Forum Discussions - Attachment Parenting Europe Network

strict sleeping times

2013-05-10T19:27:55.862Z

Who can give me advise about fixed sleeping times? My 3-month old baby boy isn't a briljant sleeper... People tell me I should learn him strict sleeping times, f.e. every night around 6.30 pm. But others in the range of AP give the advise to let the child decide when he wants to sleep. I really don't know what to do. Who can give me good advise. I can't make up my mind and my son feels this... Hope you'll help me!

Niet willen tandenpoetsen

2013-03-26T12:14:58.346Z

Hoi.

Mijn dochter (ruim 1,5) wil de laatste nooit dat ik haar tanden poets. In de afgelopen 2 maanden stond ze het welgeteld 3 keer toe... Daarvoor was ze ook geen fan, maar ging het nog.

Ik maak me soms wat zorgen. Wat moet dat nog worden in de toekomst als het nu al zo gaat? En zij krijgt 's nachts ook nog borstvoeding. Ik heb gelezen dat melkflescaries zeldzaam is bij bv, maar vaker voorkomt bij een laag fluoridegehalte en nachtelijke voedingen.

Dwingen is uiteraard geen optie. Maar zingen helpt niet, zelf laten poetsen ook niet (dan beweegt ze zelf wat, maar ik mag er niet aan zitten, dus poetsen kun je dat niet noemen). Ze ziet mij wel poetsen. Hoe doen jullie dat?

Gr. Annemarie

Slaapproblemen met peuter

2013-01-22T21:54:55.752Z

Heeft er iemand ervaring met slaapproblemen met een peuter? Onze zoon van 2 jaar 8 mnd slaapt bij ons in bed in, met een van ons erbij. Dat hebben we vanaf het begin zo gedaan. Als wij zelf later gaan slapen, leggen we hem in z’n eigen bedje naast dat van ons. Maar het duurt tegenwoordig soms wel twee uur voordat hij eindelijk slaapt en wij worden er stapelgek van. Ik ben 8 mnd zwanger van de tweede en maak me grote zorgen over hoe dat straks moet. Mijn man wil, naar aanleiding van het gedoe met onze oudste, de tweede zelf leren inslapen. Dat wil ik niet, want ben het eens met bovenstaande visie.

Als we ons zoontje uitleggen dat we niet twee uur lang met hem in bed kunnen en willen blijven liggen, dat we naar beneden gaan maar vlakbij zijn en dat hij mag roepen als er iets is, levert dat steevast op dat hij vreselijk verdrietig wordt. Het maakt niet uit wat we doen of zeggen, hij voelt zich afgewezen. Wij kunnen het niet over ons hart verkrijgen om hem te negeren, maar hebben ook geen goed antwoord op de situatie. En avond aan avond deze strijd maakt ons allemaal boos en verdrietig en we verliezen het vertrouwen. Wie heeft hier ervaring mee, of heeft er een idee over wat ons zou kunnen helpen?

Attachment Parenting Europe: continue at Ning.com, or ...?

2012-11-11T18:57:18.801Z

This was also sent to all members by email:

Hello all,

this message is about continuation of the Attachment Parenting Europe forum.

I would like to know if there is interest to keep the service up at http://attachmentparenting.ning.com. We are at 299 members, but hardly any discussion is taking place unfortunately.

Nowadays Facebook and the (Dutch) yahoogroups seem to be more attractive as a meeting place online. Ning.com in theory has much potential, but if hardly anyone makes use of it, I'd rather spend the money on other things to promote AP and get people around Europe connected.

So here's my question: if you'd like to keep the ning.com site alive, please post something about Attachment Parenting, ask a question, share a story a photo or video. Also single issue groups can be started, just PM me with suggestions. These subgroups can be closed, invite only or open and also in a different languages than English.

If you prefer Facebook, please join one of the following groups (or both of course):

AP Europe group in English:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/apeurope/

AP groep in het Nederlands:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/natuurlijkouderschap/

kind regards,

hartelijke groeten,

Bernadette

www.attachmentparenting.eu

www.natuurljkouderschap.org

Help! Biting while breastfeeding

2012-08-17T08:53:32.908Z

Hi all,
my son is 8 months now and has been biting down on my breast whenever I've started nursing him all week. Every time he does this I use my finger to unlatch him and say in a firm voice "no biting" and put him on the bed beside me for about a minute. He mostly cries in fristration when I do this and I sooth him with my hand and then pick him up and cuddle him until I try nursing him again. My son usually starts to feed without biting after we've done this a few times, but by that stage I would have been bitten at least 3 times and it's extremely painful. My son has two bottom teeth and I'm sure he is probably teething again this week, which is why he really wants to bite the breast.

