The Angry Daughter - PAS Parental Alienation Syndrome

Updates Coming December 2011

2011-09-21T10:47:00.000-05:00

I will not be posting anything new until December after my friends court date. There will be lots I will have to post but all I have to say right now is that I am really tired of people that "lie" or "the ones that do not tell the whole truth" or "the ones that deny the truth" or "the ones that do not take responsibility for their actions...There is nothing I hate more than a liar. That says a lot about the persons character...This is not something that I wanted to get involved in but something that I felt I could not close my eyes & ignore...How many more kids have to deal with this crap...Those people that do wrong just keep getting away with it...I honestly feel like we are fighting a loosing battle:(

Is your child being with held from you? Here is reserch I did that may help you:)

2011-08-06T23:23:00.000-05:00

If a parent is with holding your children from you & the judge has awarded you visitation rights then first off the parent is breaching the court order!

In most cases the judge will frown upon this. The Judge is the only one with the right to change the court order for visitation.

First you need to do a lot of reading & go to the family court building bring a motion & file a affidavit.

Help can be found here:

http://www.attorneygeneral.jus.gov.on.ca/english/family/guides/Parenting_Affidavit_Self-Help_Guide-EN.pdf

Other Links that may help:

APPLYING FOR AN ACCESS ENFORCEMENT ORDER

IN THE COURT OF QUEEN’S BENCH

http://www.albertacourts.ab.ca/qb/publication/access_enforcement_order_qb.htm

http://www.legal-info-legale.nb.ca/en/custody_and_access

http://www.legal-info-legale.nb.ca/en/uploads/file/pdfs/Applying_for_CAS_EN.pdf

http://www.legal-info-legale.nb.ca/en/publications/family_law/self_help_guides_family/Applying_for_Custody_Access_and_Support_EN.pdf

https://www.pxw1.snb.ca/snb7001/e/1000/CSS-FOL-SNB-45-0161E.pdf

AFFIDAVIT IN SUPPORT OF CLAIM FOR CUSTODY OR ACCESS

http://www.gnb.ca/0062/regs/Form/Form-81b-e.pdf

Obtaining Reliable and Repeatable SSAG Calculations

http://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/pi/fcy-fea/spo-epo/calc/pdf/orrssagc.pdf

Spousal Support Advisory Guidelines: Report on Revisions

http://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/pi/fcy-fea/spo-epo/g-ld/spag/s-p/index.html

http://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/pi/fcy-fea/spo-epo/g-ld/spag/s-p/pdf/rr_eng.pdf

Judicial Interpretation of the Spousal and Child Support Provisions of the Divorce Act,

1985 (Part 1)

http://www.law.utoronto.ca/documents/rogerson/spousal_child_support_part_1.pdf

Judicial Interpretation of the Spousal and Child Support Provisions of the Divorce Act,

1985 (Part 11)

http://www.law.utoronto.ca/documents/rogerson/spousal_child_support_part_2.pdf

Spousal Support Advisory Guidelines

http://www.law.utoronto.ca/faculty_content.asp?profile=48&perpage=188&cType=facMembers&itemPath=1/3/4/0/0

http://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/pi/fcy-fea/spo-epo/g-ld/spag/intro.html

Carol Rogerson's Scholarly Papers (Family Law)

http://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/cf_dev/AbsByAuth.cfm?per_id=88054

A Guide to Procedures in Family Court

http://www.attorneygeneral.jus.gov.on.ca/english/family/guides/fc/default.asp

Going To Court

http://www.themodernwomansdivorceguide.com/moderndivorce/articles/going-to-court/

Contempt of court

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Contempt_of_court

Divorse Articles

http://www.peterhaiman.com/articles/protecting-a-childs-emotional-development-when-parents-divorce.shtml

http://www.nncc.org/parent/childview.html

http://smartdivorce.com/articles/childview.shtml

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/culture/tvandradio/3645040/A-childs-eye-view-of-divorce.html

http://www.naturalchild.org/guest/peter_haiman3.html

http://www.nytimes.com/1995/05/25/garden/l-a-child-s-view-of-divorce-066095.html

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/children_divorce.htm

http://www.cba.org/bc/public_media/rights/238.aspx

http://blogs.extension.iastate.edu/scienceofparenting/tag/spoil/

Complying with orders about children

http://www.familylawcourts.gov.au/wps/wcm/connect/FLC/Home/Court+Orders/Complying+with+orders+about+children/

Breaches (Contravention) & Enforcement of Parenting Orders

http://www.thefamilylawdirectory.com.au/article/breaches-contravention-enforcement-of-parenting-orders-the-family-law-directory.html

My ex-partner isn't following the court orders about our children What Can I Do?

http://lacextra.legalaid.nsw.gov.au/Publications/FileUpload/Doc/ImprintFile624.pdf

What is a Parenting Order, its obligations, consequences and who can help you?

http://www.familylawwebguide.com.au/forum/pg/topicview/misc/1221/index.php&start=0&keep_session=1092204992#post_5686

Child Access in Canada: Legal Approaches and Program Supports

http://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/pi/fcy-fea/lib-bib/rep-rap/2002/2002_6/2002_6.html

