Humans evolved in motion; hunting, fighting, and surviving. Since starting NYUCD in September, I’ve lost track of how many 16 hour days were spent sitting in the same spot (my version of surviving tigers like Dr. Baker and Dr. Roy )

This isn’t a complaint, but my current grind is that of sitting and studying, and my future profession is that of sitting and grinding. Dentistry is up there on the list of professions with most work related injuries, so I think now is the best time as ever to get physically fit for life.

For the month of February I decided to do whatever I had to do in order to make time for exercise. I have been exercising before, but now I wanted to take it to the next level, with more commitment, and most importantly for me, with more structure.

My friend recommended a workout routine from Flex Magazine, which is designed to build huge guns (arms!). What I like about this plan is that it covers in great detail exactly when and how to weight lift, as well as a nutritional plan that accompanies the workouts.

That plan covered 3 days a week, and for the other days I did either moderate intensity cardio, high intensity interval training cardio, various chest exercises, or a strength training routine from Strong Lifts. So while I had the Flex routine, which was my go-to exercise that gave my workout-week structure, I also experimented with other things in an effort to find out what works for me.

There were a couple of days when I was so busy that at the end of the day the gym was already closed, and I had to get some exercises done right in the apartment. I just did basic Calisthenics, and one time I actually did sets of squats with Marina on my shoulders. Pretty funny, with the added bonus of her cheering me on from up by the ceiling!

Here’s the point. Dental students are as busy as people can get in my opinion. Onslaughts of examinations, studying, and hours of lab work occupy all of our time. I haven’t even seen my family in two months. If I can find the time to exercise with our schedules, I am sure that you can find some time to exercise.

Overcoming ‘Not Enough Time To Exercise’

If it weren’t for the fact that the TV set and the refrigerator are so far apart, some of us wouldn’t get any exercise at all. ~Joey Adams

I’m not going to make a top 100 list here. There are only so many fundamentals, and I believe that anyone can find one that works for them in the simple list of three below.

1. Time Journal. For 2-3 days keep a detailed journal of everything you do throughout the day. Do this with a simple pad and paper, and you will soon discover exactly where your time sinks are. You can then choose to be more efficient on tasks, cut others out, and ultimately rescue a half an hour to an hour of time per day to exercise.

2. Wake Up Early. You can work waking up earlier into your schedule. The thought of this might seem inhumane, but the reality is that you get used to everything, even this. Once you’ve done it enough times, you’ll wake up with more energy, and have more energy throughout your day.

3. High Intensity Workouts. Research shows that high intensity workouts in short bursts are more effective than long exercises. So if you’re physically capable, and your manage your time so well that you don’t have any free time as it is, then consider how a 10-15 minute high intensity workout can be worked in right before your shower time.

The ‘not enough time to exercise’ excuse was one that my mom has used for years. After all, she’s a dentist, a business owner, a mother, a grandmother (by way of my older sister), a wife, a friend to many, and a million other things. I literally begged her everyday for a period of 6 months to get a personal trainer to help her get started. She simply woke up earlier 4 times a week to workout with a trainer, stopped eating after 6pm, and cut out her evening TV session to speed-walk an hour outside. The result is that she currently lost 85 pounds (38.5 kg), while her schedule is still as busy as can ever.

Forming the Exercise Habit

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” ~Aristotle

I’ve gone in and out of periods in my life when I went to the gym often, and when I pretty much did nothing. There were different factors involved, and a lot of lessons learned, but once again let’s look at the fundamentals:

1. Structure. When it comes to exercise, I find that it helps when I work hard physically, but not mentally. I want to wake up and know exactly what it is that I’m responsible for doing on this given day. Right now my arms routine gives me structure, but I remember when I earned my black belt in Taekwondo, my instructors gave me all the structure I could ask for on a daily basis. The point is, you want to research, pick something, and then stick to it so you have nothing left to think about — just do it.

2. Friends. One of the most important things you can do is approach your most in shape friend. Even if working out with them is not an option, they can teach you more in a 30 minute conversation than you can learn in a long time of searching the advertisement-riddled internet. Research proves that you’re going to assimilate to the people you surround yourself with, so surround yourself with people you respect and admire.

3. Metrics. Keeping track of your progress is very motivating and helps you by striving for higher goals. Whether you keep track of how long and fast you can run, how much weight you can lift, how many inches are on your waste, or your body fat percentage, you will see that when you’re keeping track, you want to stay on track. Forget BMI and your weight, these are not helpful because they do not distinguish between the muscle and fat in your body composition. You could easily start gaining weight while your physique becomes more sculpted since muscle weighs more than fat.

4. Give the 30 day trial method a try. Last month I did a 30 day trial with perfect class attendance. I did it, and then I quit it because it did not resonate with me. I decided that it was more important to manage my energy, and study at times that I am feeling focused. The commitment was just for 30 days, followed by an evaluation, and then either a drop or a re-commitment. This time, I’m going to continue with the habit I have formed in my 30 day trial, and continue to exercise daily.

My Next 30 Days

We want to remove negative habits, replace them with positive habits, and build upon positive habits with more positive habits. I’m going to continue my habit of daily exercise, and add a new 30 day trial of writing a very detailed list of tasks to accomplish for tomorrow.

Each day, by the time I’m ready to hit the sack, I will have written everything I need to accomplish based on my life goals and my most important priorities. The point is not necessarily to work myself to exhaustion, but to remove any confusion or hesitation about what I should be doing, based on no ones values other than my own.

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It can be tough when you feel that your life sucks. Not only will your daily grind become boring, but your overall existence will be just that – existence. Fortunately, there is much room for improvement even if you consider your life to be totally depressing. But before you set out to make your life better, here are 50 signs that your life is in the doldrums and you need a life makeover.

1. Life has Become One Big Routine

If you think that your life is defined by routines and you actually feel comfortable about it, then it’s a good bet that your life sucks.

2. You Are Horrified About Going to the Office Every Day

If you are dreadful about going to work every single day, you could be among countless men who think that their careers or lives suck.

3. You Can’t Bring Yourself to Focus at Work

Remember your first day on the job? Most likely, you were so inspired that you actually shined your shoes and pressed your coat and tie. But now, you just can’t seem to put any ounce of energy or creativity in your work. You are stuck.

4. You Have Never Been Promoted in Your Job

Your work or career is one big factor in determining if you are living an exhausted life. If you have worked for the same company for 25 years, jumping from one department to the next, without getting promoted, then your life sucks.

5. You Talk About Your Boss Even During Lunch Breaks

If you and your colleagues spend half of your working hours discussing how your boss is such a moron, it is very much likely that you hate your job. Working for a bad boss is like working in hell.

6. Your Paycheck Has the Same Figure for Over Five Years Now

If you have been working for years and your paycheck still has the same amount as when you started, then your company does not value your work.

7. Work Hours Become More Difficult to Predict

So, you signed up for 8-hour workdays. But now, you do not even have any idea how many hours you spend in the office. If your workday stretches beyond normal hours, you no longer have control of your time and it sucks.

8. You’re Not Given the Benefits Promised to You

When you signed your work contract, you were particularly interested in the medical and pension benefits that have been explicitly included in the agreement. But if the benefits that have been promised to you never materialized, you are not being given what is rightfully yours.

9. Everyone Seems to Pull a Fast One on You – Easily

In relation to the above, your work is not the only place where you can be bamboozled. The world is rife with swindlers and scammers. If you have been victimized by shady characters for ten times out of ten, then your life definitely sucks.

10. You Pay for Things That Are Supposed to be Free

If you have been paying for stuffs that are legally given away for free, then you have been fooled and you have not enjoyed life the way others do.

11. You Still Live in Your Parents’ Basement

OK, a friend of mine from the States contributed this one when I was asking around for ideas to create this post. I’m from Singapore, a little tropical country in South-East Asia, so I never understood this western ethos. Anyhow, I’ll just include it here since it is commonly regarded as sucky in the western culture.

12. The First Thing You Do in the Morning is Check Your Social Media Profiles

Your only means of socializing is through your Facebook or other social media profiles. Honestly, you’re not human anymore.

13. Your Idea of a Perfect Getaway is to Watch Videos

Well, now you are not only living off on your parents’ money. You also have lost touch on how it’s like to be human. I’m talking about the fact that your idea of having a perfect night out is to watch old movies or sitcom reruns instead of inviting a girl to a date.

14. Your Idea of Fun is to Use Drugs or Get Wasted

If you can’t be happy without these substances, your life is in the ropes.

15. Being Witty for You Means Passing Chain Letters and Jokes

You can’t even make up your own jokes or sayings. You have to pass on other people’s jokes and stuffs to feel intelligent. Well, you’re not.

16. You See Your Life Crumble Every Time Your Team Loses

Okay, your team lost. Drink a couple of beers, don’t sleep for the night, but please snap out of it. Your life does not depend on your team.

17. You Always Believe That Underdogs Win in the End

With a little cheering from the audience and a truly moving music, you believe that underdogs always win. Well, wake up to reality, man!

18. You Experience Hazing and Bullying Even in Your Flamingo Class

If bullies still pick on you even in your adult years, you have been living a lowly existence at the bottom of the food chain, so to speak.

19. You Are Never Invited to Parties

If no one seems to invite you to parties, then no one even notices you exist and it really sucks.

20. All Your Relationships Are Online

Sure, you can have 5,000 friends through popular social sites like Facebook. But if all your friends are nothing but avatars on your screen, then your life is stuck my friend.

21. You Join Bible Tours Just to Find Friends

There is nothing wrong with joining Bible Expos. But if you join these just to find friends, you have serious personal troubles.

22. Even if You Join Bible Conventions, You Still Can’t Grow Your List of Friends

Okay, you joined Bible conventions to find friends and you still fail to grow your list of friends. You are done for my friend.

23. You Look Forward to Talking With a Telemarketer

Speaking of relationships, everyone agrees that life is made more interesting by having real life friends. Awaiting calls from telemarketers just so you can talk to another human being indicates that you are throwing your life away without even knowing it.

24. You Look Forward to Reading Spam Mail in Your Inbox

Again, this means you do not even exist in other people’s lives.

25. All the Numbers in Your Phonebook Belong to Men/Women

We have covered a lot of ground on relationships. But I do believe that we need to build relationships with the opposite sex. If your phonebook only has the contact numbers of your male/female friends, you could be missing out on a lot of fun and excitement.

26. All the Numbers in Your Phonebook Begin with 1-900

This is yet another sign that your life is meaningless.

27. Your Romantic Relationships Always Fail

Okay guys, you made some progress and you actually won the hearts of a few girls. The problem is that all your previous relationships tend to fail before you even get to second base. If you always fail to make your partner happy, you will live your life alone.

28. You Spend Half of Your Time Apologizing

It is okay to be sorry for the wrongs that you have committed. But if you always utter apologies for half the time, then you always feel guilty. This makes you feel bad about yourself.

29. You Gossip and Slander Against Your Colleagues

You are incapable of being happy for others. You are definitely a loser.

30. You Live in Your Past Glories

You are stuck in the past. All you do is reminisce about the time you won a hotdog eating contest. Hey, grow up!

31. You Are Always Very Pessimistic

You can’t see the brighter side of things. It is a wonder you made it this far.

32. You Forgot What It’s Like to Laugh

Laughter has been proven to enhance one’s health for free. So, if you cannot even take advantage of laughter, you truly deserve to live a dull existence.

33. You No Longer Have Any Ambition

No matter how old you are, it is important to have dreams. What would life be without aspirations?

34. You Don’t Respect Yourself and Other People

If you can’t respect yourself, you also can’t respect others. This means you are devoid of positive attitude. You’re a loser.

35. You’re So Closed Minded

You do not even know that life is passing you by, that there are new things to discover out there. Living in your own little shell is pathetic.

36. You Are So Afraid of Change

If you can’t let yourself accept change and you have been living in the past all these years, your life is stuck in a quicksand.

37. When a Man Gets Praised for His Work, You have to Ask if He is Really Happy

This is a sign that you can’t even support people around you. You are selfish. You have to rain on everyone else’s parade. You are a loser.

