Aspie Extremes

Hello, it’s me.

2026-05-15T16:57:39.832-05:00

It’s been a long, long time.

Life happens at a breakneck pace here.

We’ve dealt with death, cancer, pet loss, decision making, family deceit, disruption, moving along, changing mindsets and memories. There’s more but that’s all I can think of right now.

yo its required

2026-05-15T16:56:53.358-05:00

doing what's required

that's all

Say it w emojis

2025-06-02T17:28:00.005-05:00

When I’m heart sore I’ve decided to use emojis

Then I can say what I want and no one can figure it out. Kind of like Sanskrit in 7th grade.

🥺 🥺🥺🥺🥺💔 💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹🖤 🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🎨💅💺🗑️

What’s done is done. I don’t have an obligation to try anymore.

And

😡😤😖😠👿🦁👿😖😤😡🐯🦁👿👿😖😖😖🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬

Aren’t emojis great?!

Self respect

2025-05-24T23:36:00.002-05:00

Blood is thicker than water.

Self respect is thicker than both.

Expression

2025-02-02T23:56:00.002-06:00

Everything, everyone, has a different form of expression.

During times of loss expressions can take on many different forms or meanings.

I’m not certain what this has to do with Asperger’s or living w now an adult who has it. Lately my expressions have been exhibiting grief. Past tense and present grief come to mind.

Recently, I have been called a racist because I returned to the political party I was raised on This assumption was made and shocked me to my core I was not brought up that way I was told that everyone no matter their ancestry was important People are people and all people have value

The person that assumed I was raciwas indoctrinated from a very young age that’s sad Indoctrination is defined below: the process of teaching a person or group to accept a set of beliefs uncritically.

"prisoners are subjected to brainwashing, indoctrination, and punishment"
ARCHAIC
teaching; instruction.
"methods that were approved for indoctrination in divinity"

Being indoctrinated doesn’t mean one is dense, or dumb It does mean that education is lacking within the critical thinking rhetoric So same arguments are rehashed and this whole thing is ridiculous I’m fairly certain new ideas aren’t really considered.
I get a lot of this debate shit from the house Aspy. I detract, distract and go on my merry way. I’m not interested in becoming a sheep, or lemming (jumping into the sea off a cliff ain’t my bag). I’ve never believed that there is a utopia. I was told at a young age that’s I was not important, I was a brat, I was a horrible person and my favorite that no one cared what I thought about anything. I’ve ridded myself of the toxicity.

I forgot. Besides being racist, I need therapy….. for what? Acknowledging that I was verbally assaulted? My son was encouraged by a drug addled adult to make fun of me in front of my face?
Why? So I can forgive and be abused again? No thanks.

My politics are based on Reaganism, Martin Luther King Jr., Lincoln, Fredrick Douglas and Jefferson (a slave owner). I do not ascribe to modernism or one way thinking.

I believe that Beowulf, Shakespeare, Hammurabi’s code (where rules of law began) and having good fucking manners goes much further than being closeted w people who think what you think all the time. That’s boring.

Jefferson and Madison were friends; if you read their letters to each other they were diametrically opposed in almost everything. However, at each of their deaths they were thanking God the other was still alive. Why would that be? Because they knew they had to disagree to make their points accessible to everyone. Their disagreements made the Constitution and subsequent amendments for the laws of the land. Both were amongst the best and brightest of their eras.

We have the businessman. He will be handling things as businessmen do; no mincing of words or dancing around delicacies. Stomping the flowers and trodding on the grass….. making things happen and the world go round.

Watching a man in a mini skirt does not make one confident in a presidential cabinet (that guy stole luggage from airports too).

Please remember when reading this - my sister will tell you my thoughts and musings don’t matter to anyone. I’ll just put them out there anyway just because I can.

Surprise, surprise

2024-07-31T21:20:00.005-05:00

My niece was in a movie called Implanted (2021). No one mentioned it - but then my sibling very protective of her children. I’m not allowed contact.

I’ve never seen it - if you have hopefully it was good.

It’s been a while.

2024-07-19T00:11:00.002-05:00

I have had writers block for a long time.

My two sisters will be overjoyed that their hurtful comments finally silenced me.

They are professionals and obviously know more than I do about almost anything. I’m fairly certain the joy will be universal.

Intimidating———-

2024-04-12T22:52:00.002-05:00

I was recently informed that I can be intimidating. I am not certain how that works out. Special ed parents are a different breed. We have to fight to represent our kid with a non viewable disability.

