Whenever I upload a hip hop / rnb music video onto the blog, I’m not here to promote it.

My sole intentions are for you to check out how these celebrity artists move, especially their body language game (which I know they spend HOURS training on).

In this video, I’d like you to study their body language and notice how both crooner and rapper communicate nothing short of confidence, authority, and masculinity.

Now, what else can you pick up from this song “Phone Number”?

Notice how Bobby V doesn’t ask, but “orders” the girl when he wants a number.

That’s EXACTLY how you can double your success rate when getting a girl’s number, GIVEN that you’ve established great rapport with them beforehand!

Tell, no need to ask.

If you ever catch yourself hearing the words “Let’s just be friends”, “I’d like us to just be friends”, or any variation therefore, you better get yourself the f**k out of there.

…that is unless you intend, or will be content with remaining strictly as her “friend”. This also means no heavy touching, kissing, or anything physically intimate. Are you sure you want that?

When a woman tells you she wants to be friends, don’t buy any of the common excuses when you hear them. E.g “I have too much work nowadays”, “I need some time to think things over,” “I don’t want too ruin our friendship”.

My friend, when a woman categorizes you as a friend, it translates as “I am no longer attracted in you. You just don’t turn me on. Hands off me now.” Her interest level simply wandered off into no-where land, and you do not want to go chasing for it.

So, how do you crawl yourself out of this dreaded shit-hole? The question you should REALLY be asking yourself is, how did you get yourself there in the first place?

Most likely, you became too dependent and needy. Your whole schedule probably even revolved around her, and you had nothing “going on for you” other than HER. This is the type of reality that’ll turn a woman off quick like hearing a girl fart during dinner.

Ok, to the solutions board. If such scenario applies to you, here are three actions you ought to follow through: to help you possibly regain her interest level, and to help you move on from any imminent emotional repercussions from the blow in confidence.

1. Don’t be phased. If you let any signs of “being hurt” show, you’re giving her the upper hand. Stay cool and collected. Tell her upfront with a tone of sincerity that that you’re afraid that’s “not going to happen,” since that’s not the kind of relationship you can see yourself in with her. Hey, it’s your life, run it your way.

Wish her the best and tell her it was great knowing her. Don’t break down and cry over the phone insisting that you could do better. You want her to feel a sense of loss or denied access. Women want what they can’t have.

2. Avoid further contact with her. Cut loose, or go cold turkey (it’s ok to be extreme in this case) on the text messages, e-mailing, or whichever form of communication she got used to. Get on with your life and business.

3. Instill jealousy. Meet and hang out with other women. Don’t do so forcibly out of revenge though. Do it because you intend on meeting other quality women, and yes, there are plentiful out there! You never know who’s available until you start shopping!

By increasing your social factor, you inadvertently pump up your perceived value in her eyes. Let her know that you are in demand, and that you can have a smashing time with other women. Once she realizes that she’s missing out on the fun, her interest level will naturally shoot back up.

Needless to say, do learn from your past. Track back and evaluate how you behaved. Did the flirting dynamic start to suck? Did you become too supplicating? Uninspiring? Non-challenging?

Did you soften up completely and handed her both your balls where she now keeps in a jar? Whatever it is, don’t repeat the same mistakes.

What up world.

I have to apologize for recently going semi cold turkey on the blog lol, again. It’s been almost a month of disappearance – which I consider as unforgivable, and do not expect any of you to forgive me.

For those of you who loyally follow here, you know I’ll always be there to meet your answers when you have any. I’m only one e-mail away.

For those who would like to address any specific issues or sticking points with their day/night/inner/outer game, e-mail me at : syncdating @ gmail.com

I’ll be flying to Taiwan, then Shang Hai this month, and promise this time to squeeze in subway fresh, bruce-lee level kick ass quality content.

What I’m going to reveal to you to today, is so UNDERESTIMATED yet so VITAL as a mental practice to supplement into your daily set of habits.

Every millionaire does it. Every A-list celebrity, surgeon, cancer patients, and even pro athletes with a pair of expensive arm or legs do it.

