Just another disenfranchised father

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2009-11-09T00:00:00-08:00

Another tale of family court torture and sadism from Australia
And it won't get any better as they reverse the small steps they made towards joint custody.
VAWA facilitates and funds illegal parental child abduction - part one
Teri Stoddard on the Donald Tenn case
Claims of sex abuse by women grow
Take home point: it's been there all the time, but under reported.

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2009-11-04T00:00:00-08:00

One man's reaction to false accusations of rape
'he felt like an innocent man "but punished all the same... it just seems like a load of doors have closed to me because of this, even though I've done nothing wrong".'
Wonder of wonders, The New York Times takes note of the shafting of fathers.
“The walls in family resource centers are pink, there are women’s magazines in the waiting room, the mother’s name is on the files, and the home visitor asks for the mother if the father answers the door,”
"It's a money industry at this point; a completely unregulated money industry in which the professionals can charge what they want,"
That's family court they're talking about.

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2009-11-03T00:00:00-08:00

Headline: "Father fights to keep son alive"
Alternate version: "Mother supports killing son". Harsh, but true.

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2009-11-01T00:00:00-07:00

The new face of feminism?
"Today, it feels as if the enemy may actually be a generation of naive young women content to pole dance themselves back into some sort of bigoted dystopia."
Parental Alienation: A Mental Diagnosis? - US News and World Report
Read the comments, some of them are impressive

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2009-10-16T00:00:00-07:00

Missing boy, 6, found behind wall with his mother after two years
And, as ever, it's the father who was supposed to be abusive
Christian Science Monitor joins the ranks of the PAS-deniers.
As you read this, consider the possibility that the abusive parent may be the mother, and that she is far more likely to get custody than the father. Parental Alienation is a fact and it is child abuse.

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2009-10-07T00:00:00-07:00

How to be… a cougar woman
Imagine a 50+ year old man writing something like this about a teenage girlfriend...

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2009-09-30T00:00:00-07:00

If child abduction is not a crime, then why is this man in jail?
Oh, sorry, this is Japan, where foreigners appear not to have any rights.

A fantasy of domestic violence.

2009-04-04T13:00:00.000-07:00

Kiera is an actress. Attractive, vivacious and well-liked, she works hard for her money. At the end of a long day, it's late, she's tired and happy to get away (although not as late as many of the...

An incomplete meditation on good and evil, innocence and wisdom

2009-03-30T20:53:00.000-07:00

Wisdom and innocence are incompatible. Innocence implies ignorance of evil. Wisdom implies knowledge of it. To be knowledgeable of evil, one must have either taken part in it or been its victim. ...

Semper Fi

2009-03-20T13:01:00.000-07:00

I once heard it said that women do not have the same sense of honor as do men. It has been too many years for me to remember who said it or in what context, but it has stuck with me. That is not to...

Judge not...

2009-01-07T17:27:00.000-08:00

I love it when this happens - two news sources giving very different views on the same topic and between them being embarrassingly and inadvertently revealing of what's really going on. With a...

A matter of life and death

2008-12-27T15:41:00.000-08:00

The following paragraph summarizes the plot of the television program with the largest UK audience of 2008. People interested in the exposure of female on male domestic violence could hardly have...

A father is supposed to sacrifice himself for his children and their mother...

2008-12-12T09:07:00.000-08:00

... but she isn't supposed to wield the knife.

It's not a question of courage...

2008-12-09T12:07:00.000-08:00

The father's struggle for his children in family court can sometimes feel like the struggle for life itself against a foe as large as an ocean, maybe there's even a tiger in your little lifeboat...

The Father's Lament

2008-11-25T09:15:00.000-08:00

Something tore inside me The day she took away my son It seems it won't repair, It won't even form a scar. The casual cruelty strikes me dumb, The way that it was done. I can see that what is best...

The Lord of the Flies is watching you

2008-11-15T14:18:00.000-08:00

I have, in recent months, with some embarrassment, read both Golding's Lord of the Flies and Orwell's 1984. The embarrassment derives from the fact that I have, from time to time, indulged in...

Character lynching

2008-10-22T13:02:00.001-07:00

A phrase popped into my head the other day: "character lynching", for what is done to a man by a false accusation of domestic violence, child abuse or rape. Character assassination is the deliberate...

Here we go again

2008-09-04T09:22:00.000-07:00

Women who kill are ill and need support. Men who kill are simply despicable and deserve nothing. Women who kill are depressed and we let them down by not being there. Men who kill are just crazy...

How to survive this insanity.

2008-09-03T09:37:00.000-07:00

This morning I started the day by reading about yet another legal insanity, this time from New Jersey where a court has ruled that deliberate alienation and kidnapping of children does not constitute...

Analogies

2008-08-31T09:36:00.000-07:00

It is very difficult to navigate when you can't see the terrain. This is what happens when no-one will tell you what they think, one way or the other, when no-one takes a stand for you or against. ...

The silence of the crowd

2008-08-25T13:13:00.001-07:00

"In the End, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends." - Martin Luther King Jr. Of all the aspects of my fight to remain a father to my son one which I have...

I love women, but...

2008-08-22T11:25:00.000-07:00

How often have you read discussions of gender begun with some claim that the speaker thinks women are just great, but, well, if only…? Every time I hear it, it makes my hackles rise, no matter how I...

A working mum's guide to rousing her rabble

2008-08-07T07:25:00.001-07:00

What does a working mother do when told something she doesn't like to hear? Throw a snarky tantrum of course, toss out a few anecdotes, ridicule some stereotypes and then blame men and employers. ...

What should I tell my son?

2008-07-29T14:20:00.000-07:00

I suppose it's possible that one day I might see my son again, and one day I may have the opportunity to counsel him on matters of the heart, marriage, and fatherhood. Probably, the best I can hope...

The murderer-suicide in our midst

2008-06-20T14:14:00.001-07:00

Are you a middle-aged man? Do you provide a good home for your family? Are you dedicated to your wife? Devoted to your kids? Do you work hard to maintain their lives? Do you like to think your...

If you hate your father…

2008-06-15T20:53:00.000-07:00

…or if you're just mad at him because he left, consider this: It is possible, but unlikely your father spawned you with the intent to make your life miserable. Few people are deliberately evil...

Happy Fathers' Day

2008-06-14T15:00:00.000-07:00

Oh boy, here we are again, Fathers' Day. Time to trot out the dad-hating axe-grinders. Last year at about this time, I found several articles having a go at fathers in general. This year, I...

A couple of comments

2008-06-06T17:45:00.001-07:00

To one who asks if I don't think my experiences make me a better person: if they have, the price was too high. To the custodial father who thinks it's OK that his ex wife has no custodial nor...

England's author says it for me.

2008-05-15T09:12:00.000-07:00

Grief fills the room up of my absent child, Lies in his bed, walks up and down with me, Puts on his pretty looks, repeats his words, Remembers me of all his gracious parts, Stuffs out his vacant...

Child custody is not a ball game.

2008-04-19T14:39:00.000-07:00

Glenn Sacks said: "in child custody cases the baby is like the football in a football game—whoever has possession is in control." And I commented: If this is the case, and it very certainly is,...

Hungry yet?

2008-03-31T11:48:00.000-07:00

Imagine a country where, under certain circumstances, stealing food has become effectively legal. This country, of sane, well-intentioned people, has decided that anorexia is a sufficiently serious...

Guilty pleasures

2008-03-27T11:03:00.001-07:00

'Ever read b3ta? They have a question of the week. One was: "What are the little things you do for fun when nobody else is around?" I'm still snickering over this one: "Sometimes, I like to sneak...