Are overly concerned with other people’s opinion and point of view?

Compare and/or compete with others, trying to keep up with the Jones?

Feel you have to be right or win?

Feel like even when you achieve or receive something that you want more?

Feel a level of dissatisfaction and despair often?

Feel like asking for help makes you appear weak?

If you say yes to any of the above, your current operating system is being ego driven. Our eegbigos are necessary and important but never meant to act as our controller. The problem with the ego is as Wayne Dryer states,” ego stands for edging God out”. Our egos can be so separate and alone that it loses its connection to our larger self our essence and starts to lead our lives in ways that shuts out our souls. As a result we create our lives on a false premise trying constantly to make sure we have enough, and this starts a cycle that takes a lot of effort. We are so busy attempting to serve our ego’s needs instead of our deeper purpose. And as a result negative experiences are created over and over again, until an upgrade of your operating system is adopted.

There has never been a more ripe time to live our lives to align to our higher vision and create the life we want to live. As the world is changing and structures are collapsing so is the egoism structures of our own personalities. As we embrace life sustaining systems like Feng Shui and find new approaches we begin to align our ego’s to become in service to our bigger vision and purpose is found.

I have recently started to take afternoon walks which I find stress releasing but only a few of those and I am already noticing how much yard work needs to be done as well as many projects that were left for the spring that is now the time to finish. I am at the crossroad of drive and/or enjoyment, using the time in the afternoon to pick up weeds and debris instead of taking luxurious afternoon walks. But, I am catching myself and while it is important to do the yard work he walks brought me so much joy. So, instead of filling my time with all the things that need to be done I am going to balance a little of walking with some weeding at the end of the walk or a little before the walk but keep the joyful activity on a daily basis. I am like a lot of other people that spring propels them into a lot of action, filling our calendars with endless tasks and projects but we are only at a beginning of longer days and shorter nights. We have many of these to experience. When we trust that each season of our lives like the seasons of the year slowly build into a magnificent story or song, with harmonious notes that may be missed if not fully present for them.

If you find yourself getting stressed out and adding more too many things to your to do list you may be in danger of losing precious time. A mind that leaps forward is not present for what is in front of it. It starts to push against things instead of leaning into them. You may experience being overwhelmed or not feeling supported because you are out of the flow of grace where even the force of gravity starts pulling and pushing. This pinches off the divine flow of the feminine flow where the universe opens its helpers for your daily assistance.

1. Slow it down-practice the next task by deliberating slowing each movement slower and slower until you can feel energy of expansion and relaxation within the task. You will find the sweet spot of ease there.
2. Change up your altar space-clean, DE clutter and add the right symbol and energy in a picture, statue or a certain type of flower. You may have a winter spot within your home and a spring/summer area for your spiritual daily practice. Where would that be?
3. Take short but more often walks, 10 or 20 minutes in the morning and before dinner helps you to notice the shifts in the walks and in nature. Even the difference of a few hours makes on the opening of the fresh new buds on trees and blooms in the gardens/yards can change greatly. Take in that chi (energy) and use it to enliven your own projects and creativity.

Have a beautiful day, starting with this short 10 minute video to remind you of how much of a gift each day is. This was sent to me from a friend/client and I so appreciated it I wanted to send it to you.

It is worth staying through the end of it.

Photo by Fredrick Linge

Every one of us has had the experience of being bullied. It crosses all ages, all races and all times.

One of the huge ramifications and consequence of living with a power over another, the ego conditioning of a time past is that power was gained by taking it from another. But, this is changing in the new age of the soul, where we are living from the heart instead of ego power.

Most of us recognize a bully, someone that asserts their will over us and excerpts pressure to confirm to their point of view and way of doing and being.

But it is the more subtle type of a vampire, energy draining that is another side of the coin or bully behavior that is often disguised in a sweet package. A soft spoken, gentle, creative type that has not had the opportunity yet to hold a strong ego sense of who they are that becomes passive aggressive as they feel desperate and need to reclaim their own personal power. This intense need to protect and defend themselves from their past experiences that hurt them often brings everyone suspect of needing to watch others through a victims lens so they can get what they need often at the expense of others.

I, myself, engaged more of this type of bullying in my life. While I do not like to admit it, I didn’t have the tools to understand it for a long time even though I was engaged in spiritual work. It is not anyone’s fault that they have an underdeveloped or overdeveloped ego, but is each person’s responsibility to become aware of it and re-set a new course of action that manages the ego in a healthy way.

An underdeveloped ego is when one’s personal power was often arrested in the maturation of building a strong ego.
It is important to have clear boundaries, to know your own personal power and weld with this strength. A bully can be from this underdeveloped or over development of the ego that is often too controlling and domineering personality.

As in all real learning it has to come from deep within yourself, seeing your own behavior and then making a resolve to shift and change it. It is hard to do but so worth the effort. And when you recognize your own neediness or desperation you can see it in others. That is real power the power to transform and transmute unaware, destructive energy into the light. The dark is only the unknown yet not brought into the light of awareness where a new pattern of truth becomes a willful choice.

As Eckhart Tolle states in his book, A New Earth, it is enough to simply bring the awareness of this experience into your consciousness and with no judgment, only compassion to make a new choice that honors the light with your soul.

Here are a few clues as to the behavior within you or others that show the energy of bullying, or energy vaporing.

1. Blaming others for life not working out.
2. Having to defend or protect.
3. Not listening and getting what others are feeling and say
4. A heavy desperate need to cling.
5. Using low vibration words like needy and desperate.
6. Others not responding in the way you want them to
7. Not a clear sense of personal boundaries of yourself or others
8. Trying to control a situation to get what you want.
9. Not trusting the universe to supply your heart’s desires.
10. Refusing to see the gift in any and all seemingly negative experiences.
11. Falling into a state of darkness and dis-ease in response of other peoples decisions.

What you can do when you experience the bullying and/or an energy vampire experience in others or within yourself?

Remind yourself that there is a gift of awareness within this opportunity. A gift to rewire your old ego brain to a higher cortex of a loving, kind and compassionate one in which will rise you to your joy for life again. Your soul is here for its own joy. Allow it to be so.