A Papa's Story

2019-06-16T12:13:00.000-04:00

Bulgaria

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2018-03-03T20:25:00.000-05:00

I'd Like You to Meet Andrei

2013-10-28T20:17:00.001-04:00

God has mysterious ways of working. Mary and I had zero intentions of adopting again. We have a wonderful, hectic family. Marty and Dido have settled in perfectly, Jake is still a struggle but we have support to make it all work. We have a truly amazing life.

[backstory]

I first met Andrei many months ago--- I prayed for him, tried to fundraise for him, and advocated for him at every turn. Certainly someone would be willing and able to commit to this young man before he aged out and was sentenced to die in an Eastern European mental institution.

The clock advanced-- prayer became more fervent and nobody stepped forward. "Why?"

Then it stuck me-- "Why" was because it was OUR FAMILY being called to adopt Andrei.

With only 10 days until he aged out, we frantically filed papers, called and begged congressional staffers (in the height of the government shutdown) to make sure our documents were checked in in before his 16th birthday....we made it---NO He made it!

Yes--- he is Andrei!!

All our other adoptions were planned and fully funded before we began the journey--- this time.. not so much.

We expect the entire cost to be $25,000. Tax credits get us halfway so we are trying to raise 12,500 before we travel.

If you are able and so inclined any donation would be appreciated.

Andrei's You Caring Site

I will start updating more frequently when we know more about travel and have more to share. Until then, lease keep us in your prayers!

Papa, Mama, Andrei and family!

Another Dido Birthday!

2013-01-12T22:32:00.001-05:00

A wonderful birthday today for Deyan. A joyful day for us and him.

I can't help but think back on that day 7 years ago when his parents' hopes and dreams were dashed. What were they told? "He will never smile, nor walk. He is not suitable to be in a family". How hard that must have been to have 9 months of dreams smashed by one doctor. A lifetime of 'could have been's' lost in an instant. Iknow. We were there with Matthew Stolz. Had it been a decade earlier we would have been told the same.

To Deyan's birth parents wherever you are. Please know you have a charming, bright wonderful little boy. His soul shines brighter than any I have ever met. You did well. Thanks to the amazing staff at Faith, Hope And Love Orphanage in Burgas for keeping him alive until we could get him. And thanks to baby Jordan for leading us to Deyan Emmanuel.. For God is indeed with us.

The One Left Behind

2012-12-19T23:03:00.001-05:00

Tonight little Deyan fed himself for the first time!!!

He is so full of life! I had to pause to thank little Jordan for the gift of Deyan.

Jordan lost his battle before we could unite him with his forever family.

But in doing so, he gave life to little Dido..

After Jordan died, one of the most difficult decisions I've ever made was if we would would move forward and adopt Marty alone or we would search for another child.

We decided the best way to honor our little angel was to seek out another little guy like Jordan.

We found Deyan..

He was tiny, sick and did not have hope without a family to come and get him NOW.

Well, Mr Jordan, "You done good"!

Deyan has blossomed. He now walks, talks and is the never ending bucket of smiles. He is the sweetest soul I have ever known.

Jordan, I'm so sad you are not with us. Every night I give Deyan an extra hug just for you. Play free in heaven... Merry Christmas little man. Thank you for leading us to your brother

I will always love you

papa

Happy GOTCHA DAY Marty!

2012-12-11T19:45:00.002-05:00

One year ago today we made the short drive from Sofia to Blagoevgrad to unite Martin with his forever family!

His pickup had a much different "vibe" than Deyan's (or any of the other kids.) We were not permitted to see his floor or talk to his caretakers. We waited in the cold, dark lobby as he was brought down to us. The worker did not even say goodbye to him---very sad

here is a link to that hectic day

What great progress Marty (Moose) has made

He now eats solids, signs, tries to use some words, loves to play hand and singing games. Marty loves to be read to and really loves to cuddle (something he was terrified of when we first met him)

From this---from the first day we met him

To This

To This---quite a handsome Moose!

It has not been easy with Marty, but it has been incredibly rewarding to watch this timid little boy blossom!

I'm proud to call you son, Mr Moose!

Happy First GOTCHA Day Anniversary

2012-12-09T19:51:00.004-05:00

One year ago today Deyan came home with his forever family- ORIGINAL POST---what a great year it's been.

Deyan's (Dido---Cheeto---Burrito) growth has been nothing short of a miracle.

from this--

to this

to these brand new photos

Dido now walks, talks (at least a loud emphatic "NO!") Signs words, plays with toys (never saw that in Bulgaria), Loves to be read to, tickled, and hugged

He has had some medical scares. A broken leg (twice) The fear of a seizure disorder ---thankfully dismissed---but all in all he continues to thrive!

The perpetually happy child.

It's been a great year. Happy GOTCHA day Dido!

It's Been WAY to long..

2012-11-13T21:11:00.000-05:00

I'm sorry for the delay in updates---as we approach one year with Deyan and Marty, it has really been The Tale of two Cities---

Both boys are amazing--- healthy and growing like crazy.

