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Communication: The Art Of Listening

noreply@blogger.com (sha) — Thu, 08 Mar 2012 04:56:00 +0000

When a relationship goes sour, one of the first things to suffer is communication. If you can’t communicate with each other, then there is no possible way to salvage the relationship. The thing to do is to prevent communication from ever being a problem. One of the most important aspects of this is to learn how to be a good listener. Listed below are a few guidelines to help you achieve this.

• Give Them Your Undivided Attention

When your lover wants to talk, put everything else out of your mind and actually be there with them while they are talking. You cannot possibly listen to them if you are thinking about other things you would rather be doing, or have to do.

• Listen To What Is Actually Being Said

This is especially true if you are in a disagreement. It is very easy to pick out the things in what your partner is saying that you want to hear and can throw back at them. This is not some high school debate class where you score points for winning an argument, this is your sweetheart and your actions here and now will dictate the course of the rest of your life together!

• Look At Them When They Are Talking To You

Have you ever tried to talk to someone that refused to make eye contact with you? It is very disheartening, especially when you have something important to say. When talking with your sweetie, actually look at them and not around the room.

• Notice The Hidden Emotional Tone Of Your Partner

Very often, your partner won’t say exactly what is on their mind straight away and it is up to you to draw them out. By looking for their emotional tone, through their body language, voice inflections etc., you will get a very good indicator of what is actually bothering them and also how it is affecting them.

• Acknowledge Your Partner

A correct acknowledgement can very often completely resolve a dispute in one go. It has a two-fold effect: 1. It tells your partner that you have heard and understand what they are saying and 2. It makes them feel better by releasing some of the emotional baggage that may have built up on the subject. A good rule of thumb when there is a lot of emotional baggage attached to a situation, is to acknowledge them by repeating in your own words what they have just said to you.

• Remain Calm

If your sweetheart is angry, very often they will lash out at you because you are there and are someone they can take their frustration out on. While this may not be pleasant and the most ideal way to handle a situation, I’m afraid it is part of the job description of being a sweetheart. Realize that it is just a way for your sweetie to vent and resist the urge to get angry back, it will only make things worse.

8 Ways To Handle An Argument

noreply@blogger.com (sha) — Thu, 08 Mar 2012 04:30:00 +0000

Let’s face it, no one is perfect. No matter how hard you try, or how loving and respectful of a couple you are, you are bound to get into a disagreement once in a while. With a few tips though, it doesn’t have to be something that can harm your relationship. The next time you feel an argument starting to form keep in mind these 8 ways to handle an argument!

1. Give your partner enough space to voice his or her concerns.
I’m sure you hate it when people interrupt you; give your partner the same respect — even if you don’t agree with what they are saying.

2. Make an extra effort to really understand what you partner is trying to say.
It is very easy to fall into the trap of thinking you know what they are saying, when in fact you may not have a clue. If your partner feels like you understand what they are saying, you’ll find a way to end the argument far more quickly.

3. Don’t say something you’ll regret later.
Always consider your relationship like a glass. It is sturdy, tough, beautiful and clear when taken care of, but if it is mistreated or mishandled it can end up scratched, cracked or even broken. Take care in choosing the words you say when you are in the heat of the moment.

4. Don’t bring in past woes.
The past is the past… let it stay there. If you dwell on past occurrences, you’ll never find a solution for the future your partner will feel less loved and respected, and you will always feel negatively towards your partner. People make mistakes. Give your partner the chance to recover from them, and encourage and support them when they make the right choices.

5. Learn to compromise.
If you can learn to compromise, you’ll find yourself in fewer disagreements. If you don’t like something, then agree with your partner to find some middle ground. This also applies the other way. Be willing to come up with alternative solutions for things your partner doesn’t like as well!

6. Realize that no matter what you say, you both may not agree on the issue at hand.
An argument is typically started because you want someone to agree with you about something. You think that the other person must not know all the facts, so you begin to explain it to them. The more your partner still disagrees with you, the more upset you usually get. But, if you realize that sometimes it is best to just let yourselves agree to disagree — you’ll show your partner that you not only respect their opinion, but respect their individuality as well. You never know, maybe later on they (or even you!) might change their mind.

7. Make a commitment to talk about the situation until it is handled.
It’s far too easy to run off and avoid your partner, or give them the silent treatment. Instead, make a commitment right now to each other to respect each other enough to work it out — even if it takes all night. Nothing is unsolvable when you are working together to truly find a peaceful resolution.

8. Make your relationship with your partner your first concern when you are in the middle of a disagreement.
This does not mean bend over backwards for them or compromise your integrity. Just keep in mind that the person you are arguing with is your best friend, lover and soul mate. If you both keep that at the forefront of your mind in an argument, it will keep what matters most away from cruel words or intent — your heart!

Finally, I leave you with one thought on preventing arguments. Let your partner know exactly when something upsets you. I’ve found that many people tend to not speak up when something bothers them, thinking that it is trivial to mention it. Unfortunately, what happens is after repeated times of not speaking up, some small occurrence happens and it ends up being the straw that broke the camel’s back. The other partner, more often than not, has no clue what they are upset about and therefore thinks they are over-reacting. If you find yourself in this situation, deal with each thing as it happens. Don’t let things build up until you explode.

