Heart Choices

Introducing Jackie Dishner

debbiepetras@cox.net (Debbie) — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 18:06:00 +0000

I was so excited to meet another fellow blogger yesterday. Her name is Jackie Dishner and the name of her blog is Bike with Jackie.

Jackie is a professional writer and public speaker. I first met her online when she was writing for b5media. She was the blogger for the Phoenix area. If you've heard of Darren Rowse of Problogger, he's one of the founders of b5media.

Anyway, back to Jackie. We are also Facebook friends and she posted an invite to a book signing at Pluma Designs located in the Signature Salon Studios in Scottsdale. She gets her hair done there and it's not too far from my house. So, I decided I wanted to take this opportunity to buy her book and give her a hug ...in person.

Here's what the cover of her book looks like. I haven't started reading it yet but it looks like a great resource for drives, day trips and weekend trips in Arizona. So, if you live here or are planning to take a vacation to the Phoenix area, you might consider buying Jackie's book. You can purchase it here.

Jackie is a woman who loves adventure and travel. She has a philosophy of life that she calls BIKE and speaks on this topic as a member of the National Speaker's Association. From what I've learned from Jackie's blog, she's dealt with many challenges in her life.

But I can tell you ...Jackie was a delight to meet.

Jackie is adorable and we were both so excited when I walked up to her and said "Hi, I'm Debbie of Heart Choices."

Now, you bloggers know what I'm talking about. You feel like you already know the other person because you've read what they share from their heart on their blogs.I know this won't be the last time I get to meet with Jackie.

As I glance through her book, I'm already mentally planning trips I want to take in my own state of Arizona. It's amazing how you can live in a place for 25 years and not take advantage of some of the beautiful and historic places that are close by.

I encourage you to stop by and say hi to Jackie on Bike with Jackie. Tell her I sent you. And while you're at it, you might check out her book.

Then Sings My Soul Saturday ~ I Offer My Life

debbiepetras@cox.net (Debbie) — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 08:01:00 +0000

It's Then Sings My Soul Saturday when I link up with Amy of Signs, Miracles and Wonders. Please feel free to join in and post a song on your blog and link to Amy's. It's such a wonderful way to spend a Saturday morning.

At one time or another, each one of us will or may currently be going through trials and challenges in life.

We may not choose them but always remember that we have a choice ...in how we respond to them.

I don't always understand the why's but I'm learning to trust my God. He is trustworthy!

He is the One who created me. He knows what's best for me. He wants me to grow and not stay stagnant. It can be easy for me to depend on my own strengths and abilities. That's my comfort zone.

But I believe God is teaching me through circumstances that He wants me to step out in faith ...even though I don't know where He's leading.

That's been a struggle for me in the past since I like to know where I'm going complete with directions.

But lately, He has been changing me. And now my response is to make the heart choice to surrender ALL. I want to offer my life back to Him; nothing held back.

I hope you enjoy these sweet voices as they sing "Lord, I Offer My Life to You". My heart echoes the words to this song.

Happy Saturday and thank you for visiting Heart Choices!

Our Heavenly Home

debbiepetras@cox.net (Debbie) — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 08:00:00 +0000

Today I should be writing my Fitness Friday post but I have other things on my mind. Life is so uncertain and these times are like I've never experienced.

And yet the valuable lessons I'm learning right now are being used ...for good and for God's glory.

I'm a daydreamer. As a kid, I imagined exactly how my house would look when I got married. It would have a white picket fence and lots of flowers.

It would be a place of refuge. I often tell my husband that I think of our home as a nest. Greg and I may go out into the world but we know that we can come home to a place of rest, peace and solitude.

Here we are like two love birds; LOL.

I enjoy decorating and creating an atmosphere of love and beauty in my home.

I love to visit blogs like:

~The Inspired Room

~A Soft Place to Land

~Nesting Place

But God ...wants us to remember that these are not our permanent homes.

I read this love letter from Sheri Rose Shepherd's book "His Princess: Love Letter From Your King".

"Did you know that I have prepared a home for you in heaven? It is more beautiful than you can ever imagine. Your eyes have not seen nor have you ears heard the majestic beauty that awaits you. But for now, My chosen one, I need you to learn to see your life from an eternal perspective. When you cross over into heaven, you won't be able to bring anything from your home here on earth. You're only here to bring forth My life-changing news of salvation. Don't collect things; collect people. I have called you to bring others to me. Remember, no one will grow closer to Me because of what you have. Tell them how much I love them. They need to know about My amazing plans for their lives and about the eternal kingdom that awaits them, too."
Love,
Your King and your Eternity Builder

No matter what your circumstances or where you live, remember ...this isn't our permanent home. We're just passing through.

So, don't cling too tightly to the things of this world.

May you spread the love of Jesus wherever you live.

Blessings to each one of you and thank you for visiting Heart Choices.

Thankful Thursday ~ Veterans

debbiepetras@cox.net (Debbie) — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 04:32:00 +0000

On this Thankful Thursday, we celebrate the veterans who have served protecting our country and the freedoms we all too often take for granted. Iris of Grace Alone has chosen this theme and it's perfect timing since yesterday was Veteran's Day.

