even entertainment.

Expressing appreciation and gratitude for Nature's gifts is easy ... just enjoy them!

The Gift of People

I have used a picture of a tree rather than a picture of people. Partly because my pictures of people are very few and never very good ... this is something I'm looking forward to working on! But also because a tree is indicative of heritage, of the gifts we receive from ancestors and those we pass on to our descendants. A tree is also an image of growth, of strenth and resilience, all of which are gifts from the people in our lives.

Making a list of all the people who have been a positive influence in your life is a wonderful gratitude-enhancing exercise. Writing my own list has also made me express my appreciation directly to those on my list. Speaking and writing my appreciation enhances and amplifies my gratitude, reminding me how blessed I really am.

There are lots of lovely ways to express thankfulness for the people in our lives: a smile, a hug, a verbal or written 'thank you' or the reciprocation of an action.

The Joy of Learning

Life's many lessons are easier learned when in a place of appreciation and gratitude: mistakes become lessons; weaknesses become strengths; difficulties become challenges.

The happy, humble bee can teach us much about hard work and perseverance, and about making the most of our surroundings. I have begun learning about bees and am increasingly amazed at these phenomenal little creatures.

Sitting on my doorstep, watching then dance in the sage, listening to their hypnotic song, I can't help but be glad to be alive, to have a doorstep to sit on and a moment to take advantage of it, to have an acute sense of sight and hearing ... a simple moment filled with thankfulness.

Today's Gratitudes

Today I am grateful for:

Lots of pots to wash: Washing pots is a form of meditation for me. I find it relaxing to focus on the rhythm, the noises, the feel of the water and bubbles, the pleasure of a clean plate being lifted onto the draining board. My mind sifts through any problems I have when I wash the pots, searched for answers suddenly appear to questions that have been lingering all day.

A noisy, messy house: This being evidence of two healthy teenagers in the house, at home rather than out wandering the streets.

Losing my creative flow recently: For a few weeks, I felt unable to write anything at all. Instead, I spent a lot of time outside, quality time with Youngest Daughter and together we created a garden from a jungle.

Losing my focus: I lost my focus too, but this allowed me to refocus on some important things and people I had been neglecting.

Blogger, Twitter and Flickr: Or rather, all the wonderful people I have met through them. I truly appreciate the genuine warmth, the mutual support and encouragement, the inspiring thoughts and wisdom of experience so generously shared.

Thank you! x

Take a moment from your day today, make a cup of tea and put your feet up perhaps, or go for a walk and find a beautiful place to sit. Treat yourself to a little time to contemplate the gifts you have, the gifts you have received and those you have to offer.

Who and what are you thankful for today?

:o)

Some Thoughts on Gratitude: Images of Appreciation

noreply@blogger.com (Moondreamer) — Thu, 12 Jun 2008 12:42:00 +0000

I have been thinking a lot about gratitude recently.

I have never found it hard to find things to be grateful for. I really enjoy expressing my appreciation for (and to) the people in my life. I count my many blessings every day (well, some of them ... I'd be there all day, if I counted them all!) And every day, I discover more.

That's the thing with gratitude. It's self-nurturing; it nurtures itself, in that being grateful makes us grateful, makes us notice things to be grateful for.

But it also nurtures our Self.

And recently, I have had cause to think even more about gratitude, to be even more grateful.

I am grateful to have started last week by reading Joanna Young's thought-provoking post, 12 Reasons to Enjoy Writing with Gratitude:

Gratitude adds an additional quality or dimension to your writing.

Setting gratitude as the purpose for my writing changes the way that I write,

the way that I work, and the way that I feel.

Joanna explains how thankfulness boosts serotonin, how gratitude shapes our language and our world, helps us learn and reflect and has value for others.

Although writing specifically about the concept of writing with gratitude, Joanna's words are filled with her beautiful, grateful spirit and spill over into thankfulness for life ... the wonderful Mahalo, expressed every day in word and action by Joanna and her friends, Rosa Say and Amy Palko.

Joanna explains how gratitude helps us to pay attention: "It's a mindset that gets you to notice things, to figure out the detail of what was so special, to identify the spectacular in the everyday, and the extraordinary in the ordinary. Working this into your writing helps to make your words vivid and real."

... to identify the spectacular in the everyday, and the extraordinary in the ordinary.

These words speak to me of Amy Palko, who truly lives her life less ordinary. She relishes each and every moment she experiences, embraces each and every person she meets and rejoices in sharing it all.

I am grateful to be a member of the Photography Less Ordinary group on Flickr, started (and lovingly nurtured) by Amy. The images shared are diverse and fascinating and truly inspiring. I have realised how creative photography is; I have learned that the pleasure of photography lies not simply in taking a photograph.

I am grateful to have discovered photography (and particularly Amy's fantastic group) for so many reasons:

The Joy of Discovery

Simply being out in the fresh air is an excellent benefit of photography. (I swear all the time I have spent enjoying fresh air and exercise recently has boosted my immune system, having survived a houseful of poorly people last week ... without even a sniffle!)

The more we look for beauty, for the spectacular or the extraordinary, the more we find; the more we find, the more we look.

The discovery of something beautiful or fascinating is an incredible high. But the journey of discovery is equally exciting.

Capturing a Moment

Taking photographs and seeing those taken by other people, makes me appreciate things I might usually pass by without a second thought.

Photography makes me look at things from different perspectives.

A permanent image gives us a chance to really appreciate something, to think about it in different ways.

Sharing Images and Thoughts

I love that uploading photographs onto the computer is yet another discovery.

And sharing images with other people is a further voyage of discovery as we all have different perspectives of an image, or different images of the same perspective, or images inspire different thoughts.

Photography is all about learning: learning about photography itself, about the things or people we photograph, about the world around us, our environment, ourselves ...

Endless learning. Awesome Beauty. Infinite Gratitude.

So much about photography makes me think of Rosa Say and her wonderfully infectious spirit of Mahalo, the Hawaiian value of Living in Thankfulness:

Mahalo means “thank you” and as a value Mahalo is appreciation and gratitude as a way of living. We live in thankfulness for the richness that makes life so precious at work and at home. Mahalo is the opposite of indifference and apathy, for it is the life perspective of giving thanks for what you have by using your gifts — and all of your gifts — in the best possible way.

Photography has encouraged me to be more aware of the beauty and richness around me. And to be more thankful for it. It allows me to revel in my sense of wonder and curiosity and to express my appreciation. It grounds me in the moment and fills me with gratitude.

Joanna's post was inspired by Rosa:

Rosa epitomises graceful, quiet, thoughtful and meaningful gratitude. You'll hear her saying, "mahalo" often. And you'll watch her living her values: appreciation and gratitude as a way of living.

And Joanna's lovely warm words of appreciation and gratitude have inspired me to think about my own thankfulness. Rosa, Joanna and Amy have all epitomised Aloha and Mahalo for me since I first met them.

They also inspire the values of ‘Ohana (those who are family, and those you choose to call your family ... a human circle of complete Aloha), Ha‘aha‘a (humility and open-mindedness) and ‘Ike loa (the value of learning and of continuous improvement, where life-long learning and the seeking of more knowledge is an on-going passion.)

This post has been written with gratitude and appreciation to Joanna, Amy and Rosa, because it was inspired by you and the values I see you living and sharing.

:o)

Well, I have had problems again uploading photos onto Blogger. The one at the top of this post uploaded without any problems but I have spent hours trying to upload some more, which is frustrating as they seemed to fit the words perfectly and I love mixing words and images.

Plus, I'm not sure what publishing will do to the spacing, having managed to upload one picture.

I'm really sorry if the spacing makes it difficult to read!

You can see the pictures on Flickr.

A Moment of Reflection and Appreciation

Plus some gorgeous, inspirational images from Amy Palko, Joanna Young and Rosa Say.

:o)

Lessons From the Garden

noreply@blogger.com (Moondreamer) — Thu, 29 May 2008 11:40:00 +0000

Life is a lot like a garden. Ever-changing. Never perfect. Full of colour and texture. It's hard work, but rewarding.

Like life, a garden provides pleasure and beauty alongside sadness and disaster.

Scattering the Seeds

We sew seeds in life every day; seeds of friendship and enmity, of success and failure, of joy and despair.

Sometimes we sew them accidentally.

Sometimes we choose to sew the wrong seeds.

Sometimes the seeds we sew will die or turn out very differently to the way we had expected.

Sometimes seeds grow that we didn't sew ourselves.

Sometimes we sew the right seeds in the wrong place and they struggle to thrive. Or we call them weeds, tear them out and throw them away.

Sometimes we sew seeds and don't nurture them properly. We feed them with worry and water them with doubt. Or we neglect them and the weeds take over.

But when we sew the right seeds in the right place and we nurture them often, with just a little love and attention, the result is incredible. Little seeds soon become flowers of amazing, awesome, powerful beauty. Beauty to take your breath away. Beauty to melt your heart or soothe your soul.

As a flower scatters its seeds to spread beauty through a garden, we can scatter seeds of tolerance and compassion. Or positive thinking. Or creativity. Or justice.

Making the Most of What We Have

Creating a garden is all about working with what we have. We cannot change the location or the weather or the soil, just as we cannot change who we are, where we came from or what we have to work with in our lives right now.

But we can work with nature to create something healthy and happy.

We can work hard to prepare the ground and provide for needs.

We can choose to plant things that will thrive.

We can adapt to changes.

And we can change the way we look at it ...

Choosing Our Perspective

If we don't like the view, then we can easily change it. We can uproot and replant things. We can grow new things. We can take down fences and build benches. (And weave hearts.)

We can change the view or we can change the direction in which we look. We can decide to go and sit in a different part of the garden and appreciate a different view.

We can change the view or we can change the way we look at it. The wider picture, the smallest details; both are as important in the garden as they are in life. Looking at something from a different angle, from closer or further away, can make a big difference to the way we perceive it.

We can change the view or we can change ourselves.

Lessons From the Garden

There is a time for everything. And everything has its time.

Things happen. Not everything goes to plan. (Often, things work out even better than planned.)

Weeds are just flowers in the wrong place.

Hard work in the right place is doubly rewarding. It feels good and it pays off in the long run.

Things may or may not work. But they are always worth trying.

The things we truly love and nurture will grow the best.

Nature As Mentor

Nature can certainly teach us a thing or two!

Flowers teach us that rain is just as important as sunshine. In fact, without plenty of rain, flowers will quickly die. Flowers also look gorgeous in the rain!

Trees teach us how to live alongside each other. Walking through Bluebell Woods and around the Mere last week, I was amazed to notice just how many different trees were happily living side by side. The reason I actually noticed was because I had seen this lovely image, and read Rosa Say's inspiring words:

*Lōkahi. We can live in harmony and in unity.

If trees can do it, rooted together where they stand, then so can we!

Birds teach us how to greet the new day with a song. They don't seem to worry much about what happened yesterday, they are simply filled with joy at each new dawn. Joy at having worms to catch and a family to feed. Joy at being alive and being able to sing. And they share their joy with everyone around them.

Wishing you all a wonderful week, filled with riotous colour and jubilant song!

(The links above are all to images on flickr. It's much easier than doing battle with Blogger! I love sharing pictures with you, but still have real problems both with uploading and with spacing. Flickr rocks!)

* Lōkahi (loh-kah-hee) means harmony, unity and collaboration. For more on beautilful Hawaiian values, have a look at Rosa's fab Managing With Aloha Coaching.

