Thought Beads

Force of Habit!!

2015-02-07T22:48:00.000-08:00

One day a man found a book in his attic.
The book was so old that the papers were yellow and some of the pages crumbled as he turned them.
He discovered that it was a book on magic but try as he might he could not understand any portion of it except one paragraph. The paragraph stated that on the shores of the Black Sea there was a pebble that could turn anything it was touched to into gold. This pebble, the ancient writer said, could be distinguished from the others only by touching it : unlike the other pebbles it was warm to the touch.
The man went to the shores of the Black Sea and began to search for the pebble.
From morning to night he would pick up pebbles and feel them.
To ensure that he did not pick up the same pebble twice he would fling every pebble he picked up, far out into the sea.
The days stretched into weeks and then into months. A year passed. Then another. The man went on looking for the pebble. But every pebble he picked up was as cold as ice and he flung them away as fast as he picked them. Now he had become so expert at it that he could pick up a pebble and fling it into the sea with one smooth action.
One evening as he was wearily leaving the beach after another day’s search he saw a pebble in front of him.
He picked it up. It was warm. But out of force of habit he flung it far out into the sea!

J J its hard to get rid of old habits. Best is to have good habits so that we do not have to repent for it anytime!!

Farmer & Mule

2014-06-26T22:26:00.000-07:00

When Bad luck is enough : Shake It Off and Step Up
A parable is told of a farmer who owned an old mule. The mule fell into the farmer's well. The farmer heard the mule 'braying' -- or whatever mules do when they fall into wells. After carefully assessing the situation, the farmer felt sorry for the mule, but decided that neither the mule nor the well was worth saving. Instead, he called his neighbors together and told them what had happened and asked them to help haul dirt to bury the old mule in the well and put him out of his misery.

Initially, the old mule was hysterical! But as the farmer and his neighbors continued shoveling and the dirt hit his back, a thought struck him. It suddenly dawned on him that every time a shovel load of dirt landed on his back: he should shake it off and step up! This is what the old mule did, blow after blow. "Shake it off and step up... shake it off and step up... shake it off and step up!" he repeated to encourage himself.

No matter how painful the blows, or distressing the situation seemed, the old mule fought "panic" and just kept right on shaking it off and stepping up! You guessed it! It wasn't long before the old mule, battered and exhausted, stepped triumphantly over the wall of that well! What seemed like it would bury him, actually end up blessing him. All because of the manner in which he handled his adversity.

Learning at Manthan Mala =Thought beads
Lets accept it that the situation is bad, very bad no ray of Hope so which means nothing worse can happen after this If so then whatever will happen now can be better than this only
There are only to options left either except that the situation is so worse that no further bad will be happening or just believe that situation is not so bad and fight with it

In either case keep fighting as not fighting will leave you in the situation you are like donkey in the well .

Some Tangential Thoughts :

The old donkey - that is us (the nation)
The large hole - the debt (that was easy)
The villagers - Poleticians / Rulers
The trash - revenue (tax money, which is the way the government raises funds to operate)

The villagers didn't give the donkey a shovel and told it to dig its way out, they filled the hole - albeit unintentionally.You need to stop digging the hole deeper before you try to fill it up. That's the key.I'm not going to argue in this issue whether or not increasing taxes is the solution to filling the hole Ok lets leave this part for some other time .

Defodils

2014-03-09T08:51:00.000-07:00

Several times my daughter had telephoned to say, "Mother, you must come see the daffodils before they are over." I wanted to go, but it was a two-hour drive from Laguna to Lake Arrowhead.

"I will come next Tuesday, " I promised, a little reluctantly, on her third call.

Next Tuesday dawned cold and rainy. Still, I had promised, and so I drove there. When I finally walked into Carolyn's house and hugged and greeted my grandchildren, I said, "Forget the daffodils, Carolyn! The road is invisible in the clouds and fog, and there is nothing in the world except you and these children that I want to see bad enough to drive another inch!"

My daughter smiled calmly and said, "We drive in this all the time, Mother."

"Well, you won't get me back on the road until it clears, and then I'm heading for home!" I assured her.

"I was hoping you'd take me over to the garage to pick up my car."

"How far will we have to drive?"

"Just a few blocks," Carolyn said. "I'll drive. I'm used to this."

After several minutes, I had to ask, "Where are we going? This isn't the way to the garage!"

"We're going to my garage the long way," Carolyn smiled, "by way of the daffodils."

"Carolyn," I said sternly, "please turn around."

"It's all right, Mother, I promise. You will never forgive yourself if you miss this experience."

After about twenty minutes, we turned onto a small gravel road and I saw a small church. On the far side of the church, I saw a hand-lettered sign that said, "Daffodil Garden."

We got out of the car and each took a child's hand, and I followed Carolyn down the path. Then, we turned a corner of the path, and I looked up and gasped. Before me lay the most glorious sight. It looked as though someone had taken a great vat of gold and poured it down over the mountain peak and slopes. The flowers were planted in majestic, swirling patterns-great ribbons and swaths of deep orange, white, lemon yellow, salmon pink, saffron, and butter yellow. Each different-colored variety was planted as a group so that it swirled and flowed like its own river with its own unique hue. There were five acres of flowers.

"But who has done this?" I asked Carolyn.

"It's just one woman," Carolyn answered. "She lives on the property. That's her home."

Carolyn pointed to a well kept A-frame house that looked small and modest in the midst of all that glory. We walked up to the house. On the patio, we saw a poster. "Answers to the Questions I Know You Are Asking" was the headline.

The first answer was a simple one."50,000 bulbs," it read. The second answer was, "One at a time, by one woman. Two hands, two feet, and very little brain." The third answer was, "Began in 1958.."

There it was, The Daffodil Principle. For me, that moment was a life-changing experience. I thought of this woman whom I had never met, who, more than forty years before, had begun ~ one bulb at a time ~ to bring her vision of beauty and joy to an obscure mountain top. Still, just planting one bulb at a time, year after year, had changed the world. This unknown woman had forever changed the world in which she lived. She had created something of ineffable (indescribable) magnificence, beauty, and inspiration.

The principle her daffodil garden taught is one of the greatest principles of celebration. That is, learning to move toward our goals and desires one step at a time ~ often just one baby-step at a time ~ and learning to love the doing, learning to use the accumulation of time. When we multiply tiny pieces of time with small increments of daily effort, we too will find we can accomplish magnificent things. We can change the world.

"It makes me sad in a way," I admitted to Carolyn. "What might I have accomplished if I had thought of a wonderful goal thirty-five or forty years ago and had worked away at it 'one bulb at a time' through all those years. Just think what I might have been able to achieve!"

My daughter summed up the message of the day in her usual direct way. "Start tomorrow," she said.

My Boss Taught Me Series

2013-11-08T11:12:00.000-08:00

There will be a series of post attributed to my mentors and bosses taught me. And how they have been a key to bring best out of me.
Have you had someone in your career who made a big difference, a lasting impression? Who would you nominate as the best boss or best leader you have known
Some times your bosses/mentors teach you even when they did not deliberately made any effort to teach you. Ans as Indians Say "kuki saas bhi kabhi bahuu thi" or boss be kabhi subordinate tha :P. May be this series will make you look back and contemplate that. How he has made you a better boss. Or May be my boss can teach you the same concept like he/she did to me. Or even better may be after reading them you will like to be the boss to make the change
Boss is always right !!

3 ways How Mentoring Matters

2013-10-26T11:17:00.000-07:00

3 Ways the mentors who have achieved success with hard way out deal with their team

First, they will let you go through every step with mistakes and pains they have taken and then tell you look even you cannot do it.
Second, They will ensure you face none of the hardships and get a cake walk because they foresee and clear the hurdles you may have to face
Third one and my favorite is one who nurtures you to face the hurdle yourself ,give cautions as well as allows you to make your own mistakes and guides you to foresee the troubles on your own.