I grew up during the sixties; a time of Woodstock and anti-war rallies. It was such a difficult time for veterans who returned home and weren't treated as heroes.

My brother Steve joined the Navy in 1969 since his draft number was low and he knew it was inevitable.

My cousin Ken was in the Army and was shipped off to Vietnam. When he returned home, his wife had left him and he lived with us for more than a year. I remember his first Fourth of July. He jumped every time a firecracker went off. It was a very traumatic time of readjustment.

I'm so grateful for the sacrifices so many in the military have made leaving behind their families to protect us and serve our country. I pray for their safety and for a day when there will be no more wars. However, I realize that will not happen this side of eternity.

I found this song by Casting Crowns called Who Am I (Tears of War). It's a tribute to those in the military.

Thank you for your service to this country and for the sacrifices you've had to make. I am thankful for each one of you.

You can visit Iris on Grace Alone to join in or visit other participating blogs on this Thankful Thursday.

The Habit of Memorizing Scripture

debbiepetras@cox.net (Debbie) — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 11:59:00 +0000

For Walk with Him Wednesday, Ann Voscamp of @ Holy Experience asks us to post about the habit of memorizing Scripture.

There's that word ...habit.

But the habit ...of memorizing Scripture?

If you click on my 'About Page' on the upper right sidebar, you'll read the following:

"The focus of Heart Choices is ...your day to day choices will determine what your tomorrows will become. These choices impact your body, soul (mind, will and emotions), and your spirit."

Memorizing Scripture was much easier for me as a child. I vividly remember attending Vacation Bible school as an eight year old. Throughout that week, we memorized the whole chapter of Romans 12.

As I remember what Romans 12:2 says, what better way to transform and renew my mind?

How often do you pray and ask for God's will in your life?

Memorizing Scripture is a perfect way to replace the lies of the enemy that often crowd our mind and thinking.

Will you make the choice to begin to establish the habit of reading the Bible and memorizing Scripture? This is a perfect way to allow His Word to renew and transform your thinking. Then you will know His will.

As an adult, I've found it a bit more challenging to memorize Scripture.

But I've made the decision and choice to become a life long learner. So, I refuse to excuse myself because of:

My age
No time
Too hard
I'll look it up when I need it

So, I here I sit on my upstairs patio memorizing Psalm 19. What a blessing to view the beauty of God's creation as I recite verses one and two:

"The heavens declare the glory of God; the skies proclaim the work of His hands. Day after day they pour forth speech; night after night they display knowledge."

Will you make the choice to begin to allow God to transform your mind and thinking through memorizing Scripture?

If you'd like to read other posts on this topic or write your own, it's not too late to link up. Simply go to Ann's blog @ Holy Experience.

I look forward to reading your comments ...or your posts.

In Other Words Tuesdays ~ Results

debbiepetras@cox.net (Debbie) — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 08:12:00 +0000

It's In Other Words Tuesday and our host this week is Esthermay of The Heart of a Pastor's Wife. She has chosen the following quote for us:
As I pondered this quote by John Piper, I looked up the word "pragmatist" in the dictionary. It says "a person who is oriented toward the success or failure of a particular line of action, thought, etc.; a practical person".

In our society, people often look at the bottom line. What were the results of the action? Was it a success or a failure? And how quickly was it achieved?

We turn to self-help books so we can follow a set of rules. Isn't that what the people in the Old Testament tried to follow? And how well did that work for them?

Spiritual growth and lessons take time. And often the results aren't seen immediately.

Think about the missionary Jim Elliot who died at a young age attempting to share the love of Jesus with the Auca Indians. He and three others were killed by them. Their bodies were pierced with spears and hacked by machetes!

Was Jim Elliot a failure? If the world read about this killing in the newspaper today, many would think his attempts ...were a failure.

But as his wife continued on in this ministry, the Auca's came to know Jesus over time. Elizabeth Elliot and the other wives of the slain men didn't leave. Instead, the people who killed their husbands were curious and many came to know the Jesus that these missionaries knew.

I'd say that ...Jim Elliot's life was a success.

So, let's not use the world's success or failure standard. Whatever you do, work at it as to the Lord. We may not see the results of our work but we can trust that they will not be wasted. Some plant the seeds and others may water them.

Do your part and ...trust the Lord with the results.

Dancing with Jesus

debbiepetras@cox.net (Debbie) — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 16:25:00 +0000

Would you like to dance with Jesus?

My Uncle Bob sent me this message along with the image and ...I loved it.

I wanted to credit the author so I googled it and found a site called John Mark Ministries.

Dancing with God
When I meditated on the word GUIDANCE,
I kept seeing "dance" at the end of the word.
I remember reading that doing God's will is a lot like dancing.
When two people try to lead, nothing feels right.
The movement doesn't flow with the music,
and everything is quite uncomfortable and jerky.
When one person realizes that, and lets the other lead,
both bodies begin to flow with the music.
One gives gentle cues, perhaps with a nudge to the back
or by pressing lightly in one direction or another.
It's as if two become one body, moving beautifully.
The dance takes surrender, willingness, and attentiveness gentle guidance and skill ...
My eyes drew back to the word GUIDANCE.
When I saw "G": I thought of God, followed by "U" and "I"
"dance".
God, you and I dance.
As I lowered my head, I became willing to trust that I would get guidance about my life.
Once again, I became willing to let God lead.
My prayer for you today is that God's blessings
and mercies are upon you this day and every day.
May you abide in God, as God abides in you.
Dance together with God, trusting God to lead and to guide you
through each season of your life.

