My Secret Haven

A Salute to the Women of Faith

noreply@blogger.com (bE) — Sat, 01 Aug 2009 06:22:00 +0000

The wOmen of fAith has gOne but her legacy continues..Thank you mrs. president for teaching us to hold on to our faith when things are n`t right.
RIP Pres. Corazon C. Aquino August 1, 2009 3:18am @
the age of 76 of Cardio Respiratory Arrest

Emotional Affair.? dah.!

noreply@blogger.com (bE) — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 04:07:00 +0000

When You Don't Have Anyone To Talk To And You've Been Alone For The Longest Time You Tend To Find Ways As To How You Could Relieve Yourself Of The Daily Emotional Baggages That Life Brings You. With The Technological Advancement That We Have Now A Days, Its Easy To Communicate With Other People..Even Anonymously. Companionship Is Just One Click Away. Some Of The Ways Would Be By Having Phone Pals..Text Mates...Constant Chats In The Internet With A Stranger. Pathetic As It May Sound. It Helps Relieve The Feeling Of Loneliness. And It's Quite Addictive You Know.

My Friends Can't Seem To Understand Why I Indulge Myself With These Things. I Sometimes Say That I Just Dont Have The Time To Mingle And Chat In Real Life. Which Is True, I Know My Friends Meant Well. They're Just Concerned That I Am Being Emotionally Involved With Someone I Havent Been With Yet.

But Is There Such A Thing As An Emotional Affair? Can You Really Love Someone Just By Talking To Him Over The Phone Or By Just Sending MMS/SMS Messages? Or By Just Simply Exchanging Words, Getting To Know Each Other Through Blog Entries And Looking At This Persons Profile, Pics And Media Playlist. (Just To Check If The Guy Is A Hopeless Romantic Or Not ;P )

Admittedly, I Was A Adamant For Such Stupid Actions. Hey! Can You Blame Me? After What I've Been Through I'd Rather Have A Voice For A Boyfriend Than Someone Who Can Hurt Me Physically.

But What Is The Cost Of Having One?

You Tend To Compensate The Physical Absence With Material Things Instead, Just To Show This Person How Much You Value Them In Your Life. So As You Can See It Can Be Quite Expensive You Know.

Since There Is A Lack Of Physical Attachment So To Speak. You Can't Stop Yourself From Thinking If The Needs Of This Person Is Being Satisfied. So Trust And Commitment Has Always Been An Issue. It's When You Go Crazy When This Person Doesn't Pick Up The Phone Or When He Failed To Reply On Your Messages.( You Even Send This Person A Load Thinking That The Reason Why He Failed To Respond Was Because He Doesn't Have One) You Tend To Get Paranoid..You Try To Think Of The Inevitable. You Then Question If This Person Is Really Sincere Towards You. What's So Ironic Is That The Reason Why You Went Into That Kind Of An Affair Is Because At First You Thouht It Somehow Relieves You Of The Emotional Stress When They Suddenly Become The Thing That You Are Trying To Relieve Yourself Off.

First box of joy and tears

noreply@blogger.com (bE) — Fri, 29 May 2009 03:38:00 +0000

We been waiting for this box almost a year..i mean months..nah kidding aside.it was the first box my husband sent to us. My children and i were sooo excited about it..actually whats inside of it..but when it arrived i dont know what is my reaction will be..hayz..apparently my mother dies..mixed emotions..i smilled

Making Lust Last..Unfinished..

noreply@blogger.com (bE) — Mon, 25 May 2009 06:19:00 +0000

Sharing lives is different from sharing dinners and long walks and weekends away. When you were dating the man you ultimately married, you were both acting much of the time (consciously or not), putting your best feet forward in order to be attractive to each other. When you were sick or had a bad headache, probably pretended it was no big deal. So did he. Now when your stomach is upset, you feel free to tell him you`re about to throw up. when you had an argument with a close sister, you might have told him, "it really was n`t the best day, but it`s getting better now that we`re together" He might had smiled, taken your hand, and said "Tell me what happened. I want to know" Now when he ask how you days was, you might just say, "Fine", and leave it at that. and he might be happy to leave it at that too. Nobody would write that kind of dialogue into a romantic movies - unless it was a sad serious one. But that`s how married people generally talk because no one can always act adoring or keep up an air of mystery while sharing the same space with his or her spouse, year after year. Here are the truths...

