Memoirs of a Chaotic Mommy

12 Days of Christmas

2009-12-15T13:48:00.001-06:00

Did You Know?

A partridge in a pear tree represents:

The tree is the cross and the partridge is Jesus. The partridge risks her life for her babies to protect them from those who mean to do them harm.

Two turtle doves:

The Old and New Testaments

Three French hens:

The trinity.

Four calling birds:

Matthew, Mark, Luke and John

Five golden rings:

The Pentateuch: Genesis, Exodus, Leviticus, Numbers and Deuteronomy--the first 5 books of the Bible.

Six geese-a-laying:

The geese are the 6 days of Creation and the eggs represent new life.

Seven swans-a-swimming:

The seven gifts of the Holy Spirit : 1) prophecy, 2) ministry, 3) teaching, 4) exhortation, 5) giving, 6) leading, and 7) compassion (Romans 12:6-8; cf. 1 Corinthians 12:8-11)

Eight maids-a-milking:

The Beatitudes

3"Blessed are the poor in spirit,
for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
4Blessed are those who mourn,
for they will be comforted.
5Blessed are the meek,
for they will inherit the earth.
6Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness,
for they will be filled.
7Blessed are the merciful,
for they will be shown mercy.
8Blessed are the pure in heart,
for they will see God.
9Blessed are the peacemakers,
for they will be called sons of God.
10Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness,
for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

Matthew 5:3-10 (New International Version)

Nine ladies dancing:

The Fruits of the Spirit:

22But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.

Galatians 5:22-23 (New International Version)

Ten lords-a-leaping:

The Ten Commandments

Eleven Pipers Piping:

The eleven disciples who remained faithful to Jesus.

Twelve drummers drumming:

The 12 doctrines listed in the Apostles' Creed:

I believe in God, the Father almighty,
creator of heaven and earth.

I believe in Jesus Christ, God's only Son, our Lord,
who was conceived by the Holy Spirit,
born of the Virgin Mary,
suffered under Pontius Pilate,
was crucified, died, and was buried;
he descended to the dead.
On the third day he rose again;
he ascended into heaven,
he is seated at the right hand of the Father,
and he will come again to judge the living and the dead.

I believe in the Holy Spirit,
the holy catholic* church,
the communion of saints,
the forgiveness of sins,
the resurrection of the body,
and the life everlasting.

Amen

*You should note that catholic is translated to mean "universal" in this creed.

Operation Sled Retrieval

2009-12-09T11:51:00.005-06:00

I peered outside to find my children determining the best way to retrieve their sleds from the storage building...

How do we open this door?

With a stick?

Nope, not with a stick...

Maybe this will work! Can you get it Xan?

Stupid door!!!

After composing myself...

Mom seeks to save the day!

Hooray! The sleds are found!

Don't talk to me.

Great Christmas Giveaways at Heart of the Matter

2009-12-07T11:01:00.002-06:00

Christmas Giveaway: Homeschooling with TLC

Christmas Giveaway: Write Shop Story Builders

Christmas Giveaway: The Chronicles of Narnia Full CD Set

Christmas Giveaway: Hands of a Child – 12 Days of Christmas Fun

Christmas Giveaway: Liz Curtis Higgs Children’s Books

The Art of Being Thankful

2009-11-25T08:39:00.004-06:00

“Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful.” Collossians 3:15

Lately I have noticed that Thanksgiving is quickly being overshadowed by the capitalism of Christmas. Driving around in my town I have seen the Christmas trees outside of businesses, and the festive Christmas murals on grocery store windows. My television shows that were once one hour long have become approximately 20 minutes due to the constant commercials that plague us with the latest and greatest gadgets, toys and must-haves.

Where is Thanksgiving?

I have friends that have decided to start decorating their homes for the holiday season, each picking up a new ornament, a new gift and running up their credit cards to be ‘paid later’. There is talk of Black Friday, the movie “A Christmas Carol” and new eggnog lattes.
Where is Thanksgiving?

To read the rest join me over at Heart of the Matter...

Have a Happy Thanksgiving From My Family to Yours.

