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Self Help For Depression

2011-01-10T17:39:00.001+00:00

Self Help For Depression

I have already discussed about the term "depression" in earlier post. In this article, i am going to describe for helping self while in depression. There are various factors which cause depression. As we all human being are different so do our living environment, surrounding on where we grew, our relatives, our friends etc etc. These are some major factors influencing depression.

If in case, one is diagnosed as a medical depression, its recovery is a lengthy or long process. Depression is the major base for other severe mental maladies like bipolar disorder, schizophrenia etc. Initial treatment of depression as mentioned by most psychiatrist is to use antidepressants which will stabilize the mood of the patient but there is always the risk of mood shifting to maniac stage if only antidepressants are being used without other necessary anti-psychotic drugs.

Apart from medical help, you can self help for your depression when you will recognize that, things are not going right way.

When you are in a deep state of depression, you will not feel like doing anything or being in company with anyone neither friends, relatives. Only negative thinking roots your mind. But when you feel like this, better be more active in sharing your state of mind to someone who are more near to you, someone who can understand your inner state of health and well being and someone who can counsel you correctly.

If work is your cause of being depressed, take some rest or rather fragment your working style into smaller ones so that it will be easy and relaxing for you to accomplish your tasks.

While in depression, isolation must be avoided as much as you can and try to make yourself busy or engaged in some job. "Vacant mind is devil's home". Especially in this ailment, vacant mind is very dangerous which can arouse various negative feelings, out of which suicidal tendency is most dangerous. Let yourself not be withdrawn from social gatherings.

Another sure-shot method of getting rid of most physical, psychological, mental ailments is "Exercise". Yah, Exercise is a proven tonic for depression and many major diseases. Especially aerobic exercises are verified to stabilize mood swings in the case of mental malady.

Another inevitable method of kicking depression out is able to relax or calm down your body and mind. Some methods like autogenics, yoga, meditation are already described in earlier posts. But, the bottom-line is relaxation. When, we can relax at our own will, we can get rid of unwanted mood swings.

These are some of the self help methods for depression which is useful if taken consideration in proper time.

P.S. The methods mentioned above only work for people having depression which is in initial state. For chronic depression ( where patient is not able to control or recognize depression self), he/she should consult a certified psychiatrist for proper medication.

Disc Personality Profile TesT

2010-12-30T04:35:00.000+00:00

Disc Personality Test

Disc personality system is the language of behavior and character. Behavioral characteristics is classified and grouped together in four main divisions called personality divisions. And People are divided in these main personality profile. People with similar personality profile are grouped in one group. Specifically, DISC, terminology stands for four personality style.

D- Drive

General Characteristics of people fall in this category:

People who fall here are direct, straight forward, decisive, high Ego Strength, problem solver, risk Taker, self starter. Instead of all these, they have weakness also. They oversteps authority. They have argumentative and egoistic attitude which is not digestible to most of the people. They don't want to be bound in routine and discipline, want to make their own routine and they love freedom. And they attempt every work more than their capacity at once. People who are under this category tends and motivated to take new challenges and risks.

I- Influence

General Characteristics:

People who are under this section are enthusiastic, talkative, impulsive and emotional. They can encourage others to obtain their goal, a kind of motivator. They have a positive sense of humor and a kind of peace maker or negotiator.

Their weakness are they are more concerned with popularity and inattentive to details. They overuses body language or gestures which makes them funny sometime. They fear of being rejected for something or by someone. They are motivated by flattery, popularity. They have a craze of self importance. They want to be free from many rules and regulations which tend to capture their freedom.

S- Steadiness

General Characteristics:

Firstly, people under this segment are a good listener so they are a good team player. They are possessive but friendly. They are a loyal team worker, reliable and dependable. Their foremost weakness is that they can't resist change, very sensitive to criticism. They have a fear of loss of security. They are inspired or motivated by loyalty, safety and security. They do not accept sudden changes in lifestyle and routine and they takes a lot time to be adjusted in new environment.

C-Compliance

General Characteristics:

People fall under this category believes in accuracy. They are analytical and careful. They tries to find exact facts and they are very systematic. Their weakness are that, they need clear cut boundaries or limitations for every work even in relationships. They are bound by procedures and methods. They fear with critics and are motivated by high quality standards, limited social interactions and tasks with details.

These are some of the characteristics of people who falls under these four categories. Find which personality type you are by these Disc personality Test.

Questions and Expressions to detect Lie

2010-11-29T16:58:00.000+00:00

Lies Detecting Tips

In my previous articles also, i have talked a lot about body language. This post is also similar or related to body language but not as a whole. I am going to display some tips which help us to distinguish if a person is lying or telling the truth.

1) Pattern of Speaking:

If a person is lying his/her voice intonation changes frequently. To be more sure, experts say that paying attention to a person's speech rate and breathing pattern--if the pattern is either fast or slow or fluctuating, the person is not telling whole truth.

2) Contents of his/her sayings:

Liars usually tend to avoid or ignore words or phrases like "but", "nor", "except" because if he/she is lying, he/she will have hard time deciding what to say and what not to. Liars are less likely to use terms like "I", "Me", "mine" etc etc.

3) Unsatable bodily movements:

Liars have hard time deciding what to say and what not to so this confusion is reflected by his/her body language. Red ears, vibrating sound, trying to start conversation which is entirely different from the main topic etc etc.

4) Smile:

Smile is that powerful tool only given to human kind by the God that we can use it for positive purposes. We can impress other people with our smile ability. In case of liars, sometimes smile can mask a person's true feelings. If a person is lying, he/she tries to fake his/her smile but frustration and fear can be clearly seen in his/her face.

Body Language Flirting

2010-08-27T18:55:00.001+01:00

Body Language Flirting

In previous posts, we have already discussed about topics related to body language and its importance and application for personality development. Today i am going to give some information regarding body language flirting. As we know that "action speaks louder than words", non-verbal communication has a great impact on our day to day activities. We use this tool everywhere to project ourselves so do our thoughts, ideas and information before the world.

Flirting tips for Men

Everybody wants to develop their personality in front of others. I don't want you all to misunderstand the title here "flirting tips for men" negatively. In animal kingdom also, flirting is one way to improve, maintain or establish a relationship between animals. We are humans so, we must have knowledge about using body language for attracting others. Actually, using non-verbal communication for this purpose is innate or inborn quality, but i will share some tips which will be helpful for self-conscious guys to improve or generate positive relationships. Here i am going to brief some point which a guy should remember while dating a girl so that he won’t be losing his personality with the help of body language for flirting.

1. Be confident (If you are not act confident and you will be confident)

Most girls like a guy who is confident in himself and whatever he does. So, feeling or confidence is very necessary. You are not supposed to show acts like biting nails, looking here and there, diverting your attention to somewhere. You must be able to make her feel that she is secured and safe when she is with you.

2. Stay close to her

Staying far away can make her feel that you are too nervous to have talk or chat with her in anyway. So, stay close to her but not too close. Maintain private space.

3. Eye contact

This is another must have tool. While talking with her, always see in her eyes but don't stare. Mind that staring and looking are different terms. Look at her eyes when conversation and look somewhere right after the last word. Then again you can look at her eyes.

4. Smile

No matter how bad looking you are, your smile can bring charm in your face. Smile is also a powerful positive body language and it is useful for flirting also. So, when she will be saying something, always smile.

5. Listen

Before you explain your views, try to figure out her views firstly. LISTENING has much power than talking. So, listen her each words with interest. After she is finished, pour your thoughts.

6. Show originality

Don't try to show what you are not or which you can't do or what you don't have. Your body language must correspond with whatever you are saying verbally. So always be truthful about your originality.

These are some tips which are basic. These tips are not only helpful for body language flirting but also help for establishing positive relationship with other people too.

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Teenage Self Esteem

2010-07-24T06:46:00.002+01:00

Tips for increasing and improving Teenage Self-Esteem

Concise Dictionary defines the term "self esteem" as the belief and confidence in your own ability and value. We can simply say this as our self confidence and we even know how much important this thing for us in each part of our life.

And for personality development it is one of the prerequisite for optimal achievement. Almost all age groups needs this tool. Decreasing in self-esteem can leads to serious mental problems like depression.

