the other side

Corner of an endless road

noreply@blogger.com (theotherside) — Tue, 15 Apr 2008 14:34:00 +0000

It has been a while since my last post but I have been having a ball working up in coastal NSW - enjoying the climate, beach, drinks and a whole different lifestyle. I won't lie but I missed Melbourne - its music and food scene is one of the best in the world. I didnt miss the routine that goes with living in Melbourne. The work was the same but everyone there is mostly there temporarily so this gave a "holiday" feel to everything. So now I am back in Melbourne again and sort of have an empty feeling... sort of like a part of me knows that I shouldn't live here for a while.

Luckily I have booked my great adventure which starts on Monday! I start by flying into London then mainly heading to eastern europe for 3 months. Then cuba for a month and then onto south america. This is something I have been dreaming of for ages and I can't wait. Whilst being apprehensive about traveling alone on the other hand the thought of traveling for 8 months is so exciting. I cant wait to see the sights, sample the foods and meet loads of people.I think the rest of this year will be an adventure... I have vague itineraries but no real plans for where I am going to be and when apart from the various flights that are booked which is always an exciting form of travel.

When I get back next year who knows where I will settle - maybe in Sydney or maybe even just travel around Australia working... There are lots of options.

In terms of the sexuality front.. lets say its dead in the water at the moment. I have lost interest in the few guys I was dating before leaving Melbourne. Friendships maybe.. but one is way too clingy I think even for that. I guess the best part of travel is that I can explore it without feeling like I need to hide something. The anonymity that goes with being in a foreign country helps that.

This is probably going to be my last post for a while, possibly forever. The blog, like myself feels unfinished. There is no happy ending, no torrid romances and no resolution. I would make the worst film ever... I don't know if I ever will be comfortable with my sexuality or even happy if I was comfortable but in saying that I know few people completely comfortable in their own skin. I just need to find one that fits... sometimes these things just take time though.

Thanks to my readers, commenter's, lurkers and msn chat buddies - if anyone is traveling around or lives in general vicinity of above places that I am travelling too drop me an email (theotherside78@gmail.com) and I can send you my travel blog details + msn and hopefully we can catch up for a random beer or four.

Take care :)

Release

noreply@blogger.com (theotherside) — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 13:51:00 +0000

Last night I got very drunk (not a rare occurrence recently) and was able to enjoy the public holiday today without having to work. The night was like any other really except for the fact that I have now come out to one of my friends! The night ended with just the two of us sitting around drinking and talking shit. We were getting all deep and meaningful and then she told me something quite personal. I said in return that I had something to tell her since we were sharing - i said that i've been seeing a few guys this year. Then came the questions and I basically told her the story that you guys all know.

I really have never been worried that my friends would not support me if I told them. I guess the biggest hurdle is how do I define myself to them. It was not as bad as I thought it was going to be and the fact that I can feel comfortable talking to at least one of my friends about it means that at least I have progressed a little in a year.

Dont have any plans as yet to let anyone else know but I am sure it will come...

Going to be heading up to Sydney for a bit next week and then up north coast NSW for work for a couple of months. If you're around let me know. Always happy to meet new people.

the fear you wont fall

noreply@blogger.com (theotherside) — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 13:27:00 +0000

The death of someone so close to our own age-group is always so confronting. It brings thoughts of your own mortality and how precious and limited that our time here on earth is. The tragic death of Heath Ledger today showed how life can unravel so quickly even with the whole world watching.
I can never understand how Hollywood continues to produce such tragic stories - for a guy who seemingly had the whole world at his feet, a beautiful daughter, loving family, to die a lonely death like that is so saddening.

I cannot imagine what being depressed is like as I have not experienced it myself but definitely through my patients eyes and through friends that have had it I can say it would be like having your most down day over and over and over again.
Sometimes I feel down in the dumps mainly about my sexuality and coming to terms with that but usually that passes and I go on and live my life normally.

I am not a celebrity junky or awstruck around so called celebrities but my does heart goes out to Heath Ledger's family and friends. I will always remember him in the Aussie flick Two Hands which is one of my favorite movies. The tragedy around all this is his daughter is now without a father. His body of work will be a legacy for her and something she can be proud of.

