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Are You Ready for the Big C?

2013-05-11T06:42:00.000+00:00

To some, the BIG C means big cancer that needs to battle about. But this blog does not refer to that big C.

Are You Ready for the Big C? Are you ready for Big Commitment? Yes! C stands for commitment. There are different types of commitment; but since this blog just featured about relationship, it's time to talk about commitment.

When you enter a relationship, it's inevitable that you commit yourself to other person. You have to share your time, emotions, etc. In other words; in anything you do, you have someone to share yourself with. A commitment is like an investment, just minus the interest. Mentally and emotionally and probably spiritually, you devote on making the other person happy.

So, are your ready for the big C?

Relationship 101

2013-04-29T06:12:00.001+00:00

Committing into a relationship is no joke at all. As the old adage says “It takes two to tango.” There is no perfect formula on how a relationship last, but certainly there are some effective ways to make a relationship work.

If you want your relationship to work and last longer, apply T.L.C. Yes! TLC could mean tender loving care but it could also be trust, love & communication.

Trust. This means you don’t to have to be jealous. You may say jealousy is normal, but it is not. When there is jealousy in a relationship, trust for both parties may be tainted.

Love. When you love somebody, you think of the other person's happiness. It shouldn’t be because he/she makes you happy. Love should be unconditional. You allow yourself to be part of someone’s life and accept someone into your life. This means you care and you share.

Communication. “Actions speak louder than words”. But would it be better that you act and speak how you feel toward a person? Open communication allows you to listen and comprehend the thoughts and feelings of the other person and vice-versa.

What Cools You @Summer?

2013-04-04T09:52:00.000+00:00

Summer is the time of the year when people are exposed to heat even inside their abode. Especially in a tropical country like Philippines, we try many things in many ways just to keep us cool during summer time. What cools you @summer?

Beach/Resort? Some would go out of town and spend couple of days in beaches or resorts. Some find it relaxing to cool down when diving into cold water from the pool or sea water from the beach.

Malling? Some would go to the mall and stroll endlessly the whole day. The coldness from the mall gives comforting mood that is sometimes taken away due to hot weather that summer brings.

Refreshing Coolers? Some would take coolers like fruitshakes, frappes, and any other cold beverages to quench the thirst that the summer heat has brought. Or some prefer to eat cold food like ice cream or sundae. But here in the Philippines, the most popular during this time of the year is Halo-halo.

So, what cools you @summer?

What’s Your Summer Getaway?

2013-04-02T15:35:00.000+00:00

What time is it, it’s SUMMER TIME! The best time of the year to face the sun and have fun is summer. I may not have enough resources to go to exquisite summer getaways, but I sure know where to be even just here in the Philippines. There are more than 7,000 islands to explore and I am not even close to 50 islands. It’s in my bucket list, to visit at least 50 of the 7k+ islands of the Philippines.

So far, I’d been to few famous destinations here in PI. My family and I loved these places and wanna go back again:

Boracay. My 1st visit here was our honeymoon. My husband and I loved the white powdery sand. Then after 10 years we went back here with our children already. It was my husband's gift for our 10^th wedding anniversary. We love this island so much that this summer 2013 we will go back again to celebrate my eldest’s high school graduation (sort of graduation gift). Every visit in this island gives different experiences to us. Who would get tired going back to an island that is almost a paradise?

Puerto Galera. At first, I was hesitant to go here. I heard that going here would be difficult due to the hassle and bustle commuting (land and sea transfers) coz it’s best advised to use public transportation. Thank God to internet! I was able to get a good package which gives hotel and transportation accommodation. We got a reasonably priced package. We lived like royalties with private bus and boat!

Bohol. There are so many places to go to in Bohol. 3D4N vacay would not be enough to explore the whole island. But I got a good accommodation arrangement that definitely made our stay worthwhile. If ever you’ll visit Bohol, don’t fail to include these tours; Countryside tour (get the chance to see the famous Chocolate Hills, Man-made forest, Loboc River and of course the Tarsiers), Dolphin Watching, and E.A.T. Danao (special arrangement).

47 islands to go! Yeah, I must say…”It’s more fun in the Philippines!”

Summer Time! Be Beach Ready.

2013-03-05T03:29:00.000+00:00

Summer! This is the best time of the year to go to the beach and show-off your body more often, since you need to wear lesser clothes. But the question is do you have your coca-cola figure yet? Of course you don’t want your love handles to be shown once you wear your bikinis.

Here are some tips to shape up your body to be beach ready in no time:

Change your diet. Get away from fatty foods, especially the meals from fastfood chains. Eat more fruits and vegetables. Fruits and vegetables have low calories and help your skin radiate. According to Juliette Kellow BSc RD “Eating more fruit and veg is essential both for good health and to help us lose weight. Most fruits and vegetables are low in calories and fat, and high in fibre – three essential ingredients for successful weight loss. Most also contain plenty of vitamins, minerals and antioxidants, all of which are important for helping us to look and feel our best and to protect us from disease.”

