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Love - Can You Change Your Partner?

2009-09-21T19:22:00.003+05:30

What is love? Love is an emotion. There are so many emotions- compassion, hatred, anger, grief, happiness, etc. Love is also an emotion. The difference is one- love is the most powerful emotion. Hatred is also a very powerful emotion. True hatred can make a person do unthinkable. Similarly love can make a person do unthinkable, but in a positive side.

Many of us complain about our partners. He/she is this and that. We have a long list of complaints and as days go by, our list increases finally leading to a break-up. Can we do something different than complaining? Sure. We can express our love and faith in our partner. We can praise him/her for their good qualities and make them feel our love. It will have two effects- our own focus shifts from bad to good, and our partner also would want to reciprocate our love. This will make them stop doing what hurts us. It is easy to destroy a relationship. Why not build?

Why Do You Like Someone?

2009-09-21T19:17:00.001+05:30

I saw her, I talked to her, I was mesmerized with her and I wanted her to be mine forever. I saw him. I got smell of his body. I went in a trance. I was looking at his hair. He was looking so masculine. I want him forever to be mine.’

Why do you like some one? That person may not be great looking if you take a poll, but someone falls for him/her immediately. Why does this happen? What is the chemistry? Why do you find someone irresistible? What is the secret of that? Lot many love stories have been written around this love at first sight. The prince saw the princess and the princess saw the prince. Both fell in love with each other forever. This is what romance is made of. What is this and how does this happen?

You manage to lose your senses; your thinking ability and your head. Your heart overrules everything. You want that person. You try every way possible to meet and win over that person. You pass sleepless nights and pass days in a trance thinking of him/her. You are not able to live without that person for a moment. That single thought displaces every other thought. Life becomes oriented to a single goal - ‘I want her/him.’

Lot has been written about romantic love. No one has reached any conclusion about how such love develops. There are different theories about it, but can love be ever defined in terms of chemicals? Ultimately what will science achieve by finding out about the how and why of such romantic love that is heavenly? The best thing if you fall in such love is to preserve it carefully. Under no circumstances, let anything happen to destroy it. It is very precious. Take care of it.

Saying Good Bye

2009-09-20T21:14:00.002+05:30

One begins a relationship with great hope. The initial signs are very encouraging. The chemistry between both the partners is just right. Both enjoy being with each other and are happy. They believe that they have got what they wanted. Their friends know that the two are going steady and marriage may take place soon. One fine day, a partner announces that he/she would like to break away.

What happened? How did the dreams crash? Why did one partner change mind suddenly? Lets examine in detail. Does change of heart take place suddenly? Normally it does not. That means that the partner who said no, was not happy with the relationship for long. He/she was not expressing that dissatisfaction. The other partner who got dumped was not clearly told but was given very subtle hints. He/she could never pick up those hints and the idea of break-up was not in his/her unsuspecting mind at all.

What will happen now? See one scenario. Over the next few months, the dumped partner may get bombarded with blames. A lot would be told to her/him about behavior and other issues. Some things may be true, some false. As the dumped partner would try to mend fences and request to rejoin, he/she would get another volley of abuses. The relationship is gone. That is human nature. Why the partner who carried so much inside him/her did not tell about that before? Why small misunderstandings were not allowed to be sorted out, but were stored in a pressure cooker for a final burst? No one knows. What should the dumped partner do now? Say Goodbye and try to remake his/her life. This will be difficult but there are no alternatives.

Will You Break Up Soon?

2009-09-20T21:08:00.002+05:30

Love and break-up are two sides of the same coin. It is invariably break-up after love. For most of us it seems inevitable now a days. The question is only of time. Some couples break-up after many years, while some break-up after few months. What about you? Are you nearing a break-up? Quiz yourself and find out if your relationship of love is on brink now. Quiz and find out if the symptoms are already appearing?