All I can say is that if you are feeling depressed, not enjoying life then please speak to someone, there's plenty of help out there! Even drop me a line...

http://www.beyondblue.org.au

Merry Christmas

noreply@blogger.com (theotherside) — Thu, 20 Dec 2007 12:16:00 +0000

Well I'm back from my holidays and had an absolute blast. It was a real struggle to actually get back to work. I think I was ready just to keep going but I guess I will have next year for that.
Nothing really to report on the guy front - a few potentials but nothing really getting me that excited.

Anyway thought i'd drop by and say hi and wish anyone who still reads this thing a merry christmas. I am debating whether to stop blogging but I'll leave that decision to the new year. In the end it has to be for myself so I will probably still intermittently blog for now. Catch you all soon.

The Unmade Bed

noreply@blogger.com (theotherside) — Tue, 30 Oct 2007 04:33:00 +0000

Its been a busy few weeks for me which has involved a lot of massive nights. The weather is awesome at the moment and I think I have been playing up accordingly. I think I have consumed a small countries GDP in booze over the last month. Not good for the figure or the wallet. Parties, Caulfield cup, catching up with random friends have all led to me needing to go into detox. Last night was a perfect example - I went out to see an early gig nd my friend and I ended up having a boozy dinner until 2am.... Not complaining though as it was fun.

I have also been on a few dates recently - a couple with this guy. I don't think that he is my type and cant really see it lasting. Maybe friends but I doubt it. We're very different - but while I am having fun and enjoying his company, I'll go with it. I think I put out a booty call to him on Saturday... was pretty drunk... but ended up waking up in his bed on Sunday morning so must have worked. I just hope that he is not falling for me as he has made some comments along that line even though we've had the lets keep it casual for now discussion.

Also went on a date with this girl... I know, I know.. but meh sometimes its just easier. We just went out for drinks. It went quite well but once again I am not looking for any form of commitment at the moment. I am enjoying my singledom a bit too much. Plus I want to be single for my big trip next year - unless I find that awesome someone before then who also wants to come with me (chances... slim).

In other news I am about to go on my annual leave. Heading over to Asia again but this time to uncharted territory. I am actually going to China for most of the time and then onto Hong Kong for a short stint. I expect to be 10kg heavier when I get back... given my love for chinese food - noodles, dumplings, seafood.. I can't wait! I also cannot wait to see the Terracotta Warriors and the great wall as well as doing some nice mountain hikes and a bit of cycling. So probably won't post for a while until I get back. If you're in the area send me an email - be good to meet up for a drink :) So for now take care. Will fill you in on all crazy stories when I am back.

For my blog buddies - if you wanna stay in touch with my travels drop me a line and I can send you the link to my travel blog.

Waiting for my real life to begin

noreply@blogger.com (theotherside) — Thu, 18 Oct 2007 14:51:00 +0000

When I look back at what I wanted out of life 10 years ago its funny how nothing has really turned out as I expected it too. I am going to be 30 next year - its the age where you're supposed to have all your shit together, sorted out your issues and found someone to settle down with. Five years ago i thought that I did - studying for a good career, girl, travel plans... and tentative talk of weddings and kids.

Well i have a career and I have travel plans but what the hell happened to the other stuff. This whole sexuality thing has really thrown a spanner in the works. For me though I just want to be happy - to be comfortable in my own skin and not to have this spanner dangling constantly around my neck would make life so simpler. Some days I feel like running and maybe that is what the travel plans are - would starting afresh somewhere else really help me?

Every time I feel like I am becoming more comfortable with my sexuality - something happens or I get freaked out and take 3 steps backwards. Why is it such a hard thing to sort through? My biggest hurdle is the fact that I am bi. How the hell do you come out to people as being bi? Some of you may say this is a cop out but I could easily fall in love with a guy or a girl. I can truly say that.

I am yet to find that one person though that makes me want to see them everyday for the rest of my life. I am not looking for perfection. I think that is way too idealistic. Its people's quirks, their faults, their imperfections that make them interesting. I want the ultimate ride.. the ups and downs, the loops and if you hold on tight enough then you know you'll be ok. Sometimes I look at my elderly patients some of whom have been together for 50 odd years and even though their looks and bodies are fading, the sweetest gestures such as holding hands or a peck on the lips seem to be the most meaningful.

