In Pursuit...

I jumped on the Keto trend train...

noreply@blogger.com (Amy Middleton) — Thu, 21 Feb 2019 20:37:00 +0000

For the last 5 months my hubby and I have been doing the Keto diet. I know it's the" hot thing" right now, and I usually don't join in on the trendy diets... but we got to a point where something had to change in our diet & lifestyle because we aren't spring chickens anymore. This is the first time we had seen success together and it's really changed our mindset about food & what we fuel our bodies with. Bonus, we've lost a collective 75 lbs to this date! CRAZY! There is a documentary on Netflix called The Magic Pill that is inspiring and explains the Keto lifestyle.

I've had a few friends ask me how to start and what tips & recipes I use so I figured this would be the easiest way to share the info.... We went into it as an experiment, we'd try it out as best we could and see what happens, as the pounds started melting off, it encouraged us to keep going and after a while our cravings changed, our mindset about food changed, and our energy levels really changed. This is how we started. I'm not a dietician so keto at your own risk ;) but we do have our Doctors in the loop.

1. Clean out the pantry! We didn't buy any program or anything to do Keto, we got rid of sugar and things with carbs that would tempt us. (My boys aren't doing keto so we have carby stuff for them, but it's off limits for us).

2. MEAL PLAN!! This is the only way I've been able to stay strong. I had to make a list of keto friendly foods (see links & pics below) and plan the week ahead so I wouldn't get stuck hungry with no plan and cave in. When we started I literally wrote out breakfast, lunch, dinner and snacks, until I got used to knowing what worked for us.

3. Friendly accountability. It helps that my hubby and I are doing this together to keep us encouraged, but it also helps to find other people who are doing it too. I get a lot of recipes & tips from facebook groups and Instagrams I follow, and fellow friends who are doing it. We've even held keto parties together to taste each others favorite recipes!

4. Eating out tips. It's totally possible to eat out at restaurants & fast food. We don't do it much, hello $$$, but when you're in a hurry or want to treat yourself, there are options! Non- breaded chicken wings, veggies & blue cheese dip are a GO TO! Bunless Burgers! Non breaded fish with salads and side veggies are good, and STEAK! Broccoli cheese soup is good too.

5. Get electrolytes w/ B vitamins. We take vitamins that have some vitamins that you'll be low on being low carb like B6 & B12, D3, Potassium, Magnesium, but also drink sugar free gatorade type drinks or liquid flavoring with electrolytes w/ B vitamins to add to water. This is Super helpful as you start so you don't feel as much sugar detox when you begin. (some people call it keto flu). There are a lot of supplement powder electrolytes you can find from Walmart to Health food stores as an option (just check labels).

6. Track your Macros. We use an App called Carb Manager. You can set the settings to keto and track what you eat. Macros are the % of nutrients you intake. For keto, you generally wanna stay 70% high quality fats, 25% protein, 5% Carbs. I signed up for free PerfectKeto.com emails that have helpful tips and ideas and you can enter in your body info to find out best amount of carbs to have for weightloss. I try to stay between 20-30 carbs a day. I do what they call "dirty keto" so I still stick with my carb level goals, but I might take a bite or 2 of something with real sugar in it / "not keto friendly" ;) it works for some people, but everyone's body is different so be careful. Some people get blood tests/ urine tests to see in they're in ketosis (you can read more about that at the perfect keto website), but we haven't, we just track our macros & weigh in.

7. Try different things until you find one you like! Fake sugar being one of them: The sugar I'm using is Pyure Organic Stevia Blend (granular and a squeeze liquid bottle) Basically get something with the ingredients as plain stevia or erythritol but not dextrose or sucrlose, those made the gross aftertaste. I'm not saying theres none in this kind but it's surprisingly better than I thought. Trader Joes Organic Stevia and Swerve Confectioners Sugar are good too. I've found a lot of good recipes, and some that were not edible, lol... keep adjusting & trying til you find one you like! Fake Sugar warning: I only use 1/4-1/3 of the amount recipes usually call for because otherwise I taste the aftertaste, yuck. But that keeps it just sweet enough to work.

8. Read Labels. Look at the sugar content! It took me longer the first few times at the grocery store when we started to find out that CARBS ARE EVERYWHERE, lol. Seriously, they hide it in everything. So know your numbers and add up the sugars! Know the difference between total carbs & net carbs- Net carbs is what you measure: Sugars -subtract Fiber and - subtract sugar alcohols in the ingredients. I keep that total under 25 every day.

Remember, I'm not an expert, I don't claim to know it all about Keto, I'm just figuring it out along the way :) but feel free to ask me questions or share if I'm wrong about something on here! lol.

