Be A Man

Self-help gurus: the modern day faeries

noreply@blogger.com (DDD) — Fri, 22 Aug 2008 12:19:21 PDT

I pilfered this from a facebook post that a friend made. The article talks about why we still have crazy beliefs, as in gods, witches, faeries, supernatural powers, and other paranormal phenomena. For the charlatans and hustlers, they promote these for personal financial gains. What about for the rest of us? Why do we still have these beliefs?This story reminds me of another recent article

Redirecting focus to something meaningful

noreply@blogger.com (DDD) — Mon, 25 Aug 2008 13:06:10 PDT

Every so often, I get an email from some random guy that lists a tally of how many kiss closes, # closes, ! closes, whatever. This boils down his entire existence down to a number, like a FICO score on his PUA skills, this explains why so many guys failed.Have you ever gotten MANY numbers from different girls and when you call them, nothing ever materialized?! Mystery would diagnose this as not

Manufactured happiness

noreply@blogger.com (DDD) — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 08:52:00 PDT

A few posts back, I suggested that we have to make a conscious decision to be happy and we must learn to make due with what we have. Guess what? I blogged from my personal experience, and apparently, some smarter people have done research into this and here's the video that I just stumbled onto.What it comes down to is that the availability of choice is the source of our unhappiness. In other

Fans of RSD and TD would love

noreply@blogger.com (DDD) — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 11:36:36 PDT

Another great podcast (sorry, "radio show") from Barry Kirkey! I try to keep up even with my busy schedule and this is another one where he and an ex-coworker at RSD (yes, that cult of Real Social Dynamics) are sharing more info on what used to be the Project Hollywood that infamous book raves about.These guys have real stories behind the scene of what went on. This whole pickup community is a

Yet another publicity stunt

noreply@blogger.com (DDD) — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 08:29:00 PDT

I'm no industry expert, so I call it as I see it without any behind-the-scene knowledge. Remember after The Game, Style pulled that stunt of training only 4 chosen guys, then he came out with the Annihilation Method (I prefer to call it for what it is, the Anal Method, because he reamed so many guys, including some college students, that I know, who took out student loans to buy it). With that

A different perspective on "pickup"

noreply@blogger.com (DDD) — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 14:24:22 PDT

This is what seduction/dating gurus would like us to believe. They either have a huge repertoire of routines to microcalibrate for every conceivable situation -OR- the exact amount of woo & intent that almost all girls (or as TD would say, 99% of all girls will have a great interaction with him) will wet their panties... all because the guy has the right body language, the proper tonality &

Don't let others get to you

noreply@blogger.com (DDD) — Wed, 03 Sep 2008 08:59:00 PDT

As much as I hate to admit this, I started this blog because I was frustrated and I was at a vulnerable point in my life that I allowed others to get to me. Now that my perspective has changed, people can have as much power over me as I allow them to have.This is why I try not to compare myself to others. The main obstacle to success starts with a comparison of oneself against one's peers and

Learn how to pickup from American politicians

noreply@blogger.com (DDD) — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 08:43:15 PDT

I'm sure you've heard the phrase: "Politics is the popularity contest for ugly people." And popularity contests go, they are about hustling people, by convincing the public that you are the one they should pick, not because what you will do, but that you have appealed to their higher ideals! That's what I've learned from watching these two recent political conventions: the trick to hustle the

Why she will win...

noreply@blogger.com (DDD) — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 10:04:59 PDT

Sarah Palin, VP-ILK'08!

What this is all about...

noreply@blogger.com (DDD) — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 08:46:00 PDT

To my dear readers, no news on the dating front but I've been preoccupied with the current political campaigns and the ongoing economic meltdown. Life is about letting go and I hold on to what's dear to me. After nearly a decade, the community is turning into yet another self-help niche. There's a new idiot born every minute who will buy into it.Luckily, most readers of this blog are wising up

How to be fun

noreply@blogger.com (DDD) — Thu, 18 Sep 2008 10:08:30 PDT

The first sign of fun, even though we shouldn't look for it, is that everyone just don't give a shit. We don't care what others outside of our immediate circle think, as long as we are in on the joke and we are amusing ourselves. There are many community terms for this, being in state, being unstifled, and I think they are all gay. Normal people call it be yourself, having fun, or just plain,

Setting up a budget that works!

noreply@blogger.com (DDD) — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 08:47:00 PDT

So you've done the following:Monitor your income and expense for about 3-6 monthsYou have a set of goals for savings and investingYou are pretty good spending less than what you've earnedThe next step is to set up a budget. List the major sources of income and expense for an entire year, pre-tax, tax, and post-tax. Be sure to include items that occur every quarter, 6 months, annually or

McCain and Obama debate drinking game!

noreply@blogger.com (DDD) — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 16:56:50 PDT

Stock up on booze, invite your friends over, if the idea of watching two egomaniacs debate turns them off, sell your friends on the idea of boozing! People exist to repeat past behaviors and they don't usually step outside of their habits. So there will be plenty of repetitions of their buzzwords and talking points.Every time Obama or McCain says: change; drink!Obama says: hope; drink!McCain