ALLEGATIONS OF CHILD ABUSE IN THE CONTEXT OF PARENTAL SEPARATION: A DISCUSSION PAPER

http://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/pi/fcy-fea/lib-bib/rep-rap/2001/2001_4/2001_4.html

http://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/pi/fcy-fea/lib-bib/rep-rap/2001/2001_4/pdf/2001_4.pdf

Family Law Forms

http://www.familylawnb.ca/english/forms_for_saint_john

Saint John Family Division List of Forms

Form 81A – Application (bilingual form)
Form 81B – Affidavit in Support of Claim for Custody or Access
Form 81C – Answer
Form 81D – Reply
Form 81F – Motion to Change
Form 81G – Change Information Form
Form 81H – Response to Motion to Change
Form 81I – Consent Motion to Change
Form 81J – Consent Motion to Change Child Support
Form 81K – Certificate of Solicitor
Form 81L – Notice of Motion for Leave to Appeal

Family Law Services in New Brunswick

http://www.familylawnb.ca/english/index.php?mact=News,cntnt01,detail,0&cntnt01articleid=15&cntnt01origid=15&cntnt01returnid=103

http://www.familylawnb.ca/english/uploads/file/Family%20Law%20publications/Family_Law_Services_Fact_Sheet_EN.pdf

Doing Your Own Divorce

http://www.legal-info-legale.nb.ca/en/uploads/file/pdfs/Doing_Your_Own_Divorce_09_EN.pdf

Court-Ordered Evaluations Support Program (C-OESP)

http://www.legal-info-legale.nb.ca/en/index.php?page=court_ordered_evaluations_support

Desertion

http://www.lawteacher.net/family-law-resources/Desertion.php

Grounds for Divorce: Abandonment or Desertion

http://family-law.lawyers.com/divorce/Grounds-for-Divorce-Abandonment-or-Desertion.html

FACTS EVERY ONE SHOULD KNOW ABOUT DESERTION

http://blog.fathersforlife.org/2010/09/07/facts-every-one-should-know-about-desertion/

DIVORCE LAW IN CANADA

http://dsp-psd.pwgsc.gc.ca/Collection-R/LoPBdP/CIR/963-e.htm

family law talk radio podcasts

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/search/family-law/

Supreme Court Self-help Resources (Videos etc...)

http://www.supremecourtselfhelp.bc.ca/self-help.htm

Dial-A-Law

Canadian Bar Association

http://www.cba.org/BC/Public_Media/dal/default.aspx

Family Law Audio

http://www.cba.org/bc/public_media/dal/family.aspx

A Guide to Procedures in Family Court

http://www.attorneygeneral.jus.gov.on.ca/english/family/guides/fc/

A Guide to a Successful Interview with a Lawyer

http://www.lawhelpontario.org/library/item.110977-A_Guide_to_a_Successful_Interview_With_a_Lawyer

A Guide to Preparing Your Affidavit

http://www.justiceeducation.ca/themes/framework/documents/BCSCHIC_Affidavit.pdf

Preparing Your Affidavit

http://www.lawhelpontario.org/library/attachment.135282

Alternatives to Going to Court

http://www.supremecourtbc.ca/sites/default/files/web/Alternatives-to-Going-to-Court.pdf

Applications to Court

http://www.supremecourtbc.ca/sites/default/files/web/Applications-in-Supreme-Court.pdf

Family Law Forms (Schedule A, Division 2)

http://www.albertacourts.ab.ca/CourtofQueensBench/PublicationsForms/AlbertaRulesofCourtPrescribedForms/tabid/363/Default.aspx

PERSONALITY CHARACTERISTICS OF FALSELY. ACCUSING PARENTS IN CUSTODY DISPUTES.

http://www.fact.on.ca/Info/vac/under1.pdf

Law Society of New Brunswick

Children & Housework Is A Full Time Job In Itself

2011-08-04T20:44:00.000-05:00

So I have been going with my friend to drop off her kids where their dad & her meet to prevent him from making more false accusations. Her son is @ camp & it was her week for the kids & the kids go to the dads house on Thursday. But it was just the little girl going where her son is @ camp. She is only 5 & vary attached to her mom witch is normal for her age & where the mom was the main care giver.

So her little girl was fine until the dad got there & then she started taking a fit saying she was not going & @ my house the mom told her that we had to leave soon so that she could drop her off for her dad & that she would be having supper there & she would see her in the morning. The little girl made a comment about not wanting to eat supper there because all her father makes is bacon. I only bring this up because in the court room his letter stated that he made nutritious meals trying to make himself look like a good parent & trying to make my friend look like a bad parent.

This good parent bad parent game is really old & needs to stop.

I can vouch for my friend & say that when I was @ her house when they were still together she made nutritious meals. When she was working she had the roast in the croc cooking & everything all prepared all he had to do was dish it. She also asks the kids what they would like to have. I have found in my experience there is no sense making a meal that the kids do not like & trying to force them to eat it. One of my kids will not eat onions so even thought the rest of us like onions I have to leave them out unless I make him something else. I would never do to my kids what my mothers boyfriend did to me. He forced me to swallow my squash & I keep gagging on it. The squash would come back up & I had to try to force it down with milk. Do not do this to your kids:(

When I use to go to my dads house when I was little he would ask me what I wanted to eat I would say Kraft Dinner. When I was 15 years old I moved in with my dad & when he use to ask me what I wanted to eat I would say Kraft Dinner. He asked me in a annoyed tone aren’t you tired of Kraft Dinner. I of course said “No”. So he maid me Kraft Dinner...lol Till this day I still love & eat Kraft Dinner.