How to find out if the break-up is due anytime now? Earlier you enjoyed being with your partner. Is it the same now, or you want to have more of personal space and want to be more with your friends? Quiz your buying habits for your partner. Earlier you gave lot of thought and money was not the only consideration to buy anything for your partner. Are you calculating money now a days? Do you let some occasion go without making a present? Quiz yourself about your talking habits. Earlier you never uttered a word that could hurt your partner. What about now? Are you as careful in selecting your words?

These are small indicators that will tell you the subtle changes that are taking place in your relationship. Watch for these changes and find out if you are sliding down towards an inevitable break-up?

Quiz yourself about your love, your care, your relationships and your desire for each other. Small quizzes will give you hints about large changes. Quiz is a great tool to find out about your life.

Break-ups appear suddenly. But the process of breaking -up begins much earlier. Every break-up hurts. What about your love life? Are you also going towards an inevitable break-up?

Show Appreciation To Enjoy Married Life More

2009-09-17T22:43:00.001+05:30

You love each other passionately. You have so many good things to say to each other and you eagerly wait to meet and talk. This is all before the marriage. Why most of these disappear some time after marriage? Some how as the initial passion reduces, appreciation for each other’s qualities also reduces. At least you stop expressing that in words frequently. But that hurts the marital relationship.

Appreciating each other in married life is one of the best sustainer of love. Every spouse wants to hear how good he or she is. Any appreciation howsoever small brings a smile on the face. You all need appreciation, because it is an acknowledgment from someone. If you appreciate your spouse, but don’t express it in words, he/she will never come to know about that, and may even resent you for not appreciating her/him. To have feelings is important, and to express them is more important.

Your appreciation may accompany a flower, or can even be written on a beautiful card. An outing may be arranged to appreciate the good qualities. Appreciation need not be confined verbally, but many creative ways can be invented to show it. ‘Sweetheart, this small gift is for you in appreciation of the care you take to keep yourself looking smart. I love that.’ Something like this can create a big difference in marital life.

Catching a cheat!

2009-09-17T22:39:00.001+05:30

Catching a cheat is a difficult task. You may be suspecting that your spouse is either cheating or has the thoughts of cheating on you. But unless you are sure about it, any action that you take may backfire and doom a good marriage. Imagine that your spouse was innocent but you doubted him/her. What will be their reaction?

A typical sign of a cheating spouse is getting distanced from the family, especially the partner. No plans of joint outings or dinners are made. A cheating spouse looks uninterested in most of the family matters. Likes to be left alone and goes out at any pretext. This is always the first sign that your spouse may be seeing someone else.

What do you do? Don’t assume that cheating is being committed. Instead look at it as if your spouse is losing interest in you and to a small extent, the children, if any.

It is time to sit and talk heart to heart. Talk to your spouse about how you are feeling and try and get the feedback. If there is no cheating but some other reason, you will get to know. If your spouse is cheating, you will get evasive answers and sometimes irritated sounding responses. This confirms the initial suspicion of cheating. Proceed from here to confirm and then decide the next action.

Are You Facing Emotional Abuse ?

2009-09-17T22:34:00.001+05:30

Those who have control and power can inflict emotional abuse. It is as bad as physical abuse. Some people call emotional abuse as worse than physical abuse. Let us discuss about emotional abuse.

Emotional abuse may leave deep scars on the psyche. In emotional abuse the perpetrator withholds all the emotional satisfaction from the victim. The self-dignity of the victim is bruised repeatedly and he/she is shown as a lesser person. Emotional abuse can take many forms. Devaluing the person is one such abuse. Giving no value to a persons intelligence and opinion, and repeatedly questioning his/her intelligence is one such abuse.

Public humiliation of a person is another kind of this abuse. To make someone feel inferior and laugh at him/her and make others join the fun is another form of emotional abuse. Feeling of safety is our emotional need. to make a person feel unsafe is another way of victimization. Threatening to leave that person alone without any help and terrorizing him/her is one such form.

Taking away financial freedom, making the person totally dependent on the abuser is another common abuse. Lack of money can stop the victim from enjoying some pleasures. Some abusers even withdraw the use of communication instruments such as telephone etc from the victim.

