PURPOSEFUL LIVING

My Boyfriend Wont Call me Except I Send hiim Recharge Card, What Should i do?

2012-07-18T12:49:00.001+02:00

I have had opportunity to counsel a lady who said that her boyfriend
wont call her except she sends him recharge. This was my counsel to
her: i said to her "if you date and marry a man who calls you only
when you send him recharge card, be prepared to also that he wont come
home from work except you send him a car and a driver. He wont also
give money for food or the children's school fees except you give him
morning. Love does not only recieve, love gives. Any man who truly
loves you, will not hesitate to sell his shoes and buy recharge card
to call you. Free yourself from this bondage of a relation. God will
bring a better man your way. if this post was helpful to you, email or
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THE EASIEST WAY TO LOSE YOUR MAN

2012-07-04T11:30:00.002+02:00

Relationships fall apart for different reasons. Sometimes, hearts are broken beyond repair. One major reason the number of relationship break up is doubling by the day is due to the loss of commitment on the part of one person. Many a times, men are responsible for the break up of a relationship, and the women are left to wallow in pains. To the best of her knowledge, she tried all she could to please him but she still lost him. Could it be because she tried too hard or that she offered him so little prematurely. The problem usually is that, she gave offered herself to him sexually even though they were not married. Women must understand that the easiest way to lose the commitment of their man is to let him have sex with her. Man was created to conquer and move on. Therefore, if you let him have your body when he is not yet legally married to you, then you are pushing him away. The fact still remains that women who deprive their men of their body outside of marriage are more likely to have him commit to them forever. Even when your man says "if you do not have sex with me, i will leave you",he doesn't really mean that. He is just testing your resolve. Men are prone to think that any women who offers her body to them outside of marriage will not be faithful to them. So do yourself a favour and keep your body. Say no premarital sex. say no to heartbreak. IS PREMARITAL SEX WRONG!

IS PREMARITAL SEX WRONG?

2012-04-30T15:04:00.000+02:00

Many people argue over whether premarital sex is right or wrong. There is a sure means by which we can find out: THE BIBLE. LOOK WHAT IT SAYS

But I (Jesus) tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. (Matthew 5:28)
You are to abstain from….Sexual Immorality. (Acts 15:29)
Flee from sexual immorality. (1 Corinthians 6:18)
I am writing to you that you must not associate with anyone who calls Himself a brother but is sexually immoral…. (1 Corinthians 5:11)
The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord (1 Corinthians 6:13)
In a similar way, Sodom and Gomorrah and the surrounding towns gave themselves up to sexual immorality and perversion. They serve as an example of those who suffer the punishment of eternal fire. (Jude 7)
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and the sexually immoral. (Hebrews 13:4)
Nevertheless, I (Jesus) have this against you: you tolerate that woman Jezebel, who calls herself a prophetess. By her teaching she misleads my servants into sexual immorality (Revelation 2:20)
Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality…. Because of this the wrath of God is coming (Colossians 3:5-6)
It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen (unbeliever), who do not know God…. But God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. (1 Thessalonians 4:3-7)

The fact that both the New and the Old Testament admonishes us on the need to abstain from sexual sins clearly states God’s stand on the topic. Everyone must abstain from sexual immorality because God frowns at it.

WHAT HAS LOVE GOT TO DO WITH IT?

2012-04-17T17:03:00.001+02:00

Teens and single people need to understand that a great percentage of people that profess love to them, are only interested in having sex with them. What next will you have to do to further prove your love for him after you have offered him your most precious asset-virginity, as your proof of love?
If someone ask you to prove your love for them by having sex against your will, tell them to prove their love for you by saving sex for marriage. If someone says they will end their relationship with you if you do not have with him or her, walk away from them because they are selfish and do not have your best interest at heart. If sex was proof of love, then prostitutes have been in love with a million and one men.
Sex is not a proof of love. It is an expression of love between two people who have a life long commitment to one another. Sex does not prove that you love a person because it is so inadequate in ensuring a lasting relationship. True proof of love is measured in the commitment of two people to build mutual trust, honesty, care, support, and respect for each other. If all these attributes are missing in a relationship or marriage, sex can never make up for it.
Any relationship that is built on flesh and selfishness will eventually end in heartbreak. Teens and single adults have experienced countless number of heartbreaks all in the name of proving their love for men they discovered never care for or loved them. Single people must understand that men are created to conquer and move to another ground. So, there are many men who have vowed to sexually conquer as many ladies as they can before they eventually get married. Even after marriage, there is always a slim chance that they will be faithful to their spouse. The virtues of true love is explained in 1Corinthians 13:4-8a
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong doing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things…1Corinthians 13:4-8a (ENGLISH STANDARD VERSION)-
No doubt, the word will be a better place if people were not so self-seeking and selfish. One of the virtues of true love is patience or perseverance, a value most young people lack today. Teens and single people want what they want, and now! If your relationship does not possess these values, then you are on the wrong path. Remember, sex is not a proof of love. It is only an expression of love two people committed in a life long marriage.