Maslow’s Motivation Mantra of Milkha Sing the flying sikh of India (Bhaag Milkha Bhag)

2013-09-06T10:20:00.000-07:00

Winners Don't Do Different Things They Do Things Differently:

The question is always the same after all what motivated the winner to sustain the extreme pressure for and do things differently. What motivated the person to keep going towards acme of success? What motivates his behaviour?

According to humanist psychologist Abraham Maslow, our actions are motivated in order achieve certain needs. Abraham Maslow studied what he called exemplary people such as Albert Einstein, Jane Addams, Eleanor Roosevelt, and Frederick Douglass who till date known as the real achievers of their times in addition to Maslow studied the healthiest 1% of the college student population and came up with a paper in year 1943 and Gave his theory of Motivation as Maslows’s hierarchy of needs . After him there came lot many motivational theories on and clinical psychology and psychiatry but till date your knowledge of Human Motivational theory is incomplete without Maslows .

Maslows finding wouldn’t have been deviated a bit for the exemplary sports man Milkha Singh . The recent biopic on him portrays him as a true winner who kept winning, kept himself motivated may be for different reasons at different stages of his life and gradually moved towards the top of pyramid Self actualization.

Like any other biopic “Bhaag Milkha Bhag” also comprises of stories of guts, disappointment and glory but much more than it for a layman to learn about . The picture though portrays the story of success and glory with emotional turmoil of the nation’s pre-eminent athlete from 1947 to 1960 and his growth cycle .Lets observe closely how Bhaag Milkha Bhag is registering it self for the motivation epic for management gurus. According to Maslow’s there are five levels of Hierarchy of Needs

1. Physiological Needs

Milkha singh won his first race in the camp in his craving for Milk his basic need for special diet . His first motivation was reflected by the twinkle in his eyes on announcement of the rewards of winning the race. which suffices the very base of the pyramid physiological needs

These include the most basic and instinctive needs that are vital to survival, such as the need for water, air, food, and sleep. It puts all the needs become secondary until these physiological needs are met.

2. Security Needs

The real dash of the doyen Milkha begun when he had to run to save his life as per the instructions of his father to save himself in the riots of 1947 and though scary like hell but still it was a motivation where he had no other option except to win to stay alive for the sense of Security which according to Maslow’s is another step of motivation. Though for Milkha this sense of security soon moved to other aspects like steady employment when his love interest questions his carefree life style.

3. Social Needs

As a contender for race Milkha instantly feels longing for respect and acceptance among the fellow members when he says,”I want to wear the coat , as the coat begets the respect from all”. The desire to be called Champion Milkha singh and wear the Coat of India and further to prove himself as an eligible contender and earn the badge pumps him to run in race even after the severe injuries which were result of the dirty internal rivalry of other sports man. He thus proves that a strong motivation and desire to win needs no boundaries

According to Maslow’s once the previous two needs get fulfilled a person is motivated by his Social Needs which includes include needs for belonging, love, and affection. Relationships such as friendships, romantic attachments, and families help fulfil this need for companionship and acceptance, as does involvement in social, community, or religious groups.

4 Esteem Needs

After the first three needs have been satisfied, esteem needs becomes increasingly important. These include the need for things that reflect on self-esteem, personal worth, social recognition, and accomplishment.

Once Milkha looses the race at Melbourne summer Olympics which gives him a personal dent .rather than moving into the spiral of depression he sets himself a target to break the record and retrieve the self esteem and accomplishment in his coming race which he successfully did in 1960 summer Olympics at Rome where Singh's fourth-place time of 45.73 became the Indian national record and held for almost 40 years. This was followed by many more wins including multiple Gold Medals in Asian games and Common wreath games. This almost justifies Maslow’s last but Motivational cause the Esteem Needs which reflect on self-esteem, personal worth, social recognition, and accomplishment.

5. Self-actualizing Needs

This is the highest level of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. Self-actualizing people are self-aware, concerned with personal growth, less concerned with the opinions of others, and interested fulfilling their potential.

Though Milkha had loads of political pressure but he initially denied to participate in the Peace games organised in Pakistan but later went there. He went back to his mother land and overcame his internal pain and fear . Shreds the burden and enlightens himself for the moment and he fights that race for no one else then himself. Thats why its said he didn’t ran he flew that day and earned a title of Flying Sikh for himself. And that states the ultimate motivation of a person can have Self Actualization.This is the highest level of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. This motivated state of a person makes himself aware, indifferent with others opinion and focused on fulfilling their potential. According to Maslow once a person reaches this peak of Pyramid he can be in auto motivated mode.

Though to an extent i agree that a man cannot be bound to the theories but still the iconic Milkha singh has proved if you just keep yourself enough motivated then success

Though the motivation behind every race he won was different followed by his dedication and devotion but still the similarities couldn’t be neglected.

The story of Milkha Singh is un doubtly inspirational. In this three hour saga, which takes us from Milkha's childhood in then Punjab-now Pakistan, the trauma of Partition and being torn from his (Milkha's) family, his lawless youth, his joining the Indian Army and gaining respectability. Followed by discovering the joys of running. For himself, and for the honor of his nation.

Working in a biopic definitely Farahan has made his name hard coded not only in hearts of Indians but also the international crowd to bring the story of Glory on the big screen with the respect it deserves .So the crowning glory of this one goes to Farhan and the director Omprakash .

~ Kriti

You may like to read ROCK ON and Farhan's Experiments with hair styles

http://creativekriti.wordpress.com/2008/10/07/rocking-rock-on/

P.S : Original post was published on my blog Buddhu box Thought you wouldnt like to miss it so posting here too

Connecting the dots

2013-06-22T14:07:00.000-07:00

If you try to look this phrase in dictionary it might lead you to a meaning which will sound some thing like to understand the relationship between different ideas or experiences.

Some thing when you will understand why it happened with you or why with you only. Believe it or not every thing happening in your life every person you are meeting with in your life has a purpose for it. Its just that most of the times it takes longer than required to understand the purpose of it.a

If you will ask me that you have undergone through a bad phase fired from a job ,dumped by your girl friend or boy friend . I will say wait and watch it all happened for a purpose.

May there is something pending for you to learn . May be learning the right lessons were pending if re occurrence of some events keep happening in your life.

You can't connect the dots looking forward you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something: your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. Because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart, even when it leads you off the well worn path. ~ Steve Jobs

There is so much to be said and explored about this but just that for today thats it may be we will be elaborating on it some time further. I personally can back this up with lots of examples from my life and my dear one's life that nothing neither happiness nor sorrows is bad for us every thing is merely a small part of the master plan. And as soon as we start viewing the bigger picture the pieces fit in it that well.

Around you many examples you will find that just because they were fired from job/relationship the were able to open their own business or met a better person. In short what i want to say is nothing happens to us is actually bad its just a twist or turn created to make the master plan interesting :)

Till we write more on this be happy

Regards

Kriti

IPL an Excitement or not

2013-05-23T03:15:00.000-07:00

I find it strange that public becomes highly active when it comes to fixing cricket but shows no protest when politicians do the same . Games do effect us but what politicians do effects us for much more longer and deeper to the roots of the country. Yes what happened is wrong but then that does not effects my love for the games as a matter of fact even reality shows are claimed to be fixed and leaded by TRP so do we stop watching them or blaming the channels. iam not justifying what happened but saying we have even bigger impact-full things to focus on

Japnese Judo ~ weakness is strength

2013-04-06T01:13:00.000-07:00

Lessons from a Japanese story. a 10 year old boy decided to study judo despite the fact that he had lost his left arm in a devastating car accident.

The boy began lessons with an old Japanese judo master. The boy was doing well, so he couldn't understand why, after three months of training the master had taught him only one move.

"Sensei,"(Teacher in Japanese) the boy finally said, "Shouldn't I be learning more moves?" "This is the only move you know, but this is the only move you'll ever need to know," the sensei replied.

Not quite understanding, but believing in his teacher, the boy kept training. Several months later, the sensei took the boy to his first tournament.

Surprising himself, the boy easily won his first two matches. The third match proved to be more difficult, but after some time, his opponent became impatient and charged; the boy deftly used his one move to win the match. Still amazed by his success, the boy was now in the finals.

