Many women dream of the handsome prince arriving to take her away from the evil stepmother of corporate America or the lonely tower of gloom. Romantic comedies, poetry and even Tom Cruise with his “you complete me” message has given singles the idea that happiness is on the other side of meeting that special person.

There is nothing wrong with wanting a partner or marriage or children. We are social creatures and designed to have love and valuable relationships with each other. In the movie, “Out in the Wild,” the main character realizes at the end that true happiness is shared with others.

Your desire for love and a more complete life is right on target. But a partner isn’t the sole solution of life’s woes and is not responsible for giving you a life. Imagine meeting someone and having that burden placed on you. Being someone’s everything is so much pressure.

The best thing you can do for a lasting relationship is to be happy before you get involved. You know this, you have heard this before but how can you be happy if the one thing you want in your life is missing?

Believe me, I know it isn’t easy when your heart aches for true love but the truth is that you aren’t aching for what you think. There is something deeper, a void that you feel inside that can never been filled by anyone but you.

In order to find true love, you must fill that perceived void yourself first. Here are three steps that you can do to close the needy loop and be truly in your power for an amazing partnership.

1. Sit in a quiet place and talk to the feeling you have when you think of being alone.  Ask yourself “What am I really looking for?” “What am I really aching for?”
2. Find something in your life right now that will give you what this part of you really wants – peace, love, confidence, joy…
3. Become a seeker of inner joy v. an outer person. As you focus on experiencing joy, more joy will seem to find you.

Joy can be found in following your dreams, using your natural talents and spending time with friends, pets and in places that enrich your life experience.

One of the gifts of this time of being on your own is to fill yourself up with so much love that you become irresistible to someone who is overflowing as well. No more energy vampires or men who are afraid of getting too close. You will see a huge difference in the people who come into your life because the new ones will reflect back your natural happiness.

Instead of worrying what you are getting from your partner and keeping report cards on each other, you will have a grown-up relationship that is full of love and harmony. Cherish your last single days because the more you generate the love within the faster your ideal partner will arrive.

Ok, so many dating tips out there will tell you what you did wrong on a date and the deadly mistakes that keep you single. Don’t be too fat but don’t be too skinny. Don’t be too rich but don’t be too poor. Don’t talk about your job, but do talk about your career. Be interesting, wait, be interested. No, act cool. Enough of that already.

The real reason you don’t have the love you want isn’t how you acted on a date. It isn’t because you said the wrong thing or that you smiled at the waiter. It isn’t because you texted him after the date to thank him. It isn’t because you slept with him too soon.

Truth. You picked someone who would leave you before you even went out. Before you even spoke to this person, your mate selection mechanism was set on heartache.

There is an unconscious part of you that draws you to particular people who match something that triggers a familiar feeling. You think it is chemistry when the fireworks go off but what is actually happening is that your inner drama girl is having a field day.  She is bored with the nice guys and craves the attention from the man who acts disinterested.

Most people think they will never have chemistry with someone nice and that could very well be true. If they don’t change their mate selection mechanism, they will unconsciously go to the same heartache every time. Ignoring the obvious red flags, they believe this time it will be different, but nothing changes.

To key to having true love is to discover this mechanism in your subconscious (we call it your Inner Adam or Eve) that fits like a puzzle piece with potential partners. You don’t have to change how you act, your clothes, your weight or your personality, you just need to shift your piece of the puzzle.

When your puzzle piece changes, you will see the men (or women) in your life start to change as well. You can have CONSCIOUS CHEMISTRY with someone who will want commitment and love just like you. You will feel the fireworks but it won’t be followed by a night with Ben & Jerry’s, unless you and your love enjoy sweet treats together.

There are a few ways to change your picker. Your unconscious mind is always giving you clues on what to do and how to change it. It keeps bringing you heartache to show you where you are at so you can make an adjustment. You may not have known that you can change it before today.

1. Look for common themes in your relationships and see where the pattern had its roots. Try to identify the underlying fear of actually getting close to someone. Face the fear so you can break the pattern.
2. Pay attention to your dreams. Your dreams are a treasure of insight and information to guide you on your journey to your desires. They speak to you in symbolic language so you need to journal about them and follow your inner guidance.
3. Visualization. Work with your unconscious mind by facing the part of you that is the picker. Ask it questions.
4. Inner Dialogue with Journal. Ask your picker questions via automatic writing. Trust the answers that come to you.
5. Get a guide. Hire a coach that specializing in subconscious work. This is the fastest way to get your picker aligned with love.

