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2012-09-03T19:03:00.001-04:00

4 MAJOR Signs they're not into you!

Let me start off saying that just because a person is not into you doesn't mean he/she is a bad person. It can be several reasons why they're not. And it doesn't mean that you are a bad person. Sometimes it's clear that a person is interested in you, but it is often the case that a person sends mixed signals as well.

Be mindful that these signs are some of the many signs that a person is just not that into you. There are other things you want to consider like if their action doesn’t matches up with their words, which is something you want to pay attention and be observant. “The first time someone shows you who they are, believe them.”~Mayo Angelo

Look for some good qualities in a person who is
Understanding Appreciative Respectful Caring and kind
Helpful Trustworthy Positive Fun to be around
Knows God-Relationship

There are however, some clear signs they’re not interested. I have listed 4 MAJOR ones below with some examples:

1. Inconsistent- Inconsistent behavior causes misunderstandings and uncertainty. For example, one minute they call or text you all week and then go a few weeks without contacting you, that’s inconsistency.

2. Don't make time for you- If they constantly make plans and cancel with never rescheduling it's not a good thing
and if they never pick up the phone to talk, get to know you. It's ok texting someone but if you're interested in getting to know someone do it via talking, it's more personable and sometimes texting can be very misunderstood

3. They don't introduce you to friends and family-

(Over a period of time)
If they are always around with their friends and family but they don't invite you. It could be uncontrollable things, such as acceptance of them and they don't want to look or feel uncomfortable around them
(they are worried/concerned on how their judged)

4. Conversation- Think about the kind of conversation the two of you have. Do they only talk about themselves? Are they expressing how they feel or mention an interest in you? If this person never asks about you, your life, or your thoughts, then there's a chance they don't much care, and this means you should probably move on and find someone who wants to learn more about you.

Here are some other self explanatory sings that they’re not into you:
PAY ATTENTION AND DON’T BE DESPERATE TO SETTLE FOR LESS

They maintain physical and emotional distance

They don’t respond to you right away

They only call after midnight

They won't let you leave things at their house

They won't go out in public with you

They tell you to date other people

They won’t make any plans to hang out with out

They give you the feeling that you’re being used

They give you signs that you are one of many options

They don't make it crystal clear just how much you mean to them

They seem moody and only wants to be around you when it suits them

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Tiffany Lael

When life happens, what do you do?

2012-07-01T17:02:00.001-04:00

When life happens we simply can choose to let it affect us or we accept it, we do have choices on what and how we feel about it. We are affected by the circumstances it has caused, but have you chosen to get over it and move on? What I mean by acceptance is the fact that this has occurred. I know when life (things) happens, we can get angry, confused, stress, emotionally unbalanced, hurt, sad, bitter etc. But we have to rise above those feelings. Most times we don’t understand or realize ”why has this happened to me” do you believe that everything happens for a reason? Ask yourself that.

Did you ever feel like you’re stuck or can’t move because of what has occurred when life happens? Let me be the first to tell you, YOU CAN MOVE ON!

Me personally I’ve been faced and challenged in life when things happened that I had no control over or didn’t see coming, so I want to share with you how I choose and apply things in life that helped me get through it. Practice this daily and feed your mind with positive things.

Please remember that God doesn’t give you too much that you can’t bear I've never been ashamed or afraid to lean on God's promises in difficult times.

When life happens~ I choose to give God thanks

When life happens~ Keep moving forward, you still have to live

When life happens~ I choose to wake up smiling and count my blessings

When life happens~ There’s a lesson in every mistake, are you learning that lesson?

When life happens~ I choose to accept things, as they say it is what it is right

When life happens~ I give my battles to God, knowing I can’t win them all

When life happens~ I choose to get over it and don’t hold grudges, that’s not healthy

When life happens~ I embrace the learning experience from it

When life happens~ I choose to keep my head high, I still have a great future

When life happens~ Acknowledge and be aware of what has took place

When life happens~ I choose to accept that it has happened

When life happens~ Things I can’t control I give it God

When life happens~ I choose to be happy NO MATTER WHAT

When life happens~ I believe & know that nothing formed against me shall prosper

When life happens~ I choose my attitude towards it

When life happens~ I keep fighting the good fight

When life happens~ I continue to grow and become wiser, despite of

When life happens~ I go out and create things, looking to the sky

When life happens~ I chose to still motive, inspire and lift others up

Key thing I want you to remember is that when life happens, know where you stand with that situation and know your purpose for moving past it and keep going with your head and spirits high.

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Get your mind right and live!

2012-05-03T18:35:00.002-04:00

I see so much going on in this world and many are not focused on their lives like how we are suppose to be. GET YOUR MIND RIGHT AND LIVE, you simply have to take the time to focus on your priorities in your life! Until you get your mind right you'll never be able to get your life right. Sadly many are worried or concerned with things that don’t even make a difference in their lives, we are too concerned with drama, issues, gossip and other things that don’t pertain to self-growth. I want to strongly encourage you to stop it immediately. I understand there are many distractions that can occur daily with social media, entertainment and unexpected circumstances. I know how easily it is to get "caught up" in it. But you have to think, isn't there more to life than just this? YES THERE IS.

Start surrounding yourself with positive things and people, pick up a book or read an article that reflects some type of personal self growth and educate yourself with wisdom, wisdom has no age limit at all!~

If you have a talent, passion or gift that you want to live out, simply go get it! You have to create it; it simply won't come to you. Even in this economic time we can still live out our passions. I personally know about the struggle of finding my passion and talent (I had to seek and pray on it), once I discovered it I wanted to live it out fully, thus is the reason why I'm a Life/Relationship Coach. I simply enjoying help others in their lives, that's a gift given from God and I'm out here executing and living it; despite of my past circumstances and or barriers I've had/have. If I can do at the age of 30 years old, YOU CAN TOO! It starts with believing in yourself and BELIEVING IS ENOUGH.

If you’ve been trying to make your passion a reality, do not quit. If something doesn’t work, all you have to do is change your approach. Look at people who are already doing what you want to do, and learn from them if all possible. “When it is obvious that the goals cannot be reached, don’t adjust the goals, adjust the action steps.” – Confucius

Remember you were born for a purpose; your life has a purpose. You should want to live out your life abundantly with your talents or passion. The devil is out to destroy us daily; he wants to seek and kill us spiritually, mentally, physically and financially. I know we can't control most things that happen in our lives, but we have control over how much we stay prayed up and live our lives according to how God want us to. A prayer a day keeps the devil away!

Remember, mind transformation always precedes life transformation. "... but be transformed by the renewing of your mind" (Romans 12:2 NIV) Get your mind right and live!

