Love

Love is About You & Me........

2011-11-24T11:45:00.000-08:00

Love is not just loving someone, Love is about showing you care, trust & respect the one you love.. Love is not about hugging or kissing someone,but love is need to be express not by
means of stupid things. But by the way you knew it....Love is about only one thing...That's
YOU and ME.......

Love Hurts

2011-11-14T16:50:00.000-08:00

Love doesn't always feel good, like many romantics would like to believe. Here is what you can do to ease the pain.

In the early stages of a relationship, it is difficult to imagine that the one for whom you have such strong feelings could ever hurt you. It is also hard to imagine that you could ever cause the one you love pain, especially when everything is so new. The beginning is always sweet and nice, but sooner or later something less than perfect happens, and one of you gets hurt.

Have you ever heard the phrase, "you always hurt the one you love?" It's so true isn't it? You may not mean to, but at some point, you may do something, or not do something, that your significant other is hurt by. The opposite is also true. As a matter of fact, relationships sometimes end because of this fact. They don't always have to, however.

How to Handle the Pain Love Brings You

If you are in a healthy relationship, the hurt was unintentional. It is important to realize that your loved one didn't plan on causing you pain. Try to see the situation from their perspective. You should try to calm your emotions down, and then talk to them about what they were thinking, or why they did what they did, or said what they said. Be willing to see it their way. Once you hear them out, they will be more willing to hear you out. Explain how you perceived what they said or did, and why you felt hurt by it.

You might not be able to communicate this right away. You should wait until an appropriate time, when you are not clouded with emotion. This is easier said than done, but it can be at least be done. Waiting can help you avoid saying things that you don't mean because you are hurt and angry. Get it off your chest by talking it out or writing a brief note or email. Don't just hold a grudge, because it will only hurt you more.

What to Do When Your Loved One Feels Hurt

The most important things that you can do is listen. Showing that you care about their feelings is essential to helping them to heal quickly. You might not understand why they are hurt initially, because you didn't mean to hurt them. Make an effort to see it from their perspective, and try to help them understand your intentions better. Communicate to them that you do care about their feelings.

Apologize if you did something wrong. Make a sincere effort to acknowledge that you could have done things differently, and express plans to avoid that kind of thing in the future. Make it clear that you didn't mean to hurt them, and that you want to avoid doing it again.

What Not To Do

If you feel hurt, don't:
-yell
-try to get revenge or make them pay
-hold a grudge
-demand an apology
-insist that you are right

If your loved on is hurt, don't:
-disregard their feelings as silly
-say you're sorry unless you actually mean it
-pretend to understand
-insist that you are right

Ultimately, clear and honest communicate can help heal the hurt. Be willing both to listen and to talk. If forgiveness, care, and understanding are working parts of your relationship, there won't be that much pain. You will enjoy a long-lasting and healthy relationship that is true to life.

Stages of Love

2011-11-14T16:38:00.000-08:00

"Love in the heart was not meant there to stay. Love is not love till you give it away"
For love to be everlasting and eternal every one should be aware of the different stages of love and know its significance. Following are the different phases through which you will travel in your love life and only those who pass it will have an endless love.

Attraction
Attraction can be defined as something, which is more than friendship and is a step towards getting ready for a relationship. Now attraction is of two types:

a. Physical Attraction - happens when your body reacts to another person. Heart rate increases; temperature rises, palms get sweaty; stomach flutters; throat tightens; etc. This is what will tell you that you are ready for the first contact and also whether you are comfortable in the company of the other person.

b. Emotional Attraction - develops next if the circumstances are right. After being drawn to a person physically, you then begin to come closer. If you find you have things in common -- hobbies, ideologies, career, education, or some other common ground -- then an emotional attraction starts to form. Sometimes an emotional attraction can occur even when a physical attraction does not. And in this case, the bond will be stronger between the two who connect, since no preconceived notions based on physical appearance has occurred.

Intimacy
Intimacy is something, which a person experiences when you learn to trust and believe your lover. It is a close association with another person of the deepest nature. You share you thoughts, feelings, and dreams. You feel free to discuss everything with this person and you are absolutely comfortable in his company. Thus intimacy develops gradually. If you can't establish intimacy with your partner, your relationship may work for a while, but is unlikely to endure throughout the years. Intimacy is actually the path to a true, healthy and beautiful relationship.