38. You Quit Before the Challenge Even Starts

Need I say more?

39. You Are Afraid to Take Responsibilities

If you don’t have the mojo to take responsibilities, how can you grab life by its horns? Grow up.

40. You Blame Your Failures on Everyone but Yourself

If you blame other people for the things that go wrong in your life, then you are a coward and afraid of responsibilities.

41. You’re Never Willing to Compromise

You always want to have your way. This is a sign of immaturity. You are a loser whose life sucks.

42. You Cut Off Others to Feel Superior

You cut off others while they are speaking so you would look smart. Well, that’s pathetic.

43. You Think Money is the Ultimate Resource

Yes, I love money. But if you think that life sucks only if you do not have a penny to your name, then you’re wrong. There are other more important things like time and good health.

44. You Buy Your Way through Life

You always think money is the solution. This indicates your lack confidence in yourself.

45. You Do Not Take Pride in Working

You always want the easy way out. If you can’t work for your own good, your life sucks.

46. You See Someone Hurt and You Couldn’t Even Care Less

Again, this is an indication that you can’t feel anything positive in your life. It’s really going to drag you down.

47. Your Friends Can’t Even Depend on You

If the people you love cannot turn to you for help, that’s because they don’t trust you and they are not comfortable asking for your help. Your life sucks big time.

48. You Lack Integrity

If your thoughts and actions are incongruent, your personal values are not that strong. You can’t stand on your own and everything in your life has been copied from others.

49. You Can’t Keep Your Promises

You’re a loser and your life sucks if other people cannot even value your words.

50. You Create Your Own Reality

Finally, the ultimate measure of a life that sucks is the fact that you try to hide from the realities of life. If you conjure up and believe in your own little world and shun reality, you become a coward and your life sucks.

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While being among the hardest workers in our class and always putting in the time when the rest of us are ready to throw in the towel, he still manages to make it look easy. So I asked him to share his philosophy, and I was so impressed that I’d like to share it with you.

The A’s are very possible, for anyone who wants them bad enough. However, if you really want them, you have to start back at the basics, which are organization, consistency, and focus. The three variables that lead to Nick’s success in school, competitive swimming, and life.

1. Organization. Understand the work that is expected of you and how long it will take to complete the work. Plan accordingly, be brutally honest with yourself and your abilities, and do not make it overwhelming.

If you plan and actually finish according to your set schedule, you will start to establish small accomplishments, which over the course of a semester will accumulate to huge successes.

2. Consistency. Plan accordingly and frequently. Adjust the plans if needed, but know that your study plans for the next couple of days influence the way that you study right now. It limits your options and motivates you to do really good work both now and throughout your schedule.

Maintain a level of demand from yourself, reinforcing the notion that you need to do this now to do well on the next quiz. One quiz soon accumulates to many quizzes, so consistently planning ahead follows the whole semester and your knowledge accumulates. Consistency also means reviewing what you did a week ago, at least 30 minutes to an hour.

3. Focus. Do not underestimate the value of focus. With consistent organization, you will plan so that you have enough rest, which will affect your energy levels, confidence, and desire to continue to stick to your work.

When you focus, you apply a conscious effort to your work, instead of breaking your studying down into information gathering, studying the information, and a couple of stages of analyzing minor details. Focus initiates from the beginning of a study session, and stays throughout.

Staying organized will allow this system to take place, being consistent with it will turn it into second nature, and focusing and being present at every moment that you’re studying will allow you to reap the maximum benefits of your time.

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To get into a state of feeling winning confidence, you need to form a foundation of successes for that confidence to lean on. A person who feels hesitation or weakness to implement a plan, or to ask for something, would be smart in building up a package of successes, of any size, and then conquering their desired mission.

You can get to a point where you feel nearly invincible, as I do at times in public, by adding another success, and another, until you start to feel like you are meant to take the biggest risks. Although I agree with the concept behind “fake it until you make it”, the concept I am presenting here is more about making it small, over and over, until you can’t help but make it big.

Piano Playing Example

The focus here is to build up your confidence. Let’s say you are nervous about playing piano in front of a larger audience than you normally play to. This method would then work for you. You can boost your confidence to a level where the audience will be more than manageable, by creating a package of successes.

Maybe you are fearful about the audience as a whole, but are more than glad to talk with other piano players. What you then want to do is start becoming more social and connected with the other piano players you hear or know of, or who will also be at your big event, until you feel like the whole scenario is a small item to you. By doing this, you are not removing the source of the fear, which is the audience, but are building your confidence up over that level, rendering the fear unable to grip your thoughts.

This technique is very powerful, but takes a lot of effort on your part. The main foundation-building in the example I provided is the talking and interacting with other piano players. This could take a lot of time and effort, but it is the only way to overcome your fear threshold using this method, which is all it is for.

Research Position Example

Let’s say you were, or are, a student wanting to get into a research position with one of a few professors. It may be the case that you are not applying to a position because you aren’t sure if you can handle it, or if you will be accepted, and so you postpone the attempt out of fear of potential rejection or incompetence. This is another example where you can build up ample confidence to overcome the threshold of this fear.

One way to do this would be to start to get to know other student researchers who work with the professors you might want to work with, and find out what they specifically do. This is less intense than directly applying for a position, and gets you some headway into the process. You could start to get know one student researcher after another until you are so involved with many of them that they start trying to influence you to join. Each extra success you make in connecting with a person doing something you are interested in brings you a step closer to taking the action you weren’t ready to take(for one reason or another).

Another way to build up successes in this example would be to start reading research papers. You could set a goal to read a research paper every day until you asked a professor or two to start working with them. You would learn about new experiments, through some source like PubMed Central, building up confidence due to being directed towards a goal, and would eventually see the fear or worry as unable to hold you back from asking for a position.

Your Successes Don’t Have To Relate To Your Desired Action

While these two examples both involve building up successes in relation to the action you want to build up confidence and energy to perform, this does not have to be the case. You can also build up successes in unrelated activities. You can build up confidence to set up a business deal by taking notes on business books for one hour every day, or you can build that same confidence by approaching and talking to 5 random people each time you go to your local bookstore.

The main thing is to prove to yourself, little by little, that you have what it takes to do larger things. After a certain point of doing enough small things, you will feel like the tough action to take is brought down to a manageable level. Then, it will only be a matter of time before you conquer it.

Armen Shirvanian writes words of wisdom about mindset, communication, relationships, and related topics at Timeless Information. You can follow him on Twitter at @Armen.

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This might be old news, but I am just BLOWN AWAY by the alarming statistics of disease in our country.  Did you know that 80% of Americans are overweight and 30% are considered to be obese?  Worse, The World Health Organization states that 75% of all American deaths are diet related!

The US spent $2.26 trillion on health care in 2007!!! This is more than any other country in the world!

According to Paul Lemanski, MD, MS, FACP, author of Benefiting the Planet as well as the Individual,

“A reduced reliance on medication requires a diet and lifestyle that optimizes body weight with a predominately plant based diet in combination with increased physical activity.”

Translation:

If we eat mostly plants and exercise, we will experience less disease. Sounds simple enough, right? Well then, why aren’t more people incorporating what seems to be “common sense” into their lifestyle?

There are several reasons…

Time and money come to mind initially but a lot of the time it is simply ignorance:  Some people just don’t know what they don’t know.

A few days ago, a lady who I am coaching asked me if her fruit cups would be considered a healthy snack!  I was amazed at the question and actually had to explain to her that there was absolutely NO NUTRITIONAL VALUE in her packaged snack of choice.  Heck, with all of the added preservatives and high fructose corn syrup, she may as well have chosen a chocolate bar.  At least dark chocolate has antioxidants in it.

Anyway, it is a very sad reality, but what we don’t know is killing us.

Besides the poor quality food we eat, we live in an EXTREMELY toxic environment.  The air we breathe, the mattress we sleep on (doused in flame retardant by law) and even the showers that we bathe in (our water is “purified” with chlorine here in the US).

Can you imagine on any given day, how many toxins are introduced to our bodies?  The number is insurmountable. There is no wonder that we are one of the unhealthiest nations in the world!  With the wealth and knowledge that we have, we shouldn’t be on that list at all!

Anyway, so what do we do about this “toxic burden”?

Well, your body is already doing it!  To protect itself against these toxins, your body will actually store fat as a defense mechanism!

Picture this:  We have trillions of cells in our body. Imagine each cell coating itself with just a little bit of fat to protect itself from the impurities that enter your system.

The problem is that with all of this “excess junk” in our systems, we are carrying a lot of excess fat to counter it.

The only logical solution is to cleanse ourselves of these impurities.  Many indigenous countries around the world have already been practicing cleansing as a lifestyle for decades – and they are healthier as a result of it.

By cleansing your body, you are removing the toxins which are a threat to your cells and organs.  Once the threat is gone, your body can relinquish the fat that it has been storing!

There are many different ways to cleanse your body and I would recommend that you look into the benefits of cleansing for yourself.  I would be happy to share with you what I have found to work for me and countless others if you want.

I personally dropped 7% body fat in 3 weeks using one particular system.  Just send me an email or look me up on facebook.

In the meantime, here are a few steps you can take to get you started down the right path to healthy living:

1. Only drink purified water. A step beyond that is only drink Alkalized water. A good rule of thumb is to drink half of your body weight in ounces per day.  Next time you feel hungry, reach for your water first and see if that doesn’t satisfy the craving.
2. Get a water purifier for your shower head. Your skin is your largest organ – protect it!
3. Organically grown is always best. If you can’t get to a local farmer’s market, cruise the outside perimeter of your supermarket.  The inside isles really don’t have much to offer in terms of nutritional value.
4. Stay away from packaged foods. They are usually high in preservatives and lack the nutritional value that your body needs.
5. Snack. In addition to your 3 meals a day, you should be snacking throughout the day.  I personally eat something almost every hour, even if it is only a few almonds.  This will keep your metabolism revved up all day long.
6. Get plenty of Z’s. About 8 hours of sleep each night is ideal.
7. Exercise. Last but not least, 20-30 minutes of exercise each day will keep you looking and feeling your best.  For workout tips, you can check out www.trainerstip.com which is hosted by my brother, Luke Guldan.

Bianca Perilli and I used to play together in the park when we were kids living in Brooklyn. Recently reunited thanks to Facebook, I’ve come to learn that despite growing our own separate ways, we are both huge fans of Jim Rohn, and Bianca is a nutritional coach very much obsessed with personal development. If you have any questions, or would like more information on how you can do a nutritional cleanse, drop Bianca a line via e-mail or phone.

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My thoughts going into this experiment was that I would have different types of exposure to the material, be able to stay on top of it without falling behind, and be more immersed within the school environment. The alternative to going to class is to watch the recorded podcast video of that same lecture from home (generously uploaded to our iTunes, within 2 hours, as a courtesy from our school- NYUCD).

However, instead of using this method as an alternative, I went to every class without exception, and listened to most of the podcasts to see if there was anything I missed during lecture. The following is my personal experience and account of my perfect attendance at NYU Dental School.

1. Capturing information. While attending class, it is virtually impossible to capture everything a teacher says. Either they spoke too fast, weren’t clear, or you felt tired and spaced out momentarily at which point you missed something significant.

The solution for this is to go to the podcasts, and to re-listen to the lecture. However, lecture time to podcast time is not a 1:1 translation in terms of time spent studying. A 2 hour lecture could easily take 5 hours of podcast study, because you often stop and go back, in order to take notes, look something up, and make sure you do not miss any facts.

Had you skipped class, and listened to the podcast at a time and location of your choice, you would only spend the same 5 hours taking notes from the podcast, and save those 2 hours that you would have sat at lecture. Regardless of the method that you use for capturing the information, you still have to organize it, and repeat it many times in order to retain it.

2. Announcements and Structure. In a way, attending every class has the benefit of giving you a structure. This allows you to get some information for each class every single day, so you are aware of what is being covered, even if you don’t record all the facts.

This structure is good if you cannot motivate yourself to study on your own. If you can sit yourself down daily, and study everything that was assigned to you as per the syllabus, then you are not missing out on the structure at all.

