Girl on the loose

What a Year 2012. Hello 2013

noreply@blogger.com (Asanda Madikane) — Tue, 01 Jan 2013 09:30:00 +0000

What a wonderful year it has been. Looking back on the last post I made in September 2011. I was making the commitment to complete a year in a Master of International Business and Economics.

In the meanwhile the peaceful realization, that it was time for my husband and I (my best buddie for 6 years) to make us three in January of 2012. February we heard a heart beat. June 2012, I graduated from Business School. September launched the business concept that holds true and beyond Girl on the Loose. I created Lulu Goplay, a subscription service that enhances intimate relationships and help make women feel sexy and confident. (See what I'm getting too here. :))

And with a belly full, I did not stop. My beautiful son was born in November and to weeks later I held true to the concept of Lulu Goplay and decided to launch it in Belgium first and the other european countries with its beta launch, airing in mid- January. "They is no rest for this lady".

So first with the apologies- I'm sorry. I have not written any inspirational quotes since the 2nd September 2011. I understand that is a very long time. I hope the inspiration on this blog had been used to your disposal whenever you may have a had any hardship, sadness, happiness, thankfulness and fun.
I have come to understand the value of Girl on the Loose and would like to keep it as pure and true it has always been and share it even further.

I'm still a girl on the loose, looking for fun, inspiration and happiness in all that I do. And with utmost care would like to bring its great philosophies to other girls and boys from around the world with LuluGoplay.

To those who don't know Girl on the Loose. Welcome and look around, read and enjoy.
Life's journey is meant to be shared.

Happy New Year to all.

Let's make 2013 Great

5 Ways to Stay Positive When Times get Hard

noreply@blogger.com (Asanda Madikane) — Fri, 02 Sep 2011 12:05:00 +0000

Stay positive- Has to be the first and most important thing that one can do. It’s easy to turn to being negative when times get hard. Whenever things are going our way its easier to be positive and free flowing. So the choice is to either be positive at all times. Or to simply let the way of the world determine how we feel.
Want more out of life- Meaning that you want to become more and have more than you already do. Living a life that you’ve always dreamed of. Spiritually and mentally all in one.
Believe that you can get through it- Knowing that it’s only a temporary thing. That it is not permanent. If you lost your job, girlfriend, wife and etc. It’s only a temporary thing. Because if you believe it or not there is more out there.
You can have whatever you want- Its as simple as that. One of the reasons why many people have what they want is because they believe that they can have it. This applies to success and many other things.
Be willing to put in the time and effort- It’s not going to come easy. You have to be willing to put in the hours, effort, sweat to achieve what it is that you want.

I Have No Arms or No Legs

noreply@blogger.com (Asanda Madikane) — Sun, 21 Aug 2011 12:23:00 +0000

NEVER GIVE UP

I Hope you Have the Courage

noreply@blogger.com (Asanda Madikane) — Mon, 27 Jun 2011 09:27:00 +0000

In life nothing is what is or should be or should have been. It is the eternal now, the perflex conundrum. It is our searching, our wanting and our never knowing. It is these diving fighting factors that make us human . That make us hurt, cry, sing, hug, love and dance like we never danced before. It means all, and nothing. We spend too much time in our life wondering what is and what it isn't and what should have been. When the fact of the matter is that you are still here. Breathing, seeing, feeling and hopefully living. In fact you would sleep better If just took a second to let it go.

You am the captain of my soul but sometime even the waves of the ocean and the winds of the tides will steer your course. In life nothing is concrete. Nothing is sure. Best be happy with yourself and today. Best you have the courage change and start again.

How to Be Irresistible at Any Age

noreply@blogger.com (Asanda Madikane) — Fri, 27 May 2011 12:40:00 +0000

Editors’ Note: This is a guest post from Christopher Foster of The Happy Seeker.

Many years ago, when I was a young fellow of 23, I said goodbye to my native England and journeyed to British Columbia. My heart said I would find meaning and freedom in that big, wild country. About a year after arriving in BC my entire life changed in an instant one summer afternoon.

A friend had arranged for me to meet a British lord named Martin Cecil. He was a member of a famous British family, a well-known B.C. cattleman and also leader of a spiritual community in the interior B.C.

I had a good job as a reporter in Victoria, B.C., but wanted to learn more about this community. I had a strong feeling that I would know, as soon as I met Martin Cecil, if I could trust him — and if the community was the right thing for me.

No sooner did he get out of his chair and walk toward me than I knew instinctively that I could trust him – and wanted to join the community. He was irresistible. He didn’t have to say a word. I felt the peace of his presence. I felt his integrity in his smile and in his clear blue eyes.

I felt the strength, love, wisdom and utter dependability of his character and the truth is I was part of the community he founded in the Cariboo country of BC for 36 years.

Do you want to be irresistible?

Do you want to be irresistible? It’s quite simple. All you have to do is to be true to your own true character, and express that character in living.

But how do we do that? How do we access the gold of love and truth that is buried deep in every one of us? And what is it anyway, this authentic character that is our true wealth and the greatest gift, really, that we have to give to our world?

Here are some ways to express true character

1. Learn from nature.

If you want to be irresistible, what better place to start than studying nature? Nature doesn’t seem to find it hard to be irresistible. Whether nature is being a daffodil, a tree, a hurricane, or the roar in a lion’s throat, it simply IS irresistible.

One of the things I love most about nature is its patience. Consider, for example, how a young tree grows. It takes its time. It doesn’t just try to push itself out of the ground by brute force, it spirals its way out of the ground – gently, but very persistently. I can say, after 79 years of living on this planet, that quaint though it may sound, this approach really works. It can get you through a lot of difficult situations, too.

2. Be still.

“Silence,” says an ancient Native Indian tradition “is the cornerstone of true character.” We live in a culture that is very oriented to doing and achieving. Nothing wrong with that, of course. But if we want to deepen our connection with our own being, with our own true character, we must take some time every now and again to simply be still.