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9 Great ways to love yourself ~ Self Love

2012-03-08T20:16:00.000-05:00

Self love next to God’s love is truly the best. There is nothing like loving and accepting yourself. Many are seeking completeness from others without realizing you have to complete you with LOVE first! This is very crucial in life as it helps boost self-confidence. You should have so much love in your heart for yourself, where you can heal yourself along with God’s help. I have listed 9 great ways to help you get some SELF LOVE.

1. Give yourself compliments daily~ Look in the mirror every morning and tell yourself how beautiful you are (build your self esteem) Pat yourself on the back with your successful accomplishments thus far!

2. Accept who you are~ There are many things we can’t change within ourselves such as your skin color for example learn to accept who you are, God created you so you’re just right. Remember no one is perfect aiming for perfection is a loss so please don’t do it!

3. Stop comparing~ Sadly many of us have done this time and time again, so let me repeat STOP comparing yourself to others. Nobody can be you, even if they tried to; you are wonderfully and uniquely made to be who YOU ARE. Remember nobody else is YOU.

4. Stop being so hard on yourself~ Did you know we are OUR own worst enemy? Give yourself a break on things that can’t be changed or fixed or undone.

5. Add to your faith in your life~ Talk positivity into your life, speak and believe that YOU are the best. In addition to reminding yourself that God unconditionally love you. 2 Peter 1 5-6 5 For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; 6 and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness.

6. Forgive yourself from your past mistakes and failures~ You have to learn to understand that certain things that may have or have not happened in your life is all for a reason! Whatever it is simply forgive yourself and keep moving, life does go on! Close the door that’s behind you and keep it closed, that’s how YOU move forward. Kill the old stuff and smile.

7. Gain inner strength~ Whatever your inner strength is that YOU have been holding onto keep that and maintain it, remember your sole purpose on why you are being strong and have that strength. Sometimes it can be a challenge but it can be done.

8. Eliminate any self doubt~ Please stop this right now, don’t doubt yourself one bit in any way, that only leads to confusion, stress and frustration. Have a sense of clarity in believing yourself in life. If no one believes in YOU, you continue to believe in you.

9. Treat yourself right~ Take the time out to pamper yourself. Buy something new for yourself when time and money is allowed. You deserve nothing but the best so make sure you take time out to look good daily and take care of your personal hygiene. We all love someone who looks and smells good.

I also want to encourage you to continue to walk with God in life with so much going on in this world we can sometimes get off track; if we get ahead of God we confuse ourselves on many different things. Stay on the right path stay blessed!

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5 Ways to stay FOCUSED in life.

2011-12-26T18:07:00.000-05:00

That's right start NOW, stay FOCUSED and finish STRONG. Have you ever found yourself not being focused on your priorities in your life? Many of us all go through this at some point. It is people out there that have goals, dream and visions and they just don't know how to prioritize their life to create things in order to make it happen. Staying focused can be a difficult task at times, but it can be overcome once you practice methods daily to implement it. You truly have to invest in some time and work and not make any excuses. Ask yourself do you really want to become something/someone and be great and succeed at it?
This world is so full of distractions, we tend to lose track of time, and our goals and we don't know how to manage our time effectively. I personally know how and what it means to lose track of time, get caught up on things that didn’t benefit me in life and made excuses. I stopped it once I realized I had a purpose to fulfill in life and wanted to become an entrepreneur, a better person in general and live my life to the fullest with no excuses. I want to help you invest in YOU so here are 5 great successful tips to help you stay focused in life.

1. Set a goal~ Set obtainable short and long term goals. Write it down and have clarity on it, they need to be achievable, conceivable, measurable, aligned and desirable. Be sure your desire for your goal is strong enough. If you become distracted re read them so you are reminded of what and why you are doing what you are doing to achieve them!

2. Know your purpose~ Some of us have callings, talents and gift/passion that we have been blessed with. Some are afraid to use it, trust me take heed apply it and pray on it. Allow God to create your path and not your own. There is greatness in you that I know YOU want to come out; step out on faith the world needs you.

3. Plan ahead~ Set a schedule based around your working/family schedule and allow TIME for your priorities. I have had many clients set schedules for themselves and they have been successful more at their priorities by doing so. This helps you stay on track, of course your schedule won’t go as planned all the time, but at least you something in place to keep things organized. Always value your time and remember that procrastination is the thief of time, which we can’t get back.

4. Cut out the distractions~ When you have something you want and need to do set aside the time to do so with NO DISTRACTIONS. Don’t get caught up on social media, cell phone, Internet, television, video games and gossip. YOU have to discipline yourself and have that pep talk and tell yourself, “these other distractions can wait, I have a goal/purpose to fulfill” Seek that inner strength that’s within; you can do it, make a conscious decision to do so. If needed lock your room door, go to the library or park to escape it all.

5. Stop making excuses~ Time and time again people tend to make excuses on why they can’t do this or do that. Many tell themselves that they have had failures and setbacks and THINK they can’t stay focused or succeed at something. That is where you’re WRONG. Many successful people in life have had setbacks and failures; you know what the difference was with them? They overcame them and kept moving forward and didn’t allow it to STOP them with no excuses.

Remember to start NOW, stay FOCUSED and finish STRONG. Make it the best!

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Commitment issues? Why many have it!

2011-11-16T21:00:00.003-05:00

Many people have commitment issues for several different reasons. It can be due to negative experiences and beliefs and both sexes can suffer from commitment phobia. What is commitment? Commitment is a promise which two people make to each other explicitly – verbally or implied – by action. You commit to only dating each other and not seeing other people in a romantic way. You are committed to care for each other and to support each other. When you and your partner are committed to each other, there would be no uncertainty in your relationship. Together you commit to growing together as a couple, and walking the path of life together, hopefully leading to marriage if that’s what you both desire. Realistically the only way to have a healthy relationship is for both partners to be equally committed. There’s nothing better than feeling the companionship, friendship, sharing, and love that a secure and loving relationship can bring.

Now there may be times in a relationship where there is chemistry and good communication but there is a FEAR of commitment for one person. If you are in a relationship now and you know that there is a problem with hanging onto a relationship where there are evident signs of commitment phobia, let them go now before you waste too much time. Remember you can’t force or change anyone to commit to you unless they simply want to.

Here are some reasons why people have commitment issues:

1. Someone may fear that being with just one person for a prolong period of time they may get bored or lose interest.

2.They have been hurt in the past before and don’t want to give another a chance.

3. Single people value their freedom, especially for those who have been single for such a long time, a committed relationship threatens that freedom.

4. Some are afraid that they will give their all and get nothing in return. When you fully give yourself to someone, you’re taking on the possibility that your partner may let you down. I have personally experienced this before in the past.

