Happiness

Finding Your True Happiness

2010-03-20T20:30:00.000+02:00

Most people look outside of themselves as the cause of their unhappiness or frustration. After all, wouldn't life be practically perfect if the significant people in our lives would simply do things the way we want them to or do what we think is best for them? Actually, this is the kind of thinking that perpetuates the misery!

I agree that most of today's unhappiness centers on important people in our lives not cooperating with us. Can anyone relate to that? Have you ever had a child who makes a decision that puts them in serious danger? Have you ever had a significant other decide to relocate or make an employment decision with which you were not in agreement? Did one of your parents ever say something critical to you that rocked your confidence? Ever had a supervisor who micromanaged your work and never gave credit for your good work performance? I think you get the idea. Any one or combination of these things can be a source of unhappiness for us and I'm sure you can add several others to the list.

While we are in situations such as these, it sure feels like if the others in our life would just cooperate and be the way we want them to be, and then our lives would be so much better, happier and more fulfilling. While this may, in fact, be true, what I also believe is this. While we are busy trying to get those significant others in our lives to do things our way, the behaviors we typically engage in to move others in our desired direction are exactly those behaviors that damage, and ultimately destroy, our relationships.

You know the behaviors I'm talking about: punishing, guilting, complaining, nagging, threatening, criticizing, "the silent treatment", and if we are particularly savvy, rewarding to control, otherwise known as bribing.
If you are one of those people whose first choice of action is to negotiate and open the doors of communication, then you are rare. Ask yourself what do you typically resort to when negotiations fail?

I know one of my more polished behaviors is nagging. I am a world class nag---just ask my children. You know the drill. "How about cleaning up your room today?" Thirty minutes later, after the child is still in front of his video game, "Are you going to get to that room today?" Maybe two hours later, several decibels louder, "What about that ROOM?" Then, as a last frustration, it's "Will you get off your lazy a*# and clean your blankety blank blank room!!!!" Ever been there? Did it work to get the room cleaned? In my case, it usually didn't.

However, I've have had some parents tell me that repeated nagging does work but then my next question usually has a different answer---At what cost? What was the cost of getting that room cleaned? First, there was the cost of you losing control and being a person you probably don't want to be and secondly, there was a definite cost to the relationship between you and your child. Do you believe that after an exchange such as that one, the two of you will be ready and willing to have a meaningful discussion about life or anything else about which you may like to talk? Probably not.

What I am about to say probably goes against what you have believed the good majority of your life and that is that you, and you alone, are responsible for your own happiness. If you are waiting for someone to do something differently or for a particular thing to manifest itself in your life in order for you to be happy, then you are operating from the outside in instead of the inside out.

I am not here to tell you to stop what you are currently doing. If you want to hold on to your beliefs that when your husband becomes more affectionate, your children more obedient, your wife more supportive, your boss more appreciative or you to get your education, pay off your credit cards, buy your first home, etc. in order for you to be happy, then go ahead. But for those of us who want to practice inside out thinking, we don't like to give the power to others to control our happiness or any of our other moods or emotions. We know that we are responsible for ourselves and no one else.

What I can help you with is learning how to be the person you want to be, feel the emotions you want to feel by changing what you do and how you think about things. There is a quote I want to leave you with from Jimmy Dean. "You can't change the direction of the wind, but you can adjust your sails." This is representative of true inside out thinking. People and events are going to be what they are around us. There is very little we can do to impact other people's behavior and the uncontrollable events in our lives but there is always something each of us can do to manage those things better.

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Find Out What Is Happiness In Life

2010-03-20T20:21:00.000+02:00

Do you move through life feeling everyday is the same? Like some repeated pattern that goes on and on? For some people, there's nothing new to do under the sun, and nowhere to go. Everything is just boring, boring, boring. They work so hard to earn enough money to play, but yet their playtime passes so fast. Suffer five days, enjoy two days. Sometimes, to break the monotony, they seek thrill through intoxicants (alcohol, smoke), sex, and even drugs. For these temporary pleasures, it feels exciting while it's happening, but once it's over, the same pattern of meaninglessness sets in, and they're left thinking, "When can I get the next high?"

Perhaps you will recognize this scene... Two old men are sitting on a bus. As the bus passes by the red-light district, one old man says to the other, "Hey... aren't you going to see the chickens (prostitute) today?" The other man raises an eyebrow... a spark in his wrinkled eyes, "Yes, yes, I will be going this afternoon!" The first old man smirks, and says, "You didn't even bring your medicine, how can you DO IT?"

For some people, their lust is so strong, that they borrow money from family and friends, just to visit brothels. You will see this pattern in addicts. Drug addicts, sex addicts, alcohol addicts. They're always looking for the greater thrill and the next high, and that's what sets their life on a downward spiral. They waste their time, energy, and money, instead of using it to build success.

For life to have zest, everyone needs that natural feeling of drive, anticipation, and excitement. When one does not know how to get it naturally, one may resort to vices to stimulate that sense of being fully alive, desperately trying to bring some meaning into life. But you see, happiness is within you... If you can't satisfy your wants, then the other way to happiness is to release them. Let go of that which you must have. Shakyamuni Buddha said that, "All desire leads to suffering..." Suffering because you crave what you do not have. And let me ask you this: Is this yearning self-created? Or something imposed on you by the outside world? Perhaps it's the outside world's fault because other people keep flaunting their luxuries and exotic experiences. But surely, we create this yearning within ourselves. It is within our power to control it, or release it altogether.

Lord Richard Layard, Professor from the London School of Economics, a leading happiness researcher, says, "Happiness is a balance between your expectations and your attainments. One way is to get what you want. The other, is liking what you get."

Many of our desires are misplaced. We think getting them will bring us happiness, but that is an illusion. These misplaced desires are nothing more than temporary pleasures. You don't need to satisfy your desires to be happy; you need only release them. Do you need the attention of the opposite sex? No, as you get older, your body parts will sag, and the opposite sex will pay less attention to you. Must you get laid to be happy? No, as you age, your sex hormones will lessen, and so will your desire to mate. Must you wait till you have a million bucks? Nope. Historical and worldwide research shows that above US$15,000 a year, higher income is no guarantee of greater happiness.

The people who feel good everyday, without resorting to vices, have one mental characteristic in common. They have a dream, and they know what they want to achieve in life. This sense of purpose drives them; gives meaning to their existence. They have discovered their soul's calling, and are living life to the fullest by following it. This is different from those who are 'party animals', "living life to the fullest" by drowning in deafening music, and shaking till the sun rises... That's not living, that's dying.

If you want to find true meaning and happiness in life, then you've got to uncover your life's purpose. For each of us has a unique destiny. A path made specially for you to walk on this journey through life. Follow it, and you arrive in paradise. Ignore it, and you continue to wander... wasting time, and life itself.

1. You need to know what you're made of. Your talents, strengths, and abilities. 2. Craft a vision for yourself, and visualize that dream in your mind. 3. Work out a plan that sets your goals and decides what actions you must take to achieve them. 4. Tell your closest friends about it, and commit yourself to taking five of the planned actions everyday to build your dream.

When you see that your actions are creating results, it will be a natural source of excitement and inspiration. Instead of spending time, energy, and money on vices, you invest it in creating an upward spiral of success. By releasing your desire for temporary pleasures, you kick your bad habit out the door. By choosing to live your purpose and answer your soul's calling, you break free from the chains of monotony, and find truth, meaning, and happiness in life.

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Make Your Life Happy: The 5-Second Decision You Can Choose For Your Life Pursuit of Happiness

2010-03-20T20:16:00.000+02:00

Someone in one of my seminars recently confessed she had no idea what happiness meant. She was responding to a self-assessment measuring stress and burnout levels. She soon realized that her life was so full of "to-do's" and that there was no space for what we'll refer to as "woo-hoo's." She felt buried and burdened under a mass of tasks and could never shout an enthusiastic "woo-hoo!" to celebrate the joys in her life.

This audience member made me ponder the true source of our happiness and prosperity. I'm linking happiness and prosperity since the word "wealth" comes from "weal" which meant "well-being." Being happy and being wealthy, i.e. experiencing well-being, is not something that happens--It is something we create, consciously with determination!