Here are some of my favorite recipes/ websites.

https://www.merakilane.com/ketogenic-diet-plan-weight-loss-7-day-keto-meal-plan-menu/

/https://www.merakilane.com/keto-diet-recipes-simple-30-day-keto-meal-plan-weight-loss/

https://nobunplease.com/my-crispy-cheddar-crisps/

https://theunlikelyhostess.com/easy-low-carb-dinner-recipes/

https://peaceloveandlowcarb.com/low-carb-chocolate-mason-jar-ice-cream/

https://www.lowcarbspark.com/keto-meatballs/

https://joyfilledeats.com/garlic-parmesan-chicken/

https://www.ruled.me/buffalo-chicken-jalapeno-popper-casserole/

https://www.thismomsmenu.com/chocolate-peanut-butter-cheesecake/

https://www.yummly.com/recipe/Keto-Chocolate-Cake-in-a-Mug-2369564

Our daily food ideas:

Breakfast- smoothies (w/ coconut milk), eggs, bacon or sausage, keto friendly fruits (I'll attach a pic) or plain greek yogurt with fresh berries, Bullet proof coffee, sausage gravy w/ keto biscuits (recipe below), Sausage patty w/ Cheese on a biscuit, coffee w/ heavy whipping cream

Snacks- nuts, kale chips, cheddar crisps, hard boiled eggs, cheese & pepperoni, veggies w/ blue cheese dressing, deviled eggs, Celery w/ PB or cream cheese, seaweed.

Lunch- meat/cheese rolls, tuna or chicken salad (I use celery as the spoon and bite it off each swoop, salad with grilled chicken or steak, left overs (my favorite), salmon & cream cheese, Caprese salad, bunless burgers or hotdogs, berries, Carb counter tortillas used for a wrap with spinach, and cheese & lunch meat

Dinner- all listed above & below and a bunch from that website with Merakilane.

Desert- we love the mason jar ice cream (adding a splash of vodka helps keep it from getting icy) but I do this same recipe for fresh strawberry too. Or Dark chocolate covered strawberries or berries with fresh whip cream.

Some random recipes & helpful infographics we LOVE:

Keto Country Sausage Gravy (4 carbs/ serving)
1 lb pork sausage
1 c. heavy cream
1 tsp sage
1/2 tsp salt
1/2 tsp red pepper flakes (optional)
1 c. chicken broth
1/4 tsp Xanthum gum
Cook sausage in skillet, break up into little pieces. add 1 c. chicken broth, stir. Sprinkle Xanthum gum slowly as you mix. Let simmer and stir until thickened. Stir in heavy cream and seasoning until to thickened to desired consistency. Serve over Good biscuits recipe below:

Good Biscuits (9 = 2.5 carbs)
1.5 C Almond flour (Kirkland brand is my favorite!!)
pinch salt
1 T. Baking powder
2 eggs
1/3 c. sour cream
4 T. Melted butter
(optional for cheesy garlic biscuits: 1/3 c. cheddar cheese & 1/2 t. garlic powder)
Bake at 400 for 10-12 min.

Fat Head Pizza Dough (we use for cheesy garlic bread as well or pigs in a blanket) (2 carbs/ slice)
1.5 c. shredded mozzarella cheese
3/4 c. almond flour
2 T. cream cheese
1 egg, beaten
garlic powder to taste
Put mozzarella and cream cheese in microwaveable bowl and microwave for 1 min. stir and continue another 30 sec. (very hot). Stir in beaten egg and flour. Wet hands and spread "dough" on parchment paper on a baking sheet. It should even like a dough, if stringy, warm in microwave a few more sec. Poke holes with a fork to avoid bubbles. Sprinkle with seasoning. Bake at 425 for 8 min. poke more holes with fork if bubbling. Continue baking for 8 more min. until slightly brown. Top with favorite toppings and cook for 8 min or until cheese browns.

I'll try to update this blog when I find new ones too!
At the bottom are some tips to help if you feel symptoms from detox of carbs, like headaches/ dizziness/ tiredness (when you first start especially).

The Hard Lessons pt. 2

noreply@blogger.com (Amy Middleton) — Wed, 03 Jun 2015 17:48:00 +0000

So we just read about how Jesus let a lot of disciples quit (The Hard lessons pt.1). He just let them go. Things got hard, and they just chose to walk away from eternity because of a hard lesson. Woah.

This leads me to my next thought.

In Matthew 19:24 Jesus said to his disciples "Again I tell you, it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God." This is a lesson he was trying to teach the disciples after an encounter with a rich young man who desired eternal life (to know Jesus). He was asking what he had to do to get eternal life. Jesus told him that even after he honored all the commandments that he was still lacking something. Sell your possessions. Give up the one thing in your life you trust in the most. The most comforting thing you have, the thing you have that you feel valued by. Go, give it up.

vs 22 "When the young man heard this, he went away sad, because he had great wealth."

Jesus just let this kid walk away from him sad.

Doesn't that go against everything you feel like you know about Jesus? Doesn't He go after that 1 lost sheep? Doesn't He love everyone?

Stop the presses. Jesus didn't chase that kid down. He didn't run to him, or put His arm around him and comfort him, saying "maybe you'll feel like giving up that idol one day, just come along." No. Jesus immediately goes and teaches us a hard lesson, and let the kid leave, sad.

Being a Christian and following God means you surrender it ALL. We cannot love God with all our hearts and yet keep our ______ to ourselves. (name your vice).

Jesus teaches us hard lessons because God is Holy. Because he LOVES us and wants to be with us for eternity (not just feel happy on earth). If we want to be with Him for all eternity, we must be willing to give up everything to gain EVERYTHING. Capital, EVERYTHING meaning His eternal love, His presence and the benefits of the Creator of the Universe! And the sobering truth is, not everyone will finish the race.