Once you shift inside even slightly, you will see a huge difference in your attraction to people. You may even notice more opportunities show up to meet nice guys and friends who come out of nowhere to introduce you to someone.

You don’t have to worry about saying the right things or playing the dating game. Your picker, if well-tuned, will always give you the exact match of your greatest desire for love.  Isn’t that much easier than wondering if you should wait three days to call him?

We have all been there. They say they are interested in a serious relationship, jump in quickly and then, three weeks into dating, they disappear. You thought you had a great connection but then suddenly they drop off the face of the earth. Sometimes they break up with a text or leave a message on your voicemail when they know you aren’t home. What is that about?

This behavior all comes down to one thing…fear of confrontation. Somewhere along the line we have all been told how to behave, when to share and when to shut up. Most of us have been conditioned to avoid the truth because we don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings OR we don’t want people to challenge us on our truth because we don’t have enough confidence in ourselves.

The problem with white lies is that you really think you are being nice. I remember a time when I met this guy who was really great but I just wasn’t interested and I was afraid to hurt him. I kept stringing him along because I hoped he would eventually lose interest and go away.  What I realized was that I wasn’t being nice at all. I was actually being mean.

When I finally told him the truth he said, “Thank you. At least now I know where I stand and can move on. I appreciate your honesty.” That broke an old pattern of mine where I would just not return phone calls but, at the same time, complained about men who did that to me. It was liberating to just say what I really felt. Honest communication with a man…wow.

We humans are afraid of each other and we have been taught to tell white lies, be nice and avoid confrontation. To top it off, we witnessed our parents being kind to someone  to their face only to hear them gossip about them to another person behind their back.  We got mixed messages and so most of the time we just keep our mouth shut, which isn’t very empowering.

If you don’t face the truth within yourself, it is hard to be honest with someone else.

I talk to people everyday who are afraid to tell me the truth. They make up excuses for being single and actually believe their stories about why they can’t find love. They don’t realize that they are lying to themselves when they claim that they can figure it out on their own as they kick the loneliness can further down the road. They tell me they want love more than anything in the world, but then they don’t take any action or take minimal effort to get what they truly desire.

They say the truth can set you free but many people just don’t want to face it. Even though Jack Nicholson famously said, “You can’t handle the truth,” I disagree. You end up running away from something like a monster under the bed only to realize the real truth was only an old stuffed animal that looked scary in the middle of the night. The lies will hold you hostage and feed your fears, which is a worse fate.

To break out of fear prison, start with telling people how you feel with brave honesty. Keep your boundaries with an open heart. No one can reject you without your permission and everyone deserves the simple courtesy of direct communication.  As you share your true feelings with others, it becomes more liberating and expansive. You wonder what you were afraid of all this time and wish you would have had tried this honesty-thing much sooner.

Most of all, be true to yourself. Make commitments and don’t slack off on your promises to live a greater life. Take that class, research a new career and get to yoga. When someone gives you their time on a date, be courteous with a kind response if you aren’t interested. They are just a person looking for love just like you and deserve to be treated with respect just like you

We are all human. We are all doing our best to survive on this crazy planet and maybe, just maybe, if we were not bottling up everything inside of us, people wouldn’t have to act out in anger like the tragic event in Boston this week. We would allow our creativity and self-expression to flow outward and share more of our amazing lovable selves in a more blissful world.

Kumbaya.

Did you know that one of the top Google search terms in the love category is about why the man didn’t call? I disagree with most dating tips that try to answer this question because I believe you did nothing wrong on the date. You didn’t say too much, act inappropriately or look too fat or too old. The reason he didn’t call is because you are attracted to men who would not call you no matter how fabulous you are that evening.

Women stay single way too long (and I was one of them) because they are focused on the wrong issues in love. All the advice books led me down a rabbit hole of self-doubt and feeling like I was doing everything all wrong. I was so hard on myself after every short-lived romance fell apart and felt like nothing was ever going to change.

When men don’t call, you try to figure out the cause so you can get the outcome you want. You ruminate over the date, conversations on the phone or via email, wondering what you said or should have said, trying to analyze your behavior so you can correct it and do it right next time. This won’t get you anywhere because the real cause is hidden in your subconscious.