WHAT HAS SEX GOT TO DO WITH LOVE?

2012-04-17T17:02:00.002+02:00

Teens
and single people need to understand that a great percentage of people
that profess love to them, are only interested in having sex with them.
What next will you have to do to further prove your love for him after
you have offered him your most precious asset-virginity, as your proof
of love?
If someone ask you to prove your love for them by having sex against
your will, tell them to prove their love for you by saving sex for
marriage. If someone says they will end their relationship with you if
you do not have with him or her, walk away from them because they are
selfish and do not have your best interest at heart. If sex was proof of
love, then prostitutes have been in love with a million and one men.
Sex is not a proof of love. It is an expression of love between two
people who have a life long commitment to one another. Sex does not
prove that you love a person because it is so inadequate in ensuring a
lasting relationship. True proof of love is measured in the commitment
of two people to build mutual trust, honesty, care, support, and respect
for each other. If all these attributes are missing in a relationship
or marriage, sex can never make up for it.
Any relationship that is built on flesh and selfishness will eventually
end in heartbreak. Teens and single adults have experienced countless
number of heartbreaks all in the name of proving their love for men they
discovered never care for or loved them. Single people must understand
that men are created to conquer and move to another ground. So, there
are many men who have vowed to sexually conquer as many ladies as they
can before they eventually get married. Even after marriage, there is
always a slim chance that they will be faithful to their spouse. The
virtues of true love is explained in 1Corinthians 13:4-8a
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not
arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable
or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong doing, but rejoices with the
truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things,
endures all things…1Corinthians 13:4-8a (ENGLISH STANDARD VERSION)-
No doubt, the word will be a better place if people were not so
self-seeking and selfish. One of the virtues of true love is patience or
perseverance, a value most young people lack today. Teens and single
people want what they want, and now! If your relationship does not
possess these values, then you are on the wrong path. Remember, sex is
not a proof of love. It is only an expression of love two people
committed in a life long marriage.

YOUR SEX DRIVE IS CONTROLLABLE

2012-04-16T19:23:00.000+02:00

Men
and women certainly have the strength to control their sexual desires.
Sexual feelings do not just happen. Something or someone sparks them
off. To control them, you must control their sources. Avoid or control
the things that you have noticed trigger them. Open your eyes and learn
to know yourself honestly. If you play with fire, it will burn you. The
following safe guards will help you to control your sexual drive:
1. Avoid pornographic books, websites, magazines, films, and things that
you know stimulate you for sex. People can become slaves by surrounding
themselves with naked pictures.
2. We live in a world where women especially tend to dress almost
completely naked. If you come across any of those women in the office,
school, or market place, please do not look at them twice. Be
disciplined and take your eyes off finally. Do not go and begin to
fanaticize about the hot legs and big breast. Ladies should learn to
avoid sexual molestation as long as attracting the wrong men by wearing
clothes that cover sensitive parts of their body like the breast, chest,
shoulder, and thigh.
3. Avoid friends that encourage you to engage in premarital sex because
their aim is to destroy you as they have destroyed their own lives. It
requires a lot of courage but do it. It is better to have no friends
than to have friends that will lead you astray.
4. Youths often wonder how it feels like to have sex. Sheer curiosity
often leads people into trouble, so just try to control your curiosity.
An old saying says, ‘Curiosity kills the cat’.
5. When sexual thoughts fill your mind, do not get upset at first.
Realize that thoughts in themselves do not hurt, unless you gladly
welcome them. Quietly turn your attention to something else and do not
let them linger for a long time. Read an educative book or movie,
participate in any sport of your choice just for fun, or do a physical
work like washing clothes or cleaning the house.
6. If you are inclined to being lazy, get busy. Make the best use of
your time and you will have no time to think about or engage in sexual
exploits. Visit a zoo, attend a music school, learn decoration, visit a
wise friend and you can learn any skill of your choice. Remember the
saying” An idle man is the devil’s workshop.”
7. Avoid intoxicants of any sort.
8. Avoid wild parties
9. Keep your mind plugged on the word of God. It is God’s thoughts.

In spite of all of these precautions, you may sometimes find your sexual
desire as strong as to be almost overpowering. If this happens to you,
do not be afraid. These feelings are perfectly natural and no matter how
unpleasant they appear to you, they make you no different from any one
else. As long as you do not deliberately encourage them, they are
neither sinful nor a weakness. Though the struggle continues, never
give up! You will conquer.

