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Rori — Sat, 18 May 2013 01:15:00 +0000

First of all, if you’re reading this post on any site other than Between My Sheets, it has been scraped. Which means that someone stole my words and put it on their own blog/website without my permission in the hopes of driving more traffic and making more money. I seem to be having a problem with crappy sites and scam artists doing that lately. Don’t trust anything from a company or website who scrapes content. They’re scum.

Second, and more importantly I am BURSTING with exciting news to tell you. I’m going to drag it out and wait until tomorrow. But holy crap-load of awesome sauce! If you’re a fan of Between My Sheets, even a little, don’t miss tomorrow’s post!!!

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Let’s Talk About Premature Ejaculation: Interview with Greg Kaminski from Promescent

Rori — Thu, 16 May 2013 19:00:00 +0000

With his background in the electronics industry, Greg Kaminski is perhaps not who you’d expect to be involved with a premature ejaculation treatment. Yet today he is the VP of Marketing for Absorption Pharmaceuticals, makers of a new medication that can help you last longer in bed called Promescent.

I’ll be honest, dear readers. I usually don’t even answer emails from companies with sexual enhancement products. Most of the time, I find them kind of scammy-sounding. But Greg was very matter of fact when he emailed me: here’s who we are and here’s what we hope to achieve.

So, this interview is sponsored by Promescent. I obviously lack the correct anatomy to test this product myself, so I can’t really give you a testimonial, but what I will say is that if you’re interested in lasting longer in bed or if you deal with premature ejaculation, I think you should give them a gander and talk to your doctor to see if it’s a good option for you. Here’s what Greg had to say about their product:

Rori: Hi, Greg! First of all, how did you get involved in working with Absorption Pharmaceuticals and Promescent?

Greg: The CEO and I go back many years – first as colleagues and now as friends. We often share investment ideas. We do some angel investing in various fields including two other pharmaceutical companies.

In 2010, a urologist named Dr. Ronald Gilbert told us that he had just developed Promescent, needed help taking it to market, and was seeking investment. We tried it and loved it, so we did a little research and discovered that 25-30% of men world-wide have an issue with premature ejaculation – at least occasionally. I have been doing technology marketing for many years and have always wanted to do consumer marketing. So I jumped at the opportunity to work with this company.

So what exactly is Promescent?

Promescent is an FDA-approved topical medication for men suffering from premature ejaculation (PE). It slightly desensitizes the penis with an mild anesthetic. It is receiving rave reviews from sexual medicine experts around the U.S. To use, you simple spray on the head and/or shaft of the penis and rub-in about 10 minutes prior to sexual activity.

Sounds easy enough to use. Why did Dr. Gilbert go down the path of developing a premature ejaculation treatment?

Dr. Gilbert wanted an effective, easy-to-use, and safe medication for PE. Until Promescent, there has been no good alternative for treating PE. Behavioral therapy (start/stop and squeeze techniques) may help some men but they take away the pleasure of sex. Other topical anesthetics numb the penis so much that the man losing feeling and the anesthetic transfers to his partner. SSRIs have shown to work but a daily dose of an anti-depressant typically has too many side effects so physicians are reluctant to prescribe SSRIs and most men are reluctant to use them.

Yeah, I definitely would be.

Promescent has a unique formulation that enables the anesthetic to absorb through the skin’s surface to the nerves below. The result is that the man has greatly improved ejaculatory control, yet still maintains good surface sensation. Furthermore, because it absorbs, there’s no transference to the partner.

Do you have clinical data on Promescent?

Not yet, but hundreds of urologists are recommending the product. Visit our testimonials page.

(Rori’s note: Before using this product, definitely read the safety information and talk to your doctor. Even though you can get this product without a prescription, I’m a big fan of always being on the safe side when it comes to pharmaceuticals.)

What about for guys who don’t fall into the “two pump” category, but who do want to last a little longer than normal? Is it effective for them too?

Although Promescent is a legitimate medical product, most of our business comes from men (and women) who simply want to have longer lasting sex. We call this the “recreational” user.