Secrets to Staying

noreply@blogger.com (sha) — Thu, 16 Feb 2012 06:07:00 +0000

Just about everyone wants to know how they can make their relationship better. They want to know how they can deepen the commitment and love between each partner. Unfortunately relationships are not something you can provide a "to do" sheet for and all will be solved, but with these five key secrets you can certainly improve your chances for getting all you desire out of your relationship.

Do things unexpectedly.
One key secret to a successful relationship is compromise. Meeting halfway on things shows your partner that you really do care about their viewpoint and you are willing to work on making each other happy. Every so often make it a point to do something that you normally would not agree to or feel like doing. When you keep your partner constantly surprised by your actions, you regenerate that "new love" feeling time and time again. So, when your partner asks if you want to try that new restaurant…say yes! If they ask if you want to try a new hobby…say yes!

Show your loyalty.

Nothing strengthens a relationship quite like watching your partner go to bat for you, especially against close friends or family members. It shows that you consider your relationship a team. If you harass one member of a team, you harass them all. When you side with other people against your partner you make them feel alienated and the seeds of hidden resentment become planted. You can show loyalty positively as well by bragging about your partner’s recent accomplishments to friends and family.

Be supportive.

Challenges and opportunities are always going to occur. You can’t stop them from happening. Hopefully for both of you the changes in your lives are positive ones. The secret key here is having a supporting and understanding mate in your corner to help you through your ups and downs. If you lose your job, it’s quite a bit easier to bounce back when you have someone who’s willing to support your choices and any new directions you might want to branch out to. If you want a career or lifestyle change, imagine the difference having someone who will carefully consider and support those changes? When your partner is presenting you with a challenge or an opportunity, treat them the way you’d want to be treated.

Maintain a healthy dose of individuality.

Personal time and space are essential to growing individually. Everyone one needs private time to do the things they want to do. It helps refocus attention to the priorities. Sometimes you or your partner may just need time to release emotions from a bad day, instead of bringing it home with them. Learning to respect and notice when your partner needs some individual time shows that you are committed to not only your relationship, but their long-term happiness as well.

Love your partner.

Love is obviously a crucial element in a successful long-term relationship. But having love isn’t enough. You need to be in love. The phrase "love is a verb, not a noun" certainly applies here. Don’t hesitate to write that quick love note, give that deep kiss, sit next to each other at a restaurant or hold hands in public. The little things go a long way towards establishing a deep, intimate connection with your partner. As simple as it sounds, this action is probably the most commonly overlooked and ignored.

Rules for a Happy Love Affair

noreply@blogger.com (sha) — Thu, 09 Feb 2012 16:48:00 +0000

• Never both be angry at the same time
• Never yell at each other unless the relationship is on fire.
• If one of you has to win an argument let it be your love
• If you love to criticize, do it lovingly
• Never bring up mistakes of the past
• Neglect the whole world rather than each other
• At least once everyday try to say one kind or complimentary thing to your love one
• When you have done something be ready to admit and ask forgiveness.
• Never go home w/an argument unsettled
• Always have love, care and understanding everyday of the year.

Thinking of You!

noreply@blogger.com (sha) — Thu, 09 Feb 2012 16:43:00 +0000

Too True, Too Often

Too often we don't realize
What we have until it is gone
Too often we wait too late to say
"I'm sorry - I was wrong."

Sometimes it seems we hurt the ones
We hold dearest to our hearts
And we allow foolish things
To tear our lives apart.

Far too many times we let
Unimportant things into our minds
And then it's usually too late
To see what made us blind.

So be sure that you let people know
How much they mean to you
Take that time to say the words
Before your time is through.

Be sure that you appreciate
Everything you've got
And be thankful for the little things
in life that mean a lot.

Friendship Of The Souls by Lisa Teller

noreply@blogger.com (sha) — Fri, 06 Jan 2012 13:51:00 +0000

Have you ever felt like you knew someone a long, long time ago?

Another place, another time, a friendship of the souls?

Two people who share a bond for reasons neither know,

A feeling that they were friends, a long, long time ago?

Did they stumble onto each other by pure circumstance,

Or was it fate and destiny that played a certain hand?

Two souls intertwined, they are worlds apart,

But the soul, it knows no difference, in matters of the heart.

Somehow they are drawn together, fate has brought them back,

Each living worlds apart, they journey separate paths.

When this life is over, and a new life begins,

Their souls will find each other, two souls that we call friends.

Friendship by Trudy Starling

noreply@blogger.com (sha) — Wed, 16 Nov 2011 06:07:00 +0000

When you feel sad and betrayed
Who can you count on every single day?
When you feel lost and alone
Who will be there for you in every way?

When you've made mistakes and bad decisions
Who can you count on to tell you you're wrong?
When you feel you can't go on
Who will be there with a feel-better song?

