Welcome To My World

TO FRIENDS ALL AROUND THE WORLD

2015-03-14T02:19:00.001+00:00

Hi all,
Trust you are all well.
Just passing on a message from a friend.

TO FRIENDS ALL AROUND THE WORLD

Especially YOU

If you are reading this, it can only mean one thing. You are right here, in my world. I may not have met you before now, and I may never be privileged to meet you ever, yet I will always be here thinking of you.

I know we are different people going different paths, making different choices, having different passions, and using different faces but I can bet we are still the same specie. We are what they call friends, whether near or far, close or distant.

To some I am loved, and to some I am truly cute. To a few I am rare, and to yet a few I am very strange. You might not quite enjoy my style. You might not really like my guts. But I am sure you do mind what I say and how I feel. That alone, is more than I could ever ask for, especially from you.

Before earth happened, I never happened. And before I knew right from wrong, you never happened either in my life. If you did, I know I would not remember since I must have been too busy knowing myself, much less making a lifelong friend as a toddler. Yet it is as if you and I have always been together from day one on earth.

I would not ask for more of anything but I will always ask for love. I would not promise everything but I will truly promise you love. You have been here and there all my life. Most times I was not looking, few times I was not caring, but your eyes always catch my status, and your heart seldom captures my updates.

You are the reason Facebook signed me up. I tweet once a while because I know you are following me all the time, and listening to my voice. I joined Skype because I wanted to really see your face, and meet your gaze finally. When I am not on Google searching for you, I am on Quora asking about you. Sometimes I Ping or do Whatsapp because I hoped that no matter how busy you get, even a little beep or pop will surely remind you of me. I am better, happier, and truer because you cared!.

Where we met, how we met, and why we met would never matter more than what we shared, what we loved, and what we really became because we met. You are my link to the rest of the world. You are my friend someplace beautiful in the earth. You are always here and I do cherish you.

In thanking God for MY BIRTHDAY TODAY, I know it is not all about me, it is also about you. For you are God's way of showing me how vast and precious His thoughts towards me are. So, I celebrate your part in my making and today is SPECIALLY DEDICATED TO YOU. Thank you for giving to my life. The deed for this world is done and being done already. I pray in the next world, we will still meet as friends on the ecstatic and glorious side of eternity.

GRACIAS AMIGO...

Your Friend,
Emuze G.O

It can only get better!.....I hope

2014-03-31T20:49:00.001+01:00

Sighs,

I did say I wasn't sure when I was going to blog again.

I've been that busy, I only just unpacked the last of my stuffs this last weekend.

I had to travel to Nigeria as well, very impromptu it wasn't planned but work gracefully gave me some time off so I could go and say goodbye to my granddad. I am back now but to face new challenges....not necessarily bad ones, well I hope.

This move has been the biggest move of my life so far and I'm not sure if i'm loving it or not.

At this stage of my life, I've lived up north, south east and now I'm in the midlands.

I must say the midlands has been my least favorite so far. A patient said to me once "why on earth would you leave lovely Yorkshire and come here" well, welcome to the Midlands, we are all crazy but alright".....in Brummie accent!.

That's another thing, the brummie accent....jeeeeez its so so complicated. I barely understand what they are saying. Its like scouse accent (Liverpool), not sure which is worse!

I prefer the South Eastern accent, followed by North Yorkshire and again the Midlands is my least favorite. I don't think I have a choice tho, I only just got here so I'm gonna have to live with it for a while.

I'm loving the warmer weather tho and the affordable life.

Work has been quite stressful. People are so sad. Can't we just all be happy? I mean we spend a fair share of our life at work so why not just enjoy it.

I'm just going to choose to be happy and blank everyone there....not sure how easy that is with my kinda job.

Well that's my whining for the day done.

Life Life Life

2014-02-20T19:52:00.001+00:00

Phew!
It feels so good typing on my PC again!
Its been ages since I last blogged.
Apologies for the very long absence, I have good reasons for that.
I was down with chest infection, after which my hubby became ill as well.
In the middle of this I got a job and we were planning to move not just houses but cities.
Oh I was planning my dad's 60th birthday party too!
Mehn I feel like a super woman having to deal with all of these.
And my granddad passed on to glory too!
Anyways we've moved now and thankfully hubby just got a job too, so no more weekend husband!
I am grateful to God and I feel so blessed too.

It feels nice to be back online.
I feel like I am in a different country in this new place, I was in a very civilized place before but now.......I feel like I am in a new country......the kinda people around here don't seem to care very much.
I was walking to work today and two cars stopped in the middle of the road having a chat!
And there were cars behind both of them beeping and trying to get pass and they just didn't move.
Seems like a normal scene on Nigerian roads but trust me I am not in Nigeria.
I couldn't help but chuckle and pray that God gives me the grace to live in this place.

On the plus side, I look forward to exploring this area.
I miss the fact that I can speak Yoruba anywhere in my old but here there are loads more Nigerians about so no hiding place!
There are loads of Nigerian events too.....I really can't wait.

I am still getting used to work so I might not blog as frequent as I want.

See you soonest

Are Nigerians Unfair on President Jonathan?......

2014-01-09T23:33:00.000+00:00

I was sat quietly with my dinner tonight with the TV on in the background and I stumbled over this program on Ben TV, POLITRIKS with Ogundamisi and two other guys,One is for Jonathan and One against.
Loads of people have been calling and expressing their views.

People were saying if you can't take the heat in the kitchen get out of the kitchen. So basically he got to be the president by luck and not that he merited it. Also he is inexperienced for the office of the President, that his wife is more assertive than he is.

People are saying Nigeria is so blessed but people can not manage the resources.
They said he promised so many things but did not deliver any of his promises. Things like tackling corruption and electricity in 2 year. So He has not been accountable and taking responsibility.

Ok me I don't know too much about politics but I know is that during Obasanjo's regime, he had a hold of his government, It was when he was in power that we had GSM in Nigeria. He brought biz!

He told GSM to come and invest that he will give them 3 year tax free, well did it work?
Please click below to continue.........

Of course it did, the like of MTN, Airtel, Globacom won't be here today if not for Him.

He also tried tackling the major problem in Nigeria which is corruption! He started EFCC to rebuild or should I say save Nigeria's face abroad.

And you can say if it has worked or not. I think its working.

Babangida in his times, what can you say he achieved? Ok SAAP Structural Agricultural Adjustment Program or whatever its called was a means to steal money. Where are they today?

Abacha in his times, stole money.
Abdul Salami Abubakar, I can't remember anything he did, neither can I remember what Yar Adua achieved.

Jonathan has a personality problem, he is no assertive enough as a president. I mean, have you ever heard him speak? He sounds so thick!
He claimed he knew people behind Boko Haram but he still didn't do nought about it. How can there be a bomb blast in a major Nigerian city and the president of the country does not come out in a few hours or the office of the president release a statement, who does that ! Only president Jonathan.
Another example is electricity.
He stripped NEPA into almost 15 companies, PHCN this this and that with no mandate like if you want to buy this company you have to achieve this in the first three months......how do you expect them to perform? Nigerians need to be told what to do.

Nigeria as in the whole of Nigeria generates 5000 MW of electricity which is probably only enough to power the city of Lagos. So how is this expected to go through all other 35 states in Nigeria? Its just not going to work. If you are really going to sort out electricity problem in Nigeria, you need to make sure we are generating more electricity ! Its not rocket science, but corruption will not let us!

Any government that sorts out electricity problem in Nigeria will be praised and never be forgotten. Think about it nothing can work without electricity, businesses are not working as they are supposed to, there are too many people dying in hospitals but government don't care because their own relatives are not involved!
Imagine how long ASUU strike lasted for? 5 months, over money, imagine how much Nigeria is making in revenue from oil! If all Nigerians are paid from the money Nigeria makes from oil and gas, Nigerian will be millionaires but guess what, corrupt people in high places will not let it happen.

So Is President Jonathan a waste of space or not?
I'll leave that thought with you.