Among all age groups, teenage requires this the most. This is because the teen years are always a turbulent and confusing time, it is also a time when a persons self esteem can either develop to it's full potential, or be left behind to wither for the rest of their adult life. This is the stage of human development when one can develop positively or negatively. There are various methods for increase teenage self esteem but i am going to sort our some major factors which i collected from various sources and from my experience.

1) Appearance (self image-self perception) - Teenage years is one of the most pressured times of your life, and no doubt one of these pressures will be to do with your self image. This has a flow on affect to influence your self confidence and self esteem which can affect your studies performance, sociability, etc, and can lead to a vicious cycle. In regards to looks there is always room for improvement, and what you can't fix you feature.(So if you have crooked teeth, make sure they're clean. If you have a funny shaped head, make sure you have a great haircut that suits it.) There is a lot of very effective treatment out there for acne which you may consider. The trick to gaining self esteem is that once you have done all you can to better your appearance then that in itself is something to be confident about. You may not be able to have any control about what you have, but you have 100% control about what you do with it and that is all that matters. Also realize that any self esteem issues that you associate to your looks are all in your head, and anyone that has a go at you is usually insecure about themselves, and compensates by putting others down.

2) Parents or Guardians - Yes, parents may have good intentions for you but these good intentions can be overbearing and may actually hurt your self esteem and lead to lower levels of confidence. Usually the main situation is a parent that overworks their child, hoping for them to get perfect grades and attend college however this is not always best for a teenagers self esteem. Problems can occur when you feel overworked, and over supervised. They should by all means encourage you and make sure you are keeping up but not become the bad guys by pressuring you to the point where it is unhealthy. This will negatively affect your grades, your relationship and result in low self esteem symptoms. If you have an issue with your parents in any area, ask to sit down with them for a moment, and explain your side of the story and the listen to their side. A lot of progress can be made when you can recognise each others situation.

3) Peers - Peers can be a source of joy and a source of constant anxiety, depending on who you talk to. Socially the schoolyard can be a pretty tough place, with unspoken rules and a clear difference between the 'cool kids' and the not so cool kids. Confidence and self esteem can be made or broken here and it is important that you do not lose either. Generally for guys it helps if you play on a sporting team as you develop a lot of social status and friends and develop a good image. Girls may benefit from other clubs run within the school, but should realise that other girls can be very manipulative and may not treat them well which is just a fact of life in school and nothing personal about them. On the other they will also encounter some of their closest friends within the school grounds, it is just a case of taking things as they come and not taking things personally.

4) Positive role modeling - children watch and observe parents and other adults around them from the day they are born, and although many parents fail to understand the impact of their actions and behaviors around kids, each and every experience and interaction a child witnesses or engages in helps to develop self esteem. To what degree these experiences are positive for a child determines the impact on healthy self esteem building. A child must feel lovable and capable to develop high self esteem, and witnessing and experiencing the behaviors of the adults closest to him or her will significantly affect that.

5) Promote deep connection - a child needs to feel he or she is a part of something, sharing feelings, communications, and a deep level of warmth and caring. This may include identifying with special groups, heritage, or something else that is important to the child. A parent needs to figure out what that identifying piece is for each child and make a focused effort to encourage and nurture the connection. Children also need to feel deeply connected to the important people in their lives: parents, siblings, friends, teachers, clergy, etc. To what degree these relationships have a positive affect on deep and healthy connection for a child, will determine the affect on self esteem.

6) Giving specific praise - a child may become confused with what's referred to as "global praise". So many times, parents and other adults feel that by telling a child he or she did "a good job" that it will provide a feeling of satisfaction within the child. Research has shown just the opposite, as most times children are confused by global praise. A parent may find it more effective to be much more specific, for instance commenting specifically on the colors in a child's drawing, the noticed progress in the playing of a sport or musical instrument, or the tenacious effort preparing for a science project. Giving specific praise will surely help build healthy self esteem.

7) Support and celebrate uniqueness - a child needs experiences that allow him or her to be different. A child needs to have self-respect, know that he or she can do things no one else can, be able to communicate and interact in special ways, use his or her imagination to reach creative potential, and enjoy being different. Many parents are challenged to engage a child in behaviors and activities that are different than what the parent had planned or envisions for the child, or may be far from the norm. Allowing this uniqueness is not easy, as parents may fear that a child acting different risks not being accepted by peers or other adults. Healthy self esteem building provides the child with ample opportunity, and parental support, to find his or her own interests and beliefs, despite any resistance or lack of support from peers.

8) Allow appropriate sense of power - a child needs to feel he or she has some influence over surroundings and circumstance. In order to have such influence, a child needs to learn many skills, have the opportunity to make choices, and be encouraged to take responsibility and be accountable. A child with high self esteem will believe that he or she can do what he or she has set out to do, knows what skills are required to fulfill a task, feels he or she is in charge of important things in his or her life, knows how to make decisions and solve problems, and can deal with some pressure and stress. Parents will want to allow "age-appropriate" sense of power and maintain healthy rules and structure, rather than burden a child with too much, too early. A sense of power is not being bossy, spoiled, or manipulative, but rather an understanding of skill and expectations.

[ Source- Ezine articles]

These are some basic methods for upgrading and increasing teenage self esteem for common teenagers. But, personally we know our child better than others so, we should always focus on searching specific areas by which we can develop their confidence level.

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Intj Personality Type

2010-07-23T19:50:00.003+01:00

Intj Personality Type

INTJ which is abbreviated as (introversion, intuition, thinking , judgement) is used as the term in Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) one, out of sixteen personality types.

The MBTI instrument for Intj Personality Examination

The MBTI preferences indicate the differences in people based on the following:

How they focus their attention or get their energy (extroversion or introversion)
How they perceive or take in information (sensation or intuition)
How they prefer to make decisions (thinking or feeling)
How they orient themselves to the external world (judgment or perception)

The MBTI tool consists of multiple choice questions that sort respondents on the basis of the four "dichotomies" (pairs of psychological opposites). Sixteen different outcomes are possible, each identified by its own four-letter code, referred to by initial letters. (N is used for intuition, as I is used for Introversion). The MBTI is approximately 75% accurate according to its own manual.

I – Introversion preferred to extraversion: INTJs tend to be quiet and reserved. They generally prefer interacting with a few close friends rather than a wide circle of acquaintances, and they expend energy in social situations (whereas extraverts gain energy).
N – Intuition preferred to sensing: INTJs tend to be more abstract than concrete. They focus their attention on the big picture rather than the details and on future possibilities rather than immediate realities.
T – Thinking preferred to feeling: INTJs tend to value objective criteria above personal preference. When making decisions they generally give more weight to logic than to social considerations.
J – Judgment preferred to perception: INTJs tend to plan their activities and make decisions early. They derive a sense of control through predictability, which to perceptive types may seem limiting.

Source-Wikipedia

Properties of Intj Personality Profile:

To unknown about Intj personality, INTJs may appear to project an aura of "definiteness", of self-confidence. This self-confidence, sometimes mistaken for simple arrogance by the less decisive, is actually of a very specific rather than a general nature; its source lies in the specialized knowledge systems that most INTJs start building at an early age. When it comes to their own areas of expertise -- and INTJs can have several -- they will be able to tell you almost immediately whether or not they can help you, and if so, how. INTJs know what they know, and perhaps still more importantly, they know what they don't know . INTJs are perfectionists, with a seemingly endless capacity for improving upon anything that takes their interest. What prevents them from becoming chronically bogged down in this pursuit of perfection is the pragmatism so characteristic of the type: INTJs apply (often ruthlessly) the criterion "Does it work?" to everything from their own research efforts to the prevailing social norms. This in turn produces an unusual independence of mind, freeing the INTJ from the constraints of authority, convention, or sentiment for its own sake. INTJs are idea people. Anything is possible; everything is negotiable. Whatever the outer circumstances, INTJs are ever perceiving inner pattern-forms and using real-world materials to operationalize them. Others may see what is and wonder why; INTJs see what might be and say "Why not?!" Paradoxes, antinomies, and other contradictory phenomena aptly express these intuitors' amusement at those whom they feel may be taking a particular view of reality too seriously. INTJs enjoy developing unique solutions to complex problems.

Areas that may interest Intj Personality Profiles:

There might not be a single work which a perfectionist can't do. As we have mentioned Intj personality profile as perfectionist, i have tried to put forth some job which can interest Intjs.]

