anoobhooti

NEW YEAR

noreply@blogger.com (Renu) — Mon, 02 Jan 2012 04:37:00 +0000

There is this friend of ours who is such a fun loving person..actually thats the reason my husband got close to him..he is fun to be with and enjoys life to the hilt.Suddenly he got a jolt..one normal day he got some headache and then couldnt stand and was hospitalised..He had a stroke which doctors didnt realise initially..and then he was in ICU.he couldnt eat, speak or stand.....but thankfully now he is OK and recovering.

His son who is settled in US came immediately and here for 7 weeks and when we went to see him we met him and I came back so impressed..

That young man was so good in all respects.like he was so caring towards his father mother, doing everything like bringing tea, cold drink, snacks to us with so much ease. He was dressed in a very nice T and pant/pyjamas, he talked to nicely and intelligently,...what i really loved was

His dressing sense..I like to see people in neat dress,normally people coming from abroad think as if they have come to a slum and they dont need to dress properly here, or they dont give anybody importance...In my opinion we give importance to the host/guest by dressing properly.

No arrogance or I know everything attitude.which i see so common in people today.sometimes I really get fed up with people who keep arguing in the group.

He has completed the TRIATHLON IRON MAN

Very well mannered..came to see us off,sat there talking to us, got us cold drinks, snacks very properly and his attitude towards his parents...filled me with admiration and for me the new year starts with a very positive note that still we have good people who outnumber the others...we havent lost our culture and all.

WISHING YOU ALL A VERY HAPPY AND FULFILLING NEW YEAR!!!

PROGRESS

noreply@blogger.com (Renu) — Fri, 30 Dec 2011 06:34:00 +0000

One father sided with his DIL and grandchildren when his son had differences,because he thought that they were right, and the4 consequences..son took the divorce and when married again, he didnt even call his father who was in the same city..I felt so sad, how could children be like that?.Are the parents there to just support you and agree with you? dont they have the right to differentiate between right and wrong?.whats happening......

One couple who married against their parent's wishes wanted protection from police because they feared their parents, what has happened to parents?...how could they even think of killing their offsprings?.saying the right thing is their right, but taking lives is not...How can they even think of hurting their own children?
... They are a shame for the name of parents ...they dont deserve to be called parents.

Being parents mean looking after your children when they are young and always wishing them well and never doing anything to hurt them...please learn the meaning of parents..

FORCE

noreply@blogger.com (Renu) — Wed, 28 Dec 2011 04:18:00 +0000

FORCE

It was a hit movie , so I was interested, but felt very dissappointed.Its like the movies of 80,90 where villain created a mayhem everywhere.I dont like to see such violence and when police is shown efficient and still they are beaten, their families killed and raped..so what does their efficiency mean..nothing..they know everything and still are incompetent..thats why i loved Wanted and Dabangg..they were better crafted without mindless violence...The only plus point about this movie is Genelia..she always brings whiff of fresh air.. a delight to watch.....John has everything going for him, but story makes him a loser.

AARAKSHAN..
I nevr thought that Saif who is from a privileged back ground, could esaay the role of underprivileged, but he has done it,but Prateik is really good.One good thing about this movie is that they have said all there is for and against reservation, through all the characters and left it to the audience to decide what is good..though thru their protagonist they show that they are in favour of reservation. But at the same time they have shown the problems and miseries of poor upper class too.
Their solution is utopian and when we couldnt bring the underpriviloeged at par after 60 years of reservation, we must stop it.I favour the statement from Tanvi Aazmi that underprivileged must be given all the facilities for their primary education to bring them at par, but no reservation in either jobs or competitions.
Since it is a movie, they have ideal people like AB and his family, Tabelas so big that one can run instituions there...all sundry people supporting them.....

BODYGUARD
It is a very simple love story without any high octave scenes or situations..its just the treatment and Salman Khan who make it lovable and endearing..I liked it:)

If anybody is interested in watching some interesting serial, then please watch..AFSAR BITIYA....its a sheer delight to see real people and city and that girl.who is the protagonist.she is my ideal,and gets my respect all the way.A girl who does what she says..no dichotomy anywhere ..and she is independent without being rude or uncaring,simple without beeing foolish, I think if they go properly, this girl could be an icon..how a person should be..
This and the girl in Hitler didi..both get my support, thats the way to be...thats s the meaning of being modern, progressive to me.
..

ONE OR TWO

noreply@blogger.com (Renu) — Mon, 26 Dec 2011 04:57:00 +0000

Yesterday i had a very interesting discussions about children with a friend. I am of the view that all normal well to do couples must have atleast two kids..my thought being that this

Makes a happy family..
single child feels very lonely, here they get company.
Children need somebody very close to them whom they can confide and share their thoughts.
Since parents wont live forever, one must have someone related in blood.
One enjoys the life more, and festivals too

but their thoughts shook my faith, theb say..
Today nobody has time and they dont talk to their siblings very often.
people are located globally, so distances are too much too visit often.
financially also it is convenient to have one only.

what do you think?

Dignity in living

noreply@blogger.com (Renu) — Tue, 20 Dec 2011 08:38:00 +0000

Dignity..small word with big meaning......most of the people think that with age dignity comes naturally,though it should, but I have seen many old people behaving greedily, in a manner most unsuited to their age..like..

Once in a kitty party there were mostly aged woman..in their 60/s 70/s and all of them from wealthy families, that i knew because they were talking about no. of cars they have, how big their houses are and all that and when they played tambola, they wanted even 5/ to be divided in 3 people and given., they couldnt leave that to their friends...I was shocked,because I have never bothered about small things like that.

