What if, law of attraction is not just a tool to create abundance for our lives? What if it stretches far beyond what is perceived and understood by the general populace right now? What if, one of its unique use, would that you are able to perform telekinetic acts and move objects around with your thoughts alone?

Now this is going to sound crazy a little bit, but do bear with me as I explore the possibility with the help of some scientific theories...

What is Quantum Entanglement?

In quantum physics, there is this concept called quantum entanglement. Basically, the quantum entanglement theory is that, particles vibrating in deep coherence would create some kind of deep connection linking them together.

In Michio Kaku's Physics of the Impossible book, there is this example that would help you understand the term quantum entanglement better:

If two electrons are initially vibrating in unison (a state called coherence) they can remain in wavelike synchronization even if they are separated by a large distance. Although the two electrons may be separated by light-years, there is still an invisible Schrodinger wave connecting both of them, like am umbilical cord. If something happens to one electron, then some of that information is immediately transferred to the other electron (in a speed faster than the speed of light).

Now in his book, this concept was mentioned under the chapter Teleportation. Basically, if you are to introduce 3 atoms in an experiment, with atom A and B being entangled initially. Then an atom C is put in contact with atom A. Atom C would then scan atom A, becomes entangled and transfers its information to atom A. Atom B being already entangled with atom A, would automatically receive the new information and becomes identical to atom C. Hence a "teleportation" could happen by utilizing on this concept, albeit that atom C did not actually move.

But if you are still with me, this is not an article dealing with teleportation.

How Quantum Entanglement could be the basis of the Law of Attraction?

The pre-requisite of the invisible Schrodinger wave that connects both objects invisibly regardless of distance, is that they have to vibrate in unison. In other words, as long as they offer the exact same vibration, a quantum entanglement could be formed. If there is an object that we would like to connect to, then as long as we can offer the exact vibration, theoretically speaking, the connection would be formed as well.

Scientifically speaking, it would be very difficult to know the exact vibration of an object, what's more to mimic its vibration in order to form a Schrodinger connection. But spiritually speaking, things may be different.

Through practices of deep meditation, it may be possible for one to not only feel the vibration of an object, but to remember it as well in the form of a feeling. Think of all the times in your dreams that you have dreamed about somebody even when they are not actually there, you were recalling their vibrations and how they felt to you. We as human is an amazing creation as while we have our physical vibration that forms our physical appearance, we are also able to offer vastly different vibration through our mind. Now if one is able to master the techniques of meditation (or other techniques) to feel and remember the vibrations of the object to control, and subsequently regenerate it in the back of his mind, he would hypothetically be able to create an quantum entanglement between the object and his mind. Once the connection is formed, would it be possible for him to move it around purely via thoughts alone, ie via psychokinesis?

A little lost?

Now you may be wondering, heck what does law of attraction has to do with all of these? To bring you back to what was said initially, what's alike draws to each other. Perhaps the object we desired to manipulate wouldn't fly across the room and hit our head in a very literal attraction sense, but invisibly, the Schrodinger wave would be creeping out from the object and our mind, drawing to each other and creating the bridge for quantum entanglement if we are able to offer identical vibrations. And this would be the same as attracting wealth, health, relationships, or any other abundance and still fit the description of law of attraction perfectly isn't it?

Perhaps this is actually what's happening each time we offer thoughts that are a vibrational match for our desires. We emit out all these Schrodinger wave and forms all sort of quantum entanglement with our desired outcomes, and quietly pull them over into our life. When you have mastered the law of attraction, when you have mastered the generation of vibrations for things you desired, would you be able through conscious efforts, to become a vibrational match for a specific object, creating the quantum entanglement connection, and manipulate it at will?

I say it is possible!

Disclaimer: My understanding of Quantum Entanglement theory is extremely limited.

I will be going into the movie Inception a little bit so please stop reading right now if you do not want to be spoiled about the movie.

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Inception talks about 3 very interesting concepts. First, you can control your dream. Second, it is possible to share your dreams. Third, it is possible to be stuck in your dream. Now let us explore these 3 concepts and how they are possible...

You can control your dream

The fact that you can control your dream, is possibly not new to many. You may have heard of the term lucid dreaming, which basically deals with controlling how your dreams turn out to be. Very much like in Inception really, where the characters are free to twist things around to their likings and just do whatever they want like they are the God literally.

In fact, the ability to control your own dreams are so natural to some people that they thought everyone else could do it. I surely can't. There are many guides are there that I can follow and train up the ability I suppose. Fascinating thing to be able to do anything in your dreams, just have not quite find the urge to pick up the skill yet.

Still I wonder how does it feel like to be fully in control of your dream. To be a superhero, to be everything you want to be, would you want to wake up?

In Inception, Robert lived in his dream with his wife for decades, to the point that when they come back from the dream world, the reality seems like the dream world instead. What would you do if you get to live in a world without a worry for hunger, for money, for anything that you don't want to be, and just lay back and have fun? Would you ever think of leaving? I might not.

You can share your dreams

Well this may seem a little far fetched but there are people out there who have claimed that they have done that. If you consider it from a purely physical perspective, it would be hard to understand. Not so if you switch your perspective around and look it through a spiritual point of view.

