Young, Flyy & Educated

What About Your Friends... Are They Truly Your Friends???

2013-01-25T01:07:00.000-05:00

We all have people in our lives that we would consider our friends and close associates. You may even have one or a few close friends that you may call you BFF (Best Friends Forever).
But are they really your friends or do the have other motives in mind? How would you know? You could outright ask them if they consider you to be a true friend (not too pushy). Their response can mean alot.

Now this blog is based on my experiences as well things proven in life. Do not use it as law lol... It can be helpful to keep the following information in mind.

There are also signs you may want to look out for to determine if this "friend" is truly your friend or not. This is not set in stone but you may just want to consider these items.

He/She ignores you when in a public place or when you are all with a group of friends.
He/She only wants to converse with you when they need something or have an issue where they need advice and makes no offer to talk with you otherwise. In other words, they do not reciprocate and offer a listening ear when you need to talk about something.
He/She has stolen or lied to you frequently.
He/She joins others in talking about you behind your back.
He/She is very jealous or even envious of the things you have. They do not seem to be happy when things are going good for you.

You may also need to ask yourself about the positive things that make this person a friend.

Do you trust them? ( If you do not trust them, there is no need to go further, you should be able to have some trust in a real friend.)
Are they almost always there, when possible, for you when you need them?
Are they willing to tell you the truth when you ask for advice, even when it means disagreeing with you. ( A "YES MAN" is not a friend, you need someone that will be honest with you about anything, even when it means saying no.)
Do you feel included when around other friends.

These questions are just for starters and you should not end a friendship based on the information above. However, it is here for you to consider and evaluate your "friendships" with others.

If you have to questions your friendship with someone, there is a good chance that something is wrong.

Do not weigh positive actions against negative actions. For example, no matter how many good qualities a person has, there are some things a "friend" should never do. A true friend should not talk behind you back, steal or constantly lie to you... no matter how nice they may seem.

Remember, true friendship takes commitment. People are not perfect and we all make mistake. You may even feel slightly disappointed once in a while. Do not end your friendship over something trivial.

I'm Back to Blogging... Did You Miss Me lol

2013-01-25T00:12:00.000-05:00

Wow... Hope you missed me... lol.

I know I am late but Happy New Year 2013. I have not had the opportunity to blog in a while. Between school, work, and other responsibilities, life can definitely take over.

The blog site will undergo some updates to reflect the new year and a fresh blog will be up shortly. Thanks for your continued support and taking an interest in my blog.

New Blog will be up in the next few days....

Peace !!!
The Young, Flyy & Educated One

Be Prepared for A Natural Disaster

2012-07-01T16:38:00.001-04:00

Disasters can be in many forms including: hurricanes, flash floods, tornadoes, earthquake, blizzards, fires, hazardous material spills and acts of terrorism. You can not always predict how, when and where a disaster will occur but you can always learn to prepare for it.

There are a couple of things that you can do to hep lessen the impact of the emergency.

1) Create a disaster Kit- You can find recommedations for the American Red Cross and Department of Homeland Security. Below is a general list of items that should be included.

Water- Use plastic containers instead of glass or cardboard to store water. You should have a 3-day supply of water for each family member. Each person needs about a gallon of water each day.
Food- Have a three day supply of non-perishable food items ready in your kit. Choose things that do not require cooking or refrigeration.
If you need to heat something, get a Sterno can and matches.
First Aid Kit- You should have one at home and in your car. Make sure to include bandages, gauze, over the counter medicines, soaps, antiseptic and other first aid items.
Make sure you pack flashlights, radios, batteries, signal flares, matches, tapes, can opener and other tools. Also pack sanitary items such as toilet paper, personal hygiene supplies and disposable plastic bags.
Have at least one change of clothes and shoes per family member. Also include blankets.
Make sure that you have all the special medications and or accommodations for each family member. This includes infants, elderly or the disabled.

Have an emergency plan on effect. Each family member should know each others numbers as well as local emergency numbers. Make sure everyone knows where they will meet during a disaster.

Practice your disaster plan in advance of the impending emergency. Plan ahead, don't wait till the final hour to try and put a plan together. Hopefully, this information will be useful to everyone who reads this. BE SAFE, BE PREPARED.

How to Effectively Market Yourself on Your Resume !!!

2012-07-01T15:57:00.000-04:00

With the unemployment rate over 8% and a very competitive job market, how does your resume stack up in comparison to others. Your resume, simply put, is a marketing tool that you use when seeking employment. Whether you are unemployed, underemployed or just looking for a career change, this tool is very valuable. What is on your resume and how the information is presented (appearance) can either help or hurt your chances of getting that interview.

So how do you make sure that your resume is an efficient marketing tool. Here are some things you should consider when putting together your resume.

Your resume should be a polished, professional document tailored to showcase your strengths for the positions(s) that your a looking for. It is possible to have two or more resumes that are modified to showcase you skills for a specific position. Each should be tailored to the specific position that you are apply too, and not too generic.