Also @ dads house I use to sneak & eat all the marsh mellows out of the “Lucky Charms” cereal. Sorry dad but I didn't get to have that cereal @ moms house...lol

I am also not saying that I didn't get food I liked @ my moms house because I did. I got different things @ my moms house that I liked like apple crumble, truffle & crepes etc...When I was @ my dads I got other things I liked like Lucky Charms, Kraft Dinner, Donairs, Egg Roles etc...

Well I just can't leave out Grams Baked Beans, Awesome homemade strawberry jam, & grams homemade brown sugar fudge & The best Christmas suppers you could imaging...

Me on the other hand I love bacon. I don't think its too healthy but I love a toasted bacon sandwich with ketup or a BLT. Now maybe my friends little gild doesn't like or is tired of bacon.

So what I am trying to get @ is find out what your kids like don't just stick what ever you want to make in front of there face & expect them to enjoy eating it...Mix it up:) Variety equals happiness. Give them something to look forward to.

My friends kids father also made comments about my letter to the judge where I stating that my friend was the main care giver. In his letter to the judge he was trying to say he was the main caregiver & that how would I know this if my friend was the main care giver.

So I just want to say I think he may have been a bit confused. There is a difference between a caregiver & a provider. A care giver is the one who looks after the kids on a full time basis & looks after the house. That is a full time job in itself. So his comment about my friend never keeping a job since he's known her. I say BULLSHIT. That comment was a insult to any full time caregiver(the parent that stays home & looks after the kids & house). I have had to do this for basically 21 years stay at home & raise the kids & keep house.

If I wanted to take pot shots @ my friends ex like he has done to her with his false accusations I could say that my kids father never had to claim bankruptcy. I could say a good provider would not have to claim bankruptcy he would of worked more. My friends ex is not as perfect as he thinks he is. Even though I have had a family member of my own that had to claim bankruptcy. I am just using this to prove a point because in reality people make mistakes or bad decisions. There is no such thing as a perfect parent. It is all a learning process. Parents should not make up false accusations & take pot shots @ the other parent. This is not helping the kids.

I have had several jobs as well & some I really loved & had to leave because my hours were interfering with my kids & their fathers job & baby sitters are way too expensive. They usually charge too much & it is a waste of your time & gas to even work when you have to pay a baby sitter most of what you make. Then I know with me when I was working when I got home it was also me that had to do the housework, laundry, dishes, look after my kids etc. So that was two jobs or more that I had to do all @ once. Us parents that raise the kids & do all the housework do not get paid for this but that does not make it any less than a job that you would get paid for. It is only now that all my kids are in school I was lucky to find a job that I can work days so that it does not interfere with my kids or their fathers schedule.

This was the same for my friend only her son was in school, her daughter was not. So she had to pay for a full time baby sitter for her daughter & after school care for her son. He did not help her with baby sitting or after school care.

I think it was disgusting how he tried to degrade her. He said other things as well to try to degrade her & make himself look like the good parent. (Good parent bad parent game again.) He is trying to isolate the kids out of their moms life. That to me is not a good parent.

Now back to today. We took her little girl to get picked up by her dad & as soon as she seen him she starts making a fuss saying she is not going just like the last time. The last time I told my friend not to force her out of the car to let him force her out of the car because if by accident she get any scrapes or bruises he would use that as a excuse to phone CPS & make false accusation again.

This time she carried her over to him but her little girl would not let her go & he had to pry her away & the little girl was not having it & she ripped her moms hair out in the process. She was screaming & crying taking a fit & the dad put her in the car seat & went to get in his car. So the little girl got out of her seat & unlocked the door & jumped out so my friend picked her up & the father yells “what the fuck are you doing idiot” & saying that he was going to call the cops that she was near her car...

Well I will tell you him calling the cops with bs is really getting old & him acting that way in front of his daughter isn't helping. My friend told me he said he doesn't know why his little girl is acting this way.

Well first of all she is 5, she is attached to her mom as most kids are attached to their main care giver when they are that young. He with held the kids & they didn't see there mother so that fear is probably in the back of her mind of not seeing mommy again. Maybe she isn't looking forward to the meal routine @ her dads. It could be a number of things. It would not have hurt him to let the his daughter stay with her mom but he is more concerned with himself having control than his daughters feelings.

When I was little I loved going with my dad & if I had wanted to stay @ moms my dad would of not made a fuss. There were lots of time that I didn't go with my dad because I wanted to stay with my friends that lived around my moms house & that was ok because it was what I wanted to do. It was never because I didn't love my dad. I love my dad more than any thing & it helps that he is a good dad & put my feelings first over his pride & he didn't try to control the situation & let me make my own decisions:)

Care about your children's feelings more than your pride. Your job as a parent is not to control or make all your children's decisions. Your job as a parent is to put them first, love them, spend time with them, care & provide for them, keep them safe, guide them, teach them right from wrong. Let your heart guide you to what a parent should be & kick you anger, pride & need to control out the door.

Article From Times Transcript: Alienation a form of abuse

2011-06-24T15:22:00.000-05:00

Alienation a form of abuse

Monday was Parental Alienation Awareness Day. It is the day to recognize that Parental Alienation exists and hurts children worldwide.

