Just another disenfranchised father

And what is the worst...?

2011-09-10T12:48:00.000-07:00

Among the many, many consequences of my experiences in recent years is that I notice now that I am not at all quick to judge anyone who stands in the public eye, accused of some crime or another. I...

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2011-08-10T00:00:00-07:00

Time and again, these female family annihiliators survive to whine about how they were depressed, or crazy, or abused...
How many of them get away with it? At least this one didn't. But I continue to be bemused by this most distinct of gender differences. The men do us the favor of taking themselves out too, the women don't.

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2011-07-12T00:00:00-07:00

Female family annihilators have a consistent tendency to survive their crimes, unlike the men who usually take themselves out too
And there's always a strong smell of revenge about it.

Victimhood, a modern fable.

2011-05-30T08:28:00.000-07:00

She wears her Victimhood like a mantle of fine fox fur, complemented by the jewelry of vulnerability, decorated with the finery of poverty. The sycophants fall over themselves in their rush to her...

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2011-05-30T00:00:00-07:00

Proof that men in the UK (and many other countries) have no reproductive rights at all.
In the "you couldn't make this up" column: "a court ruled it was a simulation rather than a forged signature". Now how, exactly, does that work?

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2011-05-27T00:00:00-07:00

"I thought mostly about what I would do if someone took away the children I hope someday to have—whether I might kill a man to get them back—and concluded that perhaps I would."
Not hard to guess the gender of of the author, but imagine the reverse if you can.

April is Parental Alienation Awareness Month.

2011-04-04T12:50:00.000-07:00

"Parental alienation and hostile aggressive parenting deprive children of their right to be loved by and showing love for both of their parents. The destructive actions by an alienating parent or...

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2011-04-01T00:00:00-07:00

Let them use Skype
Top UK judge exhibits the usual cluelessness, legalizes another international child abduction, destroys another father.

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2011-03-29T00:00:00-07:00

The Soft Shutdown - a case study in casual feminist spite
The Spearhead is one of the best Men's group blogs out there.

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2011-03-27T00:00:00-07:00

Something else to feel guilty about guys.
Street heckling is the new rape.

The tree and the wall

2011-02-14T13:28:00.000-08:00

Trying to raise a child while keeping him or her away from the other parent for reasons which have nothing to do with that parent's ability to help raise the child is like trying to grow a tree next...

On suffering

2010-09-26T20:12:00.000-07:00

When a man first begins to suffer in a new way, he finds it all the worse for being unfamiliar and he is further distressed by not knowing how to respond. As he learns to cope, if he learns to cope,...

Theories, thoughts and questions

2010-09-12T10:55:00.000-07:00

Strife between the sexes is a natural damper on population growth. The denser the population and the more stable the environment, the worse it gets. The thinner the population and the more...

Eileen Clark, the other side of the story

2010-09-11T09:29:00.000-07:00

A few days ago, I posted the Telegraph story on Eileen Clark to my news stream. I found it so typically one sided of them - a woman kidnaps her children, separating them from their father for 15...

Domestic Violence and the World Cup: a Myth is Born

2010-06-10T18:02:00.000-07:00

Yet another campaign against domestic violence. Here we go again. What have they come up with this time? A string of photographs of celebrity men wearing T-shirts printed with the legend "I'm a...

He Said, She Said

2010-03-20T10:49:00.000-07:00

A pair of articles in the Times today illustrate a lot of the shallow thinking which pervades modern divorce and perpetuate its many problems. About halfway through writing my commentary, I suddenly...

Two books

2010-01-24T13:53:00.000-08:00

I have just finished reading two books: Cormac McCarthy's "The Road" and Alec Baldwin's "A Promise to Ourselves". "The Road" is surrounded by a great deal of hype, and I am not entirely sure why. ...

A fantasy of domestic violence.

2009-04-04T13:00:00.000-07:00

Kiera is an actress. Attractive, vivacious and well-liked, she works hard for her money. At the end of a long day, it's late, she's tired and happy to get away (although not as late as many of the...

An incomplete meditation on good and evil, innocence and wisdom

2009-03-30T20:53:00.000-07:00

Wisdom and innocence are incompatible. Innocence implies ignorance of evil. Wisdom implies knowledge of it. To be knowledgeable of evil, one must have either taken part in it or been its victim. ...

Semper Fi

2009-03-20T13:01:00.000-07:00

I once heard it said that women do not have the same sense of honor as do men. It has been too many years for me to remember who said it or in what context, but it has stuck with me. That is not to...

Judge not...

2009-01-07T17:27:00.000-08:00

I love it when this happens - two news sources giving very different views on the same topic and between them being embarrassingly and inadvertently revealing of what's really going on. With a...

A matter of life and death

2008-12-27T15:41:00.000-08:00

The following paragraph summarizes the plot of the television program with the largest UK audience of 2008. People interested in the exposure of female on male domestic violence could hardly have...

A father is supposed to sacrifice himself for his children and their mother...

2008-12-12T09:07:00.000-08:00

... but she isn't supposed to wield the knife.

It's not a question of courage...

2008-12-09T12:07:00.000-08:00

The father's struggle for his children in family court can sometimes feel like the struggle for life itself against a foe as large as an ocean, maybe there's even a tiger in your little lifeboat...

The Father's Lament

2008-11-25T09:15:00.000-08:00

Something tore inside me The day she took away my son It seems it won't repair, It won't even form a scar. The casual cruelty strikes me dumb, The way that it was done. I can see that what is best...

The Lord of the Flies is watching you

2008-11-15T14:18:00.000-08:00

I have, in recent months, with some embarrassment, read both Golding's Lord of the Flies and Orwell's 1984. The embarrassment derives from the fact that I have, from time to time, indulged in...

Character lynching

2008-10-22T13:02:00.001-07:00

A phrase popped into my head the other day: "character lynching", for what is done to a man by a false accusation of domestic violence, child abuse or rape. Character assassination is the deliberate...

Here we go again

2008-09-04T09:22:00.000-07:00

Women who kill are ill and need support. Men who kill are simply despicable and deserve nothing. Women who kill are depressed and we let them down by not being there. Men who kill are just crazy...

How to survive this insanity.

2008-09-03T09:37:00.000-07:00

This morning I started the day by reading about yet another legal insanity, this time from New Jersey where a court has ruled that deliberate alienation and kidnapping of children does not constitute...

Analogies

2008-08-31T09:36:00.000-07:00

It is very difficult to navigate when you can't see the terrain. This is what happens when no-one will tell you what they think, one way or the other, when no-one takes a stand for you or against. ...

The silence of the crowd

2008-08-25T13:13:00.001-07:00

"In the End, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends." - Martin Luther King Jr. Of all the aspects of my fight to remain a father to my son one which I have...

I love women, but...

2008-08-22T11:25:00.000-07:00

How often have you read discussions of gender begun with some claim that the speaker thinks women are just great, but, well, if only…? Every time I hear it, it makes my hackles rise, no matter how I...