DESTRESS AND WEIGH LESS

WHAT'S YOUR PURPOSE?

2012-05-08T06:47:00.001-07:00

WHAT'S YOUR PURPOSE?

Hey there! ;0)

This week we had a post about De-Stressing Yourself With A Hobby, and my last post, I talked about My Passion and My Purpose. Now, I pose the question, "What's your purpose?"

Do you know what your purpose in life is? If you do, are you living it?

The reason I pose these questions is because I have had SEVERAL conversations about purpose lately.

The other day, I had the wonderful opportunity to speak to a young college student and she explained that she was feeling empty and lost. She wanted help finding herself, she didn't know how to do it, and she desperately wanted help. OH MY GOSH!!! Do you see how brilliant that is? It's brilliant because she is where many people get, usually when they are older.

Deep down inside she wanted to know her purpose in life. She knew that there was something missing. Do you feel like that?

How grateful I was to speak to her and how grateful I was to help her know that her soul was asking for direction to her purpose. After we discussed that very thing, she got it. How lucky she is to get something like that as such an early age.

Do you feel empty? Do you feel lost? Do you feel like you want to find yourself?

If the answer is yes to these questions, it is my humble opinion that you are looking for your purpose, or you know what it is and want to live it.

The conversation of 'my purpose' has been very commonplace with others and me for a long time but much more so lately, especially the last week.

So, if it is your desire to find and live your purpose, here is some questions you can ask yourself.

What would you do everyday if time and money were not an issue?

If you could be anybody, who would you be? Why would you be them? What is it about their life that is so appealing to you?

What are you naturally good at that you would love to do anytime if you could?

What would you love to learn to do?

Just some things to think about because I believe, with all my heart and soul, that if you find and live your purpose you will truly live a destressed life. If you live your passion and purpose, you will feel whole, and happy. If you live your passion and purpose, you will not drift through life feeling empty or lost.

If you want more ways to find your purpose, Google it. Google, "what is my purpose?"

And...

Turn to Heavenly Father in prayer. He loves you and promises to help you find it.

"And I say unto you, Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you. For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened. If a son shall ask bread of any of you that is a father, will he give him a stone? or if he ask a fish, will he for a fish give him a serpent?" ~Luke 11:9-11

I KNOW THAT THIS IS SO!!! ;0)

If you want help finding your passion and purpose, my course, How To Destress Yourself, can help you, it has helped many people find what they really want.

Have a great week my friend!

Have fun! Be playful!

Love you lots and lots ;0)

BIG HUGS...

Elizabeth

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PASSION AND PURPOSE!

2012-04-17T07:04:00.001-07:00

MY PASSION AND MY PURPOSE

Hello there. How are you doing this week so far? Great, I hope!

Did you happen to read the guest post, De-stress Yourself With A Hobby, by Lori Hutchinson from Masters in Teaching? If you didn't, you might want to read it. She talks about doing what makes you happy, how it gives you peace, and how it is a factor in stress management.

I love, love, love her article because I know, without a doubt, that living with happiness and peace is the opposite of stress, it is destressing yourself.

What I also know, without a doubt, is that if you find out what your purpose and passions are, you will live a magnificent life full of happiness, energy, vitality, and wholeness.

When I was very young, I knew that I loved, loved, loved to help people. That is my purpose and passion. As I got older, my helping people evolved. When I was younger, I always helped the underdog at school, the one who was always picked on. Because I had bigger brothers, no one would mess with me, and I took advantage of that by helping the person who got bullied.

As I worked as an EMT, I noticed that people in the Emergency Field were seriously unhappy, and unnecessarily angry. Many Fire Fighters, Nurses, Paramedics, Police Officers, and EMT's had horrible ways of handling their stress with anger, anxiety, and pure unkindness for others. This was so heart breaking because their behavior, to the normal person, was extremely extraordinarily abnormal but they couldn't see it.

When I first started to help the Emergency Personnel with crisis, it was a miracle. It was a miracle because they could find happiness amongst all of that crazy anger. That is how my passion and purpose evolved from helping the underdog to helping the hero go from crisis to calm.

Although I still get to help the hero, I also have the opportunity everyday to help the Father, Mother, Child, or Grandparent destress. I have the opportunity to help the teenager, or adult destress. My passion is destressing people, and my purpose is to destress the world ;0) (Just watch me now)!

As I live my passion and purpose, I see happiness all around, I feel energy for life everyday, and I have pure vitality for life. Sure, I have my stress, everybody does, but as we find what we love to do, and live it, we become less stressed.

What I am trying to add to Lori's article is, find out what you love to do, and if you already know what it is, start to participate in it. If you do that, I promise you that you will destress yourself.

If you don't know what your passion and purpose are, take my destress yourself course, and it will help you find them.

What do you love to do?

What would you do everyday, if you could?

Do you know? If you do, are you doing it?

Just some things you can think about as you destress yourself.

"For, brethren, ye have been called unto liberty; only use not liberty for an occasion to the flesh, but by love, serve one another." ~Galatians 5:13

Whatever your purpose, whatever your passions, they are our gifts from God, and they are there so that we may use them to serve one another, not just ourselves.

I KNOW THAT THIS IS SO!!!

Have a super duper rest of the week!!!

Have fun! Be playful!

Love you lots and lots ;0)

BIG HUGS...

Elizabeth

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ABUNDANCE

2012-04-10T06:57:00.002-07:00

THE ABC'S OF ABUNDANCE ;0)

Thought You Might Find This Fun & Playful ;0)

Hello there! How is your week so far? Mine was excellent! Life is great! Everyday is a weekend to me. I know, that probably sounds really arrogant but, if you could, wouldn't you make everyday a weekend?

If you love love, the way I love love, and if you found and lived your passion and purpose, everyday would be a weekend for you too. No lie!

Moving on ;0)

Just in case you missed my last three posts, I wanted to give you the links because they are the ABC's of abundance.

Attitude

Believing

Courage

A positive attitude gives us peace, which is the opposite of stress and it promotes greater energy for the individual. It takes energy to relieve stress and energy increases our self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-worth, which will increase our feelings of abundance.

When we believe in ourselves we eliminate doubt, fear, and worry, which are stress inducers. Believing in ourselves allows us unlimited possibilities and a more abundant life.

When we have courage we can face our challenges and step out of our comfort zone. Challenges and stepping out of our comfort zone makes us or breaks us, and if we have courage, we can, and will, create an abundant life.

Here is to your Abundant Life... Today! Focus on;

A positive attitude.

Believing in yourself.

Having courage.

And if you are brave enough, focus on these attributes for the next thirty, or more, days.

Bug Hugs...

Have fun! Be playful!

Love you lots ;0)

Elizabeth

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COURAGE!

2012-04-05T06:47:00.001-07:00

I Can See Your Courage!!! ~giggle~ ;0)

Hey there! Hi there! Hope you had a great weekend.

Did you know that my title is, 'Stress Specialist' or 'Destress Yourself Expert', but what I really would like my title to be is, 'Courage Expert/Specialist' because I love, love, love to encourage people. When I spend time encouraging people, the only thing I am doing is persuading them to be courageous.

When we have challenges, and we become stressed, we have doubt, fear, and worry. When we have doubt, fear, and worry, we start to think about the worst possible thing that could happen, and then we start to think about the steps we will have to take as we move towards what we think is the worst.

If we face our challenges with courage, instead of thinking about the worst thing that could happen, we shift our thoughts to the best possible outcome, and then make decisions and move towards what we think is, and would be, the best results. That is courage, my friend.

"Courage becomes a worthwhile and meaningful virtue when it is regarded not so much as a willingness to die manfully but as a determination to live decently.

Said the American essayist and poet Ralph Waldo Emerson: “Whatever you do, you need courage. Whatever course you decide on, there is always someone to tell you that you are wrong. There are always difficulties arising that tempt you to believe that your critics are right. To map out a course of action and follow it to an end requires some of the same courage that a soldier needs. Peace has its victories, but it takes brave men and women to win them.”

There will be times when you will be frightened and discouraged. You may feel that you are defeated. The odds of obtaining victory may appear overwhelming. At times you may feel like David trying to fight Goliath. But remember—David did win!

Courage is required to make an initial thrust toward one’s coveted goal, but even greater courage is called for when one stumbles and must make a second effort to achieve.