There are many people out there today that will try to make those hard lessons easier, try to make that eye of the needle bigger, so people don't feel rejected or sad. Jesus doesn't need our help. He drew that line in the sand. He loves with a perfect and holy love, and we must love others that way too... but we must Know Jesus, and learn these hard lessons so we can live like Him and with Him for eternity.

The Hard Lessons pt. 1

noreply@blogger.com (Amy Middleton) — Wed, 03 Jun 2015 17:42:00 +0000

John 6:60 "On hearing it [the message Jesus taught], many of his disciples said "This is a hard teaching. Who can accept it?"... "From this time many of his disciples turned back and no longer followed him."

Woah. These were disciples. Not just random people hearing Jesus for the first time. They had been with JESUS. In the flesh. God. The epitome of Love. Jesus. Yet they turned back and no longer followed him. After one hard lesson. OUCH!

I'm not gonna lie. When I read passages like this, they get to me. That is tough! How can people, who are considered disciples, so easily turn away from Jesus? They aren't just church hopping. They aren't just taking their ball and going home. They are walking away from... God. Jesus just let those disciples quit.

Why would they quit?

A lot of them may have realized He wasn't who they thought He was. They were expecting the Messiah to come in the form of a conquering King. Jesus wasn't who they expected. Following Him didn't live up to their expectations.
A lot of them might have felt like their requests and needs weren't getting met (selfish maybe?).
A lot of them might have thought His words were offensive and had trouble understanding things like faith vs. deeds or what He was trying to get across.

It's so easy to be tempted to turn away when Jesus' lessons are hard. Will you give up? Will you ignore what you don't like about Jesus and what he challenges us in? Will you reject the one true God?

Have courage. Jesus teaches us hard lessons sometimes, that's nothing new. It's so easy in this day and age to give into the easy way out, to make excuses and reason to yourself why "giving up everything to follow Jesus didn't really mean "everything""... or did it. He is Holy, set apart, and has to set us apart so we can be with Him.

... verse 67"You do not want to leave too, do you?" Jesus asked the Twelve. Simon Peter answered him "Lord, to whom shall we go? You have the words of eternal life."

When hard lessons in life happen, which perspective will you have? "there is no where else to go but with you Jesus" or "this is too hard, I quit". Jesus is the Holy One of God. I hope I can walk with Him through the hard lessons of life.

Read more in The Hard Lessons pt. 2

Hungry?

noreply@blogger.com (Amy Middleton) — Fri, 11 Jan 2013 21:33:00 +0000

The correlation between eating healthy foods and being spiritually healthy is pretty amazing. It's the start of a new year. How many of you are saying "I'm going to eat better" or "I'm going to start reading the Bible more", etc... I know I'm in that boat! So what are some things we need to change to get spiritually hungry, and to be healthy? Many times when we feel like God is far away or like we can't muster up enough energy to spend time with Him, the reason is because you aren't doing anything to get hungry.

When you want to get healthy one of the keys is to stop snacking on junk food. To stop filling up on unhealthy things. How many times do we choose the easy way out, stick to our comfort foods and graze, just getting bits and pieces here and there, or picking the pre-packaged, boxed "fillers"... yet remain hungry or start realizing you are filling on junk, that leaves you feeling worse? A good place to start is to begin by fasting. It's good to detox every once in a while! Fasting is like hitting the reset button physically and spiritually. It's showing God what is most important to you. It's a great place to check the motives of your heart and to stop for a moment and re-align where you are getting your nourishment from.

It dawned on me recently that the reason we (I) don't feel spiritually hungry (a deep desire to spend time with God/ know more about Him) sometimes is because we are filling ourselves with junk food. We snack on things which turns out to be just enough to curb our appetite, but not enough to nourish us and keep us satisfied. We snack on sermons, books, worship, godly advice etc, but we don't sit down at God's table and dine with him. We don't go deep in the Word or prayer where the real nuggets of truth can fill us and nourish us. Some of those snacks seem healthy, and can be, but they are never as whole as sitting down and reading the Bible, allowing God to speak revelation to you, seeking His face. We can even snack on completely unhealthy things- things that can lead to or are sin... or even the things that don't "seem that bad" like TV or advice from someone, or social media (and the list can go on). They are just enough to hold us off emotionally so we don't feel the need or desire to spend time with God.

Let me just say from experience on the roller coaster of life, you gotta always check your appetite. Check what you are filling up on. Check where you get refreshed and if you ARE really getting refreshed at all! I don't think you can truly be refreshed aside from being in God's presence. Sit at the table and DINE with God. Eat of HIS food, and see how healthy you get!

Merry Christmas from the Middleton's!

noreply@blogger.com (Amy Middleton) — Wed, 19 Dec 2012 16:18:00 +0000

Merry Christmas 2012!

Technology sure has changed the way we keep in touch these days! For the past 7 years we have always mailed out Christmas cards with an updated family photo. It feels a little strange to do a digital version, but it just fit our family this year! Feel free to print out the picture if you want a hard copy, haha!

