SoffySayz....

Writing different now...

2012-12-13T20:49:00.000-08:00

Well...I think I had to write my blog in a different way now. Not like before, blabbering emptily without readers to read or follow your blog. Now I understand why some blogs were powerful while some others were just....well....blogs...
To find people to read your blog with interesting articles is one thing and to get followers to your blog is another. It's not that easy. I had tried to write as many articles as I could just to fill my blog, but, as I checked daily, there were no readers or even comments from anyone. I don't understand why. Well maybe, I'm not that good as a writer or maybe I wrote uninteresting articles. Or maybe my blog/s were not even recognised by any SEO's. Anyways I had tried, but as I believed in dreams, I believed that one day, someone will bound to follow my blog and be a faithful reader.
But...first...I had to make my blog interesting by writing good articles. Normally, I will write my own articles and the subjects I had written were not based on one thing that I was good at. I always write articles on any subjects.
Like at HubPages...I used to write articles on shyness or how to overcome your shyness, happy marriage, avoiding divorce and self-motivation articles based on the concepts of the Law of Attraction which at that time was gaining all time-high due to the emergence of a book called The Secret written by Rhonda Byrnes.
My thinking at that time was to get on the platform because many books were written after The Secret was made known. I try to get some exposure on the subject of Law of Attraction by giving some highlights due to my experiences with LOA even before it was well-known and not even realized that what I had experienced were the works of LOA in that matter. So I wrote. Then no comments. Why?..maybe nobody read it or maybe most do not understand what is LOA anyway. My mistake in writing that article was that I did not expose what is LOA actually. When people don't understand something, they let it pass.
Yeah...maybe that's the reason why I gained no readers or followers until this time.
So I need to do something now. What?
Exposure perhaps...how?...register my blogs at Yahoo, Firefox or google search-engines. I had done that.
Many ads were added in my blogs..but when I checked for any payments due to me. There were none as I was not qualified to get any payment or cash when they placed ads on my blogs. Free ride Okay.
They gained I pained. Or maybe I had to find out the reasons why I was not paid for the many ads placed on my blogs.

I will try again. Perhaps I will get some cash this time.

Do it your way..

2012-11-22T19:47:00.001-08:00

Well friends..it's such a long time that I did not update this blog. To say I'm quite busy this few weeks is not true. Sometimes laziness crept in without you realizing it. But perhaps I'm not that lazy as you may think.....
Actually..there are endless stories to tell..but sometimes I tend to forget as I was lazy enough to carry any notebook to jot down anything.....
Next time I will remember to always carry a notebook around in case there are some stories or happenings to jot down and forward to my blog.
It's quite fast that the school holidays are here again..how time flies....year end is coming though..
and then it's the same year end resolutions again...but I don't believe in making any resolutions as I've always failed to do so.
Anyway..I'm still working in a job that I hate but financially..it also helps me to survive before I really wanted to be independent and not ever to work with anyone again...no more salaried job...making someone RICH by sucking your blood away and with all those office-politics to bear with.....it get me sick thinking of it....
Well...life has to go on.....but one day I know that I will be independent and do my own thing.
Who knows perhaps one day I may get paid by blogging..hehe..dream on...
Life will be beautiful when you gain something by doing what you love most. I love to write and draw cartoons and comics. Only time will tell of when I will succeed. But I still believe in dreams and always think of positive things to come my way.
In the meantime...get on with life and enjoy what I'm doing now even though I still hate what I'm doing right now. Patience pays as they say.

There is still a rainbow after the rain. I believe that the meadow of hope is beyond the horizon where I can get to do things my own way....

Are you ALONE?