1) Overall appearance- Are you mailing or handing out hard copies to prospective employers? If so, make sure it stands out. Make sure you use good quality paper. Have you tripled-checked the spelling and grammar? Is everything in proper tense? Is the resume free of smudges and printed on good paper with cover letter and envelope ( if applicable) to match.

Is the typeface and font appropriate for the document. Is the font the right size, not too small or to large? Is the document readable. Are the headings, job titles and other important information easily seen.

2) Objective- I have personally seen resumes with no objective at all. It should be a one sentence description of your job hunting goals. It should be broad enough to spotlight your qualifications.

3) Organization- Is the resume presented in a simple, straightforward manner that makes it easy for the prospective employer to get all the pertinent information they need at a glance. Keep the organizational style of the resume consistent.

4) Professional Experience is what is most important to your prospective employer, so make sure that this area is legible, clear and concise. Avoid vague and ambiguous phrases and terms. List all achievements, successes and accomplishments.

5) Make sure you include education: colleges, degrees, certifications, advance training , etc. This also includes on the job training. Emphasize the education and/or training that will be most useful to the job you are applying to.

6) Although not mandatory, you may want to include other activities such as special achievements outside of work, community involvement, interests, etc. This will help your resume stand out and persuade the reader to want to meet with you, in other words, interview you.

Always remember to not flat out lie about skills and education you do not have. Do not claim that you did something you did not do. This includes stretching the truth just a little bit. As tempting as it may be, do not do it. Chances are you will get caught and if you get caught after you get the job, it could lead to termination for falsely representing yourself.

Applying this information will help you efficiently market your resume. Good luck and great success in your new endeavors.

Can Your Job Actually Be Making You Sick

2012-06-26T22:14:00.000-04:00

Can you job actually be making you sick? That is a good question. Can you job actually be making you sick, literally. Do you dread Monday mornings and all the happiness of the weekend drain away. Do you suffer from headaches, nausea and other sicknesses.

For one thing, too much stress from the workplace is not a good thing. It is proven that people in medium or high stress jobs visit family doctors more often than those in low stress job. There is also medical evidence that suggests that stress can adversely affect an individual's immune system therefore increase their chances for diseases. You job can also make you emotionally sick. Long term exposure to stress and cortisol released when you are stressed can KILL you.

But how can you tell if your job is making you sick. First you have to understand that there is stress related illness and environmental issues. How do you know the difference?

Stress related illness is when a stressful job is so upsetting that it is manifesting itself in physical symptoms. Some signs include dreading going to work each day, not being able to eat while at work and not sleeping well. More severe symptoms include panic attacks and hot flashes.

Environmental related illnesses deal with your actual working environment, the building, carpet, furniture and materials you use on a daily basis. Some people develop severe allergies to things commonly used in our physical environment. You could be highly allergic to just about any chemical, including industrial cleaners, perfumes, colognes and other chemicals around the office. It can be as severe as fainting from the odors or more subtle like a headaches or nausea while at work.

Get the opinion of a medical professional (i.e, Doctor) to rule out other issues and get to the root of your illness.

So once you have determined that it is stress from your job is definitely making you ill, what can you do about it? Is there any way to avoid the stress.

This will be discussed in a future blog.

Do Not Try to Please Anyone But Yourself

2012-05-26T18:47:00.001-04:00

I know, I know... The title may seem selfish at first. However, putting yourself first is not selfish at all. Especially if you are know to be a people pleaser.

I had to personally learn over the years that you can not please people. No matter how accurate you do something, there will always be one person that will not be happy. You can not stress over what someone will not like or will be displeased with. This includes family and friends. This is your life to live, not your parents, family members or friends. Stop letting people try and live their lives through you. It is not your responsibility.

This is not to say that you should reject advice from people. But remember that the ultimate decision is yours. You do not want to look back on life with regrets because you did what others expected or wanted to do. Life is too short to be trying to please everyone but yourself.

Just a few words of knowledge from someone who is learning this for herself.

Ya Girl,

Young, Flyy & Educated.

Interesting Poem of The Day

2012-05-06T14:40:00.003-04:00

Happy Sunday-

I found this poem online today and thought it would be an interesting read to share. The author is unknown.

Hope you take something away from reading it.

Sistas Let's Stop Hatin' On Each Other...

Ok...so I walk in and you see me. You see that my hair is done, my
outfit is fierce and I carry myself like a lady. I smile at you but
you roll your eyes at me, then, turn your head and whisper something to
your girl. Why you hatin'?

Ok... so maybe I'm a new employee and this is my first day at work. I
almost thought I would be the only sista in the joint until someone
introduced us to each other. I smile and extend my hand, happy to know
I won't be here alone. You smile and shake my hand but there's
insincerity in your eyes and your hand is limp. You seem guarded.

What's wrong Ma'?