Realistic:

• Computer science, systems analyst, informatics, programmer
• Software design
• Engineering (all types)
• Urban planning
• Chemist, mathematician, astronomer, physicist
• Applied science, technology, technician
• Environmental science, geography, geology
• Architect

Investigative:

• Actuary
• Biochemistry,biology, neuroscience
• Law, lawyer, attorney
• Economics / economist
• Financial planning / planner
• Philosopher, theology, theologian
• Health / medical sciences, public health
• Researcher or research assistant
• Social sciences (psychology, sociology, political science, history, anthropology, etc.)
• Information / library sciences, librarian
• Critic, critical theory
• Non-fiction writer
• Physician, doctor: neurologist, psychiatrist, pathologist, internal medicine, opthamologist, radiologist
• Pharmacist

Artistic:

• Dancer
• Playwright, dramatist
• Actor
• Musician
• Interior designer
• Graphic / website designer
• Painter / sculptor
• Creative writer, blogger, journalist, editor
• Photography, photographer
• Film producer / director

Social:

• College professor
• Therapist, respiratory
• Optometrist, audiologist
• Psychologist, clinical
• Teacher / educator, science, mathematics
• Priest, minister, rabbi, monk, nun

Enterprising:

• Entrepreneur
• Management, manager (upper level / executive)
• Consultant (any type, including political)
• Organizational psychologist

Conventional

• Administrator, superintendent, school principal
• Accountant (especially for those with only mild intuition)
• Finance
• Technical writer

For visual understanding :

Intj Personality type

Intj Personality Myers Briggs

More about Intj Personality in Yahoo answers

Myres Briggs Intj Personality type

Career for Intj Personality People

Italian Gestures (Body language part-xii)

2010-07-22T13:05:00.000+01:00

Italian Gestures:

In this post, I am going to give information regarding gestures or body language according to location and community. One gesture which can be positive to one locals can be negative to another. So, to maintain our personality and to be accepted we must know gestures or body language which are specific to certain people. That’s why I am going to take Italian Gestures as the first and foremost one.

If you are planning a trip to Italy, here are some of the basics:

Introductions and Greetings

When it comes to introductions in Italy, Italians prefer to be introduced by a third party, if possible. When meeting people, it is proper to be introduced to women and older people first. It is the same protocol when introducing yourself to others.

Shake hands with everyone with a firm grip during introductions and departures. While doing this always say "buon giorno" during the day time or "buona sera" in the afternoon and evening. It is commons for Italians to greet people they know with a hug but it is not expected from a foreigner to the same gesture.

Conversations and Behavior

Italians are known for using hand gestures when they are talking. It is their way of giving emphasis to their feelings or point.

It is common to see people walking hand in hand or having their arms linked together in public. This is normally seen in the evenings during strolls known as "passeggiata". An Italian's personal space is smaller than those of Northern Europeans or Americans. It is common for them to have a conversation that is much closer than what you are used to.

Eye contact is also very important to Italians, as it shows if you are interested in a person or not. Be aware that looking away may perceived to be a sign of boredom or of rudeness. Placing the hand on the stomach means dislike for another person.

Public Transportation and Gatherings

It is common courtesy for younger people to give up their seats to older people and for men to give up their seats to women. Always wait for your host to tell you where to sit.

Eating and Drinking

Cappuccinos should be taken only in the mornings while Espressos can be taken anytime. Italians normally stop and sit to eat. It is rare to see them eat while walking, however it is acceptable to walk and eat only if you are eating a gelato.

Shopping

Always remember that when entering the workplace, restaurants, cafes, or stores to say the proper greetings, which are "buon giorno" (Good Morning) or "buona sera" (Good Afternoon /Evening) and "arrivaderci" (Goodbye) when departing.

When purchasing items where there is a line, it is common to see a person walk right to the front of the line and be served first because he or she has a good relationship with the seller. Queueing is not strict in Italy, in fact, Italians are very tolerant of queue barging!

It is rude to read through magazines when in front of a newsstand. Also, do not touch items that are on the window display. Instead, politely ask the seller for the item.

When shopping in Italy, do not assume that the sellers speak your language, as many Italians seldom do. It is best to learn a few phrases and make an effort to learn their language.

Rude Behavior

It is deemed as a gesture of contempt if you rub your chin with the fingertips and propel them forward. Making a hand gesture that looks like the devil's horn pointed outward is an obscene gesture. The opposite direction means warding off evil. When you point with both your index and pinky fingers, it means you are wishing a person bad luck. It is considered very offensive if you slap a raised arm above the elbow and thumbing your nose. It is unacceptable to chew gum, lean or slouch in public.

These are some basics of Italian gestures which is the most if we are visiting to Italy. More gestures are about to come. Keep visiting.

Handwriting Expert

2010-06-09T03:39:00.002+01:00

HANDWRITING EXPERT

I have already mentioned the power of handwriting in my earlier articles relating to handwriting. We can say that "handwriting" simply is Brainwriting. With handwriting behavior analysis, we can be handwriting expert ourselves. We don't need to hire any other handwriting expert.
Most of the techniques of analysis are already described in this blog. Power of handwriting analysis is unlimited. Apart from developing personality positively, recent studies have shown that handwriting analysis can be used for terminating mental maladies.
Many psychologists and handwriting experts have pointed out the consistent relationship between the mind and the body. None of them, however, has attempted to discover the actual bridge between the two. We can be sure that our body and mind are not two but they are one. If one stops to work, another will definitely stop. A team of various psychologists and handwriting expert analyzed the handwriting sample of patient from their childhood and a similarity has been found in most schizophrenic and bipolar patients in slants and strokes of their handwriting samples. Graphic rigidity, therefore, is a symbol of the writer's lack of impressionability, showing him to be insensible to all the variety and rich experiences of the outward world. Just as the mind of the psychotic has no participation in all the fertile influences of this world, his handwriting reflects a similar rigidity and impoverishment of forms. They observe childish letter formation in the handwriting of the educated adult psychotic, which reverts to the archaic forms of a remote state of civilization proving that handwriting changes with a person's mental state. This can be genetic but these vast similarities can't co-incidental. So, it can be said that handwriting analysis can help to know and analyze these kind of mental illness beforehand and treat accordingly before it happens.
Apart from this, its proved that we can change our thinking pattern, attitude and our lives as a whole by changing our handwriting.
The treatment of personality and character flaws through deliberately made changes in the handwriting, offers a completely new field for the graphologist and subject alike. The technique requires the subject to copy a handwriting exercise at least twice a day, morning and night, consciously modifying his script according to instructions supplied by a competent graphologist or a handwriting expert.
Graphotherapists have won the support of doctors, teachers and psychologists for success in clearing up mental disturbances in children by changing their handwriting.
Graphologists have found that many of children's 'inner problems' showed up clearly in their writing. The introverts had difficulty connecting their letters; the fearful tended to squeeze all theirs together. Gradually, graphotherapists concocted a set of corrective exercises designed to give children a sense of continuity, invention and equilibrium. They theorized that in overcoming a defect in any one of these elements, a child must first develop a feeling for rhythm, melody and harmony.

So, it will be worthwhile to better understand self with the help of handwriting analysis tool yourself or by handwriting expert

Be Responsible; But Don't Purchase Trouble

2010-06-01T05:33:00.001+01:00

Be Responsible; But Don't Purchase Trouble
Being responsible or handling responsibility is one important part of personality development. Its not easy as it seems to be responsible. If we believe in supernatural or God and when we chant his names, it doesn't mean that we should become lazy and give up all our responsibilities to him. Thinking that things are in God's hand is just the stupidity. Either there is something in our destiny, we are the one to make it, its not like it will complete automatically. Labor and hard-work is the key-point here.
The ideal approach to work is; be balanced; be responsible but do not purchase trouble either. Sometimes, one tends to think, " I am getting this much salary, but he is also getting the same amount. But he is doing very little work and is mostly escaping from his work. So why should i work so hard? Let me also escape." But by escaping from one's responsibilities, one gets a feeling of guilt, which increases one's anxieties manifold. There will not be anything known as peace of mind or internal peace within him. The safest and the best course of action is to accomplish your job honestly and responsibly which surely increase your self-esteem and confidence level.