Deyan who was viewed as a "lost cause" at his orphanage is now walking (for the 3rd time after 2 broken legs)---actually he is RUNNING. He is signing and speaking a few words. For a child that did not even smile in the orphanage, he is always laughing, teasing and having fun. I have never seen a child so full of life as he is!--- Every time I lookinto his eyes I remember Jordan--- his little brother that did not make it--- Jordan is the reason that Deyan has had a chance at life---thank you my sweetness-- you accomplished such great things. we miss you

here is Deyan--- or Dido or Cheeto (or fido on spell check)

Little Marty Moose is a bit of another story

He is self abusive.... frustrating for such a smart little boy. His orphanage was not as caring as Deyan's and it really shows. It seems as though he was at least hit (if not abused) --- he is so hand shy.

Marty loves to sit on my lap and play hand games (itsy, bitsy spider....)---he signs and is trying to say some words. He is a great eater and is the only one of the newbies on solids. He is a very sweet, loving boy---Marty loves to give kisses and hugs---loves being held and sung to--- just insists on beating the crap out of himself if we are not there to check his hands--

It breaks my heart, as he is probably one of the brightest of our little guys--- what happened to him to cause him to seek pleasure by inflicting pain? so sad--- I love my moose (our nickname for him)

Some Photos of Summer!

2012-08-08T23:32:00.001-04:00

A Busy Summer

2012-08-02T23:10:00.000-04:00

Marty and Dido are doing great....they are a joy. Not to say it has not been difficult... It has. But we have turned the corner... The "time out" chairs are in full use and the boys are slowly " getting it"

The summer has been quite hectic and a lot of fun. I have a ton of pics to post. But probably won't have time til next week..

Jake and the newbies have summer school one more week.. Tuesday, Wendesday, and Thursday 8 til noon... Other than that it has been playtime, pool time and laid back together time

2 weeks of vacation, then back to school. We wanted to to a Florida trip this summer , but Deyan's busted leg killed that. He is all better, but the other boys start school a week early. Maybe a local lake trip???

We celebrated here, but did not post. It has been one year since we met the boys... What a transformative year. More on that as well

Sorry for the typos. I'm on a first gen iPad tonight and the screen does not want to work

More soon

Papa

Sorry for typos. This post is from a first generation iPad tat as a fi

Week Two Of Summer Vacation

2012-06-21T21:33:00.003-04:00

Home with all the boys for 2 full weeks---- what a hoot!

When I said I was really looking forward to this summer most people looked at me like I was nuts---Ummmm... We did not travel half way around the world and invest thousands of dollars only to ship our new kids off to day camp--- This is going to be a great time to work on skills and to settle in and get to know each other! Family time!!

The bad news is that little Deyan had to go back to the hospital as the "nails" used to hold his broken femur in place (they do this now rather than the huge spica cast) have popped through his skin and become infected--another surgery tomorrow...booo

Huge thanks to Emily, James and Marie for stepping up to help while mom is with the little guy---

So--- what does a summer day look like with 5 boys (ages 6-22) with down syndrome?

6:30am Rise and Shine! Changed, dressed and down to the living room for free-time while dad makes breakfast (Jake and Marty need special attention as they are both self-aggressive)

7:15am Breakfast-- Cream of Wheat with eggs added for extra protein. toss in a can of peaches and puree!

7:45am Jake and Papa take big brother James to swim team practice (Jake is now big enough to sit in the front seat and LOVES to ride home up front)

8:25am Leave with the crew for Daily Mass

9:00am Mass at St Lawrence in Price Hill---- it is amazing to watch the boys at Mass--- attentive, prayerful and so calm.

9:30am Drive home---- maybe hit McDrive if we were not able to get the big kids fed before we departed Plus Jake LOVES his "moomie"-- strawberry banana smoothie.

9:50am Pick up James from swim team and head home

10:00am Jake is ready for his morning nap--- Marty is ready for a swing.. This is where we want to add an activity time--- but that has not worked out yet

11:30am Lunch! peanut butter and banana sandwich (pureed) for the little guys-- Sandwich or salad for the big fellows

12:30pm Pool Time--- Everyone's favorite time of day--- I never thought Marty would like the pool--- he is so afraid of everything. It does take him longer to be willing to try things, but after a couple of weeks he is jumping in to us without holding on, going under, and floating on his belly (with some help)

2pm or so back home for chill time (or maybe nap time for the little guys)-- this is another slot we have pegged for skill development--- hopefully next week

4pm Dinner for little guys--- soup or stew pureed

4:30 Dinner for Big Kids

5:00 Chill time/Walks/free play

6:00 Little guys are about ready for bed--- change diapers, evening snack

6:30-7 bedtime--songs,prayers, stories

7:00 Hopefully dinner for grownups-- Wheel and Jeopardy for all who are awake

8:00 Quiet time for big kids--- Books, music, video

9:00 Bedtime for Big guys

Both Mary and I are lucky to work from home---- I have to be in the studio from 11:45a-12:25 M-F and back to work at 8pm--- Mary has had a tougher time locking in her work hours with all the medical stuff going on--- but I'm sure by the end of summer we will finally get it nailed down :-)

We will try to get pool pictures to post (weather permitting) tomorrow!

Stay well and happy Summer!

Best,

Papa!