Then there was this old lady who was so miserly with domestic help that would never ever give anything to her whereas she would part with everything for her daughters or relatives....again shocking to me, because to me being good means doing things for others, For their own blood , everybody does and it is out of attachment, so it has no value to me.

I have seen many grown ups cheating in playing games at parties, old ladies helping their grand children in winning and cribbing when they couldnt..it all surprises me, because the people who cant keep their morals even in such small things, what can we expect from them?.where is that spirit of playing, playing fair and happily..why winning is so important?

And then that fatal attraction for food..my mother used to tell us when we were young that eating too much is never a good omen and takes away the wealth of the house and secondly any homemaker is Annpoorna and she brings prosperity to her home if she puts family over self...and we all siblings are like this..... will always keep things for others, like if any day quantity of cooked vegetable was less, then it will be left even after every body has eaten, because everyone will leave for the other one,sharing comes so easily to us, and so I feel very surprised when I see in the families people taking food without any thought to others,or distributing unequally,or keeping the best for self...

I think that with age one must exercise restrain..with everything, be it talking, eating,sightseeing or any type of greed.specially if they are not physically competent..since they have come to this age, it already means they have seen enough of everything...why not make your life a gift to others?..an inspiration....

DONT MESS WITH MOM:)

noreply@blogger.com (Renu) — Wed, 14 Dec 2011 09:48:00 +0000

My son came home from school one day, with a smirk upon his face.
He'd decided he was smart enough, to put me in my place.
"Guess what I learned in Civics Two,
that's taught by Mr. Wright?
It's all about the laws today,
The "Children's Bill of Rights."

It says I need not clean my room,
don't have to cut my hair.
No one can tell me what to think, or speak, or what to wear.
I have freedom from religion,
and regardless what you say,
I don't have to bow my head,
and I sure don't have to pray.
I can wear earrings if I want,
and pierce my tongue & nose.

I can read & watch just what I like,
and get tattoos from head to toes.
And if you ever spank me,
I'll charge you with the crime.
I'll back up all my charges,
with the marks on my behind.

Don't you ever touch me,
my body's only for my use,
not for your hugs and kisses,
that's just more child abuse.

Don't preach about your morals,
like your mama did to you.
That's nothing more than mind control,
And it's illegal too!

Mom, I have these children's rights,
so you can't influence me,
or I'll call Children's Services Division,
better known as C.S.D. "

Of course my first instinct was To toss him out the door
But the chance to teach a lesson made me think a little more.
I mulled it over carefully,
I couldn't let this go.

A smile crept upon my face,
he's messing with a pro.
The next day I took him shopping
at the local Goodwill Store I told him,
"Pick out all you want,
there's shirts & pants galore.
I've called and checked with C.S.D.,
who said they didn't care
if I bought you K-Mart shoes instead of those Nike Airs.
And I've canceled that appointment to take your driver's test.

The C.S.D. is unconcerned so I'll decide what's best.
" I said "No time to stop and eat, or pick up stuff to munch.
And tomorrow you can start to learn to make your own sack lunch.
Just save that raging appetite,
and wait 'til dinner time.
We're having liver and onions,
a favorite dish of mine."

He asked "Can I please rent a movie,
To watch on my VCR?"
"Sorry, but I sold your TV,
for new tires on my car.
I also rented out your room,
you'll take the couch instead.
The C.S.D. requires just a roof above your head.
Your clothing won't be trendy now,
and I'll choose what we eat.
That allowance that you used to get,
will buy me something neat.
I'm selling off your jet ski,
dirt-bike & roller blades.
Check out the "Parent's Bill of Rights,
" It's in effect today!
Hey hot shot, are you crying,
and why are you on your knees? Are you asking God to help you out, instead of C.S.D.?"

KHUDA KAY LIYE

noreply@blogger.com (Renu) — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 04:19:00 +0000

KHUDA KAY LIYE

I had heard a lot about it.This the story of Pakistani who went to London, settled there and married a British girl, and for that he is ridiculed in his community.And when his daughter Mary grows up and wants to marry a Britisher, he takes her to Pakistan with the promise that after coming back he would accept her boy friend.But once there he gets her forcibly married to her cousin.Mansoor and leaves her in a village where he cant stay even one more day as toilets are not good.

Mansoor has been brainwashed by a fanatic maulvi who thinks that music is prohibited by Islam and he makes him a jihaadi.

Mansoor's brother doesnt agree to him and goes to US to follow his dream in music and ther 9/11 happens and he becomes a victim of racial profil, goes to jail and tortured so much that looses his brain and then deported to pakistan to his family.

Mary tries to get away , but fails initially, later she manages to send a letter to london to his boy friend and is freed with the help of mansoor's parents and british Govt, and she takes his father to court in Pakistan. Their an educated and liberal maulvi(...impressive Naseeruddin shah) dispels all fanatics thought by quoting religious scriptures and declares that Islam is neither against women, nor music and jihad doesnt mean terrorism, its fight within against everything bad

What i liked about the movie is....

Heroine Iman Ali.she is very good and lovable.

First time I got to see Muslim movie with real people in the real environment, otherwise in India they show only caricatures.

Naseeruddin Shah:)

and what I disliked...

Mary staying back there..that was so illogical for an intelligent movie, and the girl who didnt know Urdu, putting up a board in that language..letting her go back would have been more effective.

