The art of Being Asperger Woman

Alive and kicking...

noreply@blogger.com (Aspie Bird) — Wed, 12 Apr 2017 07:03:00 +0000

What can one write after having been away from this blog for such a long time? Learned a lot during these years, moved homes, and made new friends. Currently working on new projects. Take care

noreply@blogger.com (Aspie Bird) — Mon, 24 Aug 2015 08:34:00 +0000

noreply@blogger.com (Aspie Bird) — Thu, 25 Sep 2014 14:57:00 +0000

Well, I am still alive. Been busy. Getting older and that means different questions about life. Over all I am doing OK. Ahead of several important choices. Life is a crosspoint at this time. Asperger still is a thing I have a love/hate relation with. My book wants to be written, one can best listen to one's inner voice. So, I keep on writing. Take care.

noreply@blogger.com (Aspie Bird) — Tue, 13 Aug 2013 13:14:00 +0000

Hello there, It has been a while. Been busy with lots of things. I have done quit some things for the first time. Most of them turned out to go well. That is great and encourages me to explore new horizons. Still thinking about the design of this blog. Recently started writing again. The writing process is fascinating, but one must get routine, and most important, create time and a good place to write. That's all for now. Take care. Be back soon hopefully. A.Bird.

noreply@blogger.com (Aspie Bird) — Fri, 01 Feb 2013 15:51:00 +0000

January has brought me lots of happy hours walking in the cold outside, watching the birds to fly over. Been busy finding new voluntary work, and it seems I had success. In a cultural setting nearby my new home town. I write a lot now. That is good. When I write, I feel like I run like Rudisha or Pistorius. My thoughts are with the Steenkamp and Pistorius. What a tragedy! my life ars of my life. And in the middle of those years Asperger's came upon my way. The sun just came back. Wohoo! Go back editing my writing now take care

noreply@blogger.com (Aspie Bird) — Tue, 29 Jan 2013 08:57:00 +0000

I know some links in the header of this blog do not work properly. I hope this will be fixed soon.

Heaven and Stars

noreply@blogger.com (Aspie Bird) — Mon, 14 Jan 2013 20:40:00 +0000

Luckily, I have not been affected by the flue (so far...). I had a few quiet days. The discovery that my new sofa is a perfect spot for a nice nap after a long walk in the cold outside, is a good one. Last weekend I watched 'Stargazing' on the BBC tv. What a great show. Science and Stars: once again I realised how relaxing figures are. Now I look upon the skies above before dreaming about heaven. It has been busy day, need to recover from some heavy sensory overloading issues. The best thing to do now, is to cuddle up in bed. Goodnight everyone.

Under construction

noreply@blogger.com (Aspie Bird) — Wed, 09 Jan 2013 12:58:00 +0000

This website needs a new template, I decided. So, the site is under construction. Sorry for any inconvenience. Thanks for dropping by.

noreply@blogger.com (Aspie Bird) — Wed, 02 Jan 2013 20:52:00 +0000

It has been a day full of making plans and turning some of them into reality. It was a good day to meet my coach. Having a little evening meal before heading to bed. The word of the day: Light: days are getting longer, the light is coming back. Take care, see you tomorrow. Thanks for visiting my blog!

Happy New Year!

noreply@blogger.com (Aspie Bird) — Tue, 01 Jan 2013 19:27:00 +0000

2013 has arrived! I wish you all the best for this year. May all your dreams come true. I will keep up exploring new horizons. My main goals this year are a. gaining weight and b. write a book. Both aims have been long term goals. It's time to make them reality! Last night the sky was filled with too much noise and I choose to go to bed early. The start of 2013 was relaxed. WORD OF THE DAY: JOY- despite Autisme one can have joy in life. I bless my ability to enjoy myself. There are many people who can not have fun on their own. How lucky we are! Take care, I try to write every day this year!

A new home! A new beginning!

noreply@blogger.com (Aspie Bird) — Tue, 16 Oct 2012 08:54:00 +0000

Yes, after years of writing about it, I finally have moved. From the countryside to the city! Within minutes walking distance from a InterCity train station! Woohoo! I am so happy now! And more news to come, I will let you know.

noreply@blogger.com (Aspie Bird) — Wed, 16 May 2012 19:51:00 +0000

May 2012. The past weeks I have dealed with some heavy sensory overload. Now finding the balance between doing nothing and being a victim of my own hyperactivity. Been taking photographs yesterday. Bought the book by Temple Grandin about thinking like animals. Wow! She knows to tell a story. Off to bed now, and read some more. Take care and thanks for your comments.