Romance
Romance is the essence of a relationship. Without romance your love life will not exist. Romance is the true identity of your love. It brings out your true self and helps you be a better lover, husband and partner. Romance is a celebration of the life you live as part of a couple. It springs naturally and originates from within your heart. It makes you do things that you possibly couldn't have imagined to do otherwise. It shows you who you are and reminds you of the role you play in a relationship. Romance is not responsibility but it is caring about your responsibilities towards your lover and partner. Romance is the appreciation of two people who are celebrating the lucky coincidence that they found each other.

Passion
The third stage is passion, which basically means a desire for another person, which has grown to an intensity that can't be ignored. This is often where an emotional relationship turns into a physical relationship. The passion stage is very important. For from here you will understand the true meaning and nature of your relationship. If there is no passion then its best to let go but if there is passion in your relationship then it is time to go on to the next stage.

Commitment
The last stage is commitment. This is when you know that you want to spend your whole life with this person you love and you can do anything for him. It is when your whole world just revolves round your lover and you take a pledge to remain true to your mate throughout good and bad times, be by his side whenever he needs you.

Thus remember all these stages if you want your relationship to last forever. Believe me love is worth the effort. All the best!

Love And Forgiveness

2011-11-14T16:30:00.000-08:00

Love and forgiveness go hand in hand making life possible here on Earth as well as in Heaven. Who is your enemy that you should love?

When he had to define love, the apostle Paul spoke very little of its exterior manifestations, but referred to some of the heart's feelings and attitudes. And by "love", he actually means the person with a loving heart. Thus, he stated that love suffers all, it can believe everything, forgive everything, does not find joy in injustice. On the contrary, love rejoices in the truth. Love is not proud; it does not look for its own interest. So this is the picture of the loving soul.

Yet these words are very hard to get, not because they are hard to understand, but rather because our mind is not used to thinking in this way. Whose interests should love actually look after? A loving person should look for his neighbor's interests. But what if one wants to go to a football game, another wants to go to a pub, and another one wants to go fishing. Which one of them should one please? Apostle Paul clearly did not say that we should follow everyone's wishes, for that is not possible, but rather it speaks of a disposition of the heart, of a special attitude that we must have, that of not considering ourselves to be more special than others, to know that between yourself and your neighbor, you should choose your neighbor.

Some may try to please everyone in order to cultivate their brotherly love; others may be merciful and charitable towards their neighbors; but all these suppose a lot of risks. Even if one wanted to give all his fortune to the poor, one day he may remain without a dime and then how would that person express his love? Consequently his way of understanding agape love could no longer be practiced. As a result, all of a sudden, he can no longer help and love his neighbor. The one who listens to everyone and serves everyone may one day realize that people's desires and habits are so different, that even if that person's intention is to help and love his neighbor, can end up in trouble and committing sins that he can no longer face.

So how can we then obey God's commandment to love our neighbor? Perhaps the best choice is to go to the very essence of it. The thing we can do anytime, anywhere, before loving, is to try not to hate. The beginning of good is walking away from evil, perhaps. Before having love in our hearts, before cultivating it, we must get rid of all the evil living in it. This evil may include jealousy, vanity, the idea that we are better than our neighbor, thus how could he possibly tell us what to do, how could they teach us? So all the wickedness that is done with our thoughts and our will should be forsaken and cast out of our hearts. What's more, forgiveness is the beginning of all the good things.

The test of love is to love one's enemies. And who are these enemies? They might not necessarily be the ones breaking into our apartment, stealing our car, the ones attacking our country. Our neighbors may well be the people we despise, we don't like very much and don't really look up to them; people who upset us by their very own presence, by their very own word, by their way of being. The ones we want to get rid of, who bore us, the ones we've had enough of.

When coming into the world, God forgave us for our betrayal, the one committed by our ancestors Adam and Eve. He forgave us for trespassing all his rules, for disobeying all his commandments given to us through the prophets, for not receiving His Son, for having crucified Him. He has forgiven us for everything. And we have to respond with the same type of love. We have to forgive because it is not an impossible thing. It's not impossible to forgive a sinner in front of us. Because God Himself has forgiven that person and this is the most useful type of attitude. This is the correct attitude we must have towards our neighbors.

The only conclusion here is how will we respond to God's forgiveness - by accepting it and applying it to ourselves and others, or not?

Love in Simple Words

2011-11-07T17:26:00.000-08:00

I was not knowing its definition. But when i went far from it, the first letter I learned was "L" and word was "Love".

Whatever I am writing - is based on my personal experience with life. It's just like life has become a book or certification for me. Similar I found with Mr. M K Gandhi "The Father of Nation - India". He wrote about his experience with truth. I am inspired because writing is best way to express all your feelings that you can't do elsewhere.