Ok ...so maybe my man and I have been having problems. And since
you've been my best friend for years I confide in you that I think he's
cheating on me. You offer your support. Until I find out that he's
been cheating on me....with you! Why would you hurt me like that?

I found your knife, girl.....it's in my back!

As women we battle daily. We battle keeping our families together,
keeping our men happy and maintaining our presence in the workforce.
With all that battling going on why in the world should we have to
battle each other?

Now I'm not saying every sistah has a knife...but some of you
do....and you know who you are. Why is it that a woman can't get
her glamour on without you having a problem? Why can't I get a
blonde weave without you having something to say?
If I'm working myself to death in the office
trying to climb the corporate ladder...why am I suddenly a sellout?
If I leave the room for a minute why can't I trust you around my man?
Smiling in my face, but gossiping all my personal business behind
my back? You now have permission to consider yourself triflin'!

Inferiority Complex. It makes us feel that in order to be someone
special we have to put everyone else beneath us. Are we so insecure in
ourselves that we can't feel good until we pull someone else down?

There's something wrong here. We've come to envy those who've
accomplished in their lives what we've only dreamed of having for
ourselves. And when we fear we will never be able to get what we want
- we steal it.

There is a serious self-worth issue going on here. We're in a day and
age where we should be encouraging each other and holding each other
up.

Sisterhood should not end when Oprah goes off. Truth be told, there
will always be someone prettier, sexier, stronger, and smarter. I'm sorry
Boo - that's just the way it is. But that's ok.....just do you!

I don't care how good Beyonce' looks - if she walks into the same room
I'm in, it doesn't make me any less of the diva I already am! I love
admiring hairstyles...but there's no need to be jealous. Honey,
nowadays there's enough hair for err-body.

I have goals in life. There are things I strive to attain. Yet I seek out
successful sisters because they keep me motivated.

Life is so much more than who looks the best, who dresses the best and
who makes more money. So when you see your sister going for hers let
it inspire you .... To do you.

~ Author Unknown ~

Common Fitness Misconceptions and The Truth of It All.

2012-04-22T15:10:00.000-04:00

With summer right around the corner, many people are trying to get into shape. One main way of losing weight is through exercise and fitness along with eating healthier. But with so much information out there, how do you know what is the truth and what is myth.

Below are a few common misconceptions and the real truth regarding the matter.

Misconception #1: All fat is bad!
Truth: Your body actually needs a certain amount of fat for vital functioning. It also helps slow down the aging process and satisfies your hunger for longer periods of time. The key is knowing the difference between healthy and unhealthy fats and how to replace the unhealthy fats with healthier options.

Misconception #2: A calorie is a calorie whether it comes from a bowl of ice cream or a bowl of celery.
Truth: Calories that are consumed from fatty foods are more likely to cause weight gain than those consumed from eating carbohydrates. Your body uses less energy to process and store dietary fats than dietary carbohydrates.

Misconception #3: Exercise is the only sure way to lose weight. ( Not considering weight loss surgeries)
Truth: Weight fluctuations are impacted by many things including dietary intake, exercise and genetics.Though adjustments made in any of these areas can deliver positive health effects, weight is most efficiently lost using a balance combination of both diet and exercise.
* Reminder: Regular physical activity is a very important component to successfully maintaining a healthy lifestyle.

Misconception #4: I can burn fat from specific regions of my body by just exercising those areas.
Truth: Spot reduction is not possible as many will like you to believe. When you exercise, your body utilizes energy produced by metabolizing fat from all regions of the body, not just the specific muscles involved in the exercise.

Misconception #5: If there is no pain, there is no gain. If I do not feel sore the next day, I did not work out hard enough.
Truth: Soreness may actually result from tiny tears in the muscle tissue and may indicate overdoing it. Listen to your body is hurt. You may have to discontinue that particular exercise.

Hopefully the truth shall set you free :) There are more misconceptions out there, so just do your research.

* Talk to a fitness professional or your doctor to get clarity on what is myth and what is fact so that you can work on getting that body you always wanted.

How to Cope with Negative Coworkers

2012-03-28T23:01:00.002-04:00

Taken from my Hubpages: :http://spierce86.hubpages.com/hub/How-to-Deal-with-Negative-Coworkers

At work, there are always coworkers that are constantly negative. They complain about how much they hate their job, fellow employees and bosses. They exude negativity. We are not talking about generally positive people who have negative thoughts at times or ones who are legitimately complaining about something. If you spend too much time with them, it will affect you demeanor as well.

How do you deal with negative coworkers. Here are a couple of suggestions to help you cope.

1) Deal with generally negative people by spending as little time as possible with them.

2) Remember that the cause of their long term negativity is not your concern. Positive people do not allow the negativity of others to affect their attitude.

3) If you are forced , through your role in the company, to deal with them, do not allow yourself to be drawn into negative discussion.

4) Avoid providing a sympathetic audience for the negativity.

5) Suggest that the negative person seek assistance from Human Resources or the supervisor.