April 2012

noreply@blogger.com (Aspie Bird) — Wed, 04 Apr 2012 12:56:00 +0000

It has been Autism Awareness Day again. April, 2th counts as one of the most remarkable days during the year for me. Sorry I did not blog on that very day. Ofcourse autism was on my mind anyway ;) So if you are one of those people wanting to get more information on autism, perhaps you have a child diagnosed with ASS or are you slightly aware that the difference between you and other adults, may have its origin in autism, welcome to my blog. I hope it can help you increase your knowledge about autism. Speaking for myself, the years after my diagnosis have been the best so far I guess. The puzzle of being different was solved. I can now full explore my identity. Which is not easy as there is no such thing as 'the general' autism identity. Sometimes I feel quite lost when I feel there seems to be less solidarity among people with autism as I want to be. Well, so seek solidarity is a part of my search for harmony. Recovering from a broken childhood, having felt as a misplaced teenager, growing up into one of those alone walking adults in the park, being there at times people go to work or take care of their family: that has been my life path into a adult woman with autism. They say, the grass seems to be always greener at the other side, but that is not true. It was destiny to get this life, I can not complain about it, I am not someone else, I am just me.As long as my special interests do not take over the harmony feeling created due to my own deeds and talents, it's ok. Bye for now. Currently I am working on restyling this blog. So you know. Be prepared. Let me know if you have any suggestions. Take Care.

February

noreply@blogger.com (Aspie Bird) — Sat, 04 Feb 2012 16:31:00 +0000

The outside world looks like a fairytale. Bright blue sky, lots of snow. Watching skaters along the frozen waters here is such a pleasue. The last weeks lots of things happened. My fear for traffic has become a minor fear. It is indeed true that every day practice is a way to overcome a phobia. I train my brain, I reconsider what to think. This afternoon I came across a path which has been difficult for me. Instead of getting grip by touching the hedge of a garden, I just walked past it freely. It is amazing if you walk there and realise that you have come so far! I am very proud of myself. But we are not here yet. Yes, when I am stressed noises can overwhelm me and make me feel small again.

It has almost been 10 years now, and there is no answer yet to the question of Asperger hacker Gary McKinnon from the UK, will be extradited to the US. It must have been hell for him and his family. I was happy to participate in a so called tweetstorm to highlight this case once more. Let's hope searching for UFO's will not be rewarded with a prison stay in the US. No one benefits of a mentally broken Asperger.

I try to figure out more about special interests. Some time ago I made a special interest handbook, in which I schedule the different stages of a special interest. As you might now, one of the typically characteristics of Asperger or autism in general is a special interest. Mostly used as a manner to handle and reduce stress. Information makes me calm. Give me some train details and I can easier cope during a stressful day with lots of social contacts. I am looking for more information about the way women with autism/Asperger handle this. I would like to hear from you, what do you do to prevent you loosing yourself into the sub reality when your special interest takes you too far away from your daily structure. Please let me know. I try to find a way to cope with it myself, and extra information which I can add to my selfmade guidance to special interests are very welcome. It is like writing down a personal users manual ;))

I hope you are all doing fine. Since the old Autism Hub has been replaced by a new one, I unfortunately lost contact with many blogs I used to read.

Will try to write more soon. Take care all

stop sopa

noreply@blogger.com (Aspie Bird) — Tue, 17 Jan 2012 20:42:00 +0000

As I am strongly against SOPA, this blog will be black/ invisible for 1 day. Starting now.I Hope to see you soon!

Happy New Year!

noreply@blogger.com (Aspie Bird) — Sun, 01 Jan 2012 20:38:00 +0000

Happy New Year to you all! As I have done before, I am gonna try to write here on a daily base. I did sleep during the change from 2011 to 2012. Well, to be honest that was not a bad thing...;) This way the sensory overload was reduced. Well, I have to go to bed now, otherwise my ritm will be broken. Take care all of you!

noreply@blogger.com (Aspie Bird) — Tue, 04 Oct 2011 07:17:00 +0000

Autumn 2011. After a long and wet summer, we had some lovely summer days with high temperatures this week. What a way to start October. Later this week storm is expected and autumn will finally begin. The two pictures, made by myself, illustrate my life now. I enjoy and share love with a new boyfriend. Sometimes you need to close your eyes and let all things happen. The second picture shows that one has to start his own engine to get the best result out of the 'windmill' of your own life. Take care.