Free Levi and Sarah

noreply@blogger.com (DDD) — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 12:14:11 PDT

Many in the community think that the only way to get laid is to go through bootcamps and practice a thousand sets. If they just look around, they would see how rampant sex is, even among those ring-wing religious zealots in America! Many are not surprised at all that Jamie Lynn Spears got knocked up, but Bristol Palin... the daughter of the governor of Alaska?! The real tragedy, however, is

Being true

noreply@blogger.com (DDD) — Fri, 24 Oct 2008 13:19:41 PDT

I cringe every time someone says John McCain is a hero. Yes, that's true, and so are the rest of his fellow POWs along with those who made the ultimate sacrifice. At some point, we have to stop this hero-worship. McCain did what he was expected to do as a soldier and those who served with him, suffered alongside with him, all acted heroically, but they are not egotistical enough nor

One-trick pony

noreply@blogger.com (DDD) — Mon, 03 Nov 2008 11:37:51 PST

If all that you can talk about is other people, without much insight into who you are, what you want to do, and where you want to be in life, then it's time to start. The problem with people not being able to have and keep relationships going is that they don't have a rich and varied life. I thought back to my time that I spent with guys in the community, I now realize that it's a community of

The One advice to develop a social lifestyle

noreply@blogger.com (DDD) — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 14:37:32 PST

Life has been busy, both personally and professionally, so I haven't been able to keep up with the scene and thus, fewer blog posts here. Awhile back someone suggested that I should check out Cameron Teone and I like some of his blog entries. Now, I'm not endorsing him nor do I have the power and audience to have that sort of influence. I like what he posted about how to have the "PUA

The anti-community community

noreply@blogger.com (DDD) — Mon, 17 Nov 2008 10:48:36 PST

I sometimes feel like I live in an echo chamber and a world filled with me-too's. How come people rarely if ever come up with their own original thoughts? Or worst yet, they would just join the latest bandwagon, by being anti-community. Before anyone participates in any type of community, they have to ask themselves this one question?How will my participation in this community makes me a

The lack of posts

noreply@blogger.com (DDD) — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 13:37:14 PST

I haven't been posting much here because I haven't been growing in this one area of my life. What drives a blog and makes it successful is passion, and due to other obligations in my life, I have redirected my focus and hence, passion, into other areas of my life. I am still interested in improving myself, and if you have kept up with this blog, I still believe that success in life is about

Unnecessary mental gymnastics

noreply@blogger.com (DDD) — Mon, 05 Jan 2009 07:50:19 PST

Most of you probably know about Steve Pavlina and his blog. From his writing, I suspected that he is aware of the PUA community and not surprisingly, he started blogging about polyamory and his reasons for his participation. He went on and on and on to justify his interest, the real reasons are rather simple.Let's be honest about our interest in having sex. There's really no need at all to

Consistency, not fantasy

noreply@blogger.com (DDD) — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 11:03:28 PST

Every year, people knowingly make resolutions and few if any of those resolutions stick. Rather than chasing the impossible, we all would be better off in establishing simple habits so that we work gradually toward a final goal.One of my many goals for last year was to develop a budget and stick to it. I have used Quicken on and off since 2001 and I have never been able to keep track of all my

The end and the new beginning

noreply@blogger.com (DDD) — Wed, 28 Jan 2009 17:59:46 PST

When I started this journey two years ago, I just experienced a very personal loss in my life, no, not because a girl dumped me. That loss has left a wound in my life, thought it may never heal but it has continued to serve as a reminder to me, how I must cherish life and to value all those around me. However, I made one critical mistake in my state of grief, I gave up my own identity in trying

Living on the backs of idiots

noreply@blogger.com (DDD) — Mon, 18 May 2009 03:36:08 PDT

I came across an article that says that in America, there are more outlets for pay-day loan lenders than all MacDonald's and Burger King combined! This got me thinking of a whole slew of things we benefit from idiotic and/or irresponsible adults.Back when I got my first credit card a long time ago, it has a very low interest rate (by today's standards) and Discover card was the only card company

A celebrity-obsessed culture that belittles us all

noreply@blogger.com (DDD) — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 11:25:33 PDT

Perhaps it's my upbringing, that I learned early on to draw strength from within and inspiration from immediate people around me, rather than celebrities. Are people's lives so empty that they would become devastated that a hyped-up media star passed away?!Sure, we all admire talented individuals, but to see people crying, the endless tweets and facebook status updates that go on and on about

What makes us tick...

noreply@blogger.com (DDD) — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 09:52:33 PDT

I haven't blogged in a long time because I haven't felt the need to write until I just read a recent post from Cameron Teone on Identity & Purpose. I feel if we do nothing else in life, we should at least pursue this one mission, the difficult journey that many would rather avoid & seek simple easy solutions, to find our own identity & purpose.There will always be new fads, new ideas, new