Burn your calories. Never finish your day without an exercise. Make sure you have an hour a day for workout. Have a 30 minute cardio activities to help burn calories and 30 minute yoga or other body exercise to boost burning more calories. Find a workout that is suitable for your body type and strength. You may ask a fitness coach for more effective workouts for your body.

Be a sleeping beauty. Never allow your day to have less than 8 hour sleep. Your body needs at least 8 hours of straight sleep so that it has time to rest and repair. Sound mind, sound body. Sleep is the key.

Hydrate and detoxify your body. Drink at least 8 glasses of water everyday. Water helps a lot in hydrating your body which is very good to your skin and at the same time it helps in eliminating toxin in your body. The more you drink water the more you hydrate and detoxify your body.

Mind over matter. Set a starting date to allow yourself to do the aforementioned tips. Once you’ve decided to start, be consistent. In two weeks, you’ll see a gradual change. Then, don’t stop anymore. Don’t quit! You don’t want to be a loser, don’t you?

Valentine’s Gift: For Him or Her

2013-02-08T05:43:00.002+00:00

Valentine’s Day is the day of the year that you can really be extra romantic. And part of the romantic gestures you can do for your partner is to give him/her a valentine’s gift that will tickle his/her fancy more.

Gifts may not always be material things. They can be anything that would let your partner feel special. Here are two gift suggestions that he might like:

Exotic Massage. After spending your valentine getaway, for sure he/she would gladly like to have a massage especially from you. Try to acquire some essential oils that can help you do the job. You don’t have to be a professional masseur/masseuse. What matter most is you’re there for your partner to ease up his/her stress and draw positive energy from you. This will also be your way of showing how you care for him/her.

Porn Video. It’s not always about you and your partner making out. Why not try watching together a porn video? See how he/she reacts when watching with you. And this maybe your opportunity to share more about your sex fantasies with him/her. Through this, you may discover something else about your partner when it comes to sex.

Valentine's Day Getaway

2013-02-04T09:43:00.000+00:00

It’s February! And this is the month where most people get to be romantic because of Valentine’s Day. So what’s your plan on this romantic day? Tired of the usual movie and dinner date? Why not try an extreme getaway for a change? Take your partner to a different place where you can be wild and at the same time romantic. Look for a place where you can bond together as a couple and have an extreme adventure that would take both of your breath away. It’s time to bring your relationship to a different level. Take a leap and go out from your comfort zone of dating.

Here are some extreme adventures you might enjoy doing together:

Sky Diving. Adrenalin rush is good especially when you are experiencing it with your partner. Yes, you are not a type of person would jump from a sky! But would it be fun taking charge on that fear and sharing it with your partner?

Scuba Diving. Go to the most beautiful island and have fun in the water. It would be wonderful to witness the glorious creations under the sea with your partner. Captivating the wonders of the underworld would be a life changing event.

Extreme Riding. Who says couples shouldn’t go to Disneyland or any theme park? Go and have fun in theme park! But make sure you’ll only have the extreme rides and nothing else. Share those moments with your partner shouting and screaming at the top of your lungs while riding. If you have kids, please this time don’t bring them.

Rappelling. It is a technique that allows you to do a controlled descent down a rope. Try to go to a highest cliff or building with your partner then rappel together. It would be great to go down and feel the rush with someone special.

Missed A Year

2013-01-22T05:21:00.000+00:00

Dear Followers,

I'm very sorry that I had neglected you for 2012 that I was not able to post anything for the entire year. I'd been gone for self-enrichment. I had to sort my needs and wants, my priorities and passions. In other words, I tried reinventing myself. And up until now, I'm still in dilemma since I haven't decided yet what to do with my life. I know I am a good wife and a mother, yet something inside me want to prove that I can be anything else aside from being those two. So, I tried going back to school! Fortunately, I was blessed to be successful on that (I am now a Professional Secondary Teacher). But on the other hand, I'm not sure yet if I would go on that path. I guess I have to admit I'm in my mid-life crisis.

In the meantime, I decided to concentrate on working with my blogs. I would like to share to you again my thoughts and opinions, and hopefully I could make sense on things that I want to talk about. Therefore, for 2013 expect more blogs for me! Hopefully I can share something interesting that's worthy of your time to read and enjoy the topics.

Thank you so very much for your generous time reading Gurl Yah Luv!