BOOK EXCERPT: WHAT MUM AND DAD DIDN’T TELL ME

PORNOGRAPHY AND SEX

2012-04-05T11:36:00.000+02:00

Many people who end up as sex addicts started out by engaging in pornographic materials. Pornography is an appeal to the inherent lust of the flesh in man, with the aim of enslaving him to lust, premarital sex, fornication, adultery, and uncleanness. Being addicted to pornography is one of the greatest forms of self enslavement any one can imagine. Think of how frustrating and destructive it could be for one’s life to be controlled by feelings.
Using the internet to view pornographic pictures is a major problem facing teenagers and single adults. Using the internet to view pornographic materials is indeed a wrong reason and way to use the internet. One truth people have to know about pornography is that it is not a substitution for abstaining from pre-marital sex. In fact, pornography increases your sex urge and finally leads you into the sex act. Some people actually enjoy watching pornographic materials.
There are three major factors determine the quality of one’s life and the choices they make: what they hear, (radio and music) what they see, (television, school, office, etc) and what they read (magazines, books, journals, etc). People who spend time to listen, see, and read sex materials, have no choice but to think that there is nothing wrong with illicit sex. Addiction to pornography makes it almost impossible for people to resist sexual temptations.
It will surprise you to know that the journey of most people who cheated on their spouse, started with the love for pornography. That is how powerful the act of pornography is. It has the power to destroy your most valuable relationship. One important question to ask you is “will I be proud of myself if the world or my spouse discovered that I was a pornography addict?” If you are addicted to or engage in pornography, it is in your best interest to make a turn around now before the very act that gives you pleasure destroys you. No matter how deep you have gone in this addiction, Jesus can set you free. Burn all pornographic materials in your possession and Give your life to Him now. Confess your sins and His Lordship over your life and He is faithful and just to forgive you. You are free indeed.

TRUE LOVE

2012-03-20T12:04:00.000+01:00

There is a high demand for love, mostly among orphans and teens that grew up in dysfunctional homes. Some teens have never experienced what it means to be loved and would do anything just to feel loved, even if it means having sex with someone who does not care about them. From experience, it is understandable how difficult it must have been growing up in a family where one did not feel loved because of family challenges. Under this circumstance, love-deprived teens tend to confuse sex for love because they do not know the true definition of love.
Love and sex are two of the most used and abused words. Most teens think that love and sex means the same thing. Love wants the best for us and for other people. Therefore, any act that does compel one to act against his or her best interest is not love. Boys often tell girls to have sex with them if they really love them but they must understand that girls are searching for boys who can love them without demanding sex in exchange. Television and the entertainment media pressurize teens into believing that love and sex are synonymous but that is misleading. Teens see movies where two people who just met get involved in sex and think that love is incomplete without sex. The outcome of this ideology reflects in the number of people experiencing relationship heartbreak.
Sex is not a test of love. Commitment, trust, integrity, honesty, respect is a test of true love. Having sex with a partner who does not possess these qualities is a waste of time, energy, and resources. If someone wants you to prove your love through having sex with him or her, tell them to prove their love for you by respecting your decision to wait for sex until marriage. The truth remains that, many relationships that involves sex ends in heartbreak, rather than marriage. Do not be deceived into having sex with someone just to “prove to them that you love them” because they will definitely move on to someone else they get tired of having sex with you. Understand that no one who threatens to leave you if you do not have sex with them values you; he or she is only using you for sexual gratification.
Sex is not love; it is only one among many expressions of love between married couples. Sex without a lifetime commitment is an unworthy compromise that could haunt one for a lifetime. When two married people have sex, they grow in love because they have committed their lives to each other, and for them it is not just all about sex but love towards each other. The result of sex between two single adults is fear of commitment because men do not like to commit except they find a girl who is worth the risk. A man will hardly ever commit martially to a girl who already lives with him.
True love comes from God. A man who does not love God, cannot love you and a man’s love for you is not fulfilling except you let God‘s love into your heart. Become born again and commit you life to Jesus Christ and then, you will experience an over flowing love. What happens if you already lost your virginity? Start all over again. Make the decision not to engage in sex again until you are married. Accepting that you have made a wrong choice for a long time is the greatest step to a more productive life. God no longer looks at the wrong you have done the moment you decide to make a wise choice. Say no to premarital sex and know that whoever loves you will respect your decision to wait for sex until marriage.

WHY ABSTINENCE IS THE WISEST CHOICE

2012-03-19T14:42:00.000+01:00

The World Health Organization has made the first day of December a day to care for those with HIV/AIDS at the same time, sensitize the public about ways of protection against the killer disease. One way this approach is by the sharing condoms. For many years, we continue to share condoms and tell kids that they can have sex with whoever they want so long as they use a condom.
I really do not know how much condoms have helped curb the spread of HIV/AIDS but one thing I do know is that, condoms cannot prevent them from the emotional and spiritual scars that premarital sex brings. Have we actually thought of the harm premarital sex has done to the intellectual part of the child? Obviously, premarital sex is a distraction to a child’s education but what do we care? How many of those pushing for the use of condoms to prevent premarital sex will actually give their son a part in the back if they saw him with packets of condoms.
What bothers me most is that people who cannot take responsibility for their hormones while not married will continue to be unfaithful to their spouse when he or she is gone away for a day or two. Look at what is happening in America and most of Europe today; people fall in and out of love with different number of people all because they have had sex with too many people to even recognize their soul mate anymore. Think about this, what would be your feeling or reaction if your husband or wife told you that he or she had sex with 50 different people before getting married to you? Would you be proud to tell your spouse that you have lost count of people that you have been sexually involved in the past with before you met him or her?
Christmas is by the corner and am sure that many guys have decided on the number of girls they will have sex with on Christmas day all in the name of fun. Please, reverse that decision now. If you engage in premarital sex, you are unfair to yourself, to your victims and your future spouse. So make the wise choice of abstinence today
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YOU COULD CONTACT DISEASE FROM KISSING

2012-03-16T11:56:00.000+01:00

Do you know that a deadly disease is being contracted through kissing? Do you also know that more than half of America young people are infected with the oral herpes simplex? In order not to fall victim, Visit the site below for more and correct information. KissRisk.com - Cold Sores (Oral Herpes Simplex) and Other Diseases are Contracted Through Kissing, etc.