First of all, when I talk about happiness and prosperity, let's get something Waterford crystal clear. I'm not addressing the surface happiness of material pleasures though these certainly contribute to our well-being and comfort. (Nothing like a cup of rich hot chocolate and a luxurious bubble bath, for example!)

What I AM talking about is the happiness that comes from living your life as YOU see fit, according to YOUR beliefs and principles as well as the guidance from YOUR Higher Power.

But being happy does not mean your life is free from sorrows and hardships. In fact, I've found that pain and sorrow can give rise to the most exquisite awareness of what it is to be fully human, to be in a body that aches sometimes, holding a heart that breaks at times.

My first big heartbreak was my parents' separation and divorce, an event that estranged me from my brother and father. I was overweight and hitting puberty with glasses, braces, corrective shoes, and a slew of blackheads. I felt UGLY and unloved, so I spent a few years in silence, not speaking unless I absolutely had to. (I know that's hard to believe from this "big talking speaker," but it's true!) I cut myself off from everyone around me and let my loneliness and sorrow fester inside.

Then at sixteen, I made a decision, a conscious decision, to be happy. I was in high school, about to get on the bus to ride home, and I remember telling myself that everything I did from there on out was for my happiness, growth, and empowerment!

My life changed for good---I lost weight, started singing and acting, became popular on my own terms, and began to see life as an adventurous script I was co-writing with my Higher Power.

My story illustrates that happiness is a choice. It's a choice that I continue to make on a daily basis now. Here's how to do it: In the morning when you get up, instead of thinking about all the things you HAVE to or SHOULD do, focus on all the things you GET to do. I choose to focus on what I GET to do, and let me assure you, just that one simple attitudinal change makes a palpable difference in your happiness and well-being.

As the Dalai Lama affirms, "The purpose of our lives is to be happy." And the process of figuring out what makes you happy can take time and energy. But if you want to turn your life from a "to-do" into a "woo-hoo," the first step is that small shift in the morning before you even get out of bed. Your decision to make the day a good day is just as essential as brushing your pearly whites or making sure your socks match before you step out the door. Set your internal compass on what you GET to do and you'll never have to say, "I have no idea what happiness is."

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Dr. Barnsley Brown is a professional speaker and coach who loves helping busy professionals create balance and prosperity. Find out how to have 2+ more hours every day for who and what you love with Dr. Brown's fun, info-packed report, "How to Overcome Overwhelm in Seven Easy Steps" at http://tinyurl.com/freeoverwhelmreport

Hypnose | key to inner peace, health and happiness

2010-03-20T19:59:00.000+02:00

Hypnose works on the assumption that human mind has all the healing powers in the world. Most pain, sufferings, mental, emotional blocks and psychological disorders can be effectively addressed through the efficient use of hypnosis. Not only physical ailments, hypnosis are your best ally to fight certain also.
Persons with medical conditions are seeking alternative and complimentary care. So many people want to lose weight, stop smoking, gain self-confidence, and improve their lives. So many people can't. They struggle and struggle with diets. They lose pounds, then put them right back on. They quit smoking dozens of times, and they resolve to quit completely "next week." But next week comes and they're still smoking.

Hypnose or Hypnosis is a state. You cannot compare this mode with either the sleeping or being awake. Popular Hypnosis can be described as the state between awake and asleep. The state does not provide full justice. For although a person may look as if the body is completely relaxed and almost asleep, as happens very much in mind.

Hypnosis is best described as a condition where you have access to the automated process that you've learned yourself throughout life. Hypnose is used to capture a person's (or client's) awareness of a previous learning, you want changed. Hypnosis today is widely known and something that has helped people subsequently been made aware of the benefits of hypnosis has on human life situation.
Treatment with Hypnose after going to work directly with a person's subconscious and unconscious mind and thereby affect the feelings, thoughts and behaviors. Use Hypnotherapy to stop smoking, lose weight or even put the sparkle back in your love life and use Hypnotherapy to change something that you no longer wish to bother you, such as a habit or being stressed... Or maybe life is great for you, and you just want to learn how to make life better.

Hypnose behandling (Hypnotherapy) help people to help themselves using the power of the mind! You can enjoy the professional satisfaction of seeing your clients improve before your own eyes. You will have made a difference in their lives. Hypnosis is a therapeutic treatment of your thoughts, feelings and action patterns. Hypnosis therapy is a short conversation which reintegrates the new insights into the conscious mind.

Hypnosis is both normal and natural, and while you are in hypnosis you have access to your subconscious mind - the part which knows just what to do and how to do it, the part which acts automatically and spontaneously. Whilst in hypnosis your mind is very open to visualizations and you have the ability to create a more powerful sensory experience. The more real the experience becomes in the subconscious mind during this state, the more effect it will have on what you wish to achieve.

Some of the proven results of hypnosis include fighting addictions, like smoking, alcoholism, drug abuse, etc., anger management, weight loss pain-free childbirth without medication, surgery without anesthesia, controlling hypertension and fluctuating blood pressure etc. Hypnose actually helps in optimally utilizing the beneficial aspects of hypnose for self-betterment. And above all, you can manage your own time and free to practice it when convenient.

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Pursuing your dreams

2010-03-20T19:57:00.000+02:00

Life is short, a little too short if you ask me. Sometimes I think about how large the universe is and that in the big scheme of things our individual lives are completely irrelevant.

Even if you a person like Obama who is president of the most powerful country in the world is irrelevant in the big scheme of things. Most people would call this mindset negative and pessimistic, but I see it as extremely positive.

Realizing that the things we take so harshly on ourselves in life are not of great meaning gives us freedom and lets us enjoy life. Don't judge yourself so hard when something goes wrong or you are "embarrassed", with enough time no one will remember and besides who are other people to judge you and your actions and say whether they were embarrassing or not?

Realize that we will all die at some point and that life is all about pursuing the things you value the most and really enjoy doing, as long as they are good intentioned and cause no harm to others. Too many of us get caught up in small everyday things and judge ourselves and create negativity around these small useless things.
Just the fact that we were conceived is literally a miracle and a one in a million occurrence, now are we going to waste that judging ourselves or are we going to start enjoying life and doing all the things we have put off for such a long time.

Find those dreams that you used to have and have eventually died out. Don't give up on those dreams as following them is where you will find joy and happiness, not only by reaching them but because of the underlying journey you will undergo.

I am a big believer of showing care and concern for others, but this should not stand in your way of achieving and pursuing your dreams. If you really have a passionate and burning desire for something then go for it, don't listen to all the nay sayers and people who can talk for hours about why you can't reach your goals and pursue your dreams. Who are they to say what you can achieve and where your potential in life lies?

Write down the dreams you are going to pursue and create a plan you will follow and then take massive action and adjust until you reach your goals!

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Self Esteem Activities - Your Right To be Happy

2010-03-20T19:48:00.000+02:00

You Can Be As Happy As You Want To Be

Living a jovial, buoyant and optimistic life is wonderful, and is furthermore beneficial for your wellbeing. Being jovial really protects you from the stresses of life. Stress is linked to top causes of death such as heart disease, cancer and stroke.

One of the better things ever said is - 'The only thing in life that will forever continue the same is change', and in our life we contain the power to produce the needed changes if we choose to. Even if we discover ourselves in an unbearable position we can at all times achieve support in the awareness that it too will transform.

Social networks or relationships are essential to happiness. People are diverse, you have to acknowledge folks for who or what they are, dodge clashes, constant arguments, and let go of all kinds of resentments. If arguments seem unavoidable still try and produce an effort to understand the circumstances and you might just get along with well with

Happiness is in fact found in one and all, increasing it is a way to give rise to a life more wonderful and furthermore more healthy.

To be happy is relatively straightforward, merely decide to be a happy person. Abraham Lincoln observed that nearly all folks for nearly all of the time can desire how happy or stressed, how relaxed or troubled, how brilliant or dull their outlook to be. The option is straightforward really, choose to be happy.

There are several ways by which you can make sure of this. Being thankful is a splendid way of thinking. We hold so much to be thankful for. Thank the taxi driver for bringing you back home safely, thank the cook for a wonderful feast and thank the guy who cleans your windows. Also thank the mailman for bringing you your mails, thank the policeman for making your place safe and thank God for being alive.

News is stressful. So - Get a smaller amount of it. Some folks just can't start their day devoid of their daily dose of news. Try and think about it, 99% of the news we hear or read is bad news. Starting the day with bad news does not seem to be a shrewd thing to accomplish.