5. Many are just not ready for it, there’s nothing wrong with not being ready for a commitment to someone.

Here is what you can do if yourself or partner has commitment issues:

1. Keep the communication effectively open with the understanding that you don’t want a commitment so the other person knows, and they aren’t mislead in any way.

2. You have to be honest with what you want and expect (realistically) out of your relationship. If you don’t know, don’t get in a relationship until you figure that out.

3.Learn to trust yourself and your intuition, allow your past experience and wisdom guide you in the right way.

4.Take time to truly learn the person before giving your all, learn from your past mistakes, don’t rush and don’t be desperate.

If you know 100% head on you don’t want to make a commitment in a relationship and your and the person your dating wants a commitment, please be sure not to get in a relationship so you don’t end up hurting the other person, that would not be fair to them. Learn to date with integrity and respect for yourself and for them. Life is a learning experience, what doesn't kill you, will only make you stronger. Be wise and be smart.

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9 Ways to renew your spirit.

2011-10-18T18:23:00.000-04:00

At times in life, we get so caught up with our busy lifestyles we never take the time to sit and simply relax and renew our spirits. Many don’t know the importance of the fact that we need to slow down sometimes to have peace and find balance in our lives accordingly. Renewing your mind, body and spirit is so important in your life.

It’s 2011 and everyone has cell phones, IPods, Computers and IPads learn to turn them off for a while and get in tune with self not so much technology and the world. Invest in your family, spend real quality time with them, invest in you read a book to educate yourself for self growth and wisdom, wisdom has no age limit. Remember you make time for what you want spend it wisley because we don’t get time back!

People may think it can be challenging to renew our spirit with chaos in your life, but it’s not, here is 9 simple ways to renew your spirit I pray this blesses you.

1. Walk with God~ nothing will restore your soul like time with God. Maintain a relationship with him, it’s one of the best things you can do for yourself.

2. Cast Your Cares Upon Him~ Give him your all troubles, worries, problems, hurt, pain, fear, sadness, negative thoughts etc. give him 100% of it.

3. Meditate on the bible principles~ Read the bible daily so you are aware of Gods promises. Be obedient, discipline and faithful.

4. Listen to Godly Music~ There is nothing more uplifting than gospel/Christian songs. Some times you can relate to the song you at times while listening to it. This renews your spirit in a great way.

5. Read an Encouraging Book~ Find books on how to know God, you can go to your local library for this and grab some free resources online.

6. Serve Someone Else~ There is a blessing in blessing someone else. God rewards those who help others!

7. Share with someone~ Let someone know about your testimonial, things that you overcame, obstacles and how God has changed your life or delivered you from something! You never know how it help encourage them.

8. Rest~ Give your mind and body a rest, learn to relax and not worry all the time, our mind constantly runs with thoughts Fret not!

9. Spend Time with Someone You Love~ Cherish the moment with a loved one; quality time is the best when it’s spent well. Let them help you smile and laugh.

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Why settle for LESS when you deserve the BEST?

2011-10-04T21:51:00.003-04:00

That’s right; don’t settle for less when you deserve nothing but the best for you in life. Many people have settled for less than they deserve in their lives for many reasons, such as just being comfortable and content with where they are, not knowing their value or worth and not knowing that there is other great things out there for them or acting out of FEAR (False Evidence Appearing Real) just to name a few. Often we don’t know what’s out there that’s better for us because we choose to close our eyes to a Person or something without knowing greater things do exist.

Open your mind and heart to explore other avenues in your life. Of course we can create our own plan and path but let’s not lead on our own understanding and allow God to direct our paths. (Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV) Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.)

Sometimes you have to forget what you want to remember what you deserve!

Now if you’re waiting, that is ok to wait on something or someone for which you deserve. Many times that’s the best we can do for ourselves; for our hearts and mind. God wants you to have the very best in life.

To determine whether you’re settling ask yourself these few questions and answer them.

Is it possible that I’m missing things that would bring even more satisfaction and more pleasure to my life?

Am I stopping myself from getting the best in life?

Do I have a good relationship?

Am I completely satisfied with where I’m at right now in my life?

Do I realize my maximum potential?

Do I have abundance in my life?

Do I have high expectations but I always settle for less?

Am I just given up and given in?

In closing, when it comes to choices in life and there was one or few bad decisions that wasn’t the best choice you made, you can simply ask yourself “How did this or that happen?” The answer maybe along the lines if you settled for something less than you deserved. Remember to please learn from your past and allow it to make you wise and smarter in your choices. I pray the very best in all you do and pray you make the right decisions on things and people. Remember life is full of choices so choose wisely.

Here are some affirmation statements for you!

I deserve the best that God has given to me

I deserve to live my life happy

I deserve to live out my passion in life

I deserve to be successful

I deserve true unconditional LOVE from my spouse

I deserve to live a stress free life

I deserve to have the desires of my heart

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Don't give up!

2011-09-27T14:35:00.003-04:00

At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don't give up!

I know there are many people out there that are unemployed, homeless, hungry and struggling to pay bills, struggling to hold a marriage and or a family together. But don’t give up; God has bought you this far so please believe that he won’t let you down. I want you to know that I know what it feels like to struggle, to be broke, living pay check to pay check, I have had family problems, relationship problems. I know what if feels like to want to give up, quit, frustrated, tired, alone and scared of the unknown. I felt that way before in my life. I want to encourage you that once I started getting back into the word and maintaining a relationship with God, I haven’t felt that way since. I have turned my tests to testimonies; I turned my weakness into strength! GOD IS MY ROCK AND MY FORTRESS AND MY DELIVERER Psalms 18:2. I will never give up let me tell you why, I told myself and branded in my mind, the devil wants to destroy me, he is not more powerful l than God so why would I give him the benefit?

God has his hands on you and is right by your side, he never left you and he will never fail you. Continue to maintain your obedience and faithfulness at this time right now. I believe that everything happens for a reason, even though we may not understand why sometimes, but you have to remember your life is already written, so there so no mistake of what’s going on right now.

God will never give you more than you can handle in the bible Paul tells us: "God is faithful, and he will not let you be tested beyond your strength but with your testing he will also provide the way out so that you may be able to endure it" (1 Corinthians 10:13).

Don’t give up and don’t give in, no matter what your facing he can and will turn it around. So often we want God to hurry up, but his timing is perfect. Know that your perseverance in doing good will reap a harvest in God's due season, if you don't grow weary and give up.