:o)

May Full Moon, Moon Phase Gardening, the Recycled Garden and Monday Feelgoods

noreply@blogger.com (Moondreamer) — Mon, 19 May 2008 11:19:00 +0000

May Full Moon

The Moon will be Full tonight:

Sydney, Australia - 1.11pm AEDT May 20
Los Angeles, USA - 7.11pm PDT May 19
London, England - 3.11am May 20

(from Yasmin Boland)

There are lots of names for the May Full Moon:

Milk Moon (Colonial American)
Planting Moon (Chinese)
Panther Moon (Choctaw)
Bright Moon (Celtic)
Hare Moon (English Medieval)
Grass Moon (Neo Pagan)

Moon When Leaves Are Green, Moon To Plant (Dakotah Sioux)

Many of these are names that reflect the new growth of Nature. It would seem another great time to plant new seeds, literally and figuratively.

Planting Seeds

I'm busy planting seeds of all kinds at the moment. I am developing a new Channel on Helium, for Single Parents and designing the Student Mum website, both of which need nuturing and both of which I look forward to watching blossom. (Any suggestions for both would be gladly welcomed.)

There is also a new Mentoring Channel on Helium, another small seed filled with infinite possibilities. If you have mentoring experience of any kind, your insight would be much appreciated and valued.

A Recycled Garden

I have also spent lots of time in the garden over the past couple of weeks.

I am on a mission to create a garden without spending any money. This has included recycling the hedge cuttings. Youngest daughter and I have made little fences for borders in the flowerbeds, wigwams for peas and sweet peas, a bird house and a woven heart. We even made a usable bench from an old bunk bed, a large brick (hammer) and string ... no kidding! I've put the photos and comments on flickr because it's easier than putting them on here!

I'm a bit concerned for the safety of a pair of blackbirds who appear to be on a suicide mission. They're building a nest in the beech hedge on the other side of the path just outside our front garden. Not content with building a home in such a daft place, they've taken to thoroughly harrassing Tizzy!

For some strange reason, they spend most of the day dancing, right in front of her nose as she tries to chill out in the garden, hurling a barrage of abuse at her. So far she has pretty much ignored them, but I'm worried she's just biding her time until they have a nest full of babies to raid. Mind you, if they carry on spending so much time entertaining Mrs. Tizzywinkle, they'll never finish their nest.

I wonder if they're telling her they know she's there and they're not scared of her. But such a strategy is very risky ... all they've done is advertise their new home and thoroughly annoy the ur-cat at the same time!

Moon Phase Gardening

The phases of the moon have long been associated with agriculture and horticulture and are the foundation of Biodynamic Gardening.

The New Moon is considered a time to plant seeds. The waxing phase following the new moon, when the moonlight gradually increases, is said to be good for encouraging foliage growth. The waning moon following a full moon is said to be a time when root growth is encouraged.

So, on both counts I have made mistakes this week. I have scattered seeds left over from last year all over the garden and transplanted a hydrangea (I think) from an overgrown corner into the middle of the front garden. Not the best timing as far as lunar gardening goes, but the only timing I had available ... the results will be interesting.

The Benefits of Gardening

It's so lovely to get back into the garden, the therapeutic benefits are diverse.

Benefits to mental, physical and spiritual health are all available in the garden. Gardening is even used to treat illness or addiction, or to reintegrate people into the community after recovery. A garden is a useful place for teaching and learning. From basic literary and numeracy skills to social skills, horticulture is a useful educational resource.

This is something I know Dave Riddell will agree with. His Outdoor Classrooms projects embody the philosophy of natural learning alongside supporting the environment.

Fresh Air Feelgoods

Feelgoods to start your week, all about spending time reconnecting with nature or simply enjoying the fresh air:

* Buy a bag of rose petals from a florist and scatter them around your house.

* Go hunting for shells on a beach.

* Rent a canoe or kayak and contemplate life.

* Go to an outdoor concert.

* Go to an observation point or scenic overlook and get some perspective.

Have a wonderful week!

:o)

More from Yasmin Boland:

How long since you read this?

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we subconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we're liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."

- Marianne Williamson (not as often believed, Nelson Mandela - Mandela read it out at one of his most famous speeches, but the text is from Willamson's book Return To Love)

See http://www.marianne.com

:o)

Feeling Good: New Words, New Worlds and Outdoor Gardens

noreply@blogger.com (Moondreamer) — Tue, 13 May 2008 13:11:00 +0000

A quick Women and the Moon link for you, a little late (story of my life at the moment!):

A Woman in the Moon song by the lovely Chely Wright

Another lonesome night
Staring at the sky
But I don't help to ease an aching heart
The man up in the moon
Keeps on talking himself blue
And once again I'm left here in the dark

Let me talk to the woman in the moon
I think I need another point of view
That ol' man up there
Doesn't seem to care
Let me talk to the woman in the moon

Heaven's up above
I just want a little love
Cause I'm so tired of living all alone
Please lend a friendly ear
Cause I need some help down here
Somebody with the heart to be my own

Let me talk to the woman in the moon
I think I need another point of view
That ol' man up there
Doesn't seem to care
Let me talk to the woman in the moon

I can't help but look up there and wonder
Will I ever hold him in my arms
Please help me with this spell I've fallen under
Cause I can't seem to find my lucky stars

Let me talk to the woman in the moon
I think I need another point of view
That ol' man up there
Doesn't seem to care
Let me talk to the woman in the moon

Let me talk to the woman in the moon

Ha! I love the idea of talking to the woman in the moon!

Tuesday Feelgoods!

And a few feelgood links for you (well, it doesn't have to be Friday, I'm feeling full of feelgoods and always like to spread them around!):

I have recently learned a new word and new meaning within an old one.

The Hawaiian word Aloha is so much more than the hello/goodbye I had thought. It encompasses the Hawaiian value of love and inner spirit and it means, among other things, "I recognise the same breath of life within you." For more about the values within Hawaiian culture, from the inspirational Rosa Say, have a look at her lovely Managing With Aloha Coaching. Her site embodies a concept being widely discussed online recently:

I'm not sure what to call it, I'm not sure if it has a specific name (though many Hawaiian words express it) but I find it exciting and uplifting. It goes beyond ethical, includes creating (celebrating) the personal within the professional, the moral within the commercial, it speaks of respect and integrity in business life ... it is a holistic kind of approach to business, I guess.

To life, in fact.

And there is a word that sums it up:

Niebu!

Niebu is a newly-created, magical word that holds a whole new world within in it.

A word inadvertently created by James Chartrand of the excellent MenwithPens, by mistyping an early morning greeting to Dave Navarro on Twitter. Dave responded in kind and a new word was born. (More links to Niebu on Life is a Learning Curve.)

A humble typo has since developed into an awesome word/concept/philosophy. A wor(l)d full of positive possibilities, it means hello, goodbye, I hope you have a wonderful day, sending good thoughts ...

So, a very warm Niebu to you all! :o)

And a final feelgood (for today) is the concept of Outdoor Classrooms.

As Dave Riddell explains in his great post, not only do schools (and the environment) benefit from outdoor classrooms; there is a positive effect on the wider community too:

"Beyond the school, the construction of an outdoor classroom also benefits community members by providing opportunities to increase their environmental awareness and knowledge, while offering additional means of participation in both their child’s education and local environmental stewardship."

There has even been a positive effect on the level of vandalism:

"To date, no vandalism or disturbance of either the nursery beds or the native wildflower landscaping has occurred. This is significant, given that the schoolgrounds receive considerable traffic after hours and have experienced defacement and destruction of property in the past."

Tree nurseries, native wildflower beds and proposed constructed wetlands are all fantastic places to encourage the interest of children and their families in nurturing the environment. Such wonderful learning spaces benefit everyone and this idea really excites me, I hope it spreads far and wide like beautiful seeds on a helpful breeze!

:o)

Prioritising Priorities and Friday Feelgoods

noreply@blogger.com (Moondreamer) — Fri, 09 May 2008 13:17:00 +0000

What to do when you have too many things to do?

I have been suffering from Information Overload for a while. (Forever in fact, having never grown out of the curious child who constantly asks "But why ...?")

But it's increased from a molehill to a mountain this week. Think it might be something to do with the gorgeous weather. I'm finding it hard to stay indoors. Especially as I've been working in the front garden and it's now looking lovely and tidy ... and the house looks like a herd of elephants have been having a party here for a week.

So being outside today is nicer because the sun is shining, but also because I'm escaping the chaos. And I now have a lovely view of my neighbour's awesome cherry tree in blossom, having cut down half my unruly hedge (which took almost two whole afternoons!)

I also created an arch above the gate, and in cutting down the hedge, now have a collection of twigs to weave into a fence like we did last year ... much to Youngest Daughter's delight (Eldest Daughter just rolls her eyes at my 'creativity' in the garden.)

So, lots done this week, but always another job to do in the garden, and I could happily spend hours pottering.

Meanwhile things have mounted up elsewhere.

Things I need to deal with (RIGHT NOW!):

Catch up with posts (on all five blogs)
Respond to perhaps almost 20 important emails (daren't count them!)
Tidy (and scrub) the house top to bottom
Tackle the side and back gardens (still entirely jungle-like)
Get out Summer clothes/put Winter clothes away
Some work for Helium
Reading/commenting on other blogs
Answering comments on Towards 2011
Reading downloaded ebooks
Reading library books
Writing recycling article
Catching up with RSS feeds ...

And that's just off the top of my head, without actually looking at my List Of Things To Do Today!

Sitting with a coffee in front of my laptop this morning, I realised I needed to have a serious word with myself. The problem is that I have too much to do, so I don't know where to start. I've started things then been distracted by what appear to be higher priorities, so nothing has actually been done. Ok, so what to do? I decided that the answer was to just do one thing. Excellent idea! the only problem of course, is that I have so much to do that I don't know which thing to start with ... hmm, that didn't get me any further.

I even wrote a monthly plan last week. I have everything I need to do written in a notebook, so it's not cluttering up my head and making me feel pressured. But when I look at it all in writing, because there's so much and most of it needs doing right now (or yesterday), I feel sick and dizzy!

How to prioritise when everything is equally important?

I was trying so hard to work out which one thing was the most important. And spending far too much time not actually doing anything. Plus the sunshine on my step was calling and further distracting me. A friend turning up for coffee was a great excuse to sit outside and having shared my dilemma with her, she suggested I write a post about it and left me sitting on the step, scribbling some notes for it in a notebook.

Writing a post on here was one of my priorities and after all, in the end it doesn't matter what the priorities are if nothing gets done because of indecisiveness (otherwise known as dithering.)

So, I'm writing this post. Then I'm going to tackle my emails. Then ...

Then, I'll decide what to do next! If I start thinking, "Then I'll do A, then B, then C ..." I start feeling all dithery again.

I start thinking, "But really, C is more important. Or maybe, on consideration, B is more important. Oh, I forgot about Q completely, maybe ..."

Or, of course, I could just go out and potter around in the sunshine again! :o)

Some Friday Feelgoods For You

* Sing loudly to Aretha Franklin in the shower.

* Send someone flowers for no reason.

* Send yourself flowers for no reason!

* Dance to your favourite music (in front of the mirror, with a hairbrush!)

* Make a fruit salad using fruits of every colour.

* Visit the sea, or a lake or a river and dip your feet in the water.

* Go roller-skating in the local park.

The above are all adapted from The Woman's Book of Simple Delights by Kerry Colburn and Debbie Hanley (Running Press: London, 2003).