Though Naseeruddin shah is very impressive, but it makes the movie sort of preaching only..if they had shown the change of heart thru incidents or people gradually..would have been better.

The angle of 9/11 was not needed,Second brother's plight was unnecessary..it made the story a little complex ..instead if they had shown more about Pakistan and the people there..would have been interesting .

Speedy Singhs

This is a NRI movie, just like bend it like Beckham,story is same, but it is interesting and the couple..Camilla belle and Vinay virmani, both are very good and look good, specially Camilla...I feel pity for Indian fathers who never support their children in fulfilling their dreams and always ridicule them, but when children reach the top, they come forward to claim that he or she is their child, they are not averse to glory then, and I feel proud of such children who make it despite all the hurdles.

STEPFORD Wives

This is a quite different type..
High profile wife(Nicole kidman) and her family go to Stepford to find peace and and make their marriage work. And they find there extraordinary peace and happiness in the people..all wives are so robotic in their smiles , work and looking after their husbands, and husbands are enjoying to he hilt and then it starts bothering Jo and when she investigates , she finds that all the wives have been turned into Robots by placing a chip in their brain..Then how she saves herself and gets back to her life.forms the story.

Goa-north goa

noreply@blogger.com (Renu) — Sat, 10 Dec 2011 05:18:00 +0000

it is country club resort at Anjuna Beach

Goa-north goa

we took a one day tour for north Goa, from Fernandes travels, here the buses are normal ones, no AC coaches.But in Goa, though weather is humid and sultry, breeze is so much, sometimes it looks as if you are going to fly with this fast wind,its really pleasant.North Goa is mainly beaches, first Miramamr beach,its in the city of Panaji,3 kms only,then Fort Aguada---this is actually a reservoir for water supply, as Aguada means water in portugese,its a 17th century fort,now looks like in ruins like in Mandu ,we passed thru a lake and boating point where dolphin shows are organise,sadly not there now a days(same reason-offseason),( i took this trip in July) for the namesake he took us to a temple also, nothing famous, as the famous shanta durga temple is on some height and one has to climb some stairs and all,passed through mapusa city,its famous for its friday bazar, not there now a days-again the same reason:(,its capital is Bardez,then to Vagator beach--here Rangeela was shot,and many other movie, its quite long and they say there is avery good statue of head of lord shiva made by some hippy,though we couldnt see it as it needs lot of walking and climbing rocky train, me being an old person not possible, but its surroundings were beautiful with tall tress all around, thought they are spread all over goa.Next is Calungate beach, this is the longest beach and very popular in the season and last is Anjuna in this tour, at Anjuna Musafir was shot:). We had lunch at vagator beach, as that was the scheduled spot from the tour management,and as usual it was not good food.
One thing I saw in Goa that most of the restaurants are bamboo shacks with music and all, and speciality everywhere is sea food,and most of the people sitting ,drinking, as wine,feni,bear everything is very popular and cheap here.
we always had dinner at our resort, as the vegetarian food was just superb over there with good service and very nice , romantic surroundings .(ducks roaming in the waterways-I liked watching them).

Note..I own a membership in Country club and I would like to rent out my time share sometimes.In Goa their resort is at Anjuna beach.a very good location and it has very good facilities too..rest places also one may check on their website.http://www.countryvacationsindia.com/..if anybody is interested in going there, please mail me ..it takes two weeks to get the reservations done.

SOME SHAYARI

noreply@blogger.com (Renu) — Fri, 09 Dec 2011 03:15:00 +0000

My nephew...Rahul keeps writing a lot, and this time when I saw his shayari, i was surprised to see a young boy writing so deeply..I am sharing some with you all......

"unhone hume kuch is tareh chod diya zindagi ke beech majdhar me.
..maut ki arzoo bhi na kar sakey hum unke laut ke aney ke intezaar me!!"

"mehfillo ki shano shaukat me bhi aapki baato jaisa maza kahan..
.pehle meelo ka safar kat jaata tha aapki zulfo ke saaye me...
.par ab toh hum ruk kar khoye rehte hai unhi chand palo ki yaado me...
.jhoota lagta hai ye sara sansaar...
.ek aapko chodke sach kuch bhi toh nahi!!"

"woh sheesha hi kya jisme aapki parchai na dikh sake....
.woh dil hi kya jisme aapki rooh na bas sake...
.zaroor dekhe honge aapne apne ashiq hazzar..
.par woh aashiq hi kya jo apke liye jal na sake..

.jaan toh khuda ki den hai jab chahe maaang lo..
.mera dil toh tumhare aankhoon ki roshni hai .
.isse jab chahe bhuja do"

"pani ki mithas toh koi pyasey se pooche...
.aapki muskaan ki khoobsoorti koi humse aise pooche jaise ambar ki sarhad koi pakshi se pooche...
.aapke liye is dil ki tadap koi humari dhadkan se pooche...
mit gaye pyar ke khel me kayi..
.jo zindagi mili mar ke koi humsey pooche...
har baar dil jalakar jo rohni mili koi humse pooche..
.tum jo ho agar kisi aur ke..
.ghayal wafa jo kuch reh gayi koi humse pooche"

"kyun aye ho tum meri zindagi me ek haseen nagma banke...
.reh na paunga me us judai ke alam me...
chale jao na tum ek chota sa haseen sapna banke!!"