Look into your heart and you will find
That person you can trust is not far away.
Look deep into yourself, don't give up,
For if you do, it's yourself you'll betray.

When you're looking for answers
To all your questions and dreams,
There is one person you can count on,
It's impossible, I know, it seems.

But take a few moments to look deeper inside.
Look into your heart and there you will see.
You'll be surprised when you find out
That you've been looking at ME.

The Art of Letting Go

noreply@blogger.com (sha) — Mon, 05 Sep 2011 10:46:00 +0000

It’s over…

You’re gone…

Why do we have to part…?

When the love is still there?

Why do we have to suffer?

Why do we have to cry, when someone bids goodbye?

Why does beginnings have to end?

Why do we have to meet someone only to lose them in the end?

There are questions left unanswered, words left unsaid, letters left unread, song left unsung, love left unexpressed, promises left unfulfilled…

In a relationship, one of the hardest things to do is saying goodbye and letting go. It is hard as breaking crystal because you’ll never know when you’ll be able to pick up the pieces again. More often than not, they who leave feel not the pain of parting, it is who stay behind who suffers, because they are left w/memories of a love that was meant to be, a love that was….

At the beginning and at the end of a relationship, we feel embarrassed to find ourselves alone. Unfair as it may seem, but that’s the way love goes. That’s the drama, the bitter sweet and risk of falling in love. After all, nothing is constant but change. Everything will eventually come to its end w/out us knowing why now we must forget, not because we want to but we have to…

In letting go, sorrows come not as a single spy, but a battalion. It seems that everywhere I go everything I do. Every song I hear, every turn of my heart, every blink of my eyes and every breath I take always reminds of you. It’s like a stab of knife, a torture in the knight…..

I don’t know if it’s worth calling an art, but letting go entails a special skill, sparkle w/a considerable space and time. Time heals all wounds but it takes a little push. Not all wishes come true, not all stories end w/, “and hey lived happily ever after.”

Sometimes we have to part because of circumstances beyond our control. We have to suffer, if it would mean happiness for others. We have to temporarily to let go of the pain. Every beginning has its end, as every dawn has its dusk. It is something we can’t control, something we have to live up…Beautiful things are built in the foundation of pain. It is through pain that we become stronger. It is through the many times that we get hurt that we learn to make lasting and fruitful relationship. Time can heal even the deepest wound love brings. We know it hurts, but pain will always be a part of loving. Love isn’t eternal, its also fades away and dies. We should not die w/ it, life has to go on even we have to start alone. The mistakes we make should make us wiser and the pain love bring should make us stronger…

There is no certainty in this world. We should cherish what we have now, for tomorrow they may be no more. It’s true that losing someone dear to us can be devastatingly painful. Cry when we have to. Pray that our tears will wash away the pain we feel inside. Let every sleepless nights open our minds to reality and each day teach our hearts to love again…

Never let go w/o trigging and never give up w/o putting up a fight. Follow your heart and go where your destiny leads you. A lot of us take for granted those we hold dear in our heart, because we assume they will just be here hard to accept if we know, deep in our hearts, that we never took the chance to show them how they meant to us…

It’s over…

You’re gone…

But life has to go on…

Goodbye doesn’t always mean forever.

There will always be a place and time.

Where question will be answered, word will be.

Spoken…

Someday…

Somehow…

Somewhere…

Some when…

Echoes of the Heart

noreply@blogger.com (sha) — Thu, 25 Aug 2011 04:56:00 +0000

Sometimes we close our eyes and listen to the echoes of our heart. We all fall in love and sometimes we love so much that we loose ourselves in or own emotions. Not often and not we wonder why there are love grows cold. We should try to search for an answer and try to find where has gone wrong, but in the end we find ourselves where we started. We cannot question love, where it has its own way. Love will always be as it always has been, silent mysterious, and deeply profound. Many of us believed that love is forever, that love never dies, only to be disillusioned in the end. When we find our hearts empty and our hearts longing, we mistakenly have looked at love as a need to be fulfilled, but love is only a gift given to us. We should not hold it in our hands for we never find the strength to let it go, when it decides to leave. We should only embrace it warmth and glow while it last and then freely opened our arms when it is time to say goodbye. When we fall in love with someone we don’t want the feeling to end for it is everything we are everything that we wanted to be. We pray that love will stay and grow in our hearts, but if it doesn’t then we should never let our lives be taken by it, for life should not end where heartaches begin. There’s always a reason why we have to move on, when we have to say goodbye to the feelings we wanted to stay forever. Let us not have our hearts w/a heavy heart for love will have to sets wing free and find a place where it belongs. We may have lost it but again when we close our eyes and listen to the echoes of our hearts, we will hear that feeling were sounding violently forever. Then well know that it never left us, for the good that we have become because of love will always stay. It will always be there reminding us that we should be thankful and happy not because we have lost love but because for once in our lives that feeling live in our hearts and made us happy….