The following is courtesy of Joanna Young on Twitter. Thank you, Joanna, this is truly lovely:

* Stand in your garden with bare feet, feeling warm earth. Breathe in sunshine and breathe out gratitude.

So, back to my garden ... erm, email inbox!

Because I know If I just get something done, it will likely trigger off a whole load of other things. That one thing done will be one less priority, whichever order they're in.

But how is anyone supposed to resist this:

Do you suffer from information overload? How do you deal with it? How do you decide (or organise) your priorities? How do you choose where to start a To Do List?

For anyone else with the too-much-to-do syndrome, check out Dave Navarro's fantastic Rock Your Day!

Wishing you a weekend full of sunshine.

And no overloads!

:o)

Do Whatever Makes Your Heart Sing

noreply@blogger.com (Moondreamer) — Tue, 06 May 2008 12:02:00 +0000

Hope you all had a lovely Bank Holiday (in the UK)?

Lovely sunny weather in North Yorkshire so I spent most of yesterday in the garden. It feels like Monday today. I'm always a day behind, or a day ahead ... I get very confused after a Bank Holiday!

So.

A Little About the Moon ...

It was a New Moon yesterday, a lovely positive New Moon, as Yasmin Boland explains:

This New Moon takes place on the Angelic Point known as "Creative Genius", no less! It's most certainly a chance for anyone with creativity burning a hole in their brain to start to actually do something about it.

And Conspiracy Planet explains that the New Moon is in Taurus:

It is time to ground and assess your personal goals.

What are your core values?

What makes your heart sing?

These are great questions. Spend a little time today contemplating what makes you tick and what makes you buzz ... sounds a bit like an alarm clock!

And don't feel guilty. At all.

Share Your Song

I saw Iyanla Vanzant talking on the Oprah show many years ago. Something she said about doing what we love, about nurturing our own spirits, has really stuck with me (I'm paraphrasing):

Spending time nurturing ourselves is not a self-ish activity, it's a self-full action.

When we do the things that make our hearts sing, our beautiful song is heard by others. And beautiful songs are catching. When we feel good, we're better at making others feel good.

My very wise Mum has often reminded me:

As a Mum you should always take take care of yourself first. You can't look after the girls properly if you don't look after yourself.

Good advice. Not that I have always followed it, it's not the easiest advice to follow. It's easy to get caught up in the struggle of daily life and neglect the small, important stuff (from eating and sleeping properly to nuturing our own spirits.) It's easy to run ourselves into the ground until we have nothing left to give.

Life today is very demanding.

Why is that?

We have so many time-saving devices, our days are longer, our world smaller ... yet we seem to have less time. Less time for the small things in life, the important things in life, for the people we love, and for ourselves.

Nurture You and Yours

But it's true that our children (in fact everyone in our lives) benefit from our being healthy and fulfilled, from our being able to spend quality time with them in good spirits.

Don't get me wrong, I think it's healthy for children to see we are sometimes sad or angry, confused or frustrated, that humans are not supposed to be eternally cheerful and always in control of life.

But besides all the benefits from spending quality time with us at our best, children also learn from us how to deal with the stresses of today's fast-paced life. If they see us take time out and focus on ourselves now and then, they are more likely to do so themselves.

Whether we have children or not, as individuals we must try to remember that we are one of our most important priorities. And I know it's not easy! But spend a little time on you today. Make a promise to yourself that you will do one thing that you love every day. The people in your life will appreciate it. They will benefit from it.

Another thought from Conspiracy Planet suggests that this is supported by the New Moon in Taurus:

If you work on your own issues with the greater good in mind during this lunation you will be greatly rewarded. There is great potential for a significant collective knowing, a return to caring and generosity among people.

Don't Always Go With the Flow

Sometimes, without us even realising, the flow becomes a raging torrent and we suddenly become aware that we are struggling to keep our heads above water.

Another thought from Iyanla, quoted in Louise Hay's Everyday Positive Thinking:

If you don't make clear and conscious choices, you'll be stuck with whatever shows up.

Choose to step out of the river sometimes and chill out on the bank, just watching the world go by. Soak up some sunshine for a while. Lie among the flowers. Do whatever makes your heart sing.

Have a lovely week!

:o)

Friday Feelgoods: May Days and Wonderful Weekends

noreply@blogger.com (Moondreamer) — Fri, 02 May 2008 13:19:00 +0000

I spent this morning at a Media Open Day at the local Recycling Centre (Material Recycling Facility.) Talk about stepping out of your comfort zone. Almost too scared to go and not a very good start, when I got out of a friend's wagon in the carpark and fell headlong in the dirt! But a fantastic day, fascinating stuff and a good reminder to face up to fears. Will share more about it on the Freelance Writing Curve over the weekend. (The most recent post on there is about Writer's Block ... it would be great to hear your views on that unfortunate affliction!)

Some Friday feelgoods for you ...

Welcome to the Magical Month of May

May was named after the Greek Goddess Maia, the mountain goddess "of the lively black eyes." She was also know as Bona Dea, the "Good Goddess," who was associated with healing - the sick were tended to in her temple gardens with medicinal herbs. Bona Dea was also associated with freedom from slavery and her followers were mostly slaves, low-class citizens and women.

In French and German folk tradition, people planted a tree in May to honour someone special. What a lovely idea. I can't afford a tree, but have decided to plant a seed for each of my friends and family. I'm looking forward to choosing something that has special meaning for them and planning making a list as something lovely to do this weekend.

See below for Deborah Ng's fab ideas for the weekend!

In British folklore, May is a generally unlucky month, it seems! Although with some great anniversaries. And thankfully there are lots of great days to celebrate in May:

Note: May 2nd is NOT Autism Awareness Day ... as I announced this morning. On Twitter! (Honestly, I'm not so much Twitterer as Twit!)

Wish I'd written this post first. Somehow I'd fogotten we were in May, and realising it was the 2nd, I posted a link to Autism Awareness Day, which was actually on April 2nd! Oh well, at least it means everyone has plenty of notice for next year. It's not the first time I've made such a public fool of myself (with evidence, in writing, online ... forever!) And it probably won't be the last. It's a good job I find it funny!

Every day in May (quite appropriately in my case) is a day of Mental Health Awareness Month, with this year's tagline: "Get Connected."

At least it is in the US. It seems we don't have one in the UK, but let me know if I'm wrong.

I think it's an excellent idea. Mental health is still such a taboo subject, yet one in three of us will suffer some kind of mental health problem at some point in our life. As someone who suffered from a total physical, mental and emotional meltdown a few years ago, I am happy to talk about it, if only to let people know they aren't alone (mental health problems are very isolating) and that there is light at the end of the tunnel.

May is also New Zealand Music Month in NZ and Celebrate Older Adults Month. It seems we don't have one of those either ... what a shame! I strongly believe we should cherish our elders and feel passionately about ensuring they are heard, particularly women, as you might have gathered from my Crone post! Wikipedia have a list of individuals who became famous in old age, most of whom are, interestingly, women.

The third week in May is Bike-To-Work Week ... another fantastic idea. I don't possess a car, in fact I don't even possess a driver's licence. I currently don't possess a working bike either, but I do walk everywhere or use public transport and really believe it's a great way to help the environment. Easy for me, I know - there are times a car is necessary. Well, we manage without one, but it is very difficult sometimes and we do have friends and family with cars, so benefit from that when we visit them. It must be very hard to avoid 'unnecessary' use of a car if you actually have one!

The second Saturday is World Fair Trade Day, something else I think is well-worth getting involved with.

The second Sunday is Mother's Day in lots of countries.

So, May is overflowing with feelgoodness!

Everyday Indulgences

I have a lovely, tiny, pink book covered in gold writing and glitter (would post a pic, but Blogger is being mean again!) It's one of my favourite books. It makes me smile, because it is filled with more than 200 everyday indulgences:

The Woman's Book of Simple Delights written by Kerry Colburn, beautifully illustrated by Debbie Hanley (Philidelphia: Running Press, 2003)

It's not exclusive to women, all the ideas are great for guys too ... although perhaps not these three:

1. Paint your toenails a colour you've never dreamt of wearing.

2. Try on couture gowns at a fancy boutique.

3. Buy fishnet stockings and wear them to a meeting you're dreading.

Then again ... I have a male friend who'd be up for all of them! The thought of a nervous business man with fishnet stockings under his suit makes me giggle, at least. (So it probably counts as an everyday indulgence of mine.)

I'll share a few with you every Friday and try and think up some more. Let me know your own ideas too!

1. Take a salsa lesson.

2. Spend a full half-hour at a florist's or greenhouse (floral smells are a natural high.)

3. Make a list of the best compliments you've ever received.

4. Read your favourite childhood book.

5. Invite a friend over for jump rope and hopscotch.

Does anyone else remember a game with elastic? I think we called it French Skipping. Like a bigger version of Cat's Cradle ... remember that, too?

6. Skip rocks at the beach or riverbank.

7. Let yourself have total stillness for 15 minutes in the middle of the day.

Pass on the Feelgoods

Deborah Ng has posted a wonderful list of 26 Free Things to Do this Weekend as a Family.

My first thought was to share them with you by posting them here, adding one or two then passing it on like a meme. But a much better idea is to share a link to Deborah's Simply Thrifty blog. So you can check out Deborah's post (and the rest of her lovely blog) and leave her a comment with your own ideas, then share Simply Thrifty and your own ideas on your blogs if you want to.

To be honest, it wasn't easy to think of any more, Deborah's done a great job! But here's a few ideas:

1. Make a simple bird feeder or start a Nature Journal.

2. Write and perform a play.

3. Decorate plant pots (or old plastic containers, like margerine tubs) and plant an apple seed in each one ... for someone special.

Wishing you all a wonderful weekend!

:o)

RSS: the Really Simple way to Stay in touch

noreply@blogger.com (Moondreamer) — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 14:35:00 +0000

It's RSS Awareness Day Tomorrow!

Daniel Scocco of Daily Blog Tips suggests various ways to participate:

1. Blog about it: on May 1st write a post or article on your website about RSS. You can just mention that it is the RSS Awareness Day and link to some RSS resources, or you can explain what RSS is and teach your readers how they can make the most out of RSS. You can even write a poem about RSS, there are no limitations here.

2. Use a badge or banner: We will be hiring a company (if you wanna help with the badges let us know) to produce several badges and banners that you can use on your site. You can use them throughout April or just on May 1st.

3. Help spread the word: see the section below.

There are prizes to encourage people to get involved but they are only available to people involved before 30th April. I'm sorry I didn't realise sooner, so I could have let you all have a chance to be elligible, but I didn't look into it all properly until this morning.

I just wanted to do my bit to spread the word because I think RSS feeds are fab! They've made my life easier and I always like to share things that make life easier.

What is an RSS Feed?

RSS stands for Rich Site Summary or more often, Really Simple Syndication.

For a one page quick introduction to RSS, see here: What is RSS? RSS Explained

As a reader of far too many excellent blogs and websites recently, I have found RSS Feeds invaluable for staying aware of what people are saying, without necessarily visiting every single blog/website every single day.

RSS Feeds are a way of receiving updates to favourite blogs and websites, being able to read them quickly and easily and then connect to the blog or website when I want to look further or leave a comment.

The BBC have a useful article on RSS Feeds and Feed Readers.

How to Set Up an RSS Feed to Your Blog

I thought maybe the best way to start would be to set up a feed from my own blog(s) and I set about doing that this morning. It has taken me all day! But only because I had no idea what I was doing.