“Be still, and know that I am God,” said the Psalmist, and the words are the compass of my life.

The interesting thing is that sometimes, a few moments consciously “not doing” can actually increase our creativity and productivity no end. It can also help us in connecting more deeply with our own inner wisdom. History is full of tales of famous people who had their “breakthrough” moments when, strangely enough, they weren’t doing anything. In fact they may have given up on their project altogether.

3. Be persistent.

I recently created a course on the theme of “happy aging” that I’m offering at my blog on May 23 entitled “How to look (and feel) 10 years younger: The true promise and potential of aging.” I share my own experience that aging is nothing to fear, but can be a door to true meaning and happiness at any age. And I share how though our physical form ages, our unconquerable spirit never grows old.

I can tell you that finishing “The True Promise and Potential of Aging” over the last few months with serious help from Mary Jaksch of the A-List Blogger Club has been like giving birth.

It’s called for every ounce of persistence that is in me. Please don’t give up on any true and worthwhile endeavor in which you may be engaged. Don’t give up on a single one of your dreams or goals, if they are true dreams and true goals. We live in a benevolent universe and all you need is persistence and a little wisdom and your dreams will come true.

4. Value little moments as much as big ones.

When we are expressing true character we appreciate the little moments of life and care for them to the best of our ability just as much as we honor the “big” moments.

I used to marvel at how my mentor, Martin, would take so much care with cutting his lawn or fixing a broken toilet. Walking into a coffee shop, for example, or into a food market, listening to a stream or watching children at play – it’s all an opportunity to step back from our conditioned existence and celebrate the joy and spontaneity of life.

5. Love balance.

We live in a loving universe that relies on balance. If we would be true to our own true character we too must love balance and seek balance at all times. For example, it seems paradoxical, but only the strong can be gentle. And although I find great delight, especially as I get older, in sometimes simply sitting in a chair doing nothing, life demands action and creativity too.

6. Be interested in other people.

If you really want to be irresistible, be genuinely interested in what someone else is interested in. If you can find out what makes someone excited or happy – their eyes will glow and friendship will flow.

7. Be kind.

Be kind to yourself and others. Sometimes, caught up in some important task, we put undue pressure on ourselves or another. It’s important to be kind and gracious to everything and everyone we meet. It is not weak to be kind. It is a mark of true character — it reveals the love at the core of our being.

Quotes about Change

noreply@blogger.com (Asanda Madikane) — Mon, 18 Apr 2011 08:39:00 +0000

Nothing endures but change.
Heraclitus (540 BC - 480 BC), from Diogenes Laertius, Lives of Eminent Philosophers

It's not that some people have willpower and some don't. It's that some people are ready to change and others are not.
James Gordon, M.D.

Change has a considerable psychological impact on the human mind. To the fearful it is threatening because it means that things may get worse. To the hopeful it is encouraging because things may get better. To the confident it is inspiring because the challenge exists to make things better.
King Whitney Jr.

We did not change as we grew older; we just became more clearly ourselves.Lynn Hall, Where Have All the Tigers Gone?, 1989

The universe is change; our life is what our thoughts make it.

Marcus Aurelius Antoninus (121 AD - 180 AD), Meditations

Any transition serious enough to alter your definition of self will require not just small adjustments in your way of living and thinking but a full-on metamorphosis.
Martha Beck, O Magazine, Growing Wings, January 2004

The more things change, the more they remain... insane.
Michael Fry and T. Lewis, Over the Hedge, 05-09-04

There is nothing like returning to a place that remains unchanged to find the ways in which you yourself have altered.
Nelson Mandela (1918 - ), 'A Long Walk to Freedom'

Change your thoughts and you change your world.
Norman Vincent Peale (1898 - 1993)

Turbulence is life force. It is opportunity. Let's love turbulence and use it for change.
Ramsay Clark

This isn't good or bad. It's just the way of things. Nothing stays the same.
Real Live Preacher, RealLivePreacher.com Weblog, January 03, 2004

Nothing in the world is permanent, and we're foolish when we ask anything to last, but surely we're still more foolish not to take delight in it while we have it. If change is of the essence of existence one would have thought it only sensible to make it the premise of our philosophy.
W. Somerset Maugham (1874 - 1965), The Razor's Edge, 1943

Top 10 List of Favorite Inspirational Quotes:

noreply@blogger.com (Asanda Madikane) — Mon, 28 Mar 2011 10:01:00 +0000

Favorite Inspirational Quote #1

Whether you think you can or whether you think you can't, you're right.
Henry Ford
Favorite Inspirational Quote #2: You see things; and you say 'Why?' But I dream things that never were; and I say 'Why not?'
George Bernard Shaw

Favorite Inspirational Quote #3: Within each of us lies the power of our consent to health and sickness, to riches and poverty, to freedom and to slavery. It is we who control these, and not another.
Richard Bach (Illusions)
Favorite Inspirational Quote #4: Never look down on anybody unless you're helping him up.
Jesse Jackson
Favorite Inspirational Quote #5: To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Favorite Inspirational Quote #6: A bird doesn't sing because it has an answer, it sings because it has a song.
Maya Angelou
Favorite Inspirational Quote #7: There is no use trying, said Alice; one can't believe impossible things. I dare say you haven't had much practice, said the Queen. When I was your age, I always did it for half an hour a day. Why, sometimes I've believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast.
Lewis Carroll
Favorite Inspirational Quote #8: The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore all progress depends on the unreasonable man.
George Bernard Shaw

Favorite Inspirational Quote #9: The journey is the reward.
Chinese Proverb
Favorite Inspirational Quote #10: People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within.
Elizabeth Kubler Ross

Think Rich, Grow Rich

noreply@blogger.com (Asanda Madikane) — Sat, 19 Mar 2011 12:53:00 +0000

"I bargained with life for a penny

and life would pay no more,

however, I begged at evening

when I counted my scanty store;

For life is a just employer

he gives you what you ask

but, once you have set the wages

why, you must bear the task;

I worked for a menial's hire

only to learn dismayed

that any wage I had asked of life,

life would have willingly paid."