And now, you can implement the same powerful method to increase your success with getting more girls.

What I’m referencing to… is the… the power of visualizations!

Try this.

Every night, before you hit the sack, VISUALIZE yourself as the person you’ve always aspired to be (in the realm of dating), living in your own utopia, in your own IDEAL WORLD.

Here are some starters…

• Imagine yourself as a socially desirable man: Charismatic characteristics, qualities, values etc.

• A man liberated from all insecurities and faces no fear or anxiety around women.

• See yourself mingling with the hottest women under the sun, whilst effortlessly managing playful, deeply persona, to sexual conversations with them.

• Visualize women giving you FAVORABLE responses, secretly admiring you, and just DESPERATELY CRAVING to lock in some time with you to relish in.

Assure yourself that you’re a man of HIGH DEMAND, minus the arrogance.

As you manifest in your mind all these positive events, your UNCONSCIOUS mind will start to believe that THIS IS YOU.

Why? Because your mind & body will only behave in FAVOR of what they’re FAMILIAR with.

… and soon, your ideal world will closely coincide and take place in your near FUTURE.

Visualizing is your ongoing refuel of energy and faith to conquering your aspirations.

How it works…

When you visualize, your muscles experience electrical impulses that correspond to the physical event you are imagining.

Take Liu Chi Kung, for instance. The guy was a talented pianist imprisoned for 7 years during the Cultural Revolution. When he was released, his audience all agreed that he played better than ever.

How is that possible when he didn’t practice? He said, “I did practice, every day. I rehearsed every piece I every played, note by note, in my mind.”

Therefore, the more you visualize your dating goals, the closer you’ll be leading yourself to actually experiencing them; you’ll also set yourself to be more psychologically and physically PREPARED to handle those imagined events.

Even when it comes to dating obstacles or sticking points…
…. your intuition will rally for support and new ideas. Your mind will naturally reach back into your past for ideas, or whatever resources it can find, to bring forth inspirations that you haven’t previously considered.

The longer you hold yourself to the conviction that you can attract a girl easily, the MUCH more likely it is that you will.

Your whole body language will appear MORE relaxed, thus making her feel more comfortable around you, and you’ll find yourself more extraordinarily competent than before.

Couple this age old method with a THOROUGH understanding behind the psychology of women, along with the fundamentals to what attracts women, and you’ll be ON FIRE.

Believe me.

Visualization exercises can REALLY put you in that picture you’ve been LONGING to see yourself in.

Oxford English definition: “To bring something as a picture before the mind”.

If you can see it, then it becomes more credible. Therefore, do not ever cast negative doubts upon yourself.

And of course, mentally rehearse only what you want to happen, not what you don’t want

Here’s another new music video with great references on how you can talk dirty with a girl. Yes, Luda and Trey knows that they’re talking about.

Don’t just take this up for it’s entertainment value, get familiar with the style and attitude in their language. There’s a very good reason why they’ve culled a larger fan base of females than males.

Here are 3 quick tips on how to talk dirty with you girl to bursting the thermometer during your next bedroom encounter.

1. Don’t just get physically wild, let her imagination run wild too. Hang her in a constant suspense on what “you’ll be doing to her next.” Be vivid with the details, and get more explicit as you escalate into more intimate positions.

2. Avoid the routine. During any initial phase of courtship, always have a “new program” for the night — this is a surefire way to keep her “coming back for more later.”

Instead of just sticking to the bed, get out of bed, grab her by the hand and tell her you want to “tour around the house”, with “you inside her.” Go rack up your mileage points.

Spontaneity, creativity, and unpredictability is gold. A little planning and thought will go along way and easily distinguish your class from her exes.

3. Take the lead, dominate. You are the “director” of the night. Even if you’re not her boss, don’t be afraid to order her around, now’s the opportune time and context.

When you’re both in the bedroom and hungry for action, women will usually shift and become transfixed in an “obligatory” state. They want you to take charge. That’s why the cliched role play of “Doctor and Nurse” is still commonly practiced.

Most women want to be ravished and dominated. That translates as “hot sex” to them.