God knows your beginning and your end and everything in between, so put your trust in him. He knows your struggles, he knows your hardship, he knows your pain, he hears your prayers, and he sees your cries, allow him to dry your eyes. At times you need to anoint yourself and your home and everyone in it. Get down on your knees and do a closet prayer.
(But thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy closet, and when thou hast shut thy door, pray to thy Father, which is in secret; and thy Father, which seeth in secret, shall reward thee openly. Matthew 6:6 KJV)

Here are some bible scriptures you can fall back on. I pray that this blesses and strengthens you; so you don’t give up, I love you!

Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you."
Deuteronomy 31:6

Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be men of courage; be strong.
1 Corinthians 16:13

But even if you should suffer for what is right, you are blessed. "Do not fear what they fear; do not be frightened."
Take Courage
1 Peter 3:14

The LORD is my light and my salvation whom shall I fear? The LORD is the stronghold of my life of whom shall I be afraid?

Psalms 27:1

Wait for the LORD; be strong and take heart and wait for the LORD.

Psalms 27:14

And call upon me in the day of trouble: I will deliver thee, and thou shalt glorify me.
Psalms 50:15

Cast thy burden upon the LORD, and he shall sustain thee: he shall never suffer the righteous to be moved.

Psalms 55:22

TRUST, BELIEVE and have FAITH

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How to prevent common relationship mistakes!

2011-09-17T18:35:00.003-04:00

Many people who start relationships go into them, making many mistakes some known and some unknown. We all make common mistakes, some learn from them some don’t. You want to go into a relationship with a healthy and conscious mind. In addition to knowing what you want out of the relationship. I want to help you prevent some common relationship mistakes I will also provide 1 out of many possible solutions for it.

1. Seeking to change that person~ People think just because you’re now in a relationship with them, you have more power to change them. NOT GOING TO HAPPEN! You can’t change them, people can only change themselves. You can only make suggestions for them on certain behavior and things that you don’t like about them. Stop trying to tell them how to dress, how to walk, talk, whom to hang out. The solution: Love them, as they were when you were dating or release yourself from the relationship if you aren’t happy with them. You can only change you and have hopes they see the changes and it rubs off on them. Love them unconditionally.

2. Having/setting unrealistic expectations~ Many of us come into a relationship expecting and demanding things, some of them are unrealistic. Expectations may lead to disappointments and frustrations. The solution: Every relationship should have expectations that are solid, healthy and realistically based.

3. Not allowing time between your last relationship~ Please don’t jump from one relationship to another. That is a screaming failure for sure. The solution: Allow yourself to heal from the past relationship and learn something from it. Be aware of your emotions and what you want in the next relationship.

4. Being selfish ~ Being selfish is putting one’s own needs above those of everybody else, making it all about you. It focuses only on pleasing oneself. A relationship involves 2 partners not one. The solution: STOP being selfish, nothing good ever comes from being selfish. It can lead to despair; misery and can cause relationship problems.

5. Seeking them to complete you~ If you are looking for your partner to fill an emptiness within yourself, you will always remain unsatisfied; therefore you make yourself happy. The solution: Seek completeness within yourself first, this plays a part with having self love and having self-esteem, knowing your worth and value!

(Check out my blog on how to gain self worth and value, under older post)

6. Being emotionally unstable~ I’m not stating don’t go into a relationship this way, I want you to be fully aware of your emotions, that way you know how to mange & handle them. Ensure you know what is causing a behavior to make you emotionally unstable (find the root of the problem) A relationship takes work; you have to have trust, communication, honestly, respect and understanding. The solution: Learn to handle and manage your emotions prior to getting into a serious relationship. You can read my blog here on How to handle them (Look under older post)

So ask yourself this “am I ready to be in a relationship?”

Know what you want out of the relationship; remember if God is not the center of your relationship, it won't work.

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How to solve relationship/marriage problems successfully!

2011-08-21T16:18:00.000-04:00

Everyone has some type of problem or disagreement in a relationship. How exactly are you handling them? What are you doing to resolve them? Sadly many of us don’t know what to do or how to solve them. Most relationship problems stem from poor communication skills, effective communication is the key! The fact is that every marriage/relationship experiences problems, couples that are successful have learned how to manage them and keep their love life going.

Every problem should be tackled right away with a solution and sometimes if there is no agreement that is meet; come to an agreement to disagree. Don’t run from the problems, because if they are unsolved they can lead to many different things such as anger towards them, resentfulness, and infidelity so simply resolve them! Remember small problems that aren’t resolved can lead to a big major one, and you want to prevent that from happening.

Here are some tips that can help you resolve relationship problems:

1. Don’t approach your partner when you’re angry, mad or upset when a problem arouse, go cool down and humble yourself and then approach them. It is ok to pray about it before you speak it!

2. Be respectful; learn to listen while they talk and pay attention to what they’re really saying. So you can understand them, if you don’t, ask them to clarify for you.

3. Display love when you communicate with them, talk at a steady pace, show eye contact and don’t point your finger.

4. Tackle the facts, don’t go on emotions based with it, some of us can’t handle our emotions in a positive manner so focus on the facts at hand.

5. Focus on one issue at a time.

6. Compromise= Compromise is not a sign of weakness.

If you really want to be heard here are some example statements you can say to your partner in any relationship problem:

"I'd like it if we could take some time today to talk about something that's really important to me."
"I feel that this is a problem we can work on together."
"This is really difficult for me to bring up, but I just want to tell you how I feel about..."

For my married couples, remember that the family that prays together stays together. Allow God to be the head of your relationship issues. Remember LOVE conquers all!

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3 things that you need to know for REAL LOVE.

2011-08-06T16:21:00.001-04:00

Many people if not everyone truly desires LOVE, it’s all we need they say. Sadly many of us don’t know what it really is, and that’s a problem. We love based on feelings and emotions that can change from one moment to the next. God’s love, self love and love in a relationship can all be a beautiful thing if you have all 3 together.

If you say, “I love you” to someone truly mean it; in addition show it with your actions, which speaks louder! How many times have you heard or said, "I love you because you are cute/handsome;" or "I love you because you take good care of me”? That is not an example of real love. If you don’t mean it don’t say it, don’t abuse these 3 words. An example of real love is simply unconditional love. Here is 3 things that you need for real LOVE.

God’s Love: Seek his LOVE first. God’s love is unconditional and it's not based on feelings or emotions. He doesn't love us because we're lovable or because we make Him feel good; He loves us because He is love. He created us to have a loving relationship with Him, and He sacrificed His own Son (who also willingly died for us) to restore that relationship. "But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us." (Romans 5:8)

Gain Gods pure love by following this simple solution: You can learn to accept and love God and have an understanding by simply reading the bible daily to educate yourself on it, meditate on his word.

Self Love: This is a must!! You must love yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being what and whom you are. If you don’t love yourself first, it can be harder to love and be loved.