3. Community, Cliques, & Politics. Actually going to class gives you a certain type of experience. However, the type of experience that you have in class is generally up to you. Both the large class size of 240, and the influence of the big city, can play a big role on the way people express their attitudes.

At the same time, there are cliques organized by race and religion, groups that band together based on class politics, and a visible segregation can be observed within the student body. Of course, all the distinctions, whether they be racial, political, or other are just a meaning that someone made up, and we decided to play into, and in my opinion take away from a richer experience that each of us could be taking part in.

4. Energy Management. The biggest negative aspect of going to class, for me, is the ability to manage my energy levels. Without having my energy levels up, my body is in attendance, but my brain is totally drained and not operating at full capacity.

Accordingly to the United States Department of Defense, our brains need at least 3 hours to function. However, that’s not necessarily an optimum amount of sleep for a 10 hour day of classes. It’s important to listen to your body, and to realize that your energy levels will not be the same on any given day.

Some days I have the energy to work deep into the night, with perfect clarity and focus. The amount of work I get done will propel me in my studies. The next day, I might be tired, and need to perform lower level activities. The idea of balance, and routine, can be fine for most activities, and even work out on most days, but when the energy level is not there it becomes counterproductive to pretend you can focus perfectly.

Afterthoughts: 30 day trials are a fun way to really learn about something, and give yourself an opportunity to take on a new routine. After 30 days you can give an honest evaluation as to whether the pros outweigh the cons, or vice versa. This experiment has lead me to decide that having perfect attendance is not worth it for me, and that it’s more important for me to manage my energy and learn the material, than to physically be somewhere.

My 30 day trial for the month of February is going to be daily workout- no matter what. This could mean an hour lifting weights, 40 minutes on the cardio machines, or simply going for a run. Regardless, of what the workout is, my goal is to get my blood flowing, work up a sweat, and closely listen to my body as I compare my energy levels from January, to those of February.

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Setting priorities is very important to having an efficient life, but it doesn’t always have to be difficult. When you take the time to set your priorities, you’re more likely to reach your goals and reach them faster. Who wouldn’t want that?

You can learn how to set priorities by following the steps below. While you might not want to follow all of them exactly as they’re stated here, you should come away with a better idea on how you should personally start to set your priorities.

Try these simple steps:

1. Determine Your Goals. The first thing to consider when you’re learning how to set priorities is to determine what your goals and priorities are. You might have big ones and small ones, and you may have one goal or many goals. You just need to figure out what they are and write them down if that helps you. It’s the first step just because you can’t set your priorities without knowing what you want to achieve in the first place.

2. Get Clear. Once you’ve decided on your goals and priorities, work on their clarity. State them as simply as you can. While you don’t want to leave out details, you also don’t want to be too wordy and confuse yourself in the future.

3. Learn How to Balance. Chances are that you’ve got many different goals and priorities. Learning how to balance them all is just a part of life. If you pay too much attention to one priority, your others may begin to suffer. Strive to be aware of your priorities at all times. At the end of the day or week it’ll help to evaluate how things are going for you. If something is lacking, you can tweak your schedule to make a change.

4. Get Organized. Organization is also key when you’re learning how to set priorities. There are different organizational styles that you can adopt. It doesn’t really matter what you choose as long as you’re not just leaving things up to chance. With organizational skills comes efficiency. You can eventually learn how to do more with less time, which will allow you to get to more of your priorities.

5. Realize that You Can’t Do Everything. After you get organized with your priority lists, you might be tempted to have your attention on too many things at once. You need to realize that there are only 24 hours in a day. There are things you wanted to accomplish that you won’t be able to just yet. Schedule it for another day and don’t sweat it.

6. Keep Your Focus. Strive to remain focused on your priorities. Everyone’s mind begins to stray every now and then, which is okay sometimes. But you don’t want to allow procrastination to creep up on you. Keep your eyes on your priorities.

7. Keep Your Enthusiasm. Enthusiasm is very important to setting priorities. If you’re not jazzed up about your goals, you may end up losing interest. Achieving priorities and goals is very difficult without a decent dose of enthusiasm. You can keep it up by remembering what’s really important to you. If you’re working towards a specific goal, keep in mind how great you’ll feel once you achieve success.

8. Reward Yourself. It’s important to reward yourself for setting priorities and following through. If you’ve made an achievement towards a priority or goal, don’t just cross it off your list and move on to the next thing. Take some time out to reward yourself for a job well done. You deserve it!

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“We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons.” ~Jim Rohn

The earth shook beside me as the enemy missiles exploded just a few yards away from me. I leaped for cover, only to discover that I was hiding in plain sight. It took everything I had to get to this point, and now I found myself struggling just to survive.

This sounds like my own little version of World War III, except instead of missiles their weapon of choice was Midterms, and instead of digging trenches, I was digging my way out of piles of books by studying 16 hours a day. ‘Welcome to first semester of Dental School, please fasten your seat belts — you’re going to need them.’

If I was to make it out of WWIII alive (or see the end of this semester, let alone graduate NYU Dental School), I knew I needed to have the right soldiers fighting with me by my side. I pick my friends using a very scientific technique that I have formulated after 25 years of experimentation. I pick friends based on who I respect and admire.

One such friend that I respect and admire is Nick Levintov, and I found his continuous encouragement during all the trials and tribulations of semester-one to be a mantra for the way I focused my brain to study, which of course metastasized into other areas of my life.

When I couldn’t keep my eyes open anymore and didn’t care which artery supplies which body part, or which enzyme catalyzes which reaction, Nick was there to say “Finish Strong!” I think he must have gotten this philosophy from his days as a disciplined competitive swimmer, but it’s easy to see that these two simple words can change the paradigm of any activity.

For me it was crunching out another 6 hours of mental repetition at the end of a long day. For you it might be doing those extra 15 minutes on the treadmill, another few reps of your weight set, or perhaps just going through your ordinary day in an extraordinary way.

The main lesson that I took out of ‘Finish Strong’ is that we should consistently give our 100% in every thought and action that we undertake, so that tomorrow our capacity to think, move, and love is larger than it is today. Our capacity to receive self-satisfaction and enjoyment in life will also increase if we just remember that whatever task we thought was worth undertaking is worth finishing strong.

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There are many ways to learn how to clear your mind. If you find that your mind is racing and you wish you had better control over it, you can try to find a solution that works for you personally. You can try relaxation techniques and other strategies to get rid of clutter in your mind.

Get To The Root

Many times you might find that you’re having trouble concentrating because your mind is too busy. This could be because of a number of factors. It’ll be tough to clear your mind without figuring out the true cause of your problems.

Identify the reasons why you’re having trouble clearing your mind. You could be over thinking a certain issue. Maybe you need to solve that issue before you move on in life. Maybe you need to declutter your life in other ways. Spend time identifying the ways that your life is cluttered. It’ll help you to set yourself up for a game plan.

Once you have your reasons, you can ask yourself why those reasons are standing in the way of you and a clutter free life. If you can’t seem to relax, you can turn to different relaxation techniques which will in turn help you to clear your mind.

Relaxation Techniques

Some say there’s no better way to learn how to clear your mind than to try relaxation techniques.

Try some or all of the following in order to relax and clear your mind:

1. Unwind. Many people report a racing mind in the evening when they’re trying to rest. Others will have a racing mind at other points during the day. This is likely because they’re not taking time to unwind. People can’t be expected to deal with the stresses of life and then immediately transition into relaxation. You must give yourself some personal time and time doing light activities every day.

2. Meditation. Meditation is a great way to get rid of clutter in your mind. Try making time for a meditative practice for 30 minutes in the morning or in the evening. It’s time where you can concentrate on your breath alone and none of your other problems can touch you. Your goal is to remain completely present and to not allow thoughts of the past and future to interfere with your thinking. When thoughts do arise, you should acknowledge them and then refocus your energy back to your breath.

3. Yoga. Yoga is a good choice for people who want to combine some physical fitness along with clearing the mind. During yoga you’ll assume certain postures that can increase your flexibility. You’ll also concentrate on your breath in a similar fashion as meditation.

Becoming Clutter Free

If your goal is to simply declutter your life, you can do that too. You can work on the clutter of your mind by concentrating on all of your problems one by one. You can also choose to become clutter free by concentrating on the physical clutter that invades your life.

Physical clutter would mean all of the things you’ve been saving, or the things that pile up on your desk at home or at work. Think about how you felt when you had a perfectly clean home. You likely were able to think with a clear mind without really knowing it. If you work at dealing with the problem of physical clutter you may just be solving your problem with “mind clutter”.

How To Keep A Clear Mind

Your last step is to work on keeping a clear mind. Once you’ve mastered how to clear your mind, you need to make sure that you don’t fall back into any bad patterns. Be sure to check in with yourself every now and then to make sure you haven’t picked up any bad habits.

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In one of my favorite fantasy books, Dealing with Dragons by Patricia C. Wrede, the main character Cimorene finds herself about to be married off to a Prince she can’t stand. Eventually she finds herself in a conversation with a talking frog who asks her what she is going to do about the situation.

Cimorene tells him about all the people she’s talked to and complained to. He replies with: “I didn’t ask you what you’d said about it. I asked what you’re going to do. Nine times out of ten, talking is a way of avoiding doing things.”

Guilty! I have such a vivid imagination, that if I start talking about my goals or dreams, I don’t actually need to complete them. In my mind, I reach the end of the journey, celebrate the success, collect the accolades and revel in the money I’ve raked in.

All without having to lift a finger.

I connect with the future on a highly emotional level and feel all the positive emotions associated with success. And I’m done. I don’t need to do actually go through the effort of getting there – that’s just too much work.

Visualizing Action, Not Outcome

A lot of self-development people say that you need to fully visualize your outcome if you want to reach it. Talking to others about it makes it real and makes you accountable. However in his excellent book 59 Seconds, Richard Wiseman looks at studies which prove that visualizing your future too well actually hinders the likelihood of you completing it.

Instead of visualizing the outcome, Wiseman reports, you’ll have more success with your goals if you visualize yourself taking action that leads you toward your goal.

Let’s look at an example. I’m currently working on the draft of a novel. To motivate myself say I try picturing the novel finished and on bookshelves in stores with my name at the top of the bestseller list.

Will that honestly motivate me? No, because there’s no imagery of the work it will take me to get there. In fact there’s a good chance the image will demotivate me and lead to working less instead of more.

Why? Because the gap between where I am (blank page) and where I want to be (bestselling novel) is too big. I can’t see how to get from here to there and so don’t even get started.

However, if I picture myself sitting with my laptop writing each day, celebrating the progress I make then I’m likely to follow through on the vision because it’s only a small step from here to there. I don’t need think about the end result, only the next step in the process.

Action Provides Its Own Rewards

Many people talk rather than act as a way to gain validation from others without actually making progress or changing their lives. These are the people who take endless personal development courses and read every personal development book and blog out there, talking to everyone and anyone about what they’re learning.

And it feels great. They know what their dreams are. They can talk until their jaw falls off about what they want to achieve someday and everyone around them pats them on the back and says “good for you!”

By talking so much, however, these people don’t act. They’re content with the preparation but never start the journey.

These people are addicted to validation and have found an easy way to get it. All their talk makes it seem to the outside world that they’re taking action, but in the end they have nothing to show for it.

When people take action to make internal changes there is often no immediate payoff, no pats on the back for the small steps we take. Lasting change takes a long time and is hard work. Talking is fast and easy.

If you’re like this at all, stop talking. Set yourself a goal – some small habit that you want to change – and take the first step towards achieving it. Give yourself a pat on the back for doing so then move onto the next step.

And this way you’ll learn that action provides its own rewards, its own validation because as you move towards your goal you will see your progress and feel validation coming from within.

At this point, once you are over the validation addiction, go find yourself a forum or group of some sort. Talk to the people in this forum or group about your actions and your progress as a sort of accountability tracking rather than for validation. When you use talking for accountability you lean on the support of others (and provide support to them in turn) to help you take action, and not to boost a failing ego.