This time, his opponent was bigger, stronger, and more experienced. For a while, the boy appeared to be overmatched. Concerned that the boy might get hurt, the referee called a time-out.

He was about to stop the match when the sensei intervened. "No," the sensei insisted, "Let him continue." Soon after the match resumed, his opponent made a critical mistake: he dropped his guard. Instantly, the boy used his move to pin him. The boy had won the match and the tournament.

He was the champion. On the way home, the boy and sensei reviewed every move in each and every match. Then the boy summoned the courage to ask what was really on his mind.

"Sensei, how did I win the tournament with only one move?"

"You won for two reasons," the sensei answered. "First, you've almost mastered one of the most difficult throws in all of judo. And second, the only known defense for that move is for your opponent to grab your left arm."

The boy's biggest weakness had become his biggest strength. Sometimes we feel that we have certain weaknesses and we blame God, the circumstances or ourselves for it but we never know that our weaknesses can become our strengths one day.

Moral: "Each of us is special and important, so never think you have any weakness, never think of pride or pain, just live your life to its fullest and extract the best out of it!"

We exist in Blogo sphere

2013-03-31T02:35:00.000-07:00

Creative key series of Blog got recognition in Times of India on 31 March 2013

सीता का अंतर्द्वंद

2013-02-07T19:50:00.003-08:00

जैसे ही किसी महिला के साथ कोई अनहोनी होती है समाज के तथाकथित माननिया लोगो को महिला वर्ग को यह कहने की छूट मिल जाती है की यदि नारी लक्ष्मण रेखा लान्घेगी तो उसका सामना रावण से होगा और वह युद्ध का कारण बनेगी. समाज की सुकून से चल रही अर्थव्यस्था को हिला देगी .सभी हिदायतो में महिला को जल्द से जल्द घर पहुचना और वही रहना सुरक्षित माना जाने लगता है जैसे उसके साथ हुई अनहोनी का एक मात्र कारण वह महिला स्वं है व इसमें किसी भी प्रकार से पुरुष वर्ग अथवा समाज का कोई हस्तक्षेप नहीं है. कही यह हमारे समाज की कुंठित सोच का तो प्रमाण नहीं की महिला ही पीड़ित है व उसकी पीड़ा का कारण भी वह स्वं है

यदि विडम्बना देखे तो सीता माता का हरण तो उनके घर के सामने से ही हुआ था . एक महिला तो अपने घर में भी सुरक्षित नहीं थी ये कैसा न्याय है की माता सीता पीड़ित है क्युकी उनका अपरहण हुआ और पीड़ा अथवा युद्ध का कारण भी क्युकी उन्होंने लक्ष्मण रेखा को उलंघा . कोई महिला घर से मीलो दूर रहे या घर के भीतर , कम वस्त्र पहने या वस्त्रों से लदी हो यह किसी भी व्यक्ति या व्यक्ति विशेष को उसके अपहरण या उसकी अस्मिता को ठेस पहुचाने का अधिकार नहीं.

Sita was Kidnapped from front of her house

क्या सामान्य परिस्थिति में भी उनका भिक्षुक साधू को भिक्षा देना इतना बड़ा अपराध होता जितने की उपमा माता सीता को दी जाती है. यदि हम कुछ क्षण ले कर सीता के मानसिक अंतर्द्वंद को जाने. सीता का पालनपोषण एवं विवाह दोनों ही उच्च कुल के राज घराने में हुआ था तो वे अपने घर आए याचक को खाली हाथ कैसे जाने देती. सीता तो मात्र अपने राज धर्म, अतिथि धर्म के कारण वश याचक की याचना पूर्ण करने को बद्ध थी.

यह स्वीकार्य है की साधू बेश धारी रावण सामान्य से अधिक अडिग था की माता सीता उसे लक्ष्मण रेखा पार कर के ही भिक्षा दे . और शायद सीता को इस व्यवहार पर सतर्क होना चाहिए था. यदि हम उस क्षण उनके स्थान पर हो कर उनके मानसिक अंतर्द्वंद/विवशता को जाने जिसके कारण उन्होंने आखिर लक्ष्मण रेखा को कुल के हित हेतु पार करना पड़ा. जिस महिला ने भिक्षुक साधू के आने के कुछ ही पलो पहले उन्होंने अपने पति की रुग्ण करुण पुकार सुनी हो और जिसके परिवार के सभी पुरुष घर के बहार गए हो तो क्या वो किसी साधू को रुष्ट कर के किसी प्रकार के श्राप का जोखिम उठा सकती थी. वो भी जब उसने अपने परिवार में दुर्वासा के सामान क्रोधित हो कर श्रापित करने वाले ऋषि की कथाये सुनी हो.शायद कोई बिरली महिला ही हो जो अपने परिवार में अहित की आशंका मात्र को रोकने हेतु उस रेखा को पार न करे.

माता सीता की स्थिति आज की महिला से अधिक भिन्न नहीं थी जो कुरियर वाले के लिए पानी लाए और उस पर हमला हो जाये. आखिर सीता को इस विषय का ज्ञान/आभास कैसे होता जब उस समय क्राइम पेट्रोल , दस्तक , समाचार आदि की कोई दैनिक व्यस्था नहीं थी. और यदि होती भी तो क्या मनुष्य मनुष्य पर विश्वास करना छोड़ देगा. यदि उनसे इतनी सतर्कता और अविश्वास की उम्मीद की जाती है तो क्यों एक बार भी श्री राम के मन में किसी षड्यंत्र का आभास नहीं आया जब एक धोबी उनकी पतिव्रता स्त्री पर लांछन लगा रहा था.क्यों उन्होंने यह नहीं सोचा यह किसी राजा ,देव अथवा राक्षस की सोची समझी चाल है उनके परिवार को अलग करने की. जब श्री राम मर्यादा पुरषोत्तम है तो माता सीता भी उनसे किसी माइएने में लेश मात्र भी कम नहीं.

आज के युग की महिला पुरुष वर्ग की कंधे से कंधा मिला कर उसका बोझ हल्का कर रही है न की अपनी किसी मर्यादा का उल्लंघन

यदि हम यह मान भी ले की सीता ने लक्ष्मण रेखा पार नहीं करती , और याचक को अपनी विवशता बता कर भिक्षा नहीं देती ,तो क्या जब श्री राम व लक्ष्मण लौट कर आते तो वे सीता को अपने धर्म से विमुख हो कर ऋषि को खाली हाथ लोटाने का उलहना नहीं देते.यदि उन्होंने कोई उलहना न भी दी होती तो क्या वे इस ग्लानी से स्वं को बचा पाती .रावण तो पूर्ण योजना के साथ सीता के हरण के उद्देश्य मात्र से आया था यदि वह सीता को ऐसे नहीं हरता तो वह निश्चित ही कोई दूसरा तरीका तलाश लेता सीता को आहत करने का .

यदि हम इस घटना की तह में जाने का प्रयास करे तो पाएंगे की रावण के इस कुकृत्य के पीछे एक आहत भाई था जो हर हाल में अपनी बहन के अपमान का प्रतिशोध लेना चाहता था. आखिर लक्ष्मण ने उसकी बहन शूर्पनखा के नाक व कान काट कर उसे अपमानित किया था . श्री राम व लक्ष्मण को यह आभास तो अवश्य होगा की यदि हम किसी के परिवार का मान उसकी महिला के साथ किसी प्रकार का दुर्व्यहार या दंड देंगे तो आखिर उसके परिवार में भी प्रितिशोध की अग्नि तो जलेगी ही .क्या वे बीर पुरुष अपने वाक् चातुर्य से शूर्पनखा को बहला कर वापिस नहीं कर सकते थे .