This year has been a blur, in a great way! Time really does fly when you have fun! As you can see in the photo above, our kids are growing like weeds! Keeping up with the 3 balls of energy in our house has made the time fly!

We are on year 2 of our church plant to South Florida! It's been quite a journey so far and we are just beginning! We have our challenges, but God has been so good and we are seeing awesome things happening around us. It is an honor and privilege to be here, and we are blessed with the people God has been surrounding us with! The best is definitely yet to come!

For a little family update, Ross just turned 32! He loves learning how to navigate being a lead pastor and building relationships with people in our church and community. Best of all, is his love for his role of husband and father! For his 32nd birthday, he has a Rocket Man experience (water jet pack in the ocean!) to do! It's never boring around here!

For myself, 31 (yikes!), the 1st half of 2012 was survival mode with the addition of baby boy #3 (Will) and his learning how to sleep. Once the 2nd half of the year began I finally feel back in the groove of life. This is the first year both Aiden & Eli have been in school, so it's been a nice to have the one on one time with Will. I have really enjoyed leading small groups and our KidNation children's ministry. Recently, you'll find me most often bike riding with the boys, grocery shopping or folding laundry, haha!

Aiden is now 7 years old! He is in 1st grade. He is Mr. Socialite. Aiden would tell you his favorite thing in school is math (doesn't get that from me!). He also has really started getting into chapter books, his favorite right now- Captain Underpants. :) Aiden and Eli both played on a basketball league this year, and that was so fun, Ross got to coach too! It may be hard to believe but they are really starting to show signs of growing up, Lightning McQueen has been over taken with super hero's in capturing Aiden's heart! You can sum up Aiden's personality as "I want to impress you," haha.

Eli is 5 years old, and in Pre-K. He never ceases to surprise us. He picked up bike riding with no training wheels real quick and practically lives on his bike now. When he's not riding, he practices basketball so he can play for FSU one day (according to him). :) Eli had a hard adjustment to school (even though it's only 3 hours a day) haha, but now he loves it and has made some good friends. Eli is best friends with Aiden and one of the best big brother's ever to Will. I couldn't ask for anything more, and pray it stays that way for life! A summary of Eli's personality is "I'll do it when and how I want to," lol.

Will is now 15 months old! He started walking on his own just a few weeks ago, and that kid is fearless! This past year has been such a joy to watch him grow. His smile is priceless and he is always keeping us on our toes. He is fascinated with light, and I think he knows more Korean words than English words (thanks to our friends Bella & Elizabeth). He is happiest outside or climbing things (like the ladder to the top bunk of the boys bed!). He really is a sweet heart that loves to give hugs and make us all laugh. So far, Will's personality is "I'm a mama's boy." :)

On a sadder note, Ross' grandpa, Papa, passed away today. We'd appreciate a prayer for the family as they hold the funeral over the weekend. Thanks!

We hope your Christmas season finds you well, and hopeful for the future!

On to the future- Happy 2013!

With love in Christ,

Ross, Amy & the boys

Aiden & Eli's 1st Basketball games!

noreply@blogger.com (Amy Middleton) — Tue, 03 Jul 2012 01:25:00 +0000

The big boys are on different teams- Eli is on the "Sharks" and he is the one (#1 white team) with his arms up in the middle of the screen (at both sides of the court, haha!), his team won 12-6! Aiden is (#14 white team) the cute (but dorky) one with the tucked in jersey & short shorts (they got wrong sizes, haha!) Aiden actually gets an assist, and he made a score later on to tie up the game 4-4! His team is the "FireBalls". Ross gets to help coach both teams.

The Good Fight of Faith

noreply@blogger.com (Amy Middleton) — Sat, 23 Jun 2012 00:40:00 +0000

The topic of faith has been on my mind a lot lately. What it really means to have faith in God. There is a song by Caedmon's Call called Shifting Sand that used to always bother me because as you can see in the lyrics it said "my faith is like shifting sand, changed by every wave". I guess I never really related to that feeling until recently with some things I've been dealing with. I've felt like Jekyll & Hyde lately with my faith and doubt. Thankfully faith days have been winning out lately.

As I was reading Romans 4 one day I came across this passage, vs. 19: 19Without weakening in his faith, he faced the fact that his body was as good as dead—since he was about a hundred years old—and that Sarah's womb was also dead. 20Yet he did not waver through unbelief regarding the promise of God, but was strengthened in his faith and gave glory to God, 21being fully persuaded that God had power to do what he had promised. 22This is why "it was credited to him as righteousness."

This challenged me. I don't have to ignorantly, blindly step out in faith... but I can face the facts. Realize what reality looks like... while not weakening in my faith or waver in unbelief, but I can look at reality and see that God is bigger, stronger and mightier than any situation and circumstance I see as reality and trust that He cares for me, and is a victorious God that can bring transformation.

I always battle with trying to muster up in my own strength, faith. Which ends up looking like "talking myself into it" and ignoring the facts and determining whether I feel faith well up in me or not. When in reality faith is not something I can "do" to get results. I can't tell myself "have faith, and God will answer your prayers". It is a gift of God that I must call upon him for.