Till date - I am unmarried. I have just started my career as an associate consultant. I believe consultant acts as a confusing mechanism to a client. Provide options not a decision. Well I am straightforward and honest. I have doubt to what extend and how long will I continue with all falsehood of business. Anyway this is expression time.

My elder sister is a center of my life. I never find absence of love, friendship or guardian till I am with my sister. Once I was far - the first letter I learned was "L" and word was "Love". Even you start loving your age girl in your college days. It is becoming fashion! Get a bike - girlfriend is free. Cost is only petrol. You be at Canteen, no class, all types of festivals and days in campus.

Sometime I was worried about my common man inside. I never did in my graduation. I had given lift only to one girl who was my enemy but by default she was a member of my industrial project study.

Well I have not so many words to express my love and friendship. You generally express what you have rather you missed. Right?

First of all I dislike thinking about love as any physical act. What we call romanticism. Romeo and Juliet. - A Great Love Story. Well it was. But it is our style to misunderstand everything. (I may also do same thing!) But Thomas Moore says, "Romantic love is an illusion. Most of us discover this truth at the end of a love affair or else when the sweet emotions of love lead us into marriage and then turn down their flames." I 100 % agree with the statement.

At this moment - I get another tragedy. Few of my friends were really in deep love. I don't know its meaning please! Graduation was over. Those who were unable to create their future include them too. There is a French proverb: -" Love makes the time pass. Time makes love pass." It is ok to love someone else if you know how to love yourself first! Understand love first. Love is not a girl for a friend and vice versa. It is not a feeling. It is not an attraction. Definitely love is not a time pass at all.

There is an edge in our region: "Never wait for bus, train and a girl. If you missed one, another will come." But Gentleman " What are you doing at all?" You have to catch one.

It is really tough to define love for one. We all have different meanings of love. It depends on psychology of different minds. For any Road Romeo - seating on cross roads and looking passionately thinking all nightmare dreams is love. For any highly knowledgeable studying at college impressing classmates and taking city round just like a guide is a love. For any typical clerk marrying a caste girl and seating on seashore - planning future having number of children is true love. So many examples!

On the same situation Leo Tolstoy says "If so many men, so many minds, certainly so many hearts, so many kinds of love."

Well let me express few words on my experience. My love is always based on expectation of true friendship. For most of people family love may be messy, clinging, and of an annoying and repetitive pattern. But it is not of my case. I find true meaning of love when I put my first step far from my sister.

You know - Sisters touch your heart in ways other cannot. Sisters share... their hopes, their fears, their love, everything they have. Real friendship springs from their special bonds.

My weakness is I easily fall in love. And probably I love to write on love although I have been a poor unsuccessful story. But I am one of the luckiest fellows who have got love since birth in advance.

I always look a person like my sister in a girl whom I love. Sorry I am attaching love with girl. Love has no physical entity. Still let's take a girl, my age girl. 2-3 years above and down difference is ok. Out of my life's six choices most of where "salwar - kamiz" ( an Indian dress material) just like my sister. They were bold enough to talk at the same time able to understand situation. In short similar to my sister.

What does it mean? We love people on the basis of some attributes. Even you check out with your experience. Most of us will agree with me finding same attributes or characteristics in a person whom we loved.

I don't know what is Love? I don't know what is Friendship? I don't know anything? I just want a person who can understand my feelings my nature my problems and me. If I want to meet her or if I want to talk to her, I don't need a reason. Why do I insist to get my love that can marry me because I will not need a permission of her husband if I want to talk to her.

We rarely understand but always feel it that love-friend-marriage have least degree of control on over physical body rather our mind. Your love is your strength. It is the basis of your existence.

"Love is something far more than desire for sexual intercourse; it is the principal means of escape from the loneliness that afflicts most men and women throughout the greater part of their lives." Says Bertrand Russell.

Your love may hurt you any day, as everything that comes has to go. Even my sister will get married one day. My friend whom I loved said she wished to be, as friends rather love. I am happy because she talks to me whenever I need. I have not done anything for her. There are many people who dislike me where I have few people who like me without any reason.

We always need to thank for giving such beautiful and kind relations in life. If you are in age of 12 to 28, you will feel it. Once you pass it, you will understand the reality that I don't know yet.

Well if you are meeting to your true love today, convey my best wishes!

By Jay C

What's Love?

