The Campaign Against Bullying at Workplace provides a distribution by gender, worldwide, in terms of psychological harassment: men are abused in 45% of cases, while women in 55% , according to sources.

In many situations mobbing is ignored, tolerated, misinterpreted or even encouraged by the management company or organization. Large firms are often ground to carry out the mobbing attacks and the areas most affected are health, education, hotels and restaurants. European researchers say that the people most affected by mobbing are women. Most often, victims feel exhausted, unable to defend themselves. The profile of a mobbing victim is usually a person with poor self-esteem, a sensitive person, anxious or perfectionist.

The employee is not able to speak, he is constantly interrupted when speaking, his work is criticized, there are references to privacy, he is threatened verbally, blackmailed, he is assigned to another position away and isolated from his colleagues, rumors began against him and in some cases he is hurt or sexually harassed.

To be classified as mobbing, attacks you must meet certain conditions: to be frequent, constant, to lie on at least six months, to have a negative intention of the aggressor. The Italian psychologist Dr. Mencarelli warns that mobbing can have devastating effects on the moral and physical health. “Failure to respond to attacks causes depression, psychosomatic problems, addicted to alcohol, tobacco, drugs, anxiety, panic attacks, loss of confidence and efficiency at work” .

Among the solutions offered by the specialists in mobbing phenomenon are: documentation of mobbing, gathering written evidence, request aid . Even if your intention is to isolate the attacker and cause you, it is very important not to lose your temper and keep open all possible communication channels, both with superiors and colleagues or institutions that can protect your rights.

Endless repetition of the most vibrant feelings extinguish. Do not be afraid to be different, do not be afraid of change – a world of sexual relations is broad and diverse. Of course, the number of nuances in sex is not limited to number six. They are much more and you can discover new and new.

Soulful SEX (merging of souls and bodies)
When two people are close spiritually, sex is the highest point in their relationship, it means the complete the fusion of two loving people – not only physically but also emotionally. When the two come into intimate relations with the feeling that this meeting was sent from above, sex is able to give a unique strength of feeling. Of course, it’s great when you have warm feelings for each other because there are – out of nowhere. But they can cause in itself: “The soul must work – day and night, day and night.”

Passionate sex (like here and now)
And what could be an attractive sex driven by lust, desire, which is impossible to resist? And who said that he did not fit in family relationships? Often in marriages with a solid experience the beauty of the spouses are close lightning in unusual circumstances, when the desire to suppress all the arguments of reason. And even if one day you’re not inclined to proximity, we should not turn our backs to the wall. Who knows – maybe ten minutes later you’re going to stay in power to very different feelings? Surrender to them without looking back!

MERRY SEX (laugh, right, is not a sin).

It is not always related to sex as a very serious matter. It may be silly and witty and funny and frivolous. It is important that both partners were determined to have sex with a sense of humor. Do not be disconcerted if anyone – any of you tangled in a sheet or a leg is interrupted you at the most inopportune moment. If both of you want this may seem ridiculous, do not be afraid to defuse passions – laugh is good to health! Sometimes humor helps to establish an intimate relationship for spouse who had gone wrong better than any serious conversation.

GENTLE SEX (all that he gave is yours)
A modern woman is very similar to an effeminate and delicate flower, she needs softness and tenderness in sex as the water plant. A light touch, a massage, kissing are a prelude in themselves giving great pleasure. And it may open the way for an unforgettable sex. Sometimes, burned in the previous marriage, it is difficult to re-learn to trust another person. This is where mutual suspicion will help to overcome the tenderness and care. Play a little geisha! All your behavior should make it clear that you are not just motivated by sexual desire, but desire to share with you dear man his sorrows, remove from the mind any body tension. Do not be afraid to give, you step forward, including sex, will return a response.

“Angry” SEX (kiss in a rage!)

Oddly enough, some couples are having sex before, after and during an argument. When the accumulated irritation, you can start talking in a raised voice, and then finish it in a passionate encounter on the marital bed. Note, however, that sex is only then when the long-awaited discharge will take place, when you initially seek to restore normal relations. If the same problems that have arisen between you, have a long one, and neither of you is not trying to eliminate the cause of their breed, sex does not bring the desired result.