Love Struck Possession

noreply@blogger.com (sha) — Tue, 16 Aug 2011 13:05:00 +0000

A true love can bear the longitude of waiting even if it takes forever. When confused about love, follow your heart, it may not always be right, but you will have the memories to make you smile. If your head tells you one thing and your heart tells you another thing, before you decide, you should first think whether you have a better head and heart. Its okay to kiss a fool or to let a fool kiss you but never let a kiss fool you. Don’t find love, let it find you, that’s why it’s called falling in love because you don’t force yourself to fall, you just fall. Never be ashamed to show love when you feel it because one day you might realize that love is already afraid to show itself to you.

Girls are like angels, they easily forgive and forget, while men are devils they easily get and forget. To love someone is to have courage to walk away and let of the other one who wishes to be free, no matter how much it hurts. Never say, “I LOVE YOU” when you mean to break it. Never look in the eyes if you mean say goodbye.

Love is like a butterfly, the more you chase it, and the more it eludes you. But if you just let it fly, it would come back to you when the least you expect. On the course of love people must teach their hearts to be brave enough to let it when they realized that things are not meant to be after all. Most relationships are like traffic signs, 1 way, 2 ways, do not enter, slippery when wet, no u turn, no lift turn, but what I like most is to five ways. Words and hearts should be handled with care, for words when spoken and heart when broken is the hardest thing to repair.

The simplest pick-up line doesn’t have so many words; all I need “I” for me to say, “LOVE” for me to share it and “YOU” for me to give it. Don’t long for the person if they left. Don’t feel sorry if you fail when you try your best. Someone out there is more deserving for your time and love. If I tell you “I LOVE YOU” you shouldn’t wonder why, or how, or since when, of how long because I wouldn’t have a single phrase except to tell you again.

In the game of love, it doesn’t matter who win or lose, what is important is that you know when to hold on and when to let go. It’s the presence of the soul that makes you “LIVE” but the presence of love that makes you “HAPPY”. If your heart gets broken by the time you truly love, don’t let go of the love for the person but let go of the person. You’ll never know love might be sweeter the second time around. It’s hard to find true love because people are too caught up looking for the perfect person that they don’t realize that love is not finding the perfect person but being perfect person for someone else. Love knows no reason, love knows no line, love defers all reason, love has no eyes, but love is not blind, they can see but they don’t mind. We are sometime afraid to say “I LOVE YOU” instead we say “I MISS YOU” but often misunderstand leaving the ones we love on which you don’t realize the feels the same like you do. Love not because you are willing to give up everything but because it’s worth fighting for.

It’s hard to pretend to love someone that you don’t but it’s harder to pretend that you don’t love someone you do. Once you had loved, you will always love. For what’s on your mind may escape, but what’s on your heart will always remain forever. Love is not how to forget but rather how to forgive. It is not how you listen but how you understand. Not by what you say, but by what you do and not by what you receive but by what you give. True love wants a person to be happy even if you won’t be the one that the person will share his happiness with. If you love someone don’t hold back, never hide your feelings, never economize your love and most of all never take for granted because you will never value what you have till it’s gone. Sometimes we think that loving someone can be a risk thing. How else would you win if you don’t take chance? You don’t lose by giving you lose by holding back.

Never try to impress someone to make him fall in love coz when you do you will have to keep the standard for the rest of your life. Never rush in love, for it never runs out. Let love be the one to look for you, so that when you start to fall you will always know that feeling is sure. YES!! It drives you crazy, it makes you mad, jealous, sad, it even causes you sleepless nights, breaks your heart. Well, come to think of it. It is healthy to fall in love. True love is not when the heart beats faster or fastest, but when it beats no more and yet the love is still there. If you have reason why you love a person then you are using mind. But if you are a person with no reason at all, then you are using your heart.

Love is not a word to say when we feel guilty, not a right to say when we like a person, but love really matters when we share our thought, minds and our heart.

LOST IN THE DANCE

noreply@blogger.com (sha) — Wed, 03 Aug 2011 13:52:00 +0000

There are 2 hearts who met in a dance. The moment was magical… There was a secret song playing…There was harmony and soon loves in the air…

They feel in love and they started building castle in their dreams, and promise forever with all uncertainty… but somewhere in the midst of the fun they got lost in the dance.

Something went wrong but they can never do anything…They were just drifting away, there fortress falling apart. There were so many questions, but no one else can answer… Then the music stops and there silence…

When we truly loved someone we give our best, and let the person make us cry and hurts us for the wrong reason, that someone must have loved us but has not love us enough to make him stand what he truly felt.

Now we are face with summingly impossible task of forgetting. We have burdened ourselves long enough. But we can’t get out of this emotional trap. “Let us remember that the more we try to forget someone we love the more painful letting go will become.”

Sometimes we never have to take that person out of our hearts at all, for he will always be there… No matter how hard we try to drive him away, it isn’t his presence that makes us difficult, it is our stubbornness to accept our destiny that aligns forgetting next to impossible

We keep a cold face but deep in our hearts there still that lingering hope for a reconciliation. Somehow we still believe that we can rekindle small embrace. And we light the fires that are burn in our hearts. But this thought give us hope but it also breeds the seeds of loneliness and despair….