SEX FACT #1 Love is constant; passion needs recharging.

No surprise: Some people fall out of lust in seven days never mind seven years nor 17. Relaxing in our marriages and freeing ourselves from the pressure of trying to impress our partners has a predictable outcome: Our partners are not impressed.The magnetic spell we once cast on them being lift.

SEX FACT#2 Cozy is comfortable, but not sexy.

To extent that men and women become real to each other, they cease to be princes and princesses,gods and goddesses who inspire romantic fantasies or amorous worship. Since couples lucky enough to be emotionally genuine with each other share so many real moments, they need to pay special attention to creating magical ones because great sex requires magic

...have yoUr sex fact here..be the one to finish this..

Can i be a coffee bean?

noreply@blogger.com (bE) — Sun, 09 Nov 2008 05:21:00 +0000

A daughter complained to her father about her life and how things were so hard for her.She did not know how she was going to make it,and wanted to give up.She was tired of all the fighting and struggling.It seemed as though in solving one problem,two more would arise.Her father,(a chef) took her to the kitchen.He filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire.Soon the pots came to boil.In one he placed carrots,in the second he placed eggs,and the last he placed ground coffee beans.He let them sit and boil without saying a word.The daughter impatiently waited,wondering what he was doing.In about twenty minutes he turned off the burners.He fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl.He pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl.Then he ladled the coffee out and poured it in a cup.Turning to her he asked."Darling,what do you see""Carrots,eggs,and coffee,"she replied.He brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots.She did and noted that they were soft.He then asked her to take an egg and break it.After pulling off the shell,she observed the hard-boiled egg.Finally,he asked her to sip the coffee.She smiled as she tasted its rich aroma.She humbly asked."What does it mean Father" He explained that each of them had faced the same adversity,boiling water,but each reacted differently.The carrots went in strong,hard and unrelenting.But after being subjected to the boiling water,they softened and became weak.The egg had been fragile.Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior.But after sitting through the boiling water,the insides became hardened.However,the ground coffee beans were unique.After they were in the boiling water,they had changed the water."Which are you,"he asked his daughter."When adversity knocks on yor door,how do you respond" Are you a carrot,an egg,or a coffee bean" How about you,Are you the carrot that seems hard,but with pain and adversity do you wilt and become soft and lose your strength, Are you the egg,which starts off with a changeable heart, Were you a fluid spirit,but after difficult times,have you bacome hardened and stiff.Your shell looks the same,but are you tough with a stiff spirit and heart,Or are you like the coffee bean, The bean changes the hot water,the thing that is bringing the pain.When the water reaches it’s peak temperature,it just tastes better.If you are like the bean,when things are at their worst,you get better and make things better around you.When people talk about you,do your praises to the Lord increase.When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest,does your worship elevate to another level.How do you handle adversity.Are you a carrot,an egg,or a coffee bean"

Your Diet was a ScAm

noreply@blogger.com (bE) — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 12:38:00 +0000

Sorry but not all diets live up to their hype. For example, one diet claimed that if you ate nothing but bananas you`d loose weight( the proof being that you never saw overweight monkey). it won`t work.(It will also make you very sick of bananas).

Others are good for short-term weight loss, but since they don`t burn fat, will only lead to loss water. Examples are so called cleansing diets or liquid diets. While they`re great for removing the toxins, you really can`t sustain it for more than a week without feeling sock or lightheaded.
What can you do:

* Don`t believe every diet you hear.

Ask how it`s supposed to help you loose weight and research to see its claims are actually scientifically supported.

* Take celebrity endorsements with a grain of salt.

Celebrities have personal trainers and plastic surgeons. If they`re thin, its not just because of that diet- hey you`d loose weight too if you had a fully equipped gym in your bedroom.

* Check if the diet meets the daily nutritional requirements.

While all diets require a certain control of calories if you aren`t getting enough food you will feel too weak to think or function properly. So you`ll either get sick or binge. But here`s the deal: Mother Natures programmed your body to store food in "lean times" Your poor eating habits have triggered this survival instinct,so anything you do eat goes straight to your hips.

* Be aware of any diet that demands that you buy a product.