This is more a reflective post and probably gives you an indication of my mood lately. I think by coming out you go through loss before you can see the positives and maybe I am still going through this. Maybe when the positives start coming through I can be more on my way to accepting myself. I just don't want to be having these same pensive thoughts when I'm nearly 40.

Everyone deserves music 3

noreply@blogger.com (theotherside) — Thu, 18 Oct 2007 01:35:00 +0000

Found an awesome new artist to share with you all. He's a young Victorian guy... surprisingly he's a folky-acoustic singer. Does a bit of sampling as well in his music. Awesome Sunday arvo/chill out type music. His name is Whitley. The song below "I remember" is taken from his new album call the submarine. Fairly short album but there's some beautiful songs on it.

You can also find a cover of Bjork's Hyperballad that he did on this new tribute album to women in music by some all-male australian bands/artists called No man's woman. He is featured along with artists like Powderfinger, Paul Kelly, Lior and Josh Pyke. They have the whole album on myspace so if you wanna check it out you can. Not a bad listen.

Excuse me mr...

noreply@blogger.com (theotherside) — Tue, 09 Oct 2007 12:40:00 +0000

I have a guilty admission to make....

I like friends with benefits.

The idea of sex without consequence that is just for mutual pleasure really appeals to me at this stage. I don't want a relationship, I wanna get a bit more experience with guys and I don't really wanna sleep around with a number of random guys. Plus I am always horny... I guess when you are not getting anything you sort of don't miss it. Now I want it all the time!
Now all i need to find is this friend.

On other random occurrences.....

I had been chatting with this guy for a while online. We met up a while ago just for drinks.. there was no real sexual spark at that time.. So I just put him into the friends category and we kept in contact, however we met up again the other night and had a number of glasses of wine. Alcohol somehow for me is not a depressant - its makes me excitable in reasonable quantities. We ended up being together - it was pretty bad. I have experienced this once or twice in guys before... that as soon as they cum.. they just wanna roll over and go to sleep.. forgetting me! Let just say I was not impressed and left soon after. I think I will put him back into the friends category and put it down as a drunken error of judgment (yes i am fickle!)

Break for me

noreply@blogger.com (theotherside) — Tue, 02 Oct 2007 12:14:00 +0000

Since the last post a few things have happened. I have broken things off with the guy I was dating. He wasn't able to give me what I wanted and I was getting increasingly frustrated. In the end he could not accept the stage I was up to in my life and for him this meant holding back his feelings for me. He could not accept the fact that I could not fully define myself and was worried if he committed to me he would end up getting hurt because I would leave him for a girl. Understandably he was frustrated by the fact he couldn't fully be a part of my life at this stage but I was totally honest with him from the outset.

For me I was just happy to be with him. I enjoyed his company, eventually I would have integrated him into my life and when I was with him I couldn't see myself being with a girl or anyone else for that matter. Obviously this wasn't enough for him and the fact I was starting to have these feelings meant that I could no longer have this continue. So we ended it about a week ago now.

I have been fine since and actually feel a lot more emotionally stable since ending it as I hated the feelings of being unsure in the week or so leading up to it. I have no regrets and I wouldn't do anything different. I am actually really hoping we remain friends.

It has opened my eyes to the fact that I really should come out to people if I want to be able to get the most out of dating. I don't think I will date seriously for a bit unless someone extraordinary comes along. For now I need to sort out myself and this means resolving myself to actually come out. So now to develop a plan.... more to come on this later.

Everyone deserves music 2

noreply@blogger.com (theotherside) — Sun, 23 Sep 2007 03:37:00 +0000

I got home this morning at 5am and I'm so hungover today I can barely move... I had a friends 30th last night. It was awesome! Jager bombs are my downfall I think!

In other music news I went to the powderfinger-silverchair concert at Rod Laver arena on Tuesday night. It was brilliant. I usually am not a fan of massive stadium shows but this was up there with the U2 show. Silverchair were really entertaining... even threw in some old stuff for us oldies! Powderfinger blew me away again - for like the 8th or 9th time now hahaha! We managed to get about 10 rows from the front so I could stare at Bernard all night. When he sang these days and on my mind the crowd just went off!