Meeting the Needs

noreply@blogger.com (Amy Middleton) — Sat, 23 Jun 2012 00:37:00 +0000

There are so many needs out there. It can be overwhelming when you think too much about it. From tasks in your job, to taking care of the poor, hurt, or homeless, to friendships and relationships, how do you do it all without getting burned out?

I've been thinking about this lately. Dealing within our family alone, meeting the needs of a husband and 3 young boys, as well as serving in the church and connecting with family and friends, it does get overwhelming at times. The last thing I want is to be incapacitated simply because I was too concerned with what was going on around me, rather than meeting the needs within myself.

What I get back to each time is we must make sure we are refilling our cup. How easy is it for us to constantly give, serve and pour out, to the point it comes from our own strength and eventually runs dry. In 1 Cor. 10 Paul saw the tendency of people to be so concerned with helping others (which is a good thing) all the while neglecting their own spiritual lives, disciplines and health (enter the bad part). It is much harder to give of yourself when you are empty, and that is where we put ourselves at risk.

Where it is a GREAT thing to put others needs before ourselves, and to desire to help others, if we aren't taking care of ourselves, how will we truly be of any help? In our small group this week, we talked about this very thing. An example from my own life we laughed at, was as a mom, how concerned are we that our kids are bathed, fed well, and sleep well, yet we forget to eat lunch ourselves, or even sometimes take a shower (gasp!). How similar is it with our spiritual lives.

When our relationship with God is put first, we will be able to really help others. When we find the way that we refresh ourselves best, we can refresh others. That is when we find as we are generous and refresh others, we will be refreshed, (Prov 11:25). The point: how can you give and be generous if you don't have anything stored up to give? If Jesus needed to retreat and refill with God, how much more do we as humans need to!

On a practical note, here are some ways I have been thinking that best re-energize my life:
- Spending time with God- reading, praying, worshiping. (for me it looks more broken up throughout the day according to nap times, etc at this phase of my life).
- Really engaging with worship and responding to the Word (at church & at home).
- Getting some extended quality time with God when I can.
- Staying accountable with someone (for me it's Ross- when we go on a date we ask each other what God is speaking to us lately)
- 1x a year Ross and I try to do a "spiritual retreat"(overnight with no kids, intentionally praying and seeking God together).

What are some things you need to change, or what are tips you have to refill your cup?

Mean Girls turn Nice?

noreply@blogger.com (Amy Middleton) — Fri, 27 Apr 2012 01:41:00 +0000

When the movie Mean Girls came out, I thought it was hilarious. I think everyone can identify coming across characters like at some point in their life. I was reminded of this story last week when I shared about True Beauty at a girls night.

I was in middle school. As if that time of your life isn't hard enough with your hormones raging, pimples rearing their ugly heads (stories of that to come), the word awkward pretty much sums up how you dress/look/feel. Well, I had braces & bangs. BIG bangs, the kind that started half way back on my head. That didn't help. I was desperate to grow those suckers out, but of course bangs are the slowest to ever grow.

One morning I had enough. I was going to pin those bad boys up some how. I pulled a "pebbles" and used a nice fluffy scrunchy and TONS of hairspray and tamed them in a way that looked like some of the cheerleaders (aka cool girls).

I was feeling pretty good about myself. When I got to about 4th period that day our class was watching a movie and the hairspray started wearing off. One by one my bangs started jetting STRAIGHT out, eventually looking like stiff fingers coming out of my forehead. OMG. What do I do? I started to panic. I frantically looked around the room for help.

I saw 2 cheerleaders (who typically played the mean girls role) across the room snickering at me. I thought I was a goner. They motioned to me to crawl over to their desks in the back of the room. I thought for sure it was to make fun of me.

I think they saw how desperate I was and actually played the good samaritan! Mean girls with compassion?! I couldn't believe it, I was humiliated, but this gave me a glimmer of hope. I will never forget how those girls helped me out. Needless to say I never pulled a pebbles again.

Moral of the story: Don't try to be someone you're not.... and be kind to everyone, you never know when you may need their help.

Dusting it off...

noreply@blogger.com (Amy Middleton) — Thu, 26 Apr 2012 01:21:00 +0000

it's been a good minute, okay, okay, 2 solid years since I have used my keyboard for blogging purposes. I am interested to see where this goes. I've been a bit busy, but it has been on my mind.

I have been weighing the purpose- I think twitter temporarily satisfied my need to share thoughts/ happenings/ humorous moments/ life lessons I'm learning along the way... I mean, is blogging as popular as it was or is it a dying fad? I've always enjoyed writing, and this is a great way to practice and learn how to form thought-out ideas, I won't lie when I say I wouldn't be disappointed if this turned into something a little more permanent (even paperback). :)

So as to not put the cart before the horse, let's see if I can be consistent. If I have anything worth sharing. If I can put to words all these silly little thoughts swirling around in my mind.

Any topics of interest out there? Do share!

Just Keep Going

noreply@blogger.com (Amy Middleton) — Thu, 15 Apr 2010 02:48:00 +0000

What do you do when something you have been believing for hasn't happened or seems to end in disappointment?

Just keep going. Life goes on. Baby steps.