Have the determination to make the effort, the single-mindedness to work toward a worthy goal, and the courage not only to face the challenges that inevitably come but also to make a second effort, should such be required. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says, “I’ll try again tomorrow.” ~Taken from Thomas S. Monson's message, Living the Abundant Life

Have courage my friend! When the challenge comes, remind yourself, "Courage!" When you are required to step outside of your comfort zone to move ahead, and away from your stress, say it again, "Courage!"

"Arise; for this matter belongeth unto thee: we also will be with thee: be of good courage, and do it." ~Ezra 10:4

DO IT!

"Wait on the Lord: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the Lord." ~Palm 27:14

"Be of good courage, and he shall strengthen your heart, all ye that hope in the Lord." ~Psalms 31:24

More things to think about so you can destress yourself.

Have a super duper week!!!

Have fun! Be playful

Love you lots ;0)

BIG HUGS...

Elizabeth

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BELIEVING IN YOURSELF

2012-04-03T09:03:00.001-07:00

DESTRESS YOURSELF BY BELIEVING IN YOURSELF

Hello my friend. How's your week so far? Hope you read my last post and are increasing your Positive Attitude.

Today, I wanna talk a lil bout believing in yourself. What does believing in yourself have to do with destressing yourself? Excellent question!

Stress is caused by our doubt, fear, and worry. If we believe in ourselves, and others, our doubt, fear, and worry will turn into certainty, confidence, and faith. When we live with thoughts of certainty, confidence, and faith, we truly destress ourselves.

Believing in yourself, and others, is just a matter of being honest with yourself. If you search the evidence, you will find you are very successful thus far in your life. Therefore, you have great reason to be honest with yourself and have faith in yourself.

"Be honest with yourself, with others, and with your Heavenly Father. One who was not honest with God until it was too late was Cardinal Wolsey who, according to Shakespeare, spent a long life in service to three sovereigns and enjoyed wealth and power. Finally, he was shorn of his power and possessions by an impatient king. Cardinal Wolsey cried:

Had I but served my God with half the zeal
I served my king, He would not in mine age
Have left me naked to mine enemies.

Thomas Fuller, an English churchman and historian who lived in the 17th century, penned this truth: “He does not believe that does not live according to his belief.”

Don’t limit yourself and don’t let others convince you that you are limited in what you can do. Believe in yourself and then live so as to reach your possibilities.

You can achieve what you believe you can. Trust and believe and have faith." ~Taken from Thomas S. Monson's message, Living the Abundant Life

When we believe in ourselves we have faith, and we eliminate the doubt, which is a stress inducer fo sho!

"Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen." ~Hebrew 11:1

"For we through the Spirit wait for the hope of righteousness by faith" ~Galatians 5:5

"But let us, who are of the day, be sober, putting on the breastplate of faith and love; and for an helmet, the hope of salvation." ~1 Thessalonians 5:8

Just a few more things you can think about to destress yourself.

Enjoy the rest of your week!!!

Have fun! Be playful

Love you lots ;0)

BIG HUGS...

Elizabeth

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POSITIVE ATTITUDE

2012-03-08T12:47:00.001-08:00

DESTRESS YOURSELF WITH A POSITIVE ATTITUDE

Hello...

Today, I wanna talk a lil bout how we can destress with a positive attitude. When we have a positive attitude, we feel better about ourselves, and when we feel better about ourselves, we feel peace, which is the opposite of stress.

When someone comes to me to learn how to destress for the first time, many times they say they have a positive attitude. Often times, what that means to them is when they are in front of someone, or they are having a conversation, they appear positive. Meaning, they are happy and not sad, they are grateful and not complaining, or they are pleasant and not unpleasant.

If we truly have a positive attitude, we have peace within because we are having positive thoughts, which create positive feelings, and that promotes positive actions. Your thoughts, feelings, and actions are your attitude.

"William James, a pioneering American psychologist and philosopher, wrote, “The greatest revolution of our generation is the discovery that human beings, by changing the inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives.”

So much in life depends on our attitude. The way we choose to see things and respond to others makes all the difference. To do the best we can and then to choose to be happy about our circumstances, whatever they may be, can bring peace and contentment.

Charles Swindoll—author, educator, and Christian pastor—said: “Attitude, to me, is more important than … the past, … than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill. It will make or break a company, a church, a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day.”

We can’t direct the wind, but we can adjust the sails. For maximum happiness, peace, and contentment, may we choose a positive attitude." ~Taken from Thomas S. Monson's message, Living the Abundant Life

My favorite part of this quoted message is, "We can't direct the wind, but we can adjust the sails." Isn't that brilliant? We cannot direct the wind, meaning we cannot control the misfortune, but we can adjust the sails, in other words our attitude, our reaction to the misfortune.

A positive attitude gives us peace, the opposite of stress.

"For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace." ~Romans 8:6

"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith," ~Galatians 5:22

"Let us therefore follow after the things which make for peace, and things wherewith one may edify another." ~Romans 14:19

"Finally, brethren, farewell. Be perfect, be of good comfort, be of one mind, live in peace; and the God of love and peace shall be with you." ~2 Corinthians 13:11

Somethings to think about so you can destress yourself.

Have a super duper week!!!

Have fun! Be playful

Love you lots ;0)

BIG HUGS...

Elizabeth

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STRESS

2012-02-16T09:16:00.001-08:00

Never was I able to measure the level of stress, or even gauge the level of stress, that has been among others until I started blogging. My blogging began in 2006, and then seriously in 2007. It wasn't until 2009 that I was able to measure how many visitors I had in a day, week, or month. The measurements were only monthly before then.

All this babbling is about stress out there in the world. What I mean is, in the summer of 2009, I had about 500 to 600 readers a month. In the winter the readers more than doubled, and that just so happens to be my busiest time of the year, destressing people. By 2010 summer, I had in a week, what I had in followers in a month from 2009 winter. In the 2010 winter, it doubled, then went back down by the end of April.

By 2011, in the summer, my visitors doubled to what I was experiencing in the busy months of the winter, and the emails doubled as well. By the winter of 2011, I was experiencing crazy, crazy amounts of readers daily.

What I am trying to explain in all of this blah blah is, I believe because of the number of visitors, and contacts I am experiencing, stress is increasing out there in the world. For a minute there, I thought things were getting better, over the holidays, because my stats dropped from December 24, 2011 to January 2, 2012, to what was high stats in the 2011 summer. But, by January 8, 2012, things got back to all time highs again.

By January 14, 2012, my post How To Destress Your Deepest Moments of Despair, was viewed 1000 times. What this means to me is, there are plenty of people out there in their deepest moments of despair.

There was a time when I responded to Critical Incidents, and taught stress prevention, intervention, and direction only to the Emergency Personnel, which included EMT's, Firefighters, Paramedics, and Police Officers. Then it expanded to Management and Administrators.

I can remember my first one on one clients that were not in the Emergency Field, they included men, who were business owners. Many of them were sent to me by their wives, and the common reaction was, "My wife sent me to see you because if I don't get a handle on my stress then she will divorce me." No lie!

Then I started teaching all kinds of individuals stress relief.

Most recently, my contacts have been people who have lost their jobs, homes, and sometimes everything they have, and sometimes even a family member.

When October & November 2011 came around, I had an unusual amount of teenagers come to me due to pressures usually at home, but not entirely.

Is the economy in America getting better? Is the economy in the World getting better? That is hard to say, but from my stand point, a whole lotta people are trying to relieve stress, that's fo sho!

This time of the year is the best time for you, and me, to relieve our stress because it is the New Year, and we can be motivated to start a new.

When people are stressed, it is caused by doubt, fear, and worry about their circumstances. When people are really stressed, they tend to focus on the worst possible outcome. They think about the worst thing that could happen, over and over, in their mind. This causes a whole lotta stress.

One of the best things we can do, when we think about the worst over and over again, is write down what we want, what we really want. Write down the best possible outcome you could have in your situation, make them goals, and focus on them. Focus on them by reading your written list everyday, and making a to do list to move forward on it. This will destress you by building faith in yourself, and making you focus on the best instead of worst.

Another great thing we can do is learn the relaxation response. The relaxation response will provide a way for you to create a habit of relaxing any time, and any where. It is a habit we can develop to replace the stress habit. When we are stressed, the stress response is activated, and if we have a wonderful habit of activating the relaxation response it can, and will, provide a place, in our mind and body, to feel safe and relaxed.

If we focus on the best possible outcome, and remain relaxed, the burden of our stress is lightened and we can easily overcome our stress, no matter what we are going through.