Emotional abuse can take many other such forms. these abusers are sadists who enjoy degrading a human being and destroying their emotional freedom. This is a crime against humanity. If you are undergoing the slightest emotional; abuse, please protest and protect yourself.

How To Avoid Work Stress Hurt Your Marriage?

2009-09-15T23:03:00.000+05:30

Work stress plays a very major role in hurting married life. Most of the men and women bring their stress home and play havoc with their married life. The stress spills over at home and creates further stress. Home should be used to dissolve the work stress. Home should be the place to relax and get comfort. Home should be the place where we get rid of the stress that we bring from outside. But opposite happens. Let us discuss how to avoid this and keep our home protected from any such stresses. Let us also discuss how home can help us fight these stresses.

The very first question should be - What is more important? Married life or work life? New work /job can be found, but getting another person to marry will be difficult. What about after retirement? Who will be with us- our spouse or our company? We never think about these issues. For us the stress at that moment is the center of our life. Our mind is occupied with that stress. Therefore when we reach home, we are ready to speak harshly, blame family members, showing irritation and express our frustration in many other ways.

Ideally, when we reach home, we should tell our spouse about the stress and ask help to get over it. He/she will find ways to comfort us. Prepare a comforting hot bath, putting on light music or your favorite television show. We should make our family a partner in our stress and not blame them for contributing to our work woes, because that is generally not the truth. A marriage can be a great cure for stressed life. It is not the place where you go and put all your blames. Bringing balance in life is most important. Make your marriage work for you. Don’t let your work damage your marriage.

Satisfaction In Marriage

2009-09-15T23:00:00.001+05:30

There are very few marriages, where both the partners are satisfied fully. Go around and make a small survey. The results may look shocking but they are true. Everyone has one or the other complain about the married life.

The dissatisfaction may be many areas. It might be the home they are living in. It may be that the husband does not help the wife in household chores. The husband may complain that the wife is not helping him in growth of his career. It may have to do with difference of views about spending and saving. You will hear complain after complain and may wonder how people stay together with so many complaints?

The dissatisfaction may be emotional. She is not bothered when I am feeling unhappy and she will reply that even he does not bother. Getting physical satisfaction is now a distant dream. Going to places to enjoy with each other is long past. It is watching television at home and somehow killing time. Some people even dread holidays, because they may have to stay with wife all the day. There will be doubts about each other’s friendships and a bundle of complaints about how I am suffering but no one is simply concerned.

Why the communication lines have broken down so badly? Why are spouses not satisfied with each other? It is difficult to say. But this problem can be solved with little effort. Let them sit together and write all their complaints on a paper. Exchange the papers and discuss about everything. Decide that from now onwards, I will try and satisfy you in all the possible ways. If you still have to say something to me, tell me after a month. Give me a month’s time. Keep the talks on through out the month and determine that we will bring back cheer in our life again. We will bring happiness back and become a model couple. This decision itself will change a lot immediately.

Cheating is considered crime in relationship but should you tell your partner?

2009-09-14T22:13:00.001+05:30

Cheating is considered unpardonable. Everybody takes cheating by the partner very seriously. But most of us cheat at one or the other time -if not physically then emotionally. What if you cheated on your partner in a momentary lapse and are now very much regretting it. Should you tell your partner or not?

Love Can Not Be Lost-

You are worried that if you tell your partner, you may loose the relationship and the love forever. But you cannot afford to loose the love. You love your partner very much and the thought of staying separately frightens you. You do not want to take any risk with your love. If you tell your partner about your cheating, you may lose that love.

Love And Lies Can Not Stay Together-

If we love deeply then our relationship is always very open. We are so open and hones with each other that forget physical cheating, we do not even think about emotional cheating. If you want to know more about emotional cheating try this quiz- Are you emotionally cheating your spouse?