Ayam going to sleep

Happy New Year World

2014-01-01T23:40:00.001+00:00

I can't believe its 2014 already! It feels like yesterday when 2013 started.....
Phew, how time flies.
I can't but thank God for how far He has helped me this year.
It feels good ticking off my goals for 2013, indeed God has been faithful to me and my family.
I am very confident 2014 will be better.
I pray God grants you all your heart desires too in this new year.

Happy new year everyone

I'm back to reality again tomorrow, work work work, one day sha I will win the lottery and I won't have to work again :)

Have a great year guys!

Merry Christmas Everyone!

2013-12-25T00:05:00.000+00:00

Singing * its the most wonderful time of the year *la la la la la

I wish you all a very merry Christmas and hope all you heart desires come through.
Have a great day, don't eat too much!

Morgan Freeman Mistaken for Nelson Mandela on Indian Billboard

2013-12-23T20:45:00.003+00:00

This business man in India was trying to honor Nelson Mandela or should I say make money from his death...I dunno!
In the process though, Morgan Freeman 's picture was used on the bill board rather than Mandela's.

You can sort of see why can't you?

They are similar ah ah ah , not funny, please don't die Morgan!
Rest in Peace Mandela!

How have you all been?
I've been offline for a while. Been on a few breaks but i'm back now..........I hope!

Nelson Mandela dies at 95 ( 1918-2013)

2013-12-05T22:58:00.002+00:00

South Africa's first black president Nelson Mandela has died today at age 95, South Africa's president Zuma announced.

I say he has gone to rest!
Black people were held captive, discriminated against in their own country. They were considered scums in their own land by "white people" who were minorities then. Imagine 10 percent of white people against 90 percent of helpless black people. Nelson Mandela, 95, led South Africa's transition from white-minority rule in the 1990s, after 27 years in prison.

This amazing man had been receiving intense home-based medical care for a lung infection after three months in hospital.

The UK government will fly flags half mast tonight in honor of Mandela.

The White South Africans are worried now, but we can only hope that Mandela's legacy will live beyond him.

If you are too young (*Straight face* lol) to understand what the hype is all about, please go and read "The Long Walk to Freedom by Nelson Mandela"

Rest in Peace Mandela

Adams Oshiomole Apologizes and much more

2013-12-04T19:19:00.000+00:00

As you must have heard by now, (I know I'm a bit late) Gov Oshiomole has apologized to the widow he told to go and die! If you missed the story, please read it HERE

He has apologized and publicly too, I saw it on NTA news! He said something like even his daughters told him off for what he said to this woman.
Anyways he said it was out of anger and he said sorry and gave her her goods back, as well as 2 million naira and not only that, he is employing her!
See the video below

Personally, I think he's done well. I know some people are not satisfied but what else do you want him to do, he was actually in the right by seizing her goods cos she broke the law but he over reacted with his words for which he has now said sorry.

Well done Gov for swallowing your pride, cos he could have chosen not to say sorry.

I hear people are turning this woman's situation into prayers now! Someone twitted
"Anybody that is blocking my Go and Die benefactor, Holy Ghost fire scatter them"

Nigerians sha! Dem no dey carry last.

OPEN LETTER TO THE BODY OF CHRIST

2013-12-04T19:03:00.000+00:00

Hi guys,
I got this from my friend and its a burden on his heart and as I blog, I was asked to help broadcast, so please read and feel free to comment. I know it is long but try.