EXPERIMENTAL SEX (create, invent, try)
Even if you both have a paramount value in the relationship of mind and stability, do not reject the possibility of experimenting in sex. You can discuss in advance what you will do tonight: a conversation that can awaken your desires. Do not hesitate to discuss these issues in bed as the two scientists conducting experience, share their thoughts on the progress of the experiment. Do not be afraid of a new, temporary setbacks, do not be afraid, change the usual conditions, invent. Your intimacy , bright or dull depends only on you. Be creative love is in your hands.

Knowledge is like water, you’ll never be satisfied and you will try to drink more and more, that’s why it is said that ” the doors of wisdom are never shut”. Nobody can prohibit you to learn. For this all people are equal. This is in your hands and it is as a present from our destiny. Every person has the opportunity to learn and to achieve knowledge, only if he really wants. Learning is the brain’s primary function, throughout our life this is our constant concern and we become restless and frustrated if there is no learning to be done. All people are capable of huge and surprising learning accomplishments. It remains an effort to be done.

” Not ignorance, but ignorance of ignorance is the Death of knowledge.” The knowledge of man is as the waters, some descending from above, and some springing from beneath: the one informed by the light of nature, the other inspired by divine revelation.

When myositis appears one can feel aching pain in the muscles of the arms, legs, trunk, exaggerated by movement. It is also often felt in the muscles of dense nodules or cords. In an open injury due to contact, the infection can develop into purulent myositis, which is manifested by fever, chills, a gradual increase in pain, swelling, thickening and strain muscles, redness of the skin over it.

There is a peculiar form of parasitic myositis, occurring in lesions of muscle parasites (Trichinella, cysticerci) characterized by fever, pain in the muscles of the extremities, chest, tongue, masticatory muscles.

The treatment for myositis should be assigned by a doctor and it depends on what caused it. In order to prevent myositis one should avoid undue stress, hypothermia, to observe the safety regulations, exercise and muscular workout are very important.

To relieve pain in the muscles is recommended sprinkle baking soda drink curve 2 leaves of cabbage, pre-lathered with soap, and attach them to the affected area as a compress, tying a scarf on the top.

It helps with pain in the muscles of the horsetail compresses on the torn muscles or rubbing the sore spots in the ointment of the horsetail (4 of unsalted lard or unsalted butter, mix thoroughly with 1 part powder of dried horsetail).
Mix 1 tbsp, p. apple cider vinegar and honey, sugar and 1 cup water and stir thoroughly. Drink 2-3 glasses a day. It is desirable to simultaneously rub the body of apple cider vinegar. After each month of treatment need to take a break of 10 days.

Pour 0.5 liters of water 15-20 fresh fruit physalis ordinary or juice from the same amount of fruit or 20 g of dried fruit, bring to a boil, heat over low heat or in a water bath for 10-15 minutes to cool and infuse. Take 1/4 cup 4-5 times daily before meals. After each month of treatment it is needed to make a break for 10 days.
Boil 1 cup of boiling water, 7 g of dry grass Adonis spring and insist, wrapped, for 1 hour. Drink 1 tablespoon. l. 3 times a day with pain in joints and muscles. After each month of treatment it is needed to make a break for 10 days.

1 cup of boiling water with 3 g of dried flowers, or 10 g of dry leaves, grass ogurchnoy (not to be confused with cucumber tops), it is also known as borage and insist, encased in a sealed container, 5:00. Drink 1 tablespoon. l. 6 times a day. After each month of the treatment it is needed to make a break for 10 days.

Pour 1 cup of 70% alcohol, 25 g of the bark of barberry and insist it 7 – 10 days in a dark place. Drink 30 drops 3 times a day. After each month of treatment it is needed to make a break for 10 days.

To improve the mobility of the recommended immobilized limb rub in the ointment of 100 g of pork fat and 1 tbsp. l. salt, and wrap the top with a cotton cloth and oilcloth. After each month of treatment it is needed to make a break for 10 days.