This Must Stop

2012-06-06T23:03:00.003-04:00

re-post from Shelly's blog

May God hold you in His arms and give you the eternal comfort you never knew on earth--- Please tell Jordan we love him

In Loving Memory2000-2012

She never learned to walk. Her days were spent standing looking over the side of a crib. She never learned to talk, but was said to smile and laugh when someone paid attention to her. She never grew beyond the size of an average 3 yr old, even though she was 11. She liked to play with toys, though I wonder how often she was actually given toys in her crib? She spent her entire life never knowing the love of a family. She died alone in a “specialized institution”.

Today, she’ll be taken off the adoption registry in her birth country. She’ll be moved to the “no longer available” section of our files and “died an orphan” is what I will write beside her name so that every time I open that file, I will remember her.

She died alone while the world sends the message every single day that “those kids” aren’t even worthy of life.
She died alone while governments all over the world send the message that “those kids” are too expensive to raise/too expensive to provide government health care for/can’t contribute as “valuable members of society”.
She died alone while school districts all over the world send the message to parents that “those kids” can’t/shouldn’t be educated causing parents to become exhausted in the fight.
She died alone while “those kids” are born every single day all over the world and parents are told to sign the papers and send them away because they will be a burden.
She died alone because we live in a sin filled world where people would rather believe that life is “all about self” and doing what is easy and comfortable.
She died alone because Christians make excuses for why they “weren’t called for that” or why only “special people” can parent “those kids”.

Her’s was not a happy ending. Her reality is that of THOUSANDS of orphans, who lived and died without anyone ever acknowledging that it didn’t have to be.

Today, I am sad and I am angry.
But, I will remember.

“We learned that orphans are easier to ignore before you know their names. They are easier to ignore before you see their faces. It is easier to pretend they’re not real before you hold them in your arms. But once you do, everything changes.” –David Platt

Her name was Tsveti.

What's Up?

2012-05-31T20:30:00.001-04:00

Wow it has been forever since my last post--- Life has been busy, but good!

well---not all good... 2 weeks ago Deyan took a tumble down the stairs with his big sis-- OUCH! Busted femur. He was in a lot of pain for a few days, now he is just a little annoyed that we won't let him walk--

Since Christmas, we have been prodding him to take his first steps--- now we won't let him--poor dude is quite confused. another few weeks little "Cheeto".

Marty continues to push his boundaries like any good boy should-- He still loves to sign, be read to, and swing--- just on his terms-- he has picked up a nasty habit of scratching us if he does not get what he wants---anyone else dealing with this?

Many days Marty spends more time in "timeout" than out of it---- but it really seems to be working well. He understands what is expected and every day is a bit more willing to deliver.

SUMMER!

Moose made his first visit to the local swim club pool--- I was at home with Dido, but the reports were that after some initial trepidation the Moose took well to water--- I can't wait to get him to the pool to see!

Dido LOVES the water---but no pool until at least early July thanks to the break-- we also had to postpone our first family vacation in about a million years--- The beach and mouse would not be fun with a gimpy Cheeto--- Maybe August.

I may be the only one,but I am so looking forward to summer with the boys---lots of work on schedule, routine,communication and family!

It's Gonna be a GREAT Summer!

My Amazing Swimming Moose

2012-05-07T21:31:00.000-04:00

Sorry-- I have no Pics

Today Marty and I had the most amazing afternoon---

Marty (Moose) is afraid of EVERYTHING.

We have had the kiddie pools out 5 or 6 times so far this year and the most he would do is sit on the ledge maybe putting his feet in. (one pool is actually a sandbox and has a nice place to sit and watch)

This afternoon Deyan wanted to be in--- Jake too-- so it was me and 2 of the older boys with Moose.. after a few minutes he sat his toosh in the water (first time)... a couple minutes later he was splashing with his hands---- then his feet-- then laying on his back--- then ALMOST putting his face in the water---

What an amazing transformation--- it was like watching a 9 month old enter the water the first time and after 30 minutes a 3 year old emerge with appropriate water play skills--

Moose, you amaze me-- It's gonna be a FUN Summer--- Can't wait!

Love,

papa

Tragedy Begets Life

2012-05-05T22:18:00.001-04:00

One year ago today our baby Jordan (Jacob-Henry) died in a Bulgarian hospital from surgical complications It happened just a few months before we to hold his tiny body and comfort him with the thought of a forever family.

I still think of him every day when I look into the eyes of his brother Deyan.

Through Jordan's death, Deyan has had a chance at life. We had already committed to bring Jordan and Martin home. After we got the terrible news about Jordan's passing, we could not even think of "replacing" him with another child.

Thanks to many hours of prayer and many encouraging words from you we DID decide to find a second child that needed us-- Another child with little hope of being adopted and little hope to survive another year.

One year later Jordan's brother Deyan has not only survived, but thrived when given the chance at a full life.

Thanks to God for this miracle.

Jordan-- I will always keep the promise I made to you --

Each time I play with Deyan--- hear him giggle--- see him smile-- I will give him 2 hugs-- one of them is for him, one of them is for you.

Love Papa

Deyan... the same Kid?

2012-04-11T22:04:00.000-04:00

Thanks to Sabrina for taking note of Deyan and his hair (the fact that he now has some)

What an amazing transformation this past year:

Easter Weekend!

