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Bizzy Women http://bizzywomen.com Empowering professional women Sun, 17 Nov 2013 12:28:24 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.0 A Few Of My (New) Favorite Things http://bizzywomen.com/2010/a-few-of-my-new-favorite-things/ http://bizzywomen.com/2010/a-few-of-my-new-favorite-things/#comments Mon, 12 Apr 2010 08:00:05 +0000 http://bizzywomen.com/?p=3517 Warning: Illegal string offset 'footerstring' in /home/bizzywom/public_html/sitefiles/wp-content/plugins/rss-footer/rss-footer.php on line 146

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When I find something new that I like -- I love to share it with other people. So here are a few of my (new) favorite things.

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“Raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens…”

When I find something new that I like  — I love to share it with other people.  So here are a few of my (new) favorite things.

The Daily Plate on Livestrong.com: an amazing free resource that allows you to track your calories, macronutrients (carbs, fats and proteins), activity level and more.

Kaos Sports Bra:  Kaos sent me one of these to try — and I’m hooked!  These sports bras are incredibly soft and comfy…yet provide great support for the athletic gal on the go.  Plus their gear comes in all my favorite colors…black, black — and black ;-)

RealAge.com:  Okay, I’m a huge fan of both Dr. Oz (I was on his show this past fall) AND Dr. Roizen (I’ve been on his radio show), so it’s not a big surprise that I love this site. Its packed with credible, actionable info.   Take the RealAge test and see how your chronological age matches up to your “body age”.  They provide strategies to reduce your age everything from not talking on the cell while driving to eating more foods with Omega 3s.

Bear Naked Granola:  The good folks at Bear Naked sent me their newest granolas.  I especially LOVE the new Peak granola with Flax (Oats and Honey with Blueberries).  I’m loving it sprinkled on yogurt… full of healthy, crunchy yumminess.

TRX Suspension Training:  This crazy-looking system of straps and handles (designed by an Navy Seal) provides a fun and seriously butt-kicking workout.  You can train your entire body ESPECIALLY your core in surprisingly little time — and have a blast doing it.  I’ve been playing with mine for about 9 months now and I’m still not bored.  Best of all it packs up in a little bag and you can take it with you anywhere for indoor — or outdoor workouts.

  Fgw-move-2-225[1]Geralyn Coopersmith, MA, CSCS is an exercise physiologist, certified personal trainer, author of Fit + Female:  The Complete Fitness and Nutrition Game Plan for Your Unique Body Type and the creator of The Best Me Ever, a comprehensive weight loss and wellness system just for women.  It’s a first of its kind program designed to fit into a busy women’s life.  Lose weight and look great — 90 Day Unconditional Money Back Guarantee!!

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You Think You Know the ‘Other Woman?’ Think Again http://bizzywomen.com/2010/you-think-you-know-the-%e2%80%98other-woman%e2%80%99-think-again/ http://bizzywomen.com/2010/you-think-you-know-the-%e2%80%98other-woman%e2%80%99-think-again/#comments Mon, 12 Apr 2010 07:54:21 +0000 http://bizzywomen.com/?p=3514 Warning: Illegal string offset 'footerstring' in /home/bizzywom/public_html/sitefiles/wp-content/plugins/rss-footer/rss-footer.php on line 146

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Being cheated on sucks, no holds barred. But what is the reality? What does or did she have, that you didn’t?

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Being cheated on sucks, no holds barred. But what is the reality? What does or did she have, that you didn’t? How did you lack? Did you lack, or was she this evil entity that ruined your relationship with nary a thought, only fixating on your man because she couldn’t get her own? Is she a sly dog that crept up, and preyed upon him, when you were having problems? When he was vulnerable? Ha. Keep telling yourselves that, ladies. Keep creating a witch, instead of dealing with the fact you stopped meeting his needs and someone else started fulfilling them.

How lazy did you get in the relationship? It’s a little funny, that you’re the victim…when you might have been pushing him away into someone else’s arms, and then you get high and mighty. How dare she??? How dare you ignore him. How dare you feel so insulted, when all you’ve done in recent months is minimize and belittle him. It’s no wonder he sought comfort- you are fully culpable. You need to take responsibility for the situation, too. A relationship is two people, not you constantly being placated and catered to- at his expense. You give nothing, you get nothing. And ’she’ gets the good bits.

That’s the part that really makes you angry, isn’t it? That she fulfills him in a way you never could. That you wouldn’t dream of doing. It doesn’t have to be sexual- most cheating that happens is based on emotional fulfillment. Not physical. You pushed him away, with the security he’d always be there…and now? Keep pushing, you’ll end up in divorce court. With bells on. Playing the injured party can only go so far. Because, scientifically and statistically, it’s impossible for so many men to be such bastards. You created the situation, and now you’re looking for a scapegoat to make yourself feel better.

The Other Woman

Who is she, exactly? Most women would have us all believe that she’s a sniping, vindictive cow that attacked him at his weakest point. That the Other woman doesn’t love him, she’s using him. She plotted, days months or years to get him and steal him away from his loving wife and family. Do you see it now? When it’s written, it looks ridiculous. Because it is. It’s pretty unbelievable that society condones the behavior of the ‘wronged wife,’ but doesn’t allow for how the wife contributed to the demise of the marriage. After having no or ritual sex over a year, is it really so surprising that he’d find a connection somewhere else? With someone who actually makes him feel good to be him?

The only surprising thing about the whole cheating scheme is that you forgot him until someone else came into the picture. Then- and only then- do you appreciate what you have and fight for him. Why weren’t you fighting for him, letting him know his importance to your life, on a daily basis?  You feel under-appreciated? Poor you. He’s feeling worse, and you helped. You minimized him as a man, as a person, as a human with feelings. You kept pushing, he finally made a self-preservation choice of staying away. And now you’re upset?

The Other Woman is a colleague. A friend. A momentary meeting that reminded him of his worth. She’s not a harlot, a manipulator, a beast. She epitomizes everything that you aren’t:  supportive. Understanding. Caring, about him as an entity. She’s appreciative of all of his good qualities. The ones you’ve forgotten or misplaced. She is you, when you first met him. That’s the bones of the new relationship skeleton. You can blame him for being weak. You can blame yourself for having a short-term memory. But no, you can’t blame the other woman for making him feel like a man.

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One Guy, One Girl, Two Start-Ups and a Relationship http://bizzywomen.com/2010/one-guy-one-girl-two-start-ups-and-a-relationship/ http://bizzywomen.com/2010/one-guy-one-girl-two-start-ups-and-a-relationship/#comments Fri, 22 Jan 2010 09:42:25 +0000 http://bizzywomen.com/?p=3511 Warning: Illegal string offset 'footerstring' in /home/bizzywom/public_html/sitefiles/wp-content/plugins/rss-footer/rss-footer.php on line 146

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Smart people don’t balance two sides of the same coin – your work and life are, after all, inseparable from the backbone of your binding.

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Quick, which is more difficult – work or life?

Up until a year ago, both competed for my attention, each piling weight onto the seesaw to rise towards the favored position. A year ago, however, I started working at Alice and Ryan and I started hitting our stride (both of which were not without challenges, however… many, many challenges).

While working for a start-up demands hours, it demands more in mental energy, and in spiky unpredictable lengths, where the only invariable is that you know work will be stop and go. This means it’s often difficult to separate work and life, especially in the statuesque pursuit of balance, but while I used to recognize and promote blur, I’m now mindful of the distinct delineation between the two.

Smart people don’t balance two sides of the same coin – your work and life are, after all, inseparable from the backbone of your binding. You can’t push one to one side and one to the other and hope equilibrium presents itself because the entities are glued to each other and to you.

What I mean, for example, is that I cannot see Ryan and refrain from discussing at length our work. I have long agreed that behind every good man is a good woman, and likewise, the same holds true for Ryan and I on both sides. While he is the one that shows up to Brazen headquarters each day, my ideas fill his head. While I’m the one who walks into Alice each morning, Ryan’s sense and advice follows me.

More to the point, I guess, is that there is a mutual respect for what we choose to do with the majority of our day and into the night, and sometimes into our sleep and into dreams. Although when we do relate to each other our dreams from the night before, it’s not very likely to include the mention of a spreadsheet.