Here it goes

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THIS IS AN OPEN LETTER TO THE BODY OF CHRIST ESPECIALLY IN NIGERIA.
SUBJECT: THE UNSCRIPTURAL TESTIMONY OF PEOPLE SUPPOSEDLY COMING BACK FROM THE DEAD AFTER GAINING ACCESS TO HEAVEN AND HELL THEREBY CAUSING CONFUSIONS, ILLUSION, AND DISTRACTIONS.
OPENING TEXT: As you have therefore received Christ Jesus the Lord, so walk in Him, rooted and built up in Him and established in the faith, as you have been taught, abounding in it with thanksgiving. Beware lest anyone cheat you through philosophy and empty deceit, according to the tradition of men, according to the basic principles of the world, and not according to Christ. For in Him dwells all the fullness of the Godhead bodily; and you are complete in Him, who is the head of all principality and power. Col 2: 6-10.
People of God!
It is no news that we are already in the last days, the battle for the souls of men is fierce, both God and the devil are more interested in the lot more than ever, and no doubt the end of all things is near. Romans 13:11. I am writing this on the behalf of the truly redeemed of the Lord everywhere, partakers of the heavenly calling and joint-heirs of the kingdom of God who understands the times and seasons and are fully persuaded of the responsibility attached with CONTENDING FOR THE FAITH EARNESTLY Jude 3.
There have been some messages that have been circulating round the body of Christ now in recent times via several ministrations on the pulpit in meetings, crusades, videos, audios etc. These messages have been sourced from the people who supposedly died and came back from the dead with unusual testimony of heaven and hell. However, this treatise or better put, scriptural analysis is not intended to pass judgment although correction and rebuke is permitted in the body. 1Cor6:2-5, Rom14:13, 1Cor4:5, 2Tim3:15-16. But to present the whole counsel of God scripturally regarding New Birth/Salvation, Eternal Life, and the Kingdom of God [ Heaven].
The following are the assertions of those who supposedly have gone to heaven and hell and back although not exhaustive;
That there are many bus-stops on the way to heaven where matters like repentance, restitution, sanctification etc each individually will be sorted.
That the use of certain things totally disqualifies anyone access to heaven, things like jewelleries, wristwatches, gold, make-ups, attachment hairs, wool, female trousers etc and even eating certain food because they are all made from hell. This is also in agreement with some denominational doctrines today.
That salvation depends on works and personal uprightness in following certain traditions, rules, and legalism.
That most renowned men and women of God that have slept in the Lord are now in hell because of the aforementioned points.
That most renowned men and women of God still living with their ministries are on the way to hell also if they don’t change in accordance with the new gospel brought back from the dead, etc.
Nonetheless, the following is my submission briefly as found in the infallible and perfect law of liberty. James1:25, 2Pet1:20-21, Ps 19:7-11, 2Tim3:15-16, 2Cor3:17-18.
1.The scripture did not reveal any such bus-stops on the way to heaven after death. But this much is certain;
After death, is judgment Heb 9:27.
All men/flesh dead or alive will someday appear before the judgment throne of God Rev20:11-12.
Books will be opened. The book of Life and other books. Whosoever is not found written in the book of Life will automatically go to hell. Rev20:15.
Heaven and Hell [second death] is real. Matt7:12-14, 21. Rev20:14, Rev21:1,8
2. The criteria for salvation/new birth 2Cor5:17, Acts4:12, John3:3-5, John1:12 is simple and it is two things;
Believe in your heart Jesus Christ and that God raised him from the dead Rom10:8-9
Confess Jesus Christ as your personal Lord and Saviour Rom10:10-13. Anyone who does those two things is perfectly saved by grace through faith, and not by works. Eph2:1-8-10, Rom3:24. The name of such a one is written automatically in the Lamb’s book of life. Phil4:3, Rev3:5 and is given access and entrance into the kingdom of heaven Rev21:23-27, Rev12:10. And they become part of God’s kingdom now [even while on earth] Eph 1:5-7, exhibiting righteousness, peace, joy, power in the HolyGhost Rom14:17,1Cor4:20 because of what happened within them Gal2:20, Rom5:2.
Now salvation is a continuous process. It is indeed a spiritual process of exclusively conforming to the image of Christ Jesus Rom8:29, John17:3, Phil3:10-11. Conformity to Christ is the hallmark of Christian growth, nothing else matters. However, this is in three stages, as in what takes place in us as human beings because man is spirit, he has a soul, and he lives in a body.
Stage one: The spiritman or innerman is perfectly and eternally saved. Eph2:1, 1Cor15:22,45, Rom5:19,7:6,8:11,1Cor6:17 at conversion instantly.
Stage two: The soul is being saved gradually as we walk with God daily.Rom12:1-2, Eph4:20-24, Col3:1-3.
Stage three: The body will only and finally be saved at the second coming of our Lord Jesus Christ. This is the end or completeness of our salvation experience. 1Pet1:9, Col3:4, 1John3:1-3.
Friends! You must understand that we are no longer under the law but under grace. Rom6:14. Jesus Christ is the perfection of the law Heb7:19-22, Gal3:13, 24-27, Rom3:20-24. Therefore, it suffices to say here that the use of jewelleries, wristwatches, gold, make-ups, attachment hairs, wool, female trousers etc and eating certain food is not a SIN and cannot be a SIN as far as it is done unto the glory of God and by FAITH. Rom14:22-23, 1Cor10:29-31. However, when all this and so many more of everything that is common to man E.g going to toilet, combing your hair, beholding yourself in the mirror, etc is done with obsession, without giving reference to God, with the intention of causing another to fall from grace, it becomes a SIN OF IDOLATRY. If any act or deed or action no matter how light takes the place of God in the heart of the believer, it becomes a sin of idolatry 1sam15:23, Acts17:16, 1Cor10:14, Gal5:20, Col3:5 for which like every other sin, the wage is death [second death/hell] Rom6:23. God’s law which is LOVE [summing up Old Testament laws] is now written in our hearts, no longer tablets of stone Heb8:10. Every believer through the Spirit of God can live out the life of Christ personally and successfully on earth. John1:12, Rom8:14.
3. That salvation depends on works is not scriptural. Eph2:5.The first stage of salvation [that happened in the spiritman] is totally by GRACE Titus3:5. It has no effort or work of man included. God did it alone, freely giving us eternal life for coming to Him. The second stage of salvation [happening in the soul] that begins immediately at conversion is also not void of GRACE 1Cor15:10, John15:5. But requires the continual cooperation of man to be effective and productive. This is where what appears to be a working out [by way of constantly choosing to obey the Lord daily] comes in. Phil2:12, 3:12-14, Col3:1-5, 4:1-6. And yet His grace abounds more on us to WILL AND DO OF HIS GOOD PLEASURE. Phil2:13, 2Cor12:9, 1Cor10:13. Every believer must take a personal responsibility to serve the Lord and live wholly for Him. Rom12:1-2,5-8,11, 2Tim2:15 and depart from iniquity 2Tim2:19,21,22. For everything done in the body [as our walk with God and work for God] will all be tested or examined with FIRE [to ensure it was done in LOVE Gal5:7] 1Cor3:13-15, James5:3, 1Pet1:7, 2Pet3:7, Matt25:34-40. The third stage of salvation will only happen when Jesus Christ returns to take away his ready-bride [church/body of Christ] 1Cor15:51-54.
4. That most patriots of faith are now in hell because of the aforementioned factors could not be further from the truth. Since, it is very clear from scriptures the already explicit conditions for eternity. Only if they defaulted at any point in their life while on earth Heb 12:14 and didn’t repent until death would they have missed heaven. 1John2:1-5, 9-10.
5. That most renowned men and women of God and their ministries are on the way to hell is not for any man or spirit to judge. Surely, the Lord knows those that are his John10:14 and everyman will give account of his stewardship to God someday. Rom14:11-12. Jesus Christ is still the Saviour and Lord of his church otherwise called the ‘body of Christ’ and he watches over it jealously. John17:11-26, Titus2:14, Phil2:15, Eph5:26-27. Such that the gate of hell can never prevail over it. Matt16:18.
In conclusion,
The manual for our living is the scripture 1Pet1:19-21,25, 2Tim3:15-16, and it is our road map to heaven as pilgrims on earth. We indeed are looking forward with HOPE to the second coming of our SAVIOUR AND KING to reign with him. Rom15:4,16-26, 2Cor3:12, Gal5:5, Eph1:18,2:12, Col1:5,23,27, 1Thess5:8, Titus1:2, 2:13, 3:7, Heb3:6,11,19, 1Pet1:3,13,21, 3:15, 1John3:3. Without this HOPE, we are of all men most miserable. 1Cor4:4, Eph2:12. The gospel we have believed is the gospel of Jesus Christ Rom1:16, Phil1:27, 1Cor2:2. Any other gospel is surely from the devil 2Cor11:4,14, Gal1:6-9, 2Cor4:4. The kingdom of God does not even come with observation Luke17:20-21. It has only regard for being in it already and living a kingdom-centered life James2:5, Acts1:3, Rom14:17, 1Cor4:20. This understanding will reveal in our heart the LOVE OF GOD towards the world and especially the household of faith Gal6:10, Eph2:19. Which is the paramount thing in our lives today for God is LOVE Gal5:7, Rom 13:8-10, 1 John4:17-18, as we yield continuously to the Spirit of God. Rom5:5, 8:9,14.
Friends! It is noteworthy for me to add that all the instances of those that were miraculously raised from the dead in the scriptures did not include bizarre testimonies of heaven and hell. 1Kings17:18-23, 2Kings4:32-36, 2Kings13:20-21, Mark5:41-42, Matt11:5, Acts3:26, Acts9:40-41, Acts20:9-10. Even the story of Jesus’ friend, Lazarus who was dead the longest for four days didn’t have such testimony John11:43-45, 12:1,9,27 else scripture would have recorded it. And lastly the classic story of heaven and hell told by Jesus Christ himself Luke16:20-25 showed plainly that hardly would any testimony of heaven and hell make any difference to the living if the scriptures, teachers, preachers of the Word today will not be believed. It is also fascinating that Jesus’ description of the afterlife from this story is so glaringly at variance to these new revelations brought back from the dead by these so called ministers.
Because of the peril of the end time and last days, it is very possible that such bizarre revelations of heaven and hell were manufactured by the devil 2Thess2:1-12 in order to shipwreck the faith of many by the release of errors Matt22:29, 1John4:6 and heresies 1Tim4:1-6. But there will always be a REMNANT BY GRACE who will stand tall for the truth 2Cor13:8, Rom1:18, John18:37, 17:17,19, 14:6 and the whole counsel of God for humanity/mankind against all odds. Rom11:5. The counsel of Jesus Christ for such a time as this holds very true. Matt15:6-11. However, for as many that would ultimately miss heaven and make hell, their status is no more than the fact that they must have been overtaken completely by the works of flesh. This is also explicit from the following scriptures. Gal5:19-21, 1Cor6:9-10, 1Cor15:50, Eph5:5, Rom1:28-32, Rev21:8. The Good news here is that we are not of them who draw back unto perdition, but of them that believe to the saving of the soul. Heb10:39, Phil4:5.
People of God! We are not witnessing the gospel of Christ through fear Heb 2:15. We are witnessing the gospel of Christ through LOVE John3:16, Rom5:5, 12:9, and the finished work of Christ Rom8:1-2, Gal3:13. Who has become for us our wisdom, righteousness, sanctification and redemption 1Cor1:30, 2Cor5:21. Because the wrath of man cannot work God’s righteousness James1:20. 2Thess5:21, Eph5:10. I hereby commend you to God and the word of his grace which is able to build you up and give you an inheritance among all them that are sanctified Acts20:32, Eph5:8-11, Phil4:4-7. And it is my prayer that the Holy Spirit 1John2:27 of God will order and preserve our lives unto the appearing of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. To him be glory now and forever. Amen.
Yours In Christ,
Emuze Godfrey O.
Sons Of Prophet Ministries Intl.
Ile-Ife, Osun State, Nigeria.

Husband Dies on Britain Busiest Motorway Following Credit card Argument with Wife

2013-11-28T22:19:00.002+00:00

This is very sad.
A guy Nahinmu Nicholas has died after getting out of his car following an argument with his wife in their car over a flipping credit card! Seriously!

According to Daily Mail, he was on his way to the Heathrow Airport when the argument started. His wife Mrs Olokun Ola said the argument was heated and she couldn't carry on driving and had to pull over on what she thought was the hard shoulder for him to get out but unfortunately for him, because of road works it was a working lane for motorists to use!

As she stopped she got the keys and got out to get his stuffs and they got hit by a Warburton delivery truck which didn't see them on time and there was no hazard light on!!!! Anyways they said he died of severe head injuries.

I know this is harsh but there is absolutely no excuse for anyone to stop on the motorway hoping to hitch a ride from a stranger to the airport. Its Britain's busiest Motorway! plus you should never ever stop on a hard shoulder except its absolutely necessary. If you have to stop there get out of the car and go over the crash barrier not still on the road.