Having subtlety is not part of the package. A lifetime of IEPs and battles and all that is wearing. The shy, quiet mouse - intimidating. I can’t see it.

President James Madison & War of 1812

2023-12-15T16:16:00.003-06:00

President James Madison and the War of 1812.

James Madison won the election of 1808 and 1812. As a founding father he helped to create the differences in state and federal government; using checks and balances federally with executive, legislative and judicial areas.

Madison’s involvement in the procurement of the Declaration of Independence assisted in his election for the 4th US President.

Madison aligned himself with Thomas Jefferson; and that party was known as the (get this) Republicans. Madison was the Secretary of State while Jefferson was President.

During the War of 1812, at the Chesapeake Campaign, Madison was on the battlefield at Bladensburg, Maryland on August 24, 1814. The American Army was routed by the British. Madison, and those living in Washington, fled the city, and the British captured it putting all public buildings to torch.

This would be the same time that Madison’s infamous wife Dolly rescued the illustrious Washington portrait. One version of the story, “On August 24, 1814, during the War of 1812, British troops invaded Washington, D.C. First Lady Dolley Madison ordered the Washington painting to be saved, and it was taken down off the wall and sent out of harm's way by a group of individuals--Jean Pierre Sioussat, the White House steward; Paul Jennings, an enslaved worker. “

heros of the past dont walk thus today .

Do you remember…… Part #2

2023-11-27T01:10:00.003-06:00

I remember this one episode, incident, action, as a small one.

Prior to that, I was informed on several occasions that I was a conniving malicious brat. I probably was; no not probably, I was a brat.

Anyway, I had these records and I played them constantly (Im thinking that I did). I remember my sibling being outside with me. I was going to through a record for the sibling to catch. She didn’t. I cried when the record was broken. Not because it broke; I was told at the time that I can’t trust people. I took it to mean I couldn’t trust my sibling. Not being able to trust a sibling was a big thing at 3-4 years old

Another event happened years later where my sibling was going to tell that my son gave me a bloody nose (I’d already told relevant parties). Knowing I was embarrassed and sad about the situation didn’t matter to the sibling. However, having something to control me to force me into their preferred behavior did take precedence

I reverted back to my broken record days. I can’t trust my sibling.

It’s taken me years to write about this; many, many years Still hurts tremendously

Finally, over many years, lesson learned. Trusting a sibling is bad news. Don’t fall for the friendly act; it will lead you down a path destined for failure.

Day after Veterans Day

2023-11-12T22:33:00.001-06:00

Veterans Day.

When it was Princess, Red and I, normally ended with talk of Alaska My Dad, Red, was stationed on Attu Island during WWII He lived in a tent with what appeared to be an earthen floor and a smallish stove/heater He was a sergent and work on airplanes He signed up for the army-air force (back then it wasn’t separated) sent money home to his girl to save (which she did)

He time in the war was harrowing for a south side second generation Irish guy Alaska was colder than cold A wall of frozen, dead Japanese solders was a break front for a strong wind (it was frozen solid and burials couldn’t happen in the winter) My Dad was mortified and the worst was not yet over

Repairing airplanes completely filled and frozen inside and out Snow so thick the planes controls were caked with ice, snow and then the sleet pouring down Buildings caving in, tents covered completely, looking and feeling like igloos Frozen, not Elsa’s version; really frozen Even dry clothing was wet and cold in the tent Frostbite was one enemy, besides the obvious one

There were other things Dad never talked about Watching war movies or anything scary was out of the question in the house I grew up in the first reality based action war movie I saw, Saving Private Ryan, I cowered into the cute ones shoulder……. Thinking of my Dad’s war realities was running through my head I’d seen other movies, Sink the Bismark, Hunt for Red October, none hit me as hard as what Hollyweird decried as a reality war movie.

Lesson today is that Veterans are important - learn about the ones in your family You probably have several veterans that have served in different wars and have come home to gran receptions or returned to protests All veterans need to be respected and thanked for their service Active duty should be thanked as well For today’s localized RANT- don’t read it if you can’t take it:

Veterans have been roved from their housing so that migrants could move in. This has been happening in Chî’s Lincoln Park neighborhood

Chicago is quickly becoming a wasteland dumping ground.

These veterans served our country. They may have issues because of that service and should be cared for. My Dad and my Uncle served through the horrors of WWII - they weren’t as bad as some but they had their moments im sure.

My Dad and my Uncle served for the right of the left wing looney tunes to have the right to be friggen’ left wing looney tunes (they lost me at wearing fairy wings to the Capital Building- at least show respect for the institution).