Love,

Angel Sweet

Holiday 101 for Couples

2011-11-17T02:49:00.000+00:00

During the winter holidays, you may find yourselves and your marriage stressed from planning for the holidays. Here's holiday 101 to help the two of you navigate through the holiday season stress-free and with more joy.

Christmas Season Planning

If you talk with one another and do some planning, the two of you can enjoy the holidays instead of wishing they were over. Here's an advent calendar, tips on sharing holiday cards, celebrating the Twelve Days of Christmas, and more.

Holiday Survival Tips

Here's help in recognizing holiday marital stress, dealing with the holiday tug of war of where to go and what to do during the holidays, surviving the holidays, handling a hurting holiday, your first holiday season together, and more.

Gift Giving

If you are still looking for that special gift for your spouse, here are some ideas for gift giving along with last minute shopping tips.

Interfaith Issues

If you are in an interfaith marriage, the winter holidays can be challenging to your marriage relationship. We've provided tips on how to enjoy the holidays as an interfaith couple and suggestions on handing the holidays together.

Celebrating the New Year With One Another

Along with resolutions that may enrich your marriage, here are New Year's Eve themed movies to watch together, and suggestions on how to celebrate New Year's Eve.

Holiday is one special moment to share with your loved ones. But remember, it's more memorable to spend the holiday planning and celebrating when you (couples) work side-by-side to achieve this wonderful experience.

source: marriage.about.com

Cleansing Your Face: Do the Right Way

2011-10-26T11:26:00.000+00:00

Your face is one of the essential parts of your body that needs proper attention and care. Facial skin is one of the body parts that needs to be gently cleaned to remove dirt, make up and any other facial products that you have put on it without stripping the skin of its natural moisturizing factors.

According to Dr Natasha Cook, Sydney dermatologist, best way to clean your skin you must follow the simple steps:

1. Dampen your face with lukewarm water. "This will help you to spread the cleanser more evenly across the skin," explains Cook. "The water also helps activate some cleanser ingredients to remove debris."

Do not use hot water since it dehydrates the skin.

2. "Most skin types can use the same cleanser," advises Cook. Apply a small amount to your hands and with small, circular motions, use your fingertips to lightly massage across your skin.

3. Rinse using lukewarm water and pat your skin dry. "Rubbing your skin creates excess drag on the skin," explains Cook. This can cause damage, so be sure to keep things gentle. If your skin needs moisturizer, apply it while it is still damp.

Oily skin usually does not need moisturizer, but you can use a toner to lessen the oil. And dry skin needs to be moisturized from time to time.

4. Don't cleanse your skin more than twice a day.

8 Things Guys Notice About You Instantly

2011-09-09T04:49:00.000+00:00

I remember bumping into a guy coming out from an elevator…”Oopps! Sorry!” I said instantly and smiled at him. In seconds we had eye contact. He went out, I went in. As the elevator closing its door, there! I saw him; he turned his head and gave me a smile.

According to Cosmopolitan, The second a man sees you, he starts ticking off a checklist to determine if he’ll ask you out. Shocker: A nice badunkadunk is nowhere on that list.

You know that look where his eyes slide past you...then turn back? Wouldn’t it be great to know what stopped him? You totally can. “There are a few things men instantly observe when they meet a woman,” says Jackie Black, PhD, author of Meeting Your Match. Learn what they are and you can maximize your, um, assets. Then you’ll have your pick.

1. How Thick Your Hair Is
This is all about evolution. Since caveman days, dudes have been drawn to lush locks, which signal that a woman is healthy (translation: shaggable).

2. If Your Smile Is Genuine
Sometimes your eyes crinkle a bit when you grin. Most men are good at distinguishing the vibe of this kind of smile, which says you’re relaxed and fun.

3. The Size of Your Group
You don’t want a big bunch (it’ll be hard for him to approach) or just one friend (he’ll figure you wouldn’t desert her to talk to him). The perfect crew size? Three. Your two buds can keep each other company when you slip away.

4. The Pitch of Your Voice
Studies show that men are drawn to voices in a slightly higher register (think Kristin Bell’s), probably because — yep, evolution — they’re reliable signs of youth and reproductive health.

5. Your Hip-to-Waist Ratio
Yet again, blame eons of human history. Men instinctually look for baby mamas. If your waist is noticeably smaller than your hips, it signifies fertility — a huge point in your favor. A wide belt will emphasize that hourglass shape.

6. Your Glowiness
Guys associate a radiant complexion with good mental health. That’s because stress and anxiety usually cause breakouts and dull skin. So those lotions and bronzers you sweep over your cheeks? Totally worth it.

7. What’s Fake About You
Not personality-fake, but artificial-accoutrement- fake: lashes, hair extensions, etc. To guys, these things shout high-maintenance! Not good.