While doing our duties responsibly, we should be intelligent enough not to add on to our responsibilities by taking additional loads due to our egoistic initiative; otherwise we are simply purchasing trouble- a negative personality trait indeed. Such an egoistic person thinks, "He is doing so much work, i must show the world that i am much better and greater then him." There is a vast difference between EGO and CONFIDENCE. If you think you can do the given work-this is confidence but if you think you ONLY can do the given task- this is EGO. So, all we need to do is extract EGO from Confidence and we will succeed. An egoistic person takes on so much load on oneself that one has no time for self, family even no time for basic activities of life. This negative busy schedule not only destroys him but also people and surroundings near him. How can such a person who, in order to satisfy his inflated ego, is caught up in unending materialistic activities, ever attain peace of mind?
So one should do one's job properly and, at the same time, set aside sufficient time for cultivating one's inward life by chanting, meditating, reading books, practicing yoga.

Tips for Parents (Child Personality Development)

2010-05-12T05:15:00.000+01:00

Tips for Parents (Child Personality Development)

Every parents want their son and daughter be the best. This is why they work really very very hard to maintain every wishes of their children. Every stages of human life is important but the most crucial stage is PUBERTY. This is the stage after childhood and before adulthood. We can simply say this is the stage when a child grows up physically, mentally and most importantly emotionally. Most parents know that their children are growing physically and mentally but ignore the aspect that they also grow emotionally.

So, in this crucial period, they need emotional support too. Below are some points which every parents must make in mind.

1. Always invest for providing quality education to your children.

2. Fulfill the needed necessities of your children ( Take limits).

3. Socialize them. (Take them to parties, social gatherings, to develop public relations).

4. Let them realize their failures and support them to get success in future.

5. Take care of their health and fitness.

6. Be a leader and lead them for their betterness.

7. Act like a friend ( so they can't hesitate to say their internal conflicts--But take Limits)

8. Be the source of inspiration and motivate them for positive personal development.

9. Never ever compare your children with other children which demoralize them.

10. Never Scold them comparing your era and their----generation gap

11. Never repeat the same thing again and again

12. Spend more time with them.

13. If they make mistake, act according to condition ( To be harsh or cool is up to you ).

14. Try to understand their needs even if they don't express.

15. Maintain smooth relation between you and your children.

16. One most important tip, If they fall, let them wake up by themselves, motivate and inspire to wake up, but don't support. We love our children so we support them but forgetting we are making them weak. Struggle is the truth everyone is aware of so let them form then habit of struggling so they will succeed in future...

Success Personality

2010-05-06T15:06:00.002+01:00

EVERY SUCCESS STORY IS THE STORY OF FAILURE

There is one very important proverb " Failure is the Pillar of Success ". Most of use might be very familiar with this saying but how many of us apply this in real life? Very rare. We just say this saying is just to motivate or giving inspiration. But, i say this saying has real power if we think seriously. This is the true fact that " Every Success story has a great Failure experience ".

Tom Watson Sr of IBM said," If you want to succeed, double your failure rate." If we go back in time or if we search the history, we will find that almost all stories of great personalities are also the stories of greatest failures. But, we don't see failures. We only see the end result and think that the person got lucky: 'He might have been at the right place at the right time', this is what we think, but we ignore to see his struggles, labour, determination, will power, effort etc to make him successful. Most, importantly, we are blind to see his failures.

To verify this paragraph, i am going to share one story (biography) here.

-This is the story of a man who failed in business at the age of 21; was defeated in a legislative race at 22; failed again in business at 24; got departed from his sweetheart at 26; had a nervous breakdown at 27; lost a congressional race at 34; lost a senatorial race at 45; failed in an effort to become vice-president at 47; lost a senatorial race again at 49; (Upto now, you might be thinking, this guy is the best loser as he has been losing in whatever he attempted), but he was elected as the president of United States of America at the age of 52. And he was non other than ABRAHAM LINCOLN.[ Source of this story- You Can Win] So, now how many of us can badged him as a failure? In his whole life, he lived failing and learned from it. He is a winner in the sense that, either he was not able to PUNCH or hide from other PUNCHING him but all he did was able to stand up no matter how hard he was PUNCHED.

This is the spirit, which makes us successful. We should be able to stand up.

-Beethoven was told that he had no talent in music when he was young. But he had given some of the best music to the world. His music and tracks are still very popular and are being used in super-learning, relaxation, meditation and alternative treatment purposes.

-Another story is of a young cartoonist who faced many rejections from newspaper editors saying he has no talent at all. One day, a minister at a church hired him to draw some cartoons. He was working out of a small rodent-infested shed near the church. At that very time, he saw a small mouse which inspired him to change the drawing and hence, MICKEY MOUSE was borned. This cartoonist was non other than WALT DISNEY.

-One day a partially deaf four-year-old child came home with a note in his hand from his teacher," Your tommy is too stupid to learn, he got no mind so get him out of school." His mother read the note and replied." My Tommy is not too stupid to learn, I will teach him myself." And that Tommy grew to become the great scientist THOMAS EDISON. Thomas Edison had only three months of formal schooling. he failed approximately 10,000 times while he was working on the light bulb. This means that, apart from formal knowledge, the must thing is our attitude, determination, positive ego and ability to accept and face criticism.

-Greatest Scientist, ALBERT EINSTEIN, was termed as the stupid and fools among his friends. He was suffering from dyslexia, unable to solve mathematical problems. But later, no one can beat his mathematical talents. Nuclear developments are his contribution.

** These examples are very rare and few. But, if we keep searching we can get that almost all successful people were somewhere failed. All success stories are failure stories too. The only difference is that every time these great personalities failed, they bounced back. This is somewhat called "FAILING FORWARD". We should always learn from our failures.

If a person doesn't attempt to compete thinking of being failed----He is Stupid

If a person attempts and competes but he fails---- He is Brave.

But if a person fails and doesn't learn from it---- He is a Loser.

Therefore, our success rate is determined by our BOUNCE BACK ability. Setbacks are natural, they happen to everyone of us, they are simply inevitable or unavoidable. But, it can also act as a driving force and can even teach us humility. We should learn to become victors, not victims. Just after each setback we should ask ourself like : What did i learn from this experience? What will be the next plan to overcome? Only then we will be able to turn a block into a bridge.

Winners Versus Losers

2010-04-29T15:58:00.000+01:00

Winners versus Losers

**The winner is always part of answer;
* The Loser is always a part of problem.
** The Winner always has a program;
* The Loser always has an excuse.
** The Winner says, "Let me do it for you";
* The Loser says," That is not my job".
** The Winner sees an answer for every problem;
* The Loser sees a problem in every answer.
** Winner says," It may be difficult but it is possible";
* The Loser says," It may be possible but it is too difficult".
** When a Winner makes a mistake, he says," I was wrong";
* When a Loser makes mistake, he says," It wasn't my fault.
** Winner makes commitments;
* Loser makes promises.
** Winners have dreams;
* Losers have schemes.
** Winners say," I must do something.";
* Losers says," Something must be done".
** Winners are part of the team;
* Losers are apart from the team.
** Winners see the gain;
* Losers see the pain.
** Winners see possibilities;
* Losers see probabilities.
** Winners believe is win/win;
* Losers believe in for them to win, someone has to lose.
** Winners are like a thermostat;
* Losers are like a thermometer.
** Winners choose what they say;
* Losers say what they choose.
** Winners use hard arguments but soft words;
* Losers use soft arguments but hard words.
** Winners follow the phiolosophy of empathy: "Don't do to others what you would not want them to do";
* Losers follow the philosophy:" Do it to others before they do it to you".
** Winners make it happen;
* Losers let it happen.

[Source: YOU CAN WIN--Shiv Khera]

--These are some of the differences in attitude and behaviors of winners and losers. One last word which i have experienced myself personally. If you wanna win, do things which winners do or if you can't do that, just don't do things which losers do....

Positive Body Language

2010-04-27T11:25:00.001+01:00

Positive Body Language

Till now we have come to know the introduction, properties, benefits and consequences of BODY LANGUAGE. But, from this post, we are going to learn how to apply the techniques detailed in earlier posts and apply them in our day to day life.

The secret to success is to act like you are already a success. Sending out good and positive body language not only describes your personality but also is like having two voices showering praises on your instead of only one. In addition to this, people are always more likely to remember what they see and a few seconds of body movement can be worth an entire interview of words. It is said that "action speaks louder than words" and we have already discussed about this topic in previous posts. But, how does one go about getting better positive body language?