2011-11-07T17:22:00.000-08:00

It's not a poem, it's something I wrote to describe my view on what love is and it's still FAR from the truth of what love really is. But it's as close as I can hope you all love this :)

What is love?
Is it trust or is it lust?
Is it truth or is it lies?
Or is it something more?

I believe love is an emotion inside you that you just can't explain. You spend ALL your life searching for it, to the point where you might go insane. You can't explain it but when the person you love finds someone else new, you feel nothing but pain and don't even know why but you begin to cry. You smile and walk another mile waiting to catch that person if they ever fall.

Loyalty and trust that's not love, love isn't an emotion, it's a verb TO PROTECT! No matter how much pain love puts you through, you keep fighting to protect those you love or hold dear to you and no one, not even science can explain the complexity of love. It's not an emotion nor a word not even a verb. It's a gift straight from God something that dwells within us that gives us the power to conquer anything that stands in our way. Love... exactly what is it? Can you really explain with one word?

It's pain... sorrow... agony... at the same time it can't be joy happiness, energy. It can build you up or break you down. It's that weird feeling you get when that certain person just walks in the room or logs in to chat with you that your heart melts, you find yourself smiling and can't stop. Love! it's EVERYTHING around us, it's the air we breathe, the water we drink... it's what drives humanity to keep going.

For those who have forgotten love aren't even human anymore, that's all I have to say. I'll end here to whoever may read this. I hope you can relate and understand my view on love. Even though it seems to twist and turn and leaves you confused that's just how love is, it's confusion and complex but most of all :) it's an emotion, all humans have. Thank you God for giving us such a great gift - Love.

Love: Body Language

2011-11-07T16:08:00.000-08:00

This article shares some insights on love body language which you can experience or observe in various stages of love. Read on to know more.

No one has a perfect or accurate answer for what love is. Some say it's divine, some say it's life, and for others it just happens when they come across someone interesting. Well there is nothing good or bad about love, it is just about 'clicking'. It's that weird moment when you feel that you belong to that person and this belief keeps getting fortified as you meet that person more. In fact this belief makes you want to see that person more often. It's like a vicious circle that goes on. No one knows how it happens but we can certainly identify people who are caught up in this vicious circle of love.

Love and body language share a close relationship. For those in love, love actually seems to be in the air when they communicate with their love virtually through air. They transfer those love vibes, love gazes, and all that jazz through air itself without uttering a word! Well its magical, I guess! But the interesting thing about love signals is that even other people can catch these signs and signals. If you wish to know about these signs of love body language then read further.

Male Love Body Language

If you are wondering if that cute guy you are planning to date likes you or not then read on. Given below are some of the signs of male attraction that will help you determine if he likes you or not:
One of the most striking of body language of men who are in love is their gaze. They not only catch her gaze but hold it for a second more than necessary.
When he sees her his eyebrows will be raised a little, nostrils will be flared, and the lips too will be flushed for a significant time.
He will also try to fix his attire and run a hand through his hair to look presentable and neat.
While talking he will blink more often and his body will be pointing at the direction of women he is attracted towards.
One of the sign of flirting body language of men is that their hands, legs, and knees will be spread to show that they like her and are open for a relationship.
If he is with his friends, he will continuously throw some gazes at particular intervals to show that his attention is focused at her.
One of the important signs of attraction from men is that they will also try to use their masculinity by standing tall, taking out their chest, flexing muscles, and wearing some manly attitude.
If you were confused and were wondering about how to know if he loves you then the above tips will help you.

Female Love Body Language

If you want to know if the women you are eying is interested in you or not, all you have to do is read her body language. Given below are some of the most common body language signals that are exhibited by women:
Her eyes do the talking. When a woman likes a man her pupils will dilate and she will maintain a prolonged eye contact with a man that she likes.
She will pay attention to every word uttered by the guy and she will also seek his reaction on everything she says.
One of the unmistakable flirting body language of women is crossing and uncrossing the legs while tapping her thighs smoothly.
While talking to a man she will keep stroking an object such as a glass or a flower pot etc. It is one of the prominent part of women body language if she wants to tease and entice him.
If not she will keep playing with her hair and show her bare beautiful skin to the man she is interested in.
One of the most feminine gesture is that she would show off the curves to a man as a sign of attraction.
She will also run her hands or tongue from the lips to draw the attention there.
She will lean to him while talking. It is to show that she likes him and feels secure with him.
These were some of the signs of attraction for women that are pretty easy to understand. So the next time you like a girl you know what to look for.