You see, sleeping is not just about shutting down your mind, and resting both your mind and your body. Spiritually, it goes beyond that. It is said that, when you are asleep, your soul goes back to where it comes from to recharge. You may call where it comes from the Heaven, God, the Source, or simply, the Well-being, and it would all be referring to the same thing. Your soul goes back into the spiritual world to stock up on its wellbeing (or energy), so that it would come back feeling all refreshed and ready to take on the world again the next morning!

In fact this is possibly why sleeping is a very good cure to minor depression, where one would wake up feeling more hopeful again despite doing absolutely nothing through their dreams. And that's why humans cannot survive through a prolonged period of sleep deprivation, whereas we could survive for weeks without food.

Imagine, when you are asleep, your soul is somewhere else recharging. For most people, there will be an exclusive express lane between our bodies and our spiritual "power socket". Sometimes, one may decide to take a detour and it would turn into Astral Projection, where it is possible to meet other souls, the ones that belong to other human beings, or the ones that don't. It is my understanding that it is possible to meet up and share your dreams that way, because in Astral Plane, whatever you think of, manifest right away, much like in our dream land.

Theoretically, it should be possible to create some sort of boundaries, which includes not one (yourself), but two or more people, and all of you can co-create in the astral plane. If you think of your spiritual express lane to recharge your wellbeing as some sort of boundary created naturally by ourselves, it should be possible to consciously mend this boundary to allow the others to come in. Some like to disarm the boundary altogether and just tour around the astral world freely meeting other kind souls or some very nasty ones. The boundary is really like a natural protection mechanism to stop us from meeting really really evil things out there.

It is possible to be stuck in your dream

It is said that in truth, there is no hell. There is only heaven, the place where we came from, where we will go back upon death. Just like darkness is not the opposite of light, but merely the lack of light, hell is not the opposite of heaven, just the lack of heaven. Our mind is stuffed with all kind of weird ideas about hell, like how it's always burning, how people are tortured so badly that it would have been better for them to just die spiritually, if that's even possible.

The thing is, hell is not all that at all. Hell is a self-created problem during people's death, that based on all the events that have happened in their life, they assumed that they will be judged and damned by God, undeserving of unconditional love. So then they become too afraid to cross over, and stuck living with their guilts and fears, as well as all the mistakes that they have made in their life. I guess you can foresee that, for a soul to be living in their guilts and dears indefinitely, it wouldn't turn out too well. With such low vibration, they would be creating and attracting all sort of wrong things to themselves. Possibly the reason why you hardly meet a very happy spirit that refuse to cross over.

And if you ever end up like this, it would not be too different from being stuck in your dream. There is just no way out until you realize that everything is self-created. If you have ever try counseling a very depressed person, you will know that it's the last thing that they want to know... That everything that they are going through is self-inflicted.

It is only very recently, that I realize the connection between "there is no hell", to what that is said in the bible. The bible would tell you that, if you do not believe in God, you are doomed to hell. In a way that is true because if you do not believe in God or heaven (that it is a place supposedly full of love, happiness, and wellbeing), you may be too afraid to make that leap of faith to cross over from this physical world into the "other side" fearing that you may not be good enough for the "other side", resulting you being stuck in your own hell, and infinite loop of all your guilts and fears.

Anyway...

I am not really sure if anybody understands anything written in this article because they could be so weird... Feel free to do a Google search on things and find out more. :) I may have gotten something wrong here but the gist is there.

You see, being successful is by definition about being better than the other people. How successful you are, depends on how much better you are compared to the rest of the population. I don't mean it in a superior/inferior way, but more of... what can you do, are able to do, that the other people can't? In other words, is there any unique contribution that you can provide to the world that the others cannot? The more unique and important your contributions are, the more valuable and successful you will become!

Let's compare a few hypothetical examples. Consider a few persons below:

1. A commerce graduate from a local university who can speak only okay English.
2. A commerce graduate from a local university with good results, who can speak only okay English.
3. A commerce graduate from a local university who can speak fluent English.

I bet you will have no problem point out that, person 2 and 3 would have better chance to succeed than person 1 right? In fact in Malaysia, where so many of the people can't speak fluent English, the ability to converse fluently and confidently in English is a quality that really stands out and sought after. And I would personally say that person 3 would be more successful than person 2 if the circumstances don't change.

Now let's move a level up and compare these examples:

1. A commerce graduate from a local university who can speak fluent English.
2. An engineering graduate from a local university who can speak fluent English.
3. An medicine graduate from an overseas university who can speak fluent English.

Do you have a problem in identifying who is more likely to succeed in the future? I mean assuming that the commerce degree is not a professional degree like accounting or finance, it would pale in comparison with a professional degree like engineering because while engineering people can take up commerce easily and replace them, it is not as easy for the commerce people to do it the other way around. Then there is the even more specialized degree of medicine.

Of course, to compare things like that are over-simplifying and would hardly be accurate. But let me just make my points first.

Assuming that you are this commerce graduate from a local university, who can speak only okay English, and you meet all these overseas engineering/doctor/pharmacy graduates who can speak fluent English confidently, it is easy to realize that if you want to be more successful than them, then you better have qualities that they don't have to get ahead!

You can begin by taking up an English course and really brush up your language skills. Now you may be equal to them in terms of English, but how about their professional background? Good news is, you don't have to match their everything. This world is abundant enough for you to be unique and be successful in your own ways. You can perhaps, build strong connections and networks. Study and master inter-personal skills (something professionals, especially the technical people often lack in), or other expertise that will help you with your career.