Part 2

noreply@blogger.com (Renu) — Tue, 06 Dec 2011 04:44:00 +0000

For my last post, not many people gave their point of view, as I know that they neither can agree, nor would like to say that I am wrong...And my good friend Amrita thinks that since now I am a MIL I can think of that side only. aisa nahi ha.MILs USED to be like that but today tables have turned....whether someone believes it or not, I cant force anyone, but I try to be always fair in life...And whenever this topic comes, most of the readers go off the point and comment on generality.instead give your point of view on THAT particular point I am raising.because in one post we cant cover such a vast and volcanic relationship of Saas bahu:)

Now i am going to tell you some real things..how today girls are behaving and you tell me ..is all that right..when we are so vocal aabout MILs terming them monster inlaws and giving them a bad name/..today being a MIlL means a meek person always looking for appreciation/sanction from the younger lot for the myriad things she does for them..

A....she always gives her MIL stale and spoiled food, whereas she is cooking lot many things.but MIL always gets half cooked or burnt items.

B..when she was getting married.it was clearly told that boy is from an ordinary family and only son and parents are going to stay with them, but after marriage, she went on to stay separately and poor father is doing some small job to sustain himself ,........

C..She wouldnt cook for her MIL, and her food comes daily from a dhaba, whereas she goes on with her life
normally.

D..She asked her MlLnot to eat anything cooked by her, do everything herself, though her husband is a CEO and they are very affluent, but MIL is not supposed to take part of anything.

E..She starts crying even if she listens that her Ma is having high BP or something but ignores completely her MIL who is constantly battling with multiple diseases,..selective sensitivity.

F. A girl, asks the prospective groom..how many dust bins you have?..by dustbins she meant his family memebers,,,,though obviously she was not chosen.

I know many more incidences of being cruel and insensitive by DILs.now dont tell me that may be son is at fault or INLAWS have done something very wrong..I have quoted only those examples where inlaws are normal people..what will you say about them?

Just be impartial and tell me is all this right on part of girls?..is it okay to put aside your old parents like that, when they need you most..if we go on like this, a time will come when parents will also start being self centred, and it will be a sad day.

Yes women were victimised earlier, but we cant do one wrong to remove the other one...

.if earlier girls parents were looked down upon, then we cant humiliate boy's parents today..

Negative remedies never work for the betterment neither for people individually, nor for society..we must learnt to respect others first.

I read on someone's blog..today boys dont want to marry a girl who doesnt have brother..earlier older people used to think that without brother she will not have any peehar and all that , but one thing I know that those girls who dont have brothers have more radical thinking and sometimes not a balanced outlook, because they have seen only one side, they are fiercely protective of their parents and in a hurry to prove themselves that they are not any less than boys and in the process if some people are hurt so be it.And they are not bad at heart but they need to show the world..and assert themselves.

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SOME RANDOM THOUGHTS

noreply@blogger.com (Renu) — Thu, 01 Dec 2011 05:51:00 +0000

when 2G scam people got bail, there was so much of media coverage and welcome..why? were they coming out after doing something extraordinary.or patriotic or it was some achievement?

Why papers brand people..like two Bihari students nabbed..was there any necessity to write Bihari?..was the crime associated with their home town?

Why all the negative news and people are given front page and rest the last? why give publicity to bad people?

Why Neetu Chandra is a permanent feature in TOI page 3 everyday ? is there any connection?..Now dont ask me who is that..thats what I wonder, because she doesnt have much on her achievements list, still given all the space all the time.....

Why in any insurgent operation, media highlights that they were tracked because of informers?.why put them in danger?.and i thought informers were protected.

ANGRY TINY TOTS

noreply@blogger.com (Renu) — Mon, 28 Nov 2011 06:06:00 +0000

Yes that was the title of the article in TOI...children are getting angry and aggressive at a very young stage and the reason specialists attribute it to is...parenting.or atleast it has the biggest role.

Today parents want to give children everything they couldnt get as a child, never thinking about what is good for them.

Parents pamper the children with things..in the process making them feel that things are most important in life.

And the kids are growing up to be self centred and materialistic and want to get everything fast and not with much efforts.

children should be taught from the beginning....
the value of restraint,
importance of hard work..that nothing comes free
Living within means..today people say that Indian economy is most resilient, then it is because of Indian habits of saving ,living within means, but if we adopt the habits of living like there is no tomorrow, or living on credit cards, we shall be there sooner or later..in the recession....

SIBLINGS

noreply@blogger.com (Renu) — Thu, 24 Nov 2011 04:39:00 +0000

Yesterday I was reading outlook money.my favourite magazine and there was an article by Sumana Mukherjee about financial inequality in siblings and its effect on relationships.

Earlier when there were many siblings, it was well nigh impossible for all of them to be in the same league, though today with one or two children its possible,.So is it possible to maintain cordiality without jealousy and sarcasm?

I think it is possible and for that everybody needs to be sensitive, not to his/her own feelings but for others.For those who are well off..they must restrain a little when with others, conversations shouldnt be all the time about acquiring things only, rather the time together should be spent in common interests.Never thrust your affluence in other's face....
And those not so well off, they need to develop some confidence that their family loves them, and money doesnt make the life go round.They must learn to live happily within their means without expecting to get anything from siblings or grudging them their riches.

Life is all about perspectives....this is mine what about you?