Isn't that beautiful? It reminded me of a video I had seen on YouTube that seemed to act out this dance with God.

In our flesh, we often fight Him and want to lead. We want to be like everyone else because it can be hard to be different.

Are you willing to trust Him, surrender to His will and ...abide in Him?

Our dance with Jesus will be different from the world around us.

But He is worth it!

Over at Laced with Grace

debbiepetras@cox.net (Debbie) — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 08:27:00 +0000

Today I'm over at Laced with Grace. I hope you hop over to read my devotional called Living Out Your Faith.

Then Sings My Soul Saturday ~ Give Thanks

debbiepetras@cox.net (Debbie) — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 08:01:00 +0000

It's Then Sings My Soul Saturday when I link up with Amy of Signs, Miracles and Wonders. I encourage you to visit other participating blogs.

Since this is the month of celebrating Thanksgiving, I thought I'd post an all time favorite song of mine. It's Don Moen's Give Thanks. I love the beautiful images in this video. So, sing along, enjoy and ...give thanks!

Happy Then Sings My Soul Saturday and thank you for visiting Heart Choices.

I'm thankful for all of my bloggy friends.

Fitness Friday ~ Discipline of Exercise

debbiepetras@cox.net (Debbie) — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 08:08:00 +0000

It's Fitness Friday and dare I mention the word discipline? Discipline sounds so rigid and legalistic. After all, aren't we all ...about grace?

My mom was such a good example of a disciplined person. Although she had a weakness for chocolate, she only purchased one large Nestle's chocolate bar each week. She would break off a single square each day and that satisfied the urging. There was no sneaking back and eating another piece either.

Mom was also disciplined about exercise. She would work out on her treadmill just about every day without fail. Even as her health was failing, she tried to get in some form of exercise. I even have a photo of her on the treadmill in her bathrobe. She knew it helped give her energy and keep the weight off.

I recently read a post on Internet Cafe that was written by Gina of Chats with an Old Lady. Now, I had to find out how old Gina is and do you know what? She's only in her late 40s; much younger than me. Oh well, lately it seems everyone is younger than me but that's OK.

But her post was entitled "Have You Worked Out Today?" and I thoroughly enjoyed it and could relate. Here's an excerpt from that post:

"One day while on the treadmill I was thinking about how hard it is for me to step on the thing every day. I started to think about how I am the same way spiritually. I am drawn to the Word, know how important it is for me to be in it, and love the benefits of spending time with the Lord. Unfortunately, my flesh does fight the discipline of sitting down, quieting my mind, and listening to the Lord. It seems like it is a battle every day to not get distracted and to choose to spend the time I need in the Word!
I heard someone say once that American Christians are "lazy, fat, and happy!" Just like I would probably be lazy and fat if I didn't discipline myself to get on the treadmill every day, the same would happen if I didn't discipline myself to be in the Word. As I age, I will become more vulnerable to disease and obesity if I don't exercise. The same will happen if I am not in the Word, learning how to discern between biblical and unbiblical thinking. I will become lazy and fat spiritually, and will open myself up to wrong ways of thinking, if I don't discipline myself to spend time with the Lord, nurturing our relationship."

I thought this was right on. You can read Gina's full post on Internet Cafe Devotions.

So, even though you might dislike the term discipline ...we need it in our lives.

Do I skip my exercise sometimes? Yes, of course I do. But it's choosing to create a habit of exercise even if my natural flesh wants nothing to do with it.

(Photo credit: Southern Living)

Today, will you simply go for a walk around the block? Or go to the park and walk? You might ride your bicycle (the pink one Helen) or climb a small mountain. Just do something to take care of your health and get moving.

Slow and steady but ...it's a great way to start.

Now, don't forget to stop by Sandy at God Speaks Today for her Fitness Friday post about working out when you have small children. And Sarah of All Pain, No Gain is sharing her photos after 8 weeks of rest, so check it out.

Thankful Thursday ~ Trials

debbiepetras@cox.net (Debbie) — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 09:05:00 +0000

It's Thankful Thursday and Iris of Grace Alone is hosting us for the month of November. My friend Iris is the originator of this meme which I've grown to love. Knowing that I'll participate each week, I'm on the lookout for all I can be thankful for each day. Thank you Iris!

However, Iris chose the theme of trials for this week. Can I really be thankful in the midst of trials?

Well, this is exactly what the Lord is teaching me during this season of trials in my life. So, I can personally answer with ...a resounding YES.

What am I thankful for in the midst of my trials?

I'm thankful that:

Instead of only focusing only on getting out of my trials, I'm learning to focus on trusting the Lord in the midst of them.
I learn valuable lessons if I choose to rest in Him.
Each trial has a purpose to grow me up.
I have the opportunity to glorify God.
My faith is growing.
I have the opportunity to share with non believers the reason I have hope and faith despite life not always being easy.
I have become more empathetic with others who are going through trials.
I'm drawing closer to the Lord.
I'm learning to live a lifestyle of prayer.
I'm learning to not attempt to escape my trials through things in this world.

