tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33013775Thu, 24 Oct 2024 18:44:08 +0000................The calculated destruction of social anxiety and shynesshttp://dayitriedtolive.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.com (mico)Blogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33013775.post-8696901262187843986Tue, 11 Dec 2007 21:08:00 +00002007-12-11T21:34:37.494+00:00For any of you that have visited this blog before, and God forbid, if there are any regular readers, then you'll notice a new layout. But it's not just a pretty picture...Besides the layout, you’ll notice a few additions, beginning with the Amazon advertisements. Just to set the record straight, it’s not my intention to make money from this blog. The ads are there for the sake of curiosity more http://dayitriedtolive.blogspot.com/2007/12/newness.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (mico)3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33013775.post-8667158417535736454Mon, 10 Dec 2007 20:38:00 +00002007-12-10T20:43:37.224+00:00When I suffered from acute anxiety, I would blame my avoidance tendencies and growing agoraphobia on one thing only – nausea.See, if I didn’t feel like I was going to throw up at any instant while standing at the checkout in the local supermarket or simply talking to a neighbor, there would be nothing to fear, surely? So what if I get a little flustered, I can handle that. But knowing that at anyhttp://dayitriedtolive.blogspot.com/2007/12/its-only-label.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (mico)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33013775.post-8459103433723447220Thu, 13 Sep 2007 19:13:00 +00002007-09-13T20:38:00.359+01:00I got my first comment telling me to go suck myself today, I feel like a real blogger now. Actually, that's a lie, I got it about two weeks ago but only picked it up today because I completely forgot I even had a blog. Yup, professionalism is my middle name. Apologies to all two of you whose comments were left standing for a while, even if one of you does hate me.It's been a long time since I http://dayitriedtolive.blogspot.com/2007/09/i-got-my-first-comment-telling-me-to-go.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (mico)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33013775.post-6228209439125454809Mon, 02 Apr 2007 18:10:00 +00002007-04-02T21:02:48.027+01:00Firstly, if there are any regular readers, I must make one final and sincere apology. I started this blog almost a year ago with a lot of time on my hands. I was able to post on a daily basis along with researching social anxiety. I no longer have that freedom to spend hours and hours making my way through vague ideas and turning them into something usable. But it's not just that. I have a http://dayitriedtolive.blogspot.com/2007/04/look-at-yourself-part-2.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (mico)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33013775.post-2006352581538670018Sat, 24 Mar 2007 11:44:00 +00002007-03-24T13:12:41.363+00:00I came across something of a revelation in thought recently. It's not something entirely new to me, I first came across it about 2 years ago; a book claiming that social anxiety is the product of an increased ability to think of yourself in terms of the third person. An interesting hypothesis I thought at the time, and one that could be partially true, but it was nothing more than free-flowing http://dayitriedtolive.blogspot.com/2007/03/look-at-yourself.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (mico)2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33013775.post-7471633264871034057Wed, 07 Feb 2007 15:53:00 +00002007-02-07T17:24:36.420+00:00I've got this to do, I've got that to do, I need a labotomy, a holiday, more time, a comfy chair, new beginnings, a top hat...I've had enough of hearing my own excuses for not getting involved in this blog. The truth is, the contents herein are important to my well-being. If I don't give them some time my well-being goes down, my productivity goes down, procrastination, depression, anxiety, well,http://dayitriedtolive.blogspot.com/2007/02/lets-roll.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (mico)3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33013775.post-183206427980542820Wed, 27 Dec 2006 19:00:00 +00002006-12-27T19:22:03.812+00:00So, santa's been, the pies have been eaten and you've been stuffing you face with nothing but turkey sandwiches and party sausage rolls. If you're anything like me, then your belly probably doesn't feel at its best right now. But still, many of you are probably already looking forward to next year, and it's always important to look positively into the future, so with that in mind, all the best http://dayitriedtolive.blogspot.com/2006/12/belated-merry-christmas-and-happy-new.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (mico)6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33013775.post-116320014242095816Fri, 10 Nov 2006 21:05:00 +00002006-12-01T08:33:00.893+00:00If there's one fundamental requirement for living the life you want to live, it is the ability to live consciously. It's the ability to make your own decisions and act upon them. As surprising as it may seem, for the average person in everyday living, this ability is nothing more than an illusion.Take an instance of social anxiety for example. Say, you're meeting up with a bunch of friends for http://dayitriedtolive.blogspot.com/2006/11/awakening.