Right now, Ryan is across the street from me working. His offices are located diagonal from my condo, but I have yet to see him this week except for when he dropped me off from our weekend in Philly together on Sunday. I was working on a Wall Street Journal exclusive early this week, and he’s working on big plans for Brazen later this week. We also have friends, family, a basketball league, dance classes, books, blogs, grocery shopping, the gym, bill-paying and other magnitudes and minutiae of daily life competing for our attention.

Oh, and the new season of Chuck just started.

When I walk into work, much of that has to go away. I imagine this is natural for most people who enjoy their jobs, but particularly at start-ups you have to be ready to do whatever is put in front of you that day. Everything planned for the day will get eaten up by new priorities, larger plans and whether or not the toucan (our CEO) monopolizes all the time with the dolphin (our President and my direct boss). This can be best described as acting as a pivot, keeping your center, but spinning to each new person and project that appears.

One of the best parts of working at a start-up is that an idea spun in the morning has the potential to be fully realized by the afternoon. It can be that quick and magical and exhilarating. Also, the customers. When I worked for a non-profit in a trailer across from the food pantry that I was raising money for, I thought I wouldn’t again experience the rewards of being in such direct contact with the people I helped. But Alice has that.

One of the more challenging things is that blurring my work and my blog and my life to such an extent can make me very unhappy. Sometimes I feel like I’m always working which is frustrating, so I’ve tried to have clearer boundaries. I don’t really believe in work/life balance as an ideal, but no longer do I trust in work/life blur so much either.

As a generation, we’re always on. Is it okay to tweet during your workday? How often? What about talk to your significant other? Send personal emails? Do you work with your partner at night? Accept calls from the boss? Check your iPhone during a movie? Where is the line drawn and what is acceptable?

For Ryan and I, we have chosen to spend the majority of our day, not with each other, but with two different start-up companies. Our lives and relationship are more difficult and more enriched because of it. What about you? Work/life balance: truth or myth? Does it stand a chance?

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Overwhelmed? You’re Not Alone! http://bizzywomen.com/2010/overwhelmed-youre-not-alone/ http://bizzywomen.com/2010/overwhelmed-youre-not-alone/#comments Fri, 22 Jan 2010 09:38:44 +0000 http://bizzywomen.com/?p=3509 Warning: Illegal string offset 'footerstring' in /home/bizzywom/public_html/sitefiles/wp-content/plugins/rss-footer/rss-footer.php on line 146

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As women all too often we try to do a million things at once -- and then we suddenly wake up to the unpleasant reality that this just isn't possible.

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As women all too often we try to do a million things at once — and then we suddenly wake up to the unpleasant reality that this just isn’t possible.  You’re only human — and capable as you may be, you can only take on so much.  So in the spirit of digging out from under, here are some tips for dealing with overwhelm.

  • Identify: A big part of feeling overwhelmed is not knowing where to start.  Try to pick three areas of your life: personal, relationship and career/professional and write down ALL the nagging things (both big and small) that are rippling under the surface and effecting your peace of mind.  This “brain dump” alone can be useful in that it shows you what you really need to deal with so that it’s not as  Getting Things Done author, David Allen so aptly terms it, “a nebulous mass of undo-ability
  • Prioritize: Once you identify the items in each category, rank them on a scale of 1 to 5.  1 being very important, 5 being very trivial. 
  • Decide: Of all the #1 items on your to-do list decide: 1) which are the ones that are the most important to you in terms of life goals, values, passions and 2) which tasks/projects once accomplished will give you the most bang for your proverbial buck.
  • Act:  Break your top 3 most important tasks into 3 actionable subtasks and decide what is the next “actionable” step that you could take towards its attainment.  Many times we feel overwhelmed because we see a mountain and think we are supposed to leap over it…we forget that it is a process and that it is made up of lots of smaller tasks which are victories in themselves.  So “clean out attic” (something I just did a few weeks ago) becomes “call carting service to rent dumpster” and “buy plastic organizers“, etc.
  • Assign:  Tim Ferris, in his worthwhile (if a wee bit optimistic) book, The Four-Hour Work Week talks a lot about the importance of farming out tasks that you do not need to do.  He is a big proponent of leveraging high school and college students — even virtual assistants overseas to handle mundane tasks that can be real time-wasters
  • Just Say “No”: Too many people (women, in particular) are uncomfortable with saying “no”.  I’m not always great at it myself….but I’m getting better.  I think a reasonable way to avoid getting committed to projects you’d just as soon leave alone, is to buy yourself sometime and never answer on the fly, if possible.  You can save yourself a great deal of kicking yourself afterward by going with something like, “I really can’t commit to that right now because I have a lot going on and always want to an excellent job on whatever I commit to.  I’m going to look at my calendar and commitments and get back to you”.  Then afterward do some soul searching and make sure that you are doing something that you want to do or feel is important to do.
  • 6 A Day:  The legend is that Charles Schwab paid a friend $25,000 for this idea because it radically improved the effectiveness of his organization.  Pick 6 (no more, no less) of your high-priority, next actionable step tasks and do them each work day.  Where will you get the most traction on the things that matter to you most?  Whether it is having a better relationship with your kid — or getting  that new client.
  • Let Go:  Overwhelm is often a product of staying on the treadmill of success for a long time and not realizing that you need at least one (preferably two) days off per week.   Stephen Covey author of The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People calls this “sharpening the saw”.  The joke is that this guy is trying to saw this tree with a dull saw.  He’s sweating, straining, not being very effective.  So another guy says, “Hey, why not take a break and sharpen that saw?”.  To which the first gentleman replies incredulously, “Can’t you see I’m trying to cut down this tree?!!“.  In other words, if your mental “blades” are dull and rusty you can’t be very effective.

Just some thoughts to get this thing rolling in the spirit of  “Hey, I’m doing the best I can.  Doing pretty darn good — and trying to get a little better every day“.  I hope you find some of these tips helpful in reducing your stress load. 

Now if you’ll excuse me…I need to go and remind myself of what I just wrote ;-).

  Fgw-move-2-225[1]Geralyn Coopersmith, MA, CSCS is an exercise physiologist, certified personal trainer, author of Fit + Female:  The Complete Fitness and Nutrition Game Plan for Your Unique Body Type and the creator of The Best Me Ever, a comprehensive weight loss and wellness system just for women.  It’s a first of its kind program designed to fit into a busy women’s life.  Lose weight and look great — 90 Day Unconditional Money Back Guarantee!!

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Stella McCartney Lace Chunky Cardigan http://bizzywomen.com/2010/stella-mccartney-lace-chunky-cardigan/ http://bizzywomen.com/2010/stella-mccartney-lace-chunky-cardigan/#comments Wed, 20 Jan 2010 14:52:34 +0000 http://bizzywomen.com/?p=3507 Warning: Illegal string offset 'footerstring' in /home/bizzywom/public_html/sitefiles/wp-content/plugins/rss-footer/rss-footer.php on line 146

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There will always be room in my closet for a great chunky cardigan. No matter how in style or out of the style the look is.

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There will always be room in my closet for a great chunky cardigan. No matter how in style or out of the style the look is. I will lounge around in the chunky cardigan, I will grocery shop in the chunky cardigan and I will even work in the chunky cardigan. Thank goodness the look is in style at the moment. And thank goodness for Stella McCartney’s amazing classic long chunky lace cardigan that is currently available at Neiman Marcus.

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It is a tobacco lace knit color that is long enough to go over a great mini dress or some fun funky leggings. There are even some patch pockets on the side to slip your often cold hands in. The cardigan is currently priced at $1,285. That’s a bit pricey, but for this time of year and for Stella McCartney I may go for it. What do you all think about it?

Ashley Shute spends eight hours a day working as a blue jean and t-shirt wearing community organizer in San Antonio. The other 16 hours are dedicated to dreaming about and shopping for the latest luxury fashions. Her style icon is Jacqueline Kennedy; classic, clean, and always professional. You will never find a fake bag in her closet and she wants a collection of Manolo Blahnik shoes before she turns 30.

