Life By Design

Criticism and Feedback

halleyamor@hotmail.com (Halley Amor) — Thu, 14 Jun 2018 13:03:00 -0700

Believe me when I say, criticism is better for you than praise. Praise has the power to make you feel good, Criticism has the power to make you better! Or really you have the power to use criticism to make yourself better. Let's talk about this and why I adopted the idea to welcome criticism.

Here is the link to the podcast:
Criticism and Feedback
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I Feel Pretty

halleyamor@hotmail.com (Halley Amor) — Thu, 17 May 2018 10:24:00 -0700

How do you feel about your body? This can be a hard topic. But the big lie in life is that the value of our body is tied to the appearance of our body. This is 100% not true. Your body is an amazing miracle! And when we know this we can move from shame to power, and we can show ourselves and then others the inner beauty that we have inside us!

I Feel Pretty

Here is the link to the podcast:
I Feel Pretty
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You Are Enough

halleyamor@hotmail.com (Halley Amor) — Thu, 10 May 2018 22:16:00 -0700

No matter who you are, no matter what you do, you are enough. Today, right now, right where you are. When we come to know that we are freed from trying to earn our worth and able to really live our lives.

You Are Enough

Here is the link to the podcast:
Episode 9 Enough
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Power of thought

halleyamor@hotmail.com (Halley Amor) — Thu, 3 May 2018 10:35:00 -0700

Do you actually believe you can do anything you 'put your mind' to? I am re-learning this as a truth I once knew as a kid but now as an adult didn't fully believe. Our thoughts are so powerful, and what can we gain from harnessing that power? The answer is everything!

Power of Thought

Here is the link to the podcast:
Power of thoughts
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Mental Exercise

halleyamor@hotmail.com (Halley Amor) — Wed, 25 Apr 2018 12:17:00 -0700

Do you work out? Do you Count calories, or macros? We often spend time, energy and even money working on our physical health. But what do you do to work on your mental health? Do you have a mental health routine? This episode is geared toward helping you come up with one that works for you. Our mental health affects every aspect of our lives.

Mental Exercise

Here is the link to the podcast:
Mental Exercise
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Thinking Errors

halleyamor@hotmail.com (Halley Amor) — Wed, 18 Apr 2018 10:20:00 -0700

This one is long and full of good info. As promised in this episode below you will find all 10 thinking errors typed out with a brief description.

Thinking Errors

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Thinking Errors
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Thinking Errors

1. All-or-Nothing Thinking: You see things in black-and-white categories. If your performance falls short of perfect you see yourself as a total failure.

2. Over-generalization: You see a single negative event as a never-ending pattern of defeat.

3. Mental Filter: You pick out a single negative detail and dwell on it exclusively so that your vision of all reality becomes darkened, like a drop of ink that colors an entire beaker of water.

4. Disqualifying the Positive: You reject positive experiences by insisting they “don’t count” for some reason or another. In this way you maintain a negative belief that is contradicted by your everyday experiences.

5. Jumping to Conclusions: You make a negative interpretation even though there are no definite facts that convincingly support your conclusion.

Mind reading- you arbitrarily conclude that someone is reacting negatively to you and you don’t bother to check this out.
Fortune Telling- You anticipate that things will turn out badly for you, and you feel convinced that your prediction is already fact.

6. Magnification or Minimization: You exaggerate the importance of things, you own mess up or someone’s achievements, or you inappropriately shrink things until they appear tiny, your own desirable qualities or someone else’s imperfections. This is called the binocular trick.

7. Emotional reasoning: You assume that your negative emotions necessarily reflect the way things are, I feel it so it must be true.

8. Should Statements: You try to motivate yourself with shoulds and shouldn’ts, as if you had to be whipped and punished before you could be expected to do anything.

9. Labeling and Mislabeling: This is an extreme form of over-generalization. Instead of describing your error, you attach a negative label to yourself, or someone else.