क्युकी उस समय अंतर्राष्टीय न्यायलय जैसी कोई सुविधा नहीं थी तो रावण व लक्ष्मण ने अपने प्रिय जन के हित के निहित छल व अस्त्र का सहारा लिया .परन्तु पीड़ित तो दोनों ही स्थिति में नारी हुई चाहे वो सीता हो अथवा शूर्पनखा. यदि राम व रावण में से कोई भी राजा अपने पूर्ण विवेक से कार्य करता तो ये सभी अनहोनी टल सकती थी.

राम- लक्षमन हो या रावण सभी नारी के अपमान के बाद युद्ध में अपना पौरुष दिखाने को तैयार है क्यों हमारे समाज में “जटायु” के सामान स्त्री की अस्मिता को बचाने को स्वं के प्राण न्योछावर करने वालो की कमी है.हमारे ग्रंथो का कोई भी युद्ध नारी के कारण नहीं नारी के अपमान के लिए आवाज उठाने के लिए हुए है . अब भी वक्त है जब समाज को सीता पर आरोप लगाने के स्थान पर उसकी व्यथा को समझना होगा सामाजिक न्याय व्यवस्था को मनुष्य जाती के सामूहिक हित के हेतु बदलना होगा .

इस लेख से मेरा उद्देश्य किसी की धार्मिक भावनाओ को आहत करना नहीं है अपितु उन्ही घटनाओ को एक अलग द्रष्टिकोन देना है .
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रीता अपनी आज की रेल यात्रा को ले कर एक और तो उत्साहित थी वही अकेले १०-१२ घंटे का सफर तय करने के नाम पर दिल में हो रही धक् धक् को चहरे पर न आने देने की पूरी कोशिश भी कर रही थी.आखिर ये उसके लिए एक कसौटी थी, जिसपर खरा उतर कर ही उसे शहर से बहार मनपसंद जॉब के लिए पिताजी की अनुमति मिलती . इसलिए तो उसने खुद ही अपने छोटे भाई को कोटा की कोचिंग में छोड़ने आने का बीड़ा उठाया था. मन के अंदर चल रहे इस उत्साह और घबराहट के रंग बार बार उसके चेहरे पर आ जा रहे थे कि इसी बीच उसके खयालो के बहाव को तोडती ट्रेन प्लेटफार्म पर खड़ी हो चुकी थी .रीता पसीने भरे हाथो में सामान पकडे मन ही मन अपना सीट नंबर एस -८ में २४ दोहराते, ट्रेन के बहार लगे चार्ट में अपना नाम देख कर खुद को आश्वस्त कर रही थी कि वो सही ट्रेन में सही जगह ही जा कर बैठे.

रीता को तसल्ली थी कि चलो साएड में ऊपर की बर्थ है अच्छा है किसी से बात चीत का झंजट नहीं रहेगा रातभर सफर सोते बीत जायेगा सुबह पिताजी लेने आ ही जायेंगे.कोटा आते समय तो छोटा भाई साथ में था तो समय का पता ही नही चला.

अपनी सीट पर पहुचते ही अपने सामान में ताला चाबी व् चेन लगा ली. पूरे कम्पार्टमेंट की बची ७ सीटों में लडको का एक टोली थी जो न जाने किस मस्ती में मगन थी खैर उसे तो चुपचाप ऊपर जा के सोना ही था. देखने में तो वे सभी सामान्य परिवार के लग रहे थे २-३ शायद १५-१८ साल के व ३-४ कुछ २०-२५ वर्ष के बीच लग रहे थे. ऊपर बैठे हुए रीता को उनकी बाते उसे न चाहते हुए भी सुनाई तो पड़ रही थी पर समझ नहीं आ रही थी बीच बीच में शर्त और कुछ अपशब्द शायद वो इतनी आवाजो में से अलग कर पाई थी. इन बातो से अपना मन हटाने के लिए वो अपनी किताब निकल कर पढ़ना शुरू ही करने वाली थी की टी.टी आये और टिकट चेक कर के आगे बढ़ गए.

...पर वो सात तो जैसे बस टी सी के जाने का ही इन्तेजार कर रहे थे उनके डब्बे को छोड़ते ही उन्होंने ताश की बाजी लगा ली.खेल के आनंद को दुगना करने के लिए मोबाइल पर तेज आवाज में अश्लील व् द्विअर्थी गानों की मानो बौछार कर दी. माहोल को देखते हुए रीता ने अपनी सीट पर जा कर मुह पर चादर तान ली और सोने की नाकामियाब कोशिश करने लगी . एक तो तेज गाने फिर उस पर घटिया बाते और उन पर रावण सा अट्टहास उसे चादर के अंदर ही पसीने पसीने कर रहा था मन ही मन सोच रही थी की आखिर कब इनका ये क्लब बंद होगा और वो भरी गर्मी में अपने मुह से चादर हटा कर साँस ले पायेगी. आखिर इस दुविधा भरे पल में पड़ोस के केबिन से एक अधेड पुरुष उसके लिए देवदूत साबित हुए जिसने तेज गानों का विरोध कर उन लडको से उन्हें तुरंत बंद करने के लिए कहा लेकिन शायद रीता की मुसिबत अभी टली नहीं थी क्योकि गाने बंद होने से उनकी लडको बाते और साफ़ सुनाई देने लगी जैसे सब उसके बारे में ही बात कर रहे हो.उनकी तीखी नजरे मानो उसकी चादर को भेद डालेंगी .

मन ही मन वह खुद को समझाने में लगी रही कि वे उसकी नहीं कोई आम बात कर रहे है पर आखिर कब तक वो शुतुरमुर्ग की तरह चादर में मुहं छुपाये आने वाले खतरे से अनजान बनी रहती.घर फोन मिलाने या मेसिज करने को उसने मोबाइल तो निकला तो पर नेटवर्क था की उससे कोई जन्म जन्म का बैर निकल रहा था. अब उसके पर दो ही रास्ते थे या तो वो पूरी रात खुद को इनकी बातो और इरादों से छलनी होने दे या फिर अपनी शुतुरमुर्ग कि गर्दन बहार निकल कर इस समस्या से खुद को बहार निकले .

अंदर ही अंदर उसने ये निर्णय ले लिया था की वो अब और इनकी बाते न सहेगी और न घबरा कर लाचार बन कर इनका शिकार बनेगी . चादर ढके ढके उसका दिल ने धौकनी और दिमाग उस से भी तेज दौडना शुरू कर दिया था वो अपने कानो कि गर्मी और चहरे कि लालिमा को महसूस कर सकती थी.पर आखिर वो कोई पहली लड़की तो नहीं थी जो अकेले सफर कर रही थी तो उसने निर्णय लिया की वो टी सी के पास जा कर उनसे अपनी वस्तुस्थिति बता कर सीट बदलने की दरख्वास्त करेगी और उनको उसकी सीट को बदलनि ही होगी . इस विचार के मन में आते ही वो बिजली के तेजी से उठी कस के अपना पर्स पकड़ा और उन लडको के अश्लील फिकरो को नजर अंदाज करते हुए टी सी को ढूँढने निकल पड़ी

इतनी रात में टी सि को ढून्ढना ऐसा लग रहा था जैसे भूसे में से सुई को तलाशना एस -८ से एस १ तक के पुरे ८ डब्बे अपने तेज कदमो से छान मारे मतलब यक़ीनन सभी एस -८ के आगे ही होगा और अगर ना मिला तो? इस विचार मात्र से उसकी आखे डबडबा गई .फिर उन लडको की भेदती निगाहों का सामना करना पड़ेगा और वो तिरछी विजय भरी मुस्कराहट वो तो मानो उसके रहे सहे आत्मविश्वास को भी लील जायेगी. नहीं उसे इस से पहले ही कोई कदम उठाना होगा वो अंतर्मन से बिलकुल भी उन बतामीज लडको का सामना नहीं करना चाहती थी शायद इन चंद मिनटों में उसने अपने सभी देवी देवताओ से बुद्धि विवेक और हिम्मत की दरकार कर डाली थी कि तभी उसकी नजर पड़ोस के केबिन में सो रही एक अधेड उम्र की महिला पे पड़ी. तो माँ दी सीख उसके मानस पटल पर छा गई “भगवान भी उन्ही की मदद करते है जो खुद की मदद के लिए कुछ करते है ” और अभी मदद की सब से ज्यादा जरुरत उसे थी .आखिर रीता ने पूरी हिम्मत बटोर कर उनसे बात करने का निर्णय कर लिया था . मन ही मन उसने खुद को उनकी नींद से उठाने पर पड़ने वाली डाट के लिए भी खुद को तैयार कर लिया था .