Since the possibilities are unlimited, I will leave the details to you. But the important point to note is that... If you are one of the very ambitious people, it is vital to not be delusional and always review your own probability to succeed. We all have to start somewhere. After graduating from university (or even, without graduating from university) you may find yourself ahead or behind the rest of the society. It is not important where you are at right now, but where you are heading.

A lot of the young sales people I see in Malaysia (and boy these are the people who are highly ambitious but also easily delusional) keep looking for the next great product or networking business opportunities to join and to make it big. They want to be in the top tier of the society, they want to drive BMWs and Mercedez just like their boss. But what they don't realize is that, that's almost like praying for their fortunes to fall from the sky. Yes there are some very successful salesmen and they earn a hell lot. But do these fresh graduate salesmen have the same qualities to succeed like them?

I admit that some do. Their enthusiasm and determination are unbreakable. Others however, are arrogant, can't speak proper English, untactful, pissy, dishonest, and they think that being like that would get them ahead? No way! Those are not unique and important contributions. Those contributions are easily replaceable by other idiots of the society. In fact, the internet is steadily replacing all the needs for a salesman, as witnessed in more developed countries like Australia. So you can say that the contributions of salesmen are really, replaceable.

When an ordinary sales person develops and improves on his skills, he transcends and becomes a business development executive, an online marketer guru etc... His skills and contributions would be unique and hard to be replaced. He will become highly valuable and sought after. Guess what comes after that? Success.

The reason why it is a common phenomenon to specialize in the world currently is that, having specialized knowledge is a shortcut to allow people to be unique and irreplaceable. Then, success has to come when they are highly sought after. :) You may not want to specialize for any reason and that's okay. You just need to realize that, having big dreams doesn't automatically get you ahead the rest of the people. You need to match it with good attitude, good mindset, good skillset, and any other things that would set you apart from the others. If you don't have them yet, start working on it. :)

So here it is... I hope that the information would help any skinny people reading on tips to gain more weight. :)

Don't drink coffee/tea

I am sure that you have heard all about coffee being bad and harmful to the body etc. But the reason why I recommend against drinking coffee, is somewhat different. It is not so much about the caffein, but rather, drinking coffee comes with two undesirable consequences that may hinder your progress into gaining more weight.

First, coffee tends you make you bloated. After drinking a cup of coffee, you may notice that your appetite is affected in the sense that, you don't feel like eating. Yes you may be hungry, but the craving for food to solve the hunger isn't quite there. I personally don't think it is the caffein, but probably the milk and/or sugar that causes the problem. However, I have observed that this is not applicable to everybody. Some's appetite is generally more steadier than the others and remains unaffected.

Second, coffee tends to increase your metabolism rate. I have no scientific proof whatsoever, but I do notice how my heart rate is generally higher after I gulped down a cup of coffee, and how the food eaten gets digested faster. I am not sure if this is applicable to everybody, so you should pay some attention to see how your body reacts.

Coupling this two problems together, what happens is that... after drinking a cup of coffee, not only that you get hungry earlier than usual, you tend to eat later than usual due to the loss of appetite. As mentioned in my earlier article, it's undesirable for us skinny people to have an empty stomach because since we generally do not have much fats to burn, whenever there is a lack of energy, muscles are the first to go. This, as a result, would eat away all your hard earned muscles.

Don't over eat

I know, you are skinny right, you gotta eat more! That's what everybody says. But there is a physical limit to your stomach and it is a bad idea to push it to the extreme. Extra calories will definitely help, but not at the expense of the stomach. You can eat more, but if you are really really full, best is to stop. I have seen friends trying to hard to force down meals just for the extra calories. I am not sure if they end up getting gastric or not, but I am pretty sure all of them have stopped.

Note that if you overstressed your stomach and weakened it, it would affect the digestion and absorption of food... which basically makes it harder for you to gain weight instead. So please don't overdo it despite how impatient you are to a better body.

A better way to increase your food intake, is to eat slightly more every time, and stretch your stomach linings gently. Just that one extra bite more every time does wonder. This may be a slower progress, but it is definitely more consistent, and your appetite will stay with you for the rest of your life. After a meal, if you want to eat some more, eat a banana or something. Then maybe 2 bananas. Slowly, you will get comfortable enough to stay eating 1.5 meals or 2 full meals every time. :)

If you want a cheating way... I usually gulp a big cup of water down after a meal. It was never meant to be stretching my stomach, but to wash away all the tastes of the food I ate. What I observed however, is that it has probably stretched my stomach by quite a bit after doing this for years. Sometimes I could eat 2 main meals if I am really hungry.

Don't split up your meals

I have heard that some people recommend splitting up your meals into smaller chunks and eat more often for gaining weight. But I am also hearing the same thing for people who wants to lose some of their weights so this gets me really confused. So I decided to follow my natural instinct that is to eat 3 main meals a day and be done with it. I don't really snack in between.

My logic is simple, everyday, when consistently eating only 3 main meals, it is easy to gauge my own intake. You can slowly push for more food with every meal. Another thing is that, you will find yourself preferring food with more calories as you will not feel hungry as easily. And you will try to eat more to last till the next meal.

With snacking, you might just constantly be eating up rubbishes without observing how much energy each food has, since you would just eat whenever right?