They may work but it`s a huge financial investment and not easy to sustain. You`re better off with something that involves a lifestyle change. You can use a drink or a pill you can try a power bar or a miraculous patch but it`s just one of many activities. Ask your self: "Will i loose weight without this product? Can i replace it with something else if i see fit?" If the answer is a resounding no- then read the fine print. It may say, in so many words."You`ll gain everything back the moment you stop"

Nature or Nurture?

noreply@blogger.com (bE) — Sat, 27 Sep 2008 06:57:00 +0000

Analyzing Infidelity III

My friend said women are so emotional...and he includes me in that category. They try to approach things using their heart and not through common sense. Taking that into consideration...

I started rationalizing the science behind Infidelity. That's were the internet comes in. I browsed through numerous articles and sites which tackles how genetics and environment play an important role in this seemingly broad topic. And these are just some of the excerpts that I found really interesting.

"Scientists suspect that many genes (50-100) could be associated with sexual behavior. They believe genes on chromosomes 3, 7 and 20 could be directly involved.". So it all starts in the womb ladies and gentlemen.Infidelity is in our genes.Nature has gifted us an engineered genetic imprint to be unfaithful.Researchers even say that women are mostly carriers of these genes. Men tendencies to become promiscuous would really depend on the size of a man's testicles ( Really now?! lol ) Just to prove that genetics plays an important role in adulterous behaviors some studies show that sleeping disorders (apnea) and/or erratic leg movements are some signs of man's thirst for lust even on a subconscious level.

"Once DNA testing becomes cheap then before entering into more committed relationships many men and women will surreptitiously take DNA samples from each other and have the DNA tested for genetic variations that contribute to infidelity and to other behavioral tendencies as well."

Here's a thought..What if you did find out that your partner has a tendencies to be unfaithful would that stop you from being with this person?! This is just another one of man's stupid idea of "fixing- it"...it's more stupid than the day they created the prenuptial agreement. Duh?! Some radical scientist would even suggest "gene therapy" or screening of babies for possible acts of infidelity in the future will help lessen the risk of marital disputes, legal battles, and eventually broken families.

Which brings us to the topic of "nurturing"..

"Radical feminists go so far as to argue that a so-called predisposition toward motherhood or heterosexuality is actually learned behavior. Thus they seek to deconstruct the institutions of society, such as the family and the free market, in order to reconstruct them to promote the "correct" set of learned behaviors."

Environment really plays an important role. Particularly the one that we are initially exposed to...our home...our family.This justifies what my friend Paul and I are discussing. Promiscuity outside the boundaries of a relationship is brought about by our need to be loved and be secured. These outcomes were experienced during when we are still sucking our mother's breast or when our daddy was carrying us on his shoulders. Thus the term 'nurture". When our partners can't meet our expectations... the image set on our minds...the feeling of being loved and secured we then tend to look for it somewhere else.

Regardless of what our predilections or predispositions may be, and regardless whether the sin is nature or nurture driven there should always be a need to justify if what were doing is right or wrong. "Being predisposed does not mean one is a helpless preprogrammed robot with no moral choice in the matter." We should know better than that.

Satisfaction?

noreply@blogger.com (bE) — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 11:13:00 +0000

Analyzing Infidelity II

In this doggy dog world of ours we are constantly faced with seemingly endless options in every various aspect of our lives. From the brand of toothpaste that we use to the contraceptive methods that are being want only because they advertised in all different mediums. print. screen. name it "SEX" is everywhere. Sex sells as they say. But that's another topic

Going back. The ratio of men as oppose to women has always been in favor of the "Alpha Male". Men have choices...women don't. Very seldom do you hear women accused of being polygamous in a relationship, it's always been the adult male. It's always the women who are always being associated with martyrdom and stupidity. Hear ye! Hear ye! =)

I remember there's even a mini series in HBO which tackles about polygamous relationships entitled "BIG LOVE". It's a story about a middle age man who is living with his 3 wives and children in one house. The daily plot is based on how he deals with each women and how the women deal with each other. Fighting and compromising for this man's love and attention. Geezer... what women do for love.

Being in a relationship women are always being baffled by that question.." Will I ever be enough for him? ". You tend to be paranoid with even the smallest things. Asking him questions such as " Who you were with? " or " Why is she here? ". Men think of it as insecurity...for women it's an art of survival. A way for us to keep our men. We go through great lengths just to please them. To satisfy not only their physical, emotional and wanton needs just so they could remain faithful to us and their marital obligations.