The key to finding love in your life isn’t following someone else’s code of dating ethics, behavioral guidelines or being upbeat and positive even when you feel down. The only way to break free is to uncover why you attract men who don’t call in the first place and then you will start to see some powerful changes in your dating life.

You may be assuming that it is your core beliefs that you aren’t good enough or that you feel unlovable. But, if you are aware of them and knowing these things still doesn’t change your results, then that isn’t enough. I know because I knew my core beliefs backwards and forwards for years, but still I kept doing that automatic b-line to the hot guy who wouldn’t call every time. It is what you don’t see that holds the key to your heart.

So how do you discover something that is unconscious? The clues are everywhere if you know where to look. First, instead of asking why he didn’t call, ask yourself, “Why do I care so much?” or “Why does it hurt so much when someone doesn’t like me?” Feel uncomfortable? That feeling of angst is connected to something not conscious, it is a direct line to the underlying cause of why you are still single.

As you ask the subconscious mind questions, it has to answer. Don’t be afraid to find out what the attraction to unavailable men.  The truth is really not as scary as you think. It is deeper than your personal history and it will feel so silly to you that you wish you would have faced this sooner.

The underlying anxiety about the disappearing men will not go away so you really have to face it, understand it and bring it to the light so it doesn’t have power over you anymore. Most people misunderstand emotions and feel if they “clear it” the emotion goes away. But, many techniques just drive them down deeper and makes it stronger. By facing the feeling, instead of trying to mask the pain by finding another man to date, you can be free of needing a relationship and come from a powerful place of demanding you deserve it.

Become more powerful than your uncomfortable emotions and you have more control over your life. Pretty soon you can be able to face someone not calling and say, “Who cares why he didn’t call…next!” You won’t take it personally and you will be free from the stickiness of neediness.

Ultimately, you shift the cause on a deep level, stop attracting men who are unavailable and find someone who matches your true inner power. Someone will show up who is also brave enough to face the discomfort of approaching true intimacy and the amazing energy of true, lasting love. He will always call and never let you wonder how he feels about you.

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You watch the food that you eat that ends up on your hips, but the mental food you digest is not as obvious.  Your subconscious mind is always absorbing everything around you. If you don’t pay attention, this mental junk food won’t end up around your waist but around your heart.

In Sanskrit, they describe the senses as open channels to the mind. The consumption by the senses of the outside world is called “eating.”  So your senses are indulging on the stimuli and feeding you judgments of what you like and dislike all the time. These unconscious indulgences are supported by the misguided philosophy that you cannot change what is out there, only take in what you see.

When you wake up and wish you were with your soul mate instead of alone, your emotions start snacking on loneliness, resentment or even anger at your last boyfriend who left. You judge your body, your paycheck and even the people at your job. Even though the unpleasant verdicts don’t make you feel good, they have a strange addictive quality like chocolate or French fries. You have a small bite, but then you keep going back for more.

If you let these unhealthy emotional binges become a daily habit, pretty soon you will start to believe that your problems are all out there.  What you eat with your emotional mind is constantly projected into external form again and again in an endless cycle. You feel powerless to the forces of life and beaten down as a victim of circumstance.

Imagine your last date, think of how you watched what you ate in front of him but inside you were having a wild smorgasbord in your head wondering if he is interested, if you are good enough and if he is going to ask you out again. You tried to follow the “rules” so you do it all right, but your feelings were crashing the party soaking up every gesture and comment looking for clues of his attraction. Often, you end up ingesting all the ways he appeared distant and then you continue to attract the same guy who never calls.

To practice healthy eating for the heart, start by watching what you allow into your thought space. What triggers you, what excites you and where do you get hooked in? Watch how your senses are feeding off the environment and dictating your state of mind. Become present that nothing is good or bad and start to think of everything as neutral and focus your mind inward on what you want even though the senses are telling you otherwise.

As you start to feed the senses from the inside through your imagination and visualization versus what you see out there, you can begin to control your life and your emotional state regardless of the situation. That is true power. Then, you will start to create from the inside out and become a master of your life.

Things start to shift out there and you then begin to realize that you can feed yourself whatever you want and the world will play it back for you. You don’t have to settle for a limited menu of options that your conscious mind is taking in, but tap into your creative imagination and project your ideal out there for you to play.

Pretty soon, you will be having men literally eating out of your hands because you will be so delicious inside like a scrumptious, yummy cake. No more bitter taste or stale energy, you will be the light you truly are and letting the world drink you up in your magnificence.