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Black Bear, Black Bear, What Do You Read? http://bizzywomen.com/2010/black-bear-black-bear-what-do-you-read/ http://bizzywomen.com/2010/black-bear-black-bear-what-do-you-read/#comments Wed, 20 Jan 2010 08:31:59 +0000 http://bizzywomen.com/?p=3497 Warning: Illegal string offset 'footerstring' in /home/bizzywom/public_html/sitefiles/wp-content/plugins/rss-footer/rss-footer.php on line 146

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Stumbling upon quaint mom and pop shops makes visiting small towns a real treat and Black Bear Books in Boone, North Carolina is no exception.

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Stumbling upon quaint mom and pop shops makes visiting small towns a real treat and Black Bear Books in Boone, North Carolina is no exception.  

After freezing our snowballs off snow tubing, Allan and I decided to warm up in a bookstore that touted “FIREPLACE” on its marquis.  Sipping hot chocolate next to a fierce fire while reading a local newspaper seemed like a delightful way to defrost.

Upon entering the bookstore, we were surprised by its large stature.  At the back of the store, the girls quickly located the children’s section complete with stacks of award winning literature, a train table and wooden puzzles. 

In such a cozy atmosphere, we found it all too easy to settle into this homey bookstore.  Once we found the regional children’s literature section and a collection of the owner’s son’s favorite books, the girls and I swayed in wooden rocking chairs as we read books from each collection. 

The owner, Karen Walker, welcomed us into her second home with free hot chocolate for the girls and coffee for Allan.  Her hospitality warmed us better than the fireplace. 

Ms Walker shared some of her favorite children’s books with the girls and her own life’s story with Allan and me.  We enjoyed a brief history lesson of her family and the remarkable journey that brought her to settle in Boone. 

Allana curled up in the corner of the children’s stacks reading book after book while Emmalynn played with the puzzles and I snuck away for a few minutes to explore the adult fictional regional section since I prefer bringing books home as souvenirs rather than t-shirts or trinkets. 

While exploring the store, I discovered the employee’s favorite picks, which included some of my favorite reads, such as Pillars of the Earth and Wicked.  Meghan, a young sale associate, offered a brief description of some of the other books spotlighted on the shelves and explained that Ms. Walker holds a contesteach month to see which employee’s picks sell the most books. By choosing Tom Robbins Jitterburg Perfume, we helped one associate get a little closer to winning the prize. 

I returned to the regional fictional literature to continue my hunt for a book set in the Appalachians.  After reading the titles and their summaries over several times, I found one that offered just the scenery I craved: Cataloochee

For the girls, I grabbed the Appalachian ABCs and coincidentally, Emmalynn and Allana both selected regional books as well.  Allana chose Jack and the Dragon, which tells the adventure of an Appalachian folk hero.  Emmalynn picked Blue Bowl Down.  Its lovely sing-song pattern deserves a banjo accompaniment.

Ms. Walker continued to pour the hospitality along with the coffee and our visit at Black Bear Books lasted nearly two hours.  So taken with Allana’s love for reading, Ms. Walker offered her a free copy of one of her many Magic Tree House Books and Allana chose Magic Tree House #17: Tonight on the Titanic.

As we wrapped up our visit at the register, Allana noticed Ms. Walker’s collection of gems.  Allana expressed her love for rocks and Ms. Walker insisted that we pay her friend, Doc, a visit at his gem mine before we left Boone as most of the gems proudly displayed in her case came from Doc’s Rocks Gem Mine.  Excited about the prospects she would find there, we promised to take Allana the next day upon Ms. Walker’s recommendation.  To hold them over until then, Ms. Walker gave each girl a gem, however, Ms. Walker and our experience at Black Bear Books was the most precious gem we uncovered that day. 

 ***Photo of Karen and Chris Walker and their son, Caleb, was borrowed from The Mountain Times.***

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Show ‘N Tell Tuesday for Solid Clutter Control http://bizzywomen.com/2010/show-%e2%80%98n-tell-tuesday-for-solid-clutter-control/ http://bizzywomen.com/2010/show-%e2%80%98n-tell-tuesday-for-solid-clutter-control/#comments Wed, 20 Jan 2010 06:45:07 +0000 http://bizzywomen.com/?p=3503 Warning: Illegal string offset 'footerstring' in /home/bizzywom/public_html/sitefiles/wp-content/plugins/rss-footer/rss-footer.php on line 146

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In all the places you have been in the world where would you revisit? My choice would be Italy because of all the beautiful things there and I liked the “old world feeling” in the Cinque Terra.

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Clutter control for the kitchen In all the places you have been in the world where would you revisit? My choice would be Italy because of all the beautiful things there and I liked the “old world feeling” in the Cinque Terra.

I am not heading to Italy any time soon but I did revisit my “pantry”. It is more like a glorified cupboard it is so small. is easy when revisiting organized cupboards, closets etc. about every 3 to 5 months to get rid of clutter that has found its Clutter controlway into these spaces.

Clutter control for the kitchen Because I do try to keep the pantry organized there were just small things I had to do to get rid of clutter. Some of the cans that I had too many of for this space I took to the storage room. I put all soups back together. I rearranged the bottom shelves so they could hold items that belong there.

I tossed some old cereal and checked expiration dates. Just by spending 7 to 10 minutes clutter control was so easy to do as it hadn’t gotten out of control.

What is your favorite secret to clutter control?

Clutter control for the kitchen

Marilyn Bohn is an energetic, lively, compassionate, hard working and creative organizer. She was born to organize! Before becoming a professional organizer she worked professionally in diverse environments. She is involved in her community, providing her clients with a broad base of experience and knowledge.  She is a member of the National Association of Professional Organizers (NAPO).

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Get Out of Your Own Way! http://bizzywomen.com/2010/get-out-of-your-own-way/ http://bizzywomen.com/2010/get-out-of-your-own-way/#comments Tue, 19 Jan 2010 18:41:13 +0000 http://bizzywomen.com/?p=3501 Warning: Illegal string offset 'footerstring' in /home/bizzywom/public_html/sitefiles/wp-content/plugins/rss-footer/rss-footer.php on line 146

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Picture yourself walking down the street in a busy urban area of New York, London or Los Angeles. Moving along you are mesmerized by magnificent architecture, the innocence of a child’s laughter, the fancified shop windows, the smells and sounds of the city.

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Picture yourself walking down the street in a busy urban area of New York, London or Los Angeles.  Moving along you are mesmerized by magnificent architecture, the innocence of a child’s laughter, the fancified shop windows, the smells and sounds of the city.  You are completely lost in thought when by the grace of a complete stranger,  you are saved from being run over by a rogue vehicle blowing through a red light.  Your heart is racing and you are wicked stunned.  You thank the super hero on the street by offering him your first born and stumble off  grateful to be alive.  Your wake up call has been delivered.

What will do with this message?

It’s time to get out of your own way and begin taking action in the areas of your life you deem most important. There is no more time for ego-teasing lip service or negative self-talk. If you need help getting focused,  schedule a no cost coaching session with me or another coach out in the world and move one step forward on the path of your desires.

One of my coaching clients is a brilliant creative visionary. Her vision of idealistic greatness paralyzed her for years from taking action on the small things which bit by bit, drop by drop,  add up to the full life she is desperately seeking. Couple this paralysis with brutal self-talk and we have a smidge of a vision versus reality challenge.

Like the fantastical dreamer meandering through the city,  this bright woman was preoccupied with rich textured dreams and magical notions.  She almost missed the harbinger of a tragic nightmare threatening to suck the life from her extraordinary vision.  We are working together to travel back to the beginning of her story with the commitment of making plans and celebrating incremental actionable steps over a clear and specific time line.

Big Ideas —> Plans Phases —> Action Steps  = Critical Path Time Line

Creative people overflowing with ideas and wacky scenarios love to play. Dabbling here and experimenting there can be big fun and certainly not as scary as stepping into your power to create your life’s dream.  I enjoy experimentation as much as any creative,  but have learned that too many trials lure me away from the laser focus I am finally learning how to surrender to and flow with.

As a personal coach I share my time inspiring creative entrepreneurs to accelerate their journey toward a full and balanced life on their terms. In my opinion, the best way to foster liberation is to live it, breath it and study it.  I am ecstatic to shine a focused stream of dazzling golden sunshine with the purpose of illuminating each bold and interesting plan of the people I play with.