2012-04-06T21:48:00.002-04:00

Sorry it has been so long since the last post.

No drama to report. We all continue to get to know each other and to grow together as a family.

The Cliffs Notes Version:

Deyan:

What a HAPPY kid. Sure he has moments, but what a smile just about ALL THE TIME!
He is now officially a walker--- he can't get enough of it. He does laps in the living room, but really loves to tear down long hallways.
Kudos to the orphanage eye docs. We finally got his eyes checked and the glasses from Bulgaria are exactly what he needs (except now that he has some meat on him they no longer fit)-- Got his new ones today!
Zero health issues other than those (maybe) seizures.--Amazing!
talking a bit--- we get "Mama" and "Ba" (he is taking a bottle a couple of times a day)

Marty:

Oh Moose! All he wants to do is tell us what he wants (and for us to promptly comply). He picks up signs super fast. He is up to more than 20 signs. Some are not quite "right"-- my fave is his sign for "happy". It looks more like the throat slitting motion...
We have been working on signs for emotions and other abstract things this week. He gets it. Plus he has a great sense of humor. He will scowl at you and sign angry--- then bust our laughing.
The swing machine--- Moose would swing 24 hours a day if he could. The Rainbow Play System has gotten quite a workout already this spring. Baby swing?--DA! Big swing on a lap? DA! Today he did a few minutes in the big swing by himself.
Still freaked out about new stuff. Mary took the kids to the reds Opening Day Parade yesterday. The report was that he really warmed up to it--but just as in the past, a major new adventure means a sleepless night the following night. Excitement? Fear? Dunno

Some Pics courtesy of school!

A Wonderful Spring Day!

2012-03-21T21:30:00.003-04:00

If this is climate change---sign me up!

We were in the mid 80s today as the boys played outside.

Deyan LOVES the kiddie pool--- Marty "wants" to love it but is still a bit timid..

A Whole New Jake today too! (YAY)

Marie brought Deuce to play --- he is a 9 month old German Shepard--- and the boys all loved it.

Newbie update:

It has been so much fun to watch language blossom with both new boys. They (especially Marty) sign for all basic needs.

Marty LOVES to watch as Emily sings songs and signs to him--- he watches every hand movement.

He has figured out for the very first time in his life that he can communicate his wants and needs--- he does not want to miss any chance to increase his ability to let us know what he wants!

SIDEBAR---
Marty would sign ANYTHING to get him out of the living room (the only play room for the newbies)--Eat? Sleep? Drink? NOPE they are all "Moose speak" for "make a run for it". I think today he finally understands that each sign does not automatically mean you are free to escape.

random thoughts---

We never picked up on it in Bulgaria, but Marty is one VERY smart kid. Our new duty is to make sure that he get the supports he needs to rule the world (or at least his world)

Deyan had a blood draw yesterday---the first time with me---WOW was he unhappy to see me this morning-- grudge boy--- he got better this afternoon,but still was not happy with what I had done to him--- sorry Dido.

The new kids are so settled in---- it is like they have been here forever. Now if we can get Jake's SIB under control I could see "normal" in our future---- Let's go Jakie Bear!!!

A Castless Moose

2012-03-12T22:38:00.004-04:00

Marty finally got his cast off today--- poor dude

his arm looks all gross after 6 weeks in there-- a bit swollen and VERY dry and peeling--- he still won't use it yet. Hopefully a few days to get some mobility and a week or so for some strength and he will be back and signing with 2 hands!

I feel kinda bad--- it was a nice day yesterday and we were all outside--- you would THINK we would have enough sense to put sunscreen on the babies who have never seen sun---NOPE!

the good news is that Marty just had a bit of red on his face today---Deyan just some new tan!

Here come some pics from Emily !

A Sleeping Moose

2012-03-07T18:55:00.001-05:00

Wow. Hard to believe, but this is the first night I have gotten Marty to sleep since the PEST. No screams. No sib. Just 20 mins or so of tosses and turns.

I remember writing Mary from Bulgaria with concern that we might have bitten off more then we could chew with Marty. Wow. I'm glad I was wrong. What a great moose.

Thinking of Jordan/Henry Today

2012-02-27T20:17:00.000-05:00

I was playing with Deyan today ----giggling with him---teasing and tickling with him.. I gazed into his eyes and I could not help but see little Jordan/Jacob Henry.

I miss you little dude. We are loving your brothers, but I still feel a terrible emptiness without you... I think of you every day, but today with Deyan's gusto and love of life I had to pause to think about you--- my sweet angel--- I wish you could be with us. Please think of us and pray for us- look down on us with love.

I long for the day that we can all be together--- Be well my angel, be well....

The Amazing Talking Moose...

2012-02-20T14:55:00.002-05:00

....or at least signing.

Over the past few days, Marty has gotten the whole idea of signing. He gets SOOOOO excited when he is able to tell us what he wants.

Not a lot of signs so far, but he has down:
Eat
More
Finished
Sing (when he wants "Head, Shoulders, Knees, and Toes")
and sleep

His behavior has improved with his ability to communicate.

He also is understand basic commands in English--- some of which he does not like--AT ALL (example "no you are not going for a car ride"---SCREEEEEEEEM!)