A religious connection is furthermore recommended. Being part of a religious assembly with its singing, sacraments, chanting, prayers and meditations foster inner concord.

Manage your time. Time is invaluable and too valuable to waste away. Time management can be viewed as a catalog of rules that involves scheduling, setting goals, planning, creating lists of things to resolve and prioritizing. These are the mainstay basics of time management that must be understood to develop an efficient personal time management skill. These basic skills can be fine tuned further to include the finer points of each skill that can assign you that additional reserve to make the results you yearn for.

Laugh and laugh heartily everyday. Heard a first-rate joke? Enlighten your friends or family about it. For example they also say -'Laughter is the best medicine'. Express your feelings, affections, friendship and passion to folks around you. They will generally likely reciprocate your actions. Try not to keep pent up anger or frustrations, this is bad for your health. Instead acquire ways of expressing them in a way that will not cause more injury or hurt to any person. Working rigorously brings tremendous personal satisfaction. It gives a feeling of being competent in concluding our tasks. Accomplishments are essential for all of us, they assign us a sensation of respect. Work on things that you feel worthy of your time. Learning is a joyful exercise. Try and gather something extra everyday. Learning furthermore makes us enlarge and broaden our horizons. And may possibly in addition present us more opportunities in the future.

Run, jog, walk and do other things that your body was made for. Feel alive. Avoid exposure to downbeat elements like loud noises, toxins and risky places.

These are the a small number of straightforward things you can do everyday to be happy.
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Reflections on Health, Happiness & Wealth

2010-03-20T19:42:00.000+02:00

If you have health, you will probably be happy, and if you have health and happiness, you have all the wealth you need, even if it is not all you want. ~Elbert Hubbard

As I reflected on the quote above, I was reminded of several things. For one, health is not only a gift; it is a responsiblity. We make choices every day that affect our overall physical, emotional and spiritual health. What we put into our bodies and minds has immediate and/or long-term influence in our lives. Something as simple as complaining about a frustrated goal or dreaded appointment can keep us from feeling gratitude and hope. Something seemingly innocuous as snacking on sweets can spoil our appetite for healthy foods and contribute to our feelings of guilt and lack of self-control. Taking good care of ourselves is an ongoing process and challenge that can become an established way of life with commitment, discipline and practice. The more we practice healthy habits of body and mind, the more likely they will come naturally to us. With practice, we can feed our minds and bodies with what is good for them, and we can have better health.

Now if we have health, that is, if our minds and bodies are well taken care of, we will most likely be happy as it stands to reason. In that case, happiness is actually a byproduct of a healthy body, soul, and spirit. And furthermore, if we have both health and happiness, we are wealthy indeed. Now the last part of the quote is what I spent a little more time thinking about. It states that with health and happiness we have all the wealth we need. Yet, despite having this wealth, it may not be all we want.

Does this imply that we can still be happy and not have what we want? We may have what we need, but is it enough? Does not having what we want justify unhappiness? To some of us it does. We are not happy unless we have what we want. But to be happy in the midst of not having what we want suggests a way of being that leaves our inner joy intact. Is it hope that keeps us believing? Is it gratitude that keeps us fulfilled? Is it patience that helps us to appreciate and live in the now? Is it peace that keeps us secure? Is it love that satisfies our deepest longings?

The next time not having what we want tempts to rob us of true inner joy and peace, maybe we ought to ask ourselves how much our health is worth. Are we not wealthy when we see the good, hope and believe the best, release doubts, fears, and anger, receive and give love and thanks? And are we not wealthy when we awaken to a new day with strength and vitality, seeing the light, breathing fresh air, and ready to fulfill our day's purpose and enjoy life's simple blessings?

Health, happiness, and wealth.... suddenly they all seem to come together.

Wealth, like happiness, is never attained when sought after directly. It comes as a by-product of providing a useful service. - Henry Ford

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Krystal Kuehn, MA, LPC, LLP, NCC is a psychotherapist, author, teacher and musician. She is the cofounder of New Day Counseling Services, a marriage family counseling and child therapy center and BeHappy4Life.com, an award-winning, self-help.

Happy Relationships

2010-03-20T19:34:00.000+02:00

Happy relationships are the result of Fairy Godmother intervention right?

Anybody who lives in the United States, or who has ever seen a Disney movie knows that the Fairy Godmother must decide to intervene for a happy relationship to happen.

Or if you grew up with a Hefner/Guccione print magazine influence, then maybe you thought that the brand of shirt or shoes you wore or model of car, or amount of money you had was the key to happy relationship.

Turns out that those things, including the Fairy Godmother, have minimal influence on happy relationships.

What does influence relationships, according to scientists like Helen Fisher,Ph.D., John Gottman,Ph.D., and Robert Epstein,Ph.D., is regular efforts to build intimacy.

Yeah, like a happy relationship workout. No pill or potion, although dark chocolate does impact your brain chemistry and tell your brain to anticipate something fun.

Even that early stage of relationship which we call infatuation is coming under the unblinking eye of the functional magnetic resonance imaging machine, and Helen Fisher,Ph.D. is saying that there is a rhyme and reason to what has heretofore seemed like the most irrational time in a human's life.

This is the time in a relationship where two people are extremely happy, and either can do no wrong. You know, your partner's doggerel is Shakespearean and you talk and do other stuff all night long.

Fisher says there is a evolutionary reason for such behavior, and it is designed to run for only so long, until the progeny have gotten a decent start, then the participants in a romantic love relationship wake up to each other and have a decision to make. This is where the couple may need to incorporate the Epstein and Gottman tools to build a continuing happy relationship.

However, Helen Fisher has proposed that we human's fall into four major personality types, each ruled by a different hormone, and her research says that we have the best chance of happy relationship if we begin with a compatible personality type.

If you want to find out what type personality you are, you need to take her quiz at Chemistry.
So it sounds like we may be able to eliminate some of the variabiltiy it the Fairy Godmother's application of magic, and even in Cupid's Aim.

But let's just say that you did not go to Chemistry to discover your partner for the romantic love experience, and you wake up one morning after another all night discussion of your and your lover's favorite novels, and you wonder to yourself, "How did I get here"?

Well, at that point the magic has worn off, and the participants have a decision to make.

Do we continue our coupleship, or do we move on?

If couples decide to work on their happy relationship subsequent to the romantic love stage, then they should definitely look at the work of Robert Epstein, Ph.D. and John Gottman,Ph.D.

Epstein has written some very intriguing articles recently, in Scientific American Mind, questioning how it is that arranged marriages in India last so much longer than ours here in the West.

Those folks in arranged marriages may have met once prior to the ceremony, but they stay together 95% of the time, reporting increased happiness.

Epstein says that is because those folks make some conscious effort to practice intimacy rather than waiting for a rapturous experience to fall randomly from heaven.

He says that all of us could practice intimacy doing exercises like soul gazing (not staring) where you take a couple of moments to look deep into the eyes of your partner hoping to see their soul.

Epstein has students in his class practice that exercise during the first day of classes, and the participants report an astounding increase in feelings of closeness.

Closeness is a great platform for happy relationships.

Epstein suggests a number of easy to do exercises that couples can do to increase feelings of happiness, including breathing synchronization.

I have my own version of that exercise, synchronizing heart beats and examining the heart beat of the relationship.

I use a heart rate variability biofeedback tool to teach my domestic violence counseling clients how to get their own heart beat in coherence, and then the heart beat of the relationship in coherence.

In that process they learn that the heart beat can move into and out of coherence in the proverbial heart beat.
So they are learning to pay attention to relationship happiness in much shorter increments than ever before.

John Gottman,Ph.D. has also been studying marriage and domestic violence and happy relationships for about 30 years, and he and his wife, Julie Schwartz-Gottman have put together a workshop that couples can do at home which teach about the skills that couples can practice together.

The skills are teased out from the observations the Gottman's have made of the folks they call the Master's of Marriage, and the point of the workshop is that we can repeat their efforts and have happy relationships.

No magic wand or potion needed, just regular practice.

About the Author

Michael S. Logan is a brain fitness expert, a counselor, a student of Chi Gong, and licensed one on one HeartMath provider. I enjoy the spiritual, the mythological, and psychological, and I am a late life father to Shane, 10, and Hannah Marie, 4, whose brains are so amazing. http://www.askmikethecounselor2.com

Want to Lose Weight? Get Happy!