6) If all else fails, talk to you supervisor or HR about the challenges you may have to deal with when working with negativity.

7)If negativity among employees at your company is persistent, the issues that causes the negativity are left unaddressed or if the negativity affects your ability to complete your work, you may have to consider moving on. Sometimes, it is the work culture that is creating the negativity among employees.

At either rate, the goal is not to let the work culture or negative employees affect your positive disposition.

It's A New Year... Hello Everyone

2012-01-22T01:59:00.000-05:00

Wow... its almost the end of the first month in 2012 and I haven't blogged in a few months. The page can definitely use some updating lol. New Blogs will be coming up shortly. The month of February will feature Black History Month Spotlights, which will be featured once a week. There will also be changes to the content and design of the website. Stay tuned for all the new changes coming your way.

If you would like to be featured on this blog, feel free to email me at aspiring4excellence@gmail.com

Much Respect,

Young, Flyy & Educated.

Need Your Feedback

2011-10-11T23:22:00.000-04:00

I am back after a long break. I appreciate all the visits to read the bog. The design and layout is under construction. New blogs will be up soon.

As you visit, please feel free to leave your comments and suggestions. You can comment on the blog directly or feel free to email me at: aspiring4excellence@gmail.com . Your feedback will help me to know what the readers want to know.

Make sure to donate to autism, using the link on the top right hand side or the blog.

Thanks for your continued support:

Young, Flyy & Educated

Where Have I Been? LMAO

2011-08-20T00:53:00.000-04:00

Where have I been? Haven't blogged in a month. I have been writing articles on HubPages and trying make things happen. Recently started working full time again, which can drain you. I am still an entrepreneur first. In this economy, you MUST have multiple streams of income. I repeat this is a must. I appreciate all the people who visit and read my blogs.

You can check out some of my newer blogs on the following Hub Pages site: http://spierce86.hubpages.com/

Till next time,
Young, Flyy & Educated

Thinking About Becoming a Vegetarian- Consider These Tips

2011-07-17T20:18:00.000-04:00

Thinking About Becoming a Vegetarian- Consider These Tips

Check out this article I wrote...good Information.

Signs That You Just May not Be Into Him

2011-07-14T00:03:00.000-04:00

We always talk about signs where the guy may not be into you, but what about the cases when you are just not into him. There are signs that you may want to look out for. No sense in wasting yours or the guy's time. Check out the following signs below.

Everything reminds you of him- in a bad way....You start to hate things you once loved: songs, activities because they remind you of him.

You make up little lies in order to not have to spend time with him. He asks you out and you tell him you have plans, although you do not. You make up excuses to not have to see him.

You only think about him when he was around. When he is not around or calling, you do not miss him at all.

He embarrasses you. You do not want to introduce him to your friends or family.

You think he tries to hard. You do not care about the extravagant gifts he gives you.

You are emotionally detached. You are just not into the relationship. If you find out he has someone else, you are relieved instead of being upset... ( I have been here :) )

You are looking for someone new, as if you are single. I have been here as well. You consider yourself single but you are not.

Sex is the last thing on your mind. You are never in the mood and constantly make up excuses as to why you don't want any.

You create drama and pick fights just to add excitement and to have something to talk about.

These advice pointers are not set in stone but it can definitely give you something to think about in regards to your relationship or lack of one. This is just opinion based on factual experiences. Hope this information has been helpful..

Have You Checked Your Credit Report Lately???

2011-07-13T23:28:00.000-04:00

Have you checked your credit report lately? If you haven't checked it yet, you should definitely look to do so. Not checking your credit report can be detrimental. Make sure you take the time to find out what is on your credit report and find out your credit score. You do not want to wait until it's time for you to make a big purchase to find out your credit is not what you thought it was.

www.annualcreditreport.com is a great website to view your credit report for free from each of the three major bureaus (Experian, Equifax, Transunion), once a year( every 12 months).

There are other situations where you can get a free credit report.

1. You are a victim of identity.
If you believe you may be a victim of identity theft, you can obtain one free credit report from each of the three major bureaus.

2. You are looking for a job. If you are unemployed and plan to search for a job within 60 days.

3. You have put a fraud alert in your credit report.
When you file a fraud alert, you are entitled to one free credit report from each of the credit report agency. An extended alert entitles you to two free reports from each bureau with-in a 12 month period.

4.You are on the receiving end of an adverse/negative action. This includes being denied loans, employment, insurance or other benefits because of your credit. You are entitled to see a copy of your credit report.

Hopefully, I have convinced you to check your credit report :)
Check out these websites for additional information:

http://www.annualcreditreport.com
http://www.ftc.gov/bcp/edu.microsites/freereports/index.shtml

How to Create Rock Solid Abs

2011-07-08T13:07:00.000-04:00

Summer is here and in full swing. Temperatures are hot and you want to show off your nice abs. But what if you, like myself, are a work in progress :).
How do you get that toned and sexy mid area?

There are some things you can start doing to assist in this quest.