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (mico)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33013775.post-116110521062009820Tue, 17 Oct 2006 16:56:00 +00002006-11-12T21:36:01.653+00:00Work is piling up on me day by day. I officially declare myself snowed under, so apologies for not keeping the blog updated as regular as I should. It's a shame because I'm actually excited about making a good start on this, developing some useful methods and making them work, but I just don't have the time to do it right now. I know I say this every post, but I will get around to it as soon as http://dayitriedtolive.blogspot.com/2006/10/incredible-power-of-focus.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (mico)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33013775.post-116067388063075268Thu, 12 Oct 2006 15:26:00 +00002006-10-12T18:24:40.786+01:00It seems I have a lot of work on lately, along with a snot virus and an overwhelming social life, so the blog's been taking a back seat. Ok, I lied about the social life, and the work would be done in very little time at all if only I had any time management skills, but the snot virus is true. So, while I've been busy with other stuff (lying in bed, watching TV, browsing message forums and http://dayitriedtolive.blogspot.com/2006/10/daydreaming.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (mico)5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33013775.post-116014458049635482Fri, 06 Oct 2006 10:07:00 +00002006-11-29T12:14:51.260+00:00This is a concept I was introduced to recently through a documentary called The Secret. The movie itself is the usual cheese you'd expect from a film claiming to offer a secret that has the potential to change your life. Even so, I'm not one to discard a theory simply on the presentation alone, so I watched it, and to tell the truth I felt far more inspired after watching it than what I did http://dayitriedtolive.blogspot.com/2006/10/law-of-attraction.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (mico)4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33013775.post-115981865379177879Mon, 02 Oct 2006 18:15:00 +00002006-10-02T20:50:53.826+01:00Yeah, I know, I've been slack. Over a week has passed and you've not seen one new article. If truth be known I've still been busy. I have plenty of stuff I can write about, filling in the gaps, providing a little reading material for your pleasure (or pain), but I wanted to continue along the lines of writing something more instructional than philosophical. Well, that plan's failing because I http://dayitriedtolive.blogspot.com/2006/10/panic.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (mico)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33013775.post-115893265119181883Fri, 22 Sep 2006 13:23:00 +00002006-09-29T06:56:33.966+01:00That's right, I'm Blog Daddy, soon to be B Diddy, king of the blogs.I've been sat here for the past couple of weeks wondering why I'm getting no comments. Refreshing the page waiting for a glimpse of appreciatation, whiskey in one hand, the other curled up into an unloved fist. Sleeping with one eye open. The feeling of social detachment washing over my senses like...Okay, I could be exagerating http://dayitriedtolive.blogspot.com/2006/09/im-technical-genius.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (mico)2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33013775.post-115886382277579086Thu, 21 Sep 2006 17:37:00 +00002006-11-16T14:55:43.673+00:00That blog hasn't seen many updates this past week or so, life keeps distracting me. Hell, I have a life? Some of this must be working! Part of the reason I haven't updated this is the fact that I wanted to put a well considered action plan in here, or at least the start of something constructive. I could easily have posted the same old crap that I've been putting in here up till now, but I think http://dayitriedtolive.blogspot.com/2006/09/making-start.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (mico)4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33013775.post-115818017608527125Wed, 13 Sep 2006 20:20:00 +00002006-09-19T23:14:37.930+01:00Had a little break from the blog this past few days. A little uncertain of the direction I've been taking it. Now, what I've wrote down here already is all good stuff, and it's all important. But let me tell you, I've been reading this stuff for years now and the changes it has made to me are minimal. It's certainly given me a broad intellectual understanding of the issues I face, what goes on inhttp://dayitriedtolive.blogspot.com/2006/09/practice-makes-perfect.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (mico)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33013775.post-115765770176103778Thu, 07 Sep 2006 18:11:00 +00002006-09-13T00:49:24.580+01:00Someone asked recently about this blog and what I have written here, if I practice what I preach. It's a good question, so I thought I'd answer it here. Everything I have written, do I incorporate it into every aspect of my daily life? No. Has it helped me? Yes.Knowledge is power, but the full extent of that power isn't unleashed until you've experienced it. I'm an introvert and I spend a lot of http://dayitriedtolive.blogspot.com/2006/09/control.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (mico)2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33013775.post-115747361087778676Tue, 05 Sep 2006 14:18:00 +00002006-09-06T12:53:40.610+01:00Introverts and the socially anxious naturally tend to have self-conscious minds. It is this self-absorption that keeps us intricately focused on our continually unfolding problems and emotions. You know how it is, you're standing with a group, you're fairly relaxed listening to the others speak, enjoying the flow of conversation without making much effort to participate, then someone turns to youhttp://dayitriedtolive.blogspot.com/2006/09/self-conscious-mind.