8. Your Eyes
People focus on eyes more than they do on any other body part. And dramatic eye makeup will have him zeroing in on your peepers even more.

source: Cosmopolitan.com

Best Foods to Eat to be Fit & Fab

2011-06-07T08:13:00.000+00:00

To be fit and fab is what all you wished for. You go crazy on different kinds of dieting just to be sexy. But is your diet really safe for you? Do you know that each person’s diet is different from the others? Thus, you can’t just follow any diet program. You have to create your own diet program, on your own time & phase. Aside from exercising, you must know the food you are eating.

Remember the food groups, go, grow & glow? These food groups are forever essentials to be fit and healthy. But as you age, you need to redefine the food groups:

GO: Complex Carbohydrates Foods

Carbohydrates provide your body with fuel it needs for your day-to-day physical activities. They also help your body organ to function well. But some foods contain simple carbohydrates (white bread, white rice, pastries, sodas, and highly processed foods) that may cause your body to gain weight.

Complex carbohydrate foods are basically those in wholegrain form such as wholegrain breads, oats, muesli and brown rice. Complex carbs are broken down into glucose more slowly than simple carbohydrates and thus provide a gradual steady stream of energy throughout the day.

The best sources of complex carbohydrates are from whole grains, vegetables, fruits and beans. These foods promote good health by delivering vitamins, minerals, fiber, and a host of important phytonutrients.

Hence, you can’t go simple on your carbohydrates. You need to be complex!

GROW: High Protein Foods

Not because you’d grown into adult stage, you don’t need the grow foods. Protein is an essential nutrient that is important to your health. Protein consists of chains of amino acids that are used by our bodies to grow muscles, hair, nails, skin and internal organs. Beef, pork, chicken, fish, nuts, & beans are good source of proteins. But remember, beef, pork & chicken also give fats and you don’t want that in your body. Just like your body, you want to be lean.

Therefore, eat only lean meats.

GLOW: High Fiber Foods

How will you ever achieve your body to glow inside and out? It’s easy! Eat high fiber foods.

Fiber is a type of carbohydrate found in fruits, vegetables, and grains. Why is fiber such a big deal? Not only do fibrous foods contain many vitamins and minerals, fiber also packs health benefits including:

• Delaying sugar into the blood stream – slows how quickly sugar goes into your bloodstream and therefore may reduce peaks of blood sugar levels

• Reducing body weight – helps to make you feel full longer and may displace “empty calorie” foods

• Reducing blood cholesterol – if you have heart problems or high cholesterol, eating high fiber foods may help to reduce your blood cholesterol levels

• Alleviating constipation – helps to improve regularity.

Follow the food pyramid with these high definition food groups. Create your own diet and be your own nutritionist. Know your food. Always keep in mind that the best diet to have is the Balance Diet. In time, you'll have the coca-cola figure you wanted!

How to Burn Calories with Pleasure

2011-02-28T06:30:00.007+00:00

Experts say that an hour of sex can burn calories 4x your body weight (kg). So, if you weigh 70kg, you can burn 280 calories if you have sex for an hour. Imagine that! You now have the pleasure to burn calories. If partners would always have their intimate moments and looking it as way of losing weights, this will give new changes in improving relationships.

According to howtodothings.com Sexercise is a relatively new term that refers to using sexual activity as a means of exercising with the objective of toning and conditioning the body. Ideally, sexercising is a couple’s exercise activity however, one can sexercise as an individual through masturbation with aerobic energy and liveliness. While many people abhor the idea of using the sacred stature of sex as a means of healthy living, the reality is that sex is one of the most effective aerobic activities in the world. Most of all sexercising means reaching a heightened state of ecstasy through exercise. You really can’t imagine anyone denying this very appealing idea of losing weight and extremely enjoying it simultaneously.

In any case, here are some facts on how you can sexercise with your partner to a healthier body.

Chest and arms (Male). The missionary position where the man is on top is quite similar to how a man would do normal military pushups. This being said, a man can use this position to work his chest muscles and triceps like a normal push up. To perfect the position, have your partner lie flat on her back with her legs spread apart. Assume the position and insert your penis into her vagina. Once inserted, assume the push up position and start going up and down like a normal push up. Make sure your penis goes in and out her vagina properly. Do as many sets as you can or until orgasm by both parties is achieved. If you do the exercise with your hips doing the motion instead of your arms and chest, then you will be working more of your abdomen and hip muscles. It is up to you to play with the variation depending on what muscle groups you want to work with.

Thighs and hips (Male). A variant of the doggy style position called the rifleman position is another great sexercise for the man. The position starts by you inserting your penis from behind in a traditional doggystyle position. Your partner then lowers her body to a point where her elbows are the posts for her upper body. At this point, the man should lift one leg and move it forward to emulate how a rifleman would shoot a rifle in a kneeling position. This position will work the lower and upper muscles of the thighs as well as develop and strengthen the hip muscles. Alternate the legs to balance the workout for both legs.