I’m a big fan of being honest with your partner, but some guys might be a little hesitant to tell someone new that they’re using a PE spray. Is it going to be super obvious?

Specifically for intercourse, the chance is remote that your partner will notice. For oral sex, your partner may taste the residue after absorption so we recommend wiping the penis with a damp towel prior. Because of the absorption, the effects can still last for 30-45 minutes, even after wiping off.

How much longer will the man last overall?

This depends on many factors including the number of sprays used. But typically, a man will last 2-3 times longer.

Any final comments to share with readers here are Between My Sheets?

There are so many bogus products on the market for premature ejaculation. Promescent is the only one that is FDA approved and backed by hundreds of urologists.

Thanks to Greg for a great interview! As I’ve said, I’m not a doctor, and I haven’t tested this product myself since I find myself without a penis, haha. But I do think that if you want to last a little longer, this is an option to consider. Check out more about Promescent and order here.

How I Deal With Depression

Rori — Wed, 15 May 2013 15:00:00 +0000

I know this isn’t a very sex post in the midst of all the orgasms and such around here. But I just wanted to pause life today and talk about depression and how I deal with it.

I’ve had feelings of depression ever since I was kid. I know a lot of people describe it as being empty or not caring about anything in life, but it isn’t like that for me. At least not all the time. Most of the time, it’s this feeling of impending doom, like there are no solutions to whatever the current problem might be, that there is no way out.

The current problem might be something serious, like a family member falling ill. Or it might be something silly, like ripping a hole in jeans. Sometimes, the “current problem” is me being overly worried about something that will happen in the future, like my cat dying someday. Often, the problem is me being anxious about some kind of social interaction.

Social interactions are the worst.

I get anxious at the thought of any situation where I don’t feel in control or could look foolish. For example, with few exceptions, I won’t walk into a place (a bar, a store, etc.) alone unless I have been there before and know exactly what to expect inside. I actually don’t like walking into a place alone at all. I feel like all eyes suddenly turn and look at me, even though that is completely irrational.

I also get anxious if I know I’m going to have to have a conversation with someone, but don’t feel prepared to answer their questions. For example, it took me over two weeks to work up the nerve to take my car to Jiffy Lube to get the oil changed because I knew they would ask car-related questions that I wouldn’t know how to answer. When that happens, I feel like the person is thinking, “Wow, what a complete dumbass!” even though I know that 99% of the time the other person is most likely not giving it a second thought.

Then thinking about my stupid anxiety over social interactions makes me depressed because I should be able to handle it better, yet I don’t see how to fix the problem. There is no solution. I should just stay in bed today.

I’m making myself sound worse than I am, though. I’m not some kind of shut-in who doesn’t enjoy life because she’s too scared or sad. In fact, the type of depression I deal with is manic, so I tend to have bursts of complete sadness but then bursts of joy. It can be exhausting. But it could be worse.

How I deal? Not very well, sometimes. Overtimes, extremely well. Whenever I feel overwhelmed and depressed, I try to remind myself that today’s problems are going to seem insignificant at some point in the future. Whether that is 10 minutes or 10 years, I will eventually look back and realize that the everything worked out, even if, right now, I can’t possibly see how that might happen.

I deal by allowing myself to be depressed when it hits me. I used to try to push through it and ignore the fact that I felt worthless and alone. But if I do that, it will eventually hit full force anyway and I’ll feel even worse about it. So instead, I allow myself time to feel bad. I acknowledge it. I don’t beat myself up for needing a day off from life, to myself.

I deal by writing. I don’t feel stupid when I write, like this, because I can go back and edit my words until it is just right. There’s no pressure. I have time to think. I don’t have to look you in the eye while you demand an answer from me.

I deal by clinging to happiness when it finds me again. I might spend one day in bed or one week in bed, but eventually, when something makes me smile again, I grasp to that thing like it is a life vest and I don’t stop paddling until I reach shore.