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (mico)6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33013775.post-115730242027822708Sun, 03 Sep 2006 14:54:00 +00002006-09-03T17:54:36.096+01:00What are you doing now? Reading this blog whilst simultaneously checking your emails, watching re-runs of Ironside and making a cup of hot chamomile tea? The relaxation stuff is boring, I know, everyone knows it, and this is going to be my last entry on it for now, but honestly, that chamomile tea is a waste if you're doing all this other stuff at the same time.We're lead to believe that our http://dayitriedtolive.blogspot.com/2006/09/one-thing-at-time.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (mico)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33013775.post-115729313283137109Sun, 03 Sep 2006 11:47:00 +00002006-09-09T14:02:53.156+01:00I don't care how boring you think this stuff is. I'm fairly bored at the thought of writing it, the amount of times I've seen this stuff, over and over again. Boring? Maybe. But believe it or not (and the term 'social anxiety' may give this away) anxiety is part of your problem and relaxation will reduce this, so here goes...Note: All relaxation techniques are best practiced without having your http://dayitriedtolive.blogspot.com/2006/09/relax.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (mico)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33013775.post-115721192412349386Sat, 02 Sep 2006 12:31:00 +00002006-09-02T16:55:35.333+01:00Originally I was going to follow up on my last entry and elaborate not only on making friends, but some of the psychology surrounding what I've previously written. I sat down to do just that, yet I could get no further than the title. Not because I didn't know what to write, I have ideas oozing out of my pores for this blog, I really didn't realize I knew so much about this stuff! It was because http://dayitriedtolive.blogspot.com/2006/09/refresh-yourself.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (mico)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33013775.post-115686658759955846Tue, 29 Aug 2006 14:11:00 +00002006-09-05T20:49:58.290+01:00Okay, so I have a new toy and I'm a bit enthusiastic about posting in it. If I'm going too fast, tell me to slow down. I'll be going into a lot more detail later on looking at various techniques/exercises you can use that will develop skills to overcome SA. For now, I've got some more fundamentals for you. This is nothing to do with anxiety of any form but a very useful and simple concept in http://dayitriedtolive.blogspot.com/2006/08/so-you-want-to-make-friends.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (mico)3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33013775.post-115685477165069281Tue, 29 Aug 2006 10:45:00 +00002006-08-29T13:32:53.696+01:00Some of you may be familiar with a Mr Anthony Robbins. Yeah, he's the guy with the pearly white teeth on the late night infomercials living out the American dream and telling you how you can live out that dream too.Personally I'm not a huge fan of the Californian approach to self-help. I can't help but feel these people are living in a different reality to myself, and that is no bad thing, how http://dayitriedtolive.blogspot.com/2006/08/hour-of-power.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (mico)3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33013775.post-115609389776229157Sun, 20 Aug 2006 16:05:00 +00002006-08-28T15:09:38.423+01:00'Keep your thoughts positive, because your thoughts become your words.Keep your words positive, because your words become your behavior.Keep your behavior positive, because your behaviors become your habits.Keep your habits positive, because your habits become your values.Keep your values positive, because your values become your destiny.'- Mahatma GandhiThoughts are the most important events to http://dayitriedtolive.blogspot.com/2006/08/homeland_20.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (mico)2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33013775.post-115608846458130428Sun, 20 Aug 2006 14:22:00 +00002006-08-28T16:01:46.983+01:00Blogs are cool, everyone knows that. If you ain't got a blog, you ain't shit.Fortunately for you, this blog has a purpose. What I intend to do here is raise awareness of social anxiety, offer knowledge, but most importantly develop an action plan that can be used to successfully overcome your social fears.Okay, I said 'develop'...'You're kidding, right? You suck. You haven't got any idea what http://dayitriedtolive.blogspot.com/2006/08/whats-blog-all-about-then.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (mico)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33013775.post-115608091452594403Sun, 20 Aug 2006 13:01:00 +00002006-09-07T02:39:12.326+01:00Social anxiety has many characteristics and surprisingly for some does not always include shyness. Social anxiety is simply a fear of social situations, regardless of how you act within them.Ok, so we all fear social situations at some point in our lives. We fear rejection, we fear embarrassment, we have a whole range of fears which serve to protect us, all of which are healthy anxieties. It is http://dayitriedtolive.blogspot.com/2006/08/what-is-social-anxiety.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (mico)1