PA usually occurs in divorced families but can also occur in intact families. It is when one parent alienates their children from the other parent. It is a process that occurs over time through bad-mouthing, bashing and can eventually be brainwashing in extreme cases.

The children witness role-modelling of disrespect for the alienated parent and learn to mimic these same behaviours. Children that once had healthy, close relationships with the alienated parent may choose to no longer see them. The more time spent with the alienating parent, the more role-modelling that exists to the point of brainwashing.

Parental alienation is a form of emotional, mental and psychological abuse - child abuse. The alienating parent "uses" the children to hurt the alienated parent.

Professionals in this community need to recognize that this form of abuse exists. From judges who turn their backs on the evidence, to social workers, teachers, principals and senior administrators, psychologists, lawyers, doctors, nurses, police and sports organizations, many become involved in alienating one parent from the other parent by listening to the stories of the alienator.

Any adult dealing with children and youth should be aware of this type of child abuse. As professionals and community members you have a responsibility to protect these children. If you would like to educate yourself to this form of child abuse you can visit www.paawareness.org.

GWEN SHUTTLEWORTH

Family Court Today & Guess who I Saw

2011-06-20T11:06:00.000-05:00

Well I was @ family court today to give my friend support for the "BS" that her ex is putting her through. Guess who I seen in the parking lot going into the building:( My mother of course! God knows what she is scheming this time. Probably going to try to get more money from my dad. Guess what "Mom" the bank of Dad is "closed". So give it up. When are these parents going to get it together & do what is right for the kids. Are they ever going to see the light of day or are they going to continue to make false accusations putting them selves ahead of the kids. My friend's ex & my mother have something in common, they make false accusation & put them selves first before the kids, & they like to make threats & breach court orders withholding the kids from the loving other parent!

Stop Parent Alienation

2011-05-30T18:58:00.000-05:00

Withholding Children from The Other Parent Is Child Abuse Graphics

2011-05-29T15:34:00.000-05:00

PAS Graphics

2011-05-28T23:45:00.000-05:00

DIVORCE RELATED MALICIOUS PARENT SYNDROME

2011-05-25T12:49:00.000-05:00

1. A parent who unjustifiably punishes the divorcing or divorced other parent by:

1. Attempting to alienate their mutual child(ren) from the other parent

2. Involving others in malicious actions against the other parent

3. Engaging in excessive litigation

2. The parent specifically attempts to deny the child(ren):

1. Regular uninterrupted visitation with the other parent

2. Uninhibited telephone access to the other parent

3. Paternal participation in the child(ren)'s school life and extra-curricular activities

3. The pattern is pervasive and includes malicious acts towards the other parent including:

1. Lying to the children

2. Lying to others

3. Violations of law

4. The disorder is not specifically due to another mental disorder although a separate mental disorder may co-exist.

I revamped this because it is not exactly accurate...You do how ever see it happen more often to fathers but it happens to mothers as well...This abuse needs to stop...Actions need to be taken against these parents that are doing this to their children! The only way this is going to happen is if the courts start punishing the alienating parent. Other wise they can share the blame of innocent children being abused due to their neglect.
"You know the old saying you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink". Well that goes the same as if you were to say "You can give a parent a court order but you can make him follow it". The only different is breaching the court order is against the law. These courts need to follow through & punish the parent that is breaching the court order. Throw them in jail & see how they like it & if that doesn't change their tune then throw them in jail again. It works for dogs they call it corrective training.

Withholding Children from The Other Parent Is Child Abuse

2011-05-24T10:29:00.002-05:00

Withholding Children from The Other Parent Is Child Abuse. Making up false accusations taking that child to social services to try to keep the child away from the other parent is child abuse. Putting your kids through this for no reason but your own selfish reasons is child abuse. I have lost any respect that I might of had left for this person. Next time you are creeping around my neighbors house in the middle of the night up to no good like the last time I will be telling the police that I am 100% sure that it was you like I should of the last time but I didn't because you work with my kids father. You are the child abuser! What you are doing is abuse. You disgusted me. There has to be something wrong with you mentally to do that to your kids. To sit there & watch your kids missing their mom is heartless.

Also what is the point of wasting money going to court when the other parent obviously have some thing wrong with them mentally and treat judges ruling is a big joke. This parent is laughing @ the judge ruling. There need to be consequences! There should be jail time!

If It was a criminal getting out on bail or out on probation & they breach the court order what ever it may be they go to jail. So it should be the same for parents who breach a court order! There actions need to be dealt with appropriately. Other wise it is a ongoing thing that these kids are going through that will not end until they are grown up & on their own. Then it is too late for them to have their childhood back. Not punishing these parents that breach court orders is contributing to these child's abuse. It is part of the problem that needs to be corrected! How many children have to loose their childhood to this neglect.

Shared Custody Is A Crock Of BS

2011-03-23T20:25:00.006-05:00

So I have a friend who is a mother to 2 children. She was working & she was paying the baby sitter & @ first her & the father was suppose to share the babysitting expense which he never did fork over the money. The baby sitter ended up quitting on her & I am uncertain of the circumstances for that but the father should of been paying half not making up excuses to not pay. He is a truck driver so it is not like he could not afford it. I know this for a fact because my kids father is also a truck driver @ the same company. He also was not giving her child support as well. Then the courts told her to pay the babysitter because she could claim it on her taxes. So my friend ended up quitting her job because of all the stress & BS that was going on with her & the kids father.