I have also discovered some new music for you all. The first is a band call Silversun Pickups from LA. They are a bit smashing pumpkinsesque. I really love their album! I don't know how I didnt pick up they were playing here in Melbourne last Sunday but by the time I did the tix had sold out. Here are a couple of videos from them.

I also managed to pick up the new Ben Lee album. Its good but it hasn't blown me away yet like the last one. The first single is pretty poptastic though. Enjoy.

In Limbo

noreply@blogger.com (theotherside) — Sun, 23 Sep 2007 03:01:00 +0000

Things with the new guy were going great until last week. I have never understood relationships... I have had some long term ones but all the time you are trying to constantly work out what the other person is thinking and even more so at the start of relationship. Things with the new guy have sort of stalled. I am not sure why! I think he has realised that the chances of this being a long term thing are quite slim and he has put up a small wall to protect himself.

I mean what chance does a new relationship have when I will be away for all of November and he will be away all of December and half of January? Next year I am also taking a year out from work to do some travel.... Do I really wanna be in a relationship? Probably not, but the problem is I have fallen quite hard for him. He also mentioned he was scared that since I was not out I might one day go back to being with a girl and that he can't be fully part of my life at this stage.

Its only been a month since we first met and we are still technically in the dating stages but it continues like this I will have no choice but to end it or make it into a casual thing as its really making me frustrated. I don't deal well with hot and cold.... Why cant these things be simple like the movies or like in corny musicals?

Fall at your feet

noreply@blogger.com (theotherside) — Tue, 04 Sep 2007 12:04:00 +0000

Thought it was about time I updated this thing. So in the last post I was talking about this guy who was driving me crazy... well the good news is he still is! Its funny how relationships creep up on you all of a sudden. One minute you are dating and the next things are kind of getting serious. I am actually fine with this - I thought I would be freaked. I have been seeing a lot of this guy over the last 3 weeks or so... Its still fairly casual but has the potential to go somewhere as we are both really into each other.

Dating in the closet is not the most pleasurable experience though! Lying to my housemates about where I am going, sneaking dating guy into and out of my house so my housemates dont find out and finding time to watch a dvd together curled up on the couch without raising a few eyebrows is almost impossible. The worst part though is not being able to share how excited I am about this guy with any of my friends.

There are also many issues that go with dating a guy that you just don't have to think about when you're with a girl such as Public displays of affection. Forget it! Albeit random sneaky kissing on quiet streets or darkened cinemas.

These things havent stopped me from having a good time but I am sure they will end up frustrating me and making me upset. I think I am going to tell one of my housemates who incidently is also one of my best friends. She will be cool with it, if not a little shocked! Now it just comes down to building up the balls to do it and finding that right moment. She is already suspicious that I am seeing someone...

My biggest issue with coming out is that you can't take it back! Being bi there is a chance I could end up with a girl! That would take a lot of explaining and I am sure women being women insecurities would then ensue. Nonetheless I can't handle this sneaking around for that much longer! I want to be able to share my happiness with my friends and I think by telling them a massive burden is then off my shoulders. I won't need to pretend anymore.

Hopefully my next post will be a coming out story (they seem all the rage at the moment - Go JR!).. but don't hold your breath!

Framing Butterflies

noreply@blogger.com (theotherside) — Mon, 20 Aug 2007 12:10:00 +0000

Since my last melodramatic post there have been some interesting developments! I have sorta been dating this guy. It all started last Monday when we met up for some drinks at a cool little bar in Melbourne's Northern suburbs and has progressed from there. I think we have seen each other about 4 or 5 times now.. in a week!

Normally the speed with which things are travelling would absolutely freak me out! I am finding myself really liking this guy... He is driving me crazy and I have butterflies in my stomach every time I think of him and when i see him all I wanna do is jump him! This part of relationships have always been my favorite.... I wish sometimes you can put all these feelings in a little box and bring them out when things are a bit boring as tends to happen after you've been with someone for a while.

Not to sound slutty or anything but before all this started I had organised another "date" with a different guy for tomorrow night. Now I dont know if this other guy is fully my type but we get on really well when we chat and could become quite good friends. Am I being greedy if I still go ahead with meeting this guy?

I'll probably go ahead with it... why not! Anyway just a quickie today - hopefully I'll update more later in the week and let you know how things are going.