I will close with a letter from Sheri Rose Shepherd's book His Princess: Love Letters from your King. It's entitled "My Princess ...triumph through trials":

"I see you when you are in the garden of grief, My princess. I hear your cry for help in the dark hours of the night. I Myself cried out in the garden the night I was betrayed. In My suffering I asked My Father for another way - a less painful way. Yet I trusted his will and purpose for My life and knew the ultimate victory was at the cross. Just as olives must be crushed to make oil, I poured out My life as a love offering for you. Don't ever doubt that I am with you and that I long to take you to a place of comfort, peace, and victory. Even when you cannot see me from where you are, I am working on your behalf. Give to Me the crushing weight of your circumstances, and come to Me in prayer. When it is time to leave the garden, I will walk with you across the valley and straight to the cross - where your trials will be transformed into triumph."
Love,
Your Savior and your Victor

How can I not be thankful in trials after reading that?

Walk with Him Wednesday ~ Listen

debbiepetras@cox.net (Debbie) — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 08:08:00 +0000

Lately, I find that I crave quietness. Our world has become so busy and hectic. Although I enjoy being with people, I also need time alone. And it seems that during this season in my life, I don't mind that aloneness. I'm still able to be in contact with so many people online through blogs and Facebook. And I love that.

Ann Voskamp of Holy Experience hosts a Walk with Him Wednesday. We share a spiritual practice that draws us closer in our walk with Jesus. I have to say that I enjoy her posts. I feel so peaceful and calm whenever I visit. What a gift she has with words! Thank you Ann.

Spending so much time in my home office has actually provided me with more time to be still without outside distractions. I have my morning quiet time but that doesn't end my time with the Lord.

I may be quietly working on my computer but I glance down and see a laminated Scripture verse that I posted in front of me. The words from Isaiah 41:10 tell me that I have nothing to fear. My God will strengthen me, help me and uphold me. Such words of reassurance ...in a time of uncertainty.

I've used this Joyful 'Toon before but it seemed so perfect for this post.

Are you so involved in busyness that you can't even hear His voice as you go through your day?

It can be easy to get caught up in all of those good things we do for God and yet miss out on ...His best.

How about taking time to sit at the feet of Jesus and simply be still? Allow His Word to saturate your mind. It takes time to do this.

It's hard for me to listen to loud music and focus on my work. I'm so easily distracted.

However, I find that quiet background piano music seems to work fine for me. I have CDs by Fernando Ortega that are perfect. And I've also found beautiful piano music on a website called Secret Place Ministries. It helps to quiet my mind and yet I can still get my work done.

I take breaks from my work so I can visit many of my favorite blogs. I often receive emails for prayer requests and I'm able to immediately stop and pray. You know how easy it is to tell someone you'll pray and have the best of intentions but ...then forget?

I've found that's another benefit of being at home and not running around all day.

Do you have any spiritual practices that help you listen to God?

I know many of you may be in different seasons of your life with children and school. But maybe you've found ways to still stay close to the Lord throughout your day. I encourage you to share them with us in the comments.

Our 25th Wedding Anniversary

debbiepetras@cox.net (Debbie) — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 08:08:00 +0000

Today is Greg and my 25th wedding anniversary. I can't believe it's been so many years.

I remember like it was just yesterday as we repeated our vows to one other in the little chapel in Vail, Colorado on November 3, 1984. We promised before God and our families ...to have and to hold from now on, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health.

Greg spent much time trying to find just the right song for our small wedding reception at The Lodge in Vail. He was so proud that he found the perfect song when he played it for me. It was Lou Rawls' song "Forever I Do"; the wedding song. I cried.

We've been through so much together. We've had our ups and downs. But we've also had many good times.

This is Greg and me on our honeymoon. We spent a few days in Vail after the wedding but then moved on to Keystone where we stayed in a friend's condo.

Greg is all about ...experiencing life. He loves trying new things. In fact, he even planned a company years ago with this very concept. Hmm ...maybe it will still come about?

I had never been snow skiing in my life but of course I had to experience something new with my husband despite my ...fear of heights.

I can't say it went very well but it was a new experience.

Greg is super smart. It was a little intimidating at first as he has an IQ in the genius range. Here he is reading on our patio while vacationing in San Diego.

Our first New Year's Day together, he asked me about my goals for the year and I looked at him and said ..."What goals? Let's just see what happens."

You see, I'd been a fly by my seat kind of gal. But I can tell you that over the years I've learned so much from Greg. Now, I'm the one asking my friends about their goals. LOL.

But this gal loves to read and is a committed life long learner. So, I learned about setting goals and still do that. However, I think I'm reading a fashion magazine in this photo.

This was one of our first Christmases together. Check out my hair style. It was popular at the time.

Greg had worked in New Orleans for several years and wanted to show me what it was like on Bourbon Street. It was a crazy time and many years ago but ...it was an experience.

We had a fun time in Miami with some friends one year. Greg's friend owned this speedboat and it was such a unique and exhilarating experience. We bounced over those waves on the Atlantic Ocean. These were the days of Don Johnson and Miami Vice.

One year Greg took me to Maui. How fun and beautiful an experience that was! Isn't he cute?