Couples in Love Body Language

If you want to know that the so-called 'best friends' in your office are really seeing each other romantically, then read the following tips on body language of someone in love that will help you understand if they are in love or not:
They will look into each others eyes most often and maintain a prolonged eye contact.
When they are in a group they will seek each others attention as well as a reaction to whatever they say.
You may find them often lost in their own world and thinking about something even if they are together.
One of the crucial part of body language when falling in love can be observed when they are walking together. They will walk together but often look in front or the ground and rarely into each others eyes.
When they are not together you will notice them talking or messaging on the phone more often.
They also act protective and caring about their spouse and may display some jealousy if their partner is paying undue attention to someone else.
Another thing is their smile and glow on the face. The happiness and feeling of love can be seen on their face.
They appear optimistic, content, and happy with each other.
These were some of the body language signs of attraction for those who are in love that you can notice if you want to be assured if your friends, or colleagues are in love or not. I hope this information on signs of love body language was resourceful for you. But, remember that though love has its own body language you may not be able to understand it every time. Everyone has a unique way to express love so you may not observe any signals at times. At such situations all you have to do is confront your love to that person and seek his or her answer.
By Geeta Dhavale
Published: 10/28/2010

How to Make Love to a Woman

2011-11-07T16:04:00.000-08:00

It's difficult to find a man who isn't curious to know about tips on how to make love to a woman. Knowing about several aspects of love making can help you to spice things up in your relationship. Here, I have tried to present some realistic, cogent, dynamic and fundamental tips on making love to a woman. Know more, by reading further -

So, the question, 'how to make love to a woman' brings you here, this shows that you've got a genuine desire to understand the 'art' of making love. Making love is not just an act, rather a culmination of a myriad of emotions a person feels for his/her loved one. Studies and research on the topic 'love making' suggest that learning how to make love is not just about satisfying sexual urge, but something much more, and beyond.

In healthy relationships (which mutual respect and love are the basic building blocks), there are more dimensions attached to sex, than just physical satisfaction. Hence, my whole idea in this write up is about love making. Although raging hormones do increase the physical intensity, it is certainly not the only dimension that men seek out (agree guys?). Practically and literally, sex and making love are two separate entities. So, men, if you really want to enjoy making love and satisfy your partner (and yourself too), then the tips on how to make love to a woman can certainly help both of you discover a new dimension to your relationship making it all the more stronger.

Before we Begin

According to me, there are two aspects to making love. One is the physical aspect of making love, involving the actual nitty-gritty or the act of making love. Secondly, and more importantly, is the overall experience of making love. By the overall experience, I mean the emotional and physical experience of making love. One rarely experiences fulfillment in one aspect without the other, there can't be physical satisfaction without emotional satisfaction. For those eager to get to the physical aspects of how to make love to a woman can skip this part and go straight to the next passage. (at your own peril, though). For those who would like to have a memorable experience, let me give you some suggestions that will surely get your lady in the mood for some romance and thereby leading to a memorable experience. Women, they say, fall in love with their ears and men with their eyes. Get the hint?

Women have highly developed senses. Period. In order to get her in the mood, please her senses. Her favorite perfume, flowers, scented candles, use any and everything that could arouse her senses. Ambiance and settings also play a part in getting her all horny and wanting for some physical affection. A warm cozy couch on a rainy day, or a candle lit table with soft light and music, it need not be cliched but anything which will make her comfortable. Be creative while you prepare for a session of love making, if you have been in a relationship for quite some time you will know exactly what all turns her on. Sometimes a genuine and heart-felt compliment can also do the trick and ignite amorous thoughts in her. See to it that you both are not disturbed by any external factors. If you have certain commitments, then complete them or re-arrange them. Keep the phone off the hook, or switch it off. In short don't let anything distract you, and rob you of some quality time with your lady.

Now, that you have created the right mood and atmosphere, drop a hint or make your move. If you are going steady with your girl and have spent sufficient time together you will know how to make a move. Rather, she will detect if you are in the mood, so hold her hand or hold in your arms, or grab her and give her a long and passionate kiss. Her reaction will set the tone for your future course of action. At first your invoking of passion in her might bring out a look of surprise in her, but a little persistence will surely swing things into action right away. Compliment her about the best thing you like about her, softly whisper your love for her, all the while kissing her hands, cheeks or nape (neck) or all the above. Now, on to the actual act of making love to a woman. Keep reading to know more on how to make love to your wife or your girlfriend...