A great affirmation for when you have stress, you are focusing on the best outcome, and you practice the relaxation response is, "I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me." ~Philippians 4:13

Affirmations are just reminders, and this reminder, if you say it to yourself over and over again, will build your faith, and help you succeed. So memorize it, and say it often, especially when you feel stressed.

That's all I got. You are doing great! Keep up the excellent work! Have fun! Be playful!

Love you lots ;0)

BIG HUGS...

Elizabeth

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MY OWN STANDARDS

2012-02-14T04:11:00.001-08:00

Hello there. How's it going? Did you have a most magnificent weekend? I sho did ;0) Once again, I fell in love. Matter of fact, I fell in love a few times. Dang, I love that, falling in love. I love love. Okay, okay, enough about love, again, but you know I can't help it.

Got a scripture for you.

Matthew 7:3 says, "And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beem in thine own eye?"

This scripture means, to me, why are you judging, or trying to fix someone else when you could be judged for what you do, or when you got a whole lotta fixen to do in yourself?

Mote means a chip or splinter, and a beem is something big that they use in constructing a house or building. Therefore, whatever you are judging in someone else is much smaller than what you could be judged for.

This, my friend is great advice. Whenever I feel like I want to give someone advice (like in my blog for instance), I know there are at least two things going on for me. First, I am looking at what I think needs to be fixed in someone else, meaning I am being critical. Second, I need to give that advice to myself, which means, living up to my own standards. Practice what I preach! You know what I mean?

When I want to fix someone else, I am looking at their imperfection, rather than looking at their assets. "Guess what?" I say to myself, "We are all imperfect Elizabeth."

A very stressful habit is focusing on peoples' imperfections. It is a habit of being critical, when we could just as easily be complimenting. If we are critical, it shows the mood of our mind. If the mood of our mind is critical of others, you can bet it is critical of ourselves. When we are critical of ourselves, we tend to have a very low self-confidence which produces doubt. Any kind of doubt, fear, or worry will create stress.

You know, and I know, we can be our own worst enemies by being critical of, or having doubt in ourselves. All the decisions we make in this life are based on doubt or certainty. If we make decisions based on doubt, we miss out on some seriously spectacular goods. If we make decisions on certainty, we achieve, advance, gain, and obtain.

How did being critical become a habit? Well, I'll tell you. Most likely, when we were younger, and as we grew up, we could have done a thousand things right all day long with not a word said, and yet, when we did one thing wrong, we were criticized, and then corrected. So, other peoples' habits became ours.

The best thing I can do, when I write a blog post, or help an individual is, take my own advice, and live up to my own standards.

Do I take my own advice? I sho do! Eh-em, most of the time.

Do I live up to my own standards? I sho do try, but like I say, to myself, "Nobody is perfect Elizabeth."

One of the things I love to do the mostest is, I love, love, love to encourage people. Even though I am a Destress Yourself Specialist, I would love my title to be a Courage Specialist. And because I love to encourage others, I spend a lot of time encouraging myself. I am my own cheerleader.

"You can do it Elizabeth!" I say to myself.

Encouraging and complimenting others is much better than criticizing or trying to fix them. Taking my own advice, that I want to give to others, and encouraging myself is much better than criticizing. Truly, just a simple choice, don't you think?

This week, and if I am brave enough, for the weeks to come, I will live up to my own standards by taking my own advice. Whatever advice I am about to give, I will hush up and give it to myself, in my head of course. I will focus on peoples' abundance and I will compliment and encourage them. I will look at my abundance, and I will compliment and encourage myself more.

Sounds like a great way to destress myself, wouldn't you agree?

Hope you have a glorious week. You can do it! LOL! You are glorious!

How am I doing so far?

Have fun! Be playful! And, speak soon!

Elizabeth

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HAVE FAITH IN YOUR DREAMS!

2012-01-24T07:18:00.001-08:00

Hello there!

It is a great year already, I can feel it in my bones, and in my soul.

So far, I am doing really good on my New Year Resolutions. How bout you?

My resolutions are...

To be healthier and to serve more people in more ways. That's it!

Although, there is a huge list of things I have to do, and want to do, that goes under each of those goals. My goals are very specific, and so I have a lot of work to do.

One thing I know for sure is, I may have a set back or I may mess up a little but you know what? That is totally okay in my head. That sounds funny. Anyway, what I mean is, I will not give up if I have a set back or if I mess up a little, or a lot.

My mantras for my goals are, "I can do this! I have faith that I can do these things. I will not give up."

I am so focused, it is magnificent, in my head. ;0)

Do you have your goals? How are you doing? Do you have faith that you can accomplish your goals? Do you have the mindset that you WILL NOT give up?

In Hebrews 11:1, it says, "Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen."

Now is the time, more than ever, to have faith in yourself, and your goals. Now is the time, more than ever, to hope for the things that you want that have not yet come to pass. Now is the time, more than ever, especially if you want a better you and a better year, to be focused more than ever.

You can do it my friend.

You can do this!

Have faith!

Never give up!

Say it with me now, "I can do this! I have faith I can do these things! I will not give up!"

Have a great week. Have fun and be playful too ;0)

Elizabeth

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Getting Healthier ;0)

2012-01-19T04:33:00.000-08:00

Hello there. How are you? Am doing well, thank you for asking.

In my last post, Destress and Weigh Less, I aspired to getting healthier by eating less and eating healthier.

So far, I have been eating much less. I have been eating only one meal a day. Initially, I said I was going to eat one meal and then juice, which provides micro nutrients, for the other two meals but, I haven't wanted to drink the juices.

Does that concern you? The only one meal a day? It doesn't concern me because I am training myself to eat much less, and I don't believe I need any more than that one meal. This is a life style change, not a loose weight, and then eat more when I do change.

The first couple of days I got really hungry around noonish but I waited until after 2 p.m. to eat. After a couple of days, the hunger disappeared. I could probably fast for a couple of days if I wanted to but I am too addicted to food for that. My meals have been pretty healthy. I eat a couple of fruits, some veggies, and a sandwich, or some soup and bread. I feel totally satisfied. Every now and again, I eat some junk, and my body don't like it much.

Recently, I read this magnificent book, The No Breakfast Plan And The Fasting-Cure, which is free on amazon.com, and was written in 1900. This book has helped my thought process on how eating less is more of a benefit than eating more. This book is written by Dr. Dewey, and he talks about how he does a no breakfast lifestyle, and his friends started to do it too. After living this way for a while, he and his friends started to eliminate all of the little ailments that they had.

In the middle of the book, Dr. Dewey discusses cases about people who are cured from all sorts of illnesses by fasting. Back then, the medications were very limited, and they thought that if you fasted for 10 days you would starve and die. The cases that are discussed are about individuals who fasted over twenty five days, and some up to 40 days. He also discusses the controversy from other Dr.'s and their opinions about Dr. Dewey. Magnificent read! And FREE!!!

This particular book, and many others, has convinced me that eating once a day is all I need, the rest is just indulging for my taste buds and filling my void.

By eating less, I feel healthier, and lighter. By eating more fruits, veggies, whole grains, and meat sparingly, I am healthier. By eating less, I eliminate the habitual act of reaching for food whenever I want. By eating less, I diminish, and sometimes eliminate, my appetite.

So far, so good. I have been eating less and eating healthier. By eating only once a day, some how I have eliminated some midsection, and I have eliminated my habitual way of just reaching for food to fill the void.

Something else I have been doing is meditating more formally everyday. Before, I would meditate in the a.m., if I had time. Now, I meditate every morning for 30 minutes, right after reading my scriptures for 30 minutes. This is a habit that I want to make permanent.

Meditating is so important to me because it helps me relax and be in tune with my body, mind, and soul. The quiet mind helps me focus and relax, no matter where I am at or what I am doing.

How are your New Year Resolutions? Let me know, by commenting below.

Would love to hear from you.

BIG HUGS!!!

Elizabeth

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DESTRESS AND WEIGHING LESS?

2012-01-06T03:51:00.000-08:00

Hello there. How are you this fine, beautiful day? I hope you are truly enjoying your New Year and that you are going strong on your New Year Resolutions.

There are two New Year Resolutions that I hold very strongly this year and they are...

1) Get healthier.

2) Discover more ways to serve.

The reason I have this blog is for me more than for anyone else. The reason it is for me is because I manifest my stress through my weight and my midsection, if you know what I mean.

