The Volcano

It's our 18th wedding anniversary!

2026-04-06T11:16:00.720-07:00

Yay! (There's so much more to say, but that will suffice.)

Mendocino, 2014

2026-04-06T09:48:00.000-07:00

Truth

2026-04-05T05:29:33.956-07:00

The only way out is through.

South Lake Tahoe, this week

2026-04-05T05:03:00.000-07:00

Jenner-by-the-Sea, 2016

2026-04-05T04:53:00.000-07:00

Ugh!

2026-04-04T14:23:00.000-07:00

I thought I was done writing about this in Bearded Lady. Apparently not. Yes, I'm vaguebooking. Sue me.

Texting with Marcus

2026-04-03T18:14:00.000-07:00

HIM: You shall be forever balancing parenthood and the rest of life. And chafing against the tensions thereof.

ME: Thank God. I'm serious. And I speak as someone who gets driven nuts by a 10-year-old on the regular.

HIM: Thank Her for what? (That was just to look woke.)

ME: I've realized I will chafe against life's tensions whether they exist or not ... I seem to be that kind of person. Might as well have a little mini-me.

HIM: WAIT TIL TEEN. Yeah, that's a great attitude you have. Truly. Despite my hoo haa.

The dream

2026-04-03T17:53:00.000-07:00

In the dream, Adam asked for a divorce. Actually, he didn't so much ask as demand. It was one of those dreams that just picks back up after you've awoken, sweaty and scared, to a breath of relief.

For the record, this has never happened. When I've gotten pissed at him, I've used the d-word. I haven't done it for a long time.

Oh, and he'd already started dating someone else. What the?

The Killers

2026-03-28T10:49:00.000-07:00

Are we human, or are we dancer?

From Conflagration

2026-03-24T17:53:00.000-07:00

Lilith grew up to the tune of the sirens, that wailing wind, but never got used to them. That was easily half the reason she left – she couldn’t take the idea of the already half-destroyed city being chipped away around her. Sometimes you leave what you love because seeing it decimated hurts your heart, your being. You would rather be without it than let it be without itself.

What it sounds like to work with Adam in the room

2026-03-24T14:04:00.000-07:00

"The range doesn't cover the stability specification."

"They didn't even calculate the range. They just did it based on sample."

"When I try to put in the numbers ..."

This song always makes me cry

2026-03-09T14:04:11.236-07:00

Facebook Official for 11 years

2026-03-09T09:49:19.869-07:00

More truth

2026-03-08T11:41:00.000-07:00

I'm scared to go home. I'm not ready for real life. An overnight isn't enough. Sometimes I think no amount of time would be.

The Last Time I Saw Richard

2026-03-07T19:52:14.474-08:00

Santa Cruz

2026-03-07T15:06:00.000-08:00

I took the train and bus down here, definitely still noticing my anxiety. Instead of succumbing to it, though, I'm just watching it, seeing where it goes, where it takes me, where it intersects with me. All this meditation shit I'm doing is not for nothing.

Photo taken at Emeryville Amtrak before I left.

Reconciliation

2026-03-04T16:18:00.000-08:00

Two years since I've spoken with my father. Almost three. My mom and I got it together before she died. I don't know if this will be the case here. I don't know if I can point a finger (abuse, neglect) when I called him a motherfucker and told him the wrong parent died. I just don't know.

Little League

2026-03-03T18:29:00.000-08:00

San Francisco Writers Conference

2026-02-19T09:06:00.000-08:00

St. Louis, 2012

2026-02-19T08:57:09.837-08:00

The boys

2026-02-18T12:47:00.000-08:00

Marcus

2026-02-18T12:38:00.000-08:00

As I say, you’re the most extroverted introvert this world has ever known.

A '90s anthem

2026-02-18T12:26:00.000-08:00

Would she go down on you in a theatre?

San Francisco Writers Conference

2026-02-12T13:18:00.000-08:00

I'm on faculty, so stop by and say hi!

Flash Fiction on the Danube!

2026-02-12T12:47:00.000-08:00

I am thrilled to be an Author Host on a river cruise down the Danube from March 31-April 7, 2027! Cruise over here for more info!