You are probably wondering where I have been. What I have been doing. But as a promise to myself at the very beginning of the creation of this blog, I am here to create and design the life of my dreams. My dream is so big and so wide that to anybody it would be considered ridiculous and seriously crazy. With failure and failure at every corner I continue to fight and I will prevail.

If I had given up at any of those times when times where really bad when I thought I was not going to make it, I was probably right. So I changed my mind and I said. I will make it, and I was probably right. That is the lesson I would love to share with you today.

If you have not downloaded your free ebook yet, I truly understand why you are still struggling in life. If you can even take the first action to make a change in your life- How will things get better?

I am truly happy to share this with you as it has been my mandarin since this blog had started. I am truly thankful for your positive energies and I am so happy I have been able to open so many door of success for myself. To perseverance and success.
I share with you a message from my mentor and my tutor. Mr. Napoleon Hill.

Extraordinary Life

noreply@blogger.com (Asanda Madikane) — Sat, 19 Mar 2011 12:28:00 +0000

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Looking for Inspirational Editors

noreply@blogger.com (Asanda Madikane) — Fri, 25 Feb 2011 11:27:00 +0000

Hello Fellow Readers,

Wow, It has been an amazing 6 months with over 50, 000 views and counting. Girl on da Loose continues to inspire and motivate people to live their life to the fullest.

If you are;

A sad or happy person
A dreamer or a conqueror
A thinker or a philosopher
A penny saver or a spender
An explorer or treasure hunter
A speaker or a whisperer
A chancer or a caution baby
Wise or knowledgeable
Scared or fearless

I am looking for you.

We are growing so fast and would like to invite those dare devil bloggers and writers to share content and quotes of wisdom to the rest of the family. Girl on da Loose is a community of positive like minded people who share love, hope and all things beautiful in this world.

I would like to personally invite you to be an one of the Editors of Girlondaloose. If you would like you to be one of the community editors.

Get the opportunity to share your story with thousands online
Get your spot of fame
Be your own expert to thousands who are looking for answers
Welcome your friends and family to a great blogging community.
Meet the Facebook Fan Page
Best Part: Making new Friends!

You can leave your information in the following ways.

So Let yourself be known. Send a shout out in the comments block.

If you do not want to leave your name a details. Just grab the free ebook with your best gmail address.

Email me at girlondaloose@gmail.com Att: I'M YOUR EDITOR

It would be Great to meet you all at your First Post.
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22 Secrets to Discovering Your Dreams and Living It

noreply@blogger.com (Asanda Madikane) — Mon, 21 Feb 2011 15:07:00 +0000

One of the most important rules of happiness in life is to do what you love. But discovering that dream job and what you are meant to do in life isn't always so easy.

Take a look at the happiest, most successful people on this planet: they are all doing something they love, creating something they believe in, living a life of purpose and passion. Do that, and it doesn't matter how much money you make.

But what do you do if you don't know what you want to do? If you don't know what your dream is? This is a common problem, and many people wander through much of their life without discovering their passion, and go from job to job, unfulfilled and miserable.

If that's you, don't give up. What follows is a list of suggestions that will help you discover your dream, and start on the road to living that dream. They're things that have worked for me and many others I've studied, talked to, interviewed and admired.

While you don't need to do every step below, they are all ways for your to spend time thinking about your passion in life, your dreams, and how to accomplish them. If you spend time thinking about your dreams, you are taking the first step towards making them a reality.
The first step is to give this stuff some thought.

What are your hobbies? This doesn't just mean stamp collecting -- it means anything you do with your spare time. That could be collecting comic books, reading about history, programming Linux utilities, writing on your blog, writing poetry, cooking, whatever. As it's clear that this is how you like to spend your time, and that you're willing to do these things without pay, it's very possible that these are your passions. Give each of your hobbies some thought, and think about whether they're things you love to do, and that you'd love to do for a living.

What are your talents? It's been said that we each have at least one gift we've been given, and that the true purpose of our lives is discovering that gift, and sharing it with the world. There is much truth in that statement, and an important part of this process is discovering your gift. What are you good at? What talents do you have? What have you shown an aptitude for in your current and previous jobs, in school, in your personal life? Anything goes here.

Who do you like to work with? A dream job includes not only what you want to do, but who you are doing it with. You should truly enjoy working with these people. In this step, you can name specific people you love working with, or types of people (creative types, programmers, entrepreneurs, blue collar, etc.). Use your ideas here to help you envision your dream job (more on that below).

What do you like to work with? The tools of the job are very important. If you love working with computers (even a specific type of computer), that's a clue to your dream job. If you love working with clay, or paper, or people, or clothes, that's a clue. If you like working with a hammer, or a piano, you're off to a great start in discovering your dream.

What environment do you enjoy working in? An office, a college, a classroom, a construction site, the ocean, the forest? Where you work is also an important factor in your dream job.

When have you been happiest? Think back throughout all the previous times of your life, from childhood through adolescence, school, different jobs, different areas, different hobbies. Think about the happiest times of your life, and what you were doing, who you were doing it with, and where you were doing it. You may have dismissed some of these things for various reasons, but remembering that you were extremely happy during those times can make you realize why you were happy.

Try online tools. There are some great tools online for helping you find your purpose. Here are just a few of my favorites:
- 43 Things: A great way to see what goals others have, to list your own goals, to talk to others about common goals, to get ideas and inspiration. Also see their article, How to Choose Achievable Goals.
- Dreamminder. A site where you write down your dream, and it will send it to you at some point in the future. Use their dream wizard to discover your dream. Read the dreams of others to get inspired.
- One Question: Take a test with questions to figure out your one purpose in life. With articles to help as well.