2010-03-20T19:31:00.000+02:00

Now and then, it's good to pause in our pursuit of happiness and just be happy." - Guillaume Apollinaire
I'm about to tell you something very important. Here it is: If you want to lose weight because you think you'll be happy when you do, fugitaboutit! Beware of any "I'll be happy when . . ." thoughts. If you're not happy at your current weight, you won't be happy at your ideal weight either. Although getting thin cannot make you happy, getting happy can make you thin. Take the fast road to your desired weight (and anything else you desire) by getting happy. When you get happy first, everything you desire will flow to you. When you get happy first, the weight will come off as a lovely byproduct.

Whatever you're feeling (vibrating) is your point of attraction. The Universe responds and matches your vibration every time. Therefore, if you're unhappy, you'll attract circumstances that match your unhappy vibe. If you're happy, you're in vibrational alignment with Source and you will naturally attract circumstances that match your happy vibe. Let happiness be your goal and everything you desire will fall easily into place for you. So ask yourself: How can I feel happy under these conditions? How can I feel happy right here right now? How can I feel happy even at my current weight?

Here's a note from Jackie, age 35, after she started focusing more on being happy than on being thin: "And here's my answer: I decided to just be happy at 150 pounds. That's basically where I've been for the past 4 years, just not happily so. Life is just too short. This isn't rocket science, but until I got it deep in my bones, there was no way to get it. Now I'm able to feel comfortable going out with friends, or out on a DATE, for heaven's sake! Having made this change in perspective, I find myself suddenly HAPPY. I like the plump and juicy yoga teacher I see in the mirror and have finally stopped wanting to replace her with a long and skinny one. It's a very weird shift in my fundamental makeup, a big shake up in the personality. Being happy is much, much better. And, guess what? Since I had this vibrational shift, I've already lost eight pounds with no effort."

Can a few minutes of hearty laughter burn calories? Yes, and the more you laugh, the more you burn, say scientists at Stanford and Vanderbilt. Researchers showed clips of funny movies and TV shows to volunteers hooked up to a heart rate monitor and a device that measures the number of calories burned. The results indicated that a good belly laugh increases heart rate, burns calories and is the cardiovascular equivalent of rowing. When you laugh, you're relaxed, you're breathing and you're open to Well-Being. Chuckle for 15 minutes a day, they say, and you could drop up to four pounds in a year. Laugh and grow thin.

Recognize that your happiness is not dependent on your weight. Decide to FEEL GOOD even before you lose the weight and you'll lose the weight faster and you'll feel joy in the journey. Make it your primary job to feel good and, from this happy state, you become a vibrational match to all things you desire. I'm convinced that when you're happy as a lark you can eat anything you want with impunity.

Being happy and feeling good is a high vibration, which allows the Universe to present you with everything you desire. So get happy first. Then you will achieve your desired weight AND live a rich, full life. Get happy first by thinking happy thoughts. Your thoughts created the body you now have. Your thoughts can create the body you would like to have.

About the Author

Kate Corbin is a Law of Attraction Coach and creator of Gold Star Coaching. Both her coaching practice and her books - Dining at the Cosmic Café: How to Be and Do and Have Whatever You Desire and Think and Grow Thin with the Law of Attraction - http://www.goldstarcoaching.com/ebook.html are designed to empower you to truly live the life of your dreams. To contact Coach Kate and check out her books, visit http://www.goldstarcoaching.com/

Ease Panic Away From You by Adopting Meditation into Your Life

2010-03-20T19:28:00.000+02:00

Meditation is a personal and spiritual experience. The goal is to get your mind to a deeper state of relaxation or personal awareness.

It also decreases heart rate while increasing blood flow and can reduce anxiety attacks (learn more with Panic Away), blood pressure and tension. Your self confidence will increase when practicing meditation.
With hectic schedules, responsibilites, parenting and work. Meditating is a powerful process to help quiet your mind and de-stress. It will enable you to have a more grateful, positive attitude in life, bringing about inner peace and freedom. Mediation can teach us to 'like' who we are. You will develop a genuine happiness that doesn't come from external or materialistic things and can be powerful in alleviating depressive or anxious thoughts.

How to Meditate:

1. Breathe deeply and slowly.

2. Then gently lift up your gaze or open your eyes and return to each body part again, slowing awaking and being aware of each muscle from your toes to your head.

3. Concentrate on each body part and start trying to relax each muscle. This takes time but start at your toes and work all the way to your head until you can feel yourself becoming more relaxed.

4. When you notice thoughts, gently let them go and refocus on your breath.

5. Your goal is to focus on ``nothing``. This will be difficult at first because our mind wants to wander a mile a minute but try to concentrate on the flow of your breath instead or the physical sensations your body is experiencing. If this is too difficult in the beginning you may want to play a meditation cd with soothing music so you can concentrate on the music. Then move on to quiet when you're ready. Simple silence is the goal.

6. Set aside enough time to meditate daily even if it`s just 5 minutes. A good goal to aim for is 20-30 minutes each day.7. Rest in the moment.

8. At first, allow your thoughts to come and go with detachment. You will get to a point where you will be able to control your thoughts, your thoughts will no longer control you. 9. Find a quiet environment and sit in a position that is comfortable for you. Whether sitting on a chair on the ground with or without a cushion keep your feet firmly planted on the ground and make sure your back is straight. 10. Lower your eyes and gaze to the floor or you can close your eyes, whatever feels best for you.

When you're not meditating try to be conscious of your thoughts and mood. You may see yourself feeling happier on the days that you do meditate so aim for daily meditation. And be patient. Silencing your mind can be difficult but with perserverance you will make it happen. Meditating must be done with focus and dedication and then you will reap the benefits!

About the Author

An aspiring journalist, Kirsten strives to research topics of interest. Today her focus is on her children. One aspect she's had to face head on is not only her own anxiety but her son's panic attacks and all that entails. Kirsten doesn't shy away from disorders and has become quite an expert in the field.
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Keys to happiness

2010-02-25T16:14:00.000+02:00

In this era of science and technology, we can be creative and productive, and at the same time not lose the humanness that we are born with. Just material things or comforts alone do not make you comfortable. You may have a good bed to sleep on, but unable to sleep because of insomnia or worry. Here are a few key points on how you can improve the standard of your life and thus live a better happy life.

 Stay healthy: Health is... A disease-free body A quiver free breath. A stress free mind. An inhibition- free intellect. An obsession free memory. An ego that includes all. A soul that is free from sorrow.  Review the content of your life Look at your life in the light of time. Millions of years have passed and millions will come. What is your life? 60 or 70 years? Span of life is insignificant. In terms of space, you simply don't exist. This understanding dissolves your ego. Ego is ignorance of your reality. So, the key to happiness is "dissolve your egos"  Know life's impermanence See the impermanence in this life. That is the truth. Turn back and see that all that you did is just like a dream. You don't have to be afraid of life. There is always support. This hope is the key to happiness.  Make your smile cheaper A research done in England found that a baby smiles 400 times a day, an adolescent 17 times and an adult doesn't smile at all!! Is roughness a sign of success?? Is being stressed a sign of prosperity, growth or dignity? You should smile more... everyday, every morning, look at the mirror and give a good smile at yourself. You know what happens when you smile? All the muscles in your face get relaxed. The nerves in your brain get relaxation and you get the confidence, courage and energy to move on in your life. Take a challenge:" come what may, I am going to smile and be happy"
 Be enthusiastic and praise others: Enthusiasm is the nature of life. We often have a tendancy to put cold water on other's enthusiasm. Reverse this tendancy. Take every opportunity to praise others and support their enthusiasm. With these keys happiness is all yours...

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Feng Shui Relationship Secrets

2010-02-25T16:07:00.000+02:00

Feng shui relationship secrets and advice can help you create and maintain a solid relationship. Everyone wants to find their soul mate and keep them. Those who have a partner in life may want to make their intimate life brighter and strengthen their bond. Here are some feng shui relationship secrets for those who want to attract, retain and strengthen their love.

Let's start with the basics - making a home attractive for relationships. This can be achieved with the Bagua octagon - a tool for improving energy in any premises. It helps to relate the environmental elements with the aspects of life. According to the octagon, the southwest direction is responsible for relationships. Its color is brown. Its symbol is earth. This sector is connected with your partner, whether current or potential.