Then they went back to court. So now the courts state that she is to be the baby sitter when it is suppose to be his time with the kids. WTF is that. Yes she gets the kids more but he is playing it to the max. They are suppose to have one week with him one week with her & swap the Thursdays plus she has the kids when he is working. So she has to meet him in the morning & get the kids. Get one off to school & her little girl all day then drop them off to him when he is done work. Then on a week that he was suppose to have them he told her he had to work so she had them on his week as well.WTF!

That is "NOT SHARED CUSTODY". He is getting off scott free! Don't get me wrong I have nothing against him personally. I do not know him well enough to not like him but I do know that I don't like how my friend is getting screwed. This is not right @ all. Now what else is wrong with this situation is the grandmother will not allow the mother to drop the kids @ her house & the grandmother & the father has called the police on the mother trying to get her in trouble & I herd this on my police scanner & I find it disgusting. And again I have nothing against the grandmother but what has been going on is disgusting & the kids are seeing this & also @ the grandmothers house they had called the social services trying to get the mother in trouble. I am just going to say that is wrong in so many ways & I know it is none of my business but it still pisses me off. That type of stuff is only hurting the kids. I have to wonder how could a parent or family member could do that to the kids out of spite because I tell you now they had no valid reason to do that. I know the mother & she is a fit mother & loves her kids.

What is wrong with peoples heads. When people separate & get divorced it is because things are not working in the relationship. One parent or the other is not suppose to try to control & make the other parent miserable just because they are angry. Not suppose to bring family members or friends to the court to try to taunt the other person by laughing or what ever. Bringing the ex of the mother new boyfriend to court with you I will say it again WTF. This nothing but a bunch of head games on the fathers part. The ex of the mother new boyfriend I know her from when she lived by me & I like her. She has never did nothing wrong to me & our kids played together & I wish her all the best but come on this is not right & it is no way to move on. It is not healthy behavior for the parents or the kids.

These little game & accusations phone calls trying to make each other miserable etc are not helping the situation @ all. Not helping the kids.

I have said it time & time again. Get along for the kids sake. Do not talk bad about the other parent in front of the kids. Do not make up lies about the other parent. Do not try to make the other parents life a living hell. Do not phone social services & have them talk to the kids based on accusations lies or for purposes of sticking it to the other parent. If you can't get along with the other parent @ least be civil to one another for the kids sake. If you can't do this then you do not deserve your children & you can consider your self as a bad parent.

These opinions are my own which I made from viewing the situation. This bugs me that this crap goes on & that it is the kids that are getting hurt in the end. It is time to move on! Quote from my friend: "Turn you hate against the other parent into love for the kids"!
So I googled what my friend said & I came up with this interesting read. Why you need to love your kids more than you hate your ex

I forgot to mention one night I was up late waiting for my oldest boy to come home & just happened to look out the window & see some one creeping by my friends driveway. So first thing that comes to mind that someone is trying to break into my neighbors house. He was acting suspicious looking back & forth. Saw the person drop something & pick it up quickly. He ran down the road. So well the police were called & then I went out side because I am nosy. Then I seen car lights & he drove up past my house & up the road. Well I am 99% sure that it was my friends ex because of the car but I did tell the police that I could not be totally sure because my kids father works with him & I didn't want to get in the middle I hate confrontation. So here is a little more advice: Don't be creeping outside of you ex's house. First of all you neighbors will think that some one is trying to break into someone house & call the cops on you, Second you are making yourself look like a desperate idiot.

Reply to ques:How did I get aware of PAS

2011-03-23T18:53:00.001-05:00

I found the term of what my mother was doing to us searching on the internet for term like: mother brainwashing kids, divorce brainwashing kids, mother lying about father. Those are the types of terms I was searching for because I knew that my mother was lying. I think if a child is lied to early on in life there is a big chance that they will not realize that they were lied to & go on believing the lies. I was lucky that I was old enough to know that my mother was lying. But my brother is not so lucky because he is down syndrome & drinks up every thing my mother tells him. Also not sure on my mother mental condition. Weather she knows that what she is saying is lies or if she really believes her own lies. I choose to not have any thing to do with her. I am not going to try to have a relationship with her because it is not good for me. All she brings me is stress & anxiety so it's better to put that part of my life aside & not even acknowledge her as being my mother. I told my father the same about my brother. Sad but I told him to forget about my brother because my mother will never stop lying & trying to make every one miserable. I told dad that he has my kids "his grand kids" who love him & that is something my mother does not have. It is her loss weather she is mentally ill or not. You can not help some one who does not want help. I will not have her infect our lives with her disease any longer.

My Mother Has Missed So Much Of My Childrens Lives Because Of Her Lies

2010-04-14T01:41:00.000-05:00

YES MOM I WAS A WILD TEEN SO YOUR POINT IS!