We live in the Grand Canyon state so it's a convenient vacation spot. We used to have a boat on Lake Powell which is another amazing place to visit. Greg and I both enjoyed water skiing. He loved that I could drive the boat so he had a chance to ski too.

I noticed a quote on Susan's blog and she gave me permission to use it today:

"The happiest people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything they have."

I liked that. Through ups and downs of life, I'm so thankful for my husband and partner through life. I love him more today than the day we married. I think some of the most challenging times can either make or break couples. And I believe we're closer today than ever. And for that ...I'm so grateful.

Happy 25th Anniversary Greg! I believe the best is yet to come.

Love,

Update on My Sis

debbiepetras@cox.net (Debbie) — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 08:36:00 +0000

Thank you for your prayers and encouragement towards my sister Christine. I'm so blessed to have such kind blogging friends who really care. Many of you have asked about how she's doing and have continued praying for her. Thank you so much!

I received a phone call from Chris yesterday and she got good news! Yay God!

For those of you who don't know, my sis had been diagnosed with an almost completely detached retina several weeks ago. She had surgery but the doctor wasn't too optimistic that she would have full recovery of her sight. She had to stay home and go through a rigorous schedule of two hours upright and then two hours down 24 hours a day.

At first, this wasn't too hard as she was tired but after a while ...this was quite difficult to maintain. She couldn't read and her vision in that eye was very poor. She could barely see shadows and yet she had to try to keep the eye open so she wouldn't develop "lazy eye".

On top of this, she owns a consignment shop and is totally dependent on that income. Thankfully, she has awesome friends who stepped in to help during the past 4 or 5 weeks but Chris is eager to get back. She's a popular sanguine personality and is going nuts staying at home and not seeing her customers who have become her friends.

She was so excited when the surgeon told her he couldn't believe how much her eye had improved. Immediately, Christine told him it was because of the prayers of so many people. She told him that her sister had a blog and people from all over the world were praying. He said that whatever they were doing ...worked!

Her surgeon was amazed about her progress and expects a full recovery. And do you know what? That's what so many were praying for ... a full recovery.

How's that for the power of prayer?

So, my sister Christine and I thank you for your prayers. She has gone through much through the years. I believe in the midst of this particular trial, she has learned that ...God is faithful.

And yes ...He hears the prayers of His people.

How amazing is that?

Then Sings My Soul Saturday ~ Have Thine Own Way Lord

debbiepetras@cox.net (Debbie) — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 07:30:00 +0000

It's Then Sings My Soul Saturday when I link up with Amy of Signs, Miracles and Wonders. You can visit Amy and find other participating blogs.

For the past few days, I've been waking up with this song in my head. It's an old classic called "Have Thine Own Way Lord". I guess it's because of what's been going on in my life lately and where I am spiritually.

I'm learning to lay it ALL down and to trust the Lord in ALL things.

I love the beautiful landscape photos and the soothing music and lyrics in this video.

Happy Then Sings My Soul Saturday and thanks for visiting Heart Choices!

Fitness Friday ~ Self Esteem

debbiepetras@cox.net (Debbie) — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 07:01:00 +0000

It's Fitness Friday and I'd like to share a few thoughts about self-esteem. If you pick up any self-help book or magazine, you'll read how important it is to instill self-esteem in your children. And anyone who has had a dysfunctional childhood often suffers from low self-esteem.

While this issue may be very real for many, I think there's a different way to consider dealing with esteem.

If you're a Christian you can have ...God esteem!

Just think about it. The one true living God created you and loves you.

When I wrap my mind around that and realize that it's all about His grace and mercy and I've done nothing to deserve it ...I'm absolutely amazed!

Self-esteem? No way. I don't need to puff myself up and tell myself how good I am. I certainly didn't deserve to be saved and loved by God. But He sent His Son to this earth to pay for my sins. And all I did was ...receive this free gift of salvation.

He loves me (and you) that much. Isn't that special?

And because of that I have ...true freedom.

Not freedom as the world suggests. But peace with God. I don't have to try to gain His approval.

Because of all He's done for me, I have such an overwhelming feeling of gratitude and love. I want to give myself fully to Him in response.

Listen to this love letter I read this morning entitled "My Princess ..Walk in My Confidence". It's from Sheri Rose Shepherd's book His Princess: Love Letters from your King:

"I know the world whispers in your ear that what you possess defines who you are, and what you look like determines your worth. This is a lie, My love. The generations to come will never remember you for the things you accumulate or the efforts you placed in your appearance. In fact, the harder you strive to collect more things and to perfect your image, the more insecure you will be about who you are and why you are here. I am in you and you are in Me. I will give you all that you need. Now go and walk through your world in the confidence that I've uniquely equipped you with all you need to impact the lives of those around you forever!
Love,
Your King and your Confidence

I don't know about you but I had to read that letter several times. It just blesses me so much.

(photo credit: Prevention)

Yes, we're all shaped differently. And we need to take proper care of our bodies as we are temples of the Holy Spirit. But it's about establishing a healthy lifestyle. We are free in Christ but we shouldn't use food or laziness as an excuse to indulge our flesh over and over again.

Just think about this.

Almighty God loves you and knows everything about you and ...He still loves you.

