But parenting is creative work, she says. It's miraculous work. Just look at your son, what more creative a job could you be doing than raising him?

I find myself wanting to quibble.

Yes, creative parenting is a term very much in vogue and while I certainly have no doubt about the value and importance of bringing up children, I find myself asking if the task really is a creative one?

To be brutally honest, most of the time, it doesn't feel like it. It feels chaotic, hit-and-miss and about day-to-day survival.

Being comfortable with chaos, I grant you, is all part of the creative process but when you're writing a book or making a piece of art, there comes a point where you start to shape the madness. You limit the possibilities. You focus. You move into a phase where you know what you're doing. There comes the happy day when you look back and think: "Ah - so THAT'S what I was making."

I can't imagine I will ever know what I'm doing as far as parenting is concerned. Will it ever take shape or will it continue to be about dealing with each incident as it arises on a minute by minute basis?

Mary Portas, the retail fashion guru, had taken over a charity shop in Kent and turned it into boutique style store by spending £15,000 on a re-fit and employing a full-time shop manager.

She succeeded in increasing the shop's weekly take from £900 per week to £2,000 per week but not without its costs - and I don't just mean financial. Five of the volunteers felt so alienated they walked out.

Does this matter?

I have just come to the end of a ridiculously frantic three weeks in which I gave two lectures, delivered five teaching sessions in a school and sang in a two-hour jazz gig on top of looking after my family and my day-job as a journalist.

Some people are not happy unless they are busy. That's fine for them. There are even those who find it deeply satisfying if it is done well.

It is worth asking if being busy is a virtue. For me, it is a weakness.

Thank you to all who contributed to my previous post on the matter. I appreciated your views, not least because there was such a spread of opinion, ranging from Caroline and Selina who thought I'd done everything I could and been incredibly decent to clear it up, to Jackie and Clifford who thought I'd not done very much at all.

More than a week after Arch, my two-year-old, was sick in the back of a private hire vehicle, the issue was still unresolved in my head so I put in a call to Chris Arundel head of the licensing team with Birmingham City Council.

The cab driver hands me tissues but the situation is beyond tissues. Nothing short of a bucket will do. I feel helpless, as though I should be able to prevent sick from getting on the back seat of his car - but what can I do?

As we turn down our road, I ring my husband and ask him to bring some cleaning kit out of the house. When we pull up, I swap him a sick-ridden child for some cloths, get on my hands and knees and scrub the seat as vigorously as I can.

By the time I have finished, it doesn't smell and there are no solid bits but it's wet.

"I'll have to take the car to be cleaned," says the driver woefully. "I can't take passengers with the seat like that."

"Do you want me to fetch my hair dryer?" I suggest.

He's not amused.

"Does this mean you've lost a night's work? Let me give you some money," I say.

The fare is £8. I empty my purse, but all I've got is £12.50 in total. I give him that. The driver is even less amused. My husband empties his wallet. All he's got is another £2.

"I'm sorry," I say. "I simply haven't got any more. I don't know what else I can do."

The driver goes off with a sour look on his face and I stand on the pavement feeling dreadful and perplexed.

If I've lost him a Saturday night's work and caused him to incur the cost of having his car cleaned, am I responsible? Should I have given him £100? I baulk at the idea, but why not if that's what I've cost him?

Do minicab drivers have insurance to cover loss of earnings when toddlers puke on their back seats? Or is that all part of the risk they take in picking up members of the public, one they just have to endure?

To be honest, I'm glad I didn't have £60 in my purse, as I often do, because if I had had, I would have given it to him without really knowing if I should have.

Does anybody have any views on the rights and wrongs of this situation? Am I mean, or do I have an overdeveloped sense of responsibility? I'd really appreciate your thoughts.

Every time, I find myself perplexed. Why is it such hard work getting us all out of the house? Why does there always seem to be more that I can possibly manage to do?

I found something of an answer to that question about five hours before we were due to leave for our three week break in Barbados when Arch did a massive pooh - one of those kinds that spills out of the nappy and onto the vest.

This is not something I talk about often as I suspect it is part of a midlife crisis, but I can not let as schools secretary Ed Balls tries to persuade us of the "health benefits" of the game (ugh!) without offering some passion on cricket's behalf...

There's a history of Alzheimer's in my family, so I don't want to sound too flippant but if I didn't laugh I don't know what I'd do.

At the relatively tender age of 46 (I had to think about that for a minute - I can't remember how old I am anymore) I have to use my diary to write down what I have just done as well as what I'm going to do. Otherwise I forget.

When I get dressed I stand in my underwear and think: "Have I just put on my deodorant or not?"

Last year I bought a Valentine's card for my husband. When I put it away in the special box where we keep such sweetniks, I realised it was exactly the same as the card I had bought him the year before.

In my youth it was only when I was totally rat-arsed that other people knew more about where I'd been than I did. Now you could tell me anything and I'd believe you - I can't remember what I did ten minutes ago, never mind yesterday.

Some friends who have suffered from a similar condition after having children tell me that a few years on you re-find you marbles. They turn up like the odd socks that have slipped down the back of the radiator. Others say it is part of an irreversible decline.

Either way I have decided to be fascinated by this fuzz that was once my brain and enjoy the different reality that it filters for me.

Recently I was feeling upset with a friend who had said something hurtful. I remembered the hurt very well, I just couldn't remember what she'd said - so that's one half of the forgiving and forgetting dealt with.

My husband struggles to buy me presents so I often buy something for him to wrap up and give me on Christmas Day. I used to think this was a farce, but this year I genuinely forgot what I'd bought so I got a surprise - and do you know, it was exactly what I wanted?

Many times I stand in a room and think: "I know I came here for something. I'll just plump up these cushions while I remember what it was" and sure enough it all comes back to me and I think how clever I am that my body managed to get me to where I needed to be even though my brain had gone AWOL.

It's as though the factual, linear part of my brain has gone revealing a soft, blurry place of feelings and impressions and intentions. I quite like it, in much the same way that I like my dreams.

I had a good last line a minute ago. I really did. Where's it gone??? Oh never mind.....

Readers of a previous posting will know that a few weeks ago I had conjunctivitis, an eye condition which rendered me so ugly I could not show up for work. Sadly, I did not just have one episode of blood-shot, pussy eyes.

Every five days or so the infection would flare up again, until the doctor and I concluded that I might need to lay down my mascara for at least ten days if I wanted the condition to clear up once and for all.

Very reluctantly, I went about naked (facially speaking) for a fortnight.

And the Cabinet Office has published a report which shows family background has slightly less impact on GCSE results for those born in 1990 than those born in 1970.

Hooray, we officially say. But are we really cheering?

There is nothing like having a baby for the hidden snob within to come out of the cupboard and pole-dance shamelessly around the post-natal classes.

When I eventually managed to prise my lids apart, having dabbed at them with a warm flannel for quite a while, I was horrified by what I saw.

There was no need for a Halloween mask for me. Staring back at me in the mirror was someone I barely recognised.

My sockets had swollen up like tennis balls and the eyes themselves had been reduced to red slits with pus oozing out of them. I had Conjunctivitis.

The strange thing was that I felt well in myself yet I figured I could not go into work because I was too ugly for human consumption.

In my late teens and early 20s, I loved to go and gawp at women bending over paddy fields in China, children begging for biros in Egypt, men in Palestine offering us wooden carvings of scenes from the Bible.

I never saw it as gawping of course.

Having bought a digital camera in January, I have had been trudging through life with a residual feeling of anxiety as bit by bit more and more traces of my two-year-old's "firsts" have been hanging in a black plastic case from a strap in our hallway.