List your top 5 passions. Now that you've given various factors some thought, and tried some online tools, make a short list of your top 5 passions. If you don't have 5, list as many as you have. Then compare your top 5 passions, and rank them from top to bottom. This will be the starting point your guide to making your dream a reality.

How can you turn your passions into your work? Of the top 2-3 passions on your short list, can any of them be turned into your life's work? What professions use those passions as a mainstay of their work? How would you get into those professions, and do you think you would love what you do if you did them?

Create a clear vision. Clarity of vision is the key to achieving your dream once you've discovered it. Take some time to think about exactly what your dream is, what your dream job would be, how you see yourself doing it, where you are, what you're surrounded by, who you're working with, what tools you're using, the benefits to you and others. Write it down, and try to make it as clear as possible. You should be able to visualize this dream in your head. The more real it seems in your mind, the more likely it is that it will become reality.

Create a roadmap. Once you've clearly pictured your destination, what's left is creating a map for getting to that destination. Try backwards planning: what's the last step you'd have to do before attaining your goal? What would the last step be before that step? Keep going backwards until you get to the first step. Then focus all your efforts on that first step.

Brainstorm. Sometimes there are more than one road to get to a destination. Brainstorm a bunch of ideas for getting there, a bunch of actions you can take to move yourself closer to your destination. Then put them together into your roadmap. Even if you don't have a complete roadmap, having a clearly defined destination, and taking the first step, are enough to get you started.

Do research. Learn as much as you can about your dream. Check out some books from the library, do some web surfing, talk to others who are knowledgeable. Become an expert on the topic.

How are others doing it? Find others who are living your dream. Read about them, write to them, meet with them. Find out what steps they took to get there, what's required, how they did it. Then use that information for your roadmap.

Practice, practice. While you're taking your steps to realizing your dream, practice your passion as much as possible. Practice, of course, makes perfect ... and you want to be as good at what you want to do as humanly possible. This isn't an easy step, but it's worth it.

Get inspired. Find others who are trying to achieve the same dream, see what obstacles they've face and how they've overcome them. Put up photos from magazines to inspire you. Read motivational quotes. If you're inspired, you will have the energy needed to get there.

Get motivated. Along those lines, find motivation to keep you on your path. Motivation and focus are the keys to achieving any goal. What are your motivations? Making a public commitment, setting up rewards, inspiring yourself, tracking your progress, and joining a support group or finding a partner are great ways to motivate yourself.

Simplify: one purpose. Once you've defined your dream, focus on it completely. That means you need to put any other goals on the backburner for now, and have only one purpose in your life. Later, you can focus on other goals, but if you have multiple goals, you will become distracted and lose purpose. Focus. Simplify your life so that you are keeping your focus on that one thing.

Use a mantra. A great way to keep yourself focused is to use Guy Kawasaki's idea of creating a mantra instead of a mission statement. Boil your goal down to a few words. Guys' mantra: empower entrepreneurs. What's yours? Once you've defined your mantra, print it out, post it up, and say it several times a day.

Set aside time each day. You will not go anywhere if you don't devote time to your dream. Set aside an hour (or at least 30 minutes) each day for working towards your dream. If you can do more, great, but one step at a time is all it takes. Set aside time either in the morning, or in the evening, or some time when you know you will do it every day. Make it a habit, and you will succeed.

Pretend you can't fail. Imagine that you cannot fail, that you may slip up and fall, but that you will get up and learn from that fall. Take away all fear of risk and loss, and believe in your success. Now act as if you cannot fail. And by acting so, you will make it happen.

Live as you want to be remembered. How do you want to be remembered when you die? This is a common method for deciding how to live your life. If you want to remembered for realizing your dream, then don't start on it when it's too late. Start on it now. Live your life so that your dream actually comes true.

Happy Valentine's Day

noreply@blogger.com (Asanda Madikane) — Mon, 14 Feb 2011 16:52:00 +0000

Sonnet CXVI

by William Shakespeare

Let me not to the marriage of true minds
Admit impediments. Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove:
O, no! it is an ever-fixed mark,
That looks on tempests and is never shaken;
It is the star to every wandering bark,
Whose worth's unknown, although his height be taken.
Love's not Time's fool, though rosy lips and cheeks
Within his bending sickle's compass come;
Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,
But bears it out even to the edge of doom.
If this be error and upon me proved,
I never writ, nor no man ever loved.

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HOPE

noreply@blogger.com (Asanda Madikane) — Wed, 09 Feb 2011 13:45:00 +0000

We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope. -- Martin Luther King, Jr.

Never talk defeat. Use words like hope, belief, faith, victory. -- Norman Vincent Peale

Practice hope. As hopefulness becomes a habit, you can achieve a permanently happy spirit. -- Norman Vincent Peale

Hope is always available to us. When we feel defeated, we need only take a deep breath and say, "Yes," and hope will reappear. -- Monroe Forester We live by admiration, hope and love. -- William Wordsworth

We judge of man's wisdom by his hope. -- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Man is a creature of hope and invention, both of which belie the idea that things cannot be changed.-- Tom Clancy

The very least you can do in your life is to figure out what you hope for. And the most you can do is live inside that hope. Not admire it from a distance but live right in it, under its roof. -- Barbara Kingsolver

Hope is the last thing that dies in man; and though it be exceedingly deceitful, yet it is of this good use to us, that while we are traveling through life it conducts us in an easier and more pleasant way to our journey's end. -- François de la Rochefoucauld

He who does not hope to win has already lost. -- Jose Joaquin Olmedo

When you do nothing, you feel overwhelmed and powerless. But when you get involved, you feel the sense of hope and accomplishment that comes from knowing you are working to make things better.--Pauline R. Kezer

"Hope" is the thing with feathers-- That perches in the soul-- And sings the tune without the words-- And never stops--at all-- Emily Dickenson