Once we decide to hide our cheating we go into mental trauma. We are always thinking about the cheating and not telling. Along with that we are worried about getting caught. This torture of emotions affects our love and our partner will sense that something is amiss. The relationship will suffer.

In both the alternatives, the relationship stands to suffer because the deed has been done. What do you think is the better alternative? You will tell your partner or hide?

Differences in love ? Dont let your romance go out from your life

2009-09-14T22:09:00.001+05:30

love

and relationship based on love has many stages. The phase of romantic love does not last long. It is the most pleasant phase of the relationship and unfortunately, it passes very soon. The joy is short lived. After this phase comes the phase of mature understanding that may lead to lot of bickering and split amongst many. Why allow that phase to come at all. Or why let romantic love die at all? Can we not continue that phase forever? Let us find out.

In the phase of romantic love, the lovers feel very passionate about each other. They want to be together. They want to make each other happy. Their only objective is to enjoy the romance, send love notes to each other and enjoy the bliss of romance. After sometime, this phase passes away because of ego, relationship misunderstandings, expectations and other life problems that become more prominent. Can we not stretch the romantic love forever? Experience says that it is not possible, but some exceptions are there. why not follow the exceptions? Let us see how.

Talk about this with your beloved in the beginning of the romantic phase. Tell them about how romantic love dies soon. Make a pact that says that let anything happen, we will not let any misunderstanding, any expectation or any other problem end the romantic love. Read the pact everyday and live by that. As soon as anything happens, remember the pact and go back to romantic love. I think that there is no other way of keeping romantic love alive forever. If you can manage that, your life will bean envy for everyone.

How One Feels Crazy In Love?

2009-09-14T22:04:00.001+05:30

Passionate love creates many feelings. In passionate love, lovers are even ready to give away their life. Passionate love neither recognizes logic nor it follows any norms. You must have read stories that told how a poor boy fell in love with a princess and ultimately won her over. Love that reaches heights of passion is beyond any advice. No one can communicate with such lovers because their mind is closed to any talk of separation.

What kind of love is that? How a sensible person begins behaving strangely. Can such love be compared with addictions? A person before any addiction is sensible, logical and, follows norms and acts normal. After getting addicted a drug, people rob; commit theft and what ever else they need to do to get the drug. Without the drug they cannot live. The withdrawal symptoms are equally uncontrollable and have to be managed under medical supervision.

To try and persuade a drug addict to leave the drug is a difficult task that has to be accomplished over period of time. It is not as simple as asking - please stop using this drug, and he/she will comply. It requires real effort, persuasion and therapy to achieve that. Is love that has reached passionate heights comparable?

It looks as if the effects are same, the longing is same and the separation is equally painful. Being crazy in love means total dependence on the beloved. No moment goes without his/her thought and every attempt will be made to win him/her over. If for any reason, the beloved cannot be won, the consequences can be equally bad unless helped with therapy

Why Do Men Batter Women?

2009-09-13T22:23:00.001+05:30

In this century when we all talk of exploring mars and reaching help to the deep corners of Africa, is it not only surprising and also shameful that some men batter their wives? Whatever we say, we cannot deny that women are getting battered. A syndrome has also been names after this - Battered Women syndrome. Why should men beat women? Let us look at this barbarism.

Frustration must be one of the reasons. Do men enjoy taking out their frustration of career failures and problems on women? Or they are sadists? If they do not like their woman, they should separate. How can they be allowed to beat women? That is reprehensible and barbaric. How can an educated man beat a woman? What drives him to do that? Is their any profile of such men who do this?

What if the woman is not meek and retaliates. There will be bloodshed. Why a beautiful relationship reaches such depths is beyond my imagination and thinking. How society allows this. Why such men are not boycotted from the society? What is the problem with such men that they batter their woman?

As men, we are protectors of women and not supposed to beat them. Why do we men do it? In a survey in India, it was found that a majority of men who beat women come from highly educated class. This is more shocking. These men keep a mask of good behavior in society and beat the woman in the confines of their home. Please let all men decide that come what may, they will never ever batter their woman. That is inhuman.