Following are the tips which give a better idea of how to project or sell yourself using posture and expression:

(i) Stand Straight::

Slouching or hunching gives the impression that you have something to hide. Keep your head up and smile as you walk. Relax and let your arms hand at your sides. This walk will give people the impression that you have nothing to hide and you are used to being listened to.

(ii) Be Animated:

Make use of your hands while you speak. Making hand motions and gestures increases the chances that will concentrate on what you are saying. Being animated also helps someone get excited about a project or story that is being described to them. Excitement spreads, if there is someone to spread it. But be cautious, over using of animation can effect negatively and seems fake.

(iii) Pay Attention:

One of the key aspects of good body language is paying attention to someone and also looking like you are paying attention and not get distracted and lose concentration. Nodding the head and making positive remarks will let someone know that you are interested in what they are saying. Take notes, if that is appropriate.

(iv) Make Eye Contact:

To show another person that you are confident, look the person in the eye. Because this look is traditionally challenging, it sends the message that you are not afraid to stand up for your goals and will not get intimidated by the person next to you. Try not to meet the eye for too long. Maintain eye contact for as long as you feel is necessary and then look somewhere else. If you keep looking for a long period of time, it becomes looking to staring and can sends negative body language.

(v) Scale the Invisible Wall:

People often keep an invisible sphere of personal space around themselves. Stepping into this space for a minute help gain confidence. Touching the hand, shoulder or shaking hands with a firm grasp are all signs of confidence and strength and helps break the wall.

(vi) Use Decisive Movements:

The more a person appears to be in charge, the more people will approve of you. Keep your movement spirited and succinct and you will appear to be able to have many things to do and to get many things done at once.

Body Language (Part- Xi)

2010-04-27T10:34:00.000+01:00

Body Language (Part Xi-7 Functions of Non-verbal Communication)

In the communication theory seven functions of the non-verbal communication are distinguished:

1) Saying again what has already been expressed in words ( Saying "no" and shaking the head at the same time, giving direction and pointing).

2) Substituting the verbal communication (nodding "yes", shaking "no", questioning facial expression, emblem gestures).

3) Disagreeing with the verbal communication (confirming something but shaking your head hesitantly or shrugging your shoulders).

4) Affectionate (instinctive) support of the spoken word (concerned frown or encouraging pat on the back).

5) Details about the mutual relation (smiling, eye contact, touching, distance, posture).

6) Giving emphasis to the verbal communication (a wagging finger when you express an accusation or reproaching someone with a loud voice and banging on the table angrily).

7) Putting together and managing the verbal communication ( the dots and commas of the spoken sentences: looking at someone and looking away, pauses and supporting hand gestures).

Motivation for Study

2010-04-18T03:08:00.001+01:00

Motivation for Study

(i) Introduction:

Motives are mental energy forces. They are the basis of the "mental effort" we put into our work. When they are strongly active you work hard and concentrate easily. When they are inactive, then the task is difficult to get down to and your performance is poor. To illustrate this point, take a simple example of motivation in relation to the need for food. If your need is great, you will be strongly motivated and find yourself unable to think of anything other than food. If, on the other hand, you have just had a meal, your motivation towards the food will be very small, perhaps non-existent, and far from actively searching for food, the thought or sight of it will disinterest or even repel you. Similarly, if you are in great need of sleep, you can't be bothered even to participate in activities which interest you. However, if you have just awakened refreshed, your need for further sleep is much less and you have energy to tackle new problems. These same principles apply to working, thinking, paying attention, learning etc. When you want to work, either because of a pressing need (e.g. just before an examination or from fear of punishment) or because you are interested in the job in hand, your performance will be much better than if you are disinterested and cannot be bothered. The fact that we all work harder and more readily than at others, why we can persist in the face of difficulties, etc. An awareness of the importance of motivation is fundamental to our investigation of "study-methods".

(b) What Motivates Us to Study?

We may well say that when we are discussing the motivation of eating, sleeping and so forth we are talking about “natural processes” for which there must be “natural motives” built into the mind. Surely, however, as “studying” is not the natural process there can be no motives designed to activate the mind towards it. The answer to this problem lies in the fact that many, if not all, motives are capable of adaptation to the circumstances in which they are to be used. The following motives probably play a large part in making us want to study, providing we are reasonably competent to tackle the material involved:

(1) Curiosity, i.e. the natural tendency to want to find out as much as possible about your surroundings;

(2) Ambition, i.e. the sophisticated manifestation of aggression turned not towards other people but towards problems, hurdles, promotion, etc;

(3) Competition, i.e. the desire for self-respect, social acceptance and respect from others by being able to cope with problem and life as well as if not better than they can;

(4) Interest, i.e. the feeling that a subject or problem is worth tackling and overcoming for its own sake;

(5) Self-Preservation, i.e. the need for a qualification to give you a job, money, possessions, etc., which will make life possible and congenial for you later on.

(iii) The Improvement of Motivation:

From what we have just said it is obviously very important that we should constantly strive to control and direct our motives in a manner most likely to improve our studying efficiency. This is a very difficult task to advise on by the following practical hints may be given:

(1) Always try to understand the material you are studying, the reasons for studying it, the need for success, etc. A lazy student can often be strongly motivated by failure in a mock examination or terminal test when he realizes that a greater effort is required if eventually he is to succeed.

(2) Knowledge of how you are progressing acts in much the same way. To write essays and answer tests whose marks are not told to you or even to follow a two-or-three-year course with no definite assessments during its continuation can greatly reduce motivation in a student. To know how he is coping is the only real yardstick by which a student can decide whether his present effort is adequate or how much more is needed for success. Many teachers believe that for best motivation an encouraging mark (i.e. not too depressingly low but not to high that the student rests on his laurels) should be given wherever possible. When regular marks are available from a teacher there should be used by the student as criteria for deciding upon the future effort to be made. Do not make excuses to yourself about leaving revision and hard work to the end of the course. Constantly strive to improve the marks you get throughout the course.

(3) If you believe your work to be important or interesting motivation is generally good.

(4) Competition is an excellent form of motivation either with:

(a) Other students in a similar situation to yourself (providing that you do not always excel or come bottom of the group);

(b) Yourself by keeping records of how much you have improved during a given period of time.

REIKI -Part III (Chakras)

2010-04-17T16:18:00.000+01:00

REIKI -Part III (Chakras)

We understand that our physique or physical framework i.e. our body, as an energy body but not just the combination of muscle and bone. This framework is not as simple as it is seen. There is a complex network within this framework through which the energy flows. This network consists of channels known as nerves, which distribute vital energy to each and every point and part of the body.
Within this complex network, there are some major centres known as energy centres or chakras which helps in the distribution of energy throughout the body. For example, the solar plexus is the energy centre which is called 'Manipura Chakra'. This chakra helps in distributing the energy to the organs around the area of its influence, i.e. liver, pancreas, stomach etc. Hence, this chakra helps in burning the food. Kidneys and the adrenal gland are also associated with this chakra. If this energy centre does not distribute the energy properly, the person may be suffering from digestive related ailment : ingestion.
Each energy centre or chakra is connected to several organs and to other chakras as well and all chakras are connected to the ultimate and powerful organ human possess, the brain. The brain acts as the main power-station of the whole energy system. The chakras are active all the time, though we are not conscious about them. They draw the cosmic energy from the universe and the organs draw energy from their respective chakra.
Actually, Chakra depict the lotus. Each chakra is like a lotus with a fixed number of petals. If the chakra is in a healthy condition, it will be like a lotus in full bloom. the crown chakra is opened towards the sky for the intake of the cosmic energy. It connects us to the universe by a 'spiritual chord'. The mooladhara chakra is opened towards the earth connecting the body to the earth. It acts like an earthing.The chakras exist on each layer of our 'AURA' also. These chakras appear on both the frontside and backside of the body. The energy is taken by each chakra and is sent to the parts of the body located in the major nerve plexus area close to each chakra. This energy helps in the healthy functioning of the 'Auric' filed and the physical body. This energy is called 'Prana' If a chakra stops functioning properly, it will not be able to take energy properly. This means that the body organs served by that chakra will not get the required energy. If this continues, normal functioning of the organs and other body parts attached to that chakra will be disrupted. Hence, that part of the body will weaken and become diseased. Each of the chakra is like a funnel both to the frontside and backside of the body. Each funnel has its water opening on the outside of our body about six inches in diameter, one inch from the body. The other end of the chakras is like a tip attached to the spine.
*Each energy centres will be described in detail in coming posts*

Body Language (Part -x)

2010-04-14T04:05:00.001+01:00

Body Language (Part -x)

Significance of Communication:

The words we express or vent contribute a very vital role in other's perception for us. To leave a good impression, like in job interview, it is very important for us to know what message our body language is delivering or conveying. There is a very popular quotation also "First Impression is the Last Impression" so to make the first impression, positive we must have to make our body language also positive. The person who receives our body language signals will have the feeling which is very difficult to describe in words and even more difficult to verify what actually was communicated or expressed.