“The only way to forget is to accept. And the only way to move on is to look ahead and let the footprints of the past be blown by the wind of time.” Only then can our hearts find a partner in the dance of life and hopefully never get lost again…

Ways To Keep Relationship Working….

noreply@blogger.com (sha) — Fri, 15 Jul 2011 13:38:00 +0000

1. Love each other

2. Don’t lie

3. Keep communication open

4. Stay sweet

5. When you get hurt, just forgive and forget

6. Never talk about break-ups

7. Never say its ok, even if its not

8. Forget about "PRIDE"

9. If you say sorry, mean it!!!

10. Don’t compare your past to your present

11. Don’t talk about your stupid exs

12. Give and take process

13. Be aware of her/his feelings

14. When you had a fight, don’t let the day pass, without being fine

15. Don’t be perfect one. BE THE RIGHT ONE.

Lessons in Love

noreply@blogger.com (sha) — Mon, 04 Jul 2011 10:23:00 +0000

Sometimes in our relentless efforts to find the person we love, we fail to recognize and appreciate the people who love us. We miss out on so many beautiful things. And simply because we allow ourselves to be enslaved by our own selfish concerns. Go for the man of deeds and not for the man of words. For you will find rewarding happiness not w/the man you love but w/the who loves you more. The best lovers are those who are capable of loving from a distance, far enough to allow the other person to grow but never too far to feel the love deep w/in your being

The greatest irony of love is letting go when you need to hold on. And holding on, when you need to let go. We lose someone we love, only when we are destined to find someone else who can love us even more than we can love ourselves

On falling out of love, take sometimes to heal and get back. But don’t ever make the same mistakes of riding the same one that threw you the first time. To love is risk rejection. To live is to risk dying. To hope is to risk failure. But risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life risking nothing. To reach for another is to risk involvement. To expose your feelings is to expose true self. To love is to risk not to be loved in return.

Now to define love:

Fall but do not stumble. Be constant but not too persistent, share and never be unfair. Understand and try not to demand. Hurt never keep the pain.

FRIENDSHIP

noreply@blogger.com (sha) — Mon, 27 Jun 2011 07:40:00 +0000

Ako na siguro yun tipo ng taong mabilis magkaroon ng kaibigan, kasi friendly akong tao, medyo masungit nga lang tignan pero pag nakilala mo na ikaw na bahala mag judge kung for keeps nga ba ang lola mo maging fwend. Sabi ng isang kaibigan ko para daw akong “kanin” madikit lang na aa attach na.

Friendship kamag-anak ng relationship, ship at scholarship basta may ship yun na yun. Kahit sa isang relasyon kelangan din ng friendship para maganda ang flow ng pagsasama. Ang kaibigan ay parang damit.. may mga bagay o okasyon na binabagayan.. pang office, pang school, pambahay o yun damit napinaka gustong gusto mo sa lahat.

Sa 20 years ko sigurong nabuhay dito sa mundo dami ko nang nakasalamuhang klase ng friends yun iba for keeps yun iba naman masabi lang na kaibigan.. Mahahanap mo ang ibat ibang klase ng kaibigan sa mga eto:

It runs from the blood friendship – Eto yun tipo ng kaibigan mo na kadugo mo. Pwedeng nanay mo, tatay mo, kapatid, pinsan, 1st cousin hangang sa pinsan mo sa talampakan.. basta kadugo mo. May mga kamag anak ka naman na hindi mo ka close diba? Yun tinutukoy ko dito is yun close talaga kayo.. magkasundo ba.

Childhood Friendship- Mga pagkakaibigan na nadevelop non bata ka pa, mga kalaro, ka eskwela, kapitbahay ganon.

Kaibigan sa School – Eto yun mga friends na nakilala mo lang sa school nun college, highschool and elementary.

Workmate Friendship-Mga pagkakaibigan na nabuo sa workplace.. o kung saan ka man lupalop mapadpad.. kapitbahay ganon..

Cyber Friends - Mga kaibigan na nakilala mo lang thru internet.. ang galing na ng technology no pwede ka na makahanap ng friend, mag online ka lang. Kasama na rito sa cyber friends yun mga blogger , nagkakaroon ng exchange of ideas.. tapos kalaonan nagkakakuhaan ng loob.. nagiging mag kaibigan at minsan ka- ibigan pa.

Pero wag ka meron din ibang klase ng pakikipagkaibigan

Prospective jowa – kinakaibigan ka kasi kursunada ka
Friends with benefits - Eto ayaw ko to, meron kasi ako naririnig na ganitong sitwasyon.. yun kaibigan tapos pwede ka makipagtalik sa friend mo .. anu ba yan. Hindi ako sang ayon dito dahil kawawa ang girl
Tropa thingy friends- yun mga kaibigan mo lang sa saya, sa inuman sa kalokohan pero hanggang dun lang yun panay saya lang . Kapag kailangan mo na di mo na pwedeng asahan .
Pahawa ng popularity - Yun dumidikit sa gwapo, maganda, sikat, mayaman, matalino para masabi lang na may kaibigan syang sikat o parang to belong. Ito yun mga tipo na ginagawang alila ng tropa, utusan… tsk!! kawawa naman.
Ex jowa friendship – Itinapon na pagibig para hindi masakit friends nalang kayo… eto pinaka ayaw ko.. ang masasabi ko lang marami na akong kaibigan bakit kelangan maging friends pa! ( may galet?)