Message From ASAN

2009-11-14T14:27:00.003-06:00

This was passed on to me through the Autistic Self-Advocacy Network. Many have asked me why I DO NOT support Autism Speaks. See below..they stated the reasons many have protested this group. Autism Speaks does not speak for my kid!

We'll be gathering on Tuesday, November 17th, at Seventh Avenue and 57th Street, 154 West 57th Street in New York City from 6 PM to 8 PM to hold up signs and hand out flyers to Autism Speaks sponsors going in to their New York City concert with Bruce Springsteen and Jerry Seinfeld. Come join us! Please RSVP to aneeman@autisticadvocacy.org or go to the facebook event page here: http://www.facebook.com/event.php?invites&eid=205191180125

Please distribute to your friends, contacts and listservs!

*****WHY ARE WE DOING THIS?*****

1. Autism Speaks talks about us without us. Not a single Autistic person is on Autism Speaks' Board of Directors or in their leadership. Autism Speaks is one of an increasingly few number of major disability advocacy organizations that refuse to include any individual with the disability they purport to serve on their board of directors or at any point in their leadership and decision-making processes. In large part due to Autism Speaks’ public relations strategy of presenting Autistic people as silent burdens on society rather than human beings with thoughts, feelings and opinions.

2. They use fear and stigma to try and raise money off the backs of our people. Autism Speaks uses damaging and offensive fundraising tactics which rely on fear, stereotypes and devaluing the lives of people on the autism spectrum. Autism Speaks' advertising claims that Autistic people are stolen from our own bodies. Its television Public Service Announcements compare having a child on the autism spectrum to having a child caught in a fatal car accident or struck by lightning. In fact, the idea of autism as a fate worse than death is a frequent theme in their fundraising and awareness efforts, going back to their “Autism Every Day” film in 2005. Indeed, throughout Autism Speaks’ fundraising is a consistent and unfortunate theme of fear, pity and prejudice, presenting Autistic adults and children not as full human beings but as burdens on society that must be eliminated as soon as possible.

3. Very little money donated to Autism Speaks goes toward helping Autistic people and families: According to their 2008 annual report, only 4% of Autism Speaks’ budget goes towards the “Family Service” grants that are the organization’s means of funding services. Given the huge sums of money Autism Speaks raises from local communities as compared to the miniscule sums it gives back, it is not an exaggeration to say that Autism Speaks is a tremendous drain on the ability of communities to fund autism service-provision and education initiatives Furthermore, while the bulk of Autism Speaks’ budget (65%) goes toward genetic and biomedical research, only a small minority of Autism Speaks’ research budget goes towards research oriented around improving services, supports, treatments and educational methodologies, with most funding going towards basic research oriented around causation and genetic research, including the prospect of prenatal testing. Although Autism Speaks has not prioritized services with a practical impact for families and individuals in its budget, its rates of executive pay are the highest in the autism world, with annual salaries as high as $600,000 a year.

How's Your Day Going?

2009-09-24T10:51:00.007-05:00

Do you have Autism or a family member who does? Your day is about to go sour:

Wanna protest just another PSA in a long line of offensive PSA's? Tell them Autism Speaks DOES NOT speak for us.

Join the Facebook group protesting this type of propaganda.

Visit I Speak of Dreams for a wealth of information. Who to write to, what to say, who is angry... Autism will not tear people apart. It will unite us. There's more to do to combat ignorance.

Hm... how about that for a group "Ignorance Speaks"? We won't let them defend themselves either.

Thanks Bev, for the awesome posters you came up with---you rock.

ASAN's response...The REAL Advocates for those with Autism.(Autism Self-Advocacy Network)

Blog it and pass the word like others.

When Depression Hits

2009-07-30T13:01:00.001-05:00

I am going to tackle a controversial topic here, my dear families. Depression, mental disorders… the idea that staying at home could cause damage and sadness.