Keeping love alive

2009-09-13T22:21:00.000+05:30

I do not know where love has gone out of our relationship? Are you also the one asking this question? Most of us find that there is no love after some years. Why does that happen? That happens because most of us show disinterest in happiness of our partner. Go back to your earlier days of wooing and recollect the kind of attention you used to shower on your partner. Looking at your present behavior, you will find that you are giving very less attention to the happiness of your partner now. Begin doing that and you will get love back in your relationship. As you pay attention you will find that your partner is also paying more attention to you.

What Haunts After A Break-Up?

2009-09-13T22:20:00.000+05:30

A break-up is the worst stress one can have. Other stresses that match or exceed this are loss of business or job, and death. Break-up causes stress in many ways. The way you lived with your partner and looked at life always together suddenly changes. Earlier both of you were on the same side. After break-up both of you are on the opposite sides of the fence.

We begin our relationship with great romantic love. We love what our partner does. We love everything they say and we love working and sleeping with them. We love sharing our ideas with them. At the peak of love, we feel that we were made for each other. The memories of everything that we shared comes back to haunt us after the break-up. It is difficult for many of us to believe that we are no more together. We may still think about sharing ideas, talking about problems with each other and then realize that we are no more with each other. That is a huge shock. The world turns upside-down. We were always depending upon our partner for many things. That suddenly goes away. It is very difficult to bear this change.

The other big change that brings in memories that haunts us is the period of going through the breakup. The spoken words of each other come back in intensity. When you recollect the words your partner spoke while arguing and quarreling with you, you do not know how to believe that it really happened. Because you never expected such words from your partner. During the period of break up you do undergo disbelief that your partner is finding fault with you in many things. But after break-up the memory keeps coming back and creates a hell.

A break-up is one of the worst experiences one can undergo and needs all the will power to become normal again.

Romantic Date Ideas for Everyone Who Is in Love

2009-09-12T22:23:00.000+05:30

Being romantic isn't hard if you are willing to put some effort in your relationship. Romantic love doesn't have to fade away, but you need to make sure you spice it up. Here are some fun date ideas to spice up your relationship.

While having a dinner out is nice, restaurants are not always they best places to have a romantic date. Why? Because first of all, you pay attention to the food instead of each other. Second of all, it might be hard to talk if it is loud at a restaurant and you will be constantly interrupted by a waiter.

Going out to see a movie is a good idea only if you are going to spend some time together before or after it. Staring at a movie screen is not going to freshen up your marriage or relationship.

The best date idea is to go for a romantic walk. It seems so simple, but so many couples neglect to do it. There is nothing like a romantic walk without distractions, in the park or on the beach.

Do not talk about laundry, insurance or celebrity break-ups on your date. Otherwise, it will not be a romantic date at all.

Ask each other questions about their childhood, your likes and dislikes. If you have been together for a while, try to remember when you first met or your first date. These memories entice anyone into a romantic mood and will help you feel the passion you felt in the beginning of your relationship.

One of the best date ideas is to re-create your first date. If you had a date at a certain restaurant, try to order the same food you ordered then and sit at the same table. It would be perfect to wear the same clothing (if you can still fit in it) and perfume.

While on a date, remember what you talked about; how nervous you were, or what crossed your mind. Hold each others hands (even if you didn't do it for 15 years), look into each others eyes. Flirt with each other.

They say that it is easy to recognize a married couple at a restaurant, because they don't talk to each other. If you are married, don't be easy to recognize. Being romantic is not hard. All you have to do is want to be one.

Signs Your Wife Is Cheating On You - The Obvious Signs

2009-09-12T22:22:00.000+05:30

Are you searching for clues that can help you say whether your wife is cheating on you or not? Well, you certainly are not the only man under the same plight. A lot of other husbands out there are seeking some help as to help they may be able to find out if their wife is indeed cheating on them.

It is really difficult for men to discover by themselves that their wife is cheating on them. In most cases, men would hope beforehand that their suspicion will remain false.