Arms and chest (Female). A good position to get your partner going is by assuming the wheelbarrow position with her as the wheelbarrow and you as the wheelbarrow driver. Insert your penis from behind and start plowing away. Since your partner is using her arms and chest to hold her body up while you pound away, the muscles used will develop and strengthen.

Abdomen and hips (Female). One of the simplest positions for a woman to get a good abdominal and hip workout is by simply assuming the cowgirl position where she rides on top of the man like a horse. At this position, the girl will insert the man’s penis into her vagina and start gyrating similar to how she would ride a horse or bull. The rocking back and forth with her hips will develop her abs and hips. She can position her legs to lift her up to create some variation with the position and work her legs and butt muscles as well.

Almost every sexual position known to man can become an effective exercise to burn calories and develop muscles. And since the activity can result in people achieving a state of ecstasy, it is no wonder why sexercising has now become one of the most popular workout regimens today.

Be FIT, Be FAB!

2011-02-04T01:33:00.003+00:00

Fit & Fab – the new word combo that many likes to achieve. Being fit is no nonsense but being fabulous at the same time is an aspiration for everyone. Yet the ultimate question is…how does one be FIT and be FAB?

Being fit is not just about dieting and losing weight. It’s about the determination and discipline to maintain your body in your normal weight and at the same time healthy. Yes, you have lost weight! But are you healthy? You can’t just lose weight and risk your health condition. Dieting is not about skipping meals so you can avoid the food that makes you fat. When you skip meals, you also skip important nutrients that your body needs. And being thin is not being fit. Slim is not another term for healthy. To be fit, you must be on top form, well and good healthy.

How to be fit & fab? Follow these simple rules:

Maintain Balance. In everything you do, never under or over do it. Moderation is the key. Even in your diet! Always take a balance diet. Just simply follow the food pyramid in eating and watch your calorie intake.

Make exercise a habit. Exercise is getting healthy from the inside out. 20-30 minute work-out a day will not burn extra calories you have gained. It will only boost your cardiovascular system. If you want to shed off extra pounds, extend your work-out time for 15-20 more minutes. When you reach your ideal weight, exercise will help keep the weight off. So, exercise daily and make it a habit!

Combining diet and exercise will help you be fit. If you are fit, from head to toe, then you feel better inside and out. Thus, you feel good about yourself. You have the confidence to face the world. Your radiance glows. Your energy flows tremendously. You become vivacious. And people will see that. You have now the capacity to affect others. Hence, fabulous you will be!

Get Rid of Your LOVE HANDLES!

2011-01-19T13:52:00.002+00:00

Love handles sound beautiful. Yet, when you know what it is you won’t actually like it. It is the tender term used for the flabby section in the middle part of your body. It is the unwanted portion that you want to get rid so that you would look fit and slimmer.

Regrettably, you sometimes forget to intensify your exercise on this part. Now, it’s time to work on it harder and get rid of those love handles!

Here are some exercises that you can add in your daily workout to trim your mid-section and have a well-contoured abs.

Leg Flutters

A lot of people don't realize that in order to tone your middle and love handle area you also need to strengthen your back. This creates a balance in your torso and reduces the fat on your back.

1. Lie on your stomach and lift your head up slightly

2. You can keep your arms straight out at your sides or bend them with your elbows resting beside you.

3. Lift your feet and knees off the floor and flutter your legs rapidly back and forth. Do this for 20 seconds. Take a 20 second break and then repeat again.

Twist Crunches

This exercise will work your internal and external obliques as well as the rectus abdominis. These are the two muscle groups that live around your waist. Fat is generally stored on top of these muscles, thus creating the love handle effect.

1. Lie on your back with your knees bent.

2. Carefully lift your head up and place your hands behind your head without locking your fingers together.

3. Twist to the right bringing your left elbow to your right knee. Extend your left leg out.

4. Now twist back to the left bringing your right elbow to your left knee. Extend your right leg out.

5. Repeat 25 times.

Standing Trunk Twists

This is a good aerobic-type exercise that will help get your heart rate up as well as burn some calories in your middle.

1. Stand with your feet about a foot apart and knees relaxed.

2. Twist your torso to the left while keeping your hips and legs as stable as possible. As you twist to the left, cross your right arm in front of your body in a punching motion.

3. Twist back to the right and cross your left arm over your body in a punching motion.

4. Do 100 reps.

source:www.flat-stomach-exercises.com

10 Things To Stop Doing in Your Relationships

2011-01-15T07:08:00.003+00:00

The hardest thing that people can build in his lifetime is relationship. One requires ultimate hardwork so that relationship will last a lifetime. If there are 10 Commandments to be a good Christian and there are laws to abide to be a good citizen, certainly there are also do's and dont's in relationships.