But will it hinder them from doing the inevitable? It won't . Stopping them will only fan their need to be unfaithful. It's the adventure of it all so to speak. And besides Men are egotistical in nature. For them. the merrier. the better. It often dictates their stature in society. Just to prove a case in point isn't it that every time you hear a guy having 3 girlfriends all in the same time, people would think that this guy is oozing with charisma and is really a great catch. But for women having the same kind of situation will never be treated as such and will only be castigated ,mocked and considered nothing but a whore and a teased. Talking about discrimination. Hey life sucks ladies...

But will you ever be enough? No one knows. No one can tell if you are the PERFECT person for him. Someone who could or would complete him. In the mean time we keep ourselves busy and our pockets drained with vanity that we don't need.

Regardless how many women he has or how scandalous his actions maybe, your only hope is that he still chooses you in the end. That is, if you are still there waiting for him. Ladies it's his lost... not yours!

Canada..the Land of Opportunities for Filipino Workers!!

noreply@blogger.com (bE) — Wed, 17 Sep 2008 12:03:00 +0000

Actually i do not know were to start. But i hope this will help some of my countrymen to have a good source of income. To give hope for Filipino families to fulfilled there dreams.

One of a big Meat Processing Company in Canada needs a hundreds of workers in particular a Filipino who will work as a maintenance, a butcher and a laborer. This said Company is based in the province of Canada...Alberta. This coming friday the Filipino Government and the Canadian Government will sign a Memorandum of Agreement.,in hiring a Filipino workers. After this more opportunities for my countrymen. This company wants a Filipino workers because they were "masipag" unlike the workers from other country which he specified and i do not think its appropriate for me to name drop. The same Agency which deployed over 50 Filipino workers last year( one of them is someone close to me ) for the said Company is the same Agency that will facilitates the hiring in there behalf and a Agent from the company will do the interview. For now i will not write the agency`s name for some technicalities and legal reasons.

After the Signing...the Job Order...the Rest is History..

What is the most important things in life

noreply@blogger.com (bE) — Wed, 03 Sep 2008 14:03:00 +0000

Yes, you read it right. ask anybody and they would tell you love is the most important of all. why people turn from evil to good, why they still exist, and any other things. But is really love the reason for everything? there are other things more important than staying in love.

TRUST. You can always trust the one you love but you can never make yourself love someone you don't trust. Ironically, the people who hurts us the most are the same people that we love the most. This is because we let them hold our hearts not knowing they would just drop it off to the ground.

PEACE OF MIND. Not having to worry about anything bad that is going to happen, at any given time, to you or the people you love.

CONTENTMENT. "You can never be too happy in this life", and that's true. It's somewhat the same as peace of mind. we are always in that state wherein we always want something more. It's natural, but if we could just be happy with who,what, where, and how we are, maybe it would make our lives a lot easier. Stay where you are but aim high. Give your best shot and be happy.

ACCEPTANCE. In acceptance we see our worth. you may not please everybody but it sure helps that they accept you the way you are. That you don't have to be like anybody to "belong". that you don't have to worry that you're always doing the wrong things. With acceptance you feel love, peace of mind, and contentment. these things would surely sum up to a feeling called BLISS. a sense of happiness that is immeasurable. a feeling that would make you feel all the love you need. And that surely is something that can be considered more important than love.

The Pool Shark

noreply@blogger.com (bE) — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 12:19:00 +0000

Our new generation's swimming wonder boy, Michael Phelps. His coach of 12 years recognized his potential earlier on and said he'll make it to Sydney 2000. Although he finished 5th on the finals, five months later, he became the sport's youngest male world-record holder when he claimed the 200m fly mark. He then won 6 gold and 2 bronze medals in Athens 2004. For Beijing 2008, he won eight gold medals and broke the record of Mark Spitz's single games record for gold medals in Munich 1972. Phelps swam 17 times over nine days and broke the world record in four of his five individual swims.

At first glance, Phelps might look like a typical swimmer. But several of his physical characteristics seem genetically tailored for swimming. His 6-foot-7-inch wingspan is three inches longer than his height, providing him with unusual reach. His torso is long compared to his legs, enabling him to ride high on the water. And his flexible ankles, combined with size-14 feet, allow for a powerful kick. Add to that more than a decade of high-intensity training, and you get one of the fastest swimmers in history.