When I started homeschooling I had just come straight from Corporate America. My older sons had done two years of public school and though my younger of the two was struggling with behavior issues, the idea never entered our minds to bring them home to educate them. We were raised in public school and despite a series of devastating occurrences (for myself) we felt that the struggle was a ‘life lesson’ meant to be experienced. We worried about the socialization. We worried about our expectations–could we meet the criteria set before us and educate our children? We weren’t certified teachers. We weren’t even familiar with life outside of work and daycare.

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Finally...Churches Are Recognizing a Need

2009-07-17T11:39:00.001-05:00

Special needs Sunday Schools on the rise
By Andrea Higgins
Jul 30, 2008

RIDGECREST, N.C. (BP)--Special needs advocates are fond of pointing out that Jesus spent much of His ministry among people with disabilities.

However, the message of His ministry was for everyone, said Carlton McDaniel, special needs specialist for LifeWay Christian Resources of the Southern Baptist Convention.

"The second half of that story is that by meeting the needs of those He helped and gravitating to people in need, He really modeled love to the able-bodied," McDaniel said during the July 11-14 Sunday School Week at LifeWay Ridgecrest Conference Center near Asheville, N.C.

Considering that attendance at special needs conference sessions has quadrupled from past Sunday School conferences, churches may be getting that message.

"I see people with disabilities being more visible in the community, more included in life and not shut behind doors anymore, praise God," said Jo Ann Banks of Weaverville, N.C.

For five years, Banks has led a special needs Vacation Bible School during Sunday School Week and for 25 years has led a special needs ministry. At Woodland Hills Baptist Church in Asheville, she teaches a class of adults with special needs.

Increased attendance at the conference could be due to churches seeing not only the need -– but the opportunity to provide Sunday School options for individuals with special needs, Banks said.

Banks' daughter Kelly, 28, has mild cerebral palsy and a developmental delay.

"God has shown me we have to look at their abilities and not their disabilities," Banks said.

McDaniel said there is hesitancy among churches, mostly because of the unknown in beginning a special needs ministry.

"We've heard people say, 'I don't feel equipped,'" McDaniel said.

The sessions at Sunday School Week varied from understanding learning needs and learning styles of individuals with special needs to introducing tools and materials to help special needs ministries.

LifeWay developed its "Special Buddies Bible Studies for Kids" curriculum, released in the fall of 2007, with an adaptable format geared to developmental levels that allows for plenty of repetition, application and review of biblical concepts. LifeWay also has added a new VBS line for children with special needs.

"Pastors are very interested, but it's an incredible responsibility to take on a ministry that is this labor-intensive," McDaniel said.

For Banks, leading a Sunday School class for adults with special needs also is an outreach to the group-home workers who accompany residents to church.

"We've found that 98 percent of group-home workers are not believers," Banks said. "I have a good rapport with the workers. Sometimes the only exposure they have is watching how you behave on Sunday."

Having a ministry in place also provides natural opportunities for individuals with special needs to feel needed, Banks said.

"They want to serve. They want to feel like they're part of society and they have a purpose for being here." Banks said her daughter Kelly "has such a servant's heart. She does better to serve others than to be served."

Starting a special ministry requires a "people-centered" outlook rather than one that is people-driven, McDaniel said.

That's what happened at Thompson Station Church in Tennessee, adult Sunday School teacher Mike Yates said. When he noticed two couples in their class seemed to "tag-team" coming to church, he found that the reason was both couples had a child with special needs, with the spouses switching to provide care on alternate weeks.

From there, the church started a special needs Sunday School along with a monthly respite program to give a night out for parents of children with special needs.

Reagan Wagoner, youth and missions pastor at Thompson Station Church, said in the short time the program has been operating, at least 25 different families have been reached.

"If you go into the schools, there are specially trained people -– even one-on-one attention -– for the kids with special needs," Wagoner said. "Why should the church be any different?"
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Andrea Higgins is a writer in Raleigh, N.C.

© Copyright 2009 Baptist Press

Original copy of this story can be found at http://www.bpnews.net/bpnews.asp?ID=28569

I am still here!

2009-05-12T17:39:00.003-05:00

Just wanted to let you know that I am still around but am finishing my Spring semester of college and wrapping up the last few weeks of homeschooling for the year! (Plus hubby came home so we've been enjoying having him around!)