Ultimately, it is understandable that the quest for truth cannot be extinguished. Once you know the truth, you can start to move on to the next step.

Before you push through on your quest for the truth, you have to take note that some signs of cheating are not that obvious. But, if you know what to watch for, itll be much easier for you.

If you are looking for signs your wife is cheating on you, here are some of the easier signs to catch.

1) She Is No Longer As Affectionate As Before

In a loving relationship, a display of affection cannot be detached. If your wife does not display her affection to you for quite some time, it might be an indication of an infidelity. To find out, simply try to kiss her. If she disgusts it, then, you got your first clue.

Then again, dont forget to consider other circumstances. Maybe your wife facing too much stress for the past days that she no longer have the energy to be affectionate.

Or perhaps it is because that you have neglected her for so long. This would make her think that you dont love her anymore so she may in turn withhold her affection for you. Take note: when women feel neglected by their husbands, it can be a reason towards infidelity.

2) She Is Behaving Weirdly Around The Phone?

Strange behavior when shes on the phone can be one of the possible signs that your wife is cheating on you. Does she suddenly lower down their volume or simply become silent when you come in? Does she hung up the phone fast?

When asked who called, she may say, its just a friend. Your instincts may tell you that there is something she is hiding, that the person in the other line is not just a friend.

How To Start A Conversation With A Girl

2009-09-12T22:21:00.001+05:30

Do you find talking to girls easy? Are you the kind who can easily start a conversation with a girl at any place and at any time? If so, then lucky for you. Clearly, not all male species find it easy to ignite a conversation with a girl especially if the girl happens to catch their interest.

They say it is a skill to be able to talk to a girl without hassles or freaking out. You may not have such skill at the moment but it does not mean you cannot have it. The good news is, you can. These skills can be learned and the following paragraphs will tell you how.

Be Attentive

Be on your guard. Be attentive not only to the girl in particular but her surroundings as well.

Like for example, observe what she is wearing or what she is holding; also pay attention to the place she is in at a given moment. Doing such will give you insight on what to say later when you have the guts to approach and talk to her.

Be Bold Enough To Approach Her

You must be able to gather your courage right away rather than anxiously thinking if you should approach her or just watch from afar.

Learn to overcome your anxieties and fears particularly rejection. You must be able to handle any situation regardless of their outcome. Do not be a prisoner of negative thoughts, otherwise you will not get what you want.

Many guys are known to stall and before they know it, the girls they wished to talk to has left before they take the step to approach her. If you are among these guys, then it is about time that you act like a man. Go right away to her and talk.

Also, never use pick-up lines. They are just lame.

Steer Clear From Yes-No Answerable Questions

Questions that need short answers such as a yes or a no are not advised. This is simply because they may end as it is. Thus, ask questions that require explanatory responses or lengthy answers.

Instead of asking her what her favorite sport is, why not rephrase it to something like why she seems to like this and that, basing on your previous observations.

Believe in Yourself

Confidence is extremely important. Without such, you cannot do things well enough to be satisfied of the outcome. Indeed, talking to a girl is among the many things that call for confidence in order to succeed.

Starting a dialogue with girls can really be difficult. But as long as you do it right, you will certainly make it through and achieve a satisfying conversation that may even end up on a date.

5 Ways to Stay In Love Forever.

2009-09-12T22:11:00.000+05:30

5 Ways to Stay In Love Forever Excellent advice for every couple.

1.CHERISH YOUR WIFE. RESPECT YOUR HUSBAND.

The core emotional need of a woman is to be cherished. This is the husband's number one responsibility. That means making her feel loved and appreciated, that she's your number one priority.

A man's core emotional need is to feel respected by his wife. When he comes home, he wants to feel that there is at least one person in the world who thinks he's got what it takes. That means getting off the phone when he walks in the door.

2.TREAT EACH OTHER LIKE GOOD FRIENDS

Under the marriage canopy one of the seven blessings given to the bride and groom is that they should become "beloved friends."