What is wrong with some people. Couldn't you just say sorry or be quiet in the car until you get to the airport!
Now he's dead, life wasted, wife has lost her husband on the basis of argument, will she be able to forgive herself, and the poor traumatized truck driver who couldn't help it. Scarred for life probably.
Na wa o.

Governor Adams Oshiomole Tells Widow to Go and Die!!!!

2013-11-28T21:35:00.001+00:00

Mehn I just lost all the respect I had for this man.
Adams Oshiomole was the National Labour Congress president for a while before he became a politician and now serving his 2nd term as Edo state governor.

You'd think a person like him will have a heart for people but heck no.

A widow was hawking on the road side on an Environmental Sanitation day which is illegal in Edo State. This woman knelt crying in front of him and begging him not to seize her small means of livelihood and Oshiomole told her to "go and die"! How wicked, callous and heartless is that?

Why am I surprised! politicians don't really care about people do they, if they did Nigeria won't be as bad as it is now. I don't support people breaking laws but just punish them and let them go but using words like that is even worse than the goods seized!

If anyone knows this woman, someone is promising her $500 to start a new business on Nairaland, (Payless on page 1) and another (EBK2 pg 2) promising to 50,000 Naira to the person who finds who this woman. Even my own better half is promising money to this woman.

See the video below

Please please please please get in touch if you know this woman

Do You Remember This Body Builder Pregnant Lady

2013-11-23T22:46:00.002+00:00

This 35 year old lady started an online rage when she posted pictures of herself heavily pregnant at the gym....Remember these pictures

Well she has given birth to a healthy baby boy- Skyler weighing 7pounds 3ounces. And of course she has gone back to her cross fit regime.

She had a water birth at home, same as she did with her first child. Its clearly working for her.

Anyways, if you are fit and healthy, i think its healthy to exercise during pregnancy. This lady has obviously been doing this regime before she got pregnant and after an all clear from the doctor, she carried on throughout her pregnancy.
So please ladies, don't just start doing it, it is not meant for every body, please don't put your lives at risk and that of your child too.
Why am i blogging about this?
Well I'm a big fan :)
Kudos to her!

Yeah I'm watching Jonathan Ross Show, Gary Barlow on now, I love him to bits, his music I mean!

Winter is here and X Factor!

2013-11-23T21:54:00.000+00:00

Phew, i finally got the chance to blog again!
It feels like ages, actually its been ages since i last posted on here.
Nothing you did! jokes.

Its just been very busy for me at work. Its winter now, shorter days longer nights. I hate it so much.......
I go to work when its dark and by the time i'm out its dark again.......not nice at all. We had a very very nice and long summer this year though, so lets not be greedy but.......winter has come tooooo early, imagine its already snowing in some places!
I am so so so ready for my holiday now, let me start counting down......that will keep me going. :)
So enough of me, how have y'all been?

X factor has been on! Oh ye, that's how i spend my Saturday night, when I am not working of course.

Talk about talents, mehn I love Nicholas Mcdonald he is only "sexteen" in Sharon Ozzy's accent, but he is so good. You need to hear him to understand.
Another great 16 year old is Hannah Barrett, she never disappoints. You should have heard her sing/sang ( You choose) Hallelujah tonight........I had goose bumps, yeah it was that good.
Oh Rough Copy, only group left in the competition, i just can't find words to describe those guys...
Sam Bailey is another one, oh well, she is the only over 25 left but my goodness! She is a massive contender. As to who is my favorite to win,, hard question mehn. We shall see.
Its Gary Barlow's last show this year and I wish he can win at least once before he goes, he's got the groups this year - RoughCopy.......but i like the others too......

I'm glad I got to blog now, I am tired. Yeah I went to work today and I'm thinking of going to bed or watching Jonathan Ross Show? I'll see which one wins.

Oh Congrats to Tiwa Savage, she got married today. I saw this picture on LIB and I couldn't help but appreciate her beauty.
See for yourself

I heard her hubby is a divorcee with two kids, mmmmm I dunno o.

I hope she is happy really and doesn't end up like other celebs who separates in the first year of marriage. God bless this marriage for you Tiwa.
By the way, I have been miming her Eminado song for a while now. Hubby played it once and that was all i needed to get hooked.

Check it out

She is like Nigerian Beyonce........my opinion, unless you are can show me another one like her, that she takes the crown. ha ha ha.

My Cute Goddaughter Dancing

2013-10-26T22:32:00.000+01:00

Hi peeps, I know its been a while, but eerrrm been kinda busy with work and had a nasty chest infection silly thing! I didn't wanna treat it before hoping it would be viral and just disappear but the thing no gree o.
Anyways, treatments going on ok and i'm on the road to recovery.

So how have you been?
While i wasn't here my friend cheered me up and sent me this video of her dancing with the coolest goddaughter anyone can have.
Enjoy!

Ladies Would You Give A Naked Guy Your Number?

2013-10-01T21:07:00.000+01:00

This is very odd, I know but this world is odd very odd.
First it was guys with fake erections going about and asking for girls number. Not sure how sex starved these girls are to give their numbers to a random guy with an erection roaming the streets.

Need I say that these erections ain't real! Unless there is a problem, I don't see how that is possible.......As in walking round with an erection like that!

Anyways moving on......or moving back shall I say?

Going around naked asking for numbers is the new thing. This guy even got a friend to record him naked while he walks up to girls and ask for their numbers? How stupid! See the Video HERE and the pictures below

So Ladies will you give a guy like any of these guys you numbers?

Home Office Reveals Nigerians are in the top 3 highest British Passport Holders

2013-09-21T23:29:00.001+01:00

Ok...these people are vexing me again. Just my opinion! #Just saying

I've always known this place in not home but for some of us that don't have a choice and have to live here what are we meant to do? You can't ask me to leave my whole family can you? Last time i checked, i am entitled to family right.....Human Rights Act..... ha ah!

Dailymail today published an article saying that over 2 million UK passports have been issued to immigrants since year 2000. And our very own Nigeria is part of top 3 beneficiaries along side China, Pakistan, India and the Philippines.

With my little knowledge of what's going on, the UK borders was opened to immigrants in the 90s when they needed skilled people to come and help their economy. Of course people from everywhere jumped at this. I mean doctors, nurses and other skilled workers. At that point, the British government was just not producing enough graduates and they needed to just ask for help.

Now you can't just bring a man from abroad and make him leave his family, so people came with their nuclear families.

And they had to work, pay tax and be good at what they did before their visa could be renewed. So the people that stayed on were actually useful people to the government. So why are they now complaining?

Immigrants will do just about any job. You will find Africans and Polish peeps and other EU guys working in factories, kitchens and nursing homes. These places are supposedly the hardest places one can ever work. You will rarely find a British person in all these areas.

Some of them will rather be on benefits than work. Tell me if you have a child from a one night stand, you don't have a job and you can request for a house on the welfare system and the government will give you one and even pay you weekly, there is job seekers allowance and child benefit among others, so why would you want to work? That is the kinda life some Brits are leading. Some of them have children just to increase the amount of benefit they get from the government and they are proud of it.

Don't get me wrong some of them are very hard workers but how dare they turn around and say their own children ain't getting jobs and that jobs are going to non British born immigrants? Tell me who are the employers? Most times they are Brits, so why don't they employ their own children? cos they probably know an average immigrant will perform better!

If they ask all immigrants to leave, surely their economy will crash. of which we all know they won't dare. If the Nigerian government ask the Brits to leave Nigeria, they will beg because they make a whole lot of money off Nigerians. The likes of Shell, BP and the rest of them.

If only Nigerian government can just provide electricity and water and let people get what they pay for, loads of people will move back home. If there is electricity 24/7, crime rate will reduce, loads of other things will work but no o, they will rather embezzle the money than use it well. God help us.....or should i say God help them!