DOES ROMANTIC LOVE JUSTIFY PREMARITAL SEX?

2012-03-14T14:09:00.000+01:00

Those who are willing to please God do not look to the world for guidance, recognizing that it reflect the plan of the devil. They also take care not to be governed purely by their feelings, knowing that " the heart is more treacherous than any thing else and is desperate"(Jeremiah 17:9) rather,those who are truly wise look to the creator of mankind and and are inspired by God's word-the bible for direction in their way of life.
Is Sex a Divine Gift?
"Every good gift and perfect present is from above, for it comes down the father of celestial lights," says James 1:17. Sexual intimacy within the marriage arrangement is one of those precious gifts. It enables human to procreate, and it also helps a husband and wife to bond physically and emotionally in tender and pleasurable way. The bible says enjoy with the wife of your youth says the inspired book of the universe, and let her own breast intoxicate you at all time.
Naturally the creator of mankind wants us to benefit from and rejoice in his gifts. To that end, he has also given us the very best laws, and principles to live by. Do you think your heavenly father the very personification of love deprive us of something that is truly good?
Sex before marriage is Unloving.
When a man and a woman unite in wedlock, they become one flesh as it were when two unmarried people have sexual relations, also called fornication, they too form one body but one that is unclean in the God's eye. The Greek word translate "fornication" applies to all sexual activities with another person outside marriage that involves the use of the sex organs, including oral sex. What is more, such unions are unloving. How so? For one thing, fornication is sex without genuine commitment. And besides under self-respect, it can result in disease, unwanted pregnancy in which any youths are victims, and emotional pain which has lead many people to suicide, Above all, it involve violation of God's righteous standards, hence, fornication reflects little or no regards for the present and the future welfare and happiness of the other person.
Finally, they show a disregard for God, whom they hurt by violating his righteous laws and principles. God himself will exact punishment for all such bad turn, will exact punishment for all such bad deeds committed by unrepentant individuals. Is it any wonder then that the inspired word of God tells us to flee from fornication? Are you in love and planning to marry? then why not use your courtship to build a solid foundation of mutual trust and respect? If you can't keep God's law as a woman or man in courtship, there is no guaranty that you won't commit adultery in marriage. If a couple who engaged in premarital sex truly repent, work hard to restore their relationship with God, and strengthen their trust in each another, negative feelings may eventually abate. Still, their past conduct usually leaves a scar.
True Love is Unselfish
While it may be accompanied by romantic feelings, true love "does not behave indecently" or look for its own interests, instead it work towards the welfare and everlasting happiness. Such love impels a man and a woman to honor each other and to accord sexual intimacies their proper, God-given place-the marital bed.
The feelings of trust and security that make for a truly happy marriage are especially important when babies arrive, for God purposed that children grow up in a loving, stable, and secured environment. Only in marriage do two people truly commit to each other. In their heart, and often orally as well, they vow to care for and support each other through good times and bad for the rest of their lives. Sexual intimacy between a husband and wife can strengthen their bond. In a happy marriage, partners also find sexual intimacy more pleasurable and meaningful - and with out cheapening the union, troubling the conscience, or disobeying the creator.
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WHAT IF I ALREADY LOST MY VIRGINITY?

2012-03-14T14:04:00.000+01:00

Virginity refers to a person who has never been involved in any form of sexual activities. In essence, no one who has engaged in oral, vagina, or anal sex is a virgin. Loss of one’s virginity comes with any form of sexual gratification. The bible already made it clear that whoever looks at a woman lustfully has committed adultery (Matthew 5:28).
Still, there are people who live in regret because they lost their virginity. They are sorry about their mistakes and wish they were still virgins. The truth is that non-virgins might never regain their virginity status but God offers forgiveness and restoration. Do not lose faith because the bible promises forgiveness and sanctification to those who repent of their sins or past mistakes. Confess your sins right now and let God take over the rest of your life.
The reason God warns us not to lose our virginity outside of a marital union is to avoid the scars and comes from a relationship which is devoid of a life commitment. People get hurt because they give their most precious asset-virginity to someone who does not have their best interest at heart. People who are still virgins must do everything possible to guard their virginity because even after God offers forgiveness, the scars, the regrets, the guilt, and the shame are unbearable feelings. We bear the consequences of our actions. God has nothing lose. (Galatians 6:7).
This is a call to people who have lost their virginity to repent of their sins and ask God’s mercy and forgiveness. God is has already forgiven anyone who will admit the mess that they are in and return to Him now. The devil will tell you that your sexual sins are too great for God to forgive. Do not listen to Him because he is a liar and a deceiver. His lies put you in this situation in the first place. Accept God’s forgiveness and forgive yourself. Accept God’s restoration today and let him walk you through those pains, hurts, and regrets. God will open a new chapter in your life the moment you make the decision to avoid premarital sex from now on.
If you are still a virgin, cherish and keep it because it is the most precious gift you will ever give your spouse. Guess what, people who have lost their virginity are still searching for virgin men or women to marry. Most men will never marry a woman who has had sex with them. They will go to any length to marry a virgin even if it means that they have to pretend that they are decent. Make the best choice today and you will have no regret. SAY NO TO PREMARITAL SEX.