1)Exercise at least 3-4 times a week ( ex. planks & squat jumps are great)

2) Stay active and move all day long. Dancing works for me and helps burn a lot of calories. Make sure you workout your midsection. Belly dancing and ab workouts are great.

3) Follow a strict diet & healthy eating lifestyle. If you do not eat healthy, fat tends to deposit itself in your midsection/stomach area.
You can not just exercise though...you must also change your eating habits so that it is not counter productive.

Hopefully these tips can help you create the rock solid abs that you desire. Remember to always consult your physician before starting any exercise regime. Check out You-Tube...there are many videos about exercises for your midsection.

Updates to Website

2011-06-18T23:25:00.000-04:00

The website is currently being updated. I can definitely use some feedback on what you as the reader would like to see on the website. Feel free to contact on the post or email me at aspiring4excellence@gmail.com.
Look out for the new layout. In the meantime, feel free to read any of the achieved articles.

Thanks,
Young, Flyy & Educated

New Design and Updates Coming Soon... Stay Tuned

2011-05-20T16:24:00.000-04:00

Hey Everyone,

Haven't blog in a while. Finally got everything in order and now its back to blogging again. In the next couple of days, you will see updates to the site including new designs and subject matter. Stay tuned and continue to support a blogger by checking out some of the ads you may interested it. It keeps the website running.
Thanking you in advance...

Young, Flyy & Educated.

Daily Poetry #3- The Good Man by Gwendolyn Brooks

2011-04-15T13:55:00.000-04:00

Hello everyone. Today is the third day of the daily poetry and I wanted to share a poem by Gwendolyn Brooks (1917-2000) called The Good Man. If you did not know, she was was an American Pulitzer Prize-winning poet. She was also appointed Poet Laureate of Illinois in 1968 and Poet Laureate Consultant in Poetry to the Library of Congress in 1985. You can find out more about Gwendolyn Brooks visiting this link : http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gwendolyn_Brooks .

Hope you enjoy. If you would like any specific author featured or have your own poetry you would like to have featured, please email me. Thanks and happy reading.

The Good Man by Gwendolyn Brooks

The good man.
He is still enhancer, renouncer.
In the time of detachment,
in the time of the vivid heather and affectionate evil,
in the time of oral
grave grave legalities of hate - all real
walks our prime registered reproach and seal.
Our successful moral.
The good man.

Watches our bogus roses, our rank wreath, our
love's unreliable cement, the gray
jubilees of our demondom.
Coherent
Counsel! Good man.
Require of us our terribly excluded blue.
Constrain, repair a ripped, revolted land.
Put hand in hand land over.
Reprove
the abler droughts and manias of the day
and a felicity entreat.
Love.
Complete
your pledges, reinforce your aides, renew
stance, testament.

The poem can be found on the following website: http://famouspoetsandpoems.com/poets/gwendolyn_brooks/poems/20575

Daily Poetry #2- Dreams By Nikki Giovanni

2011-04-14T15:58:00.000-04:00

This is the second day for my daily poetry post and today will feature the poem Dreams By Nikki Giovanni.
Hope you enjoy.

in my younger years

before i learned

black people aren’t

suppose to dream

i wanted to be

a raelet

and say “dr o wn d in my youn tears”

or “tal kin bout tal kin bout”

or marjorie hendricks and grind

all up against the mic

and scream

“baaaaaby nightandday

baaaaaby nightandday”

then as i grew and matured

i became more sensible

and decided i would

settle down

and just become

a sweet inspiration

Nikki Giovanni, “Dreams” from Black Feeling, Black Talk, Black Judgment. Copyright © 1968, 1970 by Nikki Giovanni. Used with the permission of HarperCollins Publishers.

Source: The Collected Poems of Nikki Giovanni (2003)

Daily Poetry #1...Still I Rise by Maya Angelou

2011-04-13T10:15:00.000-04:00

I am a lover of writing, especially poetry. I thought it would be beneficial to share some great. inspirational (in my opinion) poetry that everyone would love. I will try to share at least one poem daily.
Today's Poem is Still I Rise by Maya Angelou.
You can view more of Ms. Angelou poems at the following website
:http://www.poemhunter.com/poem/still-i-rise/

Still I Rise

You may write me down in history
With your bitter, twisted lies,
You may trod me in the very dirt
But still, like dust, I'll rise.

Does my sassiness upset you?
Why are you beset with gloom?
'Cause I walk like I've got oil wells
Pumping in my living room.

Just like moons and like suns,
With the certainty of tides,
Just like hopes springing high,
Still I'll rise.

Did you want to see me broken?
Bowed head and lowered eyes?
Shoulders falling down like teardrops.
Weakened by my soulful cries.

Does my haughtiness offend you?
Don't you take it awful hard
'Cause I laugh like I've got gold mines
Diggin' in my own back yard.

You may shoot me with your words,
You may cut me with your eyes,
You may kill me with your hatefulness,
But still, like air, I'll rise.