We must remember: His Grace IS Sufficient. When things don't go they way you want or expect, don't forget God is the author of our story, and tests our motives. His Grace is sufficient. 2 Corinthians 12:9. We need to believe that not only will we make it, but when we are in God's Will we will not only survive in it, but thrive.

Another thing that has been swirling around in my head is something Pastor Mark Batterson says all the time: "Don't put a period where God puts a comma, and don't put a comma where God puts a period."

Just keep going.

Being Intentional

noreply@blogger.com (Amy Middleton) — Mon, 12 Apr 2010 01:30:00 +0000

There are so many thing we need to be intentional on, our relationship with God, being a good friend, keeping marriage lively, raising non-mediocre kids, and the list goes on...

One area that has been on my heart a lot recently is being intentional to have a Christ- Centered Family. We can not just say we have a Christian home because we go to church, and Ross and I happen to be pastors. I went to the Focus on the Family Parenting Conference a few months ago, where I realized we need to be more intentional in changing the culture in our homes for Christ, not just outside our homes, hoping that rubs off on the kids.

We as parents have to take responsibility to change in the home and spiritually develop our kids, not just hope that they get it from an average of under 30 hrs a year in Sunday school or going to youth group. Mom's and Dad's are 2-3x's more influential than church programs. (which on a ministry side note, makes me realize we need to be spending more time, energy and resources in equipping parents to be able to have faith in the home) Deut. 6:1-20 really addresses our role as parents.

To being changing the culture in your home we need to know, you can't pass something on to your kids, that you don't have yourself. 61% of Churched teens don't got to church after 20- the #1 reason: Hypocracy. Do you live what you say you believe behind closed doors?

We are trying to start a new tradition as a family, we call it: Sunday Night Lights (well, I call it that, Ross just laughs) :) We try, at least 1x a month to do a small group bible study as a family. Originally the goal was to do it every week, but that was near impossible to be consistent because of schedules and random things popping up, so we have resolved to 1x a month. Glad to say we're on month 3, and it seems to be going good & the boys get excited about it! This isn't the only way we are trying to do to place Christ at the center of our home, but one of many. Another thing we do every night is read a bible story with the kids. FYI: So far my 2 fav. kids bibles are This One and This One. :)

Here are some things we've done so far:
Ross and I rotate leading each time. The elements we try to have each time are Worship, Bible Story, Illustration, Scripture Memory, Prayer. We keep it simple.

The 1st Sunday Night Lights we Read and Reenacted the story about David and Goliath. It was hilarious how into it the boys got with their swords, pretend sling shots and knocking daddy-Goliath down! They learned: God always wins his battles!

2nd we read about Elijah and the prophets of Baal. We actually went outside and had 2 clay flower pots, put paper in them, got one wet and left one dry. We showed how God lit Elijah's sacrifice on fire, but the prophets couldn't get their god to do it. They LOVED the fire, lol. They learned: God is most powerful!

3rd we read Jonah, I put a big blanket on me, and when Jonah was thrown out of the boat during the reading, I "swam" up to the boys and swallowed them in the blanket, they had to say "sorry for running away" to get out. Needless to say, it was a hit. :) They learned: Never run away from God, and Obey God.

I, as a parent, need as much help as I can get, and want to share what I'm trying out. I would love to hear your ideas too!

Bedtime Battles

noreply@blogger.com (Amy Middleton) — Tue, 06 Apr 2010 03:06:00 +0000

We are into a new phase in our house... we affectionately have deemed it "bedtime battles". The boys are GREAT sleepers, I am so thankful for that... but actually getting them to sleep is getting harder and harder, this is new for us.

I would love any advice... here is what happens:

We have a consistent routine, starting at 7 or 7:30 we bathe, brush teeth, get p.j.'s on, pick out a book and a bible story to read, pray and sing a few songs together. That generally goes smoothly. Then the lights go out, and the battles begin...

Aiden is having the hardest time. Eli is usually pretty calm and quiet, unless Aiden tells him to do something naughty. We have 2 simple rules- 1. stay in bed. 2. be quiet. I don't mind if they talk, laugh or sing (as long as it's quietly), but lately they (Aiden) are breaking the 2 simple rules over and over and over and over...

We are super consistent about the rules and disciplining when they aren't followed, but Aiden is king of stalling and both of them are oh so stubborn! Yelling for bathroom, water, kisses, hugs, blanket put just right, or certain stuffed animals. I am trying my hardest to be strong, but I would love any suggestions if you have gone though this battle! I feel like I am forced to get my "angry eyes" on every night, and it is making me sad. I don't want them going to sleep with me having to be so hard on them!

What to do.

Where God gives the Vision, He gives the ProVision

noreply@blogger.com (Amy Middleton) — Fri, 02 Apr 2010 21:54:00 +0000

That is a saying our pastor at NCC, Mark Batterson, says all the time, and more and more I see how true it is.

Ross and I have been living on financial support from many partners (from individuals and a few churches) for the past 7 years. It's been amazing how God has provided every pay check, and above.

I just wanted to testify on one of the many levels to His Goodness on this Good Friday. In marriage, it is so important to keep a consistent date night, for many reasons. I am so incredibly thankful that where God has given us a vision to keep consistent date nights in our marriage, he has amazed us with his Provision.