When I was younger, I could eat anything I wanted and I never got to a point where I felt unhealthy. Ya, ya, everyone could say that, right? I would have to say that I have noticed my unhealthy feeling about the age of forty seven. Before that age, which is my age now, I may have been over weight but never with the feeling of being unhealthy.

So, now, I am going to do something about it.

It is my opinion, developed through my experience with my own, and other peoples' stress, that when we are stressed we look for comfort by filling a void that we feel. It is also my opinion that we go in and out of stressful thoughts and emotions, all day long, due to our current culture and the pressures that we have.

It all starts as a void that we feel at a younger age, then we fill the void through external stimuli, like food, alcohol, cigarettes, drugs (over the counter, pharmaceutical, or illegal), shopping, lying, inappropriate sexual relations, oh, or chocolate. Sure these things may make us feel better at the moment, but in the long run, they make us feel worse.

After years of the partaking in the void filling, it all just becomes a habit, and then it is an addiction. The way I define an addiction is, something that is not healthy for me that I cannot quit. Food is my addiction. Oh how I love food, oh, and chocolate. I love, love, love me some chocolate. I am the definition of a chocoholic. There is not a day that I go without it, until now. Muwuahahaha!

This rambling all pertains to my being healthier, my New Year Resolution of being healthier.

This is my plan...Eat less and eat healthier.

The reason I want to eat less is because I have read several books and articles, and have watched several documentaries on how we eat too much and what it does to our brain, and to our bodies, like developing diseases. I do not believe that obesity, the actual being fat, causes illnesses and death. I believe that the food in the body develops into a sewage, and that is toxic. Toxins cause cancer, disease, and death.

A week or two ago, I watched a documentary where a man lost fifty pounds in ten days by not eating. He lost that much weight because of the processed food that was still in his stomach. There was nearly fifty pounds of food in his intestines.

Did you know that it can take up to seven to ten days to digest processed foods? If you eat one meal a day of processed foods you can have up to seven meals in your stomach at one time. You ever feel like your stomach is going to deliver a baby or two? I have, after eating crudola.

So, I am going to eat less, and I am going to not eat processed foods. What I am going to do is juice (fruits and veggies only) two meals a day, and then eat just one meal. I am going to do this so I can partake of micro nutrients through the juicing, and train my habitual addiction of grabbing something to eat to feel better, into eating less. I do not need that much food. I do not need three meals a day. I truly believe that with all my heart.

Grabbing food, for me, is just a habitual addiction, especially when I cook, and I love to eat what I cook because I am a great cook.

Now, about filling the void part. Ya! I have been working on that for a long, long time and this is all I got...

When I start to crave something, like chocolate, or not healthy food, I have to ask myself, what do I need? What emotions am I feeling and why do I think I want food?

For thirteen years now I have been meditating and I feel very in tune with my mind, emotions, and body. When I think any thoughts of doubt, fear, or worry, I notice it immediately, and change them, because they cause stress. When I am feeling negative emotions, I feel like I am aware immediately, and then change them, because it causes stress. When I am tense, anywhere in my body, I know, and then I relax immediately. Boy, I sound like I think I am perfect. Maybe I do. Just kidding.

Destressing yourself is all about meditation and creating a place in your thoughts and emotions that is safe and relaxed. When we think and feel safety and relaxation we become more in tune with ourselves. Part of my filling the void is going to that place of safety and relaxation.

That's all I got. Just a ramblin'.

What a ya think? Comment for me below, or email me.

Have a great weekend. Have fun and be playful too ;0)

Elizabeth

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DESTRESS YOUR DIFFICULT TIMES

2011-12-31T06:43:00.001-08:00

BREAKING POINT

Hey there. How are you? Am having a great week, how bout you? Hope so ;0)

Have you ever felt like you were at a breaking point? If you have, you know what it is, and you will know exactly what I am talking about.

A breaking point is an emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual place where you feel like you are going to break. It is a place that you are so overwhelmed that you feel like you cannot take it anymore. I have seen this place, I have seen it in my own life, and in many other lives. Do you know what I am talking about?

When we are at a breaking point, this place, will 'make us' or 'break us'. This is a place that I have been with hundreds of individuals. They say that they can't take anymore, and they feel like they are going to break.

The breaking point is usually when you are overwhelmed and everything is in your face. You think like, oh shizzz, what am I going to do? You feel like, AAAHHH! I can't take it anymore. And then you have to make a decision on what to do.

Usually, when we are at this point we are thinking of all the things that are wrong, and then we think about the worst possible outcome that can happen for us. This is major fear, and this is major worry that can cause anxiety.

This can be a very critical point in our life. This can be a moment, or 6 months, of crisis.

Through the years, I have worked with many individuals who were at this point. A couple of the people I have worked with are teenagers, who are in a situation at home that is causing severe anxiety, and/or depression. Some others, I have worked with, are having severe financial difficulties, who have lost everything, and I mean everything tangible. Additionally, I have worked with people who are emotionally spent due to loneliness, despair, or frustration.

So, if you are at a breaking point, what can you do?

I am so very excited that you asked ;0)

When you are at a breaking point, the first thing you have to do is ask yourself what the heck it is? What is going on for you right now? I guarantee it is fear of what might happen and the thought that you will not know how to, or if you can, handle it. What are you afraid of? Ask yourself, "What am I afraid of?"

At this point, the best thing to do is pour your heart out to God. Talk to Him, and tell him what you are afraid of, and what your biggest fears are. Why do you want to do this? You want to do this because you are Heavenly Father's child, and He loves you. You are so very special to Him, and you will feel comfort from this because He wants you to turn to Him so that He can give you comfort.

After you do this, you will feel comfort.

With all my heart, I believe that when we have troubles, I mean really big troubles, it is an opportunity to get closer to God. Part of the reason He gives us trials is so we can learn to lean on Him more frequently.

In Romans 12:12 it says, " Rejoicing in hope; patient in tribulation; continuing instant in prayer;"

Rejoicing in hope means to be happy for your ambitions, aspirations, and dreams. Patient in tribulation means willing to endure the thing, or things, that is causing your pain and unhappiness. Continuing instant in prayer means to persist and carry on immediately and urgently in your conversations with God.

Basically, focus on your dreams, be willing to endure the trial that you have been given, and persist, right now, in your conversations with God.

When we are at a breaking point, I truly believe we do the opposite. We focus on what we don't want, we are impatient, and we want to quit and give up.

My friend, dream big, focus on what you want, be willing to endure your trials, and be constantly in the conversation with God.

You can do this. You got the power. You are so very special and you must remind yourself of this in the moment of a breaking point, and the entire time you have the struggle that you are going through.

Get your journal, write down all the things you dream of in your life, and write down all of the evidence, your successes and accomplishments, that remind you that you can have them.

And know this... You can handle anything you are going through, you can handle anything that comes your way, and you will manage this because you always have overcome your trials in the past.

You are so very capable, you are so very smart, you are so very strong, and you are so very divine. The thing is, if you are at a breaking point, you may have just forgot all of your divinity. You are a child of God, and that makes you divine.

You can be, do, and have anything your heart desires, believe in this, and believe in yourself. Have faith my friend! God has faith in you! I have faith in you as well!

If you need help, take the destress yourself class and it will take you through a step by step series of actions to help you explore, discover, and obtain what you want, and show you how you can get it.

That's all I got.

Have fun this weekend. Be playful!

Big Hugs... AND MERRY CHRISTMAS BABY!!!