For muscle relaxation for children mix 400 g of honey with 20 g of sulfur, spread the mixture into the baby’s body and massage. Once the child is disguised his tight swaddle and put to bed. After each month of treatment it is needed to make a break for 10 days.
When used myositis compresses and lotions from the infusion of the kidneys, the leaves of willow, 1 tbsp. l. pour 1 cup of boiled water, 1 hour and drink 1-2 tbsp. l. 5-6 times a day. Infusion: dried, powdered bark filled with water (1:20), boiled in a water bath for 30 minutes and drink 1-2 tbsp. l. 3-4 times a day. The ointment is made ​​from equal amounts of mashed kidney and butter.

During the treatment it is necessary to give up smoking: Do not drink alcohol, limit intake of spicy, salty and fatty foods and meat, no smoking. We recommend a diet with periodic short fasts. After fasting is desirable to eat only milk (unpasteurized and unboiled). The amount of milk can be increased gradually to a maximum number of drinks .

Useful porridge with water from the germinated seeds of cereals (oats, wheat, rye, barley, etc.) with honey and sunflower oil, salad of celery, turnip leaves (contain all substances necessary for the supply of the musculoskeletal system). One should eat in a day 2-3 apples. The food in the body should contain a sufficient amount of vitamins B and E. As a source of B vitamins are very useful for the liver, from which you can make pie. Liver fry briefly, passed through a meat grinder, mixed with butter and spread on bread. Vitamin E is found in green beans, peas, lettuce, oats, wheat, maize, in the buckthorn and sunflower oil. You should get 20-30 grams of vegetable fat.

Most parents  address wrong this issue, thinking that it relates to responsibility as existing in children’s lives when they are cleaning  in their room, when they take out the garbage or do their homework on time. But all these are signs of  subordination and not necessarily show accountability or responsibility.

In “Between Parent and Child’’, Haim Ginott said  : “Parents  are looking for ways to teach children responsibility everywhere. In many homes are expected daily tasks required to provide the solution to this problem. To empty the trash, to prepare a meal, to mow the grass, to wash dishes – it is believed that all these are effective ways to awaken children’s sense of responsibility. But the truth is that these tasks, although important for maintaining a house might not have a positive effect in empowering children. Conversely, in some houses  battles for everyday tasks of daily anxiety and nerves which bring both children and parents are going on. “

Responsibility must come from values, not met or made ​​things better every day on time. If a child does his homework on time, this does not automatically means that he is responsible. It is possible that he knows not to comply and to make decisions for himself when he needs it.

If a child tends to obey his parents and never feels free to ask questions about how or if the parent made the correct  decision or if it could be taken another instead of the existing one, then it might  mean that the child doesn’t adapt easily to decide alone and to be responsible.

Parents need to remember that true empowerment comes from the integration of important human values: “We want  responsible children, but we want their responsibility  spring from the supreme values ​​which include respect for life and concern for human welfare, in common words, compassion, dedication and affection.

Usually we do not think of the issue of liability in its reference system more generally. We see the responsibility, or lack of it thereof, in more concrete terms: in a messy room of a child, in daily delay from school, in the homework poorly done, in practicing the piano, in miffed obedience  or discourtesy. “

It is important for parents to be a model for their children – a positive role model that anyone can follow. They get to integrate certain human values ​​due to the presence of other people around them or their family life.

If parents are a positive role model, then the child can follow this model and absorb the information he finds in the behavior of those close to them. Values ​​become part of the child  identifying which he makes with his parents.

This is indicated  by the subjective account or observation of others.

Relevant in identifying the symptoms of depression are:

• A mood characterized by sadness,  inadequacy, discouragement, anger can be added to the complaints of lack of feeling anxiety.