Does my sexiness upset you?
Does it come as a surprise
That I dance like I've got diamonds
At the meeting of my thighs?

Out of the huts of history's shame
I rise
Up from a past that's rooted in pain
I rise
I'm a black ocean, leaping and wide,
Welling and swelling I bear in the tide.
Leaving behind nights of terror and fear
I rise
Into a daybreak that's wondrously clear
I rise
Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave,
I am the dream and the hope of the slave.
I rise
I rise
I rise.

Which Type of Male are You?

2011-04-01T16:46:00.000-04:00

I just did a post the twelve types of females. So now I had to post the twelve types of males I saw posted on the following blog :http://www.myspace.com/pyc/blog/288617580

Thought it was quite funny. Not saying I agree or disagree with any of them, but it was pretty entertaining to read. Plus I know that I have dated more than one of these types of males. lol

12 TYPES OF MALES

1. MR. THUG LIFE

Advantages
a. Real good at making love
b. Fun and exciting
c. Makes you laugh
d. Has your back, will fight and protect you

Disadvantages
a. Usually drinks and smokes too much
b. Always got drama
c. Stays a thug forever
d. In and out of jail

2. MR. NAW, I DON`T HAVE A GIRL

Advantages
a. Will take you out in the beginning
b. Will introduce you to all his friends
c. Compliments you all the time

Disadvantages
a. Has a girlfriend who he`s been with since the 2nd grade
b. Will not get rid of her
c. He tells you about her after you`ve fallen in love with his *bleep*

3. MR. BIG BALLA
Advantages
a. Will give you money with no questions asked
b. Has alot of style to him
c. Will show you some of the nice things in life

Disadvantages
a. Never returns your pages
b. Feels he can come to your house at any given time without calling first
c. Loves to be around his boys more than you.

4. MR. I`M IN THE INDUSTRY

Advantages
a. Can get you and your friends on the guest list at all the jumpin parties
b. Can have a decent stimulating conversation
c. Tends to dress nice

Disadvantages
a. You don`t know if he`s gay, straight or bi
b. Seems flighty when you speak of a solid commitment
c. You still have to wait in line to get in all the jumpin parties, then there`s drama at the door
d. All he has is a bunch of pictures with celebrities but he doesn`t know any of them personally

5. MR. INTELLECTUAL

Advantages
a. Book smart
b. Cares about how you feel
c. Has a very good job

Disadvantages
a. Boring as hell
b. Doesn`t know what the hell he`s doin in bed
c. He is not street smart
d. Always asking you when can he see you again

6. MR. GHETTO

Advantages
a. THE BOMB IN BED!!!!!
b. Makes you laugh
c. Got mad style and flava
d. Has a temper, but generally a charming sweet guy
e. Says he want a real relationship

Disadvantages
a. He got 3 or more baby mommy`s
b. Wants to lay up in your crib, use the phone, and eat up all the food
c. Is in denial when you tell him about himself
d. Comes home at 3:00 am and says he was out with his boys

7. MR. I`M A RIGHTEOUS BLACK MAN

Advantages
a. Will teach you about black history
b. Revolutionary
c. Inspiring & gives to you spiritually & emotionally
d. Wants a wife and family

Disadvantages
a. Breaks up with you for a white girl
b. always talks against needing Mo money-doesn`t have a job
c. Doesn`t own a nice suit, always wearing camouflage and oils
d. In the end, you find out he is just a trifling, con motha*bleep*a

8. MR. TOO DAMN GOOD

Advantages
a. Will introduce you to his mother
b. Has a job and will take you out
c. Will give you money for your bills if you need it
d. Sometimes he goes to church on Sunday

Disadvantages
a. Sometimes he goes to church on Sunday
b. Secretly wants to be Mr. Thug Life
c. Wears fake Movado & Rolex watches when he goes to the club
d. Ignores you when the game is on because he takes sports too serious-He didn`t make it professionally
e.You find out after you break up with him that he was cheating on you

9. MR. PLAYA

Advantages
a. Will tell you the truth - that you`re not the only one
b. Sometimes he`s fairly decent in bed
c. He tells you that you`ve changed him and he`s ready to settle down
d. Has his own apartment and car (invites you to move in with him)

Disadvantages
a. He doesn`t acknowledge you in public, especially if there`s women around
b. Generally he is a punk (won`t stand up for anything)
c. He expects you to believe all his lies just because he told you the truth about other women
d. After you catch his lyin` *bleep*, he tells you that he told you that he was a playa in the beginning anyway

10. MR. I HAVE A JOB

Advantages
a. Of course.... he has a job
b. Doesn`t have too many bad habits
c. Will take care of you when you`re sick
d. Tells you that he is in love with you

Disadvantages
a. You stay in the relationship 2 years or more and then find out he`s a shiftless, lazy son-of-a-*bleep* who wants you to do all the wifely duties but won`t give you a ring
b. He ends up telling you that he loves you, but is not "in love" with you
c. After he leaves you he gets married a month later