Let Your Heart and Body Speak

As I have mentioned earlier women have highly developed senses, exploit this to bring out the sensuousness in her. We have five senses, use all of them to arouse feelings of passion and erotic love in her. Let her senses guide her to enhanced bodily pleasures and thereby, heighten the act of making love. If you want to increase the intensity of your physical intimacy to great heights, express it in no uncertain terms that you want her and you love her. A deep craving for each other automatically creates the right mood and drives the process further. And mind you, if you both are truly committed, you're on the highway to make every intimate moment an exciting experience. A golden rule here is to maintain eye contact, it is very crucial to make things intense and will accentuate the entire act, lending it a more intimate feeling. I will try to suggest some, arousal tips on how to make love to a woman, which should give your lady a real sexual high and leave her wanting for more.

Touch with a Kiss
A kiss is the best display of affection, a romantic kiss, they say is the connection of two souls. A passionate kiss is like a key which opens many doors. Some say, just by kissing, a woman can have an orgasm! Remember start slowly and intensely, feel her lips, experience the wetness and softness of her lips. Feel the warmth of her breath, on your face, let your tongues entwine with each other. Occasionally lightly lick her upper lip, they say this drives a woman wild. Feel the tingling sensation run throughout your body while you suck passionately on her lower lip. All the while, let your hands caress her body ever so slightly. Your passionate kiss can determine the future intensity of your love making. And since there are variety of kissing techniques, positions and variety of kisses, you will have many choices (great guys, isn't it?).

Kissing her on the lips is just the beginning, Experience what it feels like, to kiss every inch of her body. Just keep one thing in mind, don't rush, take it slow, all the while watch out for her reaction. She will let you know what she likes and what she dislikes. Some areas on her body, called erogenous zones, if stimulated are sure to sexually arouse her. Mind you, each woman is an individual and she may have her own unique erotic zones. But generally, a slight nibble or licking her ear lobes, kissing the nape and shoulders will surely set her pulse racing and her body responding accordingly.

Let your Hands and Imagination Loose
The second tool of sensual pleasure is the sense of touch. It is said that a woman can identify the intention of a touch within no time. The right place and way of touching can send your lady into a heightened feeling of sexual pleasure and ecstasy. The key again my friends is not to rush for long-lasting love making. There are some more foreplay tips to make her feel more aroused. And here is the fact, men get easily aroused (yeah, we do get aroused at a lightning speed). Hence, you might need arousal tips, if you want to really make your lady go wild with pleasure. And the better you are at foreplay, you will easily be able to learn how to make love all night.

Foreplay is extremely vital for heightened sexual pleasure. Touch is the most important sense which will help you for stimulation and sexual arousal. Merely, running your fingers through her hair or just holding her ever so tightly can also act as a stimulant in the process of love making. To enhance pleasure certain parts of her body are more receptive than others. Feel her body, experience the soft warm touch of her skin. The warm sensation of a passionate embrace is difficult to equal, if not surpass. I am sure by now both of you are really warming up to the idea of making passionate love and experience physical bodily pleasure. While you are kissing her on her lips or neck let your hands run over her back or on her stomach and waist. Observe and experience her reaction. Feel her soft and silky smooth legs, caress them, kiss them.

Kissing or caressing the ankles can also arouse a lady. Gently but affirmatively experience the soft touch of her legs, back of the knee and thighs. Go down on her to arouse her even more. I say it here again, watch her reaction, observe how her body responds. Your girl will let you know what or which touch she likes and wants more. The back, especially the area between the shoulder blades is considered to be an erogenous zone in women. Kiss the back between the shoulders, kiss her back all over, right till her lower back. Ever so gently run your tongue over the entire back and see her shiver in anticipation.

Coming to, what is considered as a secondary sexual organ, the breasts are said to be extremely sensitive to stimulation. Fondling her breasts, ever so slightly, can drive her wild with passion and wanting for more. By now both of you must be passionately aroused, experiencing each others touch and would want to take it to the next level. Even your body will direct you to repeat the moves that increase arousal and heighten sexual desires. Just go with the flow, listen to what she wants, and give her more and then some more. All the while keep on kissing and touching her in more ways than one, experiencing the sheer physical excitement of the union of body and soul. Her fingers, wrist, forearms shoulders, stomach, navel, let her experience what it feels like to arouse all these body parts. Send shivers of sexual pleasure and ecstasy through her entire, just by the anticipation of your moves. More foreplay tips include, massaging her body with an aromatic oil, or get creative, even chocolate or fresh cream! Remember the golden rule.. yes, take your time and observe her reactions.

