Zoe Alexander

Loving Self, Healing Relationships

2010-04-23T10:48:00.005+10:00

Can all be fair in love and war? When you hurt the ones you love the most you hurt yourself. You begin to disintegrate on the inside feeling wronged or righted. The fear and guilt that then ensues can often be strong enough to halt what is needed: the healing of relationships.

When you have hurt someone, through intention or not, the first person to seek forgiveness from is yourself. When you have forgiven yourself you can recognize that hurting another came first from your ability to hurt yourself. Make peace with that. From this place of peace healing and possibility can prosper.

Who Are You Watching?

2010-04-15T15:03:00.001+10:00

Most people spend their entire lives watching and being concerned with others. Even when it comes to matters of the self they review themself through the perceived eyes of another or others.

Is this you?

If it is a life of happiness will elude you. Why? You are not at the centre of your life. Instead exists a hologram that that looks and sounds like you but isn't ever truly you. Learn to watch the self. Learn to watch the rise and fall of the breath; the temperature changes in the body and how settled or unsettled you feel inside. Learning to watch the self is the only way to keep the real you at the centre of your life. Keeping you at the centre of your life is the only way to achieve happiness.

Remembering Who You Are

2010-03-21T14:24:00.005+11:00

Sometimes we can feel washed up, helpless and alone.

Last week I walked along the beach where thousands of jellyfish had been left by the tide to die and dry up on the sand. Physically they could do nothing about it. They had no hands or feet to lift themselves back to the water. There were no family, friends, colleagues or professionals to pick them up and help them in their time of need.

This made me realise how lucky we are as a species. We have the capabilities of picking ourselves up. Within the reach of everyone is family, a friend, a colleague or a professional that is capable of helping in times of need.

If you are feeling alone and all washed up in life remember that within you is the ability to pick yourself up and start living again. This ability is your birth right as a human being. If finding this ability seems to difficult ask for help. It's amazing what a pair of helping hands can do.

Energy

2010-03-06T08:50:00.004+11:00

Many ask to find ways to get more energy. Having energy is a natural state of being. If you want more energy look at where you spend it freely in daily living. Everything you do in life spends energy. Spending freely is not the same as spending wisely. By stopping and asking yourself, "Do I spend my energy wisely?" you can begin to understand where your energy is being used. Audit your energy spend: what did you do, where was your thinking, where did you put your effort? Your energy may be the most precious resource you ever have. Spending it wisely creates a payback to you. Spending it freely and not wisely creates only payout. Using your energy via effort to do this exercise now based on your day so far will give you the information you need to create more payback. With information you can then make choices to gain more energy. There are always other ways to get things done or other ways of Being whilst getting things done.

Kindness

2010-01-19T11:59:00.002+11:00

When was the last time you were kind? To yourself? To others? Have you ever considered making kindness a practice? Kindness, like mental focus or physical fitness, is a state that can be cultivated. How do you do this? By practicing it repeatedly. Small acts will make you feel better. A practice will make you feel good. This, after all, is what the promise of new cars, clothes and people promise. Try practicing kindness in small or large ways today.

Trust

2010-01-15T15:17:00.005+11:00

How well do you trust? Yourself? Others? Trust is implicit with harmony, health and well being. Learn to trust yourself. After all what do you have to lose? Yourself? If this seems hard take small steps everyday to rebuild the connection back to you. It is only through connecting with self that trust can be re-gained. Try trusting yourself -even a little- today.

How are you? Really?

2010-01-05T09:24:00.002+11:00

Be mindful of how you feel as you go about your daily business. If asked, "What were the qualities that made up your day", what would you say?

Happy 2010!

2010-01-01T10:16:00.003+11:00

You may have apprehensions and misgivings about the events and situations that happened in 2009. Let them go. Decide to give yourself a clean slate. Where amends need to be made make them and move on. Learn to keep yourself in the present and move with as much dignity as you can into this year. This year is yours after all if you choose it.

Apologies

2009-02-05T11:31:00.000+11:00

We're still making changes to this site so apologies for things being topsy turvy. We'll get there and in the meantime I learn to be more technologically proficient! If you can't find what you need please email me.

Share Your Insight

2008-07-24T12:05:00.000+10:00

Let us know what you think, feel and most importantly share your insights or practical know how here. we look forward to your contributions towards a better world.

Welcome to Zoe's Blog

2008-07-17T02:53:00.000+10:00

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