MERE BROTHER KI DULHAN

noreply@blogger.com (Renu) — Mon, 21 Nov 2011 04:46:00 +0000

The movie starts with a fight between Luv(Ali Jaffer) and his girl friend Piyali Patel in London and they break up after a long relationship of 5 years and then calls his brother Kush( Imran) in India to find him a girl, as he wants to marry and settle down.And the search starts and they find it is not so easy..Then thru some advt, they come across Dimple( katrina ) who has lived in London all the time and is a total Bindaas girl who is misunderstood in India..both point of views are very good like...
in India any girl who is carefree and wears mini or Western clothes is considered easy and slut and everybody thinks that she could sleep with everyone.
Every country has its own culture and sensibilities and there is nothing wrong or right in them, but one has to either live accordingly or bear the consequences.
She is chosen and the preparation starts and suddenly it dawns on both..Kush and Dimple , that they are in love..and now the movie is all about their planning about getting each other in a respectable way.

The movies is good, Imran's understated acting always is so endearing and katrina has also done it very well, except a few places where she is over the top.
All in all worth a watch:)

Difficult Daughters...Manju Kapur

noreply@blogger.com (Renu) — Thu, 17 Nov 2011 13:12:00 +0000

For a long time I have been looking to read something by this writer and last week when I went to Hyderabad and my friend told me that she had bought it, I was thrilled, I asked her to give it to me as i would finish it in two days.

This is a story of Veermati set in the Punjab before partition. Veermati belongs to a wealthy family with her grandfather and father both being Aryasamaji believe in educating the girls.And when she falls for her neighbour..and oxford educated professor who is already married with a child, some blame comes on education too.Everything is so natural and real here, the back ground, living style, language..everything..It shows that in earlier times children were married in the childhood, as the professor is and when he grows up into a well educated intellectual, he feels no compatibility with his wife, he tries to educate her, but she is not interested. And though in all other respects she is a good wife and daughter.inlaw, he feels deprived and falls for a young beautiful girl who is studying.So far so good, but if he lacked that feeling of companionship only why he lusts after her and makes an illicit relationship with her?..why couldnt he be satisfied with a platonic relationship only.and then he is not shown as a good father even,somewhere he abandons his family for the girl..Here he falls from my eyes, he is a very intelligent man, but not with a good character.The story is shown thru the eyes of Veermati.as it happens..
The description of joint families, how the girls were treated and how much families cared for good will and respect in the society.everything is shown as it was..very interesting read..after a long time I read something with real people and real characters

Tag from manasa

noreply@blogger.com (Renu) — Sun, 13 Nov 2011 05:00:00 +0000

If I were a month, I’d be November..weather is good and has my Bday too:)

If I were a day of the week, I’d beMonday..I like to get up fresh and start the work:)

If I were a time of day, I’d be Morning...love to have my tea with newspaper and computer both.

If I were a season, I’d be the autum !

If I were a planet, I’d be Moon!

If I were an animal, I’d be the bird who could soar high!

If I were a direction, I'd be the South!

If I were a piece of furniture, I’d be a side table where one keeps the most important things of the day!

If I were a liquid, I’d be Water!

If I were a tree, I’d be a Coconut!

If I were a tool, I’d be screw driver which can repair evrything

If I were an element, I’d be gold ..pure and real...gets better with tribulations.!

If I were a gemstone, I’d be coral!

If I were a musical instrument, I’d be dholak!

If I were a color, I’d be white!

If I were an emotion, I’d be Hope or courage !

If I were a fruit, I’d be a banana..complete food!

If I were a sound, I’d be the song of the nightingale !

If I were a car, I’d be Tata sierra!

If I were food, I’d be rasogulla!

If I were a taste, I’d be sweet!

If I were a scent, I’d be fragrance of jasmine!

If I were a pair of shoes, I'd be tall and confident!

If I were a bird, I’d be a crow who brings uo other's kids as his own.

If I were a Fast bowler, I’d be the ....!..i dont like cricket:)

If I were a Batsman, I’d be the ...!

It was a tag given to me long back,and I am doing it now,I would like to tag..Harman,Bikram, A,Bhagyashree and sandhya

HAPPINESS?

noreply@blogger.com (Renu) — Wed, 09 Nov 2011 05:17:00 +0000

Recently I read on Jyothi's blog..is everyone happy?..good question! Could we ever be happy forever?..Happiness is a very momentary feeling and whenever someone does something in accordance with our feelings we are happy.But all the time happy....quite a difficult task, as all the time we cant expect the world to behave to our liking..
But we can be at peace all the time if we detach ourselves a little with the results.We may do our duty and the right thing and then stop worrying about the results.Many people keep advising me that now that i have fulfilled my duties in life, I must live Bindaas, not worry about others and say and do what I like.And i shouldnt at all think about people younger to me but say the right thing. But that is not possible in a civilised society. We can never do anything if it might hurt others.Saying the right thing is also useful only if it makes any difference in a positive way.But then any relationship which cants sustain the truth or has no tolerance is not worth keeping also.And older people have more responsibilities in keeping the decorum and being kind, I dont like old people to be selfish, or manipulative or unkind as I feel that if not whole life, but now when we are so near to god, we can leave aside worldly temptations and may try to be a little saintly.we have enjoyed the life and done everything, now just be good.

I see so many people who try to show off as if they are the only good people and they do only good, but show them the mirror, they cant stand it.Truth is never easy to face,never easy to understand.

So many times I think that we must divide the life into phases and there must be a fixed time for shouldering the responsibilities and for living free of obligations. According to me..

From birth to 20 years..this time should be fully devoted to education, children shouldnt be given any responsibilities.big or small, instead this time should be spent in building health, character and education only.

From 20-40..is time to indulge, make careers, and families and enjoy.and do whatevr you want to do with your life, build it in your own way.

40-60..This is the time for responsibilities, towards your family,,including parents, and society.