Elizabeth

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Journaling

2011-12-30T19:12:00.001-08:00

MY JOURNEY

Hey there. How the heck are you? I am very well, thank you very much.
I wanted to show you my journal. That is a picture of it right there ->
Pretty cool aye?
I just wanted you to know how serious I am about setting and obtaining goals. It's not just about goals though, it is about being happy, and making things better and better, no matter what you are going through.
Last Tuesday, I wrote about Never Ending Goal Setting, because I believe, with all my heart and soul, that the only way to diligently progress and produce in this life is by constantly setting and obtaining goals, and by an enduring determination to evaluate our development so that we can continue to improve.
People are always complaining and speaking about how hard life is when in actuality, it really isn't that bad or hard. I hear woman talk about how horrible a commercial is or how devastating someone's behavior is but it is all an illusion. You know what is devastating? Loosing your legs, and not being able to walk, or loosing a lung so that you are unable to function actively, not a commercial or someone's behavior.
What I think about these individuals who complain and cry woe is me, all the time, is that they are not learning or moving forward. When you learn and move forward, you discover that life is not really hard (well sometimes it is ;)), and there isn't anything that you can't handle because you have become stronger and stronger from your challenges.
Trust me on this one ;)
One of the biggest things that has helped me move forward and discover that I can handle anything is my writing. My writing began in my journals, then I did a lot in college, and now I blog. My writing is not the best but, you should have read it before I went to college. I was raised by a Mother who's second language is English, and it really shows in my journals. It really shows on my blog, as well, but it is a lot better than it was.
Tangent! LOL
What I am trying to say is, I have come a long way because of my writing, especially in my journals. I have set and obtained some serious goals, and I have overcome some serious challenges. What is so cool is, I can look back at where I was in life, my anxiety, my depression, my alcoholism, or my PTSD, I know how far I have come, and know that I can handle anything. It is because of this constant goal setting and evaluating of myself that has gotten me where I am now.
No! I am not a millionaire, yet! But I am stronger spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. The only reason I say that is because most people attribute moneys to success when I look at the ability to be happy and still move forward in life, under any circumstance, as being successful. In order to be happy and still move forward, under any circumstance, one must be strong spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. The way you get there is learning more from your challenges, having faith in yourself, and having a very strong spiritual relationship with God.
There have been many times in my life when I have been angry, anxious, depressed, and overwhelmed. Those were my challenges, and I have learned from them primarily through the documentation of my thoughts, feelings, actions, attitudes, and goals.
When I was a young single Mother, I use to have severe anxiety over money. As I look back, and read my journal entries, I can remember the thoughts and feelings, and I can know, without a doubt, that if I made it through that, I can make it through anything. This, my friend, is an unbelievable gift that I have taught to hundreds, if not thousands, of people.
In my last post, I wrote that I too would get my journal and start my never ending goal setting process, and I have. I wrote my goals for 2012, right after I wrote that post.
So, get your journal, take responsibility for your life, get ready to destress yourself for 2012, get back to the basics, start to overcome some amazing challenges, and do it with faith, RIGHT NOW!
Let's do this together. If you journal, I promise you, you will see some amazing things happen in your life and it won't be just setting and obtaining goals, it is much bigger than that.
You can do this!
You got the power!
You can be, do, and have anything your heart desires in 2012!
Don't you wanna? I know you do!
Good luck my friend. Speak soon...
Don't forget! Have fun! Be playful!
If you need help through this process of never ending goal setting, the destress yourself class will take you through a step by step series of actions to help you explore, discover, and obtain what you want.
Big Hugs...
Elizabeth
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GOT GOALS?

2011-12-30T06:57:00.001-08:00

NEVER ENDING GOAL SETTING

Hello!

NEVER ENDING GOAL SETTING!

Did you know that if you don't have goals you are in the constant state of going nowhere?

Did you know that if you are in the constant state of going nowhere, you can cause yourself some stress?

As spiritual, and human, beings, we must move forward to feel good about ourselves. If we do not feel good about ourselves, our self-confidence and self-esteem is very low. If we feel low, we have a void, and we tend to fill that void with very stressful habits like eating, smoking, drinking, inappropriate relationships, or drama.

Do you get up everyday, get ready for work or school, go to work/school, get home, watch TV, eat dinner, watch more TV, go to bed, and do it all over again? If you do, you are in the constant state of going nowhere.

Life is a learning experience and one of the things we can learn is never ending goal setting.

Whether we have small or large goals we will move forward in life. When we move forward in life we feel good about ourselves.

When we don't have any goals we stay in the constant state of going nowhere and we feel displeased with ourselves. When we feel unfulfilled we feel unhappy. Unhappiness can stress us out. We have a choice, we can stay in the constant state of going nowhere or we can choose never ending goal setting.

Some goals that you may consider are financial, relationship, health, or career. They can be big or small.

If you would like to make more money you can make that a goal.

If you would like to get along better with your spouse or family members you could make that a goal.

If you would like to feel better physically you could make that a goal.

If you are unhappy in your career you could make a goal out of looking for another job.

The best way to set a goal is to think about what you want. Ask yourself, "What do I really want?"

The answer may be to weigh less, or be happier, or to overcome anger, or make more money, or find an eternal companion, or to increase self-awareness, or to serve, or to find passion or purpose. These are simple wants and yet still goals.

Once you have an idea of what you want you can take steps to obtaining your goal(s).

First, think about the best for yourself. Dream and imagine what a perfect life would look like.

Second, write your goals down.

Third, prioritize your goals.

Fourth, write down all the things 'to do' to obtain the goal(s).

Fifth, start 'to do!'

Sixth, believe you will obtain them.

Seventh, and final, never give up!

You can do this!

Staying stagnant in our lives can cause stress because our lives may lack excitement or pleasure. Take time to explore what you really want out of life and move on it. If you move forward only one step at a time you will be that much closer to your goal, by that one step.

Setting goals and obtaining them creates excitement and enthusiasm for life. If we are excited and enthusiastic about life we feel successful and that is what destressing yourself is all about, moving from stress to success.

So, get your journal my friend, and start the never ending goal setting process. I'm gonna! Right now! You can too!

You got the power! You can do this!

If you need help through this process, the destress yourself class will take you through a step by step series of actions to help you explore, discover, and obtain what you want.

Big Hugs...

Elizabeth

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DESTRESS YOURSELF WITH PRAYER

2011-12-29T18:54:00.001-08:00

PRAYER ;)

Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness. ~Isaiah 41:10

Hello my friend. How was your week? Mine was magnifico, as usual ;)

I have a friend who says that I am in denial about my stress. Isn't that cute? He thinks that because there are certain aspects in my life that are not perfect, that I pretend to be happy. I do not pretend to be happy. I am happy about 95% of the time and maybe, sometimes, 99% of the time, and I will tell you why.

No matter what is going on in my life, I am happy because I know without a doubt that my Heavenly Father loves me, that I am very precious to Him, and that He is watching out for me every minute, of every hour, and every hour of every day.

The first thing I do every morning is I pray unto Him. The last thing I do, every night, is I pray unto Him. When I feel sad, He is the first person I have a conversation with. When I am sad, when I feel anxious, and when ever I feel like I don't want to feel, I pour my heart out to Him.

Every time I pour my heart out to Heavenly Father, I feel comfort almost immediately.

If you are having a hard time I would like to persuade you to pour your heart out unto Him. You are a child of God, and He loves you, you are so very special to Him. You are a gift from the Divine.

As I was trying to decide what to blog about for our New Year Resolutions, I thought that I should discuss the most important things that pertain to permanent stress relief, in other words, how to destress yourself.

To me, one of the most important things that we can do is cry unto Heavenly Father when we are stressed, not only will you build a very close relationship with Him, you will find and develop this way of destressing immediately.

Then shall ye call upon me, and ye shall go and pray unto me, and I will hearken unto you. ~ Jeremiah 29:12

What I am trying to do is persuade you to journal and evaluate your frequency of prayer and your relationship with God. Contemplate this because if you would like to improve upon it, you can make it a New Year Resolution.

If you do, you will certainly destress yourself.

Have a wonderful weekend. Have fun and don't forget to be playful, I really mean that.

Big Hugs...

Elizabeth

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DESTRESS YOUR LIFE, RIGHT NOW

2011-12-29T06:49:00.001-08:00

TAKING RESPONSIBILITY!

Good Mornin...

My friend's daughter asked me if I love Christmas or if I didn't love Christmas. Cute huh? I told her that I love Christmas. She said, me too. Then she asked me what I loved about Christmas, and I said everything except the gifts. HA HA HA!

I really do love everything except the gifts. If it were up to me I would just hang out with family and friends, and no gifts. Could you imagine if Christmas was about Christ? Just kidding, I know it is. But what if we didn't give gifts and we just enjoyed good food and good company? How destressed we would be!

Any who, recently I talked about getting ready for 2012 and New Year Resolutions.

Did you read about it? Did you get your journal? Did you start your journey with your journal by reading and writing about back to the basics post? If you did, YOU ARE AWESOME!

If you did, YOU ARE TAKING RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR FUTURE. So cool!

But, if you didn't, then I would like to persuade you to take responsibility for your future.

Recently, I have been helping more teens than I ever have. A couple of years ago, I started to work with college age students, lots of 18 and 19 year olds. Last month, I worked with more teenagers (under 18), than I have in my whole career of teaching permanent stress relief.