The Culmination
You are in the mood to take it to the next level, all you can think of now is that you want more of her, and she, of you. It's a good idea for a guy to take the lead in certain situations. This is just one such situation, now is the time to go down on her, ever so slowly caress and kiss her, spreading her legs wider in the process. You just might feel tempted to rush things and go all the way. Caress and fondle her all around, except the real erogenous zone. The anticipation is sure to send your lady on a sexual high, asking for more. Ever so slowly make a foray to the desired area, I am sure the sight smell and feel of the entire act is bound to get you going too. The more time you spend here will definitely benefit in a rich and satisfying culmination for the both of you. With her fully aroused by now, and you raring to go, it won't be difficult to decide the exact time to move into position for the actual act of consummation. Don't be rigid about the exact position and style of sexual intercourse, go with whatever and wherever you feel comfortable. Now, is the time to forget everything and just soak in the complete experience of a union with your loved one. Try and maintain eye contact while expressing your physical love to her. Feel free to change sexual positions and try to experiment till you find the right comfort level and ease. There are no rules here, just the two of and your desires.

Now, that you just want to be one with each other, it becomes an act of sexual fulfillment for both of you. Enjoy this phase of intimacy to the fullest. Mind you, making love is a tiring activity. According to research, making love has it fair share of medical benefits, besides the obvious psychological and emotional benefits. The act of making love to a woman doesn't end here, or rather shouldn't end here. To complete the whole experience and make it really memorable and meaningful, for the both of you, cherish the trailing phase or shall we say a temporary break. Hold her in your arms and give her a long passionately kiss, express your true feelings about the whole act and how much you enjoyed it. You can just lie in each others arms experiencing the warmth and touch of each others bodies. Or both of you can hop into the shower for an extended session of foreplay and maybe, again some more love. It's a time just for the two of you so make the most of it.

Words Have Power: Communicate
Understanding 'how to make out' is more important before you proceed for the act. The act of making love, though an act, primarily involves two individuals with a desire to share each others physical intimacy and sexual needs. One of the most, if not the most, important element in any sexual experience is communication. By communication I don't mean just verbal communication, but communication of each others innermost desires and thoughts. All the while that you are getting into the mood of making love, talk, express your feelings about her body, speak out your sexual fantasies that involve her. Ask her what part of foreplay she likes, ask her what she wants, what her innermost sexual fantasies are.

Elements of dirty talking may vary for everyone. It's all about the physical and mental chemistry you share with her. You can use forceful words or even romantic lyrics for your lady. Understand what she wants, do it! Understanding her from close quarters (and her body too) will help you to come up with something that really turns her on (and to you too). Use dirty talking as an effective tool and don't let the power of words go waste. They work at the right time, at the right place and at the right moment! Now is the time to say to her, all you wanted to say, in these moments of prime intimacy. Your bedroom can be the most effective place to talk dirty. Now, dirty talking doesn't not mean, you've got to sound stupid or weird. The sole objective of dirty talking is to make her feel wanted and desired. You can tell her what you like most about her body, and what turns you on. It certainly is an erotic way to pep up things in the bedroom. So, keep communicating, listen to her, understand her feelings and thoughts, it will surely enhance the overall experience of love making.

How to Make Love for the First Time

Before I get down to suggest ways on how to make love for the first time, I would like to put in a word of caution. Beginners, get one thing straight and clear, your first sexual experience might not turn out to be what you had imagined. It is certainly not like the way they show in the movies, forget about all the adult stuff you have seen previously. Reality can be far from what is portrayed up there. A simple suggestion would be to try to enjoy the experience by making it a pleasant and happy one. As a first timer is also not aware as to how his body will react to certain stimulus, it is better to take it easy and slowly. Right from how to start and when to start, there is anxiety and anticipation in the minds of most couples who are going to have sexual intercourse for the first time. However, beginners have to understand that since this is going to be a new feeling for both the partners, they've to carefully make the occasion a pleasant experience. Both the partners must understand that both are equally nervous about the first time experience and so they must act together. Communicate correctly and shed hesitations, most importantly nervousness.

First time sex can certainly kick start of many more pleasurable experiences to come in the near future. However, ensure you make this one memorable (and also take it as an opportunity to learn a lot!). Now, focus on some tips for first time sex. Ensure you follow these tips as they will be of great help to you. Since this is your first time try and ensure both partners know the several consequences this act can have on their lives. It's all about your values and how you perceive sex. For your proper sexual health ensure that you're physically and emotionally prepared for this act. Using condoms and safe sexual practices is a good habit during sexual intercourse, especially for the first time. Ultimately, it's your choice, so be ready to enjoy and proceed further.