You've heard the expression "God makes no junk."

Well, you're special because of ...who you belong to.

You can have God esteem. Isn't that better than self-esteem?

Which would you rather have?

BTW, don't forget to hop over to Sandy's God Speaks Today for more Fitness Friday. She always has great stuff to share in her typical Sandy humor that I love. And Sarah of All Pain No Gain is joining us too so go check out her blog post too.

Thankful Thursday ~ Change

debbiepetras@cox.net (Debbie) — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 08:08:00 +0000

It's Thankful Thursday and Lynn of Spiritually Unequal Marriage is hosting. Lynn chose the theme of change for this week.

Whenever I hear the word change, my first instinct is fear. My natural tendency is towards stability and I tend to ...avoid change.

(Norwegian artist: Edvard Munch "The Scream")

I like to stay in my comfort zone. Even when change might be good for me, God often has to push me where I don't willingly want to go. I'm not one for taking lots of risks. And yet, right now I feel like I'm out on a ledge which is very scary.

But growing in faith requires me to trust and step out; not in my own strength ...but in the Lord's.

Even during this changing season in my life, I can be thankful as I see God at work:

My marriage has been growing in such a positive way. Often when people are going through a stressful time, couples can blame each other and fight. But Greg and I are growing closer and for that I'm so thankful.
Greg returned safely from a necessary trip to San Francisco with a major situation behind him. His flight was delayed by several hours because of a major dust storm in Phoenix. But the first thing he said when he came off the plane was how much he missed me. The woman he sat beside on the plane came up to me smiling and said Greg had told her all about me. She invited us to come to hear her husband play in his band. What a change because normally Greg does work on flights instead of being chatty. :)
My friend Terri and her husband Steve took me to lunch at one of my favorite restaurants called Postino's. We got to celebrate Steve's birthday which was fun.
The weather has been cooler in Phoenix. Yay God. It's exciting to turn off the air conditioning and open up the doors and windows.
I got to meet Sarah Dawn of Splashin' Glory and her family at their new home nearby. How thankful I was to have this opportunity to meet her and hug her in person.
On the way home from Sarah Dawn's I missed an exit on the freeway so I decided to use this opportunity to stop by my friend Sue's house which was close by. I meant to just say hi and get going but she and her husband Jim insisted I stay and have dinner with them. I'm so thankful for the fun time we had together!

I see the Lord at work in my circumstances. It's been rare for me to have any time to myself lately and yet He provided time for friendship this past week. He's been changing my husband's heart in such positive ways too.

So, instead of fearing change ...I will embrace it.

As long as I'm submitting each day to the Lord, I know He will guide me and teach me. And I'm learning to trust His perfect timing and His perfect ways more and more.

Following Her Dreams

debbiepetras@cox.net (Debbie) — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 07:04:00 +0000

Ever since I can remember, my niece Katie walked to a beat of her own. She's unique ...but in a good way.

She didn't particularly enjoy school but she always loved doing hair and makeup. And she loved to travel.

When she and her sister Kristin were growing up, I took many trips with them to places like Washington DC, San Diego, Malibu, and New York City. Uncle Greg joined us when we went to San Francisco and Las Vegas.

I remember the first time Katie went to NYC. She was gazing at all the tall buildings and people and ...shopping opportunities.

She said it wasn't what she had expected. At the time, I wasn't sure if that was good or not.

But guess where Katie lives?

In Brooklyn just across the bridge from Manhattan.

And she works in a hair salon. Go figure!

But I'm proud of her for following her dreams. Who knows how long she'll stay in the city but she's getting great experience, right?

Katie has always been a dog lover. She's one of those people who lays on the ground playing with her dog. And she talks baby talk to them too. LOL.
And Katie's getting to travel too. She grew up in Florida but now she's experiencing the different seasons. I can't believe she's actually in a corn maze.

But Katie is following her dreams and I respect her for that.

She's going to ask me how I got these photos that I didn't take. But that's what her Facebook is for, right?

Now when is she going to come and do her Aunt Debbie's hair?

In Other Words Tuesdays ~ Peace

debbiepetras@cox.net (Debbie) — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 17:02:00 +0000

I almost forgot that it was In Other Words Tuesday today so my post is up a bit later than usual. Patricia of Typing One-Handed is our host this week and she chose the following quote for us:

Peace seems to something that I've been seeking for some time now.

But I've found that TRUE PEACE is not found in:

An orderly house although I do function better that way
Relationships no matter how special they are
Acts of kindness although it can be such a blessing to give and to receive
Money in my bank account
A perfect marriage (Is there such a thing? LOL)
Well behaved children or not having children
Holding hands and singing "Give Peace a Chance" (yeah, I was a child of the '60s)
Attempting to control my circumstances when they're out of my control (ever tried that?)
Trying to focus on positive things when my mind is distracted and all over the place

In this verse of Scripture in John 14, Jesus says that ...He provides the peace.

He tells us to not let our hearts be troubled and not to be fearful. Only a relationship with Jesus can provide that true peace, no matter what the circumstances of my life may be.

But I have a choice to make. As a Christian, I have His Spirit within me. He provides me with all I need if ...I choose to listen and obey.

Or I can listen to my flesh that I must contend with on this side of eternity.