Now I've done it, it's Really So Simple after all. It literally takes 5 minutes!

This is how I (eventually) did it, for anyone who wants to try:

(These steps work for a blog on Blogger. See Feedburner for steps to add an RSS feed to a blog on another platform.)

Step One: Burn a Feed

1. Go to Feedburner

* Type: myblogspotname.blogspot.com (without the http://)

* Tick: I am a podcaster (if you are!)

* Click: Next

2. Identify Feed Source

* Choose: Rss (rather than Atom)

* Click: Next

3. Burn Feed

* Type: The Title Of Your Blog

* Add (in box): TheTitleOfYourBlog (no spaces)

* Choose: Username and Password

* Click: Activate Feed

Some Options

The next page says:

Congrats! Your feedburner is now live. Want to dress it up a little?

(Note the address in blue at the top of the page - it's your feedburner address.)

* Click: Next

The next page says:

Get more gusto from your feed traffic stats.

(There are options on here you might like to try. I didn't choose any because I wasn't sure what they meant!)

* Click: Next

* Open: Publicize (tab at the top of page)

(Note you can also Analyse, Optimize, Monetize and Troubleshootize ... love that! Will check them out after I've been using it for a while and let you know how they all work.)

Step Two: Set Up Your Feed from Your Blog

But for now, setting up your feed from your blog takes just a few more simple steps (you still with me?):

* Click: Chicklet Chooser (in the list on the left)

* Choose: preferred icon

* Copy: the html code at the bottom of the page

* Paste: in Blogger

(Customize/Add a page element/HTML/JaveScript and then paste the copied html code in the big box. Add a title if you like and save changes.)

Subscribe to an RSS Feed

You have now set up an RSS feed from your blog. Check it out, be your first subscriber!

The first time I did this, it was a case of trial and error (as usual!) so I'm not sure this is the way you should do it, neither am I sure how much of the process was decided by my computer's software (I think I had a Feed Reader inbuilt already, but they are easy enough to download, I think, see the BBC Website), so you may find things slightly different but I think it's all pretty well explained as you go along.

* Click: RSS Feed button

* Click : View feed XML

* Click Subscribe to this feed

* Click: View my feeds

I receive feeds in my Windows Live/Hotmail account and read them in the same place as I read my emails.

Some Really Simple Resources:

More on how to set up an Rss Feed from your blog at the Feedburner Help Center

General information about RSS Feeds on the Feedburner Blog

Spreading the Word About RSS Feeds

I'd love to see RSS Feeds from all the blogs and websites I visit, especially those here on Blogger ... it makes keeping up with everyone much easier, so I hope you try it. (And if you do, let me know, so I can subscribe straight away!)

Or subscribe to some of your favourite blogs yourself.

But I guess, like everything, it's not for everyone. It would be great if you could spread the word though, by mentioning it on your blog, or adding a badge, or maybe writing a poem ...

I really do recommend it as a productivity tool. (As long as you're careful not to over-subscribe!)

:o)

A Little Bit of Everything!

noreply@blogger.com (Moondreamer) — Tue, 22 Apr 2008 17:17:00 +0000

I've been trying to upload pics on here for two days and have finally given up and decided to post this without pictures (or with just the one that did upload yesterday morning!) So most of this was written yesterday and might post yesterday but that shouldn't be a problem ...

*Update* I posted it, but as often happens when I include a picture, Blogger removed all the line spacing! It was a lot to read all squashed up like that, so I am praticising patience and perseverance (through gritted teeth) and trying to re-post it as two posts.

Hope this works ...

Oh dear! Can't believe it's been a week since I've been on here!

No Woman and Moon post today ... but I'm working on it. Sorting through an ocean of research to make individual posts. Having missed a Creativity/Productivity day and a Feelgood day last week, I thought I'd do a catch-up post, with a little bit of everything:

The Moon

The Full Pink Moon

(Just imagine a picture of a beautiful pink moon!)

April's full moon (yesterday) is known as the Pink Moon, not because it is pink, but because it occurs at a time when one of the earliest Spring flowers appears. The Farmer's Almanac explains:

"This name came from the herb moss pink, or wild ground phlox, which is one of the earliest widespread flowers of the spring. Other names for this month's celestial body include the Full Sprouting Grass Moon, the Egg Moon, and among coastal tribes the Full Fish Moon, because this was the time that the shad swam upstream to spawn."

April's Full Moon

Other names for April's full moon include:

The Planter's Moon (Colonial American)
Peony Moon (Chinese)
Flower Moon (Cherokee)
Wildcat Moon (Choctaw)
Growing Moon (Celtic)
Seed Moon (English Medieval)
Awakening Moon (Neo Pagan)

Some great names, hey? Lots of names referring to new growth (more fresh starts!) The Seed Moon is a good time to sew your seeds of intention or desire, perhaps by sewing a real seed and making a wish! (Okay, I know ... but it can't do any harm and I think small gestures like this consolidate our intentions, make them tangible and certainly make us focus a little more on them. Nurturing a plant reminds us to nurture our goal!)

Harnessing the Seed Moon

For ideas to harness the energies of the Seed Moon using gemstones and aromatherapy oils, or simply writing a To Do List, have a look at Trish Hoskin's article about celebrating the Season of Spring. It seems now would be a great time to work on creating a Life List.

The Moon of Geese

But I think my favourite name is that used by the Dakota Sioux:

Moon When Geese Return in Scattered Formation

I adore geese! I have always felt a strange connection to them, the sight or sound of them flying overhead gives me butterflies and always makes me stop to look, or listen if it's dark. They make me smile! But I wonder why "scattered?" Geese are usually so regimental in formation.

Full Moon in Scorpio: a time for letting go

The full Moon this month was in Scorpio, a time for releasing harmful attachments (to people, behaviours or thoughts):

"You are being given one more ritual chance this year to release attachment to old pain and arise like a phoenix from the ashes of burned off karma; freed from narcissistic self-obsession and ready to help others heal their own pain. You have the power to change! Visualize yourself as a snake, shedding its dead skin to reveal gleaming new colors."

Creativity and Productivity

Gmail as a productivity tool

I have been busy being productive for the past week. Well, I suppose it was more a case of building the foundations of productivity.

I have followed the excellent advice of Dave Navarro and am getting to grips with a far-too-long list of email newsletters by gradually transferring them to a new gmail account. I've read a lot about how gmail is a good productivity tool recently so decided to try it for myself. There's a post about my first steps on Freelance Writing Curve and I'll post an update later this week when I've had time to play.

Twitter for creativity and productivity

I've also been a busy bee checking out *other* types of social networking. (People often talk about social networking as something distinct from blogging, but surely the blogging community is exactly that? And that's exactly why I love it so much!) I have joined Facebook and set up a profile on LinkedIn but have especially enjoyed Twitter. The possibilities for having a positive effect in the world are amazing! People share thoughts and ideas, ask questions, swap interesting links and have fun. Connections are formed between all sorts of people and conversations are held that span continents!

It's not for everyone, I guess, but I honestly think it's worth checking out. It takes two seconds to sign up for a Twitter account and works just like blogging, but posts are just 140 characters long and you "follow" people rather than add them to your sidebar links. Try it, say hello to me and ask me if there's any way I can help. I may well not know myself as am such a newbie, but the thing about Twitter is that you can find someone who does know very easily!

New people and places I have found and some random thoughts:

These are just a few of the people I have met and the links they have shared. I will do another post about it with some more links, maybe this week's Feelgood Friday post!

1. Joanna Young (on Twitter) and her blog Confident Writing, full of excellent writing tips and virtual coaching from Joanna and some great guest posts.

2. Liz Strauss (on Twitter) and her lovely blog Successful and Outstanding Bloggers, on which there is a great conversation about the power of words.

Another example of a great comments discussion about powerful writing was passed on (via Twitter) by Joanna this morning (thank you, Joanna!)

3. Denise Willms (on Twitter) and the inspiring WAHM Articles, full of articles on a wide range of topics and very useful resources.

4. Maki (on Twitter) and his DoshDosh blog, full of really useful tips about internet marketing and social media (including blogging.)

DoshDosh shared these fab feelgood links on Twitter last week:

The amazing story of Moon (love that name!), a Syberian Husky who travelled home almost 80 miles across desert and mountains.

The inspiring Maria Ruiz and her work with impoverished children in Mexico.

All of which brings me to ...

Feelgoods and Wellbeing

Reasons to celebrate:

1. It's Spring! Why not try starting a Nature Journal to celebrate?

2. It's Earth Day!

3. The lovely Maddie Moon sent me a meme!

I have to choose six words to describe myself:

Honest, optimistic, stubborn, enthusiastic, feminist, writer!

I put feminist and writer because it made me smile, but if I had to choose two more personality trait words, they would probably be 'compassionate' and 'disorganised.'

(Or maybe 'easily distracted!')

Thank you, Maddie, this was fun! As it's taken me while to post this, I expect most of you have already had a go. But anyone who hasn't, is very welcome to!

A final thought ...

See post below (I hope this works, I get very confused when editing in Blogger!)

:o)

A Little Bit of Everything: The Final Thought!

noreply@blogger.com (Moondreamer) — Mon, 21 Apr 2008 15:00:00 +0000

Hey! That bit worked now let's try this ...

(Because there's a pictures, it might make the text squashed. I really must try and figure out HTML so I can maybe stop this happening, it's such a pain!)

A final thought ...

Sometimes things don't go as we want them to, don't work the way we meant them to, don't turn out the way we expected them to.

Sometimes this a good thing. Sometimes, what we end up with is even better!

This is the only pic Blogger would let me upload yesterday. I was trying to capture an amazing sunset strewn across the rooves. I took it and was disppointed with the way it looked so dark and fuzzy and totally unlike the original I had hoped to capture.

But it has a different beauty and when I put it on the computer I decided I really liked how the trees look as if they are merging into the sky, like wet watercolours.

But the best example is another evening photo of a tree which seemed to distort the colour, making it very red and as if there was a problem with the exposure. I really thought there was a problem with the camera on my phone and wasn't impressed at all, but it hasn't happened since and I really like the strange result, it's very atmospheric and spooky! (Will try and post that one another day.)

:o)

This is me on Twitter, Facebook and LinkedIn ... if you're on any of them, come and say hello!

If you're not, but want to try any of them, here's where you can set up a profile:

Twitter

Facebook

LinkedIn

Then come and say hello!

I'm very new on all of them, but if there's anything I can help with, please just ask.

:o)

Blogger Appreciation Day

noreply@blogger.com (Moondreamer) — Mon, 14 Apr 2008 11:11:00 +0000

Darren Rowse of Problogger has declared today "Blogger Appreciation Day [UNOFFICIAL]!"

Here's what Darren says: I’ve been chatting with a few bloggers of late who’ve been feeling a little down in the dumps about their blogging - so perhaps everyone could do with a little lift.

Lets spend today doing a few random acts of kindness and encouragement for our fellow bloggers.

We’re in it together, blogging is about collaboration and together going further than we can by ourselves - so why not help another blogger today by shooting them a word of encouragement, a pep talk, a congratulations, an idea to help them improve or some other positive constructive message. Better still, do it publicly on your blog and tell the world about another blogger who you appreciate.

What a fantastic way to start the new week! And I really agree with Darren ... blogging is a collaboration. It's about community and communication and I know I've said it before, but I consider myself so lucky to have met you all on here.

So, here is a HUGE THANK YOU ... or a few, in fact!