Gain self love by following this simple solution: Start with looking in the mirror saying “I LOVE ME” then start believing in yourself, value yourself and know your worth. Love all of your flaws. Read my blog here on KNOW YOUR WORTH! 13 Highly effective ways to gain self VALUE and WORTH!

Relationship Love: You have to grow to LOVE someone, it’s a choice to Love someone, just like we choose to date, or marry someone. Love is the super glue that binds you when the going gets rough in our relationships. If you have a loving relationship you will find a way to survive and make it last. Love conquers all.

Gain relationship love by following this simple solution: Love your partner unconditionally. The concept of unconditional love means to love someone regardless of one's actions or beliefs, loving him or her without conditions.

Remember Love keeps no record of wrong.

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 NLT

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13 Highly effective ways to gain self VALUE and WORTH!

2011-07-23T23:37:00.006-04:00

A lot of people truly don't know their worth and value in life. Self worth comes from within; you won’t find it by having more money, having more friends, having the finer things in life. It simply can’t be found from external factors. There is no magical pill for having self value and worth. Not having self value & worth is not a good thing sometimes because it can lead to you being mis lead, used by people and heartache. So I'm going to list 13 HIGHLY effective ways to gain it! Remember that God loves and accepts YOU for who YOU are unconditionally ღ

1. Love yourself unconditionally- When you love yourself unconditionally it makes it easier for you. Despite of your past mistakes and failures in life, gain a sense of unconditional self LOVE. Love your skin color, hair color, eyes and your body. If you have flaws/faults simply work on correcting them. If they can’t be corrected allow God to help with that. Read The Serenity Prayer

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference

2. Know that you are able to do anything you want- With God all things are possible. (Bible verse Matthew 19:26 )

3. CHOOSE-Make a choice to be happy no matter your circumstances, remember God is always with you in life!

4. Know what you want out of life- Create a Vision board for your goals and things you want to accomplish in life, and fulfill them.

5. Forgive yourself- From the things that you have done in your past that you aren’t happy about. Remember God forgives you!

6. Know that you are beautiful/handsome-Despite of what others may or have said about you as far as your external appearance. Believe this about YOU, you are beautiful/handsome internally and externally!

7. Always be honest with yourself- Be honest as far as what you want for yourself for happiness.

8. Get rid of the negative things and people- You know exactly what I mean by this, the things and people who are bringing you down Stop the nasty bad habits, such as gossiping, manipulation, drinking, smoking, sexing. The people that are always talking negative to you and about you remove them from your life, if it’s a family member, you simply can love them from a distance.

9. Speak up for yourself- Never allow anyone to speak on your behalf if your right there and able to speak.

10. Dress with confidence- When you dress yourself everyday, know that the outfit you chosen makes yourself look and feel good in it without anyone’s approval.

11. Do something for your self daily- Even if it’s something small by looking in the mirror to say “I love me” or “Great job”.

12. Don’t allow yourself to be used- If you are getting and seeing the signs that a person is using you, simply stop them. People only do what YOU allow them to do to you. Sadly some people take your kindness for a weakness, but you aren’t weak.

13. Start changing your thinking to be more optimistic about yourself-Instead of saying “I can’t do that” say “I’ve never tried it, but I’ll give it a go”

Now I want you to do a few things moving forward. Write and place them where you can see them! GROW AND LEARN FROM THEM.

1. List ten things you like about yourself
2. List five of your most positive characteristics.
3. List three goals you have set and accomplished.
4. List the two most important lessons you’ve ever learned.

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TOXIC RELATIONSHIP 11 Signs that YOU'RE in one and how to get OUT!

2011-07-19T19:20:00.002-04:00

Are you in an unhealthy toxic relationship and don’t know it? A toxic relationship is a unhealthy relationship characterized by negative behaviors on the part of the toxic partner that are emotionally, mentally and physically damaging to their partner. This is a very dysfunctional, poisonous and dangerous relationship to be in, it damages your self-esteem and drains your energy. We risk our very being by staying in such a relationship there is no need for you to jeopardize your life or health for being in a toxic relationship. Many of us desire love and intimacy but find our way blocked by the fear of getting hurt, the worry of. Sadly some people think they are in LOVE and have to tolerate it; therefore it makes it harder for a person to walk away. Love is not defined by these negative characteristics and behaviors. Please don’t ignore these signs and keep yourself blinded by this, open your eyes up and pay attention!

Here are 11 signs/behaviors that indicate that YOU’RE in one, if your partner is/has:

1. Always making you feel guilty- Throwing a guilt trip when they are the one who was in the wrong.

2. Having insecurities /Jealousy

3. Bad Tempered- This is very dangerous, especially if they can’t handle their temper

4. Verbally and physically abusive

5. Self-Centered- Selfish, everything they do in the relationship is for their own benefit; it's all about them - they don't take any time to think about you and your wants/needs

6. Always negative and never happy.

7. If they are constantly angry and take it out on you- - Blames you for their own faults and failures, instead of taking responsibility

8. Constantly breaking up and getting back together

9. If the person has told you, they will commit suicide if you break up with them- If they don’t value their own life, what makes you think they value yours?

10. Controlling

11. Isolation- Controllers work to isolate you from anyone else in your life who may support you and make their work more difficult. They may be intensely jealous and keep you from both friends and family. Eventually you find yourself isolated from everyone but them.

Some of the feelings that you have when you’re in a toxic relationship: Unappreciated, unaccepted, drained, fearful, stress, tired, unequal and dis-satisfied

So how do you get out of a TOXIC Relationship?

Simple: Simply let them go and set yourself FREE. It is always difficult letting go of the comfortable and familiar—even when it is harmful to us. God is longing to free you from the cycle of toxic relationships. God can and will fill the needs inside of your heart, if you simply ask him. God wants to renew your mind, spirit, body and soul and open your heart to the great things he has in store for your life.

Every step toward letting go of the unhealthy relationships you are in will free you up into stepping forward into His best. Bring closure to the relationships that have been holding you back from God’s best for your life. If domestic violence is involved, please be sure to see a professional counselor to guide you in taking the necessary steps to keep you safe from harm during this process. Surround yourself with friends and family who can support you through this hard time.

What if you want to stay?

If you decide to stay remember that you can’t change your partner, but you can change yourself, which may lead you to behave differently with your partner, resulting in your partner deciding to change his or her behavior. A person will only change if they simply want too, you can’t force it, if they see that this behavior is destructive and they want to get help for this problem, change is possible.

If nothing changes with them simply walk away from the relationship before it is too late, something’s you can’t get back in a relationship and one of them is time. Time is wasted: but take the lessons, experience and mistakes and LEARN and GROW from them personally and spiritually. Let me state that if GOD is not in the relationship, it won’t last.