They have spoken of molestation, abuse, parental divorce, illness, and misery at home. The number one issue I have dealt with is beliefs of ugliness and why am I not good enough. The latter is not so typical as the former never the less, it is all very stressful, wouldn't you agree?

When I talk to the youth about lack of self-confidence due to feeling ugly, or feeling not good enough I tell them stuff like, you are the boss of you, you are the only thinker of your thoughts, and so you gotta be the boss of your thoughts and you gotta think better thoughts. I tell them to stop thinking that they are not good enough and I teach them affirmations, and how to use them. An affirmation like, I am good enough!

We search for evidence that they are good enough, and we search for evidence that their beliefs are unreasonable. For example, I tell them to notice everyone around them for a day, or even a week, and notice how unique everyone is. Some people are fatter, some people are skinnier, some people are uglier, and some people are prettier.

This is amazing because the majority of them get it. The majority of them get that they can take responsibility for their thoughts, and that God has made everyone as unique as their thumb print therefore, we can appreciate our uniqueness and focus on our assets and strengths.

Isn't that amazing?

What does this all have to do with destressing yourself?

Destressing yourself is all about awareness, and awareness has a lot to do with knowing that you can take responsibility for your thoughts, knowing that you can take responsibility for your life, knowing that you can take responsibility for your future.

It amazed me how many teens got this. It even seemed, to me, that teens were getting more than adults do.

What I am trying to say is, you can learn to destress yourself by taking responsibility for your thoughts, feelings, and actions, as a result you will take responsibility for your life and for your future.

So, get that journal, and start your journey to destress yourself in 2012.

That's all I got!

Speak soon...

Have fun this week...

Be playful!

Elizabeth

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DESTRESS YOURSELF 2012

2011-12-28T19:00:00.001-08:00

YOU WANNA GET READY TO DESTRESS FOR 2012???

Hello my friend! How's your week? I really wanna know how your week is going! Is it going well? Is it not going so well? Let a gril know how your doing ;)

Are you ready for and do you wanna alleviate your stress in 2012?

Do you have stress at work?

Do you have stress at home?

Do you have anger, anxiety, depression, or loneliness?

Whatever it is, let's prep for destressing ourselves for 2012. Are you with me? Let's do it!

LOL! I sound like a dang cheerleader.

Okay, so we know that the New Year is almost here and every year I encourage everyone to destress by setting goals. That's right, New Year Resolutions.

If you say that you don't make New Year Resolutions, let me try to change your mind. PLEASE!!!

New Year Resolutions are the greatest way to turn your life around because you are setting goals and you can start a new. You can start fresh!

Most people do not live by goals, which is a crime, in my mind. If you are not setting and obtaining goals, you are in the constant state of going nowhere, and that, my friend, is stressful.

We are spiritual and human beings who need to progress to feel good about ourselves. When we set and obtain goals we lift our self-confidence and self-esteem. When we have great confidence, we don't carry doubt, fear, or worry.

Trust me! I know that this is so. I know that this is so because most people who are stressed have horrible habits of thinking thoughts full of doubt, fear, and worry and the best way to get away from this way of thinking is to set a goal.

You wanna do it? You wanna prep yourself to destress in 2012? If you are with me...

This is your first assignment for prepping yourself to destress in 2012...

Get a journal. It doesn't have to be anything fancy, it could be a blank pad of paper. The reason you need a journal is because I am going to give you exercises to explore your way of living that may be causing you stress so that you, and I (because we are going to do this together), can make some serious goals slash New Year Resolutions to destress in 2012.

Just a side note. If you do not journal, you are doing yourself and your future relatives a disservice. I have been journaling since I was in elementary school. There are so many benefits to journaling. The number one benefit, in my eyes, is you can see how far you have come over the years and how much you have grown as an individual. Another benefit is, when you go through hard times, if you journal, when you look back at those times, you can see how strong you were and how well you handled yourself. This is so important because when we succeed through hard times it strengthens us to know that we truly can handle anything.

Okay, enough of that.

Start your journey, with your journal, by reading and evaluating the basics I wrote about in my last post.

So get a journal, read and evaluate the basics from my last post, and write about what you have discovered in your new journal. That's it!

Speak soon...

Have fun and be playful, in the mean time.

Hugs...

Elizabeth

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HOW TO DESTRESS YOUR KID

2011-12-21T04:11:00.001-08:00

Hey there. How's things? It's been over two weeks since my last post and I miss you ;) I was away from the puter because my Daddy had surgery and I was hangin' with him and Mommy ;) They live about 100 miles from me.

Any who, as I spend time with them my mind goes back to growing up and of course, I think about all the stress that was there, only because I am lil Miss Destress Yourself. Their behavior is still the same but I receive it differently now, and so, NO STRESS.

When I initially went to college, my goal was to be a child Psychologist but that dream was killed by my crazy idea that when a kid is messed up, it's ALWAYS the parent's fault. I still kind of believe it.

Why do I believe that if the kid is messed up, it's the parent's fault? Well, as parents, we are suppose to be smarter than our kids but we do this stupid thing that is totally insane. We try to change unwanted behavior with the same method when it doesn't work. Please allow me to esplain... When a kid is getting bad grades, we punish by grounding him or her, and then the grounding doesn't work, the child still get's bad grades over and over again. And then we use the same method, grounding, over and over again. Don't you think that is insane?

"Hey you are not doing what I think you should so I will take privileges from you." What is wrong with this? The result is that the child thinks, "I am not good enough, so I get things taken away." And every time we do this, the child increases their belief that they are not good enough, hence the low self-confidence in our society.

Disagree? Good, comment below ;)

For some crazy reason, parent's tend to focus on what kids don't do right, all the time. "Hey, don't do that." "Hey, you should do it this way."

I know a man who loves, loves, loves my son as his own (not my significant other, just a friend of my son) and he wishes that my son were his son and/or that his son was like my son. The only thing I see here is that this man looks at all the things his son does wrong and what he doesn't do right. That is what he is focusing on.

Does he have some deep seeded belief that he ought to focus on what's wrong with his son or what his son is not doing right (right, meaning what's right according to him)? YES! It is pretty common in our society.

If, this man, were to focus only on the things his son does right, and love him, the way he loves my son, he would have the son that he thinks he should have, like my son.

I know, I know, I am rambling. But the point is, your son, or daughter, does not have to be like someone else, WE, as parents need to just love them, no matter what, and focus on all the things they do right, all the time, everyday.

ALL DAY LONG FOCUS ON WHAT YOUR KID DOES RIGHT!!!

Try this, for one day, and do not see anything they do wrong. Matter of fact, just ignore, and giggle inside over, all the things YOU THINK, they do wrong. And then just see all the things they do right. See everything they do as right. Can you do it? For just one day?

If you can do it, everyday, you will destress your kid, and yourself. Trust me, I know!!! Better yet! Don't trust me, and try it for yourself.

If we do this as parents, everyday, our kids would be perfect! The only imperfection they have is in our mind anyway.

NEWS FLASH!!! EVERYONE IS IMPERFECT! Enjoy that imperfection and just know that it is all a part of life. Life is imperfect until you see it as perfect.

That's all I got ;)

Have a magnificent week!

And don't forget to have fun!!!

Be playful!!!

Elizabeth

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HOW TO DESTRESS YOUR DEEPEST MOMENTS OF DESPAIR, PART II

2011-12-19T04:09:00.001-08:00

Hello there. The other day I gotta not so nice email, well I shouldn't say not so nice, I should say an email from someone who disagreed with me about my last post. Someone who was really defending their despair and that is okay because that is what people do.

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It is totally normal to defend your despair and totally normal to grieve and feel horrible but, when you want to feel better, and when you want to lighten the load on yourself you can tell another story, that is all I am saying.

No thoughts are neutral. Your thoughts either help you or hurt you.

So, if you are saying things like, "I can't, I won't, I couldn't, I shouldn't, I could never, or I wouldn't." Then, you may be hurting yourself. Actually, scratch the 'may be' because you are hurting yourself.

If you are saying things like, "I can, I will, I believe, I have hope, I can handle it, or this is a lesson learned." Then, you are helping yourself.

When people are angry, anxious, or depressed, they often think that they were not having thoughts that make them angry, anxious, or depressed because that is how unaware of our thoughts we really are.

I know this is true because after I speak to someone, and we explore the mood of the mind, while anger, anxiety, or depression is being experienced we discover what is really going on in their life. The conclusion always points to thoughts creating feelings.