I rest my case

Twerking Madness

2013-09-18T14:12:00.000+01:00

I know its been a while but I actually saved this in the draft without posting it......that's what happens when you work too much.
Anyways what is this new craze called "Twerking"?
Have you heard or seen it?
Its some form of dancing that girls, or even boys do. Celebrities have recently just taken to it.
Miley Cyrus and Harry Styles of One Direction were seen doing the move and its just recently going viral.

There is actually a video on youtube teaching people how to Twerk! CLICK HERE to view it.

Now with my little knowledge, what they are now calling twerking has been around for a very long time. If you are Nigerian and know who Lagbaja? "Konko Below" is a one if his songs and that was some twerking. African women shake their bum , dancing and enjoy themselves and now its called Twerking. See the CEO dancers doing it on Britain's Got Talent .

One even caught fire while twerking see the video HERE.

So its nothing new, its an African thing! Just my opinion.

Peep Ghana Drama Series

2013-09-04T23:04:00.002+01:00

I Can't seem to get enough of this woman! I fell in love with her movies when I saw A Sting in a tale and Scorned. I then went on to see the others - Perfect Picture, Six Hours to Christmas, Checkmate, Adams Apples series and most recently Peep- drama series. I'm talking about no other woman than Shirlely Frimpong -Manso.

She is only young but she is an amazing producer, I've not seen any like her I must say......in Africa.
I appreciate good movies when I see them, You need to go find some of this movies and give me your verdict.

Peep series has been fantastic! I saw the series one on OH TV, channel 199 on sky tv.
Peep was a story of a trendy online publication company set up by a fantastic trio whose aggressive approach to unraveling the truth always turns out to be a big scandal and makes them more popular.

When the first series ended, i searched everywhere online to see if I could even buy it, it was that good that I didn't mind paying for it. I even sent Senanu - Kofi a message asking where I can find the second series. (He was my senior in school and surprise surprise he didnt reply- He had better things to do i suppose).

Bless OH TV, Peep Series two came back after a few weeks and again, they never disappoint. You really need to see it to know what I am talking about.
I'd pay to watch any of these movies and series again, any day any time.
Last episode just aired tonight and I really hope another one will be showing soon, i doubt another series will match up to it. Unless of course its produced by Shirley again!

Good job guys, remember the last time I said I was Ghanaian? *Clears Throat* I'm so proud of my Ghollywood peeps!

The British Woman Who Woke up Chinese

2013-09-03T23:38:00.000+01:00

This is very strange.
This woman, Sarah Colwill has been having severe migraine and wakes up randomly one morning and her Plymouthian accent was gone! next she starts talking with a Chinese accent! Not just that, she's lost most of her vocabularies, can of beans instead of tin, fan light instead of ceiling fan, towel warmer instead of radiator.

The medics have done all the scans possible but no one can explain it. They said it seemed like a mini stroke but it left no scar whatsoever on her brain so they can't really prove it.

They've named it Foreign Accent Syndrome, fair enough. 3 years down the line, all they can offer her was speech therapy.

She got on the phone to her old insurance and banks and asking for recording of her voice in past years, so she can listen to herself before this happened to her. They thought she was playing pranks on them, after a while someone spoke to her and helped her out. I must admit, she sounded very different.

It was quite interesting, I mean no offense but she was feeling very odd, she went to the salon once and was asked where she came from as in originally, she said Plymouth but they looked at her funny. Like are u kidding, you sound foreign. She'd ring to order Chinese meals and they'd put the phone down on her thinking she was taking a mickey outta them.

Her husband was asked if he would go out with a foreign girl, he said no cos I am English, fair enough, personal preference, (same way I won't marry a British guy) but what is he gonna do now that wifey has a foreign accent. It must be hard living not knowing what to expect next day from the effects of Migraine.

You need to watch it to understand, try this bbc link below
http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p01g0zyq

Her sister was actually going round with her as sort of like a bodyguard cos clearly they discriminate against her based on her accent. She said life was simple when she sounded ok, and now life is so much haarder! Oh well.....welcome to foreigner's world.

Till now, Neuroscientists still can't find what's wrong with her. She is waiting for specialist botox to control her migraine so she can go back to work. Her speech is getting better obviously with the help of the speech therapist and now she has accepted herself and that makes things better.

Strange things really does happen.

My Experience at Julius Agwu's Crack Ya Ribs in Manchester - Enjoy!

2013-08-28T21:26:00.001+01:00

This show came to Manchester for the very first time and I thought, it nearer than London, lets go and have a laugh....Why not! Afteral we work so hard and as they say all work and no play makes Bunmi a .........girl. Plus its bank holiday next day so I can still rest plenty before going back to work. So off we went.....hubby and I.

At this point, a place like Manchester to me feels like "Abroad". I live in a errrm clears throat, "supposedly thush" part of England, where you don't see many black people. So on entering Manchester, yours truly, I could see plenty of my country men.
Seeing loads of guys around the post code area, we automatically knew we had arrived at the venue but there was a problem, it was on a main road, which mean there was no parking! So off we went again, to find parking. Like 5 mins walk away, we got one. We didn't have any cash on us so hubby went off to find an ATM and I suggested he walks past the venue and ask what time the even will actually start- I know it said 6pm on the program but we all know "Nigerian Time" is very different.

He did exactly that and wasn't allowed it, so he assumed they had started. How wrong!

He came back to the car paid for like 6 hours packing and like the machine or the parking lot knew we came for a Nigerian show, it added a few more hours so all together like 11 hours but discounted the price. So parking sorted off we went to the venue together.

We got to the venue and was told by the security at the door - sorry we are running like 2 hours late! I thought i didnt hear well. Not half an hour or an hour, 2 hours. Meaning the show will start at 8pm.

So I said to hubby please lets go find somewhere to eat. We went to ROOTs Restaurant and that was my first time there. I must say i wasn't too impressed. Load of guys sat around drinking and they had one very bad habit. Even though I was with my husband, they couldn't stop starring!

Like they were making it so obvious and of course my sharp husband noticed and just smiled, bless him. We ate and left the place, nice meal but they could do better, hubby said maybe cos its weekend, so their reception wasn't that good. I'm willing to try again sha. Food was really good, ate rice and goat meat, yummy.

We headed back to the venue, and unsurprisingly they still haven't started! This time we were checked in and given wrist bands to say we are allowed in.

We headed to the hall and it was very scanty! Surprise surprise!

We sat down and just waited to see what happens next. I was chatting with my friend at this point cos i was bored stiff, so I took a photo of the hall to show her what was going on.
Please Continue

There was nothing that said we weren't allowed to take pictures. There was a numb head sat 2 rows away from me with his wife, and as i took a photo with my phone, the flash was really bright and he sort of like looked back to say what the heck, I had to apologize only because i thought, oh damn he might be allergic to flash, epileptic or photo-phobic as they call them.

As at 9pm, we were still sat in the hall listening to the DJ work his tricks. At about 9.35-9.40 pm some random girl wearing a staff labelled round neck top stepped on the stage to say they were going to start soon.

The first guy that stepped on stage was Feso Oyegbade, poor guy or should i say silly guy, stepped on stage no apologies or nothing just got on straight with his jokes......You can imagine the rest. Some "Igbotic" guys sat right at the back were just swearing and shouting at him telling him to get of stage! Now that was totally uncalled for but errrm if you had seen the sizes of these guys and how deep their voices were, you won't even look at their faces twice! Poor Feso must have heard them ranting and asked for them to chill.

By the way the idiot and his wife that looked back when i was taking a photo of the hall earlier on! was taking photos and not just that! He was recording a video. How convenient! I hate it when people do things like that, if looks could kill, i probably won't be typing this today! Yes him and his wife were that bad.
Funny enough i know the guy! He probably doesn't know, but i know him wella! Right from secondary school days! It was dark , he wouldn't have seen me, but that apart. There was no need to be rude but couldn't expect any more from some Nigerians.

You can tell that Feso is a green horn. He has good jokes, but his delivery was imperfect. The unhappy audience did not help his career.

Anyway just before Feso went on for ages trying to make angry audience laugh, he got the harsh words and boos from the crowd. After him a guy called Pastor Zino or something like that. He sounded better and more experienced but still some people still booed him.

