Young Women in Crisis

Fifty and Fabulous

2012-01-19T17:45:00.001-08:00

Women in my opinion have a lot to handle as a female ;)

I've had 2 kids by C-section, had my tubes tied only to have a tubal pregnancy 2 years later almost hemorrhaging when one tube ruptured!

Now I'm about to turn 50 and menopause has set in and can I say wow some days I think I may lose or have lost my mind! I'm grumpy, sleepy, bitchy, itchy, psycho, weepy and bloated! I have hot flashes and I feel like I'm baking from the inside out! I'm thinking I'd rather have a period than go through all this!!

I cry for no real reason and I worry way to much when I know that God has me in His hands.

All this to say ladies, life is what you make it and whatever we go through we're never alone as God is with us and He gives angels to carry us when we feel like we can't fight on. Never give up that's what I'm telling myself these days when so much is up in the air and change comes painfully slow. These are the things I tell myself and walk in faith.

Trust God! I am.

Young Women in Crisis: Love Yourself Today!

2012-01-19T17:28:00.000-08:00

Young Women in Crisis: Love Yourself Today!

Love Yourself Today!

2012-01-19T17:11:00.001-08:00

My horoscope yesterday read like this...

Feelings of insecurity could induce me to seek approval from others today -

Wow like really, I'm so not believing that! I'm not that person who needs someone else to tell me that I am fearfully & wonderfully made! I'm a child of the king & I'm created in His image!

Today I am acknowledging myself for the many wonderful traits that God has put into my soul. I accept me for who I am humbly.

Remember and embrace this thought... Self-acceptance allows you & me to move freely throughout life, sure of our own abilities and unhindered by those who may want to hold us back!

Being fully alive this year!

2012-01-16T13:17:00.000-08:00

Today is Martin Luther Kings birthday celebration. I thank God for this man and his unparalleled vision not just for me, but for all mankind!

In honor of his life today I decided to reflect and focus on my purpose. In service to others I share through writing with deep hope that I may inspire others to keep their faith strong and stay positive. Life is tough at times and it is through reading words others share I find strength in the midst of my own personal storms. Also through worship and fellowship in my beloved church First Baptist in Sourh Orange, NJ

These are a few thoughts I have geared toward positive change:

1. In goal setting - don't just set goals to get or to have, but to BE!

2. Release & let go of any toxic ties and let go of the past!

3. Remember to be happy & grateful for what I do have and not be anxious for anything!

4. Choose to be happy!

5. Live my life true to myself, not the life others expect of me.

6. Remember whom I belong to - My father God.

Unhitching the load

2012-01-16T12:25:00.000-08:00

Unhitching the load

Closing cycles

2011-12-17T10:20:00.000-08:00

Closing cycles

Life's Up's & Down's

2010-10-31T12:32:00.000-07:00

Life's Up's & Down's

God Wants You to Know....

2010-10-28T13:35:00.000-07:00

God wants you all to know that we need not try to be perfect, but strive to be whole.

I read this today and I thought, wow this is a great way to live your life. Only a power greater than ourselves, whom I chose to call God is perfect. As human beings we will never be.

God wants us to trust that life is unfolding as it should,

All is well,

All is going according to His plan for us,

Trust there is a bigger picture than we can see, just go, live your life, do your best and have faith.

Great words for my day and I hope yours as well.

Am I Being Abused?

2010-10-09T13:23:00.000-07:00

The question today is, How is your Relationship?

Relationships are difficult between two emotionally healthy and centered people, but if one is not perhaps we need to ask "Does Your Partner" do any of the following:

Embarrass you with put-downs?
Look at you or act in ways that scare you?
Control what you do, who you see or talk to or where you go?
Stop you from seeing your friends or family members?
Take your money, make you ask for money or refuse to give you money?
Tell you that you're a bad parent, or threaten to take away or hurt your children?
Prevent you from working or attending school?
Act like the abuse is no big deal, it's your fault or even deny doing it?
Destroy your property or threaten to kill your pets?
Intimidate you with guns, knives or other weapons?
Shove, slap, choke or hit you?
Force you to try & drop charges against them
Threaten to commit suicide?
Threaten to kill you?

* If you answered "YES" to even one question you may be in an abusive relationship, and I would encourage you to ask for and seek out help.

Please call the 24-Hour Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) to ask questions.

[Article quoted directly from Domestic Violence Hotline]

WomensLaw.org Reports

2010-10-07T11:26:00.000-07:00

WomensLaw.org Reports

October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month

2010-10-02T19:55:00.000-07:00

In recognition of the official Domestic Violence Awareness Month, I will update and give valuable information regarding domestic violence.

One of the first topics to discuss is "How we can help a friend or family member who is being abused". [Directly quoted from National Domestic Violence Hotline]

Don't be afraid to let him or her know that you are concerned for their safety.
Help your friend or family member recognize the abuse.
Help them to recognize what is happening is not "normal" and they deserve a healthy non-violent relationship.
Acknowledge that he or she is in a very difficult & scary situation.
Let your friend know that the abuse is not their fault.
Reassure them that they are not alone.
Be supportive
Be non-judgmental
Encourage him or her to participate in activities outside of their relationship with friends & family
Help them to develop a safety plan
Encourage him or her to talk to people who can provide help & guidance.
Remember that you cannot rescue him or her.