I will be MIA from the blog for a while longer!

Love,
Angela

A Visit to an International Festival

2009-04-15T19:11:00.009-05:00

Click on pictures to enlarge.

An Irish Folk Singer

Milan and I trying on the henna at the India table.

after it dried--should be off in a week or two I think.

Columbia!!

Local Native Indian Tribe Table

The Taiko Drummer from Japan

This is the first demonstration we saw--The African Dancers--and our favorite!

When Chocolate is the Only Answer.

2009-04-09T19:38:00.005-05:00

Only the best way to show love, right? I have to admit something--I am a comfort feeder. No, not so much a comfort eater as much as a 'sympathetic' one. From the moment my babies came into this world every tear was met with nursing...when they outgrew nursing it became cookies, fruit and lollipops...

It's the Italian in me I am pretty sure. The kids are spoiled rotten, but thankfully have the metabolisms of jack rabbits. (Also thankful for very, very good teeth and dental hygiene.)

So this week I have been involved in the 'A Woman Inspired' conference and surrounding that I have had massive amounts of homework to attend to. This has led to many meltdowns, tears, temper tantrums and screaming matches. (I admit...sometimes it was even the kiddos!)

It rated chocolate for all.

Aren't they lovely? You can find the recipe HERE.

Entrecard

2009-04-06T13:48:00.002-05:00

I got rid of my Entrecard widget. Sorry for the inconvenience to those who wanted to post their blog on here. I just do not like the direction the company has started to take.

Thanks for understanding!

This One Always Brings on the Happy Tears

2009-04-03T00:56:00.000-05:00

Over at Heart of the Matter today..

2009-04-02T14:13:00.004-05:00

For the next 7 days I'll be posting Easter crafts and at-home Easter fun over there..

Day 1: Easter Bingo

In Case You Were Curious...

2009-03-31T23:03:00.002-05:00

I mentioned on March 12 that my son had swallowed a bouncy ball.

For your information it took 19 days for that to pass. Yes, you read that right. My son burst into my bedroom this morning to announce the return of his beloved bouncy ball. Thankfully he did not retrieve it, but promptly flushed it.

Catastrophe averted once again.

*Sigh*.

Pledge to BAN the R-Word

2009-03-30T22:10:00.005-05:00

I challenge you to sign the pledge today and find a way to pass the word. We have stood up and not accepted racial slurs, religious slurs as well as many other OFFENSIVE names. This is no different...unless you consider the fact that 9 times out of 10 when a person uses the word 'retarded' against another they do not realize that they have been heard--and understood.

As a mother of a child with special needs I challenge you to rise above the casual use of the r-word.

As a parent of a child with special needs I will tell you that it hurts deeply when you refer to something or someone as retarded.

As a parent of a child with special needs I will tell you it hurts deeply when someone refers to my child that way. That's right, we are not immune to it in our lives. I have stopped my older boys from going after your children who have repeated you. I guess you should know, it hurts them too.

A Real Life Monster

2009-03-25T00:21:00.005-05:00

I had all of the kids draw a picture of their own 'monster' today. The idea was they would create and then I would make a softie out of it. I have seen people all over the internet doing this very thing and just had to try it! What a great way to capture their creation!

Here is my first one (in order of who gave me their's first)--Xander's:

He was very excited about the process of making this little guy...can't wait to show him the finished product in the morning!!

Photofunia: Photos and Fun

2009-03-20T22:02:00.004-05:00

Bored? The kids and I had lots of fun playing here!

Wordless Wednesday: Xan and Milan's "Sleepover"

2009-03-17T23:05:00.002-05:00

When You Have a Chewer

2009-03-12T19:30:00.005-05:00

When your children are babies you painstakingly go over your entire house to make sure it is baby proof so that your child will not choke on anything. (Okay, baby proof...enough) My children found every item I missed:

army men
marbles
legos
pennies
k'nex

With the exception of the army men--all were saved from being swallowed. And actually, make that an army man. (Think Toy Story--a two year old can easily swallow one of those suckers, did you know that?!)