Just before 10pm Julius Agwu himself came on stage! Bearing in mind that it was meant to start at 6pm this is 4 hours later. He did right unlike the first two acts whom i thought were just called on to step in to fill in for the real acts quickly. First thing he did was to apologize. People still booed him too and said apology not accepted and he just stood there and asked what we wanted him to do! Some screamed prostrate.
And bless him he laid down flat and really apologized and then the party started!

The rest was history, we all forgot about the late start after like 10 mins into the first act, and we relaxed n started enjoying.

Now this is the first time this is happening in Manchester. It could have been the organizer's fault, it could have been that the comedians really got lost as Julius said when he got on stage, or they might have been told different times.
Even those who paid for VIP didn't arrive until around 9pm, which sort of tells me that they were probably told a different time to the the rest of us. Not nice.

Now if you are a white colored skinned lady or lad, think twice about sitting in front at some of these shows.
A Ghanaian guy brought his British babe, and almost all the comedians that came on stage picked on them! At some point they were called on stage to come and dance! poor girl, she did and in fairness, she was proper fit but i can imagine how embarrassed she must have felt. So think twice o.

The Organizers could have done better, if they got a decent hall, with parking spaces and add like a fiver to the tickets it would have been a far better experience.
Bovi, Akpororo, Senator, Dan d humorus, Funny bone and the singers, Kcee and Harry Song were also featured. All these guys were so funny!

Overall, would I go again! Oh yes I would. In fact apart from starting late and poor organization, I think it was under priced, I'd gladly pay more for that sort of show! So why all these rant......Last time I checked, this is my blog and I can rant all I want! *Big Grin"

Pastor Fatoyinbo's Response to Ese Walter and Others

2013-08-26T12:59:00.001+01:00

Well, not sure what everyone was expecting "plus including me". Think we all wanted him to come out sunday morning and say whether he was guilty of these allegations or not. But according to the church goers, Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo said " we" asked God and God said be quiet.

I believe someone recorded his response and below is the transcript of that part of the service culled from LIB.
Read it below.....

"...I am sure you have read a lot about me on Twitter and social networks. You can't imagine how many people have called me...everyone is telling me, don't talk, that is the painful part but because I am your pastor and I don't like to take you for granted, I still want to bend it a little bit to talk about it. Even up until this morning, calls from everywhere, even when I switch off my phone, they call my associates, tell him to ignore it, he should just move on. Some have been to our land and they are like wow, we understand"

Church erupts into clapping & shouting...Continue..

Pastor Fatoyinbo continues...
"Now read my lips, I know there are people here that are not part of our church, read my lips, we are going to speak but we are consulting to come out with a robust reply. Before then I will not say anything, but I owe it to you as members that have made me proud and have made God proud"
Church erupts into clapping & shouting.....

"One thing you can be sure of is that my wife and I love u."
Church erupts into clapping & shouting.....
"Now you may sit down and say, why would they tell you that, in the first place. From this pulpit there are some things we don't say. Maybe you remember that 2 years ago, we lost somebody in our family, I came to church, I preached, I danced, I didn't say it. That was even deeper for me because my destiny is not in anybody's hand...that loss was deeper for me than even this and I didn't talk so don't think it is a makeup. That is what we have been asked to do. When we asked God, God said be quiet. Thank you"
Church erupts into clapping & shouting.....

So as he rightly said loads of people came to church just to hear him address this issue but he clearly didn't.
Ok now.......
Me I think he owes it to the church to tell them. Maybe not go into details, just say whether he is guilty or not. You might say what will it benefit his church if he says that? Well they can be confident in their pastor, they will know he is human afterall, they will also respect him even more. Yes people will leave, people that came to worship the pastor and not God. He is not going to be the first man of God this has happened to, its happened before and surely it will happen again. I'm not being a prophet(ess) of doom but as long as well live in this world, things happen.

God help you and your ministry sir!

Yet another COZA Scandal Pastor Fatoyinbo Accused again?

2013-08-24T20:34:00.004+01:00

OK Another lady came up with this story just today after the Ese Walter one broke yesterday.
Its getting worse I'm afraid.
This is from informationng.com.

Read her unedited story below:
“This Ese Walters story is true. I was introduced to the church in Abuja by my childhood friend, who moved to Abuja from Calabar two years before I did. When I joined, she was also a PCU (for Pastoral Care Unit) worker. I really felt welcome in the church up until my friend started having problems with other women. She told me it was because Pastor Biodun trusted her with so many official things even above workers that were there before her. I believed her until the day she had an misunderstanding with another worker who called her ‘Ashewo Mary Magdalene’ in the church.

“After that, her enthusiasm for church started waning while mine was getting stronger till the day she told me she was leaving the church and shortly after she left. By that time, Pastor Biodun had developed an interest in counseling me and then started telling me to take my friendsplace as a PCU worker. I was reluctant because I didnt feel like coming to church early and leaving late but Pastor Zbiodun assured me that his personal driver will pick me and drop me off and so I agreed.
“I started work as arranged but after a while, I noticed that the pastor did not respect personal space when talking to me when we were alone.

“He would stand soooooo close and rub my upper arms or my back which made me very uncomfortable. The final straw was when he said I should go with him to Lagos to take notes and transfer same online immediately for some Pentacostal thing he was attending and he knew I was very computer literate.
“I was excited till we reached Lagos and I realized that only one room was booked at the Wheatbaker Hotel, Ikoyi. Of course I complaint and the Pastor called the front desk (or pretended to) to demand for another room. He said they would call back when the room was ready.

“He then told me to help massage his back becos he has back ache from sitting on the flight. I said I was tired since it was already after 8. He then insisted I lay down on the bed to rest while waiting. I said I preferred to sit at the desk and he laughed saying that I was acting like a small girl or a village uneducated girl. He then went in to take a shower.
“I then called the front desk to remind then about the extra room. I wasn’t surprised when I was told that they had vacant rooms and that nobody had requested for an extra room. By this time, I knew what was up and was ready for the fool.

“I opened his pouch and saw his wallet which had his lisence. Took a picture of the wallet and the Lisence on the pillow on the bed with my head in the shot. I opened the door and took several pictures of myself, the wallet and the Lisence with the room number. Came back in, once I heard the shower stop, I started audio recording on my BB.
“He came out with a towel around his waist and started telling me how attracted he was to me. He said many derogatory things about his wife, calling her a postcard…pretty on the outside but flat and empty upstairs. He said s*x with her was like having s*x with a cold dead fish…he tried to kiss me and I stood up, picked up my travelling bag, moved to the door, opened it and quickly took a picture of him, standing with a towel around him.
“He started begging. I called him all sorts of names and insisted he give me money for a separate room or I would scream ’r*pe’.
“To cut a long story short, he asked me to shut the door, I refused, he brought out 2 bundles of N1000 and asked me to delete before he gives me the money. I told him he was in no position to negotiate. Got the money, left the Randy goat with a deflated erection and checked into another room.
“First thing the next morning, I left for ABJ. By the way, remember my childhood friend that introduced me to COZA? I narrated my experience to her and she confessed that she was sleeping with Biodun for over a year, even on his marital bed when his wife travelled.
“Oga Pastor, try and deny my story publicly and see American wonder….I still have the pictures and our conversation on tape. Thank God for technology!!!!!!”
Franca E.

Lo ba tan o.
I think he owes it to his wife and of course his church members to explain what exactly happened.
People need to realise that he was a man first before God called him. I am not in any way justifying his actions, if you are spritually tuned- *hun hun* clears throat, i think you will find that the devil is attacking the church as a whole, so Na GOd get power o. Whether it happened or not, KEEP PRAYING FOR YOUR MEN OF GOD.

Ese Walter's Affair with Pastor Fatoyinbo?

2013-08-24T20:24:00.001+01:00

I'm sure you've seen this or heard about this by now but due to demands, here it is again. This was posted on her blog- Its really long are you ready.

WARNING!

This article contains stories that most ‘church people’ don’t want to address. So, if you are one of those living in denial and covering up crap going on in the church, this is where you should stop reading. Thanks for stopping by.