Thanks for everyone's emails/comments after the last depressing post! I have tried to respond and definitely would be keen to meet some of you guys if ur in Melbourne (even just visiting). I am not really a big commenter on other peoples blogs but do read them :)

Sink or Swim

noreply@blogger.com (theotherside) — Tue, 07 Aug 2007 02:37:00 +0000

I feel like lately I have been in a bit of a no-mans land. I haven't really moved forward and I haven't really progressed very far with working through the issues I have with my sexuality. I have become stagnant. Its almost like I cant be bothered dealing with any form of emotional issues.

I can only really put this down to a couple of things
- my work is quite taxing and a lot of the time all I can be bothered doing after finishing a week of work is sleep and relax (even catching up with family and friends becomes cumbersome (always wanted to use that word!))
-the other thing is that not being out and not having any close gay friends in Melbourne makes it extremely difficult to get some form of network going where I have a chance of meeting new guys.

That leaves the online scene which is difficult because most people are just on there for one thing. I dunno if I am being ultra-conservative but for me I wanna be able to explore my sexuality not with a whole bunch of guys but just 1 or 2.... I think my lack of experience also makes me wary to go out and hook up as I think I may be taken advantage of.

Anyway back to the point of the post. I think I need to move forward ---> Its time to go to plan B. Whatever that is! So basically comes down to the fact I need to put myself out there and stop hiding behind these excuses....

So some goals I want to achieve by the end of the year are

to go on at least 3 or 4 dates
make some new gay friends
come out to at least 2 of my friends

Now this may sound easy to some... but for me (bare in mind i am a procrastinator) this may be difficult and the thought of goal number 3 scares me shitless. So how am I to achieve the first 2? I was thinking of joining some gay men's social groups or sporting clubs.... but even that takes some courage to attend by myself. Does anyone know of any?

If you made it this far thanks for reading.. probably not really an interesting post but I think its been good for me to put this stuff down!

Everyone deserves music

noreply@blogger.com (theotherside) — Tue, 31 Jul 2007 11:43:00 +0000

I thought it was time to bring you another revamped addition of mid-week music with new title, digital video and flashy pictures... plus a free steak knife!

The other night I discovered a new Aussie gem whilst cruising myspace. His name is Tom Cooney, a young Brisbanite (birthplace of Powderfinger) who has produced a stunningly beautiful song lifted from his first EP called Hold Me Down. He is a bit of Damian Rice, bit of Jeff Buckley with a smidge of country. Can't wait till he comes down to Melbourne so I can check him out live and in the flesh (he is cute as well)!

As promised some hot picks of Mr Cooney

Dial 1300 555 999 for your steak knife.

Catch My Disease

noreply@blogger.com (theotherside) — Mon, 30 Jul 2007 16:49:00 +0000

Tonight I sat down and watched SICKO - the new Mike Moore documentary. I am not a massive fan of his work and always find it to be quite one-sided and a little self-indulgent. But even if half of the stuff that was in this documentary is true I am utterly appalled.

The documentary looks at the American health-care system - I knew before this that most of American hospitals are run by insurance companies but what I did not know is that if you did not have insurance you were basically screwed when it came to accessing health care. Surely in a country as wealthy as America the basic right to health-care should be provided and provided at no cost if people are unable to afford it. If a country can spend billions to go to war to settle old vendetta's then surely it can look after its own citizens?

In Australia we are very lucky - our health care model is based on the British model and most major city hospitals are Public hospitals and anyone can access them - at no cost to the person. We do have a private health system but the companies do not dictate how you are treated and what tests you are alllowed to have - this is all driven by the treating doctor.

One horror story that really stood out for me in the film was that of a very unwell little 2yo girl with a fever whose mother had insurance. Unfortunately the mum took her to a hospital which wasn't in affiliation with her insurance. She was refused any treatment and sent on to the insurance companies hospital despite the pleas of the mother. The girl ended up at the new hospital with what I can only presume to be septic shock, she arrested and died! This is an absolutely ridiculous system which goes against any logical thought - I could never turn a patient away just because they didn't have insurance. It makes me sick to the stomach.