2012-07-31T18:38:00.000-07:00

Some people thought being lonely is being helpless, left alone, discarded, uncared-for and without companion. They thought that being lonely means nobody cares about you and you're left alone to live your life or to lick your own wounds.
We tend to forget that GOD is always on our side. God is always looking at us and love to hear our lamenting and grieving to HIM. But how many of us realised that GOD is always be with us?
We always thought that being lonely is being forgotten and has to go through life alone and bear all the burden life has to offer.
Some people killed their loneliness by going the bad-road. They get involved in drugs, promiscuity and other self-indulgence activities which gave more harm than good. They killed their loneliness by ruining their dignity, honour and self-respect. But still, loneliness never left them.
Spiritually, their soul needs more than this. You have to find your path to peace, calm and happiness even though by being alone.
Actually, you can find your SAVIOUR in your loneliness. But HOW?
Every religion in this world believe in the spirituality of life. Your soul will survive if it knows where to find solace. GOD is the ONE and ONLY solace and you had to find your way through that lonely-road to HIM.
Talk to God. Converse with Him. He will listen to his slaves and KNOWS the conditions of his slaves. The only thing is for the slaves to SAY it, CRY it OUT to Him and definitely , HE will listen.
Find the TRUE path to God.
Nowadays, many people went to visit Soothsayers, fortune-tellers, paranormal practisioners, and all kinds of GURUS to get rid of life's loneliness and hope to achieve something in order to forget about the calamities of life.
The Holy-men of old went inside caves and secluded places so that they can have some times with their CREATOR. These Holy-people would never tell, lamented or cry their hearts out to people because they knew that people themselves need their solace with God.

So..don't feel lonely. Do the RIGHT thing. Go to God and speak to Him. Tell all your troubles and even cry infront of Him. Surely God will LISTEN.

My shyness helped me..

2012-05-25T23:12:00.000-07:00

I was shy once. I'm still shy though. But not as worst as before. At least I can control it. But talking about being shy, it was me years ago.
I was a shy-boy. So shy that I was like a tortoise. Will rear-up my head when no one's around and do the disappearing-act when someone appears. But that was before.
You have to control your shyness. It's not WRONG being shy but don't let shyness freezed your life that you can't make a damn move because of it. Don't be despaired because shyness engulfed you. You have to fight back. Contain that feeling of shyness. I did. Control it before it control you. That's what I successfully did in order to continue with life.
Enjoy life even though you're shy. Don't let shyness makes you feel guilty of not enjoying life. Make shyness FUN to live with.
How did I survive with shyness?
Plenty of ways but I only give you some basic ways to overcome or enjoy being a shy-person.
Firstly...find out WHAT makes you so shy?
WHY are you shy and HOW did you become shy?
How and WHEN to enjoy being shy?
As I've said, I enjoy life whilst also being a shy-person. What's the meaning of that?
Naturally a shy-person won't enjoy anything right? Right because when you're being shy your movements becomes freezed and limited. You're full of nervous sweats. You can't meet people. It makes you sick.
But..how did I enjoy that?..Well..I think in a POSITIVE way. I put aside all NEGATIVE feelings. If I'm positive and think positively, I got my strength from there. I know I'm shy but I know I can move on with life. My shyness won't let me down if I tell it so.
So..if you feel shy about doing anything..just tell yourself that you have to do it..tell your shyness to help you move on with it. Tell your shyness that you have to do it or you go BUST. I'm sure you will feel differently and suddenly your energy surged to a new heights where you automatically forget that you're shy and do what you wanted to do. Try it. It worked because I did it and so has some of my friends who were also shy in many ways.
At first they were skeptical but after trying it forcefully, they managed to successfully forgotten that they were shy and get on with it.
You can forget about being shy if you don't think that you're shy. Shyness comes when you invited it to come to you. It is welcome BUT you have to tell it to follow what you want it to do and not the other way around. Tell shyness that you're the master of you and it is to reside in you QUIETLY and not to disturb your every movements.

Enjoy being shy but at the same time you can enjoy what you want to do while it lingers around you.