We joke that we are the King/Queen of the hook up... and I don't say it to brag on us, but on God! These hook ups aren't shabby, from vacations to restaurants. I am extremely thankful. It almost seems silly or trivial to think the Almighty God would care about a simple date night, but He does!

Our budget is beyond "tight" right now... and there is no way we would be able to keep our date nights (which more and more I see how crucial they are!) without God providing in special ways. I am blown away week to week to see the way He is providing. It sounds funny, but I can't remember the last time Ross and I have had to pay out of pocket for a date! We have been blessed in creative ways and with gift cards, and babysitting since we have had kids! I'm not kidding, even thinking back it blows my mind.

All this to say... build your faith! If you have a vision for consistent date nights, pray and believe God and have faith to ask him to provide. He won't let you down!

A quick (but not exhaustive) thank you list:
Joel
Elizabeth
Grace
Mom & Dad
Jim & Martha
Anonymous NCCers
Stephanie
Shelby
and the list goes on...

Miami Fall 2010!!

noreply@blogger.com (Amy Middleton) — Tue, 30 Mar 2010 13:21:00 +0000

Here is why we are moving to Miami... and how YOU can play a part!

Not dead but Asleep

noreply@blogger.com (Amy Middleton) — Wed, 24 Mar 2010 19:19:00 +0000

I was reading Mark 5: 21-43 today and the reality of this passage lights me up.

So the man's daughter is going to die, and he wants Jesus to go touch her. Jesus starts going in that direction, but gets "side tracked" by mobs of people needing/wanting him, and he stops to spend time "healing another with His touch" (the lady with the issue of blood). So the man gets upset that it's too late now, and his daughter has died. Jesus ignores what they say, goes and raises her from the dead.

Here are some points to consider:

1- Jesus demonstrated a healing through touch (just what the man wanted Him to do for his daughter), but that still didn't sink in to him- to have faith, like the woman w/ blood.

2- God's timing and order are perfect, and have a purpose.

3- God is God and we are not. We may grumble and complain that our prayers aren't answered the way we think or as fast as we think they should be, but there is a reason.

4- It just takes one word, one touch, one thought from Jesus and it's done.

So... do you have a prayer or a dream that you have asked God to come touch?

Maybe God has to do a few other miracles first on the way to fulfilling your dream.
Maybe God is building Hope and Trust in you, even when the dream looks dead.
Maybe God is wanting to demonstrate His greater power in your situation, rather than answer your prayer the easy way like you expect.
Maybe God wants to see if your Hope is in Him, more than in the dream you seek.
Maybe God wants to build your faith first by doing something else that looks to you like He's gettting side tracked. We need to think bigger picture!

"Don't be afraid. Just Believe"- Mark 5:36

Thoughts by Martin Luther

noreply@blogger.com (Amy Middleton) — Thu, 18 Mar 2010 19:59:00 +0000

I was reading some great quotes by Martin Luther, and thought I would share some powerful ones:

Pray, and let God worry.

If I am not allowed to laugh in heaven, I don't want to go there.

Every man must do two things alone; he must do his own believing and his own dying.

Next to the Word of God, the noble art of music is the greatest treasure in the world.

Whatever your heart clings to and confides in, that is really your God.

There are so many other great quotes, I recommend you check out some of his writings!

So True.

noreply@blogger.com (Amy Middleton) — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 22:38:00 +0000

Saw this quote in an article this week and it has stuck with me. I'm reading through the Bible in one year with NCC right now and it truly is coming to life for me!

When asked if he accepted the historical existence of Jesus, the famous scientist, Albert Einstein, once told George Sylvester Viereck in a 1929 interview: "Unquestionably. No one can read the Gospels without feeling the actual presence of Jesus. His personality pulsates in every word. No myth is filled with such life. How different, for instance, is the impression which we receive from an account of legendary heroes of antiquity like Theseus. Theseus and other heroes of his type lack the authentic vitality of Jesus."

They Never Cease to Amaze Me

noreply@blogger.com (Amy Middleton) — Fri, 19 Feb 2010 20:27:00 +0000

It's hard not to compare my boys to each other. It's amazing to me how the DNA passed and they are so different. Aiden's personality is a lot like mine, and Eli's like Ross. Yet they share some, go figure.

I try not to compare them too much, because they ARE so different. Aiden was running by 10 months old and could read the whole alphabet by 18 mo, Eli didn't even try to walk until 17 months and is 26 months old now and still hasn't done the whole alphabet. haha. Aiden is mr. social, and just the other day on our walk home from school, passing the Capitol and all the "important Hill staffers" and he waved to EVERY person and said "Good Afternoon!". (that was a fun social experiment!). Where Eli is a little timid when he firsts meets people and it takes a minute for him to warm up (then he's about just as social).

So the other day we were at church and I was trying to pass the time while waiting for Ross to finish talking. It's always a battle to keep the boys content, so I asked them to start counting the chairs. Eli just started right up! From the kid who has only counted to 3 ONE TIME before, he, just plain as day, counted perfectly and loudly 1 all the way through to 10!!! I didn't even know he had it in him!!!