The hallmark of friendship is that each person validates and respects the other person's feelings and needs. Validation means: What's important to you is important to me. It's a key way to make your spouse feel loved.

3. REMEMBER THE FOUR GOLDEN WORDS: LISTEN, COMPROMISE, REPAIR, AND GRATITUDE.

Agree to keep one basic rule at the beginning of your marriage: No matter how upset you are, never launch a verbal attack. Fighting with insults only makes problems worse and erodes the relationship. Instead, implement the four golden words:

Listening: It's essential for working together and solving problems. Allow your spouse to speak without interruption and then repeat what has just been said. This reassures your spouse that he or she was heard.

Compromise: Strive to solve problems where both of you are happy with the solution. Neither one should feel coerced into accepting the other person's point of view.

Repair: When you hurt each other emotionally, repair the breakdown and remove the lingering feelings of anger and resentment. Aim for 100% reconciliation. A little resentment multiplied 50 times can create a wall of bitterness.

Gratitude: You can never say thank you enough to your spouse. Try to notice everything your spouse does for you and acknowledge it with sincere gratitude.

4. ESTABLISH STRONG BOUNDARIES

Your spouse is your number one priority - not your parents, relatives, friends, children, work, or hobbies. Set strong boundaries that show you value your marriage and don't allow anyone or anything to weaken your relationship.

That means meeting your spouse's needs before your parents' needs, coming home with enough time left in the evening to have quality time together, and inviolate date nights.

5. GIVE EACH OTHER PLEASURE DAILY

Marriage is ultimately about making each other feel good and striving to give your spouse pleasure on a daily basis - on his or her terms. If she says she likes lilies, don't bring her roses because you think they're more romantic.

Learn how your spouse prefers to be given to - whether it's physical affection, words of affirmation, receiving gifts, acts of service (like helping out in the house, running errands) or spending quality time - and get in the daily habit of doing it.

You'll enjoy giving more than receiving.

It still wouldn't be enough

2009-09-12T22:10:00.000+05:30

I could write about how much you mean to me.
And how much I really care.
Or how I feel in your arms.
And even more about when you're not there.

I could write about your smile.
And how it brightens my day.
And how holding your hand,
Everything in the world fades away.

I could write down our memories.
Every single moment we've spent together.
The times we were silent.
And the times that were filled with laughter.

I could write everything down.
And explain it word for word.
And it still wouldn't explain,
How much you mean in my world.

That is you my darling

2009-09-12T22:09:00.000+05:30

I will stand by your side;
Until the morning light takes me from your mind;
And your heart releases all the feelings;
And everything you thought was appealing;

Still, Ill hold on even after your death;
And not let go till my final breath;
I'm not so sure my mind will let you go still;
because even dreams of you make me shrill;

And if I do let go before I say;
My heart must've turned gray;
Even if it doesn't and new love thrives;
Your memory will always survive;

Because in my heart you were my life;
and now that I'm fighting to survive;
You still remain; bright and alive;
Because that is you my darling; life.

Understanding Feelings

2009-09-09T23:15:00.001+05:30

Feelings are a very powerful tool we have to be happier. Many times we come to the break-up of a relationship we are unable to understand why we did not anticipate that. Go back and look at your feelings during your relationship. Did your feelings not tell you about this?

Let us find out more. Sometimes we get confused in a relationship. We seek advice from friends and family and discuss and think about what may be going wrong. We do not pay attention to what our feelings tell us. I have seen instances when couples break- up though their feelings tell them differently. This couple never forgets the ex. Partner because the break-up can never be complete. Had they listened to their feelings instead of focusing on small arguments, they would have realized that they cared for each other and were not ready for break-up.

Have you observed your feelings with your friends? Some of them you like instantly while you never like some of them despite any arguments having taken place. Our subconscious mind tells us about the true character of that person and draws us away. But we do not listen.