Unless things change the chance of me ever wanting to work in America are slim and if you're American I suggest you move to Canada or even Cuba before you get old , have a heart attack or get cancer - you'll live longer and not spend your life savings doing so!

Ride Like the Wind

noreply@blogger.com (theotherside) — Thu, 26 Jul 2007 07:07:00 +0000

Its semi-fortuitous that I am doing night shift at the moment. July tends to be the month where I usually am chronically sleep deprived due to the many late nights watching "le tour de France".

Unfortunately the last few years have been riddled by doping controversies which does detract from the race somewhat but I still find the endurance of these athletes amazing. To ride for 21 days and over 3000km which includes trips over the alps and the pyrennes is a great effort and for those who do it without drugs... its almost superman. I struggle to ride 50km in a day.... Plus i love the tactics that go into each stage, the chase of the pelaton and the awesome scenery.

This year finally baring any tragedy will see an Aussie on the podium in Cadel Evans. A Territory boy from Katherine who has been threatening for a few years prior to this, hopefully will get his glory this year. So the next few nights will keep me watching with great interest.

As in any sports - how can you not go pass the hot bods on display and the tour is no different. I love the rider physique. Skinny upper body and strong legs.... One rider who caught my attention this year is young German rider Linus Geremann who actually won stage 7 and will be a rider to look out for in the future. He is very cute!

Night Fever

noreply@blogger.com (theotherside) — Tue, 24 Jul 2007 05:19:00 +0000

One of the joys of being a junior doctor is the fantastic shift work we get to do. I am currently doing a 6 week stint of night shift. We do try to jazz up the shifts with fancy names such as disco shift (a shift which finishes about the same time as decent night out 1-2AM) but the reality is that they are not that exciting.

Nights are usually spent dealing with sick patients, admitting patients and sorting through various crap ass pages ranging from exciting clerical duties to reviewing someone's leg swelling that has been noted by their day treating team for the last month but somehow at 5am I can fix it.

As much as I complain I do actually enjoy the work sometimes... Even at 430am its amazing how alert u become if the shit is hitting the fan. Its not all bad for the first few weeks I have 7 days on and 7 days off... so I got to head up north for some Sunshine and camping last week- I even have a slight tan.

I do however miss daylight, I miss my friends and family... and the remnant of my social life/sex life.

Sorry about the whiney post... nice to get that off my chest though :)

Down Under

noreply@blogger.com (theotherside) — Sun, 08 Jul 2007 04:14:00 +0000

After the excitement of the world cup, I am about to be hit once again by Socceroo fever as they begin their Asian cup quest tonight against Oman. We have a fairly easy first group with oponents in Iraq, Thailand and Oman, the latter being our biggest challenge. However given the Thais are playing at home its a bit of a danger game. As well as being good footballers the Aussies aren't bad looking either. Lucas Neill is so hot.

Bring it on! We can finally show that we deserve this spot in Asia.

Careful where you stand

noreply@blogger.com (theotherside) — Sun, 08 Jul 2007 03:55:00 +0000

So I have a bit of a dilemma... nothing unusual I here you say! I may have blogged about this before but now I am more actively pursuing guys, its become a bit of an issue. At the moment I am a bit torn between wanting to date and wanting some gay/bi friends. My biggest issue is how to draw the line between the two.

For me to meet up with someone there at least has to be some sort of attraction or common interest... So how am I to make friends if all I wanna do is jump them?

Its quite similar to being friends with girls, there is always some level of attraction there. I guess its just how far you want to take that.

The other thing is that I have found my best relationships have actually come from friendships... so would it be better to hang out and see how things develop before making a move.

I guess I will take each new experience as it comes and see what develops... but its still a bit of a dilemma! Maybe its better to get the sex out of the way and then concentrate on being friends ;)

What a difference a day makes

noreply@blogger.com (theotherside) — Sat, 30 Jun 2007 07:22:00 +0000

Yesterday I felt if I was going to die - I had a headache, sore throat (so sore I couldnt swallow) and could not move from my bed. I decided to start myself on antibiotics for tonsillitis given I had been in denial that I was unwell for about 4 days. I also bought out the heavy duty pain killers!

Today I have managed to get out of bed, the chills and fevers have subsided and have minimal throat pain (actually have managed some solids).