Now I don't feel as guilty that I haven't had as much 1 on 1 time with him teaching him (being the 2nd child) stuff like that as I did with Aiden, he has somehow absorbed it without me even trying! Phew! :)

Never Thought I'd Admit....

noreply@blogger.com (Amy Middleton) — Sun, 07 Feb 2010 01:53:00 +0000

...that I miss Florida Weather. There. I said it. :) I grew up in Florida pretty much my whole life. I always thought I'd want to live more up North where I could have all 4 seasons. After being gone for 5 months now, it's true, I miss it!

Don't get me wrong, it is really pretty seeing the leaves change, and to get to play in snow. That is really fun. But the cold is just relentless! I have been used to N. Florida for the past 10 years and it getting pretty cold, then the next day up in the 70's. :) I loved wearing jackets and everything, but now after having to wear jackets and gloves and hats every day since October, I'm over it. lol.

I cannot wait for Spring! I Never thought I'd admit it, but I'm a Florida Girl. I am getting the most out of my time here in DC while I can, and enjoying the almost 30" of snow we got today... but I am now honestly really excited to move back to Florida in the Fall!

The Way to My Little Man's Heart

noreply@blogger.com (Amy Middleton) — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 01:10:00 +0000

The cutest thing happened today. Eli was taking a sweet long nap this afternoon. I had to wake him up to get to Sat. night church. Aiden and I were both sweetly trying to wake him up and he was sleeping so hard. He started getting mad and kicking.

Then Aiden walked in with a bag of popcorn.

Without Eli even opening his eyes he softly says "popcorn?" and got a little grin (eyes still closed) and slowly started sitting up. My Little Man has a good sniffer! I can't believe that made him get up so happily and that he knew the smell so good!

Using some Johnny Maxwell in the Family :)

noreply@blogger.com (Amy Middleton) — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 03:10:00 +0000

Something we are working on in our household lately is a simple little concept known as Self-Control. I am so convicted lately because I realize that "everything rises and falls on leadership" as John Maxwell says, and that doesn't just apply to the workplace, it completely relates to family life. How I go, is how the family tends to go.

If I want my kids to show self-control, I HAVE to show it first. This doesn't sound that a "light bulb" moment, but it is in my head. Every time I start to feel my blood pressure start to rise when the boys are getting wild, the first question that pops in my head now is "what am I doing?". It can spin out of control FAST if I don't take that second to pause and collect myself and assess.

Some tips I've heard that seem to help us with a 2 & 4 yr old are:
1. Get your kid to say the word. example: if they are being impatient and want something, make them stop and say the word "patient" and go over the definition. By the time they repeat it, it usually gets them to calm down enough that you can "talk". If it gets ugly from there, you know discipline must ensue. :) This works when trying to get them to learn any of the fruits of the Spirit.
2. The calmer you are, the quicker you see a change in their attitude. I am definitely working on. I get easily revved up, and I learned this lesson from watching the few episodes of the Duggar family with 18 kids, that mom is amazing how calm she stays in chaos.
3. Take a time out. As much as the kids may need it, I do too. :) If I don't take a few minutes to recollect myself, it's not pretty. This also goes for "time off". I don't like using that term, but it's the best way I can describe it. Taking a few hours, have someone stay with the kids (usually my hubby in my case) and decompress. My goal is to try to do that once a week.

So I in no way have it all figured out, and would love ANY tips you may have for teaching self-control and patience. This is a work in progress. :)

Kid Friendly Big Cities?

noreply@blogger.com (Amy Middleton) — Sun, 17 Jan 2010 03:07:00 +0000

We got to travel up to NYC the 1st week of January to visit my sister in law and her hubby. We had a great time, but I discovered 1 thing, NYC is not kid friendly. I love visiting the Big Apple. This was our first trip with the boys. We had a great time. The 2 famous huge toy stores were the big hit for sure. NYC does have some great things to offer for little kids, Central Park, Times Square Toys R Us, FAO Schwartz, and a few others.... but the NYC Subway system is NOT, I repeat NOT kid friendly. I think I have gotten spoiled in DC with their Metro system & free events/museums.

#1 We don't have a rat problem here,

#2 we have elevators at every Metro stop, and escalators too,

#3 you have to pay for just about everything.

The entire time we were in NYC we didn't see 1 elevator or escalator for the stroller. Luckily we just brought our small umbrella one and we had extra hands, because we would have been out of luck if we had the double stroller.

So note to self, if you feel the itch to go to a big city with little kids, I recommend Washington, DC... so many free great places to go with kids, and a friendly Metro for sure! If you live in NYC- God Bless you if you have children, I don't know HOW you do it. :) Don't worry I still {heart} NYC!

Monthly Ministry Newsletters

noreply@blogger.com (Amy Middleton) — Sat, 09 Jan 2010 04:05:00 +0000

If you are interested in reading our monthly ministry newsletters or signing up to be on the email list for them, let me know. Here is a link to check it out!

Middleton Monthly Ministry Newsletter

noreply@blogger.com (Amy Middleton) — Sat, 09 Jan 2010 04:02:00 +0000