This provision may be related to the subject or observed by the facial expression or behavior. Some people accuse somatic pain, rather than feelings of sadness, describe or show increasing instability (persistent anger, tendency to respond with anger, the blame of others,  exaggerate frustration);

• loss of interest or pleasure is a common symptom in depressive episode. This is manifested by lack of interest in activities previously enjoyable, social withdrawal or neglect of the profession, but also by a reduction in levels of sexual interest or desire;

• changes in the appetite sphere, some say that they must make an effort to eat, others on the contrary, describe a significant increase in appetite and even targeting to certain foods (ex. sweets);

• sleep disturbance may take the form of insomnia or hypersomnia. Initial insomnia is manifested by waking up at night and  resume to sleep with difficulty again, which may be followed by a sleep over when the individual wakes too early and cannot sleep. Hypersomnia is manifested by prolonged episodes of sleep night or day;

• changes which include psycho-motor agitation ( the subject cannot sit still, he is moving, walking, his hands kneading, rubbing  or scratching his skin or clothing) or retardation (slowing of speech, movement).

Psychomotor agitation or retardation must be severe enough because only thus can be seen by others.

• reduced energy, fatigue. These are symptoms commonly found, taking over a state of exhaustion issue without having filed a major exercise.

The smallest tasks seem to require substantial effort, often experiencing diminishing efficiency of solving tasks;

• feelings of guilt and devaluation.  They may include unrealistic negative evaluations of some concerns about the value or personal guilt or meditations on account of minor failures of the past.

Misinterpret subjects (negative) any event, putting it on account of personal defects are not always real, are exaggerated and he makes himself responsible for whatever happens.  He blames himself  for many things, for failure to intervene in social, personal life or training;

• weak ability of thinking and difficult concentration  or  taking decisions carefully. Intellectuals are the most affected by this symptom, not being able to operate  properly, as well as children whose school performance may decrease due to a weak concentration. Older people are often affected by memory difficulties;

• thoughts about death, suicidal ideation, suicide attempts. Such thoughts are based on the belief that others would be better if the subject matter would be dead, leading to plans or even attempt suicide. But the motivation of suicide may include individual desire to quit, to give up in face of obstacles perceived as unbearable or to end an intense emotional pain perceived as hopeless.

Depressed people often present themselves with lamentations, irritability, anxiety, phobias, obsessive meditation, excessive concern about physical health, some of them having panic attacks, difficulty in intimate relationships and social functioning.

The latter may be marital problems, educational, occupational, problems with alcohol or other substances or increase calls to medical services. Symptoms of depression are useful for classification, assessment and diagnosis.

A woman wants to communicate, she wants to know what happens in the mind and the soul of her man, so she is very careful in his language, in his gestures and the signals she receives from his body movements and positions. If the man talks to her, but does not look in the eyes, she will feel like something is wrong.

The man most likely will not recognize, but something for sure bothers him. He will say “everything is fine”. But though she received this answer, she will still try to find the real answer.

For a woman, if she feels hurt,  all means of communication are closed. She cannot longer respond to the signals received from her partner and she loses sexual attraction if he upsets her. A man can more easily separate the emotions of such type of actions that must be made ​​for a cause, but it will be difficult to understand that the woman beside him is not built the same.

When a woman has a major problem, you will easily see it on her face. Men’s faces are often unreadable. The woman cannot easily tell whether or not he is bothered by something that sometimes he can calmly say that he is not angry and it makes her confusing.

However, by nature, the woman, wants his man nearby and until she will not  manage this, she  will not stop to investigate the situation which she thought to be unreadable.

She is attracted to the man who marries her because at the beginning of the relationship he is open-hearted and confesses his love easily, communicates and feels near. Once married, the man believes that there is no need to conquer and he closes slowly.

So the woman feels increasingly neglected, she feels distant to the man who married and wants to become more acute they were near the beginning of the relationship.

Another thing that can help a woman  to feel loved is not  to have a husband full of bitterness, a husband resentful and angry, irritated, angry  and who has problems all the time. The proximity to a  woman means to be gentle, attractive, to smile  and not irritation and anger.