An example of this is anxiety attacks. When someone has an anxiety attack, and I am speaking to them, calming them down, they often believe that they are not having an anxiety attack. They will say, "But I am not anxious about anything." After a little exploration, we always discover their doubt, fear, and worry.

The reason I talk about meditation and quieting the mind is because we can relax and be more in tune with our thoughts. When we quiet our mind, we can really be aware of what we are thinking.

When we right down what we want, like I talked about last post, we can remind ourselves what we should be thinking, or focusing on rather.

So, your story, is it hurting you or helping you? That is the question.

The email I got talked about the horrible things this person is experiencing and I know that there is help in the story that we tell.

You know?!? We all have horrible things that happen to us and it all depends how we handle what is given to us. I have heard the famous story of, "Oh, you don't know what I have been through, and others haven't been through as much as I have." Well, maybe, maybe not. Or, maybe people just tell a different story of what they have been through.

This is not a competition, it is creativity on how to change your thoughts, or your story, so that you can change your despair to comfort.

Many people tell the story of, "There is a purpose for everything," and I don't really know about that but I do know, "There is a lesson in EVERYTHING we experience."

Any who, I got another email telling me that writing something down on a card, an idea from my last post, won't help, and I say, try it and then tell me if it doesn't help. Try it for at least 30 days and if you are brave enough 90 days, or even a year.

That's all the rambling of my mouth that I got ;)

Love you guys ;)

Have the best day ever, and don't forget...

Have fun!!!

Be playful ;)

Elizabeth

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HOW TO DESTRESS YOUR DEEPEST MOMENTS OF DESPAIR

2011-12-12T06:42:00.001-08:00

Hey there!!!

This weekend was incredible! How did you do? Did you enjoy it? I really hope that you did, and I really hope, with all my heart, that you are enjoying your weekends, your weeks, and every moment that you are living.

It is beyond my belief, sometimes, the deepest darkest moments of despair that we go through as humans.

In my earlier years, as an EMT, I witnessed Mothers, Fathers, Sisters, Brothers, Sons, Daughters, Friends, Lovers, Spouses, and Significant others screaming in desperation over traumatic deaths or destruction for their loved ones.

As I speak with people in crisis and help defuse despair, I see and hear Paramedics, Firefighters, Police Officers, Captains, Sergeants, Dispatchers, Military Personnel, and EMT's struggle with moving from catastrophe to calm.

When we are in crisis, or in a place that is critical, there is a story that we tell. The story may be, "This is the worst thing that ever happened to me." Or, "There is no way I can handle this." Or we ask questions like, "Why me?" Or, "How am I going to handle this?"

This is a very normal way of looking at the things we go through that are not so easy to handle.

There is another story though. The nother story is this...

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The nother story is bringing ourselves to look at the bigger picture and minimizing our current situation.

To some people this will sound very cruel because they are very good at defending their despair and the horrible thing that has happened to them.

The bigger picture is that we are here, on this earth, for a purpose. We are all here for some grander purpose, and all though I don't really know exactly what it is I do know that we all must go through hard times. We must go through desperation and despair so that we can learn from what we go through.

is some sort of school that we are in so that we can get better and better as we get older. Better and better at our stress, better and better at overcoming our trials, and better and better at enjoying life.

Loosing a Father, Mother, Son, or Daughter is not new. It has been happening for years and years, since the beginning of time. Loosing our job or home is not new nor has it only happened to you because it happens to millions. Some people don't even have homes.

The story here is, this is life. Life is as easy as you think it is or as hard as you think it is.

You can think that you can handle it or you can think that you can't.

What story are you telling???

Are you defending your despair? Are you wallowing in your misery and just wondering why life is so cruel to you?

Are you creating faith in yourself, encouraging yourself, and looking for a better way? Are you telling the story that this is some phase in your life that you are going through, or have to go through, and that you will be fine because you have been through more difficult things than this?

What story are you telling yourself?

Please forgive me if I seem insensitive, that is not my intention, my goal is to provoke you to tell a better story. If, and when, we tell ourselves a better story, we can move from depression to happiness, from anxiety to calm, from worry to confidence, or from despair to peacefulness.

How do we tell ourselves a better story?

Write down what you want. Get a little card, maybe a 3X5 card, and just list the things you want.

Do you want to feel love? Then write, I AM LOVE.

Do you want to feel success? Then write, I AM SUCCESS.

Do you want to feel happiness? Then write, I AM HAPPINESS.

Do you want to feel calm? The write, I AM CALM.

If you do this, you are creating reminders of what you want.

This sounds so simple and maybe too easy but try it and I promise you can change your story immediately.

The goal is to find out what you want and move towards it! And believe it or not, we have to know what we want first, then we have to remind ourselves to think it, and then we can begin our new story.

Please, begin to destress yourself by taking this first step at creating and telling the story that you want.

YOU GOT THE POWER!

That's all I got...

Check out my post, DEEPEST MOMENTS OF DESPAIR PART II ;)

Have the best week ever, and don't forget to have fun and be playful.

BIG HUGS!!!

Elizabeth

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YOU ARE LOVABLE!

2011-12-07T04:06:00.001-08:00

Hello my friend.

How's things? How's life?

Did you ponder? Did you ponder that YOU ARE LOVE?

I did, all day yesterday. It's hard to believe that we are love but it's true.

When I was pondering that I AM LOVE, I was looking for evidence and I decided that... I AM LOVABLE!

How in the heck did I come up with that conclusion? LOL!!! Well, I know how to love, unconditionally, and I feel love, most of the time ;) And people really love me. I mean, really love me ;)

Do you believe that YOU ARE LOVABLE???

I DO!!!

Think about that one for a day or two ;)

How do I know you are lovable??? Because you are love!

I know, I know, I am rambling about love again. The thing is our thoughts of doubt, fear, and worry that run on and on automatically, morning, noon, and night is what causes our stress. These thoughts cause anger, anxiety, depression, and fatigue. Oh and meaness!

Ewwwwwwwwww, people are mean when they are stressed, even the nicest of people.

So, back to the rambling about love. What I am trying to do is provoke some pondering. Pondering about yourself and pondering about love.

You my friend are love, you come from love, and you give love to the one's you love and therefore, you are lovable!

If we were to ponder on our BEING LOVE or BEING LOVABLE, some how we would decrease and eventually eliminate our stressful thoughts that are causing our unhappiness and discomfort in life.

One of the greatest things that we can do is take responsibility for our thoughts. People actually believe that we do not have control of our own thoughts and that's only because it has not been a habit for them.

People I work with, whether in person or via email, are the most loving people I know and sometimes they can be the meanest people as well. That is not a statement to be unkind, they know they can be mean and that is part of the reason they work with me ;)

The point is, people have the capability to be love all the time. Decrease the stress, and the meaness, and increase the love.

So, spend a day, or two, pondering and contemplating your lovableness and watch the evidence appear and watch you just increase the love and decrease the stress, better known as destressing yourself.

Be brave my friend ;) Spend your time thinking of better things in life :) It's so easy, it's just thoughts ;)

YOU ARE HERE BECAUSE YOU WANT TO INCREASE YOUR HAPPINESS, ENERGY, AND VITALITY! YOU GOT THE POWER! I HAVE FAITH IN YOU!

Let me know how it goes.

Have a great weekend!

And don't forget...

Have fun and be playful.

BUG HUGS!!!

Elizabeth

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YOU ARE LOVE!!!

2011-11-30T18:47:00.001-08:00

Do you believe it???

Do you believe you are love???

I believe it!!!

Think about it, when you were born, you were this cuddly little baby full of love, from God, and then, our parents, teachers, and society, showed us how to be 'not love'.

What I mean is, when we were born, we were all love, all of the time. What we are now is love when we believe we are and not love when we believe we are not.

Love is the highest energy level anyone could ever have. For example, when you fall in love, do you not feel energy and happiness?

I love love! And I feel love all of the time, well most of the time. I feel love as frequently as possible because I know how good it makes me feel, and I believe that I am love.

What if you were to believe that you were love and that you could feel love any time you wanted to?

Wouldn't you feel really good all the time? Wouldn't you have lots of energy?

My son is 25 years old and I recently renamed him Agape. Agape is a Greek word for LOVE but not just LOVE, but the highest LOVE, the LOVE from GOD. This might sound crazy to you but it is fun and I love it. I don't call him by his old name, the name he was given at birth, funny huh? It's funny and it's playful, and it's full of love.