Over on Someday Syndrome, I offer a free Accountability Clinic that mixes weekly email reminders with a forum for reporting in on goals, action and obstacles. For my writing goals, I also belong to Forward Motion Writers to keep myself accountable fiction-wise.

Remember, someday never becomes today no matter how much you talk about it. So, if you were Cimorene, what would your answer to the frog be? What action will you take to achieve your dreams?

Alex Fayle is a professional nagger – his most hated word is “someday” and has devoted his life to helping others get rid of it from their vocabularies. Through his site Someday Syndrome (http://www.somedaysyndrome.com), Alex works as a lifestyle designer to help people make big changes in their lives and stop the procrastination habit.

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My favorite class in school right now is Dentist-Patient-Relationship. Here we learn about the interactions we will encounter, and the kind of mental maneuvering we have to do in order to deliver optimal treatment and prevent the patient from standing in the way of their oral health.

One way to do this is the concept of interpersonal contracts, of which I won’t get into too specific details right now. They’re basically an understanding between the doctor and patient that both parties are working to meet each others expectations.

In one of our recent classes, Dr. Hittelman the Psychologist who teaches this course, made an interesting distinction about what self-esteem is. We already know it’s not just the ‘I feel good about myself’ emotion. Rather it’s a feeling that you are a valuable human being by possessing a quality that makes you such. This could be for a number of reasons, including but not exclusive to, having a skill, talent, job, relationship, helping people, being attractive, etc.

I think Dr. Hittelman put it best though when he said that self-esteem is the answer to the question ‘why are you worth feeding?’ Sitting down with a blank text file, heading the paper ‘why am I worth feeding?’, and unleashing your mind to write freely might create a new awareness for you.

Although this wasn’t an exercise recommended by Dr. Hittelman, and I can’t say it’s a valid Psychological exercise, I do think that there are a couple of valuable things that will come out of such an exercise for you.

1. You’ll realize why you’re already worth feeding. You might become aware of something that is valuable about you, which you might have overlooked before. You’ll be able to then focus in on this worth, do more of it, and use it to raise your self-esteem. Being proud of yourself, for one reason or another, will color your days a different color as you move forward through life. By doing this exercise, you’re allowing yourself to choose the colors.

2. You’ll realize why you think you’re not worth feeding. Whether or not this it will come down to your personal opinion is arbitrary, but perhaps you really aren’t being a very valuable person at the moment. By doing this exercise, and self-actualizing about where you think you are lacking in this department, I believe you could create positive forward-bound momentum in your life. If you’re already at rock bottom, that means you have the whole world to expand and improve into.

Regardless of where you stand, there is always room for improvement. You can make a list of things you’d like to improve upon in yourself, and slowly but surely take action towards being a valuable person.

Here’s your chance. In the comments below, answer the question, ‘why are you worth feeding?’ – Don’t think of it as bragging, you have full rights here to say what you think. You could do just one, or list several, it’s up to you.

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Being busy is considered the opposite of laziness. It’s not. Laziness is likened to sloth-like activity, performing tasks slowly and begrudgingly. And that’s no different from busy work which fills most our lives. We do things because we’re too lazy not to do them.

Never ending busyness means you are too lazy to:

1. Set priorities. When you really know what needs to get done you do it much faster than when you’re mind is scattered and unfocused. Get out a piece of paper and answer this question “What is the #1 task I should get done today?” Write that down and get to work.
2. Become effective. Effectiveness is getting important stuff done. I recommend Peter Drucker’s “The Effective Executive” for great practical tips on being effective but you basically need to identify what’s important, set strict deadlines (I’m a fan of e.ggtimer.com personally) and use clearly defined metrics as accountability tools.
3. Make touch choices. Saying “Yes” has its advantages in life, but saying “No” is a key aspect in killing busy work. There are always a billion opportunities out there that may tempting to follow up on. Learn to persist with what you’re already doing and turn down everything else. If an opportunity has any staying power it’ll still be available in the future.
4. Fill your time with fulfilling activities. Fulfilling activities take time, energy and focus, but by their very nature make life worth living. Busy work protects us from making an effort to experience life. Don’t let it.
5. Be idle. Idleness is hard. And I’m not talking about the idleness of sitting on the couch watching TV. Try just sitting and thinking for 30-60 minutes at a time. You’ll most likely fidget, suddenly have the urge to check your email inbox or soon become bored of your own thoughts. That’s a weakness. Practice listening to your own thoughts and enjoying your own company.
6. Consider your direction. Where are you going? Whenever you’re working on something think about whether or not the outcome will matter in the overall scheme of things. Is it part of the bigger picture?
7. Question yourself. Always be questioning yourself – your motivations, intentions, desires, actions and thoughts. Don’t do things or behave a certain way because it’s the way things have been done in the past. Challenge conventions.
8. Setup systems. Systems aren’t exactly dull but they help streamline repetitive processes. Instead of doing the same task 100 times in 100 different ways attempt it 2-3 times with different methods. Which is the most efficient? Stick with that. The added benefit is that this will allow you to…
9. Automate or outsource repetitive (but necessary) tasks. After eliminating the unnecessary there may be tasks that you still have to do that you find dull and repetitive. Either find software to automate the process, use a program such as Automator to create macros or outsource the work using a site such as eLance or AskSunday for personal tasks.
10. Disconnect. I know how difficult it is to disconnect. The internet is addictive, a wonderland of distraction and false importance. Pull out the ethernet cable or disable wireless and get off the computer. Work creates itself if you let it.
11. Improve yourself. You’re not perfect and you never will be. But that doesn’t matter! What does matter is putting zero effort into becoming a better you because you’re apparently swamped with so-called “urgent” tasks. Continue learning and evolving.
12. Appreciate what you have. We work more because we believe we’ll get more in return. And to an extent that is true. But the problem is, where does “more” end? Just stop and realise what you have. Don’t work out of attachment to acquisition.
13. Enjoy what you have. It’s not just a matter of appreciating it. Buy a new fancy tennis racquet recently? Go play some tennis. Traveled into the future and bought a copy of Modern Warfare 2? Pop that bad boy into your 360 and rack up some achievements. You have more than you probably even realise. Enjoy it.
14. Make precautions. Fear keeps us busy. Fear of losing what we have. Fear of not reaching our goals. Fear of failure. Ask yourself “how can I prepare for the worst case scenario?” And then do that.
15. Track yourself. Install RescueTime on your computer and begin to see how you’re actually spending your time. It was quite a shock for myself to see hours and hours wasted on irrelevant web browsing in a single day.
16. Set expectations. Do you interact with customers or an audience of any sort? The happiness of others is important but don’t let their inefficiencies hurt your lifestyle. It’s lazy (and unsustainable) to reply to everyone and everything instantly. Set reasonable expectations before issues crop up.
17. Solve problems. Busyness lets us procrastinate, avoiding genuine problems that need solving. Learn how to solve problems.

David Turnbull is a writer who writes about peace of mind, simplicity and geekery at his blog, Adventures of a Barefoot Geek.

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At first, while studying for the Dental Tooth-Anatomy Midterm, I was trying to figure out what questions the teacher was most likely to ask. With this outlook, I was looking through the material that was presented, and trying to rank it in order of importance.

I happened to be in the library, and as I walked by two of my classmates, Alicia Jackson and Sergey Gazarov, I saw them working on some very obscure eruption patterns of the teeth — purely numbers. I asked them if they thought these questions would even come up on our midterm. “If they do, we’ll be ready for them,” they said.

So instead of assigning these obscure facts as unimportant and moving on to the materials we were guaranteed to be tested on, these particular students took the time to perfectly commit this to memory. Having some inside knowledge into the fact that they were both top students, I decided to take on their philosophy about studying.

It became a game as I created an absolutely unique way to remember these eruption patterns by folding all 10 of my fingers in a way I cannot even describe with words. It only took a few minutes to master, and then I went on to teach the technique to several other classmates in the library — I was too excited not to.

I systematically studied, rehearsed, and committed to memory absolutely anything that was presented about the topic at hand. I then looked at previous Board Examination questions for everything I could find from 2009 to 1998, which was hundreds of questions, very similar to what was going to be on the test.

By this point I was very confident. Sergey was also very much on point, so we sat together until almost 4 in the morning bouncing questions back and forth. He would quiz me, I would quiz him, and anything that was even slightly ambiguous would be combated by a witty mnemonic, or a more thorough understanding of why something was possible.

Going into the test at 8 in the morning I felt like I was bringing a machine gun to a fist fight. I had all the information locked up in my head and was radiating with confidence that any variation of anything that could possibly be asked was easily accessible to me.

The studying was purely overkill. However, if I kept telling myself that I want to learn enough to answer the questions, I would have been at a huge disadvantage. This could certainly be applied to anything that you do in life, anything that needs preparation, and anything that deserves to be done with love and diligence.

It should also be noted that students that spend time together develop similar GPAs. Likely due to the way they manage their studying, which stems from their philosophy. Philosophy most definitely rubs off on people, so whatever it is you’re going after in life, see if you can hang with the people that have the overkill philosophy.

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Productivity is a hot topic in personal growth literature. But with all the resources and tips out there, we don’t seem to be getting more productive. In fact, we’re spending too much time trying to digest productivity resources that we could’ve spent actually being productive!

The productivity tips we read can have short-term effects, but we tend to return to our old, unproductive routines. This leads us to consider the following conclusions:

1. There’s something wrong with us: We don’t have the productivity gene some people seem to have
2. Productivity tips and tricks simply don’t work: We’re being lied to about how to be productive
3. We need more tips and tricks: What we’ve come across isn’t enough, or isn’t right for us

The third conclusion leads us to continue our pursuit of productivity tips that work, only to continue the cycle of unproductive behavior.

So what is the problem? Why can’t we seem to be productive?

To answer these questions, we need to change the way we look at productivity and, therefore, the approach we take dealing with it.

Unproductive Behavior As A Symptom

The biggest mistake we make in trying to be productive is assuming that lack of productivity (usually in the form of procrastination) is the problem, when it is, in fact, the symptom of a deeper problem. And in the same way that symptoms can be caused by a number of possible problems (a.k.a. diseases), we must first understand the root cause of our unproductive behavior.

Diagnose The Problem

Now that we know that our lack of productivity isn’t the problem (but a symptom of our problem), we can begin our search to find the underlying productivity problem.

At times we procrastinate because we don’t want to do a task, and other times we don’t know how to do it (and so end up putting it off!). We can be gripped by the fear of failure, or we might even be held back by the fear of success. Have you ever felt overwhelmed by the load of work you have to do and ended up not doing anything? Or how about not knowing what you’re meant to be doing in the first place?

Your productivity can suffer if your energy level is low, or if you’re slow when working.

All these different types of productivity problems have different causes, which cannot be overcome with the same generic solution. There’s no Panadol to remedy our lack of productivity! We need to use the right cure for the right productivity disease.

Getting The Right Prescription

By having the right understanding of our productivity problem, we can look for the right prescription to effectively cure it.

• What can we do to enjoy a task we’ve been dreading or loathing?
• What can we do to find out how a task is to be carried out?
• How can we overcome the fear of failure or the fear of success?
• How can we boost our energy level?
• How can we develop our skills and speed up our work?
• How can we reduce distractions and find focus?

Answers to these specific questions will help us find the right prescriptions, rather than posing the vague question of: How do we become more productive?

Taking Our Medication

It’s very easy to read advice, but reading doesn’t change our situation, in the same way that having a prescription slip doesn’t cure us from illness. We need to take our medication and put the productivity tips into use. This may seem obvious, but our obsession with productivity tips can be all-consuming, that we no longer realize why we were searching for productivity tips in the first place!

Stocking Our Medicine Cabinet

Productivity tips can be immensely useful, but they must be used to treat the right productivity problem. In order to effectively tackle any and every productivity problem we face, we need to stock our “medicine cabinets” with these productivity tips, and use them when necessary.

We must also get rid of the tips that have never been effective, regardless of the productivity problem we’ve faced. Some tips simply don’t work. There’s no use trying them out again and again.