10 Ways To Rekindle The Magic In Your Relationship

noreply@blogger.com (Asanda Madikane) — Mon, 24 Jan 2011 09:18:00 +0000

By Michael Webb
500 Lovemaking Tips

Are you frustrated that your relationship doesn’t have the magic and romance that it once had? You’re not alone. Living with the same partner for a long time can become stable and comfortable, and, as a result, can also cause the loss of the spark that made your relationship
so special in the first place. Here are some simple, fun and creative ideas to reignite that magic:

1. Send them a unique gift at work

Get a piece of paper and some crayons. Draw a bright childlike picture with a smiley sun and two stick figures holding hands. Add labels with your two names pointing to the stick figures. Write ‘I Love You’ inside a heart. Next get a large formal envelope. Place your drawing inside and type up a formal address label of your partner's workplace, such as: “For the immediate and urgent attention of: Rebecca Jones, Level 20, Collins & Smith Solicitors, New York.” Mail it to your partner so they receive it in the middle of a busy day.

2. Become kids again

If you are walking by a park, visit the swings and give your partner a ride. This will often bring back happy memories from their childhood.

3. Fun with water
On a hot summer’s day, buy two large water pistols and take them to the beach with you. Pull them out and throw one to your partner and then have a huge water fight.

4. A massage with a twist

Buy a small, decorated cardboard box, a sheet of colored tissue paper, some massage oil and a blank card. Line the box with the tissue paper. Place the massage oil in the box and write the following message on the card: I know a great masseur. For an appointment call: (Your Phone Number)

5. Bring back childhood memories

Contact your partner's family and ask if there was anything she always wanted when she was a little girl. For example if she always wanted a porcelain doll, buy one for her birthday. She will not only appreciate the gift, but also the fact that you were thoughtful enough to find out what she always wanted. You can do this for your man too.

6. Stare at the clouds

Drive into the country, find a grassy hill, and lie with your partner and look up at the clouds.

7. Go for a walk on the beach

Trace out the shape of a large love heart in the sand. Sit inside the heart and cuddle your partner as you watch the sun go down.

8. Organize a backyard picnic on a warm summer’s night

Spread a picnic blanket on the ground and get together some snacks, chocolates and champagne. Lie down on the blanket with your partner and gaze up at the stars together.

9. Show you’re grateful for your partner

Leave a long-stem rose where your partner will find it, with a note on it saying: "Thank you for coming into my life."

10. Spice up your lovemaking

Probably the most profound way to rekindle the romance in your relationship is to spice up your lovemaking. Surprise your partner with a little gift after you make love, try a new position, learn to give your partner a sensual massage before or after, or just spend some time staring into each other’s eyes and caressing their bare skin before making love. Many people underestimate the affect passionate and intimate lovemaking has on a relationship. If you
spice it up, chances are you and your partner will naturally do romantic things for each other. Why? Because passionate lovemaking connects two people in a meaningful and unexplainable way that nothing else can.

About the Author:

Oprah Love Expert Michael
Webb is the author of 500 Lovemaking Tips, a book full of ways to spice up your
lovemaking, adding more passion, pleasure and intimacy to your experience. To
read more, visit: 500 Lovemaking Tips and Secrets

Mind Over Matter

noreply@blogger.com (Asanda Madikane) — Wed, 19 Jan 2011 17:56:00 +0000

The mind is the most powerful part of the human body, and is what sets us apart from other species...

The term mind over matter means that the mind, when given the proper stimulus, can override the normal limitations of the physical body, and cause the body to perform acts that it would not normally be able to do.

A prime example is the stories of mothers who free their trapped children from underneath automobiles weighing a few tons or heavy piles of rubble that they wouldn’t normally be able to move.

Walking over hot coals in bare feet by people who are trained “fire walkers” is another example of mind over matter. There is a medical and scientific explanation for how this could be. Our bodies produce stress hormones called endorphins which act to give us super-human strength and endurance, including masking pain impulses, in times of extreme crisis.

There are also stories of Yuri Geller and others bending spoons with the sheer power of the mind. To develop the capability to perform such feats of mind over matter requires that you first train and discipline your mind to shut out any outside distractions and to totally concentrate on the objective to be accomplished.

An important aspect of mind over matter is the mastery of our fears. Fear has been described by some as an acronym for False Experience Appearing Real. Our minds are so powerful that they can actually cause our bodies to manifest sickness, as evidenced by students becoming ill shortly before taking an important exam.

Often there are stories of cancer patients or those with other terminal illnesses, who quickly succumb to their disease and die; while others, similarly afflicted, overcome their malady and defy medical science and get well. One major difference between the first group of terminally ill people and the second is the attitude and expectations of the patient.

While a fighting will doesn’t always ensure a complete recovery from a life-threatening disease, it usually prolongs the time left to the patient, when compared to those who give up upon hearing the dreaded diagnosis and prepare to die.

One popular way of training your mind to perform feats of mind over matter is through the Change Your Mind, Change Your Life Course! This features guided visualization and affirmations. You decide the goal that you wish to accomplish and write it down, setting a specific date for your goal to be achieved.

It is best not to focus on too many things at a time. You visualize yourself achieving that goal, and enjoying the fruits of your achievement. For example, if you want a new car, you see yourself at the car lot picking out the make and model of your choice. You picture yourself in your mind driving around town in your new car.

The affirmations are said out loud several times a day - you write them out and customize them to fit what your goals are. This is programming your subconscious mind to achieve what your fears and doubts will tell you is impossible.

How to Get Back Together with My Ex in 3 Steps

noreply@blogger.com (Asanda Madikane) — Sun, 16 Jan 2011 16:14:00 +0000

Have you just recently experienced a break up, and you are wondering "how can I get back together with my ex? You may want to score your ex back immediately, and this is a common feeling that everyone experiences.

You can find yourself following into an emotionally depressed state, and you may find yourself wondering what to do. You may immediately feel like calling your ex and begging him or her to come back to you. But is this really going to make things better? Rather than make things better, what it is probably going to do is make your situation much worse, chasing your ex away even further.