The reason I did this is because he, my son, loves unconditionally. He does not put conditions on how and when he loves me. He just loves me all of the time.

Do you put conditions on how and when you love someone?

Do you put conditions on how and when you love YOU?

YOU ARE LOVE!!! Ponder that for a day or two, really!

I know, I know, I am rambling about love but I think you should do it. I think you should ponder, for a day or two, how you are love and how you can be love.

Have an open mind, and just try it. If you are stressed, you can spend a day or two pondering how you are love and I promise you that you will destress yourself.

Let me know how it goes, email me. I love hearing from you.

That's all the rambling I have today ;)

I LOVE YOU!!!

Have a great day and don't forget...

Have fun and be playful.

Elizabeth

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ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING WHEN DETRESSING YOURSELF!

2011-11-29T04:35:00.001-08:00

Hello my peoples ;)

Hope your week is starting off perfectly. Mine is, we got some snow over the weekend and if you know me, you know, I LOVE THE SNOW :)

The last couple of weeks I have gotten several emails about quieting the mind. Sheee Hooo!!! Lots of resistance there ;) It's okay though, actually it's perfect. No one should attempt to or learn to quiet their mind until they are ready. It's all in the attitude.

Attitude is the construct of our likes and dislikes.

Attitude is the perspective one has towards a person, place, or thing.

Those are just definitions that I Googled, he he he...

The way I define attitude is your thoughts, feelings, and actions towards anything. Any thing you think, feel, or do is not neutral, it is positive or negative.

What I am trying to say is, if you think you can meditate, you can. If you feel good about meditation, you will meditate. If you just meditate, it will get easier.

The reason I am saying all of this is because stress is doubt, fear, and worry and if you meditate you can calm your thoughts of doubt, fear, and worry. At first, when you quiet your mind, you will really notice your unhealthy thoughts.

Many of my clients tell me, after they learn to meditate and quiet their mind, that they didn't realize how negative their thought process is. When you discover this, you can turn it around.

Did you know that we have at least 60,000 thoughts a day?

People really believe that they know what they are thinking. If we knew what we were thinking, we would make ourselves think thoughts like, "I can be, do, have anything my heart desires," and believe it! And then pursue what we want to be, do, and have.

When you meditate, and quiet your mind, you can notice those limiting beliefs like, "I am not pretty enough, skinny enough, smart enough, or energetic enough to do this or that."

When you destress yourself, you discover your stressful habits, which are usually your thought processes, and then you eliminate them by replacing them with healthier and more powerful thoughts.

So I am trying to create some persuasion for meditation here. Quiet your mind, calm yourself and your body, discover your unhealthy thoughts, question those thoughts, and turn them around.

Attitude is everything when you wanna destress yourself.

You gotta believe you can meditate and see the benefits of meditation. You gotta feel good about meditation, and you will do it. You gotta just do it, and it will get easier.

YOU GOT THE POWER!!! JOO CAN DO IT!!!

That's all I got...

Have a super duper alli ooper week, and don't forget to have fun and be playful.

Elizabeth

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HOW TO DESTRESS ;)

2011-08-18T19:20:00.001-07:00

Hello...

One of the most popular search phrases for my web site is 'how to destress' and so, I thought I would write just a little bit about how to destress ;)

HOW TO DESTRESS

Got several questions for you ;)

Do you believe in God?

I mean, really, deep down in your heart, believe in God?

Do you believe that He is there for you and answers your prayers?

Do you have faith? Faith that He is in control and will take care of you?

Man oh man, I wish I was a Scriptorian because I know there are plenty of scriptures that tell us to believe, that He will answer our prayers, to have faith, that He is in control, and He will take care of you.

When I was a young, single mother, I use to struggle, I mean really struggle with money. When my son was around 8 years old, I had barely any money to survive, and I happen to be struggling with a lil PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder).

I was literally having anxiety attacks and crying with depression, all the time. My stress level was so high my blood sugar was dropping as low as 35 (80 to 120 is normal).

It was a long, long time ago but a very desperate time for me.

The reason I am telling you this is because, in the most desperate of times we need to know how to destress.

What got me through all of that, and much much more, is my faith in God and that He would, and will, always take care of me.

What I use to do, and still do sometimes, is every night I would get down on my knees, put my forehead on my folded arms on my bed, and I would imagine that I had my arms and forehead on His lap, like He was right there, listening, and supporting me. It may sound crazy, but it totally worked.

One thing I know about my faith in God is that it is REAL!!! It is not the superficial FAITH, HOPE, AND CHARITY, only when I am at church, or when I can serve conveniently. It is REAL!!!

My greatest teacher is God, and my next greatest teacher is stress. Believe you/me, I have had some serious stress in my life and I know that I live a destressed life because of it, no matter what is happening. Sure, I get stressed, but it is a fraction of what it has ever been because I learned how to deal with it through my faith and relationship with God.

So, how so you destress yourself? If you REALLY, TRULY believe, then turn to Him! Try the prayer with your arms and head on His lap. He is listening, He answers your prayers, He is close, He loves you, and He is there for you.

If you are really having a hard time and you REALLY BELIEVE, then try this. Spend one day with Him, sitting, walking, and talking to Him like He is by your side. Just use your imagination, this once, and you will see what happens to your faith in Him, in life, and in yourself.

But please, please, please don't believe me, try it for yourself.

That's all I got...

Have a great day and don't forget to have fun and be playful.

Elizabeth

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WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO QUIET YOUR MIND?

2011-07-13T04:30:00.001-07:00

Got a good email yesterday asking me...

Why would you want to quiet your mind?

What a great question!

It has been about 12 years since I first started to meditate. I have no idea what made me start to meditate, it was probably some book I was reading but I do remember hearing people say they meditated and I was super duper curious about it.

I remember the beginning so well. When I first started to quiet my mind, it was very difficult. It took a good month for me to be able to just sit and be still in my mind. When I first started, it took like 10 to 15 minutes to get my thoughts to stop and when you are meditating for 20 or 30 minutes, that is a long time.

To answer the question, this is what I got...

When you learn to quiet your mind, you really notice your thoughts in your head. What I mean is, you practice meditating and then when you are not meditating you become so aware of your mind you hear your thoughts. You hear the thoughts that are going on and on without you even knowing it because you are busy with other activities.

When you hear your thoughts more clearly, you start to become astonished at the mood of your mind. Maybe your mood is to constantly defend yourself, which can mean low self-esteem. Maybe your mood is to criticize others, which could mean you are critical of yourself. Maybe your mood is to worry about the future, which is a culprit of anxiety. Maybe your mood is to focus on what you don't have or how lousy your life is, which is depression.

When you hear these thoughts more clearly, you can, and will discover your stressful thought patterns.

WAIT! There is something else too. When you begin to quiet your mind, you become more focused, more patient, and able to enjoy life more.

When your mind is still, it becomes a habit and when you are thinking about the things you need to do, you become more focused on your to do tasks. Not the to do tasks you have written down but the tasks in your head.

When your mind is still, it becomes a habit and when you are standing in line, or waiting for something, because your mind is quiet, you are more patient.

When your mind is still, it becomes a habit and when you are just sitting there you can notice, JUST NOTICE, the beauty around you, the beauty in your surroundings, the beauty in your life, and the beauty in the person you are with. Kind of like smelling the roses.

WAIT THERE'S MORE!

Ever since I started to meditate, things I wished for, or dreamed about began to show up. Be careful for what you wish for comes to mind. I don't know what makes this happen but it does. It's like magic, I swear.

Money for a trip I wanted to take showed up when I didn't have the money. The car of my dreams showed up at an affordable price when it was usually much more expensive. I wanted to live in a small town and within a year I ended up where I am now. I no longer wanted to work for a corporation because I wanted to focus on my business and then I was laid-off with a 7 month severance package.

And, finally, I have always wanted to be close to Heavenly Father and I have been getting closer and closer every year and I know that my soul is truly expanding, and evolving, and developing, and progressing. I know that this is so because I am reacting totally different than I use to in a much kinder, more patient, and loving way.

Much more has happened and continues to happen and I think, no I know, it is because I quiet my mind, and it really really creates happiness, energy, focus, organization, productivity, and vitality.

Now, those are just some reasons, my friend, why you want to quiet your mind.

But please, please, please, do not believe me, try it for yourself.

That's all I got.

Have a great day and don't forget to have fun and be playful.

Elizabeth