Whether he retires tomorrow or joins London 2012, it's no contest, Michael Phelps is the greatest olympian. All his fans, including myself, will be following his career until he retires. This guy is indeed a bullet underwater. His matches are so exciting and it's hard not to hold your breath until he touches the end wall of the pool. His fire, his intensity, his passion for swimming is what inspires me more to watch the sport.

Can a Relationship Recover from Infedelity?

noreply@blogger.com (bE) — Tue, 12 Aug 2008 13:03:00 +0000

The hardest part to a relationship comes at the end when it is over. The beginning is wonderful and full of excitement and freshness. It is very alluring and the goodwill that is created can carry a relationship through hard times. However, newness fades and the relationship stales. Many times when everything else has been tried, thoughts of ending the relationship come into play. How do you know it is time to move on? Being realistic about your feelings is the first step.You need to assess your wants and needs to see if they have changed. Then look at your partner and assess him or her, as he or she is, and evaluate whether they fit into the grander scheme of your life. While your life should be lived in the present and each day made as special as it can be, it is not wise to ignore what the future may bring. If you are being abused, hurt, cheated on, or lied to then chances are the relationship will not survive.

If the issue has been brought up repeatedly, and remains unresolved, then your own happiness must become paramount. The connection you have with your partner should never include one of a degrading and insulting nature. Think about the future you are creating. Consider the extra burden you are carrying in dealing with your partners' behavior. Is he a shameless flirt? Is she bossy and demanding? Insecurity and lack of confidence can lead to problems down the road. Relationships are not about control and manipulation. When those factors enter into the relationship, and cannot be removed, it is time to end it. Do you truly enjoy each others company? Do you find yourself relieved whenever you part company? If a sense of relief occurs within you at your partners leaving, then this is a large sign that should not be ignored. Relationships need communication and closeness to survive.

If you're finding yourself wishing your partner were gone more than you wish they were there, the end is near. Evaluate your role in maintaining the relationship. Relationships are a two-way street. Each person has to be involved in giving and taking. When one person takes more and does not reciprocate, the relationship begins to wane. Equal participation and reciprocation in a relationship is imperative to its survival. Does your partner show by actions that you are still important? As they say, actions speak louder than words. Your partners actions may change over time, but the attentiveness in their actions should not change. If your partner continually forgets to call, or ignores your calls, you have to ask yourself if this is acceptable to you. If not, then decisions will need to be made. Do you feel accepted and appreciated? What can really be said in response to this question?

If you are not feeling appreciated and you have discussed it with your partner and nothing changes, Move On. Each person has to assess why he or she is in the relationship and how much mistreatment he or she is willing to accept in that relationship. Eventually, continued neglect between partners will result in hard feelings and a hurtful end to the relationship. Keep in mind that this assessment should be made after one feels they have made all the attempts necessary to revive the relationship. It's when the good memories are stripped from you because the truth changes the perspective that hurts. The cheating doesn't hurt - it's the loss of the dream, the loss of faith, the loss of trust - it's seeing someone you love in a light that makes you hate what they've done...and the duality of holding the love and the hate in the same place in your heart at the same time. Hating someone actually hurts less than saying, "I don't love you anymore." Saying that hurts less than saying, "I trusted you and now I don't."

I have a friend I speak to about the philosophical things in life...a friend I do not always agree with, but whom I respect his opinion, even when different than mine. I spoke to this friend this morning about trust. He said we don’t need to know the whole truth to make decisions - effectively, when you know someone has cheated on you, you just needed to make the decisions based on the information you have - cut your losses and move forward.
To my friend, I mentioned something about learning from my mistakes. He asked me what my mistake was. I said, "Trusting again." He told me that trusting wasn't a mistake, that you have to go into every relationship and extend the trust, no matter the risk. The mistake would have been not trusting. He's right. (and I don't admit that to him often), but he is right. You can't come at a perspective when someone has cheated on you and ask, "What did I do wrong."

There is nothing you did so wrong that warrants someone cheating on you. If the relationship is bad, if you did do something wrong, then the other person has the right to talk to you, to confront you, or if worse comes to worst, to leave you...but he or she doesn't have the right to cheat. Cheating is the cheater's mistake - not yours. You did nothing wrong that deserve you having been cheated on. Even if you made mistakes in the relationship, even if you withheld intimacy, even if you and your partner fought constantly, there is nothing that justifies cheating - period. Nothing. The other party can leave, break it off, ask for a divorce, or do any number of other things in response to a relationship gone bad, but cheating is never an acceptable solution. But the question I have to ask is - can you recover from the cheating - yes. Can you recover from the loss of trust and ever be able to extend it - to "allow without fear" ever again? I don't think so, at least not to that person. But one cannot judge other people by the mistakes that the people from our past have made.