We say and hear at times like :" I have a gut feeling that he/she doesn't like me" or " I don't think that he is saying truth." These kinds of gut feelings is known as intuition which particularly arise when our subconscious receives body language data which doesn't corresponds or go parallel with the verbal words we received.

Body language is part of communication:

Body language is definitely revealing, but at the same time it should not be seen separately from all other means and forms of communication.

(i) Contact and Interaction-- When we search for the keyword "communication" on the search engines, we will get a screen filled with loads and lots of websites and blogs relating to computers and telephony. We have forgotten actually what communication is all about-- contact and interaction between people. Needless to say, these means of communication like telephone, computer, fax, can be used for this but interaction is usually concerned with communication over a long distance, but it can also concern contact with a colleague in the next room or having close distance. When we are communicating over short or close distance, we generally do not use any tools. At such times, we communicate through the use of speech and body language like in interview, public speaking, dating etc.

(ii) Message, sender and receiver-- When there is communication or conversation between two or more people, there is a transmission of information. One is delivering the information another is receiving it and vice versa. In communication theory, this information is termed as "message". The person who is sending the message is the sender and who is receiving is the receiver.

When people are in the company of others, it is impossible to not to communicate. Even when nothing is being said orally, a message will always be delivering through the body language. Communication takes place consciously or subconsciously as mentioned earlier. Like other emotions, body language can also said as emotion which arises from mind. For example: When we are lying in something, we just try to get rid of that matter, either we say perfectly, our body wont help us by delivering a different message to the receiver ( short eye contact or not able to make eye contact), this is somewhat subconscious action.

Body Language (Part-ix)

2010-04-13T12:19:00.001+01:00

Body Language: Action Speaks Louder than Words

The Use of Body Language:
As man being social animal, we can't live in isolation. We need other people in stages of our life. The moment we come into contact with another person, we start communicating with him/her ( receiving and delivering the messages via verbal and non-verbal means) no matter the communication can be conscious or sub-conscious. In non-verbal especially silent communication tells us about the relationship between people. Often this is more important than getting the content of the message across. The exchange of ideas about this non spoken communication, which tells us something about the relationship between people, is known as meta communication. Actually it communicates about communication.

Only Words are not enough:
While connecting with a person, we also have to make it clear to one another how the content of a spoken message or term needs to be interpreted. For an instance, we do not tell or express one another very easily how we feel about the other person or how the words of a message need to be interpreted. To make the implication of our words apparent, we make use of body language. Body language is the language of body without spoken words and is therefore termed as non-verbal communication. Either we don't communicate with words all the time, but we make use of body language almost all of the time. Like the handicapped who can neither speak nor talk, the only option is body language or gesture. Therefore, in this special case, non-verbal communication is the primary option for them. By this example also we can estimate the importance and necessity of body language.

Complementary language:
Mostly body language takes place unconscious to us. Therefore, its very vital to learn to read what other's body language says and its meaning as well as what we are conveying to the world about us through our body. We can become skilled in using our gestures for a purpose; as well as to learn to understand and interpret body language of others. It is necessary to make a note that body language has different connotations in different cultures. So, how we can interpret body language depends on the situation, culture, the relationship we have with whom we are delivering the message and gender as well. This means that there is not one particular sign that has the same meaning for different communities over the world. If one doesn't bear this is mind, he can be in a big mess without knowing.

The expression of feelings:
Through our body language, it is easy to express feelings or emotions. For example, if we do not like someone, it is often difficult to say that directly to the person. However, we can make it clear either intentionally or unintentionally through our body language. The opposite is also true. We may say that we are angry through words yet our body language may be saying loud and clear that we are not. This can be very confusing for the receiver. This is usually described as giving out double messages--one message in words and an opposite message through the body.
Its also difficult to lie or cover up our feelings through body language. People may give their true feelings away by not being aware of their body language. Research has shown that most people pay more attention to and believe more readily, their impression of how a person acts through body language than what is said through words or verbal means. As a consequence we tend to doubt or put a question mark behind the spoken words if they do not correspond with what the language of the body has conveyed.

Body language (Part-viii: Deceptive Appearance)

2010-04-12T15:22:00.001+01:00

Body language (Part-viii: Deceptive Appearance)

Facial Appearance: When we observe the face of a person, we can determine the ethnic origins, age, gender, jewellery, make-up etc or simply we can see the image that the person wants to project self before others. To make a character judgement from facial structure and appearance only can be superficial. Facial appearance is only one of the wide range of non-verbal gestures that we need to take into consideration.

Generally the expression on a person’s face is the foremost and basic indicator of his/her emotions like happiness, surprise, sadness, anger, fear, disgust and many more. Different types of smile transmit different non-verbal information reflecting the basic personality with respect to his/her body language. Before analyzing someone’s personality through his body language, we must be aware of the fact that some people have cultivated much greater control over their expression than others. These kind of appearance or expression can be deceptive or misleading because they have mastered in hiding the actual or true message for being delivered.

Eye Contact: Eye contact is one of the most important non-verbal cues as described earlier. We are expected to meet other peoples’ gazes when we communicate. If we fail to do this, we can be interpreted or meant as being deceptive, weak, bored or angry. There are actually complicated rules governing eye behaviour, with much variation on the direction of the gaze and the length of the time you look at someone. For example, you will look less frequently and for shorter periods, if you are lying or it you are embarrassed or if you dislike the person you are talking to. The longer gaze indicates more intimacy and shows a sign of interest and attention. Depending on the context and relationship, it can be friendly, hostile or sexual. While eye contact is supremely important in Western Society you will need to know that in some societies- mostly Asian, for example—it can be embarrassing and intrusive. So, before dealing with personalities from another culture, you must be aware of their background and allow for the differences in their culture.

Voice: Voice is another reliable indicator of personality, nationality, regional origin, social class, education level, age and gender. Allied to para-language (rate, pitch, stress, intonation) it can carry up to 38 percent of the message conveyed. It also discloses the emotional state of the speaker and conveys attitudes such as sarcasm.

Body/Physique: Body in general reinforces the face, so that if a face shows dejection the body will tend to droop. This is not surprising, as it is the whole person who is having these feelings. The body often reflects an individual’s self-concept indicating their self-esteem or confidence level.

Clothing: This aspect of non-verbal body language gives you a lot of information. The clothes a person wears can disclose economic and social class, values, beliefs, morals, ethics and personality as a whole. Clothes are used to project an image and to indicate group memberships and affiliations.

Posture: Posture refers to “how you position your body”, often indicating your feelings, emotions or attitudes at the particular period of time. Posture can be open or closed as described earlier. When you place some kind of barrier in front of you body---for an instance, folding arms across your chest or crossing your legs or your ankles indicate closed posture which is particularly defensive or rejection. And when your posture is open or has got no barrier between yourself and the other person then you are signaling receptivity or acceptance. For example—inclining the top half body towards the other person indicates interest and involvement in what they are saying or doing.

Space: Each of us has a different personal space requirement; this is because we do have individual personalities and experiences. Certain situations and cultural backgrounds can influence the amount of personal space required. Invading someone’s personal space can make that person uncomfortable and non-receptive and even can create negative condition. So, we must respect other’s personal space.

Touch: Out of all senses, the sense of touch has more potential with feelings and sensitivity. This type of non-verbal communication is extremely powerful and effective. It must be used with discretion. To be effective, touch must occur at the right moment and in the right context, otherwise it can be violently rejected and may even lead to charges of harassment. In general, we prefer not to be touched by other people especially who are totally stranger to us.