2011-01-29T21:31:00.000-08:00

Shy to Success

2011-01-10T18:40:00.000-08:00

Just for being a shy-person doesn't mean your life has it's limit.
Don't think that shyness is a barrier or obstacles blocking your way to success. In fact, eventhough being shy, you must have that determination to succeed.
Many shy people think that shyness is a hindrance in everything that life has to offer. They're wrong when they think this way. This is a negative-side of thinking. When you think that way..you WILL be that way.
As the famous quote says "A quitter never wins and the winner never quits" is true actually.
Some successful individuals started from a shy person to become super-success in later life. These people doesn't let shyness overcome their determination to succeed in any circumstances.
They won't allow any damn thing to stop them from achieving their goals.
People who had successfully conquered their shyness always ended up winners. For them, shyness was no big deal because they knew that they can overcome it and win.
Those who ended being shy forever are worthless people if they do nothing about their shyness and forever hid in the closet.
Better speakers begin their lives from being poor talkers. From a stuttered and nervous speakers, they were able to become sought after speakers in any events.
Successful entrepreneurs cannot be successful if they just allow shyness killed their way to success.Entrepreneurs must conquer their shyness in dealing with people or prospects, otherwise they will end up being poor-achievers in life.
I once had a friend who was a complete package of shyness. He was so shy as a young boy that he won't dare looked at people when speaking in front of them. He blushed and stuttered when he tried to utter something out of his mouth. He became a loner.
After a few years, I managed to meet him again. This time at a seminar I was attending. I couldn't believed my eyes when I saw him standing there on stage without difficulties. No shyness. Nothing.
Right after the speech, I came over to meet him. He was happy to see me. I asked him the secrets that changed him. He told me something simple. Just DO it. If you have the confidence,you can do it.

So..that magic words struck me like lightning. It awakened me right there. I realized that what he said was true.
So...have plenty of self-confidence. Shyness can be overcome and conquered. It's not a disease.

2011-01-10T18:38:00.001-08:00

From Shy to Success

2011-01-10T10:27:00.001-08:00

Just for being shy doesn't mean your life is a limit.
Don't think that shyness is a barrier or obstacles blocking your way to success. In fact by being shy, you have that determination to succeed.
Many shy people think that shyness is a hindrance in everything that life has to offer. They're wrong when they think this way. It's like being conquered
before you begin to fight.
A fast failure is a fast road to despair and disapoinment.
Some succesful individuals started from being a shy person to become a super-success in later life. These people does'nt let shyness overcome their
determination to become succesful. They won't allow any damn thing to stop them from achieving their goals.
People who conquer shyness always ended up winners. For them, shyness was no big deal because they knew that shyness is not any disease and can be cured no
matter how you did it.
Those who ended being shy forever are worthless creatures who always think negatively. Their way of thinking was always determined by their own
weaknesses.They let shyness steer their lives because the spirit of determination disappeared by the time they think differently about themselves.
Better speakers began their lives from being poor talkers. They started as a shy and reserved individual. Once they realised that shyness is a difficult
pain to endure, they will find ways and means to end it forever.
Succesful entrepreneurs cannot be succesful if they just allow shyness in meeting people killed their way to success.Their sheer guts and determination
completely eradicate that.
I once knew a friend who was a complete package of shyness. He was so shy as a young boy that he blushed whenever he spoke and couldn't even looked people in
the eye. He stammered and stuttered when he tried to utter something out of his mouth. He became a loner since then.
After a few years, I managed to meet him again. This time at a seminar I was attending. I couldn't believed my eyes when I saw him standing there on stage
speaking without any sign of shyness on him. I was in awe. I still couldn't believe it was him there speaking to hundreds of people with much accolades.
I met him behind the stage and asked him what had he done to become someone different from what I knew before.He just smiled and said"if you say the
same..you stay the same..."
So..that magic words struck me like lightning. It awakened me right there. I realised that what he said was true. I was a slightly shy man at that time. I
began to think that if my once-shy friend can be what he is today, so why shouldn't I then?
I'm a practising entrepreneur now. At least I can speak without hesitancy with my prospects. To be an entrepreneur you have to have that confidence in
speech, otherwise you won't sell anything and you will end up being a shy and worthless entrepreneur sitting at one corner brooding what life is.
It's you who must change. Life won't change you unless you make the changes yourselves. You have to start something. A car won't move if you don't start the
engine.
That's nothing wrong being a shy person but don't ever let shyness create your failure. Do something about it. You can.