Besides, in Chinese medicine, it is believed that lunch is the most important meal of the day (as opposed to breakfast in the Western beliefs). I can't remember the exact reasoning behind, something to do with either bodily functions are most active during the time of the day, or maybe just specifically your digestion. But what I can point out is that, as soon as I started taking lunch very seriously, my weight starts shooting up rather easily. After a large intake of food during lunch, I don't usually feel like more food until it's dinner time.

Don't drink protein drinks

Personally, I feel that protein is overrated. I mean seriously, do horses or cows take any protein drinks? They eat grass and they are huge and musclular! Why then do we humans required so much protein to increase our size? It makes no sense. I feel like it's just some marketing gimmicks.

Besides, don't you know that your body operates in a balanced manner. Ie, too much of something may hinder the absorption of some other nutrients, and if prolonged, could cause illness. Mr Universe may all look good on the outside, but god knows how healthy they are from the inside. If they are not healthy from the inside, then the body form that they adopt would only be temporary. I mean, a lot of them use steroids too to boost their muscles development, would that be a good assurance that you should follow the same path? My common sense says no to anything unnatural. So no to steroids, no to protein drinks.

Plus, have you heard about stories of how excessive proteins, when unused by the body would cause kidney stones? >.> I am not sure if that's true, but still something to be cautious with. I have increased my weight so far without any protein drinks... So can you.

Oh don't take me wrong. I am not saying that they don't work. In fact I did give them a try long long time ago and I gained a little bit of weight. 1 to 3 kg around there. I just feel that it's not natural to inject so much proteins into our body and feel that it may lead to unwanted damages if done in a long-term basis. So I stopped, and started pursuing a path that is more natural and sustainable. And the results is a 10kg gain so far. :)

Don't eat instant noodles

I used to think that instant noodles are god-sent! They are so tasty, so easy to cook, and with an egg, it would be a quick and easy meal. It was not until I went to study in Australia that I noticed, heck I am still shivering after filling up my stomach with 3 packs of instant noodles. How come?! It was like there was no energy in my stomach to be absorbed and converted into maintaining my body heat. That's when I suspected that, instant noodles probably carries little to none calories that are beneficial to our body.

More over, usually in the next morning, I would be having stomach ache problems, and it feels like a detoxification process to get rid of all the rubbish I ate the day before. Then when the stomach is agitated, you can guess it right that I don't eat as much that day.

Of course I don't think it would be that extreme to everybody, especially when you were not eating 3 packs of instant noodles at one shot and feel the combined effects of them all. But my point still stands that they probably contains little to none beneficial calories to our body. It may be okay to eat them as snacks, but never as main meals. You need real food!

Generally, I try to stay away from most processed food. That includes cereal, soft drinks, junk food, instant noodles, and all the other food that came out from a factory. Food in the most natural form, is easier to be digested, and contains better calories. Processed food in general, drains your body of energy to break them down into absorb-able energy, and the net-gain to your body would be greatly reduced. If you are curious about this theory, you should look up on the arguments raw foodists have against eating anything cooked, or processed. They have a lot of interesting (and logical) points.

As a conclusion...

You may notice that my approach is always aiming for the small steps in a sustainable way. Now we don't just want to gain weight, we want to keep it too! What's the use of forcing your weight up to say 80kg and have it going back down to 60kg the very moment you stop pushing right? The thing is that, at its most natural form, a body would neither be skinny or obese. That's how a healthy body should be like, just at the right size. Gaining weight for the skinny people is a lot about making sure that you are in the right health conditions too. When you body is balanced and in the right health conditions, any attempts to gain weight would create very fast results.

However, if your body is hardly healthy... Then you would probably need to spend a lot of time to work on your health condition first before any attempts start showing significant improvements. If that's the case for you, do more cardio exercises while slowly incorporating some weight lifting exercises into the routine.

Then came December 2009. It was a festive season and sales were slow due to a lot of holidays. Practically every friday in that month was a public holiday and public holidays affect my sales a great deal. I had a great month in November, best I had up to that point, yet I wasn't earning as much as I anticipated. So I really had high hopes that I could push it further in December. There, my hopes were melting as each day goes pass. Already being far as hell from my ultimate target, yet that month I was going backwards. It was really hard to swallow.

I was feeling so exhausted, so tired of my life. It feels like nothing is going according to plans There was so much resentment and resistance with what-is, I could hardly breath. I wasn't sure where I was going, but I know I wasn't happy feeling so stuck with life.

Then my birthday came, and shortly the new year came. Knowing that I wasn't going anywhere and that I am too tired fighting against the flow of life, I surrendered. For once, despite hating and detesting of joining the rat race, I started accepting the possibility of going into workforce if there is better for me. My aim for 2010 was simple and measurable. I want [an X amount] a month in salary. Something very basic for a working fresh graduate, but was immeasurably hard for me and my start-up business. Then something very strange happened.

You see towards the end of December 2009, instead of resentment against life, I slowly started accepting what-is. I was still making plans for my business and learning more about how to set achievable goals for myself, but at the same time I was on the look out for opportunities that would allow me to jump onto the [an X amount] bandwagon. :) I was really, willing to give up on my dreams if that's what it takes to get on with my life. I really didn't feel like I had any more energy to fight against life anymore.