** Therefore before analyzing or going through any of the above mentioned body language gestures, only should have full knowledge regarding the field of body language **

Reiki (Part 2-Philosophy)

2010-04-12T05:13:00.000+01:00

Reiki (Part 2-Philosophy)
As described in earlier post also, Reiki is not associated with any material which is visible, nor does it have shape, nor name. There exists one Supreme Being, the Absolute Infinite, a Dynamic Force that governs the world and whole universe. It is an unseen spiritual power that vibrates which is unfathomable, immeasurable, and being a Universal Life force, it is incomprehensible to man. Yet, every single living being is receiving its blessing daily, awake or asleep,
Different teachers and masters call it the Great Spirit; the Universal Life Force; Life Energy because when applied, it visualizes the whole system; Ether Wave because it soothes pain and puts you into deep slumber as if under an anesthetic; and the Cosmic Wave because it radiates vibrations of exultant feeling and lifts you into harmony.
Reiki is a radionic wave like of radio. It could be applied locally or, as in short wave, a distant treatment could also be successfully executed. Reiki does not destroy delicate tissues or nerves, it is absolutely harmless or has got no negative side-effects. It should be applied and used daily as prevention. God gave us hands to use them to apply and heal, to retain physical health and mental balance, to free ourselves from ignorance and live in an enlightened world, to live in harmony with ourselves and others, and love all being.
When these rules are applied daily, the body shall respond and all we wish and desire to attain in this world is within reach---health, happiness and the road to longevity. Being a universal life force, from the Great Diving Spirit, Reiki belongs to all who seek and desire to learn the art of healing.

Reiki knows neither color, nor creed, nor age. It will find its way when the student is ready to accept it. He is shown the way. Initiation is a sacred ceremony and the contact is made. Because we are associating with the Divine Spirit, there is no error nor should we doubt. It is Absolute!
With the first contact or initiation, the hands radiate vibrations when applied to the ailing part. It relieves pain, stops the blood from open wound; your hands are ready to heal acute and chronic ailments. in the human beings, plants, fowls and animals. In acute cases, Reiki application for only a few minutes is needed. In chronic cases, the first step is to find the cause and effect. It is necessary to undress the patient completely, but it is better to loosen all tight clothings so that the patient may relax, lying on the table in face up position. Most important is to find the cause of the illness.

Reiki Healers: (Source: Reader's Digest Guide to Alternative Medicines)
The person who uses Reiki to heal self and others is termed as Reiki Healers. They use prayer, meditation or visualization to link themselves to the divine power or healing forces which are then channelized to patients or victims, activating their power to heal themselves. They patients even may not be aware that they are being healed.
Any mental, physical or spiritual distress can be treated. The patient taking no active part, may still benefit, although it is thought that a relaxed, positive patient may be more receptive to healing energies liberated within him. Because the patient does not have to participate actively, Reiki is said to be particularly suitable for babies, young children and animals, for very ill people, whose vitality and self-healing powers have been exhausted by lengthy illness, may gain special benefits. Reiki is also particularly suitable for those who are to ill to travel.
Helping patients to heal themselves is usually a gradual process. Instant cures can't be expected, especially where illness is the result of long-term factors such as unhealthy diet or ongoing stress or lack of physical exercise. In such cases, healing may help, but it is not offered as a replacement for more direct, orthodox therapies. Often healing is sought as a last resort when the body's defenses are already depleted. Although it has proves successful in some cases regarded by orthodox medicine as incurable, patients should not expect healing to succeed immediately where all else has failed. Progress is very often slow, sometimes even preceded by worsening symptoms as the body seeks to regain its ability to fight the illness. Healers never accept that a case may be incurable, and this alone encourages many seriously ill patients. Healing of any type is likely to produce positive psychological effects. Even in cases where a condition can't be reversed or improved, a patient may be relieved of distress and brought to accept his or her condition.

Reiki (The Healing Touch)

2010-04-07T12:57:00.000+01:00

Reiki (The Healing Touch)

Before going through its depth, firstly its very important to know what “REIKI” means. The term Reiki means Universal Life Force Energy. It is defined as the power which acts and lives in all created living matter. That means we all do possess Reiki power inherent within us. Actually, Reiki is made by two parts REI and KI. Rei describes the universal boundless aspect of the energy while Ki stands for the vital life force energy which flows through all living beings. It is one of the highest form of energy in existence. It can be said as the life force.
Reiki is for all people of all religion, gender, caste, tribe, morals and ethics. It doesn’t describe any particular religion of ethical values neither it holds no creed or doctrine. It has nothing to do with spiritualism or the occult in any shape or form.

--Reiki—A Holistic Medicine:
The adjective holistic is derived from the ancient Greek word “holos” which means “whole”. Interest in the holistic approach to medicine was revived in the early 1970s. Holistic Medicine is an alternative medicine technique with natural methods, alternative to a scientific approach that attempts to understand all phenomena including human beings by reducing them to their most basic biological processes. Holistic medicine does not reject or neglect the need for swift and sophisticated medical or surgical actions, but does emphasize health promotion, and patient education. Its objective is somewhat like “Prevention is better than cure”. Apart from relying or depending in modern medicinal tools, holistic medicine welcomes all the techniques which have been developed in various culture in the run of time. Thus, it makes use of a variety of therapeutic approaches. These approaches are termed as ( Alternative Medicine like Homeopathy, Ayurveda, Acupuncture etc). We have an enormous internal potential which is making us healthy by balancing the aura. Holistic medicine does have many approaches but some major are as follows:
1) Humanistic medicine, which emphasizes the relationship between physicians and patients, and the psychological and spiritual development of both the patient and physician.
2) Psychosomatic medicine, which is concerned with the interdependence and mutual influence of psychological and physical factors.
3) Behavioural medicine, which stresses the psychological and social causes and effects of illness or particular ailment.

--Relation of Reiki with Personality Development:
The keypoint to Reiki is its simplicity. As like other branches or tool of personality development, Reiki is one of them. By learning and mastering in Reiki techniques, we can not only heal ourself but also can use this tool to others by transferring pure or positive energy to their body. When we use Reiki in self, we’ll balance the energy, increase positive energy and kick out the negatives which ultimately increase our working potential, releasing withheld emotional blocks and phobias, hence developing the overall personality and potential. When we get success in treating others with the help of Reiki, we feel good within internally which boosts our self-esteem or confidence. Its also good to treat others without risking of any negative side-effects like allopathic medications.

--Effects of Reiki Treatment:
Once a person is attuned, he/she needs only to have a desire to do Reiki on self or others, and the energy is immediately drawn on its own accord; no further intense focus from the practitioner is needed. Reiki is extremely effective technique of total relaxation like autogenics, yoga, meditation, hypnotism so it also helps to reduce mental pressure or stress. One is filled with the internal peace of mind, vitality, and joy. Reiki is a wonderful tool to help one develop conscious awareness, the very key to enlightenment. Reiki affects each individual in a very personal way, the result being determined by the needs of the person being treated. Some common denominators which seem to result from most treatments are given below (source: Healing touch of Reiki: PBV Lakshmi and PVS Shastry). Reiki
(i) Balance Energy.
(ii) Increases creativity.
(iii) Helps release emotions.
(iv) Amplifies energy.
(v) Works on causal level of disease.
(vi) Heals holistically without any negative side effects.
(vii) Increases awareness.
(viii) Slows the aging process.

Body Language (Part-VII)

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Body Language (Part-VII)

Territorial Gestures:
People leaning against objects or other people, claim territorial rights on them, showing thereby their dominance. When a person touches a property, it becomes an extension of his body, thereby staking a claim on it. Lover may have their arms around their beloveds, business executives may place their feet on their desk or lean against their office doorway. A person can intimidate another person by his territory.

Ownership Gestures:
People in high positions use the ownership gesture more frequently. The leg-over-chair gesture signifies the person’s ownership of the particular chair and reflects his easy-going, relaxed and carefree attitude. This may show his lack of concern, when he adopts this gesture in front of a person who is seated before him with a problem. If the chair has no arms, it is quite likely that the person may plant both his feet on the desk, thus claiming ownership.

Mirror Images:
A person with gestures and postures identical to the person with whom he is talking, denotes mutual liking and that he is in agreement with him in matters concerning both. Sometimes, identical gestures reflect a non-verbal challenge. An employee may copy his boss’s gestures to influence a face-to-face encounter, as this puts the boss in a receptive and relaxed frame of mind.