The wife feels her husband is opened  when:

• He shares his feelings, telling her how his day was and the problems he faced with at work
• He asks her opinion about an important subject for her, for him, or for their relationship
• He feels the desire to talk to her and may read  with body language that he shows relaxation, constant eye contact
• He takes her for a walk and talk about things that once made them happy
• He pays careful attention and does not talk to her watching television or reading newspapers
• He asks  her about every major decision related to children, work, financial part, etc.

Vampirism is a “disease” that causes lesions in one of the energy human bodies.
When this is disrupted, we no longer receive emotions through superior impulses. So there is need of food energy, the takeover of power from others, sometimes it is the distinct feeling, but it may worsen – the consequences are quite serious for the victim of the vampire who takes much energy.

They are usually patient, they have personality disorders or they belong to a particular socio-cultural context.

The solution is to avoid those who want to argue always, who ca not express negative feelings than in the form of a conflict. There are individuals who have a little dispute with high voice at least once a day. It is not normal!

How do we recognize such persons:

By the degree of exhaustion that produces it.
They do not bring anything, we regress and they endanger our emotional balance.

A person who is the victim of an energy vampire has the following symptoms:

- Acute fatigue, in case of repeated attacks, fatigue becomes chronic and the person attacked needs a prolonged rest.

- Exhaustion, the feeling of shortage of energy. The person is involuntarily the energy of the vampire.

- Anxiety, feelings of anger without apparent reason.

- Headaches

- Dizziness

- Nausea

- Lack of appetite for life, depression

- Temporary loss of memory, this symptom occurs in a more advanced stage

- In some cases cardiac arrhythmia.

Kinds of vampires :

Lamentuous :

- Their condition of demand is endless and we are unable to satisfy or to evolve while they invest us with the role of savers, even if we have neither the capacity nor the desire.
- These eternal dissatisfied people put us in frustrating situations to miss giving advice, because in reality they are not in the mood or able to get our advice.

Addicts:

- They ask us constant proof of love, they ask us for any small decision, clinging to us like children, they put us in the position of parents and put their overwhelming responsibility on our shoulders. As soon as we want to go away and be distant, guilt invades us.

Hipersensible :

- Their excessive sensitivity requires us to be careful all the time: it becomes the subject of justification, all is likely to cause drama. We are condemned to a permanent self-control – the stress!

Conflictual :

For them problems are solved through aggression, which does not cost anything, since conflict is their specific mode of operation. Instead, this type of relationship is rich in emotions for the person assaulted, who has anything to gain from it!

What is out the law:

Their role and their territory are never clearly defined, which require an endless renegotiation. As the rules are not established once and for all everything moves so easily in other land.

Solutions:

To learn to put limits, to draw boundaries, to not let us swallow by the other.
We risk of other pathology to obey and become the victim and then immerse ourselves in aggression and resentment.
Usually you have to doubt totally of your role of a Saver!
Often we can help those around us but too often we can save!
To take the role of saver is a sign of weakness of your ego.

When we increase nervousness there are two questions:

- Am I the person who must deal with these problems?

- Should I be the person to help?

In either case, the best alarm are our emotions!

The feeling of unhappiness, frustration is a sign that we must stop!

The therapist usually recommends breaking the relationship totally and immediately (at least for a while) and just here the problem begins.

The vampire will feel the need of power revolt from the donor. If physically the vampire was healthy and the donor was sick, then the relationship seems invariably to collapse. (One feels good and one is sick!) – Where’s the logic?

The breaking of pathological ties, between the two, automatically causes imbalance to the energy of the vampire, raising actively protest to him (surely, it depends on the stage “vampire disease”).
The secret to eliminate this behavior is to learn to love and give ourselves more love than we expect from others, so we get a huge amount of energy in the universe. An old proverb says: “Giving you gain”. The gift is reflected on your supernatural world returns to you like a boomerang, a beam of light projected in the mirror and you will succeed. You will be happy and fulfilled with yourself and so ready to give it back.

But time passes and every corner around me reminds me of the past. I take my phone in hand to look at the watch and my fingers automatically form that number. I close, as the first time I called because I do not know what reaction I could wake up on both sides.