2009-09-30T16:44:00.003-05:00

Mom you are a idiot & have no clue what you are talking about...Dad never had a video camera. Parties at dad ya when he was at work. Not really much he could do about it I was a wild child I admitted that. Parties at my friends houses too. Some nights I didn't even call him to tell him where I was or when I would be home. Dad tried to make me stay in my room once but I closed the door & jumped out my window & took off with my friends. That was when I broke the flower box from hanging off it. At least dad never beat me & abused me in any way like you let your boyfriend do! Oh & dad did tell the police to take me once when I came home all drunk because he was fed up with me & they told him "No Mr B you don't want to do that" I remember sitting in the police car telling them you can't arrest me I am only 15...lol
You are so screwed up I never bought any video camera from dad! I did how ever buy one from Wacky Weekly's. There was family videos made & yes my husband & I did have sex on the video camera & we thought we had recorded over it but there was one little bit that didn't get recorded over & it was embarrassing as hell. I have nothing to hide. But you can't even get you stories right. You twist every thing all around making up lies! Get your stories right & tell the truth or shut the hell up!!!

If any one wants to know what I am replying to here is the idiots new blog, yea don't know why but she made 2 new blogs:
http://dawntheangelstory2.blogspot.com/
http://dawntellsthetruth.blogspot.com/

The Married Man My Mother Said She Cheated With

2009-09-29T19:48:00.002-05:00

I will not post his info here but here is the link to his profile & sites that he is involved with.
The Married Man My Mother Cheated With

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More BS from my so called mother!

2009-09-29T19:05:00.003-05:00

That isn't a suicide letter you stupid bitch...I do not remember writing it but I am 90% sure if I did it was written when I lived with you. Terry is @ fault for me not learning to play guitar when I was younger. Dad was going to buy me a electric guitar & terry said oh no she can learn on this acoustics that I couldn't even fit my arms around. Do you know how many times I was depressed while living with you? Of course you don't because you didn't give a shit that you boyfriend Terry was always beating me & burning troys fingers on the kerosene heater. He beat me in front of friends too. My saying that I didn't have a very good life in that note would of been because I lived 14 years of my childhood with you. Who are you kidding I would of never moved back home with you. I left you house to get away from the abuse. I ran to my safe place witch was with my dad. Also you can not copyright a not that I wrote especially when I didn't write it to you. I could sue you ass & take what little you have just for posting it on your blog. Also it was not Gerry Springer it was the Steve Wilkos Show & I wanted you & I to get the lie detector but we know why you wouldn't do it because you didn't want me to prove on live tv that you were nothing but a ling psychopath.

This is the letter that my mom posted & said I wrote. If I wrote it then it is mine to post!

"RIP Michael Jackson" June 25, 2009

2009-06-26T17:25:00.009-05:00

Yesterday was just a usual day as I sat on my couch watching a soap opera then turning the channel I spotted Michael Jackson dies on a news site. I thought there must be another Michael Jackson, some one with the same name that died so I rushed to my computer & sure enough it was "The King Of Pop" Michael Jackson. I then logged on to my facebook & posted the link & started searching the groups & such. Michael Jackson's fans & supporters much over weight the nonsense & haters.

As I stated my opinion that: Just for the record...Michael Jackson was strange but not a pedophile. You could not pay a parent any amount of money to keep their mouth shut if it were true. The ones that accused him just wanted money, money, money & this was a easy way to get it.
I sat listening to Sirius Satellite Radio all night still shocked of this news. With everything going on with all the news coverage it felt like I don't even know how to explain it.

Also I just want to say that I hope he is @ peace in heaven now & my thoughts are with his children & family.

Then there are those on the tv making a fuss about Michael Jackson headlines taken away from Farrah Fawcett. We knew it was only a matter of time before she lost her fight, god bless her may she RIP. Michael Jackson was unexpected & a shock to the whole world. It shouldn't be about who had the most news coverage. We knew Farrah had cancer it was expected & not a shocker like with Michael. Just as we know Patrick Swayze is fighting the fight of cancer.

3 children have lost their father, A family has lost their brother & His Parents have lost their son, The world has lost a great entertainer & idol.

Sorry for not posting lately...

2009-04-19T01:23:00.003-05:00

Been dealing with other issues...Like having a dog bit my 11 year old son & the owners not taking responsibility & keeping there dogs tied so i will be going to court about that thanks to our Forest rangers for helping out here in N.B. I also have videos of the dogs on the roads & in my yard...I am so sick of people that just are disrespectful, lie & do not give a shit about others... What is wrong with people where is the human nature & kindness gone??

This is partly reply to a comment I had posted to a video on youtube Breaking the Silence: Children's Stories that I think is disrespecting to all men...To let a man hit you you have to have real low self esteem...I do not feel sorry for some one that stays in a relationship that a man an would hit them...No man would hit me for the simple fact that I would not stand for it & I would hit back & he would be seeing stars...What is wrong with you women?? Do not be week & do not result to lies for payback...Some do not like my way of thinking but at least I think for my self & I do not lie & I think that any one that does result in using lies to get even are week self loathing individuals...Grow some balls & take responsibilities for your own mistakes...Do not let a man push you around but then just the same do not make up lies to even the score...Have a little respect for yourself & be the stronger person...You are the one that put your self in the situation that you are in so go about it the right way...Just because you & your significant other might not be working out does that mean that he or she isn't a good father or mother?? Does that mean that there isn't some one else out there that is right for you that can make you happy & be respectful to the situation...The best thing any one can do for there child even if it doesn't work out for the parents is be respectful to the other parent & just get along for your child's sake...Stop blaming he or she for every thing & start taking half the blame for your self because like I said it takes 2 to make it & 2 to break it.Do not tell your child that the father or mother is this or that or no good...just keep those feelings to your self...You are the one that made the mistake in choosing the wrong sole mate so why is the child the one you want to make suffer?? If you are truly abused by your other then you need to learn to be strong & over power the situation & take control...Do what is best for you children not what is best for you!!Marriage is suppose to be for better or worse...You should try to work out your problems not run away from them...Unfortunately not everyone is perfect & people do make mistakes...If you can learn to forgive that you can be happy...Even all the lies that my mother has told I would for give her again if she would just get the proper help...Even though I hate my mother for all the lies that she has told weather they are because of her being vindictive or what I truly believe that she is mentally ill...Maybe bipolar disease....If she were to ask for my help I would help her...She is my mother even when she pisses me off with things that are not true...I do know I never want to be like her...Miserable, lonely & only thing on her mind is revenge against the one who betrayed her...No one is perfect & every one makes mistakes & if you realize this & learn forgiveness then you will be allot better off!!