Getting Out of your own way looks like this:

  • Learning how to be happy with incremental victories that lead to your BIG VISION
  • Being grateful for your experience and talents – There is nobody in the Universe quite like you.
  • Reminding yourself daily of all you have accomplished
  • Setting realistic daily, weekly and quarterly goals
  • Kicking your own ass,  hiring a coach or tapping into a mentor to accomplish short-term plans
  • Creating an environment of daily creative productivity
  • Communicating with like-minded people who are happy to be a part of your support system

Open your eyes and look around.  You can get out of your own way and honor your creative vision.

It is never too late to begin again.

“Whatever course you decide upon, there is always someone to tell you that you are wrong. There are always difficulties arising which tempt you to believe that your critics are right. To map out a course of action and follow it to an end requires courage.”  -Ralph Waldo Emerson

Shann Vander Leek is the Founder of True Balance Life Coaching and Co-founder of Seize True Success. She is a Coach Training Alliance certified professional coach, and certified yoga instructor. Shann is a prolific blogger, published writer and co-author of the Best Selling Book – Wake Up Women BE Happy Healthy & Wealthy. Shann’s personal style and direct approach have guided and inspired many in overcoming personal and professional challenges. Her background in sales, marketing and client development, along with leading a talented sales force for many years prepared her for the business of professional coaching. Shann inspires women in transition to create balance in their lives through personal coaching, yoga and creative expression. Telephone and email consultations make her accessible to clients all over the world. To find out about her Coaching Programs for Women, call Shann at 231.668.111 or visit www.truebalancelifecoaching.com

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When deciding where to send your money for victims of the Haiti earthquake http://bizzywomen.com/2010/when-deciding-where-to-send-your-money-for-victims-of-the-haiti-earthquake/ http://bizzywomen.com/2010/when-deciding-where-to-send-your-money-for-victims-of-the-haiti-earthquake/#comments Tue, 19 Jan 2010 16:36:56 +0000 http://bizzywomen.com/?p=3499 Warning: Illegal string offset 'footerstring' in /home/bizzywom/public_html/sitefiles/wp-content/plugins/rss-footer/rss-footer.php on line 146

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Benjamin just wrote me an email suggesting I blog about donating to charities at times of crisis such as that in Haiti.

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Benjamin just wrote me an email suggesting I blog about donating to charities at times of crisis such as that in Haiti. He wondered if I had preferred charities for different outcomes (emergency response, infrastructure building, etc).

I think there is a lot going on when we decide where to send our money. I think the common factor amongst everyone is that we all want to give our money to an organisation that we can trust to spend our money responsibly.

I learnt and thought about this subject working in Aceh after the tsunami. I arrived about 2 years after the chaotic emergency period, so I didn’t see those early days and months when decisions were made on the fly and money poured in. But we (my friends and colleagues) would often talk about how organisations were spending the huge amounts of money they received from personal donations (and of course, governments and other donor facilities).

Most of our assessments were based on personal experiences or what we’d heard from friends:

“[insert name of massive charity] wasted so much money in the emergency period! I’d never donate to them. I’ve written to everyone I know and told them not to”

“I’m really impressed by the team at [insert name of other organisation], they seem really responsible.”

Even though what I saw in Aceh has definitely informed my personal opinions of different organisations, I know that a lot of our information was subjective, or not necessarily indicative of the broader organisation, and certainly not the kind of information I’d pass on to others with any authority.

There are just so many grey areas. For example, a large and very well-respected NGO ran what I considered a successful shelter program, rebuilding thousands of houses – but not before making some huge, costly mistakes along the way. Does that mean they wasted money? I suppose they did. Does that mean they failed? I don’t think so.

An organisation’s very recognisable name and good reputation aren’t necessarily indicators that your money will be well spent. It is equally true that just because you’ve never heard of organisation, doesn’t mean they don’t make a big and positive difference. The reverse of both of those statements are probably just as true.

For the record, I donate to Médecins Sans Frontières (MSF). While MSF attend to only a small part of what makes up an emergency response  and can’t do it alone, they do so without government funding. Their independence from governments is a crucial aspect to allowing them to do what they do, but it also makes them more dependent on individual donations. I don’t support MSF just because of their independence, I also sincerely believe that they do good work with limited budgets and make tangible differences in the lives of people in some of the world’s harshest places.

Please don’t withhold donations for fear that your money will be wasted. There are worse things in life than a charity wasting your money.

Back to Benjamin’s original question, which I’ve succesfully dodged, if you do want to donate to a particular cause but aren’t sure who best to send your money to, email me at sarahfortuna [at] gmail dot com and perhaps I can offer some of my off-the-record, personal suggestions.

This post was submitted to BizzyWomen by a great blog, Where is Sarah?, written by Sarah Fortuna, an Australian writing for her friends and family while she is living abroad.

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Celebs Donate Gowns to Help Haiti http://bizzywomen.com/2010/celebs-donate-gowns-to-help-haiti/ http://bizzywomen.com/2010/celebs-donate-gowns-to-help-haiti/#comments Tue, 19 Jan 2010 13:52:12 +0000 http://bizzywomen.com/?p=3505 Warning: Illegal string offset 'footerstring' in /home/bizzywom/public_html/sitefiles/wp-content/plugins/rss-footer/rss-footer.php on line 146

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Sandra Bullock (also beautiful!) donated $1 million dollars to the effort earlier today. Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt equaled that amount right after they heard about the devastation and George Clooney

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Did Olivia Wilde read about the trends to watch for at the Globes this year? I pleaded with her to wear something darker and sultrier to make her look even better than she has on past Red Carpets. Well, tonight she turned the heat up with a slinky Gucci dress.

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In addition to her great fashion sense, she also has a very big heart. Did you catch lots of the celebrities on the Red Carpet sporting large red ribbons? They were in support of the current relief effort in Haiti. Well, Olivia is taking that ribbon one step further by auction off her sultry Gucci dress off and donating all the proceeds to the non-profit organization Artists for Peace and Justice. Can she do anything wrong? 

Wilde is not the only one who has openly supported the relief effort; Amy Poehler (also mentioned in our trends to watch at the Globes), Meryl Streep, and Gerard Butler will be auctioning their Globes goods with Artists for Peace and Justice. 

Sandra Bullock (also beautiful!) donated $1 million dollars to the effort earlier today. Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt equaled that amount right after they heard about the devastation and George Clooney announced a nationwide telethon which will air on E! and several other television stations on Friday January 29, 2010. 

Stayed with us here at Splendicity as we keep you updated about how we all can help with the relief effort in Haiti.

Ashley Shute spends eight hours a day working as a blue jean and t-shirt wearing community organizer in San Antonio. The other 16 hours are dedicated to dreaming about and shopping for the latest luxury fashions. Her style icon is Jacqueline Kennedy; classic, clean, and always professional. You will never find a fake bag in her closet and she wants a collection of Manolo Blahnik shoes before she turns 30.

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What Fitness Looks Like On You http://bizzywomen.com/2010/what-fitness-looks-like-on-you/ http://bizzywomen.com/2010/what-fitness-looks-like-on-you/#comments Tue, 19 Jan 2010 13:30:32 +0000 http://bizzywomen.com/?p=3495 Warning: Illegal string offset 'footerstring' in /home/bizzywom/public_html/sitefiles/wp-content/plugins/rss-footer/rss-footer.php on line 146

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I think far too many people begin a weight loss or fitness program with unrealistic expectations. Men often fool themselves into believing (on some subconscious level)

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I think far too many people begin a weight loss or fitness program with unrealistic expectations.  Men often fool themselves into believing (on some subconscious level) that a few weeks of bench pressing is going to turn them into the guy on the cover of Men’s Health.  Women, on the other hand, often think that a particular workout (such as yoga or Pilates) is going to make them “longer and leaner”.

Now I’m all for believing that great things are possible for all of us (both physical and otherwise).  But on the other hand I am also a realist.  Therefore, I always ask my clients to do an honest assessment of what fit might look like on them. 