Thank you for every single comment, they really do mean a lot!

Thank you for the inspirational ideas you share

Thank you for the fab tips and advice

Thank you for the warmth and humour

Thank you for 'hugs' and 'smiles'

Thank you for your support

Thank you for your encouragement

Thank you for writing such wonderful blogs!

Some Daffodils for you

(The sun shines when I'm with you!)

Have a lovely Blogger Appreciation Day!

:o)

Eldest daughter has had rotten toothache since yesterday, so I have to sort that out before I do anything else, but wanted to get this up and let you know about such an excellent idea.

I'll try and come back later and put some links to all the great blogs I know. And hopefully even call round and say thank you in person, I am making this blogger appreciation day here and having a day off from chasing goals ... my only goal today is to pass on Darren Rowse's lovely feelgoods!

:o)

All of a-Twitter!

noreply@blogger.com (Moondreamer) — Fri, 11 Apr 2008 12:08:00 +0000

I am Twitterer. (Possibly a twit!)

I have finally entered the "Twitterverse" and sent my first couple of "tweets" (one of which was to promote the new communal blog, Towards 2011, though I think I need some more "followers" to do that really.)

I've been meaning to check out the whole social networking thing for ages and have just joined Facebook this week too. I think I may be the last person to discover it all, but for anyone else who has been thinking, "Must try that!" but hasn't got round to it because they are also thinking, "Don't know how to start, far too complicated, got enough to do already!" ...

What is Twitter?

Twitter is a service for friends, family, and co–workers to communicate and stay connected through the exchange of quick, frequent answers to one simple question: What are you doing?

How does Twitter work?

Twitter is a free social networking and micro-blogging service, allowing people to stay in touch by short posts, known as "tweets." These can be posted by instant messenger from your computer, or SMS from your mobile phone, and are delivered by email, IM or RSS. Messages on Twitter can also be exchanged via a third-party application, such as Facebook.

What are you doing?

Twitter is built around the question, "What are you doing?" Answers vary from the personal to the professional, but everything on Twitter is very short and sweet; posts are only up to 140 characters long and profiles are only one line of text, but you can add a picture and your website/blog URL.

Who are you following?

Like Facebook, you can limit the people who see your profile and posts to your own circle of friends (or "followers") and you choose who to follow yourself. You can choose to follow friends and family, or professional contacts, or people who have the same interests as you, or people who say really useful stuff ... like the first person I chose to follow, SallyQ! Sally is definitely a woman worth following and posts on Twitter about all sorts of writerly things.

How do you start Twittering?

Setting up a profile on Twitter is REALLY easy and includes the option to add any friends who are already on there, then when you log in, your home page includes all the recent posts from the people you are following.

Links for Twitterers

Mark Glaser's excellent 'Guide to Micro-Blogging and Twitter' (dated 15th of May, 2007, but still very relevant and very helpful) includes a beginner's guide, useful tips and advice, a glossary and a great list of resources.

ReadWriteWeb has a list of various articles about Twitter, including Sarah Perez's 'Five Ways to Find More Friends on Twitter' in which she explains five useful web apps to help you find the best people to follow on Twitter.

Kathy Sierra, of Creating Passionate Users, has posted some interesting thoughts on the the problem of interuption (and the disruption to creativity and productivity) provided by Twitter and other social networking such as email, IM, blogs, Facebook et al. In her post, 'The Asymptotic Twitter Curve' Kathy provides lots of links to other musings about Twitter and to some possibly much-needed productivity resources. Along with a warning about how addictive Twitter is! Oh dear ...

Twitter is a form of live commentary and as such, even bearing in mind the possible creativity/productivity challenges, it has huge (and very exciting) possibilities. Consider the following comment from Patrick Ruffini, quoted by Jeff Jarvis at BuzzMachine, in his tribute to Twitter:

"Traditional news operated on a 24-hour cycle. Blogs shortened this to minutes and hours. Twitter shortens it further to seconds. It’s not right for every piece of information. But when it comes to instantly assembling raw data from several sources that then go into fully baked news stories, nothing beats it."

Jason Kottke has written another interesting review of Twitter, which I found very helpful as a beginner. Again, it's dated last year (I'm always sooo behind the times!) but he makes some useful observations and discusses (and provides links to) some of the applications. Here's what Jason said a year ago:

"Twitter is the first thing on the web that I've been excited about in ages. Like years. The last thing was probably Flickr. (Talk about burying the lede.) It's just so damn simple but useful. Again, reminds me of weblogs in that way."

I wonder what he thinks now?

Twitterer or Twit?

Well, I'm off to see if I can figure out how to link my Twitter profile to my Facebook profile ... but that's it! No more social networking for me. While I can see the advantages and am excited about the possibilities, I also recognise the possible pitfalls. And when it comes to time limitations, blogging and article writing are the priorities at the moment. So I'm sticking to Blogger, Facebook and Twitterer (in that order!)

Are you on Twitter?

Who do you follow, who follows you?

What are you doing?

:o)

New Moon, New Starts, New Blog

noreply@blogger.com (Moondreamer) — Sun, 06 Apr 2008 11:21:00 +0000

Women and the Moon: The Crone

Well, I've written the first of my series of moon posts, Women and the Moon (Part One): The Crone Moon.

But it's not here.

It's here! (Or scroll down, to the post dated Friday the 7th of March.)

It has posted on the date I started and first saved it, I think. There's probably a way to move it, but I haven't discovered it ...

IWD: Towards 2011

It made me laugh that I now have a post that, besides crones, talks about the new women's blog ... weeks before aliqot and I came up with the idea for it! We started Towards 2011 in response to the lack of information we could find about International Women's Day which was started in 1911.

A blog by women, about women and for women (but not to the exclusion of men), Towards 2011 is a way of promoting the centenary of International Women's Day in 2011.

It's a very new blog, but aliqot has already put up some great posts, one of which triggered a conversation about wolf-whistles!

Check it out and leave a comment, or a suggestion about anything you'd like to see or do on there. We'd love to hear from you!

Aries New Moon: The Freshest of Starts

The moon was new at 4.55am this morning and it's in Aries, the youngest sign, a time of new beginnings and enthusiasm: "Aries asks us to live life fully, to try something new, to love and to be brave and independent."

Maria Vaiana explains why this new moon of all new moons is so exciting:

It’s helpful to view this day each month as your “fresh start” date. The dynamics of each New Moon are astrologically different and every month there will be an opportunity for a fresh start in a different area of your life.

This month, the New Moon occurs in the sign of Aries. Aries is the sign of the zodiac associated with new beginnings and individuality so it’s easy to understand why this lunation has me so excited for everyone. It is the ultimate yearly pass to start afresh! In fact, it's time this month to be a little selfish and focus on you!

I want to encourage everyone reading this to understand the significance of this lunation because you truly have the most amazing energy behind you to begin the new path you’ve been thinking about recently. It’s time to act and this lunation promises to give you the courage and independence you need to focus your actions on deliberately achieving whatever it is you desire.

The most powerful time to act will be in the two weeks following this New Moon and everyone is sure to feel the positive transformational energy in the air thanks to the beautiful trine this New Moon makes to Pluto, the planet of regeneration and rebirth.

What you will find thanks to this lunation is a new-found clarity on what it is you really want. Along with this clarity comes a burst of inner strength and conviction that will prompt you to use your assertive energy to boldly explore the new trail waiting for you.

And Lisa Dale Miller has this to say about the new moon for fresh starts:

Aries is all about adventure and the indomitable spirit of the adventurer helps open us to trying something different; something you think isn’t you… but might just be. Reinvigorate your lust for life. We have all become so fearful and risk-averse. Go on an adventure, be spontaneous, or just do something wild and crazy. There is a time and place for play, and this is the New Moon to remember that all work and no play make us very dull people!

Aries says, “I can!” with a level of faith that only an innocent child who has not yet failed can muster ... your heart and mind must be centered in an open attitude of excitement—“let’s go,” or “I can do anything,” or “I can be anyone,” or “the world is my oyster,” or “life is an adventure!”. This is a New Moon that asks us to take a leap of faith and do the impossible. This a New Moon to come at who you are with a sense of wonder, magic and first-time awe. Go find out who you are and what you want; you might just be surprised.

Have a very Happy New Moon!

:o)

On a very personal note, this may seem a little strange here, but ...

A Dedication to an Amazing Woman in my Life

A wonderful friend of mine has just been told she has a very aggressive form of cancer and is unlikely to see the next new moon. She is only just fifty so although barely crone by age, she has always been crone by spirit! She has guided and supported me through many difficult times and shared many beautiful moments with me. She has been a 'second Mum' to my girls since Youngest daughter was born. Wife, mother, grandmother, sister, friend and phenomenal woman, I am dedicating my post about crones to her, with love and appreciation. x

Eldest Daughter thinks I should "wait" to do this, but I know how much my friend wants her life to be celebrated, rather than her death to be marked. She is being incredibly brave and positive, which is why it seemed fitting to include this note here.

:o)

The Informal Book Club

noreply@blogger.com (Moondreamer) — Fri, 04 Apr 2008 16:05:00 +0000

Well I didn't need to look very far for the inspiration for a Friday Feelgood! Not strictly wellbeing in topic, but I want to share something with you all that I have loved doing.

My wonderful Mum gave me a letter when we went to stay last week. (Thank you, Mum!) It's called 'The Informal Book Club' and is a fantastic way to share books. Each person who receives it sends one book they have enjoyed to someone whose name is provided (someone they're likely to know, as they will be a friend of the friend who gave them the letter.) Then they forward the letter to six friends. In this way, for the cost of posting one book plus the price of six stamps, each person involved will receive 36 (THIRTY SIX!) books from 36 very different people.

I've sent my book (a small book of quotes about happiness, to a friend of Mum's who I know, and who I think will enjoy it.) I've forwarded the 6 letters to friends and I'm so excited to see what arrives through the post!

Plus I'm interested to see which book my Mum will get from my 6 friends.

I would have loved to send it to blogging friends (though would have had a very difficult time choosing only six!) so thought I'd share it with you on here and then perhaps you could start your own.

This is a copy of the letter as received from Mum:

The Informal Book Club

This is an informal book club. There is no money involved so it is perfectly legal and it's fun.

Please send a book or audio book that you have already read (and enjoyed) to the person listed at the bottom of this letter.

Copy this letter and send it to 6 friends, but DO NOT SEND THEM A BOOK. Attach my address label to each of the six letter. It is helpful if you provide your own address labels with the letters you send to your friends so they can just attach one to each letter they send.

You should receive 36 books. it will be interesting to see what they are and where they come from.

If you cannot do this, please let me know so that I can ask someone else. I have been told there is seldom a drop by anyone because they only have to send one book. Most recipients will be readers and book lovers.

Thank you and happy reading!

Please send a book to:

My Mum's name and address ...

(Label attached)

:o)

Mum also gave me 6 copies of the letter with her address labels and printed 36 labels out with my address. So as a way of showing my appreciation, I enclosed a sheet of coloured writing paper in each of my six letters, with a note asking my friend if they would mind slipping it into the book they chose to send.

On each coloured sheet of paper, I had written a short note ("Thank you, Mum ... you're a star!") or a quotation about mothers.

I had such fun with this and will spend the next few weeks actually looking forward to the postman arriving, for a change. Maybe even (if I'm up early enough!) opening the door and greeting him with a big smile and a "Thank you!" Which will maybe brighten his day too ...

Yes, an all-round feelgood thing to do!

Have a lovely weekend!