With that you’re now equipped with the right approach to lead a great and productive life.

So what’s stopping you?

That’s what you have to find out!

Haider Al-Mosawi writes about leading a balanced life and making the most out of personal growth resources (without being consumed by them) over at his blog: PersonalGrowthMap.com.

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First things first, I need to be an excellent student, so that is where I’m putting 100% of my focus. I’ve run around and asked some of the best students in the school about their time management, success philosophy, and study techniques. Then it came time to integrate everything I’ve learned from them, and from my previous education, into actionable steps.

Keep in mind that the information in this post is very experimental. It’s where I am at the date of this writing, and since I plan to work on these skills daily, I’ll likely be in a new place within a month. Another reason I wanted to write this article is so that I have a place to go back to. If for some reason I wake up tomorrow and forget what I’m doing that’s so effective, I’ll have this, and be able to build on it.

The technique I’m finding effective is what I call Cataloging Information in my mind. It might be a combination of several other techniques known to psychologists as chunking, visualization, simplification and repetition. I’m making up my own word.

I’ll use Biochemistry as an example. What I was previously doing to study for it was taking and looking over 20-30 pages of notes per lecture. My new technique is to write about 4-6 pages of notes, most of which are in the form of diagrams, lists, and keywords. I find this to allow for better repetition, because it’s much simpler to go through 4 pages than 20. I’ll have 5 times the exposure in the same amount of time of repetition.

Going through complex reaction cycles is now a proactive exercise, whereas before I would reread, stare a bit, reread again, and then move on, I am now challenging my memory. I do this by taking something like 3 items into my mind, turning away from the paper, and placing them into an imaginary reaction circle in my mind. Sometimes I even involve my hands as I move the words onto this circle.

I then come back to the paper, and I check out the next 1 or 2 items. I then turn around, back to my imaginary circle, and I start from the beginning, first my original 3 items, and then the next 2. I keep repeating this exercise, starting from the beginning and adding new items, and then repeating the whole thing start to finish a couple of times to make sure I have it down. Repeating it again in the near future to make sure it’s still in my head.

The chunking is relevant to the small size of my notes. I write related information closely together, and I can mentally remember the physical location of these items on the paper, the color of the different items (I use 18 different colored markers, go Sharpie!), and how these items relate to each other. Sometimes I relate them to each other by using a Mnemonic with the 1st letter of each word or something silly that will be memorable to me.

Once I go through all my notes for the lecture, and then all the lectures for the test, I go over them again. I try to recall as much about all the steps that are involved based on topic headings. So say there is a topic heading that says ‘Urea Cycle’, I will then turn away from my paper, and do the whole circle in my mind to know that I have truly grasped it. I’ll then repeat this consecutively, using only the topic headings as a trigger for my memory.

That’s all I have for now. If you’re a WIZ at studying, have a higher education degree that’s heavy on the sciences, or just  want to share something specific that has worked for you, I would love to learn – comment below.

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It was a beautiful summer evening, and the affiliate summit booze cruise was buzzing with people sharing million dollar ideas with old friends and new acquaintances. I was lucky enough to be standing next to Jim.

“It’s easy. Everyone in the world has something that they could teach to someone else. You just upload the content, put a price on it, and then go ahead and promote it.”

My jaw was dropped for 45 minutes straight as Jim told me about his latest creation; an online university where you can be either the Prfessor, or the Dean. It’s all about sharing what you know, so you can facilitate a new topic, or bring on experts that will contribute to the topic. Whichever way you go, there’s money to be made when you have genuinely valuable knowledge to share.

The simplicity is what makes Prfessor the best turnkey passive income generator on the internet. Whatever you’re passionate about, and could teach to someone, is the same exact thing that can make you money.

It works because you took a lot of time researching the things that you like, such as your hobbies, which makes you really knowledgeable – basically an expert on the topic.

“You don’t know everything, but everybody knows something.”

This means that you can save someone hours, days, even YEARS on their learning curve, because you can sell them your mentorship and teach them without them having to go through the same mistakes you did. It’s passive, because once you make the content, new people can learn from you and pay you, without you having to stand in front of a class – over and over again.

I really believe in Jim, and I believe in this product. I promise that if I wasn’t studying 80 hours a week in Dental School, I would be creating MANY courses to share my knowledge with people. However, since studying is my life at the moment, I’m counting on you to go out there and create something awesome.

So do me a favor do yourself a favor, and go over to Prfessor.com and let Jim Kukral tell you a bit more about it. In the mean time, I’m getting back to my studies!

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Jennifer Crews contacted me a couple of weeks ago to come on her radio show for an interview. This interview is happening live this Saturday, on the third season of “Get Clear – Gain Clarity in Your Life.”

I’ll be joining Jennifer for 45 minutes, about clarity, decision making, and overcoming obstacles. It should be a great show, and I hope that you guys can tune-in to show some support, and even call in to ask questions.

There will be several ways to listen. One way is by logging in to www.krxa540.com on Saturday at 3:30pm EST. If you’re a local of Monterey/ Santa Cruz, California, then you can listen on AM540. Mark your Calenders now.

If you can’t make it live, we will be recording, and I’ll put the mp3 through iTunes. You can subscribe to my iTunes to get the instant update when I put it up (it might be awhile).

I really appreciate everyone hanging in here while I’m in dental school. It’s a lot of work, it’s not easy, but it is fun, exciting and challenging. The subscriber numbers are going up, the traffic is staying steady, and so during winter break I’ll write a bunch of articles and spread them out over the next semester. We’re going to have a lot of fun here on AlexShalman.com – so stay tuned!

P.S. If you are a personal development enthusiast, and whether or not you have your own blog, I would like to invite you to do a guest post. I’ll only accept it if it’s really good, the readers have come to expect some quality stuff here and I don’t want to let them down, but I’ll work with you to come up with ideas. Shoot me an e-mail.

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Just as setting small and attainable goals are the building blocks for achieving success; living a lifestyle of making good health choices leads to greater and more sustainable happiness.

The cliché “You are what you eat” does resonate with pieces of truth and common sense. There have been several health and fitness studies over the years that suggest people who are overweight, smoke and drink excessively have a predisposition to experience more bouts of depression than people who live a more moderate lifestyle in these areas.

So, you have heard all of this before, right? The last thing you need right now is someone else lecturing you about what you are doing wrong and calling attention to the fact you may need to lose a few pounds.

Here’s the thing though, beginning right now, today, you can ignore the lectures and the comments you hear others mutter and whisper. Because today you are in control of your health, and your happiness, by empowering yourself with knowing, and believing, in the following statement: Achieving better health is a choice. Choose wisely.

Here’s a roadmap to help you make better choices:

• Relax.
  Stress and anxiety can cause havoc on your metabolism and mental health. Stress impedes your ability to think clearly. Learn to take a step back from stressful situations before they can damage your relationships, your happiness and your health.
• Think of the word “diet” as a noun, not a verb.
  Too often when people fail to sticking with a diet, it is because there are depriving themselves of some of the foods they enjoy most. Deprivation is a negative word – a word that doesn’t foster happiness. Instead of watching or counting calories, pay attention to the diet of foods you are eating. Make good choices as rule, but allow yourself to indulge from time to time.
• Walk more.
  Take the time to walk after dinner. Also, when you are out running errands, park as far away from the front of the store as possible. These extra steps really add up and you will see results immediately.
• Get regularly check-ups.
  Most illnesses or diseases can be avoided if caught in time. Yes, we are all busy. Yes, it’s a pain to see the doctor when you feeling good and really don’t see the point to do so. But prevention is the best prescription for a serious, or life threatening illness.
• Smile and act happy.
  Even when you don’t feel like smiling or feel particularly happy, sometimes you just have to fake it until you make it. You will be surprised how the smiles and happiness you receive back when actually improve your mood and happiness.

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I often write about success and successful living, but I realize it’s difficult to become successful, if you’re too tired to accomplish anything.  So today I want to discuss “10 Simple Keys to Great Energy.”

There was a time when I didn’t have enough energy to make it through my day, I would burn-out around 7:00pm, and spend the rest of my day in a lethargic state.  However, after researching the subject of “energy” and putting my research into action, I now enjoy amazing energy daily.  I’m rarely tired, even when it’s bedtime.

This article will provide you with some “actionable steps” that will significantly increase your energy-levels; giving you the energy you need to succeed.

The 10 Simple Keys

Key #1: Reduce Your Sugar Intake – Sugar drains your energy!   Sugar is a depressant, the more sugar you eat, the more sleep you need.

In other words, you should avoid foods loaded with sugar; the “sugar” in these foods deplete your energy supply and send you spiraling into a “low” (after your “sugar-high” ends).

Additionally, eating sugary foods before you go to bed will cost you precious energy the next day, so don’t do it.

Key #2: Work-out Daily – I was telling someone that I’ve been working-out 7 days a week, their response was, “Doesn’t all that ‘working-out’ make you feel tired?”  I thought, “…Make me feel tired!?!”  Working-out gives me energy, it’s a stimulant.  Working-out helps clear your mind and relieve stress.  Running for as little as one mile a day will greatly increase your energy; I recommend exercising for at least 30 minutes every day (beginning with a good stretch).

Key #3: Avoid Negative News – I never watch the “news,” I could write an entire series on this one.  Not only do I not watch the news, I don’t understand why anyone would watch the news.  It just spills out death, disease, and garbage.  Garbage in, garbage out.

Negative news is depressing and makes you feel additionally “tired,” there’s no need for you to know about every rape and murder.

You may be thinking, if I don’t watch the news, I’ll miss something big.  Trust me, if something important happens, you’ll find out about it.  (I recommend you get your information from sources other than the news.)

Key #4: Wake-up early and Get Ready Every Morning – Lying in the bed until the middle of the afternoon may make you more lethargic then getting out of bed early.

Additionally, there’s no reason to mope around the house without first showering and brushing your teeth.  Every day you should get up timely, take a shower, brush your teeth, get dressed and then find a way to stimulate your mind.  This will make you feel energetic compared to oversleeping and walking around the house in your pajamas all day.

Key #5: Take your vitamins and drink lots of water – When I take a “Multi-vitamin” and a “B-Complex” I notice a significant boost in my energy levels.  Additionally, water is a great source of energy for your body, so be sure to drink plenty of it.

Key #6: Get 7 hours of sleep – Hopefully this one doesn’t shock anybody!  You’re not going to have great energy sleeping 3 hours a night.  Try to get at least 7 hours of sleep, your body will appreciate you if you do, and it will reward you with more energy.

Additionally, it’s helpful if you create the habit of waking up and going to bed at the same time everyday.  I sleep from 11pm to 6am daily.

Key #7: Eat Three Light Healthy Meals and Three Light Healthy Snacks – Very heavy meals especially during the middle of the day will make you feel tired.  Try eating 3 light meals and 3 light snacks.  It’s easier for your body to process smaller meals, and eating several light meals and snacks will keep your metabolism running more efficiently.

Note: including lots of raw foods (e.g. uncooked fruits and vegetables, etc.) in your diet is also a great way to increase your energy.

Key #8: Take Breaks – Don’t stare at a computer screen all day.  Take breaks often, get up and walk around, talk with others.  Staring at a computer will drain your energy (especially if you’re reading small font).

Take breaks as often as you can.  (Also, be sure to sit in your chair properly; feet on the floor while you’re working.)

[Remember, relaxing is a good thing.  You should also plan at least one fun activity daily (e.g. even if it’s simply watching your favorite television show with your spouse or significant other).]

Key #9: Sunlight – Get some sunlight, the vitamin D you’ll receive from the sun is a good energy supplement. (Just be sure to wear sunscreen.)

Constantly being in the dark can cause you to feel lethargic.

Key #10: Organize Your Life – If your house, garage, office, car or life is a mess then you will probably feel additionally “worn down.”  Organize your life for a feeling of greater energy.  Clutter breeds clutter.

They say, “If I can see your garage, then I’ve seen your mind.”  How does your garage look?  Is it organized?

Clean things up in your life, and you will feel more energetic.

In closing, these are the “energy” keys that have worked for me, but I don’t want to close out this list, please feel free to add your thoughts and ideas in the comments section below.