Unfortunately, the media (women’s magazines mostly) help perpetuate the notion that if you do this workout for a month you are going to look like a particular celebrity or model.  But fitness doesn’t make people gorgeous (wise selection of parents usually does that), it makes people fit

For example, 8 weeks of a fitness walking program is going to do amazing things for you by potentially  decreasing: your risk of heart disease, your blood cholesterol, your blood pressure, your body fat percentage… on and on.  It will not, however, turn you into a bathing suit model.  Going into a program expecting to end up looking like Gisele by the end of it, is a sure-fire recipe for disappointment.

It is essential to remember to measure yourself by your own yardstick.  For example, if you have short legs…nothing is going to make them longer (they’d need to replace your femur to do that — sounds painful

— and messy), but exercise sure can make them leaner(which actually can give the illusion of greater length).  Likewise, if you have smaller breasts, exercise is not going give you massive cleavage (although having defined pecs actually can give the illusion of greater cleavage). 

The point is that being healthy and fit turns you into the best version of yourself.  Not somebody else.  Understand this from the get-go — embrace it and get inspired by it.  Remind yourself, you’re not aiming for the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Issue, you’re going for you looking better and feeling more comfortable in a bathing suit than you ever have before.  And (far more importantly to my mind) you are going for you being the healthiest version of yourself that you’ve been in years (maybe ever).

By starting with goals that are based around what is and what realistically could be you are setting yourself up for success and tuning out the culturally reinforced notions of what you are “supposed” to look like.   You’re supposed to look like you — only better ;-).

  Fgw-move-2-225[1]Geralyn Coopersmith, MA, CSCS is an exercise physiologist, certified personal trainer, author of Fit + Female:  The Complete Fitness and Nutrition Game Plan for Your Unique Body Type and the creator of The Best Me Ever, a comprehensive weight loss and wellness system just for women.  It’s a first of its kind program designed to fit into a busy women’s life.  Lose weight and look great — 90 Day Unconditional Money Back Guarantee!!

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Summer Flings and Things – Why They’re Short But Sweet http://bizzywomen.com/2010/summer-flings-and-things-%e2%80%93-why-they%e2%80%99re-short-but-sweet/ http://bizzywomen.com/2010/summer-flings-and-things-%e2%80%93-why-they%e2%80%99re-short-but-sweet/#comments Tue, 19 Jan 2010 13:26:11 +0000 http://bizzywomen.com/?p=3493 Warning: Illegal string offset 'footerstring' in /home/bizzywom/public_html/sitefiles/wp-content/plugins/rss-footer/rss-footer.php on line 146

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It started in our preteen years, with going away to camp for the summer. The first crushes, kisses and whats-its are stuck firmly in our heads.

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It started in our preteen years, with going away to camp for the summer. The first crushes, kisses and whats-its are stuck firmly in our heads. Usually surrounded by a soft, shimmering air of ‘ah, youth!’ and a silly grin. It then moved into teen-hood, with having the week-long boyfriend. The Grease romance, the one without a future. Is it any different when we pretend we’re grown-ups, and have a summer fling? Is there even a reason to bother, if it’s not going to pan out? And isn’t a summer romance just a long, drawn-out one-night stand? When you’re thinking about a summer affair, here are a few considerations:

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Summer Flings Are Great For:

Ego boosts. It’s summer, you’re wearing less layers and feeling sexier. More attractive. The attention of a summer fling can elevate that feeling to new heights. Inhibitions are dampened, holidays are taken and you meet tons of new people. You can even reinvent yourself for the time you’re on vacation. It’s liberating. We also go slower in the summer and relax more- which means open to possibilities.

Experimentation. The summer brings out the liberal in us. The entire attitude of ‘why not-?’ had to be coined in the summertime. It had to. Meeting Juan the waiter for a watermelon feast: why not? It’s not just about the physical possibilities, either- summer romances can be extremely intense emotional connections that are unforgettable.

Stress release. We have a reward system for surviving the winter months and slogging through work. It’s the summer leisure time, when we allow ourselves and our hair to unwind. Flirting, finding someone attractive and having the most minimal of touches throws work out of the window. Hard. The romance takes place of worrying about the next promotion or paying the bills. It just is.

Summer Romances Are Not:

Long-term relationships. Rarely do summer romances last until September, much less for the long-term. If you’re looking for true love, not a tryst, it’s probably not for you. Many summer flings are two strangers that live nowhere close to each other and connect. Maintaining a long-distance reality, after a mere week or two…doesn’t really work.

A solution to your relationship problems. When you’re in a relationship, it’s still cheating- even if it’s on holiday and they’ll never find out. It won’t repair your relationship or give you any answers. It could, in fact, play a role in finishing or destroying your relationship.

Meant to be repeated. A yearly meeting and trying to recreate the same atmosphere, with the same person, a year later, is kidding yourself. A lot can and does happen in a year- trying to make the connection you had leads only to disappointment and at worse, embarrassment for you both.

When you’re considering a summer fling, keep in mind that it’s basically a very short-term moment that will make you smile with long-term memories. Summer flings are something to keep you warm in the cold winter months.

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Depression Hurts…Your Bones http://bizzywomen.com/2009/depression-hurts-your-bones/ http://bizzywomen.com/2009/depression-hurts-your-bones/#comments Fri, 18 Dec 2009 10:57:46 +0000 http://bizzywomen.com/?p=3488 Warning: Illegal string offset 'footerstring' in /home/bizzywom/public_html/sitefiles/wp-content/plugins/rss-footer/rss-footer.php on line 146

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Depression has long been associated with a variety of physiological symptoms, including joint and muscle pain.

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Depression has long been associated with a variety of physiological symptoms, including joint and muscle pain.  Now a new study out of Hebrew University in Jerusalem has found having the blues is also bad for your bones.

Researchers looked at scientific data on over 20 thousand people and found that there is a clear association between depression and having lower bone density.  Apparently, depression increases the activity of osteoclasts – specialized cells responsible for the breakdown of bone.

This is important because osteoporosis is the most widespread degenerative disease in the so-called “developed countries”. 

One in three women will develop osteoporosis in her lifetime (and one in five men). Young women suffering from depression are actually at the greatest risk, because they are still in peak bone-building years.

 

So add this to the list of reasons that people who are (or think they maybe) suffering from depression should get medical help.  Symptoms of depression, include:

  • Loss of interest in normal daily activities
  • Feeling sad or down
  • Feeling hopeless
  • Crying spells for no apparent reason
  • Problems sleeping
  • Trouble focusing or concentrating
  • Difficulty making decisions
  • Unintentional weight gain or loss
  • Irritability
  • Restlessness
  • Being easily annoyed
  • Feeling fatigued or weak
  • Feeling worthless
  • Loss of interest in sex
  • Thoughts of suicide or suicidal behavior
  • Unexplained physical problems, such as back pain or headaches

 

 

  Fgw-move-2-225[1]Geralyn Coopersmith, MA, CSCS is an exercise physiologist, certified personal trainer, author of Fit + Female:  The Complete Fitness and Nutrition Game Plan for Your Unique Body Type and the creator of The Best Me Ever, a comprehensive weight loss and wellness system just for women.  It’s a first of its kind program designed to fit into a busy women’s life.  Lose weight and look great — 90 Day Unconditional Money Back Guarantee!!

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Transition to Liberation – A Love Story http://bizzywomen.com/2009/transition-to-liberation-a-love-story/ http://bizzywomen.com/2009/transition-to-liberation-a-love-story/#comments Tue, 15 Dec 2009 11:11:02 +0000 http://bizzywomen.com/?p=3491 Warning: Illegal string offset 'footerstring' in /home/bizzywom/public_html/sitefiles/wp-content/plugins/rss-footer/rss-footer.php on line 146

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Today marks the third anniversary of my flight from corporate America to entrepreneurial Freedom. An auspicious occasion making me grin from ear to ear all day long.

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Discovering your groove and creating a luscious life is all about allowing for grace through your next transition.

Today marks the third anniversary of my flight from corporate America to entrepreneurial Freedom. An auspicious occasion making me grin from ear to ear all day long.  I did it and survived.  Here we are three years later and I am no longer entrenched in the drama of what was.  This new path,  whilst still unfolding,  represents following my bliss.