Invatation to make comments on my mothers blog

2008-12-01T11:35:00.004-05:00

My mother doesn't like my comments that are truthful & to the point...She want's me to sugar coat my feelings about her lies...I will not sugar coat anything!

I would like to invite all who know what I have had to deal with & other who have had to deal with the same type of thing to make comments on my mother blog to let her know that what she is doing lying, making up untrue stories is not right & will not be tolerated...

Post comments to her blog here:Dancing With The Devil

My mother says I am harassing her on her blog

2008-12-01T11:33:00.000-05:00

Once again you are a liar...I am the one who stopped talking to you because of you making up lies again...Leaving a comment is not harassing you...That is why it is called a comment...Little Allen was there the day you were upsetting me on the phone with your lies & before that he would hang up the phone on you...That's the day that I started smoking again because of you...I had gone 2 weeks with out cigarettes before that phone call...So thank you for all the stress that you cause me with your lies....Little Allen hates you for the lies you have said about me & his grandfather....If you don't want comments then you shouldn't have a blog...If you are going to make up lies then you are going to get comments...Live with it...Little Allen is 18 this month may be it is time that I give him the link for you blog he is old enough & see what comments he leaves you...I guarantee they will not be nice!

My mother wouldn't take me to the hospital when I was sick

2008-11-26T14:02:00.002-05:00

One more thing when I was pregnant will my first son I was 16 years old & I was very sick.
I had called you to see if you would take me up to the hospital. You said no. You claim to have been a good mother but wouldn't take your daughter up the hospital. I was in tears & couldn't breath. Well I got to the hospital with out your help & had to be admitted & hooked up to breathing machines & every thing. So just another example of how lousy of a mother you were.

I remember you not wanting to drive to work because of the snow. It was me that drove you around. I didn't make any excuses I did it because you had asked me to.

I hate liars...

2008-11-25T21:42:00.007-05:00

First of all dads first child is none of your business...Now you saying that it wasn't long ago that I was having money problems...I take it you are talking about when I had my first child 17 years ago & you call that not long ago...Let me list the things I got from you Vacuum, Clippers & trimmers but Terry did not give me money for any of my hair dressing course. I paid for that 6 thousand dollars by the time I got it paid off so don't you dare try to take credit for my hair dressing course...Before my hair dressing course my mother inlaw bought my school books...After my hair dressing course when I decided to go back to school she also bought my books...You bought the two graduations rings...The diamond ring & the heart necklace that I gave you back the other day. So figure out what the vacuume, clipper, trimmers & the two rings cost you because I will be giving you the money in check form in the mail for them so you will not be able to say you gave me any thing...

You did not give me gifts of money... Any time that I got money from you I had did something to earn it & that was less than 10 times...I would call you & ask to borrow money for groceries & you would tell me that I was on my own now...You did not help me & I always thought that you were two faced because you would tell me about how Terrys parents fixed your car, gave you money for the house & what ever else...Any time we need money we had to ask dad or Allen's parents...Allen's mother was more my mother than you will ever be...Would you like me to list the stuff Allen's parents bought us & the kids. It makes what you gave me only pennies... But you trying to make your self look like you did lots for me...You did shit for me...

I do not remember Terry ever bringing my friends & I out to eat...I do how ever remember him making my friend watch & not let her leave while he was beating me...

I never said my father jumped on me & he never touched me in a sexual way you sick beotch...You are so sick in the head...I would love to ram a bar of soap in your sick mouth like you use to let Terry do to us...

Also you telling me not to swear on the blogs by calling you a lying whore but you were calling Terry's girlfriend Bitchey Bonnie in my car!