Want to build positive relationships? Then make sure not to commit the following 10 things that disrupt relationships:

Giving hurtful comments. Are you hurting others by your lack of tact? You might think that you’re being helpful, but your intentions might have hurt the other party instead. Put yourself in others’ shoes first. If it’s not a comment you appreciate hearing yourself, then perhaps it’s not something others will appreciate either.
Giving solutions when the person is really looking for a listening ear. Probably an understatement: A lot of times what people want is a listening ear. Deep down, people have solutions to the problems they are facing – they are just looking for someone to share their frustrations with because they have had a long and hard day. I had a friend who would always butt in with suggestions whenever I shared my frustrations. Our conversations became stifling – in the end I stopped talking about them altogether because I wasn’t getting the refuge I wanted. Be more conscious of what the other party is looking for, and adjust accordingly to fit that.
Being judgmental; Thinking you are above others. No one likes to be judged or labeled. If you are constantly judging others for what they do/say, it might be good to reflect that upon yourself. Putting someone off doesn’t make someone a better person; it just makes him/her appear insecure. Humility is a timeless virtue that’s appreciated by everyone.
Being defensive to criticism. How well do you respond to criticism? Do you become defensive and wall yourself up? Or do you graciously take it into stride and use the criticism constructively for growth? Learn to deal with critical people – it might be the most important skill you can ever acquire.
Telling people what to do. Most of us don’t like it when people try to boss us around. Learning to energize people and get them on board a common vision is more empowering than trying to order people around.
Being aloof; Not being responsive. I have experienced situations where acquaintances do not respond to correspondences, possibly because they do not see them as important. Subsequently I form a very bad impression of them, and deprioritize their requests when they seek my help later on.
Thinking you know it all. The more I learn, the more I realize what I don’t know. There is a wealth of knowledge out there for us to learn. Thinking you know everything, rejecting new methods and vehemently insisting on your ways prevents you from connecting with others. Be open to trying new things.
Being a complainer. It’s okay to complain every once in a while, but doing it all too often puts off people. Complaining too much makes you an energy vortex – it becomes draining to be around you. People like to be around positive people, not energy vampires. If you are one, it’s not too late to change – start by focusing on positive things around you and work from there.
Not following up on things you agreed on. One of my pet peeves is when people don’t follow up on things they agree on (be it appointments, favors, etc). I think it makes them unreliable and leaves a very bad taste in my mouth. These are the same people that I make a note not to work with in the future.
Not listening. Are you present in your conversations with others? Or is your mind on something else? When conversing with someone, learn to not only listen, but listen actively. Seek out the underlying message behind what someone is saying.

source:www.lifehack.org

Relationship Status

2010-09-15T06:43:00.004+00:00

Relationship is a bond that associates you to other people. This gives you the ability to share your being It allows you to express how you feel toward another being. But how do you define relationship status?

Relationship varies thus it has different levels. Usually, when one talks about his relationship status; he talks about how he relate to his very special person.

Single. Simply means you don’t have a very special person.

In A Relationship. You have a very special person but you don’t like to commit yourself 100%.

It’s Complicated. You put yourself in trouble that your very special person is also in relationship with other person.

Engaged. You promised to commit yourself to your very special person.

Married. You completely surrender and committed yourself to your very special person.

Divorced. You like being single again.

No matter what your relationship status is, as long as you are happy then be it!

BFF Ten Commandments

2010-04-21T11:56:00.006+00:00

You shall love your bff platonically.
You shall not use your bff’s name to gossip.
Honor your bff’s birthday.
Respect your bff’s mother & father.
You shall not fall in love on the same person.
You shall not steal your bff’s bf and/or gf.
You shall not be involved with your bff’s ex.
You shall not be a bridge between your bff and his/her object of affection.
You shall not have hidden desire with your bff.
You shall not keep secrets from your bff.

Fun Under the Sun

2010-03-23T14:38:00.009+00:00

The most awaited season – summer! No matter how hot summer brings, you look forward to it. It’s the time of the year to chillax and enjoy. It is the time to have fun under the sun and bare some skin. But no matter how you like this season, you need to protect yourself from the harmful rays of the great fire ball. Or you end up having radical cells on your precious skin which may lead to cancer.

So how are you going to shield your skin from the UV rays of the sun yet have fun? Follow the simple steps:

SUNBLOCK! If your activity would expose you most of the time outside, wear sunblock. Don’t go out without it. Use one that has SPF formula that guards you from 97 percent of UVA and UVB rays. Try to re-apply after few hours of exposing to the sun.