:o)

Spring Fever and the Last Full Moon of Winter

noreply@blogger.com (Moondreamer) — Thu, 03 Apr 2008 00:56:00 +0000

Suffering the effects of Spring Fever?

Liz Fuller of More Than We Know has been writing an excellent series of posts about the negative symptoms of Spring Fever and how to deal with them.

I haven't been suffering at all from lack of focus, which is unusual for me. (And I'm not entirely sure where the recent bout of focus has really come from, but I'm happy to go with it!) I'm certainly not suffering from boredom (Liz's final symptom, unposted as yet), but then I never suffer from boredom ... I wish I had the time to be bored, sometimes. Comparison-itis? Again, no. And again, this is something I often suffer from. But I've been too focused on doing what I'm doing to find any time to make comparisons. I'm generally impatient, not with people but definitely with things.

But the thing I relate to most in Liz's series of posts, is the restlessness of Spring Fever.

I always feel restless in Spring. Ready to be doing things, rushing hither and thither like the birds building their nests. Bouncing erratically around the place with no idea what I'm doing or where I'm going, like the lovely newborn lambs in the fields. Mad as a March hare, to be sure.

But this year, perhaps because I already feel I have built up some momentum in one direction, the start of Spring has simply given me a boost of energy and excitement.

I've always loved the fresh energy of Spring, it's so full of hope and expectation and the miracle of new life. I love 'unwrapping' the garden in Spring: clearing the leaves and twigs and overgrown grasses from flowerbeds, to find small green shoots peeping through.

Spring is all about energy and action, the very word carries an energy, like the 'spring' of "Springing into action."

The change of weather brings a change of clothes, brings a change of outlook/mood.

But.

How many times did I hear something yesterday along the lines of, "Bloomin weather! I was wearing shorts and a T-shirt yesterday and I've had to put my coat and scarf on again today!"

Yes, but it is only just Spring, only just April. The weather yesterday (crisp, breezy, damp) was just about right for this time of year. I think we've been lulled into a false sense of security recently, by mild winters and early springs - plants flowering earlier, earlier lambs ... there were lambs in fields before the end of January in Derbyshire (albeit with little snuggly coats on!)

The March Full Moon, which fell less than two weeks go, was known as the Full Crust Moon, the final Full Moon of winter. (See below for more names for March's Full Moon.) The Farmer's Almanac explains that, "The more northern tribes knew this Moon as the Full Crow Moon, when the cawing of crows signaled the end of winter; or the Full Crust Moon, because the snow cover becomes crusted from thawing by day and freezing at night."

Mind you, I suppose a lot depends on where you are - Derbyshire is not very far from North Yorkshire, but there is a distinct difference in the temperature, the wildlife and the botany.

Ways to make the most of Spring:

1. Assess the goals/intentions you started the year with, and how far along the path towards (or away from) them you have come.

2. Spend some time in Nature. Take long walks, go birdwatching, help out on a local farm, or simply spend some time contemplating the wonders of Spring, the way in which everything that has seemed dead for months is now beginning life again.

3. Grow some flowers in your garden or on your windowsill. Bring a bunch of sunny daffs inside or put some in a pot on your doorstep.

4. Spring clean. Your house, your desk, your mind, your expectations, your life ... dust down anything that could do with some new life breathing into it. Shake things up a bit.

:o)

More from the Famer's Almanac: March's Full Moon is also known as the Full Worm Moon "as the temperature begins to warm and the ground begins to thaw, earthworm casts appear, heralding the return of the robins. The Full Sap Moon, marking the time of tapping maple trees, is another variation. To the settlers, it was also known as the Lenten Moon, and was considered to be the last full Moon of winter."

NASA's Imagine the Universe! lists the march Full Moon, as the Sugaring Moon.

krcool@hiwaay has a long list of Full moon names, including:

Fish Moon (Colonial American)

Sleepy Moon (Chinese)

Windy Moon (Cherokee)

Moon of Winds (Celtic)

Chaste Moon (English Medieval)

Moon When Eyes Are Sore From Bright Snow (Dakota Sioux)

:o)

New Month, New Blog, New Beginnings ... New Woman!

noreply@blogger.com (Moondreamer) — Tue, 01 Apr 2008 16:04:00 +0000

Welcome to April, the month of April Fool's Day, of the arrival of the cuckoo and the swallow, of showers and flowers.

"April showers bring May flowers" ~ Old English Saying

The first Sunday in April is known as 'Daffodil Sunday' after a Victorian tradition of picking daffodils and taking them to the local hospitals to be distributed among the patients.

What a lovely idea! I didn't know about this ... does anyone do it today?

The 19th of April is Primrose Day, named after Benjamin Disraeli's (mistaken) favourite flower.

All the above information is from the wonderful people at Woodlands Junior School. Check them out for a great list of April anniversaries, or a comprehensive guide for each month, or for tons of useful education stuff, in fact!

I have planned April.

In writing. I have dates and general 'to do's in my diary. I have writing deadlines (in blue), meetings and other deadlines (in black) and bill payment due dates (in red) on a calendar next to my workspace. I just have to set alarms on my phone to remind me. I have also written a monthly To Do List, from which I am writing a (succinct) daily list.

Having read 'Time Management for Creative Professionals' by Mark McGuiness of Wishful Thinking a while ago, I have finally got round to putting his advice about 'buckets' into action. Buckets are the places we keep information; "physical or virtual containers where you capture important information, demands and commitments so that they can’t ‘leak’ away and be forgotten. You should have as few of these as possible, but as many of them as you need."

My Buckets are:

My Diary

My Calendar

My Phone

My Monthly/Daily TO DO Lists

And I have started a Monthly Writing Goals Notebook (my fifth bucket) and listed every blog post, every article, everything I need to do this month to set up a website for student parents and everything I need to do in April for an ebook I'm writing.

Goodness, I'm feeling uber-organised (it can't last for long!), which is just as well, seeing as I now have a fifth blog to write for!

It's not my blog, though ... it's OURS!

In response to the distinct lack of information we discovered about International Women's Day (despite the fact that it will have existed for 100 years in 2011), aliqot and I have started a communal blog, called Towards 2011, which we hope will become a collection (perhaps a 'conversation') of widely-varying perpectives from all kinds of women.

I say "aliqot and I" but the truth is that I have done nothing yet! The amazing aliqot has set it up, added me and Leonie (who I'm really looking forward to reading, as she will write about women and jazz), and posted loads already ... I have some catching up to do!

Thank you aliqot, you're a star!

I'm really excited to be a part of this as I think it's important to raise awarness of IWD, a day to be celebrated with appreciation for the women who started it in 1911, women who were "campaigning for women's rights to work, vote, be trained, to hold public office and end discrimination."

And I'm really looking forward to being a part of the conversation about it all today!

:o)

Regaining Momentum ...

noreply@blogger.com (Moondreamer) — Sat, 29 Mar 2008 14:00:00 +0000

Just a quick post, to catch up, to tell you all about a few changes and to share some pics ...

We went to stay with my Mum and Dad this week, at their lovely cottage in the very beautiful Derbyshire countryside. So I haven't been online or done any writing all week (but I have managed to catch up with some much-needed reading) and having spent a couple of days settling back in here (catching up with the post and washing mountains, etc.) am now back to square one with email and RSS feeds!

So this weekend will be mostly spent doing 'writing housekeeping' and I will hopefully have regained momentum to start the new month focused and heading towards my very first article submission.

I'll post my next moon post, the first in a series about women and the moon, on April the 6th (next Sunday) as the New Moon seems the perfect place to start and the next new moon will be then.

I'll try and keep up with other posts on here, but am going to focus for a while on a new blog, The Freelance Writing Learning Curve (explanation for such madness in the first post on there!) while I work towards my goal for April, to submit four articles for publication.

You can also catch up with me on Life is a Learning Curve (new post about eating dragons) and Student Mum (latest post about parenting spirited children, a bit of a cheat as it's one of my Helium articles) if things are a little quiet on here!

While in Derbyshire, we took some photographs ...

Three gorgeous girls!

Mum, her lovely puppy, Truffle and a very windswept me!

This next one is not from Derbyshire, it was taken by Eldest Daughter at Peasholm Park in Scarborough ...

I didn't know you could get swans in black!

And just for fun, Mrs. Tizzywinkle and some crazy sleeping positions ...

As youngest daughter changed position, so did Tizzy ...

And she actually went back to sleep like that!

Wishing you all a wonderful weekend!

PS. For some truly gorgeous portrait photography, check out Tina L. Miller's blog, The Buzz!

:o)

Freelance Writing: A Beginner's Guide

noreply@blogger.com (Moondreamer) — Wed, 19 Mar 2008 11:54:00 +0000

This is the first in a series of posts about freelance writing.

A beginner's guide to freelance writing, written by a beginner!

I've done the writing bit, having spent seven years writing essays, research papers and dissertations (though still have lots to learn, of course ... there will always be something to learn about writing, that's what makes it so exciting) but now I need to do the freelancing bit.

I know a little of the theory, having read some great blogs and websites about freelance writing, but have yet to put it into practice. So as I step off the edge and try new things, I'll pass on the things I learn. (Especially the mistakes I make!)

As a non-fiction writer, I will focus on writing and publishing articles. (There are some wonderful blogs by fiction writers in my links.) My first step towards freelance article-writing has been Helium.

"A community of writers who are revolutionizing freelancing."

(If I've done it right, you should be able to click on the Helium logo above and it will take you to the home page. But in case it doesn't work the link is here too!)

Helium is an article-publishing site, where writers share articles on a huge variety of topics. I have written on parenting, emotional health/wellbeing, writing, gardening, crafts and positive thinking. Some are flying in the ratings while some are floundering, which has given me an idea of where my writing needs work.

Writers can register free, put up a profile and submit articles immediately. And easily. (I promise ... as someone who struggles with technology, if I can do it, really anyone can.)

Rating other articles supports the Helium community, hones proofreading skills and provides endless inspiration. The feedback from other writers means you can use Helium to improve your writing skills, while getting your name known in writerly circles and even earning yourself some money.

There are debates, contests (with cash prizes) and the Helium Marketplace, a place to submit articles to various publishers.

Helium has an excellent mentor facility and numerous forums for chatting to other writers.

You can link your blogs and websites to your Helium profile, attracting more visitors, although I should say that, at this point, I haven't seen the results of this. (But then, I've only been on there for a few weeks.)

But I have found Helium a great place to stretch my article-writing muscles. I have enjoyed browsing titles for inspiration and have a list of Articles To Write, some of which I will try and write for submission elsewhere ... somewhere I need to send a query letter. I have written articles over the past year which I have done nothing with, as the whole submission process has me stumped. Not that I don't know how to submit a query (thanks to other blogs and websites, a list of which I'll put together when I get chance), but I just haven't been able to do it.

Why? I think that it's the usual trigger for my procrastination when it comes to writing ... I'm scared to do it wrong. Perhaps I'm scared of rejection, of my name being known for the wrong reasons, of building a rotten reputation and making things harder for myself. Yes, I'm scared!

So.

Deep breath ...

I'm setting myself the goal of submitting four articles to print magazines or local papers in April.

Yes I am! And when I wobble, when I doubt I can, when I want to give up and run away, I'll tell myself I just have to. Because it says so on my blog!

The first one will be an article on recycling for the local paper. (I can hear you sighing, Mum! And see you shaking your head, but hopefully smiling at the fact that I have eventually acted on your patient advice. My wonderful Mum has been saying, "Why don't you write something for the local paper?" for at least ten years!)