What you should actually do at this point is the opposite of what you are feeling. Do you feel like calling your ex? Don't! Do you feel like staying inside and crying all day long? Don't! Instead, follow these three basic steps and you will have the answer that you need to the age old question "How do I get back together with my ex?"

Step 1 - How to get back with my ex: Accept the Break Up!

First and foremost, you need to accept that the break up is happening. Tell your ex that you are okay with it, and allow the "moving on" process to begin. When you do this, it will eliminate a large amount of the tension and stress that is being experienced by all. Your ex will need time to think about the relationship, and this will give you time as well to consider your options. If your ex realizes that he or she still loves you, they will find a way to get back with you.

Step 2 - How to get back with my ex: Do not contact your ex!

Do not make an effort to contact your ex anymore right now. You should cut communication off with him or her so that there can be some "thinking time". This may seem counterintuitive, but by cutting communication off you are signaling that you have already moved on and that you are doing just fine.

This will allow him or her to think about the relationship and how they feel about its value. It will also allow them to have some time to miss you again. When you can separate yourself from your ex and can calm your nerves, that may be the best time to let them realize how important you were to them.

Step 3 - How to get back with my ex: Plan Ahead for the Get Together

Once you have completed the two steps mentioned just above, you can start working on planning on when you should meet, where you should meet, and also what should be said when you do meet up again. This will allow you to get a better idea of whether or not your ex still loves you, and also if there is any chance that you and your ex will be able to get back together.

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Have a Moment for Gratitude

noreply@blogger.com (Asanda Madikane) — Thu, 13 Jan 2011 10:03:00 +0000

The Importance of Having a Dream

noreply@blogger.com (Asanda Madikane) — Mon, 10 Jan 2011 13:29:00 +0000

Life is dull and boring without a dream. We are goal striving beings and we are at our happiest when we are motivated by a dream.When we have a burning desire and we decide to go after it we get excited. The pursuit of our dream rivals the actual accomplishment. It is the expectation of accomplishment that actually drives us.

A dream causes us to set goals. It causes us to make plans. After we have set our goals it is our dream that motivates us to follow the plan until we hit our goals consistently enough to obtain our dream.When times get hard during our journey we need only focus on our dream to garner enough strength to persist and drive on. It is the dream that compels us to pay the price to get what we want.

Our dream attracts like minded individuals into our lives. These associates provide support and further inspiration. It becomes a mutually beneficial partnership. When two or more people link up with the common interest of growth and improvement then a mastermind group is formed. As group they achieve markedly better results than any of one of them could have alone.

A dream drives away boredom and worry. A dream causes you to set goals. This leads to planning. Once you have a plan you then you understand which work habits need to be developed in order to hit your goals. After you set about doing that work you become consumed by it. At that point execution of your plan leaves no room for worry and boredom.

I have made a convenant with myself this year to really change my life. I was not born in a family with a silver spoon and their generation before my parants where also born out of a simple working class. A family history that was not build on any foundations that would give its families a "wealth" legacy. I chose to change that DNA around and build a life that has a generation fulfillment but most important- Mindset and Personal fulfillment when it comes to money and sucess. I have dedicated myself this year to build myself a lucrative Online Home Business.

It is scary and daunting to write it online for the world to see but it is a testiment to myself. That I will not fail myself and will do what ever it takes to reach that goal. And with the guidance of friends and community of Girlondaloose. I have taken the first step that only 3% only dare to try. That is take the opportunity to change my mindset and habits to change my life around.

What is dream this Year? Do you dare to share it with the world?

I look forward to hearing from you. You can leave your comments below.

How to Get My Ex Girlfriend Back

noreply@blogger.com (Asanda Madikane) — Fri, 07 Jan 2011 07:00:00 +0000

Most people find themselves asking "What can I do to get my ex girlfriend back" following a breakup. They begin to start thinking and philosophizing about everything that could have been done differently. They even begin to make plans about apology letters and other things that might be able to help them score their relationship back.

This tends to be a dead end for one reason above all else: Because you can never really tell what the real reasons were behind a breakup. Women become emotional and sometimes they do not even know what led to the break up at hand and they may not know what is making them feel the way they do. In many circumstances it is only harmful to lose all your energy trying to figure out what went wrong.

The first main strategy to answer the question about "what can I do to get my ex girlfriend back" is to forget about the relationship for a while, putting your energy into something else. Go out, make friends, have fun, network, and forget about women in general. Set some realistic goals about expanding your repertoire when it comes to seduction and meeting people.

Give yourself a couple of months and make changes in your life. Take some time away from your ex and it will work wonders.

The effect that strategies like this will have, is that it will allow you to make gradual changes in your life. And in how you perceive the subject of relationships. After a few months, you may have a much better idea of how you want to proceed with your ex.

Do you still want to get back together with her? Or are you ready to move on? Act accordingly. If you still want to get back together with her, it might be time to figure out how she is feeling about you.

Now is your chance to be a little more direct when it comes to getting your ex girlfriend back. You need to play strategically, however. Do not simply beg her to get back with you, because this is not a good time to be emotional.

Instead, what you should be doing is playing things cool with your ex. If you have spent enough time apart from her, she is probably missing you as badly as you are missing her. Play hard to get a little (don't over do it) and show her that you are doing fine without her. This will inspire her to really rethink things.

And if getting back together with your ex really is meant to be, now is the time when it will become apparent. Be careful not to analyze things too much, because over analyzing may prevent you from acting the right way when trying to figure out "what can I do to get my ex girlfriend back". Just take things slow and play them cool and you should be fine.