उसने महिला को आवाज दी और उनके उठते ही उनसे कहा “माफ कीजियेगा आंटी जी में आपको परेशान कर रही हू लेकिन मेरा सीट नंबर २४ है, वहा कुछ लड़के काफी देर सि हुडदंग मचा रहे है यदि आप बुरा न मने तो में आपके कम्पार्टमेंट में ही सोना चाहती हू अगर कोई सीट न बदलना चाहे तो मुझे ऐतराज नहीं है आप मुझे यहाँ बीच में नीचे सोने की इजाजत दे दे तो में अपना सामान यहाँ ले आऊ ?”. अपनी पूरी बात रीता ने जिस तरह एक सास में कह डाली उस से तो यही लगा जैसे वो हां के अलावा कुछ सुन ही नहीं सकती. पता नहीं क्या सोच कर उन्होंने चुप चाप हां में गर्दन हिला दी और रीता रॉकेट की गति से अपना सामान समेटने चली गयी. जब तक वो वापिस पहुची की बीच की बिर्थ पे सो रहे एक नौजवान ने अपनी सीट से उतारते हुए रीता से कहा “आप परेशान न हो ,आप मेरी सीट पे सो जाये में आपकी सीट पे चला जाता हू” कुछ क्षण तो शायद उसके कानो को विश्वास ही नहीं हुआ कि कोई खुद भी मदद के लिए आगे बढ सकता है जब तक उसके मुह से धन्यवाद निकला वह युवक उसकी बर्थ तक जा चूका था .

नई बर्थ पर पहुचने के कुछ समय तक तो उसकी धड्कनो को सामान्य होने में समय लगा,और मन ही मन उस युवक व आंटीजी दुआए देते हुए न जाने कब आख लगी . भोपाल आने के कुछ समय पहले ही रीता की आख खुली. उठते ही वो अपना अधूरा धनवाद देने जा ही रही थी कि वो युवक स्वं वह आ गया और उसके कुछ बोलने से पहले ही बोला ‘आपने वहा से उठने कि हिम्मत दिखा कर बहुत अच्छा किया वो लोग वाकई में बहुत बदतमीज है रात भर किसी को सोने नहीं दिया’ यह सुन रीता का धन्यवाद ‘सारी’ में तब्दील हो गया. तब तक ट्रेन भोपाल स्टेशन पर खड़ी हो चुकी थी और रीता अपना सामान ले कर दरवाजे की और बढ़ गयी.

ट्रेन से उतारते समय वह जानती थी की अब वो सही माइनो में दुनिया का अकेले सामना करने के लिए तैयार है. अब वो ये जानती है की अगर दुनिया में ७ खराब लोग व ६०-६२ बत्ती बंद कर कान बंद कर सोते लोग है तो उन पर कम से कम एक आवाज उठाने वाला , एक मांगने पर मदद करने वाला और एक स्वं आगे बढ़ कर मदद करने वाला भी है और इन सब से बढ़ कर अब वो यह जान गयी थी की वो अब कभी शुतुरमुर्ग नहीं बनेगी अगर मौका लगा तो वो इन ३ लोगो में से एक बनेगी पर शुतुरमुर्ग नहीं. इस सफर में शायद उसने अपनी माँ की सीख को सही माईने में आत्मसात किया है उसे पता है की उसकी माँ को आज उसपे गर्व होगा .

kriti Trivedi

Duao me humara naam rakhna

2013-01-01T22:04:00.000-08:00

दुआओं में जब तक आपकी हमारा नाम रहेगा

अपने दुश्मनों का काम तमाम रहेगा

जीवन में हमारे हसी खिलखिलाहट का चर्चा आम रहेगा

काम में डूबे तो होंगे पर सुकू आबाद रहेगा

दुआओं में जब तक आपकी हमारा नाम रहेगा — kriti

Sookha Patta

2012-12-26T23:43:00.000-08:00

सूखी शाख का सुखा पत्ता

सूखी शाख का सुखा पत्ता, क्या खूब उड़ा,वोह ऊपर उड़ा और मेरी खिड़की के सामने हो गया खड़ा,
बेबाक़ हो उसने पूछा - "जानते हो मैं किस किस से हूँ लड़ा?"
मेरी खिड़की मुस्काई और बोली -
"सौ सालों से हूँ यहाँ; अभी समंदर सो रहा है,
जब उठेगा तो देखेंगे, किसको मिलता है तू कहाँ पड़ा।"

सुखी शाख का सुखा पत्ता, क्या हँसा, क्या खूब हँसा,
हंसी में उसने प्रश्न चिन्ह को छिपाया,
फिर ठहाके में मिलाके उसने कहा - "सो साल से तू रही यहीं, मैं दो दिन में सूरज तक से हूँ मिला।"
मेरी खिड़की को लगी चिढ़ और लगी जलन,
"जब तू बेतरतीब बहेगा किसी नाले में, तब सोचना सो साल का ठहराव सही
या दो दिन जो तूने जिए, और तेरा सूरज से मिलना बड़ा।"

सुखी शाख का सुखा पत्ता, क्या हिला, क्या खूब हिला,
धुल धूसरित वोह इधर गिरा, वोह उधर ढुला,
नाचते हुए उसने फिर खिड़की से कहा - "मरना तो सबको है, मैं भी मरूँगा,
मरने से पहले खूब उडूँगा, खूब हिलूंगा, लोगों से मिलूँगा,
जब तेरा अंत दिवस आएगा तब मुझे याद करना,
तेरा सौ साल का ठराव सही या मेरा मेरी मर्जी से मरना।"

सुखी शाख का सुखा पत्ता, चला गया, क्या खूब गया,
विचलित खिड़की ने पलट के मेरी तरफ देखा,
चूँकि बहार ठंडी थे बड़ी और मुझे काम थे बहुत,
उसका मन रखने को मैंने कहा - "तुमने बड़ा अच्छा किया,
जिस हवा में वोह ऊड रहा था, जिस मिट्टी को रखा था उसने लपेट,
सौ साल की सीख से तुमने उन्हें बहार ही रखा।"

By Kartik Trivedi

More About Him : http://about.me/kartiktrivedi

Helping others is a ripple effect

2012-11-10T14:09:00.000-08:00

If you are thinking why should you help others or is it sololy your responsibility to keep helping others I’ll just give you a plethora of reasons why this is a MUST

1. Helping people has a ripple effect. If you help someone they will feel more obliged to help someone else, and so on. Pay it forward

2. You grow by giving and helping others. It can change you in ways you never expected

3. Your relationship with that person will become stronger

4. It’s the most fulfilling thing you can do on this planet. It not only feels amazing physically, you also feel like a good person

5. You might be able to call in a favor later when you need some help but dont expect alwayse coming this from the same person

6. Karma (if you believe in it)

7. Because there are more people in this world than just you

8. Helping others will always help you in return studies prove that those people who help others are far less in drugs etc

Hey but remember keep changing the people you are helping if you keep helping the same person again and again then according to me either you are making that person crippled or he/she is taking advantage of the goodness of your heart.

while donating /helping some one keep in mind the eligibility of the person ~ kriti

दान देते समाय/ मदद करते समाय पात्रता का ध्यान अवश्य रखे ~ कृति

Worrying is your habit ?

2012-09-08T13:51:00.000-07:00

I understand when people say dont worry its tough to listen them and tougher to obey them and you feel that they dont know what you are going through .. how you can not worry on some thing ..And on day to day basis you have so many things to keep worrying on

Some smaller things to worry

who will pick up your kid today
what to cook for the day
what to wear for the day

Or some bigger things

if you will get good markes in tests /exams or not?
what if you will not get a good appraisal ?
what if you are not selected for any job ?
what if your bf/gf dumps you?