I've had a blue recycling bin for a while and haven't made the most of it as I was unsure what to put in it. Did a bit of research and think it might be useful information for other people. The girls and I have put it into practice and so I've learned a few tips I could pass on too.

But.

See? What if the paper doesn't need an article on blue bins and recycling? What if everybody already knows about it? What if it's already been done better by someone else? What if they think I'm arrogant or naive offering an article on something that I'm not at all an expert on? What if I don't actually know anything about blue bins and recycling? What if ...

Well, I suppose it won't get published!

And I'll learn something. Which I'll be able to pass on to other people who might find it useful too. I'll have something else to write about ... and submit somewhere else. I'll definitely have a post for my blog. I won't be a published writer, but I will be a writer who has submitted something (at last!)

Although researching and reading, rather than writing, has had its benefits. I've got some great resources! Here are just a few to start with:

There's a really useful article for freelance beginners, by Jenna Glatzer on Absolute Write. You can also sign up for a couple of free newsletters on Absolute Write.

If you're an article writer, check out Jeff Herring, The Internet Article Guy.

If you're looking for information on copywriting, writing online and general freelance writing tips, Copyblogger and Problogger are fantastic resources.

The wonderful Dabbling Mum is well-worth a look, for beginners and more experienced writers alike. The site has tons of useful information for people working from home and particularly writers (plus loads of other stuff like parenting advice, recipes and reviews.) There are three fab newsletters to sign up for: Parenting, Business and Writing.

Then there is the Dabbling Mum, to whom I owe a huge "Thank You" for an an inspirational comment, just when I needed it.

Well, here I go ...

:o)

Huge thanks also to the awe-inspiring Ann Marie Dwyer (who has TEN kids and still finds time to write!) Ann Marie introduced me to Helium, convinced me to have a go, and has supported and encouraged me since.

And thanks (always) to my family and friends and to all the amazing writers I have met on Blogger. I will never be able to thank you enough. I can't believe how lucky I was to come across such a wonderful group of warm, talented, generous and truly inspiring people.

:o)

You can read my articles on Helium here. (Feedback always welcome and please don't worry about hurt feelings! I'm not at all precious about my writing and always appreciate constructive criticism.)

Loving it ...

noreply@blogger.com (Moondreamer) — Mon, 17 Mar 2008 16:13:00 +0000

I have spent a lovely few hours catching up with all your blogs and am now feeling full of the joys of Spring and lovely warm fuzzies!

Today was supposed to be another day of not writing, but while I'm here ...

I have been writing. Every day. (So my New Year's Resolution has been adapted rather than abandoned! More about that later.)

But on Friday, I decided I needed to spend time tackling other things that have been building up:

Unread RSS Feeds (from over 300 to less than twenty, which I've read but have marked as unread for further action)

Unread emails (from 67 to none!)

Email inbox empty!

Favourites (still lots to do, but gradually a scary list is being organized into useful folders)

One 2' pile of newspaper and magazine articles filed into useful categories (still in piles on the kitchen floor, waiting to be filed and labelled)

One very messy miscellaneous pile of various forms to fill in / finances to deal with / letters to write ... now a small neat pile in order of importance

Diary up to date!

Laundry mountain cleared (until tomorrow!)

To be mended pile mended (and in some cases passed on, as they are now too small for anyone in this house!)

Two inches of muck removed from the bathroom

Recycling boxes emptied, clothes from clearout at New Year finally taken to the second hand shop

Library books renewed and all in one place rather than scattered throughout the house

Kitchen drawers tidy and fridge/cupboards free of way-past-sell-by-date stuff

I've been implementing some tips I picked up on creativity and productivity. I don't like organising, I'd much rather be doing, but I'm feeling much more clear-headed and am looking foward to sitting down to write without any nagging feelings of "I should be doing something else!"

I've done a lot of (scattered) research recently and having it all to hand will be fantastic and will hopefully save lots of time in the long run, and I've filled a note book with ideas which is a lovely feeling.

I've also been thinking about my New Year's Resolution and have amended it. I'm still resolved to write every day, but I'm going to write on here to a more focused schedule:

Mondays - The Moon (but not today, working on one for next week!)

Wednesdays - Writing (Creativity and Productivity)

Fridays - Feelgoods (Health and Wellbeing)

I'm also going to write one post a week on Student Mum (which I haven't touched since Valentine's Day!) and one brief post a day during the week on Learning Curve.

Plus I'm going to continue stretching my article-writing muscles, by writing on Helium. (I'll put a post up about Helium on Wednesday.)

So there it is ... in writing!

I have found that writing goals down on here makes me stick to them, so I'm now feeling inspired and full of enthusiasm. I'm off to do some doing now, rather than some organizing, to actually fill in forms, action RSS feeds, file cuttings properly ... and to be the first one in the sparkling bathtub!

:o)

Not forgotten, nor forsaken!

noreply@blogger.com (Moondreamer) — Wed, 12 Mar 2008 18:56:00 +0000

Goodness! It's more than a week since I put a post up ... I spent most of last week working on a post about women and the moon, but a friend arrived unexpectedly on Thursday and didn't leave until Monday, so I didn't get chance to finish it over the weekend. And the past three days have just flown by!

So, just a quick post to pass on something a friend sent me by email last week, which I had intended posting on International Women's Day, but which is always relevant ...

THIS SAYS IT ALL:

Time passes.
Life happens.
Distance separates.
Children grow up.
Jobs come and go.
Love waxes and wanes.
Men don't do what they're supposed to do .
Hearts break.
Colleagues forget favors.
Careers end.
BUT.........

Sisters are there, no matter how much time and how many miles are between you.

A girlfriend is never farther away than needing her can reach.

When you have to walk that lonesome valley and you have to walk it by yourself, the women in your life will be on the valley's rim, cheering you on, praying for you, pulling for you, intervening on your behalf, and waiting with open arms at the valley's end.

Sometimes, they will even break the rules and walk beside you ... or come in and carry you out.

Girlfriends, daughters, granddaughters, daughters-in-law, sisters, sisters-in-law, mothers, grandmothers, aunties, nieces, cousins, and extended family, all bless our life!

The world wouldn't be the same without women, and neither would I.

When we began this adventure called womanhood, we had no idea of the incredible joys or sorrows that lay ahead.

Nor did we know how much we would need each other. Every day, we need each other still.

Pass this on to all the women who help make your life meaningful.

I just did!

~ Author Unknown (sadly!)

I'll try and post the women and moon post in a couple of days, and catch up with you all properly ... I've missed reading your blogs as much as I've missed writing on mine!

:o)

New Moon, New Woman! (and New Women's Blog)

noreply@blogger.com (Moondreamer) — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 13:29:00 +0000

It's a New Moon today ...

Happy New Moon! :o)

I've been working for a while on a post inspired by the lovely Lane (thank you, Lane!) about the relationship between women and the moon. I've found so much amazing stuff, that I can't do any justice to it as a single post, so this is Part One of the story.

I've really enjoyed looking at the whole Crone Goddess thing and it's got me thinking about 'the Crone' from the perspective of a feminist. I'll do a post about society's misjudgement and mistreatment of the crone on the new women's blog: Towards 2011.

A blog by women, about women and for women (but not to the exclusion of men), Towards 2011 is a way of promoting the centenary of International Women's Day in 2011.

It's a very new blog, but aliqot has already put up some great posts one of which triggered a conversation about wolf-whistles!

Check it out and leave a comment, or a suggestion about anything you'd like to see or do on there. We'd love to hear from you!

Women and the Moon (Part One): The Crone Goddess

The Crone Goddess, linked to the New Moon, is an excellent place to start - contrary to the popular image and concept of her as the goddess of death and destruction. In ancient times, the Crone Goddess was embodied by older woman, who were revered as keepers of wisdom, experienced healers and powerful symbols of creativity, transition and rebirth.

The crescent moon was most often associated with a virgin goddess like Artemis/Diana; the full moon, or 'pregnant' moon with a mother goddess like Juno; the new moon with a crone goddess, like Brigitte.

The Crone is the most misunderstood aspect of the Goddess/Woman. Often feared or reviled, she is most often associated with death, yet she is also a symbol of new life.

The Crone Goddess therefore often symbolises all three aspects of the Triple Goddess, as she is associated with three phases of the moon: the waning moon, the dark moon and the new moon.

All three of these moon phases are linked to wisdom. The dark moon is a time of particular power. The Crone Goddess was seen as both wise and powerful. Sadly, her powers have been diminished over the centuries; she has become misunderstood, feared and reviled. This negative perception of the Goddess beyond maidenhood and motherhood, has been transferred to women (or is it perhaps the other way around?)

Crone Women

Older women in our society, particularly post-menapausal women, are often seen as "past their sell-by-date." (Overheard quote passed on by an irate Juicy Lucy!) They are often referred to in derogatory terms such as "old hag" or even "old bag."

It seems the power of women is recognised only in youth and in child-bearing abilities. When women no longer have these, they are seen (they often see themselves) as having reduced powers.

Nothing, of course, could be further from the truth!

The Power of the Crone

The power of the crone lies in wisdom and experience; she is often referred to as the 'last' or 'final' aspect of a triparte goddess. However, in her representation of life and death, she in fact completes a cycle; she is an end and a beginning.

She is the cycle.

The death she symbolises is that which is necessary for rebirth, as Winter is necessary to Spring, in the same way that the new moon begins the waxing to full moon.

To value youth and productivity above wisdom and experience makes no sense. Yet it is the general attitude prevalent within modern Western society.

The Crone Goddess usually represents all three aspects of the goddess - maiden, mother and crone - just as older women, past the age of reproduction, still represent both the vibrancy of youth and the nurturing of motherhood. Wiser with her years, an older woman is experienced at being young and carefree, at being a mature woman and perhaps a mother, but is now adding extra experience, which adds to her richness.

She is more, not less.

We can all learn a thing or two from the Crone Goddess, who represents both negative and positive aspects of the Goddess and therefore of women; our dark selves. She is the complete Goddess as we strive to be complete, to balance all aspects of ourselves. As we strive to be recognised by others as complete beings, beyond the labels of society, beyond restrictions and constructs.

Women are beautiful, complex beings with amazing powers. The beauty, the complexity, the power increases as we grow older.

A Few Crone Goddesses

The Crone Goddess is represented in various forms in many mythologies and religions. Here are a few of my favourites:

Kali - the Hindu Goddess of Life and Death

It is important in the Hindu faith that Kali represents all aspects of the goddess:

"As a Goddess who rules over both life and death, the Dark Goddess or Crone holds within her all aspects of the Triple Goddess. She is the mature and aged Maiden and Mother, who possesses the wisdom and experiences of youth, adulthood and old age and who stands as a bridge between death and rebirth."

Kali is always represented wearing 50 skulls around her neck, each inscribed with a letter of the sanskrit alphabet, which are collectively known as the matrika (mothers.)

Kali is hideous and frightening. She is a warrior goddess. Yet she is also capable of dispensing grace to her followers. The Hindu faith teaches that creation and destruction arise from the same source.

As with all crone goddesses, Kali represents balance; the balance between birth and death, warrior and healer, creator and destroyer.

Hecate/Hekate - Greek Goddess

Hecate again represents all three aspects of the goddess, as Hekate Triformis, the goddess who rules over the three phases of the moon.

She is complex and awesome. Like Kali, she is also fierce and fiercesome, she is also called 'Agriope' meaning "savage face."