After 60..one must live.Bindaas...without any responsibility..neither of parents, nor children, do everything as you like, without any pressure.Because I feel, that atleast some time should be in life when you can live as an individual, in your own way..it is a dream for me.

What do you think?

Baby Pigeons

noreply@blogger.com (Renu) — Mon, 07 Nov 2011 08:54:00 +0000

Baby Pigeons?
==============

Have you ever wondered why you don't see baby pigeons?

Have you ever wondered why pigeons spend so much time walking
when they could be flying?

Some of US spend so much time walking when we could be flying.

This is why you don't see Baby pigeons -

First of all, unlike other birds, pigeons hide their nests.
When they emerged in Asia, pigeons were cliff-dwellers. Now
they build their messy nests of sticks inside the guts of
bridges, or atop tall buildings, or on top of your air
conditioner.

Also, pigeons are very protective and babying parents. They lay
only two eggs at a time, and spoil those babies shamefully. By
the time they leave the nest, the babies are almost the same
size as their parents.

That's why you don't see baby pigeons.

The parents spoil the kids by keeping them sheltered and inside
away from the world until they are almost grown.

Is it any wonder why they fly as little as possible?
Think about that the next time you see a pigeon,
a big one walking.

Source.email

noreply@blogger.com (Renu) — Fri, 04 Nov 2011 05:19:00 +0000

There are some advertisements which click with you as soon as you see..some of them are.....

FLIP CART..here they dress children as adults and they talk also in adult tone.best is the one where two children dresses as software people are taking milk from a vending machine..and in one two little girls getting beauty treatment..really hilarious.

RELIANCE MOBILE.one with Anushka and Ranvijay..all the situations shown are funny, but the best is where on boy's mother's bday girl calls first and enjoys his discomfort:)

BRU COFFEE..one with Shahid and Priyanka, where priyanka has damaged Shahid's car.

AIRTEL..the latest ones.har ek friend jaroori hota ha..specially the one in restaurant where a boy tell his budget constraint to the waiter and he manages the girls..

HISTORY CHANNEL..with Salman khan

HDFC BANK..that one..sar utha ke jiyo, where a son tries to help his father in getting down from the train and fathers wants to do so on his own..

Whenevr i see them, I feel that bthere are very few advertisement with celebrities,which have any recall quality and none is exceptional..its always the ideas which click, then why they spend so much on getting filmstars?

Now some of the ads which I dont like at all...

CADBURY..where a boss(Jugal hansraaj) rewards an inefficient secretary with choclates)..what sort of advt is this?

Hema malini praising a washing powder or

Madhuri dixit telling us about dish washing soap..how more ridiculous it can be?

Shahrukh advocating fairness cream to boys....

All those soap ads, they are so misleading...

And that Harpic one..ugh:(

what is your list?

GIFTS

noreply@blogger.com (Renu) — Tue, 01 Nov 2011 05:04:00 +0000

Diwali is awaited with so so much of enthusiasm and now its gone:(.and it is synonymous with gifts.Dont know why but I am not a gracious person while accepting gifts, I feel very awkward too.So many times I keep mulling that from the next year i will take a vow not to accept anything from anyone..then postpone it for another year:).Actually now at my age I dont want to take anything..I just want to give..though my hubby says that if you dont take, then you cant give also:)

Lot many people decide the type and amount of gift depending on the status of recipient,rich people get opulent gifts,whereas not so make do with ordinary things. whereas I think gifts should be decided by the status of the person who si giving..and I keep thinking that I must have that uniformity in mind, but then mind starts thinking that wouldnt it be injustice to a person who is giving you more? and I am always in a confusion about what is right..and if are you are reading my blog regularly, you must be knowing by now that I have this fetish for doing the right thing always.To me being righteous and fair is very important...and on the other hand I dont like to be taken for granted too.

So what do you think is the right way?..Should we always reciprocate only? or should we keep giving even if some people dont?

THE CAT

noreply@blogger.com (Renu) — Sat, 29 Oct 2011 05:32:00 +0000

The Cat
========

Dwight Nelson recently told a true story about the pastor of his
church.

He had a kitten that climbed up a tree in his backyard and then
was afraid to come down. The pastor coaxed, offered warm milk,
etc. The kitty would not come down.

The tree was not sturdy enough to climb, so the pastor decided
that if he tied a rope to his car and drove away so that the
tree bent down, he could then reach up and get the kitten.

He did all this, checking his progress in the car frequently,
then figured if he went just a little bit further, the tree
would be bent sufficiently for him to reach the kitten.

But as he moved a little further forward, the rope broke.

The tree went "boing!" and the kitten instantly sailed through
the air - out of sight.

The pastor felt terrible.

He walked all over the neighborhood asking people if they'd seen
a little kitten. No. Nobody had seen a stray kitten. So he
prayed, "Lord, I just commit this kitten to your keeping," and
went on about his business.

A few days later he was at the grocery store and met one of his
church members. He happened to look into her shopping cart and
was amazed to see cat food. Now this woman was a cat hater and
everyone knew it, so he asked her, "Why are you buying cat food
when you hate cats so much?"

She replied, "You won't believe this," and told him how her
little girl had been begging her for a cat, but she kept
refusing. Then a few days before, the child had begged again,
so the Mom finally told her little girl, "Well if God gives you
a cat, I'll let you keep it?"

(Can you see where this is heading?)

She told the pastor, "I watched my child go out in the yard, get
on her knees, and ask God for a cat. And really, Pastor, you
won't believe this, but I saw it with my own eyes.