The LOA bug bit me

2011-01-10T10:21:00.001-08:00

LOA or commonly called Law of Attraction had been the IN thing right now.
People had been talking about it. Several books were written to describe the concepts of LOA and how it happens.
First and foremost, it's how your thoughts can create reality either spontaneously or subconsciously.
I was into it accidentally and without even knowing that it had to do with the law of attraction until I read few books and articles regarding it.
I was bitten by the LOA bug after some incidents happened when I least expect it, and honestly discovered the way law of attraction showed itself in your life.
I remembered one incident when I went out shopping with my wife. Actually I wanted to buy a newspaper which I usually bought when I passed through that area but as I was busy with other things, I had forgotten about that paper. But my mind kept on focusing on that paper that I missed buying. I really wanted to have that paper. It's my favorite paper.
As I was walking towards a particular area, my eyes saw THAT newspaper lying at a spot and probably left by someone who had forgotten it or maybe had discard it there after reading.
Quickly I walked towards it and happily folded it before someone noticed what I just did.
I was happy like hell because what I wanted happened when you concentrate on what you want. You ATTRACT that situation.
That's the first LOA experience that happened to me. I was attracted to LOA right after that and wanted to learn more about it.
The next thing that happened REALLY made me believed LOA tremendously.
At that time the book called THE SECRET by Rhonda Byrne was HOT and the DVD was well-received by people all over the world.
I was curious about the book and desperately wanted to buy it.
Unfortunately the book was hard to find at my place and many of the bookstores that I visited told me the book was a sell-out and ran out quite fast.
I felt frustrated and kept on insisting that I MUST get that the book no matter how.
So after a few days my mind was still focusing on the book but at the meantime I had bought other LOA books just to ease my mind. But the focus was still on that book again.
A week later, my friend called to invite me to a certain free seminar in regards to online or e-commerce marketing or rather network-marketing.
At first I decline the offer and after some cool persuasion I decided to attend and listen to what the speakers had to say about the networking business. I had been with a few MLM business but luck was not on my side and I quit after several months due to zero result on my part. That happened because I had not been properly guide by the so-called MENTORS.
As I arrived at the seminar, I saw a large crowd outside the seminar-hall but I couldn't see my friend so I went towards a booth which sells all kinds of health-products and mags as well as some DVDs by the online entrepreneurs in this seminar.
As I browsed through the items, suddenly my eyes were directed towards a corner where they stacked all the DVDs. I could'nt believed what I saw.
There it was The book and DVD of The Secret were staring at me. Without much hesitation I gleefully grabbed them before someone did. I was so happy and quickly paid for those things.I felt like a small kid who had just bought a toy.
Anyway I got them cheap as those who came to the seminar were given discounted prices on any items that you buy.
So there you are. LOA is a tremendous experience when you had encountered it. Furthermore it can be a wonderful ASSET to you if you know how to make use of law of attraction to gain many things in life.
Right now I'm still learning more about the law of attraction because I believed that if you use it wisely and with proper guidance, it can do wonderful things for you, not like magic but scientifically-magic by using the power of the MIND.

Build up your high self-esteem

2010-11-30T18:23:00.000-08:00

In order to succeed, we have to possess a positive mindset. This is quite important as it is the main tool of our success. Without this tool (positive mindset ), we will succumb to failure.
Another important thing is always to build up our self-esteem and get rid of any feelings of low self-esteem from our mind. Build up that high self-esteem and automatically the low-side of us will eventually give-way to the high-side of our thinking. Which one will win depends on the individual's ability to choose.
With high self-esteem you will be able to take any obstacles with calm as the mind is set to achieve success no matter what the outcome will be.
Few years ago, I was skeptical in many things. I thought that nothing can change me and I will have to live my life as it was, although it was not a pleasant life to beckon with.

You can KILL your shyness..