On the first week of 2010, out of expection, the sales volume has already exceeded my best ever month in 2009. :O All happened in just one week instead of a month, and at the very first week at that! It all happened when I have actually decided that giving up isn't such a bad idea after all. That very moment, I stop trying to go upstream. I let go, and the flow of life started carrying me downstream. I gotta say that it feels GOOOD! It feels DAMN GOOD! To quote Jerry and Esther Hicks, "Nothing you ever wanted is upstream. "

It feels damn good to feel that life is finally being cooperative. It feels damn good to feel that I no longer have to fight for anything, or against anything to get what I want. But guess what? I still am willing to accept that perhaps one day, I might have to go into the workforce again, and I no longer hold any resistance towards that.

The Power of Now is accurate in pointing out that, when you finally are able to accept the what-is without any resistance, then miraculously, everything that you were resisting seems to be disappearing, with life being very cooperative out of a sudden.

I love this feeling! No wonder so many of them out there make it big only after they hit the rock bottom. I guess without going through the rock bottom, it's hard to achieve this kind of vibrational state. To be finally willing to give up control and just let life be.

The Life After... Life After Hitting Rock Bottom

The post above was actually written around 15th January 2010. What that is added below is written today, 16th March 2010.

2 months quickly went by after I last wrote the article and saved it as draft. My income has been steadily increasing since then, exactly matching with how I felt then... that life has been cooperative and helpful. I guess that shouldn't be a surprise as I wrote previously in an article, well-being is natural to us as long as we don't resist it. After surrendering innerly and dropping all the resistance I had against life, the life finally gets to flow again. :)

Lately, I got a part-time engineering/IT job. I am due to start next week. For everyday, 5 days a week, I will be working 3 hours in the morning, and I am free to go and work on my business in the afternoon. I have to be honest to you that, such a job is almost impossible to find in Malaysia, yet somehow it found me. Yes I was actually asked if I am interested in that job, instead of looking through classified ads to search for the best job.

I don't know about you, but life has really been so nice to me starting this year, I feel so awesomely blessed. But I understand that this is all part of the "let life flows through you and offers no resistance" thingie, and I am constantly making sure that no resistance is there within me.

I truly believe that if life is not working for you, you can make it work just like how I do. Surrender now and go with the flow. How? I think I might have to write another article on that. :P

Yes, to be happy. That is your purpose of life. That is my purpose of life. And that is the purpose of life everyone else has.

But wait you say, it can't be that simple. What about those people who are made to do great things. Great leaders who have led nations out of crisis, great philanthropists who have saved millions to billions of lives, and great thinkers who have inspired generations and generations of people? Surely they were written in their destiny somewhat and that they were able to discover it much later, eventually fulfilling what they were born to complete.

Let me try my best to explain. And there are two things that I need to elaborate. First, the definition of happiness. Second, how it leads to doing what you are "meant to be doing", which in my opinion are the channels to fulfill your life purpose (ie being happy) instead.

Definition of Happiness

Happiness in this context, is slightly different from what we usually define it as. You know when you get a brand new car, or a brand new house, or something that you have been anticipating is finally coming, you would be telling everybody around you that you are "soooooooo happy". And it would be feel somewhat like a toned down version of excitement isn't it? More subtle, yet probably last longer than excitement too.

But in terms of the purpose of life, happiness would feel a lot more like... contentment. It is a very subtle feeling of peace, of everything is going smoothly and as it should be. To put it simply, it feels like life is being very cooperative to you and nothing is going against you. There is no resistance within you so to speak.

So for you or everyone else, there is only 1 purpose of life, that is to live this feeling. The correct term would be, to be at peace, to be content, to be happy.

Then, What Are You Meant To Be Doing?

However, if the purpose of life is so simple, then what you are meant to be doing this life? Isn't there something that is destined for you by somewhere beyond the heavens?

The answer is very simple. You are meant to do whatever that would allow you to be at peace, to be content, to be happy as much as possible, and it doesn't matter if it involves a great mission of life, or just being plain average and simple.

Sometimes we tend to confuse that, our purpose of life has to be something grand. The thing is that, people who tend to discuss their own purpose of life, tend to be people who are more ambitious, who would like to see and control how their lives unfold. And so you hear them discussing how to inspire people, how to change humanity, how to save others lives. But noooo, it doesn't have to be that grand. It is perfectly okay to just be an employee in McDonald's that serves others with a smile, as long as that's what you feel happy about.

The Easiest Way To Find Your Channels Of Being Happy, Is Just To Do What That Allows You To Be Happy The Most

Fact is, simple and average living people tend to be happier than the ambitious people. They are more in-tune with life so to speak. They do not really resist life. Whatever life throws them, they accept it and moves on. Without any resistance, it is easy to be at peace with circumstances, to be content with what they have, however little it might be sometimes, and just be happy with life. Of course, try not to confuse simple and average living people, with people living below poverty line. They may be a lawyer living a good middle-class income, but still leads a simple life.

Ambitious people on the other hand, tend to resist life. They like to think that they are able to control how their life unfolds, and sometimes when things don't go their way, they become enraged, thus offering a lot of resistance towards life and no longer being at peace with circumstances. At the same time, these people are not content being simple and average, they want a mission that they can work on their entire life, something to be proud on when they look back at their last days. And that's absolutely nothing wrong with that. Problem is, most of us hardly know what that mission is... no?

It is not easy to figure out what you are meant to be doing, and that's for a very good reason. You are never destined to be doing anything. Even if you delve into destiny study, it usually points out a likely path that is not guaranteed. It's up to you to decide what you would like to achieve in this life, and some of your natural talents, natural gifts may lead you into certain likely fields.