Deyan is still just in sponge mode, but Marty Moose has really kicked it up a notch this past week!

more soon

papa

Bulgaria 101 For Adoption Travel UPDATED

2012-02-11T21:53:00.000-05:00

Bulgaria has really blossomed with its entry into the EU. You will see signs everywhere that another construction project has been funded by the European Union. Fear not fellow adoption traveler--- Bulgaria is indeed a part of Western Europe. You will want for very little (other than maybe a non-squatter toilet in the train station). Tap water is fine to drink (actually tastes good) Grocery stores are well stocked and will have many familiar brands. The streets are safe and the people are friendly.

Touchdown—BULGARIA!

You will land in a wonderful new terminal in Sofia—Immigration and customs are a snap. All signs are in English as well as Bulgarian. No visa required! No drama, No pain! In fact on the last trip, immigration was a NON issue---- un-staffed---walk right in

Baggage Beware!

On our first trip, our bags got lost--- There are 2 companies that handle lost luggage. One works for Lufthansa/United. GREAT FOLKS! They are very nice and attentive. The other company works for everyone else (including Air France and Delta if you are Skyteam like us). This company STINKS. The EU air compact is just an annoyance to them and they will totally ignore your legal passenger rights. Here’s hoping that your luggage makes it with you (or you fly Lufthansa/United)!

Trip one: We were picked up by Toni and Marti and they drove us to our hotel. (Hotel Budapest near downtown in a land of used auto part stores). It is a quick drive. We arrived on a Saturday evening and the airport and the roads on the drive were all pretty much empty.

Trip 2: One of Toni's associates picked up up-- again very easy. This time we arrived on a weekday so we did have quite a bit more traffic and it took nearly 40 minutes to get to the "Pest"

If you need to take a cab---- cabbies in Bulgaria were once among the worst in Europe. AOL keywords--dirty, nasty, smelly, and thieves. Times have changed a bit. From what we saw firsthand and what we have read--- the government has done a pretty good job cleaning up the cabbie racket! When you get in a cab, make sure it is metered.---I suggest you use the "OK" Cab Company for no drama. Before you close the door make sure the meter is at zero. The cabbie will punch in the minimum fare and from there you have no worries--- round up to the nearest Lev--- or more if you like.--- We had 2 bad cab experiences on our second trip. Each time,it was a cab we got on the street and the driver tried to rip us off--- He did not start the meter and asked for a HUGE (10 times the legit fare) payday..My daughter and son were on the first trip.She refused to pay what he wanted and gave him 5 Leva (what the fare should have been)--- he yelled at her then pulled away. The second time I was in the cab--- I told the kids to get out--- I got out my cell phone and took a picture of him and the cab license and kept shouting "Politsiya"--- he tore off with the door still open--- with no leva at all--- so be careful and do not put up with any crap for the cabbies---- better yet--- call ahead and only use "OK" company.

Sofia!

Two trips and about 10 days total in Sofia and we have a little better feel for the city

It is still really hard to judge things right now. They are building a new subway line and everything is torn up. We saw the major sites and they are neat, but with all the chaos and construction, Sofia did not seem to have the charm of Kyiv or Belgrade. I’m sure once the work is done things will be different. Talk to the desk at the Hotel for a 2 or 3 hour tour--- you will get a much better feel for the city than your daily comings and goings from the "Pest".

You can easily travel the central district on foot- We stayed at Hotel Budapest which is a ½ mile walk to the shopping zone. We still were able to haul our old tired selves around town. Like much of Eastern Europe, there is a cool dichotomy between the pre Soviet romantic days and the grand monolithic statist architecture.

Sofia Dining notes:

You will find:

· 2 (at least) Starbucks (But do not ask for black ice tea “it is not possible”) (free Wifi)

· McDonalds every few blocks (free Wifi)

· KFC/Dunkin Donuts (the KFC by the Pest is not very friendly when you point and grunt for a bucket of mixed)

· Gyro (actually Doener) places on every corner---the best is a block and a half down from the pest on the hotel side of the street--- The owner is a Turk and a great host!--- eat like a king for 3 Leva!

· Subway (free wifi)

· Happy Grill (My choice as best “local” food without drama) Free Wifi and lots of grilled meats-- we ate here with and without the kids--- they have highchairs and go the extra mile to make you feel welcome!

--- Other food

There is a GREAT and inexpensive "traditional" Bulgarian place right down the street--- (hang a right out of the hotel---cross the boulevard and the place is on the left)--- Awesome cheap eats--- a little touristy and not very kid friendly (they offered pillows to help the kids sit higher) but the food was GREAT!

German food? There is a Bittburger/Erdinger Beer Hall/restaurant near the Theatre District. I really wanted to go, but we did not have the time--- It looked GREAT!

If you are a beer drinker, we tried several--- My fave was Shumensko—it’s an InBev beer but nice, light and cheap!

We did not take any public transportation while in Sofia—there is a tram right in front of the hotel, but the construction detour does not really go where we wanted.