2010-11-16T16:06:00.000-08:00

Talking about shyness again.
Many shy-people find ways and methods to conquer their shyness. Some succeeded whilst some still struggle to end shyness.
Different techniques and strategies derived from books, hypnotism, courses, and classes were made available to enable shy-people to belong to the crowd without being left-out, isolated or feel alienated.
How people managed to get over their shyness depends on how they follow or carry out the guidance which they acquired from these sources.
Actually, being shy is not some sort of a disease but when it became a habit it can really make you sick. Sick of being shy and living with it everyday of your life will make it miserable for the sufferers.
Don't despair though as shyness can be KILLED as it had always kill your fun out of life.
To me the strongest remedy to kill the feeling of shyness is by having the proper mind-set. You have to be able to manipulate your mind to get rid of shyness. The mind has to be control by having positive-thinking and proper visualization to having the feeling that you CAN do it. You can conquer shyness and can have fun in your life if you THINK it so. If the mind says it, you can achieve it.
The famous concept of the law of attraction come into the picture. Combined all these with the power of your subconscious-mind are the ultimate tools you have to kill shyness. Talk is easy you may say BUT it is truly so. I have done it and succeed but I have to tell you that it takes great guts and determination to succeed.
Don't give up when you feel uncomfortable doing so because by giving up you will make shyness the master of your destiny as it will tend to control you and feel miserable by accepting it.
Shyness when left to take its root in your veins will become hard to bear. It slowly bit you out of being alive.It swallows your presence and make you feel as if not being strong in any situations.
Shyness will not kill you IF you kill it first.

Don't be TOO shy

2010-11-15T18:14:00.000-08:00

Too shy and being real

Being shy is one thing, but being TOO shy is another. It sucks.

I was once so shy, it seems like a burden to carry around all the time. It's too hurting to bear.

So I looked at myself in the mirror and started thinking of doing something about this shyness in me.

All this while, I lived in isolation. Alone. No friends to talk to. In fact I was like an alien from other planet.

Whenever I was in a crowded area, I kept thinking that everyone were looking at me and wanted to eat me.I felt that everything I did were wrong. I felt awkward.I quickly left the crowd. And that's it for some years.

I began to read books on shyness. I attended classes on self-confidence. I went to several talks. I bought many CDs on positive thinking. In fact I did everything I could to get rid of my shyness.
But...nothing changed. I was despaired and frustrated. I sat down in silence.
I still won't give-up though. I knew I could do something to myself. Deep inside I had that feeling that I could do it.
Slowly I began to realize that when you want to achieve something you must tell yourself that you can do it. No books or seminars or talks or anything can change you. You yourself had to change. YOU had to change YOU.
I began to walk confidently and try not to think that I'm shy. I smiled at people when I met them. It looked silly but it really helped me. I felt more brave.
I then tried conversing with people. At first it's not easy but when I pushed myself all out..I can talk confidently on any subjects. I gained many friends from there.
I joined many social clubs and became a member of an MLM bussiness. From there I met so many kinds of people and able to handle anything which I could not have done years ago.
So..you can achieve anything if you truly belive in yourselves. Dont' be shy and just WALK TALL.

Eradicate that low-self esteem

2010-08-09T08:46:00.000-07:00

Everyone wants to be somebody great. No one wants to be someone with low self-esteem and to suffer because of it. Obviously the ones who possessed much low self-esteem in his favor gets not much space in life and find himself barricaded in his own weaknesses.
Do you want to be trap with feelings of low self-esteem all your life and do nothing about it?
Surely you wish to change all that but you find it not an easy task to follow. But first thing you have to ask yourself is how to start getting rid of it out of your life forever. You have to do it successfully or you will have to live with it whether you like it or don't.
Why must you have that low self-esteem in the first thing? You have to ask that question on yourself repeatedly and the answer lies in yourself. You are actually the eradicator and have to eradicate that lowly feeling yourself. You kill it before it kill you as the saying goes.No one can help except yourself. It is true if you think it rationally.
Everyone will get that chances in his or her life. It's either you lose or win in the game depends on how you play the game. Only the weak will succumb to his or her own weaknesses. Don't let your low self-esteem be your main weakness. It's only a feeling whenever you feel you're always losing before even trying your very best. You have to do the best in order to be the best in everything that you do.
If you do things with feelings of not getting better than the next person, then you will be what you think it to be. Because your mind will create what you think you are then the low self-esteem will assist in developing more low kind of thinking. Therefore think only of high hopes and not to think yourself as someone who will be the stepping stones of others. Be strong in keeping yourself in high-spirits and not let other people estimate you as someone with low-spirit and getting nowhere in life.
Show your true self-esteem and make people admire you for your achievements. Do not let disappoinment chained your determination to succeed. Break that chain and let loose yourself amongst the best.
Eradicate that feelings of low self-esteem and move on in life even if you had failed hundreds of times. This life had no space for someone with low self-esteem.