Will I choose His peace by listening to Him?

Or will I attempt to do it my way?

The choice seems easy but it's ...a moment by moment heart choice.

And I do desire this true peace that only Jesus provides.

How about you?

Meeting Sarah Dawn of Splashin' Glory

debbiepetras@cox.net (Debbie) — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 07:14:00 +0000

Have you met Sarah Dawn of Splashin' Glory? If you've not ...you need to read her blog. Sarah Dawn has an incredible way with words. It's like poetry for the soul and spirit. Her words often touch my heart.

I began following her blog when she "happened" to be state side for a period of time visiting family in Arizona. She wrote a comment on Heart Choices and I started reading about her family's life in Costa Rica as YWAM missionaries. Here's how Sarah Dawn describes herself on her profile:

" Just me, dancing in His rain on the mission field. Wife to my knight Ryan, mommy to little princes Joshua and Caleb, and adopting our princess from Ethiopia. Jeans and t-shirt prayer warrior, desiring to bring God's kingdom to earth and learning to hear the heartbeat of heaven. Come and splash around with me!"

I had the opportunity to meet Sarah Dawn ...in person today! Woo hoo!

Sarah Dawn and her husband Ryan felt the Lord calling them back to Arizona. So now they don't live too far from me.

Caleb was too cute and decided he'd be in the picture with us. Of course, his older brother Joshua got into the act too. The front of his shirt says "yo creo" or "I believe" and he proudly showed me the back that says "Y tu?" or "and you?"

What a pleasant afternoon it was! Sarah Dawn and I had the opportunity to share bits of our lives with one another. She has such a peaceful serene beautiful face and it's easy to feel comfortable in her presence. I'm probably old enough to be her grandmother. Well, maybe just her mother but that made no difference. We are sisters in the Lord and our bond is ...our love for Jesus.

We had the opportunity to pray together which was such a blessing. I can't wait to see what God has in store for this family as they are trusting His guidance. I learned much about living by faith as I listened to Sarah Dawn share with me.

As many of you know, I tend to struggle with control issues but I'm slowly learning to lay it ALL down. But it's a moment by moment battle at times. I love being around people who live a life of faith.

I encourage you to visit Splashin' Glory and tell Sarah Dawn that I sent you over. You'll love her too. And when we parted today, we agreed that we'd be getting together again. I look forward to that.

Coins, Blessing and Hope

debbiepetras@cox.net (Debbie) — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 21:45:00 +0000

You may be thinking what do coins, blessing and hope have to do with one another?

Well, let me share what happened to me on Friday.

For those who follow Heart Choices, you know I'm in the midst of a challenging season in my life. Yes, we all have those times in life. However, I've probably been more open and transparent lately than I've ever been.

My husband Greg loves old coins. He's been collecting them since he was a little boy. Whenever anyone in my family would ask what to buy Greg for a birthday or Christmas gift, I always told them "old coins".

I remember my mom asking if there wasn't something else to give him, but I told her that's what Greg loves. So, that's what he always got as a gift from our families. Greg's mom always found the best coins as she would shop the old coin dealers and excitedly wait as he opened her gift.

Years ago, we were robbed and many of Greg's coins were stolen. It took years to build up his supply of coins again.

Recently, we had a specific need and Greg told me to sell the coins. I felt so bad but he reminded me that they can always be replaced. After all, we went through losing them in the past. I was really sad but I visited coin shops and was finally directed to a place called C &C Coins in Phoenix.

As I walked into this shop, there were several older men who were bringing in their silver and coins to sell. I noticed that the owner of the shop was a young man and he treated each person with such kindness and dignity. He didn't seem to judge anyone by their outward appearance and seemed to know many by their first name. One older man left and forgot his package. So this owner ran outside and caught up with him at the traffic light. He returned to the store with ...a smile on his face.

He sorted through my coins and explained about their value. We got into a conversation about the economy and how busy he had become with people selling many silver and gold coins. But I noticed something different about him and I felt it in my spirit. As we continued speaking, he talked about material possessions and how meaningless they really are. I asked him if he was a Christian. He smiled broadly and said yes.

Ken is a man who was living a life of faith in action. He wasn't imposing his beliefs on others. But the way he treated people was so different from the world. He was kind and respectful. He seemed genuinely interested when he was speaking to each person.

As we continued interacting, he mentioned that he went to Grace Community Church in Tempe, Arizona. It turned out that we knew many of the same people, including one of my best friends Sue. In fact, he told me that she was bringing a neighbor to the shop that very afternoon! Coincidence? I believe it was ...a very special God moment for me.

I left that coin shop with more money than I had even hoped to obtain. But more importantly, I left with ...a renewed sense of hope.

I needed that special touch from God and he used a submitted vessel named Ken to do that.

The next morning, I received a phone call from Sue. She had been to the coin shop later that day and was so excited to hear about my encounter. And then Sue told me that Ken and her husband were serving in a ministry that very morning servicing cars for single moms ...for free.

Somehow, I wasn't surprised!

Sue and I had a good cry on the phone. They were tears of joy. Sue knows me very well and we've been there for each other through many situations. I met her about 15 years ago when I was her son Mikey's nurse. He was only in his late 20's when he died but I'll save that story for another post. Sue and I have continued our friendship over the years and we have Mikey to thank for that.