HYDRATE! Keep hydrated. Drink water more than the usual of 8 glasses a day. Eat fruits that are high in vitamins and natural water.

MOISTURIZE! Apply body lotion/moisturizer after shower. Some bath soaps rub off the natural skin oil. Therefore it is very important to apply moisturizer after shower to bring back the lost oil. Dry skin may cause wrinkles. And don’t forget to moisturize your lips by applying balm.

PROTECT! Use protection gears when crusading under the sun. Use umbrella or wear hats/caps. Use sunglasses. Never let yourself be exposed too long under the sun or you would end up looking like a roasted duck.

Saying “I Love You!”

2010-02-12T05:41:00.008+00:00

“I Love You!” Can there be any sweeter than that? Eight letters, three words, yet so powerful. The statement may sound simple or corny but people yearn to hear them. And to some, they have hard time in uttering these words. People seek affection and adulation, and with these three words, it confirms such feelings. With this statement, it affirms and builds mutual understandings. Hence, creates undeniably wonderful relationships between people.

So how do you say “I Love You!”? Let me count the ways:

Say it with spontaneity. Say how you feel right there and there. Don’t wait for special moment or occasion. Utter the words without hesitations. You’ll be surprised how the receiving end would take it. Don’t worry about rejections. What matter most, you let go of your guard and you’re being true to yourself and how you feel.

Say it with card. If you can’t say it face to face, send a card or note. Make sure you write the words. It is important that the words are written with your own penmanship, so the receiver would feel your sincerity.

Say it via e-card. The fastest way to commune is through the net. This way distance would not be a problem. Choose the sweetest and most impressive e-card. This way, not only you have shared your feelings, the receiver would be entertained too.

Say it via SMS. Technologies nowadays help us to make our life easier and convenient. They help us connect constantly and instantly. “I love you” would surely delight anyone’s day once he/she receive such message. And the reply is just a text away.

Say it through the web. There are different applications / sites where you can make shout-outs. Make a comment, post it on a wall, share a link, tweet, tumblr, blog …etc.

No matter how you say “I Love You!”, it only conveys one thing – your feelings. It means you are willing to share your affection to the other person.

Be Bold and Daring for Your Man this Valentine.

2010-02-10T05:04:00.005+00:00

All men secretly crave boundary-pushing action in bed, so whip out some naughty moves to wow him like crazy.

A guy who’s been with one practically passes out from bliss when he talks about his experience. You might be thinking, “Who, me? Be a bad girl?” But any woman who wants to can wake up her hibernating vixen...and have a damn good time doing it!

Bed-devil status is about a fearless attitude, not how much sexual experience you have or whether you wear leather. “Guys dig when women are unbridled and uninhibited, push their own boundaries, break the rules, and ask for what they want,” says Barbara Keesling, PhD, author of The Good Girl’s Guide to Bad Girl Sex. So we boiled down the naughty qualities that make some women stand out, then came up with audacious ideas for putting them into play. These tips and tricks will forever crank up the heat in your sex life.

DARE: Be the Boss in Bed Tonight
A wickedly sexy woman knows how to deliciously exploit the power she has over a man. Tell your guy to lie down on the bed, then use handcuffs, scarves, or a necktie to tether his hands together so he can’t touch you. (If you're not game to use real restraints, you can simply hold his hands over his head.)

Next, "you want to torture him playfully with your teasing,” says sex expert Candida Royalle, author of How to Tell a Naked Man What to Do. “Slowly kiss your way down his torso, and just as you get to his pelvis, move back up to his ears and neck.”

As you tantalize him and he strains to touch you, ask him to tell you why he wants you so bad, explaining that you won’t let him free until he convinces you. Once he’s pleaded his case, release his hands, roll onto your back , and allow him to take over. After building up the erotic anticipation, it’ll be like setting a windup toy loose on your body...and hearing him describe how hot you are will turbocharge your experience too.

DARE: Learn to Talk Dirty
Moans and sighs (Oh! Oh!) are easy. It’s the dirty dialogue that really puts a triple-X stamp on your sex sessions. “Talking dirty heightens the whole experience, keeps you both present, and turns you on even more,” says Royalle. “Plus, men actually like being told what to do in bed because it helps them get it right.”

First tell him how freakin’ good he feels. (Tongue-tied? Try no-fail lines like “You feel so/You make me [adjective]”; “I love it when you [verb] my [body part].”) Then you’re set to show him the way to send you soaring, with something like, “Oooh, almost there. I need your [noun] on my [body part], just like this.”