Meron din mga level ng pagkakaibigan eh.. gaya nga ng sinabi ko kanina para syang damit meron kang paborito , meron ka din pinaka ayaw..

Kaya ang friendship kelangan din alagaan.. parang laro sa FACEBOOK yun yoville.. kelangan mo dalawin araw araw yun kapitbahay mo.. para madevelop ang friendship sa pagiging best friends.. eto yun level

AQUAINTANCE- gaya ng mga term na ginamit ko sa itaas.. ito yun first level bago maging friends.. pwede mo sya makilala sa kung saan saan.. at nasa iyo iyun kung gusto mo ito ituloy sa pagiging friends.

FRIENDS- Mayron kang bagay na nagustuhan sa kanya, maaring may pagkakapareha kayo sa ibat ibang bagay.. pareho kayo ng trabaho, pareho kayo mahilig sa music, pareho kayong course, natutuwa ka sa kanya, nag cacare sya sayo kaya feel mo na syang maging kaibigan. At nasa iyo rin kung dito sa level na ito eh gusto mong paabutin sa pagiging .. Bestfriends..

"Bestfriends are the siblings God forgot to give us"

maihahantulad sa pinaka paboritong damit.. gusto mo lagi isuot, kahit gutay gutay na gusto mo pa rin. Ito yun pinaka strong na form of friendship. Minsan mas higit pa sa kapatid ang turing mo. Kahit may kabulukan sa pagkatao ng kaibigan mo tinatanggap mo pa din. Sa kanya mo sinasabi yun pinaka sensitibong bagay sa buhay mo at sa kanya ka lang nagtitiwalang sabihin ito. Makita mo lang mukha nya okey ka na, isang text lang everythings ok, magkasama lang kayo buong araw na kayong masaya.. parang mag bf / gf din.. yun nga lang pag sinabing bestfriend dapat walang malisya hmmmkei?? walang bastusan hmmkei ule… sa mag best friends na opposite sex ha. Kasi ako wala pa akong bestfriend na opposite sex eh..

MORE THAN FRIENDS -eto hmmm nadevelop na friendship sa opposite sex.. meaning may malisya hehe.. eto yun pagkakaibigan na higit pa.. there’s more .. kaya pag bigyan mo na.. meron talagang ganon.. sa sobrang close nyo, nadedevelop sa may malisyang pagmamahalan. Naranasan ko na ba ito?? Ang sagot… hindi pa.. kasi wala pa akong naging super close na kaibigang lalake.. kung meron man.. una pa lang bago ko maging kaibigan may malisya na hehe.. kaya hindi na dumaan sa level level lols..

:Many people will walk in and out of your life, but only friends will leave footprints in your heart"

Lagi nating tatandaan na walang permanente sa buhay natin.. lahat pwedeng magbago.. may kanya kanya pa ring buhay ang mga kaibigan natin.. kung may naliligaw man nang landas.. basta ba nagawa mo na yun part mo.. wag mo nang sisihin yun sarili mo bakit hindi mo sya maiayos..

"Friends are angels who lift our feet when our own wings have trouble remembering how to fly."

At ang pagkakaroon ng matalik na kaibigan ay hindi lamang natutuon sa iisang tao.. kasi sa bawat yugto ng buhay mo.. meron at meron kang makikilalang matalik na kaibigan.. panahon man ay lumipas.. kung matatag ang foundation ng friendship nyo.. nandun pa rin yun habang buhay..

"True friends are like diamonds, precious and rare. False friends are like leavesm found everywhere."

Mahirap humanap ng tunay kaibigan.. lahat pwede mo ituring na kaibigan…pero ang tunay na kaibigan na di ka iiwan sa lahat ng laban mo, yun ang mahirap hanapin.. kaya pag nahanap mo yun diamond na iyon.. kailangan i value mo ito..

At anu ano pa man ang mangyari.. kelangan natin irespesto ang differences natin.. pagtanggap at pagmamahal sa kung sino pa man sya..

“To have a good friend is one of the highest delights in life; to be a good friend is one of the noblest and most difficult undertakings.

Usapang Emotion

noreply@blogger.com (sha) — Mon, 27 Jun 2011 07:38:00 +0000

paano kung may minahal kang tao pero hindi pwede.. sagot di pigilan mo sarili mong mahalin sya…

Paano kung di mo mapigilan yun sarili mo? Dahil yun lang yun katanggap tanggap sa puso mong patay ang syang nagbibigay buhay.. Bawat atensyon na binigbigay.. bawat salitang MAHAL KITA. Ang kaso lang hindi pwede… mahal nyo ang isat- isat pero hindi pwede.. Kahit ang sarap sa pakiramdam nun sabihin sayong tandaan mo mahal kita.. Ang dali ng sagot.. di wag ipilit kung hindi pwede..