August 2011

noreply@blogger.com (Aspie Bird) — Fri, 26 Aug 2011 12:45:00 +0000

Summer 2011 has brought many pleasant things, despite the rain I managed tot make some nice trips around the country.My new computer works very well, and working on it gives me many pleasant hours. It is fun to be able to create e.g. a new header for a weblog.

The agyrophobia seems to have become less. That is really good.
We, my therapist and I, have now found out that the sensory overload and the fears for traffic, mainly have such an impact because of my living situation.

Living in a small village with few hundred inhabitants I must find a way to handle the transition from silence to noise. I was raised in the western part of this country, in a suburb with all facilities nearby. After a few years of living in this-shopaholic friendly-town (you can save money here, there are no shops...), I can really feel the difference in what I was used to handle on sensory overload then and now.

Every time I go to the city, my brain now needs more time and exercise in order to handle the increased traffic and noise. The sensory overload will become less after a few minutes. It is important, as it is for all people with autism, to find a way to cope with this overload whil surrounded by traffic, lots of people etc. It is another thing perfectly suitable to make a aspie style plan for! ;-)

So this weekend I am gonna visit a big town, and try to handle stress step by step. Take a break when it is necessary. You might say this is easy but often I neglect my autism or I am so busy watching everything I forget to eat!

Rain has stopped, thunder went away, sun might shine now. Time to move on.
Have a nice weekend! CU soon! Take care!

Summertime

noreply@blogger.com (Aspie Bird) — Sun, 12 Jun 2011 20:03:00 +0000

Yes, I did remember this blog ;). It has been too long since my last blog post. Lots of things happened. Still going strong and improving my quality of life. Life is wonderful. Will write more soon. ZZZ here. Goodnight world.

Watch this Video, Help this Kid and subsribe

noreply@blogger.com (Aspie Bird) — Wed, 25 May 2011 08:23:00 +0000

Proud!

noreply@blogger.com (Aspie Bird) — Fri, 25 Mar 2011 11:52:00 +0000

Pride is the thing I these days wear with me when walking on the street. It is true: when you have fear for something, it can be very useful just do that thing what frightens you most! With the help of my therapist, I can see clearly progress on my battle against agyrophobia. New streets, new parking spots come upon my path.

I really enjoy the upcoming spring time. Yes there are still plans to move, well we just see what will happen. Meanwhile, I enjoy my life being single again, although I miss my former boyfriend every now and then. We still have contact as we want to stay good friends.

Well, that's it for now. Take care, bye.

Spring, a new horizon

noreply@blogger.com (Aspie Bird) — Mon, 07 Mar 2011 20:34:00 +0000

We have shared many beautiful moments together. But sometimes one needs to continue his own way. After 1.5 years a beautiful love story has come to an end. I thank my former boyfriend for all the love, inspiration and much more he has given me.

Time to set a new horizon. Each day I am grateful for my freedom. Think about all those people worldwide, abused, locked up and treated inhumane. Bradley Manning in prison for over 280 days now.

Speaking about solitary confinement and autism, for me it is clear that the loneliness felt inside is often related to my Aspergers. But do not feel that sorry for yourself having autism. Unless you are physically disabled too, we have the ability to walk around freely despite our autism. There is a world outside worth to be explored. Walk in the light and do not let the dark side of autism get you down.

There is a lot which can be done to serve and improve the world and its people. Do not forget to see the hand reached out by others in order to help us out. Take care.

Pink Pink Bird

noreply@blogger.com (Aspie Bird) — Sat, 05 Feb 2011 17:12:00 +0000

Pink Pink Bird, originally uploaded by Canon550Lover.

Not to be ignored, please take care of a Pink Bird!

Not dull

noreply@blogger.com (Aspie Bird) — Sat, 05 Feb 2011 11:02:00 +0000

Not dull, originally uploaded by Canon550Lover.

Stormy weather outside, life can be good inside while computing...;)

First Try

noreply@blogger.com (Aspie Bird) — Fri, 04 Feb 2011 20:47:00 +0000

Canon 550 eerste serie 017, originally uploaded by Canon550Lover.

One of the first shots made with my new camera!