It is never easy when love falls apart. If she's worth it and worth the time. You can't do it alone. I highly recommend you take a look at The Magic of Making Up (Getting your ex Back)

7 LoveMaking Mistakes

noreply@blogger.com (Asanda Madikane) — Wed, 05 Jan 2011 07:00:00 +0000

Did you know that people who try to spice up their lovemaking, often make their experiences LESS fulfilling? It’s true. Over the years, I've seen couples make the same mistakes over and over again, when trying to improve their love lives, and I'd like to teach you how to overcome and avoid these problems. Here are the 7 lovemaking mistakes. Are you making them?

Mistake #1: Feeling scared or embarrassed to talk about trying new things

Have you ever had an idea to spice up your lovemaking but were afraid of what your partner may think? Believe it or not, in 90% of cases, your partner would LOVE to try something new, too, but they're just as uncomfortable or embarrassed about bringing it up as you are. And you don't need to introduce whips, chains or a third person. That's nonsense! There are hundreds of ways to bring variety to your passionate play that aren't crude or dangerous and
that your partner is sure to be comfortable with.

Mistake #2: Trying to convince the partner to make love

If your lover is tired or not in the mood for sex, trying to convince or persuade them to have sex almost NEVER works. On the other hand, when a person is sexually aroused, their body releases the chemical 'adrenaline' into the bloodstream. This chemical is what gives you the energy to make love. So here's how to arouse them the right way. Yes, even if they're tired.

Ladies:

Want to get him in the mood? Give him fellatio or manually stroke him between 9 – 10 in the morning. This is when his testosterone levels are highest for the day. For better results, also wear something sexy or nothing at all. He'll like that.

Lads:
Deep passionate kisses are one of the biggest 'turn-ons' for women. Looking in her eyes and touching her face while kissing her can really increase arousal, too. And give some attention to her neck––it will drive her wild. But don't rush this! Spend quality time building up her arousal with your sensual kisses. (I need to comment here: Its so true!!)

Mistake #3: Neglecting foreplay to enjoy intercourse sooner

People in a relationship (especially men) tend to neglect foreplay so they can begin to enjoy intercourse sooner, but did you know that foreplay is actually said to intensify orgasms? That's right. If you kiss, caress and touch longer, you can make your lovemaking even more satisfying. So SLOW DOWN. Take your time. If you want to make it even better, tease your partner in a playful way. (This works like crazy.)If you find something that they really enjoy, stop doing it, move back, and then do it again later. The more you pull back and push forward, the more they'll want it. And the more intense their experience will be. There are many games you can play to heighten this anticipation, too.

Mistake #4: Using toys or porn to make your lovemaking better

When sex hits a rough patch, many couples (men especially) think that a video, some plastic or vibrating thingy will instantly takes things through the roof.Wrong!… While toys can certainly have their place in your lovemaking repertoire, relying on them can be extremely dangerous. These outside sources of pleasure can quickly make lovemaking even less fulfilling.Why? Because you don't want your partner to end up looking forward to their plastic toy for pleasure more than they look forward to pleasure with you, do you? Couples need to first fully discover how to please all their spouses' body parts before introducing
other elements. Use them as a spice, not the main course.

Mistake #5: Trying to make the woman orgasm ONLY from intercourse

Men often feel "unmanly" if they can't satisfy their woman from intercourse. But what they need to understand is that a large number of women can't achieve orgasm through normal lovemaking.

Just knowing this takes the pressure off men completely. Now there's no need to get upset when their women don’t reach orgasm. Instead, men should master the art of cunnilingus (going down on a woman).

Mistake #6: Trying to “finish” at the same time

Simultaneous orgasms are quite overrated. Instead of aiming for one orgasm that you share together, focus completely on the woman’s needs first. Hold off from the positions you find most enjoyable and instead make love in ways that are most pleasurable for your lady, until she is completely satisfied. That way you have a much greater chance of both climaxing.

Mistake #7: Sticking to a “set routine” too often

You know the drill. You take your clothes off, insert part A into part B, and, within a few minutes, the routine is over. Sound familiar? No matter how fantastic lovemaking can be, there’s no denying it can get boring over the years. And the reason is because lovemaking in its basic act is always the same. But the danger is letting it get “too routine,” which can begin to affect your relationship.The BEST WAY to protect your love life and precious connection with your partner is to have lots of new lovemaking ideas ready at your disposal.That's the secret. In fact, when you have an abundance of NEW tips and techniques ready, you’ll enjoy more hot, steamy and passionate lovemaking, discover newfound enthusiasm to make love and even make love more often.

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Relationships 101

noreply@blogger.com (Asanda Madikane) — Tue, 04 Jan 2011 18:22:00 +0000

Here we are again another year has turned another Birthday has occurred and whether you are standing on the Brown side of the Grass- Valentine's Day is back to haunt you.

It's not Valentine's day I'm worried about. It's the Whole year round phenomenon- The lack of Love. I am tired of every year having to see close friends and family depressed day in and day out because they can't get a good relationship with one human being and especially the fact that they can't keep one long enough to call it a relationship.

So I have made my Duty this Year to keep this page running to help everyone out there GET and HAVE a better Relationship. Yes, You read right- I'm talking about Love, Sex and Relationships.

LET'S MAKE 2011 the YEAR of LOVE

I will be digging in and digging deep, reading and researching, scouting and finding the BEST EXPERT ADVICE on getting hitched, being hitched and sorting out troubled romance. I'm getting married to the man of my life. So I'm doing this for me to have a fulling and long relationship with him and I'm doing for everyone else; To understand what it means to have someone who loves you completely.

I want all women to know How to be The Woman Men Adore and Never Want to Leave

I want everyone to be happy and reconcile with The Magic of Making Up

Save Marriages

and the Art of Making Love 500 Love Making Tip

And so many many more.

So keep posted and keep your friends posted (because you know I'm talking about the friend who just can't get it together when it comes to relationships)

Content will be written by Professionals Relationship Councils, Doctor, Physicians and Expertise.
Testimonial of People who have used the advice and have had their Worlds turned around
Light bulbs will switch on in your head
You will have a better understanding of the opposite sex
You will have a better understanding of yourself
Make changes in your life for the better
And have Happier more Fulfilling Relationship
And still receive Girlondloose Wisdom and tender Loving Care

I won't give you content that I would not highly recommend. Remember you have the choice to change your own life and be in charge of your own destiny. I'm just here to keep you inform.