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I’ve always been a fan of quick wins and quick results, and as I’ll soon cover, so is the rest of society. With that in mind, not that many of us have long term goals, of if we do, we’re not working towards them. Up until about a year ago of my two-decade existence, there wasn’t really anything I was working for.

I was in and out of college, I was working on various websites, I was in a dead-end job and I even did freelance marketing work on the side. Nothing was set in stone, and life wasn’t really going in the direction I wanted it to.

Just over a year ago I started a blog which was to become my first real long-term goal. I had a topic idea in mind, I had coded a unique design, and I was ready to go. Now, 13 months on, the blog has been a huge success and the rest of my life is getting on track as well.

In fact, I recently started a gym regime around my health related goals and I’m already seeing some great results. The reason I’m telling you this is because having long term goals are often underrated, and now I want to share three reasons to have them.

Breakthrough the Lie of Society

Marketers know what we as a society want, and they offer it to us from every angle. The guide on how to make $10,000 online in a fortnight, how to lose 10lbs in one week and how to cure acne in as little as 48 hours. We want a quick fix and we want it now, so that’s what people “offer”.

If these claims are possible, then show me one person who went from nothing to $10k in two weeks by following one of these courses. Or show me someone who popped a tiny pill each morning, without changing their diet or exercise, and healthily shed weight. No matter how hard you look, you won’t find anyone.

Instead, having long term goals helps you break past all these marketing ploys and gimmicks and see that real results and real hard work are what it takes to achieve results that matter. Although the journey won’t be easy, it will actually get you somewhere and won’t leave wondering where your money went.

Learn the Art of Patience

Anyone who knows me will tell you that up until recently, I was probably the most impatient guy on the planet. If I wanted a new laptop, I couldn’t wait until the January sales, I had to have it now. If I wanted a new design for my website, I didn’t want to wait weeks for it to be coded, I wanted it now.

In fact, if I wanted anything in life, I wanted it instantly. Probably a trait those pesky marketers have instilled in me.

Anyways, these days, I’ve changed a lot. Since working on projects that take 6 months or more to blossom, I realise that things worth having are worth waiting (or working) for. I no longer expect instant results and realise things take time. I’m even desperate to purchase a Macbook before I go travelling and instead I’m going to wait until I really need it and will probably save money for doing so.

Have Something to Wake Up For

Dale Carnegie, in his book How to Stop Worrying and Start Living, found that many people were ‘cured’ of their severe depression simply by keeping themselves busy. If they did enough tasks and didn’t allow themselves to dwell on their issues, their health, happiness, and appreciation for life started to improve.

I can relate to this when looking at many of my friends and family members. They simply don’t have anything else going on in their lives apart from survival. That is simply living their lives around their jobs and receiving a pay packet at the end of each month. They rarely love what they do, and their mood levels often show it.

Instead, if you have a long term goal around something you’re passionate about, there’s a reason to get out of bed each day and make the most of this opportunity. There’s a reason to keep going and this enables you to even push your own limits.

Set a Goal, Right Now

Before you close this page or browse to other areas of the site, I want you to set a long term goal if you don’t have one already. It could be:

• Learning a new language
• Building a successful website
• Getting a promotion at work
• Learning a new skill or trade
• Losing weight or building muscle…

…or any other long term goal that you can think of. Find something you care about and would like to work on regularly, and you’ll soon start seeing the benefits in all areas of your life.

Glen Allsopp is the author of PluginID, a blog on Personal Development. Glen covers topics such as Personality Development and How to Make Friends.

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The sound quality isn’t the best, but it’s doable – I’m putting myself on the line for constructive criticism of my public speaking skills. That means don’t criticize my jet-black matrix looking outfit (I will only interpret it as jealousy, hehe), just let me know what you think about the delivery.

As you know I’m always into improving my skills, and I really want to become a master storyteller. I don’t expect it to happen overnight, but I do like to take advantages of opportunities like this where I spoke in front of about 120 people.

Some things you might want to comment on are: my movements and gestures, my tone and pitch, the feelings you got about the content, how persuasive did I come off, what turned you off about the speech, etc.

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We have to travel many paths in our lives in order to reach the state of our true self. There are also many caves to enter. Caves are those places deep inside us where we are a little bit nervous to enter, some we have to enter, some we stumble upon and some we avoid altogether.

This article will talk about some of the caves we fear to enter and why entering them can be useful for us.

What are the caves?

The caves are those places in our minds where it’s a little darker and we would rather not explore them. In the caves can hide our fears, our worries, our hopes, and our dreams we daren’t dream. They are not places that are locked away, they are open to explore however the paths to them are less trodden. Maybe it’s time we explored these caves.

The cave of hope

Some people never dare to have hope in their lives for a number of reasons. One of the reasons can be because they think they don’t deserve to be hopeful, their thought’s, actions, and life don’t dare to enter the cave of hope for fear of rejection and failure.

The cave of hope is for every single person in the world to enter, whether your hopes are for love, a new car, a new house or the hope of living without fear in your life, which is a basic human need. Whatever your hopes are it’s perfectly okay to enter the cave of hope and find out what the possibilities of life hold for you.

If you don’t enter the cave of hope your life will be stuck, forever in the same place. Without hope, there is no action, without action, we stagnate. dare to hope for yourself, for others and for the world.

The Cave of Worry

Contrary to the title of this post this cave is where a lot of people spend their time; the cave of worry.

The cave of worry is a strange little place, there are tunnels galore leading off the main cave, there are lots of paths leading to the cave and there are lots of inter-connecting caves leading to this cave however. The cave itself is infinite, there is no end, you could walk for miles in this cave of you mind and you will still not be near the end. It’s never ending because that is where worry starts and finishes, it’s starts nowhere and leads nowhere.

I have a client just now who is worrying about something which might happen in a few months time. He cannot sleep for worrying about it which makes him more anxious during the day. When it was pointed out that the possible outcome of his worry cannot be changed AT ALL by him worrying about it and we channeled the ‘worry energy’ he was expending into something more productive his worry seemed to lessen. ‘What if’s’ cannot help us at all in our lives and it wastes a lot of our mental energy when we think in ‘What if’ terms.

It’s not easy to stop being a worrier as for some of us that’s all we know. However, the worry energy can be channeled into other areas which will help ease our worries.

The cave of our dreams

This is a bit like the cave of hope however different in the way that hope is filled with definite possibilities whereas the cave of our dreams is filled with things we may never obtain like winning the lottery.

Is it worth visiting this cave within our mind? Without a doubt yes!

Dreams, even unobtainable dreams or ones we have no control over, is a form of escapism and it’s no different than going to the movies, or reading a book. It also lets us imagine a bigger future for ourselves. When we dream big, I mean really big, our expectations of ourselves is raised a little bit higher than it was had we not dreamt big.

As an example; Say you currently have a business and your profit per year is $15,000. When you start visiting the cave of your dreams and start to imagine your business with a profit of $1,000,000. You really put yourself in the picture, you don’t really believe it will happen however you can actually feel what it would be like to live the lifestyle of someone who owns a business with a profit of $1,000,000 per year. Now, when you come back to reality and see the figure of $15,000 you raise your expectation of what you can do with the business to double your current figure of $15,000 profit per year. Dreaming allows your mind to think of ways to start climbing to reach what you dream of and it will present ways to try and make this happen.

If this sounds like a lot of nonsense, then just take a look at some of the great business persons of the world; Richard Branson, Bill Gates, Eben Pagan, Kevin Rose, Anita Rodderick. All of these people started small but dreamt big. With each successive small success their dream became a reality.

It’s great to dream big and dream big often, it will raise your expectation of what you can actually achieve.

The cave of fear

This is the best cave to visit, even though most of us try and avoid it. The cave of fear holds all our fears about your life. It’s also the cave that has the potential to change our life the most.

Fear has the potential to control our lives if we let it and most fears are irrational. Like the fear of spiders. What’s the most harm most spiders can do? and I’m not talking tarantulas I’m talking about the common everyday spider. They cannot do anything but put on a few pairs of hiking boots, grab plenty of silk rope, grab a flask of tea, kiss goodbye to the partner and kids and go hill walking up your arm, yet some people are so afraid of them. Most of them cannot bite, so there is no danger whatsoever from them.

The only thing to do to start living a fuller life is by conquering every single one of your fears.

I was afraid of heights a few years ago so I conquered this by doing a bungee jump, a parachute jump, and abseiled down the Glasgow Hilton hotel. Did I get over my fear? yes I definitively did. You see fear is irrational in that we work ourselves up to a state of panic whenever we think about that which we say we fear. If you face your fears, you will grow, learn more about yourself, and develop quicker than by doing anything else related to personal development.

To face your fear there’s no better way of doing it than by doing it head on. If you fear heights, get to the top a building and look down, if you fear spiders go to your local zoo and ask them to let a spider walk over your hand, if you fear going outdoors get outside. There is no other way for it and it may sound flippant to say just do it but it’s the only way and your fear is nothing more than a psychological barrier YOU have put up in your mind.

I’d like to leave you with a quote.

The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.
~Joseph Campbell

Steven is the author of Change Your Thoughts and works as an alcohol and drugs counselor. He has a BSc in Psychology and has a passion for studying belief formation, thought processes and values and principles. His blog focuses on personal development through changing your thoughts but covers the whole personal development field.

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Last week my classmate and future dental-superstar Damoon Yashar told me about his life philosophy. Go hard, or go home. He meant this in the context of focus and effort, and said that if he’s going to study, he’s going to give it 100%, if he’s going to go to a social event, he’s going to be 100% present there.

This philosophy really resonates with me. I’m a fan of books like the Power of Now, and Landmark Education has a strong focus on being present as well. It’s just a more interesting and constructive way to look at life, when all your energy, power, and attention is on what you’re doing.

Let’s look at ways that you can ‘Go Hard or Go Home’ in any area of your life.

10 Ways to Go Hard or Go Home

1. Go home. If you’re not going hard, maybe it’s because you don’t really love what you’re doing. If that’s the case, don’t waste your time and your precious life energy on doing something that bores you to tears– quit.

2. Isolate. Sometimes we want to go hard, but distractions keep popping up. In that case, isolate yourself. In my apartment I have no TV, and I generally keep e-mail and twitter off while I study, so that the only thing in my attention is my classwork.

3. Do Less. If your mind is constantly wandering to other things, maybe it’s because you’ve committed yourself to too many things. Do less, and spend more quality time doing those things with excellence.

4. Breathe. I have been actively doing breathing exercises to get my mind focused. I simply inhale all the way in 4 seconds, and then slowly exhale over 8 seconds. I repeat this for a couple of minutes, get Oxygen to my brain, and Go Hard!

5. Worst, First. You know that task on your to-do list that you’ve been thinking about, incessantly, but not doing? Finally sit down, and trudge through it, and then let your mind focus on more pleasant things.

6. Plan, Organize. Sit down in the evening, and take time to plan out your next day, and the order of events. I do this daily. This way you can get your priorities done, instead of wasting time wondering what’s next.

7. Go Hard, and Stop. When you’re loading up your to-do list for a certain day, you have to give yourself a realistically achievable amount. As a reward for working hard and diligently, don’t add anything else to that list– stop.

8. Muscle Fuel. You can only go as hard as your mind and body will allow. I’m giving you some tricks to psych your mind up, but you also need to remember to exercise — this is going to make all the difference in your energy levels.

9. Challenge Yourself. Look at your projects, and your life in general as fun challenges. Make it your goal to improve, every single day, in everything that you do. You’ll soon develop the constant-and-never-ending improvement habit.

10. Get accountable. Have some people in your life that keep you accountable. Literally ask them to call you daily, and ask you about specific items that you said you would do. They’ll remind you, and hopefully get you off your butt to get it done. Nothing wrong with some external motivation from time to time.

I would love to know some of the things you do to psych yourself up and get into the zone. How do you go hard, and when do you go home?

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Do you think that exercise is just unpleasant hard work and lots of effort, just designed to make us tired and lose weight?