The first is the front door. The vital energy Qi penetrates through the door into the home, so the door should attract it. The Qi accumulates near the door, and is let inside by the incoming or outgoing people.

There are three optimal directions of the front door. Southeast: helps to preserve peace and prosperity in the family. If your door faces this way, you don't need to add anything. Southwest: helps to build harmonious and stable families. If your door faces this way, you can add colors / symbols of wood next to the door, such as an image of bamboo or plum blossom. West: helps to increase romance and pleasure. If your door faces this way, you can add earth elements next to the door, such as crystals or objects of stone.

Even if your door faces another direction, it's not a problem. Decorate it using the color brown or place plants there.

Next is the feng shui relationship advice for the bedroom. Ideally, the bedroom should be located in the southwestern corner of the house, which is responsible for love, loyalty, and caring for family members. If the bedroom is located in another place, do not worry. Feng shui has a list of tools that will help make it more harmonious. First of all, the bedroom should be kept clean everywhere. If you have any devices or exercise equipment in the bedroom, if possible, divide the room into sections, blocking the bed from these.

The bed should not lean sideways into the wall. It is believed that a partner who sleeps near the wall will have less say. When there's space on both sides, both partners will feel equal.

The bed should not be too broad, as this does not encourage romance. The bed should be small enough to provide intimacy in the relationship. The mattress should not be double; any longitudinal stripes on or above the bed will symbolize the rift in the relationship. Avoid water mattresses and any objects that embody the element of water, as water can carry happiness away. Do not place your bed near a wall adjacent to the bathroom, as your happiness may go down the drain.

Now let's review the feng shui relationship tips for objects to place in the bedroom or the room located in the southwest direction, in order to activate it. You can enhance it with an earth element (crystals, rose quartz or amethyst) and fire element (candles and red objects, such as a red lamp). Also place love reinforcing symbols in the bedroom, such as double objects: a statue of a man and woman, a pair of ducks, or a dragon with a phoenix.

About the Author

Jakob Jelling runs http://www.fengshuicrazy.com which teaches the ancient art of feng shui. Please visit his website to learn more about feng shui relationships.

Be as Happy as You Want and reduce the Stress in Your Life

2010-02-25T15:59:00.000+02:00

Almost everyone has heard the hit single 'Don't Worry, Be Happy' by Bobby McFerrin. The song has a very catchy way of conveying its message of being happy to everyone. Bobby McFerrin's simple message surely made a lot of people happy by telling them not to worry. Living a happy, resilient and optimistic life is wonderful, and is also good for your health. Being happy actually protects you from the stresses of life. Stress is linked to top causes of death such as heart disease, cancer and stroke.

One of the better things ever said is - 'The only thing in life that will always remain the same is change', and in our life we have the power to make the necessary changes if we want to. Even if we find ourselves in an unbearable situation we can always find solace in the knowledge that it too would change. Fighting change can only create stress.

Social networks or relationships are essential to happiness. People are different, accept people for who or what they are, avoid clashes, constant arguments, and let go of all kinds of resentments. If arguments seem unavoidable still try and make an effort to understand the situation and you might just get along.

Happiness is actually found in everyone. Increasing it is a way to make life more wonderful, healthier and dramatically reduce stress.

To be happy is relatively easy just decide to be a happy person.

Abraham Lincoln observed that most people for most of the time can choose how happy or stressed, how relaxed or troubled, how bright or dull their outlook is. The choice is simple, choose to be happy.

There are several ways you can do this.

Being grateful is a great attitude. We have so much to be thankful for. Thank the taxi driver for bringing you home safely, thank the cook for a wonderful dinner and thank the guy who cleans your windows. Also thank the mailman for bringing you your mail, thank the policeman for making your place safe and thank God for being alive. News is stressful. Get less of it. Some people just can't start their day without their daily dose of news. Try and think about it, 99% of the news we hear or read is bad news. Starting the day with bad news does not seem to be a sensible thing to do.

A religious connection is also recommended. Being part of a religious group with its singing, sacraments, chanting, prayers and meditations foster inner peace.

Manage your time. Time is invaluable and too important to waste. Time management can be viewed as a list of rules that involves scheduling, setting goals, planning, creating lists of things to do and prioritizing. These are the core basics of time management that should be understood to develop an efficient personal time management skill. These basic skills can be fine tuned further to include the finer points of each skill that can give you that extra reserve to make the results you desire.

Laugh and laugh heartily every day. Heard a good joke? Tell your friends or family about it. As they also say -'Laughter is the best medicine'.

Express your feelings, affections, friendship and passion to people around you. They will most likely reciprocate your actions. Try not to keep pent up anger of frustrations, this is causes stress and is bad for your health. Instead find ways of expressing them in a way that will not cause injury or hurt to anyone.
Working hard brings tremendous personal satisfaction. It gives a feeling of being competent in finishing our tasks. Accomplishments are necessary for all of us they give us a sense of value. Work on things that you feel are worthy of your time.

Learning is a joyful exercise. Try and learn something new every day. Learning also makes us expand and broaden our horizons. It could also give us more opportunities in the future. Run, jog, walk and do other things that your body was made for. Feel alive!

Avoid exposure to negative elements like loud noises, toxins and hazardous places.

These are the few simple things you can do everyday to be happy and not suffer from stress.

And always remember the quote from Abraham Lincoln, who said, "Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."

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When Does Parenting Become Fun?

2010-02-25T15:57:00.000+02:00

When the child actually responds to your parenting skills, it can be very fun. It is also fun when the child becomes aware of her environment and learns the ways of humans. When a baby is born, she has no idea what world she is being born into. It is up to the parent to teach her the ways of the human race and what we consider proper behavior. This is the big responsibility of the parent. How the child adapts to what we call the real world is directly dependent on how well you as the parent have prepared her. There are ways to help prepare for preparing a child for the real world. I have always said that parenting comes from the heart. Good parenting comes from keen observational skills. Excellent parenting comes from careful guiding the child in the direction in which she will naturally go. One must hope that this natural direction a good thing. Supposing it is, it will lead to the true happiness of the child. This is when parenting becomes fun. When you see a lifetime of parenting from the heart, keen observational skills, and careful guidance, then you see how your hard work paid off. This isn't to say that it will all be fun and games. There is diaper changing, potty training, numerous bath and meal times, discipline, and naptimes. All these things are important for the successful raising of a child, but the most important things, those listed above, are the most important. When you see that there is happiness and fulfillment in your child's life, you think on all the good times in the past (but not the bad!) you think that you have done a good job. In the meantime, however, you must persevere. The child will push your limits, exhaust you to the very end, and then ask for more. They do not apologize; it is simply the nature of children. They must know the limits of the world and the people surrounding them. Otherwise, the child's education will be incomplete. You are their only resource until you turn them loose on the world.

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Chris Puttere is a photographer by trade with a passion for online business. His website, www.allbabyzone.com is an excellent place to find baby products online at competitive prices. Contact at support@allbabyzone.com

Happiness In Your Relationship-Is It A Choice Or Have You Any Impact?

2010-02-03T09:39:00.000+02:00

Many people in relationships are unhappy simply because they fail to see that in many situations they have a choice to make between choosing to be happy or accepting that they have been dealt a very bad deal and there is nothing to be done about it.It does not have to be so.. Amidst the many responsibilities adults today hold, a responsibility they have to themselves is to remain happy. This begs the question, "how is happiness a responsibility?"

Well, happiness is not only a feeling, it is a choice. Choosing to be happy despite circumstances has the power to change those circumstances. The key word here is "choose."

People's circumstances change daily. One day work might go well, and the next might be completely horrible. Many people believe that a person's happiness depends on their circumstances. This may be true in the sense that one's circumstances can affect their happiness, but they do not dictate it.

There is always the possibility of something good coming from a situation, or the situation could always be worse in some way. Choosing to be happy is saying that no matter what the situation may look like, I am going to find some way to take pleasure in life, even in this particular moment. A great part of being happy is being grateful. People may look at their circumstances and see only what is wrong. They notice only what could be better. Instead, learn to be grateful by focusing on what is going right.