A kitten suddenly came flying out of the blue sky, with its paws
outspread, and landed right in front of her."

Never underestimate the Power of God and what may appear to be
breaking on one end, is answering prayer on another.

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AMITABH BACCHAN

noreply@blogger.com (Renu) — Tue, 25 Oct 2011 04:52:00 +0000

I havent been a big fan of Amitabh bacchan , as a person, but this time I watched a few episode of KBC and I am hooked.He is so cordial and nice to everybody and makes everyone so happy. The format of show has also changed a little..now there is more interaction with the contestants, a sort of bon homie being generated and contestants from the unprivileged section are getting more chances..its all so heartening to see.

Here I am quoting what AB wrote on his blog..its worth reading.....

Each contestant that I meet on the sets of KBC expresses similar desire. They are of challenged means. They have not the luxury of home and house of their own, yet all they ever want is to create an environment in the house so that their entire family can come together and live together. This desire to remain together, to care and consider the conditions of their elders is one that is universally expressed each day. And for this I wish to thank all those that think similar. These old concepts of being under one roof, has been through the test of time and the largest percentage of our people believe and thrive that thus be achieved. The grace the beauty and the warmth of such conditioning is what fills me with pride for my countrymen and women. Let not our traditions break or be diluted or polluted, by the ill guided thoughts from other regions. Our studies and scriptures and all that the wise may ever have thought of is by itself a wonder. It is an entire dedicated wanting which some of us, mostly from the metro region fail to understand. But let me say this, that culturally and in every other way, our system has been through the test of time. Thousands of years of our history and belief has been designed by those great souls after immense study and research, in conclusion of which it would be fairly correct to say that what they did do has proven to be correct and wise.

I would spend the rest of my life in guilt and remorse if I were to, in some small way, forego the idea of looking after my parents as they grew older. They caught my little finger and taught me how to walk along with them. In their old age, when the walk for them is like a discovery of another continent, will we be able to hold their hands and help them to walk, albeit almost child like, to their destination.

Whereas Big boss start disappointed completely..Sanjay Dutt is not needed there, rather he is making it drab., and then participants.barring a few, all are nobodies, and dont generate any interest.
Earlier I always used to deride TV soap, as most people do calling them saas bahu soaps and all that, but I realised that inspite of everything they have certain good points, ....
Like most of them emphasise the value of discipline in a family,
Most of the members make effort to assimilate in a family,
Most give importance to hard work and home cooked food.
All of them love good values and traditions,

So I can say that soaps are not bad only, its the people who are watching are not taking good things but only the indulgence, earlier people always idolised the hero and heroine in the film and both were seen as virtuous people, today many people may be liking the villains and vamps, because protagonists even today are very hard working and righteous.

A VERY HAPPY DEEPAWALI
संसृष्टं धनमुभयं समाकृतमस्मभ्यं दत्तां वरुण्श्च मन्यु: I
भियं दधाना हृदयेषु शत्रव: पराजितासो अप नि लयन्ताम्‌ II

Festivals

noreply@blogger.com (Renu) — Thu, 20 Oct 2011 06:19:00 +0000

This time of year is my favourite as most of the festivals fall in this period.Though sometimes in a month I have 15 days fast:)Last week was karvachauth.And I feel amused to see how the face of festivals have changed. In our childhood festivals meant cleaning the house, decorating it and lots and lots of cooking and making sweets and snacks and then distributing. To a some extent it is still like that for me.We dont cook or light a gas only in mourning, so its considered bad omen not to cook on festivals.But today its a given that many of the women dont cook on Karvachauth and their hubbies take them out to dinner.But I dont do that, I still make special dishes and we have a sumptuous dinner on all the festivals.Then we give byana to MILs...and MILs give sari and other gifts to DIL..basically these give and takes were meant to bring them together..MILs welcome the new entrant into their family with love and gifts and DILS give the gifts to get blessings and as a thanks giving to the person because of whom they got their husband.....In any family women were considered more important, so all the shaguns were made for women,because its only woman who makes or breaks a home.

Today is Ahoi Ashtami and again fasting for children..I was just thinking that many women query that do men fast for us then why should we? but do the children fast for us then why should we? But I dont go into that frame of mind at all...I am missing my children and the no. has increased this year with my little angel:)...On ashtami I make all the chaat items and my daughter used to love that, so I miss her very much.
I believe in celebrating all the festivals with festive spirit and following the traditions and rituals, as they always teach us something,..like to adjust,to work hard(with all the cooking and cleaning),how to live with community and a feeling of sharing, only we must be ready to learn. And they are our roots, we cant be happy far away from our roots.

EAT PRAY AND LOVE

noreply@blogger.com (Renu) — Tue, 18 Oct 2011 04:21:00 +0000

BUDDHA HOGA TERA BAAP

I had seen the trailers and they were quite amusing. This movie is actually more of a documentary about Amitabh Bacchan.AB is a gangster who has left India and living in Paris running a pub. When he gets to know that his son is being targeted by mafia, he comes back to save him.Sonu Sood is his son and Hema malini his wife And Raveena his girlfriend.The director couldnt decide what he wanted to make, because it starts in a comic way and ends seriously..If one wants to take it in a light way, its ok, but if you take it seriously, then itsa all wrong. What I liked was....
When Hema says that she left him because of his gangster ways, AB asks her..we first met when i was in handcuffs..then you didnt realise I was a gangster, when you came to see me in jail, you didnt know that i was a gangster, you loved me and married, only after our son was born you realised that....
and she left him in the jail later on and vanished.
Charmme kappor..the daughter of Raveena is really charming and delight to watch..the scene where she comes to know that Ab likes baigan ka bharta and she too, but her dad doesnt and she makes two and two five:)..is really hilarious.