I deal by trying to learn more about myself when I have good days or weeks or even months. I write stuff like this to remind myself that depression is a big stinky lie and there will be a day when I feel better again. Because god knows, when I am wrapped in depression, I can’t always see that. I read what I’ve written in the past and I remind myself that even if I don’t believe it at this second, the more rational me does believe it. Deep down, I know that the darkness is going to fade.

I deal by not feeling guilty. One of the weird complexes I’ve had about depression is that I don’t feel “bad enough.” Like I am not allowed to call what I experience depression because I don’t want to commit suicide. In the past, I’ve been there, but now, even on my worst days, I have way too much to live for to ever think of taking my own life. And that makes me think, “Then what is wrong with you, calling this depression is a slap in the face to every who is really suffering.” I try to push those thoughts away and be okay with the fact that even though my condition could be a lot worse, it still sucks that I have to go through it at all. It’s like saying that because Joe has incurable lung cancer and Bob has a skin cancer that can be successfully cured, Bob can’t call his condition cancer because it’s not as serious. Cancer is cancer. Depression is depression.

I don’t know what the future holds for me in regards to my depression. I do know that I have an amazing support system, even in people who previously didn’t understand or even know what I was going through. So I have hope.

At least, I do today.

Rori Asks: Do You Have Naughty Dreams?

Rori — Tue, 14 May 2013 15:00:00 +0000

Every Tuesday I ask a question so we can all answer it! My answer is written in the post, and you can tell everyone your answer with a comment – or feel free to write your own blog post about the topic and link to it in the comments below! Read more Rori Asks posts here.

This Week’s Question: Do you have naughty dreams?

If you’re reading this blog, you probably have some naughty day dreams. But when you fall asleep at night, do you actual dreams get a little risque too? Do you have wet dreams?

I usually don’t, sadly. I wish I did!

Sometimes, I have some romantic dreams, where I’m falling in love with someone, but rarely do things get physical. At least that I can remember. I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve had sex in a dream, and my memory is always really fuzzy. I don’t think they qualify as wet dreams, because I don’t wake up having orgasmed or even being really wet. Occasionally, I’ll wake up horny, but that’s about it.

I’m pretty boring I guess!

I will say that one of the naughty dreams I have had that I can remember was recently and with someone I know through work. Not a co-worker, but a colleague. In really life, I definitely think this guy is attractive, and I know he thinks I am too. Nothing would EVER happen (he has a gf and I have Cash), but it wasn’t surprising that we hooked up in one of my dreams.

In fact, all of my naughtier dreams seem to be that way – they’re with people I find attractive in real life, but would never hook up with for one reason or another.

Still, even my naughtiest dreams are pretty tame compared to my actual sex life. Now, my day dreams, my fantasies? They’re a little hotter…

What about you? Do you have wet dreams? Have you ever hooked up with someone surprising in a dream?

Masturbation Monday: Ariel X Teaches Darling Who’s Boss

Rori — Mon, 13 May 2013 15:00:00 +0000

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Ariel X has been named the newest director of Ultimate Surrender while Darling’s been tooting her own horn around the Armory about being the toughest wrestler in the biz. We book these two together to battle it out but Ariel plays dirty and sneaks up on Darling while she’s in the shower challenging her to a push-up contest Whipped Ass style! Darling fails miserably and is made into Ariel’s bitch for the day! Darling suffers beautifully with spanking, nipple torture, hot wax, tough bondage, strap-on fucking in bondage, tickle torture, caning and much more!

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Dreaming of Him

Rori — Sun, 12 May 2013 21:00:00 +0000

I’m counting down the days until Cash gets home. Until then, I close my eyes and dream of him…

I dream of his hands on my hips ad he slowly slides into me from behind. I hear him grunt under his breath as I tighten my pussy around him.

“Do you like that, daddy?” I purr.

“Mmmm, yes.”

My wrists are tied over my head, together and to the headboard and my hair is pulled into high pigtails, perfect for pulling. I lean back into him, taking that last inch of his cock deep into my pussy.

“Fuck me, daddy,” I beg, wanting to feel him thrust into me. “Please, fuck me.”