You know those men. They act cool, try to impress you and often act distant like they aren’t looking for a relationship at the moment. They sometimes come on super strong and then back down when you start spending more time together. Often, they disappear when you least expect it. You wonder what you did wrong and why men are like that. Dating tips are not the answer.

You have zero chemistry with the nice guys who seem more genuine and you keep them around as friends. You think they are too needy or clingy and you wish your love magnet would finally match up with someone that you feel something for and that also wants a lasting relationship.

If this sounds like you, you may be drawn to men with false self-esteem. They cover up their insecurities with the mask of being cocky, aloof and unavailable. The truth is that underneath their façade, they are scared little boys and they don’t even know it. They are even fooling themselves thinking they are confident but never stop to realize that they are always single and alone without anyone who truly loves them.

False self-esteem comes from people who build up their little egos based on their surface self. They only see themselves as their physical appearance, their personal story, bank account and even their past conquests. They never allow themselves to get close to anyone and make up an excuse when things heat up in a relationship.

These men are truly afraid of intimacy even though they are the first ones to jump into bed with you. Getting naked is easy, getting naked emotionally is foreign to them. They are unaware of their deeper self or afraid to discover it.  Keeping women away at arm’s length is their modus operandi and they always seem to want that woman they can’t have.

The reason that you are attracted to them is because your self-esteem is at the same level. Like attracts like, even when the external seems to look quite different. You, just like them, are afraid to get too close. You fool yourself projecting a false ideal onto this person and your potential together. In truth, if he wanted a commitment, you would be scared to death of letting him really see all of you.

The excitement ends when faced with the choice to go deeper. The surface is threatened when you haven’t discovered and loved your true self. Like a cork bobbing on a wave that doesn’t realize it is supported by the ocean, you feel small, flimsy and tossed around by external conditions. There isn’t a strong foundation to carry you so you bolt or sabotage by becoming too clingy and drive them away.

To change your love destiny, you must discover a way to build true self-esteem, one that is not based on external conditions or appearances. It is easy to feel good about yourself when you get positive attention, men call after a date and/or respond to your profile. It takes courage and power to stand in dating adversity and still feel like you are the prize, trusting that true love is coming no matter what.

Once you discover that you are more than just your surface self and love even those hidden places inside, you will have natural, true self-esteem. The men you draw into your life will match your confidence and won’t flee when things get emotionally intimate. They, like you, are unafraid of what is deep inside and are willing share all of themselves with you. Now, that’s where the real fireworks go off and you begin a love that lasts a lifetime.

I was still single when I was pitching my first book at a writer’s conference. No matter where I was, I was on the lookout for my next boyfriend. As I stood in the registration line, my eyes went immediately to the best-looking guy in the room…as usual. Of course, we met, sparks flew and to top it off, he was a literary agent.

We had a long-distance fling and my mind was in a delusion that it was actually a real relationship that was going to lead to marriage, kids and a major book deal. I even knew from the first night I met him that he was a player, but he had me at hello and I couldn’t say goodbye.

We weren’t exclusive, but we spoke almost every day and he would feed me the lines I wanted to hear and believe. There was a part of me that knew he was wrong, but the lonely part of me just couldn’t let go. I felt like I was under a spell, he was a great manipulator.

The draw to him was uncanny as I felt like I was split personality, watching myself from outside saying, “What the heck are you doing, Debi?” I realized that no matter how much work I did on myself, this old part of me was hanging on to my old dating habits and wasn’t going to let go easily. I was in love with the dream and disconnected from reality.

Two powerful forces were at work. My divine self, knowing I deserved more, and the old me who felt insecure. My divine self won. I picked up the phone and told him I didn’t want to see him anymore and proclaimed these powerful words, “I want a real relationship!”

The best break-up ever wasn’t easy. The forces of my old limited self were still nipping at my heels. I had to change his name on my phone to “Very Bad Man” so when he called to try to reel me back in, I would remember he wasn’t the one. After about a week or so, the old self lost her power and my new powerful self was finally breaking through and settling in for a new future.

We often think that the process of self-development takes a long time. We work on ourselves tirelessly and still end up in the same place of doubt. It feels like you will never meet the person because you have SO much stuff to get through, but you aren’t conscious of the seeds that have already been planted. You are farther along than you think. Your big transformation can be just about making a decision to let go.