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Now, for the rest of us, please sit down and switch on your open mind. I want to talk about something I have kept bottled up inside for longer than necessary. I have also decided to use real names, as my defense for any accusation of slander is justification. I tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but.

However, feel free to throw your doubt around but know that I am past the shaming game (where victims of abuse are shot down by blame) I am no longer a victim but a survivor who is sharing her experience to help others caught in same web of abuse, guilt and shame. We only get to live once right? So here, it goes…

I recently came to know this event too was abuse (recently here means about 6 months ago). It has literally been eating me up having to drive by another billboard advertising preachers, or hearing his name, or even trying to ask about the validity of the entire salvation story and whether or not there is a God that truly watches over his people. That being said, I’m just going to say it as it is. This is a recap of my affair with Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo of COZA (Common Wealth Of Zion Assembly) Abuja chapter. This affair I have come to know as a form of abuse as you would see the different elements of abuse very present.

I met Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo many years ago. I was getting bored of the church I was attending and someone suggested COZA. At the time, I had never heard about it. My friend said, go there, I’m sure you would enjoy the word. But he also gave me a strong warning. He said he would advice that I remain a member only and not join the workforce. I agreed. The first time I attended COZA, I felt it was my church and decided I was going to plant my ass there. About eleven months had gone by and I was still attending the services quietly and faithfully. I really did like the church. One day a worker in the church approached me that the senior pastor wanted to see me.

Me? I thought. Why would the senior pastor want to see me? Not the second man but the head nigga in charge? Ok na! I started to think my sin was oozing so bad the pastor could tell I needed Jesus. (Poor old me.) I saw him at the end of the second service (they had two services at the time) and he said to me that he would like me to work with him. I knew I had no intentions of becoming a pastor so I had to ask in what capacity. He said he’d like for me to join a department, preferably the Pastoral Care Unit (PCU).

A few weeks later, against my friend’s advice not to join the workforce, I was a PCU member. All of a sudden, I had some status in church. I was ‘somebody.’ Dress had to be on point, hair, shoes and what not… As workers, we were literally trying to outshine each other or so it seemed. Anyways, I felt like I was a privileged member of an elite circle. Hehehe. (It did feel good though, for the most part.)

About a year after joining the workforce, I was on my way to London for a Masters degree program that would last two years. As was the rule for workers travelling, I wrote to say I would be away for 2 years and Pastor Biodun Fotoyinbo asked that I keep in touch by sending him my number and email when I had settled in London so he “makes sure I continue in the faith” because according to him, people loose their faith when they leave home and he wanted to make sure I didn’t. So, on that note, as soon as I got a phone line in London, I was sure to call ‘my pastor’ to say I arrived safe, had settled in and also gave my phone number.

We had spoken a few times especially when COZA started to stream online. I always watched and would give feedback on quality of production and share a little bit on the challenges I faced settling in a new land. One evening, Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo called me that he was coming to London and needed me to help him make some hotel bookings as the person who was meant to do it couldn’t get it done (this was rather strange as I had never been involved in his travel itinerary) Later that day, he said it had been sorted and my help would not be required but that he would like me to arrange a cab to pick him up from Heathrow. I was happy to help my pastor from Nigeria and even saw it as a privilege. (I would later come to learn that all of this was a calculated attempt to hatch a plan that I suspect was set in motion when I was asked to join the workforce.)

The cab guy was there to get him the next day and when he arrived, he called to ask why I didn’t accompany the cab to pick him up (again, this was strange but I stopped my mind from overanalyzing the situation as I knew I had no business with his visit to London) About two hours later, he called me and said he would like to see me. When I arrived his hotel, I called from the reception but he asked that I come upstairs. I got to the room and tried to stop my mind from thinking why I was going to his room. As he opened the door and invited me in, I had to speak to my heart to stop its palpitations. My better judgment asked me not to go into the room but the kind of reverence I had for Pasotr Biodun Fatoyinbo bordered on fear and I steeped into that room.

“Care for a drink?” Asked Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo.

“No sir,” I said.

“You don’t have to be shy Ese, even if it’s alcohol, feel free and order what you want.” I wasn’t sure I heard my pastor asking me to order alcohol. I imagined it was a test and ignored the voice inside that was saying, “I’d have henny and coke please.” He proceeded to ask how I had been coping in London and if I was a committed member of any church. He also said he thought there was something special about me and wanted to know that I had not strayed from my faith. I really thought he had heard I was doing something I shouldn’t while in London but tried my best to focus on the conversation instead of my straying thoughts. He kept telling me to relax and feel comfortable with talking to him. After a few minutes, he asked that we go to the roof of the hotel as his room was a pent suite and had a connecting door to the roof.

While there, he sat on a reclining chair and asked me to come sit on his laps. This was a bit awkward for me and I froze for a moment as I asked why. He said he had told me to feel free with him and loosen up. I found myself strolling to sit on his laps. At that moment, I felt like a little girl who was experiencing something her mind couldn’t fathom. He asked me to kiss him and all I could think about was seeing him preach on the pulpit back in COZA Abuja, Nigeria, which was my home church. He again said ‘feel free Ese.’ And asked again, that I kiss him.

A few hours later, let’s just say, we were rolling under the sheets. It felt as though my mind had paused. I am not saying I was jazzed, (although it’s possible I was in some trancelike state and didn’t know it but I just was so afraid that I couldn’t say or think otherwise.) That was the beginning of this affair. A sexual affair that went on for a little over a week, DAILY!

I can hear somebody’s mind thinking, ‘well, you weren’t raped.” And I remember a pastor I opened up to when I couldn’t take all the mind games asking if I seduced him. No, I didn’t seduce him and no, I wasn’t raped but I felt trapped in this affair. Come to think of it, how could I have seduced him when I wanted nothing from him? I mean, I was too busy minding my business in London trying to get through with my masters program and I was overly comfortable. And even if I wanted to seduce anyone, it wouldn’t be a married man, not to mention a married pastor.

What I couldn’t reconcile the whole time, was how the same person who preached against the very things we were doing (i.e drinking in pubs, fornicating, committing adultery) was the same person endorsing and encouraging it.

At some point, I got really confused about what Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo and I were doing that I had to ask how he handles it. I will never forget what he said to me. He said and I quote, “I will teach you a level of grace that you don’t understand.” My mind couldn’t fathom that somehow grace was enough covering for not just fornication on my path, adultery on his path and the many lies that was bound to follow what we were doing that was clearly abominable. I somehow dealt with the thoughts and fears that followed on my path. He had said to me that he wanted me to be his girlfriend and he would take me around the world and spoil me with money and things. Somehow, money had never been one of the things that motivated me (I am from a home where all my needs have been adequately met) In all my ‘badness’ through finding myself, I never did things I did for money but more of rebellion against rules and authority.

Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo also said to me that he had a dream where I exposed what was happening to the media. Said it was all over the place and that people were calling me the girl that caused chaos in COZA. He also said I should remember the bible said to “touch not God’s anointed.” I immediately started to rebuke the devil and said I could never do anything like that. I was almost swearing with my entire family as I thought really I had touched God’s anointed by submitting my body to be used. Little did I know at the time that all of these were ways to mess with my mind and even manipulate my thoughts.

Fast-forward a few months later, I was back in Nigeria and my church had become uncomfortable. Anytime I sat in church and listened to Pastor Biodun preach, I felt shame. I finally sent him a message saying I wasn’t comfortable anymore. I was confused and needed to talk about what had happened. He said I should meet him to talk and I did. It was a really weird meeting for me especially when he tried to kiss me at our meeting. I finally realized at this point that he couldn’t help me. I thought God was angry with me and I couldn’t pray so I decided to withdraw completely from COZA. This was the beginning of my mental torture. I couldn’t talk to my family because already, I was the only one attending a different church and somehow my mom never liked the idea. As the days went by I tried to use drinking and smoking to cover up the deep shame and guilt I was battling with. But as soon as the high was over, the thoughts came back and I felt stuck like I couldn’t move forward.