Firstly, You can use several arousal tips as mentioned in the above part of this article, you can bring each other in the mood for a memorable experience. This equally applies for ladies. For first time sex, you should spend maximum time reading each others body signals and must be playful. While men can certainly arouse ladies, women too can take the driving seat and initiate the act. It's often more arousing for most men. Ladies, it's not bad to know some ways of how to turn a guy on so that it increases the comfort and ease of the situation. And still, if you're not very clear that what is that men exactly want from you, then equip yourself with what men like in women. So, now you have set the stage. Let the action begin.

Agreed, first encounters may not always turn out to be very successful and so you needn't crib about that. It's just a start and so, if you don't feel like proceeding further (this applies to both the partners), you can stop. It's fine to tell your partner if you're not comfortable. The funny part about first sex is that it may happen with few minutes, intense, hot and in a hurry, or it may not happen because of your nervousness. Inexperience is certainly evident during first intercourse. So take everything as an enjoyable experience. With experience you'll master the art (experience makes a man complete).

These were some of the few tips on how to make love to a woman. Remember, that there are no hard and fast rules for sexual pleasure. The more comfortable partners are with each other, the better they can communicate their desire and expectations. Sexuality is all about utilizing this energy given to us for leading a more enriching and fulfilling life.

A wise guy once said that two ordinary beings, are connected with each other, can have extraordinary sex. While two extraordinary beings, if not connected, do end up having ordinary sex. Whatever be the case, the bottom line is that loving someone deeply is certainly a blissful experience and physical intimacy certainly adds sparks and color to that! So, if you both are in the mood then, let your lady know in no uncertain ways that you too know how to make love to a woman. Share this with your girl and build on your relationship creating beautiful everlasting memories. Best Wishes.
By Kundan Pandey
Last Updated: 9/23/2011

Definition of Love

2011-11-07T15:48:00.000-08:00

What is love

Dictionaries have different meanings for this word. But when I think about this word, my mind conjures up images of all kinds of beautiful things that I have always associated with this word. Flowers, chocolates, candle light dinners, hearts, soft toys, clothes and perfumes, (I hope I haven't left anything out!) these are the words that have become synonymous with love...but, what about the feelings and emotions associated with this word!

I remember growing up with stars in my eyes and love songs ringing through my ears. Slowly my dreams grew bigger and I started waiting for my Prince Charming to come along and take me with him to a beautiful land where we would be surrounded by servants, good clothes, flowers and jewelry. One day I realized the truth about love...that it was much more than material comforts and gains.

Love is Sharing

Believe me when I say that this is one of the most important ingredients of love. It is important to open ones heart and share - pain, joy, success and failure, it really does not matter, as long as the heart is clear. Love is being honest and knowing that the other person feels the same way too, it is sharing and losing ones inhibitions and knowing that the person on the other side will never be judgmental.

Love is Talking

Yes, love is talking. It is about speaking, telling and sharing. After some time people restrict their conversations to discussing bills, children and pets. This is a sure indicator of things going down hill. Bring the spark back by starting a conversation.

Love is Spending Time Together

A few minutes spent together everyday keeps the boredom away. I just made this up right now, but it is because I feel there is nothing like time invested in a relationship...believe me, it pays! Heavy work schedule takes up much time and effort, so it is important to get things into perspective.

Love is Faithfulness

To love means to be true, to love unconditionally means to give with all your heart to one, and only one. Love is when you realize that he/she is the best thing that has happened to you and you want to cherish that person and the moments spent with him/her till death do you part.

Love is Being Friends

Love is being friends with each other. Enjoying simple pleasures in life like shopping, catching a movie or watching television at home, apart from a host of other things that "Friends" normally do!

Love is Looking Together in the Same Direction

This may sound clichéd, but it is true...love is having the same goals and taking steps in that direction to make them come true.

I would like to end with one of my favorite quotations...

"Love is the flower of life, and blossoms unexpectedly
and without law, and must be plucked where it is found,
and enjoyed for the brief hour of its duration."

love: Definition, Synonyms from Answers.com

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love: Definition, Synonyms from Answers.com

Khabi mein sochta hon - Mehdi Hassan (Aaina)

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Love

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Love is most beautiful and worthy feeling or passion of this planet. As the love is glimpsing in every part and in every thing of this globe, in the ocean, in the moon, in the breeze, in the trees, in the skies, in the flowers, in the rainbow, in the colors, in a mother and in a new borne baby. If we knows the power of love than we will be see
a different world on this planet. So my slogan is Love is the life and life is love.