I not only broke up with this guy but I also broke up with my old self. Shortly after, I met Roberto – my true love and a real relationship. Within a few months I made my first television appearance which led to my first book deal. (No, I used another literary agent – a woman). One decision led to a major change that literally happened overnight.

I truly feel like agent-guy was an angel from heaven. He was sent to me to show me how to love myself. He had to be so bad to finally snap me out of my old ways. He forced me to finally take a stand and break the cycle of heartache. I am so grateful for his precious gift in my life, he gave me the space to find Roberto.

What or who do you need to let go of to finally let love in?

After a few years of being single, you may start to wonder if things will ever change. You look at your past experiences and keep recreating the same relationship patterns. You have become a victim to your limited mind, stuck in a trap of thoughts of failure versus possibility wondering if you will ever escape.

You know your thoughts have power, but get frustrated because you cannot get yourself to focus on what you want. If you never had true love before, how can you imagine a new future? Where does the inspiration come from? You begin to force the impression when you visualize yourself in a healthy relationship, but it still feels fake and unattainable. Your limited mind tries to get you to give up by telling you that it isn’t real and you are just fooling yourself.

Just like many of the greatest inventors, they had an idea for something new that didn’t exist yet. The airplane, the light bulb and even the theory of relativity didn’t exist until someone used their greater mind to bring it into our reality. You have access to this greater mind; it is called your imagination.

Einstein used visualization to develop his theory of relativity. He put himself into a trance and imagined riding a light beam through the universe. The Wright Brothers saw the bird and thought if it could fly, so could man. The drawings of their model planes came directly from their imagination.

You don’t have to be Einstein or a great inventor to use this faculty. In fact, you have been using it your whole life. You desire a glass of water and you go to the kitchen to get the glass and water. It wasn’t there, but then you made it appear. Most people focus on the mechanical part of this process, but the seed of the manifestation began with an idea in your mind with the desire for water.

The cause of everything begins within you and your imagination. Just like the Wright Brothers saw the birds and had a desire to figure out how a man could fly, you see romantic couples and want to fulfill that desire for yourself. It is the seed of desire for true love that makes it possible, not from evidence of the past.

When you think with your limited mind, it draws up only previous experience and tries to figure out how a new future can be formed by rearranging the memories. The limited mind focuses on the mechanical process, what is physically present and forgets that everything is created from within. You are doing mental gymnastics but not getting any traction or resolution.

When you bring in your greater mind – imagination – you draw in collective consciousness of unlimited possibility. Just like Einstein, you ride a light beam and open a doorway to expand your mind with a new picture of a future filled with great love. Something is altered inside of you and you feel light and open for change.

Even if you never had healthy love before and can’t logically figure out how it would be, you can evoke the assistance of your imagination to fill in the gaps of doubt and create a new vision for you in relationships. By blending your true desire with the collective consciousness of all that is possible, you create a magical elixir to manifest your desire.

If you have trouble feeling love or you are trying to force the impression, you are probably coming from a needy place and the energy of need will only bring you more needy relationships. You are always experiencing an exact match to what you are feeling inside. If you can fill up your love leaks with self-love, then your visualizations will become clear and powerful as your desire becomes more pure.

You don’t have to be a genius to attract the love of your life. Just tap into your imagination like Einstein and you will find a treasure of love already within your reach.

As the new year approaches, I have been thinking of all those years I said to myself that “this was going to be MY year for love.” Year after year, nothing would change and I was still alone every New Year’s Eve. The reason why things remained the same for so long is that I didn’t change anything inside or out.

You cannot keep doing the same things and expect a different result. My mentor told me that in order to get what you’ve never had, you have to do what you have never done. So, if you want this year to be YOUR year, let’s shake things up a bit!

I met Roberto at the end of 2005 and I was thinking back to all the things I did differently in 2005 that led me to meeting him.  I wanted to share them with you to inspire you to make the tiny adjustments that could make a big difference this coming year. Even though I was doing hypnotherapy for over a year and I felt better about myself, I kept doing things that were not in alignment with my higher self which only slowed down the process of meeting the man of my dreams. The following is my list of how I did the opposite in 2005 to get a new result.