So, a good way to figure out what is your purpose of life, or in the context of this article, the channel in which to fulfill your purpose of life which is happiness, is to keep doing things that allow you to feel content about life.

Everyime you do something that makes you feel happy, it leads you nearer to the channels of fulfilling your life purpose. You give things a try, and decide that they are not too bad at all, and you won't mind doing some of them more often. Through that, you would refine your desires and be more specific what is even better in allowing you to be happy. Eventually, you would come upon something that you have finally decided that, you don't mind doing this for the rest of your life at all.

The channels may be changing through your life, or it may not. It doesn't matter. But there will be something that at this moment, you don't mind, or better still, would love to do.

You may start out as a tax accountant, sorting out the taxation problems that your customers may have. And you find delights in solving what your customers perceive as hell-ish tasks. So you keep doing it. One day, you may be inspired to bring it up to a next level. You ask yourself, "hey why don't I run an educational seminar on the taxation system to educate your customers and their friends?", and you ran your first seminar. Not long afterwards, you receive feedbacks that your attendees would like more information on certain topics, and you started running more specific seminars in addressing those needs. Then you might even find the urge to write a book, start a blog, or run a advisory group with help from volunteers. One day you look back, and you realize, wow... you have done so much. But really, it all started just by doing what you like to do. :)

Of course your life wouldn't unfold in the exact way. But hopefully it would give you a rough idea how things would be like, just sticking to what you like. I was just telling a friend the other day that, I think most professions that help people one way or another way, via healing, via inspiring, via motivating etc, are likely to be the most fulfilling jobs. So maybe you can start there.

Now perhaps you belong to a different group, you are an accountant who hates his job. "Every time the end of financial year comes, I have to stay up all night and rush for deadlines. How could I ever feel happy with this job?" you say. If you cannot accept it, try to remove yourself from it. Look for another job, perhaps transfer out of your department. Your new job may have lower salary, or it may not be exactly what you want to do right now (which perhaps you do not yet have a solid idea), but it is a good start to not feel all the resistance everyday. Then slowly, explore and look for things that please you. Slowly but surely, you will get closer and closer to a channel that would make you content with life. Tricky bit is that, you will have to start soon, if not now, or it would not appear magically out of thin air one day and just land on your laps.

In Short...

In essence, the common mis-conception of purpose of life, is that it has to be something grand and inspiring, like being the president, being the the richest guy in the world, or being a saint like Buddha etc, and that the ones who achieved it, must have discovered their purpose of life somehow one day. Truth is, it is nothing like that. Your purpose of life is simple, that is to be happy, to be at peace, to be content with your life. The channels to achieve this purpose could vary greatly and it doesn't matter.

Why did some of the greatest people in history end up doing what they do? Because as they continue to be, or strive to be content with their lives, they realize that certain channels, certain mediums, certain missions are more likely to allow their being of happiness than the others, and so they moved towards the great things that they have done.

But let's not discount many others who lived their lives happily without leaving any footprint in the history. They do, have fulfilled their purpose of life.

Being cut-off from the present moment also leads to being cut-off from life itself, for that life does not exist in the past or the future (which are moments that live in your mind), but in the now. To go deeper, Tolle also presented that living in the now, is a direct connection to the Source, to love, to joy and peace. It is also discussed thoroughly in the book that the voice in our head, the thoughts that we generate, are not us. They are generated by ego, a false-self created by the mind that most people mistakenly identify themselves with. And so through out the book, he talks extensively about how to detach from our mind, the false-self, so that one can live in the present moment and embrace life instead.

You may be wondering right now, how is this the missing link between the Law of Attraction and the actual reality? There is nothing about Law of Attraction in this Power of Now teaching. Actually there is...

The Law of Attraction

First, the Law of Attraction says that, well-being is natural to us. That is why, even when you do not consciously wish for good things to happen, bad things do not usually happen unless you offer the wrong vibrations that attracted them. Now even if you do not consciously offer positive thoughts everyday, your life will still generally be well. For example, most of the time we are still relatively healthy, even if we don't exercise much. That's because most of us don't usually think much about our health. Without all the negative thoughts, the only natural thing is well-being.

Second, the Law of Attraction says that, what that is alike draws to each other. If you are offering positive thoughts and hence positive vibrations, then for sure only good things can happen to you. Likewise for negative thoughts. In our daily lives however, positive thoughts and negative thoughts aren't always that straight forward. If we are able to log down all our thoughts in a day, we will see that we offer a huge mix of positive and negative thoughts through the day. Sometimes a positive attraction is neutralized by a negative thought; and in other times, a negative attraction is countered by a positive thought.

In fact this second point is responsible for many of our mis-manifestation because it is simply not easy for a lot of us to maintain only positive thoughts through any given day, on most subjects. You may find that you are quite confused as to why certain thoughts manifest successfully and easily, while others don't. That is because, consciously or unconsciously, your vibration is mixed so badly that... the Source has a problem deciding which exactly is that you want.

Of course there are many tools and processes that you can apply to manifest your desires more easily, especially if you follow Jerry and Esther Hicks' series on the topic. But on a more fundamental level, if you are able to sort out your inner world, then there is absolutely no need for all these tools or processes. You are already a living magnet for all the manifestations.