Which brings me to the exception of children who are predispotioned to chew. These are the children that go into high school with mangled pencils and pen caps. The ones that sit in their third grade class chewing on the end of a wad of hair. They may chew their fingers, their shirt collars or random plastic items. You know what I mean...you either know/knew a person like this or are one.

Xander, my 7 year old, is a chewer. He has sensory integration disorder and Autism. This is where a quirky habit can become dangerous. Today he swallowed one of these:
This particular picture is from Oriental Trading. I don't know if the bouncy ball came from there or one of those .25 machines they have at grocery stores. I mention that only so the proper credit is given to the picture.

Now, a 7 year should know better, but when you have a child with special needs it is important to keep an eye on what they are chewing. It could be poisonous or dangerous. We are lucky that this ball did not become lodged in his throat cutting off his airway. When I realized he swallowed it and was talking and not struggling to breathe I knew the drill...and did not worry. Lessons I learned from the army man: they cannot detect plastic on an x-ray and they would tell us to bring him in only if his stmach became hard or he started having severe cramps. Otherwise, we would have to wait for it to pass. The doctor told me the army man could take up to two weeks because of its shape. The ball on the other hand could be freed in a matter of days.

I was reminded however to give Xan the "no batteries, no magnets" speech. These two things can kill a child. Make sure you have this talk with your children.

I am off to go find the thing Xan *is* allowed to chew on.

Didj by Leapfrog

2009-03-12T11:09:00.003-05:00

Have you met the Didj? I was asked to try out this great invention last Fall and from the moment it came out of the package my kids were hooked! They were amazed at how much it 'looked' like other video game systems and surprised at how good the graphics were for a LeapFrog (AKA kid's game).

My husband quickly installed the Learning Path program and made an individualized site to track each kid's progress. It must have been successful because now every time my kids play their games and upload to the site I get a personalized email that shows their strengths and weaknesses in their age brackets. I love this feature!

Something else I particularly love is that in order to progress through the levels in each game, the kids must accomplish whatever learning goal (math, spelling, etc.) is set before them before moving forward. This is a great incentive for them to do well! The system also allows them to use their points on their site to earn new characters and accessories.

So, you understand why I love this game system... but there is more! It is an award winner!

Parenting Magazine - Mom-Tested Toys of the Year Award 2008

Parents Magazine - Best Toys of the Year Award 2008

My top three recommended Didj games:

1. LeapFrog: Didj Custom Gaming System: Indiana Jones for Ages 7-10

Did your kindergartener or first grader come to you last year begging to see Indiana Jones? Both of mine did, but let's face it, not all movies fall into their maturity level. The Indiana Jones game on the other hand is all adventure without any of the adult content.

This is a math game and they will be learning addition, subtraction, multiplication and division.

2. LeapFrog: Didj Custom Gaming System: Star Wars, The Clone Wars for Ages 6-9

Star Wars...where do I begin? I mentioned "Star Wars Crafts" one time on one of my blogs and the traffic from that phrase has been unlike anything else that I have ever spoken about. I am amazed at how popular the series is three decades later. This game is no exception. My boys love it and begged for me to buy it the second it hit the shelves. It has been played so many times that I cannot believe it has lasted this long. Best feature of the Didj when this is played for hours on end? The volume button that shuts off. (You would think that for a woman that spent her early years wanting to be Princess Leia I would be more tolerant.)

Another great math game: Decimals, percentages, place value, shapes, and fractions.

3. LeapFrog: Didj Custom Gaming System: Spongebob, Fists of Foam for Ages 6-9

Okay, I was a skeptic too...but this game was soooo worth it. Like the math list above for the Star Wars game? This game has the same list, but appeals to those SpongeBob enthusiasts. My 5 year old loves this game and is excelling in her math practice well above her grade level. Yes, it is silly. Yes, it is nonsense. But they love it! They love it so much that on Saturdays when they have free video game playing the Didj is always in use. They have no idea how much they are learning on their day off. And I won't tell.