This is from my blog Wednesday, October 11, 2006 Mom was always talking about putting Troy in a foster home...
The social workers don't want nothing to do with mom they suggested maybe putting Troy in a foster home witch my dad don't like but I think in this case it would be best that way mom couldn't use him to hurt dad & dad would be able to see him with out her there interfering...& mom use to always talk about putting him in a foster home before to me I think she just keep him for dads money...
Was Shawn mad about you & Terry cheating on each other?
This is from my blog that I posted about what mom told me about Terry that I posted Wednesday, October 25, 2006
This is what she told me...She cheated on her husband with a black guy that was married in medical school & then she raised money to bring his kids & his wife to Canada...She said Her husband who she is separated with told their son if she ticked him off to go in the vase with flowers & get the sharp screw driver things & stab her...She said he told my little brother that he didn't have to do what mom says...I actually was believing her...Then after i was finally talking to her again this is when she stops the visitation of my down syndrome brother to my fathers again & told me it was because he seen a scary movie at my dads house...I knew that he didn't see any scary movies at dads & then I found out she lied to me again & that she was saying lies about dad again...By the way my dad paid for & passed a lie detector test witch he wasn't allowed to use in court...He didn't have to take a lie detector test for me...but it was nice to rub in her face & her sister who also stopped the father of her kids from seeing her kids.... Dad wasn't the one that told me his girlfriend told me whom I adore...I was friends with her before my dad & her got together...

So this Black guy she cheated his wife doesn't know & I guess she was having them over for thanks giving dinner...I can't wait to drop that bomb on the wife....
My mom I guess she has some other doctor boyfriend...She had asked me If I would donate one of my eggs before I stopped talking to her again & can you imagine how stupid i was that I actually considered doing it...Thank god she showed her true colors...

Lets not forget that you always had Troy going to that foster lady's house Emdelle...Plus he was working...He was never home with you for a while there...

Oh & lets not forget that you said Terry stole all the money out of your bank account that you said gram gave you when you split up...What was it a couple thousand dollars...

Court Yesterday

2008-11-25T14:01:00.002-05:00

To my surprise I was amazed that my mother only had one out burst. She made a comment about my father not having his income tax papers there with him yesterday. Well dad was not appointed a free lawyer paid by the courts like my mother was so he was not aware that he needed these documents because his income has not changed. My dad had to represent him self. He has spent way too much over the years for lawyers & in the end it has done him no good but put him in debt.
In the past he would go to court, pay a lawyer for a judge to make a decision & for my mom to breach the court order & nothing is done about it.
After we left the court dad went straight home & found the papers & we brought them back to the court.
Well mom had bought me a necklace with a heart on it before I was on speaking terms with her & I didn't want it in the first place but she gave it to my gram to give it to me so I just excepted it.
I broke it in peaces & tossed it to her on the floor before we went into the court room. Her little court appointed lawyer said for me not to be so immature but she did not have to deal with my mother for 35 years & has no idea what I have had to put up with. She should of told her client to stay the hell away from us but nothing was said to my mother when she made her comment to my father. Double standards I tell you. I am not even sure that she knew that I was the daughter of that mental case that was her client.

Before I went into the court room the bailiff was a jerk. I asked him a simple question & he was rude. Not like the last bailiffs for the last time we were in court were polite & understanding.
This one we had yesterday I think that he thought he was god or something. Police treat people with respect what gives this bailiff the right to be rude when I was asking a legit & simple question. Teacher's teach you to ask questions. I am tired of being crapped on & I am not putting up with it! Think I might put a complaint in about this guy!

When the jerk bailiff was using the metal detector on me mom was right in my face in front of me so I took off the diamond ring she had bought me a long time ago at Christmas & handed it to her & told her that I didn't want it to take it back. She just looked at me for a second & i said take it I don't want it you can hawk it or some thing. Then she took it.

Unfortunately I still have the graduation rings she gave me but I am going to figure out how much they cost & in the new year some time I will mail her the money for these so I can say that I bought them myself because I do not want any thing from her. I do not want any thing from a liar.

Re: my mothers comments

2008-11-23T23:01:00.006-05:00

Oh I suppose you have to be your younger son for swearing to be appropriate...You sons post to me has plenty of swearing to me plus disgusting sexual comments in his post...Where is he learning that from?
His comment is here: Your son post to my blog

Plus msn calling me a fat virgin slut & they are your words when it was my daughter on the computer:
Your post to my msn but blamed it on your son.
Just for the record you can not be a virgin & a slut at the same time!

Lets not forget his post to my youtube site saying he was going to paintball my house:
Your sons comment on my youtube.

It is OK for him to swear at me because he is mad because I am telling the truth but you are saying my language is because you are a liar, a mental & physical abuser & let you husband physically abuse me & I have no respect for you what so ever for what you have put me through for 20 years...Just because you are my biological mother or grand mother doesn't give you the right to be called a mother or a grand mother...You have never acted like a mother or a grand mother...You are a parasite that just will not go away...If you don't know what a parasite is look it up...Dad has nothing to do with my blog so why would I post his name...I posted my name & that is good enough...Even the most stupid person can figure it out...Oh I forgot you are not dealing with a full deck...You think that love should be bought & manipulated to your own advantage...Sorry not in my lifetime...You can not buy me or manipulate me & that is your whole problem...When are you going to get it I don't care about you, I don't need you in our lives, I don't want you in our lives...You are a parasite!
See you in court tomorrow!

My mothers comment on the woman's post is here.
Her Blog of lies Here.

Rot in hell liar!

2008-11-22T09:24:00.001-05:00

Me telling the truth about my life is not a blackmail. Asking you to stop being a lying whore is not a blackmail.You being a liar & lying in court is called perjury & is a crime. You lying about my dad & myself is discrimination of character & is a criminal offense.Your the one who needs help. You go get some therapy from preferably some one who is not a quack this time! Rot in hell liar!

My mothers comment is below:
Dawn Goff said this on November 20, 2008 at 7:36 pm