There are so many things that people take for granted, the greatest of which is life itself. Whenever a person feels down, frustrated, or like giving up, they should take a deep breath and be grateful for the ability to even do so. Choosing to be happy plays a role in circumstances as well. One could be in a seemingly hopeless situation, but by choosing to remain calm and have a happy outlook, they can think logically through it and find a solution. In addition, when a person has to work with others through a difficult time, keeping a positive outlook may be difficult, but will undoubtedly make working together better.

Everyone likes a cheerful person. The people who are successful in life are not the ones that whine and frown at every bad situation; they are the ones that force a smile, clear their thoughts of negative feelings, and put in good work. Happiness is choosing to be positive regardless of what the world may tell you. It is keeping the hope that things will turn out fine, and that all will be well. This positively affects one's life, and even the lives around him or her. People feed off of positive energy, so choosing to be happy is good for everyone.

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The Power of the Mind- How to make use of it to live a successful life.

2010-02-03T09:34:00.000+02:00

The power of the mind is such a powerful tool that can be used to acquire just about anything in life. It can give you complete success in your entire life endeavor and get you ahead of your mate. However, if you are to make use of it this way to get everything you want out of life, it is important to first of all realize in your daily life that every matters and happenings in your life are subject to how you use your Mind, you need to understand that your fulfillment, your success, your happiness, are all of your own making through this power.

As a matter of fact, all your life achievement greatly depends upon a clear understanding of the fact that our mind is the only creator of all realities. The greatest and most rewarding business of life is thinking. Your reward only depends on the direction of your thinking. If you are able to control your thoughts and your circumstances will also be under your control. Think positive and you will get positive results. This has been confirmed many times by those who have been able to achieve success in life through the ultimate power of the mind.

It is universally accepted that the highest percentage of people living in this world only use a small fraction of their minds (not more than 5-10%). This means that we can actually achieve ten times bigger than what we are able to achieve in life if we can utilize the remaining part of our mind. You have probably heard about those who have been able to move objects by thought alone, through their mind power. You may want to ask how possible is this? It is just a small example of the through potential of our mind. Our mind is more powerful than our physical power; the truth is that our physical body is just a vessel for our mind.

This is what I mean; it is until we think of doing something within our mind that we will be able to make use of our physical body to do such thing.

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Ho'oponopono - Letting Go and Erasing Negative Thinking

2010-02-03T09:31:00.000+02:00

Perhaps you've never heard of Ho'oponopono before? But you've probably heard of "The Secret" and the "Law of Attraction." Ho'oponopono is the missing piece to "The Secret" and the "Law of Attraction."

After he appeared in "The Secret," Joe Vitale discovered Ho'oponopono from Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len. He found it so powerful that now Joe says "Ho'oponopono is beyond beyond "The Secret."

Ho'oponopono, an ancient Hawaiian art of problem solving, teaches easy and effective techniques called "cleaning." It shows you how to erase your problems.

Dr. Ihaleakala, whom I studied with, always says: "A problem is not a problem, unless we say it is, and the problem is not the problem. How we react to the problem is the problem."

With Ho'oponopono you learn to let go, and allow that part of yourself that knows better and knows what is perfect and correct for you to solve your problems. You'll learn to communicate with your subconscious or inner child.

Finding your self-identity through Ho'oponopono, known at SITH, is the key to the love, money, freedom and happiness you've been seeking for so long!

Through Ho'oponopono you discover how to:

- Find your purpose and clarity to succeed.
- Stay open and flexible to receive the ideal solutions through inspiration.
- Let go of "I know" and allow intuition and inspiration to flow.
- Erase those negative programs that affect your plans, goals and results.
- Discover how to be in Zero Frequency. Only in Zero Frequency will those ideal results happen.

Ho'oponopono offers practical and effective information that helps you change your life quickly. You'll discover that the results you dream of don't depend on anyone else or anything outside of you. Yes, you can succeed.

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Mabel Katz shows you how to use Ho'oponopono to live the life of your dreams. She, an internationally acclaimed keynote speaker, offers you lectures, workshops and teleclasses. She's a trainer, TV show host, consultant, and author of the book, "The Easiest Way."
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Meditation for stress release and living free

2010-02-03T09:26:00.000+02:00

How folks survive and carry themselves through occasions of stress and discord generates a enormous defining element inside their lives. Frequently folks just sadly crumple up and cease to survive at all, as an alternative of taking charge and working alongside the number of techniques open they more or less just submit and turn out to be overwhelmed. Although whilst faced with stress and challenging periods at hand is much which could be done, notably whilst your mind is receptive to meditation. Drawing a moment off to meditate is an exceptional route to relax your heart and mind, the meditation you accomplish greatly assists you to liberate yourself from any stress inside your life.

Meditation being a crucial position used for stress reduction generates a strong location to operate from. Initially by cleansing your head efficiently you mitigate the prattle which is existing permitting portions of stress to subside, by subsequently expanding out the clearance you often produce a soother system for yourself which is able to look upon situations in conjunction with improved clarity. The clarity and composure attained via meditation in turn may be utilised to learn other successful solutions to allay the causes of stress. Of course should you truly aspire to carry it to the crux you could place yourself in cause of all things inside your life and at that time work out the function and reasons designed for making every highly stressful position inside your life.

Whatever point you decide to carry things to and admittedly alongside time the deeper you meditate the more efficiently you could resolve things, although within the mean time if you are merely studying how to meditate it follows that the opening clearance is for sure to be of benefit. To initiate cleansing your system is comparatively straightforward, every instance a thought arrives into your head merely thank your mind for yielding it to your attention and after that release the thought away. Whilst you initially begin you would likely observe a lot of feelings coming through, notably if you are stressed. Alongside time and repetition you shall be able to bring a blankness inside your head, this blankness is what is able to bring the composure and liberty from stress which you seek. Furthermore it often yield a profound awareness of contentment and happiness, as such efficiently bringing you far away from stress and generating you an chance to realize real liberty inside your life.

As initially you set off to go along this method of meditation it is paramount to hit upon a really serene location to meditate inside, such as the meditation area you have with a bit of luck created, although while time gets onwards and your practice enhances you ought to be able to meditate akin to this everywhere. The reasons in support of this are fairly obvious, as you are studying meditation all noises otherwise background happenings solely work to distract and frustrate, therefore a subdued out of the way location being useful.

If while studying you desire to alter this by listening to calming music and/or incense in order to further assist the soothing of your head then that is perfectly ok. Equally a tip of annotation upon all of these items however, select music and incense that is liberated of all associations inside your mind and is able to assist calm. Music notably must be liberated from lyrics, due to the reality that they would merely bring on further feelings coming into your head. In general however figure out what feels enjoyable for you, take it easy and beyond all relax in conjunction with it. Wishing you in the same way as at all times serene meditations, Namaste!

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The website www.mastermeditation.com has been created in order to assist anyone wishing to meditate, be they starting out meditating if they are just beginning or going to deeper spiritual realms with more advanced meditation.

Ho'oponopono: The Path to Self-Discovery - Love Yourself and Get Out of the Way

2010-02-03T09:23:00.000+02:00

The most important question you can ever ask yourself is "Who Am I?"

Sadly, some of us get so busy "doing life," making money, creating families, running businesses, starting new careers-that we never really stop to figure out who we really are.

Knowing yourself is realizing you were created as a unique being, and there is something special you can do better than anybody else. Once you figure out what it is, by discovering the true YOU, everything else will fall into place.

It's the secret to your success and happiness, business-wise and everything-else-wise.

Until I learned this, I was weighed down by trying to be perfect and do what others expected of me. I believed my happiness was in the material things, and I paid little attention to what my heart really wanted.

I only believed in those things I could see or touch. Then one day, when my son yelled at me in the same angry voice I'd been using for years with him. I had a sudden awakening; it was time to work on myself.My path to self-discovery led me to the principles of the ancient Hawaiian art of Ho'oponopono. It saved my life! I started my own business after separating from 20 plus years of marriage.

I got out of my own way and began to trust my inner wisdom, letting the part of me that knows best guide me. I let go of opinions and judgments of others, and myself and now, I have more than I ever would have imagined in every area of my life.

Growing up we are either told to be perfect or we are not good enough. It's human nature to go through life unconsciously replaying those "old tapes" in our heads. The day I realized I could just be myself, a big weight lifted off my shoulders.

Let me be the first to tell you if you don't already know: You are okay just the way you are.