Our veterans need their housing back and to be cared APPROPRIATELY!

Over-talking is not listed as one of the 7 deadly sins, but it should be

2023-08-31T00:22:00.002-05:00

I don’t think most people grasp how regimented we are. Some of our worst arguments are over time management and over-telling.

Over- telling means one (usually the man-boy) gives out too much info about his life, work schedules or where he is working; it includes thinking of what one will say next and not listening I think that listening in a conversation is important - being chattered at is not obligatory to a rational response Normally I tone out chatter; the people I used to work with knew a direct conversation with me involved actual conversational construction. Chattering and Over-talking makes me nervous and irritated

We have the same fucking, damn argument every day.

Usually by that time I stop talking (pertains to almost anyone) it means my decompression is at its lowest. Now to include a classic life lesson my female siblings taught me that no one cares for my thoughts or what I think or believe. That's OK I wish them well. Nonetheless, in this now adult aspie house if the Mom stops explaining and talking - it is bad for all residents.

I’m so sick of empty, useless words. My parents (Princess and Red) taught me that words mean nothing- pie crust promises are not worth it and once bitten twice shy.

As a parent to my loving and adorable man-boy I’ve harped about any number of things.

Now I’m weary. Too, too much happening (life, losses and rock n roll??) and my thoughts are smashed into obliteration.

Our losses of 3 years: (In no particular order -untwist your undies)

1. I miss my putten babies. We lost Trouble, Bert and Garfy-Kitten all within the last 3 years.

2. We lost the Princess boss and my adorable MIL 3 years ago; 90 days in between.

3. We acquiesced the loss of the family cabin a year ago; we were forced to sell and did not agree to. the current owner is not tearing it down- the cabin is not dead yet and the one that sold it before telling anyone else should not be out without a keeper

I am currently over-telling but right now I don't care. telling the truth is not a 7 deadly sin.

Reminding myself that man-boy is developmentally 12-14 helps. Sometimes, sorta, maybe - nope I’m wrong; no help there.

Je suis prêt à apporter de nouveaux changements

Bert and Trouble

Trouble and Garfy-Kitten

cabin

Mapping.

2022-08-02T21:02:00.003-05:00

What the cute one and I have done on our summer vacations -

House pets

2022-01-27T17:50:00.004-06:00

I’ve had a number of house pets in my life. My parents were dog and cat people so many times we had both.

I was thinking of the longevity of my cats

The first one was Sunshine I think I was age 5 when I got her. She passed when I was in my 20’s I slept w her every night She was my best friend put up w me but loved me anyway I did a huge painting of her in college based on a picture my brother took I still have the painting; the cute one doesn’t like it very much

Then China - my Mom’s cat. She was about 20. She was cranky. I used to pick her up and sing to her.

Then Bert - he was about 6 when we adopted him and was 23 when he passed Bert was part dog and could catch mousies mid air while doing back flips He walked on his leash, wore his coat and was our wild boy he also loved green beans

Then Trouble - he was 16 We adopted him as a kitten Troubs was my compatriot- he sat w me when I couldn’t sleep, liked Greek yogurt and we held hands in the morning when I had my coffee I miss my kitty friend a lot He’d sit on my lap 2x a year; going up to the cabin and going home from the cabin

We still have Garfield-Kitten he’s 16. Still rambunctious and spoilt - he’s the only baby of the house now.

The cute one says we can’t have any more. It’s too hard when they are gone. Maybe it is. But each one has a special place just their size in my heart.

Decide in haste Repent in leisure

2022-01-19T09:05:00.002-06:00

The cute one and I don’t make hasty decisions. We do what I call beating the dead horse repeatedly until we finally reach a decision.

Decisions made for us are resented and create a division.

ASPIE life

2021-11-23T22:10:00.001-06:00

Our son’s ASPIE life isn’t what we thought could would or should have happened. It’s what it is.

As a parent I’ve had to let go. If my thoughts ideas and dreams for him.

I was reviewing blog comments tonight and a year ago I made a decision and I think I’m still happy I’ve kept it.

It’s been a sad year but a nice one. Peaceful

I’m not regretting a thing.

Sob story documentaries

2021-11-19T08:32:00.004-06:00

Which ones make you cry?

Carroll Spinney

Mr Rodgers (gut wrenching sobs)

The Passion of the Christ (gut wrencher - sobbed through the entire thing

The purity of heart; I believe that’s what causes the water works on the Carroll one and the other

The story of the crucifixion always has made me cry. It’s a time of tears but a time of re-growth. Both are tear worthy in my book.