"She was the Goddess of the three-ways (crossroads), where she protected people from taking the wrong road. And she protected the Gates from any evil spirit to enter. She also guides travellers in general and sailors in particular. She held the keys to three roads: to Hades, to Heaven and to a lucky life on earth."

Today, Hecate is often viewed as 'the evil crone' but she is in fact a fantastic example of the complexity of all women. Early examples are of Hecate as a young maiden, others have her as a mother. She is in fact all these and so much more.

"... this distorted image originates in the twisted minds of those who fear Her power: Those sad souls who have lost their connection with the chthonic, who shun their own shadow, & fear what they do not understand. Even though some emphasise Hekate as ‘wise crone’, rather than scary ‘Dark Goddess’, the fact remains that most modern pagans are drawing on a view of Hekate that resulted from hundreds of years of misogynstic distortion.

Part of the fault lies with the modern need to classify everything. An influential variety of psychologies find it convenient to allocate the three roles of Maiden Mother and Crone to a Goddess energy that is actually far more complex. In the original story of Demeter, Persephone and Hekate there is no Crone, but psycho-pagan theory requires that there is, and because of historical misrepresentation, Hekate fits the bill."

In the same way, I suppose, as classifying young women as innocent maidens, mothers as nurturing and crones as wise, we deny the awesome power and beautiful complexity that lies within all women. I know a 25 year-old woman who is one of the wisest people I know. I know a 60 year-old woman who is one of the most vibrant and energetic people I know.

Lilith - Wife of Adam

Lilith is represented in many different cultures. There may even be an indication of her in the Christian Bible. She is included in Jewish Mysticism and Hebrew Myth:

"Adam and Lilith never found peace together; for when he wished to lie with her, she took offence at the recumbent posture he demanded. 'Why must I lie beneath you?' she asked. 'I also was made from dust, and am therefore your equal.' Because Adam tried to compel her obedience by force, Lilith, in a rage, uttered the magic name of God, rose into the air and left him."

"Originally the Sumero-Babylonian Goddess Belit-Ili, Lilith was Adam's first wife who refused to be submissive to him, according to ancient Hebrew myth. She stole power from Yahweh, grew wings and flew to the Red Sea where she remained. This myth reflects the attempts of the patriarchal nomadic invaders to subjugate the agricultural people of the Great Goddess religions."

The Morrigan - Celtic Goddess of Battle

The Morrigan is a warrior, but she is also protector and healer. A Celtic goddess of war, death and justice, she is the epitome of crone as symbol of the full circle of life.

She is crone and "shining tall woman," she is a goddess of life as well as death, she is a shape-shifter, beyond limitations and labels.

The Morrigan was another tripartate or Triple Goddess: Badb, Macha, and Nemain. In the form of a raven or a crow, she flew above battles and chose her souls from among the soldiers who were fighting, returning once the battle was finished to lead them away.

"The Morrigan known in Irish legend and mythology as a red-haired goddess of battle and pro-creation, often appearing in triple form. She combined the threshold energies of life and death, sexuality and conflict in one terrifying goddess."

She is a healer as well as a bringer of death. Represented by Morgan le fay, she dooms Arthur to his death, then takes him to Avalon to heal him.

Baba Yaga - Slavic Crone Goddess

Baba Yaga is Witch, Crone and Archetype and, in many ways, she is very relevant to today's women:

"The story of Baba Yaga is prime among many images of the Black Goddess. The Black Goddess is at the heart of all creative processes and cannot be so easily viewed. Men and women rarely approach her, except in fear. Women are learning of her through the strength and boldness of elder women who are not afraid to unveil her many faces."

A friend of mine told me about Neil Gaiman of Sandman fame and his tale of Baba Yaga and her hut on chicken legs.

(There's a long list of Crone Goddesses on The Goddess Guide.)

Embracing the Dark Goddess

Winter is the season of the Crone Goddess. She is associated with the colour black, the colour of death and grief. Yet black is also associated with power, elegance, strength and authority. Black is a mysterious color associated with fear and the unknown.

The Crone Goddess is said to help with "the ending of things (quitting a job, divorce, etc.), moving out of a home, extreme protection or retribution (assault, abuse), passing through menopause, or dealing with a death."

Female energy represented by the Crone Goddess is wild and unrestrained, often intensely emotional and chaotic. Men and women alike have been taught to fear this energy.

"The Crone is instinctual in her actions, but this does not mean that they have a lesser purpose than those of the male gods. It is because she is instinctual and emotional that she is able to guide us through the mysteries which may not be fully understood and yet can still be known. The realm of dead, magic and the unknown can best be known by one who does not rationally think of them but instead allows them to be revealed without conscious thought with the aid of the Goddess."

The Power of the Crone

Reclaiming the word "crone" empowers women:

"Crone, hag, and witch once were positive words for old women. Crone comes from crown, indicating wisdom emanating from the head; hag comes from hagio meaning holy; and witch comes from wit meaning wise. Crones, hags, and witches frequently were leaders, midwives and healers in their communities. The meanings of these three words, however, were distorted and eventually reversed during the 300 years of the Inquisition when the male-dominated church wanted to eliminate women holding positions of power. Women identified as witches, who were often older women, i.e. crones and hags, were tortured and burned, and the words witch, crone, and hag took on the negative connotations that continue in our language. The Crone Movement, however, is re-claiming the positive meanings of these words."

The crone is also seen in a positive light in traditional Chinese Medicine:

"Perimenopause and menopause are significant experiences for women, both physically and emotionally. Ideally, menopause can feel like a natural evolution from the previous roles of daughter, and/or wife/mother. In the psychology of symbolic archetypes, the menopausal woman is represented by the Crone. The Crone does not imply that a woman will be withered. Rather, she is at a point in her life in which she is less reliant on others, and less concerned about their opinions about her. Hecate, the Crone, evolves from the two Grecian mythical figures used to represent other stages of a woman's life in Jungian psychology: Persephone, the passive, obedient daughter, and Ceres, the devoted and nurturing mother. The Crone brings as her gifts independence, a salty sense of humor, and hard-earned wisdom. Nor is this stage necessarily a time of waning sexuality. Some women actually feel more relaxed about sex, and experience more enjoyment. Menopausal women who are healthy and nurture themselves, can radiate an accepting sensuality, and look great, as well."

The symbol most often associated with the crone goddess is the triple moon: "The triple moon is a Goddess symbol representing the Maiden, Mother, and Crone aspects as the waxing, full, and waning moon. The triple moon symbol is associated with feminine mystery, energy and psychic skill, and often adorned jewellery worn by High Priestesses."

Crone Wisdom

SpiralSkies explains that the wisdom of the crone is that of perfect harmony and balance:

"Once in a Blue Moon, all things come into perfect harmony and balance. . . . . We are living in a time when such a thing is possible. . . . The wisdom of the Crone is emerging. Ancient wisdom from many lands is revealing itself, moving, connecting and blending, as never before. . . . The Crone teaches lessons of patience, using resources wisely, and compassion. We can open ourselves to total transformation, if we listen."

If you are a crone (of any age), check out the fab resources at Croning.org:

"For millennia women’s wisdom was honored; crones were revered. Today women are reclaiming the identity and status of the ancient crone. We are coming of age, accessing our wisdom and acting upon it. Croning is the process of becoming active wise women.

Croning can begin at any age and is particularly relevant for women 45 and older. Personal experiences of aging and ageism provide the impetus to recognize and reverse the negative images (internal and external) of old women. We can activate our potential as wisdom carriers and guardians of the future by learning of our ancient crone heritage, honoring the cycles and seasons, respecting the web of life.

Engaged in the process of Croning, we can act in ways that embody the changes we want to take place in the world, in our communities, families, relationships, and within ourselves. When we apply our wisdom to effect positive change, we improve our own lives and leave a legacy for future generations."

She is the dark moon, the wintertime, old age and knower of mysteries.

The crone time brings the harvest of experience, when we reap the accumulated benefits of all that we have learned.

The Crone is a teacher or wise one, someties called the "waysharer" as she shines the light of wisdom for all to see.

(Excerpt from 'Hecate the Crone' at Hecate's Cauldron)

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Spring is Sprung!

noreply@blogger.com (Moondreamer) — Mon, 03 Mar 2008 15:44:00 +0000

Welcome to the month of March, the first month of Spring, whether you take the first day of March as the first day of Spring, or the Spring Equinox.

The Spring or Vernal Equinox falls on March 20th. Equinox means "equal night" so from the Spring Equinox, the days will begin to get longer. A great day to celebrate the renewed life of the Earth, to draw strength and hope from nature, to recharge your batteries, and to breathe life into slumbering projects. Or to start a whole new adventure.

The Vernal Equinox is also the time when the sun rises at the North Pole for the first time in six months!

(I think this is actually a picture of the sunset at the North Pole, rather than the sunrise, but it's such an amazing picture!)

March is named after Mars, the Roman god of war.

March, or Martius, was the first month of the Roman calendar, the time when military campaigns were resumed after the Winter. So it's a good time to resume battles of our own, perhaps? To refocus our efforts and determination. Or to come up with some new strategies.

March is often a stormy month. It started with a huge storm, here, which is apparently a good omen for the end of the month to be sunny and warm.

"If March comes in like a lion, it goes out like a lamb"

English Proverb

(Sometimes said the other way around.)

The birthstone for March is Aquamarine.

This beautiful gem is linked to sea and sky with it's blue-green, watery hues. It is said to help give direction in life, to lift the spirits and to calm the nerves.

The flower associated with March is the lovely sunny daffodil, which means "the sun shines when I'm with you!" (More links to the language and meaning of flowers.)

March is full of celebratory days:

March 1st - St. David's Day

March 8th - International Women's Day

March 17th - St. Patrick's Day

March 19th - St. Joseph's Day

The Japanese celebrate Hanami at the end of March. This is the traditional Japanese custom of enjoying the beauty of flowers, particularly Cherry Blossom.

Thinking about flowers (again!) ...

March also includes Mothers' Day, of course, which we often celebrate with flowers.

Hope you all had a fab day yesterday!

These beauties were from Eldest daughter:

And so was the card that says, To My Lovely Wife on Mothers' Day! (Haha!)

She said she had to get that one because it said exactly what she wanted to say:

I love you very much

for all the special things you are -

Organiser, gourmet chef

and all-round superstar!

As well as being everything

a special mum should be,

Best of all you're gorgeous ...

... and you mean the world to me!

I LOVE YOU!

Bless! I was really touched (sniff!)

Still looking forward to Youngest Daughter's awesome card, which I did get a glimpse of on Saturday, as I passed her in the kitchen (up to her ears in tissue paper, glue and sparkles), but which she hid on Saturday night and did such a good job that it hasn't been seen since!

Are you feeling full of the joys of Spring?

Or maybe, as mad as a March Hare?

Either way, have an excellent month!

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Bzzzzzz! (Thank you, Sally!)

noreply@blogger.com (Moondreamer) — Mon, 03 Mar 2008 13:19:00 +0000

I was given this lovely award by the lovely SallyQ, who is one of the busiest bees I know!

Thank you Sally, you started my week with a big smile ... and something to live up to!

I have a confession, though: I'm no longer studying (or not officially, I'm always studying something) because I've finished my Masters (got a distinction!)

Was feeling totally bereft ... until I started blogging!

Next study mission: a PhD. (When I finish paying for my Masters!)

I pass this award on to Annieye, Maddie Moon and Lane, whose busy bee-ness I find inspiring!

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