As We Draw Closer to Easter

2009-03-11T15:01:00.003-05:00

I received this video in an email today and I cannot possibly think of a better message to reflect on as we get closer to Easter. Before you watch, a few questions to think on:

1. Is there anything weighing heavy on your heart right now?

2. Do you know without a shadow of a doubt that Jesus died for you?

3. Do you feel forgiven?

Pray about it. Listen to what God is trying to speak to your heart. Watch the video.

By the way, my email is on my profile page. If I can help you this Easter season by praying for you I would be honored to do so. Just shoot me an email.

When the Kids Get a Crash Course in Blessings

2009-03-05T22:51:00.008-06:00

We had a wonderful day at the zoo today. The weather was perfect, the zoo was uncrowded. The kids were excited! We even got to see a three-toed sloth--AWAKE. They were especially excited about that because as many times as we've been we have never seen it move. We always talk about how it sleeps 23 hours a day and try to guess when the two hours might land. (It was approximately 3:00 in the afternoon, by the way.) Look--eyeballs!:He hung out like that a few minutes and then had to adjust back into a cradle-like position to go back to sleep. That takes a lot of energy apparently. One of the waterfalls was half ice and by the time I got this picture I forgot about getting it in the picture more than this. There are many outtakes with 4 kiddos.

Catching snails and playing with the fishies.

The day was so good I decided to take the kids to their favorite restaurant for dinner--IHOP. Oh yes, it is their favorite. Where else can you have chocolate chip pancakes with a whip cream/chocolate chip/cherry face? For dinner, no less. The kids colored their menus and selected their meals. Harley led the prayer. The waiter came out to inform us that Xander's meal would have to be changed as they were out of mac n cheese. Xander quickly selected the chocolate chip pancakes and waited patiently while his dinner was prepared. Meanwhile the rest of us were busy salt & peppering, passing syrup, etc. Xander's meal came and we all chowed down. An elderly couple with their backs to us were chatting with the manager about their grandkids and the restaurant was fairly empty and quiet. It was really nice.

The couple left and the manager approached us to let us know that the couple had thought the kids were so well-behaved that they paid for out entire ticket! I was shocked and touched, but not nearly as shocked as the kids were. The manager continued to talk about how they earned the kindness because they were so well-behaved and how you don't see that very often anymore. She told us to enjoy our meal and walked away.

The kids were much more quiet than I would have expected after such a compliment. Harley and Jagger began to speak first about what a kindness that was and how they would never expect something like that from a stranger. We hadn't even seen their faces.

This was my window of opportunity.

I explained to them how blessings come and go and should be remembered. I suggested that perhaps they should remember simply so that when they grew older they could pay the favor forward when they saw a young family in a restaurant. They would never know if they blessed a family who was living paycheck to paycheck.

I also got the opportunity to tell them about the summer Jagger was born. It was May of 2000 and the Texas weather was already scorching. Inside our home was around 90 degrees because our air conditioner had died a few weeks prior. Harley was 2.5 at the time. I called a service man for an estimate because we honestly did not know what we were looking at in terms of cost. The man arrived at the door and was about the age of my grandfather. He had a tiny dog that followed him around the yard while he checked our unit. When it came time for him to give us a quote I asked him if he did any kind of a payment plan. That man must have had a daughter or a daughter-in-law somewhere because he sized me up pretty quickly. He looked for a moment at my very pregnant belly and said 'don't worry, let's get this fixed...I have been there.' And he serviced our a/c the entire summer for free.

The couple tonight blessed us--for no reason--I told the kids. Remember that. Be those people.

And then I ungrounded them for the absolutely horrendous way they acted in Kohl's an hour earlier. I figured if a couple could pay them such a compliment and bless our family in such a way I could ease up a bit.

A Woman Inspired Conference 2009

2009-03-03T02:02:00.002-06:00

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The Last of the Bunch

2009-02-25T19:39:00.004-06:00

Mom, I don't have a fever.. your hands are just cold.

Mom, I think I have a sunburn.
Mom...no pictures while I am sad.

MOM...DON'T PUT THIS ON THE BLOG!!