Have fun boys – try not break the condom.

Something to squeeze into your play list next time you get some slow, sensual bed room play

I want to talk to you about Momentum today, which I am certain will be one game changing word for you too.

It’s an invaluable element not just to business successes, but for all guys who want to sharpen their game with women.

Momentum is essentially the life force that makes you “stay in the game”. It keeps your driven and consistent with “staying in form”.

You see, we are inherently creatures of habits, so if your goal is to bed more girls, then you must start doing things that will increase the chances of that happening, WITH CONSISTENCY.

The more you focus intently on something, the better you’ll obviously get.

So, if you want more women in your life, reshape your lifestyle where you dedicate a portion of your schedule everyday to meeting new faces.

Don’t be afraid to approach chat up the next girl you see, and even the girl after. Whether she’s a 4, 8, or 9 in appearance, don’t discriminate.

It’s quantity and repetition that helps you gain momentum, and your direction is to keep moving forward!

Most importantly, you must have that sense of urgency to DOING IT NOW.

Day one may be awkward, but after a week of getting into the swing of things, it’s all smooth sailing since you’re acting by default.

These short term goals, or what I call “immediate wins”, will help nurture the “bigger picture”. The small series of success will breed momentum for even greater successes.

It will feed your ego, confidence, and keep you focused.

So, start mapping out all your short term actionable objectives.

Start small, like saying “Hi” to 10 random girls a day, then scale things up to number closing within 10 minutes with 10 different girls everyday.

Complete one thing at a time, and soon everything will “fall into place”.

Once you start, don’t stop, and you’ll soon be unstoppable. It’ll be like getting up everyday and brushing your teeth.

Next thing you know, you’ll have more diversity of women in your life to choose from than you ever imagined.

Go get em.

I call this game… “KEEP THE STARE”

Thank you, I put a whole lot of effort into that name.

Here’s how it works.

Next time you’re out and you see any fine looking girls on the street, practice staring them down, in a non creepy or malicious way of course.

Instead of averting your eyes – which suggests that you are uncomfortable – light up a friendly smile and give a light nod.

Let them know that you register their existence and that you’re not fazed or afraid of their appearance. This is very sexy, refreshing, and great for sexual tension, since most guys would typically shy away.

Hot girls usually like to stare a guy down to test his level of confidence, so be prepared to rise up to this challenge.

If she reciprocates and smiles back, what I’d do is then catch up to her (after you two have walked past each other), and tell her, “Hey, I just wanted to tell you that you had a wonderful smile.”

This always melts them on the spot, and instantly makes her open up to you for conversation.

Try it.

During any interaction with a girl, carefully coordinate your internal thoughts and feelings.This is literally all you have to do to yield impact on how she feels toward you.

For example, if you’re in a piss-poor mood and your boss just informed you in advance that you’ll be sacked in a weeks time, the negativity and stress boiling from within you will definitely be felt.All women are emotionally intuitive.

It will show through your expression, body language, and tone of voice.

On the contrary, if your mind frame was fixed on something immensely positive, such as “having won $100,000″ last night, you’ll thus feel more empowered, excited, and on top of the world!

That’s exactly the ideal emotional state you want to render a girl to.

So, to recap: What you think will always influence how you feel; and how you feel potentially affects the conversational dynamic, which consequently affects the type of responses you get from a woman.

What to do before talking to another girl?

First, gain momentum. Get yourself into the right mental and emotional state; be “in the zone”. Before you walk up to your next target, talk on the phone with a friend, a nearby counter assistant, or whoever stands nearest to you. Talk about anything, but nothing serious.

The purpose of this exercise is to help you get into a “sociable” mood. It’s like a warm up to a basketball game. Before the match, it’s best to not only stretch, but run laps to get into an active and ready state.

The more people you talk to, the less stressful it is to move onto the next one, simply because you’ve adapted well to this temporary state.

Your body will be gushing with adrenaline therefore making you feel more positive about yourself, and whoever you talk to, will inevitably sense this.

So, get yourself fully amped up before you go in for the kill. Always helps!