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"7 Ways to LOVE your single life"

2011-07-15T12:15:00.004-04:00

Everyone desires love and wants to be in a relationship for many different reasons, sadly some of us don't know how to simply enjoy our lives being single. People think there is something wrong with you because you're not in a relationship~that is false; there is nothing wrong with you. Many of us are waiting for the right person and trusting God. I believe that God will provide the wisdom you need to determine your future mate. You have to open your heart to receive it though; you can do this through prayer. I'm going provide you with some few things that are going to teach you some things you need to know and how to love your life being single!

1. Have a relationship with yourself and God- Having a relationship with yourself is a benefit for you, this is called being your own best friend. Learn about all your flaws and faults, correct some flaws if needed. Enjoy spending times alone.
Once you are successful at spending time alone, you won't feel lonely during your singleness. Having a relationship with God means we should include God in our daily lives in an effort to get to know him better. We should pray to him, read and meditate on his word. Pray for wisdom and strength through your singleness time.

2. Know you are worthy to be loved ♥- Be secure and confident within yourself, love you at all times. Believe that there is something special about you. Know you are some body who can give love and know that you are capable to be loved in return.

3. Enjoy your life- Have fun and be happy!! Go out with your friends and mingle and live a normal happy life and keep smiling :) You still can go to the movies, the park, skating or wherever you desire. Your life doesn't have to stop just because you don't have a man or woman to spend it with right now, still live because life goes on!

4. It's better to be single, than with the wrong person- Being single is one of the best ways to prevent a disaster from being with the WRONG person for YOU.

5. Don't act desperate- Many manipulators like to prey on people who act desperate to be in a relationship when you are single, they take it as a weakness and attempt to use you for their own pleasure. Don't fall victim.

6. Learn from your past relationships- Take time to evaluate your past relationships. Ask yourself what can I learn from them, what mistakes have I made? How can I do better in my next relationship? Whatever it may be simply learn from it and clearly don't repeat them. I hope you are healed from your past if you have been hurt, if not please read my blog below on 6 Ways to heal from pain!

7. Get your life in order- Some of us are running around dating this person and that person, but your life is a mess. Get your priorities together first!

Now since I provided you with some tips that you need to know on how to love your life being single, I want you to know that God wants everyone to be happy, yes even when your single! But more importantly he still wants us to walk in life the correct way with dating if you desire to do so. I do understand that everyone does not desire to be married. "And the Lord God said, 'It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him'" (Gen. 2:18).

God wants you to remain celibate and lead to marriage. Marriage is sacred to God. The steps to marriage is dating, courtship, engagement and then marriage!

"He who finds a wife finds a good thing,
And obtains favour from the Lord" (Proverbs 18:22).

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5 Things you need to have for a healthy successful relationship.

2011-07-10T19:01:00.004-04:00

There are so many important essential things you need to have in your relationship in order for it to be a healthy and successful one! I want to discuss with you 5 of them: Communication, honesty, trust, respect and understanding. Keep in mind that it takes 100% participation from both partners. Successful relationships involve work; you have to find new ways to keep the true love alive along with these 5 relationship keys.

1. Communication- I can’t stress the importance of communication enough. If you aren’t able to open up and talk about things, than you don’t have a solid relationship. When people have things on their mind and let them go without discussing it, it usually manifests itself elsewhere; this can turn to many other things such as grudges, bitter and resentful towards that person. When you want to have a discussion with your spouse, simply let them know, they can't read your mind. When you are talking to them speak polite with a soft tone; make good eye contact. Do not have an important conversation by texting! This is a big NO NO and it can be highly mis communicated.

2. Honesty- Being honest and not lying is crucial to a good relationship. Even “white lies” are not healthy for a good relationship. Being honest makes the other person trust you.

3.Trust- Without this YOU simply have NOTHING. If you can’t trust your partner, than there’s a problem, the relationship will not survive. Please understand that trust has to be gained, you have to build it. You want to build a solid foundation on trust. Listen, keep your promises and be responsible. Let your actions match your words.

4. Respect- A healthy relationship has a key element of mutual respect for one another. It's okay to disagree on some things if you can't see eye to eye on it, but you must respect each other’s opinions and differences.

5. Understanding- At times you need to understand that spouses need time of their own alone. For example, they may need to take time spending it alone with God. Or they may have had a rough day and just simply want to relax. Learn to understand that we all need time to ourselves, without being selfish don't you?

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6 Ways to heal from pain!

2011-06-26T21:05:00.040-04:00

Are you hurt so much by what someone has done to you? And you ask yourself, how can I forgive when it hurts so much? Well let me tell you that HEALING BEGINS WITH FORGIVENESS, forgiveness provides closure. You may think it is impossible to forgive someone who has deeply wronged you but with God it is possible. He never asks us to do something we cannot do. If we desire God's blessing and fellowship -- we must forgive others as He forgave us. Forgiveness is not a feeling. It is a decision to quit holding something against someone. When we forgive we must do it for ourselves to get well and move on. I have provided 6 action steps below to help you begin your healing process.

1. Make a decision: Make a decision to forgive, regardless of your feelings. You must forgive others, no matter what they have done, no matter how hard it may seem or how hurtful it is. It is the command of God. “Forgive and you will be forgiven” Luke 6:37. For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins Matthew 6:14-15.

2. Say a prayer for yourself and for them: I want you to think of the person/people who has hurt you. Ask the Lord with this simple prayer. Lord, I'm coming to you because I need to forgive (insert name). I don't have anything to bring except all this pain and anger about what's happened. Lord, I don't know what to do with it all, so I'm bringing it to you and laying it at your feet. Your Word says I have to forgive (insert name), so I'm making the decision to do it. PLEASE heal me on the inside so I can let go of this. I pray for (insert name), please deal with them in the way you know is best. Heal them and bless them Lord, for I am healed! I ask this is Jesus name, Amen!

3. Let Go: Release the grudge, hate, bitter and resentfulness you feel towards the person/people that’s in your heart. Let go and get rid of anything and everything that reminds you of them. No need to longer hold onto it, this will delay your healing. Stop checking on them, to see what they are doing, who they are doing what with etc. There is no need to hurt you by doing so, simply let GO and let GOD.

4. Don’t blame yourself: Many of us have a tendency to want to blame ourselves on why someone has hurt you. Just love yourself, the most important thing you can to do to heal a hurting heart is love you, know that God loves you too.

5. Do not seek revenge and don't battle with them: Do not repay evil with evil, which is a sin itself. Do not return evil with evil, or insults with insults. Instead, pray for blessing. “You were called in order to inherit blessing" 1 Peter 3:9. Don’t battle with them asking why they have done what they have done to you. You may not get that closure that you’re looking for from them.