OVERCOMING SEXUAL ADDICTION

2012-03-14T13:44:00.000+01:00

According to the Oxford Advanced Learner’s Dictionary, Addiction can be defined as the condition of being addicted to something (cocaine, alcohol,). Bear in mind that addiction can also be applied positively to life. One can be addicted to his or her vision in life. One could also be addicted to God. It also defined being addicted to mean being unable to stop taking harmful drugs, or using or doing something as a habit. This ultimately means you have lost control of your life, that something now controls you.
You must also bear in mind that no one becomes addicted to something or a habit over night. When people keep doing something amidst signals that they are doing the wrong thing, they eventually get addicted to that thing or habit. People who are addicted to sex tend to see women or men as sex toys and they continue to hurt other people emotionally and sometimes physically. There are people who get so addicted to sex to the point that they can have sex with their sister, brother, or even mother. The frightening thing is that both single and married people could be addicted to sex. A married man or woman who did not deal with their past sexual sins will continue to cheat on their spouse. He or she will still be compelled to pick up prostitutes for a nightstand. It is not surprising that a man would have sex with his secretary right on his office table or couch. A man who is addicted to sex finds it difficult to gain sexual satisfaction from his wife even if he has sex with her every day.
Note also that even a born again Christian who does not consciously deal with his or her sexual sins will continue to live a sinful life even though he or she might be born again. So many believers may be able to walk away from physical sex but might still be addicted to mental sex as well as pornography. Addiction to pornography is sexual addiction too. Get ready because God wants to heal you all round.
Addiction always starts once and then the corresponding action follows. For every action there is always a corresponding reaction.

Where It All Begins
Addiction to sex does not just happen; it always has a beginning point. A person gets addicted to sex by these processes.
1. Pornographic materials: When you are exposed to a pornographic movie, music video or magazine. What people must understand is that by watching R-rated movies, they are not just being entertained. Rather, their lives are been shaped.
2. Thought process: after you have seen the pornographic materials, the next thing that happens to you is that you begin to think about those thoughts consciously or unconsciously. The mental picture of that naked person you saw in a movie or magazine begins to envelop your mind and you might begin to dream of having sex with that person
3. Hormone Stimulator: as we said earlier, to every action there must be a corresponding reaction. I used to believe that a man can be stimulated for sex without an action until I knew that truth. Hormones can’t act on its own. They are either activated by a pornographic scene-billboards, magazines, movies or posters of naked women.
4. Practice time: the next thing that happens is that you will find someone to practice your thoughts on. This is the point where you lost control and sex gains control of you. At this point in time, you need help to break free from this sin.
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DOES THE BIBLE SPEAK AGAINST PREMARITAL SEX?

2012-03-05T14:38:00.001+01:00

The
greatest challenge humanity continues to contend with is the refusal of
a person, institutions, or country to obey laws and learn from past
mistakes. Ever since the fall of Adam and Eve, man continues to do the
very things, God commands him not to do. God has certain laws in place
to save man from so many heartaches, but man’s decision is to follow
the destructive path of disobedience. Humanity in a bid to disobey God
questions His principles and laws but suffers from the consequences of
such actions. God commanded Adam and Eve not to eat the forbidden
fruit, they disobeyed Him, and man continues to suffer from that
mistake.
In the light of this disobedience, humanity continues to engage in
premarital sex even though God does not approve. So many still turn
deaf ears to the importance of waiting for sex until marriage despite
the fact that countless number of people suffer daily from premarital
sex. The number of people infected with Sexually Transmitted Disease,
and HIV is on an alarming increase. People who promote premarital sex
should understand that God’s warning is clear on the subject of sex
before and outside marriage. Look at what God’s word says in
1Corinthians 6:18-20
Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside
his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you
not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you,
whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought
at a price. Therefore, honor God with your body.
There is no better scripture to interpret God’s mind on the
subject of premarital sex. The body of a single belongs to God and he
or she must treat it with respect. God commands single people to guard
their body against emotional, spiritual, societal, physical and health
maladies. It is in the best interest of man to obey this law. One of
the repercussions of premarital sex is infertility and sexually
transmitted diseases such as herpes, which have no cure. God’s laws are
designed to protect us from harm and that is why we must do everything
possible with the help of the Holy Spirit to obey Him. Make the choice
to wait for sex until marriage and you will not regret it.
If you already are involved in premarital sex, it is never too late to
make a turn around. God can heal your body and restore your broken
heart. Say no to premarital sex because sex is not a proof of love, but
an expression of marital love. Whoever loves you respect your decision
to wait for sex until marriage. God will help you.