Sights:

We arranged for a 2 1/2 hour sightseeing tour with an English speaking cabbie (ask for Dmitri! with OK cab). Marty LOVES the car and my helper kids did not get to see much of the city- So it was a good way to kill an afternoon-- It was awesome! Lots of sights in and out of the city--- 35 euro and worth every penny! We made sure we saw the old Roman church, Mosque, Nevski Cathedral and the quaint Russian Church -- The Soviet Tsum and performing arts center as well as St Sofia and several other church sites. Again, the key sights did not impress like Kyiv, Belgrade, or other sites in Western Europe, but they did have their own unique charm.

The kids went to the Opera--- up-close for super cheap--- recommend!

Also at Christmas, there is a nice German sponsored Christmas market near Nevski

Church?

We located several options for Catholic Mass--- The Cathedral of St Joseph has Sunday Masses in Bulgarian, Polish and Latin--- There is English Mass on Sunday at the Chapel at 5 Oborishte Street-- between the British consulate and Neviski (across the street from the library)

Money:

The Lev or Leva (plural) is your friend.

As of this writing 1 lev = about 70 cents USD

I find it easiest to just assume that a Lev= a dollar and just consider that things are a bit pricey!

Prices in Bulgaria are a bit cheaper than Western Europe, but not as affordable as Ukraine. A Big Mac meal will set you back about 5 USD, but a beer is only about 75 cents for a pint draft.

I would suggest just getting your Lev out of an ATM—there is no need to change at a bank—do NOT change at any of the street vendors or at the airport. You WILL be ripped off—if someone approaches you to make a change on the street prepare to run and call for the police.

Safety:

We never felt unsafe while anywhere in Bulgaria. It was a little spooky walking to and fro from the hotel in the “used car parts district” of Sofia but never felt threatened –even walking by a street “beer party” between the hotel and the city the locals were respectful and actually pretty nice.

Wanna Drive?

I did and Mary talked me out of it. That was a mistake. Driving is way more western than Ukraine. If you can drive in a big city in the US you, can drive in Bulgaria. Be defensive and be prepared for aggressive drivers (especially young men). Rental cars are plentiful; gas stations are easy and very western. You can’t beat the freedom that a car gives. If I had to do it again I probably would have wanted to rent a car.

Car VS Mass Transit

Our Bulgarian team was not crazy about us wanting to take the train on our own to Shumen to visit Jordan’s grave. We insisted and they helped us get tickets. It was a snap-- Seats were assigned. Second class has no AC, but was fine. No food (even on the long haul from Shumen to Sofia) and the potty was with no paper and merely a hole in the car dumping the goods onto the track—but in all it was a very relaxing way to travel. We were in a compartment with a grandma and her granddaughter. When they realized that we were not going to be able to chat with them they scurried off and found another compartment with a kid and some people that spoke Bulgarian. So we had the 6 berth to ourselves. It is a good chance to nap and read and see the sights—DO remember to take supplies—Snacks, Water, pop (if you like) and TP.

Bus travel is also quite popular. We were considering flying into Turkey rather than Sofia. We would take a 3 hour bus ride to get us to Burgas (Deyan’s town) for less than 20 bucks PP. Buses are modern, have chemical potties and many actually have wifi! They are reported to be quicker and more reliable than trains between major destinations, but between our love for trains and our team’s fear based on numerous recent bus accidents we decided to take the train!

Staying At The Budapest

The fist impression of the "Pest" is "why is this really nice hotel plopped in the land of used auto parts" The rumor amoung the locals is that it is the "prostituka" hotel--we never saw that

It is a very short walk to the train and bus station--- a bit longer into the city center. The hotel is TOP NOTCH! They treated us and the kids so well--- Breakfast is the best I have ever had in Europe (full American breakfast plus German stuff and everything you would need to make the kid's meals!) --- dinner is good, if pricey. If you have your child, make sure you get a corner room-- we had enough space for 3 adults and 2 kids.

Ask for the porta cribs.

Do NOT plan on using the mini bar fridge as your yogurt, pop, supplies chest--- it does not get very cold. We used the ledge outside the bathroom window as it was winter--- we only had one bottle of Fanta fall onto the pavement (or a car)---if it was not cold outside, I'm not sure what we would have done.

Do NOT use the laundry service---- you could spend a hundred USD getting your duds cleaned once!

Around the Budapest

Need a used starter for a 1983 Lada?--- you are in the right place! Car parts shops are EVERYWHERE! But there are some gems to be found too!

Grocery--- there are a few small places nearby. Cross the street for awesome fresh squeezed juice and semi fresh meat and cheese. Get pop, beer,chips and chocolate from any of the small shops--- for more variety head to the Billa at the train station-- It is less than a ten minute walk-- you need a coin to free the cart and off you go! They have prepared foods for cheap in-room dining or stuff for sandwiches. We got "Frutis" and "Puddis" for the kids---plus baby food,diapers,wipes and anything else you might need for your new arrivals.

Want better prices and more variety? Have the hotel call a cab to take you to Kauffland- a couple of Leva for the ride and much better value---just make sure you arrange for the return cab ride with the hotel as well!

Dining-- I covered a lot of this above in the Sofia dining section, but here are some hidden treats: Go to the Doenner shop about a block and a half to the right of the hotel. They feature fresh baked chicken, awesome soups and salads on the CHEAP! Next door is a pastry place with great looking Banista. You can find a cafeteria plus a pizza place en rout to the train station (go the back way---its all locals) OR go the the boulevard and hang a left for KFC,a tourist pizza place, Dunkin Donuts and the live "Peep" show.