“You want my cock, don’t you?”

“Yes, daddy.”

“You’re like a bitch in heat. Show me how much you want me, pet.”

He held still and I began to move back and forth, fucking myself with his cock.

“Is that all? Is that the best you can do? Don’t you want me?”

“Yes, daddy,” I pouted. I moved faster and wiggled my ass against him, clenching my pussy tight.

“That’s better,” he growled, leaning against me to meet my pussy with every thrust. His hands traveled up my sides and to my breasts, to my sensitive nipples. Cash pinched them, gently at first, then harder, and I moaned, bouncing against his cock harder.

Cash pulled out and flipped me over, and with my hands still bound over my head, he had full access to my breasts. He entered me again and leaned over me so he could tease my tits with his tongue. I flinched as he gently bit my breast.

“Trust me,” he said, looking into my eyes.

I exhaled the breath I didn’t even know I was holding. I was exposed, vulnerable, and totally his.

He began to move his hips, ever so slightly, as he sucked on my left nipple. I wrapped my legs around him and moaned, wanting more, wanting to be fucked, hard. My nipples ached. His mouth moved to the right nipple, pausing only for a moment to kiss me hard on the mouth.

“You are mine,” he whispered.

“Fuck me, daddy,” I moaned. “I’m yours.”

He obliged, sitting up for better leverage and trusting hard into my wet pussy again and again, hitting my g-spot with every drive into me. My breasts bounced as he fucked me, and he reached down and pulled on my nipples, hard.

“Don’t stop, don’t stop, don’t stop…”

I cried out as I came, squirting all over his cock. He didn’t stop. The waves of my orgasm made my back arch and I strained against the ropes binding me to the bed. My pussy ached with sensitivity, but Cash fucked me harder and continued to tug on my nipples.

“Is my little girl satisfied?” he asked with a smirk.

“Yes, daddy,” I panted.

“I don’t think you are, not yet. I’m not done with you.”

He didn’t relent, and I screamed out with every thrust. My pussy was super sensitive, but the pain was also pleasure.

“Come for me, daddy. Please daddy, I want your come.”

Cash stopped suddenly and pulled out.

“I’m not ready to come just yet, pet,” he said, and evil smile on his face. “And I’m not done with you just yet either.”

I gasped as he inserted one finger, then two, then three into my swollen, pussy. He fucked me hard with his fingers, watching my face and smiling as I cried out.

“You little slut, the neighbors are going to hear you.”

I couldn’t help it. I was so sensitive from just coming, his fingers in me were too much. He stopped thrusting into me and instead began wiggling inside me, massaging me g-spot and making me scream.

“If you can’t be quiet, I’ll have to gag you.”

To be continued…

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Sulfur

Rori — Sat, 11 May 2013 15:00:00 +0000

I bought some new bras this week, which is always a happy occasion. One of the bra’s colors was called “sulfur” – love that color and that name. It inspired me to do a little impromptu bra-centric photo shoot.

I love it paired with a pink lace cami, the colors just look so fun and summer-y together!

And of course, Cash’s favorite bra pictures are always those where the bra is on the floor…

Sorry, I might be a sex blogger, but I have to leave *something* to the imagination!

What is the Best Vibrator for Subs?

Rori — Thu, 09 May 2013 15:00:00 +0000

The other day, I got a nice email from one of my readers. It was rather long, so I won’t republish the entire thing here, but this piece of it was something I wanted to cover here on Between My Sheets:

I’m new to being a sub and new to kink in general. My boyfriend and I are looking for some advice on what kind of toys we can get to add to scenes. Specifically, what is the best vibrator?

That’s a great question. I get asked for sex toy advice pretty regularly, and although most of my recommendations can apply to vanilla and D/s couples alike, there are some specific recommendations I have for submissive women. If you’re not in a D/s relationship – don’t worry: you’ll enjoy all of these vibrators as well!

Also, please be aware that some of the following links are affiliate links. But I never recommend anything just to get you to buy it. This is my honest advice!