I understand that completely that the list can be long and all are important things to do . Worrying is also an integral part of life . But my questions is if you have to do that on daily basis only then why not do it on a fixed time so that the other times you can feel like a free bird . I know its easir said than done but think of trying it . it really works .

Set aside a specific time to worry each day.

Ponder all of your problems and anxieties during that time so that they will not distract you during work or moments of pleasure. This way you can be extremely efficient with your time and avoid focusing on negative things as much as possible. If you get all of your worry out of the way and have the mental fortitude to keep from reverting back to them, you will be much happier on the daily basis Ohh yaa dont forget to set an end time to keep worrying
Hey but then do remember
Most of things you worry about never happen

Kamosh Nigahe : Independence

2012-08-15T00:00:00.000-07:00

क्या ख़ामोशी की जुबान होना जरूरी है

कभी कभी सालो की बाते बभी बैमानी हों जाती है

और कभी किसी की बस एक खामोश नज़र जिंदगी को मायने दे जाती है

उसकी खामोश् निगाहे इतनी बाते कह गयी

अनजाने में मुझसे न जाने कितने वादे ले गयी

चुपके से जिंदगी से लड़ने की चाहत दुगनी कर गयी

होट अपने सिल तो लिए है आज उसने

कि फिर नए दर्द कि आहट उसको छलनी कर गयी

उसकी खामोश् निगाहे इतनी बाते कह गयी

मैं फिर उन सवालो का जवाब देने में जुट गयी

~ कृति त्रिवेदी

Out of all i know that iam not a poet Also i know this is suerly not what you expect on independence day from some one but still this picture made me say few lines this picture was taken in Kenya’s Dadaab Refugee Camp is the oldest and largest refugee camp in the world with Nearly 230,000 people struggle to survive since years .

It made me feel & contemplate

Do we understand the meaning of freedom ?

Do we respect it at all?

Do we really understand what it is not be free what we are doing to do for those who are not?

If you dont help others ok but help your self help the nation it has given you a lot so at least pay its respect back to it.

Happy Independence day and Mean it when you say that :)

Iam not as good in translation but hope I capture the essence of my above lines

Does silence needs to have a voice

Some times even years of talks turn out meaningless

And others just one silent sight gives meanings to live

His/her eyes said so many things

Unknowingly taken lot many promises from me

Silently have increased spirit to fight with life

Her lips are mum today

Again the coming voice of pain has made her devastated

Her sielent eyes said so many things

I got my self indulged in answering those questions

~ Kriti Trivedi

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kya khamoshoshi ki juban hona jaruri hai

kabhi kabhi saalo ki bate bhi bemani ho jati hai

aur kabhi kisi ki khamosh nazar jindagi ko mayne de jati hai

uski khamosh nigahe itni baate kah gayi

anjane me mughse na jaane kitne kai vade le gayi

chupke se zindagi se ladne ki chahat dugni kar gayi

hoot apne sil to liye hai aaj usne

ki fir naye dard ki ahat usko chanlni chalni kar gayi

uski khamosh nigahe itni baate kah gayi

mai fir un swalo ka jwab dene me jut gayi

Photographer: Lucas Oleniuk

Talent, Passion, and the Creativity Maze

2012-07-14T23:20:00.000-07:00

We live in a world mad for talent. From Hollywood and sports to executive search firms and HR departments around the globe, everyone seeks that special mix of natural abilities and attitudes that will make performance pop. A few months ago, Douglas Conant wrote a terrific blog post on how to find talented candidates for a job. When evaluating a potential hire, Conant looks for a strong mix of three qualities — competence, character, and skill as a team player. He gives great advice on how to find such a person. But he's missing a crucial ingredient.

That ingredient, at least as important as the talent package described by Conant, is passion for the work — what psychologists call intrinsic motivation. Without it, no amount of talent will yield great performance. For 35 years, we have been exploring how motivation affects creativity. In studies involving groups as diverse as children, college students, professional artists, and knowledge workers, we have found that people are more creative when they are more strongly intrinsically motivated — driven by interest, enjoyment, satisfaction, and a sense of personal challenge in the work they are doing.

Arthur Schawlow, a Nobel laureate in physics, said it eloquently: "The labor of love aspect is important. The successful scientists often are not the most talented, but the ones who are just impelled by curiosity. They've got to know what the answer is."

Intrinsically motivated people are more creative because they engage more deeply with the work. Imagine a task you have to do — say, an important marketing problem you have to solve at work — as a maze you need to get through. Most business problems have multiple solutions that would work, multiple exits from that maze. Often, there is one clear, straight path out of the maze — the standard solution that everyone uses for this type of problem. If you're extrinsically motivated, perhaps by a looming deadline or fear of a negative evaluation, you're likely to take that safe path. The solution works, but it's boring; it doesn't move things forward. But if you're intrinsically motivated, you love the hunt through the maze for a more interesting — and likely more creative — solution.

As a manager, you can leverage the link between passion and creativity by following three guidelines:

First, hire for passion as much as for talent. If you don't look for passion in the people you hire, you could end up with employees who never engage deeply enough to dazzle you with their creative productivity. As Conant advises, get to know potential hires for important positions as thoroughly as possible, long before you might have an opening for them. When you talk to them, ask why they do what they do, what disappointments they've had, what their dream job would be. Look for fire in their eyes as they talk about the work itself, and listen for a deep desire to do something that hasn't been done before. When you talk to their references, watch for mentions of passion.

Second, nourish that passion. Unfortunately, standard management approaches often (unwittingly) end up dousing passion and killing creativity. But keeping it alive isn't rocket science. We have found that the single most important thing you can do to fuel intrinsic motivation is to support people's progress in the work that they are so passionate about. This is the progress principle, and it applies even to the seemingly minor small wins that can lead to great breakthroughs. You can use the progress principle by understanding what progress and setbacks your people are experiencing day by day, getting at the root causes, and doing whatever you can to remove the inhibitors and enhance the catalysts to progress.

For example, be vigilant about whether your creative professionals have sufficient resources to make progress without a constant struggle. Give them autonomy in how to achieve a project's goals, because there's no point in hiring people with great talent if you don't let them use it. And support them in learning from both successes and failures, because talent is not a fixed quantity; it can and should grow over time. Give talented people every opportunity to develop, keeping in mind the "10,000 hour rule" cited by Malcolm Gladwell: You can't become expert enough to create an innovative breakthrough in a field unless you have put in at least 10,000 hours of practice. That kind of persistence is fueled by passion.

Finally, look to yourself. If you don't have passion for your own work, you'll end up disappointing both yourself and those who count on you. And you're unlikely to develop your own best talents. One of us, Steve, is an avid photographer of landscapes. An important mentor, the photographer Craig Tanner, has taught both of us a great deal about the connection between passion and the development of talent. In a brilliant essay on "The Myth of Talent," Craig says: "Long-term, focused, practice powered by the energy of passion [...] leads to amazing transformations. The bumbling beginner becomes the exalted expert. The trapped and depressed become the liberated and empowered."

Ask yourself: Am I liberated and empowered by passion in my work? Are the people around me?

The Article is Written By

Teresa Amabile and Steve Kramer :
Teresa Amabile is Edsel Bryant Ford Professor of Business Administration at Harvard Business School. She researches what makes people creative, productive, happy, and motivated at work. Steven Kramer is a psychologist and independent researcher. They are coauthors of The Progress Principle (Harvard Business Review Press, 2011);

http://blogs.hbr.org/hbsfaculty/2012/02/talent-passion-and-the-creativ.html?cm_mmc=npv-_-AWAREN-_-AMABILEKRAMER_POST-_-022712

Note : I just loved the article and so Iam posting this as is .Keeping that in view that who knows that in future Teresa Amabile and Steve Kramer can opt for writing for my blogs too :D

Is your Birthday your Achievement

2012-06-23T02:04:00.000-07:00

Iam no different than a common corporate professional of India who lives its life on weekends staying away from family .who are nocturnal by nature who take brunches on weekends The common pastime for weekends is movies ,friends & Birthday party.