Review of the Nuremberg Code

2021-11-14T23:43:00.002-06:00

The Nuremberg Code isn’t officially accepted as law by any nation or as official ethics guidelines by most associations. Many Western world governments initially dismissed the Nuremberg Code as a code for barbarians, but unnecessary for ordinary governments or persons

In fact, the Code's reference to Hippocratic oath/duty establishes principles of medical ethics which are still significant modern world. For example, when first released, the code was degraded to individual patients and the need to provide detailed information and privacy was not favored by the American Medical Assoc.

Additionally, the final judgment was not specific to whether the Code should be applied to cases such as political prisoners , convicted felons, and healthy volunteers. The lack of clarity, the brutality of the unethical medical experiments, and the uncompromising language of the Code created an image that it was designed for singularly egregious transgressions (code authors were thinking of Auschwitz’s atrocities)

However, the Code is considered by some to be the most important document in the history of clinical research ethics, which had a massive influence on global human rights.

In America, the Code and the related Declaration of Helsinki form the basis for the Code of Federal Regulations Title 45 Part 46, which are the regulations issued by the United States Department of Health and Human Services for the ethical treatment of human subjects, and are used in Institutional Review Boards (IRBs). In 1966, the International Covenant on Civil and Political Rights was adopted by the United Nations, and supposed to be in force by 23 March 1976. In addition, Article seven prohibits experiments conducted without the "free consent to medical or scientific experimentation" of the subject. The Covenant has 173 states parties.

In his 2014 review, Gaw ( I’m only leaving this because that’s my maiden name) observed that the Code "not only

altered some

legal landscape, but also became the prototype for all future codes of ethical practice across the globe.”

The concept informed consent served as the basis for proposed by WHO (ugh liberal-escqe) Other reviews discussed Biomedical experimentation on human subject published by then in 2017: "Medical Ethics in the 70 Years after the Nuremberg Code, 1947 to the Present". President and Rector Markus Muller wrote in his introduction that the Code "constitutes one of the most important milestones in the history of medicine, providing for the first time a proper framework for research on human subjects. Sadly, this milestone was not a voluntary, precautionary measure resulting from enlightened humanity, it only came into existence in the aftermath of Nazi atrocities before and during WWII. Following code conception, the Nuremberg Code had multiple legal regards; eventually becoming a cornerstone of clinical research and bioethics measures and guidelines.

Authors of the Nuremberg code are 2 American physicians; Dr. Leo Alexander and Andrew Ivy, a German physicist and medical historian. Werner Liebrand and by Ray R. Greek.

References:

Wikipedia

New England journal of medicine.

Do you remember - Part #1

2021-11-06T21:28:00.002-05:00

I have been going through a lot of papers, news articles and such lately.

I’ve seen pictures of my siblings, my Dad, which actually got me remembering things.

I hit my head badly when I was little - riding too hard on my favorite horse - I heard there was blood, stitches the works. I don’t remember a lot before that though. Maybe the knock on my head did more damage than I thought

I saw an article w my sister playing catch w a kid. She was earning money for something or another. The weird thing is I don’t remember either of my sisters being around much when I was little.

I remember my brother being in and out of the house- but not them. My bro would call on Fridays and if it were liver night I’d beg him to come take me out he did take me to Burger King I was so excited I don’t think he ever took me anywhere before It was great I got to have dinner w my big bro and maybe I dented my fingernail but the bigger thing was he took me out for dinner (my fingernail turned black n blue a fell off - cool).

Memories are a good way to remember why you are being one way or the other

I love my bro he’s had my back when most people didn’t and subsequent changes were from him, my son and parents; then I met the cuter half and every thing has been on the upturn ever since

I’m one lucky girl

The magic of a paint brush.

2021-10-31T00:49:00.001-05:00

Painting is magic. Strokes can lighten your load and make things seem; well better

I found an unfinished cover tonight and covered it. I may need a plastic topper too but for now it’s paint, paper (thought it was cloth 🙄) some sticky jewelry and glue.

This is an allegory to family relationships Some can be fixed w tape or glue Some can work w snags or rips; add a zipper or Velcro and it’s all good Then others are obliterated completely- I am thinking I’m in the last category Moving on, moving better and making life work

Choosing to accentuate positive and eliminate negative and don’t hang in the middle of the two

20th Anniversary

2021-07-22T22:35:00.004-05:00

Happy 20th to the cute one and I

Photo by Karli

And for those of you who will make fun because I’ve put on weight…… just remember there are twists and turns to everything and your may yet come to you.