10. Personalization: You see yourself as the cause of some negative external event which in fact you were not primarily responsible for.

The Pit of Despair

halleyamor@hotmail.com (Halley Amor) — Wed, 4 Apr 2018 19:19:00 -0700

Today I'm talking about the place no likes, the downs in life, the bottom, the Pit of Despair! It can feel like that when you are in it. How do we get back on top? Can we do anything about it? I say 100% yes. It's hard but it is so worth it. In this episode I share ideas on how to work our way out. And I also share my own personal feelings. They are real and raw, unedited. I share them so we can all see there is hope, light on the other side.

The Pit of Despair

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The Pit of Despair
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Shame and Should

halleyamor@hotmail.com (Halley Amor) — Wed, 28 Mar 2018 08:19:00 -0700

If we want to live a happy, meaningful, connected life we need to talk about the things that get in the way. This podcast is dedicated to one of those things; shame. And a big part of shame is should statements, do you should on yourself? Or on others? This episode I'm talking about why it isn't helpful and what we can do instead.

Shame and Should

Here is the link to the podcast:
Shame and Should

Self Esteem and Individual worth

halleyamor@hotmail.com (Halley Amor) — Wed, 21 Mar 2018 09:51:00 -0700

Here is number 3! This one is a little rocky because, like I mention in the podcast I have had to conquer my own thoughts and feelings to be able to post this. I feel that the reason I have felt so much resistance on this episode is because it is such an important topic. And because when we know our worth and have self esteem we have so much power! So here it is in all it's raw glory. And as promised, here is the vase I talk about.

Play it here!

Link to the podcast: Individual Worth

Is it all in your head?

halleyamor@hotmail.com (Halley Amor) — Thu, 15 Mar 2018 00:44:00 -0700

Can you choose to be happy? Is depression all in your head? Made up, something you have because you just want to be miserable? I believe it isn't, and I explain why and how I came to that conclusion in the following podcast. If you are interested at all, maybe you need a way to explain it to others, maybe you would like to understand it better, give this a listen and let me know what you think.

Here is the link to the podcast:
Is It All In Your head?

Connection vs Suffering

halleyamor@hotmail.com (Halley Amor) — Thu, 8 Mar 2018 11:07:00 -0800

What is the relationship between connection and suffering? Give this podcast a little listen and tell me what you think.
Here is the link to the podcast podcast:
Connection vs Suffering podcast

Halley Amor- Who am I?

halleyamor@hotmail.com (Halley Amor) — Tue, 27 Feb 2018 18:44:00 -0800

I'm so excited to get this blog up and going. I'm so nervous as well. Nervous because this is a place of learning and growth, for me as well as all of you. I will be open and vulnerable with you all in hopes to help that growth take place. I plan to do mostly post podcasts, though you may find other posts here and there as well, like this one. If this reaches the audience I hope it will, there will be listeners/readers who don't know me personally. So for them I will give a brief intro to who I am, not my bio but who I am and why I am doing this blog.

I am full of passion, I love life and I love love love talking. It may be my favorite thing. I am a crier as well. See I love to talk but it just so happens I cry if I feel sad, nervous, angry, overwhelmed. It's really my body's go to reaction. So I talk best to small groups of people, or one or two people at time. I also suffer from depression and have for years. I have learned that I grow and can help others as I talk about my experiences and so I do that. I talk with those close to me, friends and family about all kinds of stuff. I grow, they grow and it's great. But it's not enough for me. I want to share my story, my experiences, my life with a larger audience. So at first knowing myself I didn't let myself have that dream because I know how I get in front of large groups of people. But then I was talking to one of my sisters and I told her my dream and that I needed practice. But how do you get practice talking to large groups of people? She said to do a podcasts, so here I am.

I hope to talk about all things important to living the life you want, to help you design your life, your way. I would love comments and feed back, topic ideas and any input you have. When you do leave input please remember, in the end only kindness matters.