Limit Your Negative Thoughts Through The Power of Now

The reason is simple really. The Power of Now asks you to cease thinking unnecessarily and access the present moment, hence the life or the Source itself. The Law of Attraction says that, if you don't offer negative thoughts, or any thoughts at all, then your life is automatically heading towards well-being. By practicing the Power of Now, your life is already on cruise control towards well-being without all the unneeded negative thoughts. Now all you have to do every once in a while is to decide what it is that you would like to have and beam your desire to the universe. Without any inner conflict that confuses the world, manifestation will come and it will come very quickly.

In fact one of the loa processes that Jerry and Esther Hicks brought up in Ask and It Is Given is, to meditate for 10 minutes everyday without any thoughts. It is said that that 10 minutes is able to attract enough well-being into your life to accelerate manifestations. If that's the case, think about what one could do if he is able to control his thought process so well that, it is empty for most of the day, for way longer than 10 minutes?

In Eckhart Tolle's second book, A New Earth: Awakening To Your Life's Purpose, he briefly mentioned about how life has become cooperative to him once he started embracing the present moment, which I truly think that it is just a different side of the same story.

Now I am not sure if I have made this article friendly enough for those who have not read the book The Power of Now yet, by Eckhart Tolle. So before ending this article, let me just give it one last shot.

In Short...

• The mind is a false-self created by ego that we should not be confused with who we truly are. It is not our true self. Our true self is an eternal spiritual being connected to the Source (or God).
• Living in the mind and identifying with your false-self would cut off your connection with the Source. The mind is constantly worried and feel under threat by the world (note bad vibration for loa) as it sees itself as a fragile being that would die any moment. This fear cuts itself off from the world.
• When you are living in the now, you stop living in the mind that consists of only past or future moments (as well as the deep-seated fear of perishing any moment soon). Thinking stops when you live fully in the now (note no bad vibration). You will be more connected to the Source, and you will feel a deep sense of peace within you.
• Without unnecessary thinkings, and hence unnecessary bad vibrations, then your desires would definitely manifest more easily than previously.

And how do you live fully in the now? Read the book! Or really, just stop thinking.

The Missing Link?

Why is the Power of Now the missing link between the Law of Attraction and the reality? Because, by practicing the Power of Now, life would already be going smoothly for you as well-being flows into your life automatically. Law of Attraction however, would be able to guide the well-being of life into specific areas that you desired, shaping your life exactly as how you like it.

Many people feel stuck manifesting anything through the Law of Attraction because they are constantly offering such a mix bag of vibrations. In some cases, negative vibrations are even more than positive ones, to the extent that nothing is manifesting for them but hardships.

If you are one of these people, definitely... read the book The Power Of Now. It is a very profound book written in unconventional style. However, once you get the gist of it, it will transform your entire life literally. Once your inner world is on the right track, difficulties will stop coming your way. Then, use Law of Attraction to shape your life to the inches of your liking. :)

God created the world, similar to how we create our body. We are all interconnected cells in God's body.

The only way to honoring God, is to honor life itself. Stay conscious, and live life to your fullest potential.

The only reason for life, is for God to experience himself through you. You are an irreplaceable part in the grand design of the world.

Here in this article, the term Resolution refers to the ultimate goal of the year, where as the term Goal refers to the mini-steps leading to your Resolution.

Only 1 Resolution For The Year

The most common mistake everybody does, is creating list of resolutions. The list would contain so many things that a person would love to improve on in the coming year that he wouldn't be able to remember any of them without the list. My advice is, don't do that!

Stick with only 1 resolution. Decide which area of your life requires the most attention this year, and set a resolution to improve upon it. Sticking with only 1 resolution allows you to focus 110% on it and plan your entire year accordingly without conflict. More importantly, you will remember your resolution through the year and consistently measuring your own progress towards it. That will keep you focused and motivated. :)

Having more than 1 resolution not only create possible conflicts, it also spreads thin your energy and focus. You may end up only making minimal progress in all of them. You may also find yourself more likely to switch your focus to another resolution when times get tough, instead of biting the bullet and pushing right through. As much as all of us wanting maximum results in minimal time, working on 1 thing at a time is THE most efficient way. Try raising the standards instead if you feel that you are not being challenged enough living with only 1 resolution.

Your Resolution Must Be Measurable So That It Can Be Broken Down to Measurable Goals

Your resolution and goals need to be measurable. It is important to be able to determine whether you are there or not. It should only be a yes or no every time you do an evaluation on your progress. Are you there yet? Yes or no? If no, how far are you?

A bad goal would be asking for financial abundance in the upcoming year. How much is abundant for you? $10,000? $100,000? $100 million? Your mind isn't able to compute the end results. For that reason, you will not be able to break down your goal into smaller steps to lead you towards the your resolution.

However if you instead, set a resolution of earning $10,000 monthly by end of the year. Now you can break down the resolution into smaller goals for every month. $2,000 for January, $2,500 for February, $4,000 for March etc. Then through the year, you can measure your own progress against your smaller goals, and adjust accordingly if your progress is slower or faster than anticipated. For example, you would be able to ask yourself if you are earning $2,500 in February, in March, and the answer would be yes or no only.

Being able to measure your progress is very important because if you are slower than anticipated, you will need to find out more ways to accelerate your progress.

What do you have to change to achieve your goals?