Its awesome! I am also thankful of not getting the runny nose and 1 month chronic cough that usually comes with this. They sell it as a package.

May have a date or 2 next week if I am up to it - so will keep you all informed :)

P.S. With this post I have beaten my previous monthly total posting record! See I am not a slack ass!

P.P.S. I was not completely unproductive with my Friday off - I did manage to get 2 gen admission tix to the POWDERFINGER-SILVERCHAIR concert in September at Rod Laver! Bring it on!

Into temptation

noreply@blogger.com (theotherside) — Sun, 24 Jun 2007 12:30:00 +0000

Won't bore u all with the details
- Boy comes home drunk after a Saturday night out
- Boy goes on internet dating site
- Boy starts chatting to guy
- Boy gets propositioned
- Boy is nervous but also curious
- Boy spends $20 in a cab
- Boy finds a really nice guy
- Boy doesn't kiss and tell
- Boy come home 8 hours later = exhausted but satisfied :)

You are all probably saying about time - Hopefully it stops him from whining ;)

Thats all for now.

Read My Mind

noreply@blogger.com (theotherside) — Tue, 12 Jun 2007 11:51:00 +0000

So I mentioned my difficulty the other day in finding a nice guy to date... Being the year 2007 internet dating is so common place that its almost normal, however it still has the nerd factor associated with it.

So the question then comes to where I can meet my rock god, guitar playing, food loving, world travelling hot boy? My gaydar is a finely tuned piece of machinery... it is able to pinpoint hot guys that are attracted to me to the nearest metre... I WISH! Mostly you assume that people you meet are straight. But what signs should I be looking for to tell me otherwise?

Flick of the hair?
Secret handshake?

Probably I would become aware when we are actually making out! That is how clueless I think I am.

So come on people - bring on your hot-tips!

Also if you are a rock god, guitar playing, food loving, world travelling hot boy then contact me ;)

Superstraight

noreply@blogger.com (theotherside) — Thu, 07 Jun 2007 06:26:00 +0000

I think I need to get this blog back on track a bit... like my life lately its sorta been all over the place....

One of the biggest hurdles I have found in accepting my sexuality is trying to work out where I fit into the gay/straight world. Having grown up at the time when the Sydney G&L mardi gras was huge and during the Priscilla era I used to think that most gay people where freakishly flamboyant and dressed in drag! I know this is not the case now but for a 14-15yo boy this can be quite confronting. Plus I am scared of drag queens.... even to this day ;)

I know now that the majority of the gay community is not like this ultimate stereotype but then I dont like clubs, dance music or kylie (they all give me headaches). I love rock/alternate/folk stuff, all of my friends are straight, i love seeing live music, love soccer, drugs are not my thing and in terms of free-love well whilst I am not adverse to that sorta thing I am not a big one night stand kinda guy. However I do moisturise ;) I guess I would fall into the "Straight acting" category... But then what defines people as gay... its none of the above. The real only criteria is that you must like guys.

So given all this where is one to meet a nice rock loving boy? I have tried internet dating sites - gaydar, gaymatchmaker... but frankly I am bored of all the requests for sex, the same boring conversations on MSN, requests to see a pic of my cock or worse people sending me pictures of theirs. I need to explore other avenues... but what?

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Dream Days at the Hotel Existence

noreply@blogger.com (theotherside) — Sun, 03 Jun 2007 10:01:00 +0000

Its finally here - 3 long finger free years! I am probably not the most impartial of listeners but the new Powderfinger album rocks! Dream Days at the Hotel Existence contains some signature jump up and down kinda tracks inter-mixed with some slower old school finger ballads. I can't believe I missed out on buying tickets to their gig at the forum... If anyone has a spare one I will be more than happy to take it off your hands ;)

The rumour is they may be touring with silverchair later in the year which should be awesome.

So my last few posts have been quite political... that is because to be honest nothing exciting has really been happening. Currently I am working 50-60 hour weeks which is killing me. Working with kids makes it even more draining. I have joined the gym to try improve my fitness and give me more energy but in these early stages it tends to have the opposite effect.

So my plan in the next few weeks is to try to be more social and put myself out there in the dating department. I need to experiment a bit so I can work out if this guy thing is really for me.... So in the meantime, if anyone still reads this thing, stay tuned!