Is seems only natural to post my transition story to celebrate a wicked cool week.

Enjoy!

 

Not too long ago my career had been dedicated to sales, mentoring, coaching and leading an exceptional sales force.

For most of my prior life, I was a woman who: was happily married, would earn a six figure income, was a loyal employee, an over achiever, traveled to exotic places, would live in my dream home, and would be involved in the highly charged corporate world forever!

Today I am a woman who: is happily married, the mother of a sweet and healthy daughter, has earned the six figure income, plus all the perks, has traveled to many delightful places, lives in the home of my dreams, and has become a successful professional life and business coach.

Commence with the Transition …

A sacred knowing or astuteness accompanies the first foray into motherhood. Children have a way of smacking you upside the head with an uber dose of what is truly critical. The miracle of child birth became the catalyst for a complete lifestyle transformation. While home on maternity leave I was watching a morning news program and became drawn to an interview with a professional life coach. The attraction was profound. I contacted the television station for more information, found a local coach to talk with, and began to learn about the business of professional coaching. “Co-Active Coaching – New Skills for Coaching People Toward Success in Work and Life” written by coaching pioneers, Laura Whitworth, Henry Kimsey-House and Phil Sandahl was a my first coaching playbook.

When I returned to my career, the coaching process became my revitalized way to lead my sales force. Coaching in the sales environment, gave me a load of practical experience for what would become my true calling.

After a few more loyal years, the high stress levels of being a corporate creature and doing business in someone else’s boardroom was losing its appeal. Even though my career path resulted in the realization of my goals and dreams, I became completely disinterested in corporate culture and, unwilling to jump through any more flaming circus hoops for money.

It’s amusing, and disheartening, when you realize your dedication, smart work, energy, – all the things you put into your career daily – are ONLY for the sake of performing a duty and receiving a paycheck. This new found awareness helped cement my corporate world exit strategy. It was time to let go of the illusion of control that the “big bucks” created.

Not too long ago, I made one of the most important decisions in my life. The promise to leave corporate America and give my entrepreneurial calling a shot. I started preparing my exit strategy. No longer a company creature; my job was surely destroying my soul. I longed to spend my days being left alone by the “powers that be”.  Please understand, my prior career was a lot of fun and a great challenge for a long time. The reason why I excelled and stayed on the path for 18 years had a big part to do with being left alone, to do what I did best. When a new regime change took hold, the corporate culture changed drastically, which led to my slow and certain suffocation. Without the discomfort, I may have never allowed myself to consider following my dreams.

More on discomfort … I was extremely anxious giving up a significant income to go out on my own. For awhile I even tried to trick myself into staying with the CASH. Then I would ultimately realize how many people have gone before me and taken a well planned leap of faith. What ever you want to achieve you can accomplish with great discipline and imagination.

After thoughtful consideration, much manic behavior, conversations with my family and confidantes; moving forward on the path of my dreams was the ONLY option. Sharing your plans and dreams with the people who know you intimately is an excellent way to receive honest feedback. These are the same people who will hold your hand through the transition. Declaring my plan for independence helped me stay on the path to personal freedom.

For about one year, many of my evenings, weekends and lunch hours were dedicated to self awareness and studying for my professional coaching certification. This transition time included, setting a new household budget, reallocating investments, setting up a line of credit, and buying a new car (for the first time in 11 years) The plan was to build my coaching business and the True Balance brand, one day at a time, until I could give my two weeks notice.

Straddling two worlds was fairly easy. The job I no longer enjoyed was palatable because I could see, feel and taste the light of my future. The most difficult part of the divide would turn out to be leaving my sales force. Leaving them behind was my biggest cross to bear until I allowed myself to let go and to understand that each person was amazing in his or her own right and would ultimately be fine in my wake.

During this time, finding humor in the day to day corporate environment was the greatest blessing. Ultimately, you do what ever you can to NOT take yourself too seriously when working through a life changing transition. The discovery of professional humor, allowed for functioning well in the environment and finding some peace in the moment.

Finally, after fourteen years, I left my prior life on my terms. My former employer decided to downsize our sales management group within 60 days of my planned exodus. The interesting part of this equation is three managers were given the responsibility of figuring out who would leave. Did I really jump up and say “pick me, pick me!?” I was thrilled to have the “out” and volunteered to be the “lucky” laid off executive and have never looked back. Thankfully, this scenario meant an unexpected severance package. Synchronicity is such a blessing!

I packed my box, (the same day) apparently my willingness to leave sped up my departure … Said so long to the big bucks, turned in my company SUV, let go of a cushy expense account, and found the courage to walk away from a career that no longer suited me.

Fast-forward three years …

Being in the business of helping people recognize their brilliance is a blast! The focus for the rest of my days is inspiring people do the things they think they cannot do on their own. I am sharing every ounce of my prior business experience to coach professional women in career transition to set big goals, achieve extraordinary results and create balance in their lives.

In three kick ass years I have dreamed and mind mapped my way to:  a professional coaching certification, the creation of two coaching businesses, a yoga teaching certification, a series of Luscious Living playshops, and becoming a best selling co-author. Currently I am doing final edits for my next book after conducting more than 40 interviews with inspirational entrepreneurs.  Life on Your Terms – Stories of Entrepreneurial Freedom will be finished by the end of the year.  DIG IT!

I am grateful for the courage, passion and wonder to live the rest of my life on my terms.

  1. Do you have a liberation story you want to share?
  2. Are you ready to accelerate living life on your terms?
  3. What can you do today to begin moving forward with your next transition?

Shann Vander Leek is the Founder of True Balance Life Coaching and Co-founder of Seize True Success. She is a Coach Training Alliance certified professional coach, and certified yoga instructor. Shann is a prolific blogger, published writer and co-author of the Best Selling Book – Wake Up Women BE Happy Healthy & Wealthy. Shann’s personal style and direct approach have guided and inspired many in overcoming personal and professional challenges. Her background in sales, marketing and client development, along with leading a talented sales force for many years prepared her for the business of professional coaching. Shann inspires women in transition to create balance in their lives through personal coaching, yoga and creative expression. Telephone and email consultations make her accessible to clients all over the world. To find out about her Coaching Programs for Women, call Shann at 231.668.111 or visit www.truebalancelifecoaching.com

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Food: Friend, Foe or Fuel? http://bizzywomen.com/2009/food-friend-foe-or-fuel/ http://bizzywomen.com/2009/food-friend-foe-or-fuel/#comments Mon, 14 Dec 2009 10:38:08 +0000 http://bizzywomen.com/?p=3481 Warning: Illegal string offset 'footerstring' in /home/bizzywom/public_html/sitefiles/wp-content/plugins/rss-footer/rss-footer.php on line 146

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When I was a kid I had a plate with an angel’s face on it that said, "Be an angel, eat it all". In fact, when I was growing up we were always told to "clean our plates" because there were, "children starving in Biafra".

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Thou shouldst eat to live; not live to eat ~ Socrates

My doctor told me to stop having intimate dinners for four.  Unless there were three other people ~ Orson Welles.

When I was a kid I had a plate with an angel’s face on it that said, “Be an angel, eat it all“.   In fact, when I was growing up we were always told to “clean our plates” because there were, “children starving in Biafra“. 

Now I was a sensitive kid, so it made me really sad to think about those hungry children in Biafra.  I wasn’t even sure where Biafra was, but it sounded very far away.  Moreover, I didn’t understand how my eating lima beans in New Jersey was helping them out. 

I thought a more logical solution would be to put those beans in a box (along with that slab of liver that I also didn’t want) and simply send them to Biafra.  But for reasons never made clear to me, my parents never went for that.

J0409281Now that I’m a mom, I take the opposite approach.  I don’t ever force my 9 year old to clean his plate, because he has always had the innate ability to know when he’s full — and stop eating.   And that’s an ability I don’t want to mess with.

It’s fascinating to me.  It doesn’t matter how much he might be enjoying a particular food (even ice cream or cake) whenever he feels full — he just stops eating.  He doesn’t feel the need to finish everything just because its there — or even because it tastes delicious.  And that’s a powerful tool which will set him up for a lifetime of stress-free weight control. 