Feelings are like radars. They watch over everything and transmit the message. Many persons in an abusive relationship keep hoping that things will improve. Though their feelings tell them that the situation will rather worsen. It is question of hope against reality. Our feelings tell us about the reality. Our desires give us hope. Listen to your feelings and realize your true worth.

Why many of us do not listen to our feelings? This is because we feel unworthy. We feel that others are more intelligent and will give us right advice. We are less capable than others. This causes the problems. Pay attention to what others say but let your feelings be the final judge.

Relationship- Is Your Attitude Casual?

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your response to many situations is casual. You do not bother much. For example if there is a hurricane, thousand miles from your place, you treat it casually. But when the same hurricane hits near your place, you respond with great alacrity. This analogy can be applied to your relationships. Are you treating your relationship casually or do you take utmost care to make sure that everything always goes well?

When you talk to your partner, is your approach abrupt? Do you treat your partner carelessly at times? Have you come to the stage of relationship when you believe that it is perpetual? When you come to that stage your approach become casual. Till you try to woo your partner, you are very alert. Once you win him/her over, your approach may become casual. This is a common pitfall. Once this attitude becomes an every day affair, the relationship suffers and like a brick taken out from a wall a day, the wall of relationship slowly becomes weak and one day collapses to your shock. You are then left wondering about what went wrong. So, do not keep your attitude casual. Always be loving and caring towards your partner.

Does Your Partner Have Faith In You?

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A relationship is based on faith. At least most of the relationships are based on faith. Some relationships are based on convenience. But most of the relationships will collapse if faith is absent. What is faith in a relationship and how to know if your partner has faith in you?

Are you sure that your partner has faith in you? For example, if you leave your mail box open and go out for sometime, do you believe that your partner will not surf through the mails and find out whom you are corresponding with? Let us take another example. Try talking to somebody in very low voice on telephone. Do this intentionally. Do you think that your partner will ask you about who you were talking with? I am leading towards one common factor- faith. Does your partner have implicit faith in you?

There are two types of relationships. In one kind the partners have unquestioning faith in each other. In another kind, the partners do not suspect each other of any wrong doing, but do not have faith. For example, if a partner comes late at night, in one case the other partner will worry about the reasons of delay. In another case, the partner will suspect that some affair may be on. What kind of relationship you have? What kind of faith does your partner have in you?

Faith is the main pillar of a relationship. Without faith everything el se looses its value. Develop faith in your partner and assure your partner with your words and behavior that he/she can have full faith in you. Openness is most important for that. Whatever you do, do it openly. Do not play any games. Slowly both of you will begin developing faith in each other. Always look out for anything that may create suspicion and kill the suspicion in the beginning itself to have a great relations

Men - Know What Women Want

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What do women want? This question troubles many men. If they like a woman, how to attract her and how to keep that love alive for long. For getting the answer to this, men must know about what women want. The first factor every man must understand clearly is that women are different than men. The way men behave and talk with their men friends will not do with a woman if they wish to win her over.

Let us talk about your objective. If you are in love with a woman, you want her to reciprocate that love and remain in love with you forever. You desire that both of you live happily in love with each other forever. For achieving this objective, you must know how to win a woman. Let us examine few qualities that you should develop to win a woman.

1. Care
Do you show care for what a woman cares for? Or do you laugh at some of her worries and concerns? That will be a sure formula to make a woman go away from you. Please show care and concern for what a woman cares for. Please be with her in that. Let her feel so confident that she leaves all her cares to you. That will give her real pleasure.

2. Treat Her Delicately
When you pick up something precious, you are very careful handling that, isn’t it? Same is with women. Talk to them gently. Treat them gently and be there whenever she needs any help. A small gesture such as holding her shopping bags will show that you consider her precious. Show her that she is invaluable for you in all the possible ways. Let her feel good about herself whenever she is with you.

3. Know About Her
Find out what she wants in life. Know about her priorities. Learn about her values. If you love her dearly and want to make her your own, you may have to change to her thinking, so that she feels you as her own. This may sound strange, but this small sacrifice will have to be made to make a woman your own.