There are,in fact, many benefits of exercise that go beyond getting the physical body into a great shape. If you aren’t doing any form of exercise in your life, then I hope this post will change your mind and get you into gear

It is easy to get caught up in your studies, or your job, or be content with the fact that you are young and don’t need to exercise because you still have a good 20 years before you’re middle-aged and before you start getting problems with cholesterol. You start to get a little chubby, and when you have to run up 3 flights of stairs you find yourself gasping for air…familliar?

What I found after not doing any form of exercise for a few months is that my body feels unfit and unhealthy, stress from life creeps in, I start to get a little cranky, and I get bad moods far more often, and just have less energy in general.

The body is the temple of your soul.

Exercise has so many benefits besides the obvious of keeping your body fit and healthy.
Your body is your vessel through which you navigate life. It is a sophisticated machine, and for the longest and best quality life, you must keep that machine well-oiled and maintained. For the physical body, exercise strengthens muscles, strengthens bones, circulates the blood flow delivering oxygen to all the organs, strengthens the lungs and heart, flushes the toxins out your body through perspiration and conditions the body to be able to withstand some hard work.

After exercise, endorphins get released into your bloodstream. Endorphins are a “feel-good” hormone, and this is why after a heavy workout, you will often feel more energetic than before, and you will have a smile on your face and be in a good mood.

You may be asking yourself what exercise and a healthy body and mind have to do with personal development?

I think that it has a massive impact on your life and everything you do and accomplish. If you have a strong healthy body, and in turn a good mood and happy spirit, you will go through life a lot more positively, have more ideas, be more creative and in turn attract like minded people.

Another benefit of exercise is that you venture out. I work from home and spend a lot of time in front of the computer, so I see going to gym as a break to get out of the house. For those of you who are on a tight budget, you do not need to pay money to exercise. You can get incredible workouts for free, training at home. It’s easy to do pushups,pullups, situps, crunches, squats and more. You can buy a few free weights and a pullup bar for $100 or less and have all the equipment you need to get a full body workout.

Get a punching bag and hang it on a tree outside or from a strudy point in your ceiling. There’s nothing as tiring as going full out and punching that bag and hard as you can with all the energy you have. I bet you’re exhausted under 2 minutes

Personally I like being signed up to the gym and various classes like hiphop dancing and martial arts, because not only can you learn from an experienced instructor, you also get to meet and connect with like-minded people. The fact that I am paying money every month for these classes also acts as a good stimulant for me to actually go to them and exercise. If you’re training at home then you need a tad more discipline, because nothing happens if you ignore your exercise. If I ignore it while I’m paying for membership, it’s costing me $50 a month and would be a waste if I didn’t use it.

Did you think that the gym was the only way of getting exercise?

Here are 5 Fun ways of getting exercise that you will LOVE doing:

1-)Dancing.

I love dancing, moving my body to the beat of the music, whether it be hiphop, rock, reggae or even classical dancing. However, for the best exercise while dancing, I have to say hiphop classes or breakdancing classes are the way to go. It’s almost like gymnastics and you get to learn choreographies to your favourite songs.

2-) Martial Arts.

I wish I started when I was 5.
Muay Thai, Taekwando, Aikido, Karate, Wushu and many others. Martial arts don’t only strengthen and train your body, they also train your mind and spirit. The discipline and sense of freedom you get from martial arts is amazing! Besides exercise, you’ll also learn to defend yourself.

3-)Aerobics.

Initially I thought this was always a more girly thing until one day I just joined a class because I had nothing to do. It’s pretty fun! You’re in a group and you follow the instructor doing a series of fast-paced moves, steps, situps, jumps and more. This is for people of all ages, both men and women.

4-)Swimming.

Bet ya didn’t think of swimming as good exercise?!
Swimming is something we can all enjoy, provided the water is not too cold and shark-free. It’s a full body workout for arms,legs and abs, burns a lot of calories and gets the heart rate up nice and high. Take the plunge today!

5-) Mountain Biking.

This is crazy fun, especially if you go with a friend or two.
It’s better if there are mountains, but parks or flat forests will do too. Pack a small backpack with water, some fruit and a jersey and go on a 2 or 3 hour cycling expedition. Find a target that you have to go to and once you get there you stop and rest, enjoy the scenery , have some water and then get back on that bike and cycle back as fast as you can.

Did I convince you to get out there more and exercise?

I promise that once you start exercising more, you will start to feel much happier and you will have much more energy to go through life. Healthy body, healthy mind.

Enjoy ALL the benefits of exercise.

Diggy is author of Upgradereality.com, a blog about self improvement.

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This article explains the path to success using the simple concept of planting “corn” seeds. We know that if you “plant” corn, four things are going to happen:

Number 1: You’re going to get corn (not apples)
Number 2: You’re going to get the corn later than you planted it
Number 3: You’re going to get more corn than you planted
Number 4: You’re going to get the corn, in proportion to how much corn you planted

If I lost you…just keep on reading…

Number 1: You’re going to get corn

You shouldn’t be surprised by the results that you’re getting in your life; you’re the one who planted the seeds for those results; whether those results are good, bad, or down-right ugly.  To be upset with the results you’re getting would be like a farmer being upset that he got tomatoes when he planted tomatoes.  It would be like an artist being upset that his painting is a disaster, when he’s the one who painted it.

What am I saying, I’m saying that nothing can come from corn but corn; nothing can come from wheat but wheat; nothing from grapes, but grapes.

If you’re getting failure, it’s because you’re planting the seeds for failure, by having a mentality that permits failure.

If you plant success in your life, by reading articles like this one, and by following through with action, you will succeed.

Number 2: You’re going to get the corn later than you planted it

Many people don’t experience success because they’re unwilling to wait for the seeds of success to grow.  We’ve been programmed to think that all of our desires should be met instantaneously, without any prior preparation.

But the truth is, some things can be put in a microwave, like popcorn, or “Hot Pockets,” but the good meals have to be prepared.  They need to sit on the stove and cook slowly, so that all of the seasons can soak into the meal.  Contrary to popular opinion, public debate, and what you may have seen on late night infomercials, success takes time.

It will happen, but it will happen some time after you’ve planted the seeds for it (and it may happen later than you anticipated), but just as sure as you’re reading these words right now, your season will come.

Number 3: You’re going to get more corn than you planted

Be careful what you plant, every thought, and every decision is a seed into your future.

If you’re not planting the “right” seeds today, you have no tomorrow; just a longer today.

You should be careful what you plant because you will always receive more than what you planted.  This is good news if you’re planting good seeds, and bad news if you’re planting bad seeds.

Number 4: You’re going to get the corn in proportion to how much corn you planted

If you put in a little work, then you will receive a little harvest.  If you put in a lot of work, then you will receive a big harvest.

If you want to be successful, you must spend your days planting beneficial seeds that will give you a beneficial harvest.  Don’t waste your priceless moments on unproductive activities.

Decide that you want a great harvest; dedicate everyday to planting seeds that will make that desire a reality.  Stop wasting time; stop doing unproductive activities.  Focus your life on the few critical tasks that bring results, the important seeds, and spend a majority of your time planting those seeds.

If you do, your harvest will come, and the results will amaze you!  Thank you for reading.

About the author: this guest post was written by Mr. Self Development. Please support Mr. Self Development by subscribing to his blog at mrselfdevelopment.com; Mr. Self Development is a motivational author that offers a practical guide to success and wealth.

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Ever wonder what kind of conversations successful people have? No, it’s not gossip or negativity. A few weeks ago at Derek Sivers’ dinner party, he brought up his new philosophy on making decisions in his own life.

So if you’re not going to be thinking in terms of blah, grey, boring things that you could be doing in your life, then what’s left? Black and white, extreme opposites, what you don’t want and what you really really want – that being your HELL YEA!

In his HELL YEA article Derek gave a recent example of this principle when he was choosing his new employee. No one in the first round of interviews was really a HELL YEA, so instead of picking one because he had to pick one, he scrapped the whole thing and took a new approach to interviewing that brought in a HELL YEA employee.

In my own life, my HELL YEA has been dental school. After the first time that I didn’t get into dental school, I was discouraged, and at the same time I had an opportunity to go for a sales job with 6-figure potential. As I was weighing out the risk/reward and pros/cons, it hit me that dentistry is my HELL YEA, so I applied for my masters program and ultimately got into dental school.

Derek pointed out that the HELL YEA principle is congruent to Steve Pavlina’s principle in Personal Development For Smart People. If whatever you’re aiming for isn’t a 9 or 10 on a scale of 1-10 then it might as well just be a 1. If it’s clearly a 1, we do something about it, but the real danger is in those 6s and 7s in where we feel comfortable enough to settle. Forget all that, if something isn’t a HELL YEA 9, or 10, then just-say-no.

You don’t have to use this only for big decisions in life such as careers choices, who you’re going to marry, or where you’re going to live. Try to use the HELL YEA principle for the small everyday decisions as well, such as what you’re going to eat, who you’re going to hang out with, and what ways you’re going to stimulate your personal growth!

This brings me to my final question. I would love to see nothing more then everyone in the world going for their HELL YEA. So… What’s your HELL YEA?

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The brick walls are there for a reason. The brick walls are not there to keep us out; the brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something.
~Randy Pausch

Long story short – I’ve been accepted to the NYU Dental School graduating class of 2013. That means I start Monday August 24th, and go on my four year journey of Dental mastery!

I really want to thank a lot of people. Thank you foremost to all my family and friends that believed in me. I can’t say that it’s been an easy road, and your words of encouragement, the occassional kicks in the butt, and your excellent ability to give me space during many hundreds of tests over the years has helped tremendously.

Thank you to the various people that recommended me to the school, vouched for me as a person and as a student, and generally went out of your way and put your name on the line for me. This is a huge story that I could write a book about… I’d call it something like “How to Network Like a Monster and Crush It in The Trenches!”

A few facts about my failures (or the many ways I figured out NOT to get into dental school). I applied to Dental school straight out of college, and I didn’t get in. Both my GPA and Dental Admission Test didn’t meet the hardcore requirements brought on by 6000 applicants going after 200 spots. I then retook my admission test in the August of 2006, and got my Masters in Biomedical Science in 2008.

The waiting list. In December of 2008, I got on the waiting list for NYU Dental school, during which time I was supposed to wait. I take ‘waiting’ a bit differently then most other people. This included interning at the school, going on a circuit of continuing education seminars for dentists, and studying for another 3 months to retake my dental admission test. Much more on this in future posts.

The future. I can’t wait to get into dental school and learn everything I can. I want to be able to say that my patients will not get a better treatment anywhere else in the world, they might get just as good (someone else’s 100%), but they won’t get any less from me. I’m also looking forward to combining both my knowledge of personal development and social media to create communities both online and off, and to create both brighter smiles and a brighter world.

All I can say is… If you have a dream,  whether you have to go through those doors sideways, backwards, or jump in from the roof… don’t give up.

Thank you for the congratulations in advanced… let em rip.

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If you think we’re friends, and you don’t meet this criteria, then you’re my fan. Don’t get me wrong, I appreciate my fans, but do differentiate them from friends.

I’m certainly not above making new connections – I pride myself on being able to make friends quickly and easily – I just don’t have the capacity to devote time to friends if everyone is my friend.

Friends Vs. Fans

With the advances in transportation, communication and now the popularity of social networking it’s never been easier to keep in touch. Become popular enough, or a social networking whore, and you’ll have no time for anything but entertaining superficial relationships with fans and strangers.

If you’re not popular enough – or don’t have enough exposure to new people – then you’re in danger of settling for friends that don’t meet your own personal criteria. Deep connections with the wrong people can be just as bad as superficial connections with too many right people.

As you can probably already tell a happy medium exists somewhere in the equation. Make no mistake, you don’t want to compromise on the quality of the people that you surround yourself with. What you do want is to have an amount of people in your life that you can devote enough time to in order to maintain deep connections.

Certain friends require more maintenance than others. I have friends that I can call once every couple of months, we catch up and empower each other on our journey, and then go about our separate lives. Then there are friends that I keep up with weekly or even daily.