Your plans may not be what life has planned for you.

Dealing with people who hide

2021-06-02T22:01:00.000-05:00

I am bored.

Seriously, I am really bored with people who hide, don't tell the truth and are just overall annoying.

There is an old saying that there are simpletons and fools. The definitions are not that different but certainly not the same:

The difference between simpleton and fool is:

A simpleton is (pejorative) a simple person lacking common sense

A fool is (pejorative) a person with poor judgment or little intelligence.

So dealing with one person who is both is just beyond what most people should be required to tolerate.

I think the biggest issue is that I grew up with someone who regularly lied to me and made up stories or told me one thing but then never followed through and left me stuck, usually, with an excessively large bill and yet another explanation to my husband.

I can sniff those assholes out like a bloodhound. My gut is rarely ever wrong.

Being on the receiving end of consistently differing stories makes one suspicious, wary and tired. It means you are constantly on your guard and it wears one to a frazzle.

Getting said persons out of one's life allows for freedom of another kind. There is no more walking on eggshells, or worrying about saying it wrong or anything like that. "Freedom to be me"...or with the cute one "Freedom to be us".

Being Free - it makes one happy and there are plenty of songs about it....yes I will use music again to express what I am thinking. I may not sing well but I do know the words. and Freedom is another word for nothin left to loose- Janis Joplin, "Me and Bobby McGee" the song itself is not all that I am thinking of but the chorus is something that I am feeling regularly right now.

Historical Brief: William Willams

2021-04-16T00:35:00.001-05:00

I thought I wrote about him but he’s not in my notes

William Williams - signer DOI

He was born in Lebanon CT.

He studied theology and law at Harvard.

Williams fought in the French and Indian war.

This signer was a very vocal patriot. He did not agree with he confederation of CT.

he was a prolific, satirical writer to King George in the CT Gazette; prior to the American Revolution.

Eventually Williams returned to Lebanon and was employed as a theologian. His residence there is a National Historic Landmark.

History Brief - Thomas Jefferson

2021-03-07T22:34:00.008-06:00

Thomas Jefferson - drafted the the United States Declaration of Independence and the nation’s first secretary of state (1789–94) and second VP (1797–1801) and, as the third US President (1801–09). He was responsible for the Louisiana Purchase. An early advocate of total separation of church and state (smart man) he founded and architect of the U of VA.

Jefferson’s image has suffered as focus on racial equality has a more negative reappraisal of his ownership of slaves (he personally owned 600). This would include Jefferson’s deep conviction that American society remain a white man’s domain (😳 OMG)

Jefferson was one of America’s most problematic and paradoxical heroes.

He was a book lover, a wine 🍷 expert an architect a prolific letter writer and a documented author. He developed many buildings and was the proud owner of Monticello.

He is touted as the Democrats Democrat - although his deep rooted prejudices could bring that theory into question.

Our new normal- for now

2021-02-22T14:30:00.000-06:00

We made some gi-nourmous changes in the last week. We are selling our craft/art items out of an indoor farmers market at Hawthorn Mall and the first time I saw everything out I wanted to dance, cry and I wished deep down that I could get my Mom in the car and show her everything. Miss Bossy Pants Princess would have loved it. She would have been so please and proud that the cuter half and I hid our inherent shyness and pushed out of ourselves to try something out of our comfort zone. Mom always called my creating, whether writing or making something "my work" and she never liked to interrupt it but I always told her to anyway.

Yeah I know - I am not shy. Put it this way - if you firmly believe I am outgoing and very confident you really don't know me at all. I should win a goddamn Oscar for all the times I had been forced to get out of my shell and try to do things that weren't me. I was lucky to have one of my best friends force me to talk to new people -but that still means it wasn't hard for me to do so. I did it and I am glad I did but now when I have to do it at work or wherever all I do is get tired.....like bone weary tired.

Being the Mom of the boy/man like mine I am constantly pushed to my limits. Then to go to work and be pushed more physically and mentally with a job that sees me as a body to do as much work as possible but not much else.....that is pretty debilitating. Applying for jobs that aren't really in existence -well that is just cruel but I am applying anyway.

Anyway, this new store thing....it came up and like most things it isn't something we totally investigated or planned. The last few weeks we have been putting our stuff up at the store, they do the layout and they do the organizing. We have sold a couple of things and we are hopeful more will sell. Our lives are re-focused on this and we are excited.

Most people will never see our stuff so I am posting from the store a couple nights ago.

Support your local farmers markets