I suppose I thought that by consistently being firm and removing him from the breast for the past 4 days that he'd have got the message by now. Both he and I just love breastfeeding and it's so much more than nutrition for my son. It's actually also how he falls asleep and stays asleep. My son does not suck from bottles and rejects dummys. He will drink from a beaker. But I am just so worried that I might have to wean him from breastfeeding before we are both ready if he continues to bite when his upper teeth have come down.

Just to add, I'm following advice on making sure he has a good latch and nursing is a distraction free setting, giving him loads of eye contact, holding his head near to maintain a good latch etc. My son is a very persistent and strong willed character. I suppose I am just wondering if people could share with me how long this could last? And will it keep happening every time he is teething? I am just finding it all so stressful as breastfeeding is so important to us.

:-D Susan

Baby op het potje (EC training)

2012-04-03T19:42:51.374Z

Vanaf een ander topic... :)

Wat leuk om te horen dat dat allemaal zo goed gaat Katja! Hoe gaat het met baby-op-het-potje/ ¨EC¨? Ik heb zojuist diaper free baby gelezen.

Book for fathers?

2012-03-30T13:00:06.470Z

Does anyone know a specific book (in the mindset of AP),

which is written for fathers in particular?

Thank you!! :-)

Big Bang Theory star Mayim Bialik writes a book on AP

2012-03-29T08:33:11.512Z

Hallo y'all!

For those of you who haven't heard about it yet, the actress that plays Amy Farrah Fowler in the BBT, and who also holds a PhD in Neuroscience, has just published a book on her life as an attachment parent!

It's called Beyond the sling and from the excerpts I read, I think I want it on my bookshelf as soon as possible!

It is out since March 6th and it already has a dozen reviews on Amazon.com! It means it's probably a very easy read... Well, it's not a manual, but rather an autobiography, that covers topics from birth to co-sleeping, from vaccinations to elimination communication and babywearing. I think we can all identify ourselves with some of these, no!?

Here is a link to the book.

Enjoy!

Neli

babysitting or are engaged grandparents requirent for AP?!!

2012-02-05T15:28:36.634Z

We need help! And advice!

How do attachment parents manage separation? I have a 4 and a half year old and a 1 year old. We've managed one theatre show - usually in the afternoon - per year for 4 years. We tried going to a concert once and leaving them with a lovely friend, who is also an AP and has a little boy they both know and love, in our house, and it was a disaster. The two babies ended up miserable and competing. Our babe was inconsolable. We don't use TV for children.

It's just that to parent as a unit, you sometimes need time together. Our reflexes are so different. I am trying to study for a course and if he minds the kids and someone gets hurt I still end up there first.

We've not been for a walk on our own or to the cinema in nearly 5 years. I feel such a failure, because I am sure I am responsible for all the contributory factors (bar teething!). I don't really know where to start.

How do you deal with going out and:

babysitting coupled with a love of breastfeeding at night and refusal to take any kind of drink including boob from bottle - she feeds at least 4 times in the night

attachment - our one year old cries the minute I walk from the room (if she walks out she doesn't incidentally), or zip up and down stairs

teething and breastfeeding and babysitting

Is it in the choice of the babysitter? Relatives/friends only want to take our older child to play, Grandparents won't take the youngest even for short periods, and I don't think taking babies to some adult environments (cinema, concerts) works for them or for us, or, let's face it, for the other adults who have succeffully navigated the babysitting relationship and got their kids sorted.

and how on earth do people get children to bed before 8.30 if their kids won't eat properly? Neither of our children is really into food, both were/are breastfed. The older one has taken - once I timed it (and I wasn't commenting or encouraging) - over an hour on one half of a sandwich.

all advice gratefully treasured!

Bijeenkomst Almere / Meeting Almere

2011-11-04T20:06:53.889Z

Hallo,

Op 21 november is er van 10.00 uur tot 12.00 uur een AP bijeenkomst in Almere (wijk Poort)

Geinteresseerden kunnen contact opnemen met dboskma@gmail.com

Groetjes,

Diana