Pero minsan kahit anong pigil mo sa sarili mong wag mahulog dun sa balong iyon.. kahit gaano ka pa kagaling umiwas.. napakalaki na ng space para mahulog ka dun sa malaking balon na iyon.. Kahit sa pagkakahulog mo doon ay may panganib na ikaw ay masugatan at maaring mapilayan.

DESTINY

noreply@blogger.com (sha) — Mon, 27 Jun 2011 07:37:00 +0000

There are things in life that you can’t hold on to forever no matter how much you fight for it. Sometimes DESTINY isn’t always good, it becomes playful…When you meet someone you learn to love, you think that it’s DESTINY who made your paths cross. But what if making your paths cross is just a part of the game DESTINY plays, making you realize in the end that the person you thought that was destined for you wasn’t really meant to stay… but only destined to make you feel loved and then leave you when you’ve already fallen…

Relationship tips (try lang)

noreply@blogger.com (sha) — Mon, 27 Jun 2011 07:34:00 +0000

Sabi nila huwag daw masanay sa pagmamahal kapag nasanay ka naku kawawa ka. Totoo nga naman ang taong sinanay mo sa isang bagay pagkatapos hindi mo na ginagawa ang dati iisipin nito na nagbago na sya. Hindi ka na mahal, may iba na syang mahal, may iba nang pinagkaka abalahan. Eto namang kapares mo mapa praning na.

Hay naku buhay pag-ibig. Siguro hindi naman mag iisip ang kapares mo na nagbago ka na kung wala talaga syang napapansin. Eto lang ha kapag nagloloko ka at di pa napapansin ng kapares mo malamang hindi ka mahal non.. o di naman kaya nagloloko din sya.

Hindi ba pwedeng kapag pumasok sa isang relasyon maging masaya nalang? Pero at isang malaking pero wala namang perpektong relasyon.. am sure maraming ups and down yan pero kung gusto mong mag level up ang relasyon mo may tip ako sayo. Trust- pinaka importante ito, paano kayo magiging masaya kung sa umpisa pa lang eh wala ka nang tiwala dun sa ka pair mo?

Honesty – Paano ka pagkakatiwalaan kung hindi ka tapat. Kelangan nyong maging tapat sa isat- isa para walang praningan moments na mangyayari. Kelangan lagi mo i assure dun sa kapares mo na wala kang tinatagong secrets.. kapag walang secrets walang mapa praning diba?
Usap-usap – open- communication essential po ito sa isang happy relationship, hindi lang basta usap, kelangan nanggagaling sa puso. Yung deep, ewan ko ha sa akin kasi kelangan ko talaga ng connection pag nakikipag usap mapuso akong tao. Hindi naman kelangan minu minuto kelangan mag usap, pero spice din yun ng relationship na palagi mo sya nakakausap.
Oras sa isat isa- kailangan din na mag bigay ng oras para sa isat -isat mga lambingan moments , mga sweet nothings medyo korni pero kelangan natin yun.. kung baga lambing lang ang katapat mo diba?
Maghiwalay – yup tama nabasa mo.. kelangan nyo din naman maghiwalay at isipin ang mga sariling buhay nyo. Kasi may kanya kanya naman kayong interes sa buhay i develop nyo yun. Mahirap naman yun palaging magkadikit magkakasawaan na kayo. Naalala ko tuloy kapag araw araw kayo nag uusap halos wala na kayong mapag usapan.. papasok na dyan na magkakasawaan na at yung isa maghahanap na ng mas interesadong tao. Kaya mag pa miss din kayo sa isat isa.
Pasensya- kelangan natin magkaroon ng patience kung gusto mo maging masaya ang relasyon mo, minsan sabi nila kamartiran daw yun ganon.. sa lahat ng hindi pagkakaunawaan kung wala kang pasensya walang patutunguhan ang pinakaka asam asam mo na mahaba at masayang relasyon.
Pagpapatawad- Kapag may nagkamali, lawakan ang pag uunawa at bigyan ng panahon makapag paliwanag ang kapares, makinig . At huwag nang halungkatin ang nakalipas . Sabi nga past is past. Forgive 77x awts.. e mahal ko eh?
Respeto sa isat isa. Dont try to change your partner. Kelangan i respeto mo kung ano sya at ano ang gusto nya. Kapag walang respeto sa isa isa i doubt na magtatagal kayo.
Learn from each others mistakes. Walang perfect relationship, may nagkakamali rin.. kaya dun sa mga pagkakamaling nagagawa natin piliin mo yun lesson kung anong itinuturo sayo nun at isa puso mo. Para next time wag mo nang gawin . Kelangan mag eeffort ka naman na ma improve pa ang relasyon kapag nakikita mong medyo gumegewang gewang na.. kelangan kumapit ka ng mabuti at itama mo uli sa dating ayos.
Love – kelangan wag mawawala yun. Yun na yun kahit sino pa man sya at kahit praning pa rin sya. Dapat huwag mawawala ang lab para sa isat isa

Pero sabi ng iba huwag mo daw masyado ipakita na mahal na mahal mo sya.. Bakit? kasi kapag dumating yun time na iwasan ka na nya.. yun ang sakit na walang gamot! Kasi sobrang sakit nun pag nagkataon

Kaya relax lang.. take it easy.. at maging masaya nalang tayo Kelangan marunong kang sumabay sa agos at mag balanse para hindi ka malubog.