What other people think of you is not important; what's important is what you think of yourself. You need to learn to put yourself first. The truth is, if something doesn't work for you, it will not be good for anybody. Loving and accepting yourself has nothing to do with ego.

If you do not love yourself, you cannot love anybody else. You cheat them-and yourself.

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Alpha Brain Waves - Harness The Power Of Alpha Brain Waves

2010-02-03T09:18:00.000+02:00

If you have been searching for spiritual progression or just looking to have better control of your self and the thoughts that your mind is continuously conceiving. Meditation through alpha brain waves can help one to master their mind and achieve total happiness in life.

Have you ever heard the phrase that your life is how you perceive it?

This tends to be very true, If you happen to hate your life right now due to certain experiences that you may have gone through. Consider this, negative feelings about what has happened in the past and even maybe your uncertain future are all just thoughts you have conceived yourself in your own mind.

Take a moment and understand that everything you experience as a thought is only a thought and that you are in control of what you think. Now ask your self, why would you want to go through life always conjuring up negative thoughts that make you feel unfulfilled when you are really the one who is control? You are more than capable of releasing these thoughts and replacing them with new positive, healthy, life loving thoughts regardless of what you've been through in life.

Now let me explain about the different frequencies your mind uses and inform you a little about each of them and how you can harness the alpha brain waves to take control of your life!

Beta Brain waves - When we are awake and engaging the physical world we our brains are operating at a frequency known as beta. The beta brain wave frequencies are operating much faster than that of the alpha brain wave frequencies. It is the state of mind that you are in right this moment consciously sitting at your computer taking in the input from your screen. Beta is the rational, thinking, problem solving state of mind in which you have spent most of your life in the waking world. The Beta brain waves are operating very rapid and fast at a rate of between 15 to 40 cycles per second.

Alpha Brain waves - The alpha state of mind occurs at a height of inner contentment where the minds frequencies are lowered into what is called the alpha brain waves. When coasting from beta to alpha the human mind's frequencies begin to slow down to a range of about 9 to 14 cycles per second. The alpha brain waves allow for a state of peace and calmness. Alpha is the point in which the mind is most open to suggestions and subliminal programming. The programming that can be done to the subconscious in alpha is pretty much identical to hypnosis but when harnessing meditation with the alpha brain waves one can use it to their benefit. Through the programming of the subconscious mind the possibilities are virtually endless.

Theta Brain waves - The next stage in lowering the frequencies of the brain is theta in which the brain is still conscious but with less control than that of alpha. This frequency range of theta will usually be somewhere between 5 and 8 cycles per second. Theta is much harder to consciously be in control of as it is the state right before a deep sleep. With practice anyone can harness Theta brain waves for a greater ambition but more than likely once you've made it to theta your bound to fall asleep. This is one reason alpha is the prime circumstance of mind for programming your subconscious. When one starts to experiment with meditation through theta brainwaves it is custom to sit upright to stay awake and prevent from falling asleep. Delta Brain waves - Delta brain waves are by far the lowest brain waves our brains will emit with a range of 1.5 to 4 cycles per second. Your mind will never reach zero cycles per second as long as your alive because in the event that it did you would be dead! Delta is the state of deep slumber. With delta your mind is rejuvenating itself and naturally you are completely out, however you might have heard of something called lucid dreaming.

Lucid dreaming is the instance of dreaming and then consciously realizing that you are actually dreaming. I wont be getting to in depth with lucid dreaming but what I can tell you about it is it that it is one of the most amazing adventures you'll ever have. When your the one who is in control of your dream you can do absolutely anything!

To wrap it all up those are the four different classifications of brain waves, and alpha is certainly one to be taking advantage of. I've been meditating for a long time now and it definitely helps to have a basic understanding of the science of what is actually happening inside your mind.

I have been using many different meditation techniques over the years. One that I have found to the best that I practice with regularly is binaural beats meditation. Basically with this technology you use a set of headphones and listen to a track of special, calming music and hidden within the music are very special frequencies, a low one and high one. A completely different frequency is played in each ear and only after a few minutes the alpha state of mind can be acquired. This can be very helpful for someone just starting out that may be having trouble sitting still to find their inner peace through the meditation.

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Personal development: fivefold free personal development plans - Personal development blog and articles

2010-01-12T22:32:00.000+02:00

AmAre Way means "To Love" in Italian language. This verb also summarizes our personal development plan outlined in five points:

Aware (Being) Meditating Active (Being) Respectful (Being) Eating (properly)
It also shows we are united in an interconnected universe: there is no (I) Am without (We) are. This is an extremely simple concept to understand, but which has positive effects for a lifetime. If you want to walk this path toward holistic living, just add this blog to your favourites. If you just passed by, and you think you'll not return, we hope at least you'll bring with you these simple five steps to happiness, and we hope they will be as beneficial to you as they have been to us.

By applying the five points explained below, we are able to live a more holistic life.

A - Aware (Being) Being aware is the process which turns our lives and improves them. It is not a one-time task, it is a life-long exploration. It can start in different ways, from different reasons. Being aware starts with understanding that, while the past made us what we are today, and the future may give us the time to put our skills at the service of our beloved ones, the present is the only tense which really counts, and here the only place where we are. Being aware also means considering the needs and wants of ourselves, the people who are dear to us, the people who do not arise any specific feeling in us, and the ones who we would not rather meet.

M - Meditating Meditating can be done in a non-sectarian or religious way. Praying is a form of meditation, loving kindness is contemplated in meditation, meditating may also be a way to relax the mind. It can be done standing, sitting, walking, and it has also been said that sleeping may be the most effective form of meditation.

A - Active (Being) Being active to put in practice what we learn is extremely important. That shows to us if we are motivated enough, and also provide a loop of thinking-acting-rethinking which is the way to progress. Holistic living is a state of mind, and also a state of action. One basic example about the importante of being active. We can find online thousands of tasty recipes, but even if we learn them by heart, they do not feed us. We can also find many advices about empowering people and solving the world's challenges; words and speeches are as important as the actions they inspire.

R - Respectful (Being) Being respectful starts with respecting ourselves. By being both objective and loving about who we are, we build the start for improving relationship with the one we care for, and the world. Being respectful with ourselves is implemented in many ways: listening to our body, for signals it may be very comfortable, in need of a rest, etc. Listening to our feelings, needs and wants, and communicate them in a respectful way to our beloved ones.

We also need to be respectful of other people, and environment. And respect the power of the context, which is formed by the place and time where events take place. Our best friend may not be in the best form today, and so some inapropriate actions may result from this, and we need to communicate how we feel about it in a respectful manner. At the same time, if inapropriate actions and words happen regularly, then we owe - as a form of respect to ourselves - to clarify the situation with the relevant people, and even take a distance if necessary.

E - Eating (properly) Eating properly is self-evident: we are what we eat! Still, even if we heard it many times, we need to remind it to ourselves when we sit at the table. Eating properly is a form of respect towards our body; and also towards the generations which preceded us, and to whom we owe our nativity.

About AmAre Way http://www.amareway.org/ is a personal development plan based on (being) Aware, Meditating, (being) Active, (being) Respectful, Eating (properly). Nonsectarian approach to personal development and holistic healthy living in 5 steps

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Personal development plan based on (being) Aware, Meditating, (being) Active, (being) Respectful, Eating (properly). Nonsectarian approach to personal development and holistic healthy living in 5 steps

Happiness At Work - Six Tips To Help You Find It

2010-01-12T22:18:00.000+02:00

If you have been feeling tired and unmotivated with your work and you don't find happiness in what you do, it may not mean you have to change careers. You might just need a little time to find happiness at work and choose to be happy.

Sometimes we think one thing can make us happy so we keep on chasing it until we end up frustrated. At times we are so desperate to get a goal done and we forget to pause for a moment and enjoy each moment that you are striving to achieve your goals.

If you are trying to find happiness at work, here are some simple tips on how to be a happy worker.

1. Organize your workplace. You spend most of your time at work, thus it is important to make your workstation clean and clutter-free. Being organized in your workplace helps a lot in making your tasks easy as you will spend less time looking for the tools you need, and a clutter-free environment can also lessen the stress at work.

2. Improve friendships in the workplace. Try to be friendly to your workmates and be helpful as well. Next to your family, they are the people you see and get to mingle with everyday. Thus, if you want happiness at work, be friendly and be a positive influence to your co-workers.