Beyond Sofia:

We were in Burgas on the Black Sea and Blagoevgrad in the mountains south of Sofia. Each town was a bit different, but really more the same when it comes to smaller city life in Bulgaria. More on that in a bit.

What to expect?

We found very few confident English speakers. If you are patient and kind, many folks will finally break down and try to talk with you, but they are very shy and most have never seen a “Real American”. Do not be afraid to point, grunt, and make funny gestures to get your point across--- make it entertaining for you and your new friends will like it too!

MAJOR CULTURAL NOTE OF IMPORTANCE!

In Bulgaria head bobs and nods are BACKWARDS from here in the states—back and forth means YES--- up and down means NO--- better to say DA (yes) and Nee (no)--- keep your head still!

Shopping:

Neighborhood stores are small and pretty well stocked to cover your day to day needs-they look a bit scary on the outside but are fine—do pay attention to “use by” dates on meat and dairy.

Several major European chains are now in Bulgaria—Kauffland, Lidl and Metro (need a membership card or your US passport here) are all as good and as HUGE as any megamart in the US. Prices are way better than the little stores—remember you need to plop a coin in to get the shopping cart to come loose.

They have several western style drug stores, but remember--- prescriptions and other pills and remedies are at the APOTEK (usually a little hole in the wall) NOT at the thing that looks like a Walgreens!

Street Food

We ate everything we saw and loved everything we ate (except for the doener in Sofia with mayo, a pickle and fries on it). No need to fear. Street Hot Dogs are good! Crepes? Yum. Pizza? Yep. Ice Cream-- delish! Don’t be afraid--- enjoy! Bottled water is everywhere. Unlike Western Europe you do not have to worry much about getting fizzy water--- most is No Gas!

Non Fast Food Places.

We covered MC and other zippy dines earlier---- The big surprise for us was that hotel food was not only very good, but affordable! Some of our favorite dishes:

Salads-

Most salad comes sans dressing---there is vinegar and oil on the table for you

Shopska Salad--- Tomato, Cucumber, onion (maybe red or green pepper) and yummy Bulgarian White Cheese (shredded fine—flavor a bit like feta)

Sheppard Salad. Like Shopska… add diced ham and eggs

Salad Olivia or Russian Salad--- Pretty much like egg salad with sausage

Caprese -- Tomato Mozzarella and onion

Carrot and cabbage salad--- shredded veggies--- that is all

Soup-

We were there in summer and never once saw soup on a table nor on a menu

Cold Appetizers-

It is very Mediterranean. Any combination of olives, cheese, nuts and meats you might find in Greece or Italy.

Hot appetizers—

CHEESE! Breaded and Fried, Stuffed into a pepper and fried, Sautéed with eggs then fried.

Main Dishes-

In the summer pretty much grilled meat ruled the day---except at the beach where it was grilled fish.

Expect lots of pork and chicken—beef (or veal—terms seem to be interchangeable there) is very expensive and from our team not at all recommended (since it is pricy it tends to sit longer and you run a greater risk of spoilage)

There are traditional dishes that are similar to our stews—they are cooked in individual crocks and very yummy.

Stuffed cabbage, grape leaves, and peppers are popular, but not in the summer

Veggies are wonderful and fresh during the summer. They are often grilled.

Potatoes are everywhere—boiled, fried --plain or with onions-- and French Fries with the yummy sirene cheese (a must eat!!)

Try Mishmash--- Peppers, onions, eggs and GOOD!!

Sausages. We LOVE sausages, but the spices in Bulgarian Sausage were not to our taste. Hot Dogs were wonderful, but a fresh sausage that looks a lot like a German Bratwurst does NOT taste like a German Bratwurst—Not bad at all—just not what we expected.

Lunch fare—

We ate in the room most lunches—packed from the Kauffland. Fresh bread, ham or salami, cheese, fruit, chips and maybe a sweet torte. Go to the deli case and point. Write down “100 grams”--- a good size portion for 2 people. We only got stuff from the “cured” or “ready-to-eat” case.

You can find western chips—Lays, Doritos and such. We buy local and have a taste treat (Bacon flavor chips are really good).

Soda is everywhere. Pepsi and Coke, Coke Light, Coke Zero and European Fanta. Plus bottled water (we like Devin which is the biggest local brand).

OHHHH Breakfast

It was included in all of our hotel stays.. A much bigger and nicer spread than is customary in Western Europe. Included are:

Eggs—hard boiled, scrambled and usually ”hemneggs”

“Hemneggs” Well it is—um-- Ham and Eggs. A thin layer of Ham topped with fried eggs—YUM!

Hot Meats- Ham (see above) usually a smoked sausage (like polish sausage)

Cold Meats- Ham and other cold cuts

Breads—western style toast, hard rolls and local sweet pastries

Cheese- Deli sliced cold cheeses—Swiss, Bulgarian White and usually a yellow cheese of some sort

Yogurt—fresh and a bit more pungent than in the US

Fruits (fresh, canned, and dried)

Cold Cereal (usually corn flakes and muesli)

Tea, Coffee, water, milk, and some dreadful orange-like drink that should be avoided at all costs

I GUESS you COULD snag enough for lunch too if your pockets are large enough??