The Art of Letting Go

noreply@blogger.com (sha) — Sun, 26 Jun 2011 05:23:00 +0000

There are questions left unanswered, words left unsaid, letters left unread, song left unsung, love left unexpressed, promises left unfulfilled…

In a relationship, one of the hardest things to do is saying goodbye and letting go. It is hard as breaking crystal because you’ll never know when you’ll be able to pick up the pieces again. More often than not, they who leave feel not the pain of parting, it is who stay behind who suffers, because they are left w/memories of a love that was meant to be, a love that was….

At the beginning and at the end of a relationship, we feel embarrassed to find ourselves alone. Unfair as it may seem, but that’s the way love goes. That’s the drama, the bitter sweet and risk of falling in love. After all, nothing is constant but change. Everything will eventually come to its end w/out us knowing why now we must forget, not because we want to but we have to…

In letting go, sorrows come not as a single spy, but a battalion. It seems that everywhere I go everything I do. Every song I hear, every turn of my heart, every blink of my eyes and every breath I take always reminds of you. It’s like a stab of knife, a torture in the knight…..

I don’t know if it’s worth calling an art, but letting go entails a special skill, sparkle w/a considerable space and time. Time heals all wounds but it takes a little push. Not all wishes come true, not all stories end w/, “and hey lived happily ever after.”

Sometimes we have to part because of circumstances beyond our control. We have to suffer, if it would mean happiness for others. We have to temporarily to let go of the pain. Every beginning has its end, as every dawn has its dusk. It is something we can’t control, something we have to live up…Beautiful things are built in the foundation of pain. It is through pain that we become stronger. It is through the many times that we get hurt that we learn to make lasting and fruitful relationship. Time can heal even the deepest wound love brings. We know it hurts, but pain will always be a part of loving. Love isn’t eternal, its also fades away and dies. We should not die w/ it, life has to go on even we have to start alone. The mistakes we make should make us wiser and the pain love bring should make us stronger…

There is no certainty in this world. We should cherish what we have now, for tomorrow they may be no more. It’s true that losing someone dear to us can be devastatingly painful. Cry when we have to. Pray that our tears will wash away the pain we feel inside. Let every sleepless nights open our minds to reality and each day teach our hearts to love again…

Never let go w/o trigging and never give up w/o putting up a fight. Follow your heart and go where your destiny leads you. A lot of us take for granted those we hold dear in our heart, because we assume they will just be here hard to accept if we know, deep in our hearts, that we never took the chance to show them how they meant to us…

It’s over…

You’re gone…

But life has to goon…

Goodbye doesn’t always mean forever.

There will always be a place and time.

Where question will be answered, word will be.

Spoken…

Someday…

Somehow…

Somewhere…

Some when…

Three Things

noreply@blogger.com (sha) — Sun, 26 Jun 2011 05:05:00 +0000

A Friend Is A Part of You Always and Forever

noreply@blogger.com (sha) — Sun, 26 Jun 2011 05:02:00 +0000

Friendship is a special gift
given to us all.
The smile of a friend is sunlight on a cloudy day,
and every smile given to a friend is returned.
A friend is one whom you can talk to, and listen to, without judging.
A friend doesn’t ignore your faults but accepts them as part of you.
A friend is a shoulder to lean on when you need support, A pat on the back when you do well, and a sympathetic ear when you fail.
A friend is a person you can laugh with about everything, you can cry with without shame, and whom you trust completely.
A friend is a partner in life and a part of you always and forever.

A Friend

noreply@blogger.com (sha) — Sat, 25 Jun 2011 12:42:00 +0000

A friend is someone who is concerned with everything you do.

Someone to call upon during good and bad times.

Someone who understands whatever you do.

Someone who tells you the truth about yourself.

Thankyou for being one of the most special reasons for all my joys for always having been a
friend to me.

A Awesome
F Faithful
R Respectable
I Incredible
E Encouraging
N Nice
D Dear

This is what you are to me

A Better One

noreply@blogger.com (sha) — Sat, 25 Jun 2011 06:21:00 +0000

I’m a different person.
A better one
Since we became friends.
Your honesty often helps me see my weaknesses,
And your support helps me turn them into strengths.

Thank you for not saying the things
You think i want to hear
But saying the things i need to know.

You’re one of very few people I trust and believe
When you tell me how well I’ve done
Because you are one of very few
Who will tell me when i could do better.

You challenge me to be the best me.
By accepting me and appreciating me.
You’ve helped me learn to accept and appreciate my self
To be a better one.