11. MR. BEST FRIEND

Advantages
a. He`s your best friend, you tell each other everything; you get along very, very well
b. He gives you advice when you and your man are having problems
c. The ultimate gentleman
d. Sweet and caring with a good sense of humor

Disadvantages
a . You end up hooking up with him only to find he ain`t about *bleep* either!
b. Now, you gotta find a new best friend because you can`t stand his *bleep* no more

12. MR. RIGHT

Advantages
a..He loves God and takes his relationship with God seriously
b. He is intellectual, brilliant, and capable of taking you there mentally and emotionally
c. He will love you even when you are not lovable
d. He has a career and not a job!
e. He acknowledges his faults and strives to be a better man
f. He understands a relationship is built on a 200% quota - 100% him and 100% you
g. He doesn`t have a bunch of kids and babies mommas - he`s smarter than that
h. He is a true best friend and everything you ever wanted in a man
i. He was cute when you met him. But, after spending sometime you see he`s fine as hell!
j. He can dress - knows the difference b/t formal, semi-formal, professional, business casual, casual, and when you're both just chilling he'll still throw on some sporty sweats and a fitted hat.
k. He loves his mother and respects women
Disadvantages
a. You`ve never met him and if you did he already has a girl/wife.
OR
b. He DOESN'T exist since NO MAN will ever be perfect enough for a WOMAN!!!

What Type of Female Are You?

2011-04-01T16:36:00.000-04:00

I wanted to share something that has been circulating through email quite a bit, especially to males. Any hoo. It was about the 12 type of females that males date. (Will list each type later in the blog).

After looking over it, it made me think. Which female am I? Now everyone wants to say that they are Mrs. Right. But come on, let's be honest. Even if you are Mrs. Right at this point in your life, at other times you were one or more of the other 11 types of female. I can be honest and say that I have been more than one, but I won't say which ones lol. I am not saying that there is anything wrong with be any of the twelve types, but just curious to see if people will admit to which type they are. Each has an advantage and disadvantage So which one are you?

Feel free to comment and state your opinion.

The 12 types of females ( Not my words, sent via email)

1. Ms. Gold-Digger

Advantages
a. You have some one to manage your money.
b. She always looks good.
c. She makes your other niggas jealous.
d. She makes you look good.

Disadvantages
a. When you get broke she’ll be gone and take what you have left.
b. She makes sure she has a child by you to sue you for child support.
c. Once your nigga comes up she’ll be on his arm the next day.

2. Ms. Freak (secret lover)

Advantages
a. She knows all the right positions.
b. She’ll try everything more than once.
c. You’re never unsatisfied.
d. She’ll do all the things your girl won’t do.
e. She doesn’t mind being your freak, as long as she catches one too.

Disadvantages
a. Eventually, b/c she’s a female, she’ll end up catching feelings.
b. She starts to act like she’s your “main”.
c. She makes love wit ya boy and act like you in the wrong for telling that she’s a freak.

d. Eventually her shit gets old. And you need a replacement.

3. Ms. Independent

Advantages
a. You don’t have to worry about buying her anything. She got it.
b. She’s intelligent, sassy, confident and determined.
c. She’s great for (business) conversation.
d. She keeps it real and has goals.
e. She knows how to please a man.

Disadvantages
a. She will continuously let you know, that she can handle it on her own.
b. She will eventually say fu*% you and get a dildo.
c. She will consider you another one her play toys, or goals.

4. Ms. Dyme

Advantages
a. She’s top of the line.
b. She stays looking like a fantasy.
c. She has the body of a goddess with the face to match.
d. She considers herself a “model”
e. Gets you on hard whenever you see her.

f. All the girls envy her, but she doesn’t care.

Disadvantages
a. She’s superficial. She cares only about her looks.
b. She honestly lacks confidence and will annoy you about the way she looks.
c. She’s probably dumb as hell and if she’s not her personality is dry.
d. You have to constantly keep your game up b/c every nigga is gonna try to get her.

5. Ms. Tomboy

Advantages
a. She’s cool and laid back.
b. She’ll be willing to play rough with you.
c. Of course, she loves sports.
d. Her body is athletically divine.
e. She’s easy to talk to and fun to be around.
f. She’s a diamond in the rough.

Disadvantages
a. She’ll remind you too much of your nigga.
b. She might not want to change her appearance.
c. She might actually beat you in basketball, football and track.

6. Ms. Ghetto

Advantages
a. She’s not afraid of any other female or male. She will fight to keep you.
b. She’s down for you. She’ll be there to bail you out of jail.
c. She’s always stays fresh.
d. She can cook up a storm. She can make the best out of a bad situation.
e. She keeps it real and keeps you satisfied.

Disadvantages
a. She doesn’t know how to act in public.
b. Your mama can’t stand her.
c. You get into with her every other second.
d. She’s willing to fight another girl looking at you or her PERIOD.
e. Her weave colors are distracting and her vocabulary is minimal.