6. Move forward: You have to move forward with your life. Life goes on. Don’t let yourself get so low about wondering why or who has hurt you. Don’t feed that into your mind, consciously tell yourself “I am healed” and keep moving. Walk with your head high and know you have conquered this. Live life abundantly, remember you have a purpose in life and that’s to live through Christ.

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Do YOU need help on understanding your EMOTIONS/FEELINGS and how to handle THEM correctly?

2011-06-12T21:24:00.027-04:00

Sometimes in life we can let our emotions get the best of us and we can’t handle them correctly. God has given us the ability to feel emotions; it is what makes us feel alive. God doesn’t want us to remain slaves to our emotions.

Bitterness, anger, fear, anxiety and guilt rob us of the peace God intended for us to have. They can destroy ourselves, friendships and marriages. Unresolved emotions can even destroy our health. However, we must not allow our emotions to control US, we have to control them don't be ruined by them! Destructive emotions are to be replaced by the fruit of God’s Spirit--love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness and self-control--Galatians 5:22,23. Chris promised us his peace - John 14:27. Our destructive emotions are not from God - 2 Timothy 1:7. There are principles from scripture and wisdom from God that will help us rule our emotions.

We must submit our emotions to the Lordship of Christ and let the truth God’s word be our guide. When we act out based on our emotional state that is not always a good thing at times because we tend to make bad decisions from them instead, of acting out on the facts, we let them pile up and then it can cause trouble later. Focus on the fact of the matter instead of how you “feel” emotionally at that time, YOU have to step back and think. Remember YOU choose how you react!

I want YOU to have a clear understanding on the definition of the words Emotion and Feeling before we move forward:

Emotion:

1. an affective state of consciousness in which joy, sorrow, fear, hate, or the like, is experienced, as distinguished from cognitive and volitional states of consciousness.

2. any of the feelings of joy, sorrow, fear, hate, love, etc.

3. any strong agitation of the feelings actuated by experiencing love, hate, fear, etc., and usually accompanied by certain physiological changes, as increased heartbeat or respiration, and often overt manifestation, as crying or shaking.

Feeling:

1. the function or the power of perceiving by touch.

2. physical sensation not connected with sight, hearing, taste, or smell.

3. a particular sensation of this kind: a feeling of warmth; a feeling of pain.

4. an emotion or emotional perception or attitude: a feeling of joy; a feeling of sorrow.

Now since you understand the definition of emotion and feeling let me share 3 facts that I believe about them. There are three dangers when we build our lives on our feelings.

First feelings can be distorted. The enemy likes to manipulate our circumstances and our senses In an attempt to throw us off balance.

Second feelings can be imported. Sometimes we have a way of feeling what has been forced on us rather what is truly within us.

And third feelings can be aborted; they can change in a moment. The danger of building our lives on our feelings is that we may not feel the same way about a situation tomorrow as we feel today. Feelings come and feelings go, so therefore we have to be mindful about them. www.transformationdaily.com

What do I do with these feelings and how do I control them? You want to express or release your emotions/feelings. But how do I know what I'm feeling at that moment? It is very important that you identify and acknowledge these emotions/feelings. This is called self awareness/self control. If you don't know how you feel or how to get in touch with your feelings here is what YOU can do.

Identify how you feel:

Sit quietly for a moment; you might want to close your eyes, and then wait and see what you notice from inside. Notice whether any thoughts, images, feelings, memories, sounds come to you. Ask yourself how you're feeling, and be aware of what comes up you don’t have to figure anything out, you just want to be aware of them.

Acknowledge your feelings:

If you know how you feel, let yourself know that this is how you are feeling right now, and that’s okay, that is normal as a human being. You don’t have to do anything with them, just accept that this is how you feel at that present moment.

Did you know that God can bring your emotions under Christ’s control?

Quiet your soul. This is not always easy, but scripture says we can learn to do it with God’s help - Psalm 131:2; Ephesians 4:26,27; 2 Timothy 1:7 If destructive feelings keep breaking out from long habit, keep dealing with them until slowly new habits develop.

Hand over emotional burdens to God - 1 Peter 5:7; Philippians 4:6,7. This is a life-changing art. Emotional thoughts such as guilt, fear, lust and resentment like to go around and around in our minds. That is how they grow strong enough to control us.

Now here is how YOU can help yourself handle them, this will take time if you practice it. I have created 9 practical action steps for you below, it is in my hopes that this will help you.

1. Make a covenant with God that each time the thought returns, you will instantly give it back without spending time in struggle or guilt. Pray about the; ask God to take control of your mind, spirit, body and soul and to comfort you, it shall be done In Jesus name! Spend time reading God’s Word every day and meditate on what you have read, and ask the Holy Spirit how this Truth can form your thinking and direct your emotions throughout each day.

2. Yell them out loud; you can actually go to the bathroom look in the mirror and scream them out, let yourself be heard from you.

3. Exercise, go the the gym if you are able and release the feelings there or exercise at home. Exercising helps relieve toxics and stress from your body as well.

4. Cry If you feel like crying, give yourself permission to do this, let the tears flow.

5. Tell someone who is supportive of you how you are feeling, let them know to just listen as you talk, sometimes that's all you need is someone to just listen.

6. Write them down in a journal. You will be amazed how much you can express yourself by writing them down. You can always go back to read how you felt at the moment, so always keep a date and time of when you write them down.

7. Go out and do something, spend time alone is need be.Do something physical, take a walk, ride a bike, dance.. go to the park and watch the sunrise or sunset.

8. Listen to some comforting music, preferably soft music such as gospel, classical, instrumental or jazz.

9. Comfort and reassure yourself; take a hot bubble bath with candles, just simply breathe in and out and relax in the tub. You can verbally say how you feel out loud to yourself. If your financially able go to a spa, get a massage, facial, manicure/pedicure if not, you can get buy products to do it yourself.

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Lost Faith? Here is what you need to know about Faith and how to restore/develop it!

2011-06-05T18:10:00.002-04:00

Lately I have been seeing and hearing a lot of people loosing faith and don't know how to restore or develop it. It has been placed on my heart to write about this for YOU. You have to remember that we all experience things in life that we may not understand, you have to know that sometimes our faith gets tested as well. I know it is hard, I know at times it seems hopeless, God has you though in all you do. Your Life is written, there is no mistake for what is happening or happened in your life, you have to keep fighting the good fight and walk by FAITH not by SIGHT (2 Corinthians 5:7) Find that passion and purpose for fighting.

PUSH PRAY AND WAIT!!