1. I stopped hiding my emotions from my father and started sharing open communication with him for the first time.
2. I stopped focusing on finding love and focused on finding myself.
3. I stopped waiting to find a man for my life to begin and submitted a book proposal to reach my dream of becoming a published author.
4. I stopped trying to do it all myself the cheapest way possible and I invested in myself with my first coach who helped me master my mind and spiritual path.
5. I stopped putting up with men who didn’t know what they wanted and made a clear, focused decision that enough was enough and I wanted the real thing.
6. I stopped fluffing my online profile with silly things that would attract more men and made an honest, direct appeal to my ideal mate including all my desires for a committed relationship with a spiritual person.
7. I stopped putting my body down and started to remind myself that it was beautiful.
8. I stopped doing my personal work only when I hit a crisis and I disciplined myself to practice my meditations and visualizations every day, even when things were going well.
9. I stopped hanging around with people who were negative and surrounded myself with higher energy people who were also living their dreams.

10. I stopped waiting for a man to take me on a romantic vacation and took myself on a beach spa holiday.

11. I stopped waiting for someone to write me a love letter and started writing letters to myself.

12. I stopped going to bars and decided that I would put myself in places where men were looking for commitment like a formal dating service.

13. I stopped putting so much pressure on dating to find the one and set the intention to meet new people who were interesting and inspiring.

14. I stopped blaming everyone else for my single status and started taking responsibility as the creator of my life.

15. I stopped dating younger men and became open to going on a date with someone who was 8 years older (Roberto!).

Now, don’t confuse changing with fixing yourself. There is nothing wrong with you except your false perception of how amazing you are. If you look at the results you have in love right now, that is what you believe is possible on the deep level. Your actions mirror your beliefs.

Every time I stepped outside of my old ways and into a new way of being it was really uncomfortable but I kept pushing through it.  Each action I took feeling better about myself reinforced this new idea and it eventually became more comfortable to be adored than to be ignored.

So look over this past year and see what you can do differently in the coming year. If I can change my patterns within one year, you certainly can do the same. You must be willing to face the temporary discomfort of stepping outside of your own safe single zone and overcome the resistance to retreat when things get a little funky.

Remember, if you don’t feel uncomfortable, then you aren’t making any changes. Welcome the uneasiness, the uncertainty and embrace the challenge. Become the person who is adored. The prize is finding your true self and a love that lasts.

As you may have heard me say many times, I have spent countless years in the self-help isle and attending healing workshops on fixing my “single” problem. I would feel that uplift after reading a book or going to an event, but then something would happen to bring me back down again.

What took me so long to be free was that I was trying to work on myself through my ego. Every time I tried to heal a certain piece of me, another one would pop up like that whack-o-mole game at the carnival.  I kept focusing on the problem, trying to fix myself when that attitude was working against me all along.

I now tell my clients that when you focus too much on core false beliefs and your so-called wounded self, you fuel the fire and keep the energy around the idea of brokenness burning. You end up just rearranging furniture in your mind and not making any progress in transformation. Being single isn’t a pathology and doesn’t require the medical model for treatment. There is nothing to cure.

You cannot clear beliefs from your mind, only transform them into its opposite polarity. Every belief has its opposite and you can’t clear half of anything. Both sides exist in the same moment, all you need to do is refocus on what the side you want vs. your default view that creates your current results. You get what you focus on and if you are always focusing on what you want to clear you are actually making it stronger.

Your ego wants you to believe that good and bad are separate so it plays this game of ping-pong with your mind to keep you stuck. It will infiltrate your personal and spiritual development so finely disguised to preserve itself with your old patterns. The ego will tell you that what you want is out there and that the reason you don’t have love or wealth is because you are doing something wrong and you need to fix or heal something.

There is nothing wrong with you except your false self-perception. Your ego doesn’t want you to see the wholeness inside and your inseparable connection to the divine and all that you ever want in your life.

You are one with everything and everything that you want has already been created. Your true love is here and now in this moment looking for someone exactly like you. You don’t need to heal yourself, you need to grow your self-awareness so you can lift yourself out of the delusion that you aren’t good enough and step into the truth.

When you step back and connect to the divine within you, your ego drops away and you see things and yourself quite differently. Actually, you see how perfect you are without the masks and shadows that your ego likes to wear and cling to as a false sense of comfort.

The true safety is your knowing that there is one divine presence that has always been inside of you and will never leave. Seeing yourself through divine eyes will adjust your focus and you will start to become attracted to those who see with the same eyes. You will stop rearranging the furniture and start building a beautiful new home with a strong foundation for lasting love.