7. Ms. Good Girl

Advantages
a. She’s always there for you.
b. She’s intelligent, classy, kind, sweet and cool.
c. Your mother loves her.
d. You can see yourself falling in love with her.
e. You are her first everything.
f. She makes you feel like a man.

Disadvantages
a. She’s an A or B situation either: A. You’re not gonna get any until ya’ll are married or B. She said she never done she said she never tried she’s sitting there telling a muthafukkin’ lie.

8. Ms. Main

Advantages
a. She is the one you respect.
b. She probably may know about the others but might not care.
c. She has all the qualities you want in a female.
d. You’ve been with her forever.

Disadvantages
a. She starts getting very suspicious and calls you every moment.
b. She will devise a plan to catch you in your act and then kick your ass

9. Ms. Psycho

Advantages
a. She’s fun and spontaneous.
b. She’s down to earth.
c. She loves you unconditionally.
d. Everything about her is too good to be true. So everyone loves her.
e. She makes you feel loved.

Disadvantages
a. Don’t you break up with her. She will stalk your ass.
b. She keeps pictures of you everywhere and knows everything about you.
c. She can manipulate the hell out of you.
d. She will consider herself wifey even if she may just be that chick on the side.
e. Making love’ with her can make your life a living hell.

10. Ms. I have a Man

Advantages
a. She may have a man but she’ll mess with you anyway.
b. She looks good.
c. You have an intense night of passion with her.

Disadvantages
a. She’ll always come crying to you about the problems with her man.
b. She’ll get you caught up and then leave you anyway for her man.
c. If you piss her off she’ll get her man to come beat your ass.
d. She’ll unofficially make you her man once she gets pissed off at her real man.

11. Ms. Tease

Advantages
a. She’s tempting and a nice piece of eye candy.
b. She’s intelligent, athletic, respectable and SEXXXXXXY.
c. She knows how to turn you on without touching you.
d. Everything she does is just so sensual.
e. She can bring you to that point and make you wait to get it.
f. Every time you see her you catch a mini orgasm.
g. Every nigga wants her b/c she’s so mysterious and that makes you want to get her first.

Disadvantages
a. NO matter what you think or do you never get it.
b. She probably has a long distance boyfriend somewhere that you will never know about.
c. She gets you hard and leaves you like that. (Unbearable)

12. MRS. RIGHT

Advantages
a. She is not sexy, fine, or a dyme she is Beautiful and therefore encompasses all of these descriptions.
b. She is intelligent, sassy, funny, outgoing, determined, strong and classy.
c. She can cook or at least order a meal that is just like your mother’s.
d. Her personality is just as beautiful as her body.
e. She believes in God and follows his virtues.
f. She knows that a relationship requires a 200% yet she gives her man an extra 10%. She can please her man in anyway. Mentally, Spiritually, and Sexually.
h. She makes you recognize your full potential as a man and completes you.
i. She’s always there for, no matter what your dreams are.
j. She’s not afraid to tell you the truth and set you straight.
k. You can talk to her and confide in her, she’s your best friend.
l. You love being around her more than your boys.
m. You can share your most intimate moments with her without sex.
n. You can have a bad argument with her and have the BEST Mind Numbing and passionate love making fest ever.
o. She’s always willing to find a way to work out your problems and will often take most of your *bleep*. But she’s also intelligent enough to leave.
p. She’s nothing like any other girl you’ve met. She’s your woman.

Disadvantage
a. You’ve probably met her, or had her in your life but got too consumed with all the other types that you let her go

New Month... New Attitude

2011-04-01T16:21:00.000-04:00

I haven't blogged in almost a month...wow. I missed blogging, but life can complicate a lot of things. I have been tested lately but have learned that I have the strength to prevail no matter what the circumstances may be. As this old chapter is coming to a close a new chapter is beginning. My present and future holds so much potential. It is my job to work up to that potential. Well that was just a quick spill of the what is going on with the Young, Flyy & Educated female. New blogs coming shortly. Feel free to comment or leave suggestions for specific blogging topics at aspiring4excellence@gmail.com .

Love,
Young, Flyy & Educated

Why Do I Blog?

2011-03-10T16:22:00.000-05:00

I'm back... lol. This is my first post for March. Benn going through some things, but the light is always brighter at the end of the tunnel. I have missed blogging. I had to sit and think to myself, why do I blog?

There a few reasons why I blog. The main reason I blog is to release stress. Blogging is an outlet for me to let out whatever feelings I am holding back. Secondly, I have an opinion on almost everything lol, so I like to blog and share my views with others. Thirdly, I like to talk about things that others either don't wanna talk about or are too afraid to talk about. Ignorance is not bliss.

New Posts coming more regularly. If you have a topic you would like me to blog about comment or email me at aspiring4excellence@gmail.com

Ya Girl,
Young, Flyy & Educated