That isn't fair. Barbara De Angelis was once quoted as saying, “If he cheats once, get help. If he cheats twice get out.” Not bad advice, really, because sometimes one can make a mistake and realize all they stood to lose in choosing to cheat. When that happens, if the party who cheated realizes this, makes amends, and comes back together to the relationship with total honesty, that relationship could actually become stronger than it was before, because they will realize just what they stood to lose and will do everything in their power not to lose it again. However, if the cheater cheats again, then it’s time to let go and move on to better relationships. There can be no trust without faithfulness, no trust without lies, no trust without cheating, and where there is not trust, there is no chance to “allow without fear” again.

Diet Myth

noreply@blogger.com (bE) — Fri, 08 Aug 2008 10:32:00 +0000

Myth #1 Dieting Alone is Enough to Loose Weight

While you can loose weight by dieting alone, it really isn't the right approach. You should
be concentrating on having a diet that is rich in healthy foods that provide your body
with all the nutrients it needs. Healthy foods tend to be low in calories, so this can lead to
weight loss. Think of any weight you loose as an added bonus to providing your body with
the food it needs to run properly. This approach can help keep you from loosing
motivation in your quest to lighten up.

Myth #2 Certain Foods Can Slow or Speed up Metabolism

I'll make this simple: it just doesn't happen. Additionally, dieting does not get rid of the
fat that is most dangerous of all. That is the fat that is located inside of you, around your
internal organs. The only way to lower you internal fat levels is through exercise. This is
why people who aren't over weight still need to exercise. You can have lots of fat on
the inside even if you appear slim on the outside.

Myth #3 Weight Loss Shakes Help You Loose Weight

There is nothing special in weight loss drinks. They are not magical potions that somehow
make the pounds come off faster or easier. Weight loss can only happen when you
create a calorie deficit. That means your body needs to burn more calories in a day
than you eat in food. When this happens, the body taps into its stores of fat to get
energy and you loose weight. If you eat two 300 calorie shakes a day along with a 500
calorie meal that is 1100 calories. If that is less than you were eating before, you'll
probably loose weight. It doesn't matter where those 1100 calories come from. If you
eat 1100 calories of shakes or fries or apples a day you'll loose weight. Don't
waste your money on diet shakes.

Myth #4 You Can Loose Lots of Weight

Quickly with Fad Diets, Pills, or Patches Please don't ever, ever fall into the trap of
fad diets. It will only be a huge waste of your time and money. No matter how good
the offer sounds, it isn't true. The body just does not work the way fad diet companies
want you to think. Weight gain happens slowly and thus weight loss must happen
slowly as well. There is no way to cut corners.

Myth #5 You Can't Eat Chocolate

It is so unfair that people continue to think you can't eat chocolate when you want to
loose weight. Technically, there isn't anything you can't eat during weight loss.
The key is to keep everything in moderation. Perhaps you should avoid high calorie foods
that you know you'll eat too much of. Otherwise, if you really want some cheese
puffs, have a couple. Just don't eat half the bag.

Like I said, there are no ways to cut corners when it comes to weight loss. It takes hard work, and it takes time.

"Miracle Pills?"

noreply@blogger.com (bE) — Sun, 03 Aug 2008 08:58:00 +0000

If you want to lose weight, the answer is always simple: eat right and move more. Its what doctors and scientific studies have always endorsed. Unfortunately, not everyone has the time or energy to go through a rigorous exercise program, and the results (10 pounds a month) can be frustrating. All work, and you did not even drop a dress size? That`s what make slimming products like diet pills so enticing: no stress, no fuss, instant result, too.

Many diet pills are very effective( based on my own experience), clinically proven and manufactured by respected pharmaceuticals. But there`s something to keep in mind: No matter how good a diet pill is they re design to be taken with the guidance of a doctor, trained to weigh the possible side effects against your medical history. When you take it on your own, just talking to your friends and swore "its work on me!" you immediately put yourself on risk. Some dangers include pulmonary problems, liver failure, and heart damage. Side effects can vary depending on your medical history.