PUSH= Pray Until Something Happens PRAY= Praise, Repent, Ask, Yield and WAIT= Wisdom and Answers comes In God's Timing

WHAT FAITH IS:

Faith is a spiritual substance. When you have this spiritual substance in you, it communicates to you a certain inner knowing that the thing you are hoping for is certainly established, even before you see any material evidence that it has happened.

Faith is a spiritual force. Faith in God is a response to God's Word which moves God to act. Jesus said in Mark 11:23, "For assuredly I say to you, whoever SAYS to this mountain, 'Be removed and cast into the sea,' and does not doubt in his heart, but BELIEVES that those things he SAYS will be done, he will HAVE whatever he SAYS." Words mixed with the real, pure faith can and will move mountains or any other problem that we face.

Faith in God must be from the heart. It is not merely intellectual. It is spiritual. "For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation." (Romans 10:10)

BENEFITS OF HAVING FAITH:

The Bible teaches us that genuine faith is "more precious than gold that perishes" (1 Peter 1:7). Indeed such faith is going to be "tested by fire". You can expect difficulties and persecutions in your life of faith, as well as blessings. Therefore to encourage you to hold onto and develop your faith, we will consider some of the benefits of faith.

1. Faith brings salvation. (Ephesians 2:8,9). Whosever believes in Him has eternal life. (John 3:16), and shall not come into judgment, but has passed from death to life. (John 5:24). The just shall live by faith. (Romans 1:17)

2. Faith brings answers to prayer. "And whatever things you ask in prayer, really believing, you will receive." (Matthew 21:22). Since God tells us to pray for our daily bread (Matthew 6:11), faith is therefore a key to our material provision.

3. Faith brings all the benefits of salvation into our lives (Ephesians 2:8,9). This includes healing, prosperity, peace, love, joy (1 Peter 1:8), deliverance from demons and the curse, sanctification of the mind and emotions (the salvation of the soul) and any other benefit which the word of God promises to us.

HOW TO DEVELOP FAITH:

We see how important faith is. Yet some people despair here, thinking that they don't have faith. Yet faith comes (Romans 10:17), it can grow and develop. If you are not full of faith today, that doesn't mean you will be that way all your life. You can choose to be a person of faith!

Here are some keys to developing faith.

1. Listen to the Word of God as much as possible. "Faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the Word of God" (Romans 10:17). Constant attention to the Word of God produces faith, especially if we attend to it with an open heart and mind. The book of Proverbs encourages us to constantly keep the Word in our hearts and to keep our attention on it (Proverbs 4:20-22). Health is one of the benefits promised.

2. Realize that every believer has been given a measure of faith by God. (Romans 12:3). We just have to use and develop what God has given. We must put it into action.

3. Obey God and the conviction of the Holy Spirit. It is as you walk that you gain strength. God will not reveal greater things to you until you are faithful in the things He is showing you NOW. Therefore obedience to the Spirit and what He is showing you through the Word or through your conscience is important in the development of your faith. You cannot have living faith without taking some practical steps of obedience. Act on what God is saying!

4. Give thanks. Give thanks for the results before you see. Don't complain - that shows you doubt God's love and God's answer to your situation. Give thanks in all situations (1 Thessalonians 5:18).

5. Develop a life of praise and worship. Praise drives the powers of darkness away and brings the throne of God into your circumstances.

6. Spend as much time as you can with people of faith. The spirit of faith on them will touch your life also (Proverbs 13:20).

7. Speak the WORD. By saying with your mouth you exercise your faith, you hear the Word and you build it into your life. God's Word is anointed and has power when it is spoken to change the spiritual atmosphere (Joshua 1:8; Romans 10:10)

8. Seek holiness, purity of heart. "Pursue peace with all men, and holiness, without which no one will see the Lord." (Hebrews 12:14).

9. Remember that faith works by love (Galatians 5:6).

Some of this teaching is from christian-faith.com

Here is some additional powerful bible scriptures on faith:

1 Peter 5:7

Let Him have all your worries and cares, for He is always thinking about you and watching everything that concerns you.

Philippians 4:6-7

Don't worry about anything; instead, pray about everything; tell God your needs, and don't forget to thank Him for His answers. If you do this, you will experience God's peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand. His peace will keep your thoughts and your hearts quiet and at rest as you trust in Christ.

Deuteronomy 31:6

Be strong! Be courageous! Do not be afraid of them! For the Lord your God will be with you. He will neither fail you nor forsake you.

Isaiah 41:10

Fear not, for I am with you. Do not be dismayed. I am your God. I will strengthen you; I will help you; I will uphold you with My victorious right hand.

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Why is it hard for YOU to CHANGE?

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Yes ask yourself that question, Why is it hard for ME to CHANGE? Could it be that you FEAR the unknown of change? Did you know that FEAR means False Evidence Appearing Real, this is something YOU create in your mind, it doesn't exist so STOP fearing the possibility to CHANGE YOU.

Change is unknown territory and for most people, the unknown is often more frightening than staying where you are in life. People always tell me that change is difficult, I beg to differ CHANGE can be challenging. I believe that is an excuse on why people don't want to make a change. You can do anything you achieve in your mind!

So what are YOU going to do differently? What are YOU going to do to change? The challenge is HOW to change, not if YOU can change. In order to effectively make change for the best, it has to be consistent. Never ever give up on yourself, stay encouraged at all times have faith and know it is possible to CHANGE. I want to provide you with some effective action steps that you can take to change:

1. Acknowledge: Acknowledge the fact that you want to change. You can't change what you don't acknowledge and it's hard to change what you don't measure. Write down what you want to change within yourself or your life, visualize it and brand it in your mind.

2. Allow God to help you with this process: Pray with an open heart filled with faith for God to help with you with the change(s) you want to make. Specifically ask God to mold, shape you into the person you want/need to be for him and for yourself in addition to the other changes you want to achieve. Give him all the control!

3. Commitment: Creating a commitment to what you want to achieve and this ensures that you stay focused on your vision/goal. With every action you take, ask yourself if it is consistent with what you want to achieve. Will it help you achieve the end results you want?

4. Believing: There is nothing greater than believing in yourself, knowing YOU can accomplish this, be STRONG and have a PURPOSE for the change. Be confident, determined and think positive and maintain a positive attitude.

5. Continuously improve: There is no finish line and no final destination meaning, it is going to be a challenge everyday do not stop! Let no one or nothing stop YOU from making a positive change. If you fall get up, brush yourself off and keep going. Always keep going YOU CAN DO IT! You will have an everlasting outcome, the key is to make a small change everyday.

"IT IS NEVER TOO LATE TO CHANGE"
Remember in order to see change around YOU, you have to be the one to change!

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