OVERCOMING SEX ADDICTION

2012-02-07T12:04:00.000+01:00

Masturbation, pornography, extra marital affairs, prostitution, cybersex, sexual harassment, rape, and premarital sex are various forms of sexual addiction. In essence, anyone who does not engage in physical sex but have a compulsive habit of viewing pornographic materials is a sex addict. A married man who still has extra marital affairs is a sex addict. A sex addict knows that he or she is at emotional, physical, financial, social and health risk but this engages in it. This is because they are now living under the control of their hormones.
As I tried to explain in my last article, you must understand that sex starts from the mind. Nothing just happens. Every problem has a solution but except a man finds that solution, he will continue to drown in ignorance. Many people are addicted to sex but do not know how to get out. This is what I intend to do in this article. You can be free from sexual addiction but there are steps you must take to enjoy this freedom.
Steps to freedom from Sexual Addiction
1. Accept that you are a sex addict: one of the undoing of sex addict is the refusal to accept that they have a problem, in all facets of life; self-deception tends to be more of a problem than addiction itself. Anyone who denies the fact that he or she has a problem is living a life of self-deception and that will ultimately lead to self-destruction (Romans 12:3)
2. Determination: Be determined to succeed at gaining freedom because that overcoming addiction is not always as easy as some people think. People who are addicted to sex have tried once or twice to gain freedom but failed. In order to gain freedom, you must make up your mind to work towards gaining freedom no matter what it takes (Daniel 1:8). The truth is that, no one becomes a sex addict all of a sudden and that is why you have to give yourself more than enough time to overcome your addiction. So much patience is required during this process of recovery
3. Burn and destroy every pornographic material-X rated movies, music videos, and play boy magazines. No one becomes a sex addict without first being addicted to pornography. So also, the most essential step in gaining freedom from sex addiction is by doing away with all every material that stimulates your sexual life (Matthew 6:20).
4. Turn your life over to Jesus because true and lasting freedom comes only from Him. Sex addict try very hard to overcome sex addiction but fail all the time. Determination and self-acceptance is not always enough to maintain a life of sexual purity. Only Jesus has the power to turn your life around and give you a heart of purity.
5. Renew your mind with the word of God and other Godly materials such as movies, books and tapes and find a bible believing church (Romans 12:2)
6. Avoid friends who encourage you to engage in illicit sex (Proverbs 1:11-15)

OVERCOMING SEX ADDICTION

2012-02-04T04:51:00.005+01:00

OVERCOMING SEX ADDICTION

2012-02-04T04:51:00.001+01:00

Happy New Year

2012-01-23T18:06:00.002+01:00

Great people, its been almost two months since you read a post from me. The festive period kept me so busy but am back now. 2011 was a fruitful year for me and i guess you can say that for yourself. Even if last year was met with so many disappointments, you have the chance to start all over again. I guess that you have prepared yourself for a great year. Walk with God, work for Him and be ready to do what so ever He tells you to do and you will suceed. Happy New Year

THE POWER OF LOVE

2011-12-09T12:54:00.000+01:00

We live in a world where both parents have to work so as to earn a living for their children and other family members. As a result of this, most parents hardly make any effort to spend time with their children. These children end up having a void in their hearts in the midst of material wealth and find ways to gain satisfaction
In a bid to find the love that their parents never gave them, some of these teens might be unfortunate to fall into the wrong hands. They might meet a boy or girl who deceives them into believing that having sex is a way of finding true love. These teens end up in premarital sex only to find out that the void they had before even got deeper after engaging in premarital sex.
There is no doubt that if children experience more love from their parents and family members, the rate of premarital sex and sexually transmitted infections would reduce drastically. No matter how busy you are as a parent, spend time daily to find out about the welfare of your child or children. Find out how they spent their day, don’t be shy to talk to them about the beauty of sex and God’s original plan for sex only in marriage. Tell them that the consequences of premarital sex far supersedes the few minutes of pleasure. Tell them that you love them so much amidst their failures and short comings.
If you do not want your child to go searching for love in the wrong places, love them, hug them daily and appreciate them always because love is so powerful that people will do everything to feel loved. Remember, everyone wants and needs to be loved.