Here are some of the diet pills :

REDUCTIL

Maker: Abbott
Cost: 124 per capsule
Dosage: Initial starting dose is one 10 mg-capsule per day
Side Effects: Insomnia, constipation, dry mouth and
small increase in blood pressure.

XENICAL

Maker: Glaxo Smith Kline
Cost: 900 for a box of 30
Dosage: 1-2 capsule before meals
Side effects: known to cause excess gas, oily discharge
and loose stools.

XANDO

Maker: Reborn
Cost: 3,600 for a box of 60
Dosage: 1-2 capsule right before meal (maximum of 6 cap. per day)
Side effects: gas and bloating

Reality of Our Life

noreply@blogger.com (bE) — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 13:52:00 +0000

We have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often. We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbour. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We've done larger things, but not better things. We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods, and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce,fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throw away morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete.

Remember, spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever. Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side. Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it does not cost a cent.

Remember, to say, "I love you" to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you. Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again. Give time to love, give time to speak, and give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.

Family Meals Matters

noreply@blogger.com (bE) — Thu, 31 Jul 2008 19:48:00 +0000

What is dinner time like in your home? Does everyone heat up his own meal in the microwave at different times and retreat to his own corner of the house or does everyone sit and eat, but one kid is wearing a headset while another is texting his friends?

Eating dinner together, for many families, has become a lost art. In fact, over 30 years, there has been a decrease in the number of families who have dinner together regularly.

So why is it important? "family dinners are the single, most important predictor of children`s academic achievement and psychological well being." Also, family mealtimes allow parents to become more involved with their children i.e. imparting values, monitoring food and nutrition, getting updated on activities and friends, and basically becoming good role models to them. Thus, by eating together with their parents, children were found more likely perform better in school, more grounded on good values, and were less likely to develop eating disorders or vices later on in life.

So what counts as a family meal? Anytime you and your family sit around, share life, and eat together- whether it`s take-out food or a home-cooked meal. Strive for nutritious food and a time when everyone can be there so this may mean eating dinner a little later or setting aside time on weekends to make it more convenient.

Eating together as a family is an opportunity to open the doors of communication. The benefits of which will last long after meal ends, especially if you make family mealtimes a regular activity.

Five Ways to Simplify Your Life

noreply@blogger.com (bE) — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 05:08:00 +0000

1. Consider a Career Switch

Our occupation choice can create a lot of undue stress and anxiety. Each career has its share of headaches. This could be in the form of an upcoming deadline or presentation. Stressful situations are generally short-lived, and within a couple of weeks, our normal routine resumes. On the other hand, if your present job consumes too much of your time and energy, which negatively affects your relationship with family, maybe it's time to re-think your career choice.

2. Get Out of Debt

Eliminating needless credit card debt,debt...etc. is a surefire way to simplify your life. Monthly payments on excessive balances can take a huge chunk from your paycheck, which leaves little disposable income. Constantly worrying about credit card statements,debt and past due bills is no way to live. Create a realistic spending plan, stick to a budget, and make a few sacrifices. Sacrifices may include dining out less, bargain shopping, or calling off pricey vacation plans. Fewer debts equal less worries.

3. Ditch an Extra-curricular Activity

Hobbies and participation in extra-curricular activities are pleasurable and offer a change of pace. Yet, too many activities can become burdensome. If your evenings and weekends are jam packed with soccer, piano lessons, ballet, and so forth, you might consider lightening your load. Don't give up all your favorite activities. Pick the hobby or sport you enjoy the most, and stick with this one. Likewise, if you son or daughter's participation in extra-curricular activities become exhausting, limit their involvement in a few sports.

4. Learn How to Say "No"

Easygoing people can easily become loaded down with another person's dilemma. Lending a helping hand is respectable, and deserves commendation. However, if you have a routine of tackling everyone's crisis, or constantly bending over backwards for people, you will not have enough energy or time for your own problems. Do you have experience planning events, which prompts others to ask you for assistance with planning their party, baby shower, etc? Perhaps you work from home, and friends want to hire you as the babysitter. Learn how to say "no" without feeling guilty and your life will be less complicated.

5. Slow Down and Relax

Caring for a family and trying to earn a living creates a hectic, fast-paced life. Take at least 20 - 30 minutes each day and enjoy complete silence. On the drive home in the evenings, turn off the radio. Sit on your back patio and enjoy a cup of coffee. Making time to let your body and mind unwind is essential to your physical and mental well-being.