When things are not totally reciprocal, such as when a person with less connections wants to make friends with a very connected person, a phenomenon known as “fan” happens. One person might respect and admire the other, while the other might not have had the pleasure to find this out about them.

It’s important to realize when you are being a fan. If you’re a fan of too many people, you might not have enough time left over to nurture deep friendships and  still get your work done.

The solution is time management (or possibly friend management) and is a two-step process involving honesty and assertiveness. Be clear with people that you cannot devote time to them because you’re working towards a very important goal. At the same time, make it a point to not only devote time to your friends but really be with them and listen.

“A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.”
~Walter Winchell.

They say that sometimes you put walls up not to keep people out, but to see who cares enough to break them down. The real friends, the ones that aren’t just fans, will come-a-knockin regardless of whether you’re up or down.

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“People don’t want to do business with business cards, they want to do business with people.”
~Audio (via @LewisHowes)

I’ve placed myself in an excellent position to observe networking patterns between homo sapien mammals. About 2-3 events per week (6 days in a row this week).

Beware The Card Pusher

Some people are scared of rejection, think they are their business card or are simply socially retarded. These people think that handing over a business card with the standard name, number, and job description is going to make them remarkable enough to do business with, let alone remember.

This might be a very convenient way of doing business, if it worked. You don’t need a personality, charisma, or strategic conversation. Just sneak up behind someone, take out their wallet, and slip in your business card. Later on when they get to the office and notice this nice shiny card in their pocket, they’ll be sure to call you to order some life insurance for the family and staff.

As Borat would say, “Noooooot.”

Ditch The Card

The secret is that it’s not about the business card. I’m not saying don’t have a business card (until more people get Pokens) – you’ll want a business card after you’ve made a solid connection with someone as an easy way to exchange contact information without having to stand there and enter it into your iPhone.

When I say ditch the card, I mean ditch using a business card as your approach. Don’t even use what you do as an approach. Be a person, with genuine passions, hobbies, and interests and go out there and share yourself!

Think about the people that you want to do business with right now. You know, like, or trust them in a similar way as you do your friends. That means that what you want to do is increase your personal network of friends, so there are more people that want to do business with you.

We’ve got some work cut out for us. We have to be clear about our vision and who we are both as a person and as a marketable brand. We have to be brief, since people’s attention is limited and expensive. We have to be transparent, because people don’t want to do business based on a lie. If we can master this we will graduate beyond our business card and into a person that people know-like-trust.

Right and Wrong

This weekend I had the opportunity to go to Affiliate Summit East in NYC. My intention for going there was to catch up with some friends and meet some online personalities that I respect and admire. For the people I haven’t met yet, I’d obviously need an approach other than jumping on them like a Beluga Whale with a business card.

Getting burned. I admire Chris Pearson for his no BS approach to creating code for the Wordpress Thesis Theme. His philosophy is that he’s going to do it perfectly, not care what anyone says, and be the number one in this space. He actually reminds me of Howard Roark from The Fountainhead, except Chris also likes money. Long story short, when I first met him I tried to pitch him an idea, something that happens to him on a daily basis and no doubt annoys him, instead of just trying to be a friend. Fail.

More effective. I respect Jim Kukral because he’s always thinking in terms of how he can bring value to people. He’s one of the most genuinely nice guys that I’ve met, and he’s got an incredible savvy for business. I did try to pitch him a little, but I was mostly concerned with the interesting things that he’s got going on, and I let him beat me in Wii Golf (that’s my story and I’m stickin’ to it!) a few times. I think him and I have much more of a potential to be friends, which is great for me. Remember my rule – I will be friends and surround myself with people that I respect and admire.

Greatly effective. During two of last weeks networking meetings I simply presented myself as “These are the various things I’m good at, and I love to connect people, so let me know what you need in order to grow and I’ll connect you with the best resources I know.” I made sure to hook up everyone, follow up with e-mails, and facilitated business contacts for people. These are the people that would go out of their way to help me if I asked.

What are your business networking tips?

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When Alex asked me if I would like to write a post entitled 12 Transformational Life Coach Tricks, I was like, “Wow, that could be tough, because these are topics that I often spend 1,500 words on and up and I’m sure he doesn’t want a 20,000 word guest post.

However, as I started to think about it , I warmed to the idea. After all, my Twitter training over the last year or so should mean I can keep things relatively short when I have to.

Before we kick off, please understand that these are brief and really meant to whet your appetite. I’d encourage you, if some resonate with you, to do some research. This is some of the best stuff I do with clients, but best of all, for you it’s free and what’s not to love about that?

1. You’re #1

Here’s a shocking start to kick things off with.

You’re the most important person in the world to you.

That’s right, it’s not your kids, your parents or even The Pope, it is you! Without you, everything else in your reality ceases to exist. So be kind to yourself, ALWAYS. You’re doing the best you can with the information you have at hand. You mess up, you make mistakes and you make stupid decisions because we all do.

Treat yourself with the kind of respect you would like from others at all times. If you don’t like other people hurling abuse or disrespecting you, don’t do it to yourself.. ever!

2. Shut The Duck Up

We all have a voice, or more often than not, voices, inside our own head. Mine used to sound like a whiny bad tempered old duck. It would quack away at me telling me what a loser I was and how things were always my fault.

The weird thing is I never realized I had control of the duck. I thought he was a magic duck that ran rampant down the empty corridors of my mind, but apparently not.

Trying to shoot him never seemed to work, he’d just bounce back tougher and more determined than ever. So we had a chat and agreed to work together. I promised to take him seriously when things did get tough and he promised to be more supportive and easy going and not be so whiny. It was a classic win/win for me and Dilbert (I can’t believe Tim named his imaginary duck hehe ~Alex).

3. Mind Your Language

You communicate internally primarily through the pictures you make and the conversations (often at an unconscious level) you have with yourself. I know that because it’s what we all do. The language you use is absolutely critical in determining how you feel about your life.

Words and phrases like ‘Have to’, ‘Must do’ ‘Got to’ ‘Need to’ are seldom useful. They stifle choice, make you feel bad and ultimately lower self-esteem if you then don’t follow through and do whatever it is you say you simply ‘have to do’.

Replace them with “Want to” Would like to’ and ‘Love to’ to change your perception. It may feel weird at first, but in time you’ll see a huge benefit. After all, saying “I need another piece of cake’ is rarely accurate in my experience.

4. Value Your Values

My own readers are quite frankly sick to death of me banging on about values, but do you know what your values are?

If you don’t, you don’t know yourself and you don’t truly know what motivates and drives you. Get to know your values because they dictate everything in your life and I do mean everything. They are at the core of your identity and dictate what job you do, who your friends are, what you like in a partner, whether you are a Church goer or not and even whether you like 24

5. Don’t Always Believe in Your Beliefs

Beliefs are opinions and nothing more. Ok, I suppose they can be facts too, but more often than not they aren’t. If you have a belief that you aren’t good enough, old enough, wealthy enough, attractive enough or clever enough, you want to lose it and lose it fast.

Beliefs like that will only hold you back and they need battering like a Faroe Islander batters a baby seal and with about as much compassion. Undermine them, look for contrary evidence and ridicule them. You are good enough, as long as you believe you are.

6. Ask Better Questions

Why am I such a loser? is not a great question, trust me. What can I do differently next time? is though.

Drop the ‘why’s ’ that push you into defense mode and ask more ‘hows’, ‘who’s’ and ‘what’s’. How can I improve? What can I learn from this? Who can help me?

7. Not Yet

Never ever tell yourself you cannot do something if it’s something you’d like to achieve. If you want to lose weight but can’t, saying “I can’t lose weight” will make things worse. It sends a signal to the unconscious that it’s a done deal and nothing can be done to change things because it is a statement of fact (even if it really isn’t one).

By using the ‘yet’ word you change the context and the emotion of the language. “I can’t lose weight” is a whole different ball game to “I haven’t managed to lose weight yet” The latter does two things. It pushes the problem into the past where it belongs and presupposes that things can and will change in the future. Hurrah!

8. Reframe It!

This is possibly the single most important skill you can use in changing your subjective experience, and one that the vast majority of highly successful people are good at.

Take a negative belief, situation, conversation etc and try and look at it from another point of view. Come up with as many positive scenarios as possible and don’t give up until you get at least one new perspective that makes you feel better about it.

The scenarios can be global i.e. by thinking “Oh well at least this is giving me some valuable experience” or they can be more local and specific when you look at just that particular event such as “Ok so the dog just threw up on the carpet, at least it’s not a new one, or that gives me an opportunity to buy a new one etc.”

People sometimes tell me this is unrealistic and I laugh in their face, metaphorically speaking of course. Who cares about realism if you feel better? Isn’t life about feeling good? Mine is.

You can reframe pretty much anything when you get good at it. Simply ask yourself the question “What else can this mean?

9. Anchor That Feeling

Once upon a time a man called Ivan from Ryazan in deepest darkest Russia had a dog. His dog loved steak and Ivan loved to feed him. He would ring his bell to let Roverski know his dinner was ready. The little scamp would bound up to eat salivating and licking his chops as he ran and would then wolf his food down like a wolf.

Then one day Ivan rang the bell with no food and Roverski attacked him and bit his face off. I’m not totally sure about that last bit, but it probably happened like that.

You probably know about Ivan Pavlov, his dog and his bell, so you also know what a conditioned response is.

If you have ever been violently ill after drinking tequila there is a very good chance you now avoid said beverage. The reason is your body has developed a conditioned response that makes you feel ill even before you drink the damn stuff.

That’s the downside, but the upside is you get to make some of your own. I know, how brilliant is that?

If you want confidence at the drop of a hat, you can have it. If you want calmness, you can have that too. You can even have fun if you want.

A word of warning though. Sometimes emotions are with us for good reason and turning yourself into Pollyanna is not advisable.

If you want to know more you’re gonna have to check out this YouTube demo because it would take too long to explain here.

10. Breathe

Do you know how many people breathe incorrectly? No, neither have I, but it’s a huge majority, so that probably includes you I’m sorry to say. Well big deal, what are the downsides you may be wondering? Oh nothing much, just a higher likelihood of having a heart attack and increased stress levels leading to other illnesses and poor sleep patterns.

Practice slow breathing from the diaphragm making sure your stomach rises first and you draw the air in from the bottom.  I know ladies, pushing your tummy out feels just ‘so wrong’ but probably not as wrong as being on a morphine drip.

If you have control of your breathing it is impossible to be anxious. If you don’t believe me, next time you feel panicky, check in with your breath. It will be shallower and more rapid than normal and much higher in your chest.

Push it back down where it belongs and you’ll start to relax accordingly.

11. What Is The Real Cost Of Procrastination

Do you procrastinate? Most of us do at least occasionally, but what is it costing you? Are you putting off feeling brilliant about yourself?

Think about what you have to lose if you don’t go all out for your dream. It may be helpful to write down a list of as many things as you can think of.

Look past the glaringly obvious for the knock on effects.

Remember; on the whole we regret more the things that we don’t do, than those we do. Promise to yourself that you’ll not sit on your talent a moment longer. Otherwise, you will not simply be doing a disservice to yourself, but also the people that will miss out on what you have to offer.

Of course this is primarily for you, but also I know you well enough now to believe it is for other people too.

12. Just Say No!

The more successful you become the more people will see you as a resource and want you to help them. Ask Alex how many requests he gets for help now compared to when he started his blog?

By disciplining yourself now you become better at it later. Think of people in your field that are super successful and you look up to. Do you think they have the time to say yes to everybody that wants some of their time? Do you think people think worse of them for that fact?

How many invitations do you think Oprah accepts in proportion to how many she declines? 100 to 1? 1,000 to 1? The fact is you can decline offers gracefully and without offending anybody, or you can take too much on and stress yourself senseless whilst the people that you are helping out are sunning themselves on the beach.

See #1 and put yourself first from time to time.

Tim Brownson is an Englishman, but we won’t hold that against him since he’s still awesome! He’s a certified Life Coach and has opinions the size of mountains over at ADaringAdventure.com. (Tim on Twitter)

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