If you watch babies eat and then push away the nipple or close their mouths to the spoon, it would appear that all of us are born with this innate ability to self-regulate our intake.  But, unfortunately most of us lose it somewhere along the line.  At some point in time (for most of us) food becomes more than fuel for our bodies and we start eating for other reasons.  In this country we eat because:

  • It tastes good
  • It’s a social activity
  • We are bored
  • We are stressed or upset
  • It’s “time” to eat

I believe that women as a gender, tend to have a more dysfunctional relationship with food than men, because of the added societal pressures we face to stay slim.

For too many of us food is either something we love but feel totally out of control with.  Or something we avoid as much as possible, because we fear we’ll gain weight.  Very few of the women I know feel completely comfortable with food. 

The fact is, we all need to develop a healthy relationship with food, because we need to eat several times every single day.  Food isn’t something that you can avoid — like cigarettes or alcohol.  It isn’t (or rather shouldn’t be) a vice.  In a perfect world, all of us would view food for the fuel that it is, try to make good choices every day and occasionally enjoy the pure pleasures of taste –without going completely overboard. 


Fgw-move-2-225[1]Geralyn Coopersmith, MA, CSCS is an exercise physiologist, certified personal trainer, author of Fit + Female:  The Complete Fitness and Nutrition Game Plan for Your Unique Body Type and the creator of The Best Me Ever, a comprehensive weight loss and wellness system just for women.  It’s a first of its kind program designed to fit into a busy women’s life.  Lose weight and look great — 90 Day Unconditional Money Back Guarantee!!

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The Corruption of Authenticity http://bizzywomen.com/2009/the-corruption-of-authenticity/ http://bizzywomen.com/2009/the-corruption-of-authenticity/#comments Fri, 11 Dec 2009 09:42:33 +0000 http://bizzywomen.com/?p=3483 Warning: Illegal string offset 'footerstring' in /home/bizzywom/public_html/sitefiles/wp-content/plugins/rss-footer/rss-footer.php on line 146

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The derision and drama on blogs, news and broadcast nowadays is entertaining, like a domino of tabloids back-to-back.

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The derision and drama on blogs, news and broadcast nowadays is entertaining, like a domino of tabloids back-to-back. And while we instinctively know that insistent self-actualization is an incredibly banal form of entertainment, it remains so vast in its infectiousness, and so strong in its self-referential feeding, that navel-gazing is now suffocating in its empire.

Let’s poke some holes for air.

You are not genuine because you told me of your heartbreak, or your success or your disease or your strengths or your weaknesses or miscarriage or move or relationship or promotion or demotion or disability or conflict or how your cat peed outside of its litter box.

Gross over-sharing is not encouraging or revolutionary or innovative. You are not absolved because you made what was once private now public.

Enough of the cultish drippy-rainbowed sentences: “What’s holding you back? Yourself;” “Motivation is first about taking that first step;” “Do whatever you want, your intuition will guide you;” “Force yourself to look inward;” “Start telling yourself positive things instead of negative things.”

Enough crowdsourcing your life’s misdeeds, your life’s lessons, your life’s minutiae. Enough with bogus empowerment, dramatics, and inflated realities in the name of support, transparency, attention, acceptance. That is not authenticity. That is allegiance to a culture of nineties motivational speeches.

“For me, the demand that everything be paraded in the public space and that there be no internal forum is a glaring sign of the totalitarianization of democracy,” philosopher Jacques Derrida maintains. “If a right to a secret is not maintained then we are in a totalitarian space.”

“Which is to say,” author Zadie Smith argues in Changing My Mind, “enough of human dissection, of entering the brains of characters, cracking them open, rooting every secret out!”

Authenticity is not about revealing it all, nor complete transparency, nor opening the door and shining a very bright light on every raised goosebump. Authenticity is not about blurring public with private. Authenticity is not about the flailing and flapping of our entire hearts and minds to an audience of mirrored hosts.

We have a right to our private lives. Dear God, we have a right to keep the corners of our lives to ourselves. And it is delicious to do so.

Gulp of Air.

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Is it Time for a Transition Coach? http://bizzywomen.com/2009/is-it-time-for-a-transition-coach/ http://bizzywomen.com/2009/is-it-time-for-a-transition-coach/#comments Thu, 10 Dec 2009 17:46:36 +0000 http://bizzywomen.com/?p=3485 Warning: Illegal string offset 'footerstring' in /home/bizzywom/public_html/sitefiles/wp-content/plugins/rss-footer/rss-footer.php on line 146

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My friend and sister entrepreneur wrote a great article about her experience hiring and working with a professional coach. If you have ever considered working with a transition coach this post will help you make an informed decision

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My friend and sister entrepreneur wrote a great article about her experience  hiring and working with a professional coach. If you have ever considered working with a transition coach this post will help you make an informed decision.

We all arrive at a business crossroads at some point. We need to choose a direction in which to proceed, but right now, we feel stuck somewhere in the middle.Perhaps it’s time to seek outside support to help move you ahead. If any of the following statements sound like you, it is time to hire a coach.
  • I’m stuck. My business has been moving along for the past few years, but I feel like I’m in a rut, doing the same old things the same old way. Or, I’m new at this business, and can’t figure out my next step, but don’t want to (or can’t) take too much time and energy away from my work.’

Why reinvent the wheel? Whether you’re a new business owner or a seasoned entrepreneur who just needs a new perspective, you can benefit from a coach who has direct experience in building a business. A good coach can help you choose your direction and give you action steps to reach your goal.

  • I want more; Clients, income, time. These are three things I never seem to have enough of. It’s time to move to the next level!

Who better to help see you toward your goals than someone who has been successful him/herself? Growing your business involves calculated risks and a leap of faith. A good coach can help you assess your readiness for growth allowing you to carefully look before you leap!

  • I’m out of ideas. I want to create a new product or program, but I’m not sure where to begin. What are my options?

Not knowing what’s out there, what the market trends are, and what works / doesn’t work is often a hurdle to starting a new product or offering a new service. Why not brainstorm with someone who has their ear to the ground in the online market? A seasoned coach can help you develop your ideas, become more market-savvy and avoid pitfalls.

  • I know what to do, but I need a push. I have all the tools and knowledge I need to reach my goal/create and roll out my new product or service. The only obstacle in my way is ME.

You need somebody to answer to besides yourself. A reliable coach can help you set goals and will hold you accountable, so you’ll stop procrastinating and start succeeding.

  • I’m burned out! Truthfully, I’m not enjoying myself, and I’m not sure I want to be in this business anymore.

Before you give up all you have worked for, consult someone who has been there. A coach can help you identify what aspects of your business are causing you distress, and do something about it. Whether you need to let go of a few things, or make a radical shift in your business model, it helps to have someone at your side who can help you sort things out,be your biggest cheerleader, and offer workable solutions so you can do what you love, and love what you do.

Hiring a coach was one of the best things I have done to help me navigate my business through growth, change, and some tough economic times.  If you are at a crossroads in your business, it may be time to consider working with a coach. It is an investment that can save you time, money, and sanity as you build your business!

Want to know about Life Coaching and Business Coaching ?  You are welcome to visit the True Balance Website for access to an interesting global study, 101 Things to Work on With A Professional Coach, and a complimentary life on your terms coaching session.

Donna Toothaker is CEO and founder of 1st VA the highly sought-after online marketing and consulting company. 1st VA specializes in providing online marketing support and services to entrepreneurs and solopreneurs who wish to effectively build or improve their online presence. To discover how 1st VA can help your business – visit http://www.1stva.com.

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Don’t Train Too Hard When Trying To Get Pregnant http://bizzywomen.com/2009/dont-train-too-hard-when-trying-to-get-pregnant/ http://bizzywomen.com/2009/dont-train-too-hard-when-trying-to-get-pregnant/#comments Thu, 10 Dec 2009 09:53:15 +0000 http://bizzywomen.com/?p=3479 Warning: Illegal string offset 'footerstring' in /home/bizzywom/public_html/sitefiles/wp-content/plugins/rss-footer/rss-footer.php on line 146

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Norwegian University just released a study which analyzed exercise and it's impact on fertility over a ten year span. Researchers studied 3000 women and found that two factors were associated with increased likelihood of infertility:

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There have long been misconceptions…about training and conception

Norwegian University just released a study which analyzed exercise and it’s impact on fertility over a ten year span.  Researchers studied 3000 women and found that two factors were associated with increased likelihood of infertility:

  1. Training every single day
  2. Training to exhaustion (regardless of frequency and duration)

This turned out to hold true even after researchers adjusted for other infertility factors (body mass, smoking, previous pregnancies, etc.).