I felt I had to talk to someone and I decided to speak to my then good friend, Ernest Akale but unfortunately for me, Mr. Ernest did not have the capacity to hold what I said to him. He broke down completely the days that followed and I found myself having to pause how I was feeling and what I was struggling with to help my friend be strong. After a while, he withdrew from not just me but his then fiancé and friends. I had to then tell the fiancé what had caused it (she suspected we were having an affair so I had to clear the air) To my surprise she was a lot stronger than her man and told me to suck it up (I’m paraphrasing). She said if she were me, she wouldn’t leave the church but stay to torment Pastor Biodun and collect money from him. Ok! That sounded extreme for me, as my intention was not to blackmail but to heal my broken self. Anyways, I finally found the courage to speak to my then unit head who said he was going to talk to Pastor Biodun but didn’t have the liver to do so. Before long, the story was spreading and naturally getting twisted.

I went to a new church and it seemed like the COZA bug had chased me there. The pastor would always refer to COZA as some example and each time that was done, it seemed like a spear was thrust through my chest. One day, I broke down in the service and started crying uncontrollably, as I couldn’t take another mention of COZA and the pictures it painted in my head.

Very long, boring story cut short, for the last 5 months I gave the whole church thing a big space and break. I wasn’t sure I believed in God. I wasn’t sure I understood what it meant when people said ‘Jesus saves” and I definitely wasn’t sure how to deal with the mental torture that was affecting not just me but my relationships with family and friends. I was very unstable, fearful and worst of all guilty. I got a chance to talk to Pastor Folarin of COZA Lagos Chapter, popularly called Pastor flo about everything. I made an effort to reach out to him because I realized the right thing to do was talk to an elder in the church and seek some sort of remedy to a wrong I believed had been done me. Instead, Pastor Flo said, Pastor Biodun had confessed to him and they had ‘talked’ about it and somehow that was supposed to be Ok. He asked what it was I wanted coming to talk to him about it when I did, I told him I realized what happened between Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo and I was wrong and not just that I felt abused and manipulated. I also said I thought it was wrong for Pastor Biodun to go on preaching without taking time to deal with his personal character flaws. I said I thought he was danger to all the young women that attended the church. Come to think of it, maybe he meant if I wanted something monetary or material (as someone had suggested when I opened up to her) but the truth is, I never wanted his money (or is it the church member’s money.) All I wanted was to meet with him and have him accept that he misled me, betrayed his wife and the church he pastors. I wasn’t the only lady in COZA who had been a victim of his sexcapades and manipulative patterns but I was the one who could come back after months of struggle with not just my faith but also my affair with him. And I wanted to set things right. I wanted to talk to Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo maybe for closure and I felt like I needed an apology because he played the “touch not my anointed” card to keep me locked in guilt, shame and fear when all along it was a calculated plan and I dare say, it started when he asked me to join the workforce.

Not to mention the audacity to talk about teaching me a level of grace I didn’t understand. I had no intention of understanding a grace that would permit me to go on doing things that were wrong and what’s worse having to carry the burden for almost a year.

Different surprising advises came up in the weeks that followed the rumour making rounds. I was told to hush because Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo had been a cultist in the past and could send people to shut me up. All my so-called friends in COZA withdrew from me and treated me like I had the plague. What was worse was Pastor Flo finally saw my then pastor to ‘talk’ about what had happened with Pastor Biodun and lied that it happened once and was a mistake. My question then became, ‘do these people even care how broken I had become?’ ’do they care about the emotional and spiritual welfare of the people they were pastoring?’ The sad answer was NO. Most of us old members of COZA kept leaving but they couldn’t care less. What was important was to keep growing the church and having more and more cars with stickers that read “More than enough.” Back then, I always felt horrible when I saw another car drive past me with the sticker. I was breaking, I was struggling but no one could help. All they could do was ask me to hide so Pastor Biodun’s goons don’t hurt me. And then the interesting one was if I had evidence to prove my claim. Let me just say here that, it isn’t a claim, it’s a confession to free me from all of the guilt and shame I have had to live with for no reason at all. (That being said, I have evidence to prove all I have said here, the latest being a 58 minutes recording of my meeting with Pastor Flo a few months back)

This is my confession and I cannot begin to describe how much weight has been lifted off of my shoulders just pouring the truth out about what went down. So, to all my ex COZA friends gossiping about me, get your facts right. To those who said they’d help me deal with the pain but didn’t, I forgive you, I have learnt how to deal with it and I am doing just fine. To those who fear for my safety saying Pastor Biodun would send people to shut me up, I really have gone past fearing for my life. To live is gain and to die is Christ (or how does Paul say it again?) And to the only person who ever supported me through it all, thank you, I am learning to be brave. Please don’t think I am perfect in all of this but in line with living my authentic life and putting all forms of abuse behind me, this is where I press the stop button and stop the bleeding. This is where I break the silence and call the church to stand up for what it has been commissioned to do. If you will not enter the Kingdom, please don’t stop others who are trying to enter.

I still remember when I used to nurse the idea of digging up emails, text messages, hotel billings (as once I used my card to pay for his room when his master card failed to work) to prove there was an affair. It was pathetic. Why for the love of heaven was I trying to dig up evidence? I am satisfied setting the record straight. I am ready for any shaming or bashing that would follow because the truth is, because of what I have suffered and come through, I am really not moved by what people say or think about me anymore. I am a stronger woman and a damn abuse survivor seeking to connect with other victims of abuse to show them how to deal with the shame, hurt and guilt and how to come out stronger. Turning their mess into their message.

I am Ese Walter and I have gone through all forms of abuse from family, boyfriends, my ex pastor and some strangers not to break me, but so I stand and so I qualify to help victims. My scars have qualified me and when all is said and done, I will still be standing. I AM WOMAN, I BEND, I DON’T BREAK!

Cheers to the freaking weekend!!!

Ok, its gets more interesting, as more revelations are coming out after this revelation.

Move to the next post quickly.

Ade Adepitan: Polio Journey in Nigeria

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Ok after all the hype about this program "Ade Adepitan: Journey of a my Lifetime" on channel 4, it finally aired tonight and I must say disappointed is an understatement not in the program, but in my dear country, Nigeria.

Ade Adepitan, A Paralympian born in Nigeria but grew up in London has polio as a child at 6 months so he lost both use of his legs. He went back to Nigeria to see why the virus is still there. It should have been eradicated ages ago but errrrrm, its still very much there mostly in the North.

Please continue to read more and watch some video clips

So in the whole world, Polio is left in only 3 countries and guess what! With all the money Nigeria has from oil, its the only country in Africa that has not kicked polio out. Other two countries are some parts of Afghanistan and Pakistan. So the likes of Kenya, Rwanda, Zimbabwe, Ghana and lots more African countries have gotten rid of this virus.

Well Ade went back to Nigeria and particularly the Northern part of Nigeria, Kano, Sokoto and its suburbs to see what is going on and what can be done.

The excuse of the families that have refused the polio vaccine ranges from the fact that the vaccine is from the "white witches", its Western and the Northerners are against anything Western, they also said it sterilizes their children and its free, so there must be something not right. The Northerners killed the "vaccinators" and their police escorts! They hate it that much, but what are the implications of not having it?

It cripples children, from my time in Nigeria, i had no clue most of those people that can't walk that i see around on little rolling things are polio victims.

Some old, some very young, but this virus is no respectal of person, don't get the vaccine, get polio, its that simple.
Worse thing is, there are loads of disable people in Nigeria but the facilities are awful. No wheelchair access in most places. Its all made for able bodied people........

Some of these Northerners are still adamant on not taking the vaccine and I'm not sure what the government is doing about it. If they are refusing it from NGOs, why not give the vaccines to the Northerners, people that speak same language as the locals and let them go and administer it. Rather than getting innocent people trying to help killed!
How about the local leaders campaigning and helping people see reasons why its important to be vacinnated.
Apparently Bill Gates has a foundation that is looking into the eradication of Polio. While our own leaders couldn't care less. Bill Gates is not even a Christian or a Muslim, neither is he in any way related to any Nigerian or any African country but yet, he is helping and in that country, there are countless Millionaires, Billionaires that could not be asked. They probably didn't even notice or see the need to help.

Watch some of the clips HERE
Nigerians are meant to be the giants of Africa and yet, lagging behind in things like this is disgraceful.
This is really sad.