Please call the 24-Hour Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) with concerns or questions.

Tune into Your Teen

2010-10-02T16:58:00.000-07:00

Tune into Your Teen

Hard to Believe at Times....

2010-09-25T12:17:00.000-07:00

Lately it seems that every single thing I try to do comes with conflict and an uphill battle to achieve. Everything I do never seems to work out, no matter how simple it is. I get so frustrated, I don't know which direction, right, left, how do I go. I don't trust my own choices, and I ask God why again must I go through this?

The struggles, the valleys, the pain, the doubts, the fear of losing everything again, the hopes fading away along with the dreams, my head is down trying to take one step at a time afraid that step is wrong and I want to give up and die!

Then something inside my heart & soul springs up, and I believe it is the Holy Spirit of God telling me, the road is so hard and painful, I know it hurts, but through it all I am getting you higher to the point I want you to be, and I don't have any idea how I turned the corner and went higher, but I did!

I will continue to chase down my dreams and climb as high as God takes me. I encourage anyone that reads this piece to keep on climbing. I feel low today myself, but I will not give up. I am wonderfully & fearlessly made in the image of the most High God, CLIMB ON I WILL!

What does wisdom mean?

2010-08-17T16:57:00.000-07:00

What does the word WISDOM mean to you? I figured out for myself that to have wisdom is have sense enough to know when you've made a mistake or when it's time to let go of something.

My wisdom is growing everyday because I'm learning more about who I am and who I am not. I know I have wisdom now because I openly welcome change in my life. I almost love it now...change that is!

I know wisdom as I know I am a fallible human being, but the wisdom came when I got through the valleys and came back to myself in a better way.

I am filled with wisdom now after going through many rough experiences; a bad marriage filled with violence, a divorce, being arrested and having my freedom taken away because of poor choices, having to start my life over more times than I can keep track of, being away from my two kids, being beaten up, being on drugs and alcohol, leaving a job, ending several unhealthy relationships with people that were selfish and dishonest, having family turn on me, moving around aimlessly, not knowing God for myself and my list could go on, but the point is having lived through all of these life changing situations I am full to overflowing with deep wisdom.

Having wisdom has filled me with so much love and understanding and that's the joy I get from having the wisdom that God has given me after saving me from myself and making me a complete whole person! Having wisdom comes from having lived and learned.

Love Shouldn't Hurt

2010-08-13T07:24:00.000-07:00

Love Shouldn't Hurt

Young Women in Crisis: HE saw the BEST in ME!

2010-08-08T15:45:00.000-07:00

Young Women in Crisis: HE saw the BEST in ME!

HE saw the BEST in ME!

2010-08-08T15:44:00.000-07:00

I love Sunday's! It's become my day to really connect with Cheryle and a power greater than myself....my GOD! It's my day to praise & worship with like minded people that don't mind waving their hand or saying "thank you" Lord for all you've done for me. I love my little community baptist church down the street from my small studio apartment. It's where I go to get re-booted and replenished to make it through another week that promises to be filled with life's ups & downs. I need the inspiration I get from fellowship & praising God gives me. God fills me with so much LOVE, MERCY & GRACE like the world never has or ever will.

Drugs, alcohol, unhealthy sexual relationships, binge shopping, over eating, over doing all the things I use to do to fill my little hurting soul, I no longer feel the need to do because God helped me get me in line with my purpose. I'm 48 years old and I'm just now getting the hang of this thing called "life on life's terms"! Wow and thank you sweet Jesus not a moment to late. I'm still alive!

God saw the best in me when everyone else around saw the worse, and thank you Marvin Sapp for putting those perfect words in a beautiful song for all of us that need to know we are loved by God.

To end, the point is simply this....we are made for God, by God and until we figure that out, life isn't going to make any sense and don't I know this is the truth! I finally got a taste of that peace that surpasses all understanding and I will never let another person ABUSE me in any form! I can stand tall because I got GOD!

Young Women in Crisis: I'm so grateful to be a survivor!

2010-08-07T16:38:00.000-07:00

Young Women in Crisis: I'm so grateful to be a survivor!

I'm so grateful to be a survivor!

2010-08-07T16:27:00.000-07:00

No matter how bad things are in my life, there is always something GOOD I can thank GOD for!!!

I'm happy to have lived through some difficult experiences and survived! I'm happy to be strong and loving although I haven't been loved back the same way! I still believe in love and I look forward to sharing the love God has put inside me.

I'm happy that my character is bright and joyful. I'm happy for every little thing in my life!

Young Women in Crisis: The Road From Youth to Adulthood

2010-07-15T15:42:00.001-07:00

Young Women in Crisis: The Road From Youth to Adulthood

The Road From Youth to Adulthood

2010-07-15T15:42:00.000-07:00

The Road From Youth to Adulthood

Thank You for Taking Action | Say NO - UNiTE

2010-06-24T20:00:00.000-07:00

Thank You for Taking Action | Say NO - UNiTE

Young Women in Crisis: I Can!

2010-04-23T18:44:00.000-07:00

Young Women in Crisis: I Can!

Blogger Buzz: Blogger integrates with Amazon Associates

2010-04-22T14:34:00.000-07:00

Blogger Buzz: Blogger integrates with Amazon Associates

Suffering in Silence

2010-03-01T11:15:00.000-08:00

Suffering in Silence