3. Manage your time wisely. Beating deadlines and working long hours may be normal at times but if your working hours is consistently always on a rush and you think you have too much to do than the available time you have to work on them, then all these may make you less happy. Organize your schedules, manage your time and delegate work if you think you have too much.

4. Be positive, go with positive people and avoid negativity at work. Being positive in life plays a big role in being happy. Of course, if you go with officemates who constantly complain and whine, you'll end up being unhappy because all you see are those that you don't have, what the company lacks and the many other negative things that can only make the workplace a more stressful place.

5. Choose to be happy. Although the events and the people in your workplace may sometimes not favorable to you, or may sometimes get into your nerves, you can actually choose how to react on them. If you choose to get angry, then you are allowing them to make you unhappy.

6. Smile. This simple gesture makes great wonders to people. If you want to be happy, whether at work, at home, or wherever you go, don't forget to wear a smile on your face. Waking up each morning with a smile on your face truly does wonders in making your day happy and light.

You may not have the perfect boss, the perfect workplace, or the super nice workmates, but you can still be happy with what and where you are. In the end, finding happiness at work may not be about looking for the perfect job or the perfect employer, but it is about choosing to be happy with what you have and where you are.

About the Author

Carolyn Anderson chooses to be happy everyday. To help you add humor in the workplace, check out Get Faxed. Also check out Happiness In A Nutshell, a collection of happy, inspiring and motivational quotes that will surely make your day lighter and happier.

Top 10 Reasons Why Massive Success Is Inevitable With NLP™ Training

2010-01-12T22:13:00.000+02:00

Personal development training is one of the most chosen paths to personal success in today's society. An investment in oneself will always pay some form of dividend, it's only a matter of time. Deciding what skills to add and what training will give the greatest return on your self investment can be tough. Here are 10 reasons why massive success is inevitable with NLP™ Certification Training.

1. Developing Self Confidence
Everyone wants to feel competent when putting forth their energies towards a worthy goal. Building one's self confidence before beginning, is a great way to ensure you'll meet your objective. NLP™ practitioners are taught several resourceful processes specifically for developing one's self confidence in a way that they can apply before, during and even after reaching a particular goal. The result of this training is unshakeable self confidence and continued success in any endeavour.

2. Eliminating Fears and Phobias
The number #1 thing that holds people back from living the life they want is some sort of fear. For some people fears even develop into phobias about a specific topic like fear of speaking in public. By using NLP™ techniques most fears and phobias can be completely cured after just one or two sessions. This is unheard of in traditional therapy and is a reality with NLP™ training.

3. Building Rapport and Strong Relationships
There is not a successful person on the planet that didn't get "there" without having rapport and strong relationships with the people in their lives. Whether wanting to build rapport with clients, business associates, friends or even family members; NLP™ Practitioner Training is a proven technology for getting people to like you naturally.

4. Achieving Goals and Overcoming Obstacles
We all have goals in life and some of us easily overcome the obstacles we are presented with and some do not. The main difference between to two groups of people is how well formed their goals are in relation to the possible experiences that are yet to come. NLP™ training teaches practitioners to "run the movie" so to speak and consider the "big picture" before they utilize valuable energy towards their goals. Thus goals are achieved faster and obstacles easily overcome.

5. Maintaining a Postive Mental Attitude
Considering the challenges and stressfull situations that today's life styles present us, I'll be the first to say that staying positive 100% of the time is not realistic. However how to maintain an overall positive attitude towards your life and your goals is essential to making your dreams become a reality. This is a major advantage in taking NLP™ Practitioner Training as it is widely known for instilling with in the learner the abilities to turn negatives into positives and how to find succeses in any percieved failure.

6. Accessing Peak Performance States
Getting in the "zone" is often associated primarily with top athletes seeking to perform some seemingly super human feat of physical prowess. Accessing such peak states is not limited however only to athletic endeavour, in fact anyone can learn to model peak states of success in any field through the application of NLP™ training and literally insert that model into their own neurology for incredible results.

7. Getting Motivated
Nothing happens in life without action applied in the "right" direction. The problem that many people have with this is getting going in the first place. Through NLP™ Practitioner Training one learns what's really behind self motivation and how to turn it on and off at will. For many NLP™ Practitioners, getting motivated is as easy as flicking a switch or pushing button.

8. Mastering One's Thoughts
You've probably heard the old adage "mind over matter". While it's certainly true that our thoughts have an incredible influence over the quality of our lives, what does one do about the thoughts that seem to come out of nowhere and blind side us with some negative spin? This process is the result of conditioned thinking and although it may seem that we do not have any control over this process, that is simply not true. NLP™ Certification Training provides excellent methodologies for reconditioning your mind out of old limiting habits or beliefs and conditioning highly resourceful habits and beliefs.

9. Increasing Self Esteem
It has been said by many a person that the majority of the problems in the world today are a result of low self esteem. When we can learn to truly love ourselves as we love our children, then loving our neighbours becomes the natural next step. NLP™ Practitioner Training helps people to raise their energy levels to attract more peace, love and happiness in their lives and therefore improving the world around us for the benefit everyone.

10. Create a Compelling Future
Wouldn't it be great to wake up every morning knowing that you were going to have a great day? The key to waking each day with that type of confidence is creating your future before it arrives. NLP™ Practitioner Training teaches people just like you to work with their timelines in resourceful ways so that they can step into their future with confidence and knowing that success is theirs for the taking.

The road to personal success can be an exciting adventure of personal growth and can mean the fulfillment of your wildest dreams. Choosing the "right" training for the greatest effect will not only make the journey shorter, but will provide a lifetime of enjoyment, exploring the unlimited possibilities and the results of your personal success.

This article is shareware. Give this article away for free on your site, or include it as part of any paid package as long as the entire article is left intact including my bio, and this notice. Copyright © 2010 Jackey Backman.

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Jackey Backman Certified NLP™ Trainer - Jackey has given more than 2000 talks and seminars and has worked on 3 continents over the last 10 years as an International Trainer with a focus on personal excellence.

Living a Good Life - Ways To Be Happy And Contented In Life

2010-01-12T11:10:00.000+02:00

We may differ in what is a good life but there but there are some important things, big and small, that contributes a lot in what we call living a good life. Here are some tips and ideas that you might find useful in finding ways to have that good life we all want to have.

- Find a career that you are happy and you feel you can make use of your talents and abilities. Having a career that you love doing is indeed one great source of happiness, but if you don't want to change career, or somehow other aspects of work are making you unhappy, change the way you deal with things and simply choose to be happy.

- Give quality time to your family. Even some simple bonding activities together can help a lot in keeping the love alive in the family and of course, to love and be loved is one part of living a good life, so treasure your relationships and exert some effort to make it work.

- Learn to share. We all have something in us to share to others. Whether it is a part of your wealth, food, your talents and skills, your abilities and even your time can be a great source of . If you want to live that good life, don't stop giving and sharing. It is in these little things that real happiness is felt and with that, living a good life starts from giving.

- Be with positive people and be a positive person. Being positive is contagious, thus being with positive people can help a lot in living a good life and free from too many complaining and whining.

- Enjoy the things you love doing and explore other interests as well. Don't get stuck at one phase of your life. Enjoy the things you like but also explore other interests as well.

- Be thankful. Count your blessings instead of focusing on what you lack or what you don't have.

- Keep yourself in good health. A good live always starts from a healthy body. Of course, you can't be truly happy if you are feeling pain or discomfort in your body, so start now, and maintain your aerobic exercises.

- Appreciate and enjoy nature. Nature is one thing that can help you boost a tired body and mind and also a great way to get rid of stress. If you want to live a good life, then you must learn how to lose extra weight to enjoy life a little more.

- Give love, and value the relationships you have. Relationships make us feel loved and this feeling is an essential part of living a good life.

- Have enough rest. A good life is not a good one if you are always tired and you always have no good rest.
If you have been moving so fast with your life that you seem to forget how to live a good life, take time to do simple things like reconnecting with nature and helping people who are in need, and this will surely bring you increased happiness and in turn will bring you good.

About the Author

Carolyn Anderson is a fan of self-help books. To learn more about living a good life, please check out Achieve Happiness In Your Life. Also check out A Prosperous Life, where you find tips on how to be abundant and prosperous in life.