Just another Saturday evening and my roommate was not home she informed that she will be coming late tonight as they are celebrating a friend’s birthday , so she asked me to inform to our land lady to keep the main door open. It was 9pm so I thought I should go and inform her first to avoid any last minute hassles and discomfort to anyone. Since almost last 6-7 weekends we were requesting our landlord to keep main door open for late entry in our home in order to attend party.

Our landlord belongs to a traditional Marathi family of Pune so this time after I said that she will be coming late she simply asked me why there are so many parties? Her inquiry not at all sounded nosy, it seemed just an inquisitive quest to understand our generation so I simply answered Auntiji it’s a birthday party thrown by friends so…. And to take her side I also added that these days we have so many groups our friends school friends ,collage friends , office friends ,old office friends , different projects we work those friends and every group has 5-6 people at least so birthdays keep coming and we keep celebrating them. I just wanted the reason seem so genuine that we cannot actually avoid partying .She patiently listened my dedicated speech and innocently and calmly asked me what is Valiant /Gallantry or achievement “पराक्रम” of yours in your birthday that you celebrate. If some one has to be given credit for it, it should be your mother.

I was actually stumped form her statement as I realized she was telling right thing. Party is synonym of celebration and celebration comes after achievement or some Valiant shown and more often than not its not there in Birthday Party. But still, since I didn’t wanted my roomy to look bad or even wanted a leeway for my self to come late some times I just said Auntiji birthdays give us opportunity for a get-together to with our friends And I left. That was the only justification I was able to give her at that time.

While climbing back to the stairs I was filled with turmoil of thoughts , Her simple statement made me ponder that why we become so possessive about the day which we have no contribution of our own , we get annoyed to people who don’t wish us on time or angry to ones who didn’t wish us atall. I have seen people crying and being agitated for the 12am Cake if it went missing. We want people to come with cake at night 12 and make us feel special we need new clothes and gifts to celebrate something for which we actually didn’t put any efforts in. We grow by age as a default.

I still go to birthday party’s and wish people on time to let them know I care for them but I realized after that day I’m ok with people close to me wishing me late or not wishing atall I don’t have that anguish any more of not being wished some time. Iam equally glad in collecting belated birthday wishes like the original ones. I’am filled with more gratitude towards the people who wish me because now I have realized in my birthday I don’t have any major contribution of mine. :)

When Ghost of Past Views Future

2012-06-01T23:41:00.000-07:00

मेरे भीतर का भूत भविष्य ताक रहा है,
मनुष्य मनुष्य का खून बाँट रहा है,
जीवित है तो जीव बन समय काट रहा है,
मनुष्यता की परिभाषा को छांट रहा है,
द्रवित हो वोह घड़ी को जांच रहा है,
मेरे भीतर का भूत भविष्य ताक रहा है. ~ Kartik Trivedi

Why Indian Railways is ignoring loss of 2 billion rupees per year?

2012-05-19T14:14:00.000-07:00

Honorable railway minister Dinesh Trivedi ji has posed a railway budget with a price hike which is accepted with a elaborated understanding from we Indians mango people (AAM JANTA) that the cost hike is justified since they haven’t raised the price since last 8-10 years.

There are two ways to earn profit one to earn real profit by increasing prices and second to reduce the losses and to make the system more efficient an organization has to look for both avenues. One has been looked into by price hikes and for other government needs to look at the probable solution as follows.

Why the ministry is ignorant to simple solutions to resolve issues and posing burden on average Indian ?

The total number of railway stations in India is estimated to be between 7,000 and 8,000. So let’s assume 7500 as average no of railway stations in India. Lets say the average staff of 5 people is there on each station so approximate staff on ticket counter is 37500 people. Who on an average deal with at least 100 people on an average day (in spite of online booking in main cities else the average number of transitions could have been more higher ) which makes it 3 cores seven lakh fifty thousand transactions in a day. And if we consider that even at least 1.5 minutes is taken in transaction to calculate change, checking the authenticity of 100/500/1000 notes in India then it makes a total of Indian man working hours of equivalent to 11 years if we consider 24 hours constantly working and loss of 33 years of man days per day with standard 8 hours working of an average Indian railway counter to do the transaction.

SO on an average the 11,811 years of total man days time per year is gone in merely calculating the money, which poses a burden on an average railway counter person almost equivalent to an average bank cashier which is not even the main job role of the person sitting at the railway counter.

now on entering into the tedious calculation of multiplying it with an average monthly salary (15000) of the railway employee at the ticket counter as a scary figure 2 138 671 875 = two billion one hundred thirty-eight million six hundred seventy-one thousand eight hundred seventy-five rupees only will come in front for what kind of loss we pose per year lets see what could be the solution to reduce the loss. This is the figure when I haven’t considered the time gone in extensive book keeping per counter for the records.

Please look below for further calculations

Head	Amount
Total No of Railway stations in India between 7000 to 8000 so lets consider 7500	7,500.00
Average No of Counters per station (some metros have 15 while rural have 5 or 2 )	5.00
Total No of Railway Counters / employees sitting at Counter	37,500.00
On an average 100 transactions per counter/person every day	3,750,000.00
Per Transaction maximum 5 minutes in calculating the amount and paying back the change and minimum 30 sec for the fastest possible transaction. Consider 1.5 minute per transaction	1.50
Net time invested nation wide in calculation in minutes per day	5,625,000.00
Net time invested nation wide in calculation in hours per day	93,750.00
Net time invested nation wide in calculation in days per day Considering a working day of 8 Hours	11,718.75
Assuming Annual Sal of each employee as 15000 per month Per day Salary of a employee in Rs	500.00
SO Per day net loss in Rs	5,859,375.00
Per Year Net loss in Rs	2,138,671,875.00

Lets go through some other statics, in year 2012 at least 30% of Indian population holds at least one debit card .18.2 core debit cards were in market in India in 2010 with a rise shown of 265% from 2009 this number have increased to at least 25 core by 2011 a more detailed stats could be fetched from the banks in person. And almost 1.82 core credit cards in 2010. Which itself is a substantial amount to keep credit card swipe machines on the railway counters to save time both of Indian consumer and the government.

When government can trust credit card machines for online payment gateways why not their own railway counters? Or they don’t trust that their own employees can complete the simple swiping process? Or they enjoy when at the counter person is asks a common man to return back and bring change and stand again at last of the line? Or they want the counter people to earn profits by keeping change? Or they want to keep testing the skills of counter people to see they can judge the fake note well or not by staring them in all lights?

At least government can encourage use of plastic money for those who have it. This would in a way increase the transparency in the system and in turn will make them to track transactions for future analysis.

Moreover with the magnitude of transactions taking place at railway country banks will be more than willing to waive off the transaction fees to them. They might consider maintaining a separate server to handle load of the railways to avoid network failure issue. This can come up as a national tender and what not. Most of the costs involved like this including training of employees will be onetime costs but the benefits will be reoccurring.

Yes of course I know that 100% of plastic transaction couldn’t be done in present Indian scene but why not consider this now rather than waiting for further 10-20 years upgrading thy self.

All I want to say that there are lot many simple solutions lying for the tedious problems of the nation just look at the other avenues too rather than just posing price hikes.

Reference:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_railway_stations_in_India

http://www.moneylife.in/article/number-of-debit-card-transactions-rises-272-over-the-past-five-years-credit-card-usage-growth-remains-at-85/9065.html

http://www.rncos.com/Report/IM006.htm

3 tips to being creative on demand

2012-05-12T22:00:00.000-07:00

Some people are gifted with creativity and some become ones through the constant efforts .those who are gifted have to nurture the gift they have and those who have to develop it have to be effortful for it. Nothing comes as free lunch in this world not even creativity.