In fact, women who worked out every single day were a whopping 3.5 times more likely to have fertility problems.  Those who exercised everyday to exhaustion had the HIGHEST risk of fertility problems.

The good news is that these factors were reversible, so once training was reduced to more moderate levels (of frequency and intensity) fertility levels rose as well. 

Researchers believe that extreme energy expenditure of exhaustive exercise alters the body’s ability to maintain the normal hormone function essential to the fertility.

That said it’s important not to stop working out all together because good overall fitness is still important for general health, including fertility.  In fact, very low levels of fitness (and obesity) are also associated with conception problems.

Moderate exercise 3-5 times per week is probably fine and beneficial for most women, but every woman is different.  Women should be particularly concerned when their training is associated with missed periods, irregular periods or no periods at all.  Menstrual irregularities are a powerful indicator that hormone function is being negatively impacted by training. 
Fgw-move-2-225[1]Geralyn Coopersmith, MA, CSCS is an exercise physiologist, certified personal trainer, author of Fit + Female:  The Complete Fitness and Nutrition Game Plan for Your Unique Body Type and the creator of The Best Me Ever, a comprehensive weight loss and wellness system just for women.  It’s a first of its kind program designed to fit into a busy women’s life.  Lose weight and look great — 90 Day Unconditional Money Back Guarantee!!

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Give Thanks http://bizzywomen.com/2009/give-thanks/ http://bizzywomen.com/2009/give-thanks/#comments Wed, 09 Dec 2009 16:16:52 +0000 http://bizzywomen.com/?p=3477 Warning: Illegal string offset 'footerstring' in /home/bizzywom/public_html/sitefiles/wp-content/plugins/rss-footer/rss-footer.php on line 146

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For years, I have coveted over a platter that hangs in my friend’s kitchen. Her young child’s precious handprint forms a turkey in the center with the words “Give Thanks” cascading over the top of the dish.

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For years, I have coveted over a platter that hangs in my friend’s kitchen.  Her young child’s precious handprint forms a turkey in the center with the words “Give Thanks” cascading over the top of the dish. 

I have always loved that memento and vowed someday I would take my children to a “paint your own pottery” place to create the same platter with them. 

Truth be told, I don’t have patience for paint your own pottery places.  Those places drain the life out of me.  There’s way too many color choices and way too many breakables lying about for my four year old to literally act like a bull in a china shop.  Therefore, my inability to make stupid decisions paired with my “You break it; you buy it” fear has kept me away.  I simply avoid the scene entirely and we find other ways to let our creative juices flow without shattering dishes along with our self-esteem. 

Then, last week Allana, Emmalynn and I attended a birthday party at You Do the Dishes in New Tampa.  My girls were thrilled to paint a small figurine and begged me to paint more.  Finally, I felt the inspiration to paint a handprint turkey platter.  The timing was perfect.  The staff was so helpful and hands-on that my anxiety over perfectionism and colors was greatly reduced. 

Ready to gobble up more fun, the girls were so excited to paint a dish for Mommy.  I couldn’t believe what angels sat before me.  Allana picked the colors without hesitation and Emmalynn avoided knocking over shelves of pottery.  Plus, the supportive staff helped make our handprint project a success. 

A few days later, our turkey handprint platter was ready.  I couldn’t wait to see how it came out!  I finally possessed my own precious timeless piece to hang in my kitchen! 

And then, my heart sank.  A large crack appeared down the center of the platter.  My precious turkey dish was now trash. 

I began to feel sorry myself and whined about not having a turkey platter for Thanksgiving.  I had waited years for this dish and now it seemed I was the real turkey. 

The owner explained that occasionally the heat in the kiln will causes pieces to crack and she reassured me I could make another at no additional cost. 

Even though I could easily make another, could I replicate the whole experience?  Would my children be as willing and well-behaved as before? 

Then, I realized how ridiculously shallow I sounded.  It’s just a dish. 

I should be thankful that my children have hands to make turkey handprints. 

I should be thankful that I can even afford to make this dish when other families lack food for their dishes. 

I should be thankful that I have a car to drive to pottery place and a home for us and all our belongings. 

I should be thankful that I have two healthy children and be grateful for every moment we spend together even when they drive my crazy. 

I should be thankful for my health and my husband’s health. 

From this experience, I was grateful for my cracked dish and the lesson in humility it gave me.  Like the dish, my life is not perfect but it’s full of many blessings.  So, for my husband, my two beautiful girls, the occasional cracked dish, the handprints and marker murals on walls and the many other messy blessings in my life… 

I give thanks.

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2 Positive Steps to Handle Family and Friends’ Influences on Your Career Planning http://bizzywomen.com/2009/2-positive-steps-to-handle-family-and-friends%e2%80%99-influences-on-your-career-planning/ http://bizzywomen.com/2009/2-positive-steps-to-handle-family-and-friends%e2%80%99-influences-on-your-career-planning/#comments Wed, 09 Dec 2009 09:14:20 +0000 http://bizzywomen.com/?p=3474 Warning: Illegal string offset 'footerstring' in /home/bizzywom/public_html/sitefiles/wp-content/plugins/rss-footer/rss-footer.php on line 146

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Your relationships with family and friends have a big impact on your career choices and career decisions – and the holidays focus on these relationships more than any other time of year.

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Your relationships with family and friends have a big impact on your career choices and career decisions – and the holidays focus on these relationships more than any other time of year. Are you stuck in career indecision and feel your friends or family might judge you for it? Are you considering a career they might not approve of?  

Especially in the U.S., where so much focus is on your job (think social gathering and the typical opening question – “how’s the job search?” or “how’s work (or school)?”), handling career questions or opinions about your choices from those close to you can be awkward.  

Here are 3 steps to positively anticipate and handle those questions and influences using The Career Key’s High-Quality Decisions self-help article: 

  1. Identify any pressure you feel from family or friends – positive or negative – about your career plans. To help you, download a free “Decision Balance Sheet” and complete it for the job or career options you’re considering. Check out this list of Career Choice Consequences to help you “see” what issues may be weighing on you. Your choice may be so welcomed by your friends or family that you feel uncomfortable pressure to be successful or “perfect.” Expectations may need to be lowered.
  2. Make a plan for how you will handle each person’s concerns or reactions to your career choice or career indecision. That way you’re not left unprepared (and maybe anxious).

For example, if you’ve been laid off and you haven’t decided if you will go back to school, then prepare and practice a script for how you will answer your mother’s well-meaning but loaded question at the holiday dinner table, “how ARE you?” Instead of saying “things are fine,” which you know will result in cool or hurt silence, wouldn’t it be better to say:

“I’m deciding on whether to go to grad school. I had two informational interviews last month with graduates of the ___ school I’m considering and I’ve got two more scheduled for after Christmas. It’s pretty interesting what’s I’ve learned about _______(the post-graduation job market, financial aid, interesting classes).”

Imagine how your mom will brighten at hearing about what you are doing. With mothers, sometimes giving them more information is better than less, right? (I hope my mother is not reading this post.) 

Or if you are seriously considering a career change from a more secure (if such a thing exists anymore) career like a civil-service government position to starting a business – how have you planned for the risks or consequences and your significant others’ reaction to it? 

Take advantage of family and friends well-meaning interest in you to make sure your career plans and research are as organized and “on track” as you would like. It may have the side benefit of forcing you to set goals for yourself – short-term, realistic and achievable – to get things moving in a positive direction.

The Career Key Blog, run by Juliet Wehr Jones, J.D.  The Career Key™ gives you expert help with your career search and career choices  career change, career planning, job skills, and choosing a college major. Our career assessment helps you find a career by matching your personality with careers and providing you complete and accurate information about each career you choose to explore.

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