After several months, the state of longing, of anxiety and loneliness alternate with the ignorance, lust, rebellion, after the parties to fill the void left by the knowledge of others, finding out that my fingers still have the same reflex. I try to throw the phone on the walls, but I see the picture on the wall that we took together. Curiosity grinds me and I dial the number. I respond with the same emotion in voice and hesitation the same way that I used before. Perhaps this explains why I called the next with the same name, which I was getting. I swing the same as it did in not so natural way that I wonder what the reasons might be.

To establish a meeting that too often is postponed because excuses are many and my mind is already full with emotions, because my heart is anesthetized too long to feel the thing.

Finally, we meet for coffee that turns into a walk in the park and a small fortification. I look at him in the same way, which I hid for months now and I have not seen since then. I laugh too much at his jokes, I talk too much and I suddenly felt lost. This was not my plan to leave home, but forget any rules and I act like I went with my best friend. After all, the blame was both, in different proportions, but we cannot forget what brought us together. We cannot forget the two possible reasons: we do not want to forget what linked us, we cannot resist and transform this into a friendship that may last as long it is given.

Can there exist friendship after love? After the fire that two people consumed to finish, making them no longer rediscover each other and seek other hand, there may be a ray of sunshine? After the hugs and passionate kisses ,can there exist a purely platonic and friendly relationship or a handshake without hidden meanings?

How can you avoid all these questions and more important, their responses? Many disagree with the maintaining friendship relations after the end of relationships, especially those painful, at least for one of the couple. Many believe that what united the two in a relationship can turn into a friendship, aside from the passionate relationship aspect page and making it possible recommendations on service, trips to concerts and borrowed books for leisure time.

I still have my doubts about this aspect of life. There were no precedents in this regard to compare them. When I ended, I pulled thick line and I posted earlier good row to look for capital with which to start my next paragraph. I still have my doubts about the moment when my desire will arise and will ruin everything. My doubts are about the possibility of this thing, but the opposite situation, thus the term doubt.

Can you be the ex lover’s friend that you imagined in the past that will age together and both now share life with different people? Or the end of the friendship relationship is predicted as ever lived? Or we live too far to think of unanswered questions instead of living intense moments we are given now? … Too many thoughts and one mind to rank them.

Although often you close the door and try to teach your child constantly knock at the door before entering the room when the door is closed and there are people there, such surprises happen. There must be a devastating experience. There is nothing wrong for children to understand that parents have a special way to have physical contact with each other.

How should I react?

Probably the first time you get stuck, huh? You should unlock and grab the first clothes you encounter in your way, dress and go quick to your child. If your child does not come in the room immediately, but remains stuck at the door you can say “Mom and dad spend intimate moments, taken together, so please leave the room now nicely and close the door. Mommy comes right at you.”

The way you talk to your child about this issue depends on what age is.

Then it is time for discussion. As hard as it would be to communicate in such times you must try to start a conversation with your child. Ask first what he saw. Depending on this you will know the conversational level of the discussion with him.

This also depends very much on the child’s age. If too small then it’s not time to go into details but just to say that everything is okay and that nothing happened seriously. But if big enough to understand what he saw, then it might be appropriate to talk about sex.

A child of three years for example, might wonder if someone was injured (in terms of safety).

A child of five years might be a little scientist and might be interested exactly “what is happening there.” Give him some more, but do not go into details!

The child of eight years surely will get more questions and you’ll probably find it odd and what happens there and not understand why two people would want to do that. It is appropriate to initiate discussions about sex and sexuality.

The child of 12 years can already get the sense of embarrassment of the chip and the idea of “Oh God, I caught parents having sex”.

Got it! You need to talk to him! Now probably sit and wonder what to tell him exactly? How to explain the meaning of something that is not for his age? First you should not create an embarrassing moment. You need to be as relaxed or too intimidated or too cluttered. We need to say “what did mommy and daddy is so intimate and concerns only the mature people, so mom always asks you to knock at the door when you come in our room.” Only if he continues with questions and appropriate curiosity start talking about sex education.