Let's make this a great year. A Year for Love.

Love Asanda

Girlondaloose

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10 Amazing Life lessons from Albert Einstein

noreply@blogger.com (Asanda Madikane) — Mon, 03 Jan 2011 07:00:00 +0000

Albert Einstein has long been considered a genius by the masses. He was a theoretical physicist, philosopher, author, and is perhaps the most influential scientists to ever live.

Einstein has made great contributions to the scientific world, including the theory of relativity, the founding of relativistic cosmology, the prediction of the deflection of light by gravity, the quantum theory of atomic motion in solids, the zero-point energy concept, and the quantum theory of a monatomic gas which predicted Bose–Einstein condensation, to name a few of his scientific contributions.

Einstein received the 1921 Nobel Prize in Physics “for his services to Theoretical Physics, and especially for his discovery of the law of the photoelectric effect.” He’s published more than 300 scientific works and over 150 non-scientific works. Einstein is considered the father of modern physics and is probably the most successful scientist there ever was.

10 Amazing Lessons from Albert Einstein:

1. Follow Your Curiosity

“I have no special talent. I am only passionately curious.”

What piques your curiosity? I am curious as to what causes one person to succeed while another person fails; this is why I’ve spent years studying success. What are you most curious about? The pursuit of your curiosity is the secret to your success.

2.Perseverance is Priceless

“It's not that I'm so smart; it's just that I stay with problems longer.”

Through perseverance the turtle reached the ark. Are you willing to persevere until you get to your intended destination? They say the entire value of the postage stamp consist in its ability to stick to something until it gets there. Be like the postage stamp; finish the race that you’ve started!

3. Focus on the Present

“Any man who can drive safely while kissing a pretty girl is simply not giving the kiss the attention it deserves.”

My father always says you cannot ride two horses at the same time. I like to say, you can do anything, but not everything. Learn to be present where you are; give your all to whatever you’re currently doing.

Focused energy is power, and it’s the difference between success and failure.

4. The Imagination is Powerful

“Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life's coming attractions. Imagination is more important than knowledge.”

Are you using your imagination daily? Einstein said the imagination is more important than knowledge! Your imagination pre-plays your future. Einstein went on to say, “The true sign of intelligence is not knowledge, but imagination.” Are you exercising your “imagination muscles” daily, don’t let something as powerful as your imagination lie dormant.

5. Make Mistakes

“A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.”

Never be afraid of making a mistake. A mistake is not a failure. Mistakes can make you better, smarter and faster, if you utilize them properly. Discover the power of making mistakes. I’ve said this before, and I’ll say it again, if you want to succeed, triple the amount of mistakes that you make.

6. Live in the Moment

“I never think of the future - it comes soon enough.”

The only way to properly address your future is to be as present as possible “in the present.”

You cannot “presently” change yesterday or tomorrow, so it’s of supreme importance that you dedicate all of your efforts to “right now.” It’s the only time that matters, it’s the only time there is.

7. Create Value

“Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value."

Don’t waste your time trying to be successful, spend your time creating value. If you’re valuable, then you will attract success.

Discover the talents and gifts that you possess, learn how to offer those talents and gifts in a way that most benefits others.

Labor to be valuable and success will chase you down.

8. Don’t Expect Different Results

“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”

You can’t keep doing the same thing everyday and expect different results. In other words, you can’t keep doing the same workout routine and expect to look differently. In order for your life to change, you must change, to the degree that you change your actions and your thinking is to the degree that your life will change.

9. Knowledge Comes From Experience

“Information is not knowledge. The only source of knowledge is experience.”

Knowledge comes from experience. You can discuss a task, but discussion will only give you a philosophical understanding of it; you must experience the task first hand to “know it.” What’s the lesson? Get experience! Don’t spend your time hiding behind speculative information, go out there and do it, and you will have gained priceless knowledge.

10. Learn the Rules and Then Play Better

“You have to learn the rules of the game. And then you have to play better than anyone else.”

To put it all in simple terms, there are two things that you must do. The first thing you must do is to learn the rules of the game that you’re playing. It doesn’t sound exciting, but it’s vital. Secondly, you must commit to play the gamebetter than anyone else. If you can do these two things, success will be yours!

New Year Resolutions

noreply@blogger.com (Asanda Madikane) — Tue, 28 Dec 2010 18:46:00 +0000

Another fresh new year is here . . .

Another year to live!

To banish worry, doubt, and fear,

To love and laugh and give!

This bright new year is given me

To live each day with zest . . .

To daily grow and try to be

My highest and my best!

I have the opportunity

Once more to right some wrongs,

To pray for peace, to plant a tree,

And sing more joyful songs!

William Arthur Ward

What can be said in New Year rhymes,

That's not been said a thousand times?

The new years come, the old years go,

We know we dream, we dream we know.

We rise up laughing with the light,

We lie down weeping with the night.

We hug the world until it stings,

We curse it then and sigh for wings.

We live, we love, we woo, we wed,

We wreathe our prides, we sheet our dead.

We laugh, we weep, we hope, we fear,

And that's the burden of a year.

Ella Wheeler Wilcox

I do think New Year's resolutions can't technically be expected to begin on New Year's Day, don't you? Since, because it's an extension of New Year's Eve, smokers are already on a smoking roll and cannot be expected to stop abruptly on the stroke of midnight with so much nicotine in the system. Also dieting on New Year's Day isn't a good idea as you can't eat rationally but really need to be free to consume whatever is necessary, moment by moment, in order to ease your hangover. I think it would be much more sensible if resolutions began generally on January the second.

Helen Fielding
Bridget Jones's Diary.

Happy New Year Everyone and a bloody Happy one it shall be.