PREMARITAL SEX-CONDOMS AND THE MYTH OF "SAFE SEX"

2011-12-07T18:01:00.005+01:00

The World AIDS day was celebrated only a few days ago and as the case always is, it was marked by massive distrobution of condoms all over the world-all in a bid to reduce the number of people that could be infected with AIDS or Sexually Transmitted Diseases like Human Papillomavirus.
The distribution of condoms is a major reason why teens, youths and single people continue to live sexually irresponsible lives. The truth people who hand condpms to single people fail to them is that condoms haven't helped much in reducing the rate STDs. Medical practitioners continue to tell those who care to listen that there is no such thing as "safe sex" but "safer sex". "Safe sex" is a myth aingle people are persuaded to believe at the detriment of their own emotional, spiritual and physical well being.
Far too long, single people have been lied to and that has to change for the advancement of society. One of the nations that proves the myth of "safe sex" is Botswana. For over a decade Botswana relied upon wide spread availability of condoms in order to combat AIDS. Campaign for abstinence and fidelity were not emphasized. Instead, billboards about "safe sex" lined the streets, while school children learned songs about condoms.
According to the Washington post, "The anti-AIDS partnership between Bill and Melinda Gates foundation and drug maker Merck budgeted $13.5million for condom promotion-25 times the amount dedicated to curbing dangerous sexual behaviour. But soaring rates of condom use have not brought down high HIV rates. Instead, they rose together, until both were among the highest in Africa.* Surely if condoms could do any good, the story would have been different.
In contrast to Botswana's strategy to curb HIV and STDs, Uganda applied a different measure. In the late 1980s Uganda was viewed as the worst nation in the world in terms of HIV/AIDS infections. In 1991, 22percent of people in the country were infected with HIV. By 1999, the number had dropped to 6percent. Uganda President Yoweri Museveni insists that their unique success among Africa countries per capita expenditure on developed countries, which emphasis use of condoms in their fight against the disease. Instead of placing the primary emphasis on condoms, they emphasised abstinence and faithfulness first. As a result, they experienced the greatest decline of HIV in the world although, all that changed when foreign Aids experts began to arrive in the country in the 1990s. As condom use increased in Uganda, the percentage of young singles having sex rose fron 27percent to 33percent between 1995 and 2000**.
while condoms may reduce the risk of HIV and STDs, they do not protect against the disease neither can condoms take away the emptiness, guilt, burden and confusion you feel from sharing your life with people you are not married to. Even if you have been involved in premarital sex many times, it is not too late to make a better choice now-the choice to wait for sex until marriage. works cited
*Tim Allen and Suzette Heald, "HIV/AIDS policy in Africa: What has worked in Uganda and What has failed in Botswana?" Journal of International Development 16:8 (November 8, 2004), 1141-1154; Michael Cassell et al., "Risk Compensation: The Achilles' Heel of Innovations in HIV prevention?". British Medical Journal 332 (March 11, 2006), 605-607

**Yoweri Museveni, 11th International Conference of People Living with HIV, as reported by Panafrica News Agency Daily Newswire (October 29, 2003)

2011-12-07T17:57:00.001+01:00

2011-12-07T17:56:00.001+01:00

The World AIDS day was celebrated only a few days ago and as the case always is, it was marked by massive distrobution of condoms all over the world-all in a bid to reduce the number of people that could be infected with AIDS or Sexually Transmitted Diseases like Human Papillomavirus. The distribution of condoms is a major reason why teens, youths and single people continue to live sexually irresponsible lives. The truth people who hand condpms to single people fail to them is that condoms haven't helped much in reducing the rate STDs. Medical practitioners continue to tell those who care to listen that there is no such thing as "safe sex" but "safer sex". "Safe sex" is a myth aingle people are persuaded to believe at the detriment of their own emotional, spiritual and physical well being. Far too long, single people have been lied to and that has to change for the advancement of society. One of the nations that proves the myth of "safe sex" is Botswana. For over a decade Botswana relied upon wide spread availability of condoms in order to combat AIDS. Campaign for abstinence and fidelity were not emphasized. Instead, billboards about "safe sex" lined the streets, while school children learned songs about condoms. According to the Washington post, "The anti-AIDS partnership between Bill and Melinda Gates foundation and drug maker Merck budgeted $13.5million for condom promotion-25 times the amount dedicated to curbing dangerous sexual behaviour. But soaring rates of condom use have not brought down high HIV rates. Instead, they rose together, until both were among the highest in Africa.* Surely if condoms could do any good, the story would have been different. In contrast to Botswana's strategy to curb HIV and STDs, Uganda applied a different measure. In the late 1980s Uganda was viewed as the worst nation in the world in terms of HIV/AIDS infections. In 1991, 22percent of people in the country were infected with HIV. By 1999, the number had dropped to 6percent. Uganda President Yoweri Museveni insists that their unique success among Africa countries per capita expenditure on developed countries, which emphasis use of condoms in their fight against the disease. Instead of placing the primary emphasis on condoms, they emphasised abstinence and faithfulness first. As a result, they experienced the greatest decline of HIV in the world although, all that changed when foreign Aids experts began to arrive in the country in the 1990s. As condom use increased in Uganda, the percentage of young singles having sex rose fron 27percent to 33percent between 1995 and 2000**. while condoms may reduce the risk of HIV and STDs, they do not protect against the disease neither can condoms take away the emptiness, guilt, burden and confusion you feel from sharing your life with people you are not married to. Even if you have been involved in premarital sex many times, it is not too late to make a better choice now-the choice to wait for sex until marriage. Works cited *Tim Allen and Suzette Heald, "HIV/AIDS policy in Africa: What has worked in Uganda and What has failed in Botswana?" Journal of International Development 16:8 (November 8, 2004), 1141-1154; Michael Cassell et al., "Risk Compensation: The Achilles' Heel of Innovations in HIV prevention?". British Medical Journal 332 (March 11, 2006), 605-607 **Yoweri Museveni, 11th International Conference of People Living with HIV, as reported by Panafrica News Agency Daily Newswire (October 29, 2003)