This is definitely the most important step in setting achievable goals. Most people forget to ask this question when laying out their resolutions and goals, as if the goals would automatically be accomplished without nothing ever being changed. But we all know that that hardly happens. Hence, you need to ask yourself, what do you have change to achieve your goals?

Say you want to earn $10,000 a month by end of the year, as stated in the example above, what do you have to change? Do you want to get a part-time job, change your existing work, take up a professional course, start looking into investing etc? You may even feel that starting a business is the path to go. Whichever way you choose isn't important. What's most important is that, you must not sit at where you are hoping for a windfall. It doesn't happen.

Depending on your circumstances, the answer may not always be very straight-forward. Then perhaps this question would serve you better: "What am I willing to change to achieve my goals?" Set your bottom line and look out for opportunities. When they come, and if they are not below your bottom line, why not give it a try right? :)

All goals require sacrifices. If you are not willing to change anything, then quite likely you wouldn't be able to accomplish anything by end of the year. How your life is now... is how your life will be if nothing changes.

To put it shortly, the ability to achieve your yearly resolution, ultimately lies in your ability to be committed to the changes that would lead you towards the end result.

Write Everything Down

So you have chosen your one and only resolution for the year. It is measurable, and you have further broken it down into goals to be achieved for the 12 months of the year. You have also asked yourself the most important question, what do you have to change in order to succeed, and you have figured out a pretty good answer to that question. What's next? Write everything down!

It is important to stay committed to your decisions made regarding your resolution and goals. You can't stay committed if you start forgetting tiny bits of them. Write everything down in your journal, in a piece of card, in a place where you are sure that you would keep it for the rest of the year, then refer to your notes every now and then. You may find it helpful to put up a copy of these notes on walls where you frequent, just to remind yourself of your resolutions and goals through the year.

These notes that you jot down, will be your judge. Every month, take out the notes and ask yourself if you have achieved the monthly goal. Yes or no? Evaluate if you have been sticking with the changes that you have decided earlier on as required. Make sure that everything is on track. :)

Without these notes to hold you accountable, you may find yourself straying away from your goals unconsciously and the next minute before you realize, you are in another new year setting another list of goals to be achieved without the ones before being accomplished first.

So there you go. :) Happy New Year, and may all your resolution and goals come true!

Me however, I have to deal with another issue. My birthday is coming up too... just one week prior to the new year, at the very happening day of Christmas Eve. Ya know, when end of the year comes, you usually look back at the past year and see how have you been doing. However, when your birthday comes, you look back at your entire life and see how far have you progressed. Then when you mix both together, and when there really isn't much to show, without proper outlet, the stress just kept piling up for me. Wasn't an easy period for me.

After about 3 weeks of depression (triggered by some customer complaint where I felt that I did my best), I really felt like I couldn't take it anymore. All the stress was just unimaginable. I saw no way out. Everything just seems to be against me. I was just lost. Very lost. I have this buddy who is also going through a similar phase and so we were like feeding off each other's negative energy, continuously delving deeper into a very negative state.

One day I realized, I can't do this anymore. This is bullshit. If I keep telling myself how bad things are, keep feeling sorry for myself, things are only going to get worse! I need to drag myself out of the negative state as soon as possible.

So I sat down quietly one afternoon, trying to do some inner work to cleanse all these negative energies roaming within me. And my inner guide told me...

It's okay. It's okay to be here right now. It's okay to be here right now and not there, there where you want to be. It's okay to not be at where you want to be right now and there is no need to feel unhappy about it. There is no need for resistance. There is no need of inacceptance. It is okay. Life is never harder than what you could handle.

Nothing you want is in the upstream. Stop fighting against the current. Just let go. The stream of life will carry you to wherever your desires are.

Accept the now, so you can work towards your future. When you deny your present moment, when you offer so much resistance against the now, you are not establishing your anchor point. You know where you are not right now, but where are you right now exactly anyway? How far exactly are you with where you want to be, do you know that?

By Law of Attraction, when you are feeling so stuck, so depressed, there is only one thing that could happen. That is you drift further and further away from where you want to be. Realistically speaking, that's also true. When you are depressed, much like how I was, you wouldn't be very motivated at all. More and more things are neglected and your life gets worse and worse. Depending on how far down before you could realize where you are heading, then maybe things would improve a little following your awakening. Some however, never make it to the awakening till their death. They ended their life right when it hits the rock bottom.

This is actually heavily influenced by the book, The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. Surrendering to the now is very very important. Actually as soon as I started accepting that I do not have to push against the present moment too much, the stress slowly goes away. Nothing external has changed yes. But when you started embracing light instead of darkness, everything does not look that bad anymore. I have came a long way, and I have a lot to show if I want to. :) You have too! There is no need to be too difficult on ourselves. We are where we are and it is not going to change right now. But it can change the very next second. And then the next, and then the next. :) Just that it always starts with right now, with this very moment.

It was also helpful that the same night, I was able to adjust the way my buddy was thinking a little bit. It is good to break the cycle and stop feeding each other negative energies that keep putting down both of us.

In a way this article is about me and my recent experience. However, I am sharing this in the hope that maybe it will help somebody out there going through the same phase of feeling stuck and lost with their life. And when you too can start accepting the now and offer no resistance to it. Immediately, good things are lining up for you once again. :)

Or if you don't buy into the loa stuff, at least your mind would be less cluttered and more open to options when you are not depressed. So just stay strong!

It's okay!