Flying home:

Get to the airport at LEAST 2 hours early. It is quite funny. They have this awesome terminal, yet continue to do things in Eastern European style to get you home. Expect to wait in very long and slow lines then get your boarding pass and wait in more lines to get to the escalator and still more lines to get to security and immigration. As easy as it was to get in to Bulgaria—is is that hard to get out*****!

****NEW PARENT TIP--- if you are on your pickup trip-- DO NOT WAIT IN ANY LINES--- it seems that parents with babies are exempt from lines--- if they do not pull you to the front of the line, just go there yourself--it is FUN!

Airport food and drinks are CRAZY expensive (and not very tasty)--- try to avoid if you can. The "Pest" will make you a boxed breakfast--make sure you ask the night before.

Connections for flying home (if you are Skyteam) :

We had a NIGHTMARE return trip because of a late departure from Sofia---that said, if you can--CONNECT IN ROME!!! We had a bit of drama because of our late flight and a problem with the gate assignment, but the connection in Rome... especially with little kids.. is as easy as it gets. You exit the plane-- follow the transfer signs...Up the escalator... catch the tram for one stop--- down the escalator--- through security (no need to wait in line). Turn left and there is your gate--- it can be done in less than 10 minutes TOTAL--- I have never had an easier international connect---ever.

Other cities we visited:

Burgas or Bourgas

A gem of a city by the Black Sea. Did we love it because of the location? The great hotel? Or that it held one of the nicest, best run orphanages we have ever seen. All of the above!

Burgas ROCKS!

Okay. We were there in the summer at the peak of tourist season. We enjoyed dinner every night on the beach. A midday dip in the Black Sea was the rule and most every night we enjoyed a stroll through the peaceful yet balmy promenade.

We stayed at the Aqua Hotel. A decent 3 star place about a 20 minute walk from the sea-park, and a 20 minute walk from the huge and modern Burgas Mall. Breakfast was great. The room was comfy--- beware of mini bar scams--- ask them to take out all the stuff when you arrive so they do not try to rip you off

Each night we ate at a little place right on the Beach--- shame on me I do not recall the name. Prices were good (especially considering high season) and the food was great. Our hosts ate huge plates full of small whole fishes every night. I finally got up the nerve to try one the last night--- not bad at all! I do not think we ever paid more than $15 USD for a meal with several adult beverages included.

We spent our time here with Deyan and at the beach—not much else to report. There is a decent shopping area filled with kiosks—it is a short 5 minute walk from the hotel—but it closes quite early--- maybe 9pm.

Shumen

Jordan’s home city and while the reason for coming here was tragic, despite it all, we had a nice time in this small Bulgarian town with a rich history.

Shumen was an early seat of Bulgarian power. We toured the fortress that dates back to the first Bulgarian Empire and was occupied through Roman times. Very cool. On the next bluff was the Monument to “ 1300 years of Bulgaria”. A neat cubist Soviet era monument that really helped us to understand a basic cultural difference between us and Eastern Europe. Our favorite is a statue of (crud I do not remember his name) with his arms out showing 2 points. The description in English was that “from here to here al is legal and permitted—outside these bounds is illegal and punishable” . How odd for an American. For us—as long as it is not expressly forbidden it is okay—but in the EE unless a thing is expressly permitted it is illegal. A HUGE cultural shock!

Aside from the sights, Shumen is a wonderful livable little town. They have a nice pedestrian zone with Corn-on-the-cob street food and strolling families. Shumen is also home base for my favorite Bulgarian Beer--- Shumensko!

Blagovegrad

I think it is fair to say this has been our favorite city in Bulgaria. I don’t know why. Perhaps the mountain climate…Or the “friendlier than most” people. Dunno, but both Mary and I love it here.

Blago is home to the American University of Bulgaria and we must give thanks to Sabina and Markus for showing us around. There is a great old Soviet era town square and an even lovelier pedestrian zone. It is a vibrant college town, yet seems very traditional and comfortable at the same time.

Our Hotel Ezerets was awesome—great beds, fast internet and an awesome restaurant. The main site is the Rila Monastery just outside of town—sad to say that time did not allow us to visit—hopefully upon our return.

So there you have it--- a brief rundown of our experience from a few weeks in Bulgaria. Needless to say your mileage may vary. Enjoy your stay. Explore where and when you can. You will have great stories to share with your adopted kids for years to come!

Papa!

First Day of School

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A quick update!

Martin and Deyan's first day of school today!

they did great!

Thanks to the team at Rost for the Pics

Marty has a broken thumb :-( The first broken bone we have had since since the late 80s --poor Moose!

He is not a happy moose in the photos-- Yet a VERY happy Moose in real life!---we need better pics cuz he is really is stinking Cute!

More soon, but the 2 new guys have been GREAT-- No Drama, sweet kids--- exactly what we expected--

"Dido and the Moose" are settling in better than could be expected!

9pm and All is Well

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Kudos to Jake! he has slept all night for 3 of the past 5 nights!!

we have no current illness in the house---just cuteness!