Specific Vibrators I Like

There are a few specific vibrators that I really love and want to recommend to you. So, let me get that out of the way before speaking a little more about vibrators in general.

Minna Ola

First, check out the Minna Ola. This vibrator is worth every penny you’ll pay for it and then some. It has this squishy touchpad that allows you to record your own vibration patterns with varying intensities. I’ve never seen another toy like this one. It’s super cool, and mine gets a ton of use.

From a D/s standpoint, the Minna Ola is one of the best vibrators out there because your dom can record the pattern he wants you to use for masturbation. It’s a fun way for him to “be there” even if he’s not in the room, so it’s especially great for long-distance couples.

A Small Discreet Vibe

Next, I recommend something small that can be slipped in your purse and used at your dom’s discretion. I’m in love with the Wonderland Collection because I absolutely love Alice in Wonderland, but I do have to admit that they aren’t super quiet. I mean, they could be a lot worse, but if you want something really quiet for discreet play in public, check out the Insignia Isla from LELO. It’s a little bigger than I’d like, but it is SUPER quiet.

And really, you can’t go wrong with LELO. They are one of my favorite sex toy brands out there because their toys are always high quality.

A Remote Controlled Vibe

Lastly, I highly recommend that every D/s couple has at least one remote control vibrator. Extreme Restraints (one of my favorite sex toy shops online) has several remote control options available. Wireless is great, but read the reviews before you buy – I’ve had mixed experiences.

Also, I definitely don’t recommend wireless vibrating panties. The thought is great, but it’s really hard for something like that to properly fit every body. My experiences have been bad overall. They just aren’t worth the money.

General D/s Sex Toy Buying Advice

If the above sex toys don’t float your boat, don’t fret. There are seriously thousands of different vibrators out there! You can definitely find something that is right for you and your dom.

So how do you choose? here are a few things to keep in mind:

Price

I know that not everyone has a Tony Stark budget, but I highly recommend putting as much money toward your new toy as possible. The more expensive luxury toys are just better all around in most cases. It’s almost always better to have one $150 toy than ten $15 toys.

Material

Be safe. Go for toys that are made from food grade quality silicone or other materials that can be easily cleaned, or made sure you use condoms. Not every company is using body-safe products, so be aware of what you’re putting next to your reproductive organs.

Function

What do you need the vibrator to do and where do you need it to do it? If you’re looking for a toy you can use for quickies in the bathroom at work, you’re going to want something very different than if you’re looking for a toy you can use in the hot tub, and that will be different than the toy your dom binds you to for a forced orgasm.

Ease of Use/Care

Is the vibrator rechargeable? If not, how many batteries does it take? Or does it need to be plugged into the wall when in use? Will it be easy to change speeds or vibration patterns while in use? Does it come with a storage bag or container?

Always read as many reviews of a product as possible. Find some sex bloggers who have tried out the toys you’re considering. Read product reviews on ecommerce sites. If you’re brave enough, go to your local sex shop and ask for an opinion. Remember, no everyone’s body is shaped the same way, so try to get opinions from as many different people as possible.

Rori Asks: How Do You Handle a Breakup?

Rori — Tue, 07 May 2013 15:00:00 +0000

This Week’s Question: How do you handle a breakup?

Don’t worry! Cash and I are absolutely fine. I just thought this would be a fun question to answer this week.

I’m like to say that I handle breakups well. I’d like to say that I think rationally about things and know that everything works out for the best. I’d like to say that breakups don’t have a ripple effect on the rest of my life.

I’d also like to say that I’m a bajillionaire with her own private island.

Truth be told, I put a ton of work into my relationships, so when something doesn’t work out, I’m usually devastated. And I can go a little crazy. Not “burn down your house” crazy, but like “dye my hair and hibernate in bed eating ice cream for a week while I cry like crazy.”

I can be a little dramatic.

I hear this song the other day and just had to laugh because it sums me up pretty well:

Also? Miranda Lambert is hot.

Okay, your turn: how do you handle breakups?

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