ZINDAGI NA MILEGI DUBARA
Recently I read an interview of Zoya Akhtar where she didnt like people saying that she has made the movie as promo of Spain, but when I saw the movie i also felt the same..its more about the city, less about the characters.And at some places.like the diving scene, it looks like we are watching discovery channel.Secondly it is made for a very niche audience. I dint like it much..what felt..
Farhan Akhtar..his character is shown like a cheapo./or I dont know why but he doesnt get my respect at all.
Characters are not developed at all..
Hritik is best in the dance scene and show his skills to the best.where you dont want to even check the other two....
Abhay Deol is the best in this one....
Kalki looks more in her character than Katrina kaif....
What i totally dislike is people jumping into bed casually..before any commitment...but it happens in most of the movies.

EAT PRAY AND LOVE
Its about a divorcee(julia Roberts) going to India and Indonesia to find herself.What irritated me is that about India they show only crowded roads, jammed traffics, garbage, begging kids, dirty places...is that all to India, why couldnt they show a beautiful drive, because thats what a foreigner coming to India will see as Delhi has beautified roads, but no.........Then whatever the character they take from India, they are all non descriptive actors.very ordinary in everything be it looks or acting or appearance, why make them stand beside your best.Julia roberts..why not take some of our best or may be medium label and then see how they fare...
anyway she stays in a AShram here and then goes to Indonesia, where she finds all answers and in Indonesia ..they show all the beauty and goodness..anyone who only sees this movie and knows nothing about Indonesia and India will form a conclusion that Indonesia is a nice place with good markets and beauty and India is a poor filthy country whereas its far from the truth.......
But I envy the freedom dollar grants to people there..going anywhere, getting the best and doing what they want, would love to get that freedom..financially and socially(but of course within morality rightly).

Some misconceptions

noreply@blogger.com (Renu) — Sat, 15 Oct 2011 05:56:00 +0000

I read on Harman"s blog about how people have certain myths. I have also experienced it and some more.People have certain biases or preconceived notions like....

Any one who speaks good English is a learned man, whereas its only a language proficiency only.And fluency in English doesnt indicate the intelligence or knowledge..

Anyone who cant speak English is not worth knowing, as he doesnt know much, whereas he might be a real learned man..its time we differentiate in real sense.

Anyone dressed well is competent and if not well.sloppy..but this definition also limits to appearance only, many fashionable and well dressed people are totally dumb otherwise.Fashion is a choice of dressing only, it doesnt have anything to do with intellect.

Fair complexion and beauty and youth is given preference everywhere..whereas there are some professions which demand it..like this time in AI..air hostesses there were so aged,plump and ordinary looking, and their service was very poor without any smile, so it irritates the passengers, and same for glamour world, we watch TV for entertainment, and deserve to see good looking and fit people ..but otherwise in every profession looks dont count and shouldnt...and same in personal life too..after a time its only the qualities of a person which make them endearing.

Some people call GANWAR to anyone who is traditional and gives importance to Indian way of life,or doesnt speak in modern lingo, doesnt call people by names, instead with didi, bhabhi etc...to me GANWAR means a person who doesnt have manners and etiquette's and doesnt respect elders and love children, is not kind to others etc.
With the influx of arrogant girls, today boys are getting lot of misconceptions, like my nephew says that he would like to marry only a girl from a small town and not highly educated one because he wants a close knit family where the new entrant respects the elders, but it is not that all big city girls dont value families or dont want to work in the house or are ill mannered, and same goes for the other side too.not all small town girls are family oriented....My two friends have DILs who are doctors, one of them works, but still cares and does a lot for family, second one is not working even..and out of choice only, and totally being a homemaker keeps a fabulous house and does everything to even perfection.so its only individuals only and what makes difference is their upbringing.

Some people have regional biases also, but I have seen good, bad all sort of people everywhere.I see lot of biased behaviour in south too..like vegetable seller charging me double and not treating me well,making me wait,auto rikshas and bus driver not stopping for me,maids asking double rates etc etc, but in comparison to those few I find more people who are nice and friendly and I remember them and feel happy.

To me real education lies in thinking without a bias.be it regional,caste or creed.

One thing I would like to add..that in north, they have this complex obsession even among themselves, for many old people beauty meant fair complexion, irrespective of feature, height wt or figure..nothing else mattered..girl could be short, fat,big teeth, no hair,no brain, but if she is fair, she will do:)..once I had someone in my sasural, who was such a bore with her dumbness, and big mouth,she couldnt talk about anything sensibly,..but was considered beautiful just because of that one thing..:)..from the beginning i taught and wanted my children to think beyond.the appearances....

anoobhooti

NEW YEAR

PROGRESS

FORCE

ONE OR TWO

Dignity in living

DONT MESS WITH MOM:)

KHUDA KAY LIYE

Goa-north goa

Goa-north goa

SOME SHAYARI

Part 2

SOME RANDOM THOUGHTS

ANGRY TINY TOTS

SIBLINGS

MERE BROTHER KI DULHAN

Difficult Daughters...Manju Kapur

Tag from manasa

HAPPINESS?

Baby Pigeons

ADVERTISEMENT

GIFTS

THE CAT

AMITABH BACCHAN

Festivals

EAT PRAY AND LOVE

Some misconceptions