DARE: Give Him a Jolt
Breaking out of your touch-here-then-lick-there routine adds a lusty layer to the erotic experience. And fearless sexual playmates know that unexpectedly intense sexual maneuvers are even more exciting. “A forceful touch snaps your guy into the moment and heightens every sensation that follows,” says Royalle. “The spontaneity also keeps him anticipating each touch, magnifying his excitement.” Plus, the implied roughness invites him to tap in to his primal, wild sexual self.

Grip his butt hard while in missionary, scratch his chest and the sides of his torso while in girl-on-top, or yank his head toward you to give him a passionate, damn-straight kind of kiss. If those moves elicit an excited response, firmly spank his butt, lightly bite his shoulder, or tug his hair in the act, you devilish thing.

Gurl, it’s 2010. Be bold and daring! Let your man see the devilish-self of you on bed. Drive him crazy on Valentine’s Day.
Source: www.cosmopolitan.com

Love is in the Air

2010-02-03T05:05:00.004+00:00

Once again, it’s love month! February is tag as the “Love Month” because of Valentine’s Day. Hopelessly romantics look forward for this month. Different love stuffs are shared between lovers. Yet, the question is, “Do you know what really LOVE means?” LOVE can mean different things to each one of us. There are different perceptions about it. And also it can post different receptions. But no matter how we perceive and receive it, we know it is essential to our being. We need to love and be loved.

LOVE is a natural phenomenon and we can’t help falling in it. Lucky are those who experienced it with awe and satisfaction. It’s the sweetest thing possible. Yet to some, LOVE hurts too. Yes, it can cause heartaches more than we could imagine. But LOVE is not just between lovers or partners or spouses. It is a universal marvel that can be shared to everyone. And the degree and intensity of it varies.

LOVE, LOVE, LOVE! No matter what, we always yearn for it. So, go out there and start falling or keep falling in it.

Rediscover Yourself!

2010-01-06T04:27:00.004+00:00

For the past decade you worked so hard and was so busy that you forgot to do things that you really love doing. You were preoccupied with your job that you hate so much. You concentrated on providing for your family. You consumed yourself taking care of other’s business. You stressed yourself so much that at the end of the day you found yourself ungratified.

Stop beating yourself up! It’s about time to rediscover yourself and be happy. When was the last time you really feel good about yourself? How many things that you love doing but neglected them somehow? How long would you punish yourself on stuffs that making you a zombie?

It’s about time to remember the bits and pieces that make you happy. It’s about time to redirect yourself and be amused by the things you love doing. If you love to sing in a shower but you couldn’t do it anymore coz you’re always in a rush to get ready, do it! Never mind if you’d be tardy once in a while. If you love dancing but no time to groove coz you need to meet deadlines, dance! Work must be done only during workdays. Non-workdays must be free from any work related activities. So who says you can’t dance on weekends? Party if you must!

Sing, dance, paint, read, play golf, etc.! The point is, don’t give up something you love doing just because you’re busy doing other things. Time management is always the key. Don’t deprive yourself from stuffs you love just because you’re busy raising a family, getting yourself promoted…blah, blah, blah. In a nutshell, no one can make you happy unless you know how to be happy by yourself.

Spread Love This Holiday Season

2009-12-11T13:57:00.003+00:00

‘tis the season to be jolly! Wouldn’t it be great if you’re an instrument to spread love this holiday season as Michael Jackson said in his song “Give Love on Christmas Day”? Start sharing your smile, believe it not, it would go way longer than a mile. Forget the past and lead a path to forgiveness. Never mind whose fault it was, just extend a hand and make amends. A simple “Thank You” lit up someone’s gaze. Don’t forget to utter such words coz it changes one’s perspective. Volunteer every now and then and help those who can’t seem to stand on their own. Being part of charity works may not seem to appeal to you, but you’ll be surprised how charity works on your being. Be spontaneous on doing kindness. It’s not like most would take advantage of it. It’s better to be kind than just being nice.

If LOVE is a virus, probably people would be grateful catching and having it then would like to pass it on. So, give LOVE and spread it! Nobody would complain.

Indulging Treat on Holidays

2009-11-25T02:55:00.004+00:00

Treat doesn’t necessarily mean just food or object, especially on Holiday season. This season, try giving your partner a treat that will surely put him/her on cloud nine. This time, make sure that your man/lady will surely be indulged yet at the same time you will also enjoy your own treat with him/her.

Holiday is a time to chill and relax with your significant other. So, why not give your partner an extravagant getaway. Away from the usual surrounding and away from everything else but you. One weekend would be enough to let you and your partner spend quality time with each other. Yes, you are always together but when is the last time you were passionately intimate with one another?

There are many beautiful places to go to. Or you can just check-in in a nice hotel with plenty of amenities and have fun. Holiday is not just celebrating and partying. This season, make it a getaway! It’s ok to be lavish this time of the year as long as you are splurging it for your behalf.