Though I couldn’t comment my self as the creativity expert but still throughout the experience I have attained on my own and learned from the people who have loads in their baggage in the field I would like to share few tit bit which helps us to be creative ON demand and if any professionalist haven’t learnt it till now then must learn it soon .Unfortunately, though, not every project will be tantalizing and fun, and there will be days when you simply don’t want to go to work, no matter how much you love your job. How do you keep the creative spark going when you’re not feeling particularly inspired?So lets start up

1. Set a Schedule

Having a fixed schedule may sound counter-productive to creativity, but in fact, it has several benefits.Your bain becomes attuned to think in special fashion in some cases for example we can see that on Sundays we feel less like working and ideas related to spend our leisure time come more easily to us on weekends since we have a dedicated holiday on the day

Knowing what we’re going to do and when we’re going to do it can free mind to focus on the task at hand without worrying about all of the little things that can distract us. Also this will help you to segregate your most productive creative hours and most productive mechanical hours well this will also help you to save time and in turn you will not be taking work at home :D if u don’t want to.

2. Have a Dedicated creative corner in your home and work place

Similar to setting a schedule, having a dedicated workspace frees you from distraction and gives you a place where you can surround yourself with the items that inspire you and make you feel most comfortable. It also helps to separate work life from personal life, a mix that can leave some people overwhelmed.

Establishing a good work-life balance is important to maintaining a healthy attitude about your job. That said, don’t be afraid to mix it up now and then, though. Working from the back deck on a nice day can be a refreshing break in the routine, particularly when your creative juices have stalled.

That was all about the creative space at work but for those who don’t work there is some thing else back in home where you can take sips of masala chai or cappuccino ,with light music at backgroung and a pen and paper in hands let it explore.

Your idea should be in records as soon as it is generated keep a pen and notepad near to you or record it in your cell or ipad what ever is convenient to you. Just keep recording the ideas because in the premature stages ideas are volatile unless captured for next stage.

3. Talk About What You’re Doing

This is especially important for freelance designers & writers working on their own — share your work with others and talk about what each of you is working on. Even if the projects aren’t related, having someone to share ideas and discuss hurdles with is vital to keeping an open mind and developing creative solutions. Sometimes a change of perspective makes a world of difference . We never know when one idea can give birth to another in others head .

10 people can watch the same picture and perceive it in different way of their own way.So don’t be afraid of getting your ideas stolen but remaining smart is advisable

A storm that solves your problems : Brain Storming

2012-04-07T21:47:00.000-07:00

1. Generate as many ideas as possible, as fast as you can.

Speed is the name of the game, with brainstorming, because you don’t want your logical mind to short-circuit the intuitive connections that are flying through your brain at a thousand miles an hour. For the same reason, when you’re writing your ideas down don’t worry about organizing them, or even taking the time to write the full idea down. You don't want to stop the flow, so use the least amount of words possible to convey the key points of your idea.

2. Every idea is a good idea!

If an idea seems dull, unrelated to your project, or unrealistic, write it down, anyway. You never know where an idea will lead. Something that may not seem to make any sense for the project you’re working on may be the catalyst that breaks you through to a whole new level of creativity. Trust the brainstorming process.

That’s how many business leading changes occur , a box from which you can talk once a crazy idea now a necessity known as mobile, a cup which you eat up is your Softy ice cream so what seems silly can be the one which is born to create a change.

3. Decision making come LATER!

If you start debating the value of every idea you generate, you’re going to cut off the creative flow. You can weed out the weak ideas, later, when you’ve got your editor’s cap on. As long as you’re brainstorming, don’t judge or hold back even the craziest of ideas. Your job is simply to write down whatever comes.

Let the flow begin you are no one for this moment to accept or reject, you have all rights to paint a mango purple. After all its not necessary that the shortest path is the best path to reach destination.

4. Be willing to be silly.

Brainstorming is fun, so have fun with it. Keep it light. The more relaxed, open, and playful you are, the more creative you'll be. When you're being silly,besides having fun, you're at that place of "anything goes," which is the essence of brainstorming. And the silly ideas, themselves, are golden and often go viral.

5. Mix it up.

Use several different brainstorming tools and techniques: mind maps, fast-writing, clustering, lists, and card decks—with paper and pen, or on your computer. The more ways you can mix it up the better, for each will bring up different thoughts, feelings, memories, associations, words, ideas, and images. In addition to using language based brainstorming techniques, you can also brainstorm with audio or visual cues, such as music, photographs, or art.

You can also find a brainstorming partner, or join a mastermind group. Besides the wonderful ideas that others will generate specifically for you, brainstorming with others sparks ideas in you that you wouldn’t have come up with on your own. When two or more are brainstorming, it creates a powerful synergy.

When even greater troubles overtook I laughed

2012-03-10T03:58:00.000-08:00

"मुसीबत पड़ी तो रोया था,
ज्यादा मुसीबत पड़ी तो चुप हो गया था,
बहुत ज़यादा मुसीबत पड़ी है तो हँसता हूँ ,
आख़िर दुनिया में बसता हूँ !" ~ Harivansh Rai Bachchan
When troubles overtook me I cried,
When greater troubles overtook me, I kept silent
And when even greater troubles overtook me, I laughed -
After all I live in this world ~ Translated By Amitabh Bachhan
Some things hold so true in all time history of humanity simple words simple lines but yet so meaningful in every era.If you look at these lines and have a look around then we can realize that these actions are best suited as per the public reaction in your tough times. Iam sure that my words could not do justification to the lines above as they hold lot deeper meaning than said by me, But still i take liberty to write :)
Have you noticed
When there is trouble and you cry :- people will come and console you some might say some good words and you cheer up faster and get ready to face it and problem is solved.This is the way where you attract sympathy and inturn gain strength

When Trouble is bigger it is better to be silent because when then some people will be there to tell you how and why you invited the trouble looking at the magnitude and suddenly the console mode of most of people is lost.They keep telling how they could have done this better. As a result you dont cheer up and get ready to fight where as if you maintain silence you treat your self with great care and get ready to be the fighter. This is the way where you avoid sympathy and inturn gain strength to deal your mess on your own without much of public interference
When trouble is greater its better to laugh Because however you try to avoid to let people know due to magnitude people come to know about your trouble and if you cry or remain silent then they dont know how to deal it with so you direct them to deal it with your smile and they talk all possible encouraging things to you and you certainty avoid any doomed talks on the issue.
Never the less you smile at your destiny and which tells that destiny will return your smile with smile to read more read another article here http://manthanmala.blogspot.in/2009/06/smile-at-your-destiny.html

Well this makes them three simple ways to deal 3 problems of life.
Well if you even feel bad after this try reading

Hospital Windows: A Window of Hope

2012-02-09T03:14:00.000-08:00

I Would rather say this story as window of hope.Its tough to think good ,its tougher to think good about yourself and its toughest to keep thinking good about you and people around .~Kriti Trivedi :D
We often fall in the trap of cursing and comparing here is a story which keeps me inspiring about the keep thinking good.
Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs. His bed was next to the room's only window. The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back.

The men talked for hours on end. They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation.

And every afternoon when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window. The man in the other bed began to live for those one-hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the world outside.

The wndow overlooked a park with a lovely lake. Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every color of the rainbow. Grand old trees graced the landscape, and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance.

As the man by the window described all this in exquisite detail, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine the picturesque scene.

One warm afternoon the man by the window described a parade passing by. Although the other man couldn't hear the band - he could see it in his mind's eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words.

Days and weeks passed. One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep. She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away.

As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone. Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the world outside. Finally, he would have the joy of seeing it for himself.

He strained to slowly turn to look out the window beside the bed. It faced a blank wall. The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside this window. The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall. She said, "Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you."

Learning of thought-beads

Never give up hope
World is the way you want to see it.
On funny note we trust others more than we can think of so some times its good to trust the positive vision
We always see grass is greener on other side
If a person looks happy he is looking so out of choice. Every one have their own pocket of stresses and sorrows even the school kid in kg is stressed for his homework
last but not least you need to be imaginative to remain happy and make others happy