PREMARITAL SEX PEER PRESSURES

2011-12-06T12:47:00.001+01:00

Some people who engage in premarital sex say they were pressured into it by their friends. Some decided to engage in premarital sex because of their desire to belong to a group of people who claim to be in control of everyone around them and the environment. One thing people who are pressurised into premarital sex must understand that the only reason why their peers will force them into having sex is because they are jealous of their chastity. Chastity is a virtue that many have given away so easily and they have vowed to make others lose theirs. If you are single and have never had sex (boy or girl), it doesn't mean you are old school-it only mean you have control of your life. It is a sense of irresponsibility on the part of someone to want to have sex with anything on skirts or trousers. For those who have made the mistake of engaging in premarital sex, it is not too late to make a u-turn now. You may not be able to regain your virginity but you can be proud that you made a decision to keep yourself for your marriage partner. It makes you better than those who will never make that decision for fear of being called names. You must remember that people who have destroyed their lives, will always want to destroy yours to. Any one who forces you to act against your will and belief is not worthy to be called your friend. They hope that if every one is doing the same thing, that will them feel better as well as make wrong seem like right. One of the greatest factors that promotes premarital sex is peer pressure. Teens or single adults who indulge in premarital sex even get angry when others refuse to join them. They try to hurt other teens by calling them names such as old "school". Many Teens indulge in premarital sex for the simple reason that they do not want their peers or friends to make jest of them or call them old school. But the truth is that if you dont start taking control of your life now, someone else will. One of the greatest decisions you'll ever make in life is the choice to walk away from premarital sex. Being able to walk away from pre marital sex is a sign of maturity, not foolishness. If your peers refuse to admit you into their play group because you wont indulge in premarital sex, walk away because you obviously dont need such friends who's only aim is to control and dent your future. Be courageous and stand because it takes courage to be different. I look forward to hearing from you on your decision to abstain from premarital sex

Pre-Marital Sex and the myth that your health will suffer without sex

2011-12-05T17:56:00.001+01:00

In recent times there has arisen a harmful idea among young people that they will not develop properly, emotionally or physically without sexual activity. This has been proven over time by health professionals to be false. In fact, it is becoming increasingly obvious that men and women, who avoid pre-marital sex experience in college, often make better progress both physically and mentally, than their more promiscuous brothers and sisters. It is sad to see many people, and particularly young men, filled with completely unfounded fears because of myths about the need for genital sex in order to develop properly. This belief is unfounded and a guy would tell you anything if he wants to go to bed with you. This false belief about sex being necessary for good health troubles many young people-even you. Knowing the very truth could set you free of these baseless fears.
Without a doubt, single men and women can develop perfectly emotionally and physically without ever having sex. You have everything to lose if you don’t wait. Try not to engage in premarital sex for a month,two months or even a year and see if you'll die. Believe me, you'll be fine

Premarital Sex - A Responsibility Or Just a Game?

2011-11-29T13:50:00.000+01:00

The wisdom of properly courting a girl has been through to the wind by youths and single people. With modern technology, courtship is done through cell phones and the internet. Because of these modes of entering into a relationship, engaging in a more intimate sexual relationship is not hard to obtain.

Teenagers have consciously ignored the dangers of getting involved in a romantic relationship at a very tender age. This leads them into engaging in premarital sex with people they do not even have plans to marry. Some teens say that it is because of some pressures, pressures from peers and boyfriends. Television, newspapers, and radio advertisements are also influential to these teens since having seen, heard, and read these commercials; they became curios of what really is in having sex. Teenagers think that virginity today is not a big deal anymore. If one is still a virgin before marriage, then they will say that you are old school. Another pressure is from their boyfriends. Boyfriends may threaten them that if they will not have sex with them they will leave them and look for another girl who can give them what they want. How selfish these boyfriends are. Any who can love you for only what they can get from you is not fit to be with you. The truth is that teenagers seem not to be aware of the consequences of their actions. May be they are aware of the consequences but do not care about it. Premarital sex has its own consequences such as getting Sexually Transmitted Diseases like HIV and even AIDS. Teenage Pregnancy can also be a consequence of teenagers' irresponsibility. Here is one thing, before having regrets in the end, it is better to avoid it while it is not late. But for some, if it cannot really be avoided, contraceptives are the answer but it cannot assure you that it is one hundred percents safe.

Sex is not a game. This is a responsibility for all of us. Self control and self discipline must be considered here. There is always a time for everything and there is always the right time for engaging in sex-in marriage

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