But I was so grateful that we could share this moment together. How awesome is our God who knows what we need ...just when we need it?

Then Sings My Soul Saturday ~ Waiting on the Rain

debbiepetras@cox.net (Debbie) — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 07:10:00 +0000

It's Then Sings My Soul Saturday when I link up with Amy of Signs, Miracles and Wonders. I hope you take the time to blog hop along with us and sing and worship. It always lifts my spirit when I participate.

I had an unusually difficult week. I'm so grateful for my bloggy friends. You really are a wonderful community of friends who offer encourgement and prayer.

Jill of Forever N Ever N Always shared this song with me the other day and it was such a blessing. Thank you Jill for your prayers and words of encouragement!

Are you in a desert or a wilderness time? Are you waiting for the rain? Maybe the promises you hope to see haven't been fulfilled.

Don't give up HOPE! There will be times of draught and famine but by faith ...we can wait for the rain.

Happy TSMSS and thank you for visiting Heart Choices!

Walk with Him Wednesday ~ Surrender

debbiepetras@cox.net (Debbie) — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 03:11:00 +0000

Last Wednesday was my first week participating in Walk with Him Wednesday, and I loved it. Ann Voskamp is our host and I have to say I've found myself drawn to her blog Holy Experience. It's like stepping back in time to peace and quiet and ...my soul seems to be craving that right now.

(Photo credit: House Beautiful)

I'm the kind of person who loved the Walton's. Growing up, nobody else in my family liked that show. After all, I was born and raised in New York. It was Long Island but we often spent time in the city since it was an hour train ride on the Long Island Railroad.

But as an adult, I always take the time to watch the Walton's Thanksgiving movie. Sometimes I think I should have been born in earlier times but then I remember they didn't shower often and forget about blow dryers and microwaves. So, I guess God knew what He was doing by allowing me to be born for ...such a time as this.

Ann suggests that we post ways we grow closer in our walk with the Lord each Wednesday. Last week, we wrote about ways that we slow down and are still. It was a good exercise for me and I enjoyed writing that post.

This week has been very trying for me. I've struggled more with being still and lapsed back into worry. Oh, I hate when I do that because I know better.

I pray and read my Bible each morning. I'm trying to develop a lifestyle of prayer. I'm even doing a study on Romans 12 with my Sunday morning small group at church.

Romans 12: 1-2 has become an almost daily prayer for me.

"Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God - this is your spiritual act of worship. Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is - His good, pleasing and perfect will."

So, what's my problem? I still keep struggling with control. I think I'm fully surrendered to the Lord. I give Him a blank check to do what He pleases with my life.

But then ...life gets in the way.

I get scared.

I can't control the reactions of the people closest to me.

I don't know what the future holds.

As I'm writing this, I have to smile because I know I do not have to fear or worry about being in control.

I serve a loving God who is the Creator and sustainer of all. And He is in control. Not me. Not the circumstances and challenges. And He knows me intimately and He still loves me. How much better can that be?

When I remember this, I am filled with hope, joy and peace. When I surrender it ALL and lay down ALL of the uncertainties ...I can rest in Him.

And then He can use me as His vessel to work in me and through me to touch others in love.

In Other Words Tuesdays ~ Getting Bumped

debbiepetras@cox.net (Debbie) — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 23:43:00 +0000

It's In Other Words Tuesday and Miriam of Miriam Pauline's Monologue is our host this week. She has chosen the following quote for us to write about today:

I have to say that this quote hit me right between the eyes! You see, I really want to be patient and kind and loving in all circumstances. But lately, I've been a bit surprised with ...what's been coming out of me.

When life is going along smoothly, it's easy to be sweet and nice and kind. But when you're going through those difficult seasons that never seem to end, I have to admit ...the tension can overwhelm me.

One of the things that helped me is remembering a teaching of Scott Samter of Opening His Word Together. It was on Romans 12 and Scott was describing how Christians have a choice.

Our spirit is alive in Christ but we still struggle with our flesh this side of eternity. He used an analogy of an AM and FM radio station. The AM station is Adam or presaved. The FM station is God's station.

Romans 12:1 talks about presenting our bodies as a living sacrifice. Scott said that the greatest warfare we deal with is between our ears. Every action starts with a thought.

Who will rule? Our spirit (FM station) or our flesh (AM station)?

This stuck with me and now when I find that when I'm reacting and speaking impatient and unloving words, I pause and recognize what's happening. I'm reacting out of my flesh (AM station). I go to 1 John 1:9 which is my spiritual bar of soap:

"If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness."

When I'm "bumped", my desire is to not react from my flesh (AM station) but to live with my dial set on my FM station.

Laced with Grace ~ Kindness

debbiepetras@cox.net (Debbie) — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 08:35:00 +0000

Kindness seems to be lost these days.

The other day, I was driving my car doing errands and I noticed how rude many drivers are. Everyone seemed to be in a rush. As I tried to navigate into the next lane of traffic, would anyone let me in? No way! And then I found myself behind a car in the left lane that was traveling the same speed as the car in the right lane. So I was stuck behind them both.

I'm over at Laced with Grace today so to continue reading this post, please hop on over...