Spatial zones:
Interpersonal space zones have been created by humans to mark and identify specific areas while interacting with or defending themselves against other individuals. The five interpersonal spatial zones, which tend to vary when people from other cultures meet, are:
1. Close intimate zone (0 inches-6inches)
2. Intimate Zone (6 in- 1.5 feet)
3. Personal Zone (1.5 ft- 4 ft)
4. Social Zone (4ft-12ft)
5. Public Zone (over 12ft)

How to Build a Positive Self-Esteem

2010-04-06T04:33:00.001+01:00

How To Build A Positive Self-Esteem!

When the matter of developing personality comes, we can never exclude the topic of self-esteem or confidence. According to Oxford Dictionary, Self-esteem is the confidence in one's own worth or abilities. This is having faith in oneself or on whatever we do. To build a positive self-esteem is very important for total personality development. For an instance, instead we have ocean of knowledge, we know a lot of things but if we do not have self-esteem of self-confidence then we can't express our talents before others, hence it lies dormant inside or within us which is equivalent to nothing or we know nothing. So, what will be the importance of us being knowledgeble or what that kind of wisdom worth? Therefore, to develop our personality as a whole, self-esteem is the inevitable tool. From what i have learnt from Shiv Khera's book entitled " YOU CAN WIN ", i am going to give some keypoints here on how to build a positive self-esteem.

Initially, I am touched by one saying in this book that "If you want to build a positive self-esteem quickly, one of the fastest way is to do something for those people who can't repay you back in any kind". Or, simply help those people without the expectation of getting anything back for your help. Involve yourself in social works, volunteer for disabled of poor people. Shiv Khera has very nicely described the power of attitude in this book so i experience that building positive self esteem finally leads to positive attitude which in turn make the way for achieving success making you a winner.

Thinking like "this is my life, i will do and can do whatever i like", is one of the phrase which does more damage or bad than good. So, inspite of whatever we are, our position, we shall always making our mind for gaining positive and productive thinking. Helping those who cannot pay you not only makes you feel good internally but also increase your popularity among self. Acutually, in this era, people are running so much for earning money, property that they are forgetting to know who they are indeed. In this race, either they earn money but they are losing the invaluables i.e. their health, relationship, and most importantly internal peace of mind. Diseases like diabetes, hypertension, depression, bipolar, schizophrenia are not only due to genetic transformation but these external causes are also hidden factors. We dont have time to calm our mind by meditating, practicing yoga, exercising. WORK WORK and again WORK. We are ready to take allopathic medications whole life, but we simply forget a simple quote "Prevention is better than cure". I am talking all of these here because all these topics are interlinked or interrelated.

In his book, Shiv mentions that, there are two kinds of people in this world- givers and takers. "Takers eat well and Givers sleep well". Please read this quote once more. This has a very powerful meaning and potential. Yes! takers are well eaters. They eat until it burst out from belly but givers on the other hand sleeps with peace and internal freedom. Although, givers can suffer from starvation, they can sleep well, we can join this phrase with the incident of Lord Gautama Buddha. If food, clothes and shealter would be the ultimate power or need of human beings, why did BUDDHA left all of these as he was the prince? He could get whatever he wanted or liked but he had left his kingdom and his new born son for the sake of what? Yah! peace of mind, internal freedom. So, it is verified from here too that how much important internal freedom and internal peace means and how much it is needed for us. Please think about this. Shiv also mentions that givers have high self-esteem, positive attitude, and keen interest in serving the society. As human beings, by nature, we all have the faculty of giving and taking or mutual help. But, a healthy personality with high self-esteem is one that not only has its need to take but also to give. Here is an example from the book "YOU CAN WIN" which really worth a lot.

A man was washing his new car when his neighbour asked him," When did you get the car?" He replied, "My brother gifted it to me." The neighbour said, " I wish i had a car like that." The man replied," You should wish to have a brother like that." The neighbour's wife was listening to the whole conversation and she interrupted, " I wish i was a brother like that." What a positive way to think!

So, to build personality, internal peace as well as positive self-esteem, the only keypoint is "GIVE SOMETHING FOR WHICH YOU ARE NOT WILLING TO BE PAID".

PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT- LAW OF ATTRACTION-I

2010-03-31T07:38:00.003+01:00

PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT- LAW OF ATTRACTION-I

As i am describing in all of my posts or articles that personality development is the only tool which beings success and prosperity in life. And the master of controlling what we do and what we are doing is hold on the ultimate organ "THE BRAIN". So, to raise the attraction potential or to be attractive also it plays a significant role. While doing this process, actually we will be developing our personality indeed.
It is clear what the law of attraction is all about: to choice a mate best suited by their skill to endure although it is not their only factor when determining the human match. It leaves great deal for leeway for those people have not found the niche with associates of the opposite sex. Yet there are some techniques that can be used to exponentially increase the impending attraction.

Attraction tip #1 - Dressing for Success - It is easy to forget that over the lessons of the day, the way a person presents themselves will determine how others' opinions of them will help or hinder in finding a mate.. It is important that people take pride in themselves. Remember the old saying... first impressions are everything. There is no second chance to make an impression. A person forms their opinion of you based on how you look, not what matters on the
inside. Select attire that are relaxed but fit you well and in style plus colors that are gratifying to the person. Anyone can create an optimistic feeling to those of the opposite sex. If you feel like you need a little help in this area, a sales clerk at a retail-clothing store can help in selecting clothing that is just right for a person. Many have been in the industry for a long time so they are pleased to lend their experience in putting their customers in clothing that suits them and putting their foot in the doorway of attraction. This also helps them in getting customers to return to their shop.

Attraction Tip #2 - Get a Hobby - With today's busy lifestyle, most of it revolving around work. Not many people have a hobby anymore, with them focusing all their time on work. Work does not give us an enormous deal of time to talk with other people. But getting a hobby increases those chances dramatically. It shows others that you have something other than work in your life. You don't want to be remembered as a workaholic.

Attraction Tip #3 - Keep Up on Current Events - This provides excellent communication interaction between people. You can be in a group and know what people are talking about if you keep up on the current events. You do not want to be the only one not chiming in on the important details.

Attraction Tip #4 - Smile - If you are smiling it means you are self confident and do not mind if opposite sex members cone to meet you or you them. It doesn't mean you aren't shy, but you are confident in yourself. Smiling will naturally get people curious about whom you are and ask questions.

Attraction Tip #5 - Find unknown but not uncomfortable situations - This can serve as two parts for the attraction. It opens a person to situations that normally felt weird to be in and gets the person to meet other people. Having someone show the ropes of your present area shows in a
helpful way your willingness to adapt. Using the tricks of the trade means you won't be alone for long. Do not expect results right away because beauty is not only skin deep, it is also on the outside.

*These law of attractions are proven and hold the capacity of make an individual attractive. But whatever be the objective or motive, one should always possess positive attitude*

Body Language (Part-VI-Courtship Gestures)

2010-03-31T07:32:00.002+01:00

BODY LANGUAGE (PART -VI--COURTSHIP GESTURES)

As like in determining the behaviour, attitude, thinking pattern, body language is also important in expressing and pointing the gestures of courtship or attraction. To be attracted to opposite gender or to attract the opposite, personality development is the only tool to make the first and foremost impression whatever be the motto of attraction or being attracted.

Male Courtship Gestures:
Men like to preen (making oneself look attractive) when they see a woman approaching them and one can find them straightening their tie or collar or brushing away imaginary dust from their shoulder or rearranging their coat or shirt or hair. A male may show his aggressive sexual display by the thumbs-in-belt gesture that focuses on his genital region or he could turn his body towards the female and point his foot at her or hold her gaze intimately for longer period of time with his pupils dilated. A man with his hands on his hips shows off his physique and his willingness to get involved with the female in front of him. While leaning against the wall or when seated, he might spread out his legs to attract attention.

Female Courtship Gestures:
Women also like to preen more than a man do. They touch their hair, smooth their clothes, place one or both hands on hips, point a foot towards the male, gaze intimately for a long duration. Women like to toss their hair back from over the shoulder or away from their face. An interested female will expose the soft, smooth skin of her wrist, considered to be one of the highly erotic areas of the whole body. While sitting or standing may keep her leg wider than normal when a male comes. She may hold his gaze, with her eyelids partially drooping, long enough for him to notice, before she looks away. She may wet her lips, denoting sexual invitation. A woman may tuck one leg under the other and point the knee to the person she is interested in. The leg twine or the crossing of one leg over the other is the most enticing body language